Speaker 1: Brooking Jubels second d It's important to be a good friend, unless,
Speaker 1: of course, that friend ruins your chance at getting some action,
Speaker 1: then you should cut them out of your life. That's
Speaker 1: what I think. And in today's second date update, that's
Speaker 1: exactly what it sounds like happened to Jay, who's on
Speaker 1: the phone right now. Jay wants to call a girl
Speaker 1: named Michelle and she's not calling him back after one
Speaker 1: of his friends apparently ruined his date. How you doing, Jay,
Speaker 1: I'm doing all right right now, guys, Why don't you
Speaker 1: tell us what happened? Well? I met Michelle online, so
Speaker 1: I saw her profile, and her profile did stand out
Speaker 1: to me a little bit because, like, she just came
Speaker 1: off as so I don't willing go down to earth. Okay, sorry,
Speaker 1: I thought you were going. I thought you were going
Speaker 1: willing on that one. But that's what I usually look
Speaker 1: for in a a woman. Dude. It's actually kind of refreshing
Speaker 1: to hear a guy I say that her profile stood
Speaker 1: out not because of how much boob she had in
Speaker 1: the picture. Yeah, you know, it's right, because I like
Speaker 1: the fact that she had like a lot of pictures
Speaker 1: with her family. But the truth is she also had
Speaker 1: a really nice set of boots too, everything that you're
Speaker 1: looking for. So she seems like she's normal, she seems
Speaker 1: like a nice girl. So I messaged her and she
Speaker 1: messaged me back, and we kind of hit it off,
Speaker 1: and we notched back and forth for a couple of
Speaker 1: weeks and we set up a date finally. Now what
Speaker 1: you do on the day your email said that your
Speaker 1: friend actually ruined it for you. Well, it was a
Speaker 1: first date. So we decided to do just something like,
Speaker 1: you know, low pressure casual, just to meet up for
Speaker 1: drinks at a bar after work. So I was like
Speaker 1: getting ready to go and meet her, and then one
Speaker 1: of my co workers who's a friend as well, he
Speaker 1: comes and tells me like this awful story about how
Speaker 1: he just got dumb by his girlfriend. Okay, so you
Speaker 1: guys are at work and he's given you a sob story. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean he's actually pretty devastating, like he was like
Speaker 1: crying and stuff. So you're like, hey, yeah, yeah, your
Speaker 1: story is cooling everything, But I got a date right
Speaker 1: now with a girl who will hopefully be my girlfriend. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're standing in my way. Well, there's definitely a part
Speaker 1: of me that I was thinking that I know, I
Speaker 1: couldn't leave him. I mean, he was literally crying. I
Speaker 1: just couldn't just like bail on him. So I was
Speaker 1: like panicking a little bit. I'm like, what am I
Speaker 1: gonna do? I can't abandon him. So I texted Michelle
Speaker 1: and I asked her, listen, my friend, you know he
Speaker 1: just got dumped. Is it okay if I bring him along?
Speaker 1: You know, why wouldn't you just reschedule with her? That
Speaker 1: seems smart, you know, looking back, maybe, but it's just
Speaker 1: like our schedules were like so conflicting for so long.
Speaker 1: It's taking me two weeks for us to get together,
Speaker 1: so I wouldn't really wanted to happen. And I just
Speaker 1: thought this, like he would come along, we would have
Speaker 1: a few drinks, and we will be able to just
Speaker 1: break away and like he would go home and that
Speaker 1: would be fine, you know, right. Was she cool about
Speaker 1: you bringing him along? She said? Yeah. So we went
Speaker 1: up and we met and we all had some drinks.
Speaker 1: And every time I thought we were going to break
Speaker 1: away and pull the cord and ditch the single loser, yeah,
Speaker 1: just like he was. You know, he just kept breaking down,
Speaker 1: like we could not just help with the sand. We
Speaker 1: just couldn't shake him. So he was like trying. When
Speaker 1: you guys were out drinking, she was sobbing. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean at this point he was kind of like this
Speaker 1: whimperish sobbing and what do you do? That's awkward? Was
Speaker 1: she trying to comfort him too? She was just trying
Speaker 1: not to say anything that would make things worse, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: she doesn't know the guy, so she was just trying
Speaker 1: to say, you know, just bee all neutral and just
Speaker 1: be like it's gonna be okay. And I guess you'd
Speaker 1: probably get points because you look like a really caring friend,
Speaker 1: which is always a positive. But were you ever able
Speaker 1: to just talk to her? Yeah? See that's the thing. Like,
Speaker 1: after like two hours, she was pretty much kind of like,
Speaker 1: you know, she just said I gotta get going and
Speaker 1: she needed to go, and I was like, all right, um,
Speaker 1: so I'm guessing your date ended with a passionate kiss
Speaker 1: right in front of this guy. It was like the
Speaker 1: awkward kind of like shoulder bump hug thing. Um like
Speaker 1: it was. It was just a polite hug, good vibe, right, okay,
Speaker 1: And have you heard from her since the date? Well?
