Speaker 1: Join Raddy and I for a part two of our
Speaker 1: special on Purpose episode Today with BMW. Today, Rady and
Speaker 1: I switch rolls and I go grocery shopping in Raddy's place.
Speaker 1: Tune in for the road trip with the all electric
Speaker 1: BMW I X.
Speaker 2: Super nice, pretty spacious. Let's go.
Speaker 3: So, Raddy, what's the challenge today?
Speaker 2: Okay, So, remember a couple of years ago we did
Speaker 2: this YouTube video where you made something.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been trying to block it out.
Speaker 2: Okay, So you at that time made me? What did
Speaker 2: you make me?
Speaker 1: I made you? So this is the one and only
Speaker 1: time in our entire life.
Speaker 2: To the one time only.
Speaker 1: And I promised it would be one time only. I
Speaker 1: cooked you a stuffed pepper and it was the best
Speaker 1: right stuff pepper you'd ever heard in your entire life.
Speaker 2: It was. It actually made it into my cookbook. I
Speaker 2: don't know whether I've ever even told you this, but
Speaker 2: there is a recipe. It wasn't you our of all
Speaker 2: people have a recipe in my Li's amazing. No.
Speaker 3: I told you if I wanted to be a chef,
Speaker 3: i'd be you know.
Speaker 2: I was asking if you've ever cooked me with there's
Speaker 2: any recipes that remind me of you, And there was one.
Speaker 2: It was either that all beans on toast. They said
Speaker 2: I couldn't put beans? What made it into my book?
Speaker 2: Just because stuffed pepper didn't feel fun enough? It's a
Speaker 2: one part Mexican rice.
Speaker 3: Well why did do stuff pepper not feel good enough?
Speaker 2: It just feels like a bit basic. Honestly, the actual
Speaker 2: Mexican rice has made it. It's like a one part
Speaker 2: Mexican rice dish. So you already kind of know how
Speaker 2: to do this.
Speaker 3: I don't I a little bit.
Speaker 2: What we're going to do is you're going to go
Speaker 2: into the grocery store or the supermarket as we like
Speaker 2: to call it, and we are going to You're gonna
Speaker 2: buy all the ingline.
Speaker 3: This is my worst nightmare.
Speaker 2: But on top of that, just to make it a
Speaker 2: little bit spassic, we are going to get you making
Speaker 2: some guacamole and some healthy sour cream to be able
Speaker 2: to dollive on top, and then I will joyfully eat
Speaker 2: it for lunch.
Speaker 3: While we're on the way to the grocery store, let's
Speaker 3: answer some questions.
Speaker 1: Let's do it so you've got them next to you,
Speaker 1: because I can't I can't read question and driver at
Speaker 1: the same time, I think that would be very safe.
Speaker 3: If we were in corporal karaoke right now, what would
Speaker 3: what would it be?
Speaker 2: Mine would be yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah
Speaker 2: yeah yeah yeah. Or it would be baby, calm down,
Speaker 2: calm down, you know that. Don't tell me no, no, no,
Speaker 2: you have to know the word. You always make fun
Speaker 2: of me because he makes fun of me and my
Speaker 2: music choice because he says a lot of it. There
Speaker 2: isn't actual words. It's either mumble or is sound sounds,
Speaker 2: So that would be mine. If it was Jay you
Speaker 2: will be don't never stop it? So yeah, Drakes song.
Speaker 2: Everybody obviously got that I was doing right.
Speaker 3: That's exactly where all right.
Speaker 2: Other questions, what's the biggest difference between drivers in LA
Speaker 2: and drivers in London? To say, I do find LA
Speaker 2: drivers a little bit more impatient, just really really yeah,
Speaker 2: I do find there's a lot more bee paying. No
Speaker 2: one wants to give you a way, whereas you know what,
Speaker 2: in London, I'd say, people do let you into things
Speaker 2: really yeah.
Speaker 3: Interesting.
Speaker 1: One thing I really love about driving in LA is
Speaker 1: a driver myself is I love the palm trees.
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm on a constant vacation.
Speaker 2: Drivers though, right, right, But I.
Speaker 1: Agree, I do find the highways scary in LA too,
Speaker 1: because when people are switching lanes. Yeah, when people are
Speaker 1: switching lanes, and obviously everything's the other way around for us,
Speaker 1: so you're driving on a different side of the road
Speaker 1: and the steering wheels on the different side of the car.
Speaker 1: So especially I find when I come back from London,
Speaker 1: I find it even scarier and I find myself too
Speaker 1: much on one side or the other.
Speaker 2: Oh, I do that all the time.
Speaker 1: But yeah, and I think, I mean, I think drivers
Speaker 1: pretty much everywhere in the world are pretty impatient.
Speaker 2: Yeah I am to Do you believe you are? Do
Speaker 2: you believe you're a backseat driver? Okay, I'm a proud
Speaker 2: backseat driver. You know why because my line every time
Speaker 2: I do a backseat driver thing like watch out or
Speaker 2: don't go that close is imagine I didn't say that.
Speaker 2: I could have just saved your life and somebody else's.
Speaker 1: The difference is every time you say it, I'm like,
Speaker 1: the way you say it is more likely to cause
Speaker 1: an accident. Yeah exactly, yes, yeah exactly, then save me.
