WEBVTT - The Karol Markowicz Show: Landing the Plane with Grace Curley 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:06.800 Hi, Welcome back to Carol Markowitz Show on iHeartRadio, and 0:00:06.840 --> 0:00:07.360 welcome to. 0:00:07.320 --> 0:00:09.360 The new time slot. I'm so glad you're here. 0:00:09.760 --> 0:00:13.360 The Carol Markowitz Show now airs Wednesdays and Fridays, so 0:00:13.400 --> 0:00:15.920 you can get my non political show, this one, The 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:19.800 Carol Markowitz Show on Wednesdays and Fridays, and then normally 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:23.400 my political podcast that I co host with Mary Katherine 0:00:23.400 --> 0:00:26.680 Ham every Tuesday and Thursday. The only day you don't 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:31.320 get me is Monday. Last week, we talked about loneliness 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:35.479 among teenagers, how hard it is not so much to 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:40.680 even make friends, but to maintain the friendships, to coordinate plans, 0:00:41.000 --> 0:00:43.839 all of that. I said that every group of friends 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:46.680 needs a cruise director, and a few of you wrote 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:50.200 to me that you enjoyed the expression and usage. Today, 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:53.440 I want to talk about how to be likable, with 0:00:53.520 --> 0:00:57.800 a focus on one part of likability being interesting. We 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:01.720 openly talk about this with our kids. In today's episode, 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:05.240 you'll hear Grace Curly say that her parents would advise 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:08.920 her and her siblings to quote land the plane when 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:11.840 one of their stories got too long winded. I feel 0:01:11.880 --> 0:01:15.040 like there's this thing that parents are supposed to think 0:01:15.120 --> 0:01:18.600 everything their kid does is perfect and amazing and never 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:23.160 correct them. I do not parent like that. You want 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:25.480 to teach your kids to be nice people, to be 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:29.760 good people, thoughtful, but also to be interesting people, not 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:33.039 annoying people. You want them to be the kind of 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:37.120 people that other people want to be around. One of 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:39.679 the things we tell our kids is that when you're 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:43.840 telling a story, make it funny, be interesting, don't just 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:48.040 ramble on the details of your day. We've all met 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:51.840 the adults who just love hearing themselves talk. I don't 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:54.080 want my kids to turn out like that. I want 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:56.760 their stories to have a point. I want them to 0:01:56.800 --> 0:02:00.000 be interesting to listen to. There are other bad person 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:04.280 personality traits. We try to discourage them out of bragging, gossiping, 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:08.880 judging people too quickly, but being boring is one I 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:11.960 just don't hear discouraged that often. 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:13.560 You want to raise. 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:15.760 Kids to be the kind of adults that people will 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:18.640 gravitate to. You have to give them the tools to 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:22.400 do that early and to raise them to understand what 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:25.040 that means. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this, 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:27.440 or on any topic I talk about on the show. 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:30.519 How do you help your kids grow up? And become 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:34.919 likable people. Drop me an email. Carol Markowitz Show at 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:38.519 gmail dot com. That's k A r O L M 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:42.480 A r KO wi CS and Charlie Zas and Zebra 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:47.120 Show at gmail dot com. 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Hi, Grace, so nice to have you on. 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:15.240 Thank you so much, Carol. I'm honored to be here. 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:18.680 So it's funny because I you know, you're a big 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:22.039 deal overall, but you're really a big deal in New England. 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:25.320 I mean I meet people and they're like, I heard 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:25.720 you on. 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:26.800 The Grace Curly Show. 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:29.880 And that is a thing that I get quite often 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:33.800 from people like the Boston area particularly, How did you 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:34.440 get into this? 0:04:35.600 --> 0:04:37.359 So I actually, first of all, that's so nice of 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:40.520 you to say. And whenever people say they listen to 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:43.560 the show, or especially wh people say I listen every 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:46.480 day for three hours, Yeah, God, that's so nice. 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:49.159 Really, that's what I feel like. 0:04:49.200 --> 0:04:51.520 Your fan base is like they listen to you every 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:52.560 day for three hours. 