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Speaker 1: Welcome back for another episode.

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Speaker 2: That's right before we start, though, I want to let

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Speaker 2: Damn, this is really not gonna be monetized on YouTube.

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Speaker 2: Bought that motherfucking I gotta get my motherfucking mouth right

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Speaker 2: look at me and still saying, motherfucker God, damn it.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if that shit is real. Bro. No,

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Speaker 1: I feel like there's so many rules, and I see

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Speaker 1: people on Instagram now they bleep out their words, they

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Speaker 1: do all this shit, and I'm like, uh, doesn't really

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Speaker 1: fucking work. Fuck it.

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Speaker 2: Well, we just said fucking damn it and mow all again.

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Speaker 2: But I guess solo episode, no guest this week. So

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Speaker 2: we'll start with a quick catch up. And I actually

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Speaker 2: in therapy thought that, well, it came to an awareness

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Speaker 2: because where I'm trying to figure out, like the lessons

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Speaker 2: or like well to me, it's more so the women

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Speaker 2: I don't understand. So I've shown up on this pod

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Speaker 2: lacking empathy because I genuinely didn't understand it because I

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Speaker 2: going through the things that I'm learning. In hindsight, I

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Speaker 2: the past, or bitch, why can't you leave? How you

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Speaker 2: keep going back? It's so dumb? Why you can't fuck

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Speaker 2: your way through healing celibacy, So you don't want no

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Speaker 2: Shit, it's tough, I mean to me, to me a

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Speaker 2: So when I was coming here, I was mad as

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Speaker 1: You really came on this podcast being like he broke

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Speaker 2: And when I would even when I would even that,

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Speaker 1: See, I'm not about to like I would miss him.

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Speaker 2: I'm a hypocrite, And yes I would hypocrite.

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Speaker 1: Oh bitch. I Like there was a y'all see me

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Speaker 2: There was a part of me, I mean, but you've

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Speaker 2: I think it was a I have a very strong

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Speaker 1: It's crazy how the universe and maybe it's karma. Maybe

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Speaker 2: The bartender who sat in front of me and was like, well,

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Speaker 1: But that's what I mean. I don't know if it's

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Speaker 2: The universe my homegirl, that bitch be showing up for me.

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Speaker 1: So that's why I'm like, this is this is showing

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Speaker 2: To get the lesson. But I don't think it's karma.

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Speaker 2: I think that I got in a relationship during a pandemic.

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Speaker 2: This was my first relationship I'm dating now that you.

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Speaker 1: Don't think it's karmen.

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Speaker 2: No, I don't think it's karmack at all.

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Speaker 1: No, I know it was a girl.

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Speaker 2: I'm saying that the conversation with old girl was a

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Speaker 2: And I was like, because now I'm viewing it a

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Speaker 1: Did you have a moment where because you said you

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Speaker 1: don't think it was karmak, So for you, it's like, well,

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Speaker 1: you didn't do something to those women. You were just

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean to me, all of the lessons that

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Speaker 2: I think that there was although I projected confidence, there

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Speaker 1: You know. I had to give a break to the phone,

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Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying, like or I mean, sometimes when

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, this is what you do. But it's

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Speaker 1: too much.

434
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Speaker 2: So I agree.

435
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Speaker 1: The thing I was gonna say about cleaniness, what was it? Oh?

436
00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:47,200
Speaker 1: And also the time that I might be spending online

437
00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:50,520
Speaker 1: is the time that's just for me. It's for myself.

438
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Speaker 1: A conversation is a lot of work sometimes when you're overworked.

439
00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:55,760
Speaker 1: And the other thing I want to say, this I

440
00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:58,280
Speaker 1: feel like, is vital. This happened to me twice with

441
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Speaker 1: other men. It was Alex and Andre. I was with

442
00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:05,400
Speaker 1: alex Es Central Park with Nina and yesterday I rode

443
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 1: bikes with Andre. These are two my platonic friends. While

444
00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:11,639
Speaker 1: I told other people I was busy or had plans,

445
00:21:12,040 --> 00:21:13,720
Speaker 1: I didn't really do much right. I just rode a

446
00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:15,320
Speaker 1: bike went to the park. I don't need to talk

447
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:16,640
Speaker 1: to these niggs all the time because I hang out

448
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:18,800
Speaker 1: with them all the time. Sometimes I have friends that

449
00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:22,399
Speaker 1: I can do nothing around. Benny is probably the top

450
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,720
Speaker 1: friend of that. Bennie and I cannot talk for hours

451
00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:26,679
Speaker 1: and be in the same room. A lot of people

452
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Speaker 1: need to fucking what's it's too much? If I want

453
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Speaker 1: to be in the presence of another friend, I can

454
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Speaker 1: do that. You know what I'm saying By being chill,

455
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Speaker 1: I almost feel like the way that I could describe it.

456
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Speaker 1: If you think you're that person, imagine being on vacation

457
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Speaker 1: and someone filling up your schedule. If you're someone that

458
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:48,840
Speaker 1: doesn't like to have a schedule, that's what you feel like.

459
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Speaker 1: So please, if there's anybody that you know that's been

460
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Speaker 1: asking you for space, you're probably eating a little annoying,

461
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Speaker 1: just a little bit.

462
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 2: Well, guys, this is a full vanilla shit episode for

463
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Speaker 2: our horrible decision. So we're gonna go ahead and start

464
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Speaker 2: off with hope facts, and I've found this really cool

465
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:14,399
Speaker 2: kinky facts from history that you probably are completely unaware of,

466
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Speaker 2: And so I'm gonna run down this seven. Let me

467
00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:20,440
Speaker 2: know if you knew that these things were real existed,

468
00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:23,199
Speaker 2: and maybe why they didn't teach us it, because I

469
00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:25,679
Speaker 2: would have loved to know that one of the most

470
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Speaker 2: famous pharaohs of ancient Egypt, Tuta k two ten Kumona.

471
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Speaker 2: You know, I don't know goddamn names like this. Oh wait, wait, wait,

472
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Speaker 2: you're talking about the most famous one.

473
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Speaker 1: Sorry, I tut to.

474
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Speaker 2: Come on two ten coming. His mammafied body actually has

475
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Speaker 2: an erected penis, which stands upright at almost a ninety

476
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Speaker 2: degree angle.

477
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Speaker 1: I can I can already.

478
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Speaker 2: Know why maybe this wasn't taught to us. While we

479
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:57,119
Speaker 2: think about not the big dick it is?

480
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Speaker 1: It is?

481
00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 2: It actually looks short and stubby. Not to talk about

482
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Speaker 2: a dead mummy.

483
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Speaker 1: But it's supposed to be a song. Well, they just

484
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 1: as an erected penis, so honestly interesting. I feel like

485
00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:14,000
Speaker 1: he did kind of like ask for it.

486
00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 2: Oh that might have been in his will. Mama found

487
00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:19,679
Speaker 2: me with a big dick, Yeah, Mamma find me with that.

488
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:22,720
Speaker 1: Whole when I'm laid out from my dick cup straight

489
00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:24,479
Speaker 1: pointing to the heavens and the gods.

490
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Speaker 2: Bitch, bro shut the fuck up. Okay, number two. All

491
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Speaker 2: the brothels in Paris closed for a day when Victor

492
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Speaker 2: Hugo died. Sex workers even draped their genitals in black

493
00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:43,640
Speaker 2: crape as a mark of respect. Now, black cray. That's crazy.

494
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:46,639
Speaker 2: It spelt It spelt like crepe. Maybe it's crepe creep.

495
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Speaker 2: What's a I don't know what a black crape is,

496
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:52,560
Speaker 2: but it says black crate like a crpe. It says

497
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Speaker 2: black crpe. But I don't know if that's like the

498
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 2: crapes like a little flat people.

499
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Speaker 1: I don't think it is.

500
00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 2: It's probably not. Wrapping your genitals in a black pancake

501
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 2: don't make sense.

502
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 1: Oh, maybe a crape is a rapping, because a crape

503
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 1: is like, okay, look like no paper machet like a crape.

504
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:10,960
Speaker 2: Maybe it's called oh that's possible. Maybe not to pussy's

505
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 2: but maybe the dicks.

506
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Speaker 1: Okay.

507
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Speaker 2: Another one in the eighteen hundreds. This is interesting because

508
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Speaker 2: I would love to know how they tested it. But

509
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Speaker 2: one in fine, one in five Londoners had an sti so.

