WEBVTT - Checking In Replay: w/ Dr. Robert Singleton, II 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.000 Welcome to Checking In with Michelle Williams, a production of 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:20.239 iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. Hey, y'all, what's going on? 0:00:20.920 --> 0:00:22.920 You know, there are just some people that you see 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:26.640 on social media and they just have an amazing bright 0:00:26.760 --> 0:00:32.560 light about them. And sometimes they go unknown to people 0:00:32.640 --> 0:00:36.840 because maybe they they're not the singer that's got the 0:00:36.920 --> 0:00:40.120 you know, the top five charting hit, you know what 0:00:40.159 --> 0:00:42.880 I'm saying, Or maybe they don't have a new movie 0:00:42.920 --> 0:00:47.120 coming out in theaters that's this blockbuster special. But they 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:51.000 are making impact in their own communities or in their 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:53.680 industry that they work in. And so we found someone 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:56.960 by the name of doctor Rob Singleton, and I just 0:00:57.120 --> 0:01:01.040 became just so inspired by the things that he was posting. 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:03.600 And one day he posted about how you know, children 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:05.280 need eight hugs a day, and I was like, oh 0:01:05.360 --> 0:01:08.399 my gosh to hear him talk about that. Normally you 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:10.639 only hear that in the space of like mental health, 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:14.319 but for someone you know like him, I was like, Okay. 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:16.480 So I became more and more interested about him and 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:19.760 just about his life, his wife's life, whom I'm excited 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:24.880 about having come on the show, and you know, listen, 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:28.559 I just I just really love when people are doing 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:33.480 their thing in their industry. So I'm excited to welcome 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:39.160 doctor Rob Singleton. He is an anesthesiologist and advocate for 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:43.360 evidence based health information, a father and a husband, and 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:46.919 so you know we're gonna be talking about so much. 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:50.880 We even talk about the controversy a little bit about 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:55.520 ozembic and how does a busy person make sure that 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:59.640 they just keep God first and in the center of 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:02.280 every thing that they're doing, or just just your life. 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:04.160 How do you find time to meditate? How do you 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:06.040 find time to read your Bible? How do you find 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:08.600 time to work out? How do you find time? Just 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:12.920 everybody is so busy. So I'm excited to welcome doctor 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:19.200 Rob Singleton. Everybody, y'all know how excited I get when 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:23.880 I talk to two smart people, thriving people, people that 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:29.000 are making impact and making such a difference in this world. 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:34.680 I saw a video on Instagram from a doctor not 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:38.120 like he was a psychologist, a psychiatrist, or a therapist, 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:43.160 licensed clinical social worker, a doctor in different practices. Just 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:47.040 stay with me, I'm gonna get there. An anesthesiologist, uh, 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:53.280 anesthesiology physician, but anestesiologist to make it right, am I 0:02:53.360 --> 0:02:59.800 am I am, I so board certified anestesiologist, and he's 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:02.720 had folks need eight hugs a day or children need 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:06.040 eight hugs a day, and I thought it so profound 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:10.680 to hear that coming from him, an anesthesiologist, and I 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:13.000 could not wait to talk to him because that is 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:15.160 my field as far as the field of mental health 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:17.440 and people feeling great, and I could not wait to 0:03:17.560 --> 0:03:22.840 have him on here, y'all. He is Illinois based, Board 0:03:23.000 --> 0:03:28.720 certified physician. Specialty is anesthesiology, which I've had before, and 0:03:28.760 --> 0:03:32.799 I don't remember my life prior to or after I 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:36.840 was told, y'all, doctor Robert Single to the second is 0:03:37.120 --> 0:03:38.720 checking in with us today. 