WEBVTT - A Pretty Sleepy Bitch with Blair Socci

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<v Speaker 1>Hi Catherine, Oh, Hi Chelsea, Welcome back to la.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh Hello shallo.

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<v Speaker 1>Chelsea. I have an update from one of our callers.

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<v Speaker 1>This is from Emily. She called in on our Joel

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<v Speaker 1>Kim Booster episode a while back. She was having some

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<v Speaker 1>difficulty getting her writing done and we gave her some advice.

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<v Speaker 1>Emily says, Hi, Catherine and Chelsea. Update about my no

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<v Speaker 1>nonsense writing habits that I've been improving in the last

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<v Speaker 1>few months since I talked to you guys. I actually

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<v Speaker 1>ended up quitting my job and going back to school

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<v Speaker 1>for graduate studies, and not surprisingly, that has really helped

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<v Speaker 1>put me back into the writing headspace I was first

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<v Speaker 1>in when I started the series back in my undergrad

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<v Speaker 1>I took Chelsea's suggestion and I now dedicate the first

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<v Speaker 1>hour or two of my day to writing. And you

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<v Speaker 1>were right. Not only does it feel less like a chore,

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<v Speaker 1>but the quality of what I'm putting out is a

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<v Speaker 1>lot better. I'm no proud to report that the first

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<v Speaker 1>three books in my series are done, and the first

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<v Speaker 1>two we'll be ready for beta readers in the next

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<v Speaker 1>time four to six weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>There we go, Yes, there we go.

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<v Speaker 1>My sister and I are trying to budget coming to

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<v Speaker 1>see you soon, So I'm looking forward to seeing you

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<v Speaker 1>live again. Thank you both so much. I really love

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<v Speaker 1>the advice and continue to admire and religiously listen to

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<v Speaker 1>the show. Emily.

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<v Speaker 3>Ah, that's incredible, I know, love it.

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<v Speaker 4>Well.

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<v Speaker 1>Our guest today is already on the line, but she's

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<v Speaker 1>been named one of Variety's ten Comics to Watch, and

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<v Speaker 1>you can watch her first hour long special on the

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<v Speaker 1>streamer Veeeps ve EPs and it's hysterical. So shall we

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<v Speaker 1>let her on the line.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, Blair Saki Saki Sucki.

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<v Speaker 5>Hi Chelsea, how are you?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh cute, You're so cute. Well, we're happy to have you.

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<v Speaker 3>Rosebud Baker texted me. She said, you have to have

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<v Speaker 3>this girl Blair Saki on. I thought it was so chy.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's Sucki, Suki Sucki. And she's like, you're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>love her and she loves you, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my god, I love a young comedian that I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not familiar with.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh that's so nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, of course. So it's so nice to meet you.

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<v Speaker 5>It's so nice. I've been such a fan for so long.

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, this is just a thrill for me.

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<v Speaker 2>So what's your story? Tell me about yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>I well, first I was reading that you got certified

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<v Speaker 3>in a lot of different kind of wellness genres over COVID.

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<v Speaker 3>So you are certified? What are you a mindfulness instructor?

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<v Speaker 2>What are you?

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<v Speaker 5>Hush?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, how do you identify tell us?

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<v Speaker 5>I guess I identify as comedian. But when we were

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<v Speaker 5>in lockdown in LA, like just things got so weird.

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<v Speaker 5>I just started taking on like courses compulsively. I took

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<v Speaker 5>two levels of breath work. I did TM, I did tapping,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, eft tapping.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh huh.

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<v Speaker 5>I did reiki. I'm still not sure what reki is.

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<v Speaker 4>No one.

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<v Speaker 3>I've also done raiky and left more confused than when

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<v Speaker 3>I arrived.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, but I just started taking courses I got really

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<v Speaker 5>Rosebud was like, we're gonna have to tie you to

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<v Speaker 5>the ground so you don't float away.

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<v Speaker 3>So which what was your favorite thing that you got

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<v Speaker 3>that you took a course in or got certified in

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<v Speaker 3>over COVID.

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<v Speaker 6>Uh.

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<v Speaker 5>I guess breath work was the first one that I

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<v Speaker 5>did that sort of started it at all, because I

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<v Speaker 5>didn't know that breath work that you could just your

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<v Speaker 5>body could feel like that just from breathing. It was

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<v Speaker 5>really really bizarre.

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<v Speaker 2>Who did you do it with?

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<v Speaker 5>I did it with these people called Revelation breath work.

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<v Speaker 5>They have a lot of classes. But yeah, I remember

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<v Speaker 5>just being so shocked because we have DMT in our

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<v Speaker 5>spinal fluid. So I don't know. I know you've done psychedelics.

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<v Speaker 5>I've dabbled myself, and I was pretty shocked about how

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<v Speaker 5>your body felt.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, how did it feel?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean it just feels like your your whole body's

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<v Speaker 5>vibrating like you're high. It's it's bizarre. Ooh yeah, have

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<v Speaker 5>you ever tried it?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not good at breathing, so I'm always a little

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<v Speaker 3>put off. Like when I ski, I always notice I

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<v Speaker 3>hold my breath. When I ever got I have to

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<v Speaker 3>get like a chiropractic adjustment. They're like, you're not breathing,

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<v Speaker 3>You're not breathing in your diaphragm. You're not And I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I know, I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not a good breather.

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<v Speaker 3>So breath work always, like even meditation, when I have

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<v Speaker 3>to do like four breaths in and then four hold

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<v Speaker 3>and then inhale for four exhal for four Even that

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<v Speaker 3>for me is challenging, So I probably need breath work

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<v Speaker 3>more than the average person.

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<v Speaker 5>I have to say, I'm exactly the same way, and

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<v Speaker 5>I still resist doing breath work, and every other like

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<v Speaker 5>person is always like are you breathing? You know, and

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<v Speaker 5>I resist it because it's almost like more laborious to

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<v Speaker 5>me at this point than going to the gym, Like

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<v Speaker 5>you really have to be in the mood to do

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<v Speaker 5>it. It's so physical.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, it is. It is physical.

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<v Speaker 1>Is this breath work like different than what you would

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<v Speaker 1>do typically when you're meditating? Is it more intense? What's

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<v Speaker 1>the experience?

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<v Speaker 5>Like, well, meditating is just like sort of regular breathing,

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<v Speaker 5>and then like breathwork, is this really physical breathing technique.

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<v Speaker 3>Where you're blowing in and out right it huge inhales

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<v Speaker 3>and huge exhales. So in meditation, like you don't, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>you're just supposed to breathe regularly, unless they'll be like okay,

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<v Speaker 3>it's because sometimes guided meditations will go through a different

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<v Speaker 3>form of breathing exercises. I wouldn't even call it breath work,

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<v Speaker 3>but it's almost just to calm you, you know, it

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<v Speaker 3>calms your whatever that section of your brain is that

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<v Speaker 3>I can't think of right now because of mine isn't

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<v Speaker 3>on yet.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, you know what's sick. I feel like a lot

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<v Speaker 5>of it is from just like this lifelong unconscious sucking

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<v Speaker 5>in your stomach. And I'm like, I think that's why

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<v Speaker 5>I just don't breathe that much without realizing it, or.

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<v Speaker 3>I notice sometimes if I'm in an uncomfortable situation that

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<v Speaker 3>I hold my breath, which is actually very funny because

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<v Speaker 3>I obviously don't hold very much back. But I find

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<v Speaker 3>when I'm in an awkward or uncomfortable I'm my breathing

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<v Speaker 3>is off too. Because I've started to become a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit more aware of my breathing and the hopes that I.

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<v Speaker 2>Can improve upon it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yet I'm not really willing to do any of the

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<v Speaker 3>exercises that would help me.

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<v Speaker 5>I know me too, honestly, I don't do it enough.

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<v Speaker 5>I need to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, what about when did you do ayahuasca?

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<v Speaker 5>Well? I did it most recently two months ago.

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<v Speaker 2>And how many times have you done it?

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<v Speaker 5>I've done it three times.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, how about you just one time? I did it? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Well I did it twice actually, but it was for

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<v Speaker 3>a special I was shooting for Netflix. Oh yeah, and

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<v Speaker 3>I did it there. We went to Peru and I

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<v Speaker 3>had one night with my friends, and then I did

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<v Speaker 3>it the next night alone. So you said three, Like

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<v Speaker 3>how different was each experience?

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<v Speaker 5>I've done it three weekends, so however, I guess, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>that's six nights. Yeah, I don't know how like I

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<v Speaker 5>they say it fine, you but someone, I guess everyone

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<v Speaker 5>had always say like, don't ever do it in LA

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<v Speaker 5>with white people, you know, And I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>I guess I'm not doing it till I make it

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<v Speaker 5>to you know, Peru. And then someone, a friend of

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<v Speaker 5>a friend, just like had a good experience and I

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<v Speaker 5>went and uh, yeah, It's funny that people always are like, whoa,

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<v Speaker 5>You're like some druggie and I'm like, oh, there's nothing

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<v Speaker 5>recreational about it. It is like the most hard core

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<v Speaker 5>it's work. It feels like.

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<v Speaker 3>And did you were each of the three experiences vastly different?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah? Every single one was different, but all of them

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<v Speaker 5>I was, you know, shot into a different universe.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me about the last one. What was it about,

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<v Speaker 2>Like what was the thesis?

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<v Speaker 5>I would say, well, it's gonna get really deep, and

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<v Speaker 5>it sounds whenever you're trying to disteal it down, people

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<v Speaker 5>are like, Okay, cucko. But what I would say is

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<v Speaker 5>like I was like, Oh, nothing's wrong with me. That's

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<v Speaker 5>what I learned. And it's like, it's not even like

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<v Speaker 5>I'm thinking every day something's wrong with me. It's probably

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<v Speaker 5>like an unconscious thing. But then I was like, Oh,

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<v Speaker 5>there's so much love, Like that's really what I felt.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Yeah, you're having this overwhelming feeling of love and

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<v Speaker 3>positivity for sure.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, And I swear like I walked out of there

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<v Speaker 5>with a different worldview that I think I had trying

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<v Speaker 5>was trying to grasp for a while.

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<v Speaker 3>It's yeah, it's not even positivity, it's peacefulness that ayahuasca

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<v Speaker 3>gives you. Yeah, you're like you have a sense of

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<v Speaker 3>peace about the world that you didn't have before.

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<v Speaker 2>I would say, yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Because there's a lot of just letting go and sort

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<v Speaker 5>of acceptance. I think that happens because you go into

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<v Speaker 5>these dark crevices and sort of I feel like aspirate

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<v Speaker 5>those wounds, and then you leave and you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm good.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Please don't use words like aspirate on this podcast. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a.

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<v Speaker 3>Medical professional and I'm the only one who can throw

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<v Speaker 3>around that kind of vernacular.

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<v Speaker 5>An accident forgive me.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you have any like in the previous two sessions

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<v Speaker 3>with ayahuasca. I'm trying to avoid saying journey because that's

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<v Speaker 3>another word that I don't want to hear it same.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you have any like mind bending like epiphanies?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean there was crazy things like one aliens

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<v Speaker 5>came in my head and talked to me. One I

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<v Speaker 5>was went in my parents' bodies and felt how they

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<v Speaker 5>felt about me. That's cool. Yeah, And I was like, whoa,

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<v Speaker 5>they love me so much, you know, because you sometimes

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<v Speaker 5>you just have a disconnect with those things, and then

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<v Speaker 5>to be able to feel someone's perspective was crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you tell them that? Did you talk to them

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<v Speaker 2>about it?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 5>No, they do not know that I have done ayahuasca,

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<v Speaker 5>and so hopefully no one tells them, but.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, well they'll find out now. So that's what

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<v Speaker 2>happens when you talk about it publicly. It gets back

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<v Speaker 2>to the people that you are hiding it from. So

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<v Speaker 2>congrats on that and welcome to my life.

