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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beta Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: That's right, two times People's Choice Award winning podcast. Here, Hello, everybody, WHOA.

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Speaker 3: We really throw the people off with that intro.

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Speaker 2: That's why I could keep everybody on their toes like

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Speaker 2: a radio host, toesy news.

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Speaker 4: Like a professional radio host. Intro was giving Ryan Seacrest.

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Speaker 4: That's right, Annie Seacrest, thank you.

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Speaker 5: We got podcast right here for you, buddy.

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Speaker 3: I was giving auctioneer nice. Sure, how you doing do

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Speaker 3: a great?

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Speaker 2: Can't wait for a date night?

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Speaker 4: Same, We're heading to the Subarina Carpenter concert tonight.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 3: Short and sweet, Short and sweet. She is so short

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Speaker 3: and sweet.

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Speaker 2: She's like a pollypocket she is.

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Speaker 3: It's so I wish that they did a live action pollpocket.

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Speaker 2: They have to use her. I agree.

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Speaker 6: Do you see the photos of her and Taylor out

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Speaker 6: in New York and she's.

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Speaker 3: Like the edits of it?

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Speaker 4: Like I was having I can't remember what happened, but

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Speaker 4: I was just feeling down one day and I would

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Speaker 4: just go look at that picture and I'd bring me.

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Speaker 2: Back happiness and joy because.

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Speaker 3: She's so cute, and Taylor looks so tall in that photo.

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Speaker 6: I saw people posting this is lady Gita.

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Speaker 2: I don't get it.

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Speaker 6: It's a tiny picture of lady.

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Speaker 2: I don't get the Internet sometimes.

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Speaker 3: Dona's response to things that's like, so it really is

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Speaker 3: just being chronically online and shold me that I don't

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Speaker 3: get it, and I'm.

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Speaker 4: Like, go away, Yeah, let me just be silly, and

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Speaker 4: it doesn't need to be gotten.

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Speaker 2: Clearly it needs to be gotten.

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Speaker 4: No, it's just tiny little Sabrina being cute and polly

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Speaker 4: pocket and then Taylor.

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Speaker 3: Being already tall and wearing the tallest deals.

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Speaker 2: I didn't understand. I now do because you forced me

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Speaker 2: to go, like, understand, Julie is not.

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Speaker 3: I didn't say anything. Yeah, so that's okay. Yeah, you

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Speaker 3: said I don't understand. I said that's okay.

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Speaker 2: But it's not okay because then I feel left out.

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Speaker 2: Well I can't fix that.

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Speaker 4: I can't fix that part because I wish I was a.

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Speaker 2: Little left out.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I wish I was kind of left out from

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Speaker 3: chronically online.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: I'm actually, let's check back in January and see if

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Speaker 2: you actually do this, But because a lot of December,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to be taking off. I want to put

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Speaker 2: a time limit on my phone of like how much

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Speaker 2: I can be on social media a day. And I'm

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Speaker 2: going to give myself forty five minutes a day. WHOA,

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Speaker 2: that feels like nothing.

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Speaker 3: It is nothing.

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Speaker 4: One.

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Speaker 3: That's one session for me.

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Speaker 2: How many sessions a day do you have multiple?

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Speaker 6: I have the thing on Instagram where like at an hour,

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Speaker 6: it says like that's enough for today, Oh wow, and

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Speaker 6: I hit fifteen more or forget it for the day.

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Speaker 2: I need to get that. Is that an app?

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Speaker 6: No, it's on your phone, the Instagram app.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I had it just in my settings on my phone

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Speaker 4: and I hit ignore basically every it was like snooze.

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Speaker 4: I was snoozing my alert. Yeah, but you should get

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Speaker 4: the Brick. I've already told you about the Brick. It's

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Speaker 4: like a thing that you put on your phone and

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Speaker 4: it like locks it until it's just more.

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Speaker 3: It's more.

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Speaker 2: I want to be able to engage with my text messaging.

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Speaker 3: Yeah you can.

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Speaker 4: You can engage with your text messaging with the Brick.

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Speaker 4: You can choose what apps you want.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, yeah, so it's like your choice.

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Speaker 4: If you're going, hey, I'm noticing I'm spending a lot

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Speaker 4: of time on Instagram. I'm going to put the brick

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Speaker 4: to where I have a certain set time for that.

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Speaker 1: Got it?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Yeah, yeah, So that's a little bit about my

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Speaker 2: goals for de summer. Thank Yeah.

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Speaker 3: You can do hard things.

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Speaker 2: Thank you? Well, can we all can? Oh? Yes, Well,

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Speaker 2: I was just thinking, like Thanksgiving is next week, and

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Speaker 2: then basically before you know, it's Hanuka, it's Christmas, it's

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Speaker 2: the new year. This is the time of year where

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Speaker 2: we start like vision boarding, picking our words of the year,

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Speaker 2: like all that stuff. Maybe we do that for the

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Speaker 2: podcast in December.

