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<v Speaker 1>Hell I Suck At Dating with Dengler Darren Han i

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<v Speaker 1>Heart Radio podcast. Hey, welcome to a special episode of

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<v Speaker 1>Help I Suck At Dating. I guess we'll call this

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<v Speaker 1>the pregnancy episode. If you're listening, you might have heard

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<v Speaker 1>that my wife, Ashley and I are expecting our first child,

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<v Speaker 1>which is very exciting. We finally got to announce to

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<v Speaker 1>everybody that Ashley is pregnant. We don't say we're pregnant. Mark,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if that was the thing that your

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<v Speaker 1>wife made to do, but like the Doe totally because

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<v Speaker 1>we first started saying we're pregnant, and she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>are we pregnant? Or am I pregnant? And we are

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<v Speaker 1>having a kid, And then she got really sick, and

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<v Speaker 1>then she's like, I'm pregnant, you're not, and we're having

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<v Speaker 1>a kid. It does feel like stolen valor a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit like you're trying to hone in on some of

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<v Speaker 1>the action here. But yes, she's dealing with all of it.

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<v Speaker 1>She's doing percent of the work she might. I would

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<v Speaker 1>lets give her. I mean, because the only person you

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<v Speaker 1>were involved in was was quite enjoyable. Yeah, it was fine.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, twenty eight seconds of my life and then

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<v Speaker 1>I have done, Like, so now my job is just

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<v Speaker 1>running errands, like getting whatever she needs, feeding her, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>telling her everything's gonna be all right. She's like, am

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<v Speaker 1>I going to be like this for the rest of

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<v Speaker 1>my life? And I'm like, I don't think so. I

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<v Speaker 1>think you're gonna be okay. Hopefully it's just the first try.

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<v Speaker 1>She's getting her ask kicked. Man, she's like puking like

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<v Speaker 1>three times a day. She's constantly nauseous. It's crazy how

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<v Speaker 1>as a guy, I just had no idea, Like who

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<v Speaker 1>the hell coined the term morning sickness? It's morning, afternoon,

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<v Speaker 1>and night. It's not just morning. So is the gender thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think we know the gender yet, right, How

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<v Speaker 1>are you planning on revealing that to the world. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>we don't know how we're going to reveal it, but

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<v Speaker 1>we find out this week, which is insane. So we

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<v Speaker 1>have a doctor's appointment Wednesday, and it's crazy how fast

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<v Speaker 1>you can find out because she'll be eleven weeks and

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<v Speaker 1>after ten weeks you can find out the sex of

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<v Speaker 1>the baby. So we're gonna find it out. She doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do any type of like gender revealed party,

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<v Speaker 1>which I get but I wouldn't mind doing a small

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<v Speaker 1>something um for our family. But it's obviously up to

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<v Speaker 1>ash So we're going to find out soon and then

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<v Speaker 1>we have no idea how we're going to tell people.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I guess we'll just be like, yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's a boy or a girl. So you will tell us.

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<v Speaker 1>This is gonna be a secret till the child is born. No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>no, no no, we're gonna obviously, oh yeah, come on now

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<v Speaker 1>we want we want good gifts. Will the name be

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<v Speaker 1>a secret till the child is born? Will that also

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<v Speaker 1>be revealed? Well, that's a great question. We have a name,

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<v Speaker 1>So we have a name for a boy. Um. It's

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<v Speaker 1>been a name that Ashley has known for thirteen years

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<v Speaker 1>that she she wanted to name a kid she wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be playing for twenty years. So totally, Little Tom

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<v Speaker 1>Brady Haven is to be a fantastic child to have, UM.

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<v Speaker 1>But she's had the name for quite some time, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was actually gonna ask her today whether I should

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<v Speaker 1>tell you guys what the name is. But yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I don't know if you heard in the background,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's just whisper it gently into the microphone. You

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<v Speaker 1>want know it's it's it's it's Dean of unclear baby.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's a beautiful name. Um, So you're gonna find

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<v Speaker 1>out the sex and you're probably gonna announce that on

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast for us, right like you'll have the breaking news.

