Speaker 1: Hello, what's up? Happy New Year? Thank you again for
Speaker 1: tuning in to the Therapy Gecko podcast. This is a
Speaker 1: special edition of gek Mail. So gek Mail is a
Speaker 1: version of this show that I do where I don't
Speaker 1: take phone calls. I just read viewer emails. But last
Speaker 1: night I came up with a with a crazy idea.
Speaker 1: Came up with a crazy idea.
Speaker 2: What if?
Speaker 1: What if I somehow combined the two topics to create
Speaker 1: gek Mail two point zero, wherein I would read emails
Speaker 1: and then whenever I feel like it, take a phone
Speaker 1: call and get one of the get a caller's perspective.
Speaker 2: On the email.
Speaker 1: It's a genius idea. I'm excited to try it out today.
Speaker 1: And so if you're watching this live on Twitch as
Speaker 1: I'm recording it, please, you know, feel free to call
Speaker 1: in between emails and I may very well take your call.
Speaker 1: I hope everyone is having a good New Year. Before
Speaker 1: we get into the emails, I want to talk about
Speaker 1: something exciting going on in my life.
Speaker 2: This is cool.
Speaker 1: So tomorrow at nine am, I am going to Japan.
Speaker 1: I'm going to Japan and I'm gonna do a really
Speaker 1: interesting thing there. I don't know if you all recall
Speaker 1: an episode of this podcast I put out. I don't
Speaker 1: even know how long ago it was, maybe it was
Speaker 1: a few weeks or months or whatever, and it's called
Speaker 1: I Walked Across Japan, and in it I told the
Speaker 1: story of how so last time I was in Japan.
Speaker 2: It's about two years ago.
Speaker 1: I was in I was like IRL streaming, so I
Speaker 1: had this irl stream backpack and I was walking around
Speaker 1: as the Gecko, live streaming and talking to people, and
Speaker 1: somebody in my twitch chat was like, hey, man, I
Speaker 1: actually live in Japan and I know where you are.
Speaker 1: Stay right there. I'm gonna stream snipe you. I'll come
Speaker 1: say what's up. And everyone in my chat was like, nah, nah,
Speaker 1: that's that's not true. This guy's just fucking with you. You're
Speaker 1: waiting around for nothing. And I was like, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: this guy's gonna show up. I'm gonna just wait here
Speaker 1: for like ten minutes. And then this guy form my
Speaker 1: twitch chat is gonna show up. And I waited about
Speaker 1: ten minutes and everyone in the everyone in the chat
Speaker 1: is like, wow, you're being trolled. Okay, this guy's not
Speaker 1: gonna show up. A guy shows up. He's sense a
Speaker 1: Martian in the chat, guy shows up. I'm like, are
Speaker 1: you sense A Martian. He's like, yes, I am, and
Speaker 1: uh me and this guy that I just met from
Speaker 1: my twitch chat. We walked around and talked and hung
Speaker 1: out for a couple hours and it was great and
Speaker 1: he kind of showed me around Tokyo a little bit.
Speaker 1: And then after the stream ended, we we kind of
Speaker 1: started chatting a little bit about like content creation and
Speaker 1: life and stuff, and then about like three I don't
Speaker 1: I don't know. Hevery many months ago, I get a
Speaker 1: call from sense Martian on the podcast. You can listen
Speaker 1: to this phone call. The episode is called I Walked
Speaker 1: across all of Japan.
Speaker 2: I think.
Speaker 1: So if you go to Spotify and you just search
Speaker 1: under therapy, get call I walked across all of Japan.
Speaker 2: You can listen to this.
Speaker 1: And I get a call from him and he tells me, hey, man,
Speaker 1: our conversation. I felt really good about it, and it
Speaker 1: inspired me to walk all across Japan over six months
Speaker 1: and record it. And now I am going to go
Speaker 1: to Japan and I'm gonna meet up with sense Martian
Speaker 1: and We're gonna go on a long ass walk.
Speaker 2: I don't know, we don't know where yet.
Speaker 1: He's putting together a few ideas for roots and stuff,
Speaker 1: and it's I'm probably I don't think I'm gonna walk
Speaker 1: across all of Japan, but I want to go on
Speaker 1: a real walk. I've been talking a bunch of shit
Speaker 1: about uh getting into fitness and and how this is.
Speaker 1: You know, I really really want to pay more attention
Speaker 1: to my health than not be a piece of shit
Speaker 1: this year.
Speaker 2: So I told him.
Speaker 1: I was like, I want to go on like a
Speaker 1: seventy mile walk something crazy like that. And he's like,
Speaker 1: I got you. So I'm gonna meet up with this
Speaker 1: with with with sense Martian once again after two years,
Speaker 1: and we're gonna we're gonna walk some crazy walk. We
Speaker 1: don't know what yet, but uh, I think we're gonna
Speaker 1: stream a little bit of it. So UH, if you
Speaker 1: don't follow me on twitch already, you can follow me
Speaker 1: on twitch at twitch dot tv, slash lyle forever and
Speaker 1: uh in the coming weeks you may see uh me
Speaker 1: go live with sense Martin walking across some part of
Speaker 1: rural Japan. So I'm excited for that. That's what I'm
Speaker 1: doing tomorrow. But what what I am doing today is
Speaker 1: taking is reading emails, not taking calls, was reading emails.
Speaker 1: So I am going to start reading some emails a right.
Speaker 1: Let's see here. Okay, let's start with Facebook wants me sad. Okay,
Speaker 1: this is from Brackley. Subject line Facebook wants me sad.
Speaker 3: Hi.
Speaker 1: My name is Raffle Raphael. I'm gonna say Raphael. Love
Speaker 1: the gak mail thingy and the show blah blah. Let's
Speaker 1: get to the story. I had a really and I
Speaker 1: mean really good friend during high school. I considered her
Speaker 1: my soulmate and it was like that for all three years.
Speaker 1: After the graduation ceremony, when everybody was congratulating each other
Speaker 1: and saying goodbye, she was crying because, quote, it is
Speaker 1: the last time we would see each other, she said.
Speaker 1: I didn't think much of it. I thought our friendship
Speaker 1: was stronger than that, but I hate that she was right.
Speaker 1: There were a few meetups, and the daily chats became infrequent.
Speaker 1: Five years later, Facebook sent me a notification of unread
Speaker 1: messages with her profile picture. I was so happy to
Speaker 1: think that maybe she reached out, but it was just
Speaker 1: a glitch and I had no new messages since then.
Speaker 1: Every time I opened the FB messenger app, she appears
Speaker 1: in my hot bar for a split second and then
Speaker 1: is replaced by someone that should be there. Her name
Speaker 1: is Carolina, and if she is listening, tell her I
Speaker 1: say hi. Because of Facebook, I miss her every day, Brett.
Speaker 1: But okay, hold on, I hate this fucking what do
Speaker 1: you mean?
Speaker 4: Tell her?
Speaker 1: I said, what do you mean? If she is listening,
Speaker 1: tell her how you say hi? You fucking have her
Speaker 1: on Facebook? Tell her you say hi? Tell her you
Speaker 1: say hi yourself, my friend? Good God?
Speaker 2: What are you doing? What do you mean?
Speaker 1: Tell her you what do you mean? If she this
Speaker 1: is I gotta tell you, Raphael. If this is your
Speaker 1: attempt to reach out to this girl, it is the
Speaker 1: worst one you could have picked.
Speaker 2: Why don't you just message her? Here's the thing.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something I feel for you. You
Speaker 1: you think that.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 1: You got faked out, that maybe this girl reached out
Speaker 1: to you and that hurt. But why the fund dude,
Speaker 1: if you want to talk. I don't understand the conflict
Speaker 1: in here, because if you want to talk to her,
Speaker 1: why don't you just reach out? I don't understand this
Speaker 1: will why? Why?
Speaker 2: Okay? Hold on?
Speaker 1: Then it says, PS, I am the truck driver from Poland.
Speaker 1: You met at the Manchester show. It was awesome. Oh
Speaker 1: thanks man? Yeah, dude, why don't you why I'm so confused.
Speaker 1: Why don't you just reach out to her and and
Speaker 1: uh say hi? This is the worst way to communicate
Speaker 1: with this person. Her name is Carolina. You clearly like
Speaker 1: this girl. Why don't you just why don't you just
Speaker 1: message her on Facebook? That's what Facebook is for, It's
Speaker 1: for messaging people. This felt I felt a little cold
Speaker 1: in my response to this email, but also I just
Speaker 1: I'm like, if you miss her, why don't you just
Speaker 1: be like, hey, what's up? It's been five years. Facebook
Speaker 1: told me a movie. You reached out, but I don't
Speaker 1: even say that. Just be like, hey, how are you doing.
Speaker 1: It's not like she blocked you. All right, let's keep going.
Speaker 1: This is from Elias subject line I want to buy
Speaker 1: a bird. Hey, gek, I've been wanting to buy a bird,
Speaker 1: something like a little budgy. My girlfriend seems open to
Speaker 1: the idea, but not completely on board.
Speaker 2: I had a bird before, a cute little blue budgie.
Speaker 1: Hold on, before I go for any further, I'm going
Speaker 1: to google what a budge is because I don't Oh, Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: these are cute.
Speaker 2: I like these.
Speaker 1: Unfortunately it died from overeating culture salt that was left
Speaker 1: on the countertop. I don't have anything more deep or
Speaker 1: philosophical to talk about, but I would like to convince
Speaker 1: my girlfriend to get this bird. So that's about it.
Speaker 1: I'm curious why your girlfriend doesn't want the bird. Is
Speaker 1: it because you kind of killed one of the birds already?
Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like in life, you get
Speaker 1: I don't know. This is an interesting conundrum. How many
Speaker 1: passes do you get to kill a bird? I think
Speaker 1: if you have a pet bird and you kill it,
Speaker 1: maybe you get to try one more time. If you
Speaker 1: have a pet bird and it dies because you left
Speaker 1: salts out, maybe you get another bird. I'm not a
Speaker 1: big fan of pet birds. I think it's kind of sad, right, Like, like,
Speaker 1: if you're like a domesticated like if you're a dog, right,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have your best life in domestication, hands down,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have your best life in domestication because you know,
Speaker 1: you get food and you get walked and all this stuff.
Speaker 1: But a bird, I feel like you have your best
Speaker 1: life in the wild because you can like fly and
Speaker 1: do shit.
Speaker 2: You know, somebody the.
Speaker 1: Chest said birds are super easy to kill unfortunately salt
Speaker 1: ceiling fans, etc.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, man, I would say.
Speaker 1: I would say, I'm I would love to talk to
Speaker 1: your girlfriend about why she thinks you shouldn't get a bird.
Speaker 2: Why don't you get like a hamster something?
Speaker 1: Why don't you I think you should say, I think
Speaker 1: you'd kind of botched it with the bird the first
Speaker 1: time around.
Speaker 2: Why don't you try something else?
Speaker 1: Why don't you get like a chinchilla, or like a
Speaker 1: lizard or something like that, something like a like some
Speaker 1: I want you should get an animal that you know
Speaker 1: it's better off with you than wherever the fuck else
Speaker 1: it would be. And I would say, no bird. Maybe
Speaker 1: not no bird, but I feel like whatever bird that
Speaker 1: you would have in captivity is worse off than if
Speaker 1: it was just in the wild. But I wouldn't say
Speaker 1: that about a gecko or like if you want to
Speaker 1: get a frog, something like that, something like that. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, I'm feeling good about this gek mail today.
Speaker 1: I'm feeling good about this gak mail today.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: This is from Victor, subject line one of your callers
Speaker 1: changed my life, yo, GHEK fun story for you. I
Speaker 1: met a girl on Facebook dating in June.
Speaker 2: I quit my.
Speaker 1: Job just to see her for five days, and they
Speaker 1: were the greatest days of my life.
Speaker 2: At that point.
Speaker 1: I wanted to move to where she lived, and I
Speaker 1: was pretty hell bent on doing it. I took a
Speaker 1: shitty job at Olive Garden, and I put myself through
Speaker 1: a lot of physical and mental trauma for a month
Speaker 1: until my body couldn't take it anymore. She wasn't very
Speaker 1: supportive of me losing that job, telling me she told
Speaker 1: me so and all that, and then proceeded to cheat
Speaker 1: on me with two dudes in one night. I forgave
Speaker 1: her and still visited her for her birthday, on which
Speaker 1: she got insanely drunk and tried hurting her herself, which
Speaker 1: I was lucky enough to stop. She actually called into
Speaker 1: the show while I was there. Iight o K if
Speaker 1: you remember the girl who cleans toilets for Cohler, but
Speaker 1: that's her. She's a pretty cool gal. I think I
Speaker 1: kind of remember her. I loved her to death, but
Speaker 1: she broke up with me a week or so after
Speaker 1: her birthday and told me she didn't want the relationship.
Speaker 1: After July with that, I did a lot of soul
Speaker 1: searching and realized I wasn't the person I thought I was.
Speaker 1: So I'm starting my transition to be a woman. If
Speaker 1: this gets red on air and she hears it, I
Speaker 1: forgive her for everything because it took me losing her
Speaker 1: to find myself. Sometimes that's what it takes, and I
Speaker 1: wouldn't change a thing about my past. Thanks for letting
Speaker 1: me share this. GEK much love, Vivian. Well, interesting, huh interesting? Interesting?
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I wonder.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's cool.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: I think that's cool. I like this story because this
Speaker 1: is a story of, like, you know, something bad happens
Speaker 1: to you and it helps you kind of figure out
Speaker 1: who you actually are, right, Like, that's I think when
Speaker 1: bad I think, I think when bad things happen to you,
Speaker 1: it's actually uh good sometimes because it helps you figure
Speaker 1: out that maybe you're a woman, or maybe you uh
Speaker 1: something else about you? You know, are you still friends
Speaker 1: with this lady? It seems it took me losing her
Speaker 1: to find myself.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: I like that. Yeah, all garden sucks. I don't have
Speaker 1: any more commentary on this. I'm gonna read another email. Hello, sir, okay, okay.
Speaker 1: Subject This is from cl Frost. Subject line father issue. Hello, sir, ma'am,
Speaker 1: my name is Max parentheses, don't say my name. I
Speaker 1: am just kidding. I don't care.
Speaker 2: I just said that to piss you off. Okay.
Speaker 1: I am having some troubles with my dad as of recently.
Speaker 1: I am currently a second year at a university and
Speaker 1: studying mechanical engineering.
Speaker 5: Uh.
Speaker 2: My dad had asked.
Speaker 1: Me for my grades, and mind you, I was taking
Speaker 1: some really hard classes. I'm taking calculus, physics, and a
Speaker 1: history class that I don't really care about. All of
Speaker 1: my classes I have a's except for Calc. Anyway, he
Speaker 1: asked for my grades and I showed him my grades
Speaker 1: and immediately went for the C.
Speaker 2: And he asked me why I have a C.
Speaker 1: And I told him it is the class that I'm
Speaker 1: struggling with and told him what I was gonna do
Speaker 1: to bring it up.
Speaker 2: What I didn't like is that he completely.
Speaker 1: Dismissed the a's that I have, and I legit was
Speaker 1: so pissed off because I've been working my ass off
Speaker 1: in these classes and it honestly is a lot. I
Speaker 1: want to be proud of me because there has never
Speaker 1: been a moment in my life where he told me
Speaker 1: that he is genuinely.
Speaker 2: Proud of me.
Speaker 1: By the way, this is a Mexican dad, so you
Speaker 1: can use those racial stereotypes because they are real. Okay,
Speaker 1: I get the comparison where let's say one kid is
Speaker 1: sick and one isn't. Who are you going to look
Speaker 1: at more whoever is sick or isn't. I don't know
Speaker 1: what that was the point being. How do I approach
Speaker 1: this because it honestly makes me upset? And I know
Speaker 1: you should be proud of myself for everything I have accomplished.
Speaker 1: I just want some sort of validation, I guess I know.
Speaker 1: I hope you have a good rest of your name. Yeah, Max, listen,
Speaker 1: I'm really genuinely I'm really sorry that your dad. You're
Speaker 1: feeling like you have issues with your dad where he's
Speaker 1: like not proud of you. But you said a lot
Speaker 1: of stuff in this email that I liked. Right, you
Speaker 1: were like, I know I should be proud of myself
Speaker 1: for everything I have accomplished. Let me tell you something, Max,
Speaker 1: Let me speak some fucking let me let me let
Speaker 1: me speak some uh, some motivational jizz in your ear
Speaker 1: all right. You don't need anyone's permission to be proud
Speaker 1: of yourself, my friend, You don't need anyone's permission to
Speaker 1: be proud of yourself. If you're proud of yourself, be
Speaker 1: proud of yourself. You don't need anyone's permission to fucking
Speaker 1: feel any kind of way about yourself. You get to that,
Speaker 1: you you, I you seem like, here's the thing. You're
Speaker 1: a second year at university, so like you're just now
Speaker 1: coming into like the universe of being an adult, and
Speaker 1: people shit on being an adult, but I think it's
Speaker 1: way way better than being in fucking high school. Because
Speaker 1: when you're in elementary school, midd school, high school, your
Speaker 1: whole fucking life is about asking for permission. You're asking
Speaker 1: for permission from your your teachers to give you good grades,
Speaker 1: and you're asking for permission from your parents to do things,
Speaker 1: and you're asking for permission from everyone for everything. And
Speaker 1: you finally, as an adult, like you just get to
Speaker 1: fucking the one thing you never have to ask permission
Speaker 1: for is like how you want to feel about yourself,
Speaker 1: you know, and deep into your fucking adult life, you're
Speaker 1: gonna find yourself trying to ask for permission from people
Speaker 1: around you and from society and from your job about
Speaker 1: like feeling good about yourself or feeling that you are
Speaker 1: a certain kind of way, like needing validation on that and.
Speaker 2: You never have to do that ever.
Speaker 1: You only fucking validate, like you know, look, check in,
Speaker 1: check in with the people around you, check in with
Speaker 1: society to kind of make sure you're not a total
Speaker 1: anti social, insane person.
Speaker 2: I think that's good. I think that grounds you in reality.
Speaker 1: You don't want to think you're like the hot shit
Speaker 1: amazing everything and have no external evidence to you know,
Speaker 1: tell you everything otherwise.
Speaker 2: But you don't.
Speaker 1: You know, you don't need your dad to validate you. You
Speaker 1: could look you. You know, you know that you worked
Speaker 1: hard on the classes. So just be proud of yourself, Max.
Speaker 1: You don't need your dad to be proud of you.