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<v Speaker 5>I think they're used to it, you know, with comedy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, So tell me about are you single, I'm single.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, you seem single. How can you tell the

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<v Speaker 2>hat happy? You know, buoyant? I mean people, Yeah, people don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Single people don't get enough credit for how fun and

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<v Speaker 3>happy they are, Like they're fun.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh thanks, I think.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean a lot of married people are fun too,

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<v Speaker 3>but it's a very distinguishable quality for a single person

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<v Speaker 3>because they're just up for more fun adventure, like that

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<v Speaker 3>kind of vibe.

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<v Speaker 2>I catch that from single people.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well I feel the same about you. I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>I do hope I meet the right person, but I

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<v Speaker 5>have just so far been like I don't need anyone.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like, I'm not gonna do it unless they're really

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<v Speaker 5>like really really really good.

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<v Speaker 3>So unless they add a whole part of your life

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<v Speaker 3>that you don't already have an addition.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, which hasn't yet been I can't say that has

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<v Speaker 5>totally been my experience, but you know what.

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<v Speaker 2>Hasn't been your experience a guy adding.

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<v Speaker 5>To you to your life or yeah, which I have

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<v Speaker 5>to take responsibility for, you know, people that I've chose.

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<v Speaker 5>But now I'm just like, oh, I just yeah, I

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<v Speaker 5>just want someone who's like brings peace, fun, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Ads, Yeah, and no drama. Yeah, I've been around a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of drama lately and I'm pretty wiped out from it.

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<v Speaker 5>Isn't it so hard in this business? Because like, for me,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm always like, I want to date a regular person,

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<v Speaker 5>And then I'm like, but when am I going to

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<v Speaker 5>find a regular person when I'm doing comedy every night everywhere?

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<v Speaker 3>That's why you have to get out of Hollywood. That's

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<v Speaker 3>where you meet regular people is away.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it's just like doing stand up all the time,

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<v Speaker 5>you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, I know, and fucking male comedians is just

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<v Speaker 3>not on my bucket list.

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<v Speaker 5>Like that is not gonna work for me.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, that is not hot or alluring

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<v Speaker 3>at all.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, if you find the one who doesn't have gout,

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I still don't think it's worth it.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, they either have gout or they're sober, so two

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<v Speaker 3>things that don't interest me. I don't want anyone with gout,

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<v Speaker 3>which would indicate that you do drink, And I don't

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<v Speaker 3>want anyone sober.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, seventy five percent of comedians are sober. Now I

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<v Speaker 5>would say, I really, I think that's my estimation.

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<v Speaker 2>And I also I'm like, I want to put out

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<v Speaker 2>like a PSA, Like hey, guys, I've gotten away with

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<v Speaker 2>using drugs and alcohol all this time and I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>have to get sober. So why are you such a pussing?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah you quitters?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, twitters.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like if you just don't ever let anything, if

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<v Speaker 3>you never ever abuse anything too much, you never have

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<v Speaker 3>to give it up. So just remember that in your

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<v Speaker 3>alcohol and drug use journey, like you have to temper yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes you can't party, sometimes you can't drink for periods

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<v Speaker 3>of time, or sometimes you have to tone it back.

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<v Speaker 3>But always just be open to that and be like, yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I'll take it easy so that.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't ever have to quit. But you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>that's irresponsible to some degree because I know a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of our listeners are are sober, and so a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people do have an addiction and a disease, and

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<v Speaker 2>so you know, I want to respect that and also

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<v Speaker 2>remind people that I don't have that.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it's an interesting I know, when you're a new

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<v Speaker 5>early twenties you're like, oh my god, like I can

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<v Speaker 5>never read friends with sober people, and now I'm like,

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<v Speaker 5>literally all my friends are sober.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I know it's the world of comedy, so you

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<v Speaker 3>have you dated any comics you don't have to mention names.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I have dated comics. Those are sort of my

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<v Speaker 5>few long term relationships in the since I started, but

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<v Speaker 5>not for a while. I've been off that train for

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<v Speaker 5>a while.

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<v Speaker 3>And I is it hard for you to I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>I guess it is hard for you to meet regular guys.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I would say I'm a little shy. I'm also

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<v Speaker 5>like a pretty sleepy bitch, and you know, just being

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<v Speaker 5>on the road all the time, It's like, whenever I

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<v Speaker 5>have a day off, I'm not really feeling like corny.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not really being like, wow, I can't wait to

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<v Speaker 5>go meet a stranger and ask him how many siblings

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<v Speaker 5>he has, you know, And then they find out I

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<v Speaker 5>do comedy, and then they ask me if I've ever

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<v Speaker 5>heard of Bill Burr.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh tell me about it.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, someone just invited me to go see Bill

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<v Speaker 3>Burr at the Rogers Arena in Vancouver because I'm in Whistler,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, know me less.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I love Bil Berr. But it's like they

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<v Speaker 5>immediately start educating you on your own job and they're like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>thank you, but no, I'm trying to date now. And

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<v Speaker 5>I've actually been because I try to change my attitude

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<v Speaker 5>about it and I'm trying to enjoy it and like

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<v Speaker 5>put on an outfit. It's been fine, it's been fun.

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<v Speaker 5>Nice guys, I guess.

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<v Speaker 3>So I was reading that you get trolled a lot

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<v Speaker 3>on TikTok, that the people on TikTok you claim are

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<v Speaker 3>very mean, which makes sense because they're all kids, aren't they.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean, I just sort of enjoy it now,

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<v Speaker 5>like what people say about my voice, them saying I

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<v Speaker 5>sound like all the Ruggrats at once. But no, I

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<v Speaker 5>wouldn't say I get trolled any more than anyone else.

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<v Speaker 5>But I do have fun with it.

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<v Speaker 2>Any more than any regular white girl comedian. And who's

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<v Speaker 2>betting exactly? So you started an OnlyFans account? Or is

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<v Speaker 2>that a joke?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh no, that's real. It started as.

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<v Speaker 2>It I can't wait to subscribe.

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<v Speaker 5>I only had it for twenty four hours, oh because

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<v Speaker 5>my reps made me take it down because I auditioned

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<v Speaker 5>for a lot of children's you know stuff. But it

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<v Speaker 5>started as a joke. I wrote on Twitter one day.

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<v Speaker 5>It was just like hi or something, I don't know what,

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<v Speaker 5>and I said like, oh no, this was two years

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<v Speaker 5>ago before everyone had an OnlyFans and I was like,

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<v Speaker 5>do you have to hang on OnlyFans? You have to

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<v Speaker 5>uh can you just do feet or do you have

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<v Speaker 5>to show a whole you know, innocent, just having a

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<v Speaker 5>good time. And then and then it somehow got like

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<v Speaker 5>fifty thousand retweets, so I was like, oh, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 5>just I had no idea there was a market. I'm

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<v Speaker 5>starting one immediately, and I got one within forty five minutes.

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<v Speaker 5>And these people are freaks for feet. I always thought

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<v Speaker 5>that was sort of a joke.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, there's a lot of stuff that goes on on

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<v Speaker 3>OnlyFans that I didn't even know was a commodity or

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<v Speaker 3>a fetish. So you could basically have it without showing

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<v Speaker 3>your Pikachu or your asshole. You can just show I

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<v Speaker 3>guess you know that's your side boob. Like it can

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<v Speaker 3>be as as as niche simple as that, or his

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<v Speaker 3>niche as that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, thank you couching.

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<v Speaker 5>I say this in the bit. But like I made

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<v Speaker 5>the title of my Only Fans Blair sack ankles down

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<v Speaker 5>no hole, so literally everything was below my ankles and

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<v Speaker 5>it was doing quite well, but then all my dreams

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<v Speaker 5>and hopes got crashed down when I had to take

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<v Speaker 5>it down after twenty four hours a shame.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, are you fucking kidding me? Who gives a

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<v Speaker 2>shit what anyone is doing on onlyfriends?

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<v Speaker 5>What are we the church? I know?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, America is getting really really embarrassing and hard to

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<v Speaker 3>deal with quite frankly.

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<v Speaker 5>I know. Are you seeing these young kids now that

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<v Speaker 5>say like they don't want sex scenes in movies? I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, God, you guys are dorks.

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<v Speaker 1>I've heard about that. They want to see like scenes

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<v Speaker 1>with friendships and stuff because that's what they don't have,

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<v Speaker 1>Like that that's their porn. It's like they don't you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, right, So you think they want to see scenes

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<v Speaker 3>with kids because they don't have their own friendship.

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<v Speaker 2>Well like wait.

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<v Speaker 1>What, Yeah, they're like, we don't care about sex scenes

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<v Speaker 1>because they can see it all online. So they're like,

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<v Speaker 1>we don't really that's boring and they really want to

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<v Speaker 1>see like deep and meaningful friendships, Like that's what they

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<v Speaker 1>really want to see in movies.

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<v Speaker 4>Now.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wow, it's so weird, And maybe that's headed. Maybe

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<v Speaker 3>that is headed in a good direction.

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<v Speaker 1>Then maybe that's right.

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<v Speaker 2>If that's what they're craving, maybe that is a good thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe all the social media is good because it's taking

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<v Speaker 3>us back to where we need to go, which is

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<v Speaker 3>not where we are.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I don't know where did you grow up? I

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<v Speaker 5>grew up in Orange County.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, sorry about.

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<v Speaker 5>And then I started comedy in New York, in which

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't know I was gonna start comedy. I moved

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<v Speaker 5>there to become a novelist in grad school and just

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<v Speaker 5>like accidentally started comedy.

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<v Speaker 2>Who are your friends within the comedy world that I

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<v Speaker 2>know besides Rosebud?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, yeah, me and Rosebud started together at the exact

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<v Speaker 5>same time. We've been best friends ever since.

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<v Speaker 3>But oh, you know who else I had up here

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<v Speaker 3>this weekend? We're Sydney, Marie and Amina.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know them? Amina, Amani?

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<v Speaker 5>Those are all my girls. I started with Sid and

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<v Speaker 5>Marie too.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, of perfect. Yeah, they were the only black

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<v Speaker 3>people on the mountain yesterday. We got them a ski

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<v Speaker 3>lesson and then we took them to a prey and

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<v Speaker 3>Amina was like, I think I could ski with you.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, look, showing me her video of her skiing.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, no, no, I mean you have to fucking

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<v Speaker 3>turn okay, just because you skied straight for third seconds.

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<v Speaker 3>That doesn't mean you can ski on the terrain that

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<v Speaker 3>we're skiing on.

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<v Speaker 2>But we had them.

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<v Speaker 3>They came for they came on Saturday night and they

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<v Speaker 3>spent two nights here and yeah, they're all ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 2>Three. Yeah, Catherine, we have to put them on.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to do a counseling session for them in

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<v Speaker 3>their relationship because they have a lot of beat between

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<v Speaker 3>each other.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's book them as well.

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<v Speaker 3>I just really only should have comedians on because they

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<v Speaker 3>provide the most joy and happiness.

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<v Speaker 7>No.

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<v Speaker 5>Us girls are so much fun. They're the best.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, they're so funny. Okay, So we're going to

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<v Speaker 2>take a break and we'll be right back.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, and we're back.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. So we're going to take callers.

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<v Speaker 3>Catherine has people that are calling in for advice, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, we're just changing lives, one life at a

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<v Speaker 3>time here, that's what we're doing, and it's pretty serious business.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it, Blair. You're gonna maybe help us hook

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<v Speaker 1>some people up, break up some marriages. You know, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>see what happens.