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Speaker 3: Which is what we typically do.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's now the time start thinking about it

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Speaker 2: in brainstorming.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for the heads up.

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Speaker 2: No problem.

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Speaker 4: Haley has this thing where she goes, she if it's

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Speaker 4: in her calendar, she is like, I'm gonna do it.

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Speaker 4: So she'll go, you should just put that in your calendar,

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Speaker 4: and I go, that does not do anything for my

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Speaker 4: calendar's empty, because I'm like, what I'm just if it's

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Speaker 4: like She'll go, if I put a workout at a

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Speaker 4: certain time in my calendar, then I'll if it's in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, same, yeah, and I'm like I just go, h, well,

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Speaker 2: Passed, Like if I there's like, let's say the weekend

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Speaker 2: goes by, and oh, there's a couple of emails that

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Speaker 2: I want to have, like her priority to me, like,

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Speaker 2: I'll put them in my calendar for Monday morning so

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Speaker 2: that I remember to like respond to these people Monday morning,

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Speaker 2: and I'll do it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't have that nothing. I don't know. I

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Speaker 3: something's not going on in here.

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Speaker 2: Interesting, Hayley tried to get me.

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Speaker 4: I felt like a child whose parent was trying to

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Speaker 4: wrangle them yesterday because she was really trying to clear

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Speaker 4: I call it the chaos room, and she wanted to

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Speaker 4: clear it out, and I was all before yesterday. I

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Speaker 4: was like, yeah, let's do it on Sunday. And then

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Speaker 3: I have more laying to do. I just it doesn't

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Speaker 4: And she was like, Babe, we have to get this

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Speaker 3: You did it.

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Speaker 4: I did it nice, but I got distracted and I

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Speaker 4: I didn't want to do that. And I have this

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Speaker 5: Including your calendar telling you what to do.

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Speaker 3: I think there's something I think what is that though?

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Speaker 2: Is there maybe your whole life you were told what

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Speaker 2: to do and now you're like rebelling.

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Speaker 3: Breaking free. Yeah, we're breaking free.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. It was Soman fine.

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Speaker 3: In There's not a sovereign Heaven that we cambreach.

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Speaker 2: High School Musical, Ah, yes, I never watched it.

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Speaker 6: That's the only song I know from it.

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Speaker 5: I haven't seen.

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Speaker 4: I would say, y'all are missing out. I would also

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Speaker 2: I feel like I passed the mark of it, do

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like, I feel like I'm so.

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Speaker 3: Far past No, you're not. Sometimes I'll just put it

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Speaker 6: Movie, Oh We're Talking.

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Speaker 4: And Lizzie McGuire movie, which, by the way, my initial

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Speaker 3: It's fun boppy, but I'm really into.

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Speaker 2: It now so good. It's like a certified bop.

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Speaker 4: Maybe that's also something with controls. People telling me that

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Speaker 4: it's amazing, but I need to decide for myself.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you should talk.

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Speaker 2: I think there's something there.

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Speaker 5: The way Hilary Duff on it with Running Seacrest tomorrow

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Speaker 5: morning at o'clock.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for that pluck.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, do you plug the scrubbing in podcast? I have owls.

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Speaker 5: No, I'm not on any other shows.

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Speaker 2: We'll get all them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well you're you know.

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Speaker 4: I like to take responsibility in the fact that you

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Speaker 4: not not me personally, but scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: That people aren't.

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Speaker 4: Your bands are scrubbing in people, and they follow you

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Speaker 4: wherever you go, like they listen to other podcasts that

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Speaker 6: Every time I talk about Gilmore Girl's fashion on I

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Speaker 4: Yeah for that, that's right, fashion, scrubbing in collabo styles.

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Speaker 6: You want to hear talking about the fashion of Gilmore girls,

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Speaker 3: Thank you for your service. I didn't know that was

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Speaker 3: a market that was missing.

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Speaker 5: It's a market, baby, you gotta find the whole. And

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Speaker 5: you found it.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, found your Nie place kicking and screaming into that hole.

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Speaker 4: We do have some dear Bondia today real that is

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Speaker 4: for real.

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Speaker 2: Gilmore Girls Fashion podcast.

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Speaker 6: It is a Gilmore Girl's fashion podcast host hosted by me.

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Speaker 6: You know who My guest is Nobody. I'm alone. I speak,

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Speaker 6: I love I hurry so much. I love this job,

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Speaker 6: but I speak uninterrupted for fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 2: Why would you be the first to talk about Gilmore

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Speaker 6: Well, I have a fashion background. I love Gilmore Girls.

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Speaker 6: There's many of the things that are not true.

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Speaker 3: This is crazy, crazy information, really crazy.

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Speaker 4: Every Thursday morning, did you watch Gilmore Girls.

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Speaker 6: I'm watching it now.

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Speaker 3: To recap the fashion, just the fashion.

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Speaker 6: I watch the episode, I go through and I talk about.