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:41.760 Thank you so much for that introduction. Thank you for 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:42.200 having me. 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:44.960 I'm a huge fan of yours, and I thank you 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:48.360 for the opportunity just to talk about, you know, some 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:50.440 of the things that God has on my heart and 0:03:50.880 --> 0:03:53.800 to have this conversation with you. Wow. 0:03:54.440 --> 0:04:00.680 So listen, y'all. His background. I saw Peoria, Illinois. I 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:04.280 saw where you graduated college from, and I was like, so, 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:06.840 my memories of Peoria is partying. 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:09.680 Yeah. 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:13.520 So I finished on my training, I went to Well first, 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:16.479 I'm from Baton Rouge, Louisiana, and so I went to 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:20.440 Louisiana State University for college. Then I went to Howard 0:04:20.520 --> 0:04:24.240 University in Washington, d C. For medical school Howard University, 0:04:25.040 --> 0:04:28.920 and then I did my anesthesia training at the University 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:32.719 of Arkansas. We wanted to get back closer to Chicago 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:37.680 because my wife is from Chicago. So we got close 0:04:37.760 --> 0:04:41.479 to Chicago in Peoria, Illinois, which is about two and 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:45.279 a half hours away. We were there for five years 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:47.880 or so, but we wanted to get back, you know, 0:04:47.960 --> 0:04:51.039 even closer because her parents are here in Chicago. We 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:54.359 have a lot of family here. But Peoria, you know, 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:59.120 it was a very small city. We were able to 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:03.520 grow prof acson. Only my wife advanced career wise there 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:04.120 and so. 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:06.080 I'm a schedule her. 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:10.359 If you listening. 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:16.840 To Amazing Power Couple. 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:19.680 Thank you so much, Thank you so much. She is 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:23.719 She's ten times smarter than I am. I'm so proud 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:27.760 of her. She is the chief compliance officer at the 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:31.400 University of Illinois and just so intelligent. 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:32.600 I'm so proud of her. 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:37.320 But but yeah, we moved to the We're not in downtown, 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:38.800 We're not in the city of Chicago. 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:42.280 We are in the south suburbs. But you know, I 0:05:42.320 --> 0:05:44.160 love my job safety reasons. 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:51.920 But you know, we have our kids, love their schools, 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.960 we love our neighborhood, we love our jobs, and so 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:59.279 we are so happy to be in the Chicago Land area. 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:04.400 I am so excited to hear that the very very 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:06.680 first house I ever bought was in the South suburb 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:09.360 of Chicago. I'm from Rockford, Illinois originally. 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:13.080 Okay, okay, my brother still. 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:16.640 He lives downtown Chicago and family is still in that 0:06:16.760 --> 0:06:19.599 rock For area. I went to school at Illinois State 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:23.479 and some of the parties kind of took us down 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:27.799 the highway to Peoria. Every now there was a nice 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:32.960 church that we shipped with from time to time. I 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:35.080 don't know if it was City of Hope. Hope was 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:38.320 in the name. Bishop Haral Dawson was the pastor. So 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:41.240 I don't want to I'm not gonna bring y'all any 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:43.800 shame because I was. I was a good girl. But 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:47.000 I did go to some of the parties. Yeah, man, 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:51.000 and look what God has done. He has a seated in. 