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Speaker 1: The Nicky podcast Natas here's Nikki. Oh isn't that lovely?

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Speaker 1: We just recorded that at breakfast with all my best

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Speaker 1: gals here in Tuloom, Mexico. There um big fans of

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Speaker 1: the show, and so they've been singing it all weekend.

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Speaker 1: And I gotta say a song with my name in it.

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Speaker 1: It's a double edged sword. It like feels good, but

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Speaker 1: it also feels ridiculous, and uh, but it was so fun.

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Speaker 1: Noah came down to breakfast after she had left to

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Speaker 1: prep for the podcast. I was like, I'll be up

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Speaker 1: in ten minutes. We're finishing a conversation about anxiety and

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Speaker 1: like depression and finding and talent and all these things,

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Speaker 1: just trying to figure out our lives. And then Noah

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Speaker 1: came down with all our equipment, was like, can I

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Speaker 1: get you guys to record the intro? And it was

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Speaker 1: so fun to do and uh, what a great little memory.

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Speaker 1: It's the last day here in my vacation, on my

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Speaker 1: vacation into Loom. Uh it has been Yesterday was so fun.

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Speaker 1: We went to the pool again, we got COVID tested.

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Speaker 1: We uh what else did we do? We went to dinner.

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Speaker 1: We I don't know, we're just like relaxing. There's no activities,

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Speaker 1: there's no like I know that we're supposed to go

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Speaker 1: see some marshes or something with a bioluminescence, but we're

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Speaker 1: just haying and talking. It's so fun. No, Uh, we've

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Speaker 1: played the game on the show before. But the new

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Speaker 1: game from uh Sex Therapist author many other titles, probably

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Speaker 1: like you know, doctor Esther Perel created a game called

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Speaker 1: where should We Begin? Right? And um, we were like

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Speaker 1: we played it on the show before and we were

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Speaker 1: like yesterday picking cards and and I really was like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if this game is going to bring

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Speaker 1: out the best stories within. Once we were all at

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Speaker 1: a pool, like at a fun festive pool where the

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Speaker 1: the vibe is like you know, vacation pool, and um,

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Speaker 1: one person cried, one person revealed something never like everyone

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Speaker 1: was revealing things they've never revealed before. It was a

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Speaker 1: really good game. If you I really recommend that where

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Speaker 1: should we Begin? It's just a question game. And um,

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Speaker 1: it's kind of like cards, Cards of Humanity, whatever the

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Speaker 1: hell uh that thing is. But it's it's that simple,

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Speaker 1: but it just generates. I just love good deep conversation

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Speaker 1: all been about. And it's funny because I know all

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Speaker 1: of my friends deepest things or like most of them,

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Speaker 1: you know, like their stuff, and they're slowly like revealing

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Speaker 1: things like I'm just like, you guys have this, and

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Speaker 1: to like set my friends up. It's like it's almost like,

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Speaker 1: Andrew and Globs of Chango, my dance partner from Dancing

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Speaker 1: a little bit feeling anxious about just the COVID news

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00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:07,679
Speaker 1: just becoming more like masks are back, Like, you know,

424
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,480
Speaker 1: in our building the other day, it was like master

425
00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 1: back on Monday, so you know, we have to wear

426
00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 1: masks in the building, and it seems like everyone's kind

427
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:17,240
Speaker 1: of backed. It's just scaring me that, you know, there's

428
00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 1: a tour that I'm doing, there's there's just it's just

429
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:25,000
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit better prepared for a lockdown again

430
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:29,240
Speaker 1: because I have a house or a place. Um, but

431
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,120
Speaker 1: I'm just like, I haven't even been reading the news.

432
00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:33,680
Speaker 1: I just wrote to any know, I was like, because

433
00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 1: she always knows what's going on, I'm like, will you

434
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:37,480
Speaker 1: tell me what you think it's going to happen, Even

435
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:40,280
Speaker 1: though like what does she know? But she yeah, she

436
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:44,119
Speaker 1: assuaged my fears, but also increased them too. I don't know,

437
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,560
Speaker 1: what do you think? Um? From what I saw, the

438
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,600
Speaker 1: delta variant is very contagious, but there are a lot

439
00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 1: of people vaccinated, so what could possibly happen. It could

440
00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 1: be a fast sweep and then unvaccinated people actually get

441
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:58,880
Speaker 1: the antibodies and then everybody is pretty much covered because

442
00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:02,120
Speaker 1: don't have the antibodies. People will be vaccinated and life

443
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,600
Speaker 1: will go on, hopefully pray that being said, the tour

444
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,919
Speaker 1: will probably be canceled and we'll probably just end up

445
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:11,400
Speaker 1: laying in the living room with like candles lit and

446
00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 1: just playing Kumbay, all being meant to be regardless of

447
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:20,520
Speaker 1: what exactly exactly. Yeah, yeah, I think so this, Yeah,

448
00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:24,240
Speaker 1: this trip is coming to an end tomorrow. Everyone's already

449
00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:25,879
Speaker 1: talking about like leaving, and I'm just like, can we

450
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: know it's not yet? Like I just hate the last

451
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:29,280
Speaker 1: day of a trip. It's almost like the last day

452
00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:31,640
Speaker 1: of the trip isn't even a real day because everyone's

453
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:35,000
Speaker 1: thinking about packing and going home tomorrow and when we're

454
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 1: gonna do this and like just overthinking, and I'm just like,

455
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,440
Speaker 1: let's just all underthink it, like it's all gonna be okay.

456
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:44,919
Speaker 1: We don't need to like obsess about okay, like I

457
00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:48,200
Speaker 1: gotta pack later. It's just like, just can we just

458
00:23:48,560 --> 00:23:55,679
Speaker 1: be easy. If you go on vacation, always take then

459
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 1: when you get home, take one day off two which

460
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 1: I saw. I think just add that day to whatever

461
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:05,040
Speaker 1: you think is the amount of days you want to spend,

462
00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 1: because it just will give you that extra because the

463
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 1: last dapification does not counts. It's just like the resort

464
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:15,280
Speaker 1: is almost like over you being there. They're like they

465
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 1: can't even wait. They're already like salvating at you leaving

466
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:20,679
Speaker 1: and not being I mean, we are so ridiculous. And

467
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 1: none of us are drunk. That's the thing, is like

468
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 1: no one here is drinking, and so when we are

469
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 1: ob not just we go to this pool every day

470
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 1: that's one of the sister hotels here, and like yesterday,

471
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:33,919
Speaker 1: the first day we went, we were so we weren't loud.

472
00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:36,399
Speaker 1: You know what drunk people are a loud. We weren't loud.

473
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 1: We were just being silly and laughing a lot. And

474
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 1: you could just tell these couples on honeymoons fucking hated us.

475
00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:46,119
Speaker 1: This guy looked at me with such disdain, waited for

476
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 1: me to look over at him, and was just just

477
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:50,439
Speaker 1: and I go, I feel like he might be friends

478
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,160
Speaker 1: with someone that I've like hurt or something, or like

479
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 1: I did some bit that offended him. Like it's felt

480
00:24:57,200 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 1: so personal because it's just like sorry that we're reminding

481
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 1: you that you your relationship is probably doomed because you're

482
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,240
Speaker 1: on your honeymoon and you're already bored with each other

483
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 1: and the excitement of getting married and all that stuff

484
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 1: that made you feel like this was good. It's all

485
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 1: setting in that, like maybe you don't love her that much,

486
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 1: and now you are like and she's jealous that she

487
00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:18,600
Speaker 1: is not with her girlfriends, and you're sensing that and

488
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:20,480
Speaker 1: you're mad at her, and so you're sneering at me,

489
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:23,400
Speaker 1: you dick. So yesterday we showed up and those same

490
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:25,440
Speaker 1: people were there and we were just like, oh, they

491
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:27,399
Speaker 1: all hate us so much. Then we went to dinner

492
00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:30,119
Speaker 1: and then one of the couples walked in to the

493
00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 1: dinner place and we were like, we bet they will

494
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 1: just turn on a dime once they see us to

495
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 1: walk out, because we just like, are we're just having fun,

496
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:39,520
Speaker 1: We're doing like silly things. We're not trying to be hot.

497
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: We're not trying we're being gross. We're being like I

498
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:44,760
Speaker 1: was doing Butterfly the other day in the pool, and

499
00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 1: I just felt like ever, I felt so annoying doing

500
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 1: it because it's just such an aggressive thing. But no

501
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 1: one was in the pool except us. But there's people

502
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,200
Speaker 1: laying out and I wasn't splashing them, but I could

503
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:56,159
Speaker 1: just tell they were like piste off that I was

504
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 1: doing Butterfly. And then we were pretending to be dogs

505
00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:02,120
Speaker 1: that fell in the pool. Selena does a great impression

506
00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 1: of a dog that's just like, I don't want to

507
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 1: be the water, just like the eyes go to the

508
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 1: side and it's just like the dog paddles like and

509
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 1: can't pay attention. Really, it's okay, Bailey, It's okay. And

510
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 1: then she got out and like just shakes around like

511
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 1: we were doing dog impressions. I mean, really, we were

512
00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 1: acting like children more than anything, but not even obnoxious children.

513
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 1: People resent people having fun, and even I do when

514
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 1: I'm on a vacation. I mean I'm projecting. I've been

515
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 1: on vacations before where my boyfriend and I aren't getting

516
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:28,919
Speaker 1: along and I look at girls having fun and I

517
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 1: fucking hate them, But it's really because I hate that

518
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 1: I'm not well, yeah, I you know. We were was

519
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,679
Speaker 1: that hotel, the Roosevelt Hotel in l A. And I

520
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 1: remember we did a swim like competition of like swimming

521
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:47,359
Speaker 1: freestyle then backstroke, then underwater and who could go to fastest.

522
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:50,640
Speaker 1: And it's like people looked at us like because they're

523
00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:54,400
Speaker 1: all kid that everyone at that pools kicked and we're

524
00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 1: being you have to be killed. Some would say we're

525
00:26:56,800 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 1: cooked because we're not caring about anyone else and we're

526
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 1: being loud and ever, but we're just having fun, like

527
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 1: a pool is made to play Marco Polo, Like that's

528
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 1: what we've been doing our whole life. When did we

529
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 1: stop Marco Polo in our lives? Like, get over it.

530
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 1: It's just hearing people laugh loudly and just I mean,

531
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 1: I get it. Whenever I'm at like a restaurant and

532
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 1: there's a table that's just screaming, it's usually though precipitated

533
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:20,160
Speaker 1: by drinking, and I just know that those people aren't

534
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:22,719
Speaker 1: even gonna remember the times they're having because they're so drunk.

535
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, this is all for nothing shut up.

536
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 1: But when it's or people on a plane that are

537
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,439
Speaker 1: super drunk that are just loud, like you just know

538
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 1: a drunk person, they get so damn loud. The music

539
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 1: last night was loud at this place and I was like,

540
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell them to turn it down, and everyone

541
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:38,879
Speaker 1: at the table was kind of just like, please don't.

542
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:40,800
Speaker 1: That's gonna be so weird. The guy couldn't have been

543
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 1: nicer about it, like it was fine, music is too

544
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 1: loud in place and this is this is that kind

545
00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:48,840
Speaker 1: of place, and I go, well, it shouldn't be. People

546
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 1: are eating dinner, there's no one dancing. This doesn't need

547
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 1: to be this loud, and they're like, but that's kind

548
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:54,800
Speaker 1: of the vibe here. It's like yeah, I know, but

549
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,399
Speaker 1: um it's not. This is a bad business model, Like

550
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:00,400
Speaker 1: people are trying to have these are all fam Lee's

551
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 1: and like people wanting to talk during dinner and there's

552
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 1: like this. It's just so I don't understand that. It's

553
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,120
Speaker 1: so funny because we went to Uh, there's a place

554
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:13,680
Speaker 1: called viagraa Triangle or viagraa Circle or something in Chicago

555
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 1: where it's literally and girls with fake clips that are

556
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 1: like in they're like late twenties whatever. And it's just

557
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:25,440
Speaker 1: like these old, like like greasy haired men that all

558
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:29,159
Speaker 1: look like, you know, like snakes in a Lamborghini and

559
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 1: which is a new movie coming out with Samuel Jackson

560
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 1: and and they're all just like And then we went

561
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 1: into this place called Tavern on Rush and we go

562
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 1: up and there's like seven fucking tables open outside right like,

563
00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:45,640
Speaker 1: and I go, hey, can we, you know, come in?

