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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision.

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Speaker 2: Hey, guys, welcome to another episode of Horrid Bled.

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Speaker 1: This is y'all.

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Speaker 2: I'm your girl, Mandy b aka Peta Sign aka PEG

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Speaker 2: and Marco aka I'm out here fucking these niggas aka

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Speaker 2: a dad bit. You've been out here these niggas. So

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Speaker 2: I was not fucking these niggas for like a year.

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Speaker 2: I was healing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, babe, I didn't like that my name is weezy

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Speaker 1: and Mandy's line.

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Speaker 2: Mandy was getting dick once in a blue and if

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Speaker 2: she didn't like it, it didn't care. It was fingers.

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Speaker 2: I got finger banged, but I wasn't getting dick while

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Speaker 2: I was really being celibate. Girl.

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Speaker 1: You weren't celibate, you was said, I was said. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if this was gonna be a PG episode,

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Speaker 1: but I really wanted us to do an episode talking

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Speaker 1: about sexuality.

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Speaker 2: And this isn't gonna be PEG. We're gonna find a

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Speaker 2: way for this. I almost said sexuality and kids, it's

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Speaker 2: not that.

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Speaker 1: So I had experience and I was telling Mandy about

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Speaker 1: and maybe we talked about horrible where I had to

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Speaker 1: talk to my friend's kid about their period and about sex,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't know how to do

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Speaker 1: this like this, so we brought it an expert. We

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Speaker 1: have Tara Hi who wrote into horrible in our posts.

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Speaker 1: You have a youth sexpert program, right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So we are a nonprofit organization. We are a

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Speaker 3: sex ed training program. So essentially students fourteen through eighteen

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Speaker 3: can come for weekly sessions for a semester and it's

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Speaker 3: comprehensive sex education and communications training so that they can

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Speaker 3: learn how to become their own communities sexpert.

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Speaker 2: But this is this is outside of their school, like

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Speaker 2: they have to come to a separate location for it.

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Speaker 4: So this is all digital. So we work with kids

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Speaker 4: through who are all over the US.

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Speaker 3: So in our last cohort, we had students from Arizona, Florida,

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Speaker 4: Off the top of my head, how.

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Speaker 1: Do you kids find it?

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Speaker 4: Mostly through social media?

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Speaker 3: That's where we've seen the most succisay during our off season,

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Speaker 3: when we're not in program, we do everything that we

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Speaker 3: can to like advertise. So just earlier yesterday we were

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Speaker 3: at youth Summit and myc got to talk to a

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Speaker 3: where students are at and tell them about the program.

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Speaker 1: To parents send their kids.

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Speaker 3: So we basically we knew that we had to either

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Speaker 3: individual famili's route, which in hindsight was a great decision

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Speaker 3: because we've run into so much bullshit trying to work

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Speaker 3: with schools even just to get.

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Speaker 4: The word out about programming.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, so we need parents sign off, and so

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Speaker 3: our on our staff we have a parent liaison who

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Speaker 3: works with students to get that parent permission because we

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Speaker 1: Does I'm thinking, I feel like at a certain age,

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Speaker 1: if you can't learn it from your parents and then

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Speaker 1: you need them to sign off and they don't, your fucked.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy because that's actually I was literally scrolling somebody

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Speaker 2: called me, so I missed it. I was scrolling through

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Speaker 2: our comments on our solo episode actually, and it's crazy.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what the conversation was, but someone literally wrote, oh,

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Speaker 2: let me find it. I tried to screenshot it earlier.

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Speaker 1: Someone literally wrote.

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Speaker 2: Lol Mandy talking about black families having to talk about

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Speaker 2: sex that just doesn't happen, and literally I'm just like, well,

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Speaker 2: it should and we shouldn't depend on sex ed in

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Speaker 2: schools because we know that that's not happening either, which

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Speaker 2: is why we have a whole generation, multiple generations, people

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Speaker 2: figuring out sex into their twenties, thirties, forties. I mean,

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Speaker 2: when my mom came to our first live show, like,

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Speaker 2: there was a little touching moment where she was like,

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Speaker 2: I'm a little jealous that you're being able to explore

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely had a similar moment even with my

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Speaker 3: I've done so many like interviews or had so many

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Speaker 3: moments where I've like, Luke, you had to put them

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Speaker 4: And I know that that sucks.

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Speaker 3: For them to hear, but it's kind of the truth,

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Speaker 2: I don't know that, don't we didn't We all sign

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Speaker 2: our parents' names like like sority.

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Speaker 1: Like baby, I know my mom is thinking much better

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Speaker 2: Dad stead He was like, why does twenty dollars in

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Speaker 2: the checks keep coming up?

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Speaker 4: Maybe?

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Speaker 1: All I know is my mama signed. She ain't no

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Speaker 2: Yeah, when it comes to Okay, So when they're getting there, right,

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Speaker 2: these kids are looking up stay on the younger side.

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Speaker 1: What is their number one one question? Can I guess? Actually?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, please go?

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Speaker 2: Can I get what you're guessing? Your number one question

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Speaker 2: By that, I mean like I don't know top three

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Speaker 4: Does it hurt? I feel like we haven't gotten those questions.

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Speaker 3: I feel you'd be surprised teenagers by how nuanced the

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Speaker 2: Trying to source teenagers asking about a man's kegels and

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Speaker 1: Yep, Oh, they ain't real advancing. That's that.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even know a dick jump till I was

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Speaker 2: twenty four. It took me a while to see a

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Speaker 2: not gonna lie. I had my man do a little

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Speaker 1: Make your titty jump too. He went left right, And

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Speaker 2: He wait, he didn't wait, he could make his boobs

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Speaker 4: I'm seeing women who could do that.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, I know, but but I ain't gonna hold you.

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Speaker 2: I would be he had a different light, bitch that

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Speaker 1: B He's really laughing, like, I don't know why you

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Speaker 1: You can give me really good massages.

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Speaker 2: Suddenly, Yo, Dick just could jump on a man and

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Speaker 2: your titty pop's giving sex worker.

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Speaker 1: It's giving jump phone nick list dude. Okay, so, uh

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Speaker 1: fourteen through eighteen. I do want to talk about teenagers, yes,

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Speaker 1: And this is two kids, by the way, that I

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Speaker 1: Because they just like, oh, you're a sex educator. I'm like, well,

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Speaker 1: I teach hold him through. You already saw what happened?

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Speaker 1: What was it in Dallas?

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Speaker 2: I said that I was watching my friend kids because

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Speaker 2: I need to talk to Brett because she's leaving you.

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Speaker 2: Like I get the ad. The kids, Oh they're like

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Speaker 1: Shut up.

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Speaker 2: And then my other homegirl was mad because we was

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Speaker 4: She's gonna talk about it anyway. She don't talk about

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Speaker 1: You know. Well, here's the thing. When people don't have

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Speaker 1: the only thing I'd be worried about is your mouth. No,

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Speaker 2: they put their headphones on and they be in the iPad.

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Speaker 2: I had to do shit. I was on my laptop,

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Speaker 2: I was like, y'all good? And then I came over

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Speaker 1: They loved me. It was good. I was such a

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Speaker 1: Look at these kids glued to the iPad. This is ridiculous.

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Speaker 1: Their eyes are so focused on this. Blah blah blah. Bitch.

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Speaker 2: Here, you want my portable battery butt? H uh huh,

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Speaker 2: yeah no, I do think. What why I don't know

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Speaker 1: I was a gonna say sex and kids.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, this is second use the sex education.

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Speaker 1: I did actually want to cut this really quick, and

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Speaker 1: I know you're here so you can help us with

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Speaker 1: some of this dialogue. Okay, Mandy and I had a

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Speaker 1: conversation a few weeks ago about rising rates on HIV

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Speaker 1: and we got a letter from a listener with a

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Speaker 1: bunch of info about PREP and DOXY. And I think

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Speaker 1: it's perfect because you can jump in on this. Ladies.

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Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of the show. Most recent episode,

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Speaker 1: you were discussing PREP and DOXY and I wanted to

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Speaker 1: give you info to share with listeners in case they're

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Speaker 1: unfamiliar for background, I am a gay man who's been

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Speaker 1: on PREP for seven years. PREP stands for pre exposure

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Speaker 1: prophylaxis YEP, which means you take it before a possible

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Speaker 1: exposure as protection. There are three different types of PREP

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Speaker 1: true Rada, Deskovi, and the newest is APT Preytude. I've

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Speaker 1: never heard this. Truvada and Dscovie are both pills you

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Speaker 1: Communicate with you guys. Yeah, when we can get a

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Speaker 3: The teenagers honestly, openly and honestly and prioritizing safety. We

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Speaker 3: No, really, I think I also had been doing sex

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Speaker 1: self pleasure with teenagers, are you talking about privacy or

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Speaker 1: we're talking about how to do it? Or are you

438
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Speaker 1: just talking about why no shame around it?

439
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Speaker 4: What is it?

440
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Speaker 3: So we definitely talk about privacy, we definitely have really

441
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Speaker 3: in depth conversations about the logistics of self pleasure. We

442
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Speaker 3: do talk about sex twice. I remember that lesson in

443
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Speaker 3: particular being pretty striking for me because we had an

444
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Speaker 3: interactive activity where we were having kids connect the name

445
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Speaker 3: of the sex toy to the toy. Every single one

446
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Speaker 3: of our students knew every single They were like, that's

447
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Speaker 3: a butt plug, that's a dil dough, that's a rabbit,

448
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Speaker 3: vibrator and I was like, oh, okay, so they.

449
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Speaker 1: Found their parents. Bro, it's just a different time to

450
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Speaker 1: me in my opinion. I know I'm meeting a lot of.

451
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Speaker 2: In shout out to some of the people in Dallas,

452
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Speaker 2: two people said they've been listening to a side since

453
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Speaker 2: I school.

454
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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 1: I want to say this because in my brain I

456
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Speaker 1: think people in their thirties and forties listen horrible. But

457
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Speaker 1: I just had a conversation last night we man where

458
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Speaker 1: we were like, Bro, do you remember when we had

459
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Speaker 1: to run to the computer to figure out what something

460
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Speaker 1: was and keep looking and waiting for some to download

461
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Speaker 1: and watching it and looking at it. And you're pre

462
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Speaker 1: exposed to all this, like.

463
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Speaker 2: All of it, even through television and the TV shows

464
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Speaker 2: and things that are literally just on basic cable, even.

465
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Speaker 1: The Costay with Merrill where he's like my daughter, he

466
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Speaker 1: said something about his daughter walking and having sex like

467
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Speaker 1: not sorry wife, Yeah, and when it happened, he was like,

468
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Speaker 1: she already knew what this was. Five but it does not.

469
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Speaker 1: It's literally the stuff they're clicking on. Yeah, no, it's

470
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Speaker 1: it's a bit crazy.

471
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Speaker 2: I want to I do want to go back to

472
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Speaker 2: those basic questions that she asked, because I would like

473
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Speaker 2: to know the answers what is sex and is it

474
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Speaker 2: just for reproduction? Like how do you explain that to

475
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Speaker 2: a child?

476
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I remember that in that lesson particularly, we use

477
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Speaker 3: this Sexplanations video okay, where she talks about trying to

478
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Speaker 3: find a definition herself and it being a really complicated

479
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Speaker 3: and nuanced question. Right. Only sort of universal thing that

480
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Speaker 3: seemed to define sex was consent and that if there

481
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Speaker 3: wasn't consent then it wasn't I like that. But other

482
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Speaker 3: than that, it's a pretty I.

483
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Speaker 2: Really like, I really like that definition. Though if there

484
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Speaker 2: isn't consent, then it's not sex.

