WEBVTT - Second Date Update UPDATE: Hired A Hinge Coach 0:00:00.290 --> 0:00:02.670 Ooh, all right, we've got a second date update update 0:00:02.710 --> 0:00:03.570 for you today. 0:00:03.730 --> 0:00:04.410 Yay! 0:00:04.430 --> 0:00:06.390 So you're going to hear the original, and then there's 0:00:06.430 --> 0:00:08.289 going to be a little ad, and then they're going 0:00:08.310 --> 0:00:10.539 to be back. So stick around for that. 0:00:10.650 --> 0:00:11.390 Don't miss it. 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:12.280 Just a tiny ad. 0:00:12.400 --> 0:00:15.080 Yes, but what we never got to talk about was 0:00:15.120 --> 0:00:19.340 the comments on Tuesday's Awkward Tuesday. I've given you two 0:00:19.380 --> 0:00:21.000 days now to go listen to it, so if you 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:23.480 hear a spoiler right now, not my fault. It was 0:00:23.520 --> 0:00:26.040 about the moms with the school lunch drama. 0:00:26.060 --> 0:00:26.599 That's right. 0:00:26.980 --> 0:00:28.960 And your guys' comments. 0:00:29.180 --> 0:00:29.340 Oof. 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:31.050 Feisty in the comments. 0:00:31.230 --> 0:00:31.790 Really? 0:00:31.970 --> 0:00:34.690 Yeah, mostly all hating on the mom who, you know, 0:00:34.970 --> 0:00:36.270 anti-fruit snack mom. 0:00:36.370 --> 0:00:37.089 Yeah, of course. 0:00:37.110 --> 0:00:38.470 I think a lot of us agreed with the hate 0:00:38.490 --> 0:00:38.730 on that. 0:00:39.190 --> 0:00:39.770 Yeah, yeah. 0:00:39.810 --> 0:00:42.110 We got some comments that said, when I was single, 0:00:42.150 --> 0:00:44.760 your podcast scared me about dating. Now I'm married with 0:00:44.810 --> 0:00:46.680 a baby, and every time you do a call on 0:00:46.740 --> 0:00:49.620 parenting drama, you unload a new fear for me. 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:50.159 Oh, no. 0:00:50.740 --> 0:00:54.600 Yeah, we got respectfully screw that mom, LOL. Oh, I 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:56.819 would have coordinated with all the moms and had each 0:00:56.900 --> 0:00:59.460 kid bring one of the items banned all on the 0:00:59.560 --> 0:01:01.240 same day. 0:01:01.360 --> 0:01:01.840 That's funny. 0:01:01.940 --> 0:01:03.820 I'm only going off memory, and I have a horrible memory, 0:01:03.860 --> 0:01:07.420 but I do remember somebody texting in going like, wow, 0:01:07.500 --> 0:01:09.200 respect other people's kids. 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:10.440 Why is everyone piling on? 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:11.500 Oh, okay. 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:11.959 I know. 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:14.140 I was like, oh, okay. So a little bit of both. 0:01:14.390 --> 0:01:15.700 And I kind of like this one from Phillip. 0:01:15.970 --> 0:01:16.620 Being a U.S. 0:01:16.670 --> 0:01:18.850 Show, am I correct in guessing that fruit snacks aren't 0:01:18.910 --> 0:01:19.470 actually fruit? 0:01:19.490 --> 0:01:21.610 Ha ha ha! No, Phillip. 0:01:22.270 --> 0:01:25.610 They're not, but that's why it's funny they'll advertise it. 0:01:25.630 --> 0:01:27.750 They'll be like, Welch's, real fruit. 0:01:27.790 --> 0:01:30.390 That's right. But fruit by the foot, real feet. 0:01:30.569 --> 0:01:34.410 Yeah, there we go. It's different here, Phillip. But all right, 0:01:34.470 --> 0:01:36.640 here we go. Your second date update update. Please leave 0:01:36.670 --> 0:01:38.959 comments on this one as well. Starts right now. 0:01:40.819 --> 0:01:43.400 One piece of dating advice you hear a lot is 0:01:43.860 --> 0:01:48.510 try and take things slow. Don't rush into stuff. Stop 0:01:48.530 --> 0:01:52.270 trying to force labels early and try to predict the future. 0:01:53.050 --> 0:01:55.170 Just take it easy one day at a time. 0:01:55.190 --> 0:01:57.690 You're speaking Alexis's language. 0:01:57.730 --> 0:01:59.160 That's right. 