564
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,200
Speaker 1: You know, I'm here with a very pretty girl too.

565
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: It's not like I'm adding you didn't look at me

566
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 1: in a circle. Wait you take Roman or whatever? Like

567
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 1: you take well, yeah, well Romans the name of the brand. Man,

568
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 1: I can get you some biagra here, by the way,

569
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 1: like over the count It's it's nuts what I can

570
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 1: get you down here? So major D or whatever. And

571
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 1: I feel bad for these girls because they're being told

572
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: by their manager like no, we gotta keep it exclusive.

573
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 1: I was like, can I get a table there? Like

574
00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 1: we don't have any outside. I'm like, there's fucking forty

575
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:28,240
Speaker 1: five tables like open, and so we can sit you inside.

576
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,640
Speaker 1: We go inside and it's it's one it's like no,

577
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 1: like four pm, and the music sang and me and

578
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 1: brennant each other like you want to you want to leave,

579
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: and we left and I felt so fucking good to

580
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:47,840
Speaker 1: leave because in the past, maybe to ask people to

581
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 1: turn down music or leave a restaurant after they've already

582
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 1: brought waters they brought, so what even if they brought

583
00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 1: your drinks, throw down a twenty and get the funk

584
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 1: out of there, like, don't put Businesses need to know

585
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 1: when they're failing their consumer by making it a bad experience,

586
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 1: and it when you ask someone to turn down the music. Honestly,

587
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 1: people are so passive and so scared to speak up

588
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 1: for themselves. You know, they'll have something in their food

589
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 1: and they'll just be like it's it's okay, or they'll

590
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 1: so many times I've been at dinner with someone who

591
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: gets the wrong thing and they don't eat it, and

592
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:22,360
Speaker 1: I go, what's going on there? Like they probably the

593
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 1: wrong thing, but I just I just don't want to

594
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 1: be like a bother. And it's just like if you're

595
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 1: a waitress and someone said, oh, you brought me the

596
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 1: wrong thing, would you take that personally and kill yourself? No,

597
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 1: everyone can work with this that you're not like a

598
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 1: bad person because you got the wrong thing that, you know, like,

599
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 1: just ask for what you need and absolutely walk out

600
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 1: of a movie if it sucks. Within the first thirty minutes,

601
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 1: walk out of a movie. The guy Horrible Bosses the

602
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: first one, and then I haven't gone to see really yeah,

603
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 1: um no. I went with my friend Holly and I

604
00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 1: we were just so insulted by how I was so

605
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 1: insulted that these brilliant comedic actors had written a movie

606
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:09,520
Speaker 1: that was appealing to such dumb people, like just thinking

607
00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 1: I'm an idiot, and like having to make jokes so dumb,

608
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 1: having to make these characters so exaggerated. I felt insulted.

609
00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 1: I felt like being talked down to like a child.

610
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 1: And I was just like, I don't want to nothing

611
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 1: about I just was like, first of all, if you

612
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 1: have a horrible boss, quit your job. Why not not

613
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: kill your boss? Like that's stupid. Uh. It was within

614
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 1: thirty and I went to the thing and I just

615
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: was and the guy the box office didn't make the movie.

616
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 1: It wasn't Jennifer Anniston in the box office, Like I

617
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 1: didn't have to, you know, like the guy doesn't care

618
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 1: he's making minimum wage. He'll give you your money back.

619
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:47,480
Speaker 1: He doesn't fucking care. So like when you and with

620
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 1: the wagress at a restaurant, like talk about what you need,

621
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 1: Like when I just, I honestly can't be friends with

622
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 1: people after I see them just put their tail between

623
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 1: their legs when they hate something and they just put

624
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:02,240
Speaker 1: up with it because they're at for it. With like

625
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 1: a bad haircut, I'll tip more for some reason because

626
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 1: I like getting treated terrible. I think it's because I've

627
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:09,640
Speaker 1: done it before too, and I just don't want to

628
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 1: do it anymore. The time I got a chick and

629
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:16,480
Speaker 1: and what happened was I got the wrong order, and

630
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 1: so I felt bad, and so I changed the order.

631
00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 1: I was like twelve on a vacation with another family

632
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 1: and they brought out a chicken burrito and I swear

633
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 1: to God, it was ice cold the chicken. I ate

634
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: chicken that was uncooked too. When I was with Kerson's

635
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,360
Speaker 1: family when I was twelve, because I was scared of

636
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 1: like I go, I think this is bad. It was

637
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:39,959
Speaker 1: literally just raw chicken breast. Oh God, but death definitely,

638
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 1: you got like salmon, like deathly ill. I was puking

639
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 1: all night. And Andrew, by the way, in the in

640
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:49,320
Speaker 1: the room alone, which I don't even think about, but whatever.

641
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:52,960
Speaker 1: But like yeah, but like I I'm one to do that.

642
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: I'm one to not complain and just eat it and

643
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,240
Speaker 1: be like, oh no, I like it anyway. So so

644
00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try to not think that. Like I'm sure

645
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 1: people are listening being like I'm one of those people.

646
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 1: Nicky would hate me. It's like I am one of

647
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 1: those people too. I don't like to complain. I don't

648
00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 1: like to be a nuisance. But when you really break

649
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 1: it down the people that you're complaining to, as long

650
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: as you do it with like hey, you know, like

651
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 1: I just don't like this. It wasn't what I actually wanted,

652
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:17,479
Speaker 1: and I'm so sorry, Like just be nice about it,

653
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 1: because there are people that complain and they're horrible about it,

654
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,239
Speaker 1: anyone that works in the service industry or retail, you know,

655
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 1: those people that like complain and think they deserve everything.

656
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 1: This isn't what I'm telling you to do, a simple

657
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:31,000
Speaker 1: box office thing of hey, I just bought to take it.

658
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 1: Horrible asses that was It's horrible, horrible, But like it's

659
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 1: that I just didn't like it, and like I just

660
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 1: like that's fine, and it's it's you can do it, guys.

661
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 1: You can stand up for yourselves, and you can when

662
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 1: you're especially when you're paying for something. And then if

663
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 1: you if the person tells you, well, like because I've

664
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: complained at some point and they go, well, that's just

665
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 1: the way it is, and I go, oh my god,

666
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 1: you know what. I didn't read the fine print. You're right.

667
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 1: This did say this, and this movie did tell me

668
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 1: it was horrible. It's in the name. I should have known.

669
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 1: I don't my money. Just be nice about it. I can't.

670
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 1: You're allowed to have opinions and not like things you're

671
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 1: allowed quick. I think. I think it's like, we don't

672
00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:11,560
Speaker 1: wanna this waiter that we will never see again, that

673
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:15,439
Speaker 1: we don't haven't like we care about people that we will.

674
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,280
Speaker 1: It's like on the golf course when some strangers watching

675
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: you hit a shot and you hit shitty because you're

676
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 1: worried about the stranger that you'll never talk to again,

677
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 1: his attitude or what he thinks of you. You're his

678
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:32,799
Speaker 1: disappointment in you, but we value much. It's weird you

679
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 1: do you got alone on this by at all. I

680
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 1: know you're not, but I do not. Like when I

681
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:41,920
Speaker 1: was picking up Luigi's poop with some leaves, and you

682
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 1: saw people watching me from this restaurant window. You ran

683
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:48,359
Speaker 1: away because you was so embarrassed. And I was just like,

684
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 1: what is embarrassing about a girl that's not going to

685
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 1: leave ship on the ground that forgot a bag. I'm

686
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 1: not a bad person because I forgot a poop bag.

687
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 1: It happens to everyone. If you're late for a flight

688
00:34:57,520 --> 00:34:59,600
Speaker 1: and you go and you just you know, all you

689
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 1: would have to do is ask the people in line

690
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:03,840
Speaker 1: to get ahead. I've said this before, probably, but it

691
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 1: bears repeating. Just ask people ever, and people that give

692
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 1: you two about wanting to cut in line so you

693
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:14,880
Speaker 1: can get to your flight in time. Our art you

694
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: can just go. Have you ever been late for something?

695
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 1: If they give you to go, have you ever been

696
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:19,920
Speaker 1: late for something? And would you have liked someone to

697
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:25,839
Speaker 1: maybe give you Everyone's been late everyone, but you could go,

698
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: you could go. Oh, I was like, because I was hungover,

699
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 1: I'm a piece of ship, like they It doesn't matter,

700
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 1: it doesn't You didn't want to be late, like no

701
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 1: one wants to be late. Just people should be kind.

702
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:37,360
Speaker 1: And so why were you embarrassed for me picking up shows.

703
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 1: Just you don't see it often. You look it's a

704
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:42,879
Speaker 1: it's a crazy thing to look over those people think

705
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 1: of me. What would not get that? But I'm just

706
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 1: trying to wonder why be embarrassed? I just want I'm

707
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 1: not trying to be in tatagonistic. I'm really trying to

708
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 1: understand what about that? Because I feel almost weird that

709
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 1: I was not embarrassing. You've gotten dogshit on your hand

710
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 1: in front of me and be like ship on my hand,

711
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:02,800
Speaker 1: Like you just don't care about it. It's just something

712
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:04,959
Speaker 1: you're like, I pick it up with leaves most likely

713
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:07,359
Speaker 1: to ship won't get on me? Well, someone think that.

714
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, I eat poop. If I get poop up

715
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 1: dog poop, I don't know why people would think I

716
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 1: would be way work. I would be way more embarrassed

717
00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 1: if I left ship on the ground than if I

718
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 1: picked it up with my bare hands. But that's just me.

719
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: Let's get apparently you scrambling away that day I was

720
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 1: I was like, you're such a pussy. You're banditing me

721
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 1: because you're embarrassed. Then picking up poop with a leaf,

722
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 1: I believe all right? Your having swells out there everybody

723
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 1: hoping now that swells if you know what I mean,

724
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 1: having a great time. I know it's the last day

725
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:51,400
Speaker 1: of here we go, Swell it up. Okay. The internet

726
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 1: is giving Ashton Kutcher and Mela Kuna's heat after they

727
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 1: said on a podcast that they don't believe in bathing

728
00:36:56,560 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: their kids or themselves too much. Okay, what my friend

729
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: wrote me yesterday asking me to ask all my girlfriends

730
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 1: if we wash our vaginas with soap, because she says

731
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 1: she doesn't because it stings and she just uses water.

732
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:14,799
Speaker 1: And she always thought you're just supposed to use water.

733
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 1: And I said, yes, I do wash my vagina soap.

734
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 1: I remember it stinging. When I was a child in

735
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: the bath. I hated washing my vagina because my parents

736
00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:23,880
Speaker 1: would be like, wash everything, and I'd be like, it's stings.

737
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 1: But now it doesn't sting to wash my vagina with soap? Noah,

738
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 1: do you wash your vagina with soap? Yeah? I do,

739
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 1: but I use like natural soaps. Okay, but what about

740
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,799
Speaker 1: here in the where we don't have natural soaps? Oh?

741
00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, of course, yes, I have to otherwise

742
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: it like really stinks. Yes, that makes sense. What about Okay,

743
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 1: so they don't bay their kids. Here's the thing. They won't.

744
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 1: They won't bathe their kids unless they like see dirt.

745
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:51,560
Speaker 1: Ashton Kutcherd says he washes himself and wash his armpits

746
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:55,920
Speaker 1: and it's crotched daily, but nothing else ever. I literally,

747
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 1: Ashton and I are the same. I don't wash my body.