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:54.680 Heavenly God, Praise God. 0:06:55.640 --> 0:07:00.080 Everybody has a story. Everybody has a story. So this 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:05.440 interview can go so many ways. You are a literal 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:11.200 practicing physician, yes, but we I think what I like 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:15.240 is we get to see you as a father, someone's husband, 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.560 I'm sure, a son. Do you have any siblings? 0:07:17.960 --> 0:07:19.440 I have a younger brother. 0:07:19.920 --> 0:07:23.920 Okay, so as a brother and being so we think 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:28.320 that you're just a doctor, but you're human too, who 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:31.200 is also like killing it as a content creator? 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:32.360 Thank you? 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:37.440 Okay, tell us about that journey. 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:41.760 You know, when I first I started on Instagram shortly 0:07:41.880 --> 0:07:46.200 after the pandemic, and I at first just kind of 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:50.200 posted about my family, birthday parties, we love to travel. 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:53.440 I kind of just posted personal things. But as you recalled, 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:56.880 during the pandemic, there were so many conspiracy theories about 0:07:56.920 --> 0:07:59.600 the virus and the vaccine, and it was so crazy, 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:03.520 and I felt like it was my responsibility because so. 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:04.600 Many people trusted me. 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:09.320 I felt like it was my responsibility to spread reliable 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:14.680 health information. You know, many times people they don't know 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:19.360 what sources to trust, and so if they can, you know, 0:08:19.480 --> 0:08:23.880 find me a black physician. You know, cultural competency, it, 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:28.080 I think can make an impact on their health decisions 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:32.880 in which what type of medical information they choose. So 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:38.520 I started posting more. Thank you I posted more more 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:43.000 health information, more about me as a physician, and people 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:46.120 became more interested in my journey, and so I went 0:08:46.160 --> 0:08:50.920 in that direction. And then about a year ago, my 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:54.440 wife and I started back going to church. We had 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:58.320 not gone for two years during the pandemic, but that 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:02.880 was an experience or both of us started to become 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:07.240 closer to God through we joined a new church, so 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:10.480 we went to the new members classes and then from there, 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:16.400 the transformation I was experiencing spiritually crossed over into my 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:20.280 social media and so I started to post things that 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:22.880 were inspiring to me, things that I thought would help 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:26.160 other people, that you know, would resonate with people, because 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.920 and what I post, I don't get too too deep. 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:32.360 I share scriptures, but I don't I don't get very deep. 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:35.880 I feel like many times people just need a little 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:39.080 bit of encouragement just to make it through the day, 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:43.600 make it through the week, you know. And so what 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:47.280 I share, it's it's very simple, but it's things that 0:09:47.400 --> 0:09:51.080 I think that you know, can can help people, just 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:54.439 to just a little bit of encouragement and in the process, 0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:55.720 you know, share the gospel. 0:09:56.120 --> 0:09:58.200 I was about to ask you, how do you share? 