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Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with I R Radio. Yo yo yo? Did that sound cool?

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Speaker 1: Is that pretty cool? Yo? Yo yo? Okay. Anyways, Hey,

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Speaker 1: it's been here. Ashley is making her way from the

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Speaker 1: East Coast back to the West Coast. She'll be joining

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Speaker 1: us very soon, and we'll be getting right back into

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Speaker 1: it together as co host. We still love each other,

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Speaker 1: We're still together. This podcast is bigger and better than ever.

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Speaker 1: She just had to take a little lover's break, but

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Speaker 1: as you heard from her here recently, as she recorded

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Speaker 1: in New York City, she's coming back soon with that.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna be bringing Chris and Crystal, who just got

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Speaker 1: married on last night's episode of Bachelor and Paradise into

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Speaker 1: studio today. There be co hosting a lot of this

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Speaker 1: want to break down a few things that are happening.

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Speaker 1: Last night's episode was um I would say, one of

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Speaker 1: the most entertaining episodes we've seen this season. UM entertaining

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Speaker 1: and and sometimes a not so fun way. Though. I

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Speaker 1: want to hear from Chris and Crystal about this, but

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Speaker 1: I have some very I would say, uh, concrete inconfident

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Speaker 1: thoughts on their wedding. I didn't love being at that

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Speaker 1: That wasn't fun for me to hear. Is actually so

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Speaker 1: bad that that Jesse and I actually got back to

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Speaker 1: and Jessica and I said, Wow, what a beautiful wedding,

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Speaker 1: but what a weird experience at times. I mean, there

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Speaker 1: was a moment, I'm telling you this, jess and I

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Speaker 1: having tears, there was makeout sessions going on. This is

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Speaker 1: a wedding, this is a celebration, And finally jess and

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Speaker 1: I just said this is too much. We've got to go. Um. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I want to hear from christ and Crystal beautiful wed

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Speaker 1: super pumped for them. I'm glad they're coming into studio,

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Speaker 1: but I'm sure there's some things that dell Field did

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Speaker 1: not go the way they wanted or maybe not. Maybe

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Speaker 1: There's some main points from last night episode outside of

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Speaker 1: their wedding that we need to talk about. J p

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Speaker 1: J is on one. The guy is fired up because

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Speaker 1: he now loves Tasha, and I think for me and

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Speaker 1: I want to hear from you please emails at been

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Speaker 1: A Ashley. I heart media dot com or uh use

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Speaker 1: Twitter and hashtag almost Famous podcast. I can't quite understand

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Speaker 1: where his love suddenly blossomed for Tassia. I think I

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Speaker 1: that he was super invitation. I know he had said

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Speaker 1: wasn't like he was thinking about Tasha on both of

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Speaker 1: these dates. I felt like he was entering into new

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Speaker 1: Ferguson twins well, they were on our season of the Bachelor,

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Speaker 1: and Haley Ferguson is a tremendous, tremendous catch. I think

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Speaker 1: Haley is starting to venture out as well. I see

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Speaker 1: JPJ go on this date with her, and the only

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Speaker 1: It could literally work. They're they're very similar people. Um,

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Speaker 1: they vote. They both are very fun to be around. Uh.

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Speaker 1: They both are intelligent, even though sometimes when you watch

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Speaker 1: They process things well. But all of a sudden, we

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Speaker 1: p J is mad at Derek because Derek is now

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Speaker 1: Please tell me if I am. But I'm celebrating Derek

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Speaker 1: like it's a good thing. He moved, he handled them

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Speaker 1: about Bachelor in Paradise. So I feel like it was

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Speaker 1: interesting there's a comment that was made by JPJ says, um,

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Speaker 1: So there's a few things that JPJ has said the

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Speaker 1: things work. Do you know what I didn't like how

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Speaker 1: all the good, bad, ugly, and excitement that came from it.

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Speaker 1: one of our favorite sponsors. Bachelor in Paradise this year

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Speaker 1: has not missed its drama. We talked to Wells last

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Speaker 1: I want to sit here for a second, because Chris

429
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 1: and Crystal, you've just said something that's never been said

430
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 1: in the two years plus that we've been doing this podcast,

431
00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:00,480
Speaker 1: I've never and I want to tell you, anybody out

432
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 1: there listening who has listened for a while will know that.

433
00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:04,879
Speaker 1: I think they're probably screaming, like saying, oh my gosh,

434
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 1: this is what Ben has been begging for. But we've

435
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:12,560
Speaker 1: never had a villain air quotes come onto this show

436
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:16,399
Speaker 1: and ever say take ownership in your actions because if

437
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 1: you do, you'll be a better person for it. Chris,

438
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 1: you said it. It's it's you're brilliant and I'm learning

439
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:24,359
Speaker 1: from you. I'm just gonna repeat what you said. You said,

440
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:30,240
Speaker 1: don't deflect what you're seeing. Instead use it as growth,

441
00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:33,400
Speaker 1: and when you do that, people respond. We connect through

442
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:36,959
Speaker 1: our our vulnerability, we connect through our weaknesses. And I'm

443
00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:38,960
Speaker 1: literally just repeating what you said. So this isn't my

444
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 1: own thoughts here, But what I want to say is

445
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 1: I want to remind the listeners that what has happened

446
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 1: here and what the beauty of this show is, it

447
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 1: does bring out things that we don't always see, and

448
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:52,520
Speaker 1: when you use those as fuel to better yourself, amazing

449
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,719
Speaker 1: things can happen. Like these two guys. I'm telling you,

450
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:59,160
Speaker 1: we've never had that nobody's ever done that, and it's

451
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,359
Speaker 1: and it is. It is such a breath of fresh

452
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:07,280
Speaker 1: air for me. I've been waiting for that. So with that,

453
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 1: you guys are really smart people with great advice here,

454
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,840
Speaker 1: I want you to tag team this. If Blake Blake

455
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 1: does listen to the podcast, Blake's gonna hear this. What

456
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 1: is your advice to Blake right now? Um? I think

457
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:27,240
Speaker 1: my biggest advice would be to really process this, don't

458
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:31,040
Speaker 1: act out of emotion. Uh know that not everyone's perfect.

459
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:32,920
Speaker 1: And I think the biggest thing is that it's it's

460
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:36,440
Speaker 1: so hard to take ownership because we know the truth

461
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:39,960
Speaker 1: about ourselves and we don't want the truth to to

462
00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:42,440
Speaker 1: come to to come to life because we know that

463
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 1: we'll be judged. But this is a moment where coming

464
00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:48,160
Speaker 1: to truth will set you free from the bondage that

465
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:51,159
Speaker 1: you're that that's holding you back. Because the longer you

466
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 1: continue to hold onto that bondage and you know you

467
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 1: can't break through, breakthrough, you'll just continue to have these issues,

468
00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,480
Speaker 1: to have these demons over you. And So for Blake,

469
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:02,200
Speaker 1: I mean, he's a great friend of mine. I love him,

470
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 1: and I don't my perception doesn't change of him. However, though,

471
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 1: I do want to rally behind him because I know

472
00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 1: that this will be a great stepping stone for Blake

473
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 1: to become even a better man than he previous was

474
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:16,720
Speaker 1: through this journey on the franchise. So I would say

475
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 1: to Blake, don't worry about what people are saying. I

476
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 1: know that you've done what you've done. These actions were

477
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 1: done from you, no matter if there was an excuse

478
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 1: or reason. But just know that this is not what's

479
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 1: going to define you. What's going to define you is

480
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 1: how you respond and how you react in the action

481
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:39,199
Speaker 1: that you take moving forward. I expect to get preached

482
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:42,920
Speaker 1: to today, but come on, Chris, Yeah, that was good.

483
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 1: I'm going to go into UM. I think my advice

484
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 1: as a life and fitness coach to Blake would be

485
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 1: to shut off the phone and make sure you're taking

486
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:54,040
Speaker 1: time every data to better yourself. And you know, I

487
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:55,480
Speaker 1: know people are saying a lot of things and a

488
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,880
Speaker 1: lot of opinions about him, but he can't listen to that,

489
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 1: you know, he can't find his worthiness and what other

490
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 1: people are saying. And what I have found to be

491
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 1: most transformative for myself and for my clients is setting

492
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,679
Speaker 1: aside time every morning and just waking up with purpose

493
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:15,400
Speaker 1: in a plan that is solely focused on on developing you.

494
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 1: So I love waking up and drinking my lemon water,

495
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 1: pulling out my pen and my journal, and just writing

496
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 1: out whatever is going on in my mind. And I

497
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 1: think for Blake it might be easy to blame things,

498
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,679
Speaker 1: but just writing these letters just to get out the

499
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 1: emotions that could be consuming him in his head. And

500
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,399
Speaker 1: exactly that Chris said, just kind of reacting out of

501
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: emotion and um, a lot of fear that I'm sure

502
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: he has right now is going to really help him

503
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 1: get that clarity on the steps that he needs to

504
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 1: take to move forward, because he's got the answers, he

505
00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: knows what to do. Sometimes we just give other people

506
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:49,240
Speaker 1: that power, but it's until we begin to look within

507
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 1: and understand it's it's not about what's out there, it's

508
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:56,959
Speaker 1: about what's within me. Yeah. Seek uh internally, not externally,

509
00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:00,119
Speaker 1: because no one knows what's best for Blake on the

510
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 1: inside besides Blake. And so Blake needs to shut everything

511
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 1: down and listen to himself on the inside and that

512
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:10,919
Speaker 1: will allow him to begin this new path of moving forward.

513
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: And when in doubt, Blake. Just watch my season of

514
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: the Bachelor and that that doesn't have to define you.

515
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 1: You can move on in a happy, healthy way with

516
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,159
Speaker 1: a beautiful wedding. Hey, guys, I really want to talk

517
00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 1: about your wedding. I want to celebrate this wedding. I

518
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 1: want to talk about how beautiful it was. I also

519
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:31,919
Speaker 1: want to talk about any of the behind the scenes

520
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 1: things that maybe we didn't see that you were both

521
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:37,360
Speaker 1: feeling um. But I want to break that down in total.

522
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: So before we do that, let's take one more break.

523
00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:42,919
Speaker 1: We'll get back talking about Chris and Crystal's beautiful wedding.

524
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 1: All right, we got Chris and Crystal in the studio,

525
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 1: whose wedding we just watched on Bachelor in Paradise. Chris

526
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: and Crystal, I need you to lead me through this.

527
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:02,119
Speaker 1: I was not, uh, the ones planning your reading. I

528
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,120
Speaker 1: had the opportunity to be there with my girlfriend Jessica

529
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:08,400
Speaker 1: uh and it was a beautiful wedding from our perspective.

530
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 1: But the things you didn't see. I want to walk

531
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,000
Speaker 1: into this because I did see this part. We all

532
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 1: walk into this event venue. It's a beautiful place at

533
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:20,399
Speaker 1: the Vedanta in Portavarto. Mexico, and we don't really know

534
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:22,359
Speaker 1: what's going to go on though, right, Jessica and I

535
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: are going for your wedding. That is our purpose of

536
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 1: being there. We don't know anything else. At this point.

537
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 1: We flew down for Chris and Crystal's wedding. We go

538
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: to a cocktailer that we've been invited to, and at

539
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 1: this cocktail we're meeting Chris and Crystal's family, a couple

540
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 1: of other people who are already there from Bachelor Nation

541
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 1: that came down kind of with us that we had

542
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:43,760
Speaker 1: met at the pool earlier. And then the cast shows up.

543
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: I mean literally they walked down this like venue space

544
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 1: towards us like a herd of animals, and everybody's heads

545
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 1: turned and we all go, what is happening? We didn't

546
00:28:55,720 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 1: realize I saw your guys reaction, No idea that you

547
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 1: are so surprised. We had no clue. I had no idea.

548
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 1: But all of a sudden, the show literally came to us,

549
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 1: and like, not when this happens, right, That's what I'm

550
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 1: gonna say. It's not just the cast that comes, it's

551
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 1: the cameramen that come it with them, and it's a

552
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 1: huge group of people coming charging towards the wedding. They

553
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 1: come down, all looking fresh, all looking it's super happy

554
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:26,360
Speaker 1: to be there. You know. The one thing they didn't

555
00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 1: see on the show was everybody that got to the wedding.

556
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 1: We're like, we're so glad to be out of the house.