Speaker 1: You can just be proud of yourself. Okay. This is
Speaker 1: from hot Dog, a subject line name change surgery. Hello, Lyle,
Speaker 1: Please call me hot Dog if you read this email
Speaker 1: on the podcast. Me and my girlfriend have been talking
Speaker 1: about getting engaged in twenty twenty five and married probably
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty six, and have been thinking about the
Speaker 1: whole last name thing. I have my father's last name,
Speaker 1: but my parents split up when I was a baby,
Speaker 1: and my mom and my maternal grandparents raised me. Me
Speaker 1: and my dad reconnected in my childhood and are on
Speaker 1: good terms but not close. I see him maybe once
Speaker 1: per year. My girlfriend had the idea of us both
Speaker 1: taking my maternal grandparents' last name when we get married,
Speaker 1: instead of her taking my last name, and have it
Speaker 1: be a surprise for my grandparents at the wedding. I
Speaker 1: love this idea and think it would be a great
Speaker 1: way to show my appreciation for them and everything they've done.
Speaker 1: I would also like to invite my father to the wedding,
Speaker 1: but I feel like no matter what, this will hurt
Speaker 1: his feelings and maybe impact our relationship, even though he
Speaker 1: has to know realistically that he did not play a
Speaker 1: large role in my life. We are both in our
Speaker 1: late twenties. Love the show. Been watching for a couple
Speaker 1: of years. You bring great perspective. Thanks hot Dog. Okay,
Speaker 1: so this is Do you think your dad is going
Speaker 1: to be upset that you took your mom's name instead
Speaker 1: of his? Let me reread this is this really gonna.
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Both my mom and me and my dad reconnected. My childhood, wrong,
Speaker 1: good terms and not close. I see him maybe once
Speaker 1: per year. Oh so you know, bro, whatever, Look, here's
Speaker 1: the thing. You're in your late twenties. If this is
Speaker 1: what you want to do again, I mean, you don't
Speaker 1: need permission from your dad to like this is I guess,
Speaker 1: like a people pleasing thing. Like you don't want to
Speaker 1: hurt your dad's feelings, but like whatever, man, if this
Speaker 1: is what you want to do, then do it right.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's pretty simple, Like I get that
Speaker 1: you don't want to impact your dad's relationship. But here's
Speaker 1: the thing. If you sit down with your dad and
Speaker 1: you're like, Okay, yeah, this is what I'm doing and
Speaker 1: he gets like fucking pissed and offended, then you know
Speaker 1: that's that's his problem, to be honest, that's a him
Speaker 1: letting this impact your relationship because you know he's got
Speaker 1: to take the l on this one. He's got to
Speaker 1: be like, ah, you know, you're right, I kind of
Speaker 1: fucked up, but I abandoned you for a little bit
Speaker 1: and we're back, but we're not that close.
Speaker 2: I get it.
Speaker 1: I get it. I get it. And then you and
Speaker 1: then if he does that, if you tell him this
Speaker 1: and he's like, ah, yeah, you're right, I get it.
Speaker 1: I get it.
Speaker 2: Then you guys can have it.
Speaker 1: Then if he does that, then you guys can have
Speaker 1: a beautiful relationship because he's like, you know, accepts his
Speaker 1: place in your life, and then he can build on
Speaker 1: top of that and become even closer with you. But
Speaker 1: that's on him to accept, not really on you to
Speaker 1: care about whether or not this hurts his feelings. I'm
Speaker 1: going to take a phone call. I kind of want
Speaker 1: to take a quick phone call on this. If you're
Speaker 1: in the Twitch show right now and you have thoughts
Speaker 1: about any of the emails that have been read thus far,
Speaker 1: give me a call all from Noah?
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Yo, Noah? What's up?
Speaker 6: What's going on?
Speaker 3: Yo?
Speaker 2: Noah?
Speaker 4: Noah?
Speaker 2: Can you hear? Okay?
Speaker 1: Noah, what's up? What do you What do you think
Speaker 1: about these emails?
Speaker 2: What do you got?
Speaker 3: Bro?
Speaker 7: I'm going to be real with you. I just tuned
Speaker 7: into the stream I've been playing.
Speaker 1: All right, all right, We're gonna take another call from.
Speaker 2: Hey, what's up? Can you hear me? Are you there?
Speaker 3: I am here?
Speaker 2: Well? What you got for me? You have thoughts on
Speaker 2: any of these emails?
Speaker 3: All right? All right? Mister Lyle, mister, I have more
Speaker 3: more than thoughts for these, for these emails all right now.
Speaker 3: On the on the one, on the one that we
Speaker 3: just listened to, those about like the dad taking and
Speaker 3: that ship. Man, look, look I agree with like, you've
Speaker 3: gotta you've gotta fuck that shit up. You know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying. It's got to be like man, Look, I've
Speaker 3: been you all the pieces of ship. But you know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. We here now, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: But no, not not not not much can go from there,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. I'm sorry. I'm just really
Speaker 3: fucking I'm much shaking right now.
Speaker 1: Okay, So you said you've been there before like this,
Speaker 1: like do you have a kid.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm a kid.
Speaker 4: I'm twenty.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, Like is this something that's happened with your dad?
Speaker 3: No, No, I'm just this is just like outside looking
Speaker 3: in mister Lyle.
Speaker 1: Oh sure sure, sure, sure, sure, Yeah, no, I agree,
Speaker 1: I agree. I think he's just gonna kind of take
Speaker 1: the l on it.
Speaker 3: Yeah. No, I'm sorry, Like I've lost all my thoughts.
Speaker 3: Ever since I you answered the phone, I've been trying
Speaker 3: to get in here for for a while mister.
Speaker 2: Hyle, do you have any other thoughts on the emails?
Speaker 3: I thought I thought on the on the oh oh
Speaker 3: my god, oh yeah I'm the one. Uh I'm the
Speaker 3: one where the guy was talking about, oh I had
Speaker 3: to lose my girlfriend who's my girlfriend? To find who
Speaker 3: I am? And and and now I'm trans I mean
Speaker 3: like I get that.
Speaker 1: I get that, Oh god, where's this where's this gun?
Speaker 3: But like but like but like why why did he
Speaker 3: like lock in and say like he had to turn
Speaker 3: into a girl? Like you know, he switched sides, you know,
Speaker 3: like after he was like where did that come from?
Speaker 1: What do you talk about?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Because because he was just like he was like,
Speaker 3: oh I lost I lost my girlfriend and my girlfriend
Speaker 3: helped me like find myself and then he like switched sides.
Speaker 3: He said he was transitioning, did he not? Yeah? Wait?
Speaker 2: What do you know? What do you not get about that?
Speaker 3: I mean like like I'm just like, where did that
Speaker 3: come from? I mean like I can accept this, but
Speaker 3: like we're I don't.
Speaker 1: I think, well, I think they're just I don't. Okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: if you're if you're asking, how is this person transitioning
Speaker 1: related to their relationship that they had with with uh
Speaker 1: their ex girlfriends. I actually kind of don't know, but
Speaker 1: that's what they're telling me, maybe something about I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe I don't know, it's it's I guess it's just
Speaker 1: part of like the journey of how they discovered it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't that like that. That that really threw
Speaker 3: me for a loop. That really that that through me,
Speaker 3: that through me like all the way to the left.
Speaker 3: I didn't know. I didn't know where that came from.
Speaker 3: Like I don't know what kind of heartbreak you gotta
Speaker 3: go through, you know, I don't know what kind of
Speaker 3: depressions you went through or she now that just that
Speaker 3: was just kind of crazy miss you.
Speaker 1: While I don't know, I guess I guess they just like, uh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I guess it was just part of
Speaker 1: the part of the job. Let me, I don't know,
Speaker 1: let me reread that email. Where is it at?
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, they did this. This person did not.
Speaker 1: Particularly uh go into detail as to how they were related.
Speaker 1: But I think I think that I think the idea
Speaker 1: is that this relationship, uh they say, I did a
Speaker 1: lot of soul searching and realized it wasn't the person
Speaker 1: I thought.
Speaker 2: I was, and so I think this.
Speaker 1: I think it was just like something where like a
Speaker 1: major life event or or like the ending of a
Speaker 1: relationship causes one to do soul searching and then they
Speaker 1: come up with conclusions.
Speaker 2: As a result of their soul searching.
Speaker 3: I would say, so it was definitely the so searching part.
Speaker 3: I don't know. That must have been. That must have
Speaker 3: been a crazy journey, all right. That that that is insane.
Speaker 3: That's crazy.
Speaker 8: All right? Name?
Speaker 3: Oh, oh my god, my name is double love Jess.
Speaker 3: Can you say that for me?
Speaker 1: Double Love Jess. Is there anything else you want to
Speaker 1: say to the people?
Speaker 3: Come on, you gotta say double all right?
Speaker 1: All right, I'm done with this person. Okay, I'll take
Speaker 1: another all right, I'll take another call. Actually, no, let
Speaker 1: me read. Let me read another email first, and then
Speaker 1: I'll take another call.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 1: Uh, this is from Stella. Subject line I got hit
Speaker 1: by a car on the way to your show plus
Speaker 1: Purpose in Life. Hi, Lyle, I'm Stella and have been
Speaker 1: a huge fan for years. I was probably the first
Speaker 1: person to buy your twenty twenty four San Francisco tickets
Speaker 1: because I was so excited. On the day of I
Speaker 1: was riding my motorcycle to the venue Holy Shit, and
Speaker 1: got hit by a hit and run drive six blocks
Speaker 1: from the venue. My left shoulder took months to heal,
Speaker 1: but luckily it's ninety nine percent healed now. I also
Speaker 1: got some long term minor nerve damage on my left leg,
Speaker 1: but nothing that interferes with my life. So anyways, I
Speaker 1: was never able to see you live, and I'm super
Speaker 1: excited for the next opportunity. Man, that's I don't know.
