WEBVTT - FREDIA GIBBS - Fighting for Every Bite 0:00:13.320 --> 0:00:16.160 Hey, guys, welcome to another episode of Eating While Broke. 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:18.520 I'm your host, Coleen Witt, and today we have very 0:00:18.560 --> 0:00:24.520 special guests. Three times undefeated world kickboxing champion Fridia Gibbs 0:00:24.560 --> 0:00:27.120 aka the Cheetah is in the building. How are you 0:00:27.360 --> 0:00:28.280 so fantastic? 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:30.800 Colle Thank you for having me. How you doing I'm 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:31.319 doing good. 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:33.120 I'm excited to have you cooked for me. 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:33.959 Am. 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:36.360 I and I have never got I don't think I've 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:41.120 ever been able to interview a obviously, never interviewed an 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:45.839 undefeated three time world champion in any sport, but let 0:00:45.840 --> 0:00:50.640 alone kickboxing before. But before we get into all the conversations, 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:52.080 I need to know what are you gonna have me 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:52.720 eating today? 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:56.840 Okay, today we are going to eat some steak in asparic. 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:59.640 Steak and asparagus. Okay, what are all the ingredients to 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:01.000 make this this extra special? 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:03.360 The ingredients to make this extra special? Obf, she gotta 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:05.720 have a one sauce, you gotta have virgin oil. There 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:08.160 are we gonna include butter, salt, pepper, garlic, salt, and 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:09.240 some my garlic globe. 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:12.760 Okay, got it? And asparagus and stick. Now, if you 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:15.240 guys are EVI a listener to eating while broke. I 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:18.480 don't eat red meat, so out of the spirit of 0:01:18.520 --> 0:01:21.000 the show, I will take a bite and I will 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:24.040 judge her very hard. Okay, and I don't even I 0:01:24.440 --> 0:01:26.080 don't think. I think the last time I tried a 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.440 one or steak sauce was like probably like when I 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:31.679 was like twelve or something. So we're gonna really live 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:33.560 it up today on the show. So go ahead. See, 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:35.280 we don't leave you a lot of cooking room. Hun, 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:36.959 Are you gonna really box it out right now? 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:37.720 I'm going to like, chap. 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:40.399 This is a this is like a fake. This is 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:41.399 a stove set. 0:01:41.760 --> 0:01:45.880 Yeah, you gotta look out marinate that through. You gotta 0:01:47.760 --> 0:01:50.200 throw some karate chops at the steak there flipping the 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:52.800 steak here on. During the time that I'm flipping the steak, 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:54.960 I'm thinking about all the times I had to flip 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:59.840 my mindset for from survival to success. That makes sense. Yeah, 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:03.520 had added a little bit of garlic salt on my 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:05.480 survival mode. That makes sense. 0:02:05.560 --> 0:02:07.480 I've never seen someone beat up with steak like this. 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:09.239 But I had add a little bit of that there. 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:11.799 I had to go into that success mode cooking. Now 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:14.160 what it makes me feel like I feel like I'm 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:15.960 celebrating progress. 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:17.400 Now, okay, okay, yeah. 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:19.840 We're gonna add some salt and some pepper. We already 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:22.079 add the garlic salt there, right, yeah, add a little 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:22.600 pepper there. 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:25.079 This is I think he is one of those twisters. 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:26.720 I think you got it right here. 0:02:27.000 --> 0:02:27.280 Show me. 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:30.200 Let me try to help you out. Poor steak is 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:33.960 about to get murdered. She's frying up the garlic. She 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:37.520 done beat up the steak for real with her hands, 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:42.919 seasoned it with steak. It was salt pepper. Now you're 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:43.680 going in with the butter. 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:45.480 Yeah, going in with the butter, baby girl. 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:48.160 All right? Now, is this that's just for the steak, 0:02:48.240 --> 0:02:48.720 right yeah? 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:50.240 This is for the steak and asparagus. 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:52.320 Okay, all right. 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:53.800 See what a lot of people don't know is you 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:56.720 got to cook the asparagus and the steaker. There got 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:58.680 cooking combined. That's why you cooked the steak first. 