Speaker 1: Like I'm like, literally I have a shock, Like I
Speaker 1: literally have a shock every time you say and what happened?
Speaker 1: Like what happened is something? Something happened and you're.
Speaker 2: Like, no, just it's my usual. Oh my gosh, this mummy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, mummy, it's like, what's mummy going to do?
Speaker 2: I would say I am more of a backseat driver
Speaker 2: than Jay.
Speaker 3: It's yes, I'm not a backst driver at all.
Speaker 2: Maybe that just shows I can.
Speaker 3: Also not a backst driver in life.
Speaker 2: Oh line drop.
Speaker 3: No, No, But it's it's an interesting question, right, like this.
Speaker 2: Is like you know what on me is? Actually you
Speaker 2: know what? Let's go deeper into that. What does it
Speaker 2: mean to be a backseat driver in your life? What
Speaker 2: does it mean? Jay to be a backseat driver? Please?
Speaker 2: Do you tell us? No?
Speaker 1: I just I just think that some of us, you know,
Speaker 1: grab life by the steering wheel and navigate and take
Speaker 1: the journey ourselves, and some of us sit in the
Speaker 1: back seat and criticize and judge and.
Speaker 2: Complain about Do you not think that in life we
Speaker 2: need both backseat drivers and people who want to take
Speaker 2: the steering wheel, and too many steering wheel people would
Speaker 2: actually be not not good.
Speaker 3: That that's an amazing question. That's an amazing question.
Speaker 1: No, I believe that when you're driving, you should drive
Speaker 1: safely and securely and responsibly, and when you're in the
Speaker 1: back seat, you should be obedient.
Speaker 2: I'm talking about that.
Speaker 1: In life, in life, in life.
Speaker 2: Okay, next question, people, next question, if you could pick
Speaker 2: three people to fill your car with?
Speaker 1: Good question, Oh, just reminder of these were questions that
Speaker 1: my team came up with, so we had no.
Speaker 3: Idea what we're going to be.
Speaker 2: If you could pick three people to fill your car
Speaker 2: with on a road trip.
Speaker 3: Who would they be on Let's try one.
Speaker 2: Three people in the whole time world. Yeah, okay, I knows, Yeah,
Speaker 2: mine would be Okay, for a lie, would be my grandma,
Speaker 2: my niece, and my nephew Banta forever. So much fun. No,
Speaker 2: but that would be like it would be so funny
Speaker 2: between the back you can be in the carton but
Speaker 2: not alive. I would love to have a car full
Speaker 2: of like my grandma and then her grandma and like one.
Speaker 2: I love driving around old people. I do it for
Speaker 2: my grandma and her friends all the time, and it
Speaker 2: is so much fun because they're hilarious. You know. One
Speaker 2: thing I found my dad opens up on road trips,
Speaker 2: like if it's just me and him he's driving me
Speaker 2: to the airport, or my sister told me yesterday that
Speaker 2: he was driving her to the airport and he starts
Speaker 2: telling stories about himself. Like it creates this time and
Speaker 2: space where people can open up a little bit. And
Speaker 2: so with that in mind, I think I would want
Speaker 2: that with people that I really wish I had got
Speaker 2: to know but wouldn't have.
Speaker 1: The chance to What questions would you ask or what
Speaker 1: game would you play with these people on a long.
Speaker 2: Joe for fun? I would definitely you play well our
Speaker 2: version Indian version of carpor karaoke and tactuary where you're
Speaker 2: just sing like old Indian songs. But I imagine my
Speaker 2: grandma and her ancestors would probably sing like devotional songs
Speaker 2: or god songs, which is amazing. But then to actually
Speaker 2: ask them questions. Oh, I love word association. I think
Speaker 2: it tells a lot about people, right to like to
Speaker 2: like understand when they hear something what they related to. So, yeah,
Speaker 2: what about you? Who would your three people? Babe?
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, all right, So if it was living it
Speaker 1: would be you, my sister.
Speaker 2: And my mom.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that would be like my family trip.
Speaker 3: Yeah, if it was people who weren't alive or like people.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'd want it to be Steve Jobs, mind, Luther King
Speaker 1: and Einstein.
Speaker 3: Oh, and I wouldn't say anything. I would just listen.
Speaker 2: Would be all of them.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't yah as I would have not. I would
Speaker 3: just listen.
Speaker 1: I would have nothing to say and think about what.
Speaker 3: They would say.
Speaker 2: You know, it was just so fun in the car
Speaker 2: that we've done a few a few random car trips
Speaker 2: with him together is rather than a swam because I
Speaker 2: feel like he really brings up such good conversation and
Speaker 2: also does the same thing my dad does, where there's
Speaker 2: so many stories that come out during those trips. I
Speaker 2: love those trips. Actually, I take you out and put
Speaker 2: him into mind. Sorry, got it with my nephew.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure that I was going to say, the
Speaker 1: other person you love having in the car is there?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's a good car.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2: That's a good answer. That would be a really interesting
Speaker 2: conversation to have if it was possible. Who is more
Speaker 2: likely to leave the car lights on overnight? I literally
Speaker 2: did that yesterday, not overnight.
Speaker 1: Now, you leave the car lights on, you leave the
Speaker 1: car unlocked, You forget to charge the car.
