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Speaker 1: Hello, what's up? Happy New Year? Thank you again for

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Speaker 1: tuning in to the Therapy Gecko podcast. This is a

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Speaker 1: special edition of gek Mail. So gek Mail is a

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Speaker 1: version of this show that I do where I don't

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Speaker 1: take phone calls. I just read viewer emails. But last

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Speaker 1: night I came up with a with a crazy idea.

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Speaker 1: Came up with a crazy idea.

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Speaker 2: What if?

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Speaker 1: What if I somehow combined the two topics to create

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Speaker 1: gek Mail two point zero, wherein I would read emails

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Speaker 1: and then whenever I feel like it, take a phone

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Speaker 1: call and get one of the get a caller's perspective.

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Speaker 2: On the email.

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Speaker 1: It's a genius idea. I'm excited to try it out today.

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Speaker 1: And so if you're watching this live on Twitch as

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Speaker 1: I'm recording it, please, you know, feel free to call

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Speaker 1: in between emails and I may very well take your call.

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Speaker 1: I hope everyone is having a good New Year. Before

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Speaker 1: we get into the emails, I want to talk about

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Speaker 1: something exciting going on in my life.

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Speaker 2: This is cool.

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Speaker 1: So tomorrow at nine am, I am going to Japan.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to Japan and I'm gonna do a really

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Speaker 1: interesting thing there. I don't know if you all recall

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Speaker 1: an episode of this podcast I put out. I don't

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Speaker 1: even know how long ago it was, maybe it was

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Speaker 1: a few weeks or months or whatever, and it's called

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Speaker 1: I Walked Across Japan, and in it I told the

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Speaker 2: It's about two years ago.

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Speaker 1: I was in I was like IRL streaming, so I

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Speaker 1: somebody in my twitch chat was like, hey, man, I

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Speaker 1: Stay right there. I'm gonna stream snipe you. I'll come

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Speaker 1: say what's up. And everyone in my chat was like, nah, nah,

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Speaker 1: gonna show up. A guy shows up. He's sense a

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Hevery many months ago, I get a

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Speaker 1: across all of Japan.

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Speaker 1: So if you go to Spotify and you just search

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Speaker 1: And I get a call from him and he tells me, hey, man,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, we don't know where yet.

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Speaker 1: on twitch at twitch dot tv, slash lyle forever and

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Speaker 1: So I am going to start reading some emails a right.

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Speaker 1: Let's see here. Okay, let's start with Facebook wants me sad. Okay,

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Speaker 1: this is from Brackley. Subject line Facebook wants me sad.

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 1: My name is Raffle Raphael. I'm gonna say Raphael. Love

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Speaker 1: the gak mail thingy and the show blah blah. Let's

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Speaker 1: get to the story. I had a really and I

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Speaker 1: There were a few meetups, and the daily chats became infrequent.

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Speaker 1: Five years later, Facebook sent me a notification of unread

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Speaker 1: Every time I opened the FB messenger app, she appears

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Speaker 1: is replaced by someone that should be there. Her name

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Speaker 1: is Carolina, and if she is listening, tell her I

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Speaker 1: say hi. Because of Facebook, I miss her every day, Brett.

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Speaker 1: But okay, hold on, I hate this fucking what do

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Speaker 1: I said, what do you mean? If she is listening,

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Speaker 1: tell her how you say hi? You fucking have her

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Speaker 1: on Facebook? Tell her you say hi? Tell her you

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Speaker 2: What are you doing? What do you mean?

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Speaker 1: Tell her you what do you mean? If she this

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Speaker 2: Why don't you just message her? Here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something I feel for you. You

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Speaker 1: You got faked out, that maybe this girl reached out

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Speaker 1: to you and that hurt. But why the fund dude,

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Speaker 1: if you want to talk. I don't understand the conflict

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Speaker 1: why don't you just reach out? I don't understand this

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Speaker 1: Then it says, PS, I am the truck driver from Poland.

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Speaker 1: You met at the Manchester show. It was awesome. Oh

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Speaker 1: thanks man? Yeah, dude, why don't you why I'm so confused.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you just reach out to her and and

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Speaker 1: with this person. Her name is Carolina. You clearly like

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Speaker 1: message her on Facebook? That's what Facebook is for, It's

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Speaker 1: told me a movie. You reached out, but I don't

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Speaker 1: This is from Elias subject line I want to buy

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Speaker 1: to google what a budge is because I don't Oh, Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Why don't you get like a chinchilla, or like a

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling good about this gak mail today.

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Speaker 1: This is from Victor, subject line one of your callers

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Speaker 1: changed my life, yo, GHEK fun story for you. I

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Speaker 1: met a girl on Facebook dating in June.

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Speaker 1: me share this. GEK much love, Vivian. Well, interesting, huh interesting? Interesting?

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Speaker 1: Subject This is from cl Frost. Subject line father issue. Hello, sir, ma'am,

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Speaker 1: my name is Max parentheses, don't say my name. I

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Speaker 1: I am having some troubles with my dad as of recently.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this is a Mexican dad, so you

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Speaker 1: I just want some sort of validation, I guess I know.

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Speaker 1: Let me speak some fucking let me let me let

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Speaker 1: me speak some uh, some motivational jizz in your ear

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Speaker 1: all right. You don't need anyone's permission to be proud

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Speaker 2: You never have to do that ever.

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Speaker 1: You only fucking validate, like you know, look, check in,

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Speaker 2: I think that's good. I think that grounds you in reality.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to think you're like the hot shit

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Speaker 1: You know, you don't need your dad to validate you. You

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Speaker 1: You can just be proud of yourself. Okay. This is

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Speaker 1: from hot Dog, a subject line name change surgery. Hello, Lyle,

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Speaker 1: Please call me hot Dog if you read this email

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Speaker 1: good terms but not close. I see him maybe once

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Speaker 1: late twenties. Love the show. Been watching for a couple

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Speaker 1: of years. You bring great perspective. Thanks hot Dog. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so this is Do you think your dad is going

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Speaker 1: Both my mom and me and my dad reconnected. My childhood, wrong,

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Speaker 1: per year. Oh so you know, bro, whatever, Look, here's

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Speaker 1: like a people pleasing thing. Like you don't want to

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Speaker 2: I get it.

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Speaker 1: I get it. I get it. And then you and

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Speaker 1: I get it.

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Speaker 2: Then you guys can have it.

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Speaker 1: Then if he does that, then you guys can have

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Speaker 1: to take a quick phone call on this. If you're

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Speaker 1: give me a call all from Noah?

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Yo, Noah? What's up?

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Speaker 6: What's going on?

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Speaker 3: Yo?

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Speaker 2: Noah?

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Speaker 4: Noah?

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Speaker 2: Can you hear? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Noah, what's up? What do you What do you think

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Speaker 1: about these emails?

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Speaker 2: What do you got?

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Speaker 3: Bro?

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Speaker 7: I'm going to be real with you. I just tuned

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Speaker 1: All right, all right, We're gonna take another call from.

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Speaker 2: Hey, what's up? Can you hear me? Are you there?

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Speaker 3: I am here?

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Speaker 2: Well? What you got for me? You have thoughts on

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Speaker 3: All right? All right? Mister Lyle, mister, I have more

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Speaker 3: more than thoughts for these, for these emails all right now.

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Speaker 3: On the on the one, on the one that we

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Speaker 3: just listened to, those about like the dad taking and

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Speaker 3: that ship. Man, look, look I agree with like, you've

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Speaker 3: I'm saying. It's got to be like man, Look, I've

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Speaker 3: But no, not not not not much can go from there,

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Speaker 1: Okay, So you said you've been there before like this,

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Speaker 1: like do you have a kid.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm a kid.

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Speaker 4: I'm twenty.

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Speaker 3: No, No, I'm just this is just like outside looking

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Speaker 3: in mister Lyle.

441
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Speaker 1: Oh sure sure, sure, sure, sure, Yeah, no, I agree,

442
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:01,600
Speaker 1: I agree. I think he's just gonna kind of take

443
00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:02,159
Speaker 1: the l on it.

444
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:09,119
Speaker 3: Yeah. No, I'm sorry, Like I've lost all my thoughts.

445
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 3: Ever since I you answered the phone, I've been trying

446
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:13,240
Speaker 3: to get in here for for a while mister.

447
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:16,000
Speaker 2: Hyle, do you have any other thoughts on the emails?

448
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:19,400
Speaker 3: I thought I thought on the on the oh oh

449
00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 3: my god, oh yeah I'm the one. Uh I'm the

450
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 3: one where the guy was talking about, oh I had

451
00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:27,320
Speaker 3: to lose my girlfriend who's my girlfriend? To find who

452
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:29,680
Speaker 3: I am? And and and now I'm trans I mean

453
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 3: like I get that.

454
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:35,640
Speaker 1: I get that, Oh god, where's this where's this gun?

455
00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:41,679
Speaker 3: But like but like but like why why did he

456
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:43,680
Speaker 3: like lock in and say like he had to turn

457
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:45,840
Speaker 3: into a girl? Like you know, he switched sides, you know,

458
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:49,399
Speaker 3: like after he was like where did that come from?

459
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:52,480
Speaker 1: What do you talk about?

460
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 3: Yeah? Because because he was just like he was like,

461
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:58,760
Speaker 3: oh I lost I lost my girlfriend and my girlfriend

462
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:01,320
Speaker 3: helped me like find myself and then he like switched sides.

463
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 3: He said he was transitioning, did he not? Yeah? Wait?

464
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Speaker 2: What do you know? What do you not get about that?

465
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 3: I mean like like I'm just like, where did that

466
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 3: come from? I mean like I can accept this, but

467
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:14,960
Speaker 3: like we're I don't.

468
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:19,920
Speaker 1: I think, well, I think they're just I don't. Okay, okay, okay,

469
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Speaker 1: if you're if you're asking, how is this person transitioning

470
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,800
Speaker 1: related to their relationship that they had with with uh

471
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:34,439
Speaker 1: their ex girlfriends. I actually kind of don't know, but

472
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,439
Speaker 1: that's what they're telling me, maybe something about I don't know,

473
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 1: maybe I don't know, it's it's I guess it's just

474
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Speaker 1: part of like the journey of how they discovered it.

