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Speaker 1: I don't know if that shit is real. Bro. No,
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Speaker 2: Well, we just said fucking damn it and mow all again.
Speaker 2: But I guess solo episode, no guest this week. So
Speaker 2: we'll start with a quick catch up. And I actually
Speaker 2: in therapy thought that, well, it came to an awareness
Speaker 2: that I actually wanted to address here on this podcast
Speaker 2: because where I'm trying to figure out, like the lessons
Speaker 2: learned in this breakup one that drove to me was
Speaker 2: the amount of empathy now and realization that I have
Speaker 2: for women who maybe I judged, like through our home
Speaker 2: mails or listening you know, or for me or you
Speaker 2: or like well to me, it's more so the women
Speaker 2: that keep going back that's more so the empathy or
Speaker 2: really coming over a heartbreak in me, like not realizing
Speaker 2: why they can't jump back. I think celibacy has also
Speaker 2: been one of those journeys that women go on that
Speaker 2: I don't understand. So I've shown up on this pod
Speaker 2: lacking empathy because I genuinely didn't understand it because I
Speaker 2: had never experienced it, and so really looking at it
Speaker 2: as a lesson being learned from this relationship I think
Speaker 2: has been one that I didn't acknowledge or even didn't
Speaker 2: realize I had until you know, I was in therapy
Speaker 2: going through the things that I'm learning. In hindsight, I
Speaker 2: think more about my value, my worth, trying to get
Speaker 2: back to trusting myself, but really more the understanding and
Speaker 2: empathy of other women that I may have judged in
Speaker 2: the past, or bitch, why can't you leave? How you
Speaker 2: keep going back? It's so dumb? Why you can't fuck
Speaker 2: your way through healing celibacy, So you don't want no
Speaker 2: dick because this nigga did what And I was really
Speaker 2: judging in how I think I responded to I mean,
Speaker 2: even to be clear, like one of my best friends, Carla,
Speaker 2: my mom, like my mom in her breakup, has been
Speaker 2: sullivanting now for three years because of the damage that
Speaker 2: that last relationship caused. And I was really unaware and
Speaker 2: misunderstood in how a woman could go through those emotions,
Speaker 2: and now going through it, I'm like, wow, damn, women
Speaker 2: go through a lot. And so I just wanted to
Speaker 2: apologize to everyone that I may have been like, bit,
Speaker 2: you dumb, bit, you delusional, bitch, you weak, because it's
Speaker 2: it's a lot to really go through a heartbreak, and
Speaker 2: so I think that that's one of the things that
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh wow, sorry, I never actually thought.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I think I've never there's been things
Speaker 1: that maybe would annoy me, but I never believed it,
Speaker 1: like I think, I mean, like I never believed that
Speaker 1: you really thought that like I did. I thought was
Speaker 1: the lod. I just didn't I believe that you have
Speaker 1: such a hard exterior that like sometimes like you won't listen.
Speaker 1: So like when we listen to stories about, you know,
Speaker 1: people being in pain and shit like that, like I
Speaker 1: think sometimes you can just only see through your own lens. Well,
Speaker 1: well that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: And my own lens, unfortunately did not have the experience
Speaker 2: of a real relationship.
Speaker 1: Or there was an episode where you told me, maybe
Speaker 1: even during the pandemic, that you're an EmPATH, and I
Speaker 1: remember thinking, like, no, she's not.
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean for the people that I love, I am.
Speaker 2: But and again, when I have the experience of feeling
Speaker 2: something so understanding now, someone going through the loss of
Speaker 2: a grandparent, I have that now because now I understand
Speaker 2: what that feels like, or someone having someone close to
Speaker 2: them battle cancer. I just went through that with my
Speaker 2: best friend. I only can really realistically as a human being.
Speaker 2: I can only see things through the lens of my
Speaker 2: own experience a lot of times. And so even though
Speaker 2: I listen to things, I never understood how someone could
Speaker 2: go back to someone who was abusive. Now though I
Speaker 2: didn't experience physical abuse, the emotional abuse one percent was there.
Speaker 2: The manipulation was there. I saw the lies, I knew
Speaker 2: the things he was doing, and I chose to ignore
Speaker 2: it for whatever reason. And so now having experienced that,
Speaker 2: now I can have empathy for the people that have
Speaker 2: gone through that before. No, it didn't make sense to me.
Speaker 2: How to fuck you can't leave somebody that's abusing you.
Speaker 2: How are you with some that you have to question
Speaker 2: that they love you? How can you say some or
Speaker 2: why do you keep going back and repeating the same cycle.
Speaker 2: That didn't make sense to me because I hadn't done
Speaker 2: it before, And now that I have, there's just a
Speaker 2: little bit more of understanding to what can be created
Speaker 2: from these really strong emotional connections in a romantic relationship.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think the thing that too, is like
Speaker 1: when people embarrass you that you're dating, you almost have
Speaker 1: no choice but to show your hand because it feels
Speaker 1: like when I had been embarrassed in the past, I
Speaker 1: was like, like that was the number one thing. Like
Speaker 1: I remember thinking, was I'm never going to get on
Speaker 1: here and tell my business will all baby, because I
Speaker 1: have to be done because I know what it's like
Speaker 1: to look dumb. I know what it's like to be
Speaker 1: embarrassed in front of his friends or those women that
Speaker 1: he's sleeping with. Like I can't imagine when you're piping
Speaker 1: somebody up to an audience and then you're like, never mind,
Speaker 1: he aint shit like that.
Speaker 2: Shit, it's tough, I mean to me, to me a
Speaker 2: long time. But when we felt when things were good,
Speaker 2: it felt so good. And I'm also one of those.
Speaker 1: That know, I mean, it shows that you really didn't
Speaker 1: know you'd go back.
Speaker 2: Well, no, I mean I didn't you thought you would
Speaker 2: go back after you were like the break up. The
Speaker 2: breakups weren't on my behalf.
Speaker 1: He was breaking up with me.
Speaker 2: So when I was coming here, I was mad as
Speaker 2: fuck that I was broken up with somebody that I
Speaker 2: still wanted to be with. And so I think he
Speaker 2: knew that.
Speaker 1: You really came on this podcast being like he broke
Speaker 1: and knew you would go back. The dick was great.
Speaker 1: He was beautiful.
Speaker 2: And when I would even when I would even that,
Speaker 2: even when I would entertain other niggas, I would kind
Speaker 2: of miss him a little bit.
Speaker 1: See, I'm not about to like I would miss him.
Speaker 1: Oh no, but I'm gonna talk my shirt. No. But
Speaker 1: you get very like I never couldn't.
Speaker 2: I'm a hypocrite, And yes I would hypocrite.
Speaker 1: Oh bitch. I Like there was a y'all see me
Speaker 1: come on here, and maybe a one out of ten.
Speaker 2: There was a part of me, I mean, but you've
Speaker 2: gone back to like, uh, lover boy, you've gone back
Speaker 2: to fucking him, You've gone back to hospital bay before.
Speaker 1: There's yeah, But I never was like fuck this nigga,
Speaker 1: Like obay, were you saying fuck this nigga? I was
Speaker 1: really like, oh, she does people again.
Speaker 2: I think it was a I have a very strong
Speaker 2: emotional connection to this person, and a lot of the
Speaker 2: times our breakups were to me unwarranted. But I also
Speaker 2: realized in looking up like signs of narcissism and stuff
Speaker 2: like that, like we were breaking up because I was
Speaker 2: trying to hold him accountable, or I was questioning him
Speaker 2: about things that he didn't want to give me an
Speaker 2: answer for, or there was his insecurity was projecting because
Speaker 2: a really big moment was happening for me, whether it
Speaker 2: be a show, whether whether it be something that I
Speaker 2: was really proud about or about to celebrate, a breakup
Speaker 2: would happen in that moment to where he would try
Speaker 2: to weaken me or bring me down. So I started
Speaker 2: picking up the patterns now looking into that, it's just like,
Speaker 2: oh wow, did this nigga even really ever love me.
Speaker 1: It's crazy how the universe and maybe it's karma. Maybe
Speaker 1: it's the universe needing to show usself like I feel.
Speaker 2: I haven't got karma, even the bitch, like from what
Speaker 2: I've said on this podcast.
Speaker 1: No I know, I'm saying, like.
Speaker 2: The bartender who sat in front of me and was like, well,
Speaker 2: I knew about all of his lovers, so I think
Speaker 2: maybe he loved me more. I used to come on
Speaker 2: here and say as a side chick that I felt
Speaker 2: like my relationship to the married men meant a little
Speaker 2: bit more because they were being honest with me and line.
Speaker 1: But that's what I mean. I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: karma or us needing to learn humility, Like I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's directly related to something bad you did
Speaker 1: to someone, or if it's like the universe has to
Speaker 1: teach you this lesson.
Speaker 2: The universe my homegirl, that bitch be showing up for me.
Speaker 1: So that's why I'm like, this is this is showing
Speaker 1: up the way.
Speaker 2: To get the lesson. But I don't think it's karma.
Speaker 2: I think that I got in a relationship during a pandemic.
Speaker 2: This was my first relationship I'm dating now that you.
Speaker 1: Don't think it's karmen.
Speaker 2: No, I don't think it's karmack at all.
Speaker 1: No, I know it was a girl.
Speaker 2: I'm saying that the conversation with old girl was a
Speaker 2: little to me karmick in my thought process with these
Speaker 2: married men and how I'm showing up as a side chick.
