1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,000 Speaker 1: People will always understand when you need to distance yourself 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:06,400 Speaker 1: from them for mental health reason. Lies self carea is terrible, 3 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:09,879 Speaker 1: will leave you all alone. Really, maybe we're gonna find 4 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:10,520 Speaker 1: out today. 5 00:00:10,520 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 2: We're gonna prove that putting yourself first always ends in 6 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:14,800 Speaker 2: disaster or not. 7 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 3: You decide in the comments. 8 00:00:16,480 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 2: With these three stories, prioritizing your mental health and the 9 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:22,319 Speaker 2: people who will stop at nothing to prevent that. 10 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:23,440 Speaker 3: Let's go. 11 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:26,319 Speaker 2: My girlfriend was acting weird after her business trip. I 12 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 2: think she cheated on me. 13 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:29,240 Speaker 1: We've been together for a year and a half and 14 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: a relationship has been good up to this point. She 15 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:34,599 Speaker 1: was out for five days on a business trip conference 16 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:37,240 Speaker 1: without discussing much. We both work in the same field, 17 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 1: but not a lot of overlap. The conference would debut 18 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:42,279 Speaker 1: a project that she's been working on, and I did 19 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:44,279 Speaker 1: not go because of my own work, but she went 20 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:46,920 Speaker 1: with her coworkers on the project and everyone seemed to 21 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 1: have a great time. 22 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:49,159 Speaker 2: Haarte. 23 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from throwaway weird girlfriend behave 24 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 1: on best of endor updates. So I picture her from 25 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 1: the airport two nights ago, and when I went in 26 00:00:57,600 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: for a hug and a kiss, she didn't return it, 27 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: just grabbed her luggage. 28 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 2: Where's my hug at, where's. 29 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:06,040 Speaker 3: My hugg No? No. 30 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:10,400 Speaker 1: The whole ride she was basically catatonic. She didn't want 31 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: to talk much and would either ignore me, give a 32 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 1: delayed short answer, or be very short with me. 33 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:16,400 Speaker 3: Something's up, something's up. 34 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:18,479 Speaker 2: The only thing I could get when I asked what 35 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 2: was wrong was I'm tired. 36 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 4: Okay, but I feel that I feel that okay, okay. 37 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:26,960 Speaker 4: Bosses me in Paris. 38 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 2: But my brother uses as an excuse. Every time he 39 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 2: had a different emotion, he would always say, I'm tired. 40 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:33,959 Speaker 3: I mean it's a goodaway. 41 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:37,119 Speaker 4: I don't know. I get pretty upset when i'm tired. 42 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 1: When we got home, I reheated some food for her 43 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 1: while she was in the shower. After the shower, she 44 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: took her bowl but dropped it on the way to 45 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: the table and immediately started crying. I tried to comfort 46 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: her and give her mind, but she angrily said she 47 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: wasn't hungry and was going to bed and went to 48 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: our bedroom, where she ripped the blankets and her pillow 49 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: off the bed, brought them into her office to the 50 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,440 Speaker 1: bed she uses for naps, and closed the door. I 51 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: don't like that, she hasn't really left her office since 52 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: we are now on day two, but I do see 53 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:09,360 Speaker 1: that she is coming out of her office for food. Okay, 54 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: I've sent texts asking to talk, but she hasn't responded. 55 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:15,359 Speaker 1: The door is locked, but if I knock, she will 56 00:02:15,360 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: always say she's okay, but napping. She won't talk to me, 57 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:22,079 Speaker 1: and I don't really know what's going on. Obviously something 58 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 1: major happened. I checked social media, but everyone was all 59 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 1: smiles online. I spoke to a friend who went with her. 60 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: He worked with her on the project, and asked how 61 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 1: it all went on the first night that he felt 62 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: that the trip went well and everyone had a good time. 63 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 1: I see us in the comments. I inquired more about 64 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:42,799 Speaker 1: a girlfriend after, and he did tell me there was 65 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:45,120 Speaker 1: a part of the trip about halfway through where she 66 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: started crying over lunch, but he. 67 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:48,760 Speaker 3: Didn't know the details. 68 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: I don't really think she's cheating, but I also don't 69 00:02:51,480 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: know what would cause this. Any help, We have some 70 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 1: quick comments and we have an update where it looks 71 00:02:58,560 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 1: like everything gets revealed. 72 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 2: Here we go here, were going to talk to me? 73 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 2: You ever seen brother bear? No? What do bears do 74 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:05,400 Speaker 2: during the winter? 75 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 3: Hibernate this is what she's doing. 76 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:10,960 Speaker 2: She's now turned into a bear, and she has to 77 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 2: go hyberne, and she does not know how to communicate 78 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 2: that to her boyfriend. 79 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:19,639 Speaker 1: Uh, this is terrible because humans sleep at one portion 80 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 1: and then wake and eat and do life in the 81 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:23,080 Speaker 1: other portion. 82 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:25,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, that's it's not gonna work out. 83 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 3: Yeah. 84 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 2: Also, the comments have a very different take. Well, this 85 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,360 Speaker 2: is a fun light take. Yeah, that was that was 86 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,760 Speaker 2: the This was the fun hypothetical if people were bears scenario, 87 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 2: A very fun scenario. 88 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 1: I truly, honestly don't know. I have no idea what's 89 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 1: happening here. Like I usually I feel like, okay, I 90 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:49,119 Speaker 1: can kind of see where things are headed, see where 91 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 1: this is going. 92 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 3: I really don't know what's going on. 93 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 2: She feels bad about something, She's just I think she 94 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 2: feels upset about something. 95 00:03:57,240 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: I I am truly lost. I in a rare occurrence. 96 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:03,839 Speaker 1: I have no real guesses here. 97 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:05,120 Speaker 4: I don't have a guess either. 98 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: MC Susie says, we cannot guess at this. You're going 99 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 1: to have to talk to her. 100 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 3: I agree. 101 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 1: She might be sick, she might be pregnant, she might 102 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 1: have been assaulted, she might have cheated, she may have. 103 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:16,760 Speaker 2: Learned something about you while she was gone that made 104 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 2: her very angry. 105 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 1: Ooh, a lot of guesses. There are many things that 106 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: might have happened, but those are my top five. But 107 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:26,880 Speaker 1: you know what, guys, let's quit the guesswork. Let's get 108 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 1: right into the updates. 