0:01:59.250 --> 0:02:04.000 Let the wheels of time slowly crush your hopes and dreams. Well, 0:02:04.240 --> 0:02:08.339 speed was definitely a big concern for one woman. who 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:10.470 wasn't sure if it was the right call or not, 0:02:10.600 --> 0:02:14.730 and now here we are months later to find out 0:02:14.910 --> 0:02:17.890 what has the slow grind of time done to their 0:02:18.010 --> 0:02:21.950 blossoming relationship. We're going to find out in a special 0:02:22.050 --> 0:02:24.760 Second Date Update update right after this. 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:26.620 Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:28.020 Second Date Update. 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:32.040 I can't believe I'm saying this, but if you're a 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:37.400 guy on a dating app right now, looking back to 2024... 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:40.120 Those were the good old days of online meetups. 0:02:40.900 --> 0:02:42.300 Just like a year and a half ago. 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:42.780 Oh, yeah. 0:02:42.820 --> 0:02:44.639 I don't even remember those days. 0:02:44.660 --> 0:02:47.500 Don't even get me started on 2023. Oh, you liked that. 0:02:47.700 --> 0:02:49.900 One even more, huh? 0:02:50.340 --> 0:02:52.519 They make documentaries about that time. 0:02:52.940 --> 0:02:56.980 But things have really changed, whether it's just a generations 0:02:57.080 --> 0:03:00.420 thing or the culture. The truth is, there's a lot 0:03:00.460 --> 0:03:04.160 of swiping and matching and chatting happening, but not a 0:03:04.180 --> 0:03:06.940 whole lot of meeting and actual romancing. 0:03:07.270 --> 0:03:09.070 You do get the sense that people are just over it. 0:03:09.290 --> 0:03:10.090 Yeah, totally. 0:03:10.150 --> 0:03:11.590 It's like we all know the routine. 0:03:11.650 --> 0:03:14.410 Let's face it. There's a really good Netflix show you 0:03:14.450 --> 0:03:15.630 can binge with your cat. 0:03:15.810 --> 0:03:18.350 And you don't need some random guy to ruin that 0:03:18.470 --> 0:03:18.850 for you. 0:03:19.010 --> 0:03:20.520 Honestly, the cat probably smells better. 0:03:20.620 --> 0:03:22.940 Yeah, so just block that dude and move on with 0:03:22.980 --> 0:03:24.000 your life solo. 0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:25.030 I get it. 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:25.660 Okay. 0:03:25.700 --> 0:03:28.160 But one of our listeners says he was determined to 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:29.700 change that narrative. 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:30.339 Okay. 0:03:30.380 --> 0:03:33.400 Fix the pattern, and his name is Roman. He's asked 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:35.380 for our help today. Roman, welcome to the show. 0:03:36.140 --> 0:03:37.940 Hey, guys, thanks so much for having me. 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:40.240 What was your plan? How did you try to change 0:03:40.300 --> 0:03:41.960 the online dating trends? 0:03:42.930 --> 0:03:45.290 Well, dating apps are so hard these days, and a 0:03:45.330 --> 0:03:46.930 lot of times I don't even know how to really 0:03:47.310 --> 0:03:51.050 get from just a regular conversation to an actual meetup. Yeah. 0:03:51.070 --> 0:03:52.730 So I hired a hinge coach. 0:03:53.510 --> 0:03:55.270 Oh, you got a coach for it? 0:03:55.430 --> 0:03:55.550 Yeah. 0:03:55.570 --> 0:03:58.390 Okay. That was a thing. What did your hinge coach, 0:03:58.410 --> 0:04:00.350 what was his instruction for you? 0:04:01.310 --> 0:04:03.250 You know, he said something that was so simple, but 0:04:03.270 --> 0:04:07.020 it really changed my life. He said... Once you match, 0:04:07.060 --> 0:04:09.920 you had a couple of comments back and forth. You 0:04:09.940 --> 0:04:12.000 didn't have to go for it and say the following. 0:04:12.020 --> 0:04:12.480 Any quotes? 0:04:12.700 --> 0:04:13.300 Okay. 