510
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Speaker 2: According to a paper published an Economic History Review in

511
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Speaker 2: the last eighteenth century, one in five London Londoners contract

512
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 2: contracted sorry syphilis by their mid thirties. The pan the

513
00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:40,000
Speaker 2: paper also suggests that a far greater number would have

514
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Speaker 2: contracted gonorrhea or chlamydiah than contracted simplists. Also, what fucking

515
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 2: the year is this, nigga? The eighteen hundred? It ain't

516
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Speaker 2: say which year, but y'all London niggas was fucking raw, nasty, filthy.

517
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Speaker 2: I'm glad they probably because in London.

518
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Speaker 1: Well, I'm selib it.

519
00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna do nothing in London, all right.

520
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Speaker 1: The other one is, God, don't say that I'm not.

521
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 1: I'm not.

522
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Speaker 2: I mean universally universally acknowledged as the father of microbiology,

523
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 2: Anthony van Leewoonhoak discovered sperm by putting his own ejaculation

524
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Speaker 2: under a microscope. He did this right after culpulating with

525
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:22,600
Speaker 2: his wife, before masturbation was considered a sin at the time.

526
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Speaker 1: How small, how tight is the my microscope? Because I

527
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 1: literally was thinking the other day, like if you can't

528
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,120
Speaker 1: see it with the naked eye, because once I had

529
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 1: like come in my eye.

530
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:33,800
Speaker 2: You I know we talked about maybe thinking we could

531
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:35,439
Speaker 2: see the sperm swim, But I now.

532
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 1: Even if I swin, it's like I see the light.

533
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:39,680
Speaker 2: What is that I see? I see now, bitch, it's

534
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,879
Speaker 2: just the stars of the light. Your pupils are becoming dilated.

535
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 1: No, it's not stars, I see, little man, I'll see

536
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 1: some shit. Y'all niggas don't see.

537
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 2: Oh my god, hold I find out you a alien?

538
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 2: How come? How come you see little things in the sky.

539
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 1: I can see a little bit. It's dust.

540
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:57,919
Speaker 2: It ain't even bacteria. And I'm not playing with you.

541
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Speaker 1: What are the quiggly things? Am I? The floaters? Whoa see?

542
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 1: I was not ready to read this. What I clumps me?

543
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 2: Cam just wrote eye floaters? Literally, the engineer just wrote

544
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:12,720
Speaker 2: eye flowing says.

545
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,200
Speaker 1: The focused light passes through the lens of your eye,

546
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 1: heading for the back of either retina, and it's clumps

547
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:20,160
Speaker 1: of protein.

548
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:23,800
Speaker 2: Bitch, And you do begining comed on in the protein

549
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:24,640
Speaker 2: from the nut bitch.

550
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:28,280
Speaker 1: Depending on your imagination, you could see them as worms, tadpoles, circles,

551
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,919
Speaker 1: see through cource ferm. Once the protein clumps together, it

552
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,600
Speaker 1: makes a flirter floater and it is a permanent part

553
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:35,360
Speaker 1: of your eye.

554
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:39,720
Speaker 2: You got nut permanently in yo eye, bitch, because I

555
00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 2: can't see that. The only thing I see is this

556
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 2: lash glue. This bothered me, bitch. I can't stand these

557
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:45,399
Speaker 2: trip lashes. I'm working through it.

558
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:47,919
Speaker 1: I am working through it all right.

559
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 2: Another one. Queen Victoria's sex life is no secret. Thanks

560
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:54,400
Speaker 2: to her own diary. She used to vividly describe her

561
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:57,399
Speaker 2: love making with not only her husband, Prince Albert, but

562
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Speaker 2: also her cousin. By the way, as we know niggas

563
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:06,400
Speaker 2: being gay. Julius Caesar that's right. He was every woman's

564
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 2: man and every man's woman. Julius Caesar was hit with

565
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 2: both men and women. He was infamously known as every

566
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 2: woman's man and every man's woman. He often cross dressed

567
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 2: and participated in several queer activities, and was said to

568
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 2: have a wild sex life. That's right, and last one,

569
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:28,199
Speaker 2: this one's crazy.

570
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 1: I love it.

571
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 2: Bunny ears used to mean that you were cheating on

572
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:37,119
Speaker 2: your partner, so you know, when you know, you know,

573
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 2: when you're in a photo and you photo bomb someone

574
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 2: with bunny ears. So this might be cute and fun now, However,

575
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 2: the gesture back in the day represented the horns of

576
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 2: shame and actually meant that the person was cheating on

577
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:52,719
Speaker 2: their partner. What would it would be a way for

578
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 2: someone to come and be like this nigga cheating has

579
00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:58,880
Speaker 2: niggas and you got the film developed and the ship

580
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:01,959
Speaker 2: was like, oop that nigga.

581
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 1: Little bitch, I need to go back. It takes some

582
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 1: pictures me and Old Bay in Mexico with the bitchy heating.

583
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 2: It stop it? Oh was she out here like this?

584
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:12,480
Speaker 1: No? Probably behind you like yup, fucking with your nigga, Maggie,

585
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:15,679
Speaker 1: probably do that Bati kids his stop bro. You know

586
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 1: what's so crazy when I really sit and think about

587
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 1: that shit, Mandy, this punk asshole Maggie was really calling

588
00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 1: me trashy and ratchet when you're fucking uh huh some

589
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: nigga from across the way. That's fucking every bitch in

590
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 1: New York. And she know your husband with your trash

591
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: yet girl, and I saw text message where they were

592
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 1: supposed to go to Bali, but he canceled on her

593
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 1: because he fell in love with me, and she was like,

594
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 1: I wanna bring the GoPro. Simon bought it for me

595
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:46,000
Speaker 1: and the kids. Oh that's real trash, but you're a whore.

596
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 2: Horror might as well coming out of sea and speaking

597
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 2: of poor time for our wre Durner. I found this

598
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 2: on fatherly dot com and it's a tip I think

599
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 2: for both people, So let me know your thoughts on this.

600
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 2: A tip that I have to spice up and make

601
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 2: your sex life better is hanging out with your partner naked. Now,

602
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 2: I talk about how I used to go to the

603
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 2: nude beach and clearly sex clubs where of course you're naked,

604
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 2: but it says sure love that getting naked often operates

605
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 2: as a prerequisite for sex, but skin to skin contact

606
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 2: can also release oxytocin, a hormone associated with empathy, generosity,

607
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:29,120
Speaker 2: and orgasm. Nudity is often also linked to body confidence,

608
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 2: so one set he found that spending more time naked

609
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 2: can help increased body image, which I used to say

610
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:39,760
Speaker 2: as well self esteem and life satisfaction. So naturally, the

611
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 2: more comfortable we are with ourselves, the more comfortable we

612
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 2: will be with a partner, and that feat, small as

613
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 2: it may seem, will land you a lot more successful

614
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 2: sexual encounters. I agree with that, maybe watching Netflix naked

615
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 2: with your partner, maybe walking around the house. Don't motherfucking

616
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 2: cook bacon naked. I tried it.

617
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 1: It's dangerous.

618
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 2: It hurts. But maybe even just cooking scrambled eggs.

619
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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, no no. The apron naked is so hot.

620
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 1: The what listen? Then you ain't naked.

621
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 2: If you got an apron on, you hide in your

622
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 2: gut and ship. You need to enjoy your whole.

623
00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 1: Oh, don't cook like that. No no, scrambled eggs, don't

624
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 1: be popping. I can't make eggs, so I wouldn't avocado toes.

625
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 1: You wouldn't make it naked. That's real love maintenance. Okay,

626
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: that's cute.

627
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 2: You're gonna spread avocado on the toes.

628
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: Love maintenance.

629
00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 2: Oh here you go, go ahead and talk about how

630
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 2: great and gourmet your avocado toast is. Can't relate that

631
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 2: is that shit?

632
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:39,840
Speaker 1: Real simple?

633
00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 2: Spread that motherfucker on the toes. Put a little uh

634
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,880
Speaker 2: everything bago. Seasoning avocado toes is done. That's not how

635
00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:50,040
Speaker 2: mine goes. Oh you're making eggs and that's why come

636
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 2: back around.

637
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:53,920
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, no I don't. I I to the

638
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: cherry tomatoes and sliced it in the middle. Then I'll

639
00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 1: do the red onions.

640
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 2: I do what it and look almost like talk about

641
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 2: all the things we do for our niggas in a

642
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 2: great way, and they still cheat it on our asses.

643
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 2: I mean, this is why at this point, you know,

644
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 2: just the everything bagels season and hunts.