Speaker 2: And I was like, because now I'm viewing it a
Speaker 2: little different, like, bitch, that nigga didn't love you more
Speaker 2: because he was honest to you.
Speaker 1: Did you have a moment where because you said you
Speaker 1: don't think it was karmak, So for you, it's like, well,
Speaker 1: you didn't do something to those women. You were just
Speaker 1: sleeping with that dude, the married dude.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean to me, all of the lessons that
Speaker 2: I'm learning in this relationship. And I brought this up
Speaker 2: in therapy too. I dated very transactionally in my twenties.
Speaker 2: I think that there was although I projected confidence, there
Speaker 2: was a lot of insecurities because of my weight, because
Speaker 2: of my finances, how I lived. I literally was bringing
Speaker 2: this up in my twenties. I genuinely did not think
Speaker 2: I would make a great partner. I would fucking nigga
Speaker 2: for money. I did not have the best self confidence
Speaker 2: because of my body and realistically, what was I bringing
Speaker 2: to the table. I wasn't cooking for niggas. I didn't
Speaker 2: really know or care to cook either. But also I
Speaker 2: had roommates, so I was just in a place where
Speaker 2: am I even girlfriend material? I'm not wife material at all,
Speaker 2: And so I think that that's why I was having
Speaker 2: the casual sex and the transactional sex I was having.
Speaker 2: But from the pandemic to us building these businesses and
Speaker 2: how proud I am on myself and seeing how fucking
Speaker 2: dope of a partner I was to this nigga, there's
Speaker 2: a sense of Wow, I'm showing up as a whole
Speaker 2: different person. Financially, I'm in a place I've never been.
Speaker 2: I lived by myself. I've been living by myself for
Speaker 2: the last few years, and I'm in the healthiest place
Speaker 2: i've been as an adult. Like, so I'm now like, Wow,
Speaker 2: I'm showing up now as a woman that I've never known,
Speaker 2: And so how do I make sure that I get
Speaker 2: what I deserve? And I think I'm realizing I didn't
Speaker 2: think I deserved much from a lot, which is why
Speaker 2: the crumbs he gave me the trash were trash, but
Speaker 2: I was eating it up, like ooh, I'm getting so.
Speaker 1: I know that nigga got you took your trash out
Speaker 1: more than I know anything else. I think the right.
Speaker 2: And it was like, now that I look back at it,
Speaker 2: that's the fucking barrelmentam bitch. I got a cleaner now.
Speaker 1: Honestly, it is interesting that you say, like even I
Speaker 1: got sent a clip of you and I was like,
Speaker 1: I can't even believe, like this is somebody I work with.
Speaker 1: And I remember it was maybe before or maybe it
Speaker 1: was after you experienced a loss, and it was like, damn,
Speaker 1: you really have to go through some shit. You said
Speaker 1: that if someone's parent died, you wouldn't care. They would
Speaker 1: have to like still come to work or you'd find
Speaker 1: someone else.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not gonna lie. That's still I ain't
Speaker 2: changed with that thought process, Like I think there needs
Speaker 2: to be communication. You could have grievance, but is someone
Speaker 2: else gonna pick up your shift? Like I can have
Speaker 2: empathy and still want my fucking business. Fran, Like I
Speaker 2: can't you sa I still bo you said they were
Speaker 2: I mean everyone's still replaceable. In my mind, you think
Speaker 2: what you went to have a loss like that hasn't
Speaker 2: lost on me. But I still run a business. I
Speaker 2: still come from a very corporate mindset. I have empathy,
Speaker 2: but do I have someone? Is someone else going to
Speaker 2: pick up for you? I'm going to give you a
Speaker 2: couple of days. Can I afford in my businesses to
Speaker 2: give somebody grievance of three months not to come into work.
Speaker 1: No, Arens, But that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So you can go to the funeral, yes, But if
Speaker 2: you just need all this time and can't show up
Speaker 2: to work because you're grieving, I gotta let you go.
Speaker 2: That's still the way I put business. And empathy is
Speaker 2: different than what I'm talking about regarding empathy with emotions
Speaker 2: and relationships.
Speaker 1: I don't think it works like that. I think we
Speaker 1: have to have empathy. Being an empathetic person means in
Speaker 1: every aspect. Because what you're going through right now, this
Speaker 1: is just a breakup, and you know how it's completely
Speaker 1: like shifted you You even said a few episodes ago,
Speaker 1: like I don't even know if I know myself, Like
Speaker 1: I still don't losing a parent, I mean, I can't relate.
Speaker 1: I'm very close to my parents, Like I don't know,
Speaker 1: but I mean I know with the people that work
Speaker 1: for me. I'm just thinking, like there's no way, I mean,
Speaker 1: Eden lost his mom, who would I be to be
Speaker 1: like not thinking that he needs all the time in
Speaker 1: the world. I don't need him to figure out the
Speaker 1: next shift. Like I think we have to really choose
Speaker 1: our words wisely and think about what we're saying, because
Speaker 1: when something happens to you and your world crumbles, it's
Speaker 1: a lot easier to move on from it when you're better.
Speaker 1: So like a year from now.
Speaker 2: Still need still need to get paid, even if you're
Speaker 2: if you're grieving, like life and everything around you still
Speaker 2: moves on. So to me, there is, of course a
Speaker 2: grieving period. You have to go to the funeral, you
Speaker 2: have to go to the wake. That's fine. But to me, no,
Speaker 2: someone saying I need two months off to grieve, Okay,
Speaker 2: that's not going to work for my business structure. Like
Speaker 2: I really wish you, I hope the best for you,
Speaker 2: and I want you to heal, of course, but no,
Speaker 2: when I think business, unfortunately, I'm still very corporate white
Speaker 2: man CEO. It's an awful way to think. I know,
Speaker 2: but I come from the space of corporate America, where Okay,
Speaker 2: well I still need someone to get the job done.
Speaker 2: So I hate that you're experiencing this, but someone else
Speaker 2: has to come in.
Speaker 1: And do it.
Speaker 2: So actually that clip is still very much me in
Speaker 2: that sense, like you're complating my views on how to
Speaker 2: operate and run my business. And the empathy there.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, you talked about loss, that's why.
Speaker 2: Well with the empathy that I have, though for people
Speaker 2: grieving a relationship and moving on, that's completely different. Like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I lost my grandpa and I came in and went
Speaker 2: and spent time with my mom and sister and grandma
Speaker 2: and flew right back and had to record the next day.
Speaker 2: Like but that's my way of viewing work. Work is
Speaker 2: very important for me. But also I talked about it
Speaker 2: with my therapist. Work is where I find peace and
Speaker 2: the stream and distraction to not think about my grief.
Speaker 2: Like literally coming in here a couple of weeks ago
Speaker 2: and talking about not knowing myself and celibacy and all
Speaker 2: the things I found out about my ex, I broke
Speaker 2: into tears. When I'm working, like really working on things,
Speaker 2: I don't have to think about my relationship.
Speaker 1: You know what else people do I think as a
Speaker 1: way to distract themselves, But it's not always the smartest
Speaker 1: way partying, Like I think you don't do that filling
Speaker 1: your schedule with work for me, with events sometimes, like
Speaker 1: if you're going through a breakup, that's not always the
Speaker 1: best thing, Like if you don't learn how to just
Speaker 1: like sit by yourself. Like I've met so many men
Speaker 1: more than women actually, that are constantly with a homeboy
Speaker 1: or like doing something or they've always got a plan.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you'll never just go to movies by yourself.
Speaker 1: You'll not how to just go have dinner by yourself,
Speaker 1: you know, how to just do anything? Like I think
Speaker 1: that that's another key thing too that I implore anybody
Speaker 1: listening going through a breakup, you almost feel in the beginning.
Speaker 1: I get it, we need our friends, we need a
Speaker 1: girl night out whatever, But being alone is the thing
Speaker 1: that will get you over the hump. Because once it's
Speaker 1: all said and done and you got to sit and
Speaker 1: be alone, do you like who this person is? And
Speaker 1: if you don't, you got to learn how to like them.
Speaker 2: So I've been and I've been doing that more Like
Speaker 2: I go to bar class I do yoga, I'm meditating.
Speaker 1: Now, there's a park by my house. It's good.
Speaker 2: So I walked down to the park the other day
Speaker 2: and it's right on the water where I'm looking at
Speaker 2: all of Manhattan.
Speaker 1: Bitch.
Speaker 2: I brought a blunt and was just out there smoking,
Speaker 2: just looking at like people watching. And I love spending
Speaker 2: time with myself because I'm always around people's That's something
Speaker 2: I've been.
Speaker 1: Doing that can recharge you too. Oh, I love it.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: That's why I like, bitch. I had plans every day
Speaker 1: this week.
Speaker 2: I'm recording seven episodes in a week, like, which is
Speaker 2: above like what I've even put for myself. But last
Speaker 2: week I only recorded one episode because I was traveling.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, I'm going above and beyond. And I
Speaker 2: had plans on Friday, and I said, bitch, I canceled
Speaker 2: the plan this morning. I said, actually, no, I need
Speaker 2: a day to myself before I traveling.
Speaker 1: Done.
Speaker 2: So I said, girl, I hate to do this to you,
Speaker 2: but gotta cancel. Friday is my day to not be
Speaker 2: around anyone. I'm gonna go get my nails done, my
Speaker 2: toes done.
