WEBVTT - EP 381: The Birds & The Bees (Ft. Tara) 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:05.920 Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision. 0:00:08.720 --> 0:00:12.000 Hey, guys, welcome to another episode of Horrid Bled. 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:12.640 This is y'all. 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:16.279 I'm your girl, Mandy b aka Peta Sign aka PEG 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.640 and Marco aka I'm out here fucking these niggas aka 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:23.360 a dad bit. You've been out here these niggas. So 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:26.000 I was not fucking these niggas for like a year. 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:26.840 I was healing. 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:30.240 Okay, babe, I didn't like that my name is weezy 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:31.560 and Mandy's line. 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:33.960 Mandy was getting dick once in a blue and if 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:36.599 she didn't like it, it didn't care. It was fingers. 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:39.120 I got finger banged, but I wasn't getting dick while 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:41.480 I was really being celibate. Girl. 0:00:41.520 --> 0:00:46.239 You weren't celibate, you was said, I was said. Anyway, 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:49.080 I don't know if this was gonna be a PG episode, 0:00:49.080 --> 0:00:52.640 but I really wanted us to do an episode talking 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:54.520 about sexuality. 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:56.520 And this isn't gonna be PEG. We're gonna find a 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:59.279 way for this. I almost said sexuality and kids, it's 0:00:59.320 --> 0:00:59.560 not that. 0:00:59.600 --> 0:01:01.600 So I had experience and I was telling Mandy about 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:03.640 and maybe we talked about horrible where I had to 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:06.600 talk to my friend's kid about their period and about sex, 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:08.560 and I was like, I don't know how to do 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:11.240 this like this, so we brought it an expert. We 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:15.480 have Tara Hi who wrote into horrible in our posts. 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:17.520 You have a youth sexpert program, right. 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:21.360 Yeah, So we are a nonprofit organization. We are a 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:25.920 sex ed training program. So essentially students fourteen through eighteen 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:30.480 can come for weekly sessions for a semester and it's 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:34.600 comprehensive sex education and communications training so that they can 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:36.920 learn how to become their own communities sexpert. 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:40.160 But this is this is outside of their school, like 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:42.160 they have to come to a separate location for it. 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:44.520 So this is all digital. So we work with kids 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:46.559 through who are all over the US. 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:49.760 So in our last cohort, we had students from Arizona, Florida, 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:51.360 New York, Massachusetts. 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:52.880 Off the top of my head, how. 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:53.640 Do you kids find it? 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:55.400 Mostly through social media? 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:58.559 That's where we've seen the most succisay during our off season, 0:01:58.560 --> 0:02:01.480 when we're not in program, we do everything that we 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:05.760 can to like advertise. So just earlier yesterday we were 0:02:05.760 --> 0:02:08.000 at youth Summit and myc got to talk to a 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:10.040 bunch of students there, so we try to find places 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:12.560 where students are at and tell them about the program. 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:13.560 To parents send their kids. 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:17.680 So we basically we knew that we had to either 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.160 work hand in hand with schools or hand in hand 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:22.800 with parents, and we decided to kind of go the 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:26.720 individual famili's route, which in hindsight was a great decision 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:29.359 because we've run into so much bullshit trying to work 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:30.480 with schools even just to get. 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:31.600 The word out about programming. 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:35.200 But yeah, so we need parents sign off, and so 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:39.200 our on our staff we have a parent liaison who 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:41.639 works with students to get that parent permission because we 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:43.600 understand that can be like a really big barrier. 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:45.800 Does I'm thinking, I feel like at a certain age, 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:47.720 if you can't learn it from your parents and then 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:50.480 you need them to sign off and they don't, your fucked. 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:54.400 It's crazy because that's actually I was literally scrolling somebody 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:58.040 called me, so I missed it. I was scrolling through 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:02.520 our comments on our solo episode actually, and it's crazy. 