Speaker 2: I leave my little like, we're so.
Speaker 3: Lucky that we have electric cars. Right now, this is.
Speaker 2: Always lost their hairband, spared drink, spare some pair of sunglasses,
Speaker 2: some snacks. There's always something here lingering right, really a blessing.
Speaker 1: So then yeah, I would mean me, I'll take that.
Speaker 1: I find that I go through periods, but the car
Speaker 1: is immacula. And then when I have too many clothes
Speaker 1: shoes in.
Speaker 2: The car, there are times I literally come to the
Speaker 2: car and it's like he's been living out of his
Speaker 2: car for a long time.
Speaker 1: Because I've started to realize that it happened the other night, Right,
Speaker 1: I needed a suit because I had an event to
Speaker 1: go to, And I've started to realize, so I keep
Speaker 1: my pickle wall stuff in the car. I need my
Speaker 1: I need a suit in the car. I need a
Speaker 1: suitcase in the car, potentially, Like I find like so
Speaker 1: much in my life is so like last minute, I
Speaker 1: jump on a plane, do this, do that that. I've
Speaker 1: started to realize that I need to be more prepared.
Speaker 2: I feel like you weren't prepared for this road trip
Speaker 2: because where are my beverages?
Speaker 1: No, but we're gonna buy some junior when we get there,
Speaker 1: he's most likely to get castick in a car that
Speaker 1: driving me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I get cast sick so much.
Speaker 1: I still's figure that out though, that kind.
Speaker 2: Of this is going way deep into this. Shall we
Speaker 2: let's dive into it, Jay.
Speaker 3: Come on, I'm trying to figure out this whole classic situation.
Speaker 2: Why is the imbalance in the ear But there's nothing
Speaker 2: to figure out?
Speaker 3: But then how do we solve our imbalance because we've
Speaker 3: had this for a while.
Speaker 2: No, it's an imbalance in like your ear drum. So
Speaker 2: there are different ways you can use peppermint all that
Speaker 2: really helps me. Chewing on ginger, that's really helpful. And
Speaker 2: then if you are reading read upwards. Okay. The next
Speaker 2: question is would you need maps to get from our
Speaker 2: house to go to a grocery? Yes? Yes, I think
Speaker 2: Google Maps has really ruined my ability to absorb in
Speaker 2: things around me. And I don't know what I would
Speaker 2: be without Google Maps. Don't. Well, no, I know what
Speaker 2: I would be. I don't know where I would be.
Speaker 1: If I was If I'm in London, I can really
Speaker 1: get around. But I feel like ever since we moved
Speaker 1: to the stage, I've become very relied reliant on maps and.
Speaker 2: Yes, so in conclusion, we both would need maps to
Speaker 2: get anywhere. I'm assuming this is a question from you
Speaker 2: to me? Do you not answer texts from me? Because
Speaker 2: you're playing hard?
Speaker 1: So I told the team that sometimes you don't respond.
Speaker 1: I have to explain this to our friends as well,
Speaker 1: because our friends will be like upset with me, like
Speaker 1: it is rightly okay, Like I'm I'm like, she doesn't
Speaker 1: reply to her own husband for like seven messages, Like
Speaker 1: I have to ask you the same question.
Speaker 2: You're quite You're someone who like is not You're not
Speaker 2: so succinct though I am succinct, okay me honestly. But
Speaker 2: I also think you know what I really do think,
Speaker 2: and this is this is I'm gonna have a j
Speaker 2: Setty moment now. I believe that we have this terrible
Speaker 2: habit of wanting people to reply within like a day.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, what if I want to reply within
Speaker 2: a week?
Speaker 3: But if we live together.
Speaker 2: And ask me when you see me?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 2: And I just think that there's this I don't. I
Speaker 2: find that the reason I get distracted so fast is
Speaker 2: because this need of oh my gosh, I have to
Speaker 2: apply to this person part I have to reply to
Speaker 2: this email within this amount of time. I have to,
Speaker 2: and some times I just want the freedom. Like today,
Speaker 2: I've replied back to an email three days later. Was
Speaker 2: anybody hurt by it? No? Well, if they were, I'm sorry,
Speaker 2: But all like text messages. Someone messaged me and I
Speaker 2: remembered it this morning, so I was like, oh, four
Speaker 2: days later, and I don't even feel like I should
Speaker 2: have to apologize for a late reply because late is relative.
Speaker 2: But yes, I am bad. I'm actually no, You've got
Speaker 2: really good at it, thought so much better.
Speaker 1: I just find sometimes I need to make a decision.
Speaker 2: Totally call me. I am not a messager.
Speaker 1: I am, and I'm the opposite. I'm a message meeting
Speaker 1: a message. I don't know what's call me because I'll
Speaker 1: be in meeting mema.
Speaker 2: Like, if you call me, I will pick up and
Speaker 2: we can talk. I'm more than happy to do that.
Speaker 2: But because I have to type so much for work
Speaker 2: and I'm on my phone all the time, for that,
Speaker 2: communication via phone becomes so tedious to me, it's not fun.
Speaker 2: So call me, beat me if you want to reach me.