475
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't that like that. That that really threw

476
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 3: me for a loop. That really that that through me,

477
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 3: that through me like all the way to the left.

478
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Speaker 3: I didn't know. I didn't know where that came from.

479
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 3: Like I don't know what kind of heartbreak you gotta

480
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 3: go through, you know, I don't know what kind of

481
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:08,399
Speaker 3: depressions you went through or she now that just that

482
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Speaker 3: was just kind of crazy miss you.

483
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Speaker 1: While I don't know, I guess I guess they just like, uh, yeah,

484
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I guess it was just part of

485
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 1: the part of the job. Let me, I don't know,

486
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 1: let me reread that email. Where is it at?

487
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Speaker 2: Yeah, No, they did this. This person did not.

488
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Speaker 1: Particularly uh go into detail as to how they were related.

489
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:37,880
Speaker 1: But I think I think that I think the idea

490
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 1: is that this relationship, uh they say, I did a

491
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Speaker 1: lot of soul searching and realized it wasn't the person

492
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Speaker 1: I thought.

493
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Speaker 2: I was, and so I think this.

494
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Speaker 1: I think it was just like something where like a

495
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Speaker 1: major life event or or like the ending of a

496
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Speaker 1: relationship causes one to do soul searching and then they

497
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Speaker 1: come up with conclusions.

498
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Speaker 2: As a result of their soul searching.

499
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Speaker 3: I would say, so it was definitely the so searching part.

500
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Speaker 3: I don't know. That must have been. That must have

501
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,880
Speaker 3: been a crazy journey, all right. That that that is insane.

502
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

503
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Speaker 8: All right? Name?

504
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Speaker 3: Oh, oh my god, my name is double love Jess.

505
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 3: Can you say that for me?

506
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 1: Double Love Jess. Is there anything else you want to

507
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 1: say to the people?

508
00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 3: Come on, you gotta say double all right?

509
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 1: All right, I'm done with this person. Okay, I'll take

510
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:30,399
Speaker 1: another all right, I'll take another call. Actually, no, let

511
00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:32,119
Speaker 1: me read. Let me read another email first, and then

512
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 1: I'll take another call.

513
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:34,400
Speaker 3: All right.

514
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: Uh, this is from Stella. Subject line I got hit

515
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 1: by a car on the way to your show plus

516
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Speaker 1: Purpose in Life. Hi, Lyle, I'm Stella and have been

517
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:49,160
Speaker 1: a huge fan for years. I was probably the first

518
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,160
Speaker 1: person to buy your twenty twenty four San Francisco tickets

519
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 1: because I was so excited. On the day of I

520
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 1: was riding my motorcycle to the venue Holy Shit, and

521
00:26:57,720 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 1: got hit by a hit and run drive six blocks

522
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:04,160
Speaker 1: from the venue. My left shoulder took months to heal,

523
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:07,200
Speaker 1: but luckily it's ninety nine percent healed now. I also

524
00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 1: got some long term minor nerve damage on my left leg,

525
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 1: but nothing that interferes with my life. So anyways, I

526
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 1: was never able to see you live, and I'm super

527
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 1: excited for the next opportunity. Man, that's I don't know.

528
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 1: Man riding a motorcycle. They sound like a grandpapa. Yeah,

529
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:28,120
Speaker 1: riding a motorcycle is crazy. I recently turned twenty five,

530
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 1: and I'm now very well settled into adult life. However,

531
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Speaker 1: sometimes I wonder whether or not I am too hedonistic

532
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:37,679
Speaker 1: and what my purpose in life should be. I am

533
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 1: an only child, don't talk to my parents, don't know

534
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: my extended family, and immigrated to the US from New

535
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 1: Zealand in twenty seventeen. I'm happy with my current job,

536
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 1: but I don't think my job brings significant purpose or meaning.

537
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:52,679
Speaker 1: I don't want to have children. I spend most of

538
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 1: my time on hedonistic activities, such as spending time with friends.

539
00:27:57,359 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 1: Hold on, okay, Stella, I don't think you understand. I

540
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 1: don't think you know what the word hedonism means. I

541
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 1: don't know if I would put I mean, I don't know.

542
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,960
Speaker 1: If you're doing cocaine with your friends and you know

543
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 1: everyone's blowing each other, then yeah, sure that's hedonistic. But

544
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 1: I don't think that purely spending time with your friends

545
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:22,360
Speaker 1: is hedonistic. Okay, spending time with my friends, traveling and

546
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:23,680
Speaker 1: investing in hobbies.

547
00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 2: I don't think you know what hedonist. I don't like Stella.

548
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 1: I I feel bad for Stella because she I think

549
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: the person who wrote this email lives in a world

550
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Speaker 1: where anything that is not working is considered hedonism.

551
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 2: I think I think, yeah, uh.

552
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 1: We're Hedonism is like doing Hedonism is like gluttonous excess

553
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:57,719
Speaker 1: and like drugs and taco bell and porn. You know,

554
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: I mean spending time with friends playing Jenga and traveling

555
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: and you know, sewing or whatever.

556
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's hedonism. I know this sounds great.

557
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:10,760
Speaker 1: On the surface, but sometimes I feel like my life

558
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 1: is meaningless because I will never raise kids or build

559
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 1: a family, and I'm not sure if there's a career

560
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 1: where I can derive purpose and meaning from. What do

561
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 1: you think about hedonistic lifestyles and deriving meeting from them,

562
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 1: especially for people with essentially no family. Thanks for the

563
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 1: podcast and for being an awesome person. Each new episode

564
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 1: brings a smile to my face.

565
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 2: Thank you.

566
00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: Still I listening to this podcast is maybe a little hedonistic.

567
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 1: But other than that, you know what I'm I'm gonna

568
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 1: assume that you don't think. I'm gonna assume you just

569
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 1: don't know what hedonism means, and maybe you're using it

570
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 1: to mean something else, Just like, what do I think

571
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 1: about I mean, you're only twenty five. Let's see, I'm

572
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 1: an only child and talk to my parents. I do

573
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: not want to have children. I feel like my life

574
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 1: is meaningless because I will never raise kids or build

575
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 1: a family, and I'm not sure if there's a career

576
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 1: I can drive purpose of meaning from. Well, here's the thing, dude,

577
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:09,480
Speaker 1: is you can decide.

578
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 2: Well, look, you.

579
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Speaker 1: First of all is you don't really know if you're

580
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 1: ever gonna raise kids or build a family, because your

581
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 1: opinions on these things could easily change if you meet

582
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 1: the right person, or if your perspective changes as a

583
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: result of something over the years. I mean, you could

584
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:38,239
Speaker 1: decide five six ten years from now that you know

585
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: you do want to raise a family, you do want

586
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Speaker 1: to do this other thing, and so there's that I

587
00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm a big I'm a big never say

588
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: never guy on that one. But also when it comes

589
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 1: to like meaning in life, it's like, bro, there's no

590
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 1: there's no real rules. I mean, don't die, don't do

591
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 1: anything eagle, don't die, don't kill anyone, don't don't do

592
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 1: anything fucked up. But that there's really no rules, so

593
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: you can decide what brings you meaning. You know, if

594
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 1: you like motorcycling and you like how you feel when

595
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 1: you know your hair is blown through the wind and

596
00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 1: you get hit by a car, then that can be

597
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 1: your thing. You know, if you like hanging out with

598
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 1: your friends and that gives you meeting, you like traveling

599
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 1: and that gives you meaning, you get to decide that's

600
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 1: the thing is like again again is kind of similar

601
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: to the guy with his dad. It's like, nobody gives

602
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,160
Speaker 1: you permission to fucking do anything. You get to decide

603
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 1: what is meaningful, so you don't have to ask for

604
00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 1: permission from other people on what's meaningful. But also I

605
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 1: wouldn't I wouldn't self impose any rules upon you, and

606
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:55,800
Speaker 1: I wouldn't self impose any ideas that like, you'll never

607
00:31:55,920 --> 00:32:00,120
Speaker 1: derive purpose from a family or a career, and that

608
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: there's nothing like I like you like you're getting into

609
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 1: a little like doom or territory. I think in terms

610
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 1: of like deciding that there's nothing out there that will

611
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 1: give you purpose. Maybe that's not what you're saying. Maybe I'm,

612
00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 1: maybe I'm I'm. But also these things that you the

613
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: word hedonistic, I'm gonna like the hanging out with your

614
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 1: friends and traveling and investing in hobbies and flying airplanes,

615
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 1: as you say, are all great things to derive meaning from.

616
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 1: And if you're feeling guilty because the things that give

617
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 1: you meaning are not necessarily the things that you see

618
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 1: out in society or what giving give other people meaning,

619
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 1: just remember that there's no fucking rules and you don't

620
00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 1: have to kind of subscribe to anyone else's idea of

621
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 1: what's meaningful or not. I'm sorry you got hit by

622
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 1: a car on the way to my show. Let's take

623
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 1: it all right, there's a caller. Let's take a.

624
00:32:56,040 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 7: Call from Kara.

625
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, hey Caroa, what do you think of these emails?

626
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Speaker 9: Well, for the person talking about the hedonistic lifestyle, even

627
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:17,959
Speaker 9: though what they're saying it's again not hedonistic or anything

628
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 9: like that. If you wanted to put some kind of

629
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 9: purpose in your life, why wouldn't you want to create

630
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 9: spaces where people can enjoy themselves, like even just you know,

631
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 9: simply like oh, making a board a place for people

632
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 9: to play board games, or a night for people to

633
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 9: do trivia, or a place to people to do weird

634
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 9: dances in the a room, you know what I mean.

635
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. I love that.

636
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 1: I love that that's a great way to find meaning

637
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: because yeah, I mean, this person clearly they because I

638
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 1: think this person like they're talking about not wanting to

639
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 1: raise kids or build a family, but they're like trying

640
00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: to I think still feel like connected to other people

641
00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: in a deep, meaningful way. And so yeah, I think

642
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 1: with the stuff you're talking about, like trying to create

643
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 1: a community that they can feel connected with, not necessarily

644
00:34:07,880 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 1: like kids or a family, but just like a community space,

645
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 1: I think that's a great idea.

646
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 9: Yeah, it feels richundon almost because it's kind of the

647
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 9: message that you kind of send out a lot in

648
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,160
Speaker 9: a lot of your streams that I'll listen to. But

649
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:25,839
Speaker 9: you know, not an original concept at all. If you're

650
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 9: searching for a meeting and you have people around you,

651
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 9: you should look at the other people around you and

652
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 9: find meaning in them and the space and the thing,

653
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 9: the memories you make with them.

654
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 2: Love it. What's your name again, Tarah?

655
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Speaker 1: Tare any of the other emails you have any comments on?

656
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Speaker 9: I didn't hear earlier, so I don't have so much

657
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Speaker 9: to say a.

658
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Speaker 2: Lot, Thank you, Tara.

659
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Speaker 1: Thanks all right, let's see here.

660
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Speaker 2: All right?

661
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:07,239
Speaker 1: This is from Elle, subject line trying to transform my

662
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 1: life in twenty twenty five. Hey Gek, I'm Ellie from

663
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 1: the UK. I just want to say thank you for

664
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 1: your podcast. They've really helped my perspective and also have

665
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: gotten me through tons of long car journeys. I think

666
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 1: transform is a bit of an exaggeration, but in twenty

667
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:24,320
Speaker 1: twenty five, I'm hoping to change a few things. Stop

668
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 1: drinking alcohol so often, completely, quit nicotine, get my own

669
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 1: place in a cozy cottage slash apartment, and possibly even

670
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 1: find a relationship. I'm a really chill person, so I

671
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 1: just want to find another chill person who's gentle and

672
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 1: kind hearted. It's been difficult in twenty twenty four, but

673
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:42,919
Speaker 1: also very transformative. So that's a positive. So please wish

674
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 1: me luck and any advice would be great. I don't

675
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:50,400
Speaker 1: know if I have any advice for you. I'm trying

676
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 1: to change. I'm trying to transform my life in twenty

677
00:35:55,480 --> 00:36:02,800
Speaker 1: twenty five as well. Here stop drinking alcohol so often

678
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 1: and quit nicotine. Any advice, don't pick I don't know,

679
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:11,840
Speaker 1: pick up something like running, pick up a better hobby.

680
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: I suppose that's such shitty advice. I'm gonna, okay, I'm

681
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 1: gonna skip the I'm gonna skip the advice, but I'm

682
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 1: gonna wish you luck, Allie, I'm gonna wish you luck.

683
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 2: I don't, I don't. You know what is funny.

684
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:28,720
Speaker 1: You know what sucks for me about doing this podcast

685
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 1: a lot of times is I don't I really, really,

686
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 1: really really really I I can I less and less

687
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,440
Speaker 1: and less feel as though I can offer advice as

688
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 1: much as I can offer commiseration.

689
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? You guys know what I mean.

690
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 1: Like, I don't know if I knew what to do,

691
00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have I don't think I would be who

692
00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:53,279
Speaker 1: I was who I am. You know, I only I

693
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:56,720
Speaker 1: only feel like I can commiserate these days, not advise

694
00:36:56,840 --> 00:37:00,200
Speaker 1: as much, but I can. I commiserate with you. I

695
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:02,840
Speaker 1: wish you luck on your journey. All right, this is

696
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 1: from Jesse hih Lyle. I love your content and I

697
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:13,360
Speaker 1: hope you come to Florida soon. Anyways, I recently left

698
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 1: my cult parentheses sorority, and I feel so free. I

699
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 1: know calling it a cult seems extreme, but you will

700
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 1: understand why. Here are some of the reasons why I

701
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 1: left my sorority. I was uncomfortable with the concept of rituals.

702
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 1: These took place in a church and we would wear

703
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 1: robes and stoles. In these rituals, we would have to

704
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: hold hands while saying things from the ritual book in sync.

705
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 1: We would also have to sing in a circle and bow.

706
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 1: Racism was also a big factor. I am Latina and

707
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 1: they constantly sped out micro aggressions and were openly racist.

708
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:56,480
Speaker 1: They went as far as to edit my skin in

709
00:37:56,520 --> 00:38:00,640
Speaker 1: photos to look five shades darker to make me a

710
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:04,719
Speaker 1: diversity pick. They were also really strict on what we

711
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:08,360
Speaker 1: could wear during rush. Everything had to be name brand

712
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:11,080
Speaker 1: head to toe, and everything down to our socks had

713
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:13,760
Speaker 1: to be approved if the girl didn't like how something

714
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: fit you, you would have to buy a new outfit.

715
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,800
Speaker 1: I understand address code, but I've seen girls spend thousands

716
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 1: of dollars on a tire for Rush, and that is insane.

717
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:26,279
Speaker 1: Without much detail, these girls are straight up bullies. They

718
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 1: turned a guy from my school into an LOL cow.

719
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 1: They would pretend to be friends like Slash romantically interested

720
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 1: in him, just to make fun of him in.

721
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 2: The group chat.

722
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:40,719
Speaker 1: The whole school played along. I constantly told him this

723
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 1: was not right, and they ignored me. He ended up

724
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 1: crashing out and was expelled and taken to a mental hospital.

725
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 1: After his release, he was arrested on campus for having

726
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:54,800
Speaker 1: a weapon to fucking Jesus Christ.

727
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 4: Ugh.

728
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,800
Speaker 1: My final straw was that after my dog died, I

729
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 1: was mourning and I was not talking or moving for

730
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,719
Speaker 1: a while. The day my family had to pick up

731
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 1: his ashes, I was not able to go because my

732
00:39:09,719 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 1: sorority threatened to find me if I took the day off.

733
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 1: We had a four hour long Rush meeting and I

734
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 1: was forced to sit there and try not to cry

735
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:21,319
Speaker 1: the whole time. They were incredibly inconsiderate of what I

736
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 1: was going through, and I did not want to be

737
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 1: around them anymore, and so I left. I really wish

738
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 1: I left months ago, but college is actually pretty lonely,

739
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 1: so I stuck it out until I couldn't anymore.

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00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 2: Thanks for reading and happy New Year.

741
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 1: Good good for you, Good for you, Jesse, good for you. Yeah,

742
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 1: I fucking look, here's the thing.

743
00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 2: Here's the thing. So I actually.

744
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:47,040
Speaker 1: Remember when I was a freshman in college, I rushed

745
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: a fraternity and it was okay.

746
00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:54,800
Speaker 2: But I just.

747
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 5: Feel like there's some people out there who like greek

748
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:04,479
Speaker 5: life and fraternities and sororities is like super super for them,

749
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 5: Like they like that shit it, you know, it gives

750
00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:11,799
Speaker 5: them like automatic community, and you know they're really into

751
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:15,480
Speaker 5: partying and getting fucked up and like the brotherhood of

752
00:40:15,520 --> 00:40:16,439
Speaker 5: it and all that shit.

753
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:18,440
Speaker 2: And if it's for you, then God bless you.

754
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 1: But I think there's another group of people where, like

755
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 1: like people who like, you know, going into college as

756
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 1: a freshman, it's such a like terrifying thing because you

757
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:31,720
Speaker 1: have nothing to grab onto, especially if you're going there alone,

758
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:35,240
Speaker 1: you don't know anyone, and it's it's an attractive idea

759
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 1: to go join greek life and you automatically have all

760
00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: these friends, but you know, maybe it's not necessarily for you,

761
00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 1: and you kind of have to like take a step

762
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:51,759
Speaker 1: back and figure out how you're gonna make your community.

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00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 1: I mean, so, I yeah, so I rush to this fraternity,

764
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 1: but I just kind of didn't stick with it, and

765
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 1: I never like really like signed up, heard paid the

766
00:41:00,760 --> 00:41:03,360
Speaker 1: dues or whatever the fuck. And uh, you know, eventually

767
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:08,759
Speaker 1: I got into I started writing on the look on

768
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:13,240
Speaker 1: the like college comedy show, and uh, I met most

769
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 1: of my friends doing that, and college for me didn't

770
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 1: really get good until I started doing that. And so

771
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:23,839
Speaker 1: I don't know, it just kind of takes a little

772
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:29,319
Speaker 1: while to like figure out what your community is, you know.

773
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 1: And yeah, yeah, I don't know. It's just such a

774
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:37,440
Speaker 1: I don't like the rigidity of the Greek life. I

775
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: fucking hate rules, and I hate like you have to

776
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: like be some guy's bitch, like like like you have

777
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 1: to be a pledge and you have to like go

778
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:48,280
Speaker 1: fetch cigarettes for a dude and like fuck a horse

779
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:49,279
Speaker 1: or whatever they make you do.

780
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 2: And uh, I don't know.

781
00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 1: I think I don't think you should have to fuck

782
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:53,920
Speaker 1: a horse to make friends.

783
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 2: But that's just me. Oh, we got a call coming in.

784
00:41:58,880 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 2: Let's see.

785
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 1: Okay, we had a all coming in and then it

786
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 1: got uh fucked up? Okay, hold on, all right, all right,

787
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:08,759
Speaker 1: maybe we get another call coming in.

788
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:13,839
Speaker 2: Let's see, uh okay, here we go.

789
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 1: No, well, hello, hello, Hey, what's up?

790
00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:25,839
Speaker 3: Hello? Hey?

791
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:29,319
Speaker 7: Nothing much, just chilling, uh, hanging out?

792
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 4: How are you?

793
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 5: No?

794
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:32,520
Speaker 2: What do you You got any thoughts about these emails?

795
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 4: Yeah?

796
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 7: So I'm the fraternity one. So I have a personal

797
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 7: connection with this because I was in a fraternity in

798
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:42,480
Speaker 7: college as well. It was a music fraternity though I

799
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 7: was a music major, and so everyone who was in

800
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 7: the fraternity was also a musician. So that was a

801
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 7: really cool environment. And then, like you know, the stuff

802
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 7: we went through that you're talking about, like the cliche

803
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 7: like frat thro stuff, Like I never experienced that. Heard

804
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:03,440
Speaker 7: stories from like back the day, But in my experience,

805
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:06,799
Speaker 7: I never was treated or forced to do things I

806
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 7: didn't want to do. My big brother just really liked

807
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 7: to go partnering, which was fine.