748
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:02,240
Speaker 1: I just watched my crop am I under and my pits,

749
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 1: and then I shaved my legs nearly every day because

750
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:07,879
Speaker 1: I'm hooking up. So I guess my legs get washed.

751
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,800
Speaker 1: But that's only to shave them. But there's no reason

752
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 1: to wash your elbow unless it has poop on it

753
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:15,719
Speaker 1: because you were picking up some dogship, because you've got

754
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:18,799
Speaker 1: your leaves, because because it's fall. Oh no, then there'd

755
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 1: be a lot of leaves. It's winter. Yeah, but um yeah,

756
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:25,959
Speaker 1: I don't. How many people out there wash their back?

757
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 1: I get I bet you every guy listener right now,

758
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 1: if we took a pole, I would say, of guys,

759
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: don't wash their back. Your back has been fine your

760
00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 1: whole life. So I've never washed my back. I've never

761
00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 1: washed my back in my life. I've never washed I

762
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:45,719
Speaker 1: remember one time. Some people, what are you doing? Some

763
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 1: people are fastidious about being clean, and I would argue

764
00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:52,399
Speaker 1: that you're doing like I was talking to someone about

765
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 1: how you have your toothbrush in the shower on the

766
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:59,080
Speaker 1: floor and by the drain, and they were like, oh

767
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 1: my god, the germs. I go, the germs are not

768
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: an issue that that is probably cleaner than the one

769
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 1: by your sink. It's just it's just not a good

770
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:09,040
Speaker 1: look more than anything, you know, it's just like that

771
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: just means you're not like taking care of yourself. You

772
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:13,279
Speaker 1: don't like your things like but the germs wise, I

773
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 1: bet germologists could come in there and do uh one

774
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: of those agg artests where they rub it on the

775
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:21,160
Speaker 1: gel and you see the mold, and I bet it

776
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:23,840
Speaker 1: would be less germs because you have water, and they go,

777
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 1: but what about all the body stuff that's rubbing on

778
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 1: your the twoth person, It's like no, it goes down

779
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 1: the drain with like And that's why I feel about

780
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 1: washing my hair with shampoo. The shampoo runs down my back.

781
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:36,879
Speaker 1: That's enough. I don't need to scrub my but what's

782
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 1: happening to my back? If I have calm on my stomach?

783
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:41,719
Speaker 1: Like sometimes I have sex and it's like or like

784
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: sexual relations and I get sweaty and like there's just

785
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 1: spit and stuff, and then I'll really give myself a scrub.

786
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:49,839
Speaker 1: But no, I'm with Ashton and Mila on this one.

787
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 1: And unless you start stinking just pits, you can do

788
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 1: pits and crotch. All of my showers take less than

789
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:57,320
Speaker 1: two minutes. Then you read the article and it's like

790
00:39:57,440 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 1: Cooness is like I didn't have hot water growing up

791
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 1: as a child, so I didn't shower very much anyway.

792
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: And then she's like, I also watched my face twice

793
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 1: a day, so it's like it's not as absurd as

794
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:09,920
Speaker 1: the headline. You wash your face because you wear makeup

795
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:13,759
Speaker 1: and that's dirt and like collect stuff. But who is

796
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:18,360
Speaker 1: getting sick from their thigh women washing their face to microscopic?

797
00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 1: I believe you know what I mean, Like, even if

798
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 1: you left makeup on tonight, I think you know, Brenda

799
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:28,880
Speaker 1: has a system where it's like it's like fifteen different

800
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 1: things and it's like I think you can over maybe

801
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:34,160
Speaker 1: do it where your face is like, what this isn't natural?

802
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 1: I put on mine has been that way before, but

803
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:39,440
Speaker 1: now I'm down to I washed my face, I put

804
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:42,440
Speaker 1: on a serum and then I go to bed in

805
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:44,800
Speaker 1: the morning, I washed my face, put on a serum,

806
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,439
Speaker 1: put on something, and then you have one And what's

807
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 1: want to know or I don't. I'm not even gonna

808
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 1: tell you because it's serious. I'm sorry, but I don't

809
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:56,800
Speaker 1: want to say why I don't. I don't want it

810
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:58,839
Speaker 1: to go off the market, and I just don't. It's

811
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:01,319
Speaker 1: I just don't want. It's took me years and years,

812
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 1: and I just don't want to let anyone know. I

813
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:08,800
Speaker 1: use it as lube, I use it as every I

814
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:11,800
Speaker 1: use it for everything, and I, yeah, I do. I

815
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 1: worry that it's going to sell out or the price

816
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:17,759
Speaker 1: will go up or um. Yeah, I don't know. This

817
00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 1: is me being like not a good person by not

818
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:21,480
Speaker 1: letting you know. But I just don't want to let

819
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 1: you know, not even a hint. Maybe I got it.

820
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: Are going to be going nuts? Best? Okay, listen Petty's

821
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: will you just d M d M. The thing is,

822
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 1: I won't be able to catch up with how many people? Okay,

823
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what it is one time, and I'm

824
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 1: not You're not going to be able to write me

825
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,840
Speaker 1: again and go what was it again? I get so

826
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:46,320
Speaker 1: many mussages about what was the book to quit drinking

827
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:49,920
Speaker 1: Google Nikki Glazer Quit Drinking Book, Like, we don't need

828
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 1: to have a discussion about this, but I do understand.

829
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: There's sometimes on podcast where you hear it and then

830
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 1: you don't write it down. It's called the ordinary plant

831
00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:01,440
Speaker 1: squaw lane. Okay, there's my secret. Y'all can have it

832
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:04,239
Speaker 1: because Andrew asked, and I am. Now, now you're gonna

833
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 1: surge the price up and it's gonna bug me. So

834
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 1: I hope it works for you, the ordinary plant squaling,

835
00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:17,359
Speaker 1: not the HEMI squalling, the plant squaling. I know. I'm

836
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 1: trying to be like more honest, and all of all

837
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,319
Speaker 1: of my apprhenses about telling people is that I don't

838
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:26,040
Speaker 1: want people to be then now everyone's gonna get like,

839
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 1: have good skin, and I want to be. I already

840
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 1: have such shitty skin that I need an advantage and

841
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,439
Speaker 1: now everyone's gonna have this advantage. And that's my fear.

842
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 1: But the thing is I do have good skin, and

843
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 1: it's not from the squalling necessarily. It's from me like

844
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:42,399
Speaker 1: making eating well and um not picking up my skin

845
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. But yes, this stuff is great

846
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:46,839
Speaker 1: and you can use this. I feel I feel I'm

847
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 1: really happy you did that. People turning. I mean I

848
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: had two people were gonna I would literally stop listening

849
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:53,239
Speaker 1: to a podcast that a girl claimed to be my

850
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:55,319
Speaker 1: best friend, that she wouldn't tell me that fucking eight

851
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:59,719
Speaker 1: dollars squalling that I'm about before this comes out, I'm

852
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 1: about to order about them. So good luck, bitches. I'm

853
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 1: just kidding, but yeah, I would get it from You

854
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,239
Speaker 1: can get on Amazon or the Ordinary, and it's like

855
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: eight bucks. It's so cheap, and it's I use it

856
00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 1: on everything. It's like a it's um. It's just something

857
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 1: you can put on underneath your night creams, underneath your moisturizers,

858
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 1: and it's like it's it's more hydrating than oil, and

859
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 1: it doesn't have an oily like it won't. It does

860
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:26,560
Speaker 1: kind of sometimes stain things, but not as much as

861
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 1: an oil, and it just goes on really glossy and fresh.

862
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 1: And every time anyone's like, oh my god, you look amazing,

863
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:34,120
Speaker 1: I'm like, all I have is on is a squalling.

864
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 1: It's like makes you look really um, greasy, but in

865
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 1: a good way, all right. People turning to music into

866
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:43,240
Speaker 1: pandemic showed researchers and the same social brain networks activated

867
00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 1: when making music are also involved in social processes understanding others, empathizing, empathizing,

868
00:43:50,760 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 1: and coordinating with others. All of these networks just read.

869
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:57,320
Speaker 1: I mean, are you reading the ingredients to the plant squalling?

870
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:59,399
Speaker 1: It sounds like you're reading like you're one of those guys.

871
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 1: That's It's such for a antidepressant exclude the consult to

872
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 1: talk to her. It was like that much good? But

873
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:18,240
Speaker 1: can I just so if you making music, it triggers

874
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 1: the same part in your brain that socializing does. Yes. Absolutely.

875
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 1: When I watched that songwriting um YouTube thing that was

876
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 1: like how to write a song the Ted talk that

877
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 1: it's talking about, Sarah Lena wrote a song because she

878
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 1: heard the podcast that I talked about it. Um she

879
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:37,800
Speaker 1: wasrod a song called standing by a Wall or it

880
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:39,920
Speaker 1: was like, I don't know it's good, but anyway she

881
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 1: in the thing they said that songs are stories. They're

882
00:44:44,200 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 1: just meant before we were able to write things down

883
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: and had like lang you know, uh yeah, before it

884
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:54,239
Speaker 1: could write something down before Guttenberg Steve Gutenberg, um the

885
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 1: actor and how he was able to tell stories. I

886
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:59,359
Speaker 1: meant the printing press, but um, before we had able

887
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:02,279
Speaker 1: to do it. Songs were able. You could memorize them

888
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:04,799
Speaker 1: and then share stories through song, which is easier than

889
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 1: just memorizing something that doesn't have a rhythm to it.

890
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:09,960
Speaker 1: So yeah, it makes sense. It's it's a social thing

891
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: and it's meant more like a Swedish producer. They do everything.

892
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:19,879
Speaker 1: But yeah, they're like all stories, like your favorite your

893
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:22,560
Speaker 1: favorite songs are like stories. I would say, like the

894
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:26,319
Speaker 1: stories like what's your what is your favorite songs? Um

895
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 1: or one of the just go through like I would

896
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: say Clay Pigeons by Blaze fully but he's also rewritten

897
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:37,480
Speaker 1: or Redone by John Prine is probably my favorite song.

898
00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:40,439
Speaker 1: And what about that song resonates with you? Or that's

899
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:42,600
Speaker 1: just a story about a guy that isn't happy of

900
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: where he's at and so he's going to go back

901
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 1: to Texas and like kind of just figure out his life.

902
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: It's just a very simple thing and about him just

903
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 1: trying to find happiness in the simple things. Did you

904
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 1: discover the song in a point in your life where

905
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 1: you were maybe in there? Sure? Yeah, I think because

906
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 1: some people, like you know, I think when you're in

907
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 1: New York City and you listen to a song about

908
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 1: a hometown. Sometimes it will resonate with me, like just

909
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:08,920
Speaker 1: a simple song I just want easy living. It's like

910
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 1: I I just wanted to get away from things, and

911
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 1: I think songs can do that for you. It can

912
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 1: bring you home. I guess. I know it sounds cheesy,

913
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 1: but you know, I asked you this because I I

914
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 1: think you have the same like um attraction to certain

915
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 1: songs that I do. It's like, oh, because it's it

916
00:46:26,520 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 1: says something that is very articulates your exact feeling. It's

917
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:34,280
Speaker 1: like you like kind of country folk, like specific lyrics

918
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 1: that will like even evoke feelings about your own life

919
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:40,680
Speaker 1: that you can project your own life onto. Whereas some

920
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 1: people like techno or metal, but like metal songs where

921
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 1: the lyrics are like I don't understand liking those because

922
00:46:51,160 --> 00:46:54,320
Speaker 1: it doesn't the lyrics don't tell a story to me.

923
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 1: But I guess the anger and the like, what's what's

924
00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:00,400
Speaker 1: the attraction to that kind of music? No, uh h,

925
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 1: I guess for me, like a lot of the lyrics

926
00:47:03,440 --> 00:47:07,600
Speaker 1: were about like rebellion and stuff like that. So and

927
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:10,840
Speaker 1: and the music is it does project emotion to like

928
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 1: it goes with my rage or like anger and it's

929
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 1: a it's a release that makes sense of it being

930
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 1: just the grally you want to make, like when you're

931
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 1: that like the yeah, the listen to when you're I mean,

932
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 1: I guess I listened to hard rap. When I want

933
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:31,719
Speaker 1: to work out, you know, I'll listen to like um,

934
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 1: you know Kanye or do you picture yourself as a rapper?

