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Speaker 1: The ladies and gentlemen here she is put a strawberry.

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Speaker 1: Let me just say, for the record, I hate all

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Speaker 1: of you right now. Subjects empty promises. Dear Shirley Strawberry,

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Speaker 1: I have been dating this guy's whole lot of empty promises.

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Speaker 1: I let him in my life. He had potential in parentheses,

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Speaker 1: nice looking in school, recently obtained his master's in parentheses,

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Speaker 1: hard working at one time, held down two jobs, had

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Speaker 1: his own place. At one time I had the key.

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Speaker 1: Then along comes a b f F a best friend

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Speaker 1: forever from New Jersey, and he took the key back.

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Speaker 1: And then then they moved in to a two bedroom apartment.

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Speaker 1: I met all his buddies, I met his family, the

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Speaker 1: kids and all. He was around my daughter, who was

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Speaker 1: now eight years old. When my cousin died last year,

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Speaker 1: he was there for me. He met my whole family.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like I have a book. Um, it sounds like

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Speaker 1: I have the book. Think like a man, act like

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Speaker 1: a lady. Uh showed so much potential we even talked marriage.

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Speaker 1: Now since the degree has come, he has a different

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Speaker 1: swagger about himself and says he needs uh time to himself.

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Speaker 1: We all know what that means. I gave him my all.

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Speaker 1: I was there for him when he didn't have any transportation.

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Speaker 1: Now that I am struggling, he leaves me out in

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Speaker 1: the cold. I know I am old enough just to

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Speaker 1: let go and pray about it, but it just hurts.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he is forty two years old and his

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Speaker 1: roommate is forty three. What should I do? I know

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Speaker 1: you're going to say, Steve, just let go. I know,

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Speaker 1: I know signed a lot of empty promises. Wow, this

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Speaker 1: letter is a little confusing to me, and it does

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Speaker 1: sound like I'll just say this confusing as it may be.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like he's moved on. You may have the book.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't sound like you've read the book to me. You

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Speaker 1: say you let him in your life. You know, you

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Speaker 1: gave him You're all. As Steve has said so many

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Speaker 1: times on this show, on the ear and all through

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Speaker 1: the book, what did you require of them? Of him?

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Speaker 1: You talked about marriage? You know, where did that go?

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Speaker 1: I mean, was it just a talk? It sounds like, um,

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Speaker 1: you know he was just with you until he got

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Speaker 1: his degree, so you know he could come up, and

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Speaker 1: then he moved out. You know, you said you try

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Speaker 1: to talk to him. It's confusing because I don't know

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Speaker 1: if his best friend forever as a male, if it's

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Speaker 1: a female, if he's with the female and they've hooked up.

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Speaker 1: I'm confused on this letter, Stephen, I'm not confused all.

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Speaker 1: First of all, ma'am you wrong. I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: tell you to just let it go? So I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: show you a side that sometimes I don't get to

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Speaker 1: show people. This is a recent letter. See the problem

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Speaker 1: with this is empty promises. Two things are wrong when

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Speaker 1: a guy is giving you empty promises. It's really up

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Speaker 1: to you to verify these promises. Do background checks on

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Speaker 1: these promises, get some of these promises notarized, make some

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Speaker 1: of these promises actual aff for David's that always to

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Speaker 1: do it. You don't have to sit through a guy

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Speaker 1: giving you empty promise. After empty promise, these are just

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Speaker 1: spoken words. You have to start requiring an action to

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Speaker 1: match the words. That way, the empty promise does not

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Speaker 1: become empty but a fulfilled commitment, which is what the

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Speaker 1: majority of you are looking for. When we come back,

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Speaker 1: I will tell you how you get that done, ladies,

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Speaker 1: But then I will also inform you something that you

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Speaker 1: may not have thought of. Very true okay, cool, Come on,

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Speaker 1: Steve with part two of your response to today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: All right, okay, his lady a whole lot of empty promises.

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Speaker 1: She led him in the life. He had potential, nice

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Speaker 1: looking in school, recently obtained his master, hard worker, held

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Speaker 1: out two jobs, had his own place at one time.

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Speaker 1: She had the key. Then comes along the best friend

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Speaker 1: from New Jersey. He took the key back. Then they

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Speaker 1: moved into a two bed room. I met all his buddies,

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Speaker 1: I met his families, kids and all. He was around

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Speaker 1: my daughter, who's now eight. When my cousin died leg

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Speaker 1: she he was there for me. I met my whole family.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like I have a book. Think like a lady,

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Speaker 1: act like think like a man, Act like a lady.

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Speaker 1: Show so much potential. We even talked marriage. And now

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Speaker 1: since the degree has come, he has a different swag

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Speaker 1: about himself and said he need time to himself. We

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Speaker 1: all know what that means. I gave him my all.

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Speaker 1: I was there for him when he didn't have any transportation.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm struggling and he leaves me out in the colde.

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Speaker 1: I know I'm old enough to just let it go

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Speaker 1: and pray about it, but it just hurts. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's forty two years old. His roommate his forty three.

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Speaker 1: What should I do? I know what you're gonna see

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Speaker 1: safety you just let it go. I know I know something.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna tell you let it go. I'm just

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you how to handle the problem. First of all, ladies,

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Speaker 1: you do not have to live your life from me

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Speaker 1: and live with empty promises. An empty promise can be

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Speaker 1: checked by you. You have to take control of what

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Speaker 1: you can control over when a guy makes you a promise.

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Speaker 1: Here's two things you need to know right away, right away,

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Speaker 1: so or don't end up being an empty promise. First

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Speaker 1: of all, you need the words to match up to

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Speaker 1: an action. Okay, the words and the action that keeps

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Speaker 1: it from being empty now to get the promise out

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Speaker 1: of it. And it needs to be a timetable. See.

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Speaker 1: Once you get the words to back up to action,

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Speaker 1: and then you create a timetable for a man, you

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Speaker 1: then alleviate empty promise. See do you understand? Does that

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Speaker 1: not make sense? Okay? Cool? Now, ladies, here's the other

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Speaker 1: part of it. It ain't always you. Sometimes, no matter

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Speaker 1: what you do, you just got the bad dude, the

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Speaker 1: wrong dude. But now here's the buckler. I have news

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Speaker 1: for you. It sounds to me like yo man is

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Speaker 1: on the d L m hm. See that's why I

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Speaker 1: was saying it was confusing. Harty two year old dudes

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Speaker 1: don't go get roommates. Forty two year old men do

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Speaker 1: not go get roommates. We do not. I don't got

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Speaker 1: a buddy of mine know where forty don took a

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Speaker 1: rummate in, took the key back from his girl. She

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Speaker 1: didn't say if it was a male or female. You know,

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Speaker 1: took the key from the cookie, the giver of the cookie,

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Speaker 1: and gave it to a dude. Okay, hold on, and

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Speaker 1: not M two forty two and forty three somebody that

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Speaker 1: And that BFL is them them two is taken off.

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Speaker 1: I see, we gotta go. You can email us your

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Speaker 1: Instagram what's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter? At my Girl, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: you're listening to the Steve Hardy Morning Show