1 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you 2 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:07,800 Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please 3 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:17,120 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read 6 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:19,600 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now, and you never know 7 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: it could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight. 8 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. 9 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:29,560 Speaker 1: Thank you. Nephew's subject I need to get away for 10 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: a while, just Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty three year 11 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 1: old married woman and my husband and I have four children. 12 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:40,160 Speaker 1: The teenagers are fine, but I went and had two 13 00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:44,080 Speaker 1: younger children that get on my last nerve. They take 14 00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: so much time and energy that I don't feel like 15 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 1: I have any time for myself. My husband doesn't help 16 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: me out at all with the children, so I'm a 17 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: full time housewife and mother. My husband used to come 18 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 1: home during the day for a quickie, but he stopped 19 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: doing that. Our three year old usually comes in our 20 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: room at night, so I stopped trying to have sex 21 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 1: a year ago. That doesn't mean that I don't need 22 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: to or want to. I just don't want to do 23 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: it with my husband or in the US at all. 24 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:19,319 Speaker 1: My girlfriends and I are going through similar experiences, and 25 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 1: one of them researched a vacation spot with men there 26 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:26,959 Speaker 1: to cater to women. Twenty four seven and older lady 27 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:29,959 Speaker 1: she knows went there for for New Year's and she 28 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: had so much good sex. She's good until twenty twenty three. 29 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 1: I just want the experience of being with someone else, 30 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 1: someone that has a lot of stamina and knows what 31 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: he's doing. I just need to get away for a while. 32 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 1: I know this is unbelievable for a woman to have 33 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: this type of request, but men do it all the time. 34 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure back in the day when my husband 35 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: went away with his friends, he wasn't an angel and 36 00:01:56,440 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: possibly cheated on me because he would always come back 37 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 1: right eyed and bushey tailed and want to please me 38 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:06,920 Speaker 1: over and over. These days are long Those days are 39 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 1: long gone, and now I need to go and sew 40 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:13,399 Speaker 1: my royal oats before I lose my mind. I love 41 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 1: my husband dearly, so I'm doing this for us and 42 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: so our marital bond can stay strong. Just like a 43 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:24,959 Speaker 1: man might ask you, I'm asking how do I get 44 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:28,079 Speaker 1: my husband to agree to me leaving him with the children. 45 00:02:29,720 --> 00:02:38,280 Speaker 1: Where is this vacation? Yeah, yeah, you heard it. So 46 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:42,360 Speaker 1: you're a full time housewife and mother, okay, whose children 47 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 1: get on your nerves and your husband doesn't help. Your 48 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:48,680 Speaker 1: husband doesn't help with them. You said you went and 49 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 1: had two younger children, so I'm going to assume you 50 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 1: wanted them at the time. Now you're acting like you 51 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 1: forgot what three year olds do. I mean, come on, now, 52 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 1: every mom I agree with you here. Every mom needs 53 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 1: a break from time to time, a nice girl's night out, 54 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:07,400 Speaker 1: fun girl's trip or something like that, but not a 55 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 1: sexcation like you're talking about to get done by some 56 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 1: random man at a resort. I mean, you're a married woman. 57 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 1: I know you know that, even though you said you 58 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: don't want to do it with your husband or anywhere 59 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:25,079 Speaker 1: in the US. But you sound crazy. I mean, you 60 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: are married. Don't you even care about that? Your husband 61 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: is right there? I mean, why can't you guys try 62 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:35,080 Speaker 1: to reignite that spark. There's nothing going on there. I 63 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 1: mean that seems to be the problem to me. You 64 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 1: don't care about your marriage right now, you've given up. 65 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: There's no romance, no excitement, no more working on the marriage. 66 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 1: You think going outside, going to the sex resort is 67 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: going to fix everything, It'll probably cause even more problems 68 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: for you. You gotta at least try to honor your vows. 69 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: And as for the kids, your husband doesn't get a pass. 70 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: They're his kids too, so he definitely should hold up 71 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 1: his end and watch them while you go to you know, 72 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 1: get away, go to lunch with your girls, get your nails, 73 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: get your hair done, have your teenagers pitch in sometimes too. 74 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 1: I mean, there are solutions to these problems that you're 75 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: that you say you're having here. I mean I would 76 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 1: try these things out before I run off and cheat 77 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: with another man. You know, I don't know. This just 78 