Speaker 1: You know. I had to give a break to the phone,
Speaker 1: like literally yesterday I thought about remember you do this
Speaker 1: text I sent a nigga and I felt kind of bad,
Speaker 1: but I was like, I just don't like how much
Speaker 1: I need to keep up with him, so that's real.
Speaker 1: He I was like, having a stressful work day, and
Speaker 1: then he called me a few times and I was like,
Speaker 1: while you were working, no, no, no, I had a stressful
Speaker 1: day with something in the day before, and then he
Speaker 1: was calling a check on me. I said, hey, I
Speaker 1: know you're feeling ignored. I had a rough weekend and
Speaker 1: I'm starting to feel a little bit of pressure with
Speaker 1: everything I have going on, and when I have a
Speaker 1: lot of happening, I don't want to have a conversation
Speaker 1: even though we just met. And I understand I've been
Speaker 1: talking to you often. I need to slow down. Oh
Speaker 1: what was his response to that? He said, it's okay, Gila,
Speaker 1: I understand, take the time you need, but like, okay,
Speaker 1: people like and women do this too, so please attention
Speaker 1: to what I'm saying. When someone says they need space,
Speaker 1: it's genuinely because they do, but there's a slight thing
Speaker 1: of that in there, of you annoying them, and sometimes
Speaker 1: you're annoying them by being too Are you okay? Are
Speaker 1: you okay? Are you okay? Like, please let me come
Speaker 1: to you. I do not like.
Speaker 2: That, Okay, I don't want every time.
Speaker 1: I leave, And a lot of people think that if
Speaker 1: I'm saying I'm recording till three thirty today, I'm with
Speaker 1: Mandy today. This was another tex I'm a meeting with Mandy.
Speaker 1: I'm recording until three thirty. Okay, cool? Do you want
Speaker 1: to meet up for lunch at four thirty? Which I
Speaker 1: understand you think that's my free time. It is, but
Speaker 1: for you, you.
Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying, like or I mean, sometimes when
Speaker 2: you have a pack busy day, you don't want to
Speaker 2: stack it and know that you have to give you
Speaker 2: have to keep giving the output to people. Also don't
Speaker 2: want anybody else to feel offended by this, But I
Speaker 2: think people need to hear this because there's a lot
Speaker 2: of cleanness in my life.
Speaker 1: As someone that lives into cities. People feel like they
Speaker 1: gotta while you're here for these two weeks, take all
Speaker 1: your time. It's too much a bitch.
Speaker 2: I'll be tell now do we travel, especially with the tour,
Speaker 2: I will let people know, hey, I'm here for work.
Speaker 1: If I don't see you. I don't see you.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, every time I travel, people want me,
Speaker 2: let's do lunch, let's do dinner, let's grab drinks. And
Speaker 2: it gives me anxiety to have to battle all of
Speaker 2: these personal relationships on a busy work So I.
Speaker 1: Just did it to sham Booty and I didn't even
Speaker 1: realize I did it. Really, she was talking, she called
Speaker 1: me about something I saw. She was in New York.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, how long let's grab a
Speaker 1: quick lunch. And I'm like, bro, why would I like,
Speaker 1: I live in the same city as this bitch. Why
Speaker 1: am I doing this to her? And it's in my brain.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, this is what you do. But it's
Speaker 1: too much.
Speaker 2: So I agree.
Speaker 1: The thing I was gonna say about cleaniness, what was it? Oh?
Speaker 1: And also the time that I might be spending online
Speaker 1: is the time that's just for me. It's for myself.
Speaker 1: A conversation is a lot of work sometimes when you're overworked.
Speaker 1: And the other thing I want to say, this I
Speaker 1: feel like, is vital. This happened to me twice with
Speaker 1: other men. It was Alex and Andre. I was with
Speaker 1: alex Es Central Park with Nina and yesterday I rode
Speaker 1: bikes with Andre. These are two my platonic friends. While
Speaker 1: I told other people I was busy or had plans,
Speaker 1: I didn't really do much right. I just rode a
Speaker 1: bike went to the park. I don't need to talk
Speaker 1: to these niggs all the time because I hang out
Speaker 1: with them all the time. Sometimes I have friends that
Speaker 1: I can do nothing around. Benny is probably the top
Speaker 1: friend of that. Bennie and I cannot talk for hours
Speaker 1: and be in the same room. A lot of people
Speaker 1: need to fucking what's it's too much? If I want
Speaker 1: to be in the presence of another friend, I can
Speaker 1: do that. You know what I'm saying By being chill,
Speaker 1: I almost feel like the way that I could describe it.
Speaker 1: If you think you're that person, imagine being on vacation
Speaker 1: and someone filling up your schedule. If you're someone that
Speaker 1: doesn't like to have a schedule, that's what you feel like.
Speaker 1: So please, if there's anybody that you know that's been
Speaker 1: asking you for space, you're probably eating a little annoying,
Speaker 1: just a little bit.
Speaker 2: Well, guys, this is a full vanilla shit episode for
Speaker 2: our horrible decision. So we're gonna go ahead and start
Speaker 2: off with hope facts, and I've found this really cool
Speaker 2: kinky facts from history that you probably are completely unaware of,
Speaker 2: And so I'm gonna run down this seven. Let me
Speaker 2: know if you knew that these things were real existed,
Speaker 2: and maybe why they didn't teach us it, because I
Speaker 2: would have loved to know that one of the most
Speaker 2: famous pharaohs of ancient Egypt, Tuta k two ten Kumona.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know goddamn names like this. Oh wait, wait, wait,
Speaker 2: you're talking about the most famous one.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I tut to.
Speaker 2: Come on two ten coming. His mammafied body actually has
Speaker 2: an erected penis, which stands upright at almost a ninety
Speaker 2: degree angle.
Speaker 1: I can I can already.
Speaker 2: Know why maybe this wasn't taught to us. While we
Speaker 2: think about not the big dick it is?
Speaker 1: It is?
Speaker 2: It actually looks short and stubby. Not to talk about
Speaker 2: a dead mummy.
Speaker 1: But it's supposed to be a song. Well, they just
Speaker 1: as an erected penis, so honestly interesting. I feel like
Speaker 1: he did kind of like ask for it.
Speaker 2: Oh that might have been in his will. Mama found
Speaker 2: me with a big dick, Yeah, Mamma find me with that.
Speaker 1: Whole when I'm laid out from my dick cup straight
Speaker 1: pointing to the heavens and the gods.
Speaker 2: Bitch, bro shut the fuck up. Okay, number two. All
Speaker 2: the brothels in Paris closed for a day when Victor
Speaker 2: Hugo died. Sex workers even draped their genitals in black
Speaker 2: crape as a mark of respect. Now, black cray. That's crazy.
Speaker 2: It spelt It spelt like crepe. Maybe it's crepe creep.
Speaker 2: What's a I don't know what a black crape is,
Speaker 2: but it says black crate like a crpe. It says
Speaker 2: black crpe. But I don't know if that's like the
Speaker 2: crapes like a little flat people.
Speaker 1: I don't think it is.
Speaker 2: It's probably not. Wrapping your genitals in a black pancake
Speaker 2: don't make sense.
Speaker 1: Oh, maybe a crape is a rapping, because a crape
Speaker 1: is like, okay, look like no paper machet like a crape.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's called oh that's possible. Maybe not to pussy's
Speaker 2: but maybe the dicks.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: Another one in the eighteen hundreds. This is interesting because
Speaker 2: I would love to know how they tested it. But
Speaker 2: one in fine, one in five Londoners had an sti so.
Speaker 2: According to a paper published an Economic History Review in
Speaker 2: the last eighteenth century, one in five London Londoners contract
Speaker 2: contracted sorry syphilis by their mid thirties. The pan the
Speaker 2: paper also suggests that a far greater number would have
Speaker 2: contracted gonorrhea or chlamydiah than contracted simplists. Also, what fucking
Speaker 2: the year is this, nigga? The eighteen hundred? It ain't
Speaker 2: say which year, but y'all London niggas was fucking raw, nasty, filthy.
Speaker 2: I'm glad they probably because in London.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm selib it.
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna do nothing in London, all right.
Speaker 1: The other one is, God, don't say that I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm not.
Speaker 2: I mean universally universally acknowledged as the father of microbiology,
Speaker 2: Anthony van Leewoonhoak discovered sperm by putting his own ejaculation
Speaker 2: under a microscope. He did this right after culpulating with
Speaker 2: his wife, before masturbation was considered a sin at the time.
Speaker 1: How small, how tight is the my microscope? Because I
Speaker 1: literally was thinking the other day, like if you can't
Speaker 1: see it with the naked eye, because once I had
Speaker 1: like come in my eye.
Speaker 2: You I know we talked about maybe thinking we could
Speaker 2: see the sperm swim, But I now.
Speaker 1: Even if I swin, it's like I see the light.
Speaker 2: What is that I see? I see now, bitch, it's
Speaker 2: just the stars of the light. Your pupils are becoming dilated.
Speaker 1: No, it's not stars, I see, little man, I'll see
Speaker 1: some shit. Y'all niggas don't see.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, hold I find out you a alien?
Speaker 2: How come? How come you see little things in the sky.
Speaker 1: I can see a little bit. It's dust.
Speaker 2: It ain't even bacteria. And I'm not playing with you.