109 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:30,040 Speaker 2: Give it to me, reveal it door number one. 110 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: Thank you to everyone who showed concern regarding my girlfriend. 111 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: I stopped responding to the comments because they were overwhelming 112 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: and it wasn't helpful for me to read that stuff 113 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: when I was at work and couldn't do anything about it. 114 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:43,680 Speaker 1: I've been pretty slammed before. The demands for updates in 115 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:47,280 Speaker 1: the comments and inboxes have been overwhelming, with so many 116 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 1: people assuming it. 117 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 3: Was assault asking for details. 118 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 1: It felt voyeuristic where people might have wanted my girlfriend suffering, 119 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:57,719 Speaker 1: and this disturbed the both of us. Ultimately, I decided 120 00:04:57,720 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 1: to update because there was no a cheating or assault 121 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:03,880 Speaker 1: at all, despite everyone thinking, despite everyone thinking it was 122 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 1: definitely one of those two cases. I'll give my girlfriend 123 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:09,839 Speaker 1: the name Lily, My and our friend who was on 124 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: the trip, Jake, and her close friend and roommate on 125 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:15,719 Speaker 1: the trip Jane, for ease of reference. So I called 126 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 1: Jane despite people saying no, and asking about and asked 127 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:23,280 Speaker 1: about the trip. Jane remarked that Lily was very tired 128 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 1: and wouldn't talk much outside of the days on the 129 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 1: business trip, and that was very consistent from day one. 130 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:28,919 Speaker 2: Interesting. 131 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 3: I asked if she felt like something happened. She said no. 132 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 1: I asked if she felt like Jane might have done something, 133 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:38,400 Speaker 1: and she said absolutely not. When I came back from work, 134 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:41,159 Speaker 1: I saw signs that Lily was more functional, as she 135 00:05:41,240 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 1: had done some cleaning. I took the chance to ask 136 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: if she wanted food and she agreed. We ate a 137 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: meal and I broached the subject. 138 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 2: So she wasn't doing anything miss like sneaky while on 139 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 2: the business trip. 140 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 3: According to Jane. 141 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:03,280 Speaker 1: From Jane's account, don't uh, there was nothing. 142 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 2: There because Jane was the she was the roommate. 143 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 3: During the oka during the thing. 144 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 1: Back to the story, Opie says, the missing piece to 145 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: the puzzle is that Lily has adhd. 146 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 2: UH diagnosed or I'm gonna assume diagnosed. 147 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:24,359 Speaker 3: I'm guessing. I'm guessing. Uh. 148 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 1: This was an important fact, but one I forget as 149 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:31,159 Speaker 1: she manages it well. I tend to think of what 150 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:34,359 Speaker 1: are symptoms more of his cute girlfriend quirks because of 151 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: a lot of a lot of general ADHD behavior she 152 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 1: mitigates like forgetfulness. What happened on this trip is that 153 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:45,559 Speaker 1: to save money, she shared a room with Jane, which 154 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 1: she has done on short bursts, but never this long 155 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: of a trip. 156 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 3: As I mentioned, it. 157 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 1: Was a business trip, so although Lily had a lot 158 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:55,599 Speaker 1: of fun, she was working both physically and socially for 159 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:56,440 Speaker 1: up to twent. 160 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 3: Oh twenty hours at a time. 161 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 1: I know exactly how she did that is she had 162 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:03,480 Speaker 1: nowhere to go and reset. At the end of this 163 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:07,159 Speaker 1: she had enough motional gas to come home, but she 164 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:10,120 Speaker 1: had some flight delay issues at a very busy airport, 165 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: and by the time she came home she couldn't make it. 166 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: She also felt like my asking of her trip in 167 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:18,679 Speaker 1: the car was like an interrogation because of her mental state. 168 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 1: BRADYHD has never come like this because she manages it 169 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: well and hasn't been in this environment in a long time. 170 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 1: We decided that from now on she should have her 171 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 1: hotel room to herself or with me, regardless of the cost. 172 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: I also agreed not to ask any questions when I 173 00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 1: pick her up from the flight, and she will instead 174 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: tell me what she wants. If not, I will ask 175 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:45,760 Speaker 1: another day. We came up with some other plans so 176 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:47,960 Speaker 1: that I know how she is when she comes home. 177 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 1: Saturday night, we went to an event. She had fun, 178 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 1: but crashed immediately at home. It was more on the 179 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 1: scale that I'm used to after a three day trip. 180 00:07:56,880 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: She has cleared her schedule for the next week to recit, 181 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:02,800 Speaker 1: so she just got out of her rhythm. I think 182 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 1: op handled this phenomenally well. 183 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah. 184 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 1: To have your partner come home, you know, you try to, 185 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 1: you know, give her a hug, give her a kiss, 186 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:16,240 Speaker 1: ask how she's doing. She's pulling away from him, she's 187 00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 1: not saying anything, ripping bedding off, going into the other 188 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 1: room for two days only to come out. 189 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 2: Dude, if this was anyone else, there would have been 190 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 2: accusing left and right, just cheating. I look through her phone, 191 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 2: but all the possibilities are endless. He did handle this 192 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:33,319 Speaker 2: very right, and I'm like, if she had, and I 193 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 2: totally understand and want to be empathetic, and also, Sophia, 194 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 2: I would love your opinion on this as well. 195 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:41,319 Speaker 1: I feel like if she had simply said, I am 196 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 1: so absolutely drained at negative ten percent of my batteries. 197 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: This might be crazy, but this is just how I 198 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: need to cope. Can I have that please? 199 00:08:51,559 --> 00:08:51,760 Speaker 3: Yeah? 200 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: Sure, all could have been almost fine, but it just 201 00:08:56,360 --> 00:09:01,080 Speaker 1: feels like, I don't know, Like, was me in this scenario, 202 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:04,280 Speaker 1: I would feel like, oh my god, like, what what 203 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 1: have I done? 204 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 3: Something wrong? Has there? Has something wrong really gone? 205 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:10,800 Speaker 1: And without communication for two days or so, I think 206 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 1: while she's in the other room. 207 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:14,559 Speaker 3: I would know what to think. Sophia. 208 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:17,199 Speaker 5: I think I think, I mean, all communication is always 209 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 5: important and you always like hopefully you know, she did 210 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:23,240 Speaker 5: apologize for it. But I do think that there are 211 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:27,240 Speaker 5: just moments where you're in that state of mind and 212 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:29,679 Speaker 5: you just don't even have the energy to even explore, 213 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 5: or you maybe don't even have the words to explain 214 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 5: why you're fee. 215 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: That's what I'm trying to get at, Like, it's not like, 216 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:38,679 Speaker 1: while uh, the girlfriend absolutely deserves whatever space she wants. 