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:28,839 Speaker 1: is really crazy what you're asking right now to me, Steve, Well, 79 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:33,840 Speaker 1: you know, the thing about being second in the Strawberry 80 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:37,400 Speaker 1: letter is I have an advantage where I get to 81 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 1: hear what Shirley's going to say, not that it affects her. 82 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: Change is what she's gonna say, And I've discovered it 83 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:48,599 Speaker 1: don't affect or change nothing I'm gonna say either. It's 84 00:04:48,680 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: just I read different than Shirley, because Shirley's a better 85 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:57,839 Speaker 1: reader than I am. Shirley's more educated than I am. 86 00:04:57,880 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: Shirley's more well spoken than I. I am more well 87 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 1: read than I am. When I read these letters, I 88 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:09,280 Speaker 1: don't know what I'll be reading, but I I don't know. 89 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 1: I just see other stuff. So here I go, reading 90 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 1: as an ignorant person that ain't really ignorant, though. Here 91 00:05:21,600 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 1: we go. Now you're forty through. Y'all married woman, your husband, 92 00:05:25,279 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 1: y'all got folk kids teenagers, fine, and had two young 93 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:31,559 Speaker 1: kids to get on your last nerves. I got seven 94 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 1: and ain't none of them young, And they get on 95 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 1: my damn dads. Hello, Shelley's baby get on her nerves. 96 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:41,400 Speaker 1: Color daughter get on her damn nerves sometimes too. Oh, 97 00:05:41,480 --> 00:05:43,479 Speaker 1: we hear all about the cheerleading and that thing. But 98 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: then all peaches and cream. Now you want what you 99 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 1: gotta go? Where you want to have a sleepover? It's COVID. 100 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 1: You know what she going through it too, you know, right? 101 00:05:55,880 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 1: And then you know you know your husband don't help 102 00:05:58,080 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: you out with the kids. You a full time house 103 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:03,159 Speaker 1: wife and mother. That's a big job. That's a huge job, 104 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:05,840 Speaker 1: folk kids. I gotta get it to it. Then your 105 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 1: husband used to come home doing the day for a quickie. 106 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 1: He stopped doing that well because it in folk kids. 107 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: That's why he quick coming home for them quickies. Because 108 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 1: we got folk and he don't want five, so that 109 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 1: stops the quickies. That's why he don't come home no more. 110 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: He don't want number five. Now, this letter gonna take 111 00:06:26,880 --> 00:06:28,920 Speaker 1: a turn when we come back, and I'll have to 112 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 1: get into it because the three year old and started 113 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:32,720 Speaker 1: coming to get in the bed. And now y'all ain't 114 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: had sex in over a year, and that don't mean 115 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 1: you don't want to. And we're gonna get into that 116 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: when we come all right, all right, hang on. Part 117 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 1: two of Steve's response to the Strawberry letter, coming up 118 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:48,279 Speaker 1: at twenty three minutes after the hour. The subject is 119 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,719 Speaker 1: I need to get away for a while. Okay, we'll 120 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:54,640 Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening Steve 121 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap 122 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:02,200 Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter. The subject is I need to get 123 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: away for a while. Well, the recap is easy because 124 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: we ain't really said nothing. Forty three year old woman 125 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: with four kids, married to a husband that don't help 126 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:15,520 Speaker 1: with the kids. She's frustrated. She's overworked, underappreciated. That's the 127 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 1: story of a lot of women. Being a full time 128 00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 1: housewife and mother is a huge job. Understood, sister, can't 129 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: take nothing front of you or your husband. Don't help 130 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: out ye and your man because he used to come 131 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: home for a quickie, but he quit doing that. He 132 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 1: quit doing that. Well, like I said, you got four kids, 133 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 1: he don't want number five. Ain't don't need to come 134 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,120 Speaker 1: into the house for quickies. No both. Then the three 135 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,440 Speaker 1: year old has started coming sleeping in the bed with y'all. 136 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:41,320 Speaker 1: Y'all don't stop us. Or now you ain't even had 137 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 1: to try to have sex in a year. Then you 138 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 1: say that doesn't mean that I don't need to or 139 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,080 Speaker 1: want to. I just don't want to do it with 140 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 1: my husband or in the US at all. Wait a minute, 141 00:07:55,440 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: did that come from everybody heard that line in the letter? 