1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,680 Speaker 1: Right here, right now. Okay, all right, ladies and gentlemen, 2 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:05,640 Speaker 1: it is that time. It is time for the Strawberry 3 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:08,840 Speaker 1: Letter with my good friend Shirley straw Beard, thank you, 4 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:13,760 Speaker 1: junior subject. I'm dating her brother in law, Dear Stephen. Shirley, 5 00:00:14,080 --> 00:00:17,680 Speaker 1: I recently met a wonderful man and we instantly had 6 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:20,799 Speaker 1: a connection. I am a widow and his wife died 7 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 1: earlier this year. When we met, he looked familiar to me, 8 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 1: but I thought that it was just a coincidence. After 9 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 1: a few dates, we talked more about his wife that 10 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: had died, and he told me her name. I knew 11 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: his wife, and when I put two and two together, 12 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 1: I realized why he was so familiar to me. His 13 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:45,159 Speaker 1: deceased wife was the sister of one of my good friends. 14 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:47,839 Speaker 1: I knew all about him and their family, but I 15 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 1: hadn't met him before. I told him about the connection 16 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: I had with that family, and he said that it 17 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 1: was totally fine and normal for him to move on, 18 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 1: and he can't help if help it if he's attracted 19 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 1: to me. So we've been for a little over a 20 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: month and my friend is asking about the great guy 21 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:08,440 Speaker 1: I met and wants all of the details I just 22 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: told her that the guy is great, has a nice home, 23 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: cooks and cleans, and the sex is phenomenal. But that 24 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: was all before I knew it was her brother in law. 25 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:20,320 Speaker 1: Now it will be really awkward to tell her who 26 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:22,640 Speaker 1: the man is. He and I have discussed how we 27 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: should let my friend know, but there is never a 28 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: good time to bring it up to her. This should 29 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: not be a big problem, but I feel like it 30 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:33,680 Speaker 1: will be again. It's the best sex I've sex ever, 31 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:38,319 Speaker 1: and we have been all over his house, her sister's house. 32 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: I feel kind of bad, but I'm truly falling for 33 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:43,679 Speaker 1: this man. I don't want to lose her friendship. But 34 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: this man says he could see us being together forever. 35 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 1: He says he's crazy about me too. What should we do? 36 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: While I mean, you've been together a month, stay together, 37 00:01:54,320 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: see how it goes. I mean, I think that's what 38 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: you guys should do. You're two grown people. You were 39 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 1: too innocent people who, just like in the movies, you 40 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: met and fell in love or you're starting to fall 41 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: for each other. You know, that's pretty much it. It 42 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: was nothing sneaky or deedious or premeditated about it. You 43 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: guys weren't cheating, you know, before your spouse has died 44 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 1: or anything like that. So I just say, you don't 45 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: owe anyone anything any explanations. Necessarily, when you get around 46 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:27,080 Speaker 1: to it, you can tell your friend. I would suggest 47 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:31,399 Speaker 1: you guys tell them, tell them together. But in the meantime, 48 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: if I were you, I would stop talking to your 49 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 1: friend about your new man, because it will only make 50 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: her want to know more and more about him. And 51 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: is it awkward. Yes, I agree it's a bit awkward, 52 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:45,799 Speaker 1: but again, it was innocent the way you guys met. 53 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 1: So I mean, we're all grown here. Things happen, life 54 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 1: goes on, and you know you weren't friends with his wife. 55 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:55,919 Speaker 1: You were friends with his wife's sister, and this thing 56 00:02:56,160 --> 00:03:01,760 Speaker 1: just happened. It's nobody's fault, so you know. I mean, 57 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:05,800 Speaker 1: I just say, be adults here. You know they'll find 58 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 1: out sooner or later. But I don't think there's any 59 00:03:08,280 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: time frame or time limit on when you have to 60 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: tell a person or anything. You guys decide, it's your 61 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: life and you have to deal with it how you 62 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:21,800 Speaker 1: want to deal with it. Steve, Oh, sorry, Shirley, Sorry 63 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: I read a different letter. I'm confused. I'm confused. Subject 64 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:34,079 Speaker 1: is I'm dating her brother in law. The letter starts 65 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: with this woman obviously has met this really wonderful man 66 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: and