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:15.280 I feel like getting to know each other would be 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:17.090 more natural in person. Oh. 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:21.200 That's pretty well said. Implying that this feels very awkward 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:21.780 between us. 0:04:21.880 --> 0:04:22.339 Yeah. 0:04:22.400 --> 0:04:23.719 No, it doesn't, Jeff. 0:04:24.140 --> 0:04:28.380 But it worked. It really worked. Now I'm actually getting dates. 0:04:28.820 --> 0:04:31.780 Oh, that's a good transition from the match to the 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:35.320 Apple making plans. It's hard not to agree with that statement. 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:37.400 Yeah. I mean, anybody could use it. 0:04:37.500 --> 0:04:40.169 Who's the woman that you matched with that you want 0:04:40.210 --> 0:04:40.929 us to call today? 0:04:41.630 --> 0:04:42.570 Well, her name is Haley. 0:04:43.150 --> 0:04:43.870 Okay. 0:04:44.070 --> 0:04:46.450 Now, is this the first person that you use this 0:04:46.490 --> 0:04:47.180 strategy on? 0:04:48.029 --> 0:04:50.469 It wasn't the first, but it's been the most successful, 0:04:50.510 --> 0:04:53.050 which is why I'm so curious as to why it's 0:04:53.089 --> 0:04:56.530 not going any further. Because we went out. We met. 0:04:56.730 --> 0:04:58.029 It was awesome. Okay. 0:04:58.050 --> 0:04:58.589 What did you do? 0:04:59.190 --> 0:05:03.110 We went to a Mediterranean restaurant. Mediterranean? No, no, no. 0:05:03.110 --> 0:05:03.990 I like Mediterranean. 0:05:04.750 --> 0:05:05.550 Mediterranean. 0:05:05.670 --> 0:05:06.910 Did I say Mediterranean? 0:05:06.970 --> 0:05:07.490 You did. 0:05:07.650 --> 0:05:10.610 That's vegetarian and Mediterranean mixed together, I think. 0:05:10.650 --> 0:05:11.010 Yeah. 0:05:11.089 --> 0:05:14.469 Yeah, yeah. We did the vegetarian Mediterranean diet. 0:05:15.150 --> 0:05:15.370 Okay. 0:05:16.290 --> 0:05:19.510 It was going so well that even halfway through the date, 0:05:19.550 --> 0:05:21.010 we were talking about what we're going to do the 0:05:21.089 --> 0:05:22.350 next time. Cute. 0:05:22.630 --> 0:05:24.830 Oh, those are rare. I've been on dates like that, 0:05:24.850 --> 0:05:25.930 but those are rare. 0:05:25.950 --> 0:05:27.010 It's got to be a good sign. 0:05:27.230 --> 0:05:29.930 That's what I thought. But then we're talking and all 0:05:29.950 --> 0:05:32.529 of a sudden she gets real quiet. And it seems 0:05:32.570 --> 0:05:36.089 like she's thinking more about it. And I don't know 0:05:36.529 --> 0:05:37.110 what it is. 0:05:37.570 --> 0:05:39.610 She's like, wait a minute. Why did I say future plans? 0:05:39.750 --> 0:05:41.810 Oh, my God. 0:05:41.910 --> 0:05:43.770 Is that what it felt like? Like she was trying 0:05:43.790 --> 0:05:44.409 to walk it back? 0:05:45.190 --> 0:05:47.320 Absolutely. I was worried she was thinking if we're moving 0:05:47.339 --> 0:05:49.600 too fast, or does she have other guys she wants 0:05:49.620 --> 0:05:51.400 to see? Because, I mean, she is gorgeous. 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:53.700 She's like, this guy's going to want to take me 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:56.320 to another Mediterranean restaurant. 0:05:56.350 --> 0:05:58.349 I mean, it sounds like you have other women you're 0:05:58.390 --> 0:05:59.650 talking to as well. 0:06:00.410 --> 0:06:03.170 Not really, because my whole thing is, like, we'll talk, 0:06:03.210 --> 0:06:06.390 but once we go out, if it is successful, then 0:06:06.430 --> 0:06:08.740 I kind of back off of the other people until 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:10.060 I see where this one goes. 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:12.260 You didn't ask her to do the same, did you? 0:06:12.500 --> 0:06:13.460 No, no, no, no, no, no, no. 0:06:13.640 --> 0:06:13.839 Okay. 0:06:13.860 --> 0:06:16.000 All right, but you could tell there was the hesitation. 