Speaker 1: What are the quiggly things? Am I? The floaters? Whoa see?
Speaker 1: I was not ready to read this. What I clumps me?
Speaker 2: Cam just wrote eye floaters? Literally, the engineer just wrote
Speaker 2: eye flowing says.
Speaker 1: The focused light passes through the lens of your eye,
Speaker 1: heading for the back of either retina, and it's clumps
Speaker 1: of protein.
Speaker 2: Bitch, And you do begining comed on in the protein
Speaker 2: from the nut bitch.
Speaker 1: Depending on your imagination, you could see them as worms, tadpoles, circles,
Speaker 1: see through cource ferm. Once the protein clumps together, it
Speaker 1: makes a flirter floater and it is a permanent part
Speaker 1: of your eye.
Speaker 2: You got nut permanently in yo eye, bitch, because I
Speaker 2: can't see that. The only thing I see is this
Speaker 2: lash glue. This bothered me, bitch. I can't stand these
Speaker 2: trip lashes. I'm working through it.
Speaker 1: I am working through it all right.
Speaker 2: Another one. Queen Victoria's sex life is no secret. Thanks
Speaker 2: to her own diary. She used to vividly describe her
Speaker 2: love making with not only her husband, Prince Albert, but
Speaker 2: also her cousin. By the way, as we know niggas
Speaker 2: being gay. Julius Caesar that's right. He was every woman's
Speaker 2: man and every man's woman. Julius Caesar was hit with
Speaker 2: both men and women. He was infamously known as every
Speaker 2: woman's man and every man's woman. He often cross dressed
Speaker 2: and participated in several queer activities, and was said to
Speaker 2: have a wild sex life. That's right, and last one,
Speaker 2: this one's crazy.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 2: Bunny ears used to mean that you were cheating on
Speaker 2: your partner, so you know, when you know, you know,
Speaker 2: when you're in a photo and you photo bomb someone
Speaker 2: with bunny ears. So this might be cute and fun now, However,
Speaker 2: the gesture back in the day represented the horns of
Speaker 2: shame and actually meant that the person was cheating on
Speaker 2: their partner. What would it would be a way for
Speaker 2: someone to come and be like this nigga cheating has
Speaker 2: niggas and you got the film developed and the ship
Speaker 2: was like, oop that nigga.
Speaker 1: Little bitch, I need to go back. It takes some
Speaker 1: pictures me and Old Bay in Mexico with the bitchy heating.
Speaker 2: It stop it? Oh was she out here like this?
Speaker 1: No? Probably behind you like yup, fucking with your nigga, Maggie,
Speaker 1: probably do that Bati kids his stop bro. You know
Speaker 1: what's so crazy when I really sit and think about
Speaker 1: that shit, Mandy, this punk asshole Maggie was really calling
Speaker 1: me trashy and ratchet when you're fucking uh huh some
Speaker 1: nigga from across the way. That's fucking every bitch in
Speaker 1: New York. And she know your husband with your trash
Speaker 1: yet girl, and I saw text message where they were
Speaker 1: supposed to go to Bali, but he canceled on her
Speaker 1: because he fell in love with me, and she was like,
Speaker 1: I wanna bring the GoPro. Simon bought it for me
Speaker 1: and the kids. Oh that's real trash, but you're a whore.
Speaker 2: Horror might as well coming out of sea and speaking
Speaker 2: of poor time for our wre Durner. I found this
Speaker 2: on fatherly dot com and it's a tip I think
Speaker 2: for both people, So let me know your thoughts on this.
Speaker 2: A tip that I have to spice up and make
Speaker 2: your sex life better is hanging out with your partner naked. Now,
Speaker 2: I talk about how I used to go to the
Speaker 2: nude beach and clearly sex clubs where of course you're naked,
Speaker 2: but it says sure love that getting naked often operates
Speaker 2: as a prerequisite for sex, but skin to skin contact
Speaker 2: can also release oxytocin, a hormone associated with empathy, generosity,
Speaker 2: and orgasm. Nudity is often also linked to body confidence,
Speaker 2: so one set he found that spending more time naked
Speaker 2: can help increased body image, which I used to say
Speaker 2: as well self esteem and life satisfaction. So naturally, the
Speaker 2: more comfortable we are with ourselves, the more comfortable we
Speaker 2: will be with a partner, and that feat, small as
Speaker 2: it may seem, will land you a lot more successful
Speaker 2: sexual encounters. I agree with that, maybe watching Netflix naked
Speaker 2: with your partner, maybe walking around the house. Don't motherfucking
Speaker 2: cook bacon naked. I tried it.
Speaker 1: It's dangerous.
Speaker 2: It hurts. But maybe even just cooking scrambled eggs.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, no no. The apron naked is so hot.
Speaker 1: The what listen? Then you ain't naked.
Speaker 2: If you got an apron on, you hide in your
Speaker 2: gut and ship. You need to enjoy your whole.
Speaker 1: Oh, don't cook like that. No no, scrambled eggs, don't
Speaker 1: be popping. I can't make eggs, so I wouldn't avocado toes.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't make it naked. That's real love maintenance. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's cute.
Speaker 2: You're gonna spread avocado on the toes.
Speaker 1: Love maintenance.
Speaker 2: Oh here you go, go ahead and talk about how
Speaker 2: great and gourmet your avocado toast is. Can't relate that
Speaker 2: is that shit?
Speaker 1: Real simple?
Speaker 2: Spread that motherfucker on the toes. Put a little uh
Speaker 2: everything bago. Seasoning avocado toes is done. That's not how
Speaker 2: mine goes. Oh you're making eggs and that's why come
Speaker 2: back around.
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, no I don't. I I to the
Speaker 1: cherry tomatoes and sliced it in the middle. Then I'll
Speaker 1: do the red onions.
Speaker 2: I do what it and look almost like talk about
Speaker 2: all the things we do for our niggas in a
Speaker 2: great way, and they still cheat it on our asses.
Speaker 2: I mean, this is why at this point, you know,
Speaker 2: just the everything bagels season and hunts.
Speaker 1: No, I mean you have to order me breakfast. But
Speaker 1: I do think, like I think this is also like
Speaker 1: a weird, very weird era of dating where I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously every podcast you know lately it feels like we
Speaker 1: come on here and talk about how nigga ain'e shit.
Speaker 1: I almost have like kind of leaned into it.
Speaker 2: Just the niggas ain't shit, kind of just like you
Speaker 2: wouldn't look like to lean into niggas not being shit.
Speaker 1: Just having with expectations low Okay, not necessarily like of course,
Speaker 1: intentional with dating, but not to the point where I'm
Speaker 1: just like, I know I want family and children, but
Speaker 1: I understand the dating landscape is probably like winning a lot.
Speaker 2: Does lowering your expectations mean you lower your standards?
Speaker 1: No, they don't correlate. No, My standards are my standards,
Speaker 1: and if I had lower standards, I'd already be married
Speaker 1: with kids. Okay, so my expectations are lowered in the
Speaker 1: sense of I'm not necessarily being disappointed. Yeah, and I'm
Speaker 1: also not dating the same way that I used to.
Speaker 1: I'm very good at focusing on one person at a time.
Speaker 1: Now I kind of don't care for That's probably why
Speaker 1: there are niggas blowing me up because I don't have
Speaker 1: time to them because fucking other niggas. Also. I said
Speaker 1: that to a man two nights ago, which I can
Speaker 1: You said what to the man, and it's the man
Speaker 1: that I'm most interested in?
Speaker 2: Okay, you said what though.
Speaker 1: We were on the phone and I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: starting to really just think we're not compatible and it
Speaker 1: is the man I'm most interested in. He was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't understand why. And I'm like, you told me
Speaker 1: that you've been seeing some or sleeping with someone. I'm like,
Speaker 1: He's like, asked me if I had other partners, and
Speaker 1: I told him about badd okay, and he told me
Speaker 1: about someone he sleeps with more consistently than others. I
Speaker 1: was like, how long has that been going on for?
Speaker 1: He said for a year. I was like, okay, how
Speaker 1: does she feel out about it? And he's like, I
Speaker 1: mean she came to me at one point and said
Speaker 1: she want a commitment, but I told her like no.
Speaker 1: I was like, so basically she's sticking around because she's
Speaker 1: waiting for you to get waiting. She's definitely waiting. He
Speaker 1: told me, like you're on some like feminist shit where
Speaker 1: you feel bad for her. And he was like, I'm
Speaker 1: very clear was what I want and don't want.
Speaker 2: From her, And so he just doesn't want to be
Speaker 2: with her. And I was like, well, he's still entertaining her.
Speaker 2: I was like, but you realize like you're showing her that.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I feel like what you're saying
Speaker 1: is little immature, and he's like, I'm not being immature
Speaker 1: at all. I think you're like worrying about something. He
Speaker 1: didn't say it in rue with He didn't say like
Speaker 1: that has nothing to do with you, but he basically
Speaker 1: mean like she way she feels shouldn't bother you. And
Speaker 1: he's like, I've been clear. She knows I'm seeing other people.
Speaker 1: He's like, aren't you seeing other people? I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: but there's no man in my life that's like holding
Speaker 1: on waiting for me. And I feel like from what.
Speaker 2: You just said, she's waiting, but it's because you know
Speaker 2: how women are, and we don't listen to niggas.
Speaker 1: When they they tell us exactly what.