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<v Speaker 1>Come onto the podcast. Let's see how highly rated this

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<v Speaker 1>podcast is and if it gets a decent amount of views,

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<v Speaker 1>then we're releasing on this podcast markets market almost famous. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>as I'm sure it will be as well. Markt When

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<v Speaker 1>you had your children, did you know the gender before

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<v Speaker 1>they were born? Yeah, we knew what We found out

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<v Speaker 1>immediately because we are planners. We have spring babies, because

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<v Speaker 1>my wife did not want to be pregnant in the summer.

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<v Speaker 1>We planned everything, so we wanted to know everything in advance.

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<v Speaker 1>We could plan everything decorated according they get gifts accordingly. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>definitely when you so, your advice to a new father

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<v Speaker 1>is to learn the sex early on, just so you

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<v Speaker 1>can plan. It just takes some of the stress out

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<v Speaker 1>of the you want everything. The way the way we

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<v Speaker 1>look at it is that you know when when Ashley

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<v Speaker 1>is going through her nesting phase, which by the way,

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<v Speaker 1>is crazy, it's because you hear about it. You're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>that would be an interesting thing. No, it's like a

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<v Speaker 1>real thing. And your house has never been cleaner, Your

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<v Speaker 1>house has never been more organized, Like she was going

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<v Speaker 1>through old photo albums changing up pictures. That the most

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<v Speaker 1>extreme example I can give you with my wife's nesting

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<v Speaker 1>phase is she went into our Christmas ornaments and this

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<v Speaker 1>was in March, and and found the Christmas wantaments that

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<v Speaker 1>had picture holes in them and make sure they all

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<v Speaker 1>had updated pictures in the picture holes. That's the level

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<v Speaker 1>of nesting detail that she got up to as she

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<v Speaker 1>was getting rid of I can't wait I of living

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<v Speaker 1>in an organized house. That's impressive, it's fascinating. But but

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<v Speaker 1>that's a stressful time because there's so many unknowns and

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<v Speaker 1>I we just want to remove as many unknowns as possible.

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<v Speaker 1>At least we know the name, we know the gender.

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<v Speaker 1>So for for Jared, when he finds out the gender,

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<v Speaker 1>which sounds like it would be more sooner than later,

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<v Speaker 1>how much how much realer is that going to get

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<v Speaker 1>for him as a dad? Do you think, Yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 1>that's an amazing thing, because then you start picturing all

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<v Speaker 1>kinds of stuff. You know, if it's a little girl,

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<v Speaker 1>you picture everything from first day of school to prom

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<v Speaker 1>to wedding day, walking her down the aisle, and if

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<v Speaker 1>it's a boy, you start picturing his first baseball game

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<v Speaker 1>or football game or whatever it is. And then one

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<v Speaker 1>day kim walking down the aisle and it's it all

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<v Speaker 1>becomes so much more real when you find out the

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<v Speaker 1>sex of the baby's Like, I don't feel that connected

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<v Speaker 1>with the kid right now, which makes me feel guilty

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<v Speaker 1>and sad. The only time I did was when we

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<v Speaker 1>went to the first ultrasound because that was when you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they put the gel on her belly and they have

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<v Speaker 1>like the scope to see the inside and I've only

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<v Speaker 1>ever seen that in movie. So being in the room

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<v Speaker 1>with the doctor and being like, oh, yeah, this is

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<v Speaker 1>your baby right here. And it's the size of an

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<v Speaker 1>aunt and you know, the sack is the size of

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<v Speaker 1>a blueberry, and like, you know, she writes baby over

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<v Speaker 1>it and you can see the little heartbeat and it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh wow, no, that's a that's a living thing. That's insane.

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<v Speaker 1>So that felt real. We know things like it's not

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<v Speaker 1>twins or anything like that. Not twins. Actually was so

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<v Speaker 1>convinced she had twins because of how sick she was

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<v Speaker 1>and she was so wrong. We're not having twins, So

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<v Speaker 1>how have you guys thought about, like when the baby comes,

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<v Speaker 1>what's the plan going to be for that? Is it

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<v Speaker 1>going to be at the hospital? Is it going to

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<v Speaker 1>be I mean, is this it's too intimate to even share?