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:08.680 I don't know what the conversation was, but someone literally wrote, oh, 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:11.440 let me find it. I tried to screenshot it earlier. 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:13.200 Someone literally wrote. 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:19.680 Lol Mandy talking about black families having to talk about 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:24.480 sex that just doesn't happen, and literally I'm just like, well, 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:27.760 it should and we shouldn't depend on sex ed in 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:30.720 schools because we know that that's not happening either, which 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:34.560 is why we have a whole generation, multiple generations, people 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:38.440 figuring out sex into their twenties, thirties, forties. I mean, 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:40.960 when my mom came to our first live show, like, 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:43.000 there was a little touching moment where she was like, 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:46.480 I'm a little jealous that you're being able to explore 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:49.760 yourself in your twenties and thirties, like she's in her 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:53.080 fifties and still figuring out herself because of this. 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:55.240 Yeah, I definitely had a similar moment even with my 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:57.400 parents where I feel like my parents were the best 0:03:57.440 --> 0:04:00.360 parents ever. But even in the role that I have now, 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:02.960 I've done so many like interviews or had so many 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:04.640 moments where I've like, Luke, you had to put them 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:06.400 on blast and be like, y'all did not talk to 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:07.160 me about sex. 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:09.480 And I know that that sucks. 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:11.080 For them to hear, but it's kind of the truth, 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:13.560 and it was something that really motivated me in starting 0:04:13.600 --> 0:04:17.360 this program. So to what you were saying, we we 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:20.359 know that, like having parent permission as a requirement is 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:22.320 like a huge issue, and like a reason. 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:24.080 I don't know that, don't we didn't We all sign 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:27.680 our parents' names like like sority. 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:29.440 Like baby, I know my mom is thinking much better 0:04:29.480 --> 0:04:30.840 than mine and my. 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:32.960 Dad stead He was like, why does twenty dollars in 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:34.040 the checks keep coming up? 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:34.440 Maybe? 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:37.960 All I know is my mama signed. She ain't no 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:39.320 unless I needed some money. 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:43.320 Yeah, when it comes to Okay, So when they're getting there, right, 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.599 these kids are looking up stay on the younger side. 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:48.599 What is their number one one question? Can I guess? Actually? 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:49.360 Yeah, please go? 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:52.360 Can I get what you're guessing? Your number one question 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:54.360 that children ask? Yeah, like I'm guessing number one. 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:54.719 Okay. 0:04:54.880 --> 0:04:56.520 By that, I mean like I don't know top three 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:00.760 how to get pregnant. I'm gonna say, does it hurt? 0:05:01.760 --> 0:05:03.000 It? Does it hurt? 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:06.880 Does it hurt? I feel like we haven't gotten those questions. 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:11.440 I feel you'd be surprised teenagers by how nuanced the 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:14.920 conversations get. Like we had one student in our last 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:16.920 court and she kept asking these questions that I had 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:18.800 never heard before. And I've been doing sex ed for 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:21.800 years and years, and I remember like one question she asked. 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:23.800 There was no answer for it on the internet. It 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:27.840 was something about like keegel muscles and people with penises 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:31.080 and whether that was the muscle that I don't even 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:34.000 know something related to that, and I remember there was 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:36.119 no answer anywhere on the internet. So I started hitting 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:39.000 up all of my male friends, being like, when you 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:42.840 like flex this muscle, does it do this, and like 0:05:42.920 --> 0:05:46.919 trying to like source for her. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:49.120 was like her question, and so I was like. 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:52.279 Trying to source teenagers asking about a man's kegels and 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:53.080 making a dick jump. 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.080 Yep, Oh, they ain't real advancing. That's that. 0:05:55.240 --> 0:05:56.640 I didn't even know a dick jump till I was 0:05:56.640 --> 0:05:59.160 twenty four. It took me a while to see a 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:02.200 nigga do a little and I like that. Now I'm 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:04.080 not gonna lie. I had my man do a little 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:05.800 dick jump the other day and I was like, you can. 