1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,520 Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it for you. Here. 2 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:06,040 Speaker 1: It is Strawberry letter. Thank you Little Tommy, I mean 3 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: thank you Tommy. I'm yeah, yes, no. If you're inside voice, 4 00:00:15,800 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 1: inside voice, inside voice, love you, love you, love you 5 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 1: all right, subject to my man wants to share his goodies. 6 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a twenty seven year old 7 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,960 Speaker 1: female and my man is slightly younger than I am. 8 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 1: He's an underwear model for several online magazines, and that's 9 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:45,200 Speaker 1: why I fell for him. He has a really great body. 10 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 1: His modeling has been an issue in our relationship because 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: of all the raunchy comments he gets on social media. 12 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:55,880 Speaker 1: He loves the attention. He says it's all just for fun, 13 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: and he never responds to the women and men that 14 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: hit on him. The attention has really gone to his head. 15 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 1: And he told me that while he was on a 16 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: modeling gig last week, a producer approached him with an 17 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 1: offer to get into the porn industry. Now that he's 18 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:14,760 Speaker 1: more confident in his body, he told me that he 19 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:17,399 Speaker 1: wants to try it and that he wants me to 20 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:20,199 Speaker 1: be okay with it because he could make a lot 21 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: of money. I told him, hell, no, he was not 22 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 1: going to get paid to cheat on me. He keeps 23 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:29,399 Speaker 1: telling me that it's not like that. He said, the 24 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: sex is strictly business and there are no emotions involved. 25 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:38,120 Speaker 1: He thinks I'm being selfish and have old school thinking 26 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 1: and I should have an open mind about it. I 27 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:42,960 Speaker 1: want to stand my ground with this because the modeling 28 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: was a big problem for us, so I know porn 29 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: will only make matters worse. And what do we do 30 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: if and when people start recognizing him? He said he 31 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 1: wouldn't be ashamed at all. I love him and could 32 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 1: see myself marrying him, but not if he's okay with 33 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 1: sleeping with other girls in front of a camera. I 34 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: asked him if the tables were turned and I got 35 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:06,920 Speaker 1: an offer to do porn, would he mind This man 36 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: hit the roof and told me there is a big difference. 37 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: I don't plan on testing that theory because I would 38 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 1: never have sex with another man while I'm with him 39 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:18,639 Speaker 1: on camera or not. I don't think this is normal. 40 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: Please help, well, I absolutely one percent agree with you. 41 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: I don't think it's normal either, especially not for someone 42 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: who claims they care about you and how you feel, 43 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: and this bothers you so much. You know, seems like 44 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:34,239 Speaker 1: he would take that into consideration. I mean, modeling is 45 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:38,359 Speaker 1: one thing, but porn is something all together different. You're 46 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 1: having sex on camera with one or more partners. You're right, 47 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: the attention has gone to his head. You know. He 48 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: says that, you know, a producer approached him to get 49 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: into it, and he wants to try it because of 50 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: the money, and you don't like it. He says it's 51 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 1: strictly business and there are no emotions evolved involved. That 52 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:00,639 Speaker 1: may be the case, I don't know, but I don't 53 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: see how that can be the case. Uh. You know 54 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: that he won't be into it some kind of way. Um, 55 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: you know, you're thinking about marrying this guy. I don't 56 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: think this guy is marriage material, not where he is 57 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: right now. You're twenty seven, he's younger than you. He's 58 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:20,639 Speaker 1: interested in doing porn for money. That's not what who 59 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:23,079 Speaker 1: you want in a husband. You got to think about that. 60 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 1: He will be having sex on camera with one or 61 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 1: more partners, Okay, at any given time. Uh huh, yeah, exactly. 62 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 1: How yeah, Oh, I'm worn out? WHOA what a day? 63 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: But you know, remember though, in the third sentence of 64 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:48,760 Speaker 1: the letter, you said he was an underwear model with 65 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 1: a great body, and that's why you fell for him. 66 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 1: So that's why what a lot of other women are 67 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:56,600 Speaker 1: seeing too. And he's into it. You said it yourself. 