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Speaker 2: Literally like me talking about a soprano's like cigar lines

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Speaker 2: every week or something like having a cigar podcast.

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Speaker 5: Very like that is very very good.

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna talk about this because I truly don the game.

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Speaker 6: Was listening to it so like, I don't think, but

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Speaker 6: it's so funny because I don't know anything about fashion.

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Speaker 6: I do not. I'm colorblind too. That's the other thing

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Speaker 6: I'm going through, going like, man, there's a part at

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Speaker 6: the town meeting Laura is She's wearing a brown shirt

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Speaker 6: and it looks cool.

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Speaker 5: This is it? People text you and say, it's a

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Speaker 6: Actually, you know, because of this show, I got an

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Speaker 6: of asking Al's and what color the thing is. But

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Speaker 6: I also don't know how to talk about the fashion.

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Speaker 2: I don't know fashion.

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Speaker 6: I'm not a fashion guy. But I'm doing the damn

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Speaker 5: How do I support my sister's affair but you don't?

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Speaker 6: That's right. You know. Actually, if you are watching season

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Speaker 2: They're also color blind, know what about you?

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Speaker 6: It's called color blind pal in case anyone else out

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Speaker 3: This happened on your nose. Do you want to know

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Speaker 5: Okay from anonymous Dear scrub squad Becatania Market, Eastern. That

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Speaker 5: in advance Anonymous and Day one scrubber ps. Your podcast

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Speaker 4: This is interesting because the only thing she mentions about him,

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Speaker 2: have to be a nasty split up. You can try

444
00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:58,959
Speaker 2: and make that as cordial and as good as you

445
00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:02,439
Speaker 2: possibly can, and then you can have a very happy

446
00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:05,680
Speaker 2: and loving home for that time that you do get

447
00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,000
Speaker 2: to have your baby with you, and you can also

448
00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:11,439
Speaker 2: have that love and that relationship and those experiences for

449
00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:14,800
Speaker 2: yourself too, because eventually your baby's gonna grow up. Your

450
00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:16,760
Speaker 2: baby's gonna turn eighteen. And I mean, I don't know,

451
00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,679
Speaker 2: but like probably want nothing to do with you, you know,

452
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,239
Speaker 2: like not want nothing to do with you. But their

453
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,560
Speaker 2: kids grow up, they build their own lives, they leave

454
00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:26,280
Speaker 2: the house, they leave the house, and then what you're

455
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:28,720
Speaker 2: just left with this guy that you don't like.

456
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 4: That's what I was gonna say the same thing too,

457
00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:35,720
Speaker 4: Like your child is gonna grow up and they're gonna

458
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:36,880
Speaker 4: did he say?

459
00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:37,399
Speaker 3: She hears?

460
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 2: She she said baby. So I'm just gonna the baby.

461
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:41,520
Speaker 3: Is going to grow up and become an adult.

462
00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 4: And then, like, let's say you're still in the same

463
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:47,800
Speaker 4: mindset that you're in now, and you go through eighteen

464
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:49,960
Speaker 4: years of raising this child with this man that you're

465
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:54,959
Speaker 4: just tolerating, and then the the baby leaves the house,

466
00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:58,560
Speaker 4: are you instantly gonna say, I'm gonna go live my

467
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:00,439
Speaker 4: life and find the love that I've always wanted. Are

468
00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:04,920
Speaker 4: you going to wait eighteen years, seventeen years to go

469
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:07,080
Speaker 4: after the love and find the love and that you

470
00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 4: deserve and have always wanted. Because I think if you're

471
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:12,600
Speaker 4: having a tough time and you're in a relationship where

472
00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:15,320
Speaker 4: y'all are not connecting, you don't know each other's love languages,

473
00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:19,040
Speaker 4: you don't feel seen, the baby is going to become

474
00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:21,880
Speaker 4: a perceptive child who is going to feel the lack

475
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:26,160
Speaker 4: of connection and love in the home. So I'm I'm

476
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:30,040
Speaker 4: all for keeping the family together and fighting through hard times,

477
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 4: but if it's just always hard.

478
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:34,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems fifty to fifty, which feels.

479
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 3: Like, I mean, my thing is, can you nurture a relationship? Sure?

480
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:41,800
Speaker 4: I think so, I think you can nurture I think

481
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:43,520
Speaker 4: you can go to couple therapy. I think you can

482
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:47,040
Speaker 4: find ways to connect in levels that you don't connect on,

483
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:49,879
Speaker 4: like maybe you find things that you have similar and

484
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:50,840
Speaker 4: common interest in.

485
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Speaker 3: But I also just don't think that if.

486
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Speaker 4: Your whole life, like if your whole life of raising

487
00:22:57,160 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 4: this child, is you going, should I stay?

488
00:22:59,560 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 3: Should I go?