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:56.640 It's the sweetest thing. And never It never ceases to. 0:04:56.600 --> 0:04:59.080 Blow my mind, just because I that was always my 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:00.960 dream was that people would just let me talk for 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:03.240 a living. And now I'm like, wow, you guys really 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:06.600 made it happen for me. But yeah, I started. Actually, 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:10.440 I was a theater major at Providence College. I graduated, 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:15.480 I started waitressing, and I was always a homebody. I 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:18.240 thought about maybe trying the theater thing. I give people 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:21.400 such credit who try to actually make it and showbiz, 0:05:22.760 --> 0:05:24.719 and probably a little bit of an insecurity in me 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:26.480 didn't think I was cut out for it, and so 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:30.039 I at one point, my mom got an email from 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:32.560 Howie Carr and it was like one of those e 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:34.320 blasts where they send it out to a million people, 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:36.120 and they said, we're looking for someone to help with 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:38.960 books and shipping. And she said, this might be a 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:40.960 good way to get your foot in the door. And 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:42.960 I went in for an interview. I got the job, 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:44.600 and they were very honest. They said, this is going 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:47.599 to be, you know, it's going to be a gofer 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:52.080 a job essentially, right, a grontwork. And I said that's fine. 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.039 That's fine because it's a job and it's steady and 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.600 I can stay here, you know, I can stay in Massachusetts. 0:05:57.120 --> 0:05:59.240 And I went home and I said to my mom, 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.160 I'm going to work for her How we Care and 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:01.760 for those who. 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:05.760 Don't know, How we Car super big deal in New England. Yes, 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:10.160 very recognizable radio host and beloved by many. 0:06:10.800 --> 0:06:12.640 Yes. And my mom has listened. My mom and dad 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:14.599 have listened to him forever. And my mom is so 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:18.480 funny Carol. She's like she always whatever you tell her, 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:21.680 and my dad's like this too. It's like they are 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:24.720 big dreamers, especially for us. And so immediately when I 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:26.760 told her that, I said, I'm going to be packaging 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:29.160 books up in their garage. And she said, you're going 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:31.120 to be on the radio with How We Care And 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:34.520 I said, that's not I'm doing. 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:37.640 But going to be getting coffee exactly. 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:39.839 Over the years it kind of dis evolved from there. 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:40.960 Yeah, that's amazing. 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:43.479 So you didn't always want to be in radio or 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:46.320 that was sort of a backup plan to being in theater. 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:51.760 Yeah, you know, it's like I always liked performing in 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:54.520 one way or another. I loved entertaining. I grew up 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:58.279 in a family where and maybe this is like the 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:03.160 irishists I saw, like Joe Biden, but we were big storytellers. 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:04.800 I have an older brother, a younger brother, and a 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:07.479 younger sister. My parents are big storytellers. They're both from 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:10.480 South Boston, and so sitting around the table at night, 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:15.080 it was it was almost like a competition. It was like, 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.880 what story do you have? Land the plane? You're losing us, 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:18.600 what else happened? 0:07:19.440 --> 0:07:21.200 I love that. I'm going to use land the plane 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:23.640 with my kids, like land that plane? Where is the 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:24.320 story going? 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.400 And you know what, Carol, people, you grow up and 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:30.120 you start to say to yourself, no one told us person, 0:07:30.120 --> 0:07:32.760 no one told them, right, And my mom told us 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:34.560 all And you know what else she would do. She's 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:36.559 so funny. She would if you were telling a story 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:38.960 and you were saying like like like like like like like, 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:43.040 she would start going every time I said what she said, 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:45.720 I'm not not putting it into this world saying like 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:46.720 all the time. Right. 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:49.360 But yeah, it was just I love talking. 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:53.480 I love talking, and it doesn't matter if it's a 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:56.600 Thanksgiving party with people or if it was in school. 0:07:56.800 --> 0:07:59.040 It was always what I love to do. 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:01.280 And making people laugh was a big part of it too, 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:04.200 And that's where I think the theater came in. Was 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:07.880 I loved the crazy roles or the media goals, and 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.680 so that was probably what led me to this spot. 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:13.080 I actually tell my kids, be funny when you're telling 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:15.960 a story like it engages the people more so. But 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:18.320 Land the Plane is something I'm going to be using 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:21.000 from here on out. What do you consider your beat 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:22.280 at the grayst Curly Show. 