217 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 1: Quite frankly, it's at the same token not fair. Yeah 218 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: to ope. Luckily it seems like it seems like it 219 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 1: didn't it wasn't that painful for him. But I feel 220 00:09:50,000 --> 00:09:51,920 Speaker 1: like if I was I was in that scenario and 221 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 1: I went to you know, hug my partner and you 222 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 1: know they into a room in two days, I would 223 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: be freaking out. 224 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, just like a sentence to calm the nerves, a sentence. 225 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:06,400 Speaker 5: My thing is, I totally feel for Ope, and it's 226 00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:09,720 Speaker 5: like not fair, but also I completely understand what mindset 227 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 5: she was in. 228 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:13,439 Speaker 1: But let's get into this edit. So everyone is stuck 229 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 1: on Lily's travel expense. I have copied and pasted the 230 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 1: comments for those that enable to search on their own. 231 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 1: This better explains Lily's job. That's hilarious. So think about 232 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: when you go to a convention where someone is selling 233 00:10:25,280 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 1: items at a table. These individuals often have to buy 234 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:30,480 Speaker 1: their booth and pay for their hotel to travel to 235 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:31,479 Speaker 1: this convention. 236 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 2: Like man haatter goal Like, oh, I think that's what 237 00:10:35,480 --> 00:10:35,840 Speaker 2: she does. 238 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:36,760 Speaker 3: Oh nice. 239 00:10:37,280 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: I use the term business trip because for Lily, Jake, 240 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:44,479 Speaker 1: and Jane this is a business trip. They're on businesses, 241 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:45,679 Speaker 1: not vacations. 242 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 3: They're on like business work, not vacation. 243 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:50,439 Speaker 1: Additionally, many people are convinced that this is an excuse 244 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 1: to cover up a convenient bad behavior. It has never 245 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: happened before. She was stuck in the most crowded airport 246 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: in the country for seven hours, longer than she. 247 00:10:58,520 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 3: Was supposed to be. 248 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 4: God her so hard. 249 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:04,199 Speaker 1: Yeah, she hadn't slept for five days and hadn't eaten 250 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 1: in a day. This led her to the point where 251 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 1: she felt sick, and by the time she came home 252 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:12,559 Speaker 1: at one thirty am, she was exhausted and very hungry. 253 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 1: This is an exceptionally bad day for her which resulted 254 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 1: in the behavior. It was not out of malice or entitlement, 255 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:20,840 Speaker 1: and it is now and is not how she would 256 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:24,320 Speaker 1: act in any other situation. Everyone deserves a little grace 257 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:26,440 Speaker 1: now and then, which is something that redditors do not 258 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:29,839 Speaker 1: seem to understand. For those convinced that she is lying 259 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 1: and still might have been assaulted or cheated, and those 260 00:11:32,840 --> 00:11:35,840 Speaker 1: who rooted for her for that to happen, right God 261 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:39,760 Speaker 1: disgusting those who are being rude because it's the Internet, 262 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 1: or those who choose to waste their comments pretending to 263 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 1: be Lily's doctor. I hope you find a better hobby 264 00:11:45,000 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 1: in your life. I hope you can find the resources 265 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:50,079 Speaker 1: to deal with your immaturity. I am done with this account. 266 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:52,240 Speaker 1: The problem is solved and the update is there. If 267 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:53,959 Speaker 1: nothing else, I have learned that redd it is a 268 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 1: terrible place to receive any kind of advice. By the way, 269 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:01,440 Speaker 1: you can receive advice from us every WEEKED at three 270 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:02,080 Speaker 1: pm PST. 271 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 3: Just tap her profile, join the live. 272 00:12:05,160 --> 00:12:08,880 Speaker 1: And let's close it out with this quick comment. Merlin's 273 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:12,559 Speaker 1: Harry Ball says, as a fellow adhder who travels for 274 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:15,839 Speaker 1: conferences to work often has to share a hotel room, 275 00:12:15,880 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 1: it has to be on the entire weekend. 276 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:18,480 Speaker 3: I effing knew it. 277 00:12:18,520 --> 00:12:21,200 Speaker 1: Well, it's really overwhelming to throw in a bad travel 278 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:22,520 Speaker 1: day and you're just over the top. 279 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 2: I'm glad she's okay. Just give her some time alone 280 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 2: and let her batteries oh each because I was at 281 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:31,439 Speaker 2: a convention that is so so constant, constant social stimulation, 282 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 2: working twelve like definitely an insane scenario. I honestly, if 283 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:40,080 Speaker 2: that happened to me, I'd probably be out of one 284 00:12:40,120 --> 00:12:42,360 Speaker 2: hundred percent. I would not want to talk the day. 285 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:44,600 Speaker 2: It makes sense, Remember that day my flag got delayed 286 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:48,319 Speaker 2: in everything? Yes, dude, that was a really bad day. 287 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:50,079 Speaker 2: I didn't want to talk to you, gonna be honest, 288 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:52,160 Speaker 2: I mean it makes sense. I was like, I was like, 289 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 2: I can't handle of this. 290 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 1: We all have had at least once in our life, 291 00:12:55,559 --> 00:12:59,000 Speaker 1: those insane moments where it's just like it's just too much, 292 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:02,120 Speaker 1: it's just too much. But dang, poor girl, I'm glad. 293 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:05,480 Speaker 1: It seems like OP. It seems like they basically did 294 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:08,080 Speaker 1: what we said. They've communicated to figure out what's the 295 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:10,839 Speaker 1: best way. First off, even better, not just like if 296 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 1: the situation happens in the future, but better yet to 297 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:18,160 Speaker 1: prevent the situation from horror, to decrease the severity of 298 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:20,880 Speaker 1: this happening again. Because ultimately, it's like, you don't want 299 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:24,040 Speaker 1: your partner to go through that kind of you know, suffering. 300 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:26,480 Speaker 1: So it's like, Okay, whatever the cost is, just put 301 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: her in her own hotel. That will hopefully help. 302 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:31,880 Speaker 2: And I think is important for OP to know what's happening, 303 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:34,719 Speaker 2: because the girlfriend's good, she just needs to recharge. But him, 304 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:39,319 Speaker 2: he's like, brain is on fire. What's in fairness, He's. 305 00:13:39,120 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 1: Like, I'm just in the dark, like you just you 306 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:43,440 Speaker 1: just don't know what's happening. 307 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:46,360 Speaker 2: I always pick up someone from the airport. I always 308 00:13:46,400 --> 00:13:49,640 Speaker 2: have food ready, my mama glue free muffin, have my 309 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:52,439 Speaker 2: brother's in and out ready. That's kind of smart, man, 310 00:13:52,920 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 2: because it's a father were flying, and I'm like, I 311 00:13:54,679 --> 00:13:56,160 Speaker 2: know you did not eat before you got. 312 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:58,079 Speaker 1: Here exactly, and my cool wants to buy the food 313 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:00,560 Speaker 1: on the airplane and the airport is so expensive. But 314 00:14:00,880 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 1: it seems like they use that moment to communicate and 315 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:04,439 Speaker 1: find a solution for the future. 