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Speaker 1: Hey there, folks. In this episode, we're gonna start off

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Speaker 1: with a couple of questions to Miss Amy roboch yes

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Speaker 1: or no. Christmas Day marriage proposal, Are you okay with it?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: Question two? And give me a number how many months

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Speaker 1: of dating before you give a Christmas gift?

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Speaker 3: I think just a number four months?

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Speaker 1: Question three? And I need a yes or no? Do

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Speaker 1: you still get Christmas gifts from your parents?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 1: And that's just a few of the things we are

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Speaker 1: pondering in this Christmas episode. If you will of Amy

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Speaker 1: and TJ look the proposal thing. It makes sense. But

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Speaker 1: we are in proposal season November to February, and it

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Speaker 1: makes sense why we are in the thick of it.

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Speaker 3: Yes, this is what do they call it cuffing season?

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Speaker 2: Right? People want to get cuffed together because it's cold.

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Speaker 2: You want someone to keep not just your heart warm,

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Speaker 2: but your body warmed.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if that's really true, but yes, I

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Speaker 3: think you asked.

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Speaker 2: Me before we started the podcast. You asked, actually the room,

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Speaker 2: what we thought the biggest day of the year was

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Speaker 2: to get proposed to? And your response, I thought it

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Speaker 2: was New Year's Eve or New Year's Day?

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Speaker 1: Well, were there's again Andy, they said, Hey said Valentine's

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Speaker 1: Day on Time's day, which makes sense.

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Speaker 2: No one said Christmas that is the day, but that

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Speaker 2: is the number one day for proposals.

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Speaker 1: Some of the surveys out there will have different two, three,

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Speaker 1: and four on the list, but they pretty much all

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Speaker 1: have Christmas Day as number one, And some actual surveys

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Speaker 1: have been done out there, and that is the number

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Speaker 1: one Christmas Day. Once I think about it, I guess

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Speaker 1: some of it makes sense. It wouldn't make sense for

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Speaker 1: me necessarily, but I can see why. The family is

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Speaker 1: already together, everybody's already around. You can share it with them,

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Speaker 1: right some Oftentimes if guy's proposing, he would have gotten

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Speaker 1: the okay from the parents ahead of time. So I

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Speaker 1: guess they make it a family event.

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Speaker 2: And also you don't have to buy another gift, like

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Speaker 2: all your money could just go to the ring.

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Speaker 3: It's like you're killing two birds with one stone.

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Speaker 1: Why is a stone? I am the one that's in this,

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Speaker 1: Like I was being heartfelt in my response about what

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Speaker 1: it was, and you're taking some what is this approba?

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Speaker 2: I'm just saying it's financially it makes sense too, because

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Speaker 2: you already have to buy a gift, so why not

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Speaker 2: just go ahead and get the diamond ring?

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Speaker 1: But are you in favor of proposal? Your special days

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Speaker 1: now has to be shared with something else, So I've

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Speaker 1: like proposing to someone on their birthday kind of a thing.

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Speaker 3: So I'm not a fan of that. I don't.

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Speaker 2: I actually don't like sharing holidays with special events. I

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Speaker 2: like to have special events be their own special event.

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Speaker 2: That's me, And I also think it's so interesting. I've

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Speaker 2: noticed a lot of the younger folks and some of

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Speaker 2: the friends I've seen who.

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Speaker 3: The proposal is absolutely.

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Speaker 2: A family affair, and I actually think that's pretty cool

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Speaker 2: because that's not how I'd ever seen it happen or done.

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Speaker 3: But it's funny.

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Speaker 2: I have a lot of Italian friends and the families

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Speaker 2: The woman gets proposed to, and then all of a sudden,

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Speaker 2: the family.

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Speaker 1: Goes, oh, I thought the thing you do it in

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Speaker 1: front of it. You don't do it in front of

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Speaker 2: What I've seen happen is there's like a private moment,

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Speaker 2: and then the family has all gathered unbeknownst to the woman,

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Speaker 2: and then they're all there ready to celebrate, and a

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Speaker 2: big party has already been planned. I guess they're assuming

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Speaker 2: the woman's going to say yes, because it'd be a

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Speaker 3: She said no.

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Speaker 2: And then I just see all the you know, the

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Speaker 2: social media posts afterwards, and I thought, you know, that's

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Speaker 1: We're not telling Christmas Day, you we're not talking Christmas, but.