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:01.400 But I think I just heard a voice say he's 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:07.600 graced to share. The reason why I say that, I well, 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:10.040 the reason why I believe that just got the revelation 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:15.600 is because your job is a heavy job. You probably 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:20.720 need the encouragement the strength because what you do, like 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:26.600 you got to like know, like the person's wait, every 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:31.120 single medical condition, if they've had surgery in the past, y'all, 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:32.920 let me tell you if you've never if you've had 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:37.480 anesthesiology before, whether it was a major procedure or within 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:41.080 patient or outpatient. You know, I know these questions that 0:10:41.160 --> 0:10:44.640 they ask and it during near scares me, like I'll 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:47.719 just live with my condition because this is just true. 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:51.480 So imagine if the patient is feeling that way. You've 0:10:51.520 --> 0:10:54.080 gone to school for this, but you have to know 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:57.839 every single thing about this person that you are about 0:10:57.880 --> 0:11:03.280 to prepare for some time medical procedure that is going 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:04.520 to be life changing for them. 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:05.880 And thank you for that. 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:09.439 Many people don't realize how important our role is as 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:14.400 anesthesia physicians. And in a typical day, most days everything 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.720 goes smoothly. You know, we see our patients, we do 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:20.559 our cases, we go home, but every once in a while, 0:11:20.760 --> 0:11:24.680 there are emergencies. We have massive hemorrhage, you know, bleeding 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:26.960 where we have to administer blood products and platelets and 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:28.080 frozen plasma. 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:29.320 We have had. 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:32.440 So it's more than just administering the good good that 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:33.440 puts us to sleep. 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.480 It's more than that. It's more than that. We have 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.959 emergency sees. We have that see sections, we have trauma, 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:44.840 we have cold blue cardiac arrest. There's emergencies that happen 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:49.440 even in the outpatient procedures, and so it's important that 0:11:49.440 --> 0:11:53.200 we've remain that we are vigilant, that we remain up 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:57.280 to date on the latest health information guidelines. I just 0:11:57.360 --> 0:12:02.000 came from an anesthesia conference in San Francisco. Every year, 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:07.080 the American Society of Anaesthesiologists holds a conference and we're 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:10.320 able to not only network, but learn about the newest 0:12:11.080 --> 0:12:14.960 trends and anesthesia and patient care. And so it's important 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:19.960 for us to remain up to date on what's going 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:22.040 on because it can save someone's life. 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:32.160 I'm so excited, y'all. I'm talking to Rob's second fifty three. 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:37.480 That is his Instagram profile. So if you're like me, 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:40.640 sometimes when a movie is going on, I'm nosy, I'll 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:43.840 go and research the author or more of the synopsis 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:46.280 of the movie or something that I'm watching. So in 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:48.839 case you're kind of curious about who we're talking to 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:51.520 right now, you can go to his Instagram at Robert 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:55.800 second fifty three. He does have a TikTok which is. 0:12:56.520 --> 0:12:59.560 The same Yeah, so I post the same thing on 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:05.400 most of the same videos on YouTube and Instagram, same name, 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:10.880 But I primarily I focused on Instagram. It's just I've 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:14.840 built community there and so every day I post something 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:17.080 new that's on my heart. That was kind of a 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:21.160 challenge that I gave myself just to every day post something. 