485
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Speaker 3: And it's not sex, and even and when you're having

486
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Speaker 3: sex with yourself, like checking in and the concept of

487
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Speaker 3: self consent and thinking through that.

488
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Speaker 4: But yeah, so other than that, it's pretty broad.

489
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Speaker 3: It's open ended. People define sex differently there. Yeah, there

490
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Speaker 3: are so many things that can factor into arousal.

491
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Speaker 2: There's when I was dating a woman that we weren't

492
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Speaker 2: really having sex and I got so you just say

493
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Speaker 2: that ship really well, because sex to a lot of

494
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Speaker 2: people is penis and vagina.

495
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Speaker 1: If it's not that, it's not so we get it.

496
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Speaker 1: I totally understand it.

497
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Speaker 2: That's why I said, even when the tip one in

498
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Speaker 2: your ass, it's anal it was there like or some.

499
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Speaker 1: People it might be.

500
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Speaker 2: To some people it might not because not like sorry,

501
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Speaker 2: I'm not like, was it a you know what you're getting?

502
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Speaker 1: Fuck? Real hardness?

503
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Speaker 3: Like?

504
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Speaker 1: Oh no, I asked, right, I'm just gonnat take it.

505
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Speaker 1: I'm also trying to think for a second, Oh is

506
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Speaker 1: it mainly girls?

507
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Speaker 4: Yeah? It is mainly girls, And I.

508
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Speaker 2: Think we need we need more men up in there

509
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Speaker 2: learning and consent at an early goddamn age, can't rejection.

510
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Speaker 2: There was just a video I saw going viral that

511
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Speaker 2: a lady was like, Yeah, if a man asks for

512
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Speaker 2: my number, I'm gonna just give it to him because

513
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 2: I like my life more and the block button works.

514
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Speaker 2: And so the conversations that really need to be taught

515
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Speaker 2: are two little boys yes and teenage boys around rejection,

516
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Speaker 2: around consent, around like even not applying pressure. If a

517
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Speaker 2: girl says no, that means no, that doesn't mean persist

518
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Speaker 2: and keep pushing until she gives in.

519
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Speaker 1: Uh.

520
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Speaker 2: That's really unfortunate that this isn't being pushed even today

521
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Speaker 2: for more boys to learn, especially seeing the Diddy era.

522
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Speaker 2: The me too, Era, the Harvey Weinstein, the R Kelly,

523
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Speaker 2: I could keep going all the names.

524
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Speaker 4: That's yeah, you know, that's something we think a lot about.

525
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Speaker 3: But even like we're trying to be strategic in our branding,

526
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Speaker 3: we try not to use like.

527
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Speaker 4: It is very pain feminine colors. We tried to do

528
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Speaker 4: like green orange.

529
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Speaker 3: But yeah, I mean even yesterday at summit we got

530
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Speaker 3: to talk to like a lot of teenage boys and

531
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Speaker 3: like that was really cool, or they.

532
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Speaker 2: Asked you about how to please a woman. I feel

533
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Speaker 2: like that's all a little way one to.

534
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Speaker 3: Know they hadn't at that event, but I could totally

535
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Speaker 3: anticipate that being something that happened if we actually had

536
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Speaker 3: What are what are boys for?

537
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Speaker 1: The ones that are joining this program?

538
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Speaker 4: What are they asking? We haven't had any boys yet?

539
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Speaker 4: What haven't had any boys yet?

540
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Speaker 1: It's a girl. We need to make a whole nother

541
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Speaker 1: little up.

542
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Speaker 2: It needs to be the boys sex youth, Like we

543
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Speaker 2: need to make a whole other portion for these teenage boys.

544
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Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow.

545
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Speaker 2: And I think what's crazy about it too, is with

546
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Speaker 2: this podcast and with so many women talking about, you know,

547
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Speaker 2: them feeling empowered to have sex out of their own pleasure.

548
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Speaker 2: Women now saying that, go, I'm as horny as a

549
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Speaker 2: man is. It's I believe that younger girls are seeking

550
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Speaker 2: to educate themselves so that they can do I.

551
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Speaker 1: Don't know if men necessarily feel like this warm, super safe,

552
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Speaker 1: you can talk to new space.

553
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Speaker 2: And I don't mean that as men are not that.

554
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Speaker 2: I just think they aren't as vocal women are.

555
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Speaker 1: So what do you need? For example, one of my

556
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Speaker 1: homeboys great an active father, and he said he saw

557
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Speaker 1: a message where his kid was scared to talk to him.

558
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Speaker 1: He's like, we talk all the time, and he was like,

559
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Speaker 1: but I've never said the words you can talk to

560
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Speaker 1: me about X y Z. He was like, I just

561
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Speaker 1: thought being active was enough. And through that conversation, he's like,

562
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Speaker 1: there's so many things you have to spoon feed teenager,

563
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Speaker 1: you know, but women do that and I guess men

564
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Speaker 1: you're just like, oh, you know, you want to be

565
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Speaker 1: the guys. I don't know, but I could see that,

566
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Speaker 1: and I guess maybe it could even be weirder. Are

567
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Speaker 1: there men that work on the youth sexpert There aren't currently,

568
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Speaker 1: but we Yeah, I'm trying to think of so maybe

569
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Speaker 1: it's got to be a man.

570
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Speaker 4: Yeah, part, Look if we have mail board members.

571
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Speaker 1: And get you a part of this program to teach.

572
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Speaker 2: The the you men, Yeah, you'll do it.

573
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Speaker 1: I feel, well, what would you tell them? Would you tell.

574
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Speaker 2: Them, we'll tell them to eat beat you this ship?

575
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Speaker 1: Would you tell them to refrain to have sex and

576
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 1: so they're in love? What would y'all say?

577
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:09,479
Speaker 2: What would y'all teach? Is there a mic over there

578
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 2: or no? Okay, just yeah, they said, leading Niggs out

579
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Speaker 2: the conversation. What what would y'all What would be the

580
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Speaker 2: number one go to that you would teach? What would

581
00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 2: you tell a young boy?

582
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Speaker 1: Yeah?

583
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 2: What do you think you needed to protection? Okay, that's

584
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Speaker 2: all they know. I think how to wear a contract?

585
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:25,880
Speaker 4: I think for young men in particular.

586
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:28,640
Speaker 3: Maybe this is me speculating, but I feel like when

587
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 3: you're growing up, there's this like formulate this is what

588
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:36,439
Speaker 3: sex is, or even like this is how your penis works,

589
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 3: Like you get a boner, it's a there's like a

590
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:42,640
Speaker 3: physiological response. You masturbate, you orgasm, you come, whatever, and

591
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 3: then that's it. That's done, and there's no more conversation

592
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 3: about pleasure, about the existence of pleasure products, about the

593
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 3: existence of lube, about the psychology behind everything about all

594
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:57,919
Speaker 3: of these different aspects. It's just like boom boom boomer.

595
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:00,399
Speaker 2: And it is because it's still physical, because for us,

596
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 2: all of our arousal is happening inside and you can't

597
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 2: really tell. I mean, you could tell when it gets wet,

598
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:08,880
Speaker 2: but even squirting, that didn't happen for me for so long.

599
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:11,000
Speaker 1: Like you know, that's something they're learning.

600
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Speaker 3: Every Yes, I feel like so many people with wel

601
00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 3: of us approach like first have their orgasms at a

602
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 3: later age because of that. Largely, Like I feel like

603
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:21,120
Speaker 3: I lived a long part of my life just ignoring

604
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 3: the fact that I had a glitterist at all, because.

605
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:23,719
Speaker 4: I didn't really know.

606
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 1: That's the one I knew.

607
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 2: Man in a boat at what year? At what year

608
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:28,640
Speaker 2: did you have your first orgasm?

609
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:29,240
Speaker 4: Eighteen?

610
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 1: You had an orgasm at eighteen?

611
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:31,400
Speaker 4: Yeah?

612
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Speaker 1: What was it? Was it with toys? Was it by yourself?

613
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 4: It was with a partner?

614
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 1: And what did he do?

615
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 4: He hate my pussy?

616
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 1: And you okay? And you came that way.

617
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 2: Now I think about it, I probably I ain't gonna

618
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 2: hold you. I had some good dick when I was young,

619
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Speaker 2: like the nigga.

620
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 1: That alls fuck it was good ass.

621
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Speaker 3: Book well, I had my first orgasm, but I had

622
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 3: already been sexually active, saying I was already having penetrative

623
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Speaker 3: sex and not enjoying it and not really understanding like

624
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Speaker 3: why I did enjoy it, and thinking that something was

625
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Speaker 3: wrong with me.

626
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 1: I was coming from how playing house with the girls.

627
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: Oh see, I didn't orgasm there, and I did you

628
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 1: feel the rest? So to me?

629
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 2: So to me probably up until penetrative sex, everything about,

630
00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 2: Like I didn't even play with myself with my fingers

631
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 2: until I was over eighteen. I liked to rub on things,

632
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 2: and I liked to fell the little hot, burning sensation

633
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 2: down there, and then I liked to read books and

634
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 2: then just feel and feel myself being wet. But I

635
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:32,320
Speaker 2: do nothing else but besides getting wet and feeling like

636
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 2: it throbbed. That's it until I started having penetrative sex.

637
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 2: And then I that's how I know I can come

638
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 2: up penetrative sex.

639
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Speaker 1: Not really anything. Yeah, I was. I was a rambunctious

640
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: like but I think I was gay first, So I

641
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 1: think because of that, like eight nine tenth, it was

642
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 1: never a little boy. It was always like girls in

643
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 1: the neighborhood. Oh I did I go hold you?

644
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 2: I was lunching on boys and girls. Sorry, Mom, if

645
00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 2: you listen into this, all like the girlfriends that my

646
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 2: daddy used to date day kids, we would be in

647
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 2: the closet under the bed, we would play house. I

648
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 2: was hunching on everybody my age.

649
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: I was coming too. I feel bad.

650
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:11,920
Speaker 2: I mean, I wasn't like it wasn't naked, but we

651
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 2: was hunching with the jeans and shit like that. Shit

652
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 2: was happy. I was hunching Teddy Bears. I was hunching

653
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 2: the edge of my bed.

654
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,640
Speaker 4: I was punching your bed, the pillow, the shower.

655
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Speaker 1: I feel like, oh when this ower head came off.

656
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:26,160
Speaker 2: Baby, never did power head I used to put that thing.

657
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:27,360
Speaker 4: I never did it for me either.

658
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Speaker 3: But I feel like it is interesting how we all

659
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,080
Speaker 3: like are expected to just find it or just kind

660
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 3: of figure it out in these like really private alone space.

661
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:37,719
Speaker 1: But adults should be doing that. And you know what

662
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 1: adults should be doing, well, clarifying and it should be

663
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: finding it. And I think a lot of the issue

664
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 1: with not having sex said early or conversations even is

665
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 1: that when you become an adult and you can't have

666
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: your first orgasm, it's because you're not doing that shit.

667
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 1: I remember like knowing I needed my nipples stimulated, or

668
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 1: just things I had to learn as I grew. I

669
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 1: actually want to like segue into something that I changed

670
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 1: my mind on. It's a little bit about children, not sexuality.

671
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:08,960
Speaker 2: The way you'd be saying this whole episode is given, like, bro,

672
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:11,640
Speaker 2: just say a full sentence talk about children.

673
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 1: Okay, sorry from I like to play with my nipples,

674
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 1: but speaking of children, Okay, that was really bad. I

675
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 1: don't know, okay, Vanilla ship. This is why I want

676
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 1: to talk about it. And it was like literally a

677
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 1: few hours ago. So the teacher with the unbraiding of

678
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 1: the hair in the student, my oh boy, change today.