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<v Speaker 1>Like yeah, I mean, as long as COVID protocols allow it.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be in the room. I'm definitely not

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<v Speaker 1>looking under the towel, mark, did you, Because no, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know what that was the real stay up by

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<v Speaker 1>the head and looked down as little as possible. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not looking down with our second daughter. It was there

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<v Speaker 1>was a big picture on the wall across from where

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<v Speaker 1>the action was happening, and it was basically a mirror

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<v Speaker 1>the way the lights were in the room, and so

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<v Speaker 1>we hung a towel over it, and then at one

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<v Speaker 1>point during birth, the towel fell and I got a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit of a glimpse. Then I was wearing a

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<v Speaker 1>baseball cup that I had to kind of adjust down

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't want to see that, and my wife

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<v Speaker 1>did not want me to see that. We were in

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<v Speaker 1>complete agreement on that, no interest in that, So why

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<v Speaker 1>I tried to stay out by the head as much

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<v Speaker 1>as possible. Dude, Tanners just watched every time. Three kids.

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<v Speaker 1>He saw all three and I'm like, you're insane. You're insane,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean? Tanner. Also for Brooks, their second,

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<v Speaker 1>he had to look because that was the one that

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<v Speaker 1>she had the baby in the closet where she was

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<v Speaker 1>she was like screaming, and he looked and the baby

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<v Speaker 1>was crowned. That was intense. But I'm like, there's no way.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you cut the cord? No, I'm not qualified. There

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<v Speaker 1>are other people more. Yeah, that's why I don't get like.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm I'm okay, i don't need to cut

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<v Speaker 1>the cord. Like, let's make sure the baby's good. What

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<v Speaker 1>is it? What are you yelling in the background? Ashley

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<v Speaker 1>wants me to cut the cord? But what about all

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<v Speaker 1>this stuff that I keep hearing about the placenta and

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<v Speaker 1>how you can use it to cook food with? Can

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<v Speaker 1>you say, perhaps I hope we did none of that stuff. Guys,

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<v Speaker 1>are you're not going to do that the Kardashians episode

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<v Speaker 1>where they did it. I mean, if the Kardashians did it,

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<v Speaker 1>then there's a potential of actually doing it. But other

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<v Speaker 1>than that, it doesn't really seem like ashlete personality to

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<v Speaker 1>save the placenta and cook it and then us like

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<v Speaker 1>digest it. I mean I can only imagine what she

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<v Speaker 1>must be going through right now. Is there because you're

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say normally you're like an anxious person,

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<v Speaker 1>but I know that you can get stressed out over

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<v Speaker 1>certain things. Is has that kind of kicked in yet

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<v Speaker 1>at all? Or is it more just elation? Um? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm certainly not stressed out. It's also because life doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>feel that different right now. You know, the only thing

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<v Speaker 1>that's different is that Ashley is sick. Everything else is

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<v Speaker 1>completely normal, you know. I mean she hasn't shown at all.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean she's still only ten weeks. We don't even

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<v Speaker 1>know the sex of the baby. We've only had one

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<v Speaker 1>doctor as a point, and um, so it doesn't you know,

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<v Speaker 1>everybody tells me it's it's reassuring because I have so

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<v Speaker 1>many friends and family that tell me that everything will

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<v Speaker 1>change once that kid is born in the best way possible. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>and Mark, you know, I want you to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>this a little bit because everybody says like, yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like a buddy Mine was like, it's exhausting,

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<v Speaker 1>it's tiring. Uh, it's stressful. Uh, it's also the best

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<v Speaker 1>thing that will ever happen to you in your life.