935
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 1: Like I just think that my relationship with music is

936
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:44,480
Speaker 1: so based upon me being able to pretend I'm in

937
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:47,279
Speaker 1: the music video. But when you want to get you're

938
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 1: angry and you want to even double down on that anger,

939
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 1: like no, I listen. I listened to Love the Way

940
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 1: You Lie by eminem and Rihanna. But generally it depends

941
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 1: on what I'm angry about, you know, like, uh, if

942
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 1: I'm mad at my dad, I want to listen to

943
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:09,279
Speaker 1: UM the Kelly Clarkson because of you. I want to

944
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:11,560
Speaker 1: find a song that's about being mad at your dad,

945
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:13,879
Speaker 1: or I want to find a song that I can

946
00:48:14,400 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: or I'll change the lyrics to a song to make

947
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:18,759
Speaker 1: it makes sense for me a little bit more, because

948
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:20,440
Speaker 1: sometimes there are songs about women and I'm like, oh,

949
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:23,480
Speaker 1: I wanted to be about a man. Um so that

950
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:26,400
Speaker 1: like I always pick a song, but generally I always

951
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:29,000
Speaker 1: pick a song that if you were shooting the scene

952
00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 1: in which I was listening to, it would be a

953
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 1: perfect music video for that song. Interesting. Yeah, No, I

954
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 1: think I'm similar in those ways. I mean I never

955
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: listened to music like outside of what my emotion is

956
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 1: at the time. Like I mean, you know, it's just

957
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 1: it's just weird when you're like sad and depressed and

958
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,480
Speaker 1: then you throw on like heavy I don't know, like

959
00:48:51,480 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 1: fucking Metallica, which they do say that wallowing and like

960
00:48:56,600 --> 00:48:59,719
Speaker 1: when you're depressed and listening to depressed music makes you

961
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:03,360
Speaker 1: more depressed and you should actually try to do the opposite.

962
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:06,840
Speaker 1: I will say that I did a thing happy like

963
00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:09,399
Speaker 1: on podcast you know how they have like you could

964
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:13,800
Speaker 1: browse categories, and I've typed in like happy make you smile,

965
00:49:14,200 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 1: like like the cheese. It's just like putting your tongue

966
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:24,239
Speaker 1: in the mirror and shaking clearer. Oh. I put on

967
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:28,279
Speaker 1: um you know for fourth July when when Marian was

968
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:31,719
Speaker 1: having uh you know, I was taking care of Marian

969
00:49:31,800 --> 00:49:33,919
Speaker 1: over that weekend. I went on Spotify and just wrote

970
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:37,160
Speaker 1: in like soothing dog, and it was like so many

971
00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:39,880
Speaker 1: soothing dog songs. There was playlist for soothing dogs and

972
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 1: now I listened to it all the time because it

973
00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:43,680
Speaker 1: was like so soothing for me. I guess I'm a dog.

974
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:45,160
Speaker 1: I mean I was yesterday when I was pretending to

975
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:47,759
Speaker 1: be one in the in the pool. Um, but I

976
00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:49,800
Speaker 1: there's this thing that I saw on the subreddit for

977
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:52,160
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift last night that was like, what did you

978
00:49:52,200 --> 00:49:54,880
Speaker 1: guys get on the fan? Oh? Here does here? It

979
00:49:54,880 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 1: does prove your stardom. See if you've got what it

980
00:49:57,120 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 1: takes to be a Today's Top Fan. So you go

981
00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:02,320
Speaker 1: to Spotify and um, it comes up Taylor Swift for

982
00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:04,160
Speaker 1: me because it knows So they're doing this new thing

983
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 1: on Spotify kind of like end of the year lists,

984
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:08,560
Speaker 1: and everyone on Taylor Swift was like, what you guys

985
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 1: get for um Today's Top Fan? And I'm gonna what

986
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 1: the funk is this? And so I'm about to find out.

987
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:16,800
Speaker 1: Last night I did see it, and I would just

988
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 1: want to Oh okay, So it's it's saying Today's Top

989
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 1: Fans and it's like taking me through this thing. Okay,

990
00:50:24,239 --> 00:50:26,919
Speaker 1: I did sign in you bitches, Hold on you guys.

991
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Fuck, Wait, why is it making that noise?

992
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:35,279
Speaker 1: We're still noise coming from It's coming from my phone

993
00:50:35,320 --> 00:50:40,719
Speaker 1: into the thing. I'm so stupid. Oh my god, wait,

994
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 1: why is this making me? Just let me log in?

995
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:46,880
Speaker 1: Let when they were like looking for the files on

996
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 1: the computer. I don't even know what's happening anymore. I'm

997
00:50:51,120 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 1: just gonna get out of this. I'm sorry. Um yeah, well,

998
00:50:54,239 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: let oh, here's soothing music for dogs. I will say

999
00:50:57,280 --> 00:50:59,439
Speaker 1: that I went to it and I'm in the top

1000
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:02,800
Speaker 1: one per scent of Taylor Swift fans, which made me

1001
00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:06,840
Speaker 1: feel really, really weird. If you weren't imagine, well, everyone

1002
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:08,719
Speaker 1: else in the subreddit, some of them are like I'm

1003
00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:10,840
Speaker 1: seven percent, I'm five percent in These bitches are posting

1004
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:13,240
Speaker 1: every day. So I was like, wow, even with Taylor

1005
00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:15,319
Speaker 1: Swift fans, I'm a little bit more intense. And it's

1006
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 1: She's I think it was the music I listened to

1007
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: a Taylor Swift and other girls in the site we're

1008
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 1: getting like ten percent. I'm like, I am more obsessed

1009
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 1: than these obsessed girls. It's I was trying to get

1010
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 1: you into Maggie Rodgers, another singer songwriter, like going in

1011
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 1: your I know my dad tried to do that with

1012
00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 1: Kasy Muskrab's and I was like, Dad, don't do this.

1013
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: I like her and Maggie Rodgers I did like, but

1014
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:44,040
Speaker 1: I just yes esther barrel game. Don't do this. Dad

1015
00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 1: was like, she's a better songwriter than Taylor Swift, and

1016
00:51:49,360 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 1: I was like, Dad, I am not gonna like we

1017
00:51:53,280 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 1: got into such a big fight and I'm like, you

1018
00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:56,440
Speaker 1: don't even know that much of Kasy Muskars. I know

1019
00:51:56,480 --> 00:52:00,800
Speaker 1: the whole Taylor Swift cattle like, and like, now I

1020
00:52:00,840 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 1: will fight my dad and say that Taylor Swift is

1021
00:52:02,680 --> 00:52:05,239
Speaker 1: as good as the Beatles, and he would. I mean

1022
00:52:05,320 --> 00:52:07,279
Speaker 1: he wouldn't be. He disowned me, but I would. I

1023
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:09,239
Speaker 1: would argue someone on that. I'm a huge Beatles fan,

1024
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 1: but um yeah, it's like you try to get me

1025
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:14,280
Speaker 1: into Maggie Rodgers. It's just not gonna happen. I yesterday

1026
00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 1: we did a question game and it was like share

1027
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:21,239
Speaker 1: something joyful and it and the category was like share

1028
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 1: something joyful and then it was like something you would

1029
00:52:23,600 --> 00:52:26,120
Speaker 1: have told yourself in high school. And I was like,

1030
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 1: just hold out for a girl named Taylor Swift. It

1031
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:33,440
Speaker 1: was just me whispering to myself, just wait for Taylor Swift.

1032
00:52:33,560 --> 00:52:36,600
Speaker 1: She will make you feel like I'm so grateful that

1033
00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:39,360
Speaker 1: I didn't even know that was possible to have an

1034
00:52:39,440 --> 00:52:42,319
Speaker 1: artist speak to you so much. Like it's I feel

1035
00:52:42,400 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 1: like I have a um. You know when people are

1036
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:48,320
Speaker 1: like disabled and they're like, I'm grateful for it. Like

1037
00:52:48,400 --> 00:52:50,760
Speaker 1: I feel like my obsession with Taylor Swift is a disability.

1038
00:52:50,880 --> 00:52:53,200
Speaker 1: It's a weird thing. It's like it's something's wrong with

1039
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 1: my brain. But I'm grateful for it because I get

1040
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: to experience an obsession that most people don't. Most girls do,

1041
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 1: maybe me when they're in eighth grade and then it

1042
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:03,839
Speaker 1: goes away, but mine persistent. I feel like it keeps

1043
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 1: me young. Why do I care? Why do I care?

1044
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:10,400
Speaker 1: Why do you care? Let's find out. Tyler Cameron reveals

1045
00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 1: that he lost his virginity in his mom's bed. Tyler

1046
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 1: Cameron was from the Bachelorette. He was on Hannah season.

1047
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 1: He was the hottest guy that's ever been on that show.

1048
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:23,480
Speaker 1: He is. He ended up dating Gigi Hadi like right

1049
00:53:23,520 --> 00:53:25,279
Speaker 1: after the show. He's like a supermodel. He's a guy

1050
00:53:25,320 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 1: you see in like perfume ads, like eternity ads. He's

1051
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:30,719
Speaker 1: so hot. He lost his Virginia, his mom. He lost

1052
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:32,480
Speaker 1: his Virginia, his mom's bed. And then the girl that

1053
00:53:32,560 --> 00:53:35,080
Speaker 1: he lost his Virginia too. He actually ghosted because he

1054
00:53:35,120 --> 00:53:38,440
Speaker 1: had so much anxiety afterwards, and she's she called him

1055
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:40,480
Speaker 1: out on Facebook like you you know you hooked up

1056
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:42,000
Speaker 1: with me, and then he stopped talking to me. You're

1057
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:46,000
Speaker 1: a piece of ship. But really, you know, he wasn't ghosting.

1058
00:53:46,080 --> 00:53:48,800
Speaker 1: He was just afraid. And I think that happens a

1059
00:53:48,880 --> 00:53:51,440
Speaker 1: lot with guys. It happens a lot with me. He

1060
00:53:51,560 --> 00:53:53,520
Speaker 1: used to at least where I would hook up. I

1061
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:56,200
Speaker 1: mean the Sephora incident is one of the most famous. Yeah,

1062
00:53:56,200 --> 00:53:58,640
Speaker 1: where I pretended I was invisible out of Sepphora with

1063
00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:01,279
Speaker 1: a girl that I made out, and I wasn't invisible.

1064
00:54:01,480 --> 00:54:03,799
Speaker 1: I was very visible because I was right behind her

1065
00:54:03,840 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 1: in line. He was invisible when everyone to understand what

1066
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:10,399
Speaker 1: happened here, he made up with a girl drunkenly. At

1067
00:54:10,520 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 1: some point in the future near future, he was at

1068
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:14,959
Speaker 1: Sephora and in line in front of you were behind

1069
00:54:16,040 --> 00:54:20,320
Speaker 1: she was close enough, she's there and you instead of

1070
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:23,320
Speaker 1: just like maybe avoiding eye contact or like being on

1071
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:26,840
Speaker 1: your phone and acting, you said I'm invisible and you

1072
00:54:26,880 --> 00:54:29,480
Speaker 1: convince yourself she couldn't turn into the boy from Big Daddy.

1073
00:54:29,760 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 1: And he's like, I'm right here, I'm right here. Oh yeah, yeah,

1074
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:37,920
Speaker 1: what what were you using? Obviously having an anxiety attack?

1075
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 1: I get you know, yeah, I mean you know me,

1076
00:54:41,040 --> 00:54:42,719
Speaker 1: and you know, when you're a good looking man like

1077
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:45,600
Speaker 1: me and Tyler, it's just tough, you know, when you

1078
00:54:45,680 --> 00:54:48,239
Speaker 1: hook up and women are just so. It makes sense, though,

1079
00:54:48,440 --> 00:54:50,040
Speaker 1: I think this is gonna be the new defense when

1080
00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:51,839
Speaker 1: guys get me too. It was like I was having

1081
00:54:51,880 --> 00:54:55,080
Speaker 1: an anxiety That's what I told you, that you couldn't

1082
00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:59,640
Speaker 1: work here unless she blew me. Um such a good no.