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<v Speaker 5>Perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>So our first caller is Sarah. She is from New Jersey.

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<v Speaker 1>She says, Dear Chelsea. After a series of dumpster fire

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<v Speaker 1>relationships and a lot of therapy to figure out how

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<v Speaker 1>to break on healthy dating patterns. I finally found an

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<v Speaker 1>amazing guy. He's communicative, empathetic, considerate, and loves making me happy.

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<v Speaker 1>He has a great career, owns his home, and is

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<v Speaker 1>financially stable. He has a big circle of great friends,

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<v Speaker 1>and his family is so sweet. It's only been five

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<v Speaker 1>months together, but I could really see myself marrying him

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<v Speaker 1>one day. There's just one problem. Our sex life is horrible.

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<v Speaker 1>Our attempts at intimacy have been awkward, unsuccessful, and leave

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<v Speaker 1>much to be desired. I want this relationship to work,

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<v Speaker 1>but his lack of experience and failure to launch make

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<v Speaker 1>me think we're just not sexually compatible. Is it possible

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<v Speaker 1>to turn things around? Sarah?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that's really difficult. There's a lot of guys

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<v Speaker 2>that can't get it up. What's going on?

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<v Speaker 4>What is this?

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<v Speaker 5>I think a lot of it's porn but also could

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<v Speaker 5>be depression.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Hi, Sarah, we're just talking about your lack of

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<v Speaker 3>sex life. Hi, welcome to the podcast.

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<v Speaker 6>Hi, thanks for having me.

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<v Speaker 2>This is our special guest today, Blair Saki.

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<v Speaker 5>Hi, Sarah, So no sex at all?

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<v Speaker 2>Did I hear that correctly?

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<v Speaker 6>Limited limited sex, so penetration. So it seems like he's

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<v Speaker 6>able to keep it up if we if he's laying down,

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<v Speaker 6>so we're limited to me being on top, which is

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<v Speaker 6>a lot of it's a lot of work for me.

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<v Speaker 2>How interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, what does that mean that you can only keep

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<v Speaker 3>it up while lying down?

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<v Speaker 6>It's strange.

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<v Speaker 5>So I don't know.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, it's been like a long process.

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<v Speaker 2>How long.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, so we've been together for like six months, We've

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<v Speaker 6>been having sex or trying to have sex for like

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<v Speaker 6>four but he was like slow in the beginning, like

0:20:48.600 --> 0:20:50.440
<v Speaker 6>he was a slow mover. It took a long time

0:20:50.480 --> 0:20:52.040
<v Speaker 6>for him to kiss me, It took a long time

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<v Speaker 6>for us to have sex for the first time.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I thought at.

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<v Speaker 6>First like he was just nervous, and there was always

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<v Speaker 6>like an excuse or reason he was stressed out from work,

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<v Speaker 6>or it was a long week, or it's been a

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<v Speaker 6>long time since he had sex or whatever it was.

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<v Speaker 6>So it's been a lot of attempts. We just can't

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<v Speaker 6>he can't keep it up.

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<v Speaker 3>I've had a lot of experience with this, but I

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<v Speaker 3>usually just press on immediately after that infraction because I

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<v Speaker 3>don't have time for that. But I'm so curious as

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<v Speaker 3>to what is going on in society that men are

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<v Speaker 3>having this issue.

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<v Speaker 6>So it's funny that you say that, though, because I've

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<v Speaker 6>never had this issue with any of my boyfriends before.

0:21:31.400 --> 0:21:35.280
<v Speaker 6>But I've also dated some like real assholes that they

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<v Speaker 6>have nothing to offer in my life romantically, but they're

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<v Speaker 6>great in bed. And now I have the exact opposite,

0:21:41.480 --> 0:21:44.359
<v Speaker 6>Like I've found my perfect unicorn and he can't have

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<v Speaker 6>sex with me.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, is there any scenario where you can have him

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<v Speaker 3>as your boyfriend and just fuck other guys.

0:21:49.320 --> 0:21:54.040
<v Speaker 2>On the side. I think that seems like the best solution.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I know it's a tough one.

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<v Speaker 5>Also, I mean, if this is really the only issue,

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<v Speaker 5>what about the pills? Like, just go to the doctor guy.

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<v Speaker 6>Right, So that's something that we've talked about, like maybe

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<v Speaker 6>go see a doctor and make sure everything's going on,

0:22:11.320 --> 0:22:16.119
<v Speaker 6>Like everything's fine down there. He's very nervous around doctors

0:22:16.160 --> 0:22:20.720
<v Speaker 6>and he hates doctors. He's like insistent that he thinks

0:22:20.720 --> 0:22:22.919
<v Speaker 6>it's in his head. So he did offer to like

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<v Speaker 6>go see a therapist, which is fine, It's just it's

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<v Speaker 6>less of an immediate solution to the problem.

0:22:29.760 --> 0:22:32.280
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, he could do both also, you know.

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<v Speaker 6>So the other issue though is that he has high

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<v Speaker 6>blood pressure, so I.

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<v Speaker 1>Can't do that meditation for that.

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<v Speaker 6>So I think there are some pills that you can't

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<v Speaker 6>take when.

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<v Speaker 3>There's cialisalis cialis, I think Sialis and then viagra, and

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<v Speaker 3>one of them is you can't take with a heart condition.

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<v Speaker 3>And I believe one of them you can. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>know that for sure, obviously ask someone else.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know for men.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, for men that they made a pill that

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<v Speaker 5>can go along with their heart condition, in their serious

0:23:01.280 --> 0:23:05.520
<v Speaker 5>heart condition, No problem, We'll make another one for that. Yeah,

0:23:05.680 --> 0:23:07.640
<v Speaker 5>you ladies wait for everyone everything.

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<v Speaker 1>I wonder if there's something herbal that he could take though,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm sure you have tried some goggling as

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<v Speaker 1>far as verbal stuff goes.

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<v Speaker 2>What about Earl gray tea?

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<v Speaker 4>Does that? Have you try that?

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<v Speaker 6>And that's kind of why I want to have him

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<v Speaker 6>go see like a doctor so that he knows what

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<v Speaker 6>is safe to try and to take. But he's really

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<v Speaker 6>insisting on he wants to see a therapist and go

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<v Speaker 6>down that route before he goes to see a doctor.

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<v Speaker 6>I just don't know. How hard I should push because

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<v Speaker 6>you know, it's like it's his body, so I feel

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<v Speaker 6>awkward about it.

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<v Speaker 1>But well, Sarah, did you mention when we talked, does

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<v Speaker 1>he have some like body dysmorphia stuff or self consciousness

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<v Speaker 1>around his own body that maybe therapy would help unravel.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, he's he's been overweight for most of his life,

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<v Speaker 6>and he doesn't have a ton of experience with women.

0:23:56.280 --> 0:23:59.280
<v Speaker 6>I know, he's only been with like a handful of women,

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<v Speaker 6>So I I think that's part of it, is he

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<v Speaker 6>just gets in his own head because he wants to

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<v Speaker 6>be great at it. Like I feel like he's sabotaging

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<v Speaker 6>himself almost a little bit. But I don't know how

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<v Speaker 6>we get him out of that loop.

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<v Speaker 5>Maybe I should do mushrooms together.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean they're all good suggestions, but I think, like

0:24:18.240 --> 0:24:21.480
<v Speaker 3>you're clearly into him. You've been with him for six months, right,

0:24:22.080 --> 0:24:24.520
<v Speaker 3>you care about him. I mean you can still go

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<v Speaker 3>the distance a little bit further to try and find out,

0:24:27.680 --> 0:24:29.680
<v Speaker 3>like exactly what it is. But I think he should

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<v Speaker 3>be more willing to see a doctor in conjunction with

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<v Speaker 3>a therapist so that you can get the ball rolling,

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<v Speaker 3>because six months is a long time to be with

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<v Speaker 3>someone and not having like a healthy sex life with them. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I would agree, And don't diminish your needs because of

0:24:43.880 --> 0:24:47.840
<v Speaker 3>his Like you're meeting him more than halfway by by

0:24:47.920 --> 0:24:53.800
<v Speaker 3>being on top all the time, by being okay with

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<v Speaker 3>this whole thing.

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<v Speaker 4>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of people wouldn't have stayed.

0:24:56.880 --> 0:24:58.520
<v Speaker 3>They would have been like, oh, wait, you're not having

0:24:58.560 --> 0:25:00.720
<v Speaker 3>we're not having sex, all right, I'm out. And it's

0:25:00.760 --> 0:25:03.560
<v Speaker 3>been six months and it's not been as successful as.

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<v Speaker 2>You would want it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think he should be willing to go the distance

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit, you know, deeper, not just say I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to see a doctor, I mean a therapist, because

0:25:11.680 --> 0:25:13.320
<v Speaker 3>you're right, that isn't a quick solution.

0:25:13.480 --> 0:25:14.639
<v Speaker 2>That's a long term solution.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know, taking it step by step, ruling out

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<v Speaker 1>like okay, is it an emotional issue, is it a

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<v Speaker 1>physical issue? And like going step by step down the line.

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<v Speaker 1>The other thing I want to ask too, is are

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<v Speaker 1>you guys thinking like kids in the future, because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>in addition to being a lack of pleasure, this could

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<v Speaker 1>be really problematic for that if he doesn't get this figured.

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<v Speaker 6>Out right, and that's he actually really wants kids. I'm

0:25:38.359 --> 0:25:41.840
<v Speaker 6>sort of undecided on it, but he really wants to

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<v Speaker 6>have at least one kid. And that's sort of something

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<v Speaker 6>that I've brought up to him, is like we should

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<v Speaker 6>kind of like maybe that's another reason why we should

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<v Speaker 6>get this checked out now, so that we know if

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<v Speaker 6>that's possible for our future.

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<v Speaker 1>Not right. Sometimes it takes a little try in over

0:25:57.000 --> 0:25:59.520
<v Speaker 1>a period of time rather than just a one and done.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I don't think you take off right now. I

0:26:01.920 --> 0:26:04.240
<v Speaker 3>think you give it, you know, a little bit more time.

0:26:04.560 --> 0:26:06.480
<v Speaker 3>And I like what Catherine said, you know, just like

0:26:06.800 --> 0:26:09.600
<v Speaker 3>issue by issue, like okay, rule out this, rule out that,

0:26:09.960 --> 0:26:12.640
<v Speaker 3>but you can you don't have to do that literally

0:26:12.680 --> 0:26:14.400
<v Speaker 3>once at a time, you know, you can do that.

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<v Speaker 2>In a succession pace.

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<v Speaker 4>Exactly.

0:26:16.280 --> 0:26:18.080
<v Speaker 3>You don't have to wait until he's in therapy for

0:26:18.119 --> 0:26:19.560
<v Speaker 3>six months to be like, Okay, now we're going to

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<v Speaker 3>try the doctor.

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<v Speaker 4>Exactly.

0:26:20.720 --> 0:26:22.560
<v Speaker 3>You should be like a little bit more adamant that

0:26:22.600 --> 0:26:25.000
<v Speaker 3>he tried that more, you know, sooner than later.