Speaker 2: So to me, I wouldn't have empathy for that because
Speaker 2: we so we do that, which is why with me dating,
Speaker 2: And I said this on Patreon, I'm dating a little
Speaker 2: bit more intentionally. If I talk to a man and
Speaker 2: he's not in a place or he's iner, like if
Speaker 2: he is telling me something that I don't want, even
Speaker 2: on a sexual if I know that he can't keep
Speaker 2: up with my sex drop, I don't want to even waste.
Speaker 1: So I started compating. I didn't feel like we were
Speaker 1: compatible because of his interest in dating other people like polyamory.
Speaker 2: Oh wait, he wants commitment with a lot of people at.
Speaker 1: Well, well he said that, like he enjoys that and
Speaker 1: like she's cool. I said, well, I'm telling you this
Speaker 1: right now, I'm not. You're not Polly right, I was like,
Speaker 1: or are you dating other people? I was like, So
Speaker 1: if I ever for guys to a point where I
Speaker 1: was very interested in you, this wouldn't be cool with me.
Speaker 1: So I don't really think this is gonna work out
Speaker 1: because I don't want to do this now.
Speaker 2: Is this because of the last relationship? Because I remember, like,
Speaker 2: I guess you considered it open, which she used to
Speaker 2: be like, oh no, I would want him to take
Speaker 2: a girl on a date, like I wouldn't want want
Speaker 2: him to just fuck someone. So are you now saying,
Speaker 2: moving forward you actually are seeking monogamy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've been saying that the last few hunts. Okay,
Speaker 1: Like I have my life structure to where, okay, at
Speaker 1: some point I can spend more time in New York
Speaker 1: or more time in La, right, Like, it just kind
Speaker 1: of depends where I meet that person.
Speaker 2: And this means you're open as well then to a
Speaker 2: relationship where you no longer can play with women.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I mean if that person was down for
Speaker 1: the threesomes, great, But I mean, look, I'm gonna keep
Speaker 1: it a bean right now.
Speaker 2: I do two weeks on a bean, butter apins out.
Speaker 2: I'm just black, just kind of like that's a Mexican.
Speaker 1: I keep my schedule down the middle because I think
Speaker 1: it's fair and now I move my parents felt late,
Speaker 1: But bitch, if I met a nigg in La, I'd
Speaker 1: be like, Mandy, these are the three days we're gonna
Speaker 1: be horrible that I can do. It wouldn't be like, hey,
Speaker 1: I've got ten days. Pick right, I'm trying to you know,
Speaker 1: this is what I feel like. It's fair to everybody
Speaker 1: right now with bitch of Blackball and look, fuck all,
Speaker 1: y'all home for real and you know what, shout out
Speaker 1: to Brianda because we were hanging out last week. No,
Speaker 1: she's not dead. I've been joking about that. Yo.
Speaker 2: Someone just texted me about her and was like, Yo,
Speaker 2: what happened, old girl?
Speaker 1: She fell off to earth? She really did. She's just
Speaker 1: got on lune like.
Speaker 2: Well, I think like as podcasters, like a lot of
Speaker 2: people really enjoyed her pod and then it just yeah,
Speaker 2: I heard from the internet from everywhere.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I went, I did that. It felt really good
Speaker 1: when I did it, so like I also get it
Speaker 1: because she's like able to hold it out. No, we
Speaker 1: were out, we were chicken, we were kicking it, but
Speaker 1: we were at brunch. I was like, girl, it's so
Speaker 1: nice to spend the time with jujus, but I get
Speaker 1: wiped it up. I'm done. She was like, yo. She
Speaker 1: was like, I hate when people act like their friends
Speaker 1: owe them the world. Like if I get a man,
Speaker 1: it's natural that I'm gonna have less time for you,
Speaker 1: and I'm I think that I'm going through that right
Speaker 1: now with a friend.
Speaker 2: I look, the friendship has completely changed because of her
Speaker 2: relationship and a party.
Speaker 1: Like herbility to bitch.
Speaker 2: I ain't taught to her in months, and we used
Speaker 2: to talk every day, and so I literally was just like, hey,
Speaker 2: so that she lives with them, no, and so to me,
Speaker 2: if that relationship ends, I want you to know you've
Speaker 2: no longer created a safe space where I feel like
Speaker 2: I can depend on you as a friend. The friendship
Speaker 2: is ending, I actually will not be friends with anybody.
Speaker 2: Our friendship will be demoted to association and you, I
Speaker 2: won't show up for you anymore if you are the
Speaker 2: type of woman who completely disassociates when you got a nigga.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm good. I'm not saying disassociated. I've always been
Speaker 1: on phone. Let's talk for a second.
Speaker 2: Let's let's say if the way you show up for
Speaker 2: me as a person changes because you're in a relationship.
Speaker 1: I how good showing up? Like in terms of if
Speaker 1: she's not available to go out, how we.
Speaker 2: Know how we communicate when I'm in your city, I
Speaker 2: don't see you. I don't know about your life. Also,
Speaker 2: if anybody.
Speaker 1: We follow each other clearly life, let's dig into that
Speaker 1: back because I don't like the thing.
Speaker 2: We haven't spoken in months. You see my thoughtful ass captions.
Speaker 2: I'm going fucking through it emotionally. You knew the relationship
Speaker 2: I was just in. You met him, you knew how
Speaker 2: much I loved him, and you clearly see me going
Speaker 2: through it like I'm clearly going through.
Speaker 1: It to all of my friends. She hasn't reached out
Speaker 1: to you. She hasn't even checked on me my point.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, oh no, because you got a nigga.
Speaker 2: Oh no, So I told her. I told her we
Speaker 2: recently talked, and I was like, yo, I want you
Speaker 2: to know, like, I'm not going to bang with you.
Speaker 2: If this is how you continue showing up with this friendship,
Speaker 2: and if this relationship means this much to you, wish
Speaker 2: you the best, but it is I no longer will
Speaker 2: be available to you. She said, We do, like we
Speaker 2: have to talk because there's a lot she's making it
Speaker 2: and I don't know if it's one of those where
Speaker 2: she's embarrassed by the relationship and it's just been trying
Speaker 2: to make it work so hard because niggas embarrass you,
Speaker 2: and I know that as women we overshare such relationships. Sorry, well,
Speaker 2: and I don't know if that's the case. I don't
Speaker 2: know if he's been abusive. I found out after my
Speaker 2: friends were in abusive relationships after the fact that they
Speaker 2: were abusive because they were embarrassed by it.
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of different reasons.
Speaker 2: And I was like, well, I'd like to talk about
Speaker 2: it because right now, from a selfish place, I don't
Speaker 2: feel safe with you.
Speaker 1: I'm in a space where I could This is a
Speaker 1: good topic because we've been talking about breakups. Okay, So
Speaker 1: here's a few things that I talked about with Brianda.
Speaker 1: I said, you know, I'm I'm a girl's girl where
Speaker 1: I like to share, and I want you to share
Speaker 1: with me and feel comfortable enough. Right Like, I have
Speaker 1: a friend in my life that I've always felt like
Speaker 1: hate things for me. We don't have any mutual friends.
Speaker 1: It's not like I could share her business, but like
Speaker 1: she'll get emotional and stop, okay. And I called Brionda
Speaker 1: one day and I was like, why does she do
Speaker 1: this to me? Why did she get to this point
Speaker 1: where she feels like but.
Speaker 2: She may feel to me it may feel like you're
Speaker 2: gonna judge her.
Speaker 1: It's vulnerability, right, yeah, And I was like, but I can't.
Speaker 1: I can't do it, especially when I've shown myself. Right.
Speaker 1: It's very, very, very tough for me to feel like
Speaker 1: I have a woman in my life that just can't
Speaker 1: or they're holding back. It's really really tough because with
Speaker 1: my guy friendships, I don't go there that much. So
Speaker 1: with my girls, I do write. So I was like
Speaker 1: that I don't like So when you just said not
Speaker 1: knowing her life, it triggered me, yeah, because I was.
Speaker 2: Like, that's that's a problem for me, especially when you're
Speaker 2: a friend that we literally talked every day, we traveled together,
Speaker 2: we made plans together, we did all these things together,
Speaker 2: and then you got with this man and everything fucking changed.
Speaker 2: That's hard, and it's it's been a relationship now. I
Speaker 2: think they may be at like the ten month mark
Speaker 2: or something, but I literally like had to tell her,
Speaker 2: I said, that hurts me and I don't know what
Speaker 2: this relationship looks like. But also the fact that I
Speaker 2: feel like you haven't checked in on me and I
Speaker 2: don't know anything about this partner. I don't know anything
Speaker 2: about your life. For the last five months. That is
Speaker 2: a problem for me. So and you might be demoted.
Speaker 2: The friendship contract will be burnt. When I said that,
Speaker 2: I expect less of their time. So've i said it
Speaker 2: on Patreon.
Speaker 1: But basically I think about this trip I took to
Speaker 1: Ebtha a lot with my friends because it was random.
Speaker 1: It was three days. I was supposed to be in
Speaker 1: Europe for work. Oh you remember that, and then it
Speaker 1: was like it didn't work out. Then we all go,
Speaker 1: we partied. There was a nigga that told me I
Speaker 1: was outside because he saw me in Spain. He was like,
Speaker 1: oh you out, you're doing this. You ain't got time
Speaker 1: for a nigga, And I was like, I'm time for
Speaker 1: a nigga. Like if you were my nigga, I probably
Speaker 1: wouldn't be on this trip valid or you would be
Speaker 1: here with me. If any of the people on the
Speaker 1: fucking trip I was on was not single, we wouldn't
Speaker 1: have been together. We got a fucking huge villa with
Speaker 1: three bedrooms and we had our own wings. Got back
Speaker 1: together at the pool talk shit went back like do
Speaker 1: you understand I'm doing.