1083
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:02,480
Speaker 1: I believe it though. I believe it though, because you know,

1084
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:04,279
Speaker 1: I've been hurt by guys in the past where I'm like,

1085
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:06,520
Speaker 1: you ghosted me, and you know, one guy, whether or

1086
00:55:06,520 --> 00:55:10,640
Speaker 1: not he was lying, said like I I told you

1087
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:13,000
Speaker 1: too many things, and I felt really embarrassed at how

1088
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:15,800
Speaker 1: vulnerable that you got me to be in conversation, and

1089
00:55:16,000 --> 00:55:18,640
Speaker 1: I just didn't want to talk. It was like a

1090
00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:21,799
Speaker 1: night where we like, you know you, you would get

1091
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 1: connected because of whatever. You just feel comfortable enough to share.

1092
00:55:26,040 --> 00:55:27,920
Speaker 1: I asked the right questions made him feel comfortable and

1093
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:30,080
Speaker 1: then it's like he would He felt like it was

1094
00:55:30,120 --> 00:55:33,000
Speaker 1: almost like running into his therapist on a like going

1095
00:55:33,040 --> 00:55:34,400
Speaker 1: on a date with his therapist, and he was like,

1096
00:55:34,440 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 1: I just couldn't see you again because you knew all

1097
00:55:36,560 --> 00:55:39,360
Speaker 1: these things and I and he was probably so disconnected

1098
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:40,920
Speaker 1: when he was sharing them that he couldn't see that

1099
00:55:41,000 --> 00:55:43,080
Speaker 1: I didn't care and that I wasn't gonna He couldn't

1100
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:46,359
Speaker 1: even remember my response and probably invented in his mind

1101
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:48,879
Speaker 1: like I can't be with someone who knows these things

1102
00:55:48,920 --> 00:55:52,160
Speaker 1: that I've never told anyone. And that's why you shouldn't

1103
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:58,600
Speaker 1: psychoanalyze guys, you like, even if you or yeah exactly,

1104
00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:02,080
Speaker 1: or you you know or I do. I want to

1105
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:03,600
Speaker 1: be with someone who will be able to handle that

1106
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:05,880
Speaker 1: and and can tell me those things and look at

1107
00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:09,279
Speaker 1: me the next day day and not feel like him

1108
00:56:09,280 --> 00:56:11,440
Speaker 1: ghosting me was not because I wasn't pretty or what

1109
00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:13,880
Speaker 1: I mean. It could have been that too, but I

1110
00:56:14,040 --> 00:56:17,359
Speaker 1: was relieved by his explanation. Eventually, I wonder if, like, yeah,

1111
00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:20,640
Speaker 1: I wonder why guys don't want want to keep things

1112
00:56:20,680 --> 00:56:22,360
Speaker 1: on the surface. I know how many people want to

1113
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 1: just keep things on the surface until maybe forever you know,

1114
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:29,400
Speaker 1: like what I wonder what it is about, like you

1115
00:56:29,640 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 1: knowing his deepest darkest secrets or whatever makes him like

1116
00:56:34,680 --> 00:56:38,480
Speaker 1: uncomfortable with that and why because it's almost like when

1117
00:56:38,480 --> 00:56:41,120
Speaker 1: you're drunk and you do something like that you wouldn't

1118
00:56:41,160 --> 00:56:43,759
Speaker 1: normally do if you weren't drunk, and then you don't

1119
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:45,600
Speaker 1: want to talk to that person again because they saw

1120
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 1: you say something or confess something like even though it's true,

1121
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:51,880
Speaker 1: you just whether or not this person was drunk or

1122
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:55,759
Speaker 1: on ambient. I truly have gotten people's dead sober to

1123
00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 1: reveal things to me that they've never told anyone. And

1124
00:56:57,920 --> 00:57:00,320
Speaker 1: even in like you know, you could just be in

1125
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:02,800
Speaker 1: like an intimate like in the bed bedroom setting and

1126
00:57:02,880 --> 00:57:04,640
Speaker 1: say something and in the next day. It's like with

1127
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 1: sex too, Like some people don't want to talk about

1128
00:57:06,680 --> 00:57:09,520
Speaker 1: sex because it's so vulnerable and you look like an animal.

1129
00:57:09,680 --> 00:57:12,800
Speaker 1: Your skin is flapping around and you're like panting and

1130
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:15,279
Speaker 1: making weird noises, your fart sounds are coming when your

1131
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 1: chest compressed, and like or like you're queefing you might

1132
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:20,560
Speaker 1: shoot on someone, like and then you put on clothes

1133
00:57:20,560 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 1: and you just I mean I did it in my

1134
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 1: first half hour special. I don't understand why people have sex.

1135
00:57:25,440 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 1: And then they put on clothes and they're like that

1136
00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:28,400
Speaker 1: never happened, and you just walk around and you put

1137
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:30,800
Speaker 1: on a turtleneck and you're like, yeah, I didn't suck

1138
00:57:30,840 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 1: any dicks last night. I'm wearing a turtleneck. And it's like,

1139
00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:35,400
Speaker 1: why do we have two separate Why can't we talk

1140
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:39,280
Speaker 1: about sucking dicks and outside of the bedroom? Why is

1141
00:57:39,320 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 1: it so shameful? And I'm just I wish everyone could

1142
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:46,280
Speaker 1: be that trans and just be themselves. And that's what

1143
00:57:46,400 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 1: I feel close when someone tells me something they never

1144
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 1: told anyone, and I just am attracted to vulnerability. But

1145
00:57:51,320 --> 00:57:53,360
Speaker 1: a lot of men feel like that is a turn

1146
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:56,320
Speaker 1: off because they've been conditioned by society to never feel

1147
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 1: their feelings, so they should think they I mean makes

1148
00:57:59,680 --> 00:58:02,000
Speaker 1: sense that it was interesting. I was. I forget who

1149
00:58:02,000 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 1: I was talking to. But she's like, yeah, you share.

1150
00:58:04,320 --> 00:58:07,600
Speaker 1: You can share all your like deepest secrets or whatever,

1151
00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:11,160
Speaker 1: but that doesn't necessarily mean that you're connected with your feelings,

1152
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:14,240
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like some guys can be like, yeah,

1153
00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:17,200
Speaker 1: when I was seven, you know, you know, I got

1154
00:58:17,320 --> 00:58:20,280
Speaker 1: ran over by a tractor and my dad would it

1155
00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:22,520
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that just because he's opening up to you,

1156
00:58:22,600 --> 00:58:24,920
Speaker 1: he could be opening up for the Ron Rock reasons

1157
00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 1: to just you know, get laid too. So it's like,

1158
00:58:27,960 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 1: you know, some people are like, wow, he's so brave

1159
00:58:30,840 --> 00:58:33,000
Speaker 1: for sharing that story, and it's like, but that doesn't

1160
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:35,680
Speaker 1: mean you're really connected to this story. And if you're

1161
00:58:35,720 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 1: not able to look at the things that happened to you,

1162
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:39,040
Speaker 1: always beating as a child, was molested, but you're not

1163
00:58:39,120 --> 00:58:41,080
Speaker 1: able to see how that has impacted your life now

1164
00:58:41,160 --> 00:58:42,920
Speaker 1: and make those connections. You might be able to admit

1165
00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:46,080
Speaker 1: that that happened to you, but if you're not realizing

1166
00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 1: how those things affect your life now, then it's not

1167
00:58:49,400 --> 00:58:51,640
Speaker 1: really even worth it to me that it's that means

1168
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:53,960
Speaker 1: it's nice that you're able to talk about it, but

1169
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:56,560
Speaker 1: it's not. That's not what I want from you. I

1170
00:58:56,640 --> 00:59:00,560
Speaker 1: just I just want everyone to like let themselves off

1171
00:59:00,600 --> 00:59:02,480
Speaker 1: the hook a little bit for the stuff that they

1172
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:04,200
Speaker 1: do based on the stuff from their past. So if

1173
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:06,360
Speaker 1: you're able to connect those that's like very hot, but

1174
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:07,800
Speaker 1: that takes it takes a lot of work, you know,

1175
00:59:07,800 --> 00:59:09,360
Speaker 1: And that's why I've stopped going to therapy because I

1176
00:59:09,400 --> 00:59:11,000
Speaker 1: want men to catch up. Let's get to the game.

1177
00:59:12,240 --> 00:59:15,440
Speaker 1: Today's wild card A game is literally a wild card game.

1178
00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:18,160
Speaker 1: We're gonna play the game that I talked about earlier,

1179
00:59:18,200 --> 00:59:19,880
Speaker 1: that I played with my friends yesterday that got someone

1180
00:59:19,920 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 1: to cry, to reveal things they've never revealed. Like we're

1181
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:24,440
Speaker 1: doing this all at a pool Andrew where people the

1182
00:59:24,480 --> 00:59:26,280
Speaker 1: same pool where people were hating us. We were playing

1183
00:59:26,320 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 1: this game where we all started. We just we had

1184
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:31,480
Speaker 1: the best conversations because of this game. It's called where

1185
00:59:31,480 --> 00:59:34,480
Speaker 1: should We begin? Noah bought it um and these are

1186
00:59:34,520 --> 00:59:36,080
Speaker 1: the two cards we're gonna do. So you pick up

1187
00:59:36,160 --> 00:59:40,280
Speaker 1: one UM, the main card, which is share something unbelievable.

1188
00:59:40,320 --> 00:59:41,920
Speaker 1: And this is a storytelling game, so each of us

1189
00:59:41,920 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 1: are going to share something unbelievable. Okay, and then the

1190
00:59:45,920 --> 00:59:48,720
Speaker 1: way we have to start the story is this card.

1191
00:59:49,320 --> 00:59:52,040
Speaker 1: I make too big a deal. I make too big

1192
00:59:52,080 --> 00:59:56,720
Speaker 1: of a deal about blank. It has to be something unbelievable. Okay,

1193
00:59:56,760 --> 00:59:59,280
Speaker 1: this is tough, I make too big a deal out

1194
00:59:59,360 --> 01:00:02,680
Speaker 1: of And then the thing has to be something unbelievable

1195
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:08,840
Speaker 1: like that someone might find unbelievable or like you know,

1196
01:00:08,960 --> 01:00:10,840
Speaker 1: the word unbelievable can mean a lot of things. So

1197
01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:17,480
Speaker 1: your interpretation of that word. I guess, um make too

1198
01:00:17,560 --> 01:00:19,400
Speaker 1: big of a deal. Whoever gets one first. I make

1199
01:00:19,480 --> 01:00:20,960
Speaker 1: too big a deal. I make too big of a

1200
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:27,200
Speaker 1: deal out of Oh, I mean prime example. I make

1201
01:00:27,280 --> 01:00:31,680
Speaker 1: too big of a deal out of things I've found

1202
01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:35,840
Speaker 1: that really work for me, and I want to keep

1203
01:00:35,880 --> 01:00:38,439
Speaker 1: them secret from other people because I feel like I'm

1204
01:00:38,840 --> 01:00:43,120
Speaker 1: just naturally worse than everyone, and so when I find

1205
01:00:43,160 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 1: a serum that works for me, I want to keep

1206
01:00:46,040 --> 01:00:49,320
Speaker 1: it because if everyone gets it, then everyone who naturally

1207
01:00:49,440 --> 01:00:51,080
Speaker 1: is already better than me, is going to be better

1208
01:00:51,160 --> 01:00:53,240
Speaker 1: than me with the serum. The serum was only getting

1209
01:00:53,280 --> 01:00:55,480
Speaker 1: me up to, like be a little bit better, and

1210
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:59,000
Speaker 1: it was my secret and my fear. That fear is

