WEBVTT - 9 Highly Unusual Courting Techniques

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<v Speaker 1>Guess what, mango? What's that? Well, all right, I've got

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<v Speaker 1>a question for you. Have you ever heard of according stick? No?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I have. I'm a little surprised by

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<v Speaker 1>this because this was popular in New England in the

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<v Speaker 1>eighteenth century, and I think that was your one of

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<v Speaker 1>your miners, right, eighth century New England sticks sticks. Actually

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I meant. All right. So here's how it works.

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<v Speaker 1>This is something that happens when young couples want to

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<v Speaker 1>be together, and it actually originated because they weren't allowed

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<v Speaker 1>to go on dates or hold hands. It's just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of funny to imagine. I always think that's a funny,

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<v Speaker 1>like like you don't want to be seen doing anything

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<v Speaker 1>as lude as holding hands and touff. I mean, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>actually approved about this too, like I I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to hold hands and all right, Well, so what happened

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<v Speaker 1>is these eager teens were looking for solutions because of this,

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<v Speaker 1>and so the next best thing to sneaking out together

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<v Speaker 1>was having a boy come over to a girl's house

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<v Speaker 1>and this is where they would use according stick. And

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<v Speaker 1>so it was basically the six ft long tube and

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<v Speaker 1>this kept the young lovers six ft apart from one another,

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<v Speaker 1>and then sitting right there under Dad's watchful eye, you

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<v Speaker 1>could use it to have a conversation. So basically you

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<v Speaker 1>take turns putting your mouth or ear up to it

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<v Speaker 1>and then whispers some things, you know, something to the

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<v Speaker 1>other person that sounds ridiculous. It does. But the weirdest

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<v Speaker 1>thing is that you were often surrounded by your entire

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<v Speaker 1>family while you were doing this. I would just make

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<v Speaker 1>me so nervous. And so you're flirting in front of

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<v Speaker 1>like your grandmother and your kid brother, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes neighbors. Just like everyone was around, and so every

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<v Speaker 1>picture I've ever seen of it looks super awkward. But

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<v Speaker 1>that's just the first of nine unusual courting techniques we're

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<v Speaker 1>discussing on today's episode. So let's dive in. Y Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>their podcast listeners, Welcome to Part Time Genius. I'm Will Pearson,

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<v Speaker 1>and as always I'm joined by my good friend Man Guesh.

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<v Speaker 1>I ticket and sitting behind the soundproof glass lighting some candles.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a lot of candles, and there's a nice sent

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<v Speaker 1>of coming from the mango playing a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>Barry White. That's our friend and producer Tristan McNeil, So, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm super excited. We're doing this thing on a courtship techniques.

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<v Speaker 1>It's gonna be fun and weird. But I'm even more

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<v Speaker 1>excited for a guest. Yeah, just so everybody out there knows.

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<v Speaker 1>When we first came to how Stuff works and we

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<v Speaker 1>were told, hey, you have the ability to go out

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<v Speaker 1>and recruit some great new podcasters. The first person we

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<v Speaker 1>thought about, the first person we reached out to, was

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<v Speaker 1>our guest today, and that's Joe Piazza. She's the author

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<v Speaker 1>of a book called How to Be Married, and Joe

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<v Speaker 1>traveled the world around to what like twenty different countries,

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<v Speaker 1>getting just these amazing ideas and hearing from some interesting

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<v Speaker 1>people on what it's like to be married in different places.

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<v Speaker 1>And this gave us all this idea for a podcast

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<v Speaker 1>that we decided to call Committed. And Joe is with

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<v Speaker 1>us today. So Joe, how's it going? Oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>that was so flattering. I feel like you guys are

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<v Speaker 1>courting me or something like my own candles over here.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll get to that. We'll get to that, but first

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<v Speaker 1>we need to talk about Committed because it has launched

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<v Speaker 1>and we will hope all of our listeners will check

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<v Speaker 1>it out. It's just called Committed. You can find it

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<v Speaker 1>on Apple podcast or anywhere else that you listen to

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<v Speaker 1>your podcast. But Joe, we obviously know a whole lot

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<v Speaker 1>about the show, but can you tell our listeners tell

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<v Speaker 1>us a little bit about Committed. Yeah. So, when I

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<v Speaker 1>first got married, I had no idea how to be

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<v Speaker 1>a wife, no idea how to be a partner, no

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<v Speaker 1>idea how to be married. And like you said, I

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<v Speaker 1>traveled around the world trying to figure it out. And

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<v Speaker 1>what I learned was there wasn't great advice per se.