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:26.079 And so, okay, well I've got to ask this question. Yeah, 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:29.480 I got to ask this question. Do you get flack 0:13:29.960 --> 0:13:34.920 from fellow colleagues or just people who probably like, you're 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:36.319 a doctor, you shouldn't be on here. 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:40.000 This is for kids, you know what I do not. 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:41.160 It's so funny. 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:49.400 My my coworkers and hospital administrators are so supportive. It's 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:54.240 funny because you know, I'll get my the different administrators 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:56.280 will come up and say, oh, how is your vacation, 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:59.240 or we saw this real we saw this video. They're 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:05.480 very supportive of And whenever I went to the our 0:14:05.559 --> 0:14:08.840 Anesthesia conference in San Francisco. You know, I talked about 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:12.120 it with some of my colleagues there, and you know, 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:17.079 they very happy that I was able to share about 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:21.520 my profession. Because anesthesia, I know you're familiar with it, 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:24.440 but many people don't realize, you know, what we do 0:14:24.560 --> 0:14:26.520 and how important our job is. And so it's kind 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:31.000 of a form of advocacy, uh for for safe anesthesia care. 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:34.560 And so people kind of can see me and know 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:39.480 what an anesthesiologist does, and you know, so I get 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:42.640 lots of support for my social media presence. I do 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:46.440 have two rules that I have though. I don't sing 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:50.080 and I don't dance, so I don't do those things. 0:14:51.040 --> 0:14:58.720 I feel like if I do and I sing, I 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:01.960 sung in the choir before, but I can't. I can't 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:03.960 sing solo. I can sing an a choir. 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:10.640 And you're not tempted to do like the latest dance trends. 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:12.520 On they're cool, they're cool. I do them. 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.640 I do them with my kids whenever there's no cameras, 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:17.800 but that not on camera, no one. 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:23.280 And stay and you know what works for you, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:15:23.400 --> 0:15:25.960 you know exactly what works for you, y'all. Y'all got 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:28.880 to see this microphone he has. Do you have a podcast? 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:33.520 You know what I just I just started a quote 0:15:33.600 --> 0:15:38.040 unquote podcast for the month of or for the new year. 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:41.640 I'm trying to read one chapter a day of the Bible, 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:43.560 and so I started in the Book of Matthew. So 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:47.600 I record a chapter and I have it recorded in 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:51.760 podcasts format. So it's just me reading the Bible. It's 0:15:51.760 --> 0:15:55.400 not any commentary or any other content yet, but I'm 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:56.040 thinking about it. 0:15:56.840 --> 0:16:02.680 Y'all listen, Okay. So some people might think when you're 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:09.600 a doctor, you must stay just a doctor. So my uncle, 0:16:09.600 --> 0:16:13.640 who is a family practice physician in Rockford, Illinois, also 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:14.680 became a pastor. 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:17.520 Wow, and he loves to teach. 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:19.760 I don't know if you're like him or not, But 0:16:20.680 --> 0:16:22.480 now that I look back and like, I asked him 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:25.320 a lot of questions about medicine, and I never knew 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:28.280 if he likes to talk about medicine. But because not 0:16:28.360 --> 0:16:31.800 only he's a teacher, I think he enjoyed sharing the information. 