1211
01:00:59,120 --> 01:01:03,360
Speaker 1: truly unbelio eviable because it's unfounded and it's um, and

1212
01:01:03,440 --> 01:01:06,640
Speaker 1: it seems so petty for someone who is so aware

1213
01:01:06,960 --> 01:01:10,040
Speaker 1: of and wants to make people's lives better. That to me,

1214
01:01:10,400 --> 01:01:13,080
Speaker 1: that is an unbelievable trait about me, that I'm still

1215
01:01:13,320 --> 01:01:16,320
Speaker 1: trying to harbor these beauty secrets. So I have a

1216
01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:20,120
Speaker 1: leg up because I feel so inherently ugly and less

1217
01:01:20,160 --> 01:01:24,720
Speaker 1: than everyone else. That's what makes you so competitive in

1218
01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:27,880
Speaker 1: certain ways. What do you think it would happened. It's

1219
01:01:27,920 --> 01:01:31,919
Speaker 1: not competitive. I mean, is that competitive? No, it doesn't

1220
01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:34,400
Speaker 1: think so maybe not in this way. Maybe this is

1221
01:01:34,520 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 1: just like in general, maybe because I I just told you,

1222
01:01:37,560 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 1: I feel like I was born not not naturally talented,

1223
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:45,880
Speaker 1: not beautiful, not anything, and so I have to work

1224
01:01:45,960 --> 01:01:49,840
Speaker 1: for it and spend years trying different serums and like

1225
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:52,000
Speaker 1: put on the work and then some and then some

1226
01:01:52,200 --> 01:01:54,840
Speaker 1: beautiful girl who's already looks like a model has good skin,

1227
01:01:55,160 --> 01:01:57,520
Speaker 1: just listens to one podcast and now she gets this

1228
01:01:57,720 --> 01:02:01,480
Speaker 1: thing that I so hard because I'm ugly to find

1229
01:02:03,040 --> 01:02:05,680
Speaker 1: like and I'm I'm speaking from my worst self here.

1230
01:02:05,680 --> 01:02:07,480
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm ugly, but that it all comes

1231
01:02:07,520 --> 01:02:10,000
Speaker 1: from feeling like I'm ugly and not as good as

1232
01:02:10,040 --> 01:02:13,360
Speaker 1: other people. That's why I'm competitive because I want I

1233
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:15,600
Speaker 1: guess that's it, because I just don't like myself and

1234
01:02:15,720 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 1: so if I win things, then that gives me a

1235
01:02:17,960 --> 01:02:22,120
Speaker 1: sense of worth. And if I'm have good skin, that

1236
01:02:22,240 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 1: will mean that I'm not a bad person or whatever. Yeah,

1237
01:02:25,600 --> 01:02:29,320
Speaker 1: Because I mean, you're competitive, but not in the same

1238
01:02:29,360 --> 01:02:32,720
Speaker 1: way as you ask that, like You're like, you're like,

1239
01:02:32,840 --> 01:02:34,840
Speaker 1: why are you so like, like you're not competitive. No,

1240
01:02:35,800 --> 01:02:39,200
Speaker 1: I'm not accusing you, but I think it's I was

1241
01:02:39,320 --> 01:02:42,080
Speaker 1: just wondering, like, what drives your competitiveness, because I do

1242
01:02:42,240 --> 01:02:45,360
Speaker 1: think because being hot gets men to like you, and

1243
01:02:45,600 --> 01:02:47,959
Speaker 1: when men like you, they give you things and money

1244
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:51,360
Speaker 1: and things, and I want those things, and um, yeah,

1245
01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:53,800
Speaker 1: I want to survive. That's why I'm competitive. I want

1246
01:02:53,840 --> 01:02:56,800
Speaker 1: to survive and I want to I want my species,

1247
01:02:57,480 --> 01:03:00,920
Speaker 1: mainly my genome, to survive. That's why it and you

1248
01:03:01,160 --> 01:03:03,720
Speaker 1: it literally a survival of the fittest in the in

1249
01:03:03,840 --> 01:03:07,120
Speaker 1: the animal kingdom. So to survive, you've got to be

1250
01:03:07,200 --> 01:03:09,400
Speaker 1: the fittest equals. You've got to be competitive. I think. So,

1251
01:03:09,480 --> 01:03:12,120
Speaker 1: I don't it all checks out? What the line? I'm sorry,

1252
01:03:12,120 --> 01:03:17,600
Speaker 1: what was the line? Um, it is something share, something unbelievable,

1253
01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:19,959
Speaker 1: and it's I make too big of a deal about

1254
01:03:20,000 --> 01:03:22,040
Speaker 1: I probably make too big of a deal out of

1255
01:03:22,760 --> 01:03:25,840
Speaker 1: me playing golf, and that it's unbelievable that I think

1256
01:03:26,080 --> 01:03:29,640
Speaker 1: if I really do keep this up, I could possibly

1257
01:03:29,680 --> 01:03:33,960
Speaker 1: be on the Senior Tour when I'm fifty. No, I

1258
01:03:33,960 --> 01:03:36,920
Speaker 1: don't think that's unbelievable, But yes, it's it seems like

1259
01:03:37,120 --> 01:03:39,200
Speaker 1: a big dream. I was talking, But I don't think

1260
01:03:39,240 --> 01:03:41,880
Speaker 1: it's unbelievable. To my cousin, Mikey shot at seventy four

1261
01:03:41,920 --> 01:03:44,360
Speaker 1: and his seventy six, which is he's lights out. He's

1262
01:03:44,480 --> 01:03:46,920
Speaker 1: he's an extremely good golfer. And I was talking to

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01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:48,560
Speaker 1: my uncle about I was like, I really think if

1264
01:03:48,640 --> 01:03:50,880
Speaker 1: my Mike, he's only twenty nine. I was like, I

1265
01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:55,360
Speaker 1: really think if he like really like drove himself and

1266
01:03:55,520 --> 01:03:58,520
Speaker 1: was driven and he has the talent, and my uncle

1267
01:03:58,640 --> 01:04:01,680
Speaker 1: right away like can completely knocked it down. He goes,

1268
01:04:01,840 --> 01:04:04,520
Speaker 1: I wouldn't tell him that, and I wouldn't. Yeah, He's like,

1269
01:04:04,840 --> 01:04:07,480
Speaker 1: there's guys that are scratched. I wouldn't even sniff a tournament.

1270
01:04:07,640 --> 01:04:11,080
Speaker 1: And I was like, what is this negativity? Is that

1271
01:04:11,200 --> 01:04:15,560
Speaker 1: his son? Yeah, okay, well there you go. This guy,

1272
01:04:15,880 --> 01:04:18,440
Speaker 1: this guy your uncle's a good golfer, doesn't want his

1273
01:04:18,560 --> 01:04:20,800
Speaker 1: son to be better, sees that he has the potential

1274
01:04:20,840 --> 01:04:27,360
Speaker 1: to be back is discouraging. It's just weird. It's that process.

1275
01:04:28,200 --> 01:04:30,840
Speaker 1: Is like, no, he really like there was a time

1276
01:04:30,880 --> 01:04:33,520
Speaker 1: when a guy was worse than him who's on tour,

1277
01:04:33,960 --> 01:04:35,600
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like there was a time

1278
01:04:35,640 --> 01:04:39,040
Speaker 1: when Yeah, these are when people just want everyone to do.

1279
01:04:39,120 --> 01:04:40,880
Speaker 1: Is me not telling people how to get the squalling.

1280
01:04:41,120 --> 01:04:43,479
Speaker 1: It's like I and I was, I just you didn't

1281
01:04:43,520 --> 01:04:45,240
Speaker 1: hear my opening. But it was all about like it

1282
01:04:45,360 --> 01:04:47,560
Speaker 1: only comes down to practice. No one is naturally talent.

1283
01:04:47,640 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 1: It's so few people that are actually just born talented.

1284
01:04:51,160 --> 01:04:53,520
Speaker 1: It's all comes The most successful talented people are the

1285
01:04:53,560 --> 01:04:58,680
Speaker 1: ones that put in the most out and forty pounds.

1286
01:04:59,520 --> 01:05:01,680
Speaker 1: I bet you anything, he's put in the most hours

1287
01:05:02,400 --> 01:05:04,440
Speaker 1: he has. He was on a golf every single and

1288
01:05:04,760 --> 01:05:06,760
Speaker 1: I'm sure his parents never told him once that he's

1289
01:05:06,760 --> 01:05:11,520
Speaker 1: going to be a tour pro or they did. You know,

1290
01:05:11,920 --> 01:05:13,880
Speaker 1: this guy is his own person and he can probably

1291
01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:15,760
Speaker 1: take that. You know, a lot of people are like

1292
01:05:15,840 --> 01:05:18,800
Speaker 1: Lady Gaga want to sound concerts, like no one ever

1293
01:05:18,960 --> 01:05:21,200
Speaker 1: believed in me. They said I couldn't do it, and

1294
01:05:21,280 --> 01:05:23,640
Speaker 1: it was just like, I don't think that's true. But okay,

1295
01:05:23,680 --> 01:05:27,760
Speaker 1: I'm sure you were spurred on because people said you couldn't. Um, Noah,

1296
01:05:27,920 --> 01:05:31,240
Speaker 1: do you have an answer to this question? I think

1297
01:05:31,280 --> 01:05:36,160
Speaker 1: I make too big of a deal about um, Like

1298
01:05:37,200 --> 01:05:41,000
Speaker 1: how I present, and a lot of that is like

1299
01:05:41,200 --> 01:05:44,200
Speaker 1: if someone is coming over whatever, even if it's a friend,

1300
01:05:44,280 --> 01:05:46,160
Speaker 1: like my house house to look really neat, I have

1301
01:05:46,280 --> 01:05:50,880
Speaker 1: to like hide any um flaw. And even like with

1302
01:05:51,000 --> 01:05:53,360
Speaker 1: this vacation, like I had this overwhelming sense of like

1303
01:05:53,640 --> 01:05:55,720
Speaker 1: I have to buy new clothes. Everything has to look new,

1304
01:05:55,800 --> 01:05:57,440
Speaker 1: and I have to look crisp and you know, like

1305
01:05:57,840 --> 01:06:02,760
Speaker 1: like presentable to like into society. And it's like so stupid.

1306
01:06:03,000 --> 01:06:06,160
Speaker 1: And but I always have that anti you know, like

1307
01:06:06,200 --> 01:06:09,520
Speaker 1: when when I'm anticipating seeing someone or bringing someone into

1308
01:06:09,560 --> 01:06:12,880
Speaker 1: my home, I have the same thing, and it's worn

1309
01:06:12,960 --> 01:06:15,520
Speaker 1: off for me because I've gone on enough enough of

1310
01:06:15,560 --> 01:06:17,440
Speaker 1: these girls trips that I know that I wear the

1311
01:06:17,520 --> 01:06:19,480
Speaker 1: same thing every day and so does everyone else. And

1312
01:06:20,120 --> 01:06:22,720
Speaker 1: but yes, I I have that too, And and the

1313
01:06:22,800 --> 01:06:24,560
Speaker 1: thing of people coming over your house, I just let

1314
01:06:24,640 --> 01:06:28,960
Speaker 1: go of that because I just know that my messes

1315
01:06:29,120 --> 01:06:33,440
Speaker 1: aren't like indicative of me being like there's not blood everywhere,

1316
01:06:33,600 --> 01:06:36,840
Speaker 1: or there's not like maybe there's like hummus containers that

1317
01:06:36,880 --> 01:06:39,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, the people will know I binged on

1318
01:06:39,080 --> 01:06:41,560
Speaker 1: Hummas last night. That's a little embarrassing, like and then

1319
01:06:41,560 --> 01:06:43,280
Speaker 1: I'll be I'll have to explain it or something, but

1320
01:06:43,720 --> 01:06:48,680
Speaker 1: generally like mess like now, I the other day, I

1321
01:06:48,760 --> 01:06:50,600
Speaker 1: was having this guy that I'm looking up with coming over,

1322
01:06:51,120 --> 01:06:53,919
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, I need to clean for him,

1323
01:06:54,600 --> 01:06:56,840
Speaker 1: and then I was just like, none of the I'm

1324
01:06:56,880 --> 01:06:58,600
Speaker 1: looking at the mess in my room, I got all

1325
01:06:58,680 --> 01:07:01,960
Speaker 1: of this is explode couple, is it? You could explain it,

1326
01:07:02,040 --> 01:07:04,360
Speaker 1: and none of it indicates that I'm a bad person

1327
01:07:04,640 --> 01:07:08,080
Speaker 1: or an addict or like just like almost hiding my

1328
01:07:08,200 --> 01:07:10,200
Speaker 1: messes now unless I put like I can't throw things

1329
01:07:10,240 --> 01:07:12,160
Speaker 1: away in a closet and shut the door, that feels

1330
01:07:12,160 --> 01:07:14,080
Speaker 1: like I'm lying. But if I put it away in

1331
01:07:14,360 --> 01:07:17,000
Speaker 1: a neat way, then it's like, Okay, that's authentic. But

1332
01:07:17,160 --> 01:07:20,880
Speaker 1: like hiding things like messes and like cleaning up fast

1333
01:07:21,360 --> 01:07:23,680
Speaker 1: always makes you feel like I'm a drug addict or

1334
01:07:23,760 --> 01:07:26,400
Speaker 1: like that I'm that I'm lying, and then it makes

1335
01:07:26,400 --> 01:07:28,360
Speaker 1: me feel like it hate hate myself because if I

1336
01:07:28,400 --> 01:07:31,240
Speaker 1: open that closet door, that's like all the my shame.