0:26:25.160 --> 0:26:25.680
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, sounds like there's several different layers to it, but

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<v Speaker 5>I think the most important thing is that he's working

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<v Speaker 5>on it and taking initiative to work on it.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, he is, And that's he did go ahead and

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<v Speaker 6>schedule a therapy appointment. It was like a bunch of

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<v Speaker 6>things that sort of happened that the therapist said she

0:26:45.000 --> 0:26:47.159
<v Speaker 6>wasn't a good fit for him the first time, and

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<v Speaker 6>then he had like a work trip come up that

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<v Speaker 6>he had to like a meeting that he had to

0:26:51.119 --> 0:26:54.159
<v Speaker 6>be part of that conflicted with the second time he

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<v Speaker 6>was supposed to go see the therapist, and then he

0:26:56.240 --> 0:26:59.720
<v Speaker 6>just recently had somebody really close in his family pass away.

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<v Speaker 6>So it's sort of.

0:27:00.800 --> 0:27:02.240
<v Speaker 5>All on the back burner right now.

0:27:02.280 --> 0:27:04.520
<v Speaker 6>So I also don't know like how long I should

0:27:04.560 --> 0:27:08.000
<v Speaker 6>sort of wait before pushing the issue again, because I

0:27:08.000 --> 0:27:09.840
<v Speaker 6>definitely want to be sensitive to the fact that he

0:27:09.960 --> 0:27:13.480
<v Speaker 6>just lost somebody and he's dealing with grief. But I

0:27:13.480 --> 0:27:15.560
<v Speaker 6>don't know, do you have any advice on that?

0:27:16.520 --> 0:27:18.679
<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean you can be sensitive to that, but

0:27:19.200 --> 0:27:21.000
<v Speaker 2>I mean no, I don't.

0:27:21.160 --> 0:27:23.439
<v Speaker 3>I honestly I wish I did, because you can be

0:27:23.520 --> 0:27:26.000
<v Speaker 3>sensitive to that, But like it just seems like a

0:27:26.040 --> 0:27:29.680
<v Speaker 3>world of excuses, Like, you know, people can have sex

0:27:29.720 --> 0:27:32.280
<v Speaker 3>and grief, people can, you know, It's like anything he

0:27:32.320 --> 0:27:34.640
<v Speaker 3>can use to make an excuse for him and his

0:27:34.640 --> 0:27:35.840
<v Speaker 3>inability to perform.

0:27:35.880 --> 0:27:37.119
<v Speaker 2>I think at this point he's.

0:27:37.000 --> 0:27:42.280
<v Speaker 3>Going to take Yeah, so I kind of would say, no,

0:27:42.480 --> 0:27:45.119
<v Speaker 3>that's not a great excuse, you know. I mean unless

0:27:45.119 --> 0:27:47.800
<v Speaker 3>he's sitting every day in grief. Is he sitting there

0:27:47.840 --> 0:27:49.040
<v Speaker 3>morning every single day?

0:27:49.400 --> 0:27:49.600
<v Speaker 4>No?

0:27:50.480 --> 0:27:52.439
<v Speaker 2>Right, So, no, I don't think so.

0:27:52.920 --> 0:27:55.399
<v Speaker 3>And listen, we talked about this on our podcast, like,

0:27:55.440 --> 0:27:58.679
<v Speaker 3>grief is something to always be respected, but it's not

0:27:58.720 --> 0:28:01.240
<v Speaker 3>something that takes up your entire day like it comes

0:28:01.280 --> 0:28:01.840
<v Speaker 3>in bursts.

0:28:01.840 --> 0:28:03.359
<v Speaker 2>It comes in waves, you know.

0:28:04.160 --> 0:28:07.040
<v Speaker 3>Yes, the first few weeks and months after someone very

0:28:07.080 --> 0:28:09.400
<v Speaker 3>close to you died, it is. It is something where

0:28:09.440 --> 0:28:12.280
<v Speaker 3>you could be almost handicapped in terms of being yourself

0:28:12.320 --> 0:28:14.680
<v Speaker 3>and being able to physically be out.

0:28:14.480 --> 0:28:15.280
<v Speaker 2>There in the world.

0:28:15.720 --> 0:28:18.720
<v Speaker 3>But as far as you know, losing someone you love

0:28:19.200 --> 0:28:21.480
<v Speaker 3>that comes in waves, and it's not an excuse really

0:28:21.480 --> 0:28:25.639
<v Speaker 3>for anything. You know, it's a temporary kind of pause

0:28:25.720 --> 0:28:26.679
<v Speaker 3>you can put on things.

0:28:26.680 --> 0:28:28.000
<v Speaker 2>But no, I don't think so.

0:28:28.560 --> 0:28:30.520
<v Speaker 1>And seeing a therapist during this time is probably something

0:28:30.560 --> 0:28:32.080
<v Speaker 1>that's going to be beneficial anyway.

0:28:32.240 --> 0:28:35.119
<v Speaker 6>Yes, yeah, so, I mean I'm excited for him to

0:28:35.200 --> 0:28:37.320
<v Speaker 6>do that, you know, I'm in therapy. I hope he

0:28:37.400 --> 0:28:40.600
<v Speaker 6>gets all the help he needs to feel better about himself.

0:28:40.640 --> 0:28:43.280
<v Speaker 6>But I don't know that I'm convinced that that's what

0:28:43.360 --> 0:28:45.840
<v Speaker 6>the issue is. I don't know that it's a mental thing.

0:28:46.720 --> 0:28:47.120
<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

0:28:47.200 --> 0:28:48.880
<v Speaker 6>I mean I feel like I should just kind of

0:28:48.920 --> 0:28:50.760
<v Speaker 6>push a little bit more for him to go see

0:28:50.760 --> 0:28:51.280
<v Speaker 6>a doctor.

0:28:51.720 --> 0:28:52.200
<v Speaker 2>I think so.

0:28:52.520 --> 0:28:54.760
<v Speaker 3>I think so because out of it, it's about respecting

0:28:54.800 --> 0:28:58.000
<v Speaker 3>your relationship. You know, he needs to respect your relationship too.

0:28:58.080 --> 0:29:00.760
<v Speaker 3>It's not just about him and his problem. It's also

0:29:00.800 --> 0:29:02.440
<v Speaker 3>about you because you're in the relationship.

0:29:02.600 --> 0:29:05.920
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, yeah, pleasure aside, Like I just there's like an

0:29:05.960 --> 0:29:08.920
<v Speaker 6>intimacy factor that I feel like is missing from the

0:29:09.000 --> 0:29:13.080
<v Speaker 6>relationship that I know we both want. And he's very generous,

0:29:13.120 --> 0:29:21.200
<v Speaker 6>like in the bedroom, so don't get me wrong, Like.

0:29:18.480 --> 0:29:20.760
<v Speaker 2>What's he going to be selfish and not able to perform?

0:29:20.880 --> 0:29:23.880
<v Speaker 5>I mean yeah, I mean otherwise you're just friends. And

0:29:24.000 --> 0:29:27.480
<v Speaker 5>also it's like that's pretty early on to be dealing

0:29:27.520 --> 0:29:28.280
<v Speaker 5>with that, you know.

0:29:28.520 --> 0:29:32.360
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, yeah, Okay, Well do you feel like you

0:29:32.560 --> 0:29:34.520
<v Speaker 3>have mark, Like, what you're gonna do?

0:29:34.520 --> 0:29:35.640
<v Speaker 2>Do you know what you're gonna do now?

0:29:36.320 --> 0:29:38.560
<v Speaker 6>I feel like I definitely have to bring it up

0:29:38.680 --> 0:29:42.080
<v Speaker 6>again about him seeing a doctor in conjunction with going

0:29:42.120 --> 0:29:46.680
<v Speaker 6>to therapy. But I guess my concern is that at

0:29:46.720 --> 0:29:49.520
<v Speaker 6>this point, like I'm so afraid of like making it

0:29:49.560 --> 0:29:53.360
<v Speaker 6>worse or saying something like insensitively that I don't even

0:29:53.400 --> 0:29:56.200
<v Speaker 6>know how to handle the situation. And when we're like

0:29:56.320 --> 0:29:59.120
<v Speaker 6>in the situation, I sort of just shut down. So like,

0:30:00.080 --> 0:30:02.160
<v Speaker 6>do it, like I guess, do I address it when

0:30:02.280 --> 0:30:03.480
<v Speaker 6>we're not in a situation?

0:30:04.080 --> 0:30:05.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, don't address it in bed.

0:30:05.960 --> 0:30:07.800
<v Speaker 2>No, I agree with that, don't address it in bed.

0:30:07.800 --> 0:30:10.120
<v Speaker 3>But I think, listen, it's very good that you are

0:30:10.320 --> 0:30:12.280
<v Speaker 3>thinking about this, because a lot of people would be like,

0:30:12.360 --> 0:30:13.680
<v Speaker 3>this is enough, I don't need the sex.

0:30:13.720 --> 0:30:15.719
<v Speaker 2>It's very good that you know what you need and

0:30:15.760 --> 0:30:16.240
<v Speaker 2>that you're.

0:30:16.120 --> 0:30:19.120
<v Speaker 3>Asking for it. So that's positive already. And I think

0:30:19.240 --> 0:30:20.760
<v Speaker 3>you don't say it in the bedroom. You say it

0:30:20.760 --> 0:30:24.120
<v Speaker 3>to him in a loving conversation when you're talking about therapy.

0:30:24.600 --> 0:30:27.320
<v Speaker 3>Hopefully you know, bring up the topic of therapy, bring

0:30:27.400 --> 0:30:29.320
<v Speaker 3>up the topic of your therapist and what you've been

0:30:29.360 --> 0:30:32.640
<v Speaker 3>thinking about, and that in order for you, you know,

0:30:32.920 --> 0:30:35.640
<v Speaker 3>not like in an ultimatum way to phrase it or

0:30:35.640 --> 0:30:39.560
<v Speaker 3>frame it, but like you want to be sexual with him.

0:30:39.720 --> 0:30:42.000
<v Speaker 3>You like him so much, you want to have a

0:30:42.040 --> 0:30:45.080
<v Speaker 3>deeper intimacy with him. The possibilities are endless for how

0:30:45.160 --> 0:30:47.400
<v Speaker 3>close you guys can become once you have that kind

0:30:47.400 --> 0:30:50.920
<v Speaker 3>of sexual intimacy and like fun playtime. I hate when

0:30:50.920 --> 0:30:52.880
<v Speaker 3>people talk about sex as play, but I said that,

0:30:53.280 --> 0:30:56.479
<v Speaker 3>and you know, like all of those things, but also like,

0:30:56.640 --> 0:30:59.040
<v Speaker 3>I actually need more of an effort on your.

0:30:58.960 --> 0:31:00.760
<v Speaker 2>Behalf to try and figure this out.

0:31:00.800 --> 0:31:02.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm here and I'm waiting, and I'm totally willing to

0:31:03.000 --> 0:31:04.960
<v Speaker 3>figure it out with you, but I actually need you

0:31:05.000 --> 0:31:06.760
<v Speaker 3>to be a little bit more proactive. Saying you're going

0:31:06.800 --> 0:31:09.600
<v Speaker 3>to see a therapist isn't an immediate solution, And what

0:31:09.640 --> 0:31:12.360
<v Speaker 3>if there is an immediate solution, you know, we need

0:31:12.400 --> 0:31:14.360
<v Speaker 3>you to see a doctor. Maybe we can figure it

0:31:14.360 --> 0:31:16.320
<v Speaker 3>out in the meantime and then find out you know,

0:31:16.440 --> 0:31:18.320
<v Speaker 3>you can get viagraa you can get see alis or

0:31:18.320 --> 0:31:20.800
<v Speaker 3>whatever pairing is best for his medication that he's on,

0:31:20.920 --> 0:31:23.520
<v Speaker 3>and just say, you know, you need just him to

0:31:23.560 --> 0:31:27.040
<v Speaker 3>demonstrate a little bit more initiative. Yeah, in order for

0:31:27.080 --> 0:31:29.000
<v Speaker 3>you to feel secure about where you're headed.

