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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and I Heart Radio Podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. We have a very

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Speaker 1: special guest today, do you agree, Tanya? Very special? We

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Speaker 1: have Sadie Robertson in here, and she is someone that

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Speaker 1: actually before we actually met today, in my head, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: is this the first summer meeting in person? I feel

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Speaker 1: like we've been friends forever. So we talked on social

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Speaker 1: media text. I feel like I can't believe this is

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Speaker 1: the first time in that. But I'm so excited you're here.

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Speaker 1: I know, I'm so excited. This is awesome. Do you

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Speaker 1: feel professional being in the studio like supert? You am

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Speaker 1: all right now? Um so you're out here doing your

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Speaker 1: book tour. It came out what did you say, like

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Speaker 1: a month ago? Yeah, it came out early February, so

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Speaker 1: just now circling around. But hey, keep it good. I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're Europe. It's a it's a best seller, right. It's

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Speaker 1: been so crazy number two on Amazon at all Books,

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Speaker 1: which is just absolutely insane. So thank you everyone who's

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Speaker 1: already bought it. Um So, yeah, it's just been moving.

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Speaker 1: It's been awesome. Yeah. I mean, you are someone who

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Speaker 1: you're only twenty years old, which is so crazy to me,

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Speaker 1: totally blown away when you said, You're just someone that

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Speaker 1: I think even people our age look up to because

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Speaker 1: you're so um refreshing and what you're, what you speak,

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Speaker 1: and what you do, and it's actually it challenges me

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Speaker 1: a lot because I'm like, wait, I should we should

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Speaker 1: all be a little more bold and what we believe

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Speaker 1: and won't stand up for you know what we think,

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Speaker 1: so means a lot. Yeah, I'm just super happy to

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Speaker 1: have you here, So go ahead. Oh when did you

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Speaker 1: write this book? So? I wrote that book last summer.

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Speaker 1: It's actually kind of a funny story because like my date,

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Speaker 1: like my timeline was supposed to be from May to September,

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Speaker 1: so I was like, right, and you know, the whole summer,

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Speaker 1: but like pretty much mid August, I was like, scrap it,

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Speaker 1: I'm changing everything, and I like rewrote a book practically

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Speaker 1: from like the second week of August till the first

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Speaker 1: week September, which is kind of like if my team

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Speaker 1: knows this. It's like I always think I know what

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Speaker 1: I'm doing. In the last minute or the day of

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Speaker 1: I'm like changing everything like I did. But it turned

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Speaker 1: out to be exactly what it was supposed to be.

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Speaker 1: And I'm just like, it's totally a god thing and

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Speaker 1: just the timing of it, just because I feel like

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Speaker 1: right now we do live in a generation in a

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Speaker 1: society that's like fear is just like triggering everything is

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Speaker 1: calling the shots. It's like stopping our movement, and I'm like, okay,

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Speaker 1: no more. I started to write the book on freedom,

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Speaker 1: actually changed it to Fearless because I realized you can't

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Speaker 1: ever really walk into living freely unless you live fearless first.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, the follow up, Yeah, yeah, we should tell

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Speaker 1: everybody that's called live fearless. Um, they don't know the title,

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Speaker 1: but that's awesome. I think that is like something that's

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Speaker 1: a lot of artists are writing songs about that right

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Speaker 1: now because everybody is kind of living in this state

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Speaker 1: of fear yeah, which is so sad. It's like the

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Speaker 1: times are scary, like things are happening, and that's kind

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Speaker 1: of what the book teaches you. It's it's not that

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Speaker 1: things aren't scary, it's not that things in our life

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Speaker 1: won't be scary. Is that there is hope that you

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Speaker 1: can live fear listening, you can carry strength, you can

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Speaker 1: have peace, and when people realize that there's an option

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Speaker 1: out there, like oh well, hey, let's go, why don't

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Speaker 1: we take it? In this book, we'll take you on

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Speaker 1: a journey of finding that, which is really cool. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's awesome. I think fear comes a lot from like,

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Speaker 1: you know, um, somebody just told me that anxiety is

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Speaker 1: really like hit me. I was like, wow, this is