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:25.680 I think my beat is and I try to mix 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:29.360 it up, but I always find myself coming back to 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:33.680 media and the distortion that we get from these people 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:38.840 who for basically my entire life, but it's definitely ramped 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:41.040 up in the last couple of years, have been hell 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:46.320 bent on convincing the masses that someone like me, or 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:48.920 someone like someone in my family because a lot of 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:51.800 us align the same way politically, are bad people. And 0:08:51.840 --> 0:08:54.760 it just never sat right with me, and I always 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:56.920 thought there was a disconnect there. I always thought the 0:08:57.000 --> 0:08:59.080 media was out of step with a lot of the 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:02.679 people I know and love, and it's only amped up. 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:07.840 And also at this point now my rolodex is these people, 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:11.160 which is like one of my coworker says, we could 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:13.079 play you a cut of someone on MSNBC and you 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:15.600 would probably know their name just by listening. To it right, 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:18.560 and I'm like, it's such a niche skill I have. 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:22.240 It's not going to play in any other industry, but 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:26.080 it's definitely become something I always even when I'm writing, 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:28.600 and I know you know this, you write about the 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:31.000 things you know really well, and sometimes you try. 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:31.960 To branch out and it's harder. 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:34.040 It's harder to like do research and stuff like that 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.360 when it's not something you're as used to. Probably good 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:39.520 to do it sometimes, But the ones I find flow 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:43.680 for me the easiest are when I'm just hammering the media, right. 0:09:44.160 --> 0:09:46.920 That's a when you're passionate about the topic, you just 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:50.120 sound so much clearer and better on it. So do 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:53.200 you think the media dials it back now that they've 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:55.960 lost in such a major way with the Trump reelection? 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:59.840 From what I've been seeing this morning, and like, you know, 0:09:59.880 --> 0:10:01.720 you you have to keep in mind, we got the 0:10:01.760 --> 0:10:04.840 results or it was pretty much called for Trump at 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:06.760 like two am, so a lot of the late night 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:09.720 shows it didn't come out until last night their feelings 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:09.920 on it. 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:11.080 I'm going to say, no, there. 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:13.680 Was recording this just a few days after the election. 0:10:13.800 --> 0:10:14.400 Two days after. 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:16.319 Yeah, there is a lot of crying. 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:17.080 There was a lot. 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:19.240 It doesn't seem like there was a lot of self reflection, 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:25.240 and it's so disappointing because you always I always want that, 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:28.160 like I always do want just that moment of we 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:32.000 got this wrong. And I actually thinks it's a really 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:35.120 great thing about life if you're able to look at 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:37.920 things and say, I didn't see it from that perspective. 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:40.200 And I actually I have an editor who is a 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:43.400 little bit more I don't want to say liberal, because 0:10:43.480 --> 0:10:46.920 I actually really don't know, but he's more just interested 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:50.360 in good writing, and he will oftentimes I'll come forward 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:53.360 with an idea that in some other places I could 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:55.800 get by with and he'll challenge me on it, and 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:59.160 he'll say, I don't think that's really I think you're 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:03.080 general or I think you're demonizing one side of it. 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:05.160 And to have someone in your life who's doing that, 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:06.840 I don't think these people in the media have that 0:11:07.200 --> 0:11:10.320 to hold together, egging each other on I. 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:12.120 Was going to say, I don't think that exists. On 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:15.600 the other side. I don't think they have an. 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:18.400 Editor that maybe leans a little more conservative or even moderate, 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:21.160 who is like, I don't know that this column makes 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:24.000 any sense because I read those columns and they don't 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:24.800 make a lot of sense. 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:28.800 Yeah, and also just to say just to kind of 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:32.240 have that moment of where can we improve? 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:33.200 What are people? 