0:16:32.920 --> 0:16:35.600 Now when I go home, I don't ask me about Beyonce, 0:16:35.840 --> 0:16:39.920 don't I don't ask me where he is, don't ask 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:45.160 me about Jay Kelly. I where are the greens and 0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:50.640 the Yeah? Yeah, just that right for you. I am 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:55.960 just wondering you're outside of medicine, and do you think 0:16:55.960 --> 0:16:57.120 you have to choose? 0:16:58.240 --> 0:16:59.120 That's a good question. 0:16:59.280 --> 0:16:59.440 You know. 0:16:59.600 --> 0:17:03.920 I'm all about balance. Like whenever I'm at work, I'm professional. 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:07.200 I work, but whenever I as soon as my scrubs 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:08.439 come off and I get in my car and I 0:17:08.480 --> 0:17:11.920 go home like I'm I am Robert second five three, 0:17:12.040 --> 0:17:18.080 like I'm about my kids, you know. I you know, 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:21.840 like I mentioned, it's it's it can be stressful at work, 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:25.639 and so I try to compartmentalize it, you know, whenever 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:28.200 I come home, I'm not. My wife likes to watch 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:32.800 you know, Gray's Anatomy and you know these medical shows. 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:33.679 I don't want to see that. 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:37.560 Now, do you then? Do you torture her by watching 0:17:37.600 --> 0:17:38.840 all the law shows? 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:40.639 You know what? That's so funny. She does. 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:43.080 She does not watch the law show. She doesn't watch 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:44.840 all Rise or any of that. 0:17:45.040 --> 0:17:49.520 So, you know, I don't know, but the medical especially 0:17:49.520 --> 0:17:51.919 the medical shows, I'm not sure about the law shows. Laurie's. 0:17:52.000 --> 0:17:53.959 I don't know about the medicals because family members and 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:56.199 they be like they'll watch the shows and be like, 0:17:56.600 --> 0:17:59.680 why is this electro Like placed in their bear load 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:01.800 does not go Yeah. 0:18:01.880 --> 0:18:04.719 Yeah, where are the consultants to tell them, you know, 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:06.399 how to how to do things? 0:18:06.480 --> 0:18:07.120 Yeah? 0:18:07.359 --> 0:18:12.119 Right, right, right right, Okay, So the reason why I 0:18:12.160 --> 0:18:14.400 asked you all of that is because what you're saying 0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:16.800 you're doing with you know, reading the Bible and all 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:19.080 these kinds of things. So I'm just here to encourage 0:18:19.119 --> 0:18:23.520 you to go for whatever. Uh it seems like God 0:18:23.600 --> 0:18:27.680 is leading you to do, you know, and this journey 0:18:27.680 --> 0:18:32.600 that you're on, the fact that you're sharing it unashamedly, yes, 0:18:33.520 --> 0:18:36.800 I mean some people find God and they get ashamed. 0:18:36.840 --> 0:18:42.160 I mean you're quoting scripture, you're low key reading people sometimes, 0:18:42.440 --> 0:18:47.080 you know. It's so it's absolutely amazing. But I want 0:18:47.080 --> 0:18:48.800 to go back to the video that you made about 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:52.000 eight hugs a day. Again, that's how I found you 0:18:52.720 --> 0:18:55.760 and what I like. You are an advocate for evidence 0:18:55.880 --> 0:19:00.879 based health information. Yes, I heard it was ten hugs 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:04.960 a day, eight hugs a days the same, but because 0:19:05.000 --> 0:19:06.920 some people don't get any hugs a day. 0:19:07.119 --> 0:19:11.200 Yes, yeah, you know it's so funny. That post has 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:14.199 like thousands of comments. I haven't read them all, but 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:17.440 every once in a while I'll see a comment and somebody, Yeah, 0:19:17.680 --> 0:19:21.960 you're right, you're right. But every once in a while 0:19:22.040 --> 0:19:24.399 I'll see a comment and somebody will say, you know, 0:19:25.000 --> 0:19:27.000 I should be dead right now, Like I haven't gotten 0:19:27.000 --> 0:19:30.560 a hug all year, and it's like, wow, A lot 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:32.720 of times I take for granted all the hugs that 0:19:32.760 --> 0:19:34.879 I get from my kids and you know, my wife, 0:19:34.960 --> 0:19:37.960 and there are people out there, you know, even though 0:19:38.000 --> 0:19:41.800 we are so connected through social media. You can see 0:19:41.840 --> 0:19:45.320 your old classmates and your neighbors. We're so connected, but 0:19:46.400 --> 0:19:49.639 how much of the time do we actually get to 0:19:49.680 --> 0:19:54.760 see people, to enter to interface with people, you know, 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:58.320 And so we have to not forget that we really 0:19:58.680 --> 0:20:00.600 we as humans need and. 0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:02.360 We're wired for social interaction. 