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Speaker 1: I told my brother his eulogy for his dead best

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Speaker 1: friend was garbage, and his reaction surprised me, like crying

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Speaker 1: best friend died. So I am the writer in the family.

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Speaker 1: Ever since I've remembered, family of friends have been coming

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Speaker 1: to me for writing advice, whether it be college papers,

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Speaker 1: cover letters, or.

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Speaker 2: Even wedding vows.

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Speaker 1: Ever since I was five, my dolmass family asked me

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Speaker 1: to write for them, and I'm always happy to help,

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Speaker 1: even though most of them are college educated adults who

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Speaker 1: should know what a comma splice is by now, idiot.

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Speaker 1: But fast forward to a few days ago, when my

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Speaker 1: brother's best friend passed away. My brother is, of course

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Speaker 1: in shambles, and he's adamant about giving the eulogy, even

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Speaker 1: though he is a blue collar shut up. He came

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Speaker 1: to me and he asked me to edit it because

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Speaker 1: he wanted to make sure he did his best friend proud.

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Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I.

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Speaker 1: Agreed, because he's my brother and I'm a talented editor.

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Speaker 3: Dude, stop jerking yourself off.

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Speaker 1: So he sent me his first draft over email, and

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Speaker 1: it was well terrible, OPI who was other caarbage. This

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Speaker 1: may sound harsh, Yes it does, Opie. My God, but writing.

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Speaker 2: Is my craft.

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Speaker 1: I hate this guy so much, and if you ask

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Speaker 1: me to edit something, I'm going to edit it seriously

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Speaker 1: and soberly.

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Speaker 2: No matter what it is. Man has no tax I

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Speaker 2: mean zero. I want his best friend to die like

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Speaker 2: this is.

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Speaker 1: And I think a second grader writing about the goldfish

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Speaker 1: he flushed down the toilet could.

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Speaker 2: Have evoked more emotion. Yikes. He's not like submitting a

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Speaker 2: screenplay to Warner Bros.

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Speaker 3: He's just trying to show that he cares about his

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Speaker 3: dead friend.

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Speaker 1: I basically told him as such. He said that verbatim

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Speaker 1: in kinder words, of course, because he's in a difficult place,

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Speaker 1: and I understand that. Do you OPI what a kind

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Speaker 1: empathetic soul you are. But I basically told him the

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Speaker 1: truth that it was structurally a mess, and thematically write

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Speaker 1: if you.

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Speaker 3: Were actually trying to help, you wouldn't give feedback like that.

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Speaker 1: You can give some suggestions and just give suggestions. It's like, hey,

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Speaker 1: this is what I think?

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Speaker 2: What do you think?

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Speaker 1: Of course, I gave him a myriad what an sat word?

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Speaker 1: I gave him a myriad of examples of how to

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Speaker 1: develop this piece more coherently. But guess what sam what

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Speaker 1: he was having none of it? Huh who he accused

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Speaker 1: me of being condescending and inconsiderate and all of this

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Speaker 1: other BS nonsense, all because he asked for my help

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Speaker 1: and I gave it to him. I just told him

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Speaker 1: the truth. And now we're in probably the worst fight

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Speaker 1: of our lives, just a few days before the funeral.

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Speaker 2: So am I a hole?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Bro? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: You know, like, all right, I think it's fair to

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Speaker 3: actually give some feedback on a eulogy. I think that's

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Speaker 3: totally fine. Right, you want your brother to commemorate his

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Speaker 3: friend in the best way possible, but like you leave suggestions,

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Speaker 3: you don't give feedback. That's unhelpful, right, That feedback is

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Speaker 3: unhelpful for someone who doesn't right.

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Speaker 1: I think it all depends on the temperament. If he's

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Speaker 1: if he came to him and he's like, listen, really

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Speaker 1: give me suggestions because they do actually want to do whatever,

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Speaker 1: blah blah blah.

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Speaker 2: Okay, cool, I'll make some suggestions.

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Speaker 1: But if you's just like, hey, could you look this

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Speaker 1: over to DA, I'll give them some suggestions, but I'll

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Speaker 1: like I'm prioritizing, like, look, you wrote this with your heart,

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Speaker 1: like this is beautiful. This, this is a great homage

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Speaker 1: to your friend. And though I mean it would have

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Speaker 1: to be like Bob goodfriend. I have goldfish, it go

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Speaker 1: flus fun baby. I don't know, I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: think the whole like if I'm in op shoes, my

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Speaker 1: whole goal is to make the friend feel good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah,