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Speaker 2: I am fired up on this show to really introduce

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Speaker 2: kind of the core idea behind my training philosophy, how

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Speaker 2: I approach teaching people, how I approach the overall development

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Speaker 2: of the individual as it relates to this unbelievable long

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Speaker 2: term quest that I've had within the human condition to

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Speaker 2: try and understand what drives success or what initiates failure

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Speaker 2: from an individual level and a team level. And obviously

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Speaker 2: my background as a seal, a medic, an instructor and

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Speaker 2: operator at Blackwater, at the agency, as a motivational performance

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Speaker 2: coach for professional and collegiate athletes, and then working with

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Speaker 2: you know, hundreds of different businesses from Fortune five hundred

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Speaker 2: across the country. These this is kind of the formula

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Speaker 2: or the foundation that I believe impacts people's performance so

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Speaker 2: they can really not only kind of face the great

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Speaker 2: challenges of their lives, but really, you know, come together

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Speaker 2: and accomplish a mission orientation that they hope for. And

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Speaker 2: I call all of this the frog logic concepts. Now,

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Speaker 2: if you've ever seen my original logo, it's it's the

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Speaker 2: frog and the brain. Hopefully you've you've seen it on

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Speaker 2: Jordie's hat that he wears religiously. So Jordie, I can't

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Speaker 2: thank you enough for being a shameless promoter of frog Logic.

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Speaker 1: So thank you, sir. I think this is literally the

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Speaker 1: only hat I wear now.

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Speaker 2: So when Jordy comes on your team, he is all in,

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Speaker 2: by the way, folks, and I'm beyond below us to

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Speaker 2: So you know, when I'm out there given this presentation

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Speaker 2: content that I deliver that I help people understand where

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Speaker 2: I'm coming from and why. Now. We did a show

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Speaker 2: recently where we talked a little bit about that evolution

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Speaker 2: and really the foundational ideas and how they emerged through

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Speaker 2: Just go back in our repertoire there and you'll find

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Speaker 2: that show. But here I wanted to really get kind

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Speaker 2: of describe the formula and how it works, how it's

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Speaker 2: supposed to function in your life. Now, obviously there has

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Speaker 2: main predicate I think for any human being. And you've

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Speaker 2: you've gone through this yourself. I know you have, each

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Speaker 2: gone through this where you've you've been in that point

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Speaker 2: what I call the negative insurgency, and I'll define that

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Speaker 2: like you're getting just the outright hell kicked out of you.

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Speaker 2: What questions do you ask? And I think these are

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Speaker 2: the same questions that we have been thinking about for

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Speaker 2: divine concept of consciousness, and most especially self consciousness. Right,

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Speaker 2: we've been asking who am I? And why am I here?

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Speaker 2: And I think you know you asked that question first

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Speaker 2: And that's why I'm here, That's why I'm on the microphone.

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Speaker 1: That's why I'm doing what I'm doing in my life.

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Speaker 2: Why I've dedicated my life to doing this is for

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Speaker 1: And that's what I try and help people do.

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Speaker 2: And that's what Frog logic is all designed to do,

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Speaker 2: is to help people answer those questions who am I?

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Speaker 2: Now, obviously the number one thing that impedes us from

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Speaker 2: It's that thing that's always putting that pressure on us. Right,

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Speaker 2: It's that thing that puts us on the anvil of life.

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Speaker 2: And so I describe or define the negative insurgency as

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Speaker 2: which translates into inhibitive thoughts, emotions, and actions relative to

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Speaker 2: one's motivational triggers, right, because like people always want to

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Speaker 2: Or within your own childhood, or within your own trauma

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Speaker 2: It's the battle you're waging up here every day when

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Speaker 2: have that we're all waging a motivation war against ourselves

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Speaker 2: every single day. We're fighting ourselves to find that aptitude

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Speaker 1: It's not what it's doing. That's not what's shaping.

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Speaker 2: or the fortuitousness, or the resolution, whatever adjective you want

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Speaker 1: David Rutherford, my best friend. Welcome to the show, Sean.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for having me. It's an honor to be here.

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Speaker 1: What's Up? Team?

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Speaker 2: I recently had the incredible honor of joining my best

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Speaker 2: been helping individuals and teams to discover how to utilize

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Speaker 1: Your life the way you were meant to live.

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Speaker 1: Thank you very much, oo yah and god speed. You know.

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Speaker 1: I have this.

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Speaker 2: Amazing friend, absolutely young man that I've been working with

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Speaker 2: And pain can be distributed in relatively three different easy

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Speaker 2: and that's essentially your attitude right, or or how you

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Speaker 2: each step, and then you move on to the next one. Right.

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Speaker 2: So it's essentially each mission is a four week period

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Speaker 2: to maximize the capacity within that particular training module, right,

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Speaker 2: And that goes across all twenty two missions that encapsulate

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Speaker 2: the core of what the frog logic concept again, which

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Speaker 2: I said is fear first and foremost, second is self confidence,

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Speaker 2: Thank you very much and godspeed. You know when you

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Speaker 2: again with embracing fear, you know the truth of it

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Speaker 2: is that you cannot defeat fear. It's a It's a

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Speaker 2: part of us on on a biblical level, it's a

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Speaker 2: part part of us on a physiological level. It's a

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Speaker 2: part of us in in every way, shape or form,

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Speaker 2: right from the fact that we have dedicated uh neurocircuitry

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Speaker 2: for snakes proofs uh. You know uh categorically that however,

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Speaker 2: you look at how we got here, however you break

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Speaker 2: it down, whether you're evolutionary biology or you're a belief

473
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Speaker 2: in the creation of God's divine intervention to give us

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Speaker 2: that consciousness in the form that we are right now,

475
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Speaker 2: whatever that time is. You know, however you want to

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Speaker 2: look at it right Fear is a major player in

477
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Speaker 2: all of those things, and so you can't defeat it.

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Speaker 2: There's no such thing as fearless. Yes, there are people

479
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Speaker 2: that have had in head injuries or some bizarre thing.

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Speaker 2: They have underdeveloped amigdalas or hippocampuses that were low blood

481
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Speaker 2: float to those areas for whatever reason, and so there's

482
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Speaker 2: it can be muted or or or subdued in some

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Speaker 2: capacity in some context through through head injuries. It can

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Speaker 2: you know, you can have profound impacts on how you

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Speaker 2: manage that or or how you you sense fear and

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Speaker 2: in the importance of it. So it's a part of us, right,

487
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Speaker 2: you know, and you know the beauty of the knowing

488
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Speaker 2: that is that you are wired to survive. And that

489
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Speaker 2: was a real unique thing for me to come up

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Speaker 2: with in particular. Like I mean, I remember being in

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Speaker 2: training and I would just be riveted with fear, and

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Speaker 2: I'd look over to buddy next to me and they'd

493
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Speaker 2: be like, yeah, dude, this is awesome, right. And you know,

494
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Speaker 2: one of those guys which I found fascinating in my

495
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Speaker 2: boat crew in hell week was Rob O'Neill, you know,

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Speaker 2: and and and you know, Rob god bless. Whether it

497
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Speaker 2: was too dumb to know how painful it was or

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Speaker 2: which I believe that was not the case. I believe

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Speaker 2: he was just hard and he had this great ability

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Speaker 2: to just look at the pain as a shaping component

501
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Speaker 2: of what he was chose to become a part of,

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Speaker 2: Like he had gained control of that perspective in a

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Speaker 2: really unique way.

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Speaker 1: And there are many many.

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Speaker 2: Others around me that I saw do this that I

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm just blown away by, you know, guys

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Speaker 2: that serve for for many many years that I was

508
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Speaker 2: just overwhelmed with with their their strength and who they

509
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Speaker 2: and they are and they've all many of those people

510
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Speaker 2: have gone on to distinguish themselves at the highest hoort.

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Speaker 2: And I saw it when I was an instructor too.

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Speaker 2: That was the thing I was looking for. That was

513
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Speaker 2: the thing that I looked for in my private coaching clients.

514
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Speaker 2: Now I look for that spark, that ability in you,

515
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Speaker 2: you know, in that hard moment, can you can you

516
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Speaker 2: shift it around? Can you find the motivation in the

517
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Speaker 2: pain itself? Because as that fear emerges, is that's what

518
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Speaker 2: gets in the way for us, right, you know? And

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Speaker 2: and and on top of that that wiring, you're also

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Speaker 2: in recognition that guess what, man, you've been taught fear

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Speaker 2: your whole life as well too. I mean, from day one,

522
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Speaker 2: you're taught don't touch that, or don't look, don't look

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Speaker 2: both ways before you cross the street, you know, don't

524
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Speaker 2: you know, don't don't don't talk to strange. You know.

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Speaker 2: My beautiful daughters, they've recited the they've memorized these twenty

526
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Speaker 2: two life missions and and these missions are are you know,

527
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Speaker 2: hopefully will become a default setting at some point when

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Speaker 2: they're mature enough to be in a particular environment and

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Speaker 2: they're like, oh, oh, mission number one. Safety first is

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Speaker 2: is is the environment I'm about ready to move into?

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Speaker 2: Am I thinking about it from a safety perspective?

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Speaker 1: That was mission number one. Mission number four don't.

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Speaker 2: Go near weirdos, right, you know, you know, am, I'm

534
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Speaker 2: I'm walking into this environment and I'm looking around. I've

535
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Speaker 2: got high essay or situational learn that dude looks jacked up, right,

536
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Speaker 2: they're they're they're able to profile based on this indoctrination

537
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Speaker 2: and a being you're going to be afraid.

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Speaker 1: Of no matter what.

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Speaker 2: But in a healthy amount of fear is good because

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Speaker 2: it keeps you aware, it keeps you on your toes right,

541
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Speaker 2: and then how you know, Mission thirteen is embrace your fear.

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Speaker 2: So it's like, hopefully at some point they will be like,

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Speaker 2: all right, well what does this one mean? And I'll

544
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Speaker 2: be like, well, let me just show you step one

545
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Speaker 2: right mission one, and I'll have the opportunity or they'll

546
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Speaker 2: do it on then themselves. But what is my intention

547
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Speaker 2: is to provoke them to say, hey, it's okay. You're

548
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Speaker 2: going to be afraid naturally, and I want you to

549
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Speaker 2: be afraid because you need to be afraid because there's

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Speaker 2: certain things in this life that are dangerous. There are

551
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Speaker 2: people that are dangerous, there are situations that are dangerous.

552
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Speaker 2: It is inescapable help man just spend five seconds looking

553
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 2: at what's taking place in the world around us right now.

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00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,720
Speaker 2: I mean it's a scary world we you know, just

555
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Speaker 2: had the President, in response to the president the form

556
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Speaker 2: President of Ussia made a nuclear threat. And what President Trump,

557
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Speaker 2: he has parked two nuclear submarines off the coast of Russia.

558
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Speaker 2: Now if that doesn't make you afraid, I don't know what. Well, right, So,

559
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Speaker 2: how are we going to manage that? Well? We have

560
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Speaker 2: to learn to embrace that fear. And there is a

561
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Speaker 2: system that I that we've come up with and how to.

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Speaker 1: Do that, all right.

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Speaker 2: The second one, once your fear, once you once you understand,

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Speaker 2: accept and are willing to train yourself, expose yourself to

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Speaker 2: fear and then be able to live with courage in

566
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Speaker 2: your life to utilize fear as that motivational tool in

567
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 2: that war against pain, right, that you can use it

568
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 2: to propel you forward. But before you do that, what

569
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 2: do we have to do next? Is you have to

570
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 2: really get your self confidence dialed in. Right. Most people

571
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Speaker 2: believe that self confidence is an innate thing, and I

572
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Speaker 2: completely disagree with that in every facet. Like you know,

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Speaker 2: I have so many adults that come up to me

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Speaker 2: and they're if I give this talk or whatever and

575
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Speaker 2: They'll be like, you know, hey, Rod, I really wish

576
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Speaker 2: that my sixteen year old son was hit there to

577
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 2: hear you, you know, hear this story. And I'd be like, well,

578
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Speaker 2: how about you? You know how to do for you?

579
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Speaker 2: And then you know, they kind of look around, make

580
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 2: sure nobody's around, and like, yeah, man, I needed that.

581
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:20,800
Speaker 2: I was getting my butt kicked at work recently. My

582
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:24,320
Speaker 2: self confidence was shattered. I lost a couple of big clients.

583
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Speaker 2: You know, I'm not sure what to do. You know,

584
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Speaker 2: the technology is advancing faster than I can keep up with.

585
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 2: I don't know how to market to younger people. Like man,

586
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 2: I'm struggling. Self confidence is under attack by that negative insurgency.

587
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 2: So here's the deal. Here's the truth. Self confidence is

588
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Speaker 2: not absolute, nor will it ever be. In fact, it's

589
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Speaker 2: one of the things that we that embodies us as

590
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 2: human beings that is the most fragile. Think about the

591
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 2: last time in your life that you were betrayed, right,

592
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Speaker 2: what did that do to your self confidence? And I'm

593
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 2: willing to bet it shattered you into a million pieces,

594
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Speaker 2: as it has for me on many occasions. And that's

595
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:10,280
Speaker 2: just how we are, right, We get knocked down every

596
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Speaker 2: single day. But the problem is is most people don't

597
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 2: have a dedicated set of tools or a system or

598
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Speaker 2: a processor or a formula that gets us back together,

599
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:25,880
Speaker 2: or even a group of people man like a tribe

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Speaker 2: that you can lean on to help rebuild you. And

601
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 2: that's a powerful, powerful, powerful thing right that you can

602
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:40,759
Speaker 2: begin to rebuild yourself in with a formula process that

603
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 2: works right. And the other thing of that is is

604
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Speaker 2: that if you aren't sure what to do, you can

605
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 2: simply pick one aspect of those that for foundational or

606
00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 2: that triad right if you want to look at it,

607
00:36:54,840 --> 00:37:00,560
Speaker 2: this right, that directional thing right, physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally right.

608
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 2: And the greater emotional comprehension that you have or emotional

609
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Speaker 2: intelligence that leads yourself to be a truly definitive warrior

610
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Speaker 2: for God right to put that armor of love of

611
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Speaker 2: God around you man. If you can, if you can

612
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Speaker 2: walk through life with the armor of God on man,

613
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Speaker 2: you can you can tackle any challenge, no matter how

614
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Speaker 2: big or how small. And so when you think about

615
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:27,279
Speaker 2: the truth of forging that self confidence on that anvil, right,

616
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Speaker 2: it is forging yourself physically, mentally, emost like I just

617
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:33,919
Speaker 2: had a person reach out to me just the other day,

618
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Speaker 2: going through some heaviness. I said, first and foremost, what

619
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Speaker 2: I want you to do is just start peteeing every day.

620
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Speaker 2: I don't care what you do. Wake up and just

621
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Speaker 2: go walk four miles. I don't care, don't don't.

622
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Speaker 1: Just do that. And what will happen After a week

623
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Speaker 1: or two or three weeks.

624
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,439
Speaker 2: He'll start this body will react to it, It'll start

625
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 2: to feel that strength throughout the day. It'll lift up

626
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 2: his mood, the endorphins, all the other physiological stuff, plus

627
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 2: the mental focus that he is able to get up

628
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:04,200
Speaker 2: every day in the face of the insurgency and beat

629
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Speaker 2: it back a little bit by simply walking.

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Speaker 1: Right.

631
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Speaker 2: That's how basic this is, right, because ultimately there are

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Speaker 2: two types of people. There are people as it relates

633
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:17,560
Speaker 2: to specific skill sets and your performance or what you

634
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:20,680
Speaker 2: want to achieve your ambition. The dream is people who

635
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 2: are willing to go get trained on something and those

636
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 2: who don't want to receive training. Because if you don't

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Speaker 2: have training or you don't engage in training, you're just

638
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 2: winging it. And yeah, there are some people that have

639
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 2: the aptitude who can figure that stuff out, but most

640
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 2: of us, we need dedicated and focused training to be

641
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:41,919
Speaker 2: able to do this right, you know. And the other

642
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:44,959
Speaker 2: component is that And the last truth within that idea

643
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 2: is you've got to love to train, and you've got

644
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 2: to train to fail, So you have to love to fail. Now, again,

645
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,879
Speaker 2: this is a very difficult thing. I get in front

646
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Speaker 2: of three hundred people and I'll ask the question.

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00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:01,400
Speaker 1: I'll be like, who loves to fail? In the room?

648
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Speaker 2: You know, in inevitably there might be one person because

649
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:06,719
Speaker 2: they're all alpha people and they all want to be

650
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 2: successful business people whatever, and this is the one person.

651
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,359
Speaker 2: And I'll be like, all right, you know, where did

652
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 2: you learn that? And many times it'll be somebody that

653
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:19,640
Speaker 2: grew up and their dad was a you know, a

654
00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 2: marine drill instructor, or their father was a police officer,

655
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 2: or their mother was a teacher and taught them this

656
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 2: invaluable skill. Because what happens when failure emerges to our self?

657
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 2: What happens to our self confidence when we fail? It's challenged?

658
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 2: And what's your option? You can either be humble and

659
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:45,960
Speaker 2: have that humility inspire you, right, create that motivation to

660
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 2: over to embrace that fear of like, man, I don't know,

661
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 2: I'm not what I thought I was the moment before.

662
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 2: Right now, all of a sudden, you really don't know

663
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 2: who you what you are, what you thought you were.

664
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:58,080
Speaker 1: And then what do you do?

665
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:01,400
Speaker 2: Well? You utilize that failure to go find the training

666
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:04,440
Speaker 2: to rectify that gap in your knowledge base and your

667
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 2: physicality whatever it might be, and that pushes you forward

668
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 2: and by doing that, re engaging self confidence clims. It's

669
00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 2: that simple. It really is that simple, I'm telling you

670
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:18,319
Speaker 2: all right. So, once your fear is dialed in and

671
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 2: you can manage that with effectively lived with courage with it,

672
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 2: then you have a good system for when your self

673
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 2: confidence is getting knocked down, you build it back up.

674
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: Right.

675
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:29,800
Speaker 2: The next thing is, now you're ready to go out

676
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 2: and really become a part of a team or tribe,

677
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 2: whatever you want to describe it. And the truth is

678
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 2: nobody does it alone. Ever, It's just not we need

679
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:49,239
Speaker 2: help our whole lives, right, and if we don't have

680
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:53,879
Speaker 2: those dedicated swim buddies in our lives, then what are

681
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 2: we We're you know, we're by ourselves. And there's been

682
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:03,360
Speaker 2: conclusion of evidence that that says people who live in

683
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 2: an isolated state in whatever capacity, uh, they develop really

684
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:12,279
Speaker 2: substantial challenges in their in their psychology right, or their

685
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 2: personality disorders emerge and all these other things, and and

686
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 2: that isolationism is horrific for the human condition. And so

687
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:24,240
Speaker 2: what do we need that that prompts us to always

688
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 2: want to go integrate into that existence. And that's why

689
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:31,839
Speaker 2: it's so critical, Like when we're children, you know, you'd

690
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,759
Speaker 2: be able to, you know, socialize your children to where

691
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 2: they can go out and play the game with as

692
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:40,840
Speaker 2: many and as many different iterations as possible. Right, And

693
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:44,440
Speaker 2: that's why sports are such a beautiful thing, or playing

694
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 2: in a band is such a beautiful thing, or or

695
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 2: or going to a camp, a summer camp or whatever,

696
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 2: because what do we have to do. We have to

697
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 2: learn how to function with each other in the development

698
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 2: of those relationships. And we you know, there's there's I

699
00:41:58,680 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 2: don't think I've ever had a person, you know, confront

700
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:04,920
Speaker 2: me on the statement that, you know, the essence of

701
00:42:06,560 --> 00:42:09,759
Speaker 2: a highly functional individual is a person who can integrate

702
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 2: with other people to find common ground and achieve a

703
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:18,319
Speaker 2: particular mission, right by infusing the uniqueness of their personalities.

704
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:22,359
Speaker 2: And there's collective skill sets together to accomplish the task, right,

705
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 2: because and then the other aspect. If you're lucky, if

706
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:29,319
Speaker 2: you're courageous enough, you can embrace that fear enough, and

707
00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:32,120
Speaker 2: you're self confident enough, you can join a team that's

708
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 2: doing great things. And you want to feel fulfilled, like

709
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 2: you want to feel big. You want to feel purpose

710
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 2: driven in your life and join a team that's doing

711
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:48,799
Speaker 2: big things right and where the mission is bigger than yourself.

712
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 2: And that's what we have to have in this life.

713
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:55,759
Speaker 2: You have to recognize that the mission is bigger than

714
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 2: you and if that mission is bigger than you, man,

715
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:02,920
Speaker 2: it gets you out of day, It gets you out

716
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 2: of bed every day, and it enables you to embrace

717
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 2: that fear no matter how scary it's going to be,

718
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 2: because you know your confidence. It's worth it to build

719
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 2: up your confidence every day to get back in the

720
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 2: fight with those people who are on the left and

721
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 2: the right to you. As my unbelievable one of my

722
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 2: closest friends, mister Dan Cirello, used to say shoulder to shoulder,

723
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 2: shield to shield, and that was a reference from ancient Sparta,

724
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 2: but he lived that, he believed it, and I had

725
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:35,839
Speaker 2: the great fortunate to be next to him in many

726
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 2: different capacities and he's truly missed, but he helped me

727
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 2: really understand that the mission is bigger than you.

728
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 1: And when it's.

729
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:46,919
Speaker 2: There, then it's what it's then the willingness to communicate

730
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 2: your intent with the people around you that you love,

731
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:52,200
Speaker 2: that you love most, and to be a leader of

732
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 2: love right or to lead with love. And if you

733
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:00,280
Speaker 2: can lead with love in your heart or follow someone

734
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 2: who's leading with love in their heart. Man, Now you

735
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:06,240
Speaker 2: know you're part of something that's elite, something that's unique,

736
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 2: something that's different, and that's why it's so critical to

737
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 2: understand how to become a part of what is an

738
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 2: elite team, you know, and and we have a system

739
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:18,680
Speaker 2: in place to be able to teach you to do that.

740
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 2: And then finally, the ultimate is is that you end

741
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,080
Speaker 2: up being able to live a life of purpose or

742
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:26,760
Speaker 2: to live with purpose.

743
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 1: Now, what is it?

744
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:32,799
Speaker 2: The truth of purpose is you know you're not going

745
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 2: to find it without going to search for it. Now,

746
00:44:35,760 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 2: a lot of people believe that purpose finds you right

747
00:44:40,719 --> 00:44:43,879
Speaker 2: whether you stumble into it or you know, you go down,

748
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 2: you pick up a job and then you hate that job,

749
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 2: and that you move over to this and through some

750
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 2: random sequence, and next thing you know, you're you come

751
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 2: together and all of a sudden, then your purpose emerges

752
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:59,279
Speaker 2: out of out of God's divine touch or influence. Right,

753
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:04,400
Speaker 2: But it's much more attainable if you go seek it

754
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:08,239
Speaker 2: out like you seek something, and that that search, right,

755
00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 2: it's it's it initiates with those those very intense questions

756
00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 2: who am I?

757
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 1: And why am I here? Like? Who am I? Why?

758
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 2: What is going to make me a viable candidate for

759
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:22,560
Speaker 2: people wanting to be a part, letting me into their

760
00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 2: tribe or being part of my tribe? Right?

761
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 1: Who am I? Why I'm here?

762
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 2: That in and of itself, you could spend your entire

763
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:33,120
Speaker 2: life searching that out the answers to that, as I

764
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 2: hope you have, and I know everybody listening right now

765
00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 2: has done that. You've asked yourself that you're like, well,

766
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 2: what am I supposed to.

767
00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: Do in my life? I don't know?

768
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 2: And I asked this question more than any other question,

769
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 2: you know, and and I you know, I typically get

770
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 2: four answers, and one is my purpose is to serve

771
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 2: my family, which is awesome, brilliant. Of course, purpose can

772
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:59,320
Speaker 2: emerge out of that, right in particularly if you have children,

773
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:02,319
Speaker 2: or a spouse, and you're dedicated to them, you want

774
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 2: them to be fulfilled. And because that that in and

775
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 2: of itself, you dedicate your life where your purpose is

776
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 2: your family.

777
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:13,840
Speaker 1: Man, Just you're ahead of the game, right right. The

778
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 1: other one is is altruism in nature.

779
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 2: I wanna you know, I I I I want to

780
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:25,279
Speaker 2: leave the world a better place, I mean awesome, all right,

781
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,920
Speaker 2: figure out what what specific.

782
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:28,960
Speaker 1: Thing you want to do that. I mean that that

783
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:29,959
Speaker 1: in and of itself too.

784
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 2: The third which is probably one of the most powerful

785
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 2: and one of the things that's influenced me at the

786
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:39,440
Speaker 2: highest order after I uh, you know, started to realize

787
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 2: the fourth one, but is you know, to serve God

788
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 2: or to be spiritual, to have you know, to really

789
00:46:45,080 --> 00:46:49,520
Speaker 2: conjure up the necessity and faith in people right and

790
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 2: to drop those seeds in life, and to be apostolic

791
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 2: in nature man, to serve Christ. Well, man, you you

792
00:46:56,080 --> 00:47:01,960
Speaker 2: want to have purpose, just go do that and it's beautiful,

793
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,360
Speaker 2: I love. And then the final one is most a

794
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:06,239
Speaker 2: lot of people, especially young people. I don't know what

795
00:47:06,280 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 2: my purpose is. And trust me, I understand that I

796
00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:11,719
Speaker 2: was in that spot at twenty two years old, in

797
00:47:11,800 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 2: my fourth year in college.

798
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:17,759
Speaker 1: I was lost. I was a lost soul. I had

799
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:18,719
Speaker 1: no idea.

800
00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:22,600
Speaker 2: And you know, through my first real big God moment,

801
00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 2: God said, well, you know, I think you should go

802
00:47:24,680 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 2: try and become a navy seal.

803
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:27,240
Speaker 1: Good God.

804
00:47:29,680 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 2: I wish he had told me something else, but that

805
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 2: was the one that stuck with me. But and so

806
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:38,399
Speaker 2: what was it? I had to go search my purpose out.

807
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 2: And that's what I'm talking about, right.

808
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:42,200
Speaker 1: And here's the deal.

809
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 2: If you're doing it right, it's going to be painful,

810
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:47,839
Speaker 2: but that pain is going to be positive pain. It's

811
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 2: going to be the positive application of pain that forces

812
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 2: adaptation and change and assimilation and growth. Every single day

813
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: that you feel that that wins, that moan, that struggle,

814
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 2: that fatigue, you're growing out of that. And then the

815
00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:07,839
Speaker 2: real truth beyond that is that if you're not sure,

816
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:11,240
Speaker 2: then just start by putting other people ahead of yourself

817
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 2: to serve others. And you know that the truth lies

818
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:19,719
Speaker 2: within each step you'll ever take, by by giving the

819
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 2: most valuable thing you have in your life, which is time,

820
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 2: because you don't know when your endpoint is going to be.

821
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:27,560
Speaker 2: And trust me as a person that has felt like

822
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:31,439
Speaker 2: I flirted with that endpoint multiple times. It's really every

823
00:48:31,520 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 2: step that you get to take towards serving someone else. Man,

824
00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 2: it makes it makes purpose tangible, like you feel it.

825
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 2: And that's not the idea that I'm going to give

826
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 2: somebody something and have an expectation that I want that

827
00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:48,319
Speaker 2: you know, the gratification of that you're going to give

828
00:48:48,360 --> 00:48:51,879
Speaker 2: me something back, although that's what the healthiest relationships are.

829
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:55,600
Speaker 2: They're reciprocal in nature. The game is equitable on each side.

830
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:59,280
Speaker 2: But man, you want to serve, you know above all others,

831
00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:03,759
Speaker 2: is you just know, give people that unconditional love and

832
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 2: that man, that that will take you to another level.

833
00:49:08,080 --> 00:49:11,359
Speaker 2: And really right, true purpose requires for you to love

834
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:15,239
Speaker 2: the idea of sacrifice. You know.

835
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:16,959
Speaker 1: I it's.

836
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:23,840
Speaker 2: It's difficult for me to just stop for a moment.

837
00:49:23,920 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 2: I think about I think about people like Jason Freewall

838
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:44,799
Speaker 2: who died on September eleventh, two thousand and eight, and

839
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:58,799
Speaker 2: what he sacrificed. That's purpose. I mean, we have this

840
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:05,320
Speaker 2: idea from my world that the only easy day was yesterday,

841
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 2: and now I know that's been battered and hammered and

842
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 2: almost become kind of comedic. In particular, if you were

843
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:17,000
Speaker 2: to ask my my Green Beret friends, or my Ranger

844
00:50:17,080 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 2: buddies or my mar soccer marine buddies. You know, the

845
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 2: only easy day was yesterday, you know. And they bust

846
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:28,000
Speaker 2: my chops for this. But man, there's a lot of

847
00:50:28,040 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 2: truth to that. In particular, if if you're trying to

848
00:50:32,239 --> 00:50:36,400
Speaker 2: live this higher order life, you're trying to have real meaning,

849
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:40,880
Speaker 2: genuine meaning and focus and determination and trying to figure out.

850
00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 1: Who you are.

851
00:50:43,840 --> 00:50:45,920
Speaker 2: And I think that's why, you know, the idea of

852
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 2: the bell for us represents so much. You know, we

853
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:54,680
Speaker 2: in our training we have this bell. You know. I

854
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:56,920
Speaker 2: used to think of it as like the bell was

855
00:50:57,000 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 2: this god awful thing. This it was this like its

856
00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:04,879
Speaker 2: own entity, and you'd run on the grinder every day

857
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:07,719
Speaker 2: and you'd kind of side eye it, you know, as

858
00:51:07,800 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 2: you'd run by with your swim buddy or your teammates,

859
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:12,160
Speaker 2: and you'd be like, don't look at it, don't look

860
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:12,720
Speaker 2: at it.

861
00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:13,400
Speaker 1: You know.

862
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:15,319
Speaker 2: But then that thing you'd be in the middle of

863
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 2: some day, man, and you'd hear that thing ring three times.

864
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 2: And that's what the instructor's staff would do. That was protocol.

865
00:51:22,560 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 2: If you decided that the program wasn't for you, it

866
00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 2: wasn't right for you. Then you would go up and

867
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 2: you would ring that bell three times, and that would signify, hey,

868
00:51:32,160 --> 00:51:36,719
Speaker 2: I'm I'm done with this right now. I'm you know,

869
00:51:36,760 --> 00:51:40,440
Speaker 2: I the idea of you know, I quit this, you know,

870
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 2: that's what we we would say, and that's what it is,

871
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:45,960
Speaker 2: is I'm quitting this because the intensity is too much,

872
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 2: it's not right for me.

873
00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 1: I just don't want to do this. So you ring

874
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 1: that bell, you.

875
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:57,200
Speaker 2: Know that dong dong right, and man, you'd hear that

876
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:00,799
Speaker 2: wherever you were and you almost like you feel that

877
00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:05,400
Speaker 2: shutter come down your spine, and you know there's a

878
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:09,400
Speaker 2: certain point or attitude. And a lot of people that

879
00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:13,359
Speaker 2: was like, man, good, good riddance. Get out of here.

880
00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:15,279
Speaker 2: We don't want you. If you can't hack it, we

881
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:18,040
Speaker 2: don't want you. This is not a game. We're going

882
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:20,080
Speaker 2: to combat, we're going to war. People are going to

883
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:21,919
Speaker 2: die if you can't hack it. Get out of here.

884
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 2: But for me, man, I had so many guys I

885
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 2: knew ring out It was like, god, man, that's such

886
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:33,480
Speaker 2: a heavy thing. They're they're they're willfully ending this pursuit

887
00:52:33,520 --> 00:52:41,319
Speaker 2: of their dream. And so the bell what it represents,

888
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:43,960
Speaker 2: and so I use it quite a bit. Metaphorically. We

889
00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:47,680
Speaker 2: all have the bell on our shoulder, just right there

890
00:52:48,640 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 2: all day, every day. We can ring that bell if

891
00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 2: we want, and we can, we can move on or

892
00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 2: whatever task it is we can. We cannot ring that

893
00:52:57,760 --> 00:53:04,120
Speaker 2: bell if we choose to, if we choose to, and

894
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 2: that's what I have tried to do. That's what I

895
00:53:10,040 --> 00:53:13,880
Speaker 2: have dedicated thirty years of my life is to create

896
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:18,160
Speaker 2: some kind of program, some kind of system, some kind

897
00:53:18,160 --> 00:53:24,279
Speaker 2: of process that can help you figure out how to

898
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:32,319
Speaker 2: ring that bell. So again, I appreciate all of you.

899
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:37,400
Speaker 2: I can't thank you enough for just listening and paying

900
00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:42,760
Speaker 2: attention and for watching me and being on this journey

901
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:45,279
Speaker 2: with me, and for all those new listeners that I have,

902
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:50,799
Speaker 2: and I just I'm overwhelmed. I'm grateful that you would

903
00:53:50,840 --> 00:53:54,720
Speaker 2: even take two seconds out of your day to listen

904
00:53:54,760 --> 00:53:56,920
Speaker 2: to me on this thing, or to.

905
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 1: Just not ring the bell. So thank you, God, bless

906
00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 1: you