679
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 1: Original stance? Okay, I want to start by saying, yeah

680
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 1: this if you haven't seen this video, I felt so

681
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 1: awful for this guy that got fired. It was some

682
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 1: of his girls, students, the black man with students just

683
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 1: unbraiding his hair. Apparently it's like the end of school

684
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 1: or something, and he was on his way to appointment

685
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 1: in a rush. It wasn't sexual, it was being videotaped. Fine, now,

686
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 1: so what your original stance on that bit was? First

687
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 1: stance when I saw this says, this is so innocent.

688
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 1: This is just kids just playing. If it was a woman,

689
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 1: I've played in their hair. But then I realized, So

690
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 1: I started having a conversation about teachers today. Right, so

691
00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 1: my boyfriend has dated a teacher before, and he's like, Yo,

692
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 1: it's crazy because the students text you, the students try

693
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 1: to find your Instagram. He's like, there's no fucking boundary.

694
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:27,560
Speaker 1: When we were kids, we were looking at teachers like

695
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:29,600
Speaker 1: they were old as fool as shit. He's like, and

696
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 1: now it's like there was no barrier. I guess with

697
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 1: the girl he dated in the kids the students were

698
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: writing about assignments at certain times, and although she wasn't

699
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 1: being inappropriate, he's like, that's already inappropriate to me.

700
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 2: And then I thought about it. I'm like, like that video.

701
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 2: Do you think that video is bad?

702
00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 1: And he was like, if we had a fucking daughter

703
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 1: and you saw a video of her taking out her

704
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 1: teacher's hair, what the fuck is she doing in this

705
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: nigga's head?

706
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 2: And I really was thinking, and I thought to myself,

707
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 2: I would have been fucking living if my kid is

708
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 2: in school, not no girls club, where ain't no curriculum

709
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 2: going on, and you playing a growing ass man's head, nigga,

710
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 2: cancel your appointment.

711
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 1: We all ship to do. Shit goes wrong. You know

712
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: what time you get out of school every time? Why

713
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 1: are these little girls doing this? Why didn't you stop them?

714
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 1: Why am I thinking this is innocent? There should be

715
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 1: a boundary with teachers. The shit shouldn't be that fucking cool.

716
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 1: You can have good relationships with staff members or teachers

717
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:25,239
Speaker 1: and not sexualize. And I'm not saying he was doing

718
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:29,600
Speaker 1: anything sexual, but why the fuck is this happening. My

719
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 1: kids should not be going to school doing any service

720
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 1: for you, Like, that's weird to me. So this is

721
00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 1: now what you think.

722
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 2: I really didn't think it at first, Mandy, because in

723
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 2: my brain I always think we over sexualize things.

724
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 1: I agree. However, when I sat and thought about if

725
00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 1: it was my kid, I was like, yeah, and it's

726
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:52,160
Speaker 1: even as an adult. Hold on, as an adult, I

727
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: think back that I used to do that for my teacher.

728
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 1: What the fuck?

729
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 4: I know.

730
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 3: I have those moments all the time where I've realized

731
00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:00,480
Speaker 3: that I was like a child and there were teachers

732
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 3: maybe like making some weird inappropriate choke with me or

733
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:05,880
Speaker 3: whatever it might be. And I do think I'm gen

734
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:08,359
Speaker 3: z so I remember like looking up my teachers on

735
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 3: Facebook and trying to be in their business. But I

736
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:13,120
Speaker 3: do think as the adult, it's on you to create

737
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:14,760
Speaker 3: me as.

738
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 1: A millennial, I think.

739
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:20,840
Speaker 2: I feel like so with that, I feel like we

740
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:24,200
Speaker 2: definitely sexualized it. There was another teacher recently with a

741
00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 2: bald head who was getting diamonds put on his head.

742
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:30,279
Speaker 2: A principle, actually not even a teacher. The principal was

743
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 2: getting Ryan stones put on his head. He ain't get fired.

744
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 2: To me, I do think if that was a woman teacher,

745
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 2: it wouldn't have been said anything.

746
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,839
Speaker 1: My only issue is down the rabbit hole of going

747
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 1: through his TikTok.

748
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 2: He was sexualizing some girl that it was obvious she

749
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 2: was under age, so he was on some weirdo shit

750
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:53,800
Speaker 2: on his TikTok. But for the sticking there, I actually

751
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 2: don't think there was anything wrong. I do think we

752
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 2: over sexualized.

753
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:58,360
Speaker 1: Even if it was your kid, even if it was

754
00:34:58,360 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: my kid.

755
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 2: Well, and I guess I come from a especially seeing

756
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 2: that it was little black girls like I grew up

757
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:06,320
Speaker 2: with a like my high school at a cosmetology school

758
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 2: in it so like my cousin did my hair to

759
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 2: me literally between classes, at the lunch room after school program,

760
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 2: people are doing hair.

761
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:18,600
Speaker 1: There's some black shit like getting get intwisted. I get it,

762
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:21,359
Speaker 1: but why is my kid doing a service for you?

763
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 1: But that's the thing too, to see it was a

764
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 1: group of girls. It wasn't just one girl. To me,

765
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 1: it was a group.

766
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:29,719
Speaker 2: My only problem was, and I've said this to a

767
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 2: few adults, my problem was a that he put it

768
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 2: on social media for me if I had for me,

769
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 2: if I had a child, I don't want my little

770
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 2: girl on no grown man's Instagram where there's probably more

771
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:42,839
Speaker 2: grown men for.

772
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 1: To see her.

773
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 2: Like to me, that would be my probably big thing

774
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 2: with raising a little girl right now is keeping her

775
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:52,640
Speaker 2: out of the views or reach of grown men having accessibility.

776
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 1: I think the touching also, there needs to be a

777
00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: boundary with touching and I don't And maybe that's what

778
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 1: I started to think about, like the touching is too much.

779
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 1: But to me hair Also, I just want to say

780
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,360
Speaker 1: this for any men listening that may feel like we're,

781
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 1: you know, coming down on the male teacher. I'm sorry, Mandy.

782
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:13,600
Speaker 1: I actually think women teachers when I see these clothes

783
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:15,879
Speaker 1: they be wearing. No, no, no, do you know the little

784
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 1: doe here fucking these boys.

785
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:19,960
Speaker 2: Every time I look up sex in the news for

786
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:24,319
Speaker 2: vanilla shit, it's another fucking teacher fucking a high school boy.

787
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 1: But I'm telling you, people are totally predatory both ways.

788
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,920
Speaker 1: Every time I see one of the BBL teachers, and

789
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to be funny, I'm I'm not you

790
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: calling them a BBL. There are BBL teachers that fucking

791
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 1: be like, is this wrong? It's my body. What are

792
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 1: you fucking talking about, bitch, Like, yes, you're not going

793
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 1: to the club. You don't need to. Fucking we see

794
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:50,279
Speaker 1: the belt on the goddamn last whole stop it. Like,

795
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, fit girls being ostracized for wearing the same

796
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 1: thing as skinny girls. I totally get it. I get

797
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 1: it when we're talking about anything else outside, but for school,

798
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 1: that's not fair.

799
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,759
Speaker 2: Because I'm gonna tell you right now, there was this

800
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 2: motherfucking teacher that was the pe coach in high school.

801
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,920
Speaker 2: He was about twenty three years old. Baby, he was

802
00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:13,880
Speaker 2: fine when I say fine, or.

803
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

804
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 2: So the way you're talking, because okay, there's bodies, there's

805
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 2: things like so, then should a fine ass nigga not

806
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 2: be a teacher either.

807
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 1: That you got twent thirteen, fourteen year old fourteen and

808
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 1: you wearing these tight ass fucking dresses that are sexy

809
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 1: enough to make a fucking TikTok okay, but now these

810
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 1: little boys are over sexualizing you. But we over here

811
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 1: thinking that it's just the man okay, six or four

812
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 1: with basketball shorts and a white beater on my motherfucking pea,

813
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 1: And I did want to. I wanted to suck his fight.

814
00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 2: It doesn't I'm saying, when you're crushertaine yes, but I'm

815
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 2: not talking about attractive people.

816
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 1: I'm talking about inappropriate it's with the outfits. I'm tired

817
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 1: of fucking acting like Bro. I'm not trying to be

818
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 1: no maga bitch, but I'm sorry. I'm a like on

819
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 1: some real shit. I'm the girl who is out here saying,

820
00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 1: fuck whoever you want fucking have three husbands, three wives,

821
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: being an open relationship. But I'm an adult and why

822
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 1: the fuck are we crossing this goddamn line with kids?

823
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:17,360
Speaker 1: And I really think these bitches on TikTok with this

824
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 1: weird shit. I was in a hole, bro when I

825
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 1: saw this, and I'm like, I cannot believe we're acting

826
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:23,920
Speaker 1: like she should be free to wear whatever she wants

827
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:25,759
Speaker 1: when the goddamn pants is up her ass.

828
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:27,799
Speaker 3: Well, Okay, I think on one hand, there's like a

829
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 3: lot to be said about like the sexualization of certain

830
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 3: clothing pieces generally, or just our bodies as a whole.

831
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 3: But I also think to what you're saying, like and

832
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 3: also to the incident with the hair, Like, schools are

833
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:45,320
Speaker 3: still a workplace for teachers, So there are certain workplace

834
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 3: norms that you wouldn't break in a workplace with adults.

835
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:51,040
Speaker 3: So why are we so comfortable breaking them around children?

836
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 4: Oh that's a great way.

837
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 1: I actually really fuck with it because I would not.

838
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:55,800
Speaker 1: I didn't think take my hair out in front of

839
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 1: people that work. They would think of your motherfucker hair out.

840
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:03,560
Speaker 1: Work is secret home. It does this work.

841
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:07,360
Speaker 2: You don't take your hair on the motherfucker podcast. So bitch,

842
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 2: it's it's a work environment. Anyway, let us get this.

843
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 1: Fucking bitch. Okay, you were talking about semen and prostate

844
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: fluid on your page.

845
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, I.

846
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: Like Louis, Yeah, tell me a little bit about that.

847
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, what were we talking about in terms of Stephen

848
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:30,880
Speaker 4: and prostate fluid?

849
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:35,359
Speaker 3: I think just that they're different and that there are

850
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 3: tons of enzymes that work towards the evolutionary goal of

851
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 3: getting the sperm to the egg. But when we do

852
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 3: go over the anatomy of the penis and of the volva,

853
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 3: just all anatomy, point blank period. We really try to

854
00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:56,920
Speaker 3: approach it, not in the way that schools might necessarily

855
00:39:56,960 --> 00:40:00,280
Speaker 3: approach it. I feel like I remember from the animal

856
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:02,200
Speaker 3: like sex that I got in school that it was

857
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 3: a lot of like ovaries and Filippian tubes and the uterus,

858
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:09,919
Speaker 3: and I was like, where's my clitterists, where's my reath?

859
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:11,520
Speaker 4: Threat? There wasn't a lot of that.

860
00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:16,160
Speaker 3: So in addition to talking about the sorts of anatomy

861
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 3: that you're more likely to get in school, we also

862
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 3: try to talk about the clitteral your rethroll network, and

863
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 3: we try to talk about homologous sex organs how like

864
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 3: we're all pretty much the same and he penis penis exactly,

865
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 3: So that's like pretty much where we start.

866
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 2: Can I ask you how your boodhle get aroused? Because

867
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:41,320
Speaker 2: sometimes my boodahle do just be a little juicy, but

868
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:45,359
Speaker 2: like it's like whoa why is a juicy? Like my pussy, yes,

869
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 2: gets wet, but sometimes my boot my bussy get wait too,

870
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:50,800
Speaker 2: you will know if I actually have an answer.