0:02:58.880 --> 0:03:01.919 So essentially you're put in the butter, the garlic you 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:04.800 see in the steak, and the asparagus is all going 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:06.600 into one pot exactly. 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:08.800 Yeah, because when I was broke, I only had one pot, 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:10.160 you know what I mean, And that's the one pot 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:12.480 that I used, and I learned how to cook multiple 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:14.560 different foods than the one pot. It makes sense. 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:16.960 Yeah, yeah, you was always washing dishes. 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:19.640 Yeah, no, I don't like washing dishes. That's why I 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:22.040 always had one pot, one big plate. 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:23.720 But that's what I'm saying. After every meal you had. 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:24.000 To wash it. 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:26.920 I always had a dish washing okay, okay, so you 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:29.440 wash your three three, your three four. 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:31.480 No, I would wait until they pile up. 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:38.920 Okay, So I'll just keep buying dishes. Oh god, you're hilarious. Okay, 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:41.120 So take me back to what was going on during 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:45.440 the steak and asparagus error. Take you back to one 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:47.440 What was going on during this time. 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:50.160 Back when I was broke. I had to dress up 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:53.080 oodles and noodles, That makes sense. Yeah, And I would 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:55.280 call a t bone steak and asparagus because that's something 0:03:55.280 --> 0:03:57.480 that was like my vision. Yeah, during that time when 0:03:57.480 --> 0:03:59.880 I was broke, and what I had to do as 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:02.360 just done here. I had to season it with some 0:04:02.440 --> 0:04:05.120 hot salt, you know what I mean, seizing my food 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:07.440 with faith because I was only eating noodles and noodles, 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:08.120 how it was broke. 0:04:08.360 --> 0:04:10.520 But were you eating oodles and noodles or were you 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:12.520 eating steak and asparagus. 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:13.520 Back in the day when I was broke, I was 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:16.279 eating oodles and noodles, but my vision was to have 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:19.640 steak and asparagus. I couldn't ford steak at the time. 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:23.040 Okay, so what did you you ate noodle ramen noodles? 0:04:23.120 --> 0:04:25.400 Yeah? I would mix it up with the vegetables and 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:27.440 chick a little bit of chicken here and the steak 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.120 here and there, and just mix it up and make it. 0:04:29.160 --> 0:04:32.039 Look when you go into these ramen stores today, what 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:34.120 do you see they mix it up with everything. Yeah, 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:35.120 they got that from me. 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:38.320 You're hilarious, you know they got that. Wait, why are 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:39.720 you making steak in this? 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:42.400 This is what I'm cooking today because this is what 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:44.360 I strive for. This is what's my vision. 0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:48.440 Oh you know, so you switched up our whole show today. Yeah, 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.479 you're supposed to be cooking me a broken dish. 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:51.440 Okay. 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:52.680 I was wondering the whole time. 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:54.640 I was like, oh damn, she has me. 0:04:55.960 --> 0:04:59.520 Take me back to the oodles and noodles day. Yeah, 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:01.680 take me back to what was going on during that era. 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:03.560 Oh what jeez, man. 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:06.960 Take me back time and everything it's okay for putting 0:05:06.960 --> 0:05:07.240 steam in. 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:10.360 Go ahead, okay. Well, during the oodles and noodles era, 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:13.839 that was doing my fighting, Ara, I didn't really have 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:17.240 a job. I had to fight for food, meaning that 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:20.440 during the time I was competing, but I wasn't getting 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:22.520 paid at the time because I was just an amateur. 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:25.440 I was working side gigs. I had to fight. Like 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:26.800 I said, I had to fight for food. I had 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:28.039 to figure out how I was going to keep the 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:30.680 roof over my head during my oodls and noodles days 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:33.159 and back in those days keeping my oodles and noodles. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:34.560 They coming back to twelve. 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:37.800 But before you started fighting for it, where did the 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:40.240 oodles and noodles start? Take me back to like, prior 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:43.640 to you even starting to fantasize about kick boxing, Take 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:44.839 me back to your childhood life. 