808
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:16,879
Speaker 1: Well, was this was this like a co ed frad

809
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 1: or is this like a like an all boys thread?

810
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 7: It was an all boys friend. We had like a

811
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:27,399
Speaker 7: sister or sorority where we would do events together. But

812
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:29,840
Speaker 7: one of the really cool things about this fraternity is

813
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 7: because it's based around music. We have this whole song

814
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:35,279
Speaker 7: book and we'd memorize these songs and would go out

815
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:38,399
Speaker 7: to the community and do stuff. Actually ended up playing

816
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 7: like a bluegret no uh ska band because of it.

817
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 7: That was really cool.

818
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:43,280
Speaker 3: Mm.

819
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:46,080
Speaker 1: So they didn't like make you put a clarinet up

820
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 1: your ass or any of that stuff.

821
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:51,359
Speaker 7: Oh fuck now fuck No. I did have a brother though,

822
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:53,640
Speaker 7: who got really fucked up on a truth or dare

823
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:55,799
Speaker 7: and ended up booping a beer, but that was his

824
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 7: own choice.

825
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:57,760
Speaker 10: Mm hmmm.

826
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 1: So did you ever consider joining like like a real

827
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 1: you know, and I mean like like one of the

828
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 1: you know, more traditional Greek life things.

829
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 6: Yeah, I did.

830
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 7: I got asked to come out to a rush a

831
00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 7: couple of times. I just didn't really appeal to me

832
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 7: in the same way like the music stuff did. It was,

833
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 7: you know, music's just a closer knit thing. And the

834
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 7: guys in the fraternity themselves were really active in music community,

835
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 7: so like they were the ones planning all the house

836
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:32,880
Speaker 7: shows in the city, getting the bands to come in,

837
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 7: helping you know, manage that, and so getting to be

838
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 7: a part of that process was really unique and cool

839
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 7: that I don't think I would have gotten without joining

840
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 7: the opportunity.

841
00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 1: Nice nice, Yeah, Well, I feel like those like specialized fraternity,

842
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:49,720
Speaker 1: like a music one, or like there's like a business fraternity.

843
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:53,399
Speaker 1: Like the specialized fraternities where it's like we actually are

844
00:44:53,400 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 1: here to like do a certain thing and not just

845
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 1: like get fucked up all the time.

846
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:58,320
Speaker 2: I feel like those are.

847
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:02,720
Speaker 1: Those seem like they're more like your traditional frants.

848
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:07,439
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and like the and the really cool

849
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:09,239
Speaker 7: thing I appreciate about that, You know, what you're talking

850
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:11,520
Speaker 7: about the club is that we would get people that,

851
00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 7: you know, they weren't music majors, they weren't anything like that,

852
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 7: but say they played the guitar for a little bit,

853
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 7: or they we had one guy because we had to

854
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:22,760
Speaker 7: do this like selection process where people had to show

855
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 7: like what music meant to them or like they would

856
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 7: play something, perform something. We had a brother, a guy

857
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 7: who's a really a friend of mine, bringing his record

858
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 7: collection and just kind of go through each record and

859
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 7: kind of talk about why he appreciated and why he

860
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:40,680
Speaker 7: listened to them, why you brought it in?

861
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:41,880
Speaker 2: Cool?

862
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:47,839
Speaker 7: Yeah, it was, so what what was your experience with opportunity,

863
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 7: like when you went rushing, Like I'm guessing you went

864
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 7: to a couple like house parties on frant Row or whatever.

865
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 7: But like that pushed away for you.

866
00:45:56,320 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 1: I met like one guy and we kind of became friends.

867
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:01,800
Speaker 1: But I just just like never they they kind of

868
00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 1: I don't know, I just didn't like the vibe. I

869
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:07,440
Speaker 1: wish I had a funny story or something like that,

870
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:09,759
Speaker 1: but I kind of gave my my little spiel and

871
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:14,480
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not. Yeah, it wasn't. It just wasn't

872
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:16,920
Speaker 1: for me. But uh, you know, you find your friends.

873
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 1: That's the thing is you kind of you go to

874
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:20,880
Speaker 1: you go to school. You gotta give like an effort

875
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 1: forth to find your friends, and you gotta have a

876
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 1: thing like having like comedy or music. It's great to

877
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:27,920
Speaker 1: have a thing, you know, and then you can kind

878
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:30,240
Speaker 1: of find people around it. What's your name again?

879
00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 3: No?

880
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 1: No, I thank you for your thoughtful commentary on that email.

881
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 1: Have a good rest of the day.

882
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 7: Hey, real you too, thank you.

883
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:42,359
Speaker 1: Let's see, I'll take one more. I'll take another call

884
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 1: from here.

885
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 10: India.

886
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:53,279
Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hi India. You got any thoughts on these emails?

887
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 10: Yeah? I don't really have any thoughts on the first

888
00:46:57,680 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 10: one because I was never in the trats eternity scene

889
00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 10: of any of them. Nah. I think like for the

890
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 10: the one where the girl is going to be like

891
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 10: quitting nicotine and like all of the resolutions and stuff, yeah.

892
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 1: Please, I bailed out on advice for that one. So

893
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:26,880
Speaker 1: if you could give this girl something that would be great. Yeah.

894
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:27,560
Speaker 9: Absolutely.

895
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 10: I think situations like that it's it's maybe like a

896
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 10: form of like addiction that has to be carefully monitored.

897
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 10: Like I have a friend that's also going through that,

898
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:46,280
Speaker 10: like trying to quit like nicotine and weed after smoking

899
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:48,839
Speaker 10: every day since she was like fifteen, But like it's

900
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:53,280
Speaker 10: a feat and like for situations like that, you really,

901
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 10: like I think it's really easy to give up when

902
00:47:58,200 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 10: you try and look at like the whole picture of

903
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 10: and be like, god, when am I going to ever

904
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:05,719
Speaker 10: stop like smoking? But it's like day to day and

905
00:48:05,840 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 10: like hour to hour, Like what are activities you can

906
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:14,279
Speaker 10: replace with like smoking weed or like having nicotine in

907
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:17,480
Speaker 10: your life? And like I know that like those activities

908
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:21,560
Speaker 10: aren't gonna have the same like fix that like smoking does,

909
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:24,240
Speaker 10: but it at least like kind of starts to rewire

910
00:48:24,280 --> 00:48:29,120
Speaker 10: your brain to figure out, like I don't know, filling

911
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 10: your time in different ways? Does that make sense?

912
00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:32,919
Speaker 2: Yeah?

913
00:48:32,960 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 1: Have you ever had an addiction that you've replaced with

914
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 1: something more positive?

915
00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:45,560
Speaker 10: God? Not necessarily that That's why it's hard. I can't

916
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 10: like have any like really personal advice with it. Sure,

917
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 10: but like I don't know, I have like things that

918
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 10: I've gotten really into, and like I don't know if

919
00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:01,200
Speaker 10: it has to do with mental health and stuff. I

920
00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 10: think it's like, really you have to be really deliberate

921
00:49:05,680 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 10: with like how you spend your day because you could

922
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:10,400
Speaker 10: just like bedrot for a week, or you could just

923
00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:12,560
Speaker 10: be like, fucking I'm gonna like go on a ten

924
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:15,520
Speaker 10: minute walk. But that takes a lot of willpower. Like

925
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 10: that's hard. But like creating that routine is so fucking hard.

926
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:22,000
Speaker 10: But once you're doing it, it's like, Okay, I can

927
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:22,319
Speaker 10: do this.

928
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:22,880
Speaker 4: You know.

929
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:26,680
Speaker 2: Hey, thanks for sharing India. I'm glad. Yeah, I'm glad.

930
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 1: I'm glad you could chime in on that one because

931
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:30,839
Speaker 1: I did kind of bail out on it.

932
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 2: But I think everything is saying is good.

933
00:49:33,760 --> 00:49:36,920
Speaker 10: Yeah, it's it's it's personalized. It's a hard one. It

934
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:38,239
Speaker 10: makes sense that you're bailed out.

935
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:40,280
Speaker 2: I thank you India.

936
00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 10: Yeah, of course I have a good one.

937
00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:51,320
Speaker 1: By Okay, this is from one subject line. I've got

938
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 1: the N word pass and I'm white. Uh okay, So

939
00:49:56,640 --> 00:50:00,799
Speaker 1: for context, I grew up and I'm in South Africa

940
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:03,880
Speaker 1: listening to a whole bunch of American hip hop and

941
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 1: rap from a young age. Even at school, both primary

942
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 1: and high school, I would use the N word in

943
00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:15,200
Speaker 1: normal conversation. Amongst most of my guy friends. We were

944
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:18,080
Speaker 1: never taught that the N word is a word solely

945
00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:21,200
Speaker 1: that African Americans use, and that's saying it is a

946
00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:25,160
Speaker 1: no no if you are another race parentheses, unless you've

947
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:26,320
Speaker 1: been given the pass.

948
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:26,920
Speaker 2: Lol.

949
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 1: I and many of my friends would throw around the

950
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:43,040
Speaker 1: word like it's an old friend. Are you insane? My friend?

951
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:47,680
Speaker 1: You just referred to the N word as an old friend.

952
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 1: That's so funny, And neither of us felt any guilt,

953
00:50:53,560 --> 00:50:56,799
Speaker 1: and not one of my dark colored homies taught us

954
00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:59,879
Speaker 1: to stop using it. We were all familiar with how

955
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 1: how bad the word is due to its cultural and

956
00:51:02,920 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 1: historical significance in America and among African Americans, but neither

957
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:10,799
Speaker 1: one of us grew up being told not to use it.

958
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 1: Or being reprimanded from it. By the way, the province

959
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:19,280
Speaker 1: has an eighty two percent Zulu population and a seven

960
00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:22,719
Speaker 1: percent white population. So not only were most of my

961
00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:28,440
Speaker 1: friends black are exposure rap, American culture was always through music,

962
00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:33,080
Speaker 1: where most words were used in a positive homie connotation.