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Speaker 1: so anxiety is imagination gone wrong. Yeah, And that's kind

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Speaker 1: of feel like when you're when you're living in fear

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Speaker 1: imaginations it's going crazy. There's a chapter called the Crazy

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Speaker 1: And it's true. You get on this train, you start

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Speaker 1: And it doesn't have to be that way. There's another

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Speaker 1: That's like, you know, it's so so true, and you

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Speaker 1: have to have like a just a deeper faith that

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Speaker 1: it's all going to plan out the way that's supposed to. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you have to have faith in something about whatever you see. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we had a Psychiatris Stone and we were talking about

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Speaker 1: like my we really got into my fear of relationships,

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Speaker 1: which that's vulnerable place. But you know, I feel like

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Speaker 1: if it's other, it's something that I'm like, I can't

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Speaker 1: I needed to hear that too. So there's a lot

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Speaker 1: of Becca's out there. Yeah yeah, yeah, and I wait

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Speaker 1: a second that this is scary. That's one of the

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Speaker 1: biggest place to fear lives and it can stop you

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Speaker 1: from really allowing yourself to be loved or to love. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and she said, she was like, your what's your fear?

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Speaker 1: And it was kind of, you know, my fear of

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Speaker 1: like being stuck in something that I'm not happy in.

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Speaker 1: And um, she was like, you're it's a made up scenario,

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Speaker 1: but it's not a reality. It's like, uh interesting, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is really good to like speak to your fear,

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Speaker 1: like speak it out because you're like, Okay, what am

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Speaker 1: I don't think people realize that how often it's constantly.

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Speaker 1: It's like a constant in our daily lives, like we

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Speaker 1: there's a verse in the Bible it talks about laughing

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Speaker 1: at fear of the future. It's the proper sturdy one woman.

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Speaker 1: My mom is like the picture of that, like literally

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Speaker 1: and it would drive me crazy. I'm like, how can

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Speaker 1: And she's like, maybe you just gotta choose. You either

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Speaker 1: you got to believe. I've actually beck of this before,

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Speaker 1: but before because I kind of just um. I always

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Speaker 1: grew up like in a church, like when a serbing

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Speaker 1: think this happened like maybe like five or six years ago.

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Speaker 1: with God. Yes, come on, girl, that's awesome. It's really

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Speaker 1: crazy that. No, it's true. It's like people always they

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Speaker 1: And so the more and the more times I ran

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Speaker 1: it's promo code Becca, but we sing it. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: going to replay that really pulled it together. Um, so

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Speaker 1: I want to talk. Are you dating anyone? No girl? Single? Single?

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Speaker 1: I'm ready to mingle or single and period? Single and

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Speaker 1: And even more so, you see, Okay, maybe like we

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Speaker 1: I mean, that is not always happening. That's so crazy.

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Speaker 1: our podcast they like ship us with other with like people. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so they really shipped Becca with Brett Eldredge. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: a very nice way of like not jumping on either side. No,

423
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Speaker 1: I'm for it, Okay, Well yeah, I mean whatever. Yeah,

424
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Speaker 1: I can see it. I can see it. He's a

425
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Speaker 1: great guy. Um. I think it's funny. It's so funny

426
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Speaker 1: whenever you actually know two people, you know, you can

427
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Speaker 1: like look at anybody and be like, oh I shoot that,

428
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Speaker 1: yeah you know, and then you're like, wait, no, do

429
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Speaker 1: you actually really like that? It's like you're actually friends. Wait,

430
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Speaker 1: I don't want to put you together if you don't

431
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Speaker 1: like this. It's kind of funny. Now I can see it.

432
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Speaker 1: Can you convince her to say that? Yeah? Totally fine.