871
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: You don't know about how the bussy get wet.

872
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 4: No, but I can't tell you that I have experienced

873
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 4: the same thing.

874
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 1: Oh so that's what I want you to do the research.

875
00:40:58,560 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 4: Okay, I'll come back.

876
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no no, it's not a leaky but

877
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 2: but like while I'm aroused, like like the last time

878
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 2: I had antal sex, baby, we didn't even use lube.

879
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 1: I was really aroused. Let me let it down there.

880
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:14,800
Speaker 1: Why do my boot why do my boot atal cavity?

881
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 1: Ain'tal cavity? Is crazy? No, because that's why does my

882
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 1: anis get wet? What is that being telling me? Nigga?

883
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 1: We can't wait for him to Okay, why talk about it?

884
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 1: Rectal discharge?

885
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:29,160
Speaker 5: It is?

886
00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 1: It is clear what it ain't sweat. I don't like

887
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: that you're picking out automatic bitches. Got I b s.

888
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 4: I don't know what I've met like excited, That's what

889
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 4: I'm saying.

890
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 1: Let me see I'm trying to do. What are you

891
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 1: asking now?

892
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:52,240
Speaker 2: Why why does my anal where? What is anal lubrication?

893
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:57,240
Speaker 2: How does it now show you lube. Well, these bitches,

894
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 2: when's a sex educator analyze that whole got a little

895
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 2: something and expert.

896
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 1: Apparently that's what we call us. You bitch is a

897
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: sweating and your wet butt is being don't is running down? No, no,

898
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 1: no no, I ain't gonna hold you.

899
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:16,279
Speaker 2: I felt it just at my boodole, like I like,

900
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 2: go back down like a little a little turned on,

901
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 2: little boy, be a little turned on away I can't yeah.

902
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:32,800
Speaker 1: A little okay, you have come on.

903
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:34,239
Speaker 4: Your booty be going to.

904
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:37,399
Speaker 2: Well maybe right.

905
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:40,080
Speaker 1: Apparently what happens is that like you get hot and

906
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 1: your heart speeds up, sweat, so you get out of

907
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:45,960
Speaker 1: your heart speeds up.

908
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:47,200
Speaker 2: This is what ed and just said. You get hot,

909
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 2: your heart speeds up. So again confirmed, you bitches be

910
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:50,759
Speaker 2: sweating in the butt.

911
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I'm like.

912
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 2: That gotta going like a cur I felt like I

913
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 2: was arousing my bootohole like my was like, bitch, we

914
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,719
Speaker 2: were playing tonight. That's what I thought it meant. But

915
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 2: my acbond, I don't know how my budohobies with anyway, though,

916
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 2: bitch and I got a real acy.

917
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 1: Okay.

918
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 2: Shout out to the ones who knows I ain't got

919
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 2: a window you did know more, that means in the suburbs,

920
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:21,640
Speaker 2: horrible decision.

921
00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 1: This week is all about talking to younger kids about sex,

922
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 1: helping these parents with that. Maybe that first conversation, pep

923
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: your penis? Okay, what is the age that is appropriate

924
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 1: to talk about sex, not the body sex, partnered sex.

925
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 3: Yes, I would say that there's a difference between the

926
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 3: conversation around here's what partnered sex is, versus the conversation

927
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:52,759
Speaker 3: around I'm preparing you for the fact that you might

928
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:55,440
Speaker 3: have partnered sex in the very near future.

929
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 1: Okay, Because it could be a conversation of like where

930
00:43:57,800 --> 00:43:58,399
Speaker 1: did I come from?

931
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, it could be yeah, conversation around how babies are made,

932
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 3: a conversation around what certain body parts.

933
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:07,120
Speaker 1: Do and what age is that you think appropriate.

934
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 3: Honestly, from some things I've read, it can be around

935
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 3: like the five years old I was gonna guess, I

936
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 3: was gonna guess fu Oh my gosh, I'm forgetting the name.

937
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 3: There's this really good guide around like how what what

938
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 3: aspects of the conversation should be happening at what age?

939
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 3: So it's like zero to two, you can start introducing

940
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 3: that certain body parts exist or you know, two to four.

941
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:34,880
Speaker 3: If you notice that a child is engaging in self stimulation,

942
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:38,879
Speaker 3: which really does start around age two, you can encourage.

943
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 1: Self stimulation starts at the age at age.

944
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 3: Two, yeah, and often peaks around age five and then

945
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:46,799
Speaker 3: goes plummets right back down a lot of the time,

946
00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 3: and largely because parents discourage it and just say stop

947
00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:51,560
Speaker 3: touching yourself, stop doing that.

948
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:54,359
Speaker 1: You know, but what are you supposed to do? Because

949
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:56,919
Speaker 1: I would say stop? I feel like what you would

950
00:44:56,920 --> 00:44:57,800
Speaker 1: say stop, Because.

951
00:44:57,600 --> 00:45:00,840
Speaker 2: I've seen a little kid, like a family friend, like

952
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:03,240
Speaker 2: one of those events whatever, like just doing it around

953
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:08,960
Speaker 2: everybody and we were all like stop, right, But I

954
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 2: don't know if that puts something in his head or

955
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 2: maybe like what are you supposed to do?

956
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:13,040
Speaker 1: Tell him to go in the bathroom and do it.

957
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 3: I feel like the conversation now in like sex positive

958
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 3: parenting spaces has been to like stress the value of

959
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:25,320
Speaker 3: like privacy, like that you are entitled to explore and

960
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:28,759
Speaker 3: understand your own body to whatever extent you want.

961
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 4: But that's something that happens in the privacy of your

962
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,560
Speaker 4: bedroom or wherever. I guess we're like in a real

963
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 4: sensitive era. I want both of y'all's opinions on your

964
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:39,960
Speaker 4: thoughts or what you would do. So I have a

965
00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:44,759
Speaker 4: friend whose son is potty training right now and went

966
00:45:44,840 --> 00:45:48,879
Speaker 4: to daycare and amidst potty training, he's taking his clothes off,

967
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 4: because you're potty training at all at daycare is taking

968
00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:57,320
Speaker 4: his clothes off, so playing in the toilet, taking his

969
00:45:57,440 --> 00:46:01,080
Speaker 4: pants off, and did this in class multiple times. But

970
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:03,400
Speaker 4: one of the little girls went to their mom and

971
00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 4: was like, Mommy, I saw a little boys penis today.

972
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 4: Clearly the mom is irate, mind you. The whole class

973
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 4: is potty training. They're between two and four years old.

974
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 4: They're all potty training.

975
00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:16,479
Speaker 1: And so the little boy got.

976
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 2: Suspended and the mom is completely upset because she's like yes,

977
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:25,319
Speaker 2: So the mom yes, and their kids got suspected yes,

978
00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 2: and the mom is completely upset because she's like, they're

979
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:30,879
Speaker 2: potty training, and why are you sexualizing my son?

980
00:46:31,719 --> 00:46:33,839
Speaker 1: I don't understand why my kid would get kicked out?

981
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:35,719
Speaker 1: What do you what do you want me to tell them?

982
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:37,680
Speaker 2: If they're potty training, where do they do it at

983
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 2: that the little girl saw it. He's taking his clothes

984
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 2: off like he's made but aren't they.

985
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:44,879
Speaker 3: When I was in preschool, we had like shared, yeah,

986
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:46,360
Speaker 3: you have shared boys and girls.

987
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:48,719
Speaker 2: Like, so the boys and the girls right now are

988
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 2: potty training, and I guess this is his first time.

989
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 2: You're not wearing diapers, you're getting used to wearing pants

990
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:57,759
Speaker 2: like actual drawls. You have to wear clothes that are

991
00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:00,400
Speaker 2: easily to come on and off, and he's just like

992
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 2: walking around three.

993
00:47:02,800 --> 00:47:05,480
Speaker 3: There's also a lot of child psychology around how like

994
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 3: people at that young children at that age do want

995
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:13,239
Speaker 3: to be naked more often, and like that's sort of

996
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 3: a really big part of the conversation that you're supposed

997
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 3: to have when you have a child at that age,

998
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 3: which is your clothes are meant to stay on when

999
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:22,240
Speaker 3: you're in public, and that there are certain specific private

1000
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 3: places where they might be removed, like when an adult

1001
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 3: might be helping you take a bath, or when you're

1002
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 3: at the doctors or whatever.

1003
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 2: Well, I think that that's the thing too, right, The

1004
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 2: conversations is not being had with little boys. But of

1005
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:35,719
Speaker 2: course little girls are like if anyone touches you, if

1006
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:38,319
Speaker 2: you see a dick, like they're not supposed to even

1007
00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 2: look at dick's They're not supposed to know what a

1008
00:47:40,239 --> 00:47:42,080
Speaker 2: dick looks. Like, like, you know what I mean, Like,

1009
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 2: let's be very clear. I saw my mom and naked

1010
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:46,279
Speaker 2: as fuck growing up. I ain't never seen my dad

1011
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 2: in naked. Yeah, yeah, but hold on just a caveat.

1012
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 6: Men.

1013
00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 1: Little boys are seeing their dad naked. Oh okay, but

1014
00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. Women are shilling others. Yeah it's

1015
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:02,680
Speaker 1: the same. Yeah, women are fuilded from penises. Yeah, brothers,

1016
00:48:02,719 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 1: that's a good point.

1017
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:05,960
Speaker 2: You're older brothers and so y'all are both like that's

1018
00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 2: ridiculous that the little Oh that's absolutely not okay.

1019
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 1: I'm actually trying to think, like did he did? They

1020
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,240
Speaker 1: keep telling him? Non he Maybe he ran out, like you're.

1021
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 3: Telling me, because that's no teaching moment. That's a moment

1022
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:21,120
Speaker 3: where the conversation is actually being brought up for you.

1023
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 3: So it's a really easy entry point for any paper.

1024
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 2: Like unless he tried to make her touch him, that

1025
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 2: that's a whole different thing, and that did not happen.

1026
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:31,520
Speaker 2: He was just like, use the bathroom and just walked

1027
00:48:31,520 --> 00:48:35,520
Speaker 2: out the bathroom with no pants on. But how also,

1028
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:38,839
Speaker 2: when you suspend a little kid, do you, then it's

1029
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:41,879
Speaker 2: hard to course correct because their brains are.

1030
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 1: Like this right, And that's the thing. They don't know

1031
00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: that what they're doing is wrong because they don't see

1032
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 1: it as wrong.

1033
00:48:48,320 --> 00:48:51,760
Speaker 4: And what is punishing that kid really doing for anybody?

1034
00:48:51,880 --> 00:48:53,719
Speaker 2: Like, I mean, I think though that that's the other

1035
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 2: thing with the conversations between adults and children is the

1036
00:48:58,200 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 2: fact that we go in sexual life damn near everything everything.

1037
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 2: Like I was sexualized really early because I had hypso thighs.

1038
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 2: The adults just thought a bit was best this book

1039
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 2: out here hopping on and off Dix, and I'm was like,

1040
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 2: I don't even like tongue. Why are you putting that

1041
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 2: on this hoe or that I'm best because of my

1042
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 2: body or how.

1043
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:19,920
Speaker 1: Things fit me? When baby, I don't even want a

1044
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:23,200
Speaker 1: nigga's tongue in my mouth. Let me ask you. So, okay,

1045
00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 1: I'm ready, I'm five, mommy, where do babies come from?

1046
00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:33,399
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, this is see I don't have five

1047
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:35,000
Speaker 3: year olds, so this is also going to be a

1048
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:39,600
Speaker 3: little tricky for me. But I would say to approach

1049
00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 3: the conversation just being honest about the fact. No, do

1050
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:47,080
Speaker 3: it in your voice, do it okay, okay, okay, okay.