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Speaker 2: It would make sense if they did do it Christmas

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Speaker 2: Day because that the whole point is to have everybody there.

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Speaker 2: So maybe there's a private moment and then the parties

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Speaker 1: This is the idea. My proposal was on Christmas Day.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I guess there's some sweet now. I guess

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Speaker 1: that's cool. But would anyone else get offended that you're

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Speaker 1: hijacking the holiday?

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Speaker 2: Maybe if I don't know, if someone else had I

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Speaker 2: always think it's bad when you see people who propose

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Speaker 2: to someone, like at someone else's wedding.

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Speaker 3: Have you seen that happen? When I thought that.

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Speaker 1: Was only in movies, nobody actually does.

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Speaker 3: Maybe it's just the movie.

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Speaker 1: You see what rom com were you watching that that happened.

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Speaker 3: Name one I've probably I've seen ten times.

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Speaker 1: There is nobody on planet Earth who would dare propose

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Speaker 1: at somebody else's wedding.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I've heard that it's happened.

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Speaker 1: It has.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so Andy's saying it has. That's to me, that's

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Speaker 3: the only real Please don't do that. Don't in someone

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Speaker 3: else's day.

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Speaker 2: Whether it's a whatever you get the baby shower or

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Speaker 2: a baby propose to someone because the family's all there

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Speaker 2: for someone else's thing, and you decide to hijack the moment.

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Speaker 3: That's hijacking the moment.

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Speaker 1: It's hilarious to me this day.

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Speaker 3: I think it's great.

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Speaker 2: It wouldn't be what I would want, but I think

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Speaker 2: that I can see why it makes sense.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this makes sense to you Andy as well? Is

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Speaker 1: this what we're explaining here? What I am? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I would be hesitant to do it. It sounds like

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Speaker 1: it's too much in one day, A proposal at a

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Speaker 1: wedding Christmas Day?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, don't hijack my holiday. Yeah, okay, I would.

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Speaker 4: I would actually be like, okay, so now it's about you,

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Speaker 4: not like not anybody else.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I could see there being some resentment.

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Speaker 1: Okay, but like you said, look different.

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Speaker 3: It's Jesus's day, people, thank you now the other thing.

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Speaker 1: And he actually brought some of these things to our attention.

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Speaker 1: But there were some other questions attached to just whether

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Speaker 1: or not there is a proposal. Let's say there is one, Andy,

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Speaker 1: what else do we need to be worried about that day?

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Speaker 4: If one side of the family is there for a proposals,

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Speaker 4: should both sides be?

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Speaker 2: I think at least the bride's family should definitely be

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Speaker 2: there if I not the girl, Okay, you know, I mean, look,

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Speaker 2: I think the groom's family should and could be there too.

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Speaker 2: But I think the bride's family would probably feel a

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Speaker 2: little offended if the groom's family was there and there.

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Speaker 1: Why would they be so offended?

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Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe that's that's old fashioned of me

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Speaker 3: to think that, But.

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Speaker 1: You're right, I supposed to be the bride's day. It's

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Speaker 1: about her and it's yet.

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Speaker 2: I remember I told you I always learned no one

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Speaker 2: should ever congratulate the bride after a proposal or the wedding.

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Speaker 2: You should congratulate the groom because he's lucky to have

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Speaker 2: her but.

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Speaker 3: Again that is maybe old fashioned, but that's how I was.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I always heard that.

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Speaker 1: Lucky me. I say it every day.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god. Yeah, I set you right up for that.

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Speaker 1: That's too easy. And no, there will not be obviously

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Speaker 1: anybody's wondering there won't be a Christmas Day proposal. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you know, really we hear from em on that.

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Speaker 2: You know. Also, something I see in rom comms when

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Speaker 2: the girl thinks she's getting proposed to, whether it's a

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Speaker 2: Christmas gift or some or a special evening, and he

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Speaker 2: hands over that little box and then she opens it

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Speaker 2: in its earrings or it's or it's a necklace.

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Speaker 1: You know. It's funnier is when it happens on reality

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Speaker 1: shows that we've been watching, where the guy has here's

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Speaker 1: a ring, it's just a promise ring. Let me explain

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Speaker 1: what we've done. We just saw this happen at the

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Speaker 1: dinner with the Darcy lady and handed her the box.

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Speaker 2: She thinks she's getting the engagement ring, and it is

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Speaker 2: a ring and there is a diamond.

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Speaker 3: But wait, hold up.