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:07.599 Make your titty jump too. He went left right, And 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:08.720 now I'm convinced. 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:11.120 He wait, he didn't wait, he could make his boobs 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:13.600 like move, he just could. He like, it's just your chest, 0:06:13.640 --> 0:06:14.120 the pecks. 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:15.479 I'm seeing women who could do that. 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:17.480 Oh no, I know, but but I ain't gonna hold you. 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:19.440 I would be he had a different light, bitch that 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:20.320 nigga was a strip. 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:22.279 B He's really laughing, like, I don't know why you 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:24.200 think that. I'm like, I see it, I feel it. 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:25.920 You can give me really good massages. 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:28.760 Suddenly, Yo, Dick just could jump on a man and 0:06:28.920 --> 0:06:31.159 your titty pop's giving sex worker. 0:06:31.320 --> 0:06:37.839 It's giving jump phone nick list dude. Okay, so, uh 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:42.080 fourteen through eighteen. I do want to talk about teenagers, yes, 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:43.960 but I also want to talk about younger younger, some 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:46.360 period stuff. I think that's like the number one thing. 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:47.840 And this is two kids, by the way, that I 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:50.880 helped with friends. Why are why are they trusting you? 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:53.880 Because they just like, oh, you're a sex educator. I'm like, well, 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:57.320 I teach hold him through. You already saw what happened? 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:58.279 What was it in Dallas? 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:00.640 I said that I was watching my friend kids because 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:02.320 she had to go to work real quick, and I 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:05.000 was like, girl, I got you, and and Chrystal was like, 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:07.240 I need to talk to Brett because she's leaving you. 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:07.880 With her kids. 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:12.520 Like I get the ad. The kids, Oh they're like 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:14.720 four and six, and I don't do that. 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:15.160 Shut up. 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:17.400 And then my other homegirl was mad because we was 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:20.200 drooling over Tie Dolla signed together, and she was like, 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:22.880 my daughter is thirteen. Can you not be sitting here 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:25.000 talking about Tie dollar Sign and how. 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:27.400 She's gonna talk about it anyway. She don't talk about 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:28.040 them anyway. 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:32.360 You know. Well, here's the thing. When people don't have 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:34.960 kids and they start watching toddlers. I don't it sound 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:37.520 like you're you'd be terrible around the kids. I think 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:39.720 the only thing I'd be worried about is your mouth. No, 0:07:39.720 --> 0:07:41.520 no, no no. So here's the thing. It sounds like you're 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:43.720 gonna stay and fuck to these kids. But Mandy gonna 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:47.240 be on the phone. It was. It was perfect. So 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:48.640 this this is the new kid era. 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:52.640 Shout out to the Talas and Technology iPad time and 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:55.000 they put their headphones on and they be in the iPad. 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:57.200 I had to do shit. I was on my laptop, 0:07:57.240 --> 0:08:01.600 they was on the iPads. It worked out what and 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:03.160 I was like, y'all good? And then I came over 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:05.360 with some little cake pots from Starbucks. 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:07.200 They loved me. It was good. I was such a 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:10.600 judgy person about parents. I don't know if anyone else 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:12.680 has had this moment, this listening. I would be on 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:15.280 a plane or something. I'd be like, look at a restaurant. 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:17.840 Look at these kids glued to the iPad. This is ridiculous. 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:20.600 Their eyes are so focused on this. Blah blah blah. Bitch. 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:22.280 I watched a three year old the other day for 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:23.360 six hours. 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:27.960 Here, you want my portable battery butt? H uh huh, 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:33.120 yeah no, I do think. What why I don't know 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:35.040 how to write a curse up today? I mean listen, 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:38.679 and they know the internet anyway, Okay, let's get back 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:40.560 to uh. 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:41.840 I was a gonna say sex and kids. 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:45.000 I'm sorry, this is second use the sex education. 