0:06:16.740 --> 0:06:18.900 Just for a moment, just for a moment. And then 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:20.860 she kind of snapped out of it, and we started 0:06:20.900 --> 0:06:23.500 talking again, and it was amazing. But, you know, I 0:06:23.540 --> 0:06:26.260 didn't want to overstay my welcome, so I walked her 0:06:26.300 --> 0:06:28.140 to her car, and we actually, we cased. 0:06:28.620 --> 0:06:30.000 Cute. 0:06:30.140 --> 0:06:31.220 So what's happened since then? 0:06:32.020 --> 0:06:35.500 She hasn't completely ghosted me, but if I say, hey, 0:06:35.690 --> 0:06:37.849 do you want to plan the next time, I'll get 0:06:38.410 --> 0:06:39.130 back to you on that. 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:41.580 Energy shift. 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:42.700 It's like noncommittal. 0:06:43.140 --> 0:06:44.880 And I just don't know what's going on, so I 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:46.320 really need you guys to help me out. 0:06:46.400 --> 0:06:48.180 Sometimes, Brooke, I'll ask you a question, and you'll say, 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:50.020 I'll get back to you on that. You're not completely 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:51.799 brushing me off, are you? 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:53.440 I'll never get back to you on that. 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.779 You should just say that directly, not have. 0:06:56.700 --> 0:06:57.240 Me hanging on. 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.920 But then you'll have follow-up questions if I say that, 0:06:59.940 --> 0:07:01.100 and then that's annoying. 0:07:01.220 --> 0:07:03.480 Oh, man, where is that hinge coach where you need 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:05.160 one to deal with your coworkers? 0:07:05.180 --> 0:07:05.360 Yeah. 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:07.570 I'll give you his number. 0:07:07.589 --> 0:07:10.740 I have a question. Did you ask him about this? 0:07:11.770 --> 0:07:13.190 No, my free trial expired. 0:07:14.030 --> 0:07:15.210 Oh, okay. 0:07:15.270 --> 0:07:18.530 She's not worth the $ 4. 0:07:18.390 --> 0:07:18.460 99. 0:07:18.460 --> 0:07:21.340 That explains. You're coming to the free service, Brooke and Jeffrey, 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:21.900 in the morning. 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:22.620 Yeah, we're free. 0:07:22.660 --> 0:07:24.480 Hey, remember, you get what you paid for. 0:07:24.500 --> 0:07:27.180 Okay, so we're going to do that. We'll give you 0:07:27.260 --> 0:07:31.040 exactly what you paid for when we call Haley and 0:07:31.100 --> 0:07:34.250 get some more details on what really may have happened 0:07:34.350 --> 0:07:37.570 on your Mediterranean date. It's coming up right after this. 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:39.860 Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:41.260 Second date update. 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:43.130 You're in the middle of a second date update update, 0:07:43.150 --> 0:07:44.770 and we're going to find out how the couple is 0:07:44.830 --> 0:07:46.810 doing right after you hear part two. 0:07:48.250 --> 0:07:51.440 Planning your next date in the middle of your first one, 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:55.820 that's something that doesn't normally happen unless you're really clicking 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:59.980 and are both feeling excited and vulnerable with each other. 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:02.640 And that's what our listener Roman says happened when he 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:05.260 met up with Haley for dinner until a few minutes 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:07.990 later when Haley suddenly got a little quiet. 0:08:08.530 --> 0:08:09.490 Like, uh-oh. 0:08:10.130 --> 0:08:12.330 Why am I committing so quickly to another hangout with 0:08:12.370 --> 0:08:13.410 this guy? I barely know him. 0:08:13.530 --> 0:08:14.770 Yeah, that was definitely his read. 