0:31:29.320 --> 0:31:31.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's time to move from like, hey, do you

0:31:31.280 --> 0:31:33.480
<v Speaker 1>think maybe you should see a therapist or a doctor

0:31:33.560 --> 0:31:35.840
<v Speaker 1>or this to like, this is an issue and it

0:31:35.880 --> 0:31:38.960
<v Speaker 1>has a solution, and let's take the steps to find

0:31:38.960 --> 0:31:39.479
<v Speaker 1>that solution.

0:31:39.880 --> 0:31:40.520
<v Speaker 4>I like that.

0:31:40.520 --> 0:31:42.640
<v Speaker 6>That's a that's a good point I could forge.

0:31:42.960 --> 0:31:45.560
<v Speaker 3>And at the front, the front wheel of this conversation

0:31:45.760 --> 0:31:48.960
<v Speaker 3>is your desire to be with him in a relationship

0:31:49.120 --> 0:31:50.040
<v Speaker 3>long term.

0:31:50.160 --> 0:31:53.680
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, yeah, definitely, And I think it would make both

0:31:53.720 --> 0:31:56.000
<v Speaker 6>of us feel more comfortable. It's like, every time we

0:31:56.080 --> 0:31:59.160
<v Speaker 6>have this awkward interaction, it just don't like you don't

0:31:59.160 --> 0:31:59.720
<v Speaker 6>know where.

0:31:59.480 --> 0:32:00.360
<v Speaker 4>To go out for that.

0:32:01.160 --> 0:32:03.360
<v Speaker 2>No, I know it's so awkward. I get it. I

0:32:03.440 --> 0:32:05.800
<v Speaker 2>have been there, believe me, and not with someone I

0:32:05.800 --> 0:32:13.680
<v Speaker 2>really cared about. With plenty of people I didn't exactly good.

0:32:14.320 --> 0:32:16.520
<v Speaker 6>I feel like good luck, so much good stuff going

0:32:16.560 --> 0:32:18.480
<v Speaker 6>on here, Like I don't just want to give up

0:32:18.480 --> 0:32:18.760
<v Speaker 6>on it.

0:32:18.840 --> 0:32:20.280
<v Speaker 4>I want to work on No.

0:32:20.440 --> 0:32:22.280
<v Speaker 2>I love it. Female empowerment all the way.

0:32:22.320 --> 0:32:24.640
<v Speaker 3>You're asking for what you need and you're being firm

0:32:24.680 --> 0:32:26.360
<v Speaker 3>about it, and you're already getting a lot, but you're

0:32:26.360 --> 0:32:28.760
<v Speaker 3>not getting everything you need, and you should get everything

0:32:28.760 --> 0:32:31.560
<v Speaker 3>you need, especially in the in the dynamic of this relationship.

0:32:31.800 --> 0:32:34.520
<v Speaker 5>And he needs to meet your effort because you're, you know,

0:32:34.680 --> 0:32:39.360
<v Speaker 5>being extremely compassionate and understanding and everything. Yeah, yeah, trying

0:32:39.360 --> 0:32:39.640
<v Speaker 5>to be.

0:32:39.680 --> 0:32:44.000
<v Speaker 1>And he needs to go down on you a lot.

0:32:45.520 --> 0:32:48.560
<v Speaker 1>All right, Sarah, thank you so much for calling in.

0:32:49.120 --> 0:32:51.560
<v Speaker 5>Thank you, Sarah, good luck.

0:32:51.520 --> 0:32:52.440
<v Speaker 2>Thanks for calling in.

0:32:52.640 --> 0:32:53.160
<v Speaker 1>Bye.

0:32:53.720 --> 0:32:56.400
<v Speaker 3>That reminds me of a time when I was I

0:32:56.440 --> 0:32:58.840
<v Speaker 3>was in New Zealand performing and I had met this

0:32:58.840 --> 0:33:01.440
<v Speaker 3>guy on a boat and and I invited him to

0:33:01.480 --> 0:33:03.720
<v Speaker 3>New Zealand to see my show. And then I saw

0:33:03.800 --> 0:33:06.880
<v Speaker 3>him off the boat out of context and I was like,

0:33:06.920 --> 0:33:09.680
<v Speaker 3>whoahoa whoa woa in Auckland and he showed up and

0:33:09.720 --> 0:33:14.360
<v Speaker 3>I was like I can't fuck this guy, Like I

0:33:14.520 --> 0:33:15.320
<v Speaker 3>just can't do it.

0:33:15.800 --> 0:33:17.360
<v Speaker 2>And I had never had sex with him.

0:33:17.360 --> 0:33:19.120
<v Speaker 3>We just like fooled around on he was like one

0:33:19.160 --> 0:33:21.840
<v Speaker 3>of the crew on this boat that my friend, or

0:33:22.640 --> 0:33:24.280
<v Speaker 3>yeah he was a crewman. And then when he was

0:33:24.320 --> 0:33:27.280
<v Speaker 3>out of his crew outfit, it was not. I was

0:33:27.320 --> 0:33:29.960
<v Speaker 3>like they were like Cavalricci jeans or something. And I

0:33:30.600 --> 0:33:32.560
<v Speaker 3>just remember looking at his body and being like or

0:33:32.640 --> 0:33:35.000
<v Speaker 3>no his outfit and I was like, oh God, like no.

0:33:35.400 --> 0:33:37.240
<v Speaker 3>And so I brought him and he had come took

0:33:37.240 --> 0:33:39.880
<v Speaker 3>Auckland to see me, and I was like I have

0:33:39.920 --> 0:33:41.560
<v Speaker 3>to get out of here, like I can't sleep with

0:33:41.600 --> 0:33:43.840
<v Speaker 3>this guy. And so we went up to my hotel room.

0:33:43.880 --> 0:33:45.240
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, oh, and he just went down on me

0:33:45.320 --> 0:33:52.360
<v Speaker 3>like five times jeans exactly, and I was like, ah,

0:33:52.400 --> 0:33:54.520
<v Speaker 3>that's a wrap, Like I can't even let you do

0:33:54.600 --> 0:33:55.040
<v Speaker 3>that again.

0:33:55.160 --> 0:33:57.640
<v Speaker 2>It's too much. And then I checked out of my

0:33:57.680 --> 0:33:58.320
<v Speaker 2>own suite.

0:33:58.440 --> 0:34:00.680
<v Speaker 3>I checked out of my own hotel suite, gave him

0:34:00.680 --> 0:34:02.920
<v Speaker 3>the suite so I could just get out of his hair,

0:34:03.360 --> 0:34:05.200
<v Speaker 3>and pretended I had to go home to LA for

0:34:05.240 --> 0:34:08.080
<v Speaker 3>an emergency rehearsal for like the VMA Awards or whatever

0:34:08.120 --> 0:34:10.279
<v Speaker 3>the fuck I was doing. I was, I mean it

0:34:10.320 --> 0:34:13.440
<v Speaker 3>was and then yeah, so, yeah, guys, I love one.

0:34:13.440 --> 0:34:16.080
<v Speaker 3>When they were like, well he's very generous, like that's

0:34:16.120 --> 0:34:19.640
<v Speaker 3>like saying someone's like, of course he's generous.

0:34:19.680 --> 0:34:21.279
<v Speaker 2>A bed can't fuck you.

0:34:23.400 --> 0:34:24.360
<v Speaker 5>She was patient?

0:34:24.920 --> 0:34:27.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, no, I know. Well women are faatient.

0:34:28.520 --> 0:34:29.120
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:34:29.360 --> 0:34:31.040
<v Speaker 3>It took me a long time to not think it

0:34:31.080 --> 0:34:33.440
<v Speaker 3>was me or that I was too intimidating. Men do

0:34:33.520 --> 0:34:35.440
<v Speaker 3>get nervous. They have to perform. We don't have to

0:34:35.440 --> 0:34:37.640
<v Speaker 3>get an erection. We just have to sit there and

0:34:37.920 --> 0:34:39.040
<v Speaker 3>take it, you know what I mean.

0:34:39.560 --> 0:34:41.080
<v Speaker 2>We don't really have to.

0:34:41.080 --> 0:34:43.759
<v Speaker 3>Perform if we don't feel like it, So they do

0:34:43.880 --> 0:34:47.160
<v Speaker 3>have an added pressure. It is interesting that it seems

0:34:47.200 --> 0:34:49.719
<v Speaker 3>to be an issue more in recent years for all

0:34:49.800 --> 0:34:53.839
<v Speaker 3>men than it has been. So something's going on societally,

0:34:53.920 --> 0:34:55.840
<v Speaker 3>and I'm sure it has to do with social media

0:34:56.000 --> 0:34:58.160
<v Speaker 3>or sex or porn or whatever.

0:34:58.040 --> 0:34:59.640
<v Speaker 1>Right, like Blair was saying, with porn.

0:34:59.640 --> 0:35:02.920
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and just like a lower overall quality of health.

0:35:03.000 --> 0:35:06.799
<v Speaker 5>I feel like we're all like sedentary sitting inside at screens.

0:35:07.000 --> 0:35:11.680
<v Speaker 5>It's not like outside like chopping wood, developing, you know,

0:35:11.960 --> 0:35:13.520
<v Speaker 5>healthy muscle in the sun.

0:35:14.000 --> 0:35:15.280
<v Speaker 2>Well speak for yourself, Blair.

0:35:16.719 --> 0:35:19.040
<v Speaker 5>No, I saw you on I saw you in your bikini.

0:35:19.440 --> 0:35:24.040
<v Speaker 5>I was like, this is incredible. This woman is out

0:35:24.120 --> 0:35:28.240
<v Speaker 5>in the air just enjoying life. Oh my god.

0:35:28.840 --> 0:35:29.359
<v Speaker 2>That's right.

0:35:29.920 --> 0:35:34.600
<v Speaker 1>Well, our next caller is Hayden and she is twenty six.

0:35:35.600 --> 0:35:35.880
<v Speaker 2>Uh.

0:35:35.920 --> 0:35:37.480
<v Speaker 1>It's a bit of a you know, for lack of

0:35:37.480 --> 0:35:40.600
<v Speaker 1>a better term, a journey. So I'm gonna summarize. But

0:35:40.840 --> 0:35:43.160
<v Speaker 1>Hayden is twenty six. She was with her husband since

0:35:43.160 --> 0:35:47.200
<v Speaker 1>she was fourteen. She was a bit unsure about her sexuality,

0:35:47.239 --> 0:35:50.080
<v Speaker 1>and so they decided to bring other women into the bedroom.

0:35:50.480 --> 0:35:53.759
<v Speaker 1>Her husband cheated and then you know, convinced her they

0:35:53.800 --> 0:35:57.160
<v Speaker 1>could work it all out. But then an opportunity arose,

0:35:57.200 --> 0:35:59.319
<v Speaker 1>she says, with one of her closest friends, and they

0:35:59.320 --> 0:36:03.640
<v Speaker 1>did start having threesomes. Well as we can assume, the

0:36:03.960 --> 0:36:07.080
<v Speaker 1>husband and best friend wound up kind of running off together.

0:36:07.320 --> 0:36:10.040
<v Speaker 1>He moved in with her, like the night she confronted

0:36:10.120 --> 0:36:14.520
<v Speaker 1>him about sleeping with his with her best friend without her,

0:36:15.239 --> 0:36:17.600
<v Speaker 1>and so, you know, she feels like none of this

0:36:17.640 --> 0:36:20.799
<v Speaker 1>should have happened. She's angry and heartbroken. And meanwhile they're

0:36:20.840 --> 0:36:23.320
<v Speaker 1>now going on trips and doing things that were originally

0:36:23.360 --> 0:36:26.160
<v Speaker 1>planned for the two of them and just openly enjoying

0:36:26.200 --> 0:36:29.240
<v Speaker 1>their life together. So she says, how do I move forward?