Speaker 1: Man riding a motorcycle. They sound like a grandpapa. Yeah,
Speaker 1: riding a motorcycle is crazy. I recently turned twenty five,
Speaker 1: and I'm now very well settled into adult life. However,
Speaker 1: sometimes I wonder whether or not I am too hedonistic
Speaker 1: and what my purpose in life should be. I am
Speaker 1: an only child, don't talk to my parents, don't know
Speaker 1: my extended family, and immigrated to the US from New
Speaker 1: Zealand in twenty seventeen. I'm happy with my current job,
Speaker 1: but I don't think my job brings significant purpose or meaning.
Speaker 1: I don't want to have children. I spend most of
Speaker 1: my time on hedonistic activities, such as spending time with friends.
Speaker 1: Hold on, okay, Stella, I don't think you understand. I
Speaker 1: don't think you know what the word hedonism means. I
Speaker 1: don't know if I would put I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1: If you're doing cocaine with your friends and you know
Speaker 1: everyone's blowing each other, then yeah, sure that's hedonistic. But
Speaker 1: I don't think that purely spending time with your friends
Speaker 1: is hedonistic. Okay, spending time with my friends, traveling and
Speaker 1: investing in hobbies.
Speaker 2: I don't think you know what hedonist. I don't like Stella.
Speaker 1: I I feel bad for Stella because she I think
Speaker 1: the person who wrote this email lives in a world
Speaker 1: where anything that is not working is considered hedonism.
Speaker 2: I think I think, yeah, uh.
Speaker 1: We're Hedonism is like doing Hedonism is like gluttonous excess
Speaker 1: and like drugs and taco bell and porn. You know,
Speaker 1: I mean spending time with friends playing Jenga and traveling
Speaker 1: and you know, sewing or whatever.
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's hedonism. I know this sounds great.
Speaker 1: On the surface, but sometimes I feel like my life
Speaker 1: is meaningless because I will never raise kids or build
Speaker 1: a family, and I'm not sure if there's a career
Speaker 1: where I can derive purpose and meaning from. What do
Speaker 1: you think about hedonistic lifestyles and deriving meeting from them,
Speaker 1: especially for people with essentially no family. Thanks for the
Speaker 1: podcast and for being an awesome person. Each new episode
Speaker 1: brings a smile to my face.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: Still I listening to this podcast is maybe a little hedonistic.
Speaker 1: But other than that, you know what I'm I'm gonna
Speaker 1: assume that you don't think. I'm gonna assume you just
Speaker 1: don't know what hedonism means, and maybe you're using it
Speaker 1: to mean something else, Just like, what do I think
Speaker 1: about I mean, you're only twenty five. Let's see, I'm
Speaker 1: an only child and talk to my parents. I do
Speaker 1: not want to have children. I feel like my life
Speaker 1: is meaningless because I will never raise kids or build
Speaker 1: a family, and I'm not sure if there's a career
Speaker 1: I can drive purpose of meaning from. Well, here's the thing, dude,
Speaker 1: is you can decide.
Speaker 2: Well, look, you.
Speaker 1: First of all is you don't really know if you're
Speaker 1: ever gonna raise kids or build a family, because your
Speaker 1: opinions on these things could easily change if you meet
Speaker 1: the right person, or if your perspective changes as a
Speaker 1: result of something over the years. I mean, you could
Speaker 1: decide five six ten years from now that you know
Speaker 1: you do want to raise a family, you do want
Speaker 1: to do this other thing, and so there's that I
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm a big I'm a big never say
Speaker 1: never guy on that one. But also when it comes
Speaker 1: to like meaning in life, it's like, bro, there's no
Speaker 1: there's no real rules. I mean, don't die, don't do
Speaker 1: anything eagle, don't die, don't kill anyone, don't don't do
Speaker 1: anything fucked up. But that there's really no rules, so
Speaker 1: you can decide what brings you meaning. You know, if
Speaker 1: you like motorcycling and you like how you feel when
Speaker 1: you know your hair is blown through the wind and
Speaker 1: you get hit by a car, then that can be
Speaker 1: your thing. You know, if you like hanging out with
Speaker 1: your friends and that gives you meeting, you like traveling
Speaker 1: and that gives you meaning, you get to decide that's
Speaker 1: the thing is like again again is kind of similar
Speaker 1: to the guy with his dad. It's like, nobody gives
Speaker 1: you permission to fucking do anything. You get to decide
Speaker 1: what is meaningful, so you don't have to ask for
Speaker 1: permission from other people on what's meaningful. But also I
Speaker 1: wouldn't I wouldn't self impose any rules upon you, and
Speaker 1: I wouldn't self impose any ideas that like, you'll never
Speaker 1: derive purpose from a family or a career, and that
Speaker 1: there's nothing like I like you like you're getting into
Speaker 1: a little like doom or territory. I think in terms
Speaker 1: of like deciding that there's nothing out there that will
Speaker 1: give you purpose. Maybe that's not what you're saying. Maybe I'm,
Speaker 1: maybe I'm I'm. But also these things that you the
Speaker 1: word hedonistic, I'm gonna like the hanging out with your
Speaker 1: friends and traveling and investing in hobbies and flying airplanes,
Speaker 1: as you say, are all great things to derive meaning from.
Speaker 1: And if you're feeling guilty because the things that give
Speaker 1: you meaning are not necessarily the things that you see
Speaker 1: out in society or what giving give other people meaning,
Speaker 1: just remember that there's no fucking rules and you don't
Speaker 1: have to kind of subscribe to anyone else's idea of
Speaker 1: what's meaningful or not. I'm sorry you got hit by
Speaker 1: a car on the way to my show. Let's take
Speaker 1: it all right, there's a caller. Let's take a.
Speaker 7: Call from Kara.
Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, hey Caroa, what do you think of these emails?
Speaker 9: Well, for the person talking about the hedonistic lifestyle, even
Speaker 9: though what they're saying it's again not hedonistic or anything
Speaker 9: like that. If you wanted to put some kind of
Speaker 9: purpose in your life, why wouldn't you want to create
Speaker 9: spaces where people can enjoy themselves, like even just you know,
Speaker 9: simply like oh, making a board a place for people
Speaker 9: to play board games, or a night for people to
Speaker 9: do trivia, or a place to people to do weird
Speaker 9: dances in the a room, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. I love that.
Speaker 1: I love that that's a great way to find meaning
Speaker 1: because yeah, I mean, this person clearly they because I
Speaker 1: think this person like they're talking about not wanting to
Speaker 1: raise kids or build a family, but they're like trying
Speaker 1: to I think still feel like connected to other people
Speaker 1: in a deep, meaningful way. And so yeah, I think
Speaker 1: with the stuff you're talking about, like trying to create
Speaker 1: a community that they can feel connected with, not necessarily
Speaker 1: like kids or a family, but just like a community space,
Speaker 1: I think that's a great idea.
Speaker 9: Yeah, it feels richundon almost because it's kind of the
Speaker 9: message that you kind of send out a lot in
Speaker 9: a lot of your streams that I'll listen to. But
Speaker 9: you know, not an original concept at all. If you're
Speaker 9: searching for a meeting and you have people around you,
Speaker 9: you should look at the other people around you and
Speaker 9: find meaning in them and the space and the thing,
Speaker 9: the memories you make with them.
Speaker 2: Love it. What's your name again, Tarah?
Speaker 1: Tare any of the other emails you have any comments on?
Speaker 9: I didn't hear earlier, so I don't have so much
Speaker 9: to say a.
Speaker 2: Lot, Thank you, Tara.
Speaker 1: Thanks all right, let's see here.
Speaker 2: All right?
Speaker 1: This is from Elle, subject line trying to transform my
Speaker 1: life in twenty twenty five. Hey Gek, I'm Ellie from
Speaker 1: the UK. I just want to say thank you for
Speaker 1: your podcast. They've really helped my perspective and also have
Speaker 1: gotten me through tons of long car journeys. I think
Speaker 1: transform is a bit of an exaggeration, but in twenty
Speaker 1: twenty five, I'm hoping to change a few things. Stop
Speaker 1: drinking alcohol so often, completely, quit nicotine, get my own
Speaker 1: place in a cozy cottage slash apartment, and possibly even
Speaker 1: find a relationship. I'm a really chill person, so I
Speaker 1: just want to find another chill person who's gentle and
Speaker 1: kind hearted. It's been difficult in twenty twenty four, but
Speaker 1: also very transformative. So that's a positive. So please wish
Speaker 1: me luck and any advice would be great. I don't
Speaker 1: know if I have any advice for you. I'm trying
Speaker 1: to change. I'm trying to transform my life in twenty
Speaker 1: twenty five as well. Here stop drinking alcohol so often
Speaker 1: and quit nicotine. Any advice, don't pick I don't know,
Speaker 1: pick up something like running, pick up a better hobby.
Speaker 1: I suppose that's such shitty advice. I'm gonna, okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna skip the I'm gonna skip the advice, but I'm
Speaker 1: gonna wish you luck, Allie, I'm gonna wish you luck.
Speaker 2: I don't, I don't. You know what is funny.