557
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 1: We're like feel like we're you know, it feels like

558
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 1: a different world that we've not entered into together. We

559
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: feel like we've gone back into the real world for

560
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 1: a bit. They're super excited to be there to celebrate

561
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 1: you all and to actually get a breath of fresh

562
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:46,480
Speaker 1: air and air conditioning and air conditioning. And very quickly,

563
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 1: and I don't know if how men you watch it

564
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 1: last night on the show, very quickly realized that the

565
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 1: show really did come to us. And this is the

566
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 1: part that all of a sudden, Jessica and I both

567
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 1: started to feel weird about, because there's arguing, there was

568
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 1: mingling of relation and ships, there was new people coming

569
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 1: in during you know, the cocktail hour, and Jessica very

570
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:05,920
Speaker 1: quickly looked at me and she goes, word, this is

571
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 1: the show. Is like, this is like definitely about the

572
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:10,719
Speaker 1: show right now, right And I said it did, and

573
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: we she started to get upset for you too, But

574
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 1: I will say it turned quickly once we walked into

575
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 1: the ceremony because at that moment it really was about YouTube.

576
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 1: It was a beautiful wedding that I want you tube

577
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 1: down kind of lead me through because we were nervous

578
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: the cocktail hour, felt like it wasn't gonna be this,

579
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 1: but then all of a sudden, it all changed. It

580
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: was a drastic shift, and your wedding was a wedding

581
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 1: to be remembered. Um was it everything you hoped it

582
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 1: would be? And it's a tough question that to to

583
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:44,720
Speaker 1: answer because in a sense it is, but in a

584
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 1: sense it isn't. Um. I gotta be honest because obviously

585
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 1: we knew, Um, there could be some elements thrown into

586
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 1: the mix of our wedding, and we knew that there

587
00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 1: were risks. Um did we know the whole cast was

588
00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 1: gonna come not untill about a dared too before the wedding. Um,

589
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 1: we thought we were going to be possibly giving out

590
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 1: a day card to one couple to come down. So

591
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 1: it was definitely a surprise factor, and we knew that

592
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 1: there could be some some situations taking place. Knowing that

593
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 1: that amount of people with that level of drama going on,

594
00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 1: um could interfere, but there were a lot of positives.

595
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 1: I mean, Crystal looked absolutely beautiful. Um. I almost fainted

596
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 1: when she literally was walking down the aisle because I

597
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 1: felt such such an array of emotions. And you know,

598
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 1: it was a breakthrough for me to know that I

599
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 1: was marrying my my life partner, my best friend, and

600
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 1: uh my family right there, my mom front row just

601
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 1: crying and being so happy for me. And these are

602
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 1: emotions and these are memories that will stick with me forever.

603
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:46,719
Speaker 1: And UM, I'm extremely grateful and blessed absolutely um. And

604
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: so for that, I am thankful. UM. And I think

605
00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 1: this was actually everything that I envisioned, and we did

606
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: get what we wanted out of this and and I think, uh,

607
00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 1: I think for me personally, that five percent will dessipate

608
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 1: soon enough. UM, you know, because it's just short term.

609
00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 1: It's not long term. Everything that's sticking with me is

610
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 1: all the beautiful memories, not the not the little bit

611
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 1: of drauma that that occurred. Yeah, I would say that, Um,

612
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 1: we knew going in that it was going to be

613
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:17,719
Speaker 1: incorporated into an episode, not be a standalone episode, So

614
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: it wasn't going to be just about our wedding, and

615
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 1: we knew that there was going to be some cast

616
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 1: that were that would be coming in, and ultimately we

617
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:28,480
Speaker 1: kind of looked each other and we said, well, we're

618
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 1: always down for an adventure. Let's let's say then. And

619
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 1: what was important, the most important thing and the most

620
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 1: special thing for us, especially for me, was that we

621
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 1: got to bring our our family and our close friends

622
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 1: onto the show and have them see what it's like

623
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 1: to actually be a part of this franchise because there's

624
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: a little, as you know, it's a little bit of

625
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 1: a disconnect. I'm sure there was like that with Jessica

626
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 1: um As. We had talked about that she doesn't really

627
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 1: know the world, so it's hard for her to comprehend

628
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 1: and grasp like what goes on. So we were really

629
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 1: excited for that element of it. And I would say

630
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 1: everything was perfect up until we were in the reception,

631
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 1: and it was at that point it did feel very

632
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 1: much not about us produced. And there was an element

633
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: where Chris and I were standing there and the room

634
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:15,040
Speaker 1: was totally empty and all the castles in their little

635
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: corner for filming, and I all of a sudden looked

636
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 1: around and like my microphone was off and no cameras

637
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 1: were honest, and We're like staying there alone, and I

638
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 1: was like, this isn't even about us. Let's go, let's

639
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,840
Speaker 1: get out of here. I mean, at the end of

640
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 1: the day, we we left. We left the reception early.

641
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 1: We did. We did. Yeah, and my my friends while

642
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 1: my room has been actually ended up staying there toil

643
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 1: production shut down. But I think Crystal made a great point.

644
00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 1: It's just in that moment um, as happy as we were,

645
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 1: we did feel uh a little bit down knowing that

646
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 1: the night wasn't over yet, and we just felt like

647
00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: the night ended sooner than maybe it should have. Yeah,

648
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 1: the I want to back check because the reception is

649
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: something that we just have to talk about. It was wild.

650
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 1: I have so many thoughts on that. Your wedding, though,

651
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:11,399
Speaker 1: will be remembered. It was beautiful, it was a celebration. Um. Yes,

652
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 1: I think watching it on television, there was moments that

653
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:15,680
Speaker 1: felt a little weird, like when Angela walks down the

654
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:22,160
Speaker 1: aisle and Clay is looking there like he's fearful, and well,

655
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:25,280
Speaker 1: you know, I remember we were sitting right across from him,

656
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 1: and I had known the scenario and how it was

657
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 1: going to present itself. And I was watching his face

658
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 1: as she walked down, and I remember when I was

659
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 1: in person, I tapped Jessica was like, that is wild,

660
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 1: Like I know they captured that and watching it back

661
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 1: is going to be rough. It wasn so many photos

662
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:45,280
Speaker 1: about like a screenshot of that. It was Oh my god.