0:36:29.400 --> 0:36:31.640
<v Speaker 1>How do I trust anyone ever again? I want to

0:36:31.640 --> 0:36:33.800
<v Speaker 1>be my best self and get healthy before starting to

0:36:33.880 --> 0:36:36.200
<v Speaker 1>date again. But I'm a human and I'm lonely, and

0:36:36.239 --> 0:36:39.280
<v Speaker 1>I miss the companionship so much. I liked being married,

0:36:39.320 --> 0:36:42.160
<v Speaker 1>but even just being someone's girlfriend seems so far away.

0:36:42.360 --> 0:36:44.600
<v Speaker 1>I've done a lot of hookups, but I'm not satisfied

0:36:44.600 --> 0:36:45.080
<v Speaker 1>in that realm.

0:36:45.600 --> 0:36:50.400
<v Speaker 2>Hayden, Hi, Hayden, Hi, nice to meet you, Hie Hi Hayden.

0:36:51.000 --> 0:36:51.640
<v Speaker 2>That's Blair.

0:36:52.080 --> 0:36:52.600
<v Speaker 4>Hi Blair.

0:36:53.680 --> 0:36:55.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry that that happens to you.

0:36:56.320 --> 0:36:58.920
<v Speaker 4>Thank you. It's it's been a rough ride.

0:36:59.400 --> 0:37:00.280
<v Speaker 2>When did this happen?

0:37:00.719 --> 0:37:02.960
<v Speaker 8>This happened last year at the very end of June,

0:37:03.600 --> 0:37:05.080
<v Speaker 8>is when we separated.

0:37:05.320 --> 0:37:08.520
<v Speaker 2>And they're still together. And are you divorced or what?

0:37:09.000 --> 0:37:12.120
<v Speaker 8>Yeah, we're legally divorced now and yes they are still together.

0:37:12.920 --> 0:37:15.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah that hurts a lot. Yeah, And are you in therapy?

0:37:16.160 --> 0:37:18.000
<v Speaker 4>I am, yes, thankfully.

0:37:18.760 --> 0:37:19.960
<v Speaker 2>And how is that helping you?

0:37:20.239 --> 0:37:21.279
<v Speaker 4>Therapy is helping a lot.

0:37:21.480 --> 0:37:24.400
<v Speaker 8>Just realizing there was a lot of other unhealthy things

0:37:24.520 --> 0:37:28.240
<v Speaker 8>throughout the relationship and being so young and getting together

0:37:28.560 --> 0:37:29.840
<v Speaker 8>definitely created.

0:37:29.960 --> 0:37:32.560
<v Speaker 4>A dynamic that as an adult, I don't think I want.

0:37:33.000 --> 0:37:34.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, those are all good things to recognize.

0:37:34.760 --> 0:37:36.759
<v Speaker 3>It's funny when things like this happen, you realize, like

0:37:36.800 --> 0:37:39.760
<v Speaker 3>it's not that that's not the only incident. It's always

0:37:39.800 --> 0:37:42.640
<v Speaker 3>something deeper and that there was already a lack of

0:37:42.719 --> 0:37:46.160
<v Speaker 3>connection or trust or you know, something wasn't right to

0:37:46.200 --> 0:37:50.560
<v Speaker 3>begin with. But I think it's these things that happened

0:37:50.600 --> 0:37:53.600
<v Speaker 3>to us in our lives are big tests for us

0:37:53.800 --> 0:37:55.080
<v Speaker 3>to see if we.

0:37:54.960 --> 0:37:56.680
<v Speaker 2>Can level up and we can meet the moment.

0:37:56.760 --> 0:38:00.960
<v Speaker 3>And it's always interesting to see how to people handle

0:38:01.560 --> 0:38:06.120
<v Speaker 3>these kind of emotional takedowns that we experience. And you're

0:38:06.160 --> 0:38:09.480
<v Speaker 3>in therapy, you now have some distance and time from it.

0:38:09.600 --> 0:38:11.759
<v Speaker 3>Not as much as you're gonna get and as much

0:38:11.760 --> 0:38:14.560
<v Speaker 3>as you want, I'm sure, but you have enough distance

0:38:14.600 --> 0:38:17.239
<v Speaker 3>to even recognize that the relationship wasn't what you thought

0:38:17.239 --> 0:38:20.200
<v Speaker 3>it may have been. You're divorced. Your kind of side

0:38:20.200 --> 0:38:23.000
<v Speaker 3>of the street is pretty clean. You didn't cause any

0:38:23.040 --> 0:38:26.080
<v Speaker 3>of this disruption. You kind of participated in something that

0:38:26.200 --> 0:38:28.440
<v Speaker 3>ended your marriage, and I think that you learned a

0:38:28.440 --> 0:38:30.920
<v Speaker 3>lot and that moving forward, you're going to have all

0:38:31.120 --> 0:38:33.799
<v Speaker 3>this whole new kind of toolkit, especially with all the

0:38:33.840 --> 0:38:35.960
<v Speaker 3>things you're picking up from therapy, which I'm sure are

0:38:36.040 --> 0:38:39.239
<v Speaker 3>vast right, all of the different ways to deal with

0:38:39.280 --> 0:38:41.880
<v Speaker 3>stress or the ways to deal with sadness and the aloneness,

0:38:42.360 --> 0:38:45.720
<v Speaker 3>because right now you're missing something that you really didn't

0:38:45.760 --> 0:38:48.000
<v Speaker 3>have to begin with. You know, you thought you had

0:38:48.520 --> 0:38:51.080
<v Speaker 3>and you can have with someone else now that you're

0:38:51.120 --> 0:38:54.120
<v Speaker 3>more aware and more tuned into what you need in

0:38:54.160 --> 0:38:57.160
<v Speaker 3>a relationship, Like how do you now feel about moving

0:38:57.160 --> 0:38:59.920
<v Speaker 3>forward in a relationship, opening up the relationship, and how

0:39:00.040 --> 0:39:00.880
<v Speaker 3>having threesomes?

0:39:00.920 --> 0:39:01.839
<v Speaker 2>Would you do that again?

0:39:02.320 --> 0:39:05.359
<v Speaker 4>No? Right? Never again? Right?

0:39:05.440 --> 0:39:07.360
<v Speaker 3>So you know, I mean, this is a very common

0:39:07.360 --> 0:39:10.360
<v Speaker 3>thing that happens. It's not the reason why your relationship

0:39:10.680 --> 0:39:13.200
<v Speaker 3>had its demise, but it's a very common thing that happens,

0:39:13.360 --> 0:39:15.279
<v Speaker 3>and I think you you have to like look at

0:39:15.280 --> 0:39:18.239
<v Speaker 3>this time as like, Okay, I'm like, it's almost like

0:39:18.280 --> 0:39:20.840
<v Speaker 3>an armor, but it's not a defensive armor. It's like

0:39:20.840 --> 0:39:23.520
<v Speaker 3>a protective like you're filling yourself up with all the

0:39:23.560 --> 0:39:24.840
<v Speaker 3>tools and all.

0:39:24.719 --> 0:39:26.560
<v Speaker 2>Like the energetic vibrations.

0:39:26.600 --> 0:39:28.960
<v Speaker 3>You need to move forward into your life in a

0:39:28.960 --> 0:39:33.880
<v Speaker 3>more positive, healthy, and more joyful direction. Like that's done,

0:39:33.960 --> 0:39:36.399
<v Speaker 3>and that's over, and thank god it's over, because now

0:39:36.440 --> 0:39:39.560
<v Speaker 3>you can open up to the possibilities of everything else.

0:39:39.960 --> 0:39:42.640
<v Speaker 3>And I would really encourage you to try to start

0:39:42.680 --> 0:39:45.600
<v Speaker 3>meditating in order to stay in the moment that you're

0:39:45.640 --> 0:39:48.799
<v Speaker 3>in instead of thinking about all of the stuff that

0:39:48.840 --> 0:39:51.520
<v Speaker 3>happened in the past or what's possible in the future.

0:39:51.760 --> 0:39:53.920
<v Speaker 3>Because as present as you can be is going to

0:39:53.960 --> 0:39:57.280
<v Speaker 3>be the biggest kind of therapeutic aid in moving forward.

0:39:57.520 --> 0:39:59.759
<v Speaker 3>As present as you can be, whether you're upset one

0:39:59.840 --> 0:40:01.920
<v Speaker 3>day or you're happy the next day, or you have

0:40:01.960 --> 0:40:04.200
<v Speaker 3>a bad date or you have a good date, be

0:40:04.320 --> 0:40:07.279
<v Speaker 3>present with all of those emotions, because that takes you

0:40:07.400 --> 0:40:09.880
<v Speaker 3>in to the moment you're in and then it the

0:40:09.920 --> 0:40:11.840
<v Speaker 3>past and the future kind of become irrelevant.

0:40:12.120 --> 0:40:14.040
<v Speaker 4>That's such good advice, honest. Yeah.

0:40:14.080 --> 0:40:16.359
<v Speaker 3>So I think I think download a meditation app if

0:40:16.360 --> 0:40:19.480
<v Speaker 3>you don't have one already that is really about mindfulness

0:40:19.480 --> 0:40:22.400
<v Speaker 3>and being present, because I have to. I was just

0:40:22.440 --> 0:40:25.040
<v Speaker 3>writing about this in my book, Like the most blissful

0:40:25.040 --> 0:40:27.680
<v Speaker 3>moments I've experienced in my life were because I was

0:40:27.719 --> 0:40:30.520
<v Speaker 3>paying attention to what was happening, good and bad.

0:40:30.840 --> 0:40:33.319
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, right, yeah, And I think when you have a

0:40:33.360 --> 0:40:39.200
<v Speaker 5>big betrayal like that, it's really sometimes, uh, it's it's

0:40:39.320 --> 0:40:41.400
<v Speaker 5>much more difficult not to be like they did this

0:40:41.520 --> 0:40:44.279
<v Speaker 5>to me. And then I think, like whenever I've been

0:40:44.400 --> 0:40:47.759
<v Speaker 5>really really hurt after a breakup, I go into sort

0:40:47.800 --> 0:40:50.200
<v Speaker 5>of like Avengers mode where I'm just like, Okay, how

0:40:50.200 --> 0:40:53.520
<v Speaker 5>can I make myself happy? What have I been wanting

0:40:53.560 --> 0:40:56.840
<v Speaker 5>to do that I haven't gotten to? What trip have

0:40:56.960 --> 0:41:00.200
<v Speaker 5>I been wanting to do? What goal have I been

0:41:00.280 --> 0:41:02.480
<v Speaker 5>wanting to? What have I been wanting to write? And

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<v Speaker 5>just like try and fill up that vacuum too, of

0:41:05.760 --> 0:41:09.800
<v Speaker 5>like you know, making reminding myself what makes me happy,

0:41:09.920 --> 0:41:13.480
<v Speaker 5>trying new stuff, like trying to bring newness into my

0:41:13.520 --> 0:41:17.200
<v Speaker 5>own life, Like even though you're sad, fine, find things

0:41:17.200 --> 0:41:19.560
<v Speaker 5>that can bring you joy and make and make you happy.

0:41:20.200 --> 0:41:22.920
<v Speaker 1>And having been with your husband since you.

0:41:22.920 --> 0:41:26.959
<v Speaker 4>Were what fourteen fourteen, Yeah, you grew up.