Speaker 1: You know what sucks for me about doing this podcast
Speaker 1: a lot of times is I don't I really, really,
Speaker 1: really really really I I can I less and less
Speaker 1: and less feel as though I can offer advice as
Speaker 1: much as I can offer commiseration.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? You guys know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like, I don't know if I knew what to do,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have I don't think I would be who
Speaker 1: I was who I am. You know, I only I
Speaker 1: only feel like I can commiserate these days, not advise
Speaker 1: as much, but I can. I commiserate with you. I
Speaker 1: wish you luck on your journey. All right, this is
Speaker 1: from Jesse hih Lyle. I love your content and I
Speaker 1: hope you come to Florida soon. Anyways, I recently left
Speaker 1: my cult parentheses sorority, and I feel so free. I
Speaker 1: know calling it a cult seems extreme, but you will
Speaker 1: understand why. Here are some of the reasons why I
Speaker 1: left my sorority. I was uncomfortable with the concept of rituals.
Speaker 1: These took place in a church and we would wear
Speaker 1: robes and stoles. In these rituals, we would have to
Speaker 1: hold hands while saying things from the ritual book in sync.
Speaker 1: We would also have to sing in a circle and bow.
Speaker 1: Racism was also a big factor. I am Latina and
Speaker 1: they constantly sped out micro aggressions and were openly racist.
Speaker 1: They went as far as to edit my skin in
Speaker 1: photos to look five shades darker to make me a
Speaker 1: diversity pick. They were also really strict on what we
Speaker 1: could wear during rush. Everything had to be name brand
Speaker 1: head to toe, and everything down to our socks had
Speaker 1: to be approved if the girl didn't like how something
Speaker 1: fit you, you would have to buy a new outfit.
Speaker 1: I understand address code, but I've seen girls spend thousands
Speaker 1: of dollars on a tire for Rush, and that is insane.
Speaker 1: Without much detail, these girls are straight up bullies. They
Speaker 1: turned a guy from my school into an LOL cow.
Speaker 1: They would pretend to be friends like Slash romantically interested
Speaker 1: in him, just to make fun of him in.
Speaker 2: The group chat.
Speaker 1: The whole school played along. I constantly told him this
Speaker 1: was not right, and they ignored me. He ended up
Speaker 1: crashing out and was expelled and taken to a mental hospital.
Speaker 1: After his release, he was arrested on campus for having
Speaker 1: a weapon to fucking Jesus Christ.
Speaker 4: Ugh.
Speaker 1: My final straw was that after my dog died, I
Speaker 1: was mourning and I was not talking or moving for
Speaker 1: a while. The day my family had to pick up
Speaker 1: his ashes, I was not able to go because my
Speaker 1: sorority threatened to find me if I took the day off.
Speaker 1: We had a four hour long Rush meeting and I
Speaker 1: was forced to sit there and try not to cry
Speaker 1: the whole time. They were incredibly inconsiderate of what I
Speaker 1: was going through, and I did not want to be
Speaker 1: around them anymore, and so I left. I really wish
Speaker 1: I left months ago, but college is actually pretty lonely,
Speaker 1: so I stuck it out until I couldn't anymore.
Speaker 2: Thanks for reading and happy New Year.
Speaker 1: Good good for you, Good for you, Jesse, good for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I fucking look, here's the thing.
Speaker 2: Here's the thing. So I actually.
Speaker 1: Remember when I was a freshman in college, I rushed
Speaker 1: a fraternity and it was okay.
Speaker 2: But I just.
Speaker 5: Feel like there's some people out there who like greek
Speaker 5: life and fraternities and sororities is like super super for them,
Speaker 5: Like they like that shit it, you know, it gives
Speaker 5: them like automatic community, and you know they're really into
Speaker 5: partying and getting fucked up and like the brotherhood of
Speaker 5: it and all that shit.
Speaker 2: And if it's for you, then God bless you.
Speaker 1: But I think there's another group of people where, like
Speaker 1: like people who like, you know, going into college as
Speaker 1: a freshman, it's such a like terrifying thing because you
Speaker 1: have nothing to grab onto, especially if you're going there alone,
Speaker 1: you don't know anyone, and it's it's an attractive idea
Speaker 1: to go join greek life and you automatically have all
Speaker 1: these friends, but you know, maybe it's not necessarily for you,
Speaker 1: and you kind of have to like take a step
Speaker 1: back and figure out how you're gonna make your community.
Speaker 1: I mean, so, I yeah, so I rush to this fraternity,
Speaker 1: but I just kind of didn't stick with it, and
Speaker 1: I never like really like signed up, heard paid the
Speaker 1: dues or whatever the fuck. And uh, you know, eventually
Speaker 1: I got into I started writing on the look on
Speaker 1: the like college comedy show, and uh, I met most
Speaker 1: of my friends doing that, and college for me didn't
Speaker 1: really get good until I started doing that. And so
Speaker 1: I don't know, it just kind of takes a little
Speaker 1: while to like figure out what your community is, you know.
Speaker 1: And yeah, yeah, I don't know. It's just such a
Speaker 1: I don't like the rigidity of the Greek life. I
Speaker 1: fucking hate rules, and I hate like you have to
Speaker 1: like be some guy's bitch, like like like you have
Speaker 1: to be a pledge and you have to like go
Speaker 1: fetch cigarettes for a dude and like fuck a horse
Speaker 1: or whatever they make you do.
Speaker 2: And uh, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think I don't think you should have to fuck
Speaker 1: a horse to make friends.
Speaker 2: But that's just me. Oh, we got a call coming in.
Speaker 2: Let's see.
Speaker 1: Okay, we had a all coming in and then it
Speaker 1: got uh fucked up? Okay, hold on, all right, all right,
Speaker 1: maybe we get another call coming in.
Speaker 2: Let's see, uh okay, here we go.
Speaker 1: No, well, hello, hello, Hey, what's up?
Speaker 3: Hello? Hey?
Speaker 7: Nothing much, just chilling, uh, hanging out?
Speaker 4: How are you?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 2: What do you You got any thoughts about these emails?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 7: So I'm the fraternity one. So I have a personal
Speaker 7: connection with this because I was in a fraternity in
Speaker 7: college as well. It was a music fraternity though I
Speaker 7: was a music major, and so everyone who was in
Speaker 7: the fraternity was also a musician. So that was a
Speaker 7: really cool environment. And then, like you know, the stuff
Speaker 7: we went through that you're talking about, like the cliche
Speaker 7: like frat thro stuff, Like I never experienced that. Heard
Speaker 7: stories from like back the day, But in my experience,
Speaker 7: I never was treated or forced to do things I
Speaker 7: didn't want to do. My big brother just really liked
Speaker 7: to go partnering, which was fine.
Speaker 1: Well, was this was this like a co ed frad
Speaker 1: or is this like a like an all boys thread?
Speaker 7: It was an all boys friend. We had like a
Speaker 7: sister or sorority where we would do events together. But
Speaker 7: one of the really cool things about this fraternity is
Speaker 7: because it's based around music. We have this whole song
Speaker 7: book and we'd memorize these songs and would go out
Speaker 7: to the community and do stuff. Actually ended up playing
Speaker 7: like a bluegret no uh ska band because of it.
Speaker 7: That was really cool.
Speaker 3: Mm.
Speaker 1: So they didn't like make you put a clarinet up
Speaker 1: your ass or any of that stuff.
Speaker 7: Oh fuck now fuck No. I did have a brother though,
Speaker 7: who got really fucked up on a truth or dare
Speaker 7: and ended up booping a beer, but that was his
Speaker 7: own choice.
Speaker 10: Mm hmmm.
Speaker 1: So did you ever consider joining like like a real
Speaker 1: you know, and I mean like like one of the
Speaker 1: you know, more traditional Greek life things.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I did.
Speaker 7: I got asked to come out to a rush a
Speaker 7: couple of times. I just didn't really appeal to me
Speaker 7: in the same way like the music stuff did. It was,
Speaker 7: you know, music's just a closer knit thing. And the
Speaker 7: guys in the fraternity themselves were really active in music community,
Speaker 7: so like they were the ones planning all the house
Speaker 7: shows in the city, getting the bands to come in,
Speaker 7: helping you know, manage that, and so getting to be
Speaker 7: a part of that process was really unique and cool
Speaker 7: that I don't think I would have gotten without joining
Speaker 7: the opportunity.
Speaker 1: Nice nice, Yeah, Well, I feel like those like specialized fraternity,
Speaker 1: like a music one, or like there's like a business fraternity.
Speaker 1: Like the specialized fraternities where it's like we actually are
Speaker 1: here to like do a certain thing and not just
Speaker 1: like get fucked up all the time.
Speaker 2: I feel like those are.
Speaker 1: Those seem like they're more like your traditional frants.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and like the and the really cool
Speaker 7: thing I appreciate about that, You know, what you're talking
Speaker 7: about the club is that we would get people that,
Speaker 7: you know, they weren't music majors, they weren't anything like that,
Speaker 7: but say they played the guitar for a little bit,
Speaker 7: or they we had one guy because we had to
Speaker 7: do this like selection process where people had to show
Speaker 7: like what music meant to them or like they would
Speaker 7: play something, perform something. We had a brother, a guy
Speaker 7: who's a really a friend of mine, bringing his record
Speaker 7: collection and just kind of go through each record and
Speaker 7: kind of talk about why he appreciated and why he
Speaker 7: listened to them, why you brought it in?
Speaker 2: Cool?
Speaker 7: Yeah, it was, so what what was your experience with opportunity,
Speaker 7: like when you went rushing, Like I'm guessing you went
Speaker 7: to a couple like house parties on frant Row or whatever.
Speaker 7: But like that pushed away for you.
Speaker 1: I met like one guy and we kind of became friends.