645
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 1: No, I mean you have to order me breakfast. But

646
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: I do think, like I think this is also like

647
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 1: a weird, very weird era of dating where I mean,

648
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 1: obviously every podcast you know lately it feels like we

649
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 1: come on here and talk about how nigga ain'e shit.

650
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 1: I almost have like kind of leaned into it.

651
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 2: Just the niggas ain't shit, kind of just like you

652
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 2: wouldn't look like to lean into niggas not being shit.

653
00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: Just having with expectations low Okay, not necessarily like of course,

654
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 1: intentional with dating, but not to the point where I'm

655
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: just like, I know I want family and children, but

656
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 1: I understand the dating landscape is probably like winning a lot.

657
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 2: Does lowering your expectations mean you lower your standards?

658
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 1: No, they don't correlate. No, My standards are my standards,

659
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 1: and if I had lower standards, I'd already be married

660
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: with kids. Okay, so my expectations are lowered in the

661
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 1: sense of I'm not necessarily being disappointed. Yeah, and I'm

662
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:06,920
Speaker 1: also not dating the same way that I used to.

663
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 1: I'm very good at focusing on one person at a time.

664
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 1: Now I kind of don't care for That's probably why

665
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 1: there are niggas blowing me up because I don't have

666
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: time to them because fucking other niggas. Also. I said

667
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 1: that to a man two nights ago, which I can

668
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: You said what to the man, and it's the man

669
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 1: that I'm most interested in?

670
00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 2: Okay, you said what though.

671
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 1: We were on the phone and I was like, I'm

672
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 1: starting to really just think we're not compatible and it

673
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: is the man I'm most interested in. He was like, oh,

674
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 1: I don't understand why. And I'm like, you told me

675
00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 1: that you've been seeing some or sleeping with someone. I'm like,

676
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 1: He's like, asked me if I had other partners, and

677
00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:47,360
Speaker 1: I told him about badd okay, and he told me

678
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 1: about someone he sleeps with more consistently than others. I

679
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 1: was like, how long has that been going on for?

680
00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 1: He said for a year. I was like, okay, how

681
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: does she feel out about it? And he's like, I

682
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: mean she came to me at one point and said

683
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 1: she want a commitment, but I told her like no.

684
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,360
Speaker 1: I was like, so basically she's sticking around because she's

685
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 1: waiting for you to get waiting. She's definitely waiting. He

686
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 1: told me, like you're on some like feminist shit where

687
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 1: you feel bad for her. And he was like, I'm

688
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 1: very clear was what I want and don't want.

689
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 2: From her, And so he just doesn't want to be

690
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 2: with her. And I was like, well, he's still entertaining her.

691
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,760
Speaker 2: I was like, but you realize like you're showing her that.

692
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 1: And I was like, I feel like what you're saying

693
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 1: is little immature, and he's like, I'm not being immature

694
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 1: at all. I think you're like worrying about something. He

695
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 1: didn't say it in rue with He didn't say like

696
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 1: that has nothing to do with you, but he basically

697
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:38,959
Speaker 1: mean like she way she feels shouldn't bother you. And

698
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: he's like, I've been clear. She knows I'm seeing other people.

699
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:45,479
Speaker 1: He's like, aren't you seeing other people? I was like, yeah,

700
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 1: but there's no man in my life that's like holding

701
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 1: on waiting for me. And I feel like from what.

702
00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:55,479
Speaker 2: You just said, she's waiting, but it's because you know

703
00:33:55,720 --> 00:34:00,080
Speaker 2: how women are, and we don't listen to niggas.

704
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 1: When they they tell us exactly what.

705
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 2: So to me, I wouldn't have empathy for that because

706
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 2: we so we do that, which is why with me dating,

707
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 2: And I said this on Patreon, I'm dating a little

708
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 2: bit more intentionally. If I talk to a man and

709
00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 2: he's not in a place or he's iner, like if

710
00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:19,919
Speaker 2: he is telling me something that I don't want, even

711
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:22,400
Speaker 2: on a sexual if I know that he can't keep

712
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:24,879
Speaker 2: up with my sex drop, I don't want to even waste.

713
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 1: So I started compating. I didn't feel like we were

714
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 1: compatible because of his interest in dating other people like polyamory.

715
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 2: Oh wait, he wants commitment with a lot of people at.

716
00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 1: Well, well he said that, like he enjoys that and

717
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 1: like she's cool. I said, well, I'm telling you this

718
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 1: right now, I'm not. You're not Polly right, I was like,

719
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:45,480
Speaker 1: or are you dating other people? I was like, So

720
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 1: if I ever for guys to a point where I

721
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 1: was very interested in you, this wouldn't be cool with me.

722
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:50,879
Speaker 1: So I don't really think this is gonna work out

723
00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 1: because I don't want to do this now.

724
00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 2: Is this because of the last relationship? Because I remember, like,

725
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 2: I guess you considered it open, which she used to

726
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 2: be like, oh no, I would want him to take

727
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 2: a girl on a date, like I wouldn't want want

728
00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 2: him to just fuck someone. So are you now saying,

729
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 2: moving forward you actually are seeking monogamy.

730
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've been saying that the last few hunts. Okay,

731
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:15,359
Speaker 1: Like I have my life structure to where, okay, at

732
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 1: some point I can spend more time in New York

733
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: or more time in La, right, Like, it just kind

734
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 1: of depends where I meet that person.

735
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:22,759
Speaker 2: And this means you're open as well then to a

736
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:25,280
Speaker 2: relationship where you no longer can play with women.

737
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I mean if that person was down for

738
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 1: the threesomes, great, But I mean, look, I'm gonna keep

739
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 1: it a bean right now.

740
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 2: I do two weeks on a bean, butter apins out.

741
00:35:36,719 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 2: I'm just black, just kind of like that's a Mexican.

742
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:43,120
Speaker 1: I keep my schedule down the middle because I think

743
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 1: it's fair and now I move my parents felt late,

744
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 1: But bitch, if I met a nigg in La, I'd

745
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 1: be like, Mandy, these are the three days we're gonna

746
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: be horrible that I can do. It wouldn't be like, hey,

747
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 1: I've got ten days. Pick right, I'm trying to you know,

748
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:54,280
Speaker 1: this is what I feel like. It's fair to everybody

749
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:56,359
Speaker 1: right now with bitch of Blackball and look, fuck all,

750
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 1: y'all home for real and you know what, shout out

751
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 1: to Brianda because we were hanging out last week. No,

752
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: she's not dead. I've been joking about that. Yo.

753
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 2: Someone just texted me about her and was like, Yo,

754
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 2: what happened, old girl?

755
00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:10,480
Speaker 1: She fell off to earth? She really did. She's just

756
00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:11,399
Speaker 1: got on lune like.

757
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 2: Well, I think like as podcasters, like a lot of

758
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,879
Speaker 2: people really enjoyed her pod and then it just yeah,

759
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:18,920
Speaker 2: I heard from the internet from everywhere.

760
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:22,399
Speaker 1: Honestly, I went, I did that. It felt really good

761
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 1: when I did it, so like I also get it

762
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 1: because she's like able to hold it out. No, we

763
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 1: were out, we were chicken, we were kicking it, but

764
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,000
Speaker 1: we were at brunch. I was like, girl, it's so

765
00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:31,439
Speaker 1: nice to spend the time with jujus, but I get

766
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 1: wiped it up. I'm done. She was like, yo. She

767
00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 1: was like, I hate when people act like their friends

768
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 1: owe them the world. Like if I get a man,

769
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 1: it's natural that I'm gonna have less time for you,

770
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 1: and I'm I think that I'm going through that right

771
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 1: now with a friend.

772
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 2: I look, the friendship has completely changed because of her

773
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 2: relationship and a party.

774
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:53,959
Speaker 1: Like herbility to bitch.

775
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 2: I ain't taught to her in months, and we used

776
00:36:56,080 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 2: to talk every day, and so I literally was just like, hey,

777
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:04,400
Speaker 2: so that she lives with them, no, and so to me,

778
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:07,359
Speaker 2: if that relationship ends, I want you to know you've

779
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 2: no longer created a safe space where I feel like

780
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 2: I can depend on you as a friend. The friendship

781
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 2: is ending, I actually will not be friends with anybody.

782
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 2: Our friendship will be demoted to association and you, I

783
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 2: won't show up for you anymore if you are the

784
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:25,360
Speaker 2: type of woman who completely disassociates when you got a nigga.

785
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm good. I'm not saying disassociated. I've always been

786
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:30,919
Speaker 1: on phone. Let's talk for a second.