963
00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 1: I still use the word today amongst most of my friends,

964
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:41,040
Speaker 1: and although I will never use the term with strangers

965
00:51:41,600 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 1: when I'm overseas, I won't stop using it because why

966
00:51:44,719 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 1: should I stop using a term that is only contextual

967
00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 1: amongst Americans. It was American media which taught me to

968
00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:54,520
Speaker 1: call my homies my eye. He actually wrote, I'm like

969
00:51:54,560 --> 00:51:56,040
Speaker 1: you almost he almost got me to say it.

970
00:51:57,480 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 2: You wrote it.

971
00:51:58,560 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 1: You give it, you know, give me some you know what.

972
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 1: I'm a little pissed off at you want, because I'm

973
00:52:03,160 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: just reading this email. You gotta put a dot dot

974
00:52:06,239 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 1: dot or so. You gotta give me something to look ahead.

975
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:11,280
Speaker 1: You know, you gotta warn me or else I'm gonna

976
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:17,560
Speaker 1: you know, all right, you said I've never used it

977
00:52:17,600 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 1: with strangers or when I'm overseas, I mean, fucking I'm like,

978
00:52:25,040 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 1: I don't know, yeah, I mean, probably don't use it

979
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:35,799
Speaker 1: overseas or with strangers. Or else they might get mad

980
00:52:35,840 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 1: at you. I don't know where in South America do you?

981
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 1: You're in the What is I'm gonna sound like an idiot?

982
00:52:45,080 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 2: What is Zulu?

983
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:46,680
Speaker 5: Is that?

984
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:48,840
Speaker 1: Uh?

985
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 2: Uh?

986
00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:58,239
Speaker 1: Let's see? Okay, yeah, uh, I you know what.

987
00:52:58,280 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 2: Look here's the thing. Look, I'm not I'm not. I'm

988
00:53:01,640 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 2: really truly.

989
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:05,680
Speaker 1: Not one to tell people. Uh, you know, Look, do

990
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,239
Speaker 1: whatever you want with your look.

991
00:53:07,320 --> 00:53:11,040
Speaker 2: Look, look, here's the thing. One you're gonna do. Look one,

992
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 2: you're gonna do whatever you're gonna do.

993
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:18,640
Speaker 1: But if you but but I maybe don't call the

994
00:53:18,760 --> 00:53:20,160
Speaker 1: N word an old friend.

995
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:25,480
Speaker 2: If you're gonna make any change in.

996
00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:30,480
Speaker 1: This section of your life at all, however small, maybe

997
00:53:30,560 --> 00:53:31,919
Speaker 1: just don't refer to it as.

998
00:53:31,840 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 2: Your old friend. I would say that.

999
00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:38,719
Speaker 1: What was the chat? Say gak, why are you so

1000
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:47,200
Speaker 1: shit at geography? Because I don't know anything? What is it?

1001
00:53:47,640 --> 00:53:49,160
Speaker 6: Uh?

1002
00:53:49,480 --> 00:53:58,880
Speaker 1: Someone said, uh, that's because in South Africa they had

1003
00:53:58,880 --> 00:54:03,279
Speaker 1: aparthid until the nine. Yeah, that's true, that's the thing.

1004
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 1: Someone said, my boyfriend thinks everyone should be allowed to

1005
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:12,479
Speaker 1: say it. I disagree. Someone said, ghek, maybe he's using

1006
00:54:12,480 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 1: it to relate to people. All right, I'm going to

1007
00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:25,840
Speaker 1: read another email Okay, this is from Larissa. Subject line

1008
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 1: THHC saved my life. Hey Gek, Happy New Year. I

1009
00:54:31,160 --> 00:54:33,640
Speaker 1: love your show and I've been really enjoying this segment.

1010
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 1: I can't call you to talk about this, so this

1011
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:38,760
Speaker 1: is my chance to tell you about it. I'm also

1012
00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,840
Speaker 1: come to Brazil? Are you saying that? As a you

1013
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:42,120
Speaker 1: know what?

1014
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:42,319
Speaker 2: You know?

1015
00:54:42,360 --> 00:54:42,440
Speaker 4: What?

1016
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:42,719
Speaker 5: Is?

1017
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:45,759
Speaker 1: I One time I posted, like the first time I

1018
00:54:45,800 --> 00:54:48,120
Speaker 1: announced a tour, I got a lot of comments being

1019
00:54:48,160 --> 00:54:50,200
Speaker 1: like come to Brazil, and I got like hype. I

1020
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:51,720
Speaker 1: was like, oh shit, I have all these like fans

1021
00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:52,240
Speaker 1: in Brazil.

1022
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:52,880
Speaker 2: That's awesome.

1023
00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:54,840
Speaker 1: And then I was disappointed because I found out that

1024
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 1: that's like a popular internet meme and people just say it.

1025
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:00,759
Speaker 1: So now I'm wary every time someone says to come

1026
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:01,160
Speaker 1: to Brazil.

1027
00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:01,600
Speaker 2: Anyway.

1028
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:04,719
Speaker 1: I'm twenty eight years old and recently discovered I'm autistic.

1029
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 1: For the past ten years, I've been misdiagnosed with depression

1030
00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:11,959
Speaker 1: and anxiety. Last year, I had a very rough time

1031
00:55:12,000 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 1: with work, got burnt out, got my heart broken, and

1032
00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:17,960
Speaker 1: basically my life fell apart, and I tried the S word.

1033
00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:21,320
Speaker 1: I'm lucky I had my own house and car, Otherwise

1034
00:55:21,360 --> 00:55:23,799
Speaker 1: I'd be living with my parents, had to drop out

1035
00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:25,720
Speaker 1: of work and take a good hard look at my life.

1036
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:29,320
Speaker 1: After my parents came to rescue me, they thought substance

1037
00:55:29,320 --> 00:55:32,400
Speaker 1: abuse was the problem, but turns out I started to

1038
00:55:32,400 --> 00:55:35,720
Speaker 1: see a new psychiatrist and he prescribed me CBD against

1039
00:55:35,800 --> 00:55:39,600
Speaker 1: my parents' wishes, and then THCHC gummies. When I tell

1040
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:43,400
Speaker 1: you my life shifted. I now go to medical school,

1041
00:55:45,000 --> 00:55:47,319
Speaker 1: have a pretty balanced life, and have been seeing my

1042
00:55:47,360 --> 00:55:50,560
Speaker 1: friends and family often. THCHC helps me stay in a

1043
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:54,040
Speaker 1: good mood enough so that I can function without crashing out.

1044
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:55,959
Speaker 1: I get the buzz, and then I go to work.

1045
00:55:56,320 --> 00:55:58,399
Speaker 1: This gave me the perspective to realize that I wasn't

1046
00:55:58,400 --> 00:56:00,799
Speaker 1: really happy. I actually wanted to be a doctor for

1047
00:56:00,840 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 1: the longest time, and with this new chance in life,

1048
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:05,400
Speaker 1: I could do it. I mean, I am going to

1049
00:56:05,400 --> 00:56:09,200
Speaker 1: go in almost two hundred and fifty thousand dollars of debt,

1050
00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:12,120
Speaker 1: but the world's ending anyway, so who cares. It's so

1051
00:56:12,239 --> 00:56:14,799
Speaker 1: fucked I you know, yeah, God whatever, I'm not gonna

1052
00:56:14,800 --> 00:56:15,960
Speaker 1: go on a student debt rant.

1053
00:56:16,080 --> 00:56:16,560
Speaker 2: I used to.

1054
00:56:16,480 --> 00:56:19,200
Speaker 1: Attach myself emotionally to people in order to feel something

1055
00:56:19,239 --> 00:56:21,400
Speaker 1: and have something to look forward to, and now I

1056
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:25,120
Speaker 1: can do it daily without the emotional stress. I've decided

1057
00:56:25,200 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 1: staying single. I've decided to stay single as romantic involvement

1058
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:33,160
Speaker 1: fucks up my brain chemistry. But even this past year

1059
00:56:33,160 --> 00:56:36,359
Speaker 1: with treatment, I've been having better and less harmful experiences

1060
00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:40,239
Speaker 1: with people, which is good when the horny kind of

1061
00:56:40,320 --> 00:56:46,120
Speaker 1: loneliness hits. Oh boy, don't we all know that horny?

1062
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:51,640
Speaker 1: Don't we all know that very specific horny brand of loneliness.

1063
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:57,960
Speaker 1: It's like pepsi max, but uh, horny loneliness. Anyway, I

1064
00:56:57,960 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 1: would love to hear your thoughts on this and experiences

1065
00:57:00,120 --> 00:57:03,160
Speaker 1: how weed affects her daily life activities. I notice it

1066
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 1: gets people to either chill and do nothing or chilling

1067
00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:08,360
Speaker 1: get things done. I'd love to buy you a drink

1068
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:10,680
Speaker 1: or roll you a joint when you're in a rio. Okay,

1069
00:57:10,719 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 1: so you do live in Brazil. Get bless. Yeah, yeah,

1070
00:57:14,280 --> 00:57:15,799
Speaker 1: we've been talking about that. I think we talked about

1071
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 1: this a lot on the last episode, about like weed

1072
00:57:18,920 --> 00:57:24,560
Speaker 1: and stuff. This is cool. I like hearing an email

1073
00:57:24,600 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 1: from someone who with like zero apologeticness is like, oh

1074
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:34,960
Speaker 1: I love weed. Weed's a positive force in my life. Okay,

1075
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:37,560
Speaker 1: here's here's the thought I've kind of been having in

1076
00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:42,520
Speaker 1: my brain about weed is like I think, I don't

1077
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 1: know how true this is, but I think like everything

1078
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:47,120
Speaker 1: in life is about the shame of it and is

1079
00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 1: about how you feel it fits into your life. And

1080
00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:54,120
Speaker 1: sometimes I'm smoking weed and I'm really high and I'm

1081
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:58,960
Speaker 1: just really high, and I'm thinking to myself, I love weed,

1082
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 1: I love of getting high. Getting high is awesome. Everything

1083
00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:08,360
Speaker 1: I want to keep getting high. I enjoy the place

1084
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:09,800
Speaker 1: that weed has in my life.