489
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:02,200
Speaker 4: Like, you just have to make the decision. Either you're

490
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:05,120
Speaker 4: going to commit and you're going to water the relationship

491
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:09,959
Speaker 4: and nurture it, or you're gonna do what's best for

492
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 4: you and ultimately the baby right now and get out

493
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:14,520
Speaker 4: of that relationship.

494
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:18,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, what do you think, Mark, I don't know.

495
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 5: It's really difficult because you know a lot of women

496
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:26,199
Speaker 5: stay in these situations because they can't imagine, you know,

497
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:28,840
Speaker 5: say she splits up with this guy, this guy's going

498
00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 5: to find someone else. Someday suddenly that new random woman's

499
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 5: going to have a maternal relationship with her baby. Like

500
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:37,840
Speaker 5: that's one of those things that's very difficult. And I

501
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 5: get how difficult that is, But it seems to me

502
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 5: that you want to envision your life in five years.

503
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:46,399
Speaker 5: You know, I've given that advice one hundred times on

504
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,159
Speaker 5: this show, And imagine your life in five years with

505
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 5: him by your side and your baby now five six

506
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 5: years old, and without him, can you get your old

507
00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:57,240
Speaker 5: job back? Are you doing that? Are you making things happen?

508
00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 5: You're a single mom doing it? Like you know, I

509
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:01,679
Speaker 5: think that's sounds more appealing to you right now, and

510
00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:03,639
Speaker 5: so maybe you can get past that other stuff. I

511
00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 5: don't know. I'm very torn on this when I go

512
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:06,879
Speaker 5: back and forth, but I think you just got to

513
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 5: envision what your future is like with him and your

514
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 5: future without him, because you know, I'm We're an empty

515
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 5: nester fairly soon, and I'm very not excited about that

516
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:18,119
Speaker 5: because it's going to be sad to see them go.

517
00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 5: But that reconnection with my wife and that connection we

518
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:23,399
Speaker 5: had before we had kids, I really am looking forward

519
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 5: to that. I'm looking forward to just being the two

520
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 5: of us and we can do whatever we want to do.

521
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,639
Speaker 5: That's exciting. So if you don't have that excitement in

522
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:31,640
Speaker 5: your mind, then yeah, maybe it's time to head back

523
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 5: to your old where you used to live.

524
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:38,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like if being alone once the baby is gone,

525
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 4: if being alone is more daunting than exciting, like the

526
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 4: thought of, like, oh, one day we're going to get

527
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:46,399
Speaker 4: back to who we were before having a baby and

528
00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:49,879
Speaker 4: our connection. If that feels more like a horror film

529
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:56,360
Speaker 4: then a romance rom com, I would just I.

530
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 3: Would cut the cord now. Yeah, But then there's a

531
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,880
Speaker 3: they're part of me that feels like she didn't say

532
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:06,280
Speaker 3: it's all bad, right, and I feel like thirteen months

533
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:09,800
Speaker 3: those are that's probably the hardest year. Yes, I hear

534
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 3: everyone say the.

535
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,960
Speaker 4: First year having a baby is like you're adjusting to

536
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:16,720
Speaker 4: so much, and like your relationship goes through it because

537
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,879
Speaker 4: this baby has entered and that becomes their whole world.

538
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,959
Speaker 4: And I'm like, do you wait till you're out of

539
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 4: the thick of.

540
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:25,720
Speaker 3: Newborn?

541
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 5: I think the couple's counseling idea is an interesting thought

542
00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 5: because maybe there is something there that you guys can find. Yeah,

543
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:33,639
Speaker 5: and maybe you give yourself a deadline.

544
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:35,399
Speaker 2: Let's try this for right, maybe by the time the

545
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:39,240
Speaker 2: kid's three, and maybe you'd revisit the situation.

546
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:43,360
Speaker 3: And like put put like actual action items to work.

547
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:45,239
Speaker 2: It notunds like she does want to do that, But

548
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 2: it takes two to tango, so we don't know if

549
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:48,879
Speaker 2: this guy is also down for the task.

550
00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, sure, he's just right, Like he's.

551
00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 2: Just like I'm just going to live my life and

552
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:53,320
Speaker 2: do what you want to do.

553
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:53,679
Speaker 5: You know.

554
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:55,639
Speaker 4: Well, yeah, I mean if he if she brings up

555
00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:57,639
Speaker 4: the idea of going to couples counseling and he's like,

556
00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 4: I'm not doing that, then you have your answer. You

557
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 4: can't you can't force someone to want to work on things.

558
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 4: But if he's like, yeah, let's do it. I want

559
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 4: to be with you, then I think there's a way

560
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 4: of nurturing something and maybe finding something in each other

561
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 4: that that you are able to love him in the

562
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 4: way that you want to to love and be loved.

563
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 3: But I'm sorry, that's really really challenged. H keep us

564
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:23,600
Speaker 3: updated if you want.

565
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:25,199
Speaker 5: Yeah, we'd love that.