787
00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 2: Let's let's say if the way you show up for

788
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 2: me as a person changes because you're in a relationship.

789
00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:41,040
Speaker 1: I how good showing up? Like in terms of if

790
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 1: she's not available to go out, how we.

791
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 2: Know how we communicate when I'm in your city, I

792
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 2: don't see you. I don't know about your life. Also,

793
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 2: if anybody.

794
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:52,440
Speaker 1: We follow each other clearly life, let's dig into that

795
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:53,439
Speaker 1: back because I don't like the thing.

796
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:57,719
Speaker 2: We haven't spoken in months. You see my thoughtful ass captions.

797
00:37:57,760 --> 00:38:00,880
Speaker 2: I'm going fucking through it emotionally. You knew the relationship

798
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 2: I was just in. You met him, you knew how

799
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 2: much I loved him, and you clearly see me going

800
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 2: through it like I'm clearly going through.

801
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:10,359
Speaker 1: It to all of my friends. She hasn't reached out

802
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 1: to you. She hasn't even checked on me my point.

803
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 2: So I'm like, oh no, because you got a nigga.

804
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 2: Oh no, So I told her. I told her we

805
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 2: recently talked, and I was like, yo, I want you

806
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 2: to know, like, I'm not going to bang with you.

807
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:25,400
Speaker 2: If this is how you continue showing up with this friendship,

808
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:28,399
Speaker 2: and if this relationship means this much to you, wish

809
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 2: you the best, but it is I no longer will

810
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 2: be available to you. She said, We do, like we

811
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 2: have to talk because there's a lot she's making it

812
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:36,280
Speaker 2: and I don't know if it's one of those where

813
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,480
Speaker 2: she's embarrassed by the relationship and it's just been trying

814
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 2: to make it work so hard because niggas embarrass you,

815
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:46,879
Speaker 2: and I know that as women we overshare such relationships. Sorry, well,

816
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 2: and I don't know if that's the case. I don't

817
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 2: know if he's been abusive. I found out after my

818
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 2: friends were in abusive relationships after the fact that they

819
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 2: were abusive because they were embarrassed by it.

820
00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:57,680
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of different reasons.

821
00:38:57,719 --> 00:38:58,959
Speaker 2: And I was like, well, I'd like to talk about

822
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 2: it because right now, from a selfish place, I don't

823
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 2: feel safe with you.

824
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:05,320
Speaker 1: I'm in a space where I could This is a

825
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 1: good topic because we've been talking about breakups. Okay, So

826
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,480
Speaker 1: here's a few things that I talked about with Brianda.

827
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:16,959
Speaker 1: I said, you know, I'm I'm a girl's girl where

828
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:19,279
Speaker 1: I like to share, and I want you to share

829
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: with me and feel comfortable enough. Right Like, I have

830
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 1: a friend in my life that I've always felt like

831
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 1: hate things for me. We don't have any mutual friends.

832
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 1: It's not like I could share her business, but like

833
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 1: she'll get emotional and stop, okay. And I called Brionda

834
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 1: one day and I was like, why does she do

835
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 1: this to me? Why did she get to this point

836
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 1: where she feels like but.

837
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 2: She may feel to me it may feel like you're

838
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 2: gonna judge her.

839
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 1: It's vulnerability, right, yeah, And I was like, but I can't.

840
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:47,319
Speaker 1: I can't do it, especially when I've shown myself. Right.

841
00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 1: It's very, very, very tough for me to feel like

842
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 1: I have a woman in my life that just can't

843
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:57,840
Speaker 1: or they're holding back. It's really really tough because with

844
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:01,319
Speaker 1: my guy friendships, I don't go there that much. So

845
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:04,279
Speaker 1: with my girls, I do write. So I was like

846
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,759
Speaker 1: that I don't like So when you just said not

847
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: knowing her life, it triggered me, yeah, because I was.

848
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,960
Speaker 2: Like, that's that's a problem for me, especially when you're

849
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 2: a friend that we literally talked every day, we traveled together,

850
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:18,720
Speaker 2: we made plans together, we did all these things together,

851
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 2: and then you got with this man and everything fucking changed.

852
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 2: That's hard, and it's it's been a relationship now. I

853
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:27,879
Speaker 2: think they may be at like the ten month mark

854
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:30,319
Speaker 2: or something, but I literally like had to tell her,

855
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 2: I said, that hurts me and I don't know what

856
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 2: this relationship looks like. But also the fact that I

857
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 2: feel like you haven't checked in on me and I

858
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 2: don't know anything about this partner. I don't know anything

859
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 2: about your life. For the last five months. That is

860
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 2: a problem for me. So and you might be demoted.

861
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 2: The friendship contract will be burnt. When I said that,

862
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 2: I expect less of their time. So've i said it

863
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 2: on Patreon.

864
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,840
Speaker 1: But basically I think about this trip I took to

865
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 1: Ebtha a lot with my friends because it was random.

866
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 1: It was three days. I was supposed to be in

867
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:00,920
Speaker 1: Europe for work. Oh you remember that, and then it

868
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:02,239
Speaker 1: was like it didn't work out. Then we all go,

869
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 1: we partied. There was a nigga that told me I

870
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 1: was outside because he saw me in Spain. He was like,

871
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 1: oh you out, you're doing this. You ain't got time

872
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:14,799
Speaker 1: for a nigga, And I was like, I'm time for

873
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:17,360
Speaker 1: a nigga. Like if you were my nigga, I probably

874
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:19,960
Speaker 1: wouldn't be on this trip valid or you would be

875
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 1: here with me. If any of the people on the

876
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 1: fucking trip I was on was not single, we wouldn't

877
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 1: have been together. We got a fucking huge villa with

878
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 1: three bedrooms and we had our own wings. Got back

879
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 1: together at the pool talk shit went back like do

880
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:35,720
Speaker 1: you understand I'm doing.

881
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:36,920
Speaker 2: This because I'm saying because I'm single.

882
00:41:37,040 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: Now, what I mean by that is the friendships that

883
00:41:39,760 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 1: I have now, while great and fruitful, bitch, am I

884
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 1: get a man?

885
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 2: I ain't going to even right ballid bro.

886
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 1: I've traveled with three of my homeboys this summer to

887
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:52,439
Speaker 1: Europe and fucking like a three times sorry with different friends,

888
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 1: just bouncing around like I'm not gonna be doing that shit.

889
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.

890
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 1: But when I was in Israel last summer and Alex

891
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 1: surprised me and we were like kicking it to I

892
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:03,360
Speaker 1: can't imagine if I had a nigga while I'm eleven

893
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:05,319
Speaker 1: PM watching TV with my own way and he's like,

894
00:42:05,640 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 1: what the fuck are you doing? Bitch? Things will change now.

895
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 1: I expect the same thing with my girlfriends, right like

896
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 1: I expect you of less time for me, and that's

897
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:17,920
Speaker 1: totally okay because we're all busy. I don't really have

898
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 1: a friend who ain't busy, So I do expect if

899
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:21,799
Speaker 1: you have some free time, don't take a trip to

900
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 1: your nigga for Labor Day, bitch, Why the fuck is

901
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:26,760
Speaker 1: you coming with me to mom talk? Why? Doesn't make sense?

902
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 1: But I think there does need to be a healthy balance.

903
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 1: I've definitely made mistakes when I was younger, not with obay,

904
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 1: but younger, younger where I was like, damn, I forgot

905
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 1: to like check on them or don't do this anybody.

906
00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 1: When you do call your friends, it's because you need them.

907
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 2: But that's my point. I because when you break up

908
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 2: with this nigga, I'm not gonna be here for you

909
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 2: to lean on. And I just said a verbada like

910
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 2: you haven't been here for me as a friend. So

911
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 2: like the safety net of our friendship no longer exists.

912
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:03,239
Speaker 2: If you can with a nigga and completely forget about ours,

913
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:06,879
Speaker 2: I would say, our responsibilities emotionally as friends to each other.

914
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 1: Now, can I ask you this without you feeling like

915
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 1: it's a mean question, but be honest, because we've all

916
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:24,400
Speaker 1: been there. Have you been someone that maybe is dumping

917
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:25,920
Speaker 1: too much or too sad to talk to?

918
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 2: No, I think I'm actually the friend that That's why

919
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 2: I said during your breakup, like, but that's why I

920
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 2: have a therapist. Okay, I know I dumped quite a bit.

921
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 2: I mean, on my show, this is y'all are on

922
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 2: the journey with me. I'm gonna share with y'all, but

923
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 2: with my friends.