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:47.880 I did actually want to cut this really quick, and 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:49.240 I know you're here so you can help us with 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:51.520 some of this dialogue. Okay, Mandy and I had a 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:54.640 conversation a few weeks ago about rising rates on HIV 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:58.040 and we got a letter from a listener with a 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:00.240 bunch of info about PREP and DOXY. And I think 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:02.840 it's perfect because you can jump in on this. Ladies. 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:05.280 I'm a huge fan of the show. Most recent episode, 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.840 you were discussing PREP and DOXY and I wanted to 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:09.679 give you info to share with listeners in case they're 0:09:09.720 --> 0:09:12.560 unfamiliar for background, I am a gay man who's been 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:15.800 on PREP for seven years. PREP stands for pre exposure 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:20.440 prophylaxis YEP, which means you take it before a possible 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:24.360 exposure as protection. There are three different types of PREP 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:28.920 true Rada, Deskovi, and the newest is APT Preytude. I've 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:31.120 never heard this. Truvada and Dscovie are both pills you 0:09:31.160 --> 0:09:36.320 take daily. A Apptitude is an injection YEP with the 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:39.040 first two sho oh, that's the shot yep. Okay, with 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:42.120 the first two shots taken one month apart, and then 0:09:42.200 --> 0:09:46.400 one shot every other month. I believe Truvada and Applitude 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:49.560 are the only approved PREP medications for women, however, and 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:51.360 Truvada is the one I'm sure you ask Yeah, that's 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:53.840 what I asked for. Back to the day, PEP stands 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:57.520 for post exposure prophylaxis. With PEP, you can take it 0:09:57.559 --> 0:10:00.280 within seventy two hours of a possible exposure. This is 0:10:00.280 --> 0:10:02.200 the pill. If anybody remembers that I told my homeboy 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:05.600 to get that he was taken. It's one pill taken 0:10:05.880 --> 0:10:09.920 every day for twenty eight days. Okay, that's not the 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:12.520 one he got and it lowers the risk of contracting 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:16.000 HIV by more than eighty percent. No, this should only 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:19.200 be taken in emergency situations and not something you rely 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:22.120 on frequently after having unprotected sex, because it is one 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:25.040 of those that you can become like whatever. 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:28.840 So it's an anti viral, right, and my understanding is 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:31.360 both of them are in anti virals. So you want 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:35.120 to be really careful with the medication because it's the 0:10:35.160 --> 0:10:38.080 same type of medication that's used to treat HIV if 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:39.880 you do test positive. 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:41.960 At any point. So you don't want your body to 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:43.719 become like there we can. 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:47.560 If you take it too much. That's yeah, that's what 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:52.000 could happen. You have more information, yeah, sop. He also 0:10:52.000 --> 0:10:54.600 brings up He says, emphasizing again that PREP and PEP 0:10:54.679 --> 0:10:58.480 produces your risk of contracting HIV only not other SuDS 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:00.840 and seis now doxy PEP. That's the one I gave 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:05.920 my friend my bad. It's post exposure preventive medication doxy cycling, 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:08.520 which is an antibiotic, and with doxy you take two 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:11.160 pills at the same time within seventy two hours of exposure, 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:15.240 and it reduces syphilis, chlamytee and Gonnrhia risk obviously talk 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:18.520 with healthcare providers, hoping this information will get you started. 0:11:18.640 --> 0:11:22.000 Best law. I thought that was helpful, absolutely, because I 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:23.440 know we were just spitballing about what we know. 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:27.000 So just a little run and I love if there's 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:30.120 any other healthcare providers too. I know someone reached out 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:34.520 to me from an Atlanta clinic who actually administers it, 0:11:34.640 --> 0:11:37.400 like that's what their focus is on, and me and 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:41.040 Cinnamon are looking to do that. So anyone who has 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:45.000 any information about PEP prep all the things, please reach 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.319 out in our email because I would love to. 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:49.480 Communicate with you guys. Yeah, when we can get a 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:51.720 gilead or talk to treat on, I'll let you know 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:55.880 I'll okay with them, all right, Vanello? Shit, So I 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:57.480 want to talk about some of the stats you had 0:11:57.520 --> 0:12:03.600 on your Instagram. Oh, Youth Sexpert program, Americans say sex 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:05.720 that in school did not prepare them for sex in 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:08.680 real life. That's an eight, that's a no ship. Yeah, 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:13.920 anybody that. I don't think anyone learned that. However, I 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:16.040 feel like all of us in the room should talk 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:21.160 about one thing we actually learned from it. You know 0:12:21.200 --> 0:12:21.760 what's crazy. 