68 00:03:56,600 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: The attention has gone to his head. He's this guy 69 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: is not married material right now. He's definitely not that. 70 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: So get marriage off your mind. And if he does 71 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 1: not change his mind about doing pooring, I think you 72 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 1: need to do away with this relationship. Get out of 73 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:15,800 Speaker 1: this relationship, because I can see nothing but hurt from 74 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 1: him in your future. Steve, this letter is really ridiculous. 75 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:23,240 Speaker 1: I don't even see why we why we're reading it. 76 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 1: It don't make no damn sense on no level. Nothing 77 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 1: in here makes sense. You're twenty seven, your man is 78 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: slightly younger. He's an underwear model. And said, you're done. Yeah, 79 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: he modeled Drawls, She said, underwear now he Drawls model. 80 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 1: But you how heavy? You want him to be? Rich 81 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:52,159 Speaker 1: in the mind? You think this boy fitn't it be? 82 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 1: He modeled Drawls. He takes his shirt off and pull it, 83 00:04:57,880 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 1: pans down and he standing now and act like he 84 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: ain't got draws on. See, that's what the key to 85 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:10,919 Speaker 1: underwear modeling is, as you're standing there in your drawls. 86 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: Is to stand and pose like you ain't got on drawls, bro, 87 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 1: you gotta look like you got on slacks or some 88 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:29,159 Speaker 1: Bermuda shots with some boat shoes. What a minute. That's 89 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 1: how they stand there and look like they're on the 90 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:35,480 Speaker 1: top deck of a ship going some damn well, one 91 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:39,680 Speaker 1: leg up, hand on their knee, close your lens, Joe, 92 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:45,040 Speaker 1: nasty ass got them draws on, okay, and they read. 93 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:47,080 Speaker 1: And let me tell y'all something. I'm tiring of these 94 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: men with these good body modeling. That's what I was 95 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,919 Speaker 1: gonna ask you. Y'all really need to let out of 96 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: shape models. Do these underwear? Man underwear ass? Because hell, 97 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:04,839 Speaker 1: we buy underwear too, and we buy more underwearing. Little 98 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:11,359 Speaker 1: fine ass dude draws. Elastics come out way more often, 99 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 1: holes tarring them way more ofted. My man, this woman dating? 100 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,840 Speaker 1: Is she twenty seven? Dating this young boy that's an 101 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: underwear model? He model draws. Now all of a sudden 102 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 1: he's modeling, don't become an issue because all of the 103 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,920 Speaker 1: raunchy comments he get on social media? What you want 104 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 1: the comments to be. He's standing there in his draws, 105 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: that's raunchy. As it is, so all the comments he 106 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: ge't gonna be runchy, ain't Nobody looked at him and said, wow, 107 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 1: nice time. You know why they ain't said that because 108 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:51,719 Speaker 1: he ain't got nothing new. Oh he got on the draws. 109 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 1: What a so just let me do my lane bother you. 110 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: I don't understand why you mad. That's because you know 111 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: what what tripping what she thinks she had, She's gonna righteously. 112 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 1: You ain't got nothing now. All he loves the attention. 113 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 1: He says, it's just for fun. He don't never respond 114 00:07:10,200 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: to the women and men that hit on it. The 115 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: attention to gone to his head. He told me the 116 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 1: while he was on the modeling gig last week. A producer, 117 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 1: a producer approach you. You must have been in La. 118 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: A producer everybody out here, damn producer approach you with 119 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 1: an offer for him to get in the point. Then 120 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 1: you already got your draws. You just standing there, ain't 121 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:36,559 Speaker 1: your draws now. He wants to work with no damn 122 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:42,440 Speaker 1: draws now because once you get in the port or 123 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:44,520 Speaker 1: you're gonna find out you ain't the big You ain't 124 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 1: the big dog on the block like you was when 125 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:50,119 Speaker 1: you had little draws commercials. They're gonna have some boys 126 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 1: come in that room gonna scare you. This. Ain't that 127 00:07:56,120 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 1: man just sitting there looking like a can of freshman. Oh, 128 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:04,680 Speaker 1: your little draws on. You need to keep your drawls 129 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 1: on stick competition in the pooring On movie. Now he's 130 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: more confident with his body. He told me he wants 131 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 1: to try, and he wants me to be okay with 132 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 1: it because he could make a lot of money, could 133 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: make a lot of money. Ain't no a lot of 134 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: money in Poe Man and people ain't rich. I just 135 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: I told him, hell now, not gonna be okay for 136 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: him to get paid to cheat on me. He keep 137 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: telling me it ain't like that. Hit the key in 138 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 1: the letter. He said, sex is strictly bis. Wow. I agree. 