0:20:02.520 --> 0:20:04.440 And so that kind of was the point of that 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:07.960 of that video, that you know, we have to make 0:20:08.000 --> 0:20:11.560 sure that we are still socializing, that we're still you know, 0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:15.000 being kind to each other, that we are you know, 0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:18.959 not taking out our physical needs for being around other 0:20:19.000 --> 0:20:19.840 people for granted. 0:20:20.640 --> 0:20:23.880 Mmm, that's so good, that's so good. People are Well, 0:20:23.920 --> 0:20:25.639 how do I how can I hug my children that 0:20:25.640 --> 0:20:27.200 many times a day? I just be trying to get 0:20:27.240 --> 0:20:29.679 them out the door and go to school. But I 0:20:29.720 --> 0:20:31.560 thought I'd figure it out. 0:20:31.800 --> 0:20:32.320 Okay. 0:20:33.040 --> 0:20:36.000 Hug them when you wake them up in the morning. Okay, 0:20:36.720 --> 0:20:40.240 hug them when they've gotten dressed, or after they've bathed 0:20:40.359 --> 0:20:42.880 and all this. They burst their tea, you know, hug 0:20:42.920 --> 0:20:46.119 them maybe you know, when they're eating their food. You 0:20:46.240 --> 0:20:48.480 might just walk by and just give them a little 0:20:48.560 --> 0:20:51.159 nudge or something. That's three. 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:53.399 Yeah, yeah, get them out. 0:20:53.280 --> 0:20:56.680 The door to school. You're driving to school. You hug 0:20:56.720 --> 0:20:59.080 them or tap something when they get up. That'st for. 0:21:00.119 --> 0:21:01.280 It ain't even nine. 0:21:01.200 --> 0:21:03.440 Am yet, there you go. 0:21:04.280 --> 0:21:08.000 Okay, okay, so you got them off to school. Y'all 0:21:08.040 --> 0:21:11.000 get home from work. He's come home. 0:21:11.320 --> 0:21:11.600 Five. 0:21:11.640 --> 0:21:15.080 You done. Hug them? Hey, we at five? They told 0:21:15.119 --> 0:21:17.680 you about their day, Dad, I didn't have a good 0:21:17.760 --> 0:21:20.200 day at school today. That's the time grab them. You 0:21:20.280 --> 0:21:22.439 hug them, man, I'm so sorry you didn't have a 0:21:22.440 --> 0:21:26.520 good day. Six okay, okay, okay, Lucy, how can how 0:21:26.520 --> 0:21:28.679 can they? So they tell you about their day? Then 0:21:28.760 --> 0:21:34.600 y'all are y'all are eating dinner? Dad, I hate Brussels sprouts, 0:21:35.000 --> 0:21:38.560 little girl, you're gonna eat them Brussels sprouts. Okay, eat 0:21:38.600 --> 0:21:41.960 the Brussels sprouts. She ate the Brussels sprouts. You hunt her. 0:21:42.600 --> 0:21:47.200 That's so good, baby girl. At hugs. That's about seven 0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:52.760 o'clock at night. Yeah, I don't hugged. That's that's seven fingers, 0:21:52.920 --> 0:21:57.880 eight hugs. So at seven o'clock at night, then you're 0:21:57.880 --> 0:22:00.680 telling them it's time to go to bed. I don't 0:22:00.720 --> 0:22:03.399 want to go to bed. Man you and come here 0:22:03.440 --> 0:22:06.080 and get in that bed. You drop them up a 0:22:06.080 --> 0:22:10.600 little bit, do the little hugs. That's bad hugs. Then 0:22:10.640 --> 0:22:12.000 you'd be like, you know, before you go to bed, 0:22:12.080 --> 0:22:14.480 let's say our little prayers or something, or do you 0:22:14.480 --> 0:22:17.239 a little bathing or whatever you're gonna y'all, y'all, And 0:22:17.359 --> 0:22:18.240 that's ten hugs. 0:22:18.480 --> 0:22:21.080 That's ten hugs. There you go. And it's so funny. 0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:24.280 My daughter, Hey, I could have stopped that eight you could. 0:22:24.080 --> 0:22:24.680 Have stopped that date. 0:22:25.160 --> 0:22:27.480 My daughter actually tells me at the end of the 0:22:27.560 --> 0:22:29.960 day how many hugs she's gotten, and so I try 0:22:30.000 --> 0:22:32.520 to make up for it. Yeah, it's it's so cute. 0:22:32.560 --> 0:22:35.160 It's the cutest thing ever. She'll say, I got six 0:22:35.240 --> 0:22:37.600 hugs today. So when I get home from work, I'm like, okay, 0:22:37.600 --> 0:22:40.639 we're gonna get you those your other two hugs to 0:22:40.640 --> 0:22:41.640 get you eight hugs. 0:22:41.640 --> 0:22:43.919 And you know, I hugged my daughter. I hugged my 0:22:44.000 --> 0:22:44.520 son too. 0:22:45.320 --> 0:22:47.920 We're very affectionate in our house, and so I try 0:22:47.920 --> 0:22:51.440 to make sure that you know they know that I 0:22:51.480 --> 0:22:54.760 love them. You know, we say I love you. You know, 0:22:54.880 --> 0:22:57.960 kids need that and everybody needs that, even we as adults, 0:22:58.000 --> 0:23:00.560 you know, need to know that we're love and to 0:23:00.600 --> 0:23:01.600 fill that warmth. 0:23:02.400 --> 0:23:06.800 That's so good because I'm told or or through therapists 0:23:06.840 --> 0:23:09.439 and just looking at things like people that work in 0:23:09.440 --> 0:23:16.040 the medical book, doctors, attorneys and police officers can are 0:23:16.080 --> 0:23:21.440 not affectionate. They can't be affectionate because lots of times 0:23:21.440 --> 0:23:23.200 you're delivering bad news. 0:23:23.640 --> 0:23:26.800 That's true, Yeah, you know what I mean. 0:23:27.080 --> 0:23:28.960 And so for you to still be like, I gotta 0:23:29.000 --> 0:23:31.960 go home, I gotta huggies kids, I gotta my wife, 0:23:32.440 --> 0:23:34.320