Speaker 1: What I did watch when I finally got home that night,
Speaker 1: I sent her a text asking her if we could
Speaker 1: try it again, just hit the reboot button, reset button,
Speaker 1: and just try it again, just the two of us
Speaker 1: this time. Yeah, And she texted back that she didn't
Speaker 1: think it was going to work out or it was
Speaker 1: a good idea. I mean, I mean, that's kind of
Speaker 1: messed up. Though she's blaming you for I mean, it's
Speaker 1: not an ideal situation. I get it. But you think
Speaker 1: that she'd give you another chance? Yeah, I I thought
Speaker 1: she was kind of see the whole thing that I
Speaker 1: was trying to do the right thing for my friend.
Speaker 1: And I even texted her asking her, like, you know,
Speaker 1: is there a reason why? Like if she could just
Speaker 1: like at least tell me why. But she never even
Speaker 1: texted me back after that. So that's all you've heard
Speaker 1: from her. I don't think it's gonna work out? Why? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was the last thing I heard from her, And
Speaker 1: she never got back to me. And now I'm like, man,
Speaker 1: you know, I spent two weeks we really connected online,
Speaker 1: we had the chemistry, and I it's like, I just
Speaker 1: blew it. Have you murdered your coworker yet? Well? You know,
Speaker 1: it's like his girlfriend dumped him like kind of ruined
Speaker 1: two relationships. Yeah, exactly. You two can cry together now
Speaker 1: it's your cubicles at work. All right. Oh that's the thing.
Speaker 1: I really don't want to, you know, I really want
Speaker 1: to make this work. Okay, Well, well play a song,
Speaker 1: come back, call her, and then get your second date update.
Speaker 1: All right, all right, thanks guys. Yeah, man, hold on it.
Speaker 1: Five looking cubil in the morning. I'm actually surprised that
Speaker 1: the guy that's on the phone to do a second
Speaker 1: date update today isn't getting a call back because normally
Speaker 1: uncontrollable crying on a first date always works for me.
Speaker 1: But then again, it usually happens in the bedroom, and
Speaker 1: they never made it to the bedroom. They were just
Speaker 1: in a bar. So you should have had your date
Speaker 1: in a bedroom, Jay, and it might have worked out
Speaker 1: better for you. I'll try to keep that in behind
Speaker 1: for the advice if you're just tuning in and don't
Speaker 1: know what I'm talking about. Jay went out with a
Speaker 1: girl named Michelle that he met online. The only problem
Speaker 1: was right before he was about to go on his date,
Speaker 1: a coworker friend of his came up to him and
Speaker 1: said that his girlfriend left him and he was like
Speaker 1: in tears and everything else, and so Jay was like,
Speaker 1: all right, well you can come along with me. He
Speaker 1: asked the girl if it was okay to bring the dude.
Speaker 1: She was like sure, And I think Jay was hoping
Speaker 1: that the guy would eventually get lost, but instead he
Speaker 1: spent two hours with them. On Jay's first date with
Speaker 1: this girl, crying and sobbing and just talking about how
Speaker 1: his life was over because his relationship ended. And she
Speaker 1: hasn't talked to Jay since except for telling him that
Speaker 1: is not going to work out. All right, Jay, you're
Speaker 1: ready to get her on the phone? Yes, definitely. Maybe
Speaker 1: she just realized that relationships aren't worth it and it's
Speaker 1: better to be single than put yourself through that heartache.
Speaker 1: Or maybe she got his number instead of yours and
Speaker 1: they've been seeing each other ever since she felt bad
Speaker 1: for him. That'd be a smooth, smooth move by that guy.
Speaker 1: If you could get a date after crying for two hours,
Speaker 1: that sounds like the greatest scheme ever. If you did that,
Speaker 1: I'd let him have her actually come in and for it.
Speaker 1: All right, I'm a dollar phone of her right now?
Speaker 1: Here we go? Helloh, can I speak to Michelle please,
Speaker 1: isn't Michelle. Hey, Michelle, how are you? This is Jewel
Speaker 1: from Brook and Jewel in the Morning, Brook and Jubil
Speaker 1: like the radio show. Yeah, just like that. How are you?
