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Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour. I'm Joe,

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Speaker 1: and we are here with Caitlin. Caitlin the radio chemist

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Speaker 1: from Joey season. Because that's such an interesting, cool job,

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Speaker 1: and I think you may be the first radio chemist

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Speaker 1: ever on the Bachelor.

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Speaker 2: Maybe it is a pretty rare profession, so I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: be surprised.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what can you explain? For for dummies? How do you? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: how how would you explain what you do? So?

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Speaker 2: I can't go into too much detail, but breadio chemistry

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Speaker 2: as profession is when you separate out octimize or radio

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Speaker 2: newclides from a given substance and determined how much is

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Speaker 2: in there. I told you that.

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Speaker 1: I told you that. Go ahead, you guess.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I knew that, sure, Joe, Okay.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, I don't know if I can say much more,

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Speaker 2: but that's pretty much like the gift of it, Yes,

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Speaker 2: just just just the gist of it.

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Speaker 4: So how did you end up in this career then?

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Speaker 3: Because I've imagined you didn't grow up being like I

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Speaker 3: just want to be a radio chemist.

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Speaker 2: No, So I've always been really good at like stam math, chemistry,

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Speaker 2: all those things, and so going into college like obviously

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Speaker 2: you want to do something you're good at. It's just

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Speaker 2: like I do a human nature. So I decided to

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Speaker 2: study chemistry and then really my focus in undergrad was

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Speaker 2: inorganic chemistry, like I did a lot of work with

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Speaker 2: like Lanthani complex structures and just like material sciences. And

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Speaker 2: so I graduated in May of twenty twenty, which was

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Speaker 2: you know, like when COVID hit all of the research

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Speaker 2: facilities that I applied to, they had withdrawn applications because

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Speaker 2: they just didn't have the funds. And so I just

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Speaker 2: took like a quick little break. And basically my old

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Speaker 2: lab mate in one of my classes had been like, hey,

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Speaker 2: what if you joined my lab? And I was like, huh,

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Speaker 2: I like looked it up. I'm like, oh man, this

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Speaker 2: is prestigious. I should really look into this. And so honestly,

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Speaker 2: it kind of just like fell into my lap in

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Speaker 2: a way. And now I find like a lot of

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Speaker 2: fun in radio chemistry, like I find a lot of interest.

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Speaker 2: But it was never my intent to go into radio chemistry.

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Speaker 1: Gotcha, where are you from?

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Speaker 2: So I grew up in Texas, but I went to

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Speaker 2: college in Austin, Okay.

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Speaker 1: What's school?

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Speaker 2: The University of Texas.

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Speaker 4: And then do you think, because you're saying, is that.

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Speaker 1: The only that might be the only college there?

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Speaker 2: Like, no, there's there's a bunch that was.

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Speaker 3: Sorry Joe into the College of Grocery Stores and the

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Speaker 3: water tracks. So different career history. But so you said

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Speaker 3: you kind of fell into radio chemis astray. That wasn't

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Speaker 3: always the intention or the goal. Do you think you'll

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Speaker 3: stay in that career path or do you have other

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Speaker 3: avenues that you want to explore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so, I'm currently applying to master's programs for medical

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Speaker 2: physics and medical dysymmetry. I've been doing interviews so hopefully

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Speaker 2: they go well. So I'm looking into staying in radiation.

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Speaker 2: But just like in a different avenue, I would.

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Speaker 1: Say, and where are you currently? Where do you live now?

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Speaker 1: Are you still in Texas?

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Speaker 2: No, so, I live in Santa Fe, New Mexico. I

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Speaker 2: moved here for my job.

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Speaker 1: Actually, okay, oh cool, cool, I've been. I've been. I've

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Speaker 1: been the Santa Fe once.

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Speaker 2: Yeah really yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a cool little city.

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Speaker 2: Right, It's amazing. It has so much culture and one

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Speaker 2: thing I love about Santa Fe is you can make

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Speaker 2: I mean friends in like a coffee shop at a bar,

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Speaker 2: it's just like one of those like neat little cities

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Speaker 2: where everyone's just so sociable.