1051
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 3: When people are older, they engage in something called sex.

1052
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:57,719
Speaker 3: That is when a penis goes in a vagina and

1053
00:49:58,160 --> 00:50:01,560
Speaker 3: the result is a baby, and the baby grows inside

1054
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 3: the mommy's stomach and then comes out of the vagina. See,

1055
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 3: I feel like I just struggled through.

1056
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 4: I'm horrible.

1057
00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 1: But I'm thirteen and I have a boyfriend, and I really,

1058
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:15,400
Speaker 1: I really I'm I'm thirteen.

1059
00:50:16,160 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 2: I have a boyfriend I really like, and we saw

1060
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:20,880
Speaker 2: this movie and he wants to he wants to try it,

1061
00:50:21,200 --> 00:50:22,279
Speaker 2: he wants to have sex with me.

1062
00:50:23,280 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 1: What is the conversation?

1063
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:24,880
Speaker 2: Mmmm?

1064
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 4: Okay, I think because.

1065
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:30,600
Speaker 2: Thirteen bitches is starting to be inquisitive and fuck or

1066
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 2: their boyfriends are fourteen, fifteen, sixteen, So how do you

1067
00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:36,880
Speaker 2: how do you talk to me as a thirteen year

1068
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:39,520
Speaker 2: old saying I think I want to, you know, try

1069
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 2: something with my boyfriend.

1070
00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:43,400
Speaker 3: If it's my child, I feel like there's like a

1071
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:46,640
Speaker 3: little bit more room to sort of instill my own

1072
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:50,120
Speaker 3: morals and just life experiences and to say, I would

1073
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 3: not recommend that this is something that you engage in

1074
00:50:52,800 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 3: at this age, but if this is something that you're

1075
00:50:55,719 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 3: going to engage in or even in the future, than

1076
00:50:58,640 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 3: your future whatever it might be, these are the things

1077
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:05,720
Speaker 3: you need to consider. You need to consider what barrier

1078
00:51:05,840 --> 00:51:08,680
Speaker 3: methods you want to use. You need to consider what

1079
00:51:09,040 --> 00:51:12,360
Speaker 3: consent looks like, Yeah, you need to consider.

1080
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna tell him yes, and he's buying the condoms.

1081
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 3: Again, Personally, if you're my child, I would encourage you

1082
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:24,040
Speaker 3: to hold off and think about it, because there are

1083
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:28,720
Speaker 3: a lot of things both emotional and like physical safety wise,

1084
00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:33,640
Speaker 3: that come along with engaging in sex, like the possibility

1085
00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 3: of pregnancy, but also yeah, like the emotions that can

1086
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:37,879
Speaker 3: come and be a play.

1087
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:41,560
Speaker 1: Can you talk more about that for parents with teenage kids,

1088
00:51:41,640 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 1: like when they're telling their kids about emotions that at

1089
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 1: thirteen year old can understand, what would you be saying?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, sex I think means so such vastly different things

1091
00:51:51,160 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 3: to different people, I think, even at an early age.

1092
00:51:54,760 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 3: But it's good to understand like the societal norms that

1093
00:51:58,120 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 3: we have in place now, which are that there is

1094
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 3: a lot of attachment correlated with sex, and so thinking

1095
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:10,240
Speaker 3: about what like the expectations might be after you engage

1096
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 3: in sex for the first time, Like does this person

1097
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 3: think that that means that you're gonna be in a relationship?

1098
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:17,399
Speaker 4: Is that something that you want?

1099
00:52:18,200 --> 00:52:22,160
Speaker 3: Do you feel comfortable talking to this person about yeah,

1100
00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:25,080
Speaker 3: feeling safe in that moment or feeling unsafe in that moment.

1101
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:27,600
Speaker 3: Feeling comfortable in that moment or uncomfortable in that moment.

1102
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:30,800
Speaker 3: I think, yeah, they're just like a lot of factors

1103
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:31,359
Speaker 3: at play.

1104
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:34,600
Speaker 1: There is because once we have sex one time, Mommy,

1105
00:52:34,600 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 1: we're probably gonna do it again. Yeah, you know what

1106
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 1: I mean. But that's what I'm saying.

1107
00:52:40,239 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 2: Like, so those are conversations I wish I had with

1108
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:45,760
Speaker 2: like I wish I had with anybody. There was nobody

1109
00:52:45,840 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 2: to have those conversations with except for my homegirls and

1110
00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:51,799
Speaker 2: a lot of my homegirls in my teenage years. They

1111
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:54,920
Speaker 2: had all had sex like before I did, so I

1112
00:52:55,040 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 2: felt like I could rely on them. But goddamn is

1113
00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:58,840
Speaker 2: the blind leading the goddamn blinde?

1114
00:52:59,719 --> 00:53:01,400
Speaker 3: You know? I mean that's yeah, That's kind of the

1115
00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:03,520
Speaker 3: idea behind our program is we wanted to feel a

1116
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:05,120
Speaker 3: bit less like the blind lading the blind.

1117
00:53:05,160 --> 00:53:07,520
Speaker 4: But I definitely think, gosh, there's something I was gonna say.

1118
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 4: I just blinked.

1119
00:53:10,760 --> 00:53:13,359
Speaker 1: Wait, I can give you something else that I'm curious about.

1120
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:20,320
Speaker 1: So when uh, okay, we're at five, right, let's just

1121
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 1: say from what you've heard. I want to maybe more

1122
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:26,200
Speaker 1: so talk about because I just brought up my friends kids.

1123
00:53:26,719 --> 00:53:28,840
Speaker 1: What is it seeming like and where is it seeming

1124
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,400
Speaker 1: like children are learning about sex most and what adults

1125
00:53:31,440 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 1: in their life are they coming to to talk about it.

1126
00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 3: I would say that it seems like a lot of

1127
00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 3: the conversations about sex are from peer to peer interactions

1128
00:53:44,239 --> 00:53:47,840
Speaker 3: and through social media. I think even just on our TikTok,

1129
00:53:47,960 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 3: we definitely ended up on a side of TikTok that

1130
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:53,840
Speaker 3: had a lot of younger people just posting things, and

1131
00:53:53,960 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 3: it seemed to be a lot of conversations about really

1132
00:53:57,040 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 3: like slutshavy conversations is why I noticed a And also

1133
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 3: we heard a lot of reports of from our students,

1134
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:06,000
Speaker 3: and I definitely remember feeling like that to an extent

1135
00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 3: when I was in high school. Yeah, that it's just

1136
00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:11,279
Speaker 3: like a fine line to walk. You're like either a

1137
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:13,959
Speaker 3: prude or you're a hoe, and it's it's kind of wow.

1138
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:18,840
Speaker 1: What about when it comes to maybe they're watching movies

1139
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:21,880
Speaker 1: or television and talking about threesomes? Have you had kids

1140
00:54:22,280 --> 00:54:23,919
Speaker 1: ask you about threesimes in group sex?

1141
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 4: We actually haven't had kids ask us explicitly about three simes.

1142
00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 4: In group sex. I know, I talked a little bit

1143
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 4: about like our conversation about BDSM and kink, and I

1144
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:38,400
Speaker 4: think even regardless of if BDSM and kink are necessarily

1145
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:41,600
Speaker 4: things that people would approach as like conversations they want

1146
00:54:41,640 --> 00:54:44,080
Speaker 4: to have with kids, there are like a lot of

1147
00:54:44,239 --> 00:54:47,839
Speaker 4: universally good things you can learn from those communities as

1148
00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:52,240
Speaker 4: far as like the level of just safety and consent

1149
00:54:52,400 --> 00:54:55,279
Speaker 4: required in a scene, what aftercare is like a lot

1150
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 4: of those things that are slowly making their way to

1151
00:54:57,040 --> 00:55:00,400
Speaker 4: the mainstream, even thinking through like the way that like

1152
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:04,440
Speaker 4: young people choking one another during sex has become more

1153
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:08,960
Speaker 4: and more mainstream. Yeah, I think about it ephor you, Yeah,

1154
00:55:09,760 --> 00:55:12,720
Speaker 4: and that can be unsafe for a number of reasons.

1155
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 4: I mean, especially especially the.

1156
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:17,960
Speaker 2: Fact that a lot of teenagers are as well experimenting

1157
00:55:18,040 --> 00:55:22,000
Speaker 2: with drugs and alcohol and they don't know what their level,

1158
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:24,880
Speaker 2: what their tolerance levels are, and then they're still engaging

1159
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 2: in sex or you know.

1160
00:55:26,920 --> 00:55:29,680
Speaker 3: Also, I feel like if the approach to learning about

1161
00:55:29,719 --> 00:55:33,080
Speaker 3: sex is through mainstream porn, and there's a lot of

1162
00:55:33,440 --> 00:55:36,320
Speaker 3: violence that can take place in mainstream porn or just

1163
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 3: aggression generally, that that can be somewhat scary within itself.

1164
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:44,279
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, that's what you thinks. Think they got a

1165
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 1: jet rabbit a bit all right? Not how to do

1166
00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 1: that's now adult advice. Let's get onto the whole mail

1167
00:55:50,320 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 1: home mail. Hi the way one moment, Oh, y'all, motherfucker

1168
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 1: sent us in some homemail. It's a little it's a

1169
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:59,480
Speaker 1: little scarce somebody are in the emails horrible decisions that

1170
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 1: Gmail you goddamn.

1171
00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:06,000
Speaker 2: Home mails or whole confessions, any questions that you have

1172
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:10,160
Speaker 2: regarding sex, dating relationships on over to horrible decisions at

1173
00:56:10,520 --> 00:56:11,719
Speaker 2: gmail dot com.

1174
00:56:11,840 --> 00:56:14,359
Speaker 1: Holemail in the subject line really helps us de weed

1175
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:16,560
Speaker 1: it out. And also if you send it in the DMS,

1176
00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:21,120
Speaker 1: it gets lost. Okay, So hi, guys, love your show.

1177
00:56:21,160 --> 00:56:23,359
Speaker 1: It took me a while to write this. About two

1178
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:26,160
Speaker 1: years ago, I went out drinking alone because I was

1179
00:56:26,200 --> 00:56:28,359
Speaker 1: sad about a guy I was seeing. It came out.

1180
00:56:29,080 --> 00:56:30,400
Speaker 1: He came out and told me that he got a

1181
00:56:30,400 --> 00:56:33,000
Speaker 1: girl pregnant. So while I was there at the bar,

1182
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:35,399
Speaker 1: I met this guy let's call him A. We start

1183
00:56:35,520 --> 00:56:37,520
Speaker 1: talking and drinking and I ended up going home with him.

1184
00:56:37,600 --> 00:56:39,279
Speaker 1: I was so drunk that I ended up running out

1185
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 1: of A's house because I was so embarrassed from throwing

1186
00:56:41,680 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 1: up in his bathroom. Fast forward, we all have it.

1187
00:56:45,560 --> 00:56:47,480
Speaker 1: Fast forward. I went to see him again sober. Let's

1188
00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 1: just say that dick was massive. So in my mind,

1189
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:52,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, I hope it's good, and I was wrong.

1190
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 1: We started with me on top, had a good rhythm,

1191
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 1: but he kept messing me up by trying to fuck back.