Speaker 1: But I just just like never they they kind of
Speaker 1: I don't know, I just didn't like the vibe. I
Speaker 1: wish I had a funny story or something like that,
Speaker 1: but I kind of gave my my little spiel and
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not. Yeah, it wasn't. It just wasn't
Speaker 1: for me. But uh, you know, you find your friends.
Speaker 1: That's the thing is you kind of you go to
Speaker 1: you go to school. You gotta give like an effort
Speaker 1: forth to find your friends, and you gotta have a
Speaker 1: thing like having like comedy or music. It's great to
Speaker 1: have a thing, you know, and then you can kind
Speaker 1: of find people around it. What's your name again?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: No, I thank you for your thoughtful commentary on that email.
Speaker 1: Have a good rest of the day.
Speaker 7: Hey, real you too, thank you.
Speaker 1: Let's see, I'll take one more. I'll take another call
Speaker 1: from here.
Speaker 10: India.
Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hi India. You got any thoughts on these emails?
Speaker 10: Yeah? I don't really have any thoughts on the first
Speaker 10: one because I was never in the trats eternity scene
Speaker 10: of any of them. Nah. I think like for the
Speaker 10: the one where the girl is going to be like
Speaker 10: quitting nicotine and like all of the resolutions and stuff, yeah.
Speaker 1: Please, I bailed out on advice for that one. So
Speaker 1: if you could give this girl something that would be great. Yeah.
Speaker 9: Absolutely.
Speaker 10: I think situations like that it's it's maybe like a
Speaker 10: form of like addiction that has to be carefully monitored.
Speaker 10: Like I have a friend that's also going through that,
Speaker 10: like trying to quit like nicotine and weed after smoking
Speaker 10: every day since she was like fifteen, But like it's
Speaker 10: a feat and like for situations like that, you really,
Speaker 10: like I think it's really easy to give up when
Speaker 10: you try and look at like the whole picture of
Speaker 10: and be like, god, when am I going to ever
Speaker 10: stop like smoking? But it's like day to day and
Speaker 10: like hour to hour, Like what are activities you can
Speaker 10: replace with like smoking weed or like having nicotine in
Speaker 10: your life? And like I know that like those activities
Speaker 10: aren't gonna have the same like fix that like smoking does,
Speaker 10: but it at least like kind of starts to rewire
Speaker 10: your brain to figure out, like I don't know, filling
Speaker 10: your time in different ways? Does that make sense?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Have you ever had an addiction that you've replaced with
Speaker 1: something more positive?
Speaker 10: God? Not necessarily that That's why it's hard. I can't
Speaker 10: like have any like really personal advice with it. Sure,
Speaker 10: but like I don't know, I have like things that
Speaker 10: I've gotten really into, and like I don't know if
Speaker 10: it has to do with mental health and stuff. I
Speaker 10: think it's like, really you have to be really deliberate
Speaker 10: with like how you spend your day because you could
Speaker 10: just like bedrot for a week, or you could just
Speaker 10: be like, fucking I'm gonna like go on a ten
Speaker 10: minute walk. But that takes a lot of willpower. Like
Speaker 10: that's hard. But like creating that routine is so fucking hard.
Speaker 10: But once you're doing it, it's like, Okay, I can
Speaker 10: do this.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 2: Hey, thanks for sharing India. I'm glad. Yeah, I'm glad.
Speaker 1: I'm glad you could chime in on that one because
Speaker 1: I did kind of bail out on it.
Speaker 2: But I think everything is saying is good.
Speaker 10: Yeah, it's it's it's personalized. It's a hard one. It
Speaker 10: makes sense that you're bailed out.
Speaker 2: I thank you India.
Speaker 10: Yeah, of course I have a good one.
Speaker 1: By Okay, this is from one subject line. I've got
Speaker 1: the N word pass and I'm white. Uh okay, So
Speaker 1: for context, I grew up and I'm in South Africa
Speaker 1: listening to a whole bunch of American hip hop and
Speaker 1: rap from a young age. Even at school, both primary
Speaker 1: and high school, I would use the N word in
Speaker 1: normal conversation. Amongst most of my guy friends. We were
Speaker 1: never taught that the N word is a word solely
Speaker 1: that African Americans use, and that's saying it is a
Speaker 1: no no if you are another race parentheses, unless you've
Speaker 1: been given the pass.
Speaker 2: Lol.
Speaker 1: I and many of my friends would throw around the
Speaker 1: word like it's an old friend. Are you insane? My friend?
Speaker 1: You just referred to the N word as an old friend.
Speaker 1: That's so funny, And neither of us felt any guilt,
Speaker 1: and not one of my dark colored homies taught us
Speaker 1: to stop using it. We were all familiar with how
Speaker 1: how bad the word is due to its cultural and
Speaker 1: historical significance in America and among African Americans, but neither
Speaker 1: one of us grew up being told not to use it.
Speaker 1: Or being reprimanded from it. By the way, the province
Speaker 1: has an eighty two percent Zulu population and a seven
Speaker 1: percent white population. So not only were most of my
Speaker 1: friends black are exposure rap, American culture was always through music,
Speaker 1: where most words were used in a positive homie connotation.
Speaker 1: I still use the word today amongst most of my friends,
Speaker 1: and although I will never use the term with strangers
Speaker 1: when I'm overseas, I won't stop using it because why
Speaker 1: should I stop using a term that is only contextual
Speaker 1: amongst Americans. It was American media which taught me to
Speaker 1: call my homies my eye. He actually wrote, I'm like
Speaker 1: you almost he almost got me to say it.
Speaker 2: You wrote it.
Speaker 1: You give it, you know, give me some you know what.
Speaker 1: I'm a little pissed off at you want, because I'm
Speaker 1: just reading this email. You gotta put a dot dot
Speaker 1: dot or so. You gotta give me something to look ahead.
Speaker 1: You know, you gotta warn me or else I'm gonna
Speaker 1: you know, all right, you said I've never used it
Speaker 1: with strangers or when I'm overseas, I mean, fucking I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, yeah, I mean, probably don't use it
Speaker 1: overseas or with strangers. Or else they might get mad
Speaker 1: at you. I don't know where in South America do you?
Speaker 1: You're in the What is I'm gonna sound like an idiot?
Speaker 2: What is Zulu?
Speaker 5: Is that?
Speaker 1: Uh?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 1: Let's see? Okay, yeah, uh, I you know what.
Speaker 2: Look here's the thing. Look, I'm not I'm not. I'm
Speaker 2: really truly.
Speaker 1: Not one to tell people. Uh, you know, Look, do
Speaker 1: whatever you want with your look.
Speaker 2: Look, look, here's the thing. One you're gonna do. Look one,
Speaker 2: you're gonna do whatever you're gonna do.
Speaker 1: But if you but but I maybe don't call the
Speaker 1: N word an old friend.
Speaker 2: If you're gonna make any change in.
Speaker 1: This section of your life at all, however small, maybe
Speaker 1: just don't refer to it as.
Speaker 2: Your old friend. I would say that.
Speaker 1: What was the chat? Say gak, why are you so
Speaker 1: shit at geography? Because I don't know anything? What is it?
Speaker 6: Uh?
Speaker 1: Someone said, uh, that's because in South Africa they had
Speaker 1: aparthid until the nine. Yeah, that's true, that's the thing.
Speaker 1: Someone said, my boyfriend thinks everyone should be allowed to
Speaker 1: say it. I disagree. Someone said, ghek, maybe he's using
Speaker 1: it to relate to people. All right, I'm going to
Speaker 1: read another email Okay, this is from Larissa. Subject line
Speaker 1: THHC saved my life. Hey Gek, Happy New Year. I
Speaker 1: love your show and I've been really enjoying this segment.
Speaker 1: I can't call you to talk about this, so this
Speaker 1: is my chance to tell you about it. I'm also
Speaker 1: come to Brazil? Are you saying that? As a you
Speaker 1: know what?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 4: What?
Speaker 5: Is?
Speaker 1: I One time I posted, like the first time I
Speaker 1: announced a tour, I got a lot of comments being
Speaker 1: like come to Brazil, and I got like hype. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh shit, I have all these like fans
Speaker 1: in Brazil.
Speaker 2: That's awesome.
Speaker 1: And then I was disappointed because I found out that
Speaker 1: that's like a popular internet meme and people just say it.
Speaker 1: So now I'm wary every time someone says to come
Speaker 1: to Brazil.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty eight years old and recently discovered I'm autistic.
Speaker 1: For the past ten years, I've been misdiagnosed with depression
Speaker 1: and anxiety. Last year, I had a very rough time
Speaker 1: with work, got burnt out, got my heart broken, and
Speaker 1: basically my life fell apart, and I tried the S word.
Speaker 1: I'm lucky I had my own house and car, Otherwise
Speaker 1: I'd be living with my parents, had to drop out
Speaker 1: of work and take a good hard look at my life.
Speaker 1: After my parents came to rescue me, they thought substance
Speaker 1: abuse was the problem, but turns out I started to
Speaker 1: see a new psychiatrist and he prescribed me CBD against
Speaker 1: my parents' wishes, and then THCHC gummies. When I tell
Speaker 1: you my life shifted. I now go to medical school,
Speaker 1: have a pretty balanced life, and have been seeing my
Speaker 1: friends and family often. THCHC helps me stay in a
Speaker 1: good mood enough so that I can function without crashing out.
Speaker 1: I get the buzz, and then I go to work.
Speaker 1: This gave me the perspective to realize that I wasn't
Speaker 1: really happy. I actually wanted to be a doctor for
Speaker 1: the longest time, and with this new chance in life,
Speaker 1: I could do it. I mean, I am going to
Speaker 1: go in almost two hundred and fifty thousand dollars of debt,
Speaker 1: but the world's ending anyway, so who cares. It's so
Speaker 1: fucked I you know, yeah, God whatever, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: go on a student debt rant.
