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Speaker 1: The Michael Barry Show.

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Speaker 2: I'm indeed humbled and honored to be awarded a doctor's

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Speaker 2: degree from such an outstanding university. I say that from

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Speaker 2: the botto of my heart. I was born in Follsby,

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Speaker 2: familiar with stut Bill. Nineteen fifty a friend of mine

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Speaker 2: from follows me named Gino Kotroki played basketball, and that's

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Speaker 2: when I first started following this fine university. I'm humbled

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Speaker 2: by receiving this degree. Obviously you didn't check my high

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Speaker 2: school rank before you decided to do it. I did

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Speaker 2: the lower third of my high school class. If it

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Speaker 2: was not for people like me, that could have been

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Speaker 2: no upper half the class. So now, if you happen

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Speaker 2: Loo holds, you made a mistake. I want to talk

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Speaker 2: to the younger women, men and women here. I'm not

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Speaker 2: gonna appreciate it. I'm not going to lecture to you.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to talk about things I believe and the

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Speaker 2: experiences I shared. I'm not going to talk about something

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Speaker 2: I read about or heard about. These are things I

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Speaker 2: believe and understand. This. I've been twenty one, you've never

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Speaker 2: been seventy eight. So no, ten percent of you, I

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Speaker 2: say ten percent of you won't remember ten percent of

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Speaker 2: would have said ten minutes after a cent, but for

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Speaker 2: the next seventeen minutes. I just want to share things

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Speaker 2: with you. You know how fortunate you are to be

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Speaker 2: in a great Catholic university to be able to share

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Speaker 2: your faith in God. Don't ever lose that. There'll be

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Speaker 2: a tendency to get away from it. We all have

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Speaker 2: a tendency to think we can do things on our own.

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Speaker 2: If you want to make God laugh, you tell them

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Speaker 2: what your plans are. I want to tell you. I

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Speaker 2: can't begin to tell you how many times I prayed

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Speaker 2: when Michigan had the ball in our four yard life.

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Speaker 2: Oh God, you stop, I'm going to change my life.

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Speaker 2: It's like the guy that was going to on a

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Speaker 2: important meeting he couldn't find a parking place. He kept

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Speaker 2: He said, God, if you find me a parking place,

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Speaker 2: I'll go to church every day, every Sunday the rest

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Speaker 2: of my life. I would not drink any alcohol the

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Speaker 2: rest of my life and just then miraculously a parking

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Speaker 2: spot opened up. He looked up at heaven. He said,

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Speaker 2: have that. You know. I have a strong faith in God,

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Speaker 2: and I don't know how people live without it. I

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Speaker 2: remember we played Miami of Florida. That was a great

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Speaker 2: game where it was titled to Catholics versus a Convict.

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Speaker 2: I really didn't like it. I thought that was totally

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Speaker 2: unfair because not all our team was Catholic. But we

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Speaker 2: have this big lunch and three thousand people. I go

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Speaker 2: in and the father gets up and he says, before

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Speaker 2: I give him vacation, coach, Holdso I want you to know.

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Speaker 2: I'm a I'm a priest. I'm the team chaplain of

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Speaker 2: Miami football team. We came up here to beat you,

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Speaker 2: and I want you to know God doesn't care who

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Speaker 2: wins this game. Whenever turn came my turn to talk,

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Speaker 2: I get up and said, I agree with your father.

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Speaker 2: God doesn't care who wins a game. But I want

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Speaker 2: to promise you as mother does. So well. See life

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Speaker 2: doesn't have to be complicated. We complicate life. I'm going

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Speaker 2: to make five assumptions about the people in this audience

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Speaker 2: I'm going to assume you want to be successful professionally.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to assume you want to have a good

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Speaker 2: personal life. I'm going to assume that you want to

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Speaker 2: feel needed. Now, I'm going to assume you want to

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Speaker 2: feel secure about your future. The fifth assumption I'm going

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Speaker 2: to make is you want to go to heaven. Now,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to give you a simple plan how to

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Speaker 2: do all five because you don't have to sacrifice your

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Speaker 2: religious life, your personal life in order to avess professionally.