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:48.240 Childhood life, Oh jeez. I'm obviously from Chester, Pennsylvania, south 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:52.000 side of Philadelphia, from the projects there a fairground project 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.159 during those days. We grew up very poor, but we 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:56.520 didn't know we were poor. That makes sense, Yeah, and 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:59.680 that's when moms was back on welfare during those days, 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:04.320 back that time. Sosehold, I've always come from a two 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:07.760 parent household. I've had my grandfather, my grandmother, and my 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:10.279 great grandfather and grandmother. So I've always come from a 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:12.479 two parent house. How many kids, it's three. I'm the 0:06:12.480 --> 0:06:13.200 oldest of three. 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:16.600 Okay, did anyone else get into kickboxinger. 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:18.680 No, my brother got into fighting. My sister she'd got 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:22.600 into boys. But you know how that works, right, Yeah, definitely. 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:25.600 But yeah, okay, so you come from this two parent household, 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:28.120 it's me closer to where you start to get the 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:31.920 idea that you want to get into a very kickboxing. Yes, 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:35.600 I used to get Yeah, I was gonna say, I 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:39.200 want to say an untraditional sport. But okay, you were 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:39.880 getting bullied a lot. 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:41.200 Yeah, I used to get bullied a lot. It was 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:44.240 pretty smart in school. In elementary school, and the girls 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:46.679 in the classroom, they would make me do their homework. 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:48.800 At first, I started out helping them. You start off 0:06:48.839 --> 0:06:51.520 helping somebody. Then I started helping them do their homework 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:54.200 because I was always excelling in class. And then it 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:56.000 got to the point where I would do them a 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:58.080 favor and do their homework one time. And then it 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:00.200 got to the point where they were forcing me, making 0:07:00.279 --> 0:07:02.159 me do their homework. You dig and it got to 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:04.279 the point where I was tired of doing their homework. 0:07:04.360 --> 0:07:06.520 And when I decided that I was tired of doing 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:08.760 their homework and I felt they should do their own homework, 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:11.240 that's when they decided to beat me up and toss 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:12.840 me in the bat in the trash can in the 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:13.480 girl's room. 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:15.880 Oh no, we were you. 0:07:15.960 --> 0:07:17.040 I believe I was bullied. 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:19.760 Yeah, I could believe it. There's a lot of people 0:07:19.760 --> 0:07:21.840 that are successful today that I had to hold that 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:24.440 were you smaller inside and stature at the time. 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:27.080 I was a little medium height, little muskar as. I 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:29.360 was athletically built because I was built like a track 0:07:29.440 --> 0:07:31.880 runner and the medium height, and I wore glasses all 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:33.880 the time, just like I do today. It was like 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:35.120 a little nerd. 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:37.600 So these girls started bullying you. Did you go home 0:07:37.640 --> 0:07:38.960 to the parents and say, hey. 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:42.760 Guys, nom my mom. No one knew for almost a 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:45.600 whole year. You dig And then, like I said, I 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:47.640 decided I'm not doing your homework. So they said, we're 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:50.400 going to kick your behind when you get off the 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:54.200 bus going home from school. So I was I was terrified. 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:56.840 So when we got on the school bus, right Coley, 0:07:57.200 --> 0:08:00.160 I said to the bus driver, listen, can you let 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:04.080 me off at the stop ahead? Because they said they 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:07.360 gonna beat me up, And the bus driver said no. 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:10.400 I was like, what I said, put that whole school 0:08:10.440 --> 0:08:13.160 gonna beat me up. She said, listen, this is what 0:08:13.200 --> 0:08:16.160 you do. I said, well, she said that everybody, when 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:18.280 I let you off at your stop at the fairground, 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:21.400 I want you to let everybody get off the bus, 0:08:21.960 --> 0:08:25.320 and you'd be the last one to get off. I said, okay, 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:28.960 and I'm thinking about that. I said, okay, so everybody 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:31.440 got off the bus. Just listen to this. Everybody got 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:32.520 off the bus, all the. 