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Speaker 3: I feel like that's so rare, Like I feel like

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Speaker 3: that's the opposite of what most people say when they

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I never really felt that. I just like, I mean,

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Speaker 2: during COVID it was hard, so I waited until like

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Speaker 3: Do you think it's a it's more that you are

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Speaker 2: I think there's a strong sense of community there. I'm

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Speaker 2: definitely not extraverted. I would say maybe more so in

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Speaker 2: the past now, But I've never been really like the

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Speaker 2: like it's just when you're in such a small community

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Speaker 2: scan I face only like eighty thousand people, and most

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Speaker 4: How are you?

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Speaker 2: You know, it's like I know everyone within at least

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Speaker 4: I was in Hilton Head.

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Speaker 3: I was living there for like three four months with

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Speaker 3: So like everyone that's young when was our age that

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Speaker 1: Make sure you ask Alan about New Mexico. Just shut

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Speaker 1: your notes, Okay, So to find out whatever that. What

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Speaker 1: was dating life like for you before before going on

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Speaker 1: the Bachelor?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? So not good. Dating in Santa Fe was pretty

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Speaker 2: hard for me. I would say I just felt like

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Speaker 2: and like, I don't know, it was just so difficult

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Speaker 2: of those people, it wasn't like anything ever truly clicked,

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Speaker 2: Like I never felt butterflies or anything, or like I

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Speaker 2: never could get past like the fourth date, Like it

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Speaker 2: just couldn't happen for.

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Speaker 1: Me, you trust?

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Speaker 3: Do you think though, Like I feel like if there's

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Speaker 3: only so many people under thirty five, like after a while,

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Speaker 3: you must have been like I've dated everyone in this freaking city.

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Speaker 2: Oh for sure. And also you also have to like

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Speaker 2: a couple months before the show, I was like, or

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Speaker 4: Is it for me?

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Speaker 3: I have friends that are like single and on that

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Speaker 3: after a while you just get dating fatigue and you're like,

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Speaker 3: I'm deleting all the apps for a few months and

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Speaker 3: taking a break, like I cannot go on another first date.

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Speaker 2: It gets exhausting.

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Speaker 1: Were you buying into your family curse of like everyone's

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Speaker 2: Well, I feel like our curse is more of a

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Speaker 2: nice thing to blame our problems on. It's not like

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Speaker 2: like my my mom and my aunts they're just so

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Speaker 2: they just like haven't felt that again, you know what

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Speaker 2: I mean. So it's more like not giving into something

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Speaker 2: that's not the right word, but you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: It's like you don't want to go into something when

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Speaker 1: You don't want to send.

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Speaker 2: You don't want to settle. I don't want to settle.

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Speaker 2: And it took me like a while to realize that.

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Speaker 2: Like you know, in earlier years, I definitely fell into

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Speaker 1: So and obviously there was a part of you that

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Speaker 1: that was kidding when you were talking about it on

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Well, I mean they were just they

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Speaker 4: That's good. That's so fun.

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Speaker 3: So then dating life was not it. How did you

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: So my best friend nominated me on the Bachelor, and

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Speaker 2: then I was like, whys can you believe it? Like

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Speaker 2: And so it was just kind of like my friend

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Speaker 2: go where they have pre vetted someone and you know

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Speaker 1: You always say that.

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Speaker 3: I do because as women, like if you meet a

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Speaker 3: a decent amount of time, like at least for four

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Speaker 3: it's like they're pre vetted.

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Speaker 4: You know, they're not crazy.

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Speaker 3: You know they're like emotionally available, you know they're genuinely

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Speaker 3: looking for a relationship. Sorry to just take over, Caitlin,

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Speaker 3: but I always say like there's a for women.

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Speaker 4: I feel like it's a big thing, be like this

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Speaker 2: No exactly, and especially the part where they're looking for

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Speaker 2: a relationship. I feel like a lot of guys pretend

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Speaker 2: and they're like, well, I'm not ready for anything yet,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so let's know we're back in ch acause

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Speaker 1: I feel so Caitlyn Serena really needs to do this,

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Speaker 1: like in chronological order, these interviews. So when I jumped

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Speaker 1: ahead and asked about your your bob and your aunt,

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Speaker 1: I could just feel I could feel the anxiety in

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Speaker 4: Oh, just like a linear thinker.

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Speaker 1: So okay, so you get on, So you get on,

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Speaker 1: and what are your thoughts? Did you know Joey was

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Speaker 2: So I had no idea it was going to be

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Speaker 2: when I told my work. I was like, hey, guys,

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Speaker 4: That's awesome.

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Speaker 3: No, I feel like a lot of the women from

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Speaker 3: Joey for sure. Yeah, so you get on the show

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Speaker 3: it's Night one. Can you tell us about the dress

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Speaker 4: Where's it from? How'd you pick it?

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Speaker 2: So I'm half Vietnamese, so that's like my culture and

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Speaker 4: I'm obsessed. That's amazing. It was beautiful.

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Speaker 3: It looked amazing on you, And I just think that's

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Speaker 1: Is really spec what a cool story too, Like if

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Speaker 1: you ask me, like what I wore A Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: where'd you get I got out of this store. That's

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Speaker 1: about the extent. So okay, So how about the other

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Speaker 1: What's your favorite cookie? Oh?

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Speaker 2: My god, peanut butter.

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Speaker 1: Peanut butter cookies, Matt, I love peanut butter cookies. We

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Speaker 4: I know, I know, I'm just a burden. I'n just diet.

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Speaker 1: Well. I mean, also, I haven't really been eating peanut

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Speaker 4: I know, have you seen this?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I know, So you're welcome. Actually I'm saving

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Speaker 1: Well I'm sure once it gets heated, like it goes away.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know you're the radio chemist.

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Speaker 3: I don't think there's a cross over there, joists.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we were definitely close. And then I got close

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Speaker 2: then honestly, I didn't get to talk to everyone night

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Speaker 3: Well, let's be a little more specific with it, because

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Speaker 3: there's definitely we've seen a lot of drama in the house.

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Speaker 3: We haven't seen you involved in any of it, obviously,

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Speaker 3: but you were there. I'm sure you have your opinions

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Speaker 2: Right, So, I would say it for the drama itself,

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Speaker 2: I was definitely more neutral. Like I have spoken with

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Speaker 2: Like people have different conflict styles, So.

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Speaker 4: What do you think it was?

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Speaker 3: Because I totally agree, like it does seem like there's

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I don't even know because I remember I

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Speaker 2: I walked in and I was like, something's amiss, Like

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Speaker 2: I think it's maybe more just like insisting that, like

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Speaker 2: Like who told you this? And then Sydney was very

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Speaker 2: So and so, I don't know, it was just a

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Speaker 1: Too, oh the same way, like we could disagree and

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Speaker 1: we get still be friends. Yeah, okay, So let's let's

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Speaker 1: which is you guys play hockey. Something happens before the.

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Speaker 2: Dancing and stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, there was a saying, oh yeah, we forgot

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Speaker 3: about the singing dancing moment. This gavenger Head group date

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Speaker 1: Again, because we do see you catch you pull Joey

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but you're definitely not the only one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So I feel like going into this group date,

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Speaker 2: We had like a pretty somber tone, I feel like

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Speaker 4: Like yeah in a group Yeah, it felt like this structure.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it felt like the structure of this group date

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Speaker 3: Like it felt really challenging for him to get around

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Speaker 2: A sidewalk can only fit Joey plus one other girl,

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Speaker 2: and then anytime you were that girl, you're like love me,

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Speaker 3: Just like I also feel like on the like a date,

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Speaker 2: Probably that's definitely what I was like. And I'm also

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Speaker 2: have like that validation throughout the date.

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00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, totally, No, it was a hard date to watch,

441
00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,679
Speaker 3: just knowing how probably hard it was to be on

442
00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:55,160
Speaker 3: that date. Like, I really empathize with you guys and

443
00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:58,159
Speaker 3: Joey because it was just a difficult dynamic. Was there

444
00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:01,800
Speaker 3: anyone that you felt like was really like you explained that,

445
00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:04,560
Speaker 3: you feel like you're more passive, as like someone who

446
00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 3: didn't want to be like pushing their way to the front.

447
00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:08,680
Speaker 3: Was there anyone on the date that you felt was

448
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:10,919
Speaker 3: doing that, not even in like a negative way, but

449
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 3: that was maybe just more their style really going for it.