139 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 1: That's what it's always been. Because I'm in here trying 140 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: to take care of my damn business. That's all it is. Yeah, boy, 141 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 1: so that's what you thought you could tell your lady. 142 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:49,480 Speaker 1: You gotta be out your rabbing mind, he said, ain't 143 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 1: no emotions involved. He thinks I'm being selfish and have 144 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: some old school thinking. Uh they're call values, they're called 145 00:08:58,840 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 1: hopes and dreams, and that's not old fashioned. I should 146 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 1: have an open mind about it. Now she said, I 147 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:09,680 Speaker 1: want to stand my ground with this pawn stuff. Because 148 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: she want to stand on the ground because if Marlin 149 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,560 Speaker 1: is a big problem, she no pawn gonna take it 150 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:18,760 Speaker 1: making words and it will and what we do. And 151 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:21,439 Speaker 1: he said that it wouldn't shame at all. I love 152 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:24,120 Speaker 1: him and I could see myself married at him. Now, 153 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 1: Shirley made a good point right here. You see yourself, man, 154 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 1: who this little boy has got these draws on, and 155 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:34,599 Speaker 1: now having the draws on, it's too much. What the 156 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 1: jars didn't got restrictive. Now you want to be free. Wow. 157 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:42,520 Speaker 1: And then all of a sudden, now you want to 158 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:44,880 Speaker 1: sleep with a bunch of people for money. So I 159 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 1: already know you returned to some of these raunchy phone 160 00:09:47,440 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: calls because the dune went to his head, lady, And 161 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:53,240 Speaker 1: if you know what I mean, it didn't really really 162 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 1: went to his head. So now I asked him if 163 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:58,520 Speaker 1: the tables were turned, and I got an offer to 164 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 1: do point with his mind. This man hit the roof, 165 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 1: told me there's a big difference. Not when you explaining 166 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 1: it to somebody, it's not a big difference. Soldier I 167 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:12,560 Speaker 1: know what you're trying to say, but it is it 168 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: is the same thing. I don't plan on testing that 169 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:19,320 Speaker 1: theory because I would never have sex. Here's where I 170 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:22,680 Speaker 1: know this, Finny get crazy. This relationship is open. I 171 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:25,959 Speaker 1: would never have sex with another man while I'm with him. 172 00:10:28,040 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 1: So that's a good statement. That's a fair statement that 173 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 1: the system made. I would never have sex with another 174 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:38,720 Speaker 1: man while I'm with him. But if you can't your 175 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: heads down there to shoot this point or moving, I 176 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:42,720 Speaker 1: ain't down there with you where you think I'm gonna 177 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:48,240 Speaker 1: be on camera or not. I don't think it's normal. 178 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:51,079 Speaker 1: Please help. No, it's not normal. And you stupid for 179 00:10:51,160 --> 00:10:54,320 Speaker 1: sitting up here even entertaining this foolishness. And it's time 180 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 1: let him go so he can go live his life 181 00:10:56,520 --> 00:10:58,720 Speaker 1: because he gonna go do the point. Oh you better 182 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 1: believe that because the ran to his head. He think 183 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:03,400 Speaker 1: you pretty. I'm told women all the time you better 184 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:07,439 Speaker 1: QUI dating he's pretty? Asked, man, get you a nice, 185 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:11,520 Speaker 1: regular ass looking dude to somebody that just looks all 186 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 1: right like who it's a good like all us on 187 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:18,880 Speaker 1: this show? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, hold on, no, 188 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:23,600 Speaker 1: you won't like everybody on this damn show. I'm sorry, no, no, 189 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. No, you won't before your birthday. You I'm 190 00:11:30,559 --> 00:11:33,559 Speaker 1: gonna have to go with team Steve on this one time. 191 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 1: I'm ugly Jerman. Yeah not, you're not but assing, but 192 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 1: you in booty? Ugly younee camp? Anybody part you back 193 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 1: of the LP yeah ugly Yeah, but you're back of 194 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:59,679 Speaker 1: the elbows. I'm not gonna be a job. I'm sorry. Tender, 195 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:04,679 Speaker 1: you're not tend to a Okay, Tom, you're not attractive 196 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 1: at all on your damn birthday listen, reality check. Hey, 197 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 1: email us your Instagram. That's your thoughts on today's Strawberry 198 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,840 Speaker 1: Letter at Steve Harvey FM, or you can check out 199 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. You're listening to the 200 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:28,600 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show.