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<v Speaker 1>But the thing that stuck with me were the stories

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<v Speaker 1>from different people. I loved hearing the stories about real love,

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<v Speaker 1>real commitment, real marriage, because marriage doesn't end after I do,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's the only thing that we ever see in

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<v Speaker 1>a romantic comedy. The stories I'm Committed are hilarious and heartbreaking,

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<v Speaker 1>and sometimes they're both within the same five minutes. Our

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<v Speaker 1>guests have persevered. Our first episodes were launching with a

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<v Speaker 1>couple who law their legs in the Boston marathon bombing,

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<v Speaker 1>and now they're trying to rebuild their marriage. We have

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<v Speaker 1>another couple where the wife suffered a stroke and no

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<v Speaker 1>longer had short term memory. Her husband needs to be

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<v Speaker 1>both his and her memory for the entire couple. And

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<v Speaker 1>these stories are incredible. And I also get to live

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<v Speaker 1>vicariously through the couples, So I get to find out

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<v Speaker 1>what it's like to be married to a rock star,

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<v Speaker 1>something I've always wanted to know, or a porn star,

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<v Speaker 1>something I didn't know that I wanted to know, but

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<v Speaker 1>I definitely did, and so does everyone else. I get

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<v Speaker 1>to find out what it's like to be in a

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<v Speaker 1>polyamorous relationship. I got to find out what a polyamorous

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<v Speaker 1>relationship really was. So I'm I'm obsessed with this show.

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<v Speaker 1>The podcast is so much better than I ever thought

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<v Speaker 1>it was going to be, and the stories are something

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<v Speaker 1>really special. Yeah, I mean they're so beautiful and uplifting

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<v Speaker 1>and also just so funny, like what it's like to

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<v Speaker 1>be married to a psychic and how you are you

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<v Speaker 1>when you're in a marriage with the psychic. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>so hilarious. The Psychic relationship is fantastic because not only

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<v Speaker 1>did we find out what it's like to be married

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<v Speaker 1>to a psychic, but she also did a past life

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<v Speaker 1>reading for Nick and I where we found out that

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<v Speaker 1>we were Vikings together, married Vikings in a past life,

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<v Speaker 1>but not the raping and pillaging kind of Vikings. The

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<v Speaker 1>community building. Hopefully you still have the hats, though Nick

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<v Speaker 1>still has the beard. Good, well, wonderful, Joe. I'm curious

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<v Speaker 1>before we jump into the to the nine things, what's

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<v Speaker 1>been your favorite part of this show so far? My

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<v Speaker 1>favorite part of the show is just how honest people are.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like people are hungry to talk about real love,

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<v Speaker 1>real commitment, real marriage, because we sugar coat everything these

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<v Speaker 1>days on social media and everyone's posting their adorable couple

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<v Speaker 1>of photos, hashtag couple goals, hashtag date night, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>really awful, right, people are hungry for something honest. They're

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<v Speaker 1>hungry to talk about the real, nitty gritty what it's

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<v Speaker 1>like to wake up next to the same person every

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<v Speaker 1>day of your life. And sometimes that's amazing and sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it's terrible. And they're eager to tell those stories, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm eager to share them with the world. Yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited for people to listen to partially because

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<v Speaker 1>I find the story so inspiring. They really do make

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<v Speaker 1>me want to be a better partner. And you hear

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<v Speaker 1>these stories of like the couple who survived the marathon bombing,

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<v Speaker 1>or like the um the couple without memory. The fact

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<v Speaker 1>that they're constantly working to make really memorable experiences so

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<v Speaker 1>that you can remember them is just phenomenal. It's stunning

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<v Speaker 1>and and there's so much emotion packed in here, and

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<v Speaker 1>I really can't wait for people to listen. Yeah, every

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<v Speaker 1>time I finished one of these episodes, I go into

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<v Speaker 1>Nick and I'm like, I should be a better wife.

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<v Speaker 1>I should really we we have it pretty good. I

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<v Speaker 1>should really just be better at this, or we need

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<v Speaker 1>to find a better wife to join us, or let's

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<v Speaker 1>or let's recruit a better way and that will be

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<v Speaker 1>our next podcast. It's kind of like The Bachelorette. We

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want to tell Joe this, but actually this whole

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<v Speaker 1>thing was a set up to help Joe be a

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<v Speaker 1>better one. That's that's really what this podcast is all about.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, speaking of the emotional, we thought we

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<v Speaker 1>would jump into these courting rituals, so I started us

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<v Speaker 1>off with carrying a big stick. So Joe, we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>turn it to you. Do you have a first fun

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<v Speaker 1>fact for us in this category? So I like this one,

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<v Speaker 1>especially coming on the news this week that the Miss

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<v Speaker 1>America pageant is getting rid of their bathing suit competition. Finally.