1337
01:07:31,800 --> 01:07:34,160
Speaker 1: And so it's been easier for me to just go

1338
01:07:34,400 --> 01:07:37,520
Speaker 1: to look at mess and go, yeah, there's like toilet

1339
01:07:37,600 --> 01:07:41,080
Speaker 1: paper on the floor, because sometimes I literally missed the

1340
01:07:41,120 --> 01:07:43,280
Speaker 1: toilet seat and I just like p and I wipe

1341
01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:44,720
Speaker 1: and A tosses behind me and it is on the floor.

1342
01:07:45,480 --> 01:07:47,400
Speaker 1: And that doesn't mean I'm a bad person, Like it

1343
01:07:47,440 --> 01:07:50,120
Speaker 1: doesn't mean I'm gross, or that I like don't take

1344
01:07:50,160 --> 01:07:52,160
Speaker 1: care of myself, or I can't be a good mom

1345
01:07:52,440 --> 01:07:54,840
Speaker 1: or a good wife for like all these things. I fear.

1346
01:07:55,080 --> 01:07:57,959
Speaker 1: It just means I sometimes don't I don't care about

1347
01:07:57,960 --> 01:08:00,880
Speaker 1: toilet paper hitting the floor, and I just don't. I

1348
01:08:00,920 --> 01:08:06,080
Speaker 1: don't look behind me. Afybode like, yeah you gotta you

1349
01:08:06,160 --> 01:08:11,880
Speaker 1: know you're like, you know what. But anyway, well wait,

1350
01:08:11,920 --> 01:08:14,360
Speaker 1: hold on. Before you even came to my hotel room,

1351
01:08:14,440 --> 01:08:18,200
Speaker 1: like we didn't get room service yet, and I was like, oh, no,

1352
01:08:18,240 --> 01:08:20,680
Speaker 1: I have to clean on my room because Nikki's coming over,

1353
01:08:20,760 --> 01:08:22,760
Speaker 1: and you organize everything, and I was like, no, what

1354
01:08:22,920 --> 01:08:25,400
Speaker 1: are you doing? This is not Yeah, you just like

1355
01:08:25,760 --> 01:08:28,040
Speaker 1: put the sheet over like like you just like close

1356
01:08:28,080 --> 01:08:30,200
Speaker 1: your sheet, like you like put your bed spread back over.

1357
01:08:30,360 --> 01:08:33,200
Speaker 1: But I don't like I would, and that's me. I'm

1358
01:08:33,200 --> 01:08:35,400
Speaker 1: not very observant, so I wouldn't notice the mess. There

1359
01:08:35,439 --> 01:08:37,200
Speaker 1: are times where I go over to someone's house and

1360
01:08:37,280 --> 01:08:39,360
Speaker 1: it's true, Like I've told you guys about someone's house

1361
01:08:39,400 --> 01:08:40,720
Speaker 1: I went to that I thought would be like a

1362
01:08:40,800 --> 01:08:42,840
Speaker 1: normal house and it was a dump and it was

1363
01:08:42,880 --> 01:08:46,120
Speaker 1: like trash everywhere. And he didn't apologize for it. He

1364
01:08:46,200 --> 01:08:48,400
Speaker 1: wasn't like, sorry, it's bad, I didn't have time. It

1365
01:08:48,560 --> 01:08:51,040
Speaker 1: was in that to me, I go, this person is

1366
01:08:51,080 --> 01:08:52,720
Speaker 1: suffering with a mental illness and it was a little

1367
01:08:52,760 --> 01:08:56,280
Speaker 1: embarrassing on his and I was a little judgmental, but

1368
01:08:56,479 --> 01:09:01,320
Speaker 1: that was because the filth was at a level where

1369
01:09:01,360 --> 01:09:03,880
Speaker 1: it was like, this is almost uninhabitable. This is bugs,

1370
01:09:04,000 --> 01:09:06,680
Speaker 1: this is things. These are things that like make me

1371
01:09:06,880 --> 01:09:09,680
Speaker 1: realize you the person you present as is not the

1372
01:09:09,720 --> 01:09:11,599
Speaker 1: person that I'm seeing. And it's weird that you weren't

1373
01:09:11,640 --> 01:09:14,360
Speaker 1: able to address that. It's like if you walk into

1374
01:09:14,360 --> 01:09:17,000
Speaker 1: someone's place and they go, it's messy, sorry, then I'll

1375
01:09:17,080 --> 01:09:19,600
Speaker 1: let anything go. Like I didn't have to get that.

1376
01:09:19,800 --> 01:09:24,280
Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out though. It's like with Noah

1377
01:09:24,400 --> 01:09:26,720
Speaker 1: with this trip, right, you felt like you were like

1378
01:09:26,800 --> 01:09:29,240
Speaker 1: worried about buying new stuff and whatever. And I feel

1379
01:09:29,280 --> 01:09:32,360
Speaker 1: like sometimes if as as people, like, if we don't

1380
01:09:32,400 --> 01:09:35,280
Speaker 1: anticipate something being bigger than it is, then it's not

1381
01:09:35,400 --> 01:09:39,200
Speaker 1: important to us. And I feel like like, I don't know.

1382
01:09:39,320 --> 01:09:41,240
Speaker 1: I feel like there's like like like Brenna with her

1383
01:09:41,280 --> 01:09:43,120
Speaker 1: new job here in Chicago, She's like, I gotta get

1384
01:09:43,160 --> 01:09:45,000
Speaker 1: on the train. I gotta figure out how to get there.

1385
01:09:45,360 --> 01:09:46,720
Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm gonna wear to work, and

1386
01:09:46,880 --> 01:09:48,599
Speaker 1: she goes to work, she comes back and she's like, yeah,

1387
01:09:48,640 --> 01:09:51,519
Speaker 1: it was whatever about Like we anticipate these things and

1388
01:09:51,640 --> 01:09:54,840
Speaker 1: we build them up to make it seem like maybe

1389
01:09:54,880 --> 01:09:56,840
Speaker 1: our lives are important, you know what I mean, like

1390
01:09:57,640 --> 01:10:00,760
Speaker 1: like this strip that makes sense, but how do you

1391
01:10:01,080 --> 01:10:05,160
Speaker 1: make it seem still important while not having the the

1392
01:10:06,280 --> 01:10:08,640
Speaker 1: you know, the anxiety of like I need this, I

1393
01:10:08,720 --> 01:10:12,400
Speaker 1: need to present myself like this. I even regret not

1394
01:10:12,520 --> 01:10:14,280
Speaker 1: buying a couple of new outfits because it is fun

1395
01:10:14,360 --> 01:10:16,240
Speaker 1: when we get dressed for dinner and then everyone shows

1396
01:10:16,280 --> 01:10:18,439
Speaker 1: up and everyone compliments each other like that dress is cute,

1397
01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:20,559
Speaker 1: that's this, and like no one will say anything about mine,

1398
01:10:20,560 --> 01:10:22,479
Speaker 1: and I go, oh god, they've all seen this before.

1399
01:10:22,479 --> 01:10:25,679
Speaker 1: It would be fun to get a compliment. Final thought.

1400
01:10:26,240 --> 01:10:29,720
Speaker 1: That is why many years ago I banned compliments from

1401
01:10:29,760 --> 01:10:32,200
Speaker 1: my girlfriends, like I don't want compliments about my looks.

1402
01:10:32,240 --> 01:10:33,360
Speaker 1: I don't want you to say, oh my god, you

1403
01:10:33,400 --> 01:10:35,080
Speaker 1: look really pretty today. Oh my gotta like your hair,

1404
01:10:35,160 --> 01:10:37,280
Speaker 1: Oh I love that shirt, I love that outfit. And

1405
01:10:37,479 --> 01:10:40,040
Speaker 1: because when they didn't do it, I felt so sad

1406
01:10:40,720 --> 01:10:43,439
Speaker 1: because it was just like something that I then like

1407
01:10:44,320 --> 01:10:47,240
Speaker 1: the lack of it meant I was worthless as opposed

1408
01:10:47,280 --> 01:10:49,200
Speaker 1: to they just their mind is elsewhere and they didn't

1409
01:10:49,200 --> 01:10:51,760
Speaker 1: pay attention to my new shirts. So now when I said,

1410
01:10:51,800 --> 01:10:53,880
Speaker 1: don't ever say it, I always just assume they think

1411
01:10:53,920 --> 01:10:55,479
Speaker 1: I look great and they're just not saying it to

1412
01:10:55,520 --> 01:10:58,600
Speaker 1: respect me. And like even last night there was a

1413
01:10:58,640 --> 01:11:00,600
Speaker 1: lot of compliments going around. I was like, kind, no

1414
01:11:00,680 --> 01:11:02,400
Speaker 1: one's told me I look great this trip, And I

1415
01:11:02,520 --> 01:11:04,519
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, because you told them all

1416
01:11:04,600 --> 01:11:07,519
Speaker 1: not to, It's gotten around and it was so freeing.

1417
01:11:07,520 --> 01:11:09,160
Speaker 1: I was just like, I'm so glad I did that

1418
01:11:09,240 --> 01:11:12,240
Speaker 1: because whether or not that's true, that protected me in

1419
01:11:12,320 --> 01:11:16,320
Speaker 1: that moment from feeling ridicule, from feeling bad, and like,

1420
01:11:17,040 --> 01:11:22,120
Speaker 1: and I'm with the hottest girls ever, Like everyone has.

1421
01:11:22,320 --> 01:11:24,519
Speaker 1: Every girl i'm with as something about her body that

1422
01:11:24,600 --> 01:11:30,000
Speaker 1: I would murder. You two have, like literally there's every

1423
01:11:30,080 --> 01:11:32,280
Speaker 1: single one of these girls has something that I can

1424
01:11:32,360 --> 01:11:35,280
Speaker 1: go Why isn't my body like that? Why can't I

1425
01:11:35,360 --> 01:11:36,840
Speaker 1: look like that? Why can't my skin look like that?

1426
01:11:36,880 --> 01:11:38,400
Speaker 1: Why are my eyes like that? Why isn't my hair

1427
01:11:38,520 --> 01:11:40,320
Speaker 1: like that? Every single one of them, and I've had

1428
01:11:40,360 --> 01:11:43,080
Speaker 1: those moments throughout the whole trip of like, God, she's

1429
01:11:43,120 --> 01:11:46,160
Speaker 1: just so effortlessly gorgeous. Yesterday there was a picture of

1430
01:11:46,280 --> 01:11:47,880
Speaker 1: Noah that really triggered me, and I was like, I

1431
01:11:47,960 --> 01:11:49,880
Speaker 1: can't look at this because Noah isn't even trying to

1432
01:11:49,920 --> 01:11:51,439
Speaker 1: be a model and she and I was trying to

1433
01:11:51,479 --> 01:11:53,759
Speaker 1: be a model, and she looks like like a model.