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Speaker 2: It all work together, and don't complicate it. I try

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Speaker 2: to keep life simple. Do you realize there are only

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Speaker 2: seven killers of the Rainbow, only seven. Look what Michelangelo

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Speaker 2: did with those seven killers. There's only seven musical notes.

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Speaker 2: Look what Betobin did with those seven notes. There's only

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Speaker 2: The point I make it doesn't have to be complicated. See,

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Speaker 2: you need four things in your life. If you don't

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Speaker 2: have any of these four things in your life, you're

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Speaker 2: gonna have a tremendous void. See, everybody needs something to do.

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Speaker 2: Number two, everybody needs someone to love. Number three, everybody

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Speaker 2: needs someone to believe it In my case is Jesus Christ,

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Speaker 2: our Lord and Savior. But the fourth thing you need

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Speaker 2: in your life is you need something to hope for.

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Speaker 2: What do you want to do having hopes and dreams

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Speaker 2: dumb things. But let me tell you one thing I regret.

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Speaker 2: We went the university know the name. We took a

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Speaker 2: and for nine straight years we went to a January

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Speaker 2: one bowl of sugar that caught in the origins of

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Speaker 2: the fist. And nobody's done it before. Nobody's done it

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Speaker 2: since we put it on top, and we maintained it.

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Speaker 2: That's the thing I regret the most. See, there's a

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Speaker 2: real life. But did you're either growing or you're dying.

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Speaker 2: The trees either growing or it's dying. Soo's grass. Those

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Speaker 2: a marriage, there's a business, there's a person doesn't have

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Speaker 2: a thing to do with age. My birthday candles cost

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Speaker 2: more in the cake. But as every day to do,

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Speaker 2: am I trying to get better? My trying to prove

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Speaker 2: We got on top and say you know this pretty

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Speaker 2: good let's maintain it does not take any risk. We

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Speaker 2: finished second of the country at Notre Dame. Everybody called

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Speaker 2: me an idiot guy finished his last in medical school.

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Speaker 2: They call him doctor. That doesn't seem fair. When I

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Speaker 2: left Notre Dame, I never thought i'd coach again. Where'd

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Speaker 2: you go from Notre Dame? According to my mother, and

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Speaker 2: go directly? And haven't you sit by the pope? You

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Speaker 2: don't coach anymore. And then I went to live in

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Speaker 2: a town where the average age was deceased, and when

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Speaker 2: I found out a one target coach. You have to

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Speaker 2: have something to hope for, something to dream, and even

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Speaker 2: though you've done great things so far, what's going to

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Speaker 2: happen now? I want to give you a simple plan,

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Speaker 2: so maybe you'd have follow those five assumptions. This is

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Speaker 2: not somebody talk about. It's something I believe and it works,

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Speaker 2: and I wish I had learned it when I was

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Speaker 2: twenty one. There's only three rules you have to follow.

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Speaker 2: You know, we have all kinds of laws, federal laws,

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Speaker 2: laws and outlaws. Well they need three laws. Law number one,

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Speaker 2: do what right, do what's right, and avoid what's wrong.

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Speaker 2: If you have any doubt, get out the Bible. I

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Speaker 2: do not think it's right to find a teammates walllot

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Speaker 2: before he lost it, see as called Steven's son. I

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Speaker 2: found it, but he hadn't lost it yet. All I understand,

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Speaker 2: just do what's right. There's never a right time to

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Speaker 2: to do the right thing. Just do what's right. I

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Speaker 2: think it's right beyond it's right beyond time. I think

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Speaker 2: it's wrong to practice sections embraces spouse abuse. I think

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Speaker 2: it's wrong to be bitter. We've all had injustices done

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Speaker 2: by society, by a spouse, by a professor. Do respect professors.