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:34.280 Kids even get you a headstart. 0:08:34.400 --> 0:08:36.840 So now I go, yeah, exactly. So she said, now 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:38.720 I want you to walk to the back of the bus, 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:41.680 and I unlocked the emergency door. So I went ahead 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:44.040 and walked to the back of the bus. And when 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:47.280 I walked back in the bath. When I walked to 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:51.880 the back of the bus, everybody outside, all the kids outside, 0:08:51.960 --> 0:08:54.520 walked to the back of the bus. Unlocked the door. 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:57.400 Boom boom. She said, now walk back to the front 0:08:57.440 --> 0:08:59.720 of the bus. So I walked back to the front 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:02.959 of the bus. Everybody outside walked back to the front 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.720 of the bus. She said now when I counted three, 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:08.800 I want you to run bus out that door and 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:13.000 run as fast as you can. That's the bus driver said. 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:15.960 I said, okay, she said one. Now I'm stand at 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:17.520 the front of the bus with the bus driving. All 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:20.480 the kids at the front too. Outside she said two, 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:24.240 she said three, took off. I took off. Run who 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:27.880 bust off the back of the yellow fool bust or boom, 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:30.440 And I had hand started on whamp. I'm a hardtown. 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:32.839 I was running and I got to my mom's crib 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.600 and I busted U turn and I busted my mom's door, 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:38.160 shut the door real fast. And my mom she's playing 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:40.520 solitary at the time, so all the cards flew off 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:43.880 to the table. She's like, girl, what the hell wrong 0:09:43.960 --> 0:09:46.360 with you busting this door like a black super woman? 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:49.120 What you gonna do? Lost your mind? But I shut 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:51.199 the door. Boom. She knew something was wrong. I had 0:09:51.200 --> 0:09:53.440 the door shut, and I was cool because I was safe. 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:55.720 I went on in the house, my my own business. 0:09:55.760 --> 0:09:58.400 My mom heard all the kids outside making all this 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:00.319 your noise. So she went to take a look out 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:02.360 the window, and she saw all the kids outside. She's 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:04.240 what the hell is going on with this here. Then 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:07.240 I had to confess because I couldn't run all my life. 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:09.920 So she went outside. She said, what the hell is 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:12.120 going on out here? They were like, we gonna kick 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:15.200 Fredy's butt, and my mother was like why and cousin, 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:19.000 she didn't do our homework. And then my mom was like, Sissy, 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:19.920 get y'all. 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:21.760 You can do it. 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:26.040 Okay. My mother said, Sissy, get your motherfucking ass out 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:31.480 here right now. She hand me the broom. Yeah, call me, 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:34.040 she said to the she said, now, which one of 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:36.640 y'all want to fight her? And all three of the 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:38.800 girls raised their hand. My mom said she ain't fighting 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:41.280 all three of y'all. She said, now, which one is 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:48.080 the baddest one? Then this girl gilded raised the girl 0:10:48.200 --> 0:10:50.040 raised her hand. I'm gonna let that cook. A little 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:52.400 bit girl raised her hand and it was the biggest one. 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:56.560 My mom said, what's your mama's name? She said Fanny Lou. 0:10:57.000 --> 0:10:59.920 My mom said figure. My mom said, after this is over, 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:02.840 you go down there and tell Fanny Lou you ever 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:04.600 put your hands on my daughter gain, I'm gonna come 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:06.760 down there and beat Fatty Lou's ass. She said, you 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:09.120 let Fatty Lou know that. She said. Now, since this 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:11.320 is who you're gonna fight, she said, Now, I'm gonna 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:14.360 tell you this here. I want you to beat her ass. 0:11:14.720 --> 0:11:17.319 You hear me, And if you don't beat her ass, 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:20.160 you're gonna get two ass whoopings. All right, Now here's 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:23.280 the bru beat her ass. That's exactly what my mama said. 0:11:23.360 --> 0:11:25.640 You know what, shall we come to? Go ahead? 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:28.720 I promise you shout all the black mothers to speak 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:31.240 like this. Yeah, that's how we grew up. If you 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:33.600 don't whoop they asked, you don't come home, and you're 0:11:33.600 --> 0:11:35.439 gonna get a second ass with us, so they gotta 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.839 look worse than you. Otherwise you gotta come home in trouble. 