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<v Speaker 1>Um in Niger, the Woodhabi tribe does beaty pageants the

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<v Speaker 1>way that they should have always been done, with male

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<v Speaker 1>contestants out on the edge of the Sahara Desert. It's

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<v Speaker 1>the men who dress up and paint their faces and

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<v Speaker 1>dance to impress female judges. All right, that's a good

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<v Speaker 1>one to kick us off. Okay, Mango, what's your what's

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<v Speaker 1>your first fact? So this is a custom from the

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<v Speaker 1>maw ethnic group in southwest China, and it happens at

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<v Speaker 1>the Sister's Meal Festival in April, which I guess is

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<v Speaker 1>something like a Valentine's Day. And I'm not sure if

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<v Speaker 1>you remember doing this, but like when we were in

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<v Speaker 1>fourth grade, you might pass a crush a note that

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<v Speaker 1>has I guess, like a box to say yes or no,

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<v Speaker 1>and you say, like do you want to go play

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<v Speaker 1>pop pot with me? Or do you want to go

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<v Speaker 1>to the school dance or whatever. Um. I did that

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<v Speaker 1>with Tristan and the other day he play with me

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<v Speaker 1>and it was fun. He marked it yes and pasted back.

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<v Speaker 1>But at the Sister's Meal Festival, the women get all

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<v Speaker 1>dolled up and they cook lots of sticky rice in

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<v Speaker 1>different colors, and then they wait for these suitors to,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess, serenade them. And I learned about this from

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<v Speaker 1>a lonely planet. But after a gentleman caller serenades their crush,

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<v Speaker 1>the woman will give them like a bundle of sticky rice.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you unwrap it and you find two chopsticks,

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<v Speaker 1>it means she likes you. And if you find only

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<v Speaker 1>one chopstick, it means a polite no. But there are

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<v Speaker 1>also these stronger messages there too. So if you find

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<v Speaker 1>a garlic clover a chili in your rice, it's basically

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<v Speaker 1>a girl rejecting in front of all your friends. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it basically means you've got a long neces

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<v Speaker 1>serenading ahead of you. But if you find a single

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<v Speaker 1>pine needle in there, it means definitely maybe, because she

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<v Speaker 1>might see you as a fixer of single pine needle. Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty good. I love these different traditions in ways

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<v Speaker 1>that people like to express or ask them to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>to be a couple. But the pine needle, it feels

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<v Speaker 1>awful because like, what did you accidentally eat it? Right,

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<v Speaker 1>like it would just get stuck in your throat. Then

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<v Speaker 1>you'll you'll remember definitely, maybe for a long time. And

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<v Speaker 1>and that's the risk that you're willing to take for love.

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<v Speaker 1>It is It is well speaking of the work that

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<v Speaker 1>goes into expressing your love for someone. Actually, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk a little bit about spooning, but not the

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<v Speaker 1>type of spooning that that we're all familiar with here

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<v Speaker 1>in the US. But this is an old Welsh tradition

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<v Speaker 1>that dates back to the seventeenth century. And so Welch

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<v Speaker 1>boys would make these what we're called love spoons, and

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<v Speaker 1>so they would work for days carving out these little

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<v Speaker 1>wooden spoons that they would then offered to their crushes

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<v Speaker 1>and then basically what they were waiting on was to

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<v Speaker 1>see if they accepted them. And if they accepted these spoons,

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<v Speaker 1>then that meant that, you know, they were able to

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<v Speaker 1>pursue this relationship. And of course if they rejected them,

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<v Speaker 1>then it was just sad because they were rejecting both

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<v Speaker 1>their craft and the opportunity to be a couple. And

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<v Speaker 1>of course, you know, it's not exactly the same type

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<v Speaker 1>of tradition now, they don't make them as in the

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<v Speaker 1>same way, but they actually do on special occasions. They

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<v Speaker 1>will give these um too, you know, those that they love,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, on marriage days or other special days. It's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of a fun tradition. I like this idea of like,

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<v Speaker 1>I like your cutlery, but one more. Yea, yeah, exactly,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks me. Another question, are you guys the big spoon

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<v Speaker 1>or a little spoon? So this is all saved for

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<v Speaker 1>your podcast, You're gonna have to. Uh, we live in Atlanta.

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<v Speaker 1>Were on separate sides of the bed. It's so hot.