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:35.880 And when you keep doing The thing that scares me 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:38.240 though is that. And I was thinking about this this morning. 0:11:38.280 --> 0:11:40.120 I saw this video and I should send it to you, Carol, 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:42.280 because you would definitely have I know that you're beat 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:45.400 oftentimes as parents and you know, the family unit. 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:47.920 It was these parents who were telling their. 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:51.160 Children about the election, and the children were like hyperventilating 0:11:52.160 --> 0:11:55.000 and they were feeding into it like this. 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:56.199 Is what it's going to look like today. 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:56.760 Crazy. 0:11:56.800 --> 0:12:02.520 And I thought that is the direct result of these 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:06.240 parents being so entrenched in what the media is telling them, 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:09.560 and now they're convincing their children that they're in danger somehow, 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:12.760 and it's just it's like malpractice. It's like this is dangerous. 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:14.000 Yeah, you know. 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:16.960 I have a friend who said to me that his 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:21.640 college freshman daughter her roommate, was crying about the Donald 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:24.600 Trump win. And I said to my fourteen year old daughter, 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:28.120 if I ever hear you crying about a politician win 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:31.920 or loss in America, like I'm going to have some 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:33.240 problems with that. 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:36.080 That is not something you cry about. Cry about things 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:37.000 that are close to you. 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:38.640 And that matter to you and that are important to 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:41.600 your family, not about someone you don't know. There was 0:12:41.600 --> 0:12:45.199 that movie A Bronx Tale a long time ago where 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:48.600 the gangster guy tells the little Italian kid. He says, 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:50.880 Mickey Mantle doesn't pay your rent and. 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:53.360 He doesn't know who you are. That's how people. 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:55.880 Should think about politicians. They don't pay your rent, they 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:58.040 don't know who you are. If you can support them, 0:12:58.040 --> 0:13:00.480 you can hope for good policies for them from them, 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:04.240 you can lobby them to get those policies, but don't 0:13:04.320 --> 0:13:05.120 cry over them. 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:06.160 I mean, they don't know. 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:07.360 You, Carol. 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:10.480 You have such a way, and I mean this so genuinely, 0:13:10.520 --> 0:13:12.559 Like sometimes you'll tweet something out and it will stick 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:14.120 with me, and I'm sure you think I'm crazy because 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:16.280 I'll retweet it like years later, but it will stick 0:13:16.320 --> 0:13:17.360 with me for years. 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:18.360 And once the night that. 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:22.520 Was you were like, if you were blessed with a 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:25.440 wonderful family, you were already on third base. If you 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:28.640 let any of that go, politics is never going to 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:30.280 love you back. And I was like, this is what 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:32.720 people need to hear. It's like if you have good 0:13:32.760 --> 0:13:35.320 people in your life, and you were even getting close 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:37.959 to jeopardizing that for politics. 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:39.800 You've lost the plot. 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:41.520 That's it, I mean, that's really it. 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:44.040 And you know that tweet is so funny because it 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:46.839 was pretty popular. Although I didn't think I said anything 0:13:46.840 --> 0:13:50.680 that earth shattering. Tucker Carlson texted me about that tweet 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:50.960 and was. 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:52.880 Like, this, this is it. You know, this is exactly 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:56.439 what people should, you know, think, I don't know. I 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.280 come from a small, fractured family. 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:01.200 The idea to mean that we would fall out over 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:04.120 politics is hilarious, you know. 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:06.000 I just I don't get that at all. 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:10.000 And it's really unfortunate to me that that does happen 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:11.920 in families and happens all the time. I hear from 0:14:11.920 --> 0:14:16.160 people constantly. My daughter's not speaking to me, you know, 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:20.080 my mother is icing me out. I mean, really really 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:23.720 terrible stuff. And it's sad, and I wish our culture 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:27.520 kind of frowned on it more. I wish those parents 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:31.760 were told by their liberal friends, don't scare your children 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:32.040 like this. 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:33.520 It's not necessary. 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:35.760 They can't do anything about the election, Like you don't 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:39.800 need to send them to school worried and concerned about 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:40.400 their future. 