316 00:14:04,559 --> 00:14:08,760 Speaker 2: Yes, I love this communication skills. Put this down the 317 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 2: in the of like the like step by step how 318 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:13,520 Speaker 2: to get through that? 319 00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:14,559 Speaker 3: He can put it in the sop. 320 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:18,840 Speaker 2: He just knows me so well. Gosh, he honestly made me. 321 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 2: If you think about it, yeah I did. But you 322 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 2: know what else I have to make Riley another story? 323 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:26,240 Speaker 2: This next story your mouth. 324 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 3: Words, let's do it. 325 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 1: My mom moved a stranger into our house, so I 326 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:31,680 Speaker 1: ran away from home right. 327 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 3: Oh God. 328 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:35,360 Speaker 1: I'm sixteen male and my mom is the only parent 329 00:14:35,400 --> 00:14:37,640 Speaker 1: I have. I was that raised me. My whole life 330 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: is a single mom. My father passed away when I 331 00:14:40,040 --> 00:14:41,880 Speaker 1: was six years old, but he left enough for us 332 00:14:41,880 --> 00:14:44,640 Speaker 1: to live comfortably and for my education. I love my 333 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,040 Speaker 1: mom very much, and she loves me a lot. We've 334 00:14:47,080 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 1: lived our lives together as a team. As I grew up, 335 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:52,160 Speaker 1: I started helping her with chores when I got back 336 00:14:52,160 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 1: home from school. When she was working, and I also 337 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:57,880 Speaker 1: started cooking for us to help us out, and she 338 00:14:57,920 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 1: would always appreciate it and hug me and. 339 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 3: By, which also made me cry. Oh too sweet. 340 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 1: And this comes from wide excitement in ninety nine and 341 00:15:05,440 --> 00:15:07,240 Speaker 1: eighty five from the r stash Okay story time, So 342 00:15:07,240 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 1: I brought it. Uh So, Around two months ago, my 343 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:14,280 Speaker 1: mom introduced me to her boyfriend, said stranger, Do. 344 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:16,160 Speaker 2: We have a name for this dude or just boyfriend? 345 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 3: Boyfriends? Pretty good, she told me, and invited him over 346 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 3: for dinner. 347 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 1: And he came with his daughter, who's nineteen, and I 348 00:15:22,480 --> 00:15:24,880 Speaker 1: wasn't really comfortable with it, and no matter how much 349 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:26,520 Speaker 1: my mom and he tried to strike. 350 00:15:26,320 --> 00:15:28,560 Speaker 3: A conversation, it was awkward. 351 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:30,640 Speaker 1: I had a discussion with my mom and asked a 352 00:15:30,680 --> 00:15:33,280 Speaker 1: bunch of questions like who is he, how did he 353 00:15:33,360 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 1: meet her, how did she meet him? 354 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:37,240 Speaker 3: Et cetera, et cetera. But I left it at that. 355 00:15:37,360 --> 00:15:39,880 Speaker 3: Did they answer these questions? It seems like it. 356 00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:43,520 Speaker 1: I'm guessing this is like the pre dinner interview, like, Okay, 357 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:44,400 Speaker 1: what's his deal? 358 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 2: Where is he from? Why did he meet you? What's this? 359 00:15:47,400 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 2: Is he crazy? It just sounded like they're asking the 360 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:51,840 Speaker 2: questions and he's not answering this. 361 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 3: Oh right, yeah, She's like, nope, where you come from. 362 00:15:55,800 --> 00:15:58,280 Speaker 1: Since then, he kept visiting us every day for an 363 00:15:58,320 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 1: hour or something. 364 00:15:59,120 --> 00:15:59,600 Speaker 3: For a week. 365 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:06,160 Speaker 2: For two weeks, he moved in with us. No way, 366 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 2: that's kind of crazy. And this isn't even I'm gonna 367 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:11,680 Speaker 2: make the joke. I'm gonna I'm gonna go for it. 368 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:12,160 Speaker 3: Go ahead. 369 00:16:12,240 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 2: This isn't even a lesbian couple. And that's that's pretty. 370 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:20,600 Speaker 3: It's not. It's not. That's crazy. I didn't even need 371 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:22,480 Speaker 3: a U hauled, went straight in. 372 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 4: You know what, really, I'll give you that one. 373 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 1: He got the reference that because that's because that's like, 374 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:31,000 Speaker 1: that's accurate. 375 00:16:31,120 --> 00:16:33,920 Speaker 2: That if you know, you know which is which is good? 376 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:36,200 Speaker 2: Which is good? Dude, that's where I do. 377 00:16:36,520 --> 00:16:40,080 Speaker 3: Let's go. That's crazy. Wow. Wild. 378 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 1: So my mom told me that he is going to 379 00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:45,640 Speaker 1: stay with us. I absolutely hated it, and I told 380 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:47,960 Speaker 1: my mom that it's too soon and he doesn't have 381 00:16:48,040 --> 00:16:50,680 Speaker 1: to stay with me. My mom tried to convince me 382 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:53,360 Speaker 1: and said, give it a try, maybe I'll like it. 383 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 3: But I never liked him. 384 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:57,480 Speaker 1: His daughter doesn't stay with us, but she lives with 385 00:16:57,520 --> 00:17:00,040 Speaker 1: her mom but always comes around to visit us, and 386 00:17:00,040 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 1: she's very friendly with me, so is her dad. But 387 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:04,920 Speaker 1: I've never liked them, and it's too soon and too 388 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:07,720 Speaker 1: much for me no matter what they tried or said, 389 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:12,080 Speaker 1: so I either ignored them or just gave them plain answers. Yeah, 390 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:14,399 Speaker 1: real quick, just to take a quick pause. I mean, 391 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:19,000 Speaker 1: this is super soon for your sixteen year old son. 392 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:23,080 Speaker 5: Like, it's one thing to be in a relationship with someone. 393 00:17:23,080 --> 00:17:24,440 Speaker 5: I think that if the mom had just been in 394 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:26,760 Speaker 5: a relationship and the sixteen year old was upset, that's 395 00:17:26,760 --> 00:17:29,480 Speaker 5: a different thing. She's allowed to be in a relationship, yes, 396 00:17:29,560 --> 00:17:33,679 Speaker 5: But to bring a stranger home after two weeks. 397 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:41,840 Speaker 2: Bro's definitely having conspiracy theory. Yes, the nineteen year old 398 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:45,600 Speaker 2: and the person are in a relationship together, and they're 399 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:47,520 Speaker 2: conning the mom so they have a place to stay. 400 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:55,880 Speaker 2: Two completely unrelated people. This is crazy. 401 00:17:55,960 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 1: Stepdad, the stepdad to be is pretending to be with 402 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:02,040 Speaker 1: Opie's mom just and you know, doing like a tender 403 00:18:02,080 --> 00:18:03,000 Speaker 1: swindler type thing. 404 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 2: And then and then they're going to send their mel 405 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:10,440 Speaker 2: over to their house right after two or three months, Right, 406 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:13,520 Speaker 2: they're gonna squat And this is legally where I live. 407 00:18:15,080 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 2: Change the keys in the LUNs. 408 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:16,840 Speaker 3: You're out. 409 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:18,800 Speaker 2: Mom doesn't even have a place stay anymore. 410 00:18:19,680 --> 00:18:24,400 Speaker 1: You know, while it is not probable, very impressive and 411 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 1: fully throught. 412 00:18:25,359 --> 00:18:27,959 Speaker 4: That was very well thought out conspiracy. 413 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's like almost the percentage of like a 414 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 2: cow killing you, It's not zero, but they're still there. 415 00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:37,640 Speaker 3: Can cows get rough? 416 00:18:38,080 --> 00:18:39,639 Speaker 4: Yeah, they're big animals. 417 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:42,119 Speaker 2: They can stomp in your head, that is true. 418 00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:42,960 Speaker 4: Bulls man. 419 00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:47,359 Speaker 5: Buls you have, But that's like I mean, like if 420 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:49,160 Speaker 5: a bowl can kill you, a cow could. 421 00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, they're big. 422 00:18:50,960 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 2: They're same species. 423 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:53,520 Speaker 3: You're big, big. 424 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 1: Mama Bessie's they are. But let's get back to the story. 