142 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 1: I don't want to do it with my husband or 143 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 1: in the US at all? What is wrong with United States? Six? 144 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 1: I don't have a problem with her. I am telling 145 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 1: you right now. I'm a global world traveler. But United 146 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 1: States sexes where I've had the absolute most of them. Alabama, 147 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 1: Florida Michigan, Ohio, West Virginia, all them down, Kentucky, Texas, Yeah, 148 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:55,439 Speaker 1: Oklahoma and yeah, California, Yes, Vegas, everyone New Mexico in Colorado, 149 00:08:55,600 --> 00:08:58,880 Speaker 1: asked the rockets. I've been everyone, and I don't like. 150 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 1: I don't like. Hi to sex that I don't like. 151 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 1: How to pulling yourself together? You need the oxygene, how 152 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:12,320 Speaker 1: to get on the tank. After that, I tried that, 153 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 1: how to do sex? I had to stop yet back 154 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,680 Speaker 1: All right, here we go anyway. So that's I don't 155 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 1: done any what this letter is about. All my girlfriends 156 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 1: are going through some similar experiences. And one of them 157 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 1: researched a vacation spot with men there to cater to 158 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:31,960 Speaker 1: women twenty four seven and older ladies. She knows we're 159 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 1: there for New Year's and she had so much good sex. 160 00:09:34,800 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: She good in to twenty twenty three. Now, let me 161 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 1: ask you something. First of all, and older ladies, she 162 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:44,560 Speaker 1: knows you already forty three, So you know an older 163 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 1: lady that went there and had so much sex. She 164 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:51,120 Speaker 1: good for twenty twenty three. So now you and your 165 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: girls and got together, and this is what y'all want 166 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:57,959 Speaker 1: to do. Okay, I just want the experience of being 167 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 1: with someone else. Oh so well, you are telling the truth. 168 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:04,920 Speaker 1: You just want to see what it is to be 169 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:08,200 Speaker 1: with somebody else. Some variety is what you want right now, 170 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: and you don't want it in the US. Where is 171 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:17,760 Speaker 1: this resorting? Thank you? We all need to know. I'm 172 00:10:17,840 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: trying to well, I don't want to know. I just 173 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: want to know where they then found me, and that 174 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 1: what country you're going to, because I'm gonna tell you 175 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 1: right now, if it ain't in the right country, you're 176 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 1: gonna be disappointed from. Mexico is not known for that. 177 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:43,720 Speaker 1: I've been a lock. Can't come hard rock moon babe, 178 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:46,319 Speaker 1: I'm in all and they're not known for that losting 179 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:50,960 Speaker 1: time US And I ain't seen nobody walking through that 180 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:53,959 Speaker 1: look like they've feel to be ringing bells and knocking 181 00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 1: boots and putting your eyes in the back of your head. 182 00:10:56,360 --> 00:11:03,200 Speaker 1: I ain't seen it, just size wise. I ain't. Now 183 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:08,120 Speaker 1: go to Jamaica. Go to Jamaica. Some stuff could happen. 184 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:11,560 Speaker 1: They're over there handling it. If you're going to Jamaica, 185 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:13,880 Speaker 1: it's something like that has possibility. I can tell you 186 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 1: right now. Don't go to France. It ain't what you 187 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:25,400 Speaker 1: think said that last You ain't gonna know what hell 188 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:27,880 Speaker 1: they're saying. It's gonna be like disappointment over there. But 189 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 1: I don't recommend Germany either because it's rough. Don't feel 190 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 1: crush dot, I don't nobody want to give holiday. That's 191 00:11:43,480 --> 00:11:47,080 Speaker 1: eva sex in Germany. So I don't recommend you're going 192 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:51,439 Speaker 1: to Germany. Africa not Africa. You can go to Africa 193 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: gonna be a whole lot like us, because that ain't 194 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:59,080 Speaker 1: nobody but Us. That's Detroit is over there, Chicago, Cleveland 195 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: is over there, and they all look like us. It's 196 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,559 Speaker 1: gonna be some gonna be some good loving over there, 197 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 1: but it's gonna be a little it's gonna be a 198 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:09,360 Speaker 1: little bit different though. So I'm trying to figure out 199 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: the country. The only country I could recommend you go 200 00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 1: to is Jamaica. Um, you know, because they down there 201 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:18,360 Speaker 1: and the boys down there bringing it, and they bring 202 00:12:18,520 --> 00:12:21,560 Speaker 1: it all. A lot of them over there look like 203 00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 1: dress over There's a lot of interest going over there, soul. 204 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:28,480 Speaker 1: That's what I ain't. I ain't really got no news 205 00:12:28,520 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 1: for you, except let me just help you with this 206 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:32,960 Speaker 1: last part. How do I get my husband to agree 207 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: with me? Leaving the children. First of all, you cannot 208 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:38,240 Speaker 1: tell him where you're going that, you cannot do that. 209 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:42,640 Speaker 1: And then next you have got to lie. See I've 210 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:46,320 Speaker 1: told y'all about the truth. Truth is overrated. You have 211 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:51,280 Speaker 1: got to lie. You cannot even remotely suggest that this 212 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: is where you're going. So I would just tell him 213 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 1: that you and your girlfriends are going to a fat farm. 214 00:12:57,559 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 1: That's what you need to say. You're going go to 215 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: fact phone and go over there and get worked out 216 00:13:03,080 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 1: till you lose weight, and then you come back and 217 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:08,040 Speaker 1: he'll believe. That's all I have for your ship. And 218 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: when I are you want me to come back. I 219 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:13,440 Speaker 1: tell you other countries to avoid, but he don't go 220 00:13:13,480 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 1: to Germany, going up with Junior coming up nesting. You're 221 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 1: listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.