1192
00:56:58,040 --> 00:57:00,360
Speaker 1: He wanted to turn me over. He started pulling my

1193
00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 1: hair extremely hard, and when I looked up at him,

1194
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:05,400
Speaker 1: he was flicking his fingers over his nipples and it

1195
00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:07,640
Speaker 1: creeped me out. So then he goes in and throwts

1196
00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:10,000
Speaker 1: fucking me really rough and said he was getting me

1197
00:57:10,080 --> 00:57:13,200
Speaker 1: back for talking to him crazy. He was throwing me everywhere,

1198
00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:15,680
Speaker 1: pulling my hair harder than before, and at this point

1199
00:57:16,040 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 1: the sex started to hurt. I eventually stopped and told

1200
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:21,000
Speaker 1: him I was ready to go. The dick was still hard,

1201
00:57:21,080 --> 00:57:23,200
Speaker 1: like a missile. He asked me to suck it, but

1202
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 1: at that point I was so turned off and ready

1203
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:27,840
Speaker 1: to go, I just said no. While he was taking

1204
00:57:27,920 --> 00:57:29,800
Speaker 1: me home, he kept saying, yeah, you was talking to

1205
00:57:29,880 --> 00:57:31,640
Speaker 1: me crazy all week. I had to show you. And

1206
00:57:31,720 --> 00:57:34,000
Speaker 1: when I got home, I thought this nigga just beat

1207
00:57:34,080 --> 00:57:36,400
Speaker 1: me up during sex, and the next day I told

1208
00:57:36,480 --> 00:57:39,400
Speaker 1: him about himself and I told him rubbing his own

1209
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 1: nipples as gay as shit.

1210
00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 4: You were weird for that.

1211
00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:43,960
Speaker 1: I ran into him again at the neighborhood gas station.

1212
00:57:44,320 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 1: He was trying to feel me up. I told him

1213
00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:48,200
Speaker 1: to get away from me or I'm gonna cause the scene.

1214
00:57:48,280 --> 00:57:51,800
Speaker 1: Never talk to him again. Sadly, About a month or

1215
00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:53,680
Speaker 1: so later, he got killed outside the bar. I met

1216
00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 1: a match.

1217
00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:58,560
Speaker 2: He's, oh my god, why I was not ready for deending.

1218
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:05,840
Speaker 2: That is not the last, like I'm just gonna Was

1219
00:58:05,880 --> 00:58:09,960
Speaker 2: there a question there, nigga? I mean, I would say

1220
00:58:10,040 --> 00:58:11,760
Speaker 2: that is the end of the let There is a thing.

1221
00:58:11,840 --> 00:58:15,200
Speaker 2: There is a way to dissect this, lady.

1222
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:16,520
Speaker 1: I want I want to dissect it a little.

1223
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 2: I want to dissect a little bit. There's a lot

1224
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:20,479
Speaker 2: of parts. I want to start with the nipple play.

1225
00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:23,360
Speaker 2: We gotta we got nipple. Get that in the clip

1226
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:24,080
Speaker 2: next and peace.

1227
00:58:24,560 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 1: Nipple play for.

1228
00:58:25,840 --> 00:58:29,040
Speaker 2: A lot of men is a thing, and I hate

1229
00:58:29,080 --> 00:58:32,600
Speaker 2: that that's being I told him he is gay, especially

1230
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:34,760
Speaker 2: a woman. For you to throw it in their face

1231
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:37,440
Speaker 2: that it's gay as ship, it's not. He was terrible

1232
00:58:37,520 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 2: during sex, but that doesn't mean you gotta call him gay.

1233
00:58:39,960 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 2: He's an asshole.

1234
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:44,160
Speaker 4: Like biological there are just nerves.

1235
00:58:44,080 --> 00:58:45,920
Speaker 1: Literally, and they feel good.

1236
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:47,600
Speaker 2: I love a man and tell me they like a

1237
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:50,200
Speaker 2: little nipple play, I'll be up on that thing, like, well,

1238
00:58:50,240 --> 00:58:52,040
Speaker 2: we know, if you like butt, honey, shut a nipple

1239
00:58:52,080 --> 00:58:56,600
Speaker 2: won't stop. I have a few thoughts actually, so one,

1240
00:58:57,480 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 2: by the way, this is not to blame you, but

1241
00:58:59,760 --> 00:59:01,320
Speaker 2: when he was saying.

1242
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 1: That, like he was in his own role play. Ye,

1243
00:59:04,040 --> 00:59:06,760
Speaker 1: And you can tell from reading this like he was

1244
00:59:06,840 --> 00:59:09,040
Speaker 1: playing a game that you didn't like or that you

1245
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:10,600
Speaker 1: didn't know you were playing. I think you did a

1246
00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:11,720
Speaker 1: good job by stopping him.

1247
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:13,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, so shout out to you for that, because a

1248
00:59:13,920 --> 00:59:15,840
Speaker 2: lot of people might have finished and hated themselves after.

1249
00:59:16,320 --> 00:59:20,520
Speaker 1: But for people listening, I played this game, so have

1250
00:59:20,640 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 1: I girl. I was literally a last night talking to

1251
00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:24,960
Speaker 1: a nigga too long and I was getting fucked Like, bitch,

1252
00:59:25,080 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 1: was wrong with you? I don't know, but not everybody

1253
00:59:29,240 --> 00:59:31,280
Speaker 1: likes that first time sex. I don't really like shit

1254
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:34,200
Speaker 1: like that. I think that, uh, what happened to you.

1255
00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:37,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if you necessarily got bet up during sex.

1256
00:59:37,800 --> 00:59:42,720
Speaker 1: I think that aggressiveness is truthfully, what men think women like.

1257
00:59:43,200 --> 00:59:46,560
Speaker 1: They think women like this dominance shit. They don't understand

1258
00:59:46,680 --> 00:59:48,439
Speaker 1: that we need to lead you on to that, ask

1259
00:59:48,520 --> 00:59:50,360
Speaker 1: for it, et cetera. And I'm really sorry that the

1260
00:59:50,440 --> 00:59:53,600
Speaker 1: situation happened to you. And frankly, maybe that's why.

1261
00:59:54,760 --> 00:59:57,640
Speaker 3: Oh god, it'sn't interesting, because I feel like my first

1262
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:01,240
Speaker 3: thought was that it seemed like this guy was really

1263
01:00:02,400 --> 01:00:05,040
Speaker 3: in his own world, a little bright and like not

1264
01:00:05,240 --> 01:00:09,120
Speaker 3: considering what would make the other person comfortable or uncomfortable.

1265
01:00:09,480 --> 01:00:11,760
Speaker 1: Men. Dude, like, to me, when you said did you

1266
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:14,040
Speaker 1: get beat up during sex? To me, that's not really assault.

1267
01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:16,800
Speaker 1: And he stopped when you wanted to stop. That to

1268
01:00:16,920 --> 01:00:19,760
Speaker 1: me is a big I mean, I think also the

1269
01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:20,320
Speaker 1: fact that.

1270
01:00:21,920 --> 01:00:24,160
Speaker 2: She alluded that she was talking shit that whole week

1271
01:00:24,720 --> 01:00:26,960
Speaker 2: and he literally responded, oh, you was talking shit and

1272
01:00:27,040 --> 01:00:29,560
Speaker 2: I told you I was gonna show you. Like to me,

1273
01:00:29,800 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 2: maybe you were being you know, maybe he thought you

1274
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:35,680
Speaker 2: were a part of the game, like maybe you were

1275
01:00:35,920 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 2: talking shit or nagging him on and he was like,

1276
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:39,880
Speaker 2: oh yeah, bitch, I'm gonna show you when.

1277
01:00:39,800 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 3: We you know what I mean, And especially visibility where

1278
01:00:42,280 --> 01:00:44,200
Speaker 3: he thought he was being playful. But then there's also

1279
01:00:44,240 --> 01:00:46,640
Speaker 3: that possibility where he was just saying whatever was going

1280
01:00:46,720 --> 01:00:48,400
Speaker 3: to turn him on in that moment and just did

1281
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:49,160
Speaker 3: not care about that.

1282
01:00:49,240 --> 01:00:50,840
Speaker 2: I think the fact make you feel I think the

1283
01:00:50,920 --> 01:00:53,400
Speaker 2: fact that the dick was also massive. I don't think

1284
01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:56,080
Speaker 2: niggas would big dicks all the time. Know that a

1285
01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:59,200
Speaker 2: you have to work extra hard to make sure we're

1286
01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:04,560
Speaker 2: aroused and wet because otherwise it's fucking painful, especially like

1287
01:01:04,960 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 2: if a woman just I mean, I know, I mean,

1288
01:01:08,400 --> 01:01:10,000
Speaker 2: damn near are all of my friends including me now

1289
01:01:10,040 --> 01:01:13,680
Speaker 2: I have fucking fibroids, And she said that her fibroids

1290
01:01:13,720 --> 01:01:15,320
Speaker 2: and where they're sitting is what causes her to have

1291
01:01:15,360 --> 01:01:18,720
Speaker 2: painful sex. So the fact that there's all these things

1292
01:01:18,760 --> 01:01:21,360
Speaker 2: that could be happening in our vaginas if you just

1293
01:01:21,440 --> 01:01:23,840
Speaker 2: go in there pounding and it's big, and you didn't

1294
01:01:23,880 --> 01:01:26,640
Speaker 2: fucking arouse me, because men love to just go straight

1295
01:01:26,680 --> 01:01:29,240
Speaker 2: into it, it becomes painful and not enjoyable at all.

1296
01:01:29,320 --> 01:01:30,480
Speaker 4: Cervical simulation.

1297
01:01:30,720 --> 01:01:33,040
Speaker 3: I feel like for people who do find it enjoyable,

1298
01:01:33,080 --> 01:01:35,000
Speaker 3: at least from what I've heard from people who I

1299
01:01:35,240 --> 01:01:37,760
Speaker 3: know or people who just DM me or whatever, like

1300
01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:40,120
Speaker 3: at least the first time or first couple of times,

1301
01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:40,720
Speaker 3: it's really not.

1302
01:01:40,840 --> 01:01:42,640
Speaker 1: That Oh I hate the first time with a big dick.

1303
01:01:42,760 --> 01:01:45,360
Speaker 1: The first round is not fucking fun.

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01:01:45,480 --> 01:01:47,960
Speaker 2: I like that you discussed it as cervical sip simulation,

1305
01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 2: because I've definitely talked about like, obviously I know what

1306
01:01:52,280 --> 01:01:52,760
Speaker 2: cervix is.

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01:01:53,040 --> 01:01:54,800
Speaker 1: When I was talking about Homegirls Bush, I'll be like, bitch,

1308
01:01:54,800 --> 01:01:56,320
Speaker 1: I don't really like when they hit that wall too hard,

1309
01:01:56,520 --> 01:02:00,560
Speaker 1: but it's literally your cervix. She's also so what you

1310
01:02:00,640 --> 01:02:03,640
Speaker 1: just mentioned about friends having fibraides. I have a friend

1311
01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:08,840
Speaker 1: with stage four endo that demetriosis. When she has sex,

1312
01:02:09,480 --> 01:02:12,080
Speaker 1: if the penetration is too hard, she literally throws up

1313
01:02:12,640 --> 01:02:14,760
Speaker 1: Jesus and she's like, bro, I cannot wait to get

1314
01:02:14,760 --> 01:02:17,840
Speaker 1: over this phase of my life. And it is I'd

1315
01:02:17,960 --> 01:02:22,840
Speaker 1: end up gay. It is a real thing of doing

1316
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:27,560
Speaker 1: your dick in a vagina, not being open enough, looped

1317
01:02:27,600 --> 01:02:31,320
Speaker 1: up enough, engorged, Like you have got to notice those

1318
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:34,560
Speaker 1: signs like this is not even I think big dick exclusive,

1319
01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:36,240
Speaker 1: Like I think you can have a medium or a

1320
01:02:36,240 --> 01:02:40,439
Speaker 1: small dick, and I've definitely a small dick. Yeah, maybe

1321
01:02:40,480 --> 01:02:41,000
Speaker 1: not small, but I.