425 00:18:57,760 --> 00:18:59,760 Speaker 1: He'd always help me. He tries his best all the 426 00:18:59,760 --> 00:19:01,800 Speaker 1: time to talk to me, be friendly with me. And 427 00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:03,639 Speaker 1: I said that I don't want a father. Finger He 428 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:06,000 Speaker 1: said that he's not trying to become one. He's just 429 00:19:06,040 --> 00:19:08,119 Speaker 1: trying to be friendly with me and helps me with things. 430 00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:10,959 Speaker 1: And his daughter also tries her best to converse with 431 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:13,200 Speaker 1: me and help me with my studies. But two days 432 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:15,439 Speaker 1: ago I lost my cool when I saw a photo 433 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:18,119 Speaker 1: of him and my mom in my living room. I 434 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:20,439 Speaker 1: got angry and asked, what's the purpose of this? He 435 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:23,040 Speaker 1: and my mom said that they are getting married and 436 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:24,520 Speaker 1: he's going to be part of her life. 437 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:27,280 Speaker 3: Whoa, whoa. 438 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 4: So I kind of believe your conspiracy there. 439 00:19:29,680 --> 00:19:32,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I even if it's not exactly what you're saying, 440 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:34,320 Speaker 1: I feel like there's some sort of. 441 00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:36,160 Speaker 3: Con going on here. 442 00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:39,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like manipulating and he's about to get coercing 443 00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:41,880 Speaker 2: her into Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. 444 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:43,879 Speaker 1: He said that he's not trying to hurt me or 445 00:19:43,920 --> 00:19:46,440 Speaker 1: replace himself as my father, which is why he only 446 00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:48,879 Speaker 1: hanged one frame with him and my mom and as 447 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:52,320 Speaker 1: far away from our other family photos as my dad live. 448 00:19:52,320 --> 00:19:53,480 Speaker 3: Even put one up. 449 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 2: If I wanted to be your dad out to put like, 450 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:57,800 Speaker 2: you know, like three or five off. I only put 451 00:19:57,880 --> 00:19:59,160 Speaker 2: one not to hurt you. 452 00:19:59,359 --> 00:19:59,679 Speaker 3: Dude. 453 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 1: I'm confused, And I said, I said that you don't 454 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 1: belong here anyways, and you hang your photo in some 455 00:20:05,720 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 1: other man's house because he's not around to say anything 456 00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:09,639 Speaker 1: and his son is a miner. 457 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,080 Speaker 2: You're pathetic. That is a classic. 458 00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:15,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, this feels like Disney movie kind of thing. 459 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:20,520 Speaker 1: Disney movie, like my dad my dad man, Like, why 460 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:21,920 Speaker 1: don't you just get out? 461 00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:22,720 Speaker 3: Dude. 462 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:25,600 Speaker 2: By the end of this, he's gonna be like thanks, Dad, 463 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:26,240 Speaker 2: I love you. 464 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:29,280 Speaker 3: I love you, Dad. I think, yeah, I'm sorry Dad, 465 00:20:29,359 --> 00:20:30,879 Speaker 3: you know I was just warning it. 466 00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:32,639 Speaker 1: H My mom got angry and when he had a 467 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:34,760 Speaker 1: huge argument, I left and went to stay with my 468 00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 1: aunt and told her everything, and she was furious. She 469 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,640 Speaker 1: called my mom and said, what's going on has gone 470 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:42,520 Speaker 1: too far, and then I'm going to live with her 471 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:45,240 Speaker 1: from now on. It's not just my mom's home, but 472 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,920 Speaker 1: it belongs to me as well legally, and she can't 473 00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:49,800 Speaker 1: just bring a stranger into a house shared with a 474 00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:52,000 Speaker 1: miner and she's gonna take it to court. I guess 475 00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:55,399 Speaker 1: I can't remember. It was it like his dad's house. 476 00:20:56,440 --> 00:20:56,879 Speaker 3: I think so. 477 00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 2: And he's probably in the wil yeah. 478 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:02,200 Speaker 1: Like if he's like literally, I know he's a minor, 479 00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:05,040 Speaker 1: but like, yeah, he's probably right. There's got to be 480 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:06,480 Speaker 1: something there where it's like, hey, you can't just like 481 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:07,720 Speaker 1: bring someone else. 482 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:11,680 Speaker 2: Dude, fight this for the next two years, fight back 483 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:14,360 Speaker 2: against this new dad. Yeah, okay, then you can get 484 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:17,720 Speaker 2: half of the house and you're good and protect because 485 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:20,040 Speaker 2: your name's in the will, truthfully true, walk. 486 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 3: It in, walk it in, op. 487 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:23,480 Speaker 1: I told my aunt that I don't want to hurt 488 00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:25,159 Speaker 1: my mom and let her live with that guy, and 489 00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 1: I will stay here if you allow it. She said, 490 00:21:27,400 --> 00:21:30,399 Speaker 1: obviously I'm allowed. I said, once I turn eighteen and 491 00:21:30,440 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 1: I have access to the funds that my father left 492 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:34,000 Speaker 1: for me, I will pay her back. 493 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 3: Dude, w W move Ope. 494 00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:39,120 Speaker 2: She said it's not needed, and she's doing it out 495 00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:39,800 Speaker 2: of love for me. 496 00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:42,080 Speaker 3: I love it. This is beautiful. Now. 497 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:44,159 Speaker 1: My mom has been calling me and crying, and I 498 00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,960 Speaker 1: told her that there won't be any legal action and 499 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:48,959 Speaker 1: just to live your life and all stay here with 500 00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:51,560 Speaker 1: my aunt. But my mom says that she can't live 501 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 1: without me, and I should at least give it a 502 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:56,280 Speaker 1: try to be with them, which I never gave and 503 00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 1: was always rude to them when they were just trying 504 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:03,680 Speaker 1: to be friendly. There is an update, and I think 505 00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:07,120 Speaker 1: there's kind of a plot to us not saying Riley's 506 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:09,960 Speaker 1: theory is true, but there might be something crazy. 507 00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:11,000 Speaker 3: But let's talk about what your. 508 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:13,439 Speaker 2: What's your percentage of my theory being true? What's your 509 00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 2: percentage ten percent on that being true? 510 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:18,160 Speaker 1: But of the like him kind of pulling a con, 511 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:21,240 Speaker 1: I would say, that's like fifty do. 512 00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:25,160 Speaker 2: You think so, Fia, what's your percentage of my theory? 513 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,840 Speaker 2: Being absolutely true. 514 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,760 Speaker 3: Oh wow, okay, I'll take that. It was zero. 515 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:33,439 Speaker 2: But it's going it's, it's and it's and it's rising. 516 00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:35,560 Speaker 2: The further we go, the bigger it's going up. 517 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:40,640 Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, I obviously understand the mom, 518 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:43,399 Speaker 1: you know, wanting to I mean, they've literally been a 519 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 1: team ever since. 520 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:45,000 Speaker 3: His father passed away. 521 00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:48,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, they clearly have had a really strong relationship. But 522 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:53,600 Speaker 1: like the mom has to understand what an emotional toll 523 00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:57,160 Speaker 1: this can, and it looks like is taking on her 524 00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:00,320 Speaker 1: son to just bring this man after two weeks, we're 525 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,919 Speaker 1: getting insanity and. 526 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:05,160 Speaker 2: Back on that trust thing. She's created a trust between 527 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:07,439 Speaker 2: her and her son ever like and bonding over the 528 00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:12,080 Speaker 2: father dying, and then she's like bringing someone to replace that. Yeah, 529 00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:14,159 Speaker 2: you're not saying like they should, like the son should 530 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:17,000 Speaker 2: like support her mom in that kind of way, but 531 00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:19,359 Speaker 2: it does seem I know, that's hurt. 532 00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:22,720 Speaker 1: That's probably how it feels to ope. It's like, you 533 00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:26,439 Speaker 1: are trying to replace my dad in two weeks, Like, 534 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,480 Speaker 1: at least let me get to know a guy. 535 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:30,159 Speaker 2: Wait, so wait, how long ago was it that the 536 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:30,640 Speaker 2: dad died? 537 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,239 Speaker 1: So the dad had a long time ago, so long 538 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:36,120 Speaker 1: time ago? Currently Opie's uh ten years ago? 539 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:37,360 Speaker 3: Ops? Sixteen? 