433
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Speaker 1: They said the same thing, but with me. Do you

434
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Speaker 1: know Bobby Bones, do you know? Yes? Well that is

435
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Speaker 1: like written in the stars. That's gonna yes, yes, and

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Speaker 1: Tim go ta Tebowah, Okay, see I'll before that that. Okay,

437
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Speaker 1: so we see that you can be for something. And

438
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Speaker 1: the Bret thing. Yeah, how old are you? I'm twenty nine? Okay, No,

439
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Speaker 1: this could totally happen. This could totally happen. The aids

440
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Speaker 1: change things interesting. I'm just to be totally transparent. Know

441
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Speaker 1: nothing about him. I really don't know anything. However, I

442
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Speaker 1: feel like country singers have like a good heart and

443
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Speaker 1: a good soul. Okay, look totally just now I'm really

444
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Speaker 1: thinking about You're like super funny on Instagram. He's super

445
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Speaker 1: funny on Instagram. Y'all are Gooby, Like y'all are like

446
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Speaker 1: you would be so funny. Like he has a dog

447
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Speaker 1: and like Becca has it all. Yeah, can't you see

448
00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:09,240
Speaker 1: him like Phoebe walked into my life. Now you're really

449
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:14,399
Speaker 1: changing the person like beautiful my life. Well, here's the

450
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:17,159
Speaker 1: thing I don't people do. I haven't figured out I

451
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Speaker 1: know Brett, Like I don't know. People just have like

452
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Speaker 1: put us together without knowing that we know each other

453
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Speaker 1: because they're like Brett Eldred's liked your photo and I'm like, yeah,

454
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Speaker 1: but it's different. What do you mean? It's just different

455
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Speaker 1: because there's like potential there. They pick up they only

456
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Speaker 1: they only call what they see totally exactly what that

457
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Speaker 1: would work. Yeah, that was that was more than a

458
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Speaker 1: double tap. Yeah, okay, well anyway, so we kind of

459
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Speaker 1: discussed that, but I want to talk about our new

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Speaker 1: Sleep dot com slash Becca Becca Becca. Yeah, I like that. Okay,

507
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Speaker 1: we have to talk about this. So Becca came up.

508
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Speaker 1: She didn't really come up with this idea, but um uh,

509
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Speaker 1: inadvertently we came up to this because Becca got cat

510
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 1: fished on a dating hinge. So I took her negative

511
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:52,200
Speaker 1: story and I turned it into a positive. And I

512
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 1: was like, So I was on hand, and I'm like

513
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Speaker 1: really on and off of the dating apps, I'm like,

514
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Speaker 1: I hate him, I never want to get I delete

515
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Speaker 1: them all, and then I'm like, I'm bored, I'll get

516
00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 1: on the dating app. So I was on hand and

517
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 1: I matched with this hockey player who was really cute,

518
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 1: and we start talking and weirdly, what was a red

519
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,600
Speaker 1: flag to me was that he said he had watched

520
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Speaker 1: a few hours of Gray's and at me because I

521
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Speaker 1: had said like, oh, I was just catching up on

522
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Speaker 1: Gray's and he was like, oh, me too, and I

523
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 1: was like, that's kind of strange. So I found the

524
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:23,720
Speaker 1: guy's name on Instagram and the message him and I

525
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:26,440
Speaker 1: was like, are we talking on hand? Am I being catfished?

526
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:31,440
Speaker 1: He was like, oh, you're being catfished? What? Oh? But

527
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 1: she's talking to the hot hockey player. Oh, so I said,

528
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:41,160
Speaker 1: ding ding ding Beck. But this is the best first move.

529
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:43,440
Speaker 1: I was like, let's start doing this to people who cares.

530
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 1: Just be like, even if they're not on hinge or whatever,

531
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:47,160
Speaker 1: be like, oh my gosh it, did I just match

532
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: with you on hand? Or am I being catfished? Perfect open? Anyways,

533
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 1: how are you? That is brilliant. So last week we

534
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 1: were like, who should we do? And I said Chris Pratt?

535
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:05,920
Speaker 1: So she did it and he responded I didn't go anywhere,

536
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 1: but he did respond yeah, so hilarious. I kind of

537
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:13,400
Speaker 1: I like, I kind of got weird because it didn't

538
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 1: go anywhere, and I deleted the message because I got like,

539
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: I was like embarrassed because I didn't always screenshot because

540
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:22,000
Speaker 1: then I was like, why I can talk about this

541
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:23,920
Speaker 1: is so good for the podcast because we talked about it,

542
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 1: so I just I know, I'm pretty like word for

543
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: what he said. But um, I was like, are we

544
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 1: talking on a dating app? Or am I getting catfish?