924
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:44,280
Speaker 1: No, oh, you just do it to the listeners.

925
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, quite a bit to the listeners, But I

926
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 2: have a therapist, like I've been working through emotionally.

927
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 1: Okay, well, if you're not. When me and my.

928
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:53,160
Speaker 2: Friends talk, bitch, we'd be talking about the housing market,

929
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 2: work jobs, the blog shit. We love gossiping about the

930
00:43:57,600 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 2: blog shit.

931
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:02,520
Speaker 1: Me too. That's what me and my friends conversations.

932
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:06,880
Speaker 2: Aren't dumping really, Like literally, my friend is back in

933
00:44:06,920 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 2: the hospital, like running tests because we don't know what's happening,

934
00:44:10,280 --> 00:44:13,080
Speaker 2: if cancer is back or anything. Like my other friend

935
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:16,959
Speaker 2: has a fucking ice cream shop. Shout out to Cereal

936
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:20,360
Speaker 2: and Cream in Atlanta, So we literally talk about running businesses,

937
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 2: dealing with employees.

938
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 1: Like.

939
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 2: I love the conversations I have with my friends and

940
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 2: we oftentimes don't dump. I think that that's the great

941
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 2: thing we plan on this trip.

942
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 1: A lot of people. I'm not gonna do that Durana face.

943
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 2: And if you yourself, bitch, And that's why I told

944
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 2: you too, That's why I'm getting a sex and therapist coach.

945
00:44:37,080 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 2: I think that there's things my friends can't help me.

946
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 1: Vinnie told me that it was our only real fight,

947
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 1: and it was years ago when I lived in Orlando

948
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 1: and I was breaking up with the Latino dude that

949
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 1: like loved Jesus and he was like, girl, you do

950
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 1: not ask me about me? And I was like, oh

951
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 1: my god, and it's like it I'm telling you it

952
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 1: was eight years ago. It really was, and it literally

953
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:59,839
Speaker 1: has lasted this long because I can't. If I even

954
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:01,879
Speaker 1: need to call him, I'll tell him like, oh, talk

955
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: about you, and he's like, real, just talk because I

956
00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 1: really get scared to do that. You know what I'm saying, Like,

957
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to ever be that person. So if like,

958
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:11,400
Speaker 1: you know, you feel like you may be doing that

959
00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:11,839
Speaker 1: right now.

960
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,400
Speaker 2: No, I tell my friends all the time if you

961
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 2: don't want to hear this shit, cool, but I also

962
00:45:16,200 --> 00:45:17,959
Speaker 2: know not to. Like that's why I said, I'm getting

963
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 2: two people, two latest. I'm going to another lady to

964
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:22,840
Speaker 2: talk to because bitch bring.

965
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:25,239
Speaker 1: All the latest. They don't think about getting a male therapist.

966
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 2: I don't even trust them, niggas. I'm good.

967
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:33,040
Speaker 1: Nope, I'm saying like it's two the accounter balance maybe yeah.

968
00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 2: I mean right now, it's it's gonna it's my my

969
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:38,840
Speaker 2: therapist now is a black lady and the person that

970
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:42,200
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go to for sex and relationship coaching is

971
00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 2: also a black woman.

972
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 1: I have two different therapists. I have one when I

973
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:46,560
Speaker 1: want to be coddled and one when I want to

974
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 1: know what's going on my well.

975
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 2: I don't know how the sex and coach therapists will be.

976
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:54,319
Speaker 2: But she is a lifestylar and she did do a

977
00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:56,640
Speaker 2: year of celibacy, and the partner she has now she

978
00:45:56,760 --> 00:46:00,520
Speaker 2: found after her journey of celibacy. So to me, there's

979
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 2: just some relatability and maybe what my journey may look like.

980
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 1: Liz great to talk to celibacy about. I actually told

981
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: her recently. I was like, just fucking act on your body.

982
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 1: Just fucking do it. Fuck these niggas, well, not niggas,

983
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 1: because but you know what I mean.

984
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 2: I was like, just do it.

985
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:20,720
Speaker 1: And I remember thinking to myself, like damn, we're laughing

986
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:22,240
Speaker 1: about it on the phone and having a fun moment.

987
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:24,719
Speaker 1: She was like in London, traveling, but I was like, ooh,

988
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:27,920
Speaker 1: I wonder if that was triggering because she's really serious

989
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:30,520
Speaker 1: about her spirituality journey and her celigacy.

990
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 2: I want to apologize to that community too, because I

991
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 2: used to come on here and be like I'm celibate

992
00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 2: just because I was on some fun nigga shit at

993
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 2: the time, and then as soon as twenty four seven

994
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 2: or anybody hit my fucking phone, I hopped into the bed.

995
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:48,720
Speaker 2: So even using celibacy, wait, so are you? I cried

996
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 2: at the thought of a man touching my body. My

997
00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:54,400
Speaker 2: body is rejecting the idea of being intimate with a

998
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 2: guy right now, Like.

999
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 1: Can you masturbate? Oh? I do that. I'll tell y'all

1000
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 1: this I'm doing. I got pressing and stressy ones. Bitch,

1001
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 1: I watched porn masturbated and started crying.

1002
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:07,640
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean, there's luckily I watched like again, so

1003
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:11,360
Speaker 2: what I'm watching is not even getting me into the

1004
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 2: thought process of being with somebody, but I am.

1005
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 1: I am in a.

1006
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:20,719
Speaker 2: Space where I physically, bitch, I went into tears. My

1007
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 2: whole body like got tight. And that's where like I

1008
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:26,600
Speaker 2: even want to be on Like I'm like, oh Na,

1009
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:28,759
Speaker 2: this this shit is real and I need to get

1010
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 2: comfortable with what that means before I even trust the

1011
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 2: man to literally be inside of me again. Yeah, and

1012
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:38,160
Speaker 2: it's it's scary for me. I literally like was in

1013
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:40,319
Speaker 2: tears talking to my therapist. I let her know, bitch,

1014
00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 2: I'm getting somebody else to talk to because I don't

1015
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 2: think this is your space. But I was like bro

1016
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 2: to literally tighten up at the thought of a man

1017
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 2: touching He scared me. I said, oh nah, this is

1018
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 2: really about to be saying.

1019
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 1: When I floor therapy it was for physical abuse, but

1020
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:56,760
Speaker 1: this is emotional abuse.

1021
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 2: I know.

1022
00:47:57,000 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 1: I know it's crazy, because this is how sometimes our

1023
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 1: brain can work. I've maybe told this story on Horrible before,

1024
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 1: but just to reiterate, So, I had a guy that

1025
00:48:07,680 --> 00:48:11,160
Speaker 1: was abusing me and he took me to the gynecologist

1026
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:13,720
Speaker 1: and I didn't even realize how terrible of a person

1027
00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 1: he was that he was in the room with me

1028
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 1: when they were checking my vagina. Oh wow, and oh

1029
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 1: he was disgusting. And I was doing public flir therapy

1030
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 1: where I went twice a week and they put this

1031
00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 1: wand in you and does this butterfly effect, which is

1032
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 1: now interestingly enough known as something that can tighten your muscle.

1033
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:33,880
Speaker 1: It basically helps you work your kegel muscles. And so

1034
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:38,080
Speaker 1: everybody thought and I did too, and I didn't even

1035
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 1: realize it's because he was in the room that I

1036
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:43,800
Speaker 1: was tensing up because I was scared and I needed

1037
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:45,640
Speaker 1: to let go or there was some tension in my body,

1038
00:48:45,719 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 1: badge and dismiss whatever bitch cheated on him with a

1039
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 1: doorman put the door Money three, who was just always

1040
00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:54,959
Speaker 1: sweet to me and nice and we'd flirt and talk.

1041
00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 1: It was and I just had a little crush, right,

1042
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:02,280
Speaker 1: And so when the happened and I got excited about

1043
00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:05,160
Speaker 1: someone and started feeling good and safe and I had

1044
00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 1: sex with them, no issues. And I literally walked in

1045
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:11,400
Speaker 1: to the fucking doctor the next day. It was a

1046
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:13,239
Speaker 1: woman and Nursa was doing it every time, and I

1047
00:49:13,280 --> 00:49:15,200
Speaker 1: told her. I was like, I had text with someone

1048
00:49:15,239 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 1: else and not even that issue.

1049
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:17,200
Speaker 2: Wow.

1050
00:49:17,320 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 1: She said, well, I will do these so that he

1051
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 1: knows you're coming here and we can practice. She was like,

1052
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:25,080
Speaker 1: but this is therapy now.