540 00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:39,480 Speaker 2: The dad passed away when he was six years old. 541 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:41,280 Speaker 2: Six years old? Wait, how old is the mom? 542 00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:44,640 Speaker 3: We are not quite sure sure. 543 00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:48,320 Speaker 2: Is it like a midlife crisis kind of thing too? 544 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:49,120 Speaker 3: I don't know. 545 00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 2: I think what's his mom's mindset? Like why all of 546 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 2: a sudden was she seeing this guy for a long 547 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:56,000 Speaker 2: time and now is introducing him or is this just 548 00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:56,959 Speaker 2: all of a sudden. 549 00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 1: That's another good possible alternative theory is that she was 550 00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:02,920 Speaker 1: seeing him for a long time because she was like, Okay, 551 00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:03,960 Speaker 1: I want to make sure it's good. 552 00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:07,400 Speaker 2: But if that's the case, the absolute fatal f up is. 553 00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:09,680 Speaker 1: Like, yeah, maybe you've known him long enough to have 554 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,240 Speaker 1: that trust to bring him in, but now you're fast 555 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,640 Speaker 1: tracking it and your son doesn't get to have that 556 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:16,880 Speaker 1: same timeline that you did. 557 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:17,320 Speaker 3: You know. 558 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 1: So let's get into this update I posted yesterday, and 559 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:23,399 Speaker 1: my mom had moved in her boyfriend in my house, 560 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,520 Speaker 1: which we both own half of the good clarification reminder, 561 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:30,879 Speaker 1: and after two weeks from introducing him to me, I 562 00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:33,000 Speaker 1: didn't like living with a stranger in my own home, 563 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:35,439 Speaker 1: which was my father's house before he passed away, and 564 00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:37,720 Speaker 1: I was pissed, But about two days ago I left 565 00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:40,520 Speaker 1: to live with my aunt after reading all the comments 566 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:43,560 Speaker 1: and thinking hard that he might be taking advantage of 567 00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:46,119 Speaker 1: my mom, even though he was nice to me. I 568 00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:49,359 Speaker 1: was thinking so much, like, why the F did I 569 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:50,640 Speaker 1: move out of my father's house? 570 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:54,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, that you own have of that's true. 571 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 1: I could see though that it's like maybe too much 572 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,520 Speaker 1: for him. Sure, it seems like in the moment it was, Oh, yeah, 573 00:24:58,560 --> 00:24:58,760 Speaker 1: I'll just. 574 00:24:58,760 --> 00:24:59,640 Speaker 2: Take a few days ago. 575 00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:01,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, aunt's house, You're good totally. 576 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:03,840 Speaker 1: It's his house that he worked for, but his only 577 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:05,919 Speaker 1: son is out of his house, but his wife is 578 00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:08,360 Speaker 1: living there with a stranger in it, while his own 579 00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 1: blood is not comfortable in his own home. This got 580 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 1: me angry, so I told my aunt everything that I 581 00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:16,840 Speaker 1: was thinking, and she said that what I did think 582 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,080 Speaker 1: is right. She thought the same, but didn't want to 583 00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,320 Speaker 1: say anything because she wanted me to think for myself. 584 00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,919 Speaker 1: And my father owned that house way before he married 585 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:26,240 Speaker 1: my mom, and he would be just as pissed as 586 00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:28,720 Speaker 1: us if his own blood is out of the house 587 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:31,640 Speaker 1: that he works for, but some stranger is in there 588 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 1: enjoying the benefits. He's getting fired up dude's getting what's 589 00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 1: about to happen. He was kind of fired up today. 590 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,560 Speaker 1: I went straight to home. My mom was very happy 591 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:44,800 Speaker 1: to see me and hugs me, and I said, I 592 00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:50,480 Speaker 1: wanted to talk to him. Oh boy, damn dude, this 593 00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:53,399 Speaker 1: is this is kind of like when I feel like 594 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:56,040 Speaker 1: this is the part in the story where the hero, 595 00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:57,800 Speaker 1: you know, he was kind of like down and out 596 00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:59,480 Speaker 1: and he's like I can't do it, and then he's 597 00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:00,960 Speaker 1: like you know what, and then he got his confidence. 598 00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:04,199 Speaker 3: I'm ready bring him to me. 599 00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:09,920 Speaker 2: Let's go his Nevill long Bottom moment favorite character in 600 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:13,440 Speaker 2: Harry Potter. Side note, So my mom asked to talk 601 00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:16,600 Speaker 2: to me first, but I told her she'd have to wait. 602 00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:18,919 Speaker 3: Hmmm, big Daddy got to talk to. 603 00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:20,080 Speaker 4: Do you have an appointment? 604 00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:25,840 Speaker 2: Did you go on my calendle and book a spot? Nope. 605 00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:28,879 Speaker 1: I went to ask him and asked him why he 606 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:30,840 Speaker 1: is living in my house and I told him to 607 00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 1: get out right now. He said he wanted to have 608 00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,600 Speaker 1: a relationship with me and get to know me. I said, 609 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:39,159 Speaker 1: I don't want to know him. If you love my 610 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:43,199 Speaker 1: mom so much, take her to your place. And he 611 00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:45,399 Speaker 1: said that he wanted to by my mom just couldn't 612 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 1: leave me alone here and insisted that he move in 613 00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:51,520 Speaker 1: with her. I said, you didn't even ask for my permission. 614 00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,359 Speaker 1: That's a great point. I own the house as well. 615 00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 1: You should have known enough about the woman you're taking 616 00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,720 Speaker 1: advantage of. She owns half, but most of my father's 617 00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:03,199 Speaker 1: money belongs to me, and all my mother has is 618 00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,800 Speaker 1: half of his house, and what she earns is not 619 00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,960 Speaker 1: enough to have h is not enough. So have some 620 00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:11,840 Speaker 1: shame and stop being pathetic and get out of here. 621 00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:13,679 Speaker 3: Oh my god, dude. 622 00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:16,000 Speaker 1: Telling him, telling him like it is. My mom interrupted 623 00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:17,920 Speaker 1: and got angry with me and said that I'm being 624 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:20,800 Speaker 1: beyond rude. Now, why can I not just be polite 625 00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:22,719 Speaker 1: to him? She told me that she has known him 626 00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:25,560 Speaker 1: for four years now, Okay, so maybe this is a 627 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:29,280 Speaker 1: little bit to one of your seeing each other known 628 00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:32,119 Speaker 1: each other for longer at least. And he himself is 629 00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:35,080 Speaker 1: well off, not as much as my dad was, but 630 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,280 Speaker 1: still enough, so he's not at but still enough to 631 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:42,119 Speaker 1: where he's not after money. And his daughter treats my 632 00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,439 Speaker 1: mom as her second mother, So why can't I just 633 00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 1: get along? I told my mom that I don't want 634 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 1: a strange guy living in my dad's place. You want 635 00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:51,400 Speaker 1: to be with him, I'm fine with that. You want 636 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,200 Speaker 1: to marry him, okay, but why are you forcing me 637 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 1: to have any kind of relation or want me to. 638 00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:57,560 Speaker 3: Get along with him? 639 00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,919 Speaker 1: Do I not have a choice in my life as 640 00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:01,840 Speaker 1: to what I want to do and who I get 641 00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,640 Speaker 1: to and who I get along with. My mom got 642 00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:07,520 Speaker 1: even more angry and said that she hasn't raised me 643 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,679 Speaker 1: properly and said that I'm not old enough to be 644 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:13,240 Speaker 1: in charge and I'm still under her care. Mamma, you're 645 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 1: not getting it. You're not getting it, I said, Do 646 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: you really want to fight me? 647 00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:17,880 Speaker 2: Mom? 648 00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:21,400 Speaker 1: You own your own son over a man you met 649 00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:22,320 Speaker 1: a few years ago. 650 00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:23,040 Speaker 3: Yo. 651 00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:26,640 Speaker 1: I told my mom that, sure, go call the cops 652 00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,159 Speaker 1: because I'm going to destroy everything in here, and i 653 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,399 Speaker 1: will explain to them that I'm not comfortable living with 654 00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:33,760 Speaker 1: a stranger. If she wants to be with him, I'm 655 00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,400 Speaker 1: fine with that, but he's not allowed to live. 656 00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:37,480 Speaker 3: At my father's house. YO. 657 00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:40,120 Speaker 1: I told her, When I turn eighteen, which is in 658 00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:41,800 Speaker 1: a year and a half from now, and get access 659 00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:44,840 Speaker 1: to my money, I will pay you and get ownership 660 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,480 Speaker 1: of my father's house, which is the most important thing 661 00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:48,280 Speaker 1: in my life. 662 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:52,040 Speaker 3: It's heating up. He's heating up. Is he overstepping. 663 00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:58,040 Speaker 2: Technically, yes, But my whole thought is like, if the 664 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,880 Speaker 2: mom had thought, hey, here's my teenage son, let me 665 00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:06,000 Speaker 2: not speed run this thing that will probably throw him 666 00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 2: into all kinds of disarray, probably has lots of childhood 667 00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:10,400 Speaker 2: trauma from his father passing away. 668 00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:11,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, and this is. 669 00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:15,200 Speaker 1: Probably just like it's probably such an overwhelming thing for 670 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,920 Speaker 1: him to do as a teenager. While I, you know, 671 00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:21,520 Speaker 1: don't like condone and I'm not like encouraging that behavior, 672 00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:25,960 Speaker 1: I do really honestly understand why he would be in 673 00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:29,800 Speaker 1: the state of overwhelm. And I kind of look at 674 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,920 Speaker 1: the mom like, maybe. 675 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:34,440 Speaker 3: Uh asking him. 676 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,160 Speaker 1: Initially, you're like not in the right mind, You're just 677 00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,040 Speaker 1: so excited, You're just all, hey, can we do it? 678 00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:42,640 Speaker 1: But after he started showing you and telling you how 679 00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 1: uncomfortable he is with it, I feel like that's when 680 00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 1: the mom has had a chance to pull. 681 00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:49,200 Speaker 2: Back zero consideration. 682 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:49,640 Speaker 3: What's on? 683 00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:53,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like she like, the mom is pushing him to 684 00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:57,080 Speaker 1: this place, and after all he is, he's still still 685 00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,120 Speaker 1: like a young guy sixteen years old. 686 00:29:59,760 --> 00:29:59,960 Speaker 3: Yeah. 687 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,400 Speaker 2: Probably the lines here, this is how I see it. 688 00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 2: The lines here the mom pushed him this way. Now 689 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:07,840 Speaker 2: he's pushing back, so he is overstepping, but he has 690 00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:09,640 Speaker 2: to get it back to this point. So you have 691 00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:11,800 Speaker 2: to push it back to here in order it for 692 00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:14,040 Speaker 2: it to regular regular. That's what he Yeah, that's kind 693 00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:16,360 Speaker 2: of what he's like, I think unintentionally trying to do 694 00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 2: is like I need to like go beyond the line 695 00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:24,000 Speaker 2: to restore the line. 696 00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,720 Speaker 1: The line and like you know, the life and everything 697 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,400 Speaker 1: that you know. I don't want this guy living in 698 00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:31,920 Speaker 1: my home. Not only is it, I think totally fair 699 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:34,160 Speaker 1: for him to ask is like the son of his mother, 700 00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:38,720 Speaker 1: but also totally fair because he legally owns half the house. 701 00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:41,720 Speaker 1: I think this is a it's a very unique scenario 702 00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:45,880 Speaker 1: where I have so much understanding and empathy for the 703 00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:49,080 Speaker 1: for the teenager, you know what I mean. But curious 704 00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:50,840 Speaker 1: on you guys thoughts. Definitely drop your thoughts in the 705 00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:54,200 Speaker 1: comment as well. But getting back to the story. After 706 00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:57,480 Speaker 1: a lot of arguments my mom, thankfully, he said he's 707 00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:00,360 Speaker 1: leaving and we can discuss later. My mom I started 708 00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:02,840 Speaker 1: crying and said that I'm ruining everything. I said that 709 00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:05,520 Speaker 1: I'm not go live with him. I don't care, just 710 00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:08,200 Speaker 1: not in my father's place. I didn't talk to her 711 00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,000 Speaker 1: no matter how much she tried to talk to me. 712 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:10,959 Speaker 3: I ignored her. 713 00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:12,600 Speaker 1: And my mom came crying to me and said that 714 00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,320 Speaker 1: she will end her relationship with him because she cannot 715 00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:18,280 Speaker 1: lose me. I hugged her, which calmed her, so she 716 00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:19,040 Speaker 1: went to sleep. 717 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:22,160 Speaker 3: Am I the a hole? Sure? I don't care. 718 00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:25,120 Speaker 1: Is my mom allowed to remarry another man? Yes, but 719 00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,600 Speaker 1: he's not allowed to stay at my father's place or 720 00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:29,960 Speaker 1: any other strangers, even if it's a woman. 721 00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,640 Speaker 3: And I am not going to be forced. 722 00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:36,680 Speaker 1: To have a stepfather or stepsister or any of that stupidity. Also, 723 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,400 Speaker 1: I missed my PC, so dang much. There we go 724 00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:42,720 Speaker 1: classic teen activities right here in these few days. So 725 00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:47,080 Speaker 1: that's always also my top priority. It is awful on mobile. 726 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:48,160 Speaker 2: I can't play Fortnite. 727 00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:49,160 Speaker 3: Can't play Fortnite? 728 00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:50,560 Speaker 2: How am I supposed to play Fortnite? 