566
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:28,679
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I feel like we should take a break

567
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 3: and do We'll do a fun one, a fun one

568
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 3: when we return.

569
00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 2: We're back, Yes we are. Mark.

570
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm drunk, legitimately drunk on life.

571
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 2: Yeah.

572
00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 5: I thought we did this last one? Is that cool?

573
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:09,360
Speaker 3: Yeah?

574
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:13,159
Speaker 5: Three set this in Hi, Tanya, Mark, Beca and Easton.

575
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 5: When you were playing Becca Trilvia and you read those

576
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 5: questions from the Bachelor interviews, it had me wondering what

577
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:21,840
Speaker 5: all of your answers would be and what Becca's would

578
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 5: be today. Would love to hear everyone's answer. Sincerely, Brie,

579
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:29,840
Speaker 5: a longtime listener, former Grays and Bachelor watcher Sunshine Mind Book.

580
00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 5: A sign attendee at the Grove, enthusiastic listening to Mark's

581
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 5: advice and thankful for Easton's love of life and his

582
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,920
Speaker 5: reminders to do the random things and enjoy the moments

583
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,120
Speaker 5: we have. Wow, thanks for being part of my life

584
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:45,400
Speaker 5: all these years. We love bre Love you, Bri. All right,

585
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 5: tattoos you have you had to? Now you have fewer

586
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:50,360
Speaker 5: than two?

587
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:53,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't have any zero zero.

588
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 5: All right, Tanya zero Easton three. I also have zero,

589
00:27:58,520 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 5: So Easton, tell us about yours.

590
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 6: They're all on my lower lower hemisphere. I got one

591
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 6: on my foot. It's the face from the Indiana Jones

592
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:10,480
Speaker 6: ride at Disneyland, the big face you see that you're

593
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 6: not supposed to going to the eyes.

594
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, naturally, Mara common tattoo.

595
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 6: And then on my shin I've got a big old

596
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 6: skeleton also from that ride where that shoots the darts

597
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 6: at you. And then on my upper thigh, I've got

598
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:22,639
Speaker 6: a woman's face with spider legs coming out of it.

599
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 2: I had a dragon. No on your leg.

600
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,679
Speaker 6: No, it's got flames on it. It's it's a skeleton.

601
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:32,639
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, the woman's face is that from? What is

602
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 5: that from?

603
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:35,359
Speaker 6: You know? It was Halloween and there's a sheet of

604
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 6: the pictures and I got it was thirty one dollars

605
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 6: and I got it.

606
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 5: Wow.

607
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, it doesn't mean anything, just a impulse, tattoo impulse all.

608
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 6: You know, we went down there to get tattoos that

609
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 6: day it was gonna happen, but I didn't know when

610
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:48,239
Speaker 6: I was getting util I got down.

611
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 5: Wow. Crazy, I can't live without Becka. Originally, of course

612
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 5: said food, family, friends, Wi Fi, and Netflix. So crazy.

613
00:28:58,200 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 5: What would you put on that list? Now?

614
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 3: I mean food? I feel little passionate about that.

615
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 5: Water. Also, sure if you.

616
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:12,800
Speaker 2: Need not including people like, let's not include people Phoebe

617
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 2: or dogs?

618
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 5: Oh so no mammals allowed this question?

619
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, I'm just gonna make it kind of silly

620
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 4: and lighthearted and I'm not going to go too deep

621
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 4: since you're taking away my essentials.

622
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 3: Fine, Okay, I'm gonna.

623
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 4: Say my silk pillow case, specifically my pillow because I

624
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 4: literally have to travel with it.

625
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 3: I can't not travel with it. It's a huge, it's

626
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 3: a thing.

627
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 4: I would say perfume, yeah, just like smell and nice.

628
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 3: Unfortunately I say my phone, Yeah, I can't live without it?

629
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 3: About why would I? You know? And I would say

630
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:00,479
Speaker 3: this is really hard. I'll let you've taken away my essentials.

631
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:04,719
Speaker 4: I'm gonna say soda, m yeah, I need it, love it, caffeine,

632
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:07,560
Speaker 4: and my final.

633
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 3: Pick would be.

634
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 4: A dryer, washer and dryer because I don't like to

635
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:23,080
Speaker 4: smell of outside. You have to wash your clothes.

636
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 2: You you didn't even pick clothes, so you don't have clothes,

637
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 2: so you'd just be washing yourself close.

638
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 3: You said I had I'm not picking food, but are people?

639
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 3: But I get to have that's not an essential?

640
00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:38,840
Speaker 2: Yeah?

641
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 3: What what are my rules?

642
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:42,200
Speaker 2: Understand the question what.

643
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 5: You couldn't live without? It's very simple. Doesn't have to

644
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 5: like we don't have to pick shelter, but we couldn't

645
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:52,200
Speaker 5: live without it. Like there's certain things that are.

646
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 3: Soda. I love food.

647
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 5: I love to lay, so the couch would maybe be

648
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 5: an important thing.