1053
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 2: Like I mean, I'll say, like Fela Bay came over

1054
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:31,720
Speaker 2: the other day because we haven't seen each other in years,

1055
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:33,799
Speaker 2: and he came over the other day and we were

1056
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:36,239
Speaker 2: just watching Netflix and eating. He knows I'm celibate. He

1057
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 2: didn't even try me, thank god, but he just wanted

1058
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 2: me to lay on him, and his hand touching my

1059
00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:45,480
Speaker 2: knee made me feel really like. I was like, so

1060
00:49:45,520 --> 00:49:46,800
Speaker 2: I tried to lay a different way where I just

1061
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:48,759
Speaker 2: laid my legs over him, but I didn't want him

1062
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:50,760
Speaker 2: to touch me. And then it was really weird because

1063
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:52,799
Speaker 2: it wasn't a date. But I linked up with the

1064
00:49:52,800 --> 00:49:54,359
Speaker 2: twenty two year old and we just got drink.

1065
00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:55,640
Speaker 1: Who was the twenty two year old?

1066
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:57,920
Speaker 2: I gotta I got. That's gonna be his name for

1067
00:49:58,000 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 2: right now, the twenty.

1068
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:00,560
Speaker 1: Two year old. I don't even know where the source

1069
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:02,839
Speaker 1: of this well, you said what, I don't even know

1070
00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 1: how this person came about.

1071
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:06,480
Speaker 2: He's I've known him for a long time.

1072
00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:09,920
Speaker 1: Okay, And how long have you known him, buddy? I

1073
00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 1: know That's why I said. I said, I didn't even

1074
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:12,759
Speaker 1: gonna be able to know about how.

1075
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:14,360
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna say I've known him for.

1076
00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: A few years. He didn't know him at seventeen. No,

1077
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 1: I didn't know him at seventeen. Okay, I know him

1078
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:21,280
Speaker 1: right for a long time. I I knew him right before.

1079
00:50:21,080 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 2: He was going to college, though, uh so when he

1080
00:50:24,239 --> 00:50:24,800
Speaker 2: was eighteen.

1081
00:50:26,200 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 1: Anyway, we never talked.

1082
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 2: He always lived in a different state, his college was

1083
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:33,480
Speaker 2: in a different state. Then he got drafted, soa ballplayer,

1084
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:36,279
Speaker 2: of course, and anyway, he was in town and we

1085
00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:38,920
Speaker 2: went out and it was crazy because I told him.

1086
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:41,680
Speaker 2: He was like I was telling him about him celibate

1087
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:43,000
Speaker 2: and I was like, yeah, I just broke up. How

1088
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 2: long we all together?

1089
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 1: Three years?

1090
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:46,319
Speaker 2: He said, Nigga, he was in my phone while during

1091
00:50:46,440 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 2: the last four years, and I was like, nigga, step

1092
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 2: chat and we broke up thirteen times. But all those

1093
00:50:51,120 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 2: times I like ghosted you or didn't see you. When

1094
00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:54,840
Speaker 2: you came to town, I was back with him, and

1095
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 2: so he was like, okay, that makes sense. But literally

1096
00:50:57,239 --> 00:50:59,799
Speaker 2: I found myself because he was so easy to talk

1097
00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:02,120
Speaker 2: to me touching him, and I was like, oh, this

1098
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:04,239
Speaker 2: has been different because I have not wanted to So

1099
00:51:04,280 --> 00:51:06,479
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, maybe I just have to feel

1100
00:51:06,520 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 2: comfortable with somebody. And I was like, not a twenty

1101
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:09,680
Speaker 2: two year old.

1102
00:51:09,680 --> 00:51:12,920
Speaker 1: And also new experiences, and this is why sometimes spinning

1103
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: the block isn't always great. He might be right because

1104
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:18,759
Speaker 1: this is a new nigga, never met. New experiences give

1105
00:51:18,840 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 1: you a new Like spinning the block is easy when

1106
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 1: you just want dick.

1107
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 2: But when to know that we had do you need

1108
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 2: to get feeling even feeling baby was like, you know,

1109
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 2: if I ain't get locked up again, he was gonna

1110
00:51:30,600 --> 00:51:33,640
Speaker 2: be my bitch, right And so even knowing he still

1111
00:51:33,640 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 2: had he did bitch the one time I bitch he brought.

1112
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 2: I told you, like, this was the one time I

1113
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 2: actually cooked for him, and.

1114
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:44,080
Speaker 1: That nigga, if he wasn't that light, I might, you know.

1115
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:47,200
Speaker 2: So like to me, I was like, ooh, maybe even

1116
00:51:47,360 --> 00:51:50,560
Speaker 2: really like considering someone that's not in my roller dis

1117
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 2: is something that like, all of this is new. I

1118
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:55,719
Speaker 2: don't know how to navigate this shit, but I'm being

1119
00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:59,719
Speaker 2: very forthright. Sex is not gonna happen anytime soon. It

1120
00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 2: is because you're okay with that. I was like, let's

1121
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:04,440
Speaker 2: do ax throwing, Let's go to Dave and Busters.

1122
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 1: Like bro, let me just tell you. I googled the

1123
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 1: other day things to do that aren't a comedy club,

1124
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 1: and here's why. Okay. I have been going on dates

1125
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:15,920
Speaker 1: to places that I frequent or just places that like

1126
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:18,200
Speaker 1: I don't want to take nobody to my frequently, not

1127
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:21,480
Speaker 1: like frequent, but like a like a place that I

1128
00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:24,520
Speaker 1: know is like an easy place to go. Okay, so

1129
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:26,400
Speaker 1: it'll be one of the sozial houses or like a

1130
00:52:26,480 --> 00:52:29,600
Speaker 1: last lap sometimes like or even in La. Maybe I'm

1131
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:32,200
Speaker 1: doing the same shit and I'm realizing when I'm going

1132
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 1: out with new niggas that may not even know have

1133
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:37,879
Speaker 1: a podcast. Oh, I'm running into fans. Yes?

1134
00:52:38,400 --> 00:52:39,280
Speaker 2: Is that a problem?

1135
00:52:39,920 --> 00:52:45,240
Speaker 1: I mean okay, And I don't want this to stop

1136
00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:47,719
Speaker 1: anyone from saying hello to me, because I want you

1137
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:51,920
Speaker 1: to understand that, as someone that was a huge fan,

1138
00:52:51,960 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 1: I always talk about Bodega boys. I can't imagine running

1139
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 1: into my favorite podcaster and not being able to say

1140
00:52:57,160 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: what's up. I'm not bothered at that. I'm just starting

1141
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 1: to realize, like, oh, like this is the thing that

1142
00:53:02,960 --> 00:53:06,719
Speaker 1: happens when you're dating someone new. Now I'm seeing you

1143
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: experience wheezy wheezy when you ain't know you were going

1144
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:11,239
Speaker 1: out with weezy. Yeah.

1145
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:12,799
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm not gonna lie. I told the twenty two

1146
00:53:12,840 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 2: year old because we talked about the mixy places and

1147
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 2: he brought up her goola and I said, nigga, I

1148
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:20,680
Speaker 2: don't want to be seen out with you yet.

1149
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 1: I don't know you like that you don't know me.

1150
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:24,760
Speaker 2: But also I don't want people to see us together

1151
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:27,759
Speaker 2: like he's somebody, and so I'm like, oh no, I

1152
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 2: don't need to be connected to you yet. Let's make

1153
00:53:29,560 --> 00:53:31,360
Speaker 2: sure we vibe with each other. So we went to

1154
00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:33,800
Speaker 2: a very low key bar. It was all white people

1155
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 2: in that bitch and that shit. It comes to me

1156
00:53:36,520 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 2: that and had drinks. Nobody knew me, but I let

1157
00:53:38,719 --> 00:53:41,160
Speaker 2: him know. No nig niggas know me, and so I

1158
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:42,759
Speaker 2: need to make sure you're not gonna be and I

1159
00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:44,600
Speaker 2: went to for people to see you with me.

1160
00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:46,120
Speaker 1: I went to a place y'all gotta go here. It's

1161
00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 1: called Cadence. It's a vegan soul food restaurant on seven okay,

1162
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:52,200
Speaker 1: dann I'm not vegan. Went there.

1163
00:53:52,239 --> 00:53:54,600
Speaker 2: We were good bitch the season that bitch up right.