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:25.440 The only thing that I remember is for the ladies 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:30.680 specifically is abstinence, which teaching abstinence takes it away from 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:33.760 you learning anything the fuck else. Yeah, so it's literally, hey, 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:36.240 don't have sex otherwise you're gonna get pregnant or die. 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:39.240 And that's literally it. It was like, you're gonna catch 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:41.559 a TIV or you're gonna get pregnant. You don't want 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:44.120 to do either, so just stay away from dick. That's 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:47.040 that's what they taught me in school. I remember learning 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:49.839 I had another hole that It was crazy, what do 0:12:49.880 --> 0:12:51.280 you mean another hole? You know, when they blow up 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:55.320 the picture of the pussy. I was like like, you'reth Yeah, 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:58.400 I thought you thought the dick was gonna go into 0:12:58.400 --> 0:12:59.080 that little pio. 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:01.480 No, I thought I was peeing out of my pussy. 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:05.240 Yeah, yeah, question. And I also thought that at something. 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:08.680 Well, you learned that in sex head not anatomy, because 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:11.040 isn't that anatomy? First of all, bitch, you're asking me 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:14.800 a lot of things. I'll say at school today, you. 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:18.520 Went to literally the human body, which I think is anatomy. No, 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:20.560 but that I remember that being sex said, because we 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:23.720 were started talking about uh where it goes blah blah blah. 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:26.120 But I remember thinking, like, I don't pee out my pussy, 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:28.960 but I do pe out my pus what and like, yo, 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:31.079 it fucked me up. All I know is they damn sure, 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:33.679 I ain't teach that a woman could take dick in 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:37.440 the boodahle Like there was no conversation about women at 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:41.160 all having anal sex ever. That was just that was 0:13:41.240 --> 0:13:44.679 just man sex. That's that's the whole for a man 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:46.199 to go in. Do you talk about anal sex? 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:48.760 Yeah, we talk about We talk about everything. 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:50.199 How do you talk about anal sex? 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:55.760 The teenagers honestly, openly and honestly and prioritizing safety. We 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:58.320 tell them, if you're using butt plugs at any point, 0:13:58.320 --> 0:13:59.920 you want to pick a toy with a base, you 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:01.600 lots of lou breathe in and out. 0:14:01.800 --> 0:14:05.320 WHOA Okay, so I have me and me weezy and 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:07.520 who else was on that episode? All I know is 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:10.320 we had a conversation where a teacher was fired for 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:13.760 teaching children how to masturbate, and we all were talking 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:16.319 about what is too much for a teacher to share 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:18.680 or someone that's not the parent. So I want to 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:22.040 ask you, yes, there's a permission slip, but do you 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:25.520 not think that teaching teenagers about how to lube up 0:14:25.560 --> 0:14:28.960 and buy certain sized butt plugs? Is that too much 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:31.280 for someone that's not a parent to be talking about 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:32.240 sex to a child. 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:34.800 So as a part of that answer, I'll say that 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:37.560 on our consent forms, we offer opt in and opt 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:41.000 out options for each individual lesson, the hook there being 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.440 that if a parent is uncomfortable with a certain topic 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:45.400 or wants to address it in their home privately, we 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:47.360 have thousand percent respect that. 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:49.480 We tell me more, what kind of stuff can you 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:50.080 opt out from? 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:53.200 So we give a blurb for what each lesson includes. 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:56.800 So we have lessons on self pleasure, We tell parents 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:59.160 that we're going to be talking about sex toys. We 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.720 have lessons on and even like what sex worker rights 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:05.560 look like around the world. We have lessons on, yeah, 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:09.520 what BDSM looks like. And the parents, Yeah, the parents 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:12.320 who do sign sign up, or at least with our 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:14.600 last cohort, they signed, they opted in for everything. 