663
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:53,440
Speaker 1: It was um. But your wedding was beautiful, Crystal. You

664
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:56,960
Speaker 1: looked absolutely gorgeous. I'm sure you've been told that a

665
00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: thousand times. I think you should be told that a

666
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 1: thousand times, a thousand times more. Uh. Chris said it,

667
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:04,799
Speaker 1: he was fainted. You look so good you did. You

668
00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 1: looked absolutely beautiful. But I do have to ask, what

669
00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:13,919
Speaker 1: in the world is this smudge pot cleansing? And why

670
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 1: were they doing on your genitals? Well, so, um, if

671
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 1: you watched Paradise when Chris and I were on and

672
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 1: where we met, I mean, part of who I am

673
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 1: is I love crystals and I love sage and a

674
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:33,360
Speaker 1: lot of that comes down to energy. And I smudge

675
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:35,920
Speaker 1: daily as part of my morning routine that I recommend

676
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:39,760
Speaker 1: like to do. And uh, what sage does. It removes

677
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 1: negative energy and it just cleans the room and it

678
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:46,479
Speaker 1: allows you to just kind of wash away any any

679
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:49,239
Speaker 1: negativity of the past. It allows you to clean slate.

680
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:50,840
Speaker 1: And I felt that was really symbolic for christ and

681
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 1: I because we wanted to let go of who we were,

682
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,320
Speaker 1: of the past, of that of that those hard times,

683
00:35:56,600 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 1: never forget, but let go of about that trauma, any

684
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 1: of that negativity that we had been prior to now

685
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 1: moving forward as a married couple. So we really wanted

686
00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 1: to come into this marriage just clean, cleansed, and new. Yeah,

687
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:17,280
Speaker 1: I think it was very symbolic for us, UH, because

688
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 1: we're very into UH in tune with one another and

689
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 1: when it comes to our energies. This is one of

690
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,720
Speaker 1: the biggest breakthroughs we've had in our relationship is that, UM,

691
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:30,479
Speaker 1: we can feed off and understand each other's energy and

692
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:32,919
Speaker 1: and someone doesn't even have to say something. And being

693
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 1: in tune like that allows you to communicate more effectively UM.

694
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,319
Speaker 1: And it allows us to not bottle up emotions UM.

695
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 1: And it also helps us identify things within ourselves that

696
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:45,960
Speaker 1: UM we're able to work on rather than not being

697
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:49,120
Speaker 1: able to identify and to to to continue going down

698
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 1: a path of UM not becoming better day in and

699
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 1: day out. So UH this much ceremony. It was our choice,

700
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:58,919
Speaker 1: and we just wanted to kind of just show everyone that, um,

701
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:03,319
Speaker 1: don't you don't have to bring uh, negative emotions from

702
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,920
Speaker 1: the past into the future. And knowing that we can

703
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 1: kind of shed some of that dead skin that we

704
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 1: had from previous seasons. UM, this was a big moment

705
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:14,759
Speaker 1: for us to go into a new chapter, clean, refreshed

706
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:18,879
Speaker 1: and um fully confident of us being a couple and

707
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 1: taking on the world together. And honestly, it was also

708
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 1: like what I was talking about earlier, Ben, it was

709
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:26,919
Speaker 1: just showing people who we really are and not needing

710
00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 1: to try to put on this front and try to

711
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:33,799
Speaker 1: be someone we're not. We wanted to let people into fun,

712
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:37,600
Speaker 1: little quirky things like having crystals and burning stage and

713
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:40,799
Speaker 1: some people think it might be silly, but for us, UM,

714
00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:43,640
Speaker 1: that's a part of our life, of our life really

715
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,399
Speaker 1: important one. Yeah, and we get to see that now

716
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 1: why and eu genitals is that like a thing? Is

717
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not really sure. Okay, you know Todd.

718
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 1: Todd is a really good friend of mine. I mean

719
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:58,720
Speaker 1: we've grown together closely over the last year, and uh,

720
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 1: you know, he knew that he had this role he

721
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 1: was very nervous. He tried to back out of it,

722
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 1: but we wanted him to do it. And Tod is

723
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 1: also one of the producers on the show, and he

724
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 1: was actually both of our producers individually and then and

725
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 1: then on Bachelor in Paradise, so he was a pivotal

726
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,680
Speaker 1: part of our relationship. So I mean the direction of

727
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,360
Speaker 1: how he was sieging the smoke and with the feather,

728
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 1: you know, for him, I think he just wasn't even thinking.

729
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 1: He was just trying to do it and get out

730
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:27,360
Speaker 1: of there. So I wouldn't say this. I actually earlier

731
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 1: that day because he was so nervous, I was like, Todd,

732
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,839
Speaker 1: come over, let me like practice on how you how

733
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 1: you like wiggle a brother disperse the smoke. So he

734
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,319
Speaker 1: came over. I gave a whole tutorial. He was like good.

735
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, this is a really serious roll.

736
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:45,320
Speaker 1: I don't want to be a joke. This is you know, Miname.

737
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 1: Chris is like, this is this, you know, a ceremonial gesture,

738
00:38:49,040 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 1: like and this is an honor for you, so please

739
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 1: take it seriously. And then he walks out in flip

740
00:38:54,440 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 1: flops and then tell me Vohammad a short hell. You know, Todd,

741
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:05,800
Speaker 1: he's just like like trying to be all like giddy

742
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 1: and dorky and we love him so much. But you

743
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 1: see me like, go to Chris, I got no laughing.

744
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 1: I didn't want to be a joke. I wanted it.

745
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:16,439
Speaker 1: It was a very serious thing and it was our

746
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 1: wedding ceremony. It wasn't it. It wasn't a joke. But

747
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 1: turn out that way, I just gotta roll with the

748
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 1: punch sometimes. Oh yeah, it was great, it was really great.

749
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:27,440
Speaker 1: I was just yeah, I'm glad you cleared it up

750
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 1: for me because I I've never seen that before, and

751
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 1: I thought, if anybody to be cleansing genitals, Todd is

752
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:37,520
Speaker 1: the one to do it. Well. Is there anything else

753
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:40,840
Speaker 1: that we saw we didn't see maybe in your wedding

754
00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 1: in the ceremony portion, because we're gonna get into the

755
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: reception here in a second after we take a break.