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:40.600 But shout outs to the parents that did that, because 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:43.560 you know what, shout out to your mom. Undefeated world champion. 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:47.120 All started with this fighter, get it. 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:53.160 Really, but you got two women my mind. I lost, 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:55.599 but I didn't hear a whooping. So after it was 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:57.600 all over with, the fight was over with, I came 0:11:57.640 --> 0:12:00.280 back in glasses off, one shirt off, pull over. The 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:01.680 broom was half of a broom? 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:02.760 What was he gonna do with the broom? 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:04.320 Hit her with the Oh I did hit her with 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:07.199 the broom. She was bigger than me. So that's why 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:08.400 my mom gave me the broom. 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:10.400 Yeah, that's right. Your mom asked for the bigger and 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:13.480 the baddest one. Exactly, thanks mom. 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:16.320 So we fought. Every time I run back to my mom, 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:18.559 she talks me back out there. She said, can we 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:20.800 go in that. I run back to buck, he talks 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:22.680 me back out there. I had no other choice. I 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:23.240 had to fight. 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:25.480 So we fought between the mom and the bus driver. 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:26.760 I don't know, I know. 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:27.480 The women back then. 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:30.200 It was amazing. But just to backtrack to the bus driver, 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:33.600 she could have let you off. None of this would 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:35.080 have happened. If she would have just let. 0:12:34.960 --> 0:12:37.880 You off, I could have caught my grandparents run back 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:38.800 in exactly. 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:42.199 I would have hated that bus driver. On that's you're 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:43.320 not burning this steak. 0:12:43.760 --> 0:12:45.439 No, because steak has to cook all the way through, 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:46.120 you know what I mean. 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:48.880 Mary's donner. 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:52.199 Yeah, I'm a well donner. Okay, you a well donner. 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:55.160 That's because that the garlic is very important. It's also 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:58.760 it's healthy for our inside, you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:01.400 for a body. As an athlete, we eat guard clothes 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:05.520 all the time. Before running. Oh yeah, right, yeah right, 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:08.000 like gum yeah raw. 0:13:08.040 --> 0:13:09.559 Did you see that movie Centers when they had to 0:13:09.559 --> 0:13:10.160 eat the garlic? 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:12.160 I've not seen that. You got to see that movie. 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:13.719 I gotta check it out there, gotta. 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:15.520 Shout alright, go back to your story. 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:18.360 You don't win the fight, okay in my mind. But 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.440 I went back in the crib there and I sat 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:22.800 on the bed expecting to get my butt with and 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:24.880 my mom came back in there, and my mom said, 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:27.480 that's this is what's gonna happen. You should have told 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:29.600 me that this was happening. I didn't know. She said, 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:31.160 this is what you're gonna have to learn. Put your 0:13:31.160 --> 0:13:32.959 head up, she said, put your head up and put 0:13:33.000 --> 0:13:35.520 your shoulders back. You got to understand it. In this world, 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:38.080 there are wolves and you're going to have to learn 0:13:38.120 --> 0:13:39.959 how to fight, and there's gonna be people out there. 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:41.400 You're going to have to learn how to fight. Now. 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:44.120 You got it in your sissy, but somebody's gonna have 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:47.000 to wake it up because you got that fight in you. 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:50.160 That makes sense. Yeah, But I was like fine, I said, 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:51.000 but I don't want to go. 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:53.800 I don't want to go because. 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:56.440 That's my family called me call me sister because I'm 0:13:56.440 --> 0:13:58.640 the oldest one. And I was like, I don't want 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:00.840 to go back to that school. So my mother called 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:02.880 my grand I said, I want to go to Chichester. 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:04.679 That's the predominant white school, because I was going to 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:07.640 Chester to predominantly black schieh. I want to go to Chichester. 