Speaker 1: One of the times I do take calls, which I
Speaker 1: do love, is when i'm driving, that's usually my time
Speaker 1: to take a phone. It speeds up any journey.
Speaker 2: LA has such bad reception.
Speaker 3: Fair.
Speaker 2: What would each other's first line be if you meant
Speaker 2: now at a party?
Speaker 3: Oh interesting?
Speaker 2: Mine would be something like, did you try the vegan tocos?
Speaker 3: Are you vegan?
Speaker 2: Are you vegan?
Speaker 3: Mind be?
Speaker 1: Mine would be we never met at a party, so
Speaker 1: I don't also have that kind.
Speaker 2: I think maybe you say you'd probably get into like
Speaker 2: a group convo with with people, and then you say
Speaker 2: something intellectual, and then i'd have I'd ask you something.
Speaker 3: And oh so I'd use my intellect.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you use your intellect. What's the first song?
Speaker 1: No? But do you know what, let's let's get into this. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I really feel for everyone who's like dating right now
Speaker 1: and stuff.
Speaker 3: But it's really hard.
Speaker 1: Like like you have to be interesting on your profile,
Speaker 1: you have to be interesting on your pictures, Then you
Speaker 1: have to be interesting on text, Then you have to
Speaker 1: be interesting on a voice note, then you have to be.
Speaker 2: Interested in real you get the real life.
Speaker 1: It's because you're forced to have to be interesting at
Speaker 1: every tiny point of connection.
Speaker 2: No, sometimes I just wanted to not talk and just
Speaker 2: be silent. You can't do that on dates. You can't
Speaker 2: just be yourself. You always feel like you have to.
Speaker 2: You have to show up as a really excitable, interesting
Speaker 2: person with a lot that you do in life. What's
Speaker 2: your screen time?
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, well tell me yours later.
Speaker 2: I don't even want to tell you.
Speaker 3: Tell me.
Speaker 2: Seven hours thirty minutes.
Speaker 3: How mankey senses during the workday.
Speaker 2: Let's see what it shou see what it is though.
Speaker 2: Most used WhatsApp, so like yesterday was WhatsApp for three hours.
Speaker 2: That's messaging in court. Yeah, Instagram for one hour ten
Speaker 2: not bad. Internet surfing for one hour, note section forty
Speaker 2: two minutes. Because I write that, I write your quotes,
Speaker 2: I write my quotes on there, write my little reminders, reflections,
Speaker 2: Google maps thirty minutes, messages twenty six minutes, and Google
Speaker 2: calendar twenty three minutes.
Speaker 3: That's too bad.
Speaker 2: Honestly, that's probably one of my Google mail twenty minutes.
Speaker 2: I was writing back to that one email. Great, if
Speaker 2: our relationship had a theme song, what would it be?
Speaker 3: Pop star?
Speaker 2: Yeah, pop star? No doctor? Yeah, I'd go with that.
Speaker 2: I ask, great, do you have a gig about me?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Literally? I think it used to be when you used
Speaker 3: to run late.
Speaker 2: Okay, tell you mine? Mine is because you know you
Speaker 2: have this like photographic memory. I don't you remember everything?
Speaker 2: Sometimes even if I know I'm in the right, I
Speaker 2: questioned myself. I am, though, there are sometimes where you
Speaker 2: actually get it wrong.
Speaker 3: I don't you do?
Speaker 2: And this this is my egg, this part.
Speaker 3: You're the stubborn one.
Speaker 2: I don't get anything.
Speaker 1: No, you're I do get stuff wrong. I make you
Speaker 1: the first to say I'm sorry or first.
Speaker 3: Got something wrong. You're the stubborn one. Your stubborn.
Speaker 2: Okay, great, it's gonna start all right.
Speaker 1: So we're here, made it, made it and you had
Speaker 1: that conversation with you.
Speaker 2: Me too. Really, I'm really excited to get a little bever.
Speaker 3: And for the challenge. I am.
Speaker 2: Are you ready?
Speaker 1: Are you?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 2: Come on, let's go. Let's go get some food. Come
Speaker 2: make me something. It's Friday. I need some I need
Speaker 2: a break. Okay, I don't open this. Okay, amazing, you're
Speaker 2: not opening my door for me now?
Speaker 1: Oh sorry, see exactly, show you visit. Ye.
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's go.
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Speaker 2: That was fun here.
Speaker 1: You're hungry, I'm gonna go home, and I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: home and make lunch for you. How does it feel
Speaker 1: when someone makes your own food for you?
Speaker 2: Honestly great, because you know what the what the amazing
Speaker 2: thing about cooking and recipes is that you can like
Speaker 2: when I cook my mum's food, I can literally cook
Speaker 2: the same thing with the same recipe and it will
Speaker 2: never taste the same.
Speaker 3: In a good way.
Speaker 2: In a great way. Like everything is so different.
Speaker 1: So when I made your recipe, it will have its
Speaker 1: own flavor. Yeah, because it will be made with love
Speaker 1: for you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll just be using different hands, different amounts. Like
Speaker 2: even if you're measuring things out, somehow things always taste different.
Speaker 2: That's what's so amazing about food. Right, I'm just not
Speaker 2: a person to speak to when I'm not fed. I
Speaker 2: don't know whether you're like that.
Speaker 3: Is that how you feel right now?