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Speaker 1: The dinner with the English fella. Oh yeah, the key

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Speaker 4: Darcy and Stacy.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it was Darcy and Tom he's the British guy,

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Speaker 2: and he gave her but.

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Speaker 3: In a box that looked like it was a ring.

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Speaker 3: I think that's mean. I think he knew exactly what

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Speaker 5: Don't.

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Speaker 2: Don't give a girl who thinks she might get proposed

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Speaker 2: to a box that looks like a diamond ring could

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Speaker 2: be in it. Don't if you get the earrings of

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Speaker 2: the necklace, put it in a very different box, velvet small,

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Speaker 2: because every woman is going to think, at least if

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Speaker 2: you're at that place in your relationship, that it might

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Speaker 2: be or could be a diamond ring.

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Speaker 1: And it's a huge less and whatever is in that

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Speaker 3: It's not going to be what she thought it was.

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Speaker 2: Expectation are the thief of joy in so many circumstances,

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Speaker 2: and specifically in this one.

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Speaker 1: You let it rob you all the time. But here

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Speaker 1: you are telling everybody to do as I say.

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Speaker 3: Do you need to work something out right now?

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Speaker 1: Off?

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Speaker 1: What was and no? What were your proposals around? What time? Days?

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Speaker 3: You mean how many days I had?

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Speaker 2: No? No?

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Speaker 1: No, like on a day like were they a particular

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Speaker 1: random days? Right? Okay?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yes, random days that had zero significance. How

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Speaker 3: about you? Did you choose significant.

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Speaker 1: Days random and insignificant? I think his way to describe

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Speaker 2: And I will say, if the marriage doesn't work out,

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Speaker 2: if you put it, it doesn't matter as much. If

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Speaker 2: you have some big proposal on a big holiday, you're

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Speaker 2: always it's always going to take a little something away

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Speaker 2: from that holiday if it doesn't work out, just something

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Speaker 3: Being realistic and having lived enough life, you.

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Speaker 1: Thought, how many months before you give exchange gifts? That's

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Speaker 1: a really, really big one and a lot of folks

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Speaker 1: are going to be dealing with this right now. So

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Speaker 1: how I guess it's months? I mean, can it be

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Speaker 1: shorter than that? Can it be weeks? Can it be

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Speaker 1: when do you give a gift to somebody you're dating

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Speaker 1: at Christmas time?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 3: I do. I've struggled with this. I think a lot

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Speaker 3: of people do. I think it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you could put a time. You asked me to

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Speaker 2: pick a month, I said four months. That was just

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Speaker 2: kind of random. But I do think it's more about

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Speaker 2: the intensity of the relationship. If you have already decided

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Speaker 2: to be boyfriend and girlfriend, if you've.

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Speaker 3: Already decided to be exclusive.

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Speaker 2: I think it's a noe like, of course you're going

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Speaker 3: It means you're dating other people too.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it could be one, it could be nigh, but

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Speaker 3: It gets a little complicated.

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Speaker 1: So why you don't read into it? If you've been

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Speaker 3: Well then you know exactly where you stand, which is

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Speaker 1: But why wouldn't you know where you stood on December

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Speaker 3: Because women are constantly trying to guess and see where

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Speaker 2: They all want to know what the outcome is going

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Speaker 1: This is where I quit Andy, because the defense is

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Speaker 1: I'm a woman. The defense is Andy shiking is into

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Speaker 1: And that's what you did that entire time. That means

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Speaker 4: But if it's a situationship, why would you get a

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Speaker 1: don't know, Codell baby wipe. So we can keep whatever

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Speaker 3: It's not a game.

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Speaker 2: We're trying to understand and know and we're reading into things.

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Speaker 3: It's not a game.

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Speaker 1: We see game.

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Speaker 3: No, we want to know. We're trying to get information

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Speaker 1: I'm giving it to you by showing you I care

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Speaker 4: That is.

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Speaker 5: Whatever I agree we're always trying to figure out what

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Speaker 1: Oh, thank you. You were applauding that answer.

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Speaker 3: It was hilarious to me because that's how I feel.

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Speaker 4: Do you feel bad when someone gives you a gift

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Speaker 1: Yes, you do.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I've had it happen and I feel immediately guilt.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, and then you can't go Oh yours is

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Speaker 1: Can you get them something?

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Speaker 3: Because I didn't think that we were at that place.