0:41:26.840 --> 0:41:28.600
<v Speaker 1>In this way where you were like figuring out who

0:41:28.640 --> 0:41:30.680
<v Speaker 1>you were with him, you know, it was always in

0:41:30.719 --> 0:41:33.360
<v Speaker 1>the context of this other person. Now you get to

0:41:33.360 --> 0:41:35.800
<v Speaker 1>figure out what you like, what does bring you joy

0:41:35.960 --> 0:41:39.160
<v Speaker 1>without another person, Like what's just like your straight up

0:41:39.239 --> 0:41:42.000
<v Speaker 1>like this is kind of fun, you know, discovering that

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<v Speaker 1>on a day to day basis. I think it's going

0:41:43.480 --> 0:41:46.280
<v Speaker 1>to be really a revelation if you pay attention, as

0:41:46.360 --> 0:41:47.359
<v Speaker 1>Blair and Chelsea were.

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<v Speaker 8>Saying, yeah, definitely. I mean it's been hard, but I

0:41:50.360 --> 0:41:52.360
<v Speaker 8>have learned a lot and I do think in a

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<v Speaker 8>lot of realms.

0:41:53.000 --> 0:41:54.240
<v Speaker 4>I'm happier on.

0:41:54.120 --> 0:41:56.479
<v Speaker 8>This side than I was looking back.

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<v Speaker 2>But and you're only going to get happier.

0:42:00.160 --> 0:42:02.520
<v Speaker 3>You're getting happy and now you're going to get happier

0:42:03.000 --> 0:42:04.480
<v Speaker 3>and enjoy this singletom.

0:42:04.520 --> 0:42:05.840
<v Speaker 2>You're not going to be single forever.

0:42:06.000 --> 0:42:09.279
<v Speaker 3>It's rare that anybody is so enjoy this time getting

0:42:09.320 --> 0:42:12.000
<v Speaker 3>to know yourself and invest in yourself with everything that

0:42:12.040 --> 0:42:15.560
<v Speaker 3>Blair said, you know, books and exercise and finding out

0:42:15.560 --> 0:42:19.000
<v Speaker 3>what interests you and you know, whatever that is, art,

0:42:19.440 --> 0:42:23.560
<v Speaker 3>culture or fucking women's volleyball, whatever you're into, just get

0:42:23.560 --> 0:42:25.520
<v Speaker 3>into it, you know what I mean, and pour yourself

0:42:25.520 --> 0:42:27.440
<v Speaker 3>into that because you're going to get so much back

0:42:27.840 --> 0:42:30.560
<v Speaker 3>from actually like finding out who you are now that

0:42:30.600 --> 0:42:33.520
<v Speaker 3>you don't have this person that is like making up

0:42:33.520 --> 0:42:35.440
<v Speaker 3>half of your personality so to speak.

0:42:36.000 --> 0:42:39.239
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, you're still so young, like you can fully reinvent

0:42:39.320 --> 0:42:41.520
<v Speaker 5>yourself if you feel like it. You know, you can

0:42:41.560 --> 0:42:43.480
<v Speaker 5>make it like whatever you want it to be.

0:42:44.040 --> 0:42:45.439
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's very true.

0:42:45.440 --> 0:42:47.400
<v Speaker 8>I'm just trying to figure out what that looks like,

0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:48.759
<v Speaker 8>what exactly I want.

0:42:48.800 --> 0:42:50.719
<v Speaker 4>But I just have to give it time.

0:42:50.920 --> 0:42:53.080
<v Speaker 3>Give it time, give it space, and be very gentle

0:42:53.120 --> 0:42:56.000
<v Speaker 3>with yourself. But if like you know, start this meditation

0:42:56.120 --> 0:42:59.080
<v Speaker 3>practice and just do this every morning just to ground

0:42:59.080 --> 0:43:01.520
<v Speaker 3>yourself for the day, be like, okay, today's another day

0:43:01.640 --> 0:43:03.520
<v Speaker 3>where I'm going to find out something new about myself.

0:43:03.560 --> 0:43:06.000
<v Speaker 3>Like set that kind of intention for yourself. And if

0:43:06.000 --> 0:43:08.759
<v Speaker 3>you practice, you know, like I promise you, after two weeks,

0:43:08.760 --> 0:43:10.040
<v Speaker 3>you're going to start to feel differently.

0:43:10.080 --> 0:43:11.279
<v Speaker 2>There's going to be a shift in you.

0:43:11.640 --> 0:43:13.880
<v Speaker 3>It's impossible not to feel it when you really dedicate

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<v Speaker 3>yourself to something.

0:43:14.920 --> 0:43:16.200
<v Speaker 2>And I think that's just what you need.

0:43:17.000 --> 0:43:19.360
<v Speaker 4>Okay, after this, I will download one for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I love it. Keep us posted, Okay.

0:43:22.120 --> 0:43:24.080
<v Speaker 4>I will thank you guys so much.

0:43:24.320 --> 0:43:26.440
<v Speaker 2>Bye, Hayden, thanks for calling in.

0:43:26.760 --> 0:43:27.200
<v Speaker 4>Bye guys.

0:43:27.920 --> 0:43:30.120
<v Speaker 5>My brother's name is Hayden, and I really had a

0:43:30.160 --> 0:43:32.120
<v Speaker 5>heart attack for a second.

0:43:34.960 --> 0:43:37.680
<v Speaker 2>We're doing an intervention. He's going to confront you about

0:43:37.680 --> 0:43:40.399
<v Speaker 2>your iowascad use. He thinks you've done it too many times. Yeah,

0:43:40.920 --> 0:43:45.879
<v Speaker 2>I was like, Wow, I know. Wait till you wait

0:43:45.920 --> 0:43:48.440
<v Speaker 2>till your parents hear this. They're calling in next.

0:43:51.400 --> 0:43:54.880
<v Speaker 1>Well, our next color is Jane and Blair. Are you

0:43:54.960 --> 0:43:58.000
<v Speaker 1>somebody who smokes weed at all? Since we just want

0:43:58.040 --> 0:43:59.080
<v Speaker 1>to tell your parents everything.

0:43:59.360 --> 0:44:01.480
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well I'm a gummy girl. Sometimes.

0:44:01.520 --> 0:44:03.600
<v Speaker 3>Where have you ever done anal? I think that's also

0:44:03.640 --> 0:44:05.480
<v Speaker 3>something we want to make sure your parents know about.

0:44:06.960 --> 0:44:11.120
<v Speaker 5>Yes, I haven't. I don't think I'm gonna get there.

0:44:11.120 --> 0:44:16.000
<v Speaker 1>But you don't think you'd like that, Jane says, Dear Chelsea.

0:44:16.480 --> 0:44:19.480
<v Speaker 1>My sister in law is the worst. My brother and

0:44:19.600 --> 0:44:22.200
<v Speaker 1>this nightmare have been married for seven years now and

0:44:22.200 --> 0:44:25.920
<v Speaker 1>they have three beautiful children whom I adore. My mom, sister,

0:44:26.160 --> 0:44:28.680
<v Speaker 1>brother and I have always been very close. My sister

0:44:28.680 --> 0:44:30.920
<v Speaker 1>in law seems to resent this aspect of our family,

0:44:30.960 --> 0:44:33.560
<v Speaker 1>as she grew up in a very different situation, leaving

0:44:33.600 --> 0:44:37.280
<v Speaker 1>her with some serious attachment issues. She's very, very attached

0:44:37.280 --> 0:44:39.520
<v Speaker 1>to my brother. Although, to be fair, my brother is

0:44:39.520 --> 0:44:42.000
<v Speaker 1>a fucking catch. He had his years of overdoing it

0:44:42.040 --> 0:44:44.240
<v Speaker 1>when he was drinking and a bit of a temper,

0:44:44.280 --> 0:44:46.399
<v Speaker 1>but he's a really great guy that any girl would

0:44:46.400 --> 0:44:49.200
<v Speaker 1>be lucky to have. In the last year or two,

0:44:49.280 --> 0:44:51.640
<v Speaker 1>my brother has stopped drinking, which has been great for

0:44:51.719 --> 0:44:55.000
<v Speaker 1>him and for their relationship. He has, however, started up

0:44:55.000 --> 0:44:58.239
<v Speaker 1>a new habit of using marijuana. I'm the youngest in

0:44:58.280 --> 0:45:00.600
<v Speaker 1>my family and have always been a big of the

0:45:00.640 --> 0:45:03.840
<v Speaker 1>weed and was looked down upon because of it. He

0:45:03.840 --> 0:45:06.439
<v Speaker 1>says he's much calmer and present with his family three

0:45:06.480 --> 0:45:09.480
<v Speaker 1>little kids, and doesn't fly off the handle when he's frustrated.

0:45:10.000 --> 0:45:12.200
<v Speaker 1>He and his coworker will enjoy an end of day

0:45:12.280 --> 0:45:14.719
<v Speaker 1>joint on the way home to unwind and relax before

0:45:14.760 --> 0:45:17.720
<v Speaker 1>they both have to go home to kids and questions, responsibilities,

0:45:17.760 --> 0:45:20.920
<v Speaker 1>and all the things. His outwardly liberal wife is now

0:45:20.960 --> 0:45:25.319
<v Speaker 1>giving him an ultimatum, family or the weed. My brother

0:45:25.360 --> 0:45:27.760
<v Speaker 1>has obviously said he would pick his family every time,

0:45:27.880 --> 0:45:30.920
<v Speaker 1>but how can we help educate her on marijuana's benefits.

0:45:31.080 --> 0:45:33.600
<v Speaker 1>He's not coming home hammered, drunk and pissed off. He's

0:45:33.600 --> 0:45:36.600
<v Speaker 1>floating on a cloud of happiness. Please help. I'd love

0:45:36.600 --> 0:45:38.160
<v Speaker 1>for them to call it quits, but for the sake

0:45:38.160 --> 0:45:39.840
<v Speaker 1>of their family, I'd like for her to get some

0:45:39.960 --> 0:45:42.719
<v Speaker 1>education and open her mind to the ways it's benefiting

0:45:42.760 --> 0:45:43.640
<v Speaker 1>their relationship.

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<v Speaker 5>Hi.

0:45:44.680 --> 0:45:46.440
<v Speaker 4>How are you. I'm good? How are you?

0:45:47.120 --> 0:45:49.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm good? Thank you. This is Blair, our special guest today.

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<v Speaker 5>Hello.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she does need to get educated on marijuana. What's

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<v Speaker 3>the best education for marijuana, Catherine.

0:45:57.080 --> 0:45:59.440
<v Speaker 1>I mean, there are a lot of documentaries on This

0:45:59.840 --> 0:46:04.080
<v Speaker 1>is Clearing the Smoke on YouTube, The Cannabis Question, and

0:46:04.120 --> 0:46:07.839
<v Speaker 1>The Grass is Greener on Netflix, Weed the People, which

0:46:07.840 --> 0:46:10.600
<v Speaker 1>I think is also on YouTube, and the CBC, which

0:46:10.680 --> 0:46:13.120
<v Speaker 1>is great. Of course, they have a series called The

0:46:13.239 --> 0:46:15.680
<v Speaker 1>Nature of Things, and they have an awesome episode called

0:46:15.880 --> 0:46:19.640
<v Speaker 1>Science and Cannabis. You know, I would encourage her to

0:46:19.760 --> 0:46:21.239
<v Speaker 1>kind of take a look at some of these things

0:46:21.280 --> 0:46:22.759
<v Speaker 1>and reach her own conclusions.

0:46:23.040 --> 0:46:24.680
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's kind of everywhere.