545
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:33,879
Speaker 1: And he was like, well, I saw you had a

546
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 1: blue check, so I feel like I should respond to you.

547
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 1: He was like, I'm not on any dating sites, but

548
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 1: I'm flattered that you'd match with me, and so I'm

549
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 1: breaking out when I So I was like, he goes,

550
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 1: I'm not into the whole dating app thing, like you

551
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 1: should try to date like the real like in the

552
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: real world, and I was like, I know. I was like,

553
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 1: I go back and work. And then I was like, um,

554
00:28:56,960 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 1: catfish me one, shame one. You a catfish me twice

555
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: and he didn't respond. Yeah, it's totally fine because this

556
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 1: is just proof that it works. All right. It worked

557
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 1: in the sense that he responded, let's just keep them going.

558
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of who I can do it too, Like,

559
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 1: are you kidding? I'm going to that is actually but

560
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: we did have a listener. One of our podcast listener

561
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: shouted in our I think I screenshot at it because

562
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not gonna be able to find

563
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 1: this because I don't know how to do Facebook anymore. Nope,

564
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 1: sure I didn't. Okay, she did this. She tried this

565
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 1: with a guy that just got kicked off the voice.

566
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Speaker 1: So she said, am I being catfished or you know,

567
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: just match the unhinged and I guess he um he

568
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: responded and he said, definitely not unhinge. Can you send

569
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Speaker 1: me a screenshot of the profile? Worried about it? Totally?

570
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 1: Definitely do I Do you have any concerns that you

571
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 1: are potentially starting a relationship based on nov When I

572
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 1: admit to Chris at Oh, I totally lied, and then

573
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 1: he's going to be like, I'm sorry, We're going to

574
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 1: break up because you're a liar. You have to do

575
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 1: it and like a laugh, No, I feel like you

576
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 1: make a photo that would be a way more to

577
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:20,640
Speaker 1: cover up later. That's like digging. That would be like

578
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 1: day like ten, you'd be like, Helena, have you done

579
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 1: this more? That was next love were totally I tell

580
00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 1: everybody that they should do this. That is so funny.

581
00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 1: Photoshop happening in this room. You are going faith who

582
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 1: want to start relationships fully on lines and this one.

583
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: Don't even get me started about Bolina now, I think

584
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:52,720
Speaker 1: that might be a felony, like photoshop all the time.

585
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 1: I would eventually, after he's in love with me, I

586
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 1: would tell him, yeah, then you had to tell him. Yeah,

587
00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 1: I probably, But I don't think it's that big a deal.

588
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 1: I don't a problem with you. I think, oh, that's

589
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 1: so funny, dude, Like, how did you meet? Well? Actually

590
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 1: represents effort. I appreciate you. Yeah, that's how every relationship starts, essentially,

591
00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:17,000
Speaker 1: Like you know, you meet a guy and you're like, oh,

592
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 1: you smell really nice. I love your colone. What is that?

593
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 1: You may not you may hate the colone. Yeah, a

594
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 1: little white line never hurt anybody. I'm just saying. I mean, yeah,

595
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't. I think it's almost like

596
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:33,000
Speaker 1: funny once it comes to by the way, a little

597
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 1: bit drunk if I'm telling this. But I'm gonna be

598
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 1: like remember when I said me, Matt, we did it,

599
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 1: but we love each other, right, it's so good live

600
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 1: sense since the beginning. I'm gonna I'm gonna find three

601
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: guys that I really potentially could see myself dating and

602
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 1: do this for next week because it works. Yeah, I mean,

603
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:54,680
Speaker 1: I sort to think of the right one. If you

604
00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: could pick three more Avengers, I would be very happy. Well,

605
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 1: I was going to do Chris Pine. He doesn't have Instagram. Yeah,

606
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: we to photo. We got it. He's Pauline's tactic shop.

607
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 1: You put a picture on the thing, you change the name.