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:16.010 Yeah, Roman wasn't. 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:18.560 Exactly sure what she was thinking, but he did end 0:08:18.620 --> 0:08:20.200 up getting a kiss at the end of the night. 0:08:20.720 --> 0:08:23.980 The weirdest part, though, is since then, she's been kind 0:08:24.060 --> 0:08:27.860 of brushing him off over and over, where he'll suggest 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:30.560 a date and a time, and then she'll say, you know, 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:31.950 I'll get back to you on that. 0:08:32.200 --> 0:08:32.760 Yeah. 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:36.210 So it's been enough delaying where Roman has decided, forget it. 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:39.280 I'm just going to come to the radio show. Get 0:08:39.300 --> 0:08:40.200 some real answers. 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:40.780 No, remember? 0:08:40.820 --> 0:08:42.000 His trial ran out. Yeah, that's it. 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:42.580 Well, yes. 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:42.900 That's it. 0:08:42.940 --> 0:08:43.610 His free trial. 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:45.710 Wasn't going to pay for more hinge coaching. 0:08:45.830 --> 0:08:48.689 I mean, best case scenario is she is just busy 0:08:48.730 --> 0:08:51.250 with other dates because you sound like a confident guy. 0:08:51.290 --> 0:08:53.949 You sound like you're a guy that could be like, yeah, sure. 0:08:54.070 --> 0:08:55.330 Put me up against some other dudes. 0:08:55.370 --> 0:08:55.730 I'll win. 0:08:55.990 --> 0:08:56.230 Mm-hmm. 0:08:56.530 --> 0:08:58.310 Yeah, I'm going to be honest. I don't like that read. 0:08:58.330 --> 0:08:59.970 That's not what he should be getting. I really don't 0:08:59.990 --> 0:09:02.710 want to compete with a bunch of other dudes. Oh, okay. 0:09:02.870 --> 0:09:04.990 Well, I was trying to hype you up as a 0:09:05.230 --> 0:09:06.190 confident guy. 0:09:06.570 --> 0:09:07.689 Maybe just one other guy. 0:09:07.830 --> 0:09:09.850 Will you go one-on-one with a dude? 0:09:10.250 --> 0:09:11.110 If he's smaller than you? 0:09:11.950 --> 0:09:12.850 If he's smaller, oh, sure. 0:09:12.990 --> 0:09:15.410 We're not beating people up, either of you. 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:16.340 What are you doing? 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:19.000 We're doing best-case scenario, like you said, Brooke. I'm on 0:09:19.030 --> 0:09:19.440 your page. 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:20.880 All right, let's just call her. 0:09:20.900 --> 0:09:23.500 Okay, here we go. Hopefully it's something totally unrelated to 0:09:23.580 --> 0:09:24.760 other dudes, but let's find out. 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:30.740 Hello. 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:33.980 Hey, my name is Jeff from the radio show, Brooke 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:35.480 and Jeffrey in the morning. Is this Haley? 0:09:36.970 --> 0:09:37.210 Yes. 0:09:37.300 --> 0:09:37.830 Who is this? 0:09:38.140 --> 0:09:40.370 This is what I said at the start of the sentence, 0:09:40.410 --> 0:09:43.710 Jeff from Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning, a radio show. 0:09:43.790 --> 0:09:44.030 Okay. 0:09:44.650 --> 0:09:46.870 I didn't hear you. Your phone cut out earlier. Who is, 0:09:47.170 --> 0:09:48.069 why are you calling me? 0:09:48.450 --> 0:09:48.710 Sorry. 0:09:48.770 --> 0:09:51.089 That makes, we've had very old phone lines here at 0:09:51.110 --> 0:09:51.950 the radio station. 0:09:52.190 --> 0:09:53.710 So we got to dial a zero to get out. 0:09:53.750 --> 0:09:54.010 Yes. 0:09:54.050 --> 0:09:58.079 It's a rotary, but we're doing this segment. It's called 0:09:58.100 --> 0:09:59.360 the second date update. 