they instantly had a connection. The later that writes 67 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 1: the letter is a widow and the man she met 68 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: that had this wonderful connection his wife died earlier this year. Now, 69 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: just listening to that opening line, I recently met a 70 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 1: wonderful man and we instantly had a connect. I'm a 71 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 1: widow and his wife died earlier this year. This letter 72 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: is about a lot of old people. That's what this is. 73 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 1: What just wants you to put some age on. This 74 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:16,479 Speaker 1: is the right here people. It's just too many people died. 75 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: And in the first sentence, you're on a dating this 76 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 1: damn near a dating site for people who look life 77 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:33,800 Speaker 1: feeling empty. Ain't got nobody loved one going away? Come 78 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:38,359 Speaker 1: to the here after dating site because that's what tender 79 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 1: for old people. Yeah, this this is the old people. 80 00:04:43,440 --> 00:04:46,359 Speaker 1: This is this ain't swipe right, swipe left. This is 81 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 1: heir ILM swipe right. When we met, he looked familiar 82 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:55,480 Speaker 1: to me, but I thought it was just a coincidence. 83 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 1: A few dates we talked more about his wife. That 84 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:03,799 Speaker 1: had died, and he told me her name. I knew 85 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 1: his wife, and when I put two and two together, 86 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: Wait a minute, holy who see that's the linded through me. 87 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 1: After he told her her nature, This woman said, I 88 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 1: knew his wife, and then I put two and two together. 89 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:22,200 Speaker 1: I realized why he was so familiar to me. Excuse me. 90 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 1: His deceased wife was the sister of one of my 91 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:30,920 Speaker 1: good friends. I knew all about him and their family, 92 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:33,360 Speaker 1: but I hadn't met him before. Wait a minute, lady, 93 00:05:33,400 --> 00:05:38,120 Speaker 1: you're confusing me. You just said you realized why he 94 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 1: was so familiar to you, and then you said I 95 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:43,839 Speaker 1: knew all about him and his family, but I hadn't 96 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: met him before. Why was he so familiar to you 97 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 1: if you ain't met him before, See, Shirley, that's why 98 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:59,600 Speaker 1: I said. I think she leaving something out. Yeah. Yeah, 99 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: but he knew him, That's why he sounded. So that's 100 00:06:02,560 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: why he was so familiar. I don't think sounded. I 101 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 1: think he recognized him because he kept looking at him. 102 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:11,160 Speaker 1: I I told him about the connection I had with 103 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: that family. He says, totally fine and normal for him. 104 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 1: Move on here and here she dead, I finished up. 105 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:25,160 Speaker 1: When you come back. Hell, she dead, well at least 106 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 1: two old people, and rode in on this one old man. 107 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 1: She didn't rode in. And she's a widow. And she 108 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:35,040 Speaker 1: met a man whose wife died earlier. Then she's a 109 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: lot of death in his first sentence, and then it 110 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 1: and then when we met, he looked familiar to me, 111 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:44,240 Speaker 1: See Shelley. He looked familiar to me, but I thought 112 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 1: it was just coincident. After a few days, we talked 113 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: more about his wife that had died. He told me 114 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:52,600 Speaker 1: her name. I knew his wife, and then I put 115 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 1: two and two together. I realized why he was so 116 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: familiar to me. His deceased wife was the sister of 117 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: my good one of my good friends. I knew all 118 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: about him and their family, but I hadn't met him before, 119 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 1: meaning Shirley. She had not been formally introduced, but she'd 120 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: been in the same room, vicinity party, barbeque something. I 121 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:18,880 Speaker 1: knew all about him and their family, but I hadn't 122 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: met him before. I told him about the connection I 123 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: had with that family. He said, it's fine, normal for 124 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: him to move on. Here she dad and he can't 125 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:34,760 Speaker 1: help it. He did say that man his head, No, 126 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 1: he said I'm totally fine. It's normal for him to 127 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:42,600 Speaker 1: move on. Hell, she dad, and he can't be helping 128 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: if he's attracting me, and you fine, you find that 129 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:50,760 Speaker 1: she dead what you want me to do. So we've 130 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:52,680 Speaker 1: been dating for a little over a month and my 131 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 1: friend is asking about this great guy met him? Want 132 