1085
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:10,760
Speaker 2: This is sick.

1086
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:13,720
Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep doing this, and I'm just like, you know,

1087
00:58:13,800 --> 00:58:17,160
Speaker 1: I'm not resistant. I'm not like smoking weed and then going,

1088
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:20,880
Speaker 1: oh I shouldn't be doing this. Oh I don't I

1089
00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:22,800
Speaker 1: should I don't want to need this and whatever. I'm

1090
00:58:22,840 --> 00:58:27,600
Speaker 1: not like, I'm not what's the word. I'm not disapproving

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00:58:27,640 --> 00:58:30,120
Speaker 1: of myself or shaming myself for doing it. I'm like

1092
00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 1: actively embracing it, which is kind of how you should

1093
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:35,960
Speaker 1: do all things, because if you're gonna fucking do something,

1094
00:58:35,960 --> 00:58:38,520
Speaker 1: you might as well be you might as well feel

1095
00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 1: good about doing it. Like there's no there's no there's

1096
00:58:41,200 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 1: literally no point in ever doing anything and then being

1097
00:58:44,400 --> 00:58:47,120
Speaker 1: like this fucking sucks, you know, what I mean, like,

1098
00:58:47,120 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 1: if you're gonna do if you're gonna do something, you

1099
00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:51,520
Speaker 1: might as well feel good about it. So if you're

1100
00:58:51,520 --> 00:58:53,840
Speaker 1: gonna smoke weed every day, you might as well while

1101
00:58:53,840 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 1: you're smoking weed every day, be like, oh this is great.

1102
00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 1: I love weed. And so that's kind of how I've

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00:58:59,880 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: been thinking about it lately, and I'm trying not to

1104
00:59:03,680 --> 00:59:06,680
Speaker 1: be too much of a fucker about it. Like usually

1105
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:08,640
Speaker 1: when i'm getting high, I'm trying to do something productive.

1106
00:59:08,800 --> 00:59:12,840
Speaker 1: My favorite thing to do on planet Earth is to

1107
00:59:12,960 --> 00:59:14,080
Speaker 1: just get really high and.

1108
00:59:14,040 --> 00:59:15,800
Speaker 2: Go for a long walk.

1109
00:59:16,240 --> 00:59:18,200
Speaker 1: So that's why I do, is I get really high

1110
00:59:18,440 --> 00:59:20,760
Speaker 1: and I turn my phone off and my computer off,

1111
00:59:20,760 --> 00:59:23,479
Speaker 1: and I just go outside and i'm and I'm walk

1112
00:59:23,560 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 1: for like two hours and it feels great. And uh yeah,

1113
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:30,400
Speaker 1: I mean I think that's it. It's just like if

1114
00:59:30,440 --> 00:59:34,160
Speaker 1: you feel good doing it, and you accept that you

1115
00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:36,600
Speaker 1: feel good doing it, and you don't like, I don't know,

1116
00:59:37,560 --> 00:59:40,840
Speaker 1: notice that it's making your life worse. But if every

1117
00:59:40,840 --> 00:59:42,600
Speaker 1: time you're doing it, you're like, oh, fuck, this makes

1118
00:59:42,600 --> 00:59:44,880
Speaker 1: me anxious, this makes me lazy. I shouldn't be doing this,

1119
00:59:45,400 --> 00:59:49,800
Speaker 1: then you know there's something to pay attention to. Uh,

1120
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:53,600
Speaker 1: I'm glad that weed has been been good for you.

1121
00:59:52,720 --> 00:59:54,760
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know.

1122
00:59:54,800 --> 00:59:59,600
Speaker 1: I'm like weird about like I don't know SSRIs and

1123
00:59:59,680 --> 01:00:05,040
Speaker 1: like so abstances as a way of fixing mental health.

1124
01:00:05,120 --> 01:00:06,720
Speaker 2: But that's me personally. I don't know.

1125
01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:09,680
Speaker 1: I every time I hear that people uh who've had

1126
01:00:09,800 --> 01:00:15,320
Speaker 1: success with that, I'm I'm I'm my skepticism. Wane's all right,

1127
01:00:15,320 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 1: the secophone call from Mike. Mike, you got any thoughts

1128
01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 1: on these emails?

1129
01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:23,840
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1130
01:00:24,120 --> 01:00:28,200
Speaker 6: I think weed is definitely pretty interesting and it depends

1131
01:00:28,240 --> 01:00:32,280
Speaker 6: on your relationship with it. Oh, give me a sex

1132
01:00:33,400 --> 01:00:38,080
Speaker 6: all right? So yeah, I was a mechanical engineer and

1133
01:00:38,120 --> 01:00:43,080
Speaker 6: I smoked weed before like every test, and it helped

1134
01:00:43,080 --> 01:00:45,800
Speaker 6: me focus like immensely. I don't think I could have

1135
01:00:46,760 --> 01:00:50,280
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, for sure, I would take dabs and ship yeah.

1136
01:00:51,520 --> 01:00:52,920
Speaker 2: Oh right, really are you on?

1137
01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:53,160
Speaker 3: Are you?

1138
01:00:53,280 --> 01:00:54,919
Speaker 2: Are you on the speakerphone?

1139
01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 8: Yeah? Bro, I forgot about that.

1140
01:00:58,400 --> 01:00:59,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, take me off a speakerphone?

1141
01:01:00,560 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 11: Is that better?

1142
01:01:02,080 --> 01:01:02,320
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1143
01:01:02,440 --> 01:01:03,600
Speaker 2: Okay, what we're saying.

1144
01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:08,360
Speaker 11: I'm just saying that I would smoke dads before like

1145
01:01:09,280 --> 01:01:15,040
Speaker 11: super hard exams and like nineties and stuff. But it's

1146
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:17,440
Speaker 11: different for everybody, you know what I mean, so it

1147
01:01:17,480 --> 01:01:22,720
Speaker 11: depends on your relationship with it and your your not

1148
01:01:22,800 --> 01:01:25,120
Speaker 11: your work ethic, but your schedule, I guess with it.

1149
01:01:25,720 --> 01:01:26,080
Speaker 5: M M.

1150
01:01:27,520 --> 01:01:27,760
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1151
01:01:27,880 --> 01:01:29,680
Speaker 1: You know it's so funny because I I think I've

1152
01:01:29,680 --> 01:01:31,520
Speaker 1: talked about this before, but like I used to when

1153
01:01:31,560 --> 01:01:34,000
Speaker 1: I was growing up and like first start smoking weed.

1154
01:01:34,120 --> 01:01:37,000
Speaker 1: I had like a friend and she would get really

1155
01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 1: high and do her homework and I was like, dude, what, like, what.

1156
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:44,200
Speaker 8: Are you talking about me? Bro was yeah, sure.

1157
01:01:44,680 --> 01:01:48,200
Speaker 1: And but it's funny because I really, I honest to god,

1158
01:01:48,360 --> 01:01:52,320
Speaker 1: it's just such a thing of like it affects everyone

1159
01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:55,320
Speaker 1: differently because I could never fucking do that. I there

1160
01:01:55,360 --> 01:01:57,200
Speaker 1: was a guy I've probably told this story on the

1161
01:01:57,200 --> 01:01:59,120
Speaker 1: podcast before, but I'll tell it again.

1162
01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 2: I was hanging out with my.

1163
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 1: Friend's brother and we were in New York and he's

1164
01:02:04,240 --> 01:02:06,640
Speaker 1: like at the time, he was like trying to become

1165
01:02:06,640 --> 01:02:10,040
Speaker 1: an actor in New York and he was talking to

1166
01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:14,880
Speaker 1: us about this audition he was gonna go to in

1167
01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:17,000
Speaker 1: just a sec. And he was like, this audition, man,

1168
01:02:17,040 --> 01:02:19,080
Speaker 1: this is for a huge part. This you know, it

1169
01:02:19,120 --> 01:02:20,680
Speaker 1: could be a lot of money. You know, it could

1170
01:02:20,720 --> 01:02:24,720
Speaker 1: really be like a career making audition, Like you know

1171
01:02:24,800 --> 01:02:28,120
Speaker 1: this is a really really important thing. It's for this movie,

1172
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:31,000
Speaker 1: and and and then and then he's about to leave

1173
01:02:31,120 --> 01:02:34,280
Speaker 1: to go do this audition and he takes the biggest,

1174
01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:39,200
Speaker 1: milkiest bong rip I've ever seen, and he walks out

1175
01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:42,760
Speaker 1: the door and then he like fucking like gets the part,

1176
01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:45,520
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what the fuck? Like I could never

1177
01:02:45,640 --> 01:02:48,760
Speaker 1: do I just could never do that. Like I'm every

1178
01:02:48,840 --> 01:02:51,160
Speaker 1: you know, every once in a while, not I really

1179
01:02:51,640 --> 01:02:55,240
Speaker 1: everyone's different. I like I don't want to like sometimes

1180
01:02:55,480 --> 01:02:57,560
Speaker 1: I used to have a hard and fast rule about

1181
01:02:57,560 --> 01:03:00,080
Speaker 1: like getting high and doing this podcast.

1182
01:03:01,440 --> 01:03:03,040
Speaker 11: I've known in the past a little bit.

1183
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:09,240
Speaker 1: Yeah it's yeah, I'm not high right now, but I

1184
01:03:09,240 --> 01:03:11,080
Speaker 1: don't get I I don't get high when I do

1185
01:03:11,120 --> 01:03:14,560
Speaker 1: get mail because I can't just I can't be high

1186
01:03:14,640 --> 01:03:18,720
Speaker 1: and uh fucking read, yeah, read and and come up

1187
01:03:18,720 --> 01:03:21,680
Speaker 1: with my own thoughts. But like, yeah, it slipped a

1188
01:03:21,680 --> 01:03:24,600
Speaker 1: little bit and not a lot, Like I I maybe

1189
01:03:24,720 --> 01:03:27,720
Speaker 1: am high one out of every like ten of these

1190
01:03:27,720 --> 01:03:28,520
Speaker 1: fucking podcasts.