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:01.280 Not sure if you're familiar with that. 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:03.200 No. 0:10:04.179 --> 0:10:04.939 Okay. 0:10:05.140 --> 0:10:07.880 It's a newer segment than the 1940s. It's where we 0:10:07.900 --> 0:10:10.569 try to help out our slightly. 0:10:10.590 --> 0:10:10.790 Yeah. 0:10:10.830 --> 0:10:13.290 We try to help out our listeners. If they've gone 0:10:13.350 --> 0:10:15.230 out on a date with someone and felt like they 0:10:15.250 --> 0:10:17.660 had a good time, and they're confused why they're not 0:10:17.679 --> 0:10:19.830 getting a call back, we can step in to try 0:10:19.850 --> 0:10:20.810 and get them some answers. 0:10:21.990 --> 0:10:24.690 I mean, who are you calling to me about? 0:10:25.910 --> 0:10:27.570 Brooke, do you want to say? Or have you forgotten 0:10:27.610 --> 0:10:34.390 the person? I'll step in. It's a very, very close 0:10:34.450 --> 0:10:36.430 friend of the show, clearly. His name is Roman. 0:10:36.590 --> 0:10:38.070 That's it, Roman. 0:10:39.010 --> 0:10:40.750 Roman called you? 0:10:40.790 --> 0:10:42.610 Yeah, he emailed us, and we spoke to him a 0:10:42.650 --> 0:10:47.050 little bit about your hangout at dinner. And according to him, 0:10:47.110 --> 0:10:49.530 he said that you two got off to a really 0:10:49.690 --> 0:10:50.350 strong start. 0:10:50.750 --> 0:10:52.970 Yeah, I mean, I think we did. What else did 0:10:53.010 --> 0:10:53.950 he tell you about things? 0:10:53.970 --> 0:10:54.610 Okay. 0:10:54.630 --> 0:10:55.589 That's good. 0:10:55.630 --> 0:10:56.230 That's cute. 0:10:56.330 --> 0:10:58.510 I mean, all good stuff from Roman. 0:10:58.770 --> 0:11:01.709 Yeah, he said that you were talking about future dates even. 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:02.860 That was a good sign. 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:07.449 Yeah, that was honestly really awkward or weird in the moment. 0:11:07.570 --> 0:11:09.489 I just couldn't believe that that was actually something we 0:11:09.530 --> 0:11:10.309 were talking about. 0:11:10.390 --> 0:11:12.309 Oh, yeah, sorry. That's how Roman felt, too. He felt 0:11:12.390 --> 0:11:14.599 awkward about it. He was like, I don't know if 0:11:14.630 --> 0:11:15.460 this is a good idea. 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:17.800 What do you mean you couldn't believe you were talking 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:19.750 about it? Is it a good way you couldn't believe it? 0:11:20.540 --> 0:11:21.140 Well, I mean. 0:11:21.850 --> 0:11:24.190 it's not usually something you do on the first day. 0:11:24.410 --> 0:11:26.880 And I just kind of didn't really know how the 0:11:26.910 --> 0:11:29.740 next couple of months would look. And to have that 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:33.040 commitment chat on the first day, I was like, I 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:34.180 don't know really what to say. 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:36.100 Oh, like your. 0:11:35.900 --> 0:11:38.829 Life is a little sporadic, like your job or something. 0:11:39.890 --> 0:11:43.090 No, I mean, it's just that it's about to be 0:11:43.170 --> 0:11:46.790 wedding season and I'm in a wedding and going to 0:11:46.870 --> 0:11:50.320 three others. And, um, I just kind of felt, am 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:52.240 I going to have to invite this dude to all 0:11:52.340 --> 0:11:54.620 of these weddings now? And if I don't, is he 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:55.540 going to be upset? 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:56.980 Oh. 0:11:57.100 --> 0:12:00.240 I mean, Alexis would know this. Wedding season is like 0:12:00.300 --> 0:12:00.960 a whole thing for her. 0:12:00.970 --> 0:12:02.230 I mean, most of my friends don't have money for weddings, 0:12:02.250 --> 0:12:03.470 so you don't even get a plus one anyway. 