1164
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 1: I had the crab fake crab cake. I don't know,

1165
00:53:57,040 --> 00:53:59,839
Speaker 1: but anyway, went there on the first date with nothing

1166
00:53:59,880 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 1: for sorry. It was a third date. I went on

1167
00:54:01,600 --> 00:54:04,400
Speaker 1: a date with the dude the first night and it

1168
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 1: was a great date. I went back because the food

1169
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 1: was so good. The bartender told me she listens to

1170
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:13,000
Speaker 1: horrible shout out to you if you're there, okay, and

1171
00:54:13,040 --> 00:54:16,319
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god. I saw her last

1172
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 1: night and she didn't say anything to me, which is cool, right,

1173
00:54:19,239 --> 00:54:22,879
Speaker 1: But I was like, damn, you never fucking know, bit

1174
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:25,799
Speaker 1: you don't, And I what if I'm sitting there maybe

1175
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:28,320
Speaker 1: ain't and they're like, oh, I don't do that anymore.

1176
00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 2: But I mean, I don't talk shit about you. I

1177
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:31,799
Speaker 2: don't talk shit about.

1178
00:54:31,800 --> 00:54:33,839
Speaker 1: Anybody, like even anything in my life.

1179
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:36,319
Speaker 2: If I get into an uber and they black, I

1180
00:54:36,320 --> 00:54:39,959
Speaker 2: won't talk, I swear to god, I'm not saying shit.

1181
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:42,160
Speaker 2: The only time I even talk to my friends in

1182
00:54:42,200 --> 00:54:45,320
Speaker 2: an uber is if I see the uber is written

1183
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:48,799
Speaker 2: all in Mandarin Chinese and they don't speak English, or

1184
00:54:48,840 --> 00:54:49,800
Speaker 2: it's like an old.

1185
00:54:49,680 --> 00:54:52,200
Speaker 1: That's not true, bitch. We had a motherfucking Uber driver

1186
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:54,359
Speaker 1: in Dallas and Mandy was giving it uh.

1187
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:56,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I knew he wasn't a fan like I

1188
00:54:56,560 --> 00:54:58,800
Speaker 2: was giving it up. But like when I'm by myself,

1189
00:54:58,840 --> 00:55:00,319
Speaker 2: I ain't gonn talk shit about nobody. I could talk

1190
00:55:00,320 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 2: shit about my ex. That's why I was talking.

1191
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:04,919
Speaker 1: Let me tell you how real is about talking shit.

1192
00:55:05,520 --> 00:55:08,080
Speaker 1: Me and Alex were talking. We weren't even talking shit, actually,

1193
00:55:08,160 --> 00:55:10,919
Speaker 1: and I'm not just saying that because we're recording right now.

1194
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:14,239
Speaker 1: We were talking about the just hilarious ship. He was

1195
00:55:14,239 --> 00:55:16,719
Speaker 1: in its prime, right and he was like yo, and

1196
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:17,920
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, she hasn't been on

1197
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:19,959
Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Do you think that I heard won't

1198
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:23,560
Speaker 1: Wanner and that he's talking to me and he's giving

1199
00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 1: me his opinions. And Alex was very pro like this

1200
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:29,120
Speaker 1: wasn't a good video, like I don't like what I

1201
00:55:29,160 --> 00:55:31,319
Speaker 1: just saw. But then we were out and I remember

1202
00:55:31,360 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 1: he was.

1203
00:55:31,600 --> 00:55:36,000
Speaker 2: Like, no, literally, you can't talk about because they it's

1204
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:39,359
Speaker 2: gonna make someone think, yo, yeah, they don't relieve they

1205
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:42,399
Speaker 2: know you. We've definitely rocked with Jess. You can't talk

1206
00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 2: about nobody. You didn't even have an opinion about nobody more.

1207
00:55:46,160 --> 00:55:47,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't. You just can't.

1208
00:55:47,400 --> 00:55:49,920
Speaker 2: It's tough have it in your mind, talk about it

1209
00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 2: in your with your fish that.

1210
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 1: They gonna take it.

1211
00:55:51,680 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you, you know how bare and know

1212
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:57,240
Speaker 2: what I be, bitch, I will be talking about somebody

1213
00:55:57,480 --> 00:55:59,200
Speaker 2: and I'll be opening my hallway door just to see

1214
00:55:59,200 --> 00:55:59,960
Speaker 2: if anybody can hear me.

1215
00:56:00,320 --> 00:56:02,479
Speaker 1: Y'all be doing that ship like.

1216
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 2: Let me make sure that nigga ain't outside my door.

1217
00:56:07,080 --> 00:56:10,359
Speaker 1: That the people don't even live. Some times, the last

1218
00:56:10,360 --> 00:56:12,520
Speaker 1: time I talked some good ship like that, let me

1219
00:56:12,520 --> 00:56:14,160
Speaker 1: make sure I can't. When I had a woman, a

1220
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 1: woman called girl, Oh bitch, I'll open my motherfucking hallway

1221
00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:21,800
Speaker 1: twice like this fuck nigga because I had just blocked it. Okay,

1222
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:24,400
Speaker 1: many has a homemail that she always get to.

1223
00:56:24,719 --> 00:56:27,760
Speaker 2: We will get to vanilla shit another time. But clearly

1224
00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:30,120
Speaker 2: we we talked about it. Oh, I wasn't even gonna

1225
00:56:30,280 --> 00:56:31,919
Speaker 2: get to it, even the homemail. I was just gonna

1226
00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 2: be like, y'all send a homemail in but you want

1227
00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:35,280
Speaker 2: to get through it, we'll.

1228
00:56:35,080 --> 00:56:35,520
Speaker 1: Get to it.

1229
00:56:35,680 --> 00:56:39,120
Speaker 2: Okay, homemail guys, we need more homemail, so make sure

1230
00:56:39,239 --> 00:56:44,480
Speaker 2: you email us your sex or dating or relationship questions

1231
00:56:44,760 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 2: so we can provide you with some advice. Please this

1232
00:56:47,680 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 2: one's send it to Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Please,

1233
00:56:51,960 --> 00:56:54,319
Speaker 2: this says high ladies. I'm a year and a half

1234
00:56:54,440 --> 00:56:59,000
Speaker 2: out of a fifteen year relationship. Bit y'all can't even imagine.

1235
00:56:59,239 --> 00:57:01,040
Speaker 2: I won't go into do you tell about the breakup?

1236
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:03,000
Speaker 2: But long story short, the nigga was a serial cheater,

1237
00:57:03,040 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 2: aren't they all. But we have a kid, so we

1238
00:57:06,040 --> 00:57:09,879
Speaker 2: have a solid co parenting relationship. I sometimes think about

1239
00:57:09,960 --> 00:57:12,319
Speaker 2: hitting him up just for sex, but I don't know

1240
00:57:12,360 --> 00:57:15,280
Speaker 2: if he can handle that without catching feelings. And truthfully,

1241
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:17,920
Speaker 2: after all I put up with him, he doesn't deserve

1242
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 2: to even taste my pussy again. I realized recently that

1243
00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 2: I haven't had much sexual experience outside of him, But

1244
00:57:25,560 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 2: I'm ready to explore sex. In my thirties, I haven't

1245
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 2: had any partners, and I wouldn't say I've had great

1246
00:57:31,120 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 2: sex with partners really outside of my ex. I just

1247
00:57:34,080 --> 00:57:37,480
Speaker 2: want to have new and fun sexual experiences where a

1248
00:57:37,520 --> 00:57:39,919
Speaker 2: man can teach me new things in the bedroom while

1249
00:57:39,960 --> 00:57:42,720
Speaker 2: getting good dick. But I don't know where to find him.

1250
00:57:43,080 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 2: I'm so out of the game. I don't know how

1251
00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 2: to do this. I've been on a few dates, they

1252
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:51,360
Speaker 2: have gone nowhere. How do I get out there and

1253
00:57:51,400 --> 00:57:54,640
Speaker 2: explore I'm not a fan of dating apps because they

1254
00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:57,439
Speaker 2: haven't led anywhere. I think I'm cute, but I don't

1255
00:57:57,440 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 2: often get approached by men. Where do I find a

1256
00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:03,600
Speaker 2: man who will dick me down and help me explore

1257
00:58:03,600 --> 00:58:05,120
Speaker 2: my sexuality.

1258
00:58:04,680 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 1: In a new and empowering way.

1259
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:09,360
Speaker 2: She help me get laid, Thanks ladies, sign a sexually

1260
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:10,800
Speaker 2: frustrated woman in her thirties.

1261
00:58:10,880 --> 00:58:11,640
Speaker 1: She sent her pic.