Speaker 2: This because I'm saying because I'm single.
Speaker 1: Now, what I mean by that is the friendships that
Speaker 1: I have now, while great and fruitful, bitch, am I
Speaker 1: get a man?
Speaker 2: I ain't going to even right ballid bro.
Speaker 1: I've traveled with three of my homeboys this summer to
Speaker 1: Europe and fucking like a three times sorry with different friends,
Speaker 1: just bouncing around like I'm not gonna be doing that shit.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1: But when I was in Israel last summer and Alex
Speaker 1: surprised me and we were like kicking it to I
Speaker 1: can't imagine if I had a nigga while I'm eleven
Speaker 1: PM watching TV with my own way and he's like,
Speaker 1: what the fuck are you doing? Bitch? Things will change now.
Speaker 1: I expect the same thing with my girlfriends, right like
Speaker 1: I expect you of less time for me, and that's
Speaker 1: totally okay because we're all busy. I don't really have
Speaker 1: a friend who ain't busy, So I do expect if
Speaker 1: you have some free time, don't take a trip to
Speaker 1: your nigga for Labor Day, bitch, Why the fuck is
Speaker 1: you coming with me to mom talk? Why? Doesn't make sense?
Speaker 1: But I think there does need to be a healthy balance.
Speaker 1: I've definitely made mistakes when I was younger, not with obay,
Speaker 1: but younger, younger where I was like, damn, I forgot
Speaker 1: to like check on them or don't do this anybody.
Speaker 1: When you do call your friends, it's because you need them.
Speaker 2: But that's my point. I because when you break up
Speaker 2: with this nigga, I'm not gonna be here for you
Speaker 2: to lean on. And I just said a verbada like
Speaker 2: you haven't been here for me as a friend. So
Speaker 2: like the safety net of our friendship no longer exists.
Speaker 2: If you can with a nigga and completely forget about ours,
Speaker 2: I would say, our responsibilities emotionally as friends to each other.
Speaker 1: Now, can I ask you this without you feeling like
Speaker 1: it's a mean question, but be honest, because we've all
Speaker 1: been there. Have you been someone that maybe is dumping
Speaker 1: too much or too sad to talk to?
Speaker 2: No, I think I'm actually the friend that That's why
Speaker 2: I said during your breakup, like, but that's why I
Speaker 2: have a therapist. Okay, I know I dumped quite a bit.
Speaker 2: I mean, on my show, this is y'all are on
Speaker 2: the journey with me. I'm gonna share with y'all, but
Speaker 2: with my friends.
Speaker 1: No, oh, you just do it to the listeners.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, quite a bit to the listeners, But I
Speaker 2: have a therapist, like I've been working through emotionally.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, if you're not. When me and my.
Speaker 2: Friends talk, bitch, we'd be talking about the housing market,
Speaker 2: work jobs, the blog shit. We love gossiping about the
Speaker 2: blog shit.
Speaker 1: Me too. That's what me and my friends conversations.
Speaker 2: Aren't dumping really, Like literally, my friend is back in
Speaker 2: the hospital, like running tests because we don't know what's happening,
Speaker 2: if cancer is back or anything. Like my other friend
Speaker 2: has a fucking ice cream shop. Shout out to Cereal
Speaker 2: and Cream in Atlanta, So we literally talk about running businesses,
Speaker 2: dealing with employees.
Speaker 1: Like.
Speaker 2: I love the conversations I have with my friends and
Speaker 2: we oftentimes don't dump. I think that that's the great
Speaker 2: thing we plan on this trip.
Speaker 1: A lot of people. I'm not gonna do that Durana face.
Speaker 2: And if you yourself, bitch, And that's why I told
Speaker 2: you too, That's why I'm getting a sex and therapist coach.
Speaker 2: I think that there's things my friends can't help me.
Speaker 1: Vinnie told me that it was our only real fight,
Speaker 1: and it was years ago when I lived in Orlando
Speaker 1: and I was breaking up with the Latino dude that
Speaker 1: like loved Jesus and he was like, girl, you do
Speaker 1: not ask me about me? And I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, and it's like it I'm telling you it
Speaker 1: was eight years ago. It really was, and it literally
Speaker 1: has lasted this long because I can't. If I even
Speaker 1: need to call him, I'll tell him like, oh, talk
Speaker 1: about you, and he's like, real, just talk because I
Speaker 1: really get scared to do that. You know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to ever be that person. So if like,
Speaker 1: you know, you feel like you may be doing that
Speaker 1: right now.
Speaker 2: No, I tell my friends all the time if you
Speaker 2: don't want to hear this shit, cool, but I also
Speaker 2: know not to. Like that's why I said, I'm getting
Speaker 2: two people, two latest. I'm going to another lady to
Speaker 2: talk to because bitch bring.
Speaker 1: All the latest. They don't think about getting a male therapist.
Speaker 2: I don't even trust them, niggas. I'm good.
Speaker 1: Nope, I'm saying like it's two the accounter balance maybe yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean right now, it's it's gonna it's my my
Speaker 2: therapist now is a black lady and the person that
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go to for sex and relationship coaching is
Speaker 2: also a black woman.
Speaker 1: I have two different therapists. I have one when I
Speaker 1: want to be coddled and one when I want to
Speaker 1: know what's going on my well.
Speaker 2: I don't know how the sex and coach therapists will be.
Speaker 2: But she is a lifestylar and she did do a
Speaker 2: year of celibacy, and the partner she has now she
Speaker 2: found after her journey of celibacy. So to me, there's
Speaker 2: just some relatability and maybe what my journey may look like.
Speaker 1: Liz great to talk to celibacy about. I actually told
Speaker 1: her recently. I was like, just fucking act on your body.
Speaker 1: Just fucking do it. Fuck these niggas, well, not niggas,
Speaker 1: because but you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I was like, just do it.
Speaker 1: And I remember thinking to myself, like damn, we're laughing
Speaker 1: about it on the phone and having a fun moment.
Speaker 1: She was like in London, traveling, but I was like, ooh,
Speaker 1: I wonder if that was triggering because she's really serious
Speaker 1: about her spirituality journey and her celigacy.
Speaker 2: I want to apologize to that community too, because I
Speaker 2: used to come on here and be like I'm celibate
Speaker 2: just because I was on some fun nigga shit at
Speaker 2: the time, and then as soon as twenty four seven
Speaker 2: or anybody hit my fucking phone, I hopped into the bed.
Speaker 2: So even using celibacy, wait, so are you? I cried
Speaker 2: at the thought of a man touching my body. My
Speaker 2: body is rejecting the idea of being intimate with a
Speaker 2: guy right now, Like.
Speaker 1: Can you masturbate? Oh? I do that. I'll tell y'all
Speaker 1: this I'm doing. I got pressing and stressy ones. Bitch,
Speaker 1: I watched porn masturbated and started crying.
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean, there's luckily I watched like again, so
Speaker 2: what I'm watching is not even getting me into the
Speaker 2: thought process of being with somebody, but I am.
Speaker 1: I am in a.
Speaker 2: Space where I physically, bitch, I went into tears. My
Speaker 2: whole body like got tight. And that's where like I
Speaker 2: even want to be on Like I'm like, oh Na,
Speaker 2: this this shit is real and I need to get
Speaker 2: comfortable with what that means before I even trust the
Speaker 2: man to literally be inside of me again. Yeah, and
Speaker 2: it's it's scary for me. I literally like was in
Speaker 2: tears talking to my therapist. I let her know, bitch,
Speaker 2: I'm getting somebody else to talk to because I don't
Speaker 2: think this is your space. But I was like bro
Speaker 2: to literally tighten up at the thought of a man
Speaker 2: touching He scared me. I said, oh nah, this is
Speaker 2: really about to be saying.
Speaker 1: When I floor therapy it was for physical abuse, but
Speaker 1: this is emotional abuse.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: I know it's crazy, because this is how sometimes our
Speaker 1: brain can work. I've maybe told this story on Horrible before,
Speaker 1: but just to reiterate, So, I had a guy that
Speaker 1: was abusing me and he took me to the gynecologist
Speaker 1: and I didn't even realize how terrible of a person
Speaker 1: he was that he was in the room with me
Speaker 1: when they were checking my vagina. Oh wow, and oh
Speaker 1: he was disgusting. And I was doing public flir therapy
Speaker 1: where I went twice a week and they put this
Speaker 1: wand in you and does this butterfly effect, which is
Speaker 1: now interestingly enough known as something that can tighten your muscle.
Speaker 1: It basically helps you work your kegel muscles. And so
Speaker 1: everybody thought and I did too, and I didn't even
Speaker 1: realize it's because he was in the room that I
Speaker 1: was tensing up because I was scared and I needed
Speaker 1: to let go or there was some tension in my body,
Speaker 1: badge and dismiss whatever bitch cheated on him with a
Speaker 1: doorman put the door Money three, who was just always
Speaker 1: sweet to me and nice and we'd flirt and talk.