649
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 3: My skincare, I don't know what is yours mine?

650
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 2: Simple, it's my orthotics.

651
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 3: Just one do you shoes?

652
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 2: Do you understand? These were the most uncomfortable shoes I'd

653
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 2: ever worn in my life. Okay, but you I put

654
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 2: my orthotics in these bad boys, and I felt like

655
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 2: I was on a cloud at the Sabrina Carpenter Show.

656
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 6: They're inserts.

657
00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 1: Yes, wow, and.

658
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 2: These ones aren't even like I can go to a

659
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 2: store where they mold them to my feet.

660
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 3: It's not as good though. I don't like them when

661
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 3: these are not.

662
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 2: These are just regular ones that I bomb. But I'm like,

663
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:36,160
Speaker 2: I can't even imagine the orgasmic heaven that would be

664
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 2: if I got ones made for my feet, Like.

665
00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 5: Are you jelling?

666
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 6: What are you jelling?

667
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 2: No, they're they're not gel No, I don't think so.

668
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:47,640
Speaker 2: I don't know, but that's really all I need. Okay,

669
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 2: so just your simple gal. Yeah, I don't need my phone.

670
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 2: I don't need a TV. I do need a washer

671
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 2: and dryer. Just my orthotics.

672
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 6: Wow wow, and some flaws.

673
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 5: I don't know. I love baseball so much. I'm going

674
00:31:58,000 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 5: baseball and TV and my.

675
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 6: On yeah phone, popcorn? Uh uh. The eminem's character is

676
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:08,680
Speaker 6: just to look at.

677
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 4: Okay, next one, I mean when you when you're when

678
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 4: your baseline is food, family friends by a Netflix that

679
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 4: can only go up.

680
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 5: Biggest Date fear. You had said having stomach issues and

681
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 5: clogging up a toilet like a dumb.

682
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 4: And dumber this Actually, I don't think I would take

683
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 4: this back.

684
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 3: I can't think of something worse.

685
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 5: I'm with you on this, maybe pooping my pants even

686
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,200
Speaker 5: with on a date night with my wife, if I

687
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 5: had crippling stomach issues and had to run to the bathroom,

688
00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:40,760
Speaker 5: like what a what a? What a mood kill.

689
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 3: And your orthotic and.

690
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 6: Before my athonic into my life, your mind was always like, uh,

691
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 6: if there's a problem by credit card or something like

692
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 6: it got locked out, or like, uh, yeah, I was

693
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 6: always afraid something like that. Even even when I knew

694
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 6: everything was fine, I still was always afraid, Like what

695
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:00,960
Speaker 6: if it comes back declined? That's my problem?

696
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 3: And you know that fear and comes from having being declined,

697
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:05,640
Speaker 3: and I relate to that.

698
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:07,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, never gonna escape that.

699
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 5: She could be any animal. What would you be? Beca

700
00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 5: picked a dolphin? They're beautiful and supposed to the twenty

701
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 5: percent of their brains brilliant.

702
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 2: It's just as me. My biggest date fear.

703
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 5: Oh, I thought you were saying the stomach things.

704
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 2: No, I said, that's happening me.

705
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 5: Okay, it's not fear anymore.

706
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:27,479
Speaker 2: I was always afraid I was going to go up

707
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,959
Speaker 2: to the wrong person because I never knew exactly what

708
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 2: the guys looked like. Yeah, I was always scared of Wow,

709
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 2: especially mister Wilsher, because the first time I met him

710
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 2: it was like in a park and I was like, oh, hell,

711
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 2: like a lot of park with a lot of people.

712
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

713
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:45,600
Speaker 2: I was like, if I don't get this right, it's

714
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:46,880
Speaker 2: gonna be so embarrassing.

715
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:48,959
Speaker 3: And you all just met through a car window.

716
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, all right, what animal would you be, Tanya?

717
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:54,960
Speaker 3: I'm glad you're alive. By the way, you had some

718
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 3: questionable to Totally.

719
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 6: I think it's on the dude to approach to come

720
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 6: up to you during the day.

721
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 2: They I was weirdly, I was always the second one there,

722
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 2: like the guys are always like seated.

723
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 6: But still he should stand up and be like hello,

724
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:09,359
Speaker 6: a tan yea.

725
00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 2: You know no, even Robbie didn't do that.

726
00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 6: Wow, it's this world coming too, And I was sure,

727
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 6: what do you look like?

728
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:18,840
Speaker 2: Either? If I could be any animal, I would be Sunny,

729
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 2: my dog. I just just to get into her head

730
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 2: and know what she's thinking about.

731
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 3: I would stick with my original answer of a dolphin.

732
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:29,359
Speaker 3: It's just the my.

733
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 4: Little things at the end, dumb and dumber, brilliant. It's like,

734
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 4: why not just answer the question. You don't need these

735
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:41,719
Speaker 4: little taglines. But I do stink with stick with dolphins

736
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:43,240
Speaker 4: the hell free.