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<v Speaker 1>And I've heard that across the board. It's it's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>How like being a parent is the one thing that

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<v Speaker 1>like I feel like I always here consistently, is that

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<v Speaker 1>it's exhausting, it's stressful, it's tiring, and it's all worth it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>here's my advice for when the baby is born. And

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<v Speaker 1>I give this to all dads out there. This is

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<v Speaker 1>and this is a good advice, um because still obviously

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<v Speaker 1>actually doing a d percent of the work. Now after

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<v Speaker 1>the baby is born, she's still gonna be doing of

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<v Speaker 1>the work. Right, She's feeding the child, She's doing so much.

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<v Speaker 1>The bond there is incredible, and you're just trying to

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<v Speaker 1>help out wherever you can. So here's what you do.

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<v Speaker 1>You take that child in the middle of the night

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<v Speaker 1>and allow Ashley to sleep for a few hours. All

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing is taking the child and you're gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>watch TV. That's it with baby Ali, right if she

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<v Speaker 1>was born and I've been seasons of entourage. This was

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen years ago. I am a hero for sitting and

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<v Speaker 1>watching television and a requiring chair. Okay, this is my

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<v Speaker 1>advice to you. No matter what time of day it is,

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, honey, I got this. You sleep, You're a hero,

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<v Speaker 1>and all you're gonna do is go watch TV. It's

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<v Speaker 1>the greatest. Yeah, it's like that TikTok. Mark is the

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<v Speaker 1>guy who gets the standing ovation for doing the bare minimum.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like a TikTok with a guy like literally washes

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<v Speaker 1>one side of the counter and then and he gets

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<v Speaker 1>a standing ovation. Mark went to go watch Entourage and

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<v Speaker 1>his wife was like, you're the greatest man alive. The

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<v Speaker 1>husband's flash father. Yes. Yeah, man, it's it's easy being

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<v Speaker 1>a dude. My other advice to you is um is too.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't get weird about pregnancy sex. Some guys are very

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<v Speaker 1>weird about that. That's actually my next question about that.

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<v Speaker 1>If actually assisted be all in because they don't feel

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<v Speaker 1>attractive in the condition she's going to be in over

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<v Speaker 1>the next months, So make sure you don't add to that.

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<v Speaker 1>But being weirded out, you know, yeah, I'm definitely not

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<v Speaker 1>weird it out. I mean, I guess there's only I

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<v Speaker 1>guess I'll only know when that time comes when she's

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<v Speaker 1>like seven months and you know, yeah, it's there, it's there.

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<v Speaker 1>It's yeah, it's weird, but it's not gonna she's it's

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna make her feel good. If you're all like you, So, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what kind of advice would you have for him? Mark

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<v Speaker 1>about you know, getting that on while it was later

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<v Speaker 1>on in the pregnancy. Um, you know, you gotta get

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<v Speaker 1>a little creative with positions and so. But she's it's

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<v Speaker 1>just followed her lead. That's my only advice, And that's

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much my advice to you for the next twenty years.

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<v Speaker 1>I was saying, I mean that that could be the

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<v Speaker 1>title of my autobiography. Just follow her lead. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I do anyway, exactly. So what you're saying is Jared

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<v Speaker 1>is no longer in control of his own life. He

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<v Speaker 1>is playing second field to the main character that is

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley I Connetti. Yeah, until like the age of my

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<v Speaker 1>kids are, where they're fifteen and twelve, I'm no longer

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<v Speaker 1>in the star of the show like the kids at

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<v Speaker 1>the star of the show. I'm not a supporting character

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<v Speaker 1>in this TV show. And that's been kind of interesting

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<v Speaker 1>over the past few years. Where they used to be

0:12:39.679 --> 0:12:43.080
<v Speaker 1>our kids and now we're their parents. Um. But like

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<v Speaker 1>I remember when I found out it was a girl,

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<v Speaker 1>I started, I wept. That was the first time I

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<v Speaker 1>cried happy tears. I bought this whole process because I

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<v Speaker 1>always wanted a daughter. And then last night she was

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<v Speaker 1>up on stage playing aerial in The Little Mermaid and

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<v Speaker 1>it's just the greatest. It's really I still want a

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<v Speaker 1>full ride. So I'm very happy for you. Thanks, buddy,

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate it. It's funny how you talk to different

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<v Speaker 1>parents and you get completely different actions when it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to having kids. I was talking to Sky the other day.