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<v Speaker 1>Apparently it matters. When I was talking to the Samburu

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<v Speaker 1>tribe in Kenya, the women told me that they were

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<v Speaker 1>the big spoons and that the women that were the

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<v Speaker 1>big spoons ended up having the happier marriages because it

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<v Speaker 1>let them like exert this kind of control over their husband,

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<v Speaker 1>but also to to comfort them in their sleep. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm with you, Mango. It's just I just need my

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<v Speaker 1>space when I'm sleeping. So it's like, there's no such thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure what you'd be calling. It looks more

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<v Speaker 1>like fly on the wall type thing. So all right,

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<v Speaker 1>here we go. So Joe, what's your what's your next fact?

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<v Speaker 1>All right? So I never knew that Cambodian parents were

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<v Speaker 1>this progressive. But apparently in the Krong tribe, when a

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<v Speaker 1>girl comes of age, like a little bit after puberty,

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<v Speaker 1>her parents build her this little hut in which she

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<v Speaker 1>is instructed to start exploring her sexuality. They even call

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<v Speaker 1>it a love hut. And this, I mean, this seems

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<v Speaker 1>like a much better place to explore your sexuality than

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<v Speaker 1>in the back row of a movie theater watching aspen extreme.

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<v Speaker 1>Not that that's where I explored my own sexual right, right,

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty movie. So parents in the tribe even encourage

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<v Speaker 1>young women to sleep with multiple partners in order to

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<v Speaker 1>find mr. Right. So it's a little bit like sex

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<v Speaker 1>in the city, except it all takes place inside the

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<v Speaker 1>hut because you're not allowed to be seen together outside

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<v Speaker 1>of the hut until you're officially a couple. But the

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<v Speaker 1>nice part about this is that it's not all about

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<v Speaker 1>the sex. It's also a place where the kids can

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<v Speaker 1>get to know each other away from their parents. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's really civilized and rational. It makes a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of sense. That's very interesting. Yeah, alright, Mango, what

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<v Speaker 1>do you have next? So I was thinking, like, why

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<v Speaker 1>just keep this to humans, because they're all sorts of

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<v Speaker 1>stupid in the animal kingdom. Well, I mean, like bower

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<v Speaker 1>birds make houses. I also love that fiddler crabs this

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<v Speaker 1>pomp for women, just like they're clubbing at the Jersey

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<v Speaker 1>Shore like that. That's one of my favorite things to watch.

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<v Speaker 1>But nursery spiders are actually my favorite because, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just like the women at the Sisters Festival, they like

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<v Speaker 1>to make little parcels of food that they've caught and

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<v Speaker 1>then present them in pretty silk packets to their potential mates,

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<v Speaker 1>and if the lady spider accepts it, he'll mate with

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<v Speaker 1>her a while she's unwrapping and eating the feast. That's

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<v Speaker 1>less romantic, but but I do like this presenting thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But here's the interesting part. Male nursery spiders are also idiots,

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<v Speaker 1>and often they'll get hungry and suck the food out

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<v Speaker 1>from the package before they gift it, and so they're

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<v Speaker 1>just passing along an exo skeleton wrapped in the silk.

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<v Speaker 1>Or sometimes they'll try to dupe the women by just

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<v Speaker 1>wrapping a twig and silk, and they're really dumb. But

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<v Speaker 1>like the females aren't idiots, Like they'll actually way the

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<v Speaker 1>packages and then reject the dudes immediately. Okay, yeah, that

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<v Speaker 1>is that is pretty good. All right, Well, I know

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<v Speaker 1>we all have one more fact to share today. Before

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<v Speaker 1>we get to that, let's take a quick break. Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>back to part time Genius, where we're sharing our unusual

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<v Speaker 1>courting techniques or facts about those. So we each have

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<v Speaker 1>one more, if you don't mind, I'll jump in next.

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<v Speaker 1>I've got one that I thought was pretty interesting. So obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>all grown up knowing that whistling at someone, if a

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<v Speaker 1>man whistles at a at a woman, we see that

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<v Speaker 1>as inappropriate or crass, are rude, and and that's not

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<v Speaker 1>really something that the people should be doing. But actually,

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<v Speaker 1>in the Kickapoo tribe in Mexico, they've been using this

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<v Speaker 1>special whistling language as a way to communicate with each

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<v Speaker 1>other that I thought this was actually pretty interesting. They

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<v Speaker 1>can whistle these sweet nothings to their lovers, and actually

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<v Speaker 1>not not just that, but they have to learn to

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<v Speaker 1>whistle in almost special ways that our code to each other.