0:12:03.610 --> 0:12:04.210 Okay. 0:12:04.490 --> 0:12:06.010 Unless you're seriously dating. 0:12:06.090 --> 0:12:08.050 You're like looking ahead being like, is it going to 0:12:08.070 --> 0:12:10.830 be awkward if I try to bring this guy around 0:12:10.870 --> 0:12:13.430 all my friends? And I don't know, maybe your family member. 0:12:13.450 --> 0:12:16.000 I mean, two of these weddings, they're absolutely going to 0:12:16.050 --> 0:12:17.240 have to meet my grandmother. 0:12:17.260 --> 0:12:17.900 So it's like. 0:12:19.510 --> 0:12:22.110 Do you just make this person who you just met 0:12:22.290 --> 0:12:25.790 have the pressure of going to these things or am 0:12:26.130 --> 0:12:28.619 I going to hurt their feelings? Like, I just I 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:30.240 kind of felt like, you know, let's just wait till 0:12:30.300 --> 0:12:32.100 after the wedding season is done. 0:12:32.120 --> 0:12:34.300 This actually makes sense to me. 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:35.300 It doesn't. 0:12:35.340 --> 0:12:36.760 You can't bring an extra person. 0:12:36.780 --> 0:12:39.119 But until wedding season is done, like how long is 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:40.939 that going to be? It could be five to six 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:43.460 months down the road that you would have to wait. 0:12:43.540 --> 0:12:43.880 Yeah. 0:12:44.580 --> 0:12:46.520 But we're still talking. I'm just not. 0:12:46.980 --> 0:12:47.460 I just don't. 0:12:47.620 --> 0:12:49.880 Is he going to be my boyfriend at this point? Like, 0:12:49.900 --> 0:12:51.880 do we put that pressure on the first date? 0:12:51.900 --> 0:12:52.439 Careful, bro. 0:12:52.460 --> 0:12:53.060 Careful, bro. 0:12:53.100 --> 0:12:53.580 Careful. 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:54.880 She's going to say something insensitive. 0:12:54.900 --> 0:12:57.859 No, you're so many steps down the road right now. Like, 0:12:57.880 --> 0:12:59.140 you're not in the present. 0:12:59.570 --> 0:13:02.090 That's how it made me feel. That's why I was 0:13:02.130 --> 0:13:03.330 kind of like, oh, my God. 0:13:03.550 --> 0:13:04.189 Okay. 0:13:04.330 --> 0:13:04.630 Okay. 0:13:04.670 --> 0:13:07.349 So you're thinking that he's so many steps down and 0:13:07.390 --> 0:13:10.410 you're not quite, you're not in step with him. 0:13:11.190 --> 0:13:14.330 I want to pursue this. I'm talking to him. I'm 0:13:14.370 --> 0:13:15.570 enjoying the conversation. 0:13:15.590 --> 0:13:17.130 I just don't want the drama. 0:13:17.150 --> 0:13:19.550 All right, this is definitely, I don't think, what we 0:13:19.610 --> 0:13:22.430 expected to hear from you when we called you, and 0:13:22.470 --> 0:13:25.849 it's certainly not going to be on Roman's radar, I'd imagine. 0:13:25.929 --> 0:13:26.189 Yeah. 0:13:26.309 --> 0:13:28.110 But let's find out, because he is on the other 0:13:28.150 --> 0:13:29.890 line right now waiting to talk to you. 0:13:29.910 --> 0:13:32.130 Hey, how's it going? 0:13:33.030 --> 0:13:33.770 Oh, my God. 0:13:34.170 --> 0:13:34.410 Hi. 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:38.360 Hey, so I'm sorry if I made you feel like 0:13:38.400 --> 0:13:39.160 I was pushing things. 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:40.240 I really wasn't. 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:42.420 No, that's the thing, though. 0:13:42.540 --> 0:13:43.180 You weren't. 0:13:43.350 --> 0:13:46.550 It was just the situation evolved so nicely that it 0:13:46.590 --> 0:13:49.449 just sat kind of like, okay, well, here's the next step. 0:13:49.830 --> 0:13:51.550 And that's a lot of pressure to put on somebody 0:13:51.570 --> 0:13:52.670 you just met. 0:13:53.929 --> 0:13:57.610 I guess I could see where you're coming from. Why 0:13:57.650 --> 0:13:59.470 didn't you tell me about the wedding season thing? 0:14:00.140 --> 0:14:02.500 Because I don't know how to talk about that. Like, oh, 0:14:02.540 --> 0:14:04.400 I like you so much, but I can't invite you 0:14:04.420 --> 0:14:06.550