1191
01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:30,600
Speaker 6: I've noticed that you kind of that's the thing that

1192
01:03:30,640 --> 01:03:32,800
Speaker 6: I always said in college and my friends, I use

1193
01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:34,520
Speaker 6: it as a tool, and I've noticed you kind of

1194
01:03:34,520 --> 01:03:36,080
Speaker 6: do that, Like when the stream's kind of like in

1195
01:03:36,120 --> 01:03:38,200
Speaker 6: a roll or like you need to kind of like

1196
01:03:38,280 --> 01:03:41,080
Speaker 6: change your frame of mind for a second. Should take

1197
01:03:41,080 --> 01:03:42,280
Speaker 6: a Benjamin real quick.

1198
01:03:42,960 --> 01:03:46,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never ever, ever, I never ever would do

1199
01:03:46,720 --> 01:03:48,720
Speaker 1: it during any of my live shows because that would

1200
01:03:48,720 --> 01:03:54,600
Speaker 1: be to fucking terrifying, you know what I mean.

1201
01:03:54,680 --> 01:03:58,840
Speaker 11: Like, uh yeah, shoot, what was it? Certain stuff? And like,

1202
01:03:59,440 --> 01:04:03,400
Speaker 11: uh man, I can't even remember what I stopped for.

1203
01:04:03,640 --> 01:04:04,520
Speaker 6: I guess the last thing.

1204
01:04:04,480 --> 01:04:06,440
Speaker 11: I can think of is like sports in high school

1205
01:04:06,960 --> 01:04:08,320
Speaker 11: was like I want my lungs to be good for

1206
01:04:08,440 --> 01:04:12,000
Speaker 11: like section finals or something. M So I stopped for

1207
01:04:12,040 --> 01:04:16,320
Speaker 11: like a few weeks for that. But oh into jobs,

1208
01:04:16,520 --> 01:04:20,920
Speaker 11: a couple of jobs because engineering ship, I had to

1209
01:04:20,920 --> 01:04:22,600
Speaker 11: stop for a couple of times. But yeah, I'm not

1210
01:04:22,880 --> 01:04:25,480
Speaker 11: like the same way if if I can't go in

1211
01:04:25,520 --> 01:04:30,280
Speaker 11: there like which is ripped, but like not really ripped,

1212
01:04:30,360 --> 01:04:30,760
Speaker 11: just like.

1213
01:04:30,840 --> 01:04:32,920
Speaker 1: Oh d your hold on your phone? Your phone's sucking

1214
01:04:33,000 --> 01:04:33,880
Speaker 1: up whatever you're doing with it.

1215
01:04:34,080 --> 01:04:35,080
Speaker 8: Oh is it good now?

1216
01:04:35,480 --> 01:04:38,200
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, it's better now I'm on Wi Fi calling

1217
01:04:38,200 --> 01:04:40,840
Speaker 6: because I'm not in the I'm a good service actually,

1218
01:04:41,440 --> 01:04:43,560
Speaker 6: But yeah.

1219
01:04:43,360 --> 01:04:46,040
Speaker 11: I can relate to that guy, But I can also

1220
01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:50,160
Speaker 11: relate to people that like go through periods of time.

1221
01:04:50,480 --> 01:04:52,640
Speaker 11: I definitely go through periods of time myself where I'm

1222
01:04:52,680 --> 01:04:55,360
Speaker 11: like abusing it, you know what I mean, And it's

1223
01:04:55,440 --> 01:04:57,600
Speaker 11: like I need to go on a walk like you

1224
01:04:57,640 --> 01:05:00,720
Speaker 11: do or something instead to get like.

1225
01:05:00,680 --> 01:05:04,240
Speaker 8: Out of that habit, you know what I mean. So

1226
01:05:04,680 --> 01:05:05,440
Speaker 8: there's definitely a.

1227
01:05:05,440 --> 01:05:08,600
Speaker 11: Balance with it with everything in life. Like you could

1228
01:05:09,120 --> 01:05:12,680
Speaker 11: you get carried away eating donuts and things like that,

1229
01:05:12,840 --> 01:05:14,920
Speaker 11: but that doesn't mean you should give up donuts for

1230
01:05:15,000 --> 01:05:17,000
Speaker 11: life in mind.

1231
01:05:17,120 --> 01:05:19,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, it would be funny though, if you like had

1232
01:05:20,000 --> 01:05:22,120
Speaker 1: to eat a donut to like do your homework.

1233
01:05:24,080 --> 01:05:25,760
Speaker 11: I mean, dude, I had roommates like that.

1234
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:29,680
Speaker 8: They would have knocks like ready on deck to do homework.

1235
01:05:30,320 --> 01:05:32,240
Speaker 8: I'm like, dude, I can't get my fingers all sticky

1236
01:05:32,240 --> 01:05:34,920
Speaker 8: while I'm holding my pencil. But I feel like everybody's

1237
01:05:34,920 --> 01:05:37,800
Speaker 8: got their own the own way, right.

1238
01:05:37,920 --> 01:05:41,960
Speaker 11: I want to say, be careful with what I'm saying and.

1239
01:05:41,960 --> 01:05:44,800
Speaker 8: Don't use it as like a confirmation bias for people

1240
01:05:44,840 --> 01:05:48,840
Speaker 8: that are actually struggling and it's affecting relationships or whatnot.

1241
01:05:51,360 --> 01:05:55,680
Speaker 2: What's your name again, Mike? Mike? Thank you for calling Mike.

1242
01:05:56,560 --> 01:05:58,479
Speaker 11: Yeah, thanks for taking my call. It's been a long time.

1243
01:05:58,680 --> 01:05:59,520
Speaker 11: A long time fans.

1244
01:06:00,440 --> 01:06:04,880
Speaker 1: Thank you, Mike. Oh crap. I hung up on him

1245
01:06:04,880 --> 01:06:05,840
Speaker 1: when he said take care.

1246
01:06:06,200 --> 01:06:07,400
Speaker 2: But that was that was that was.

1247
01:06:07,440 --> 01:06:11,280
Speaker 1: Now I'm enjoying these phone call I'm enjoying this, this

1248
01:06:11,360 --> 01:06:14,040
Speaker 1: format of the show. This is fun, This is nice.

1249
01:06:14,080 --> 01:06:17,080
Speaker 1: I feel like it makes things a little bit more pointed.

1250
01:06:17,720 --> 01:06:20,880
Speaker 1: I would say, Okay, I'm gonna read one more email

1251
01:06:20,920 --> 01:06:23,520
Speaker 1: and take one more call on this, on this on

1252
01:06:23,560 --> 01:06:23,919
Speaker 1: this show.

1253
01:06:23,960 --> 01:06:28,720
Speaker 2: Let's let's read one more email. Okay, all right.

1254
01:06:28,880 --> 01:06:33,320
Speaker 1: This is from McKenna. Subject line I am a horse girl.

1255
01:06:33,640 --> 01:06:34,160
Speaker 2: Hi Gek.

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01:06:34,240 --> 01:06:36,160
Speaker 1: First of all, Happy New Year. I love listening to

1257
01:06:36,240 --> 01:06:39,000
Speaker 1: your podcast. Well, I'm at work now to get into it.

1258
01:06:39,120 --> 01:06:41,560
Speaker 1: I just recently moved to a big city. I won't

1259
01:06:41,600 --> 01:06:43,600
Speaker 1: say which one, but it starts with a B and

1260
01:06:43,640 --> 01:06:47,280
Speaker 1: it's in Massachusetts, after finishing college and getting married to

1261
01:06:47,320 --> 01:06:49,760
Speaker 1: my husband, who I love so much. I also just

1262
01:06:49,760 --> 01:06:52,280
Speaker 1: started an office job not long ago. It's boring, but

1263
01:06:52,320 --> 01:06:54,560
Speaker 1: it's mostly okay. The issue is that I am a

1264
01:06:54,560 --> 01:06:58,520
Speaker 1: horse girl. I rode horses from eight to fifteen years old,

1265
01:06:59,440 --> 01:07:01,840
Speaker 1: and then I got depressed and just sort of stopped

1266
01:07:01,840 --> 01:07:04,240
Speaker 1: all my hobbies. But the past few years I have

1267
01:07:04,320 --> 01:07:06,480
Speaker 1: been really wanting to do it again. I never had

1268
01:07:06,480 --> 01:07:08,680
Speaker 1: the time or money before, and now the problem is

1269
01:07:08,680 --> 01:07:10,120
Speaker 1: that I live in an area with a lot of

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01:07:10,160 --> 01:07:12,160
Speaker 1: people and not a lot of horses, so there are

1271
01:07:12,160 --> 01:07:14,400
Speaker 1: no barns near me. I also need to buy all

1272
01:07:14,520 --> 01:07:16,920
Speaker 1: new equipment to take lessons, which would not be cheap.

1273
01:07:17,520 --> 01:07:20,200
Speaker 1: Should I drive forty plus minutes out of the city

1274
01:07:20,240 --> 01:07:22,880
Speaker 1: and save more money to ride an animal sometimes or

1275
01:07:22,960 --> 01:07:25,320
Speaker 1: just find something else to do? Please advise?

1276
01:07:25,560 --> 01:07:25,840
Speaker 2: Thank you?

1277
01:07:27,080 --> 01:07:27,200
Speaker 1: Uh?

1278
01:07:27,720 --> 01:07:28,320
Speaker 2: Should I drive?

1279
01:07:28,400 --> 01:07:28,440
Speaker 4: For?

1280
01:07:28,760 --> 01:07:29,000
Speaker 12: Yeah?

1281
01:07:29,080 --> 01:07:31,880
Speaker 1: I mean, if it's something you wanted, if it's look,

1282
01:07:31,880 --> 01:07:35,680
Speaker 1: here's the thing you just said. It depends on how

1283
01:07:35,720 --> 01:07:38,200
Speaker 1: much you want to do it, right. I can't really

1284
01:07:38,200 --> 01:07:39,880
Speaker 1: answer this question for you, like if you if if

1285
01:07:40,200 --> 01:07:44,440
Speaker 1: if you really want to do it, then like I wouldn't.

1286
01:07:44,560 --> 01:07:48,400
Speaker 1: I wouldn't let h having to save up some money

1287
01:07:48,800 --> 01:07:51,680
Speaker 1: and having to go drive forty minutes stop you from

1288
01:07:51,680 --> 01:07:55,320
Speaker 1: doing something that you really want to do. Like if

1289
01:07:55,360 --> 01:07:57,640
Speaker 1: like ask this, ask yourself how badly you want to

1290
01:07:57,680 --> 01:07:59,480
Speaker 1: do it? And if it's like on a scale from

1291
01:07:59,480 --> 01:08:01,880
Speaker 1: one to ten, it's like an eight, then that's worth it.

1292
01:08:01,920 --> 01:08:07,280
Speaker 1: If it's like a four, then nah. If okay, here's

1293
01:08:07,400 --> 01:08:09,600
Speaker 1: if I were to just answer this simply ask. I

1294
01:08:10,200 --> 01:08:13,440
Speaker 1: would ask yourself how badly you want to do it,

1295
01:08:14,280 --> 01:08:17,200
Speaker 1: and if it's at least a seven out of ten

1296
01:08:17,240 --> 01:08:19,080
Speaker 1: badly you want to do it, it's worth saving up

1297
01:08:19,120 --> 01:08:23,880
Speaker 1: money and driving out of the city for Okay, we're

1298
01:08:23,880 --> 01:08:28,679
Speaker 1: gonna do one final call. Someone said hobbies cost money,

1299
01:08:28,680 --> 01:08:30,160
Speaker 1: no matter what. Yeah, but some are more I mean

1300
01:08:30,160 --> 01:08:33,479
Speaker 1: we had a guy talk about race car driving. Some

1301
01:08:33,600 --> 01:08:37,080
Speaker 1: are more expensive than others.

1302
01:08:37,400 --> 01:08:39,320
Speaker 4: A Michael.

1303
01:08:40,720 --> 01:08:44,200
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hey, what's up man? You got any thoughts

1304
01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:45,360
Speaker 2: about any of these emails?

1305
01:08:46,439 --> 01:08:48,920
Speaker 4: I was talking about the horse roller email. I think

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Speaker 4: you should continue her passion.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, go ahead. Why do you any Why do

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Speaker 1: you think that?

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean, if you're really passionate about something, I

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Speaker 4: don't think you should just stop doing it, especially if

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Speaker 4: she uh really wants here, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 6: Mm hmm mm hmmm.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so too. It's like, well, somebody in

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Speaker 1: the chat was like, all hobbies are expensive, but I

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Speaker 1: don't think, uh, you know, yeah, if it's something you

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Speaker 1: really want to do that and you know, and also

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Speaker 1: also everyone has their thing they like to spend a

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Speaker 1: little bit of money on. For some people, it's like

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Speaker 1: a fucking crack cocaine, and if yours is riding boats

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Speaker 1: on I think that's pretty good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's pretty good.

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Speaker 4: That's a lot better than crack cocaine. You said it best.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Do you have any hobbies?

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Speaker 4: I got one from fishing from time to time.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Is fishing expensive that that requires equipment and stuff?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, I do it pretty cheap, but sometimes

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Speaker 4: it could be expensive if you know, like on the

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Speaker 4: sea and everything. But I usually just state at all

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Speaker 4: my streams like creeks and stuff that's not too expensive.

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Speaker 2: Any other thoughts before we go?

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Speaker 4: I'm no, not really, just glad to talk to talk

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Speaker 4: to you.

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Speaker 2: Kak, Thank you, Michael.

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Speaker 1: Have a good night you too.

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Speaker 2: I will do one more.

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Speaker 12: All from advice Failian.

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Speaker 10: Hello, Hey, what's something?

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Speaker 1: Hey man, you got any thoughts about these emails?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 12: I wanted to go back to the weed thing.

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Speaker 4: Is it too late?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 2: Please? Hit man?

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Speaker 12: Okay, Oh my god, it's my favorite thing to do.

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Speaker 12: But I've been taking a hiatus for the past year.

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Speaker 4: And a half.

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Speaker 2: And how has the hiatus been feeling?

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Speaker 8: What's awful?

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01:10:45,040 --> 01:10:45,360
Speaker 4: Dude?

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01:10:45,760 --> 01:10:47,920
Speaker 12: Like everyone's talking about like doing it all the time,

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01:10:48,040 --> 01:10:50,320
Speaker 12: and like I think this year I'm gonna get my

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01:10:50,320 --> 01:10:51,840
Speaker 12: shit together and start doing it again.

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Speaker 2: What what do you mean? What do you mean? Get

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01:10:55,960 --> 01:10:57,439
Speaker 2: your shit together and start doing it again?

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Speaker 12: So like it was something that took up too much

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Speaker 12: money in my life, you know, like I was spending

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01:11:04,080 --> 01:11:07,559
Speaker 12: way too much money on it, and like I gotta

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01:11:08,160 --> 01:11:10,360
Speaker 12: be an adult and like be better about my adults

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Speaker 12: and stuff. You know, there's stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I feel like, I don't know, it's interesting,

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Speaker 1: it's interesting. I feel like this is a common trope

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Speaker 1: on the podcast. You're kind of hearing about people's relationship

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01:11:26,880 --> 01:11:29,000
Speaker 1: with weed, and some people swear by it. Some people

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01:11:29,040 --> 01:11:33,160
Speaker 1: are like, you know, uh, it's ruined my fucking life.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, how in your in your hiatus, is

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Speaker 1: there anything that you've like, like, has anything positive been

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Speaker 1: gleaned from it?

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Speaker 12: I'm gonna be honest with you, man, not really. I

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01:11:45,439 --> 01:11:49,360
Speaker 12: got diagnosed with the ad D and the aughts and

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Speaker 12: all that, and I realized that actually really helped me

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Speaker 12: out a lot more. I'm a lot more creative. So,

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01:11:53,960 --> 01:11:55,519
Speaker 12: like last time I got high, I came up with

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Speaker 12: the idea for a YouTube channel, and I was I

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01:11:58,680 --> 01:12:00,040
Speaker 12: finally executed it.

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Speaker 2: Great kick ass.

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Speaker 12: I'm outside of an alien costume. By the way, like

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01:12:07,479 --> 01:12:08,680
Speaker 12: driving by waving at me.

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01:12:09,200 --> 01:12:12,120
Speaker 1: You're in an You're outside in an alien costume right now?

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01:12:12,920 --> 01:12:14,400
Speaker 12: Yeah, just to take your phone call?

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01:12:15,680 --> 01:12:16,040
Speaker 2: Why are you?

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01:12:16,080 --> 01:12:16,479
Speaker 4: Why are you?

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01:12:16,520 --> 01:12:19,120
Speaker 1: And you put on an alien costume just to call me?

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01:12:20,080 --> 01:12:23,680
Speaker 12: Yeah, man, I I wanted to come to Earth and

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01:12:23,800 --> 01:12:25,800
Speaker 12: help people out like you are, but I was gonna

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01:12:25,800 --> 01:12:28,680
Speaker 12: do like actual advice idiots.

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Speaker 4: I've been.

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Speaker 5: I like that.

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Speaker 1: I like that idea. I hope that you uh, I hope,

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Speaker 1: I hope. I hope that idea brings you much happiness.

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Speaker 12: HOPI soo too, man. If you come to Seattle, I'll

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01:12:41,680 --> 01:12:42,400
Speaker 12: open up for you.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, man, you take care too, bro later

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01:12:51,080 --> 01:12:54,599
Speaker 1: all right, folks. Do I have anything else to say

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01:12:55,080 --> 01:13:01,840
Speaker 1: about anything at all? Let's see. Do I have anything

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01:13:01,880 --> 01:13:09,000
Speaker 1: else to say about anything at all? Nope, I don't think.

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Speaker 1: So Everyone be good, everyone live life. Let me know

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Speaker 1: in the look look if you look, let me know

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Speaker 1: in the comments. If you have any thoughts about this podcast,

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01:13:19,320 --> 01:13:23,040
Speaker 1: the people who listen to it, If you have thoughts

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Speaker 1: about this podcast, if you have things you want to see,

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Speaker 1: ideas for little segments, anything like that. I'm trying to

1403
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Speaker 1: switch it up. I'm trying to come up with new ideas.

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01:13:34,479 --> 01:13:37,040
Speaker 1: I'm trying to make things more fun for myself. I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to make things more fun for the listeners. So

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Speaker 1: you know the Spotify Cause Comments section, leave a comment.

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Speaker 1: leave a comment. If you want to be part of

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Speaker 1: the get mail segment, you could send an email to

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Speaker 1: therapy Gecko mail at gmail dot com. That's therapy Gecko

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Speaker 1: mail at gmail dot com. If you want to be

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Speaker 1: part of the therapy Gecko gek mail segment, and if

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Speaker 1: you want to call in, you can go to twitch

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Speaker 1: there and then you will probably get a little notification

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Speaker 1: that will pop up when I'm streaming. And uh, that's it.

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys for listening to this thing, and uh

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Speaker 1: I will I will see you all around the universe.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and I'm gonna be a fucking oh. Also

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Speaker 1: another thing, I don't know. I don't know the logistics

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Speaker 1: of this, so I don't want to promise anything, but

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Speaker 1: if you live in Japan and uh you would come

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Speaker 1: to a live show or even just like a meetup

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Speaker 1: maybe I'll do something like that. If you like live

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Speaker 1: in Japan, whether you're Japanese, you're like an expat or something.

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Speaker 1: Uh let me let me one of the comments. If

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Speaker 1: you'd come to a live show or a meetup in

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Speaker 1: Tokyo U, and maybe I'll do something like that.

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Speaker 2: All right, thank you all, get bless.

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Speaker 1: And uh, I don't have a I don't have a

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Speaker 1: I don't have another thing to say.

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Speaker 3: Goes on the line.

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Speaker 6: Taking your phone calls every night.

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01:15:19,479 --> 01:15:21,400
Speaker 1: There beIN kid goes to his ride.

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Speaker 6: He's teaching you a loud the of your life, but

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Speaker 6: he's not really an expert.