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<v Speaker 1>He's I think he had two little girls as well,

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<v Speaker 1>and he was like, do you let me tell you

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<v Speaker 1>the ultimate form of birth control is when you get

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<v Speaker 1>that call from your kid at four in the afternoon

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<v Speaker 1>and she's screaming and crying and she needs you, or

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<v Speaker 1>that moment, and I'm like, like, you're doing a really

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<v Speaker 1>bad job as selling parenthood right now. And then there

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<v Speaker 1>are guys like you Mark that are like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they've got a million photos of their children on their phone,

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<v Speaker 1>and there's the proudest in the world. I am. Obviously

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<v Speaker 1>that's the ideal, but it's just funny how people can

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<v Speaker 1>be on one side or the other about that kind

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<v Speaker 1>of well there there, it's all over the place. There's

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<v Speaker 1>been rough nights, there's been anxiety issues, there's been sleep issues, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>there's gonna be some tough times. Absolutely, there's bullying issues.

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<v Speaker 1>There's you know, just kids at school just being awful

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<v Speaker 1>to your kid. You like, it's not all just joy

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<v Speaker 1>and and and pride and happiness. You know, there's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of ups and downs to it. But and also

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<v Speaker 1>you can't if how fast it goes, You can't believe

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<v Speaker 1>it's such a short period of your life that your

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<v Speaker 1>kids are in your home with you, because when you're

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<v Speaker 1>a kid, being a kid who takes forever, when you're

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<v Speaker 1>an adult you realize, oh my gosh, they're only going

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<v Speaker 1>to be here for eighteen years, maybe twenty if you're lucky,

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<v Speaker 1>and then they're out in the world, and that goes

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<v Speaker 1>by in the blink of an eye. Dude. It's it's

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<v Speaker 1>just it's I'm excited. I'm definitely way more excited than

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<v Speaker 1>I am nervous. I guess it's just it's the first

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<v Speaker 1>time in my life where I feel this over overwhelming

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<v Speaker 1>responsibility because even with marriage. Ashley as an adults are

0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:34.320
<v Speaker 1>our dogs are losing their minds in the background, but

0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:36.920
<v Speaker 1>Ashley is an adult. Like where two adults coming together,

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<v Speaker 1>but now we have to take care of another life.

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<v Speaker 1>And we always actually, and I always joke like, when

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<v Speaker 1>are we going to start feeling like adults? Because we

0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:45.800
<v Speaker 1>still feel like kids, you know, even now we're pregnant,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, this isn't like I'm I'm a child.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, how am I ever gonna be able to

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<v Speaker 1>raise a kid? So, Mark, did you ever get to

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<v Speaker 1>a moment where you're like, oh, now now I'm a parent,

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<v Speaker 1>Now I'm an adult, or do you still feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just kind of taking it day by day? Hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good question because I definitely feel like a

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<v Speaker 1>dad now. And it's also funny because everybody who knows me,

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<v Speaker 1>everybody who works with me, they all just I'm such

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<v Speaker 1>a dad. I'm a total dad. Um. But of course,

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen years ago, I was like, what is this? What

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<v Speaker 1>do I do? I don't understand this. The day that

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<v Speaker 1>you take the baby home from the hospital, You're like,

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<v Speaker 1>are they sure about this? Because he has no idea

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<v Speaker 1>what we're doing? And that was a crazy feeling. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's more gradual. I think you're you won't

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<v Speaker 1>wake up and feel like a dad one day. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just suddenly fifteen years ago by and you'd be like,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been a dad as long as I can remember.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember life before the end of dad. Did

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<v Speaker 1>you read a lot of books while your wife was pregnant? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I did, and so did she. And one that she

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<v Speaker 1>really loved was The Girlfriend's Guy to Pregnancy, And I

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<v Speaker 1>think the writers named Iven like Jimmy Iven. I think

0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:56.040
<v Speaker 1>it's actually his ex wife. But but that was really

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<v Speaker 1>resonated because it was the real truth of what's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, she didn't pull any punches. She was like,

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<v Speaker 1>this part sucks, this is really bad. You know, she

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<v Speaker 1>really tells you how it is. It's not all sugarcota.