Speaker 1: I'm much better now, you guys me. I'm nothing just
Speaker 1: calling people that. Obviously you listen to the show. That's cool.
Speaker 1: We're just calling a check with people, see how they're doing.
Speaker 1: It's part of our servant. Yeah right, I'm actually calling
Speaker 1: you because somebody emailed us about you. Oh god, telling
Speaker 1: me this is not a freaking second date update. I'd
Speaker 1: love to do that, but it is a second date update.
Speaker 1: Oh god. And you recently went out with a guy
Speaker 1: named Jay. Oh my god, you're calling me about ja. Yes,
Speaker 1: I am. Jay emailed us and told us about your date,
Speaker 1: said that it was really awkward because his co worker
Speaker 1: came along, And then after the date he texted you like, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry about that. We should try it again, and
Speaker 1: you texted him back that you weren't interested. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: I can't believe that he told you all that. Well,
Speaker 1: he obviously liked you a lot and wants to see
Speaker 1: you again, So what's the reason that you told him
Speaker 1: it wouldn't possibly work? Well, he told you how the
Speaker 1: friend came along, right, Yes he did. He said his
Speaker 1: co worker showed up and cried pretty much the time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that is that not enough? So is that the only
Speaker 1: reason that you're not calling him back because of his
Speaker 1: co worker? No, the co worker cried the whole time,
Speaker 1: and to comfort him, he started saying horrible things about
Speaker 1: the girl. I mean, she wasn't even there to defend herself.
Speaker 1: And he's like, well, you know, she was kind of fat,
Speaker 1: so you can do better. And well it was there
Speaker 1: he was trash talking his co workers X. Yes, he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: you can do better. I mean she has a nice
Speaker 1: set of boobs, that's all. And he was saying this
Speaker 1: in front of you, and what were you doing? I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I hope it gets better for you.
Speaker 1: There's more out there, can't you give him? I mean
Speaker 1: you could throw up a bone on that one. It's
Speaker 1: not like you've never comforted a girlfriend by talking about
Speaker 1: what a loser her X was on a date. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say that. I wouldn't say that in front
Speaker 1: of another girl, be like, oh dude, she's a waste,
Speaker 1: saying horrible like she had man hands. You don't want her.
Speaker 1: And then the part where I was like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: need to leave is when they started asking me for friends,
Speaker 1: because the best way to get over if I wanted
Speaker 1: to get under someone else. So he was asking if
Speaker 1: you had any friends that his buddy could hook up day,
Speaker 1: can you call somebody and get them here right away
Speaker 1: so that maybe he can sleep with someone. Really, when
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I'm going to see you later,
Speaker 1: he actually asked you if you had a friend that
Speaker 1: would sleep with him, yes, and could I get them
Speaker 1: on the phone right now. What was your response to that?
Speaker 1: I was horrified and disgusted, and I tried to extricate
Speaker 1: myself from the situation and said I need to Was
Speaker 1: there like anything enjoyable about the date? I mean, it
Speaker 1: was funny on the outside, and I wasn't, you know,
Speaker 1: emotionally involved at that point. Did you ever for once
Speaker 1: think about a friend You're like, oh, I bet you
Speaker 1: she'd do it, and then almost call them. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: not at all. Can't even go there. Okay, So, Michelle,
Speaker 1: I know that it sounds like you're listening to the show,
Speaker 1: and I don't know how many second date updates you
Speaker 1: listen to but maybe you forgot that. Jay is actually
Speaker 1: on the other line listening right now. No, I figured
Speaker 1: that was coming. I'm glad that he got to hear
Speaker 1: all that. Oh okay, Jay, you know there. Yeah, I'm here,
Speaker 1: pretty harsh recap. Jay listening to what she just said.
Speaker 1: I can't believe she's like saying this kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: I can't believe that I was on the first date
Speaker 1: with you and you solicited one of my friends for sex. No,
Speaker 1: that's not what I did. That's not what I did.