Speaker 2: That's all I feel right now.
Speaker 3: I get what you're saying, though I get quite hungry
Speaker 3: as well. Do you You.
Speaker 2: Do you don't get I get upset, upset, I get agitatedated, agitated.
Speaker 3: So what do we do? What do I do when
Speaker 3: you're agitated?
Speaker 2: Ideally not talk to me, but we can't do that.
Speaker 3: Right now because we're recording.
Speaker 2: Keep this going. What do you do to keep yourself like?
Speaker 2: Because you're someone who expends so much energy during the day,
Speaker 2: I feel like you're probably one of the most what's
Speaker 2: like the word for a person who uses their time
Speaker 2: really well organized? No, no, no, you are one of
Speaker 2: the most productive people that I know, and you really
Speaker 2: don't you know, you're not a time waster. You really
Speaker 2: use your energy and your time so efficiently. But I
Speaker 2: always wonder, and I feel like I can asked this
Speaker 2: a lot, like how do you manage to maintain that
Speaker 2: energy level throughout the day?
Speaker 3: I don't. There are times when I feel tired.
Speaker 2: But secondary part of to that question is when you do,
Speaker 2: like right now, I feel like I just want to
Speaker 2: get into bed and do nothing for the rest of
Speaker 2: the day. But like, one can't do that often, So
Speaker 2: what would one do if one was feeling that way?
Speaker 2: And actually, you know, how do you keep motivated and
Speaker 2: then pick your energy back up?
Speaker 1: I think, first of all, I do love what I do,
Speaker 1: and I really and I'm really grateful to get to
Speaker 1: do what I do. I feel like I appreciate that
Speaker 1: I get to do what I love every day, and
Speaker 1: I don't take that for granted.
Speaker 2: I've noticed that about you. You really, even if you
Speaker 2: are feeling that way, you self soothe a lot in
Speaker 2: the sense that you you self talk to motivate your
Speaker 2: like you don't really rely on other people to.
Speaker 3: Bring you no, you give me no.
Speaker 2: But what I'm saying is you find ways. I know,
Speaker 2: even when you're feeling tired, you're like, no, you know,
Speaker 2: I may be tired, but this is something that I
Speaker 2: love doing. Or you're constantly talking to yourself in a
Speaker 2: positive language to motivate yourself or energize yourself. And I've
Speaker 2: noticed that about you, where even if you are tired,
Speaker 2: and even if you're yeah, I'm exhausted, but I've had
Speaker 2: like the best week and it's been so productive and
Speaker 2: I got this done, and what an amazing thing to
Speaker 2: be able to do this or this. And so I've
Speaker 2: noticed that with you where even and so I think
Speaker 2: that language really makes a difference.
Speaker 1: To how Yeah, And I always say to myself, I
Speaker 1: am tired, so I'm accepting and then and then I
Speaker 1: add an action to solve that. So I am tired
Speaker 1: and I'll go to.
Speaker 2: Sleep tonight, I'll sleep.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll go to do it tonight.
Speaker 1: Or I am tired and tomorrow I'm going to sleep
Speaker 1: on the plane, so I've got to fly tomorrow.
Speaker 2: It's always telling you, you know what it is. It's
Speaker 2: your body reacts to how you're feeling and what you're
Speaker 2: saying to it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're not lying to you. You can't just be like, oh,
Speaker 1: I feel I feel energized.
Speaker 2: Because it knows you like you know, but it's one
Speaker 2: of those things where you are almost giving it that hope,
Speaker 2: and that's something to look forward to where it's like,
Speaker 2: let's just put in that last amount of effort and
Speaker 2: then just know that I also know you are struggling,
Speaker 2: and I know that this is happening in my in
Speaker 2: your in my body. So I'm telling you body that
Speaker 2: we are going to do this and it's gonna it's
Speaker 2: gonna make us feel better.
Speaker 1: And also planning recoup, right, like I know that like
Speaker 1: last weekend when you planned a little spar day for us, Yeah,
Speaker 1: like I was looking forward to that the whole week.
Speaker 1: We knew we had a tough couple of weeks before that,
Speaker 1: and now I know I've got another quite intense like
Speaker 1: seven days ahead and then I'm hoping to have a
Speaker 1: bit of a couple of days of rest, and so
Speaker 1: I think it's also balancing that out and saying, Okay,
Speaker 1: I know I've got a busy period, When am I
Speaker 1: going to plan some deep rest rather than going okay,
Speaker 1: I'm just going to rely on that energy.
Speaker 2: I think people, and by people, I mean people like me,
Speaker 2: we live moment to moment rather then like there's a
Speaker 2: lot of people, and I'm not saying whether that's good
Speaker 2: or bad, but there are people who live moment to
Speaker 2: moment and react according to how they're feeling in the moment,
Speaker 2: and then there are people who and I think there's
Speaker 2: a training element to it, where you know, you can't
Speaker 2: always act on how you're feeling, because often how you're
Speaker 2: feeling may not be may not be the right way
Speaker 2: to do what you need to do. Like I feel
Speaker 2: a certain way right now, but do I have things
Speaker 2: to do and do I need to get them done? Yes?
Speaker 2: Whereas if I went with how I was feeling and
Speaker 2: I didn't train myself to push through that, sometimes I
Speaker 2: wouldn't be able to get done what I need to do.