608
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 1: Can people please email Becca and tell her that I'm

609
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 1: not the only one that thinks this is so terrible

610
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 1: you're starting lies. Here's what I worry about. You could

611
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: fall in love with let's just say Chris Pratt. I

612
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:27,959
Speaker 1: think it's over with Chris Pratt, and they will. If

613
00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:30,040
Speaker 1: I found out that someone did that to me and

614
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 1: started everything on a like that, oh, I wouldn't care.

615
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 1: I would be like, Wow, you really like me. You're

616
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: like that was creative, that was good. What do you

617
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 1: think it through? Good opening line? Yeah? So maybe, Um,

618
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:49,360
Speaker 1: I'm actually gonna send Pauline and our friend that's in

619
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: the studio, the girl from our Facebook group, and you

620
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 1: can make a think for her. Yeah. Moving on from that,

621
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Speaker 1: moving on to moving on to other other Listen, let's

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Speaker 1: do let's do some emails Eastern. Are you ready? I'm ready,

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Speaker 1: I'm ready. Before we do emails, should we talk about

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626
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Speaker 1: So we've talked about fat Fit Fun so many times

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Speaker 1: so excited emails. All right, let's dive right in. This

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Speaker 1: is from Lindsay. I like this. I have a I

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Speaker 1: have a personal connection to this one. So I'm very

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Speaker 1: interested in this and which you guys have to say

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Speaker 1: Hi there. First off, love y'all and listen to every

659
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Speaker 1: single podcast. I've been with my fiance for seven years.

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00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 1: We just got engaged in January this year. Finally, long

661
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 1: story short, I'm the only granddaughter and when my grandmother

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00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 1: passed years ago, she left me her beautiful engagement ring,

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Speaker 1: which is the exact setting I've always wanted, with one

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Speaker 1: exception being the diamond size. He proposed with her ring,

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Speaker 1: and of course I said yes, followed by finally. Ever

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Speaker 1: since the proposal, I found myself wishing the diamond were bigger.

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00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,600
Speaker 1: I know this sounds very materialistic, but deep down I

668
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Speaker 1: want to replace the diamond with something larger and have

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Speaker 1: my grandmothers set in a necklace that I'll wear every

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Speaker 1: single day. I have dreamt of my dream ring for

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00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:45,879
Speaker 1: so long now, and stuck around for seven years waiting

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00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:47,920
Speaker 1: for this guy to propose. Might I add, but I

673
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 1: don't want to hurt his feelings. Is something we've discussed,

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00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 1: and he stands with the viewpoint that no ring will

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00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 1: make marriage work. His parents proposed without rings forty five

676
00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:57,440
Speaker 1: years ago, so the importance of a ring isn't much

677
00:35:57,480 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 1: to him, he said. Deep down, he will ultimately do

678
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 1: what ever makes me happy. But am I out of

679
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 1: line here? Do I need to learn to be happy

680
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:04,360
Speaker 1: it's the one I have? Or should I get my

681
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 1: dream dream ring? What would Tiny and Becca do? Market

682
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 1: Easton please chime in here. I would like you guys

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Speaker 1: take on this. Thank you so much. Let's see you

684
00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:17,800
Speaker 1: guys about ring size doesn't matter? No, I don't, I

685
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Speaker 1: don't think I can't. I mean, I've I'm so far

686
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 1: from that that I've never and I've never been one

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Speaker 1: that was like this in my dream ring. I know

688
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 1: what I like and what I think is pretty, but

689
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 1: I'm not like I don't have like my grandmother's ring

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Speaker 1: that I, you know, have like dreamt of having on

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Speaker 1: my finger. But I mean, I don't know. I don't

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Speaker 1: think it's it's not like he picked out the ring.

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Speaker 1: It was what she wanted, that was in her family,

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Speaker 1: So it wasn't like he went and picked it out

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Speaker 1: and she didn't like it. It's just like she loves

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00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:47,359
Speaker 1: it and what she wanted, but she wants a bigger diamond. Yeah,

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00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 1: I just feel like, I mean, I know what kind

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Speaker 1: of ring I want, but I think if there's some

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Speaker 1: sentimental value of somebody like in my family or my

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00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:58,200
Speaker 1: husband's family, fiance's family, and like it actually meant something,

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Speaker 1: I think that means more than like this size. Her

702
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 1: grandma she wants to keep the diamond on the necklace.

