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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter. Were my friend Shirley straw Berry. Thank

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Speaker 1: you junior? All right? Subject Stephen KD get more attention

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Speaker 1: than I do. Dear Stephen, Shirley, I've been seeing this

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Speaker 1: It doesn't seem like he's seeing anyone else. What do

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Speaker 1: he's quite childish, you know, if he can't put you

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Speaker 1: the game. His life is centered around basketball game. I

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Speaker 1: think he's selfish, you know. I definitely don't have a

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Speaker 1: I don't think if he makes a date with you,

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Speaker 1: Is what's called a die hard sports fan? Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: so it's half a season. He's a big basketball fan,

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Speaker 1: he's eight years old? STI years old? Well, the boy

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Speaker 1: More than a few times, you've made plans and end

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Speaker 1: two of Steve's response. Steph and KD get more attention

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Speaker 1: because I relation your ship is on shaky ground too. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but you know it's more to it than that though. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And why are you upset with these people losing these

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Speaker 1: And I don't think he is well Steve. In the

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Speaker 1: Listen to me, it's gonna be okay. You just got

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Speaker 1: that's all it is. He's a Drake. Look at Drake.

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Speaker 1: He's die hard. He's die hard. But but we didn't

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Speaker 1: for sure. Drake sitting right, it's different if you're in

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Speaker 1: Morning Show.