Speaker 2: So I think it takes an element of training. I
Speaker 2: think that's every single time you're feeling that way, having
Speaker 2: that talk and pushing yourself to do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's really smart. Solved it. What was that last
Speaker 3: question on the page?
Speaker 2: It was what kind of party person are you?
Speaker 1: Oh? Introvert extrovert?
Speaker 2: What was It was kind of like the so I
Speaker 2: know I and the person yawning at the party, but
Speaker 2: also the person who I find one person to talk
Speaker 2: to the whole night usually stick with that person. No,
Speaker 2: you're like a full on social butterfly. I'm not a
Speaker 2: going to get you out of a party.
Speaker 1: I find Jeremy at any party. No, No, this is true.
Speaker 1: When Humble lived here, I would find Humble Jeremy at
Speaker 1: any party and we would sit and have a philosophical
Speaker 1: conversation and half that's fact, that's fact, that's fact. As
Speaker 1: umbl Jeremy the person is that stubbornness coming out in you.
Speaker 3: I know why.
Speaker 2: I know because I'm always waiting by the door waiting.
Speaker 1: That's never happened in a million years.
Speaker 2: Are you joking?
Speaker 3: Are in one place that I'm going to ask all my.
Speaker 2: Friends, all of our friends tonight when we see them.
Speaker 2: What usually happens at the end of the night. It's
Speaker 2: you talking to everybody saying bye for about.
Speaker 3: Yea because they guess at our home, or.
Speaker 2: About you talking to people and I'm waiting to go
Speaker 2: to the next shop and you're just having a You
Speaker 2: just you just chatter. You are definitely know you are
Speaker 2: you love socialized.
Speaker 1: You know what though, we went to some really beautiful
Speaker 1: things lately, so we were really fortunate to go to
Speaker 1: Kristen Bell was being honored by UN Women and for
Speaker 1: the World Peace and it was a gala, the first
Speaker 1: ever gala. It was absolutely incredible. I think we were
Speaker 1: both moved by Sharon Stone.
Speaker 2: Who's Winstone gives such an incredible She talked about shared
Speaker 2: so much that I just didn't know about. And you know,
Speaker 2: one thing that's made me that that situation made me
Speaker 2: think it was about there was some women who are,
Speaker 2: you know, advocating for a lot of peace around the world,
Speaker 2: and this was a woman that came from Afghanistan and
Speaker 2: she was talking about the amount that's happening in Afghanistan,
Speaker 2: and it made me realize that there is so much
Speaker 2: happening around the world that we don't hear about, and
Speaker 2: what makes it to us is based on what the
Speaker 2: media decides to show us. And I find that so
Speaker 2: interesting because when I then was thinking about other things
Speaker 2: that I've heard through my friends or you know, depending
Speaker 2: on where you're from originally, you may hear more to
Speaker 2: do with that country, right, And so I was thinking
Speaker 2: about the other areas of the world that we just
Speaker 2: don't hear about, and there is so much happening around
Speaker 2: the world that we just don't know.
Speaker 3: About, and we can't even and we can't.
Speaker 2: It's so difficult, and it's obviously what's close to you
Speaker 2: and what's meaningful, but it is so interesting that we
Speaker 2: do kind of live in our own bubble, even though
Speaker 2: you think we have so much access to other parts
Speaker 2: of the world. Like they were talking about what's happening
Speaker 2: in Afghanistan and how you know, yeah, refugee camps and
Speaker 2: how the women there are treated and they're not allowed
Speaker 2: to go out into even walk by themselves on the street,
Speaker 2: they're not allowed education. There's so much.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was really blown away. I think we were
Speaker 1: both blown away by when Sharon Stone was saying that
Speaker 1: the average refugee spends eleven years in a refugee camp
Speaker 1: and there's no access to toilets and showers for that
Speaker 1: much time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what. I was thinking about this, and
Speaker 2: my parents were in refugee camps. Well my mum was
Speaker 2: for a long time, so was my dad for years
Speaker 2: of their teenage life, and they're refugee camps. My mum
Speaker 2: was saying was actually it was in London. It was
Speaker 2: in Scotland, sorry, And they were saying they did have
Speaker 2: those facilities there, but I think maybe in different parts
Speaker 2: of the world they didn't, but I think it's more
Speaker 2: collective showers, collective toilets, and you just think about how
Speaker 2: different people's lives can be. Like my parents went through
Speaker 2: that for their teenagers, they spent it in refugee camps.
Speaker 2: They see it as a place that saved their life.
Speaker 2: Like they see the refugee camps as we were able
Speaker 2: to leave an unsafe place.
Speaker 3: To come and because they were able to get out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, and so they were so grateful to even
Speaker 2: have that someone that actually took them in and given
Speaker 2: that opportunity to start over and start a new life.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And then the other event we went to that
Speaker 1: I think was really beautiful and special this week was
Speaker 1: the celebration event for Clarence and Jackie Avon. Oh Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was just spectacular, so so grateful. We both were
Speaker 1: invited by Nicole Avan to celebrate her parents, and even
Speaker 1: though we didn't know her parents, I define like that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was such a beautifully organized event. I felt so
Speaker 1: moved and touched because I walked away going, Wow, if
Speaker 1: only I could even try to serve my community and
Speaker 1: live in the way her parents did like to have that.
Speaker 2: Much impact, And whether it's impact online, offline, the people
Speaker 2: closest to the people that you meet in a shop,
Speaker 2: whatever it is to have that effect where people are
Speaker 2: so touched by who you are as a person and
Speaker 2: how you've gone above and beyond for them. I think
Speaker 2: it was incredible. The number of people in so many
Speaker 2: different areas, so many different walks of life. I was
Speaker 2: blown away. It was incredible.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was unbelievable to had that experience and just yeah,
Speaker 1: just to hear about how, yeah, how someone for that
Speaker 1: many years as we could continue to support and serve
Speaker 1: their community. I know.
Speaker 2: I feel like it was from his pretty much like
Speaker 2: teenage years or both their teenage years, all the way
Speaker 2: up till ninety. Yeah, and still there were people who
Speaker 2: had met him at ninety and were sharing how much
Speaker 2: even within a couple of months they had completely changed their.
Speaker 1: Perspectivele Yeah, it was really really special. Yeah, yea, it
Speaker 1: was incredible. And then obviously we got to watch this
Speaker 1: beautiful performance by Stevie Wonder, which I thought was oh.
Speaker 2: My god, literally made me cry. What's a legendary human?
Speaker 2: And then to be able to I think more than
Speaker 2: anybody that I've seen in real life, and we went
Speaker 2: to Beyonce's concert. We went to so many things, but
Speaker 2: I don't know there's something for me. I've got a
Speaker 2: personal kind of nostalgia with Stevie Wonder. It was playing
Speaker 2: my day. I used to play all the time in
Speaker 2: the car when I was growing up and just an amazing,
Speaker 2: amazing artist.
Speaker 1: Yeah, really fun events. So those are two social events.
Speaker 1: You didn't have to drag me out.
Speaker 3: I'll play.
Speaker 1: And I really really love attending these events. And I
Speaker 1: almost remind you of humanity. Like, I walked away in
Speaker 1: different ways. One was what we can do to serve,
Speaker 1: what we can do to help. The other one about
Speaker 1: how we can celebrate humans as well. I felt I
Speaker 1: walked away thinking, how do I want to celebrate my parents?
Speaker 2: So?
Speaker 1: How do I want to celebrate what they gave me?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it made me walk away thinking because there were
Speaker 2: so many amazing stories that they were telling, And it
Speaker 2: made me walk away thinking, is there's these amazing games
Speaker 2: you can buy and journals that you ask your parents
Speaker 2: to fill in and to talk about their life before
Speaker 2: you and even their life throughout you. But it's a
Speaker 2: year long journal. I don't know what it's called, but
Speaker 2: I'm going to try and find it again. I saw
Speaker 2: it and I asked questions that you would never normally
Speaker 2: ask your parents, and I realized, I want to and
Speaker 2: I want to go back and got all these pictures
Speaker 2: and things from when they were younger, to actually ask
Speaker 2: the stories behind the pictures and write them down in
Speaker 2: the album. Because there's one thing about having like footage
Speaker 2: of and being like, oh, this is a nice picture,
Speaker 2: but when you have the depth in the story behind
Speaker 2: it, it makes it so much more meaningful. So I'm going
Speaker 2: to do that with my grandma and my parents. I
Speaker 2: was going to tell you to do that with your mom.
Speaker 3: Remember when you tried to interview your grandma.
Speaker 2: I did try to interview my grandma. I wish there
Speaker 2: was a way of doing it where she doesn't realize.
Speaker 2: My grandma gets into like perform a mode when the
Speaker 2: camera's out, which she gets really serious. But I still
Speaker 2: think I learned so much.
Speaker 3: From You need to do it in a way when
Speaker 3: it's you're just sitting in a room.
Speaker 2: But I do think it's important. I follow this page
Speaker 2: on Instagram that's all about the questions you should ask
Speaker 2: your parents. Oh my God, look this God does hand gestures.
Speaker 2: What is like to change things on the screen. Is
Speaker 2: I've seen that on BMW's I Forgot you can change
Speaker 2: songs and stuff like this.
Speaker 3: Okay, but what are you doing right now?
Speaker 2: That's the hand Just I don't know what I'm doing
Speaker 2: right now, but that'll be like if a song is playing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I think it's so nice getting to know your parents
Speaker 2: before you to be able to understand them and how
Speaker 2: they are with you now. I definitely want to invest
Speaker 2: time in doing that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1: It was really beautiful, really really special, and her book
Speaker 1: is amazing. It's called I Think You'll Be Happy. It's
Speaker 1: really really special. It's really grateful to have her as
Speaker 1: a guest on the podcast. I was going to say
Speaker 1: my sister's wedding was one of those times that I
Speaker 1: feel like I really got to celebrate her, and I
Speaker 1: think it's so interesting. You get very few opportunities to
Speaker 1: celebrate the people that you love, and you almost have
Speaker 1: to take all of them and create.
Speaker 3: More because people don't take them.
Speaker 1: It's time to celebrate their own lives, and we don't
Speaker 1: take time to celebrate the people's people's lives that we love.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so true that days are a good opportunity to
Speaker 2: do that if you do it properly. Yeah, so who
Speaker 2: were you wearing?