450
00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:18,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like Jen is definitely like that sort

451
00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 2: of person, and I commend her for it, Like I

452
00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:23,640
Speaker 2: wish I was like that. She's definitely like a very

453
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:26,199
Speaker 2: confident person and would always like go to Joey and

454
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,240
Speaker 2: like shown little things and point out things. I'm like,

455
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:30,280
Speaker 2: oh man, I wish I could do that. At point,

456
00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 2: Tommy wasn't mad at me because I was so anxious. Yeah,

457
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:38,800
Speaker 2: I feel like Jen really like shows her best self,

458
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:41,440
Speaker 2: like on camera and in front of a lot of people,

459
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:43,760
Speaker 2: and she's not afraid to show herself, which is really cool.

460
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 3: So then you have your conversation. We see you and

461
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:56,159
Speaker 3: kelsey A have a little chat and just kind of

462
00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:57,960
Speaker 3: you guys are talking about how you're both struggling on

463
00:22:58,000 --> 00:23:00,760
Speaker 3: the date, and then we see you talk to Joey

464
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 3: that night and you just kind of open up about

465
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:04,680
Speaker 3: like how it was hard.

466
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 4: How did that conversation go?

467
00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:12,880
Speaker 2: You know, I guess it went okay. I would say,

468
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 2: I I think we have like an honest conversation, which

469
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:19,120
Speaker 2: is always good. It did leave me with like kind

470
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:22,720
Speaker 2: of a sinking feeling, though, just because I felt like

471
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:26,679
Speaker 2: we both kind of agreed that, you know, it just

472
00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 2: like it wasn't going at the pace that we needed

473
00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,440
Speaker 2: to go. Like, we never had a one on one

474
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:36,920
Speaker 2: and I never really pushed myself so hard or like

475
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 2: got out of my head enough during these group dates

476
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:43,119
Speaker 2: to really like make myself seen. So that was like

477
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:45,879
Speaker 2: a really difficult conversation to have, I feel like, and

478
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 2: just to be like open about because I'm not used

479
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:51,680
Speaker 2: to like having to fight for a guy. And then

480
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:55,240
Speaker 2: also just to be vulnerable in front of someone I

481
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 2: haven't known that long, in in front of cameras too,

482
00:23:58,320 --> 00:23:59,160
Speaker 2: that's so scary.

483
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:00,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, it is scary.

484
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:04,760
Speaker 3: So you left that kind of with the sinking feeling.

485
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 3: Was there a part of you that was wondering if

486
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 3: you might be going home that week.

487
00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,960
Speaker 2: I felt almost positive I was going home that week, sadly,

488
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 2: just because I hadn't had that one open time, and

489
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:19,120
Speaker 2: then my time with Joey was really spent talking about

490
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 2: how I wish I had time versus like, you know,

491
00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:24,960
Speaker 2: furthering your relationship. So yeah, I didn't feel too great

492
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:25,440
Speaker 2: about it.

493
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 3: I feel like, though, and tell me, tell me if

494
00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 3: you disagree, but do you feel like it was kind

495
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:37,639
Speaker 3: of like, how do I want to phrase this? Like,

496
00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 3: were you in any way a little bit grateful that

497
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:42,920
Speaker 3: he was kind of honest with you in that conversation

498
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 3: about where your relationship was at versus just being like

499
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 3: dumping a bunch of reassurance on you in that moment

500
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 3: to leave the conversation feeling a lot better at the time,

501
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 3: but then not getting rows with the row ceremony.

502
00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,480
Speaker 2: I really appreciated his honesty, and I feel like me

503
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 2: not getting a rose later or like leaving later in

504
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 2: the week would have been so much tougher on me.

505
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:09,200
Speaker 2: If I felt like he had said, like, oh, we're

506
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 2: like totally there, like don't worry about it, like I'm

507
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 2: so confident about you, Like that would have made me

508
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 2: feel sorry, like a different way about it. So I'm

509
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 2: really glad that he was honest with me, as I

510
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 2: was honest with him too.

511
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:27,679
Speaker 3: Was there any girls that you were surprised when they

512
00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 3: went home or maybe are surprised that they were still there,

513
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,640
Speaker 3: like I didn't realize like they had such a strong connection.