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Speaker 1: You're talking about a dating situation.

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Speaker 3: Well, no, even at the office or friends.

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Speaker 1: But what you would get a gift on it? Like

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, yeah, Christmas gift, holiday gift. Have you ever

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Speaker 1: Probably, but it did I don't know if it stood

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Speaker 1: Because what I'm saying is, it's okay, I don't feel bad.

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Speaker 4: Would you be weirded out if you were only dating

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Speaker 1: I thought you just made the argument that you shouldn't

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Speaker 2: That means we're together.

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Speaker 1: You're still Wait a minute, you could be dating. You're

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But I say, when I'm dating someone, that means

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Speaker 1: That's not how you can't Oh my god, I'm gonna

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Speaker 5: I hear what you're saying, because dating means your boyfriend

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Speaker 3: Are boyfriend girlfriend yes, aka official.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you and I are dating.

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Speaker 3: We're more than dating.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, that was quick. Huh. That is what I

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we're not dating, Okay, I think so. I

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Speaker 2: if we're seeing each other, that means I'm seeing other people.

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Speaker 3: We're just seeing each other. Okay.

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Speaker 2: If we're dating each other, we've decided to be exclusive.

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Speaker 2: But if you're my partner, which you're my partner because

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Speaker 3: You could be living together.

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Speaker 1: But we put okay, but there are levels of what.

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Speaker 2: I think it means they're exclusive, they're a couple. If

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Speaker 2: they're dating, yes, but if they're seeing each other, that

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Speaker 2: means they're seeing other people too.

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Speaker 1: You're okay, you're getting into some weird semantic says. It's

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Speaker 1: this is like tomato to bullshit. All right, you know

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Speaker 1: it's okay, bro. That was I did not know it

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Speaker 1: was going to go there. There's supposed to be a

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Speaker 1: happy little Christmas episode.

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Speaker 3: I'm laughing. I feel like there's a lot of joy

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Speaker 3: in this room.

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Speaker 1: Well we're laughing, but that really belies the fire inside

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Speaker 1: of me right now. That is just some of these

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Speaker 1: it's all in my head. It's all in my head. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: your parents still give you Christmas gifts? I do believe, right,

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Speaker 1: they do.

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Speaker 2: But it's not It's not like when I was younger.

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Speaker 2: I think I would say once I got married, they

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Speaker 2: I think that was kind of it. They give me,

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Speaker 2: you know right now, honestly, they give me. They give

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Speaker 2: me checks. I mean that is what they do. They

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Speaker 2: are at a certain age. They are trying to make

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Speaker 2: sure that they My mom wants to die with zero

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Speaker 2: dollars in her bank account, and so that's what they

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Speaker 2: do now. And then they give me one small thing

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Speaker 2: that she usually asks me to tell her what I want.

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Speaker 3: So it's it's different. It's not like when I was

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Speaker 3: a kid.

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Speaker 1: Everybody's looking up Joni. Right now she's giving money away.

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Speaker 2: No, but I you know, and I'm very lucky to

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Speaker 2: have that experience. But that's been in recent years. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but yeah, it's not the same as when you're a kid.

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Speaker 2: I think it changes when you get For me, it

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Speaker 2: changed when I got married. But I got married at

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Speaker 2: twenty three.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, I think I've always my mom was always

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Speaker 1: on this in some way, form or fashion. And I

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Speaker 1: think I usually get gifts. I'm not sure what they are.

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Speaker 3: Card, don't you.

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Speaker 2: Do?

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Speaker 1: I I don't know. I thought in recent years, but

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Speaker 1: she has sent a lot of actual physical gifts over

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Speaker 1: the years. It's cool.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you I mean? I would how what

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Speaker 2: do you think the age should be? Is there a

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Speaker 2: limit at which your parents would stop giving you like

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Speaker 2: the gifts they give you? And was like, no, I

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Speaker 2: want gifts forever.

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Speaker 4: I think like you reach a certain age like where

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Speaker 4: maybe you don't get like big gifts, but like a

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Speaker 4: little thing like and I'm thinking of you thing depending

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Speaker 4: on your relationship circle.

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Speaker 1: I guess with them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I give my parents gifts.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Do you give your parents gifts at Christmas?

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Speaker 1: They? I don't know when the last gift they got

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Speaker 1: for me was Wow, I'm a boy. I'm terrible at

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Speaker 1: that stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what my brother does, that's funny. I'm

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Speaker 2: not sure. Maybe his wife does. I don't think he

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Speaker 2: would actually actively go and send them gifts. And I

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Speaker 2: think my mom was always giving my dad's parents gifts,

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Speaker 2: like she would be in.