703
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 1: She just wants the diamond in the setting bigger. Here's

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00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 1: what I told her. What's her name again? Her name

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Speaker 1: is Lindsay. Lindsay. I emailed Lindsay because I was very

706
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 1: passionate about this email. If they can afford it, then

707
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:16,880
Speaker 1: she should have what she wants. If they can't afford it,

708
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:21,800
Speaker 1: and they're like stretching for some crazy diamond, don't you know.

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00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 1: So that's what it kind of comes down to. It's like,

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00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:26,919
Speaker 1: if she's got the money and he's got the money,

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00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,880
Speaker 1: why not it's and then she's you know, it's a

712
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 1: materialistic thing. But like some people drive range rovers, why not?

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00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 1: You know? So it comes down to can they afford it?

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00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:37,880
Speaker 1: If they're stretching and they're not going to have a

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00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: roof over their head, then no, that's my opinion. Yeah, yeah,

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00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 1: I mean that's right. I am too like um because

717
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 1: when I proposed to Alison, my lovely wife, I, um,

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00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 1: I used a diamond from her mother's ring uh and

719
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 1: changed the setting. And I was kind of conflicted on

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Speaker 1: this because I felt that it was a nice kind

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00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 1: of sentimental thing and her mother's no agree with us. Uh.

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Speaker 1: So I thought it was kind of a nice, you know,

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Speaker 1: way to stay connected to her mother, but also as like,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to feel like I'm like cheaping out,

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00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: you know. So, um, I got a nice setting and

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00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 1: it's a really nice diamond. Um, But like since then

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00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: we've I've kind of been like, well, I should have

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Speaker 1: done a ring that's like special for her, you know,

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Speaker 1: like a specific a different diamond, a different setting like

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Speaker 1: that kind of thing. So I have a thought about,

731
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Speaker 1: like I'll probably upgrade that mother pretty soon, you know,

732
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:31,319
Speaker 1: like like like you can change out the engagement there

733
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Speaker 1: or not. It was the wedding band. You can get

734
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 1: a really pretty wedding band to wear with it. And

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00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 1: we talked about this, like, um, because it is a

736
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Speaker 1: sentimental thing, but there's a way to honor that without

737
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Speaker 1: it being all the time. You can still have Yeah,

738
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Speaker 1: you don't have to wear it every day, you can

739
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Speaker 1: still have it. So I want to tell lindsay, like,

740
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:49,719
Speaker 1: don't get caught up in in that, because there's you'll

741
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 1: You'll be connected that way no matter what. But you

742
00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 1: should have a ring that makes you happy. Lindsey's fiance

743
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Speaker 1: has a point the ring doesn't matter, which I agree with,

744
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 1: So go bigger if you can my things, Like I

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00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 1: have diamonds. I don't need my guy to give me

746
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 1: a ring. I don't care. I just want to like him.

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00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 1: So if she she wants a ring at it, If

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Speaker 1: she doesn't, who cares like, don't get lost in the ring. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm I feel the same way. What do you think, Sadie. No,

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Speaker 1: I think that's good. I think you're right, And I

751
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:19,440
Speaker 1: think her husbands so sweet. He's like, I'll get her fiance, Like,

752
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 1: if you want it, then we can get it. But

753
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 1: so yeah, it really just depends on it they can

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00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:27,399
Speaker 1: or not. I really don't know. I've never really thought

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00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,399
Speaker 1: about that that much. I think first you gotta find

756
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:33,879
Speaker 1: the person the ring, like the ring, like you meet

757
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 1: the person, and it's like the ring the wedding dress.

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00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 1: That's a pinterest rabbit hole. That is alright, alright. Next

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00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 1: one is from Lauren hi, Becca, Tanya eastern Amy, and Sadie.

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00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 1: I post this in scrubbing and Facebook group, but the

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00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:55,279
Speaker 1: best way to get this answer is through email. So

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00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 1: here we go. Last night I spent into the early

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Speaker 1: hours of the morning with four of my best friends

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Speaker 1: you whom are guys. One of them is my absolute

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Speaker 1: best friend, and we've had a pack since we were

766
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Speaker 1: seventeen that if we weren't married by thirty, we would

767
00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: marry each other now. And we've looked up a few

768
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 1: times in the past, but it's been a while. Last

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00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:14,400
Speaker 1: night he but last night he wanted to again. But

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Speaker 1: the problem is he's engaged. Naturally, I turned him down.

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00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,680
Speaker 1: Nothing happened, but boy did I want to. He gets

772
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Speaker 1: married in five weeks, and that burns me to the core.

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00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: It's like I've shown up late to the party and

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00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:29,840
Speaker 1: missed my chance because I didn't see anything earlier. I

775
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 1: loved this man with my whole heart, y'all. We had

776
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:33,840
Speaker 1: a heart to heart after I said no, and he

777
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 1: apologized for putting me in that position. But all of

778
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,040
Speaker 1: other things were said to and I'm just unsure of

779
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:40,239
Speaker 1: how to process my feelings or what feelings I even have.

780
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 1: It's hard for me to think badly of him because

781
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:44,239
Speaker 1: I know how special of a person he is. But

782
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:46,720
Speaker 1: then again, am I just overlooking his flaws and should

783
00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 1: actually be thankful that he ended up with someone else.

784
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:51,759
Speaker 1: Anyone ever been in this position where you feel like

785
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:53,399
Speaker 1: it's the one that got away, but you can't actually

786
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 1: get away from him. So it hurts every day to

787
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: seem committed to someone else. I don't like this guy.

788
00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 1: I don't either, Lauren. You need to run and get

789
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:02,920
Speaker 1: that out of your head. Can I just defend him

790
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:06,359
Speaker 1: for a second. Some guys, and I'm not saying it's right,

791
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 1: but some guys right before their wedding get a little

792
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:15,200
Speaker 1: screwy in the head and they want like one last hurrah.

793
00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 1: Those are bad guys. Bad, They're just a little bit

794
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 1: uh struggling, struggling. My advice also for her is in

795
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 1: ten years he may be back. Well, don't wait around

796
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 1: for Yeah. I think he dodged Lauren. Yeah. I think

797
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:35,400
Speaker 1: he needs some therapy because I think he's let's not

798
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:38,280
Speaker 1: I'm not so mean to people that are like conflicted.

799
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 1: It's such a big thing. I like the idea that

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00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: he was trying to like get a last minute thing

801
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: in before this packed came to be. You know, like, Hey,

802
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 1: I'm I'm tying seven and about to be married next month.

803
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 1: You know, hey, we had we had this deal. Yeah, Lauren,

804
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 1: just I think move on from him. He's definitely not

805
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 1: the one that got away would be, but he's with someone.

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00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: Y Okay, let's move on to another one. This is

807
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:09,960
Speaker 1: from Ashley. That's so funny. It's so good. Hey, Vecketani

808
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:12,000
Speaker 1: and the rest of the gang. I love your podcast

809
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: and I religiously listen every week and talk to myself

810
00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 1: in the car as if I'm in the room. So

811
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Speaker 1: I was on Tinder and I found the super attractive guy.

812
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:21,080
Speaker 1: Of course I swiped right and his Instagram is linked,

813
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 1: So I found him, and I don't know what to

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00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 1: do to d M him. Do I just write hello

815
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 1: or come up with something clever? We have a lot

816
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,320
Speaker 1: in common. We have to go camping, like going to

817
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: the river. Or do I just following let him DM me?

818
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 1: Or on insara Tinder hashtag hope he doesn't listen. Thanks again,

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00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:37,840
Speaker 1: Love you both, Ashley. I'm going to defer to Beecca

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00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 1: because she really has amazing You're really good at this.

821
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 1: I'm terrible. So I'm gonna let Becca come up with

822
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 1: something really clever for you, because it's going to be

823
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,840
Speaker 1: really good. And well. If I were in this situation,

824
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:54,320
Speaker 1: I would follow him and see if he d m me.