729 00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:52,920 Speaker 1: But you know what you can do is join us 730 00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:54,960 Speaker 1: every weekday live at three pm PSD. 731 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:55,959 Speaker 3: Just tap a profile. 732 00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,400 Speaker 2: You don't even need a PC, right, you just do 733 00:31:58,440 --> 00:31:59,520 Speaker 2: it on your phone and he's great. 734 00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:00,520 Speaker 3: All right? 735 00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:03,320 Speaker 2: So guys, Wow, this is a I feel like this 736 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,800 Speaker 2: is a good story to discuss, Like a lot of 737 00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:11,120 Speaker 2: meat here to discuss what Sofia and Riley like, what 738 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,440 Speaker 2: do you guys think on you know, like the fact 739 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:15,960 Speaker 2: that he's he's a kid obviously, you know he he. 740 00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:17,720 Speaker 1: Did a lot, He did a lot, you know, he 741 00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,840 Speaker 1: got house. Sofia like, what do you what do you 742 00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:21,440 Speaker 1: think here? 743 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:24,880 Speaker 5: I think I think some of it is him being 744 00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:29,040 Speaker 5: kind of like a petulant team of reacting and be like, 745 00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:30,840 Speaker 5: I don't want a new dad. You can't be my 746 00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:35,200 Speaker 5: new dad, especially in the beforetime, before he even moved in, 747 00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:37,520 Speaker 5: just like I don't even like he's not my dad whatever. 748 00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:40,000 Speaker 5: I like, I don't want to be nice though. But 749 00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:41,720 Speaker 5: then on the other hand, I think that she definitely 750 00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:44,920 Speaker 5: pushed him way too far, too quickly, and it's not 751 00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:47,800 Speaker 5: it's not fair to put like a stranger basically on 752 00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:49,040 Speaker 5: your child. 753 00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:52,120 Speaker 2: And red flag on the on the step dad for just. 754 00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:55,720 Speaker 5: If you're not for not wanting to yeah, to make 755 00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:59,240 Speaker 5: his his you know, this boy as comfortable. 756 00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:02,200 Speaker 1: As possible, Like wouldn't like I feel like all three 757 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:04,040 Speaker 1: of us would have the forest. It'd be like, hmm, 758 00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,600 Speaker 1: maybe it's a little too much after two weeks of 759 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:10,600 Speaker 1: meeting this kid to like move into the house with them, 760 00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:12,880 Speaker 1: and then a few days after that say that I'm 761 00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:16,440 Speaker 1: getting married to his mom. Yeah maybe just baby who 762 00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,200 Speaker 1: also from it didn't say anywhere else in the story. 763 00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:22,320 Speaker 1: It seems like she's never brought a relationship Jim in 764 00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:24,520 Speaker 1: the entire time since his dad passed away, and plus so. 765 00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:27,720 Speaker 2: He didnt even play catch with him. I'm gonna marry 766 00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:29,640 Speaker 2: your mom, dude. I don't even know if you could 767 00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:32,120 Speaker 2: throw a baseball. I don't know if you can shoot 768 00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:33,440 Speaker 2: a hoop. I don't know if you know how to 769 00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:35,800 Speaker 2: like hold a spiral on a football. 770 00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:38,640 Speaker 1: If if we haven't thrown the pigskin, then you can't 771 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:39,120 Speaker 1: get in. 772 00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:43,680 Speaker 3: Golden rule right there, That's all I'm saying. Golden rule. Yeah, 773 00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:44,000 Speaker 3: I think. 774 00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,320 Speaker 1: I mean, I think now now that we've reached the 775 00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:48,320 Speaker 1: end of the story hearing everything. 776 00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:50,120 Speaker 3: Op did. 777 00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:56,360 Speaker 2: Yes, it was a bit extreme, but sometimes you got 778 00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:59,040 Speaker 2: to go to those extreme measures to get what's yours now. 779 00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,360 Speaker 1: I don't think it's just so to be To be clear, 780 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:04,840 Speaker 1: I don't even know that what he's doing is necessarily justified. 781 00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:09,360 Speaker 1: I think more so, the thing I'm thinking is like, ultimately, 782 00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:14,480 Speaker 1: why did his mom like let this push and progress 783 00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:18,520 Speaker 1: so much and so quickly as to overwhelm the kid. 784 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:21,520 Speaker 1: It's kind it's kind of like, what do you expect? Yeah, 785 00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,160 Speaker 1: that's I think how I'm feeling about it. 786 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:24,640 Speaker 3: Mm hmmm mm hmm. 787 00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:26,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. 788 00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:28,960 Speaker 5: No, it definitely is like a like, not necessarily he's 789 00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:32,440 Speaker 5: in the right, but it's because she didn't. It's kind 790 00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:36,120 Speaker 5: of how her parenting, yes, and her her actions. 791 00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:38,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it seems like it seems like they had 792 00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,760 Speaker 1: a really good relationship and that she's you know, done 793 00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:42,319 Speaker 1: a great job. 794 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:43,880 Speaker 4: Well, I feel like it's definitely. 795 00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,560 Speaker 5: I think it's partially because they have such a close relationship, 796 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,719 Speaker 5: he's probably feeling, you know, she's going to leave me. 797 00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:52,200 Speaker 5: She's you know, now there's this other man in her life. 798 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:54,480 Speaker 5: There's this other person that's going to take up her time, 799 00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,600 Speaker 5: and he's feeling a lot of emotions and she's not 800 00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:01,760 Speaker 5: really recognizing or validating those emotions. Yeah, you know, listening 801 00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:02,240 Speaker 5: at least. 802 00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:04,920 Speaker 1: Nicole ch commented, the mom has set up to fail 803 00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:06,839 Speaker 1: and like the other side of the coin here, which 804 00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:09,120 Speaker 1: I think is important, is you know, maybe this woman 805 00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:10,719 Speaker 1: hasn't had a relationship this whole time. 806 00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 3: She's a single mom. 807 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:14,879 Speaker 1: She from her perspective, I kind of get it where 808 00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:17,799 Speaker 1: she's like, Wow, I finally found a guy that I 809 00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:21,520 Speaker 1: trust that I've known him for four years. We don't 810 00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:23,760 Speaker 1: know if they've been dating that time or what exactly 811 00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:26,560 Speaker 1: the timeline is, but maybe she's like, I'm finally and 812 00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:28,760 Speaker 1: you know, she's been raised a kid, I'm finally ready 813 00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:32,200 Speaker 1: to prioritize me, you know, and like have a partner 814 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,080 Speaker 1: in life like she was expecting to. You know, she married, 815 00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:38,120 Speaker 1: she was married to his dad the whole time before. 816 00:35:37,880 --> 00:35:39,720 Speaker 2: So she hasn't been with anyone in ten years. 817 00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:43,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, I I feel for her, like I really 818 00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:47,400 Speaker 1: really do. And I totally think that she's entitled to 819 00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:50,440 Speaker 1: try to bring him into their life, and that with 820 00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:54,200 Speaker 1: the right amount of time and given that he is actually, 821 00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:56,759 Speaker 1: you know, a good step father and all that, that 822 00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:59,439 Speaker 1: he should be brought into the family. I just think 823 00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:03,759 Speaker 1: maybe all of that kind of rushed it. Uh speed Yeah, 824 00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:05,640 Speaker 1: I can't speed run. That can't speed run a new 825 00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:09,759 Speaker 1: dad kind of tough. But guys, we're gonna get into 826 00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:10,480 Speaker 1: his final story.