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:11.520 So my grandmother, my mother called my grandmother, my father's 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:14.280 mother and you know, my father's people that I lived 0:14:14.280 --> 0:14:18.840 a double life, project middle class. I lived a double life, 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:22.280 so my father's people. My uncle, my father's brother, is 0:14:22.280 --> 0:14:25.440 a marshal art master, so he came my grandmother told 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:27.760 him what was going on, and I told my grandma, look, Grandma, 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:29.000 I don't want to go to that school. In fact, 0:14:29.000 --> 0:14:30.440 I just don't want to go to school at all. 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:32.600 I want to learn it home. And then when they 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:34.560 forced me to go to another school, I was I 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:38.640 still met another bully, you know, and transferred to another 0:14:38.640 --> 0:14:40.880 school and met another bully. I was sitting in art 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:44.040 class with my knees up doing art. Girl came over 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:47.160 and just kicked me, writing the ass braym. I just 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:48.120 turned around like. 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:50.400 A white girl a black girl. 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:53.920 I was like, they're everywhere so at this time, I 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:55.520 didn't want to go to school all. Then I was 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:57.840 told my grandma said, look, I was at my grandmother's 0:14:57.840 --> 0:15:00.720 house on the weekend and and I said, look, Grandma, 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:02.480 I'm not going back to school, and they were gonna 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:04.520 they're gonna force me to go back to scoul I said, listen, 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:06.760 if you're going to force me to go back to school, 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:09.760 then I'm gonna take myself out. Why should I allow 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:12.240 them to kill me? Yeah? You know what I mean? 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:12.960 How old are you? 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:16.800 I was like twelve eighteen? I said, why should I 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:18.440 continue to allow them to hurt me? 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:20.920 But now backtack, you said that you had an uncle, 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:22.480 or get. 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:24.240 To my uncle. So when I told my grandmother that part, 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:26.960 then my grandmother went ahead and got my father's brother, 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:29.560 my uncle Bill, who is the martial art instructor. So 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.080 he said, I saw I heard. He said, So I 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.560 heard you having issues in school. I'll never forget him 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:35.640 putting his hand on my shoulder. I'm just I'll never 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:37.840 forget that as long as I live. He said, So 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:40.960 I heard you having an issue in school. You're being bullied? 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:43.760 Said yeah, he said, so I heard you don't want 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:47.000 to go to school. Anymore. I said yeah. He said, listen, 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:53.480 free diya. You cannot run all of your life. Adversity 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:56.720 is going to follow you wherever you go. You got 0:15:56.720 --> 0:15:59.720 to learn how to stand firm. This is what I 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:01.640 want to do. I said, what now? He got a 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:04.360 hang had on my shoulder. He said, I want to 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:06.920 teach you karate. I said, no, man, no, I don't 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:09.160 want to fight. Man, I don't want to fight. He said, 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:14.240 This is not about fighting. This is about us rebuilding 0:16:14.240 --> 0:16:19.800 your self confidence. This is about us rebuilding your self esteem. Now, maiie, 0:16:19.800 --> 0:16:23.080 I'm like twelve thirteen, man, I'm like, what self confidence? 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:28.560 He says. Self confidence is about having no doubt and 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:34.680 your God given ability. That's what self confidence is. I said, oh, okay, 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:38.560 having no doubt in my talent? Okay, what self esteem? 0:16:38.600 --> 0:16:41.680 What's that? Because I didn't know, So he pulls out 0:16:41.720 --> 0:16:47.120 the dictionary. He says, and self esteem is about whatever 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:51.120 I forget. He says, yeah, okay, great. I said, okay, 0:16:51.280 --> 0:16:54.040 So it's not about fighting, he said, exactly, We're gonna 0:16:54.080 --> 0:16:55.920 rebuild that. I said, okay, find I can do that. 0:16:56.240 --> 0:16:58.320 I can do that. And at the time, that's when 0:16:58.320 --> 0:16:59.320 Bruce Lee came along. 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:02.720 You know what to say. The karate kid wasn't out ye, Bruce. 0:17:02.520 --> 0:17:04.560 Lee was the man at the time that's cooking allway through. 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:05.040 Let the cooking. 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:07.960 But yeah, I would be I would understand it where 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:10.320 your stances like, Man, I'm not trying to be a fighter. 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:13.840