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 1: all the details? Now? This just a month now. I 133 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: keep telling y'all about nine to day, but it don't 134 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: apply to them because they're old. Okay, I met and 135 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 1: wont all the details. I just told her that the 136 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 1: guy is great, he got nice home, cooking clean, and 137 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:16,119 Speaker 1: the sex is phenomenal. That's the line in the letter 138 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: that's gonna get you jumped on. When you tell your 139 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: friend you dating her dad, sisters ex husband that you 140 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:35,480 Speaker 1: saw at the BARBIEQ you've been around us, she gonna 141 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:38,240 Speaker 1: swear them down. You was looking at his ass there. 142 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:43,320 Speaker 1: I promise you she is because it's her sister and 143 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 1: you her friend. Women ain't that open mind that y'all 144 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:51,560 Speaker 1: stop spreading that line that you are because you're not. 145 00:08:53,720 --> 00:09:01,880 Speaker 1: Surely yes we are. No, you're not. The guy's great, 146 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 1: nice home, could clean, and the sexiest phenomenal. But that 147 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 1: was all before I knew it was her brother in law. 148 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:11,439 Speaker 1: Where all less her brother in law and y'all been 149 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: everywhere and to hit her crazy part nis really awkward 150 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: to tell her who the man is you damn light 151 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 1: because it's her dad sister's husband here. And I've discussed 152 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 1: how we should let my friend know, but there's never 153 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 1: a good time to bring it up to her. Hell 154 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,320 Speaker 1: now ain't no good time. This should not be a 155 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:31,679 Speaker 1: big problem, but I feel like it we will be. 156 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: You don't feel like it will be. You know it's 157 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 1: gonna be because you know your girlfriend crazy and you 158 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 1: gonna tell her that this phenomenal sex you didn't have 159 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:47,959 Speaker 1: was with her dead sister's man that you are familiar with. 160 00:09:48,360 --> 00:09:52,880 Speaker 1: You just couldn't place it. And again, it's the best 161 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 1: sex ever. And we've been all over his house, all 162 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: on her sister's walls. Oh, sister, step you ain't down 163 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: on her sister kitchen table. You ain't now her sister 164 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 1: robo yas her sister bad you funky her for you? 165 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:25,600 Speaker 1: Oh no, you ain't gonna disgrace my sister memory. You 166 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:29,280 Speaker 1: was after Barbie Q looking at him that whole time. 167 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 1: I knew the way you're looking at her. I'm truly 168 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: falling for this man. I don't want to lose her friendship. 169 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:38,559 Speaker 1: But this man says he could see us being together forever. 170 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 1: He says he's crazy about me too. What should we do? Well, 171 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:50,439 Speaker 1: surely got one thing right, y'all should tell her together. Now. 172 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:54,160 Speaker 1: The reason I'm suggesting that you tell her together is 173 00:10:54,160 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: so that when she opened fire, When she opened fire, 174 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: there will be some options because if you over there 175 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 1: by herself, then you gonna get shot. At least she 176 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: could decide if she gonna shoot it her or him. 177 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:18,960 Speaker 1: But don't you go into this thing naively. Now you 178 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:22,440 Speaker 1: all gonna have to tell her because if she find out, 179 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:27,200 Speaker 1: Oh my god, then you're worse sneaking round and you 180 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 1: knew where he knew and she knew, and y'all men 181 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:33,719 Speaker 1: at the party, Oh, it's gonna be It's gonna be 182 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:37,959 Speaker 1: horrible if she finds out and you all don't tell her. 183 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: I think your friendship with this woman is over, and 184 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:45,320 Speaker 1: I think this life of duds new Man has begun. 185 00:11:46,120 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 1: But oftentimes you can't get to the next level without 186 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:52,199 Speaker 1: sheding some weight. Y'all about to find out a lot 187 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 1: about y'all's friendship I wish I was Monel of the 188 00:11:54,440 --> 00:12:00,720 Speaker 1: kid right there. There'll be times when you were oh no, 189 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 1: m m. There's gonna be some dog days for that, 190 00:12:09,480 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 1: right there. Good luck, lady. Hey all right, listening to us, 191 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 1: Film it and send it to us. Post your comments 192 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:21,080 Speaker 1: on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram 193 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 1: and Facebook, and don't forget to check out the Strawberry 194 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:27,200 Speaker 1: Letter podcast on demand. You're listening to the Steve Harvey 195 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:27,880 Speaker 1: Morning Show.