514
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:37,920
Speaker 2: No. I feel like the six girls that were left

515
00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:41,120
Speaker 2: after Leye and I left, I felt like they had

516
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:44,200
Speaker 2: a strong connection. Like I was, like I was having

517
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:45,880
Speaker 2: a hard time even in my head, like who would

518
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 2: even be going to hometowns? Like I had no idea

519
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:51,640
Speaker 2: who he was going to cut. But I was surprised

520
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 2: that Lexi left because I thought they had a strong connection.

521
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 2: But you know, we like talked about like her timeline

522
00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 2: and stuff like that, so it made sense.

523
00:25:59,359 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 1: Yeah.

524
00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well I just want to ask, you know, if

525
00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 3: you feel comfortable sharing if not, no problem, because I

526
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 3: know it's a bit of a personal question for Lexi.

527
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 3: But she we never got to see what her timeline

528
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 3: that she was kind of looking for. Did she ever

529
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 3: speak with you guys about that. I know that Joey

530
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 3: articulated his is she just kind of looking for a

531
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 3: more like rapid pace? Because I know she just said

532
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,159
Speaker 3: like they don't align was kind of the messaging we

533
00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 3: got as viewers.

534
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:29,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I know Joey mentioned that he wants like

535
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 2: a longer engagement and like a longer marriage before having kids,

536
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 2: and I just don't think that Lexi has that in mind.

537
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:39,480
Speaker 2: I think she knows exactly what she wants and I

538
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:43,479
Speaker 2: applot her for it. So yeah, I think she just

539
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 2: wants like a shorter timeframe to have her kids sooner,

540
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 2: just because of her health issues and stuff like that.

541
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 4: So yeah, really, which absolutely makes sense.

542
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, makes sense to get into it. Let's play a game. Game.

543
00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:00,240
Speaker 1: A question though, is if we we're gonna have game.

544
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 1: It's a lot of fun. If if you were to

545
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 1: get if they did a Bachelor in Paradise and they

546
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: asked you to go, would you hell?

547
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,679
Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean, look, you guys came out of that.

548
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,680
Speaker 2: I would love to find my person, even if it's

549
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:21,200
Speaker 2: through something unconventional like paradise. Yeah, I think it would

550
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 2: be really fun. I don't know if I'd look forward

551
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 2: to like sweating that much, but.

552
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 3: It like it like varies every season, Like I feel

553
00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:37,600
Speaker 3: like every year it's different. Our season was crazy hot,

554
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 3: we had tear and like we had storms and stuff,

555
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 3: but then we didn't have any bugs because it was

556
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 3: so hot, whereas then the following two years I heard

557
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 3: that it wasn't that like last year. I think it

558
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 3: like wasn't that hot at all, but it was crazy buggy.

559
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 3: So it's like pick your poison, I know.

560
00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 1: Oh, also, you have to tell all coming up anything

561
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 1: you're excited about.

562
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 2: For that, I don't even know if I'm excited. I'm

563
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 2: just like nervous because I know, like with everything airing,

564
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 2: like emotions have been arising again and bubbling up. So

565
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:17,400
Speaker 2: I'm just like nervous to see the conflict again because

566
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 2: like being there in person, it's just so overwhelming. It's

567
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:25,679
Speaker 2: just like really really loud arg and it can just

568
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 2: get to be a lot. I really am excited though,

569
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:32,360
Speaker 2: for both girls to like get to share more of

570
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:35,479
Speaker 2: their story and like why they felt that way, because

571
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 2: I feel like the show obviously like we have so

572
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 2: much to show or sorry, we have so much that

573
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 2: we have filmed, but not a lot can be shown,

574
00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:48,200
Speaker 2: and so I feel like it's a good time for

575
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 2: the girls to have like that full hour to like

576
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 2: really talk about it and get to the bottom of

577
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 2: things and hopefully everyone can be friends after this.

578
00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 1: So well, hopefully they don't take up the whole hour

579
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 1: because I don't know.

580
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 3: I'm sure to know what happens. I'm sure they're going

581
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 3: to take up a good portion of it. But yeah,

582
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 3: I think the towel is always a great time to

583
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 3: get more insight into like more details about the drama,

584
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 3: maybe things that weren't shown, and just more context for

585
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 3: the viewers and sometimes an opportunity for reconciliation. If Sydney

586
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:22,760
Speaker 3: Mario Walkerway's friends, I'll literally be floored.