0:46:24.719 --> 0:46:27.279
<v Speaker 1>It is kind of everywhere. I would even say, How

0:46:27.280 --> 0:46:29.359
<v Speaker 1>to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan is a great

0:46:29.400 --> 0:46:32.920
<v Speaker 1>Buck it's more about psychedelics, but he does address weed

0:46:33.000 --> 0:46:35.600
<v Speaker 1>and how it affects your brain specifically. That would be

0:46:35.640 --> 0:46:36.440
<v Speaker 1>a good resource.

0:46:36.920 --> 0:46:40.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she needs like some sort of wake up call,

0:46:40.640 --> 0:46:41.880
<v Speaker 3>like her husband quit drinking.

0:46:41.920 --> 0:46:43.640
<v Speaker 2>To smoke weed is so much better.

0:46:44.120 --> 0:46:46.359
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's better for you in every way.

0:46:46.560 --> 0:46:49.200
<v Speaker 2>What's her problem? Get backs?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, that's the biggest thing with her, Like she just

0:46:53.200 --> 0:46:56.279
<v Speaker 7>needs to relax. So she's so uptight and she's so

0:46:56.560 --> 0:47:00.560
<v Speaker 7>like worried about what other people think. And we are

0:47:00.600 --> 0:47:03.839
<v Speaker 7>from a pretty small town, so it's like you don't

0:47:03.840 --> 0:47:06.680
<v Speaker 7>know what anyone else's lives are, like their husbands, your

0:47:06.719 --> 0:47:09.640
<v Speaker 7>friend's husbands that you see on social media having these

0:47:09.680 --> 0:47:14.880
<v Speaker 7>great lives and whatever, Like your husband's not doing anything terrible,

0:47:15.920 --> 0:47:17.360
<v Speaker 7>and she just needs to relax.

0:47:17.719 --> 0:47:21.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean refer to Woody Harrelson and Matthew McConaughey,

0:47:21.040 --> 0:47:24.560
<v Speaker 3>Like do they seem like threatening people? They're both stoners, right,

0:47:25.120 --> 0:47:28.000
<v Speaker 3>I mean start with that, and I mean everyone smokes

0:47:28.000 --> 0:47:30.080
<v Speaker 3>weed now, it's just so lame to have to even

0:47:30.160 --> 0:47:32.680
<v Speaker 3>educate somebody about the benefits of marijuana.

0:47:33.000 --> 0:47:35.280
<v Speaker 2>Whatever. I mean, is she happy that he quit quit drinking?

0:47:35.840 --> 0:47:38.839
<v Speaker 7>Oh yeah, yep, because I think that was one thing

0:47:38.880 --> 0:47:43.040
<v Speaker 7>that she also did, the whole ultimatum thing like quit

0:47:43.120 --> 0:47:45.600
<v Speaker 7>this or me and the kids are gone. And it's

0:47:45.640 --> 0:47:49.759
<v Speaker 7>like that's just not the way to have a relationship.

0:47:49.840 --> 0:47:53.600
<v Speaker 7>That's not healthy to constantly be like do this or

0:47:53.640 --> 0:47:55.480
<v Speaker 7>I'm gone, or like they just need to go to

0:47:55.560 --> 0:47:56.720
<v Speaker 7>like therapy.

0:47:56.640 --> 0:47:58.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah they do. They do need to go to therapy.

0:47:58.560 --> 0:47:59.520
<v Speaker 2>Do they go to therapy?

0:48:00.160 --> 0:48:00.319
<v Speaker 4>No?

0:48:00.640 --> 0:48:04.279
<v Speaker 7>She well used to and they just really need you.

0:48:05.200 --> 0:48:07.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they should go to a couples counseling to discuss it,

0:48:07.120 --> 0:48:09.640
<v Speaker 3>because it's not like he's smoking five joints tonight, right.

0:48:09.960 --> 0:48:12.200
<v Speaker 7>Right, yeah, And he's even cut down since I wrote

0:48:12.200 --> 0:48:15.520
<v Speaker 7>it in. But she's so rigid in everything.

0:48:15.719 --> 0:48:17.359
<v Speaker 1>Sounds like she needs to smoke a little weed.

0:48:17.600 --> 0:48:20.640
<v Speaker 6>Actually, yes, yeah.

0:48:20.719 --> 0:48:24.400
<v Speaker 1>I do wonder if there is is maybe something that

0:48:24.440 --> 0:48:27.080
<v Speaker 1>she changes her mind about over time. It may not be,

0:48:27.120 --> 0:48:29.279
<v Speaker 1>but I wonder if it's something that you can kind

0:48:29.280 --> 0:48:32.760
<v Speaker 1>of drop into conversations about, like some of the benefits.

0:48:32.800 --> 0:48:35.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean, people use this as medicine. It is something

0:48:35.640 --> 0:48:38.799
<v Speaker 1>that reduces anxiety for a lot of people. And I

0:48:38.840 --> 0:48:41.680
<v Speaker 1>wonder maybe if it's about educating yourself on some of

0:48:41.719 --> 0:48:45.080
<v Speaker 1>like the specific studies that have been done and that

0:48:45.160 --> 0:48:47.120
<v Speaker 1>you can kind of drop into conversation here and there

0:48:47.160 --> 0:48:49.000
<v Speaker 1>about like, oh, here are some of the benefits.

0:48:49.560 --> 0:48:53.239
<v Speaker 7>Yeah, my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer a few

0:48:53.280 --> 0:48:57.400
<v Speaker 7>years ago and she's gone through chemone radiation and used

0:48:57.560 --> 0:49:01.520
<v Speaker 7>medical marijuana. She used are A soul oil for a while.

0:49:01.920 --> 0:49:05.920
<v Speaker 7>And so it's like, how is this judgment coming to

0:49:05.960 --> 0:49:06.400
<v Speaker 7>my brother?

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<v Speaker 2>Can you have a conversation with her?

0:49:08.320 --> 0:49:08.520
<v Speaker 4>Or no?

0:49:08.800 --> 0:49:10.160
<v Speaker 2>Does that not go well?

0:49:10.920 --> 0:49:13.439
<v Speaker 7>I'm not usually the one that brings it up. It's

0:49:13.440 --> 0:49:16.920
<v Speaker 7>my older sister she will bring it up. And I

0:49:16.920 --> 0:49:19.960
<v Speaker 7>guess we've been avoidant of that because they have kind

0:49:19.960 --> 0:49:22.000
<v Speaker 7>of butted heads this entire time.

0:49:23.000 --> 0:49:26.920
<v Speaker 5>Yeah. I have older brothers and you know, they're married

0:49:27.000 --> 0:49:31.719
<v Speaker 5>and everything, and what I've learned is that it never

0:49:31.880 --> 0:49:35.799
<v Speaker 5>goes well. Like the more you stay out of their relationship, like,

0:49:35.880 --> 0:49:38.640
<v Speaker 5>the better it is, because if anyone feels ganged up on,

0:49:39.400 --> 0:49:42.200
<v Speaker 5>you know, if she's feeling ganged up on, because you know,

0:49:42.239 --> 0:49:46.160
<v Speaker 5>you can feel those things sometimes. So I don't know

0:49:46.200 --> 0:49:49.359
<v Speaker 5>if that's helpful, but maybe maybe you're just like se

0:49:49.440 --> 0:49:52.960
<v Speaker 5>La Vie, you know, like they'll work it out.

0:49:53.719 --> 0:49:53.959
<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

0:49:54.040 --> 0:49:56.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, it doesn't sound like you have the relationship

0:49:56.600 --> 0:49:57.839
<v Speaker 2>to have the conversation with her.

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<v Speaker 5>Excuse me, I would love to educate you want the

0:50:01.920 --> 0:50:06.640
<v Speaker 5>incredible benefits about marijuana, so you can let my brother

0:50:06.880 --> 0:50:08.680
<v Speaker 5>just puff that jay on his way home.

0:50:09.040 --> 0:50:11.560
<v Speaker 1>Is there anything specific that she objects to or does

0:50:11.600 --> 0:50:13.600
<v Speaker 1>she She just doesn't like the whole idea.

0:50:14.480 --> 0:50:17.000
<v Speaker 7>That's what makes it even weirder. It's like this kind

0:50:17.000 --> 0:50:19.640
<v Speaker 7>of just popped up when he started. Seems like a

0:50:19.640 --> 0:50:23.840
<v Speaker 7>control thing, and she's never outwardly said anything that she

0:50:23.960 --> 0:50:26.319
<v Speaker 7>disagrees about it with It's just like the minute he

0:50:26.400 --> 0:50:27.240
<v Speaker 7>did it, it's wrong.

0:50:27.680 --> 0:50:29.840
<v Speaker 5>How about next time she comes over, you just have

0:50:30.040 --> 0:50:31.960
<v Speaker 5>like platters full of joints everywhere.

0:50:33.120 --> 0:50:35.400
<v Speaker 7>I like that idea.

0:50:36.640 --> 0:50:38.760
<v Speaker 1>Awesome. Well, thank you for calling in, Jane.

0:50:39.520 --> 0:50:39.960
<v Speaker 4>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, take care, good luck, Jane.

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<v Speaker 3>We'll see Okay, we're gonna take a break and we'll

0:50:45.080 --> 0:50:52.000
<v Speaker 3>be right back and we're back wrapping it up with

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<v Speaker 3>Blair Saki Clair, thank you for coming on today. It

0:50:55.800 --> 0:50:57.239
<v Speaker 3>was such a pleasure to meet you. I hope I

0:50:57.239 --> 0:50:58.400
<v Speaker 3>see you again in person.

0:50:58.680 --> 0:51:01.440
<v Speaker 5>Oh my gosh, this is it's just a thrill. I'm

0:51:01.480 --> 0:51:03.480
<v Speaker 5>so happy I got to hang out with you.

0:51:04.000 --> 0:51:06.520
<v Speaker 2>I love me too. I love you too, honey. Thank

0:51:06.560 --> 0:51:11.240
<v Speaker 2>you so much. Thank you, okay, thank you okay, guys,

0:51:11.640 --> 0:51:13.200
<v Speaker 2>so for stand up.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm coming to Maricopa, Arizona April twelfth, and then Brooks,

0:51:17.160 --> 0:51:21.080
<v Speaker 3>California is April thirteenth. And we added a second show

0:51:21.120 --> 0:51:25.480
<v Speaker 3>in Sydney. And we added a second show in Prior Lake, Minnesota,

0:51:25.520 --> 0:51:28.359
<v Speaker 3>which is now going to be May twenty fourth. We

0:51:28.440 --> 0:51:31.799
<v Speaker 3>added the Santa Barbara Bowl, which is so fun. I

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<v Speaker 3>performed there last year. That's August seventeenth, the Santa Barbara Bowl.

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<v Speaker 3>We added a second show at Santa Rosa on August second,

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<v Speaker 3>and we added two dates at Hawaii. Guys, I'm coming

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<v Speaker 3>to Hawaii on July nineteenth to.

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<v Speaker 2>CA Who Louis. I'm going to be at CA Who Louis.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I'm coming on July twenty at to Honolulu.

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<v Speaker 3>And oh I just added another date on August first Auburn, Washington. So,

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<v Speaker 3>and all my Australia and New Zealand dates are up,

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<v Speaker 3>and I will be announcing a European tour shortly, so.

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<v Speaker 2>I will be coming there. And I'm coming to Oklahoma.

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<v Speaker 2>I have two dates in Oklahoma.

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<v Speaker 3>May third, which is my mother's birthday, Norman, Oklahoma, and

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<v Speaker 3>May fourth, I'll.

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<v Speaker 2>Be in Thackerville, Oklahoma, So Oklahomians, Oklahomaans, Oklaham's come bye.

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