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:16.800 I wonder how many I wonder how many of these 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.600 parents that are opting for their children to learn all 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:23.160 of these things are in lifestyle Because I just recently 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:27.880 came across an article where they were questioning the psychological 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:33.000 effects of children growing up in lifestyle homes where their 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:39.040 parents may throw orgies or clearly their auntsy is the unicorn, 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.200 and what kind of psychological effect that could have on 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:43.760 the children that are present in the all. 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:46.240 But I'm sorry, go ahead, sorry, I will say. 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:48.640 On the other side of things, there's tons of research 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:52.360 around how students who actually receive truly comprehensive sex education 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:55.000 are more likely to make their sexual debut later on 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:59.600 in life. So thinking about, yeah, how much mystery there 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:03.920 is around sex leading to all of that curiosity, and 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:06.400 then combine that with the lack of education, you have 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:10.600 young people who are engaging in partnered sex, maybe at 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:13.440 a younger age than they otherwise would and maybe aren't. 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:17.680 I was judging you about a few minutes ago. No no, no, 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:18.920 no, no no, but let me that's fine, let me go. 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:22.880 Out right, like, yeah, it changed my mind when I realized, yes, 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:23.320 you're right. 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:26.200 So at first I was like, what the fuck is 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:28.200 she teaching kids mediasm for it? Like that was going 0:16:28.200 --> 0:16:33.040 on in my brain. However, what you just said true, 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:36.200 My mom talked about sex so much at home. Obviously, 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:38.800 you guys know I was fucking right. But when it 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:42.360 comes to safety, when it came to the first time 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.040 a man was aggressive with me, when it came to 0:16:45.360 --> 0:16:50.200 sex with women, like, I felt so comfortable having discussions 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:53.160 and coming to her because I'm gonna do it anyway. Yeah, right, 0:16:53.720 --> 0:17:01.600 and you went sorry, But I do so. I also 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:04.919 think the number one thing I remembered not that my 0:17:05.080 --> 0:17:09.760 debut took a certain amount of time. However pressure a 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:11.879 lot of my friends that didn't want to have sex 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:14.679 with boys at a certain age kind of did. I 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:18.040 felt very secure and understanding about saying no, what things 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:20.320 look like, or when guys told me, oh, well, I'm 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:22.159 hard and it's gonna hurt if this and that, Like, 0:17:22.480 --> 0:17:26.399 you know, teenage boys are pressuring. Yeah, I do think 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:28.880 because I had a little bit of advanced sex said 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:32.400 that saved me from some uncomfortable situations. Yeah, and you're right. 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:36.040 The curiosity of what things are like may keep a 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:36.800 kid from. 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:38.639 Fucking now, because it's like, if you're going to go 0:17:38.640 --> 0:17:40.800 out and start exploring BDSM or looking it up on 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:41.600 your own without. 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:44.560 An expert telling you, I see what you're saying, I'm 0:17:44.880 --> 0:17:45.320 go ahead. 0:17:45.640 --> 0:17:47.320 I think that there are a lot of conversations that 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:50.600 people are increasingly more comfortable having with young people, like 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:55.840 conversations about consent or boundaries or barrier methods or things 0:17:55.880 --> 0:17:58.080 like that that you might see in conventional sex head 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:01.800 I think the prob a little bit there is it's 0:18:01.880 --> 0:18:04.240 not like once you hit eighteen and you're at that 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:07.440 age appropriate marker that they're somewhere for you to magically 0:18:07.520 --> 0:18:09.800 learn all of this. You're still picking things up as 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:12.639 you go and still a lot of the time not 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:17.240 making decisions that are empowered informed, et cetera. So even 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:21.240 if we view it as educating young people for their future, 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:25.200 that is better to me than just leaving them with 0:18:25.400 --> 0:18:30.880 no resources, just leaving them to their own devices. 0:18:33.280 --> 0:18:35.560 Can I ask I would love to know in terms 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:39.639 of having these open conversations about sex. I know, as 0:18:39.640 --> 0:18:43.640 a millennial, the narrative was if you fuck a boy, 0:18:43.920 --> 0:18:48.920 he'll like you more. What is the conversation around teaching 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:52.080 women that given the pussy up to these little boys, 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:55.000 ain't gonna make this motherfucker like you more, ain't gonna 0:18:55.000 --> 0:18:56.760