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<v Speaker 1>So I would recommend that one. Was it about pregnancy

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<v Speaker 1>or was it about being a parent? It was about pregnancy?

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<v Speaker 1>Areaking books we've read quite a bit since the kids

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<v Speaker 1>have been born, Okay, because I don't know. Like the

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<v Speaker 1>reason I asked is because when we did our Amazon

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<v Speaker 1>thing last week, we got questions like, oh, what books

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<v Speaker 1>are you reading? I'm like, I haven't read a book

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<v Speaker 1>about parenting? Am I behind? Right now? Should I be

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<v Speaker 1>like getting on this? You're okay, You're okay, go a

0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:32.520
<v Speaker 1>childbirth might be fun to glance through. It's gonna read

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<v Speaker 1>a book about childbirth in Italian so that we can

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<v Speaker 1>kind of not exactly. Why do you think I'm learning

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<v Speaker 1>Italian people? All right? Speaking to my daughter. I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>go pick her up. So I love you guys. Congratulations

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<v Speaker 1>heared having its funny. That's funny. I appreciate it. Love

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<v Speaker 1>you too. Then, Jared, here's the thing? Who needs books?

0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:51.400
<v Speaker 1>When you have Mark's number on speed dot right there?

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I mean. I have all these friends, I

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<v Speaker 1>have all these resources right at the click of a button.

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<v Speaker 1>Why would I ever need a book when I have Mark?

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<v Speaker 1>He is the ultimate book on parenting right there. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>not to get to graphic or anything, but can you recount?

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<v Speaker 1>Not recount I don't need like great detail, but will

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<v Speaker 1>you be able to trace back the date of conception

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<v Speaker 1>for the kid? Yeah? Yeah, I can. We can trace

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<v Speaker 1>it back. I mean to a like I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>about like the exact like we know what month it was,

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<v Speaker 1>and we know like the week everything happened. So pretty much. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>spot on, that's crazy to me. I know, it is

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<v Speaker 1>weird to think that, like we were all conceived that way,

0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:32.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, like this this is how just life happens.

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<v Speaker 1>Sex is pretty tight. Yeah, it's pretty cool, pretty cool.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lie. It's good times. Congratulations. I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>you heard this joke before, but actually's obviously no longer

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<v Speaker 1>virgiin and I just wanted to go and congratulate you guys. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>that's right. Oh my god, Ashley is pregnant. Could you

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<v Speaker 1>imagine like rewinding the clock four years ago and being

0:17:50.440 --> 0:17:54.840
<v Speaker 1>like that, Ashley the Virgin is now pregnant. The story

0:17:55.000 --> 0:17:57.879
<v Speaker 1>arc on that is being amazing. You know, It's like

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<v Speaker 1>it goes into The Bachelor as of virgin and now

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<v Speaker 1>she's having her first baby with the love of her

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<v Speaker 1>life that she also met on that same TV show.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy. Yeah, it's pretty insane. Obviously, I'm gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>talking a lot more over the course in the next

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<v Speaker 1>months about you know, our pre Ashley's pregnancy. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, she gets so mad, which I don't blame

0:18:20.480 --> 0:18:22.440
<v Speaker 1>her now, I get mad at myself anytime I say

0:18:22.440 --> 0:18:24.520
<v Speaker 1>we're pregnant. It's like no, no, no no, no, Ashley is

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<v Speaker 1>doing all the work. I'm just here to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>hold her hand and tickle our arms sometimes and let

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<v Speaker 1>her her know that it's going to be okay. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but we love you guys. Thank you so much for

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<v Speaker 1>tuning in. I can't tell you how much I appreciate

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