Speaker 2: I used to.
Speaker 1: Attach myself emotionally to people in order to feel something
Speaker 1: and have something to look forward to, and now I
Speaker 1: can do it daily without the emotional stress. I've decided
Speaker 1: staying single. I've decided to stay single as romantic involvement
Speaker 1: fucks up my brain chemistry. But even this past year
Speaker 1: with treatment, I've been having better and less harmful experiences
Speaker 1: with people, which is good when the horny kind of
Speaker 1: loneliness hits. Oh boy, don't we all know that horny?
Speaker 1: Don't we all know that very specific horny brand of loneliness.
Speaker 1: It's like pepsi max, but uh, horny loneliness. Anyway, I
Speaker 1: would love to hear your thoughts on this and experiences
Speaker 1: how weed affects her daily life activities. I notice it
Speaker 1: gets people to either chill and do nothing or chilling
Speaker 1: get things done. I'd love to buy you a drink
Speaker 1: or roll you a joint when you're in a rio. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you do live in Brazil. Get bless. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: we've been talking about that. I think we talked about
Speaker 1: this a lot on the last episode, about like weed
Speaker 1: and stuff. This is cool. I like hearing an email
Speaker 1: from someone who with like zero apologeticness is like, oh
Speaker 1: I love weed. Weed's a positive force in my life. Okay,
Speaker 1: here's here's the thought I've kind of been having in
Speaker 1: my brain about weed is like I think, I don't
Speaker 1: know how true this is, but I think like everything
Speaker 1: in life is about the shame of it and is
Speaker 1: about how you feel it fits into your life. And
Speaker 1: sometimes I'm smoking weed and I'm really high and I'm
Speaker 1: just really high, and I'm thinking to myself, I love weed,
Speaker 1: I love of getting high. Getting high is awesome. Everything
Speaker 1: I want to keep getting high. I enjoy the place
Speaker 1: that weed has in my life.
Speaker 2: This is sick.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep doing this, and I'm just like, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm not resistant. I'm not like smoking weed and then going,
Speaker 1: oh I shouldn't be doing this. Oh I don't I
Speaker 1: should I don't want to need this and whatever. I'm
Speaker 1: not like, I'm not what's the word. I'm not disapproving
Speaker 1: of myself or shaming myself for doing it. I'm like
Speaker 1: actively embracing it, which is kind of how you should
Speaker 1: do all things, because if you're gonna fucking do something,
Speaker 1: you might as well be you might as well feel
Speaker 1: good about doing it. Like there's no there's no there's
Speaker 1: literally no point in ever doing anything and then being
Speaker 1: like this fucking sucks, you know, what I mean, like,
Speaker 1: if you're gonna do if you're gonna do something, you
Speaker 1: might as well feel good about it. So if you're
Speaker 1: gonna smoke weed every day, you might as well while
Speaker 1: you're smoking weed every day, be like, oh this is great.
Speaker 1: I love weed. And so that's kind of how I've
Speaker 1: been thinking about it lately, and I'm trying not to
Speaker 1: be too much of a fucker about it. Like usually
Speaker 1: when i'm getting high, I'm trying to do something productive.
Speaker 1: My favorite thing to do on planet Earth is to
Speaker 1: just get really high and.
Speaker 2: Go for a long walk.
Speaker 1: So that's why I do, is I get really high
Speaker 1: and I turn my phone off and my computer off,
Speaker 1: and I just go outside and i'm and I'm walk
Speaker 1: for like two hours and it feels great. And uh yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I think that's it. It's just like if
Speaker 1: you feel good doing it, and you accept that you
Speaker 1: feel good doing it, and you don't like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: notice that it's making your life worse. But if every
Speaker 1: time you're doing it, you're like, oh, fuck, this makes
Speaker 1: me anxious, this makes me lazy. I shouldn't be doing this,
Speaker 1: then you know there's something to pay attention to. Uh,
Speaker 1: I'm glad that weed has been been good for you.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm like weird about like I don't know SSRIs and
Speaker 1: like so abstances as a way of fixing mental health.
Speaker 2: But that's me personally. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I every time I hear that people uh who've had
Speaker 1: success with that, I'm I'm I'm my skepticism. Wane's all right,
Speaker 1: the secophone call from Mike. Mike, you got any thoughts
Speaker 1: on these emails?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I think weed is definitely pretty interesting and it depends
Speaker 6: on your relationship with it. Oh, give me a sex
Speaker 6: all right? So yeah, I was a mechanical engineer and
Speaker 6: I smoked weed before like every test, and it helped
Speaker 6: me focus like immensely. I don't think I could have
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, for sure, I would take dabs and ship yeah.
Speaker 2: Oh right, really are you on?
Speaker 3: Are you?
Speaker 2: Are you on the speakerphone?
Speaker 8: Yeah? Bro, I forgot about that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, take me off a speakerphone?
Speaker 11: Is that better?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Okay, what we're saying.
Speaker 11: I'm just saying that I would smoke dads before like
Speaker 11: super hard exams and like nineties and stuff. But it's
Speaker 11: different for everybody, you know what I mean, so it
Speaker 11: depends on your relationship with it and your your not
Speaker 11: your work ethic, but your schedule, I guess with it.
Speaker 5: M M.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: You know it's so funny because I I think I've
Speaker 1: talked about this before, but like I used to when
Speaker 1: I was growing up and like first start smoking weed.
Speaker 1: I had like a friend and she would get really
Speaker 1: high and do her homework and I was like, dude, what, like, what.
Speaker 8: Are you talking about me? Bro was yeah, sure.
Speaker 1: And but it's funny because I really, I honest to god,
Speaker 1: it's just such a thing of like it affects everyone
Speaker 1: differently because I could never fucking do that. I there
Speaker 1: was a guy I've probably told this story on the
Speaker 1: podcast before, but I'll tell it again.
Speaker 2: I was hanging out with my.
Speaker 1: Friend's brother and we were in New York and he's
Speaker 1: like at the time, he was like trying to become
Speaker 1: an actor in New York and he was talking to
Speaker 1: us about this audition he was gonna go to in
Speaker 1: just a sec. And he was like, this audition, man,
Speaker 1: this is for a huge part. This you know, it
Speaker 1: could be a lot of money. You know, it could
Speaker 1: really be like a career making audition, Like you know
Speaker 1: this is a really really important thing. It's for this movie,
Speaker 1: and and and then and then he's about to leave
Speaker 1: to go do this audition and he takes the biggest,
Speaker 1: milkiest bong rip I've ever seen, and he walks out
Speaker 1: the door and then he like fucking like gets the part,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what the fuck? Like I could never
Speaker 1: do I just could never do that. Like I'm every
Speaker 1: you know, every once in a while, not I really
Speaker 1: everyone's different. I like I don't want to like sometimes
Speaker 1: I used to have a hard and fast rule about
Speaker 1: like getting high and doing this podcast.
Speaker 11: I've known in the past a little bit.
Speaker 1: Yeah it's yeah, I'm not high right now, but I
Speaker 1: don't get I I don't get high when I do
Speaker 1: get mail because I can't just I can't be high
Speaker 1: and uh fucking read, yeah, read and and come up
Speaker 1: with my own thoughts. But like, yeah, it slipped a
Speaker 1: little bit and not a lot, Like I I maybe
Speaker 1: am high one out of every like ten of these
Speaker 1: fucking podcasts.
Speaker 6: I've noticed that you kind of that's the thing that
Speaker 6: I always said in college and my friends, I use
Speaker 6: it as a tool, and I've noticed you kind of
Speaker 6: do that, Like when the stream's kind of like in
Speaker 6: a roll or like you need to kind of like
Speaker 6: change your frame of mind for a second. Should take
Speaker 6: a Benjamin real quick.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never ever, ever, I never ever would do
Speaker 1: it during any of my live shows because that would
Speaker 1: be to fucking terrifying, you know what I mean.
Speaker 11: Like, uh yeah, shoot, what was it? Certain stuff? And like,
Speaker 11: uh man, I can't even remember what I stopped for.
Speaker 6: I guess the last thing.
Speaker 11: I can think of is like sports in high school
Speaker 11: was like I want my lungs to be good for
Speaker 11: like section finals or something. M So I stopped for
Speaker 11: like a few weeks for that. But oh into jobs,
Speaker 11: a couple of jobs because engineering ship, I had to
Speaker 11: stop for a couple of times. But yeah, I'm not
Speaker 11: like the same way if if I can't go in
Speaker 11: there like which is ripped, but like not really ripped,
Speaker 11: just like.
Speaker 1: Oh d your hold on your phone? Your phone's sucking
Speaker 1: up whatever you're doing with it.
Speaker 8: Oh is it good now?
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, it's better now I'm on Wi Fi calling
Speaker 6: because I'm not in the I'm a good service actually,
Speaker 6: But yeah.
Speaker 11: I can relate to that guy, But I can also
Speaker 11: relate to people that like go through periods of time.
Speaker 11: I definitely go through periods of time myself where I'm
Speaker 11: like abusing it, you know what I mean, And it's
Speaker 11: like I need to go on a walk like you
Speaker 11: do or something instead to get like.
Speaker 8: Out of that habit, you know what I mean. So
Speaker 8: there's definitely a.