756
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: Is there anything else in the wedding portion that you

757
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:49,839
Speaker 1: want to mention to anybody out there listening. I mean,

758
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 1: I think one of the biggest moments, I mean, Ben,

759
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 1: you saw this was I wasn't wearing a mic um

760
00:39:56,719 --> 00:40:00,400
Speaker 1: right before Crystal was about to walk down the uh

761
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:02,480
Speaker 1: you know audio came up to me and they're like,

762
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 1: you know, sound check and I'm like I don't even

763
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: have a mic on and they're like wow. They're like okay,

764
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 1: we gotta hold on a board a board and they're

765
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 1: like freaking out, and um, you know, it was just

766
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 1: funny because then we have Crystal waiting and she had

767
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: no idea what was going on. Then I was behind

768
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 1: that curtain for seven minutes by myself, and no one

769
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 1: was telling me what was going on. People just like

770
00:40:23,160 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 1: would walk up and like smile and give me a

771
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:29,960
Speaker 1: thumbs up, and I'm like what, yeah, well, and I

772
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 1: all of a sudden hear everyone in the crowd like

773
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:35,439
Speaker 1: laughing like louder louder louder, and I'm just like, I'm

774
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 1: so confused. Like the music stopped, um and that moment

775
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 1: I kind of started to freak out. And then ultimately

776
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,880
Speaker 1: I just had to close my eyes like draw it

777
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:46,360
Speaker 1: in and I did this like mini meditation, said like

778
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:49,280
Speaker 1: twelve prayers, and ultimately I was able to like pull

779
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 1: into myself and have this incredible experience where I was

780
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 1: able to get so present, so focused, so elevated, um

781
00:40:57,400 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 1: energetically so that when I walked out, I just felt

782
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 1: like I was beaming this aura of love and I

783
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 1: felt just this ball of energy encompassing who I was

784
00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:11,840
Speaker 1: in that moment. And um, there was a really special

785
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,960
Speaker 1: moment because I know, leading up to at the wedding,

786
00:41:14,960 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 1: when we were talking about it, everyone was asking me like,

787
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 1: who's gonna walk me down? And I brought up like,

788
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 1: I don't really know, Like I think I'm gonna go

789
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: by myself, and people were like, no, you shouldn't do that,

790
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:27,319
Speaker 1: or why would you do that? And it was this

791
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 1: element where I already feel shame about it, but my

792
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:33,760
Speaker 1: dad isn't really a figure in my life, neither is Chris's,

793
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 1: and that's actually what brought us together. And so for

794
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: me to make that take that step to um, you know,

795
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:44,880
Speaker 1: make that walk alone, I realized that it was an

796
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:47,880
Speaker 1: honor because I am self made and I was raised

797
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 1: by a single mom, but she was really not at

798
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: all in my life, and um, it was it was

799
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:56,320
Speaker 1: a real honor for me to do that, um, and

800
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 1: I was really proud of myself. So it was a

801
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 1: really special moment. I think that's a point that maybe

802
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:04,759
Speaker 1: I don't even realize, was you did walk yourself down

803
00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:07,880
Speaker 1: the aisle and that's a power that is a very special,

804
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:11,840
Speaker 1: powerful moment. And you walked yourself up to Chris and

805
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:16,440
Speaker 1: had an amazing, amazing celebration that Chris Harrison officiated. You

806
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:19,240
Speaker 1: wrote your own vows for each other that were beautiful,

807
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 1: they were funny, they were unique, they were personal. And now,

808
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:28,680
Speaker 1: Chris and Crystal um based on your story of what

809
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 1: brought you here. One of the most beautiful things about

810
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 1: you two is the story that you tell about the

811
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 1: life that you've lived up to this point. The story

812
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 1: that's brought you here is now on to celebrate your

813
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 1: husband and wife. And we're so excited to be celebrating

814
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 1: you now on this franchise. Um. You are a success

815
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:49,479
Speaker 1: story and one that will be talked about for years

816
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: to come. Let's take a break, and I want to

817
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,480
Speaker 1: talk about the drama though that ensued at your reception

818
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: that caused you both to leave a little early. Let's say, great,

819
00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 1: you got it. For as beautiful as the wedding ceremony was,

820
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:14,239
Speaker 1: I would say the reception was, uh, well, what would

821
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 1: you rate the reception on the skill of one to ten? Uh?

822
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 1: You know, I would say that the first half it

823
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 1: was about eight and a half, and then I would

824
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:30,359
Speaker 1: say the second half was probably the one. I would say,

825
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 1: I say, I'm only given up point because we actually

826
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 1: left at that point. So but yeah, I mean that

827
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:37,680
Speaker 1: that that's kind of how I would feel about it.

828
00:43:38,239 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 1: I mean, here's what it went down. A beautiful start,

829
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 1: great food, a really fun dance, some great talk speeches.

830
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:47,839
Speaker 1: Everything seemed to be going like a normal reception does.

831
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 1: It was great, your family was there, and then all

832
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 1: of a sudden it did. There was a drastic shift

833
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 1: where it felt like, all of a sudden, the reception

834
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,960
Speaker 1: was no longer the focus. You had Hannah or Hailey

835
00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 1: and Analese and Ashley talking about Angela and how bright

836
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: and glowy she was walking out lout she was. It

837
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: made sense Tatian Analie are talking about Derek and JPJ.

838
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:10,239
Speaker 1: Katie and JPJ are talking people, are you know, kind

839
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 1: of ragging on our our buddy Blake a little bit more.

840
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 1: All this stuff starts to get heated about midway throughout,

841
00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 1: say an hour and a half into your reception, and

842
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:23,240
Speaker 1: at that point I felt like there was no getting

843
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 1: it back. We actually Jessica and I left. Um I

844
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 1: bet we were literally on elevators, the two of you

845
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:30,279
Speaker 1: and Jessica and I like side by side at the

846
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:34,720
Speaker 1: same time, because it did feel like something was missing.

847
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 1: Was that I mean in the groom was gone, I

848
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:48,480
Speaker 1: think for me and and if anybody's out there, they're like, Okay,

849
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:50,360
Speaker 1: you give up some of the stuff with the TV wedding.

850
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:52,200
Speaker 1: You understand that it sometimes you're gonna have a mic

851
00:44:52,320 --> 00:44:54,200
Speaker 1: issue and it's gonna have to pause and you're gonna

852
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 1: have to reset and do this, Like that's something you're

853
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 1: giving up to have a wedding in Mexico with your

854
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:01,839
Speaker 1: family there so they can see all this go down

855
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 1: like that just happens, right, but there is And then

856
00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:08,320
Speaker 1: the reception, right, receptions are usually wild, their drama filled

857
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:10,959
Speaker 1: most of the time in real life or on TV.

858
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 1: There's hook ups going on, there's crap tears like it's

859
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:18,680
Speaker 1: that people are drinking, dancing, laughing, whatever. So I'm guess

860
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,839
Speaker 1: I'm leaving your reception going. It just felt like a

861
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:24,040
Speaker 1: little bit less than what I would experience in the

862
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:25,960
Speaker 1: real world. Like it well, and I want to hear

863
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:30,680
Speaker 1: if you agree, like you obviously left early, But it

864
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 1: did feel like all of a sudden you were gone.

865
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 1: We were gone, and I'm and we look back in

866
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:37,799
Speaker 1: the room that everybody was like supposed to be in,

867
00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:39,319
Speaker 1: and it did it feel like everybody was in a

868
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: corner arguing, laughing, arguing or crying. Yeah, I will say

869
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: one thing that really stood out to me was that,

870
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 1: and then they didn't really show this too much, but

871
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 1: that they had invited multiple multiple um casts that were

872
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:58,399
Speaker 1: not current cast or bridal party who were singles and

873
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:02,080
Speaker 1: trying to get a chance to go down to Paradise. Yeah,

874
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 1: and so a lot of them came not for the

875
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 1: wedding per se, but to try to make a connection

876
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:11,240
Speaker 1: to pursue someone to come back to Paradise. We're back

877
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:14,319
Speaker 1: on to Paradise and Elise and Bibiana, I know we're there.

878
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 1: They had been kicked off Paradise. We're back at the

879
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 1: wedding looking to go back. Who were some of those

880
00:46:18,480 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 1: people that from past season that were down there kind

881
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:24,280
Speaker 1: of looking to get onto Paradise. There was Um Brooks,

882
00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:31,759
Speaker 1: Jase McNary, Daniel Lombard, Uh, that girl Whitney Um, I

883
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:36,399
Speaker 1: mean an Elie Um, Yeah, I mean there was there

884
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 1: was quite a bit. I'm trying to think of other ones,

885
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 1: but I mean those people were there too, and so

886
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 1: you had I mean, to be honest with you, it

887
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:48,440
Speaker 1: kind of felt like a roast ceremony event. It seemed

888
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 1: like there was it seemed like there was panic. They

889
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 1: seemed like there was a lot of sadness. People were

890
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:54,799
Speaker 1: scrambling because they thought that this was their chance to

891
00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:57,479
Speaker 1: go down to the island. Um. I remember people coming

892
00:46:57,560 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 1: up and asking like what should I do to try

893
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 1: to get on the show, And I'm thinking like, man,

894
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:04,680
Speaker 1: this is my wedding, Like I can't be talking strategy

895
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:06,560
Speaker 1: right now, this, this is not where my focus is.

896
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 1: That I felt deflated at that point. So it really did,

897
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:11,640
Speaker 1: uh you know, in a weird way. It felt like

898
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 1: a roast ceremony. So people were actually asking you to

899
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:18,240
Speaker 1: advice on how to get onto the show at your wedding. Yeah,

900
00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 1: that's wild. Who I should who I should meet, who

901
00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:22,799
Speaker 1: I should hook up with? And I'm like, I don't.

902
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:25,359
Speaker 1: I don't really know all the couples or the all

903
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:27,879
Speaker 1: the all the situations that are going on right now,

904
00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 1: and you know, it just it just for me. I

905
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 1: just I didn't anticipate that. I guess, m hmm. It

906
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 1: were you Okay, I mean, obviously the wedding was important

907
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:41,359
Speaker 1: to you, like the ceremony, Were you willing to give

908
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 1: up the reception? But I mean, so here's here's where

909
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:46,480
Speaker 1: this is coming from. I was in a car the

910
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 1: next morning heading to the airport with a bunch of

911
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 1: your family members and they were so thrilled with how

912
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 1: the whole thing went. So obviously the reception wasn't that

913
00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 1: important to your family, like they really want to see

914
00:47:58,640 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 1: a beautiful wedding. So were you two going into it

915
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 1: willing to give up the reception kind of for the

916
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 1: sake of the show or was that something that you

917
00:48:06,560 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 1: really wanted. Honestly, we thought, I mean we spent I

918
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 1: mean a whole freaking playlist on Spotify of songs we

919
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 1: were going to play that not one was playing because

920
00:48:15,719 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 1: they couldn't play it because they were filming a show.

921
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:19,920
Speaker 1: And so, I mean we thought it was gonna be

922
00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:23,480
Speaker 1: an actual party and it and it was in that

923
00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:25,680
Speaker 1: later half that was supposed to have been the DJ

924
00:48:25,800 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 1: and the floor dancing and you know, getting down, we

925
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 1: didn't have that element of it. So for me, I

926
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:32,840
Speaker 1: think that's what we were most excited about. And we

927
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 1: were led to believe that that would be absolutely apart

928
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 1: of the ceremony or the reception, and it wasn't. But ultimately,

929
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: like we knew there was gonna be some kid, We

930
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:44,160
Speaker 1: knew what there was gonna be some take And is

931
00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:48,400
Speaker 1: it worth the ceremony to not have the reception? Absolutely? Yeah.

932
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 1: The the ceremony was so beautiful, so gorgeous, everything we wanted.

933
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:55,359
Speaker 1: And something you didn't see was the night before we

934
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 1: had our rehearsal dinner, which was just an incredible experience.

935
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:02,319
Speaker 1: So ultimately our friends and failing us had a full

936
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:04,520
Speaker 1: vacation that was I mean, it was awesome. It was

937
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 1: five star. So yeah, we didn't get that that second

938
00:49:07,640 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 1: half of the reception, and it was it was worth it.

939
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 1: I would say, I'm kind of thankful for the reception

940
00:49:13,760 --> 00:49:17,959
Speaker 1: because it allowed my friends and family, um to see

941
00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:21,239
Speaker 1: the element, uh that no one really sees, and that's

942
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 1: the show actually in full force taking place. And I

943
00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 1: don't know if if Jessica can attest to this, but um,

944
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:31,319
Speaker 1: it probably allows her to understand you more now when

945
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:33,960
Speaker 1: you do talk about the show, and she can now

946
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 1: uh kind of be someone that you can confide in

947
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:39,160
Speaker 1: when you do want to talk about the show because

948
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 1: she probably can be more understanding now, just as my

949
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 1: family and friends now, uh have allowed me to kind

950
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 1: of be more open about the show and have asked

951
00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 1: me questions because now they understand and now they're not

952
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:53,680
Speaker 1: judgmental or they're not confused, which has really kind of

953
00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:56,879
Speaker 1: helped my relationships with my boys as well, because they've

954
00:49:56,920 --> 00:50:00,360
Speaker 1: always tried but they couldn't really pinpoint or under stand,

955
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:02,400
Speaker 1: and the same thing with my family. So in a

956
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 1: weird way, I am kind of thankful for for all

957
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:07,080
Speaker 1: those things that took place at the reception because they

958
00:50:07,120 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 1: got to see it. Yeah, there's two things that Jessica

959
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 1: said to me after the wedding one, um, maybe three.

960
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:16,280
Speaker 1: There's a lot of things. Actually, she said, uh, crystal beautiful,

961
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:18,799
Speaker 1: what a great ceremony, those things, and then she was like,

962
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:22,480
Speaker 1: I'm less intimidated. Was one thing. She said, Um, by

963
00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 1: this world now, which is such a beautiful thing to hear.

964
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:26,560
Speaker 1: She's like, for for so long, I've I've kind of

965
00:50:26,840 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: put the show up on a pedestal since I've met you,

966
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:30,520
Speaker 1: and I've been intimidated by any person that's been on

967
00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:33,880
Speaker 1: the show. And I'm less intimidated now because I realized

968
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 1: everybody's like normal or just a little less than normal people. UM.

969
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 1: And then second is UM that she can relate with

970
00:50:43,120 --> 00:50:45,799
Speaker 1: me better, that she can understand more when I talk

971
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:48,680
Speaker 1: about things. She knows me better because of that reception,

972
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:51,719
Speaker 1: and because of the wildness that took place. UM, a

973
00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:53,440
Speaker 1: few less questions. I know we've got to get you

974
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 1: out of studio. UM, I really want to talk about

975
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:58,920
Speaker 1: real quick, the Clay scenario with Angela. Angela was in

976
00:50:58,960 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 1: the wedding, she's a good friend of yours. At all,

977
00:51:01,719 --> 00:51:04,120
Speaker 1: did you feel bad about kind of setting I don't

978
00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:05,920
Speaker 1: I don't even say sitting clayics. I don't think you

979
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:07,319
Speaker 1: set Clay up. You didn't even know he was really

980
00:51:07,320 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 1: gonna be there. Um, but what at all? Was there

981
00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:13,800
Speaker 1: a point in this that you felt bad for Clay

982
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:16,160
Speaker 1: or was this kind of something that should just happen?

983
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:17,839
Speaker 1: I mean, then we see Angela show up to the beach,

984
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 1: so obviously this was a scenario that was going to

985
00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:24,600
Speaker 1: happen somehow, some way. What were your thoughts, maybe he's

986
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 1: the best way to phrase this. On the Clay Angela

987
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:32,839
Speaker 1: Nicole scenario during this time in Paradise. I mean, so

988
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:34,920
Speaker 1: Clay is actually one of my really good friends. I'm

989
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:37,239
Speaker 1: the one who got Clay and Angela together. Um, they're

990
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: both my good friends. And to believe it or not,

991
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 1: I was gonna have Clay view in my wedding and

992
00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 1: that that kind of changed last minute because I didn't

993
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:47,680
Speaker 1: want to have that situation and kind of you know,

994
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 1: take away from Crystal on her day. But the whole

995
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:53,000
Speaker 1: dynamic is this is that you know the reason why

996
00:51:53,280 --> 00:51:56,000
Speaker 1: Clain Angela broke up is because Clay was in a

997
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:59,239
Speaker 1: really tough spot, um with O t a s coming

998
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:01,040
Speaker 1: up with the NFL and trying to get a tryout

999
00:52:01,360 --> 00:52:03,759
Speaker 1: and so what took places. They really had some deep

1000
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:07,400
Speaker 1: conversations and they were planning for the future. But Clay

1001
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 1: takes care of his entire family, I mean down to

1002
00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:13,279
Speaker 1: his grandma, down to his brother's financially and um, this

1003
00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: can be a burden on someone, especially when they have

1004
00:52:15,600 --> 00:52:17,520
Speaker 1: the weight of all of that. And I think those

1005
00:52:17,560 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 1: deep talks that they were having in the time that

1006
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:22,359
Speaker 1: they broke up, UM allowed him to open his eyes

1007
00:52:22,360 --> 00:52:25,360
Speaker 1: and realize that right now, I need to figure out

1008
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 1: myself first with what I can do moving forward from

1009
00:52:28,520 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: my career in order to have these talks that I'm

1010
00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 1: having with Angela actually come to fruition. So in a way,

1011
00:52:35,200 --> 00:52:37,760
Speaker 1: he didn't want to let Angela down, I think, and

1012
00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 1: and I understand from Angela's point of view two because

1013
00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 1: it is weird and it is shocking. However, though from that,

1014
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 1: I would say that you know, Clay did the only

1015
00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:47,440
Speaker 1: thing that he can do in that point in time,

1016
00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:49,479
Speaker 1: and that was to let go, even though it hurts

1017
00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:51,799
Speaker 1: both of them. And I think after a couple of

1018
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:55,640
Speaker 1: months went by, um, the whole career thing was now

1019
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 1: taking a dramatic shift because I think at this point,

1020
00:52:58,239 --> 00:53:00,399
Speaker 1: you know, the NFL has done for him, which is tough,

1021
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:02,759
Speaker 1: and I think for any man, especially who has put

1022
00:53:02,840 --> 00:53:05,280
Speaker 1: so much work into to have that kind of slip

1023
00:53:05,280 --> 00:53:08,080
Speaker 1: out of your hands, it's definitely definitely a shock and

1024
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:10,840
Speaker 1: it and it definitely affects who you are as a

1025
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 1: man because then you have to figure out what's next.

1026
00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:15,799
Speaker 1: And I think Bachelor Paradise was a way to get

1027
00:53:15,840 --> 00:53:18,160
Speaker 1: away from this and and really be open to the

1028
00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:20,879
Speaker 1: fact that knowing that he knows that it's over now,

1029
00:53:21,760 --> 00:53:25,760
Speaker 1: maybe love can now be something that he can work

1030
00:53:25,800 --> 00:53:28,359
Speaker 1: on and focus on because he can now kind of

1031
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:31,960
Speaker 1: um have it come back into his life. And and

1032
00:53:32,440 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 1: what I think is the whole in the cold situation

1033
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:37,360
Speaker 1: is they get along great. I actually love them. I

1034
00:53:37,360 --> 00:53:39,040
Speaker 1: think they were I think they were beautiful. And I

1035
00:53:39,080 --> 00:53:41,520
Speaker 1: think that everything that we saw with Clan Angela is

1036
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 1: exactly what we would have expected, um from the reception

1037
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:48,120
Speaker 1: or from the ceremony to the reception. And to be

1038
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:51,319
Speaker 1: honest with you, uh, I don't have any ill will

1039
00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:53,640
Speaker 1: towards anything that took place with them, because I think

1040
00:53:53,640 --> 00:53:55,439
Speaker 1: that this was important for them to have that talk.

1041
00:53:55,480 --> 00:53:57,040
Speaker 1: I think that this was important for them to see

1042
00:53:57,040 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 1: each other face to face because at the end of

1043
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:01,360
Speaker 1: the day, we're really going to now and see the

1044
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:04,120
Speaker 1: true answer if this is a couple that um is

1045
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:06,480
Speaker 1: someone that should be together, or if they should be

1046
00:54:06,520 --> 00:54:08,840
Speaker 1: a part. Yeah, it's going to be a storyline we

1047
00:54:08,880 --> 00:54:11,279
Speaker 1: want to follow in Paradise for sure. Yeah. Absolutely. And

1048
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:13,360
Speaker 1: I know I definitely was nervous and I spoke with

1049
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:15,560
Speaker 1: Angela prior to the wedding and I was like, I

1050
00:54:15,600 --> 00:54:18,160
Speaker 1: know Clay's going to be there. We hear he's dating someone.

1051
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 1: I really don't want this drama to take away from

1052
00:54:20,719 --> 00:54:23,799
Speaker 1: the wedding. And she had really reassured me that she

1053
00:54:23,840 --> 00:54:26,160
Speaker 1: was in a good place and you know, it would

1054
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:29,279
Speaker 1: it would be good. So we were so we knew

1055
00:54:29,320 --> 00:54:31,480
Speaker 1: that we knew that going in, and we knew that

1056
00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 1: there was going to be an opportunity for them to

1057
00:54:33,160 --> 00:54:36,239
Speaker 1: actually come together and talk since they had broken up,

1058
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:39,279
Speaker 1: and I think that that Angela was really needing some

1059
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:43,719
Speaker 1: closure on this relationship, so we wanted them to sit

1060
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:46,200
Speaker 1: down and have a conversation. So we were really supportive

1061
00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:48,040
Speaker 1: of it. And we love Angela very deeply and we

1062
00:54:48,080 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 1: love Clay and we both want them both to be

1063
00:54:50,440 --> 00:54:53,320
Speaker 1: happy and to take the opportunity for them to explore

1064
00:54:53,360 --> 00:54:56,279
Speaker 1: what they want. And I think that for Clay, what

1065
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 1: is going to be really interesting that we're going to

1066
00:54:58,680 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 1: see play out this season is I mean, he broke

1067
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:03,000
Speaker 1: up with Angela because he needs time to find out

1068
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Speaker 1: So who is he now? And he needs to take

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Speaker 1: that time to to find himself and to create this

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Speaker 1: new life. And is he ready for a relationship or

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Speaker 1: does he still need to take take some time. That's

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Speaker 1: a good theme for the rest of Paradise. Is Clay

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Speaker 1: Chris and Crystal, thank you for sharing about your wedding

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Speaker 1: on this podcast. UM. What a wild season of Bachelor

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Speaker 1: in Paradise. We hope we can celebrate couples from this

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Speaker 1: season like we're able to celebrate YouTube you are, You're.

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Speaker 1: The words of wisdom that both of you shared are

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Speaker 1: things that UM, I'll take with me, UM that I'll

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Speaker 1: point other people too. I bet on this podcast for

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Speaker 1: years to come. When they are villains and they feel

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Speaker 1: like they've gotten a bad edit or whatever, I'll just say,

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Speaker 1: you need to talk to Chris and Crystal because, UM,

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Speaker 1: redemption does exist, but it has to exist within yourself first.

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Speaker 1: And I think those are words that I'm going to

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Speaker 1: take from listening to both of you. I'm so pumped

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Speaker 1: that I got to celebrate. Thank you for inviting Jessica

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Speaker 1: and I to the wedding. Thank you for allowing us

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Speaker 1: to be down there and on the prom Thank you,

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Speaker 1: um being at the Vedanta. Is there anything in your

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Speaker 1: lives right now that you'd like to share with our

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Speaker 1: listeners before we go? Yeah, I want to say the

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Speaker 1: work that Chris and I did have been doing on

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Speaker 1: ourselves has really evolved so much are who we are

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Speaker 1: as people as well as our relationship and then just

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Speaker 1: elevated us into such as beautiful transformation. And so I've

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Speaker 1: decided to now incorporate life coaching into my fitness coaching

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Speaker 1: to be working with women on empowering their mind, honoring

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Speaker 1: to start just being um just speaking to women in

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Speaker 1: feel unworthy and unhappy and we're really desperately seeking happiness.

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Speaker 1: But ultimately it's within ourselves and we all have the tools.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes we just need a coach to point us in

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Speaker 1: the right direction to bring that out within ourselves. So

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Speaker 1: coach Crystal dot com coming soon. Good for you guys. Hey, Uh,

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Speaker 1: thank you for sharing your wedding with us on TV.

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Speaker 1: Fans and listeners of this podcast have already started to

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Speaker 1: write in and just say how awesome it is to

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Speaker 1: see weddings on this show and celebrate the two of you. Uh, Chris,

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Speaker 1: you are the best doggie daddy I know. In Crystal

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Speaker 1: Um is that what you called him a doggy daddy

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Speaker 1: dog daddy, boys, I call him daddy. So yeah, we've

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Speaker 1: talked about that in this podcast. That's all heir about it.

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Speaker 1: Hey follow my league guys, thanks again for co hosting

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Speaker 1: with me today. Uh, actually we'll be back soon. Listeners

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Speaker 1: out there, the Almost Famous podcast is moving and grooving.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you tune in next week to another breakdown

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Speaker 1: of Bachelor in Paradise. With that I've Been Been and

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Speaker 1: I've than Crystal and I Been Christ followed the Bennon

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Speaker 1: Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast on iHeart Radio or subscribe

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