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00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 1: Would you like some of his photos? Maybe? Like maybe

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00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:01,080
Speaker 1: like like one or two photos, get his attention with

827
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 1: the follow and then like a few. Yeah, But I

828
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:09,959
Speaker 1: wouldn't message him. Interesting, what do you think? I would

829
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:12,080
Speaker 1: totally do the same thing. I'd follow him and then

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00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:15,000
Speaker 1: like his recent picture, just let him know I followed you.

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00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:18,399
Speaker 1: I'm a little interested, and then I gotta wait for him. Yeah,

832
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 1: but you're like, I know, I want him to be

833
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 1: clever first, and then I'll tag onto his cleverness. This

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Speaker 1: is why, because I would I would message him on

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Speaker 1: I would say probably something like this, Hey, a lot

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Speaker 1: of wise saw you on Tinder, a lot of arts

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Speaker 1: saw you on Tinder, found you on Instagram. Now you

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Speaker 1: would not that's so you would. You would advise get

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Speaker 1: my advice first, and I would say, do not say

840
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:50,920
Speaker 1: I found you on Tinder. And you know that I

841
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 1: did this two weeks ago and I said I found

842
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 1: you on my discover page. But we talked a lot

843
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,239
Speaker 1: about that before you made that move though. Yeah, it

844
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:00,800
Speaker 1: was the same thing. I'm just saying I would have

845
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:03,239
Speaker 1: that one. I was like, oh, like you have friends

846
00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 1: in common, there's an opener there. Okay, so okay, okay,

847
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 1: hey I found you on Tinder. How's it going. Yeah,

848
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 1: that's what I would say, minus all those wise, I'd

849
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:19,359
Speaker 1: probably keep the wise why because that's just me. Can't

850
00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 1: you message on Tinder? Yeah? But they hadn't matched, so

851
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: maybe like he's not active on Tinders? So do you

852
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 1: know what I mean about Becca and Sadie because they're

853
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:36,240
Speaker 1: trying to like use like, um brain powers, which sometimes

854
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 1: does work. I'm not gonna lie. Times sometimes does. But

855
00:44:38,840 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 1: it's a little bit of a far fetched plan. You know,

856
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:45,319
Speaker 1: I've made moves in different ways. I lied and said

857
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:47,719
Speaker 1: we matched, and then i've I'm a little more to

858
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:54,239
Speaker 1: do sometimes and I'll say I've had success getting way

859
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:56,279
Speaker 1: more than me, So I think we should follow what

860
00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:59,400
Speaker 1: she's doing. Yeah. I also was chatting with this like

861
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 1: twenty three year old. I didn't realize, but we started

862
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 1: talking and then I was like, wow, that's very young. Yeah,

863
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 1: that's my sister's age, younger than my brother. Yeah. I

864
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 1: advised her to not go that route. Super nice. He's

865
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 1: like he like made the initiative. He's texting me, like,

866
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 1: ask all these questions about me. I'm like, I haven't

867
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:23,759
Speaker 1: had that kind of attention from a guy. Hey, send

868
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:29,760
Speaker 1: him to me. Perfect. Actually we'll talk after this. That's cute.

869
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, you know, all a plan. He seems

870
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 1: like a really good guy too. Um. I also before

871
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 1: we I want to do another email. But did we

872
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: help her? Oh? Yeah, yeah, yeah, let him do it,

873
00:45:42,360 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 1: didn't Sata Sadie, Sada Sadie and back away. Yeah, and

874
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:49,120
Speaker 1: see what happens. And if nothing happens and you feel

875
00:45:49,200 --> 00:45:53,120
Speaker 1: like you need to make the move, be casual about it,

876
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: if anything, or just remember Man's rejection as God's pretend there.

877
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 1: So Sadie is a great Anatomy fan. Yes, And I

878
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 1: found this out because when Derek a spoiler alert, when

879
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 1: Derek died, you posted a video that was sobbing and

880
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:17,319
Speaker 1: eating pizza. It was a really low moment life