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Speaker 3: Charge basically of it. Otherwise my dad would not have

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Speaker 3: given gifts to his parents. Don't give your parents gifts.

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Speaker 1: I'm bad at this. Yeah, uh, I mean I always

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Speaker 1: call them the gift. I mean what love, attention, time, understanding,

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Speaker 1: an ear an ear. They're in the seventies, groves, give

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Speaker 1: them a break. Sometimes they just like to hear from

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Speaker 1: their signs.

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Speaker 3: They might like some lovely ug slippers.

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Speaker 1: Too, though, ugg slippers from up. You've met my parents, right, Yes?

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Speaker 1: What about them? Says ug slippers? Next? I do?

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Do you remember the last you said? Money? I think

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Speaker 1: my mom does do that.

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Speaker 3: She gives you gift cards and money.

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Speaker 1: I think she's given me. No, you know, she gives

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Speaker 1: me cash on my birthday.

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Speaker 3: That's sweet. Did she put it in the card?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Oh my grandparents used to do that, like a five

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Speaker 2: dollar bill, a twenty dollars bill.

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Speaker 3: I think it was just a five dollar bill. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's very sweet.

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Speaker 4: Are you a gift card or cash person? Because I

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Speaker 4: know it just personally. When I get a gift card,

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Speaker 4: I'm like, I am never going to use this.

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Speaker 3: Uh wow, really, I just.

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Speaker 4: In my head, I'm like, it doesn't seem tangible. You

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Speaker 4: can't use it anywhere, you can't load it anywhere. So

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Speaker 4: it's like, where am I going to use this exact

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Speaker 4: fifty dollars on?

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Speaker 2: Oh you're seeing like a Visa gift card. I agree

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Speaker 2: those are but if you got like Amazon gift card

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Speaker 2: or a Starbucks gift card, you would know exactly you know,

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Speaker 2: you wouldn't use that.

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Speaker 4: No, because then when you have leftover change on it,

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Speaker 4: I'm like, this is annoying to me. Now I can't

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Speaker 4: do anything with this.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I'll tell you what. You can bring us your

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Speaker 1: gift cards. You're gonna be like that, just bring us

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Speaker 1: because we'll use them.

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Speaker 3: So I have. I do.

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Speaker 2: I do write a check, but that's so archaic. I

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Speaker 2: think I do usually do cash. Actually this sounds so transactional.

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Speaker 2: But I have venmode before, like just with the kids,

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Speaker 2: because it's what they prefer.

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Speaker 3: But that sounds wow.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I not my kids, but other like like my nephews.

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Speaker 3: I have absolutely just venmode. Does that all?

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Speaker 1: No? Not at all? Okay, that's something from you. No,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't matter if it was cold and impersonal, it's

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Speaker 1: still it was more than most would have done. Exactly.

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Speaker 1: She's right.

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Speaker 3: I usually send a friendly text or email along with

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Speaker 3: the venmo.

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Speaker 1: God, it's all right. Well, we had sought out, we

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Speaker 1: had we did. We had sought out to have this

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Speaker 1: be something that was more informative and to pass along

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Speaker 1: some advice on what you could do about some of

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Speaker 1: these things of the holidays. It just went down the

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Speaker 1: road we didn't expect.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think that's what makes podcasting fun. You never

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Speaker 2: know where we're going to end up.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, folks, you can catch us here. But

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Speaker 1: also if you haven't been doing so, by all means,

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Speaker 1: go for a morning run with us. Yeah. It's our

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Speaker 1: daily news podcast, the Morning Run. We do it every

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Speaker 1: single morning, so you can check us out there if

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Speaker 1: you haven't been running with us. I certainly hope you

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Speaker 1: will start to do so. You know, also know where

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Speaker 1: to find us on Instagram, the official page at Amy

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Speaker 1: and TJ Podcast. But for now, I'm TJ.

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Speaker 3: Homes and I'm Amy Roebock. Hay, Happy Gifting everyone. I

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Speaker 3: know I screwed that. I can't even end it right.

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Speaker 1: You hear all that stuff I had to say, and

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Speaker 1: I made it through fairly well and hafty gifting.

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Speaker 2: Happy Gifting everyone, and the holidays.