587
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 4: But you never know, anything could happen.

588
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:28,720
Speaker 2: I'd be so shocked, but I do hope it happened,

589
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 2: or at least all the other girls in a want too.

590
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 1: So yeah, rapid fire, rapid fire, it comes. Yeah, I'll

591
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 1: do it, Okay, first thing that comes to your head.

592
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 4: Just they're all just like easy, fun questions about you,

593
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 4: No need to stress.

594
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 1: Sneakers or heels for a night out.

595
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 2: Sneakers, I'm five to ten, dude.

596
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:53,440
Speaker 4: Oh yeah you're tall? Wait were you taller than Joey?

597
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 2: No? Actually, when I wore my heels and he wore his,

598
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 2: like I don't know, like loafers like this equated to

599
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 2: like the he was fairly taller.

600
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 1: But yeah, Kelsey a seems tall too, right, mm hmm, she's.

601
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 2: Just in shorter than me. I also think that's why

602
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:11,600
Speaker 2: we got a long because we got to share some

603
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:12,640
Speaker 2: many clothes and shoes.

604
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like you Kelsey and Lexie were always

605
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 3: sharing clothes always yeah.

606
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 1: Always dream vacation destination.

607
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Well, I'm going to Patigoingia next week,

608
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:29,960
Speaker 2: and that's like always gonna dream of mind. Yeah. I'm

609
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:31,960
Speaker 2: a big like hiker and climber, so I'm excited.

610
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 1: That's awesome. An artist you'd love to see perform.

611
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. Tate McRae, no way.

612
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:41,800
Speaker 3: I think she's like the city I grew up in.

613
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 3: Really yeah, I think she's how old is she? She's

614
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:46,840
Speaker 3: like a few years younger than.

615
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:48,720
Speaker 1: He is young, I think.

616
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, but one of the guys I used to dance

617
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 3: like against a competition is like her backup dancer, I think.

618
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, yeah, random connection.

619
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 1: Favorite favorite date this season, Oh my gosh, the tennis

620
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 1: date was so fun, so funny.

621
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 4: I loved that date.

622
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 1: Night owl or early bird.

623
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 2: My god, neither. I'm like an old lady. I like

624
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 2: I like to sleep in and then go to bed

625
00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 2: at like nine.

626
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,920
Speaker 1: Favorite city to visit in the world.

627
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I just love Saigon, Vietnam so much.

628
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 1: Favorite food or cuisine, Oh, I.

629
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 2: Really like high food. I feel like it's probably my favorite.

630
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 1: I just have a really good time the other night.

631
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:39,840
Speaker 1: Did you from where Bangkok?

632
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:40,719
Speaker 2: Oh?

633
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah?

634
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 2: Yeah?

635
00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 1: Coffee or tea?

636
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, neither.

637
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 4: I don't like the taste, really, do do? You don't

638
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 4: drink anything for caffeine?

639
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 2: Sometimes I drink energy drinks, but I try to stray

640
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 2: away because they're just so bad. I know, and I'm

641
00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 2: embarrassed too every time I opened.

642
00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 1: Up, like, ah, well, look, go to cocktail on a

643
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 1: night out?

644
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 2: Oh, French seventy five?

645
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:08,400
Speaker 4: Someone else?

646
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 1: Yea, I think on this season. Yeah, a dating deal

647
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 1: breaker of yours.

648
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 2: Oh if they hunt.

649
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 1: Favorite physical quality of on a man, I feel like

650
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 1: their smile. Favorite subject or class you've taken.

651
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 2: In organic chemistry.

652
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 1: Favorite memory from the show.

653
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I have so many. I don't know.

654
00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't want to give me one.

655
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 4: It could just be one of your favorites. It doesn't

656
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 4: have to be the favorite.

657
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: This is the last question. So this is what I.

658
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 2: Was cracking on the Montreal date, but I really liked

659
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 2: when we were all dancing around. I feel like that

660
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 2: was just so fun.

661
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Speaker 1: Okay, nice, Well that does it for today, Caitlin, Thank you,

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