Speaker 1: I was consoling my friend. That's what I was doing
Speaker 1: about It was not in a nice way. You have
Speaker 1: to know your audience, and I was there. It wasn't
Speaker 1: just the guys talking. And I'm glad that I got
Speaker 1: to see that side of you before I ventured in
Speaker 1: on a real date. So, well, haven't you ever had
Speaker 1: a friend who just got dumped? I mean, haven't you
Speaker 1: ever broken up with you? And we watched a sad
Speaker 1: movie and I say, oh, sweetie, you'll get better. There
Speaker 1: are better ones out there. Just wait a minute, though,
Speaker 1: But like you, you're telling me you've never had and
Speaker 1: you don't know any of your friends who've ever had
Speaker 1: a casual just a hook up after breaking up just
Speaker 1: to feel better about themselves. Told me you might end
Speaker 1: up doing that, but you don't go on a first
Speaker 1: date and ask your date to help you on that mine.
Speaker 1: I was just trying to get you involved so you
Speaker 1: didn't feel left out, that's all. I did not feel
Speaker 1: left out, So thank you. Don't you just want to
Speaker 1: maybe apologize though, and just say the timing was bad? No,
Speaker 1: I mean, this is like, we got to be realistic.
Speaker 1: She knows what's going on out there. I mean, don't
Speaker 1: be such a prud Okay, Well, you're being at jacks
Speaker 1: and I don't want to have anything to do with you.
Speaker 1: Weren't I made for each other great? And you were
Speaker 1: just a jack? So I hope nobody goes out with
Speaker 1: you ever again. Yay, Well, this would be a perfect
Speaker 1: time for me to ask Michelle, would you like to
Speaker 1: go on a second date with Jay? Let me think, no, No,
Speaker 1: are you sure? I'm very sure? Okay, Michelle, do you
Speaker 1: have a friend who's a little loose on the moral
Speaker 1: side that would want to go out with him? Will
Speaker 1: you guys seem very loose on the moral side? One?
Speaker 1: All right? Hey, Jay, I'm sorry you didn't get a
Speaker 1: second date. But it is like you just went through
Speaker 1: a breakup and I will sleep with you to help
Speaker 1: you feel better. I'm gonna have to say that that's
Speaker 1: a no. I just got turned down too. Everybody's getting
Speaker 1: turned down and nobody's getting laid over it in the morning.
Speaker 1: Quick word of advice for all the gentlemen out there dating.
Speaker 1: If you're out on a date, do not bad mouth
Speaker 1: women the whole time, and then ask your date if
Speaker 1: she has a friend who's pretty easy and would hook
Speaker 1: up with one of your friends. Shouldn't have to say that.
Speaker 1: I should not have to say that, but unfortunately I do.
Speaker 1: It's broken Jewel in the morning. I'm talking about today's
Speaker 1: second date update. This guy Jay wanted us to call
Speaker 1: a girl Michelle that he went out on a date with.
Speaker 1: The problem with his date was that right before he
Speaker 1: was going on it, one of his buddies that he
Speaker 1: works with came up to him pretty much sobbing heartbroke
Speaker 1: and he had just broken up with his girlfriend and
Speaker 1: he's like, right before he was leaving, so he asked
Speaker 1: his date, hey, can I bring my coworker along. He'll
Speaker 1: just be there for a little while, and then he'll
Speaker 1: go on his way, but he's having a tough time,
Speaker 1: and she was cool about it, she was like, sure,
Speaker 1: bring him along. Well, it turns out after we got
Speaker 1: her on the phone and she told us the story
Speaker 1: that during that time, while they were trying to console
Speaker 1: his coworker, he actually was just like bad mouthing the
Speaker 1: guy's ex girlfriend, like saying horrible things about her in
Speaker 1: front of this girl, and then also stopped to ask
Speaker 1: the girl that he was on a date with if
Speaker 1: she had a friend who was, you know, easy enough
Speaker 1: and willing to sleep with this dude in order to
Speaker 1: help him get over his girlfriend, Like, hey, you know,
Speaker 1: the best way to get over somebody's to hook up
Speaker 1: with somebody, right, So, do you have any friends out
Speaker 1: there who might just you can call him up right now.
Speaker 1: They'll come over the restaurant, they can know the bathroom
Speaker 1: real quick and get things done. And I surprisingly she
Speaker 1: didn't like that. Yeah, I mean, it wasn't a look
Speaker 1: into what could happen if they ever broke up or anything,
Speaker 1: or how he handled his own relationships at all, And
Speaker 1: he didn't understand why she didn't want to go out
Speaker 1: with him again. But a lot of people texting in
Speaker 1: at seven eighty five to nine two understand exactly why
Speaker 1: she didn't want to go out with him again. Remember,
Speaker 1: if you want to go out with somebody, if you've
Speaker 1: went out with somebody and they haven't called you back,
Speaker 1: just email the show Brook and Jewil at moving nine
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Speaker 1: didn't call you back.