1262
00:58:11,840 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 2: I mean my myt and this is just because niggas

1263
00:58:15,840 --> 00:58:18,000
Speaker 2: don't come up to you. Girl, Well, no to me

1264
00:58:18,720 --> 00:58:22,480
Speaker 2: if you want dick and a sexually empowering experience with

1265
00:58:22,600 --> 00:58:25,160
Speaker 2: someone who's a bit more experienced with you. But you

1266
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 2: don't like dating apps. This is gonna seem like I'm

1267
00:58:27,520 --> 00:58:30,520
Speaker 2: telling you to jump into jump off a clip with it,

1268
00:58:31,040 --> 00:58:34,720
Speaker 2: but the sex club. And I say that because it's

1269
00:58:34,760 --> 00:58:37,680
Speaker 2: where you can actually like a lot of the I

1270
00:58:37,720 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 2: don't know where she lives. She didn't put where she can.

1271
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:41,280
Speaker 1: I just say what. I just had to come to

1272
00:58:41,320 --> 00:58:44,120
Speaker 1: my mind. Okay, sorry, I got add and I have

1273
00:58:44,160 --> 00:58:47,040
Speaker 1: to pee, so now it's jumbled. I saw her picture

1274
00:58:47,080 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 1: and I was like, she is cute. I think we

1275
00:58:49,240 --> 00:58:51,960
Speaker 1: need to match people up on her Instagram. I think

1276
00:58:51,960 --> 00:58:54,800
Speaker 1: we should get consent, have people send it in their

1277
00:58:54,840 --> 00:58:57,080
Speaker 1: picks and fucking put them out there. Be up to

1278
00:58:57,120 --> 00:58:58,080
Speaker 1: the walls, niggas.

1279
00:58:58,720 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 2: Let's start doing it. I don't know if I want

1280
00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:01,760
Speaker 2: the responsibility, but you're more than listen.

1281
00:59:01,840 --> 00:59:04,320
Speaker 1: Every podcast takes should we do anyway? And so might

1282
00:59:04,360 --> 00:59:06,160
Speaker 1: as well try something new so they could steal that too.

1283
00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:09,120
Speaker 2: That could be cool. I mean it sounds like work,

1284
00:59:09,280 --> 00:59:10,680
Speaker 2: so uh, you know.

1285
00:59:10,880 --> 00:59:12,760
Speaker 1: If it's just a pick, we already have a social

1286
00:59:12,760 --> 00:59:15,760
Speaker 1: media manager. Post a picture, give us some facts about you,

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Speaker 1: and niggles will slide in your DMS, I say, we

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Speaker 1: do it. Instagram to me is like a dating app,

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Speaker 1: though it is. Yeah, And she says she doesn't like

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Speaker 1: meeting guys on dating app Yeah, because she has to

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Speaker 1: put in fucking work.

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Speaker 2: Well, that's why I like to me, it's a little

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Speaker 2: less work at a sex club personally true.

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Speaker 1: But also and I think I think we about to

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Speaker 1: start this by the time y'all hear, does I mean

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Speaker 1: I'm down to do that? I do think it's hard

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Speaker 1: as well.

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Speaker 2: Like I guess out, the gate in the caption has

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Speaker 2: to be like things she's curious about and wants to explore,

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Speaker 2: because she clearly said yes, she wants to meet a

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Speaker 2: guy who can teach her some things in the bedroom.

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Speaker 1: I was in an article of Or It was when

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Speaker 1: we first started the podcast. I was in Time Out magazine.

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Speaker 1: Tianna just found it for me. I was in a

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Speaker 1: section called the Unbatable and they set me up on

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Speaker 1: a date with someone. Oh my god. I'm thirty tw

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Speaker 1: years old. Gila twenty five, account exact for a telecommunications

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Speaker 1: firm living in midtown West. Why is she single? Doesn't

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Speaker 1: often meet people? She connects with them might be picky.

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Speaker 1: Ideal date bitch, don't change up dinner at a hip

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Speaker 1: meatpacking restaurant then drinks at a dive bar. I've always

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Speaker 1: been that girl, And now basically I think we could

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Speaker 1: do something like this for people because the difficult thing

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Speaker 1: about dating apps is you're swiping. It's difficult. Then you

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Speaker 1: got to make the connection, then you got to meet.

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Speaker 1: It's like a lot of like back and forth. What

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Speaker 1: do you like? What are you're not like? Sometimes it

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Speaker 1: feels great to just beat what's the word I'm looking for?

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Speaker 1: What was the one I wanted? A few weeks ago,

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Speaker 1: Cat called Oh no No. That was basically just having someone

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Speaker 1: like come to you and be intentional. You want someone

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Speaker 1: to pursue you. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, bitch, you want to be pursued. You don't want

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Speaker 2: it to seem like you're begging for the attention of man.

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Speaker 2: You want a man to beat, take an initiative and

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Speaker 2: really show that.

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Speaker 1: He wants you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's not just the small talk. I realized

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Speaker 2: I don't like small talk. So even I realized with

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Speaker 2: the twenty two year old, he was like, ooh no.

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Speaker 2: Not three days later and I realized, I said, I'm

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Speaker 2: really bad with communication. I'm sorry that you feel like

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Speaker 2: I took three days to see you when I know

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Speaker 2: we wanted Sunday and I waited till Tuesday to see you,

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Speaker 2: so and I was like, oh dang, he really felt

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Speaker 2: away and he voiced it. So it was like my

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Speaker 2: back for that because I really do want to see you.

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Speaker 2: So we might see each other again tonight.

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Speaker 1: That's great. Look at my dates.

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Speaker 2: But I wake him even saying like dang, like I

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Speaker 2: hate that you like not three days later? That was

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Speaker 2: kind of fucked up?

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Speaker 1: Did you?

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Speaker 2: And I was like, that's really my bad. And I

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Speaker 2: shared him my calendar, my schedule. I said, I had

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Speaker 2: just gotten back from Greece. I was really tired. I

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Speaker 2: was jet lagged, and how much.

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Speaker 1: Twenty two year old look like a girl? Tighty't gonna

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Speaker 1: hold you, I said, man, he looked twenty two. I

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Speaker 1: talked on to his face. I said, you know, little

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Speaker 1: Instagram may really do you justice, nigga.

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Speaker 2: You cute, which I look cute day like his brown

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Speaker 2: eyes or beautiful, and I was just like, are you cute?

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Speaker 1: We about to do Hottie of the Week. I'll know

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Speaker 1: what I'm gonna call it. We're gonna call it something

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Speaker 1: ad a week, and I'm gonna put your money, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Let me just get some dick okay, and niggas and listen.

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Speaker 2: But the niggas that also are having a hard time

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Speaker 2: finding like minded, freaky ass women, nigga come to a

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Speaker 2: Horrible Decisions live show. Go to horror hive dot com.

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Speaker 2: You could bring a homeboy, you could come as a

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Speaker 2: single man well seg but you will find your community

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Speaker 2: and you will find some single girls looking to have

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Speaker 2: some fun after in for the long haul. Okay, So

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Speaker 2: going over to horre hive dot com, get your tickets now.

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Speaker 2: We are hitting up Orlando, we are hitting Atlanta. Charlotte

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Speaker 2: is sold out, but for people that maybe won't be

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Speaker 2: able to attend, we'll make sure that it's available on

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Speaker 2: our Instagram Horrible Underscore Decisions where we can kind of

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Speaker 2: let y'all share if you're selling.

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Speaker 1: For any sold out shows upcoming. I think Orlando's probably

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Speaker 1: in Atlanta will fill out. We're gonna do the same

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Speaker 1: thing where you guys can do a ticket and change

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Speaker 1: instead of like buying, possibly if they.

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Speaker 2: Look and see if there's any tickets available in those cities.

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Speaker 2: But also, you're in London on October the twenty eighth,

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Speaker 2: so London, UK if you missed the show back on

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Speaker 2: Valentine's Day or if you have the work the next day.

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Speaker 2: Because our last show in London was on a Tuesday,

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Speaker 2: this show was on a Saturday, you could sleep in,

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Speaker 2: you can fuck right after.

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Speaker 1: It's fucking crazy.

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Speaker 2: We get in lit with the Halloween costumes, so the

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Speaker 2: sluts are gonna be slutting. Okay, So again, go to

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Speaker 2: horor hid dot com and get your tickets now. Thank

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Speaker 2: you guys so much. Also join our patreon at patreon

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Speaker 2: dot com backslash Horrible Decisions. Thank you guys so much

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Speaker 2: again for listening to yet another episode of Horrible Decisions.

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Speaker 1: Bye bye