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Speaker 2: I've preferred of my own. But you know what, don't

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Speaker 2: go through life where you're being bitter, where you pass away,

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Speaker 2: your spouse has to hire six ballbearers because you don't

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Speaker 2: have friends. Just do the I think it's also right

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Speaker 2: to have an excellent, positive attitude, seelane gentlemen, and joy life,

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Speaker 2: have fun. You're gonna have problems. You're gonna have difficulties.

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Speaker 2: That's part of life. Because you're graduating doesn't mean you

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Speaker 2: Do you know that ninety percent of people don't care

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Speaker 2: and the other ten percent are glad you got him,

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Speaker 2: So you're better off keeping there's outject. You're gonna have problems,

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Speaker 2: but have fun with what you're doing. People's ain't a

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Speaker 2: Jeff funding the ESPN. Not really. I was up there

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Speaker 2: in Bristol, Connecticut, which was fifteen minutes from Hartford by telephone,

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Speaker 2: and I'm on there with a guy named Mark May.

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Speaker 2: Now I love Mark May, beautiful guy, but we have

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Speaker 2: a different opinion. He was a player as a coach.

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Speaker 2: He made suggested I made decisions. He showered after work.

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Speaker 2: I showered before work. He signed a paycheck on the back.

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Speaker 2: I signed it on the front. You know, just different opinion.

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Speaker 2: But you know what, when they turned the red light on,

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Speaker 2: I was gonna have fun. If you have fun doing

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Speaker 2: some people have fun being around. Every day I walked

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Speaker 2: out on football field. First thing. I said, Boy, what

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Speaker 2: a great day to work. And I'm in it because

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Speaker 2: if you have fun being there, people have fun being around.

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Speaker 2: Doesn't mean I don't do dumb thing And sometimes I

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Speaker 2: wasn't real honest. One time me says I'm about my

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Speaker 2: golf game. I said, I want you to know I'm

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Speaker 2: the best golfer at Lake Nona. Well, Late Nona, we

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Speaker 2: You lied on TV. I said, let me tell you something.

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Speaker 2: Three hundred members know I lied. Three hundred million people

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Speaker 2: think I'm a hell of a golfer. So I like

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Speaker 2: a percentage, but just do what's right and don't let

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Speaker 2: people tear you down. Don't let people. Many years ago,

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Speaker 2: four children. They're all girls but two and I'm real

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Speaker 2: that fact. And we're getting ready to play or we're

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Speaker 2: go out to dinner. The waiter came up and he

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Speaker 2: recognized me, said your new holds head coach of Notre Dame,

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Speaker 2: are you And I said yes, sir. Now I got

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Speaker 2: let me ask you a question. He said, what's the

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Speaker 2: difference between Notre Dame cheerios. I said, I don't have

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Speaker 2: Dame doesn't. Now these are absolutely truths. It made me mad,

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Speaker 2: got me a bad mood. And my wife said, you're

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Speaker 2: let a brule the evening because something stupid, he said.

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Speaker 2: And she's right. Don't let other people control your attitude.

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Speaker 2: That's you. I felt so good. A little bit later,

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Speaker 2: I called a way to back over and I said, so,

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Speaker 2: low holds the golf pro He said, I don't have

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Speaker 2: he found out when the meal was over. Just do

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Speaker 2: what's right. Rule number two. Do everything to the best

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Speaker 2: not all of us be all America, not everybody be

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Speaker 2: first team. Everybody can be the best you're capable being.

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Speaker 2: And I want to tell you, if you want to fail,

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Speaker 2: you have the right to fail. That's what's great about

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Speaker 2: this country. You do not have the right to cause

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Speaker 2: your ability. When you join a spouse, you bring a

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Speaker 2: child in the world, you join a business, you join

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Speaker 2: to other people to do the maximum you can and

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