1322
01:02:41,160 --> 01:02:43,320
Speaker 3: Think about that all the time because I think, I mean,

1323
01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:45,040
Speaker 3: not even to just go back to what we were

1324
01:02:45,080 --> 01:02:49,200
Speaker 3: talking about earlier. But in thinking about like how I

1325
01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:51,440
Speaker 3: grew up and feeling like something was wrong with me

1326
01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:54,680
Speaker 3: from not orgasmic, from penetrative sex. I think about people

1327
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 3: who have daspruna or have vagins. Miss what's ds brunia?

1328
01:02:58,240 --> 01:03:01,280
Speaker 3: Disprunia is just like all the term for painful sex.

1329
01:03:01,360 --> 01:03:05,200
Speaker 3: So imagine as mister, it could be have you no

1330
01:03:05,520 --> 01:03:10,160
Speaker 3: never evolving. I don't know sperunia. Yeah, this sperunia, do

1331
01:03:10,360 --> 01:03:12,720
Speaker 3: what I can never sperna.

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01:03:12,840 --> 01:03:14,280
Speaker 1: Okay, that sounds like.

1333
01:03:16,400 --> 01:03:19,200
Speaker 4: This parunia where some people will say deep thisspruna, which

1334
01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:19,600
Speaker 4: I think is.

1335
01:03:19,640 --> 01:03:22,720
Speaker 1: Just I like deep. I like deep deep this parnia.

1336
01:03:23,280 --> 01:03:24,000
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy?

1337
01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:27,040
Speaker 2: Though, I'm one of those where pain is pleasure sometimes,

1338
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:29,520
Speaker 2: Like there's some dicks where I just be like, God, damn,

1339
01:03:29,560 --> 01:03:33,280
Speaker 2: I want this nigga like might different that's getting stretched out? No, no, no,

1340
01:03:33,320 --> 01:03:36,480
Speaker 2: no no, I like I like pain, not because I'm

1341
01:03:36,480 --> 01:03:39,800
Speaker 2: gonna take a big dick. And then I like psychologically

1342
01:03:40,200 --> 01:03:42,440
Speaker 2: knowing I'm taking this big dick now literally be like

1343
01:03:42,840 --> 01:03:44,280
Speaker 2: nobody else takes this dick like this.

1344
01:03:44,440 --> 01:03:48,040
Speaker 1: Huh, Like that's that's a role playing my own Hey man,

1345
01:03:48,360 --> 01:03:50,160
Speaker 1: you go, I want everyone to see this just now

1346
01:03:50,960 --> 01:03:54,360
Speaker 1: you said she'd be in pain just to know anybody else, Hey,

1347
01:03:54,480 --> 01:03:57,640
Speaker 1: nobody else dick like this? Hunh that's like artist.

1348
01:03:58,280 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 6: Oh, I love Its a lot of sense to me.

1349
01:04:02,560 --> 01:04:05,000
Speaker 6: That like sought process. I feel like I love it,

1350
01:04:05,000 --> 01:04:06,560
Speaker 6: and I'll be like, I'm gonna take it because I know,

1351
01:04:06,960 --> 01:04:09,200
Speaker 6: bitch this thing. I know bitches ain't taking the ship,

1352
01:04:09,360 --> 01:04:11,280
Speaker 6: but I'm gonna take this ship, you know what I mean?

1353
01:04:11,320 --> 01:04:11,680
Speaker 3: That be me.

1354
01:04:12,080 --> 01:04:16,920
Speaker 1: The biggest dick I ever had was my first real boyfriend,

1355
01:04:17,040 --> 01:04:19,920
Speaker 1: the Latino dude I always talk about from Orlando, and

1356
01:04:20,000 --> 01:04:23,000
Speaker 1: I remember thinking one day because he had a brother

1357
01:04:23,680 --> 01:04:26,800
Speaker 1: and the brother's gay, and we had this moment where

1358
01:04:27,600 --> 01:04:30,080
Speaker 1: me and the brother's husband were like, I was like, yo,

1359
01:04:30,720 --> 01:04:33,000
Speaker 1: he got a big dig too, and we started gagging

1360
01:04:33,120 --> 01:04:38,120
Speaker 1: like they don't brothers don't be having they're gagging. The

1361
01:04:38,160 --> 01:04:42,320
Speaker 1: brothers din't even bought them anymore, Like we'reler laughing, right Jesus.

1362
01:04:42,440 --> 01:04:45,000
Speaker 1: And so I realized because the brother was like maybe

1363
01:04:45,040 --> 01:04:48,080
Speaker 1: eight years younger. So I'm asking a man at the time, like,

1364
01:04:48,520 --> 01:04:53,040
Speaker 1: how big was your dick in high school? M WHOA,

1365
01:04:53,640 --> 01:04:54,320
Speaker 1: that's the question.

1366
01:04:54,920 --> 01:05:01,040
Speaker 2: Wait, do y'all dicks grow bigger after y'all graduate high school. Really, Oh,

1367
01:05:01,120 --> 01:05:02,920
Speaker 2: there's one nigga I'm scared.

1368
01:05:02,720 --> 01:05:04,080
Speaker 4: Said you grow?

1369
01:05:05,000 --> 01:05:07,400
Speaker 1: No what really?

1370
01:05:07,880 --> 01:05:09,439
Speaker 4: But okay, okay, okay.

1371
01:05:09,560 --> 01:05:10,720
Speaker 1: David Ede said they.

1372
01:05:13,040 --> 01:05:15,400
Speaker 2: If you fu him in high school. There's one nigga

1373
01:05:15,400 --> 01:05:16,800
Speaker 2: I used to call patty cake boy.

1374
01:05:16,840 --> 01:05:18,320
Speaker 1: Oh boy. And I don't want to see that dick.

1375
01:05:18,840 --> 01:05:19,920
Speaker 1: That dick was you.

1376
01:05:20,080 --> 01:05:22,200
Speaker 2: We was fucking when I was in high school. That

1377
01:05:22,520 --> 01:05:25,040
Speaker 2: niggas dick was messed. I wouldn't even want to see

1378
01:05:25,040 --> 01:05:25,800
Speaker 2: it now as an adult.

1379
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:28,360
Speaker 1: Here grow man, now, I wouldn't even want to see

1380
01:05:28,400 --> 01:05:29,600
Speaker 1: that dick. That dick was big.

1381
01:05:29,920 --> 01:05:32,080
Speaker 4: Your clitorist keeps growing as you age, too.

1382
01:05:33,520 --> 01:05:36,120
Speaker 1: That's true. We pauls.

1383
01:05:36,480 --> 01:05:37,960
Speaker 2: I was like, I might have to do a little research.

1384
01:05:38,320 --> 01:05:40,720
Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna have to look back at my

1385
01:05:40,800 --> 01:05:41,680
Speaker 2: videos from twenty.

1386
01:05:43,240 --> 01:05:43,560
Speaker 5: On my.

1387
01:05:45,080 --> 01:05:48,640
Speaker 1: On a raiser of my pussy, I was like, pussy

1388
01:05:48,680 --> 01:05:51,200
Speaker 1: look a little different now. It's still in any pussy,

1389
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:55,440
Speaker 1: but the pussy shatter. It's weird because it's been getting

1390
01:05:56,640 --> 01:06:04,520
Speaker 1: it's been getting work. Beget work, girl, I don't know

1391
01:06:04,680 --> 01:06:05,440
Speaker 1: wat shit real?

1392
01:06:05,600 --> 01:06:08,920
Speaker 2: Like, no, Lie, it really like it's fatter and like

1393
01:06:09,000 --> 01:06:11,440
Speaker 2: I look at like the shape of my voina and

1394
01:06:11,560 --> 01:06:14,360
Speaker 2: it went from like skinny, little bitty pussy like a

1395
01:06:14,440 --> 01:06:15,000
Speaker 2: little something.

1396
01:06:15,720 --> 01:06:18,120
Speaker 1: It's the same way balls go from uphill to down.

1397
01:06:18,200 --> 01:06:22,520
Speaker 1: Now it's just this week, cud now too, because anything.

1398
01:06:23,080 --> 01:06:25,640
Speaker 2: Like I got just Sarah, let everyone know where they

1399
01:06:25,680 --> 01:06:28,720
Speaker 2: could follow you, support you, and where they could possibly

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01:06:28,840 --> 01:06:31,280
Speaker 2: have their children sign up for your youth program.

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01:06:31,440 --> 01:06:35,480
Speaker 3: Okay, we are www dot the Youth Sexpert Program dot org.

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01:06:35,680 --> 01:06:38,240
Speaker 3: We are at the Youth Sexpert Program with a three

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01:06:38,800 --> 01:06:42,160
Speaker 3: in the word sex on Instagram and TikTok. We're on

1404
01:06:42,240 --> 01:06:47,040
Speaker 3: LinkedIn Facebook. My personal Instagram is your ex girlfriend Tara.

1405
01:06:47,960 --> 01:06:48,880
Speaker 3: But yeah, that's about it.

1406
01:06:50,760 --> 01:06:52,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, signing kids up is it free?

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01:06:53,320 --> 01:07:00,040
Speaker 1: It is one hundred percent free, girl, nonprofits grandsis But

1408
01:07:01,040 --> 01:07:01,480
Speaker 1: I'm just like.

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01:07:01,760 --> 01:07:03,640
Speaker 3: But yeah, no, it's hundred percent free. We've been able

1410
01:07:03,680 --> 01:07:06,840
Speaker 3: to give students some community service hours in the past

1411
01:07:07,000 --> 01:07:08,960
Speaker 3: that we're totally down to sign off on, like any

1412
01:07:09,000 --> 01:07:11,480
Speaker 3: internship papers or something you need to sign for school.

1413
01:07:12,520 --> 01:07:14,640
Speaker 3: But yeah, we're also totally down to talk to parents

1414
01:07:15,200 --> 01:07:17,520
Speaker 3: and try to like make our program more approachable in

1415
01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:21,680
Speaker 3: any way we can. We will definitely to repost some stuff. Cool. Yeah,

1416
01:07:21,720 --> 01:07:24,640
Speaker 3: I know we're I don't know when this is coming up,

1417
01:07:24,640 --> 01:07:27,040
Speaker 3: but we're hosting like a parent education and digital event

1418
01:07:27,120 --> 01:07:33,600
Speaker 3: on the twenty first June, okay, but it'll be posted

1419
01:07:35,120 --> 01:07:38,200
Speaker 3: on our website so parents can definitely come check that out.

1420
01:07:38,240 --> 01:07:40,520
Speaker 3: We also have our parently aaison who's totally down and

1421
01:07:40,560 --> 01:07:42,960
Speaker 3: willing to talk to parents about any concerns.

1422
01:07:43,000 --> 01:07:45,200
Speaker 1: And this is a year long program, so it is

1423
01:07:45,240 --> 01:07:47,800
Speaker 1: as long so okay.

1424
01:07:47,960 --> 01:07:50,840
Speaker 3: Our cohorts happen in the fall semester okay, and right

1425
01:07:50,880 --> 01:07:54,360
Speaker 3: before Christmas break and then we have an ext cohort.

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01:07:54,520 --> 01:07:57,280
Speaker 2: So as of right now, over the summertime, the parents

1427
01:07:57,320 --> 01:08:00,000
Speaker 2: can start to look up the program and what's available.

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01:08:00,240 --> 01:08:01,760
Speaker 1: Yeah for a sign up in the fon.