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:44.520 It's just it's a crazy thing to do. I really 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:45.080 do think so. 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:48.840 And the thing you just said about when you can't 0:14:49.160 --> 0:14:53.240 do something about it, like, that's something that's if you 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:56.000 just zoom out from that. That's something that I have, 0:14:57.400 --> 0:15:00.280 I think improved it in life where I really look 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:02.720 at things now and I go, can I do anything 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:05.840 about this? Because I have this mentality and actually it's 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:09.000 happened to me before with real things, like real real 0:15:09.000 --> 0:15:11.400 issues that have come up where and I'll just give 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:12.920 an example. I had a family member who was sick 0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:16.520 and thank god, they're miraculous recovery and it was wonderful. 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:16.600 Thank God. 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:20.480 But at the time, I have. 0:15:20.360 --> 0:15:22.360 This mind sometimes and I've talked to people about it, 0:15:22.400 --> 0:15:25.360 I've worked on it, where it's this idea of if 0:15:25.440 --> 0:15:29.560 I worry about this enough, then it's going to help, and. 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:30.400 It's my job. 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:34.520 It's my job, and that way the universe knows I 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:36.760 care so much about this, right, I'm going to make 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:39.240 myself sick over it. And it's like I remember someone 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:41.960 saying to me when this family member got sick, don't 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:44.640 go on Google tonight, like, don't start googling things. And 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:48.000 I in my head was thinking, oh my god, I'm 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:49.400 going to spend all night on Reddit, like. 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:50.520 I definitely googling. 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:52.520 Yeah, there's not even a question. 0:15:52.640 --> 0:15:53.920 I'm going to be googling for the rest of the 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:58.400 night because that's my that's my way of helping the situation. 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:00.440 And the older I get, the more I really have 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:03.440 to stop myself and say, what's your control here? And 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:05.440 I felt like this about this last election. I wanted 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:09.240 Trump to win, but on the Monday before I felt 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:11.840 this like odd sense of calmness, which is anyone who 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:15.560 knows me. It's not it's not my usual place to be. 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:19.160 But I was like, you don't have You've said your piece, 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:21.920 you've done, you voted, Like, what else can you do? 0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:24.360 Right, it's out of your hands? What are you going 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:24.640 to do? 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:25.240 More? 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:26.440 Coming up in a minute with. 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:31.000 Grace Curley, But first, Americans are tired and frustrated by 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:35.920 a stalling economy, inflation, endless wars, and the relentless assault 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:40.400 on our values. Thankfully, there's companies like Patriot Mobile that 0:16:40.520 --> 0:16:44.520 still believe in America and our constitution. 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What keeps you up? 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:13.680 This is not a groundbreaking at all. I don't think 0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:16.280 for people. I and I've been like this since I 0:18:16.359 --> 0:18:20.320 was young. I'm a nervous nelly. So I worry about 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:25.040 my family, and I worry about losing people, and I 0:18:25.200 --> 0:18:28.520 worry about like I was the kid who I'm the 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:30.520 oldest daughter. And I think that does explain. I see 0:18:30.560 --> 0:18:32.640 those memes and stuff about the oldest daughter fame girl. 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:34.359 Same, Yeah, I think. 0:18:34.280 --> 0:18:37.560 It actually does explain because like these are two these 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:38.400 make too much sense. 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:39.560 It does explain a lot. 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:41.840 They always fit so well, so well. 0:18:41.920 --> 0:18:44.760 And I was the child who was calling my parents 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:48.479 up being like, when are you coming home? Are you okay? 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:50.919 It's snowing out, be careful? And my parents are like 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:59.760 Jesus girls, And so that's I will say. Though, what's 0:18:59.800 --> 0:19:01.840 in me is I don't have like any sort of 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:06.399 hypochondria or anything. I don't worry about Like I know 0:19:06.440 --> 0:19:08.560 some people fear death and they feel all these things. 0:19:08.760 --> 0:19:11.199 I never think about that. For me, I worry about it. 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:14.560 I almost like project it outwards and worry about everybody else. 0:19:14.720 --> 0:19:17.680 Well, that's very older older child syndrome. You don't worry 0:19:17.680 --> 0:19:19.360 about yourself. You have all these other people to worry 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:21.600 about and you ever focus on yourself. 0:19:22.040 --> 0:19:25.080 I said to somebody once, this sums up my fear, okay, 0:19:25.200 --> 0:19:27.280 And it was the funniest thing I said to someone once, 0:19:27.720 --> 0:19:30.720 I wish I could take it. Sounds so crazy saying, 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:32.639 I said, I wish I could take all the people 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:35.919 I love and put them in a giant bubble and 0:19:35.960 --> 0:19:38.000