Speaker 1: It was and I just had a little crush, right,
Speaker 1: And so when the happened and I got excited about
Speaker 1: someone and started feeling good and safe and I had
Speaker 1: sex with them, no issues. And I literally walked in
Speaker 1: to the fucking doctor the next day. It was a
Speaker 1: woman and Nursa was doing it every time, and I
Speaker 1: told her. I was like, I had text with someone
Speaker 1: else and not even that issue.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: She said, well, I will do these so that he
Speaker 1: knows you're coming here and we can practice. She was like,
Speaker 1: but this is therapy now.
Speaker 2: Like I mean, I'll say, like Fela Bay came over
Speaker 2: the other day because we haven't seen each other in years,
Speaker 2: and he came over the other day and we were
Speaker 2: just watching Netflix and eating. He knows I'm celibate. He
Speaker 2: didn't even try me, thank god, but he just wanted
Speaker 2: me to lay on him, and his hand touching my
Speaker 2: knee made me feel really like. I was like, so
Speaker 2: I tried to lay a different way where I just
Speaker 2: laid my legs over him, but I didn't want him
Speaker 2: to touch me. And then it was really weird because
Speaker 2: it wasn't a date. But I linked up with the
Speaker 2: twenty two year old and we just got drink.
Speaker 1: Who was the twenty two year old?
Speaker 2: I gotta I got. That's gonna be his name for
Speaker 2: right now, the twenty.
Speaker 1: Two year old. I don't even know where the source
Speaker 1: of this well, you said what, I don't even know
Speaker 1: how this person came about.
Speaker 2: He's I've known him for a long time.
Speaker 1: Okay, And how long have you known him, buddy? I
Speaker 1: know That's why I said. I said, I didn't even
Speaker 1: gonna be able to know about how.
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna say I've known him for.
Speaker 1: A few years. He didn't know him at seventeen. No,
Speaker 1: I didn't know him at seventeen. Okay, I know him
Speaker 1: right for a long time. I I knew him right before.
Speaker 2: He was going to college, though, uh so when he
Speaker 2: was eighteen.
Speaker 1: Anyway, we never talked.
Speaker 2: He always lived in a different state, his college was
Speaker 2: in a different state. Then he got drafted, soa ballplayer,
Speaker 2: of course, and anyway, he was in town and we
Speaker 2: went out and it was crazy because I told him.
Speaker 2: He was like I was telling him about him celibate
Speaker 2: and I was like, yeah, I just broke up. How
Speaker 2: long we all together?
Speaker 1: Three years?
Speaker 2: He said, Nigga, he was in my phone while during
Speaker 2: the last four years, and I was like, nigga, step
Speaker 2: chat and we broke up thirteen times. But all those
Speaker 2: times I like ghosted you or didn't see you. When
Speaker 2: you came to town, I was back with him, and
Speaker 2: so he was like, okay, that makes sense. But literally
Speaker 2: I found myself because he was so easy to talk
Speaker 2: to me touching him, and I was like, oh, this
Speaker 2: has been different because I have not wanted to So
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, maybe I just have to feel
Speaker 2: comfortable with somebody. And I was like, not a twenty
Speaker 2: two year old.
Speaker 1: And also new experiences, and this is why sometimes spinning
Speaker 1: the block isn't always great. He might be right because
Speaker 1: this is a new nigga, never met. New experiences give
Speaker 1: you a new Like spinning the block is easy when
Speaker 1: you just want dick.
Speaker 2: But when to know that we had do you need
Speaker 2: to get feeling even feeling baby was like, you know,
Speaker 2: if I ain't get locked up again, he was gonna
Speaker 2: be my bitch, right And so even knowing he still
Speaker 2: had he did bitch the one time I bitch he brought.
Speaker 2: I told you, like, this was the one time I
Speaker 2: actually cooked for him, and.
Speaker 1: That nigga, if he wasn't that light, I might, you know.
Speaker 2: So like to me, I was like, ooh, maybe even
Speaker 2: really like considering someone that's not in my roller dis
Speaker 2: is something that like, all of this is new. I
Speaker 2: don't know how to navigate this shit, but I'm being
Speaker 2: very forthright. Sex is not gonna happen anytime soon. It
Speaker 2: is because you're okay with that. I was like, let's
Speaker 2: do ax throwing, Let's go to Dave and Busters.
Speaker 1: Like bro, let me just tell you. I googled the
Speaker 1: other day things to do that aren't a comedy club,
Speaker 1: and here's why. Okay. I have been going on dates
Speaker 1: to places that I frequent or just places that like
Speaker 1: I don't want to take nobody to my frequently, not
Speaker 1: like frequent, but like a like a place that I
Speaker 1: know is like an easy place to go. Okay, so
Speaker 1: it'll be one of the sozial houses or like a
Speaker 1: last lap sometimes like or even in La. Maybe I'm
Speaker 1: doing the same shit and I'm realizing when I'm going
Speaker 1: out with new niggas that may not even know have
Speaker 1: a podcast. Oh, I'm running into fans. Yes?
Speaker 2: Is that a problem?
Speaker 1: I mean okay, And I don't want this to stop
Speaker 1: anyone from saying hello to me, because I want you
Speaker 1: to understand that, as someone that was a huge fan,
Speaker 1: I always talk about Bodega boys. I can't imagine running
Speaker 1: into my favorite podcaster and not being able to say
Speaker 1: what's up. I'm not bothered at that. I'm just starting
Speaker 1: to realize, like, oh, like this is the thing that
Speaker 1: happens when you're dating someone new. Now I'm seeing you
Speaker 1: experience wheezy wheezy when you ain't know you were going
Speaker 1: out with weezy. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm not gonna lie. I told the twenty two
Speaker 2: year old because we talked about the mixy places and
Speaker 2: he brought up her goola and I said, nigga, I
Speaker 2: don't want to be seen out with you yet.
Speaker 1: I don't know you like that you don't know me.
Speaker 2: But also I don't want people to see us together
Speaker 2: like he's somebody, and so I'm like, oh no, I
Speaker 2: don't need to be connected to you yet. Let's make
Speaker 2: sure we vibe with each other. So we went to
Speaker 2: a very low key bar. It was all white people
Speaker 2: in that bitch and that shit. It comes to me
Speaker 2: that and had drinks. Nobody knew me, but I let
Speaker 2: him know. No nig niggas know me, and so I
Speaker 2: need to make sure you're not gonna be and I
Speaker 2: went to for people to see you with me.
Speaker 1: I went to a place y'all gotta go here. It's
Speaker 1: called Cadence. It's a vegan soul food restaurant on seven okay,
Speaker 1: dann I'm not vegan. Went there.
Speaker 2: We were good bitch the season that bitch up right.
Speaker 1: I had the crab fake crab cake. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but anyway, went there on the first date with nothing
Speaker 1: for sorry. It was a third date. I went on
Speaker 1: a date with the dude the first night and it
Speaker 1: was a great date. I went back because the food
Speaker 1: was so good. The bartender told me she listens to
Speaker 1: horrible shout out to you if you're there, okay, and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god. I saw her last
Speaker 1: night and she didn't say anything to me, which is cool, right,
Speaker 1: But I was like, damn, you never fucking know, bit
Speaker 1: you don't, And I what if I'm sitting there maybe
Speaker 1: ain't and they're like, oh, I don't do that anymore.
Speaker 2: But I mean, I don't talk shit about you. I
Speaker 2: don't talk shit about.
Speaker 1: Anybody, like even anything in my life.
Speaker 2: If I get into an uber and they black, I
Speaker 2: won't talk, I swear to god, I'm not saying shit.
Speaker 2: The only time I even talk to my friends in
Speaker 2: an uber is if I see the uber is written
Speaker 2: all in Mandarin Chinese and they don't speak English, or
Speaker 2: it's like an old.
Speaker 1: That's not true, bitch. We had a motherfucking Uber driver
Speaker 1: in Dallas and Mandy was giving it uh.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I knew he wasn't a fan like I
Speaker 2: was giving it up. But like when I'm by myself,
Speaker 2: I ain't gonn talk shit about nobody. I could talk
Speaker 2: shit about my ex. That's why I was talking.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you how real is about talking shit.
Speaker 1: Me and Alex were talking. We weren't even talking shit, actually,
Speaker 1: and I'm not just saying that because we're recording right now.
Speaker 1: We were talking about the just hilarious ship. He was
Speaker 1: in its prime, right and he was like yo, and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, she hasn't been on
Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Do you think that I heard won't
Speaker 1: Wanner and that he's talking to me and he's giving
Speaker 1: me his opinions. And Alex was very pro like this
Speaker 1: wasn't a good video, like I don't like what I
Speaker 1: just saw. But then we were out and I remember
Speaker 1: he was.
Speaker 2: Like, no, literally, you can't talk about because they it's
Speaker 2: gonna make someone think, yo, yeah, they don't relieve they
Speaker 2: know you. We've definitely rocked with Jess. You can't talk
Speaker 2: about nobody. You didn't even have an opinion about nobody more.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't. You just can't.
Speaker 2: It's tough have it in your mind, talk about it
Speaker 2: in your with your fish that.
Speaker 1: They gonna take it.
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you, you know how bare and know
Speaker 2: what I be, bitch, I will be talking about somebody
Speaker 2: and I'll be opening my hallway door just to see
Speaker 2: if anybody can hear me.
Speaker 1: Y'all be doing that ship like.