Speaker 1: Okay, hello about you have energy for stuff like that. Okay, Now,
Speaker 1: I was just thinking that my sister's wedding was honestly
Speaker 1: just so much fun, talking about spending time with family
Speaker 1: and talking about doing amazing things. And my sister had
Speaker 1: five events across seven days proper India, with an average
Speaker 1: attendance of over three hundred people at every single event.
Speaker 2: Small.
Speaker 1: It was a small Indian wedding, but it was insane
Speaker 1: and I was more run down from her wedding than
Speaker 1: I was from my tour. And I think the reason
Speaker 1: is because it was so emotional as well. I must crying, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I must have cried, like just.
Speaker 2: Crying every day, every day, every hour, the whole ceremony,
Speaker 2: crying as well. He looked across I would look across
Speaker 2: him and he be crying, and then naturally when people cry,
Speaker 2: I cry, obviously. I just also love their relationship. It's
Speaker 2: so sweet. It's one of the sweetest brother sister relationships
Speaker 2: I've ever come across. And there was one time where
Speaker 2: he turned to me and he just stopped crying and
Speaker 2: then sending look, I was crying again. He looks at
Speaker 2: me and he goes. She was saying her vows, she's
Speaker 2: so well spoken. I was like, okay, great, yeah, she's
Speaker 2: she did really good speeches, like she went to elocution
Speaker 2: classes when she so it was just really he was
Speaker 2: welling up at her speaking so beautifully. I think she
Speaker 2: said like one line.
Speaker 3: But you were crying as well.
Speaker 2: Of course I was crying. We love her. She just yeah,
Speaker 2: she's your kid.
Speaker 3: It was really cute. It was really cute. And then
Speaker 3: I cried throughout my whole speech.
Speaker 2: Cry through the whole speech, lumbering away.
Speaker 3: It was really sweet, though, I don't think do you
Speaker 3: know what it was?
Speaker 2: Actually? This? This speech was half sweet and half sassy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the first half was legendary.
Speaker 2: First half. Normally, you know in speeches people have a
Speaker 2: bit of banter. Jade took it all the way bantering it.
Speaker 3: It was a full on comedy set.
Speaker 2: It was who knew you were funny? I did?
Speaker 3: You did?
Speaker 1: I think what it was right about the wedding was
Speaker 1: I actually realized just how much my sister loves me,
Speaker 1: and I realized how much I love her, Like it
Speaker 1: was like that was what I was feeling.
Speaker 2: You how you didn't know how much your sister loved you.
Speaker 2: You are literally the pick to me, like you just
Speaker 2: everything to her. There is nothing you could do wrong
Speaker 2: in her eyes, and even if you do, she's forgiven
Speaker 2: it within like five seconds.
Speaker 3: Well, I think it's also you know what it is.
Speaker 2: Especially knows how much you love her.
Speaker 1: That's why I think, because there far I think sometimes
Speaker 1: I have to put some of my feelings aside to
Speaker 1: get on with my focus and my drive, and there's
Speaker 1: an element of where I have to I don't get
Speaker 1: to express those emotions all year around, but I am
Speaker 1: carrying them internally, and then they all come out in
Speaker 1: that moment because I don't you know, I don't get
Speaker 1: to see my sister every week. I don't get to
Speaker 1: talk to her all the time, and when I do,
Speaker 1: even I've never found phone conversations to be as fulfilling
Speaker 1: and as deep as being in person. And so I
Speaker 1: feel like I carried that love around and then it
Speaker 1: was all I had to come out. You were so wonderful.
Speaker 1: You helped her with the wedding so much. She was
Speaker 1: so grateful to you, and you did so much for
Speaker 1: the wedding. It was amazing, and she did an amazing
Speaker 1: job planning an epic wedding. I was like, I don't
Speaker 1: know how someone plans by events in seven days so
Speaker 1: much insane?
Speaker 2: Is that the sun of the car sounds like a
Speaker 2: space ship.
Speaker 3: It feels like a space ship.
Speaker 2: To exactly, I'm so hungry.
Speaker 1: I know you're excited for some Mexican rice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly I am.
Speaker 1: Are you excited for some stuffed pepper. Are you excited
Speaker 1: for some cabbage you expected? Excited for some cilentro?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Are you excited for some avocados?
Speaker 2: Oh, my god, fresh squatch?
Speaker 3: Very excited for some taco seasoning?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Excited for some bell peppers? Are you excited for
Speaker 1: some vegan eggs? Are you excited for some sour cream?
Speaker 1: Remember everything on the list?
Speaker 3: I actually remembered your god, have you.
Speaker 2: Lear that game? That's like I went to the store
Speaker 2: and I bought, but that's usually that. I went to
Speaker 2: the store and.
Speaker 3: Airport pattig, Yeah, I got you there.
Speaker 2: I went to the store and I put as.
Speaker 1: I went to the store and got some aciptidia beans
Speaker 1: and can This isn't.
Speaker 2: There's no reason for this to be in that act.
Speaker 3: There is great.
Speaker 2: I went to the store and I bought beans.
Speaker 3: What did you say, tomatoes?
Speaker 2: Canned tomatoes and dried oregana.
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