737
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:45,640
Speaker 5: Monkeys seem like they're having a good time. Yeah, i'd

738
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 5: be a monkey. Plus, they're awfully similar to us. Yeah

739
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:49,240
Speaker 5: a monkey.

740
00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 6: I'd be a gorilla. Oh wow, very similar to my

741
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 6: body type.

742
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:56,359
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're a gorilla of them. Man, If you won

743
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:59,160
Speaker 5: the lottery, what would you do with your winnings? You know,

744
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:01,880
Speaker 5: I'll tell you I would do much. I'm very happy.

745
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 6: Yeah.

746
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,680
Speaker 5: I like my car, I like my house. We would

747
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,759
Speaker 5: expand the collegiate options for my daughter if I won

748
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 5: the lottery. But I don't see us moving into a mansion.

749
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 5: I don't see buying a maserati. I don't see any

750
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,919
Speaker 5: of that stuff. We would travel sooner and better, that's

751
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 5: what we would do. And I love my job, like

752
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 5: I need something to do. But I think we would

753
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 5: travel more and in a higher class of travel. That's good,

754
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 5: that's what we would do.

755
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would travel.

756
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:31,880
Speaker 4: I would buy a home in a couple of different

757
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 4: places sure, and then gives them away to Tanya mark Innistan.

758
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, my family, scrubbing in family.

759
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would definitely get houses for my family, Robbie's family,

760
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 2: Like make sure everybody's set up in a home, like

761
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 2: a nice home. Then I would do what mister Beast does.

762
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 6: Open a theme park inside of your always.

763
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:58,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, the money money always. Yeah.

764
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 3: My sister entered one. She goes, I have a feeling

765
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 3: I'm gonna win.

766
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 2: So there's a couple of the other there's a couple

767
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,799
Speaker 2: others of them that do it as well, but I

768
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:13,880
Speaker 2: don't I don't know their names YouTubers, but yeah, like that.

769
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 5: It would be cool.

770
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, it would be fun.

771
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, Eastern uh yeah, traveled by people's houses.

772
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 5: Blah blah, what's they really dorky stuff you would do

773
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 5: really dorky stuff. You buy cheesecake factory, franch eyes or that's.

774
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,839
Speaker 3: Hard though, you have to work hard to like maintain them.

775
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:33,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I don't dream of that, but I do

776
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 6: you know a bed that looks.

777
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,400
Speaker 4: Like a croc What about Easton Eats and it's just

778
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:41,320
Speaker 4: all your favorite foods as a restaurant.

779
00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:43,400
Speaker 6: I mean that would be fun, but also that's a

780
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 6: lot of work to do. You know what I would do?

781
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 4: The uh?

782
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:48,160
Speaker 6: In Back to the Future Part two, there's these nikes

783
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 6: that lace themselves, are called Nike Mags, and they made

784
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 6: them for real and they sell for like thirty grand.

785
00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 6: If a pair of those backs wear them around, that's

786
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,319
Speaker 6: a good purchase, actually, and they just invest the rest

787
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 6: or something like a go Greek machine.

788
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 2: Just have it on tap at your house.

789
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:03,399
Speaker 6: That'd be great.

790
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, does They don't have a most embarrassing moment to share?

791
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 5: Becca had several this quiz. Once I was getting gassed

792
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 5: and the guy asked, what kind of gas do you like?

793
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 5: And I thought he asked what kind of guys do

794
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,240
Speaker 5: you like? So I responded the tall, dark, and handsome,

795
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 5: and he stared at me and repeated the question.

796
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 3: It's so cringe and also just funny, tall, doorcing handsome.

797
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 4: That's just funny. Embarrassing moments in Helen, Yeah, you don't

798
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 4: get embarrassed, not part of your personality.

799
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 3: Do y'all have any.

800
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 5: Nothing comes to mind? Look like I tried out for

801
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 5: the high school baseball team and it went horribly wrong

802
00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 5: and I was terrible. And I also like a like

803
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,319
Speaker 5: a runny nose at the time, and I couldn't kind

804
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 5: of keep up with that, and it was just an

805
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 5: awful day. I remember that being an awful embarrassing day.

806
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 6: I also don't get embarrassed it easily. But uh, a year,

807
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:03,360
Speaker 6: many many years ago before we moved to La, I I

808
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 6: went to it. I didn't open mic at stand up.

809
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:07,719
Speaker 6: I tried sam comedy. Wow, I didn't. I didn't tell

810
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:09,279
Speaker 6: anyone about I just did it, went by myself. And

811
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 6: let me tell you, guys, I absolutely destroyed. I killed

812
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:15,239
Speaker 6: and I was like, oh, this is it. I'm doing

813
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,440
Speaker 6: this now, this is it. So I did. I came

814
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 6: back like a month later. I told my friends, and

815
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:23,760
Speaker 6: oh my god, how poorly I did that second time?