Speaker 2: Let me make sure that nigga ain't outside my door.
Speaker 1: That the people don't even live. Some times, the last
Speaker 1: time I talked some good ship like that, let me
Speaker 1: make sure I can't. When I had a woman, a
Speaker 1: woman called girl, Oh bitch, I'll open my motherfucking hallway
Speaker 1: twice like this fuck nigga because I had just blocked it. Okay,
Speaker 1: many has a homemail that she always get to.
Speaker 2: We will get to vanilla shit another time. But clearly
Speaker 2: we we talked about it. Oh, I wasn't even gonna
Speaker 2: get to it, even the homemail. I was just gonna
Speaker 2: be like, y'all send a homemail in but you want
Speaker 2: to get through it, we'll.
Speaker 1: Get to it.
Speaker 2: Okay, homemail guys, we need more homemail, so make sure
Speaker 2: you email us your sex or dating or relationship questions
Speaker 2: so we can provide you with some advice. Please this
Speaker 2: one's send it to Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Please,
Speaker 2: this says high ladies. I'm a year and a half
Speaker 2: out of a fifteen year relationship. Bit y'all can't even imagine.
Speaker 2: I won't go into do you tell about the breakup?
Speaker 2: But long story short, the nigga was a serial cheater,
Speaker 2: aren't they all. But we have a kid, so we
Speaker 2: have a solid co parenting relationship. I sometimes think about
Speaker 2: hitting him up just for sex, but I don't know
Speaker 2: if he can handle that without catching feelings. And truthfully,
Speaker 2: after all I put up with him, he doesn't deserve
Speaker 2: to even taste my pussy again. I realized recently that
Speaker 2: I haven't had much sexual experience outside of him, But
Speaker 2: I'm ready to explore sex. In my thirties, I haven't
Speaker 2: had any partners, and I wouldn't say I've had great
Speaker 2: sex with partners really outside of my ex. I just
Speaker 2: want to have new and fun sexual experiences where a
Speaker 2: man can teach me new things in the bedroom while
Speaker 2: getting good dick. But I don't know where to find him.
Speaker 2: I'm so out of the game. I don't know how
Speaker 2: to do this. I've been on a few dates, they
Speaker 2: have gone nowhere. How do I get out there and
Speaker 2: explore I'm not a fan of dating apps because they
Speaker 2: haven't led anywhere. I think I'm cute, but I don't
Speaker 2: often get approached by men. Where do I find a
Speaker 2: man who will dick me down and help me explore
Speaker 2: my sexuality.
Speaker 1: In a new and empowering way.
Speaker 2: She help me get laid, Thanks ladies, sign a sexually
Speaker 2: frustrated woman in her thirties.
Speaker 1: She sent her pic.
Speaker 2: I mean my myt and this is just because niggas
Speaker 2: don't come up to you. Girl, Well, no to me
Speaker 2: if you want dick and a sexually empowering experience with
Speaker 2: someone who's a bit more experienced with you. But you
Speaker 2: don't like dating apps. This is gonna seem like I'm
Speaker 2: telling you to jump into jump off a clip with it,
Speaker 2: but the sex club. And I say that because it's
Speaker 2: where you can actually like a lot of the I
Speaker 2: don't know where she lives. She didn't put where she can.
Speaker 1: I just say what. I just had to come to
Speaker 1: my mind. Okay, sorry, I got add and I have
Speaker 1: to pee, so now it's jumbled. I saw her picture
Speaker 1: and I was like, she is cute. I think we
Speaker 1: need to match people up on her Instagram. I think
Speaker 1: we should get consent, have people send it in their
Speaker 1: picks and fucking put them out there. Be up to
Speaker 1: the walls, niggas.
Speaker 2: Let's start doing it. I don't know if I want
Speaker 2: the responsibility, but you're more than listen.
Speaker 1: Every podcast takes should we do anyway? And so might
Speaker 1: as well try something new so they could steal that too.
Speaker 2: That could be cool. I mean it sounds like work,
Speaker 2: so uh, you know.
Speaker 1: If it's just a pick, we already have a social
Speaker 1: media manager. Post a picture, give us some facts about you,
Speaker 1: and niggles will slide in your DMS, I say, we
Speaker 1: do it. Instagram to me is like a dating app,
Speaker 1: though it is. Yeah, And she says she doesn't like
Speaker 1: meeting guys on dating app Yeah, because she has to
Speaker 1: put in fucking work.
Speaker 2: Well, that's why I like to me, it's a little
Speaker 2: less work at a sex club personally true.
Speaker 1: But also and I think I think we about to
Speaker 1: start this by the time y'all hear, does I mean
Speaker 1: I'm down to do that? I do think it's hard
Speaker 1: as well.
Speaker 2: Like I guess out, the gate in the caption has
Speaker 2: to be like things she's curious about and wants to explore,
Speaker 2: because she clearly said yes, she wants to meet a
Speaker 2: guy who can teach her some things in the bedroom.
Speaker 1: I was in an article of Or It was when
Speaker 1: we first started the podcast. I was in Time Out magazine.
Speaker 1: Tianna just found it for me. I was in a
Speaker 1: section called the Unbatable and they set me up on
Speaker 1: a date with someone. Oh my god. I'm thirty tw
Speaker 1: years old. Gila twenty five, account exact for a telecommunications
Speaker 1: firm living in midtown West. Why is she single? Doesn't
Speaker 1: often meet people? She connects with them might be picky.
Speaker 1: Ideal date bitch, don't change up dinner at a hip
Speaker 1: meatpacking restaurant then drinks at a dive bar. I've always
Speaker 1: been that girl, And now basically I think we could
Speaker 1: do something like this for people because the difficult thing
Speaker 1: about dating apps is you're swiping. It's difficult. Then you
Speaker 1: got to make the connection, then you got to meet.
Speaker 1: It's like a lot of like back and forth. What
Speaker 1: do you like? What are you're not like? Sometimes it
Speaker 1: feels great to just beat what's the word I'm looking for?
Speaker 1: What was the one I wanted? A few weeks ago,
Speaker 1: Cat called Oh no No. That was basically just having someone
Speaker 1: like come to you and be intentional. You want someone
Speaker 1: to pursue you. Thank you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, bitch, you want to be pursued. You don't want
Speaker 2: it to seem like you're begging for the attention of man.
Speaker 2: You want a man to beat, take an initiative and
Speaker 2: really show that.
Speaker 1: He wants you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's not just the small talk. I realized
Speaker 2: I don't like small talk. So even I realized with
Speaker 2: the twenty two year old, he was like, ooh no.
Speaker 2: Not three days later and I realized, I said, I'm
Speaker 2: really bad with communication. I'm sorry that you feel like
Speaker 2: I took three days to see you when I know
Speaker 2: we wanted Sunday and I waited till Tuesday to see you,
Speaker 2: so and I was like, oh dang, he really felt
Speaker 2: away and he voiced it. So it was like my
Speaker 2: back for that because I really do want to see you.
Speaker 2: So we might see each other again tonight.
Speaker 1: That's great. Look at my dates.
Speaker 2: But I wake him even saying like dang, like I
Speaker 2: hate that you like not three days later? That was
Speaker 2: kind of fucked up?
Speaker 1: Did you?
Speaker 2: And I was like, that's really my bad. And I
Speaker 2: shared him my calendar, my schedule. I said, I had
Speaker 2: just gotten back from Greece. I was really tired. I
Speaker 2: was jet lagged, and how much.
Speaker 1: Twenty two year old look like a girl? Tighty't gonna
Speaker 1: hold you, I said, man, he looked twenty two. I
Speaker 1: talked on to his face. I said, you know, little
Speaker 1: Instagram may really do you justice, nigga.
Speaker 2: You cute, which I look cute day like his brown
Speaker 2: eyes or beautiful, and I was just like, are you cute?
Speaker 1: We about to do Hottie of the Week. I'll know
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna call it. We're gonna call it something
Speaker 1: ad a week, and I'm gonna put your money, y'all.
Speaker 2: Let me just get some dick okay, and niggas and listen.
Speaker 2: But the niggas that also are having a hard time
Speaker 2: finding like minded, freaky ass women, nigga come to a
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Speaker 2: You could bring a homeboy, you could come as a
Speaker 2: single man well seg but you will find your community
Speaker 2: and you will find some single girls looking to have
Speaker 2: some fun after in for the long haul. Okay, So
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Speaker 2: We are hitting up Orlando, we are hitting Atlanta. Charlotte
Speaker 2: is sold out, but for people that maybe won't be
Speaker 2: able to attend, we'll make sure that it's available on
Speaker 2: our Instagram Horrible Underscore Decisions where we can kind of
Speaker 2: let y'all share if you're selling.
Speaker 1: For any sold out shows upcoming. I think Orlando's probably
Speaker 1: in Atlanta will fill out. We're gonna do the same
Speaker 1: thing where you guys can do a ticket and change
Speaker 1: instead of like buying, possibly if they.
Speaker 2: Look and see if there's any tickets available in those cities.
Speaker 2: But also, you're in London on October the twenty eighth,
Speaker 2: so London, UK if you missed the show back on
Speaker 2: Valentine's Day or if you have the work the next day.
Speaker 2: Because our last show in London was on a Tuesday,
Speaker 2: this show was on a Saturday, you could sleep in,
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Speaker 2: again for listening to yet another episode of Horrible Decisions.
Speaker 1: Bye bye