1434
01:11:54,080 --> 01:11:56,120
Speaker 1: And even this morning I went to breakfast and Carlyle

1435
01:11:56,160 --> 01:11:57,760
Speaker 1: is like, no, what that picture of you? And I'm

1436
01:11:57,760 --> 01:11:59,920
Speaker 1: like right, I was like I couldn't look at it

1437
01:12:00,000 --> 01:12:02,600
Speaker 1: because I was just like so jealous. And it's like

1438
01:12:03,000 --> 01:12:08,519
Speaker 1: that that I've I've decided to just for go, Like

1439
01:12:08,720 --> 01:12:11,320
Speaker 1: I really that's why sometimes I just don't want to

1440
01:12:11,360 --> 01:12:13,240
Speaker 1: wear makeup and I want to wear ugly clothes. And

1441
01:12:13,320 --> 01:12:16,200
Speaker 1: I whenever I pick out a cute outfit, I unless

1442
01:12:16,200 --> 01:12:18,439
Speaker 1: I'm being styled by my stylists. And if I'm putting

1443
01:12:18,439 --> 01:12:21,400
Speaker 1: together cute outfit, especially with girlfriends, I will throw one

1444
01:12:21,520 --> 01:12:24,920
Speaker 1: thing into it that looks a little shitty. There's something

1445
01:12:24,960 --> 01:12:26,800
Speaker 1: about me that I just I can't have the whole

1446
01:12:26,880 --> 01:12:28,920
Speaker 1: thing look good because it's trying too hard. And if

1447
01:12:28,960 --> 01:12:35,400
Speaker 1: I fail, I um, I okay, so I'll have a

1448
01:12:35,479 --> 01:12:38,160
Speaker 1: really cute outfit. I'll have a top that's brand new

1449
01:12:38,360 --> 01:12:41,400
Speaker 1: that is really trendy and like stands out and everyone's like,

1450
01:12:41,400 --> 01:12:42,800
Speaker 1: oh my god, that's a fun top. And then I'll

1451
01:12:42,840 --> 01:12:45,360
Speaker 1: have shorts that perfectly go with it. And then I'll

1452
01:12:45,400 --> 01:12:48,840
Speaker 1: wear a shitty pair of flip flops or had really

1453
01:12:48,920 --> 01:12:53,360
Speaker 1: clean gym shoes with old like with old Navy workout

1454
01:12:53,439 --> 01:12:55,960
Speaker 1: shorts and a Lulu Lemon really cute top, but the

1455
01:12:55,960 --> 01:12:57,720
Speaker 1: old Navy workout shorts are going to be shipped so

1456
01:12:57,800 --> 01:13:00,560
Speaker 1: that if someone doesn't compliment my outfit can blame it

1457
01:13:00,640 --> 01:13:03,040
Speaker 1: on the old Navy workout shorts or the flip flops.

1458
01:13:03,400 --> 01:13:06,400
Speaker 1: But if I try head to totally look amazing. That

1459
01:13:06,600 --> 01:13:08,080
Speaker 1: was the thing that bothered me when I first started

1460
01:13:08,080 --> 01:13:11,600
Speaker 1: getting here and makeup done, was that you you have

1461
01:13:11,680 --> 01:13:13,720
Speaker 1: two people working on you that are that pros at

1462
01:13:13,760 --> 01:13:15,800
Speaker 1: what they do, and you look as good as you

1463
01:13:15,840 --> 01:13:18,400
Speaker 1: can ever look, and sometimes it's not good enough. And

1464
01:13:18,479 --> 01:13:20,560
Speaker 1: it's just like I always want to leave room for

1465
01:13:20,680 --> 01:13:24,960
Speaker 1: improvement or room to let myself off the hook for

1466
01:13:25,080 --> 01:13:27,640
Speaker 1: not getting the love I deserve. Oh it's because I

1467
01:13:28,360 --> 01:13:30,000
Speaker 1: it's because I wore that shitty fanny pack with my

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Speaker 1: outfitea like fan pack everywhere with cute outfits, and it

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Speaker 1: ruins my outfit, But that gives me. I had the

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Speaker 1: same kind of fears with um getting help and going

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Speaker 1: to therapy and stuff, because I was like, at least

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Speaker 1: now I have an excuse for why I'm not successful

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01:13:43,320 --> 01:13:45,320
Speaker 1: or I'm not my best self. Like, but once you

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01:13:45,400 --> 01:13:47,280
Speaker 1: figure things out and you are your best self and

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01:13:47,360 --> 01:13:51,280
Speaker 1: then you're not enough, that hurts almost worse. Yeah, when

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01:13:51,320 --> 01:13:52,720
Speaker 1: you get done with hair and makeup and you're like,

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01:13:53,000 --> 01:13:58,240
Speaker 1: but it's I'm still not Giselle bunching or whatever. It's Yeah,

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01:13:59,080 --> 01:14:01,559
Speaker 1: it really it bums me out. So I always leave

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01:14:01,640 --> 01:14:03,800
Speaker 1: myself a little bit of an excuse. Like there are

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01:14:03,840 --> 01:14:06,000
Speaker 1: times sometimes when I'm like running and I'm trying to

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01:14:06,680 --> 01:14:08,840
Speaker 1: beat my time from the day before something. You know,

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01:14:08,880 --> 01:14:15,200
Speaker 1: when I used to run against myself competitively, which sounds ridiculous,

1483
01:14:15,240 --> 01:14:18,600
Speaker 1: but I used to sometimes like throw the end of

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01:14:18,640 --> 01:14:20,720
Speaker 1: the race because I I just could tell that I

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01:14:20,760 --> 01:14:22,360
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna beat my time, so I just might as

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01:14:22,400 --> 01:14:24,519
Speaker 1: well really unbeat it so that I don't even have

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Speaker 1: to consider that as a contender, Like I wasn't really trying.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's then you know you won't be able

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Speaker 1: to beat it the next time, so you don't do

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Speaker 1: too good because then you can't beat yourself. Yeah. Yes.

1491
01:14:35,960 --> 01:14:37,680
Speaker 1: Or your uncle's paying for you to play golf, so

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01:14:37,760 --> 01:14:39,320
Speaker 1: you don't and you wanted to pay the next time

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01:14:39,360 --> 01:14:41,120
Speaker 1: you come in down, so you just you throw the

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01:14:41,479 --> 01:14:44,759
Speaker 1: last hole. Um No. I was talking about it yesterday

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Speaker 1: with um because Sara Lena's like, you're so good at

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01:14:47,600 --> 01:14:49,400
Speaker 1: guitar and you're just gonna be a singer song I

1497
01:14:49,520 --> 01:14:51,000
Speaker 1: need to do that, girl, I need to do that.

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01:14:51,280 --> 01:14:52,600
Speaker 1: We start a guitar around the same time and she

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01:14:52,720 --> 01:14:54,880
Speaker 1: I think she's feeling like, why am on I not

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01:14:54,960 --> 01:14:56,120
Speaker 1: that good? And I go, it's because I put in

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01:14:56,200 --> 01:14:59,160
Speaker 1: more hours with the guitar, but certainly to there's more

1502
01:14:59,160 --> 01:15:01,360
Speaker 1: stuff I could be doing, Like I am. I want

1503
01:15:01,400 --> 01:15:03,160
Speaker 1: to be a singer songwriter. I keep talking about it

1504
01:15:03,439 --> 01:15:05,240
Speaker 1: and like I'm going to be one. Yet I will

1505
01:15:05,320 --> 01:15:07,600
Speaker 1: not take singing lessons because I'm scared they're going to

1506
01:15:07,720 --> 01:15:11,040
Speaker 1: say you smoke too much, pot you need your voice,

1507
01:15:11,080 --> 01:15:14,360
Speaker 1: You're ruining your voice. Uh, there might be nodules on

1508
01:15:14,360 --> 01:15:16,200
Speaker 1: your voice. Let's go and get you tests. Oh my god,

1509
01:15:16,240 --> 01:15:18,560
Speaker 1: there are nodules you have to not talk for a

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01:15:18,720 --> 01:15:21,800
Speaker 1: year or something like I keep I live in fear

1511
01:15:21,920 --> 01:15:25,000
Speaker 1: of like do I don't really do all the things

1512
01:15:25,080 --> 01:15:27,160
Speaker 1: that I want to do to reach my dreams because

1513
01:15:27,240 --> 01:15:30,439
Speaker 1: I'm scared of not being naturally good at them when really,

1514
01:15:30,880 --> 01:15:32,320
Speaker 1: like I said at the top of show, it's all

1515
01:15:32,360 --> 01:15:35,439
Speaker 1: about practice, and like, you aren't going to be good

1516
01:15:35,520 --> 01:15:37,599
Speaker 1: right at the gate, and I'm so scared i'd rather

1517
01:15:37,720 --> 01:15:40,120
Speaker 1: not know that. I'm not going before that I need

1518
01:15:40,200 --> 01:15:42,000
Speaker 1: to stop something that sounds cheesy, But you don't have

1519
01:15:42,080 --> 01:15:44,160
Speaker 1: to be perfect. You're just gonna be great in your

1520
01:15:44,200 --> 01:15:47,360
Speaker 1: own way, and that's perfect, if that makes sense. Yeah.

1521
01:15:47,400 --> 01:15:51,040
Speaker 1: I always remember Bob Dylan sounds like absolute garbage and

1522
01:15:51,200 --> 01:15:53,439
Speaker 1: he's the most famous and like a lot of his

1523
01:15:53,520 --> 01:15:56,600
Speaker 1: songs were definitely written on speed and like because he

1524
01:15:56,680 --> 01:15:58,680
Speaker 1: was so drugged out and on coke and like that's

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01:15:58,680 --> 01:16:01,240
Speaker 1: why his songs were like forty minutes long sometimes with

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01:16:01,360 --> 01:16:04,479
Speaker 1: like a million verses. And like, whenever I get down

1527
01:16:04,520 --> 01:16:06,600
Speaker 1: about not sounding like Ariana Grande, like I'll never be

1528
01:16:06,640 --> 01:16:08,240
Speaker 1: able to sound like her or even Taylor Swift for

1529
01:16:08,320 --> 01:16:11,759
Speaker 1: that matter, I always go, well, Bob Dylan gets wis

1530
01:16:13,720 --> 01:16:15,880
Speaker 1: It's like okay, then I can do any anything. I

1531
01:16:15,920 --> 01:16:22,240
Speaker 1: mean that one guy fucking sounded like an ashtray. Uh oh, yeah,

1532
01:16:25,800 --> 01:16:29,920
Speaker 1: well he did, and then that other guy goddamn uh yeah,

1533
01:16:30,040 --> 01:16:35,439
Speaker 1: well well yeah, remember the book that is kissing a

1534
01:16:35,479 --> 01:16:39,920
Speaker 1: girl who smokes like licking an ashtray it was supposed to.

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01:16:40,000 --> 01:16:42,840
Speaker 1: It made discourage me from somem like I want boys

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01:16:42,880 --> 01:16:47,040
Speaker 1: to kiss me, and I'm gonna tom waits, Tom Waits,

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01:16:47,760 --> 01:16:50,679
Speaker 1: I'm glad we tom waited for that line. We gotta go, guys,

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01:16:50,800 --> 01:16:52,680
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening. Tomorrow we have a

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01:16:52,760 --> 01:16:56,040
Speaker 1: very special episode of all fan tracks, all of your

1540
01:16:56,120 --> 01:16:59,040
Speaker 1: fan mail, where the whole show. It's so much fun.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait for you to hear it, So stay tuned.

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Speaker 1: We'll see you then, and don't Piku and Grum