816
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:27,799
Speaker 6: So bad? Nobody laughed. It was terrible. I was like

817
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,400
Speaker 6: fumbling around and I was so embarrassed. But that's every

818
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 6: stand up comic story it is. And I realized at

819
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:35,520
Speaker 6: that point I was not built for that. So interesting,

820
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 6: so I never did it.

821
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 5: Every other standup comedy realizes that they can endure that embarrassment,

822
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 5: yeah and get back up.

823
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 3: You were.

824
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:44,279
Speaker 6: That's it for me, that's it for you know. I'm like,

825
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:45,960
Speaker 6: there's gonna be more of these down the line. And

826
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 6: I don't think I'm I don't think I'm built for this.

827
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 3: You trigger something in me.

828
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 4: For my most embarrassing it was when Amy had me

829
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 4: fill in for k t LA the entertainment portion as

830
00:38:58,040 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 4: like I filled him for Sam Rubin.

831
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 6: Wow.

832
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 3: And I had no hosting a bit.

833
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:06,920
Speaker 4: I had no experience reading a prompter, and it was

834
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:12,319
Speaker 4: so painfully bad. I was like, I will never When

835
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 4: people are like, would you want to host TV? She's like,

836
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:16,959
Speaker 4: you should host, you should host, I'm like never, Wow,

837
00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:18,200
Speaker 4: shut me down.

838
00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 2: I remember that was as bad as she's making it's

839
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 2: pretty bad, but it wasn't that.

840
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 5: That was bad.

841
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 4: I interviewed Alie Simpson, Cody Simpson's sister. Yeah, she was

842
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:33,240
Speaker 4: promoting something, but she was really sweet.

843
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 2: But it wasn't as bad as you think. But I

844
00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 2: could see the panic in her.

845
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, like you could tell it was very uncomfortable.

846
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 6: Yeah, would you do it now?

847
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:44,359
Speaker 3: And I'm looking it up Mark, we're trying.

848
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,520
Speaker 6: No, you have so much more experience as a host now,

849
00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 6: and you're so good.

850
00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:56,439
Speaker 4: Well, you could host a comedy special and I also

851
00:39:56,560 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 4: have experience, and you could host a fashion show panel.

852
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 5: You could, by the way, you're a color blind fashion commentator.

853
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 5: You can do anything.

854
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 3: Literally, people believe in you.

855
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 5: And finally, what is your greatest We get everybody on

856
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:19,280
Speaker 5: that one. What is your greatest achievement to date? Becca

857
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:21,879
Speaker 5: said at this date, staying at home, staying and living

858
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 5: alone in California, when my sister and brother in law

859
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 5: went back to Louisiana.

860
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 3: I would say buying a house in California. I feel

861
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 3: very a.

862
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 5: Major accomplishment, very achieved.

863
00:40:33,080 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 3: We're doing that.

864
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:36,360
Speaker 5: We've asked this before and I've always said I and

865
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,759
Speaker 5: I continue to say, my marriage of twenty three years,

866
00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 5: thank you, thank you, and my daughters.

867
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 2: Yes, I think Mine's my book.

868
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 5: That's a good one.

869
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:54,160
Speaker 2: Really hard to do, and it was, Yeah, it was hard,

870
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:56,399
Speaker 2: challenging in many ways.

871
00:40:57,239 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 6: I have the Sunshine. Mine is on my bookcase in

872
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 6: my office at home, and sometimes I hold like I

873
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 6: pick it up and hold it in my hand and

874
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 6: I think about that, like you can pick up this

875
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 6: thing that Tanya creating and hold it in your hand,

876
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:10,600
Speaker 6: and it's like, that's just such an incredible thing.

877
00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 2: It was so much time and effort, like more than

878
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 2: I put into I feel like anything.

879
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, and it comes through in the work.

880
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:19,920
Speaker 2: Thank you. So much.

881
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 6: Uh, you know, I think sometimes I think about my marriage,

882
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 6: but that's not a really an achievement. That's like I

883
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 6: tricked somebody into it. But yeah, I guess I'll buy

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Speaker 6: a house in California that I was pretty I'm proud

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Speaker 6: of that.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, in a classic house.

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Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, a a historic home, one hundred year old

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Speaker 6: house that we've painsectly restored.

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Speaker 3: Well, that was a really fun prompt.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I hate revisiting that interview that I did,

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Speaker 4: but I'm grateful for redo.

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Speaker 5: Thank you, Thank you, Bri.

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Speaker 4: And if you ever want to submit dear Bonia questions, comments, concerns, games,

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Speaker 4: et cetera, please dms on Instagram at scrubbing in pot

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Speaker 4: or email tell us at scrubbing In at iHeartMedia dot com.

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Speaker 3: Everyone's going to go home and lay and we hope

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Speaker 3: you have a wonderful weekend. And we love you so much.

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Speaker 4: You love you.

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Speaker 2: Bye bye