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01:08:01,840 --> 01:08:03,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, our student oplications are open now and we sent

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01:08:03,920 --> 01:08:07,280
Speaker 3: our parent outreach around August perfect well.

1431
01:08:07,320 --> 01:08:10,200
Speaker 1: Thank you Tarah so much for doing this.

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01:08:10,440 --> 01:08:16,519
Speaker 5: Was fun, even though I usually say Tara's particular what

1433
01:08:16,600 --> 01:08:19,800
Speaker 5: I say, I'm think and Tara Reid all right, talk

1434
01:08:19,920 --> 01:08:21,880
Speaker 5: what twer bank, terror bank?

1435
01:08:21,920 --> 01:08:27,120
Speaker 1: It's someone I'll go check us out on Patreon and

1436
01:08:27,200 --> 01:08:29,560
Speaker 1: it's still the kids. Sorry, even though we here for

1437
01:08:29,680 --> 01:08:31,160
Speaker 1: the kid I can't but.

1438
01:08:32,760 --> 01:08:35,320
Speaker 2: Patreon dot com backslash horrible decisions for all the boaters

1439
01:08:35,320 --> 01:08:37,840
Speaker 2: cuts it and this has been yet another episode of

1440
01:08:38,040 --> 01:08:51,200
Speaker 2: horrible decisions. Behind the paywall is such a nice place

1441
01:08:51,240 --> 01:08:54,679
Speaker 2: to talk about yourself because o YouTube, they'd be like again,

1442
01:08:55,320 --> 01:08:57,599
Speaker 2: y'all running a long time, y'all can something different?

1443
01:08:57,600 --> 01:08:59,320
Speaker 1: The bank that's my that's what the I see.

1444
01:08:59,439 --> 01:09:01,280
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think, Well, when's the last time I cried?

1445
01:09:03,320 --> 01:09:05,400
Speaker 2: The last time I cried was on Patreon when I

1446
01:09:05,479 --> 01:09:07,360
Speaker 2: was going through it. I got damn bullshit with da bitch.

1447
01:09:07,439 --> 01:09:08,639
Speaker 2: I can talk about something emo.

1448
01:09:08,880 --> 01:09:12,080
Speaker 1: I know you could be a chemo. So BT weekend came,

1449
01:09:12,439 --> 01:09:16,240
Speaker 1: my boyfriend came to LA and I don't really talk

1450
01:09:16,240 --> 01:09:18,120
Speaker 1: about my dad too much because for me, I don't

1451
01:09:18,200 --> 01:09:19,800
Speaker 1: like to really talk about his health and you know,

1452
01:09:19,840 --> 01:09:24,160
Speaker 1: he's getting older. But I was so emotional because he

1453
01:09:24,240 --> 01:09:26,640
Speaker 1: met my dad, and my dad was just having a

1454
01:09:26,680 --> 01:09:28,280
Speaker 1: hard day. You know, older people like they got a

1455
01:09:28,280 --> 01:09:30,479
Speaker 1: good day, they got a bad day. So he just

1456
01:09:30,560 --> 01:09:33,120
Speaker 1: made a little care and stuff like that. But it

1457
01:09:33,240 --> 01:09:35,360
Speaker 1: was a very vulnerable thing for me to meet my

1458
01:09:35,479 --> 01:09:37,599
Speaker 1: dad because no one had met my dad since old

1459
01:09:37,640 --> 01:09:40,240
Speaker 1: day and at that point my dad wasn't in a wheelchair,

1460
01:09:40,760 --> 01:09:44,280
Speaker 1: so this was like a new thing and we hadn't

1461
01:09:44,280 --> 01:09:46,120
Speaker 1: really talked about it much. My mom was there.

1462
01:09:46,200 --> 01:09:48,120
Speaker 2: We all just played games together. It was nice, like

1463
01:09:48,160 --> 01:09:49,519
Speaker 2: we were enjoying each other's company.

1464
01:09:50,120 --> 01:09:51,559
Speaker 1: We hadn't really talked about it. I just told him

1465
01:09:51,560 --> 01:09:53,280
Speaker 1: how much it meant to me. Last night we were

1466
01:09:53,320 --> 01:09:59,200
Speaker 1: on a double date. He said, we talked to a

1467
01:09:59,280 --> 01:10:01,080
Speaker 1: couple that just got We just went to their wedding.

1468
01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:03,160
Speaker 1: It was Gila. Y'all always hear me talk about the

1469
01:10:03,160 --> 01:10:06,240
Speaker 1: other Gila. So basically we talked about each other's parents

1470
01:10:06,280 --> 01:10:07,519
Speaker 1: and he was like, yeah, I just got to meet

1471
01:10:07,520 --> 01:10:10,720
Speaker 1: her dad, and it was so nice to see how

1472
01:10:10,840 --> 01:10:12,599
Speaker 1: that side of her is. Like I see her mom

1473
01:10:12,680 --> 01:10:14,080
Speaker 1: and her but I was glad to see her dad,

1474
01:10:14,120 --> 01:10:15,400
Speaker 1: Like I see the more serious side.

1475
01:10:15,439 --> 01:10:18,800
Speaker 2: I see this protector energy that she has. I'm like,

1476
01:10:18,880 --> 01:10:21,280
Speaker 2: my dad didn't even really talk, so how did you

1477
01:10:21,360 --> 01:10:23,360
Speaker 2: see all that? Like all we did is play a game.

1478
01:10:23,360 --> 01:10:25,360
Speaker 2: He didn't really say much to you. He was like,

1479
01:10:25,439 --> 01:10:27,800
Speaker 2: because I could see it the way you and.

1480
01:10:27,840 --> 01:10:30,000
Speaker 1: Your mom would move around. He would want to look

1481
01:10:30,160 --> 01:10:32,280
Speaker 1: watch where you're going, to make sure you're good. Even

1482
01:10:32,320 --> 01:10:34,800
Speaker 1: if you can't open the door. It's always there, Like

1483
01:10:34,880 --> 01:10:38,280
Speaker 1: his masculinity is always there. And I was like, damn, bro,

1484
01:10:38,720 --> 01:10:43,400
Speaker 1: Like I don't know if it's just dating someone that's

1485
01:10:43,400 --> 01:10:49,000
Speaker 1: a little more empathetic or what. But like, I never

1486
01:10:49,080 --> 01:10:53,839
Speaker 1: had conversations like this outside of scissors about my parents

1487
01:10:54,120 --> 01:10:56,840
Speaker 1: or how things make me feel. Like all day was

1488
01:10:56,960 --> 01:10:58,080
Speaker 1: very surface level.

1489
01:10:58,400 --> 01:11:00,599
Speaker 2: And I it's a lot of men are, and especially

1490
01:11:00,640 --> 01:11:03,200
Speaker 2: black man. It just doesn't hit you until it hits

1491
01:11:03,240 --> 01:11:06,400
Speaker 2: you when you have something different. And like, I'm watching

1492
01:11:06,479 --> 01:11:07,920
Speaker 2: him and I don't want to start crying and.

1493
01:11:08,000 --> 01:11:09,800
Speaker 1: At this table we're having like this fun dinner, but

1494
01:11:09,880 --> 01:11:11,920
Speaker 1: I was like he was thinking all that, and he said,

1495
01:11:11,920 --> 01:11:13,439
Speaker 1: then I wondered. There were a few moments where I

1496
01:11:13,560 --> 01:11:15,640
Speaker 1: was like thinking of how he looked at me and

1497
01:11:15,720 --> 01:11:17,680
Speaker 1: he's not even saying this to me. He's saying this

1498
01:11:17,760 --> 01:11:18,320
Speaker 1: to Gils has me.

1499
01:11:18,600 --> 01:11:21,800
Speaker 2: He's like I can watch him look at me with

1500
01:11:21,960 --> 01:11:24,519
Speaker 2: his daughter and like he used to be this protector

1501
01:11:24,560 --> 01:11:26,040
Speaker 2: and I'm like the new one now for her.

1502
01:11:26,720 --> 01:11:29,280
Speaker 1: And it's like this weird moment I'm having and I'm like,

1503
01:11:30,000 --> 01:11:32,880
Speaker 1: what because he told me none of this and he's

1504
01:11:33,040 --> 01:11:34,840
Speaker 1: really thinking about it, and he's like and it made

1505
01:11:34,920 --> 01:11:38,680
Speaker 1: me wonder how he feels like you should be, you know,

1506
01:11:39,320 --> 01:11:41,800
Speaker 1: going and drilling your daughter's new man and figuring all

1507
01:11:41,840 --> 01:11:43,560
Speaker 1: this shit and he's like, but maybe he can't do

1508
01:11:43,680 --> 01:11:45,320
Speaker 1: that because he's in a wheelchair, but because he can't

1509
01:11:45,320 --> 01:11:47,639
Speaker 1: move around on his own, like maybe he's feeling a way.

1510
01:11:48,000 --> 01:11:51,200
Speaker 1: And I was like, bro, it was just getting me

1511
01:11:51,400 --> 01:11:53,720
Speaker 1: really emotional. And we were on the car home. I

1512
01:11:53,840 --> 01:11:57,200
Speaker 1: was like, oh, like you're gonna be my husband, Like oh,

1513
01:11:57,600 --> 01:12:01,720
Speaker 1: that's like I understand now, Like this is why this

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Speaker 1: is happening. This weekend we went to a Nigerian wedding

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01:12:05,600 --> 01:12:08,120
Speaker 1: and I got to be around his parents again. And

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Speaker 1: when I walked in, not joking, I was the only

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Speaker 1: light skinned person it was. I was like, I felt

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Speaker 1: like a white woman nigga. I wanted there. I was like,

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Speaker 1: and mind you, I'm asking you sure we all got

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Speaker 1: wearing nothing African. He's just not an ante table nigga.

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Speaker 2: He's like, no, baby, I'm wearing my fucking tabby booths,

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Speaker 2: Like do your thing, like we dressed a lot.

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Speaker 1: We're sitting at his whole table.

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Speaker 3: His dad.

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01:12:34,479 --> 01:12:37,280
Speaker 1: Everybody got African council. This is his dad.

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Speaker 2: He got up there, he's like making a speech and

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Speaker 2: I'm sitting there like, oh my god.

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Speaker 1: They think I'm Puerto Rican and they think that I'm

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Speaker 1: the woman that made you wear a fucking regular suit.

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Speaker 1: Like that's all I could think is that I'm this influence,

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Speaker 1: you know. And then I'm also feeling this pressure because

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Speaker 1: he's been around my mom a lot, right because we're

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01:12:55,200 --> 01:12:56,800
Speaker 1: going to LA for a week at a time, and

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Speaker 1: you know, my mom's right there, and I'm just like,

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Speaker 1: am I not doing enough? Like how do I make

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Speaker 1: sure I'm respecting the elders? Like that's such a process

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Speaker 1: with Africans, Like, yeah, what do I do to let

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Speaker 1: them know like how much I care about their son?

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Speaker 1: I don't want to overdo it either with your hands, right,

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Speaker 1: we didn't eat too for it, Okay, okay, but making

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Speaker 1: the wedding was Jamaican and African. Okay, so I was

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Speaker 1: on the corsa all right. But anyway, Yeah, it's really

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Speaker 1: tough because now I'm in this phase of my life

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01:13:25,760 --> 01:13:27,920
Speaker 1: where I'm like, oh, like I really want to make sure.

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Speaker 1: I never thought about being this good for someone's month

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Speaker 1: before with their parents.

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Speaker 2: But what hit me?

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Speaker 1: I'm at this wedding where he introduced me to fifteen uncles,

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01:13:37,720 --> 01:13:40,200
Speaker 1: ten cousins, you know Africans.

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