Speaker 11: Balance with it with everything in life. Like you could
Speaker 11: you get carried away eating donuts and things like that,
Speaker 11: but that doesn't mean you should give up donuts for
Speaker 11: life in mind.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it would be funny though, if you like had
Speaker 1: to eat a donut to like do your homework.
Speaker 11: I mean, dude, I had roommates like that.
Speaker 8: They would have knocks like ready on deck to do homework.
Speaker 8: I'm like, dude, I can't get my fingers all sticky
Speaker 8: while I'm holding my pencil. But I feel like everybody's
Speaker 8: got their own the own way, right.
Speaker 11: I want to say, be careful with what I'm saying and.
Speaker 8: Don't use it as like a confirmation bias for people
Speaker 8: that are actually struggling and it's affecting relationships or whatnot.
Speaker 2: What's your name again, Mike? Mike? Thank you for calling Mike.
Speaker 11: Yeah, thanks for taking my call. It's been a long time.
Speaker 11: A long time fans.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Mike. Oh crap. I hung up on him
Speaker 1: when he said take care.
Speaker 2: But that was that was that was.
Speaker 1: Now I'm enjoying these phone call I'm enjoying this, this
Speaker 1: format of the show. This is fun, This is nice.
Speaker 1: I feel like it makes things a little bit more pointed.
Speaker 1: I would say, Okay, I'm gonna read one more email
Speaker 1: and take one more call on this, on this on
Speaker 1: this show.
Speaker 2: Let's let's read one more email. Okay, all right.
Speaker 1: This is from McKenna. Subject line I am a horse girl.
Speaker 2: Hi Gek.
Speaker 1: First of all, Happy New Year. I love listening to
Speaker 1: your podcast. Well, I'm at work now to get into it.
Speaker 1: I just recently moved to a big city. I won't
Speaker 1: say which one, but it starts with a B and
Speaker 1: it's in Massachusetts, after finishing college and getting married to
Speaker 1: my husband, who I love so much. I also just
Speaker 1: started an office job not long ago. It's boring, but
Speaker 1: it's mostly okay. The issue is that I am a
Speaker 1: horse girl. I rode horses from eight to fifteen years old,
Speaker 1: and then I got depressed and just sort of stopped
Speaker 1: all my hobbies. But the past few years I have
Speaker 1: been really wanting to do it again. I never had
Speaker 1: the time or money before, and now the problem is
Speaker 1: that I live in an area with a lot of
Speaker 1: people and not a lot of horses, so there are
Speaker 1: no barns near me. I also need to buy all
Speaker 1: new equipment to take lessons, which would not be cheap.
Speaker 1: Should I drive forty plus minutes out of the city
Speaker 1: and save more money to ride an animal sometimes or
Speaker 1: just find something else to do? Please advise?
Speaker 2: Thank you?
Speaker 1: Uh?
Speaker 2: Should I drive?
Speaker 4: For?
Speaker 12: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean, if it's something you wanted, if it's look,
Speaker 1: here's the thing you just said. It depends on how
Speaker 1: much you want to do it, right. I can't really
Speaker 1: answer this question for you, like if you if if
Speaker 1: if you really want to do it, then like I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't let h having to save up some money
Speaker 1: and having to go drive forty minutes stop you from
Speaker 1: doing something that you really want to do. Like if
Speaker 1: like ask this, ask yourself how badly you want to
Speaker 1: do it? And if it's like on a scale from
Speaker 1: one to ten, it's like an eight, then that's worth it.
Speaker 1: If it's like a four, then nah. If okay, here's
Speaker 1: if I were to just answer this simply ask. I
Speaker 1: would ask yourself how badly you want to do it,
Speaker 1: and if it's at least a seven out of ten
Speaker 1: badly you want to do it, it's worth saving up
Speaker 1: money and driving out of the city for Okay, we're
Speaker 1: gonna do one final call. Someone said hobbies cost money,
Speaker 1: no matter what. Yeah, but some are more I mean
Speaker 1: we had a guy talk about race car driving. Some
Speaker 1: are more expensive than others.
Speaker 4: A Michael.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hey, what's up man? You got any thoughts
Speaker 2: about any of these emails?
Speaker 4: I was talking about the horse roller email. I think
Speaker 4: you should continue her passion.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, go ahead. Why do you any Why do
Speaker 1: you think that?
Speaker 4: Well, I mean, if you're really passionate about something, I
Speaker 4: don't think you should just stop doing it, especially if
Speaker 4: she uh really wants here, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6: Mm hmm mm hmmm.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so too. It's like, well, somebody in
Speaker 1: the chat was like, all hobbies are expensive, but I
Speaker 1: don't think, uh, you know, yeah, if it's something you
Speaker 1: really want to do that and you know, and also
Speaker 1: also everyone has their thing they like to spend a
Speaker 1: little bit of money on. For some people, it's like
Speaker 1: a fucking crack cocaine, and if yours is riding boats
Speaker 1: on I think that's pretty good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's pretty good.
Speaker 4: That's a lot better than crack cocaine. You said it best.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Do you have any hobbies?
Speaker 4: I got one from fishing from time to time.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Is fishing expensive that that requires equipment and stuff?
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, I do it pretty cheap, but sometimes
Speaker 4: it could be expensive if you know, like on the
Speaker 4: sea and everything. But I usually just state at all
Speaker 4: my streams like creeks and stuff that's not too expensive.
Speaker 2: Any other thoughts before we go?
Speaker 4: I'm no, not really, just glad to talk to talk
Speaker 4: to you.
Speaker 2: Kak, Thank you, Michael.
Speaker 1: Have a good night you too.
Speaker 2: I will do one more.
Speaker 12: All from advice Failian.
Speaker 10: Hello, Hey, what's something?
Speaker 1: Hey man, you got any thoughts about these emails?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 12: I wanted to go back to the weed thing.
Speaker 4: Is it too late?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 2: Please? Hit man?
Speaker 12: Okay, Oh my god, it's my favorite thing to do.
Speaker 12: But I've been taking a hiatus for the past year.
Speaker 4: And a half.
Speaker 2: And how has the hiatus been feeling?
Speaker 8: What's awful?
Speaker 4: Dude?
Speaker 12: Like everyone's talking about like doing it all the time,
Speaker 12: and like I think this year I'm gonna get my
Speaker 12: shit together and start doing it again.
Speaker 2: What what do you mean? What do you mean? Get
Speaker 2: your shit together and start doing it again?
Speaker 12: So like it was something that took up too much
Speaker 12: money in my life, you know, like I was spending
Speaker 12: way too much money on it, and like I gotta
Speaker 12: be an adult and like be better about my adults
Speaker 12: and stuff. You know, there's stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I feel like, I don't know, it's interesting,
Speaker 1: it's interesting. I feel like this is a common trope
Speaker 1: on the podcast. You're kind of hearing about people's relationship
Speaker 1: with weed, and some people swear by it. Some people
Speaker 1: are like, you know, uh, it's ruined my fucking life.
Speaker 1: But I mean, how in your in your hiatus, is
Speaker 1: there anything that you've like, like, has anything positive been
Speaker 1: gleaned from it?
Speaker 12: I'm gonna be honest with you, man, not really. I
Speaker 12: got diagnosed with the ad D and the aughts and
Speaker 12: all that, and I realized that actually really helped me
Speaker 12: out a lot more. I'm a lot more creative. So,
Speaker 12: like last time I got high, I came up with
Speaker 12: the idea for a YouTube channel, and I was I
Speaker 12: finally executed it.
Speaker 2: Great kick ass.
Speaker 12: I'm outside of an alien costume. By the way, like
Speaker 12: driving by waving at me.
Speaker 1: You're in an You're outside in an alien costume right now?
Speaker 12: Yeah, just to take your phone call?
Speaker 2: Why are you?
Speaker 4: Why are you?
Speaker 1: And you put on an alien costume just to call me?
Speaker 12: Yeah, man, I I wanted to come to Earth and
Speaker 12: help people out like you are, but I was gonna
Speaker 12: do like actual advice idiots.
Speaker 4: I've been.
Speaker 5: I like that.
Speaker 1: I like that idea. I hope that you uh, I hope,
Speaker 1: I hope. I hope that idea brings you much happiness.
Speaker 12: HOPI soo too, man. If you come to Seattle, I'll
Speaker 12: open up for you.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, man, you take care too, bro later
Speaker 1: all right, folks. Do I have anything else to say
Speaker 1: about anything at all? Let's see. Do I have anything
Speaker 1: else to say about anything at all? Nope, I don't think.
Speaker 1: So Everyone be good, everyone live life. Let me know
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Speaker 1: Thank you guys for listening to this thing, and uh
Speaker 1: I will I will see you all around the universe.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and I'm gonna be a fucking oh. Also
Speaker 1: another thing, I don't know. I don't know the logistics
Speaker 1: of this, so I don't want to promise anything, but
Speaker 1: if you live in Japan and uh you would come
Speaker 1: to a live show or even just like a meetup
Speaker 1: maybe I'll do something like that. If you like live
Speaker 1: in Japan, whether you're Japanese, you're like an expat or something.
Speaker 1: Uh let me let me one of the comments. If
Speaker 1: you'd come to a live show or a meetup in
Speaker 1: Tokyo U, and maybe I'll do something like that.
Speaker 2: All right, thank you all, get bless.
Speaker 1: And uh, I don't have a I don't have a
Speaker 1: I don't have another thing to say.
Speaker 3: Goes on the line.
Speaker 6: Taking your phone calls every night.
Speaker 1: There beIN kid goes to his ride.
Speaker 6: He's teaching you a loud the of your life, but
Speaker 6: he's not really an expert.