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<v Speaker 1>And they're communicating so it's not just to say like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm attracted to you, But then they learned to pass

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<v Speaker 1>messages back and forth through these certain whistles, so they

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<v Speaker 1>have to kind of develop their own tone and own

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<v Speaker 1>little language around and that I feel like it was

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<v Speaker 1>just super interesting. So alright, so that is my last

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<v Speaker 1>fact of the day. Jody, have one for this last

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<v Speaker 1>fact um, And I'm hoping that Nick doesn't listen to

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast because I'm going to try it on him

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<v Speaker 1>and see what happens. I'm gonna I'm gonna sneak attack

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<v Speaker 1>him with this one. So out in the Austrian countryside

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<v Speaker 1>in the nineteenth century, young eligible women had this very

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<v Speaker 1>particular way to see if a guy was into them,

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<v Speaker 1>like really into them. To make sure for sure that

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<v Speaker 1>the guy liked them, during dances, she would take a

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<v Speaker 1>slice of apple and wedge it into her armpit. At

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the night, she'd give it to the

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<v Speaker 1>guy that she liked and if he ate it, then

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<v Speaker 1>they were clearly yeah. Yeah, And so I was going

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<v Speaker 1>to add it to his apple in the morning. But

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<v Speaker 1>you know, after after I looked this up, I bought

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<v Speaker 1>an apple down down the street of the bodega. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's really hard to keep an apple wedged in your armpit.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, So I mean that's showing to devotion on

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<v Speaker 1>both part. I the guy eats it. But if the

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<v Speaker 1>girl manages to keep that apple in her armpit all night,

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<v Speaker 1>you know she's she's really making an aff I was

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say that, I know, while you're doing all the

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<v Speaker 1>single ladies. I know, Yeah, how am I supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>do that? All the single ladies dance with an apple?

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<v Speaker 1>What an interesting tradition? All right, mangoes the last one

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<v Speaker 1>of the day. What do you have? So my final

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<v Speaker 1>tip recording someone is to marry a tree. And this

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't work for everyone, but the telegraph to the story

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<v Speaker 1>on this and I vaguely heard of this custom. It

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<v Speaker 1>actually is from India. It isn't something that plays into

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<v Speaker 1>my community. But um, do you guys know that film star?

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<v Speaker 1>I swear your RYE don't. So she's super stunning. She's

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<v Speaker 1>like known as the most beautiful woman in India. She

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<v Speaker 1>was Miss Universe, she became a Bollywood star. She was

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<v Speaker 1>also in Pink Panther, to which I'm sure you all saw.

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<v Speaker 1>But apparently she's what's called monglic And it's when you've

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<v Speaker 1>got this astrological curse on you. And apparently it's because

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<v Speaker 1>the way the stars line up for your birth. But

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<v Speaker 1>essentially what it means is that Mars is going to

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<v Speaker 1>cause havoc in your marriage, and the way out of

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<v Speaker 1>it is by tricking Mars and getting hitched to a

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<v Speaker 1>tree like like you do this in a full ceremony

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<v Speaker 1>with priest and family. And the idea is that once

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<v Speaker 1>you've pulled one over on all Mars, you're you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you're free to court whoever you want, which in this

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<v Speaker 1>case she she married a fellow of Bollywood love, So

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty good. I want to go ahead and admit

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<v Speaker 1>that there have been two facts that actually reminded me

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<v Speaker 1>of Molly Shannon's character Mary Catherine Gallagher. Putting things in

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<v Speaker 1>your armpits was the first one, and then from her

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<v Speaker 1>oh so terrible but also wonderful movie Superstar, when she's

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<v Speaker 1>whispering these sweet nothings to a tree and somebody calls

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<v Speaker 1>this and buster, I just felt like I needed to

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<v Speaker 1>get that off my chest and admit that. So all right, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>before we go, we've got to declare our winner, Mango,

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<v Speaker 1>who do you think deserves to win today's fact? I

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<v Speaker 1>mean that apple fact was so gross, so gross, and

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<v Speaker 1>so wonderful, so wonderful at the same time. And speaking

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<v Speaker 1>of wonderful. I do hope all of our listeners will

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<v Speaker 1>check out the new podcast Committed. We have had a

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<v Speaker 1>blast working with Joe and Ramsey and the entire team

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<v Speaker 1>here at how Stuff Works on this There are a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of episodes now that are available for all listeners,

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<v Speaker 1>and they'll be coming out once a week from here on.

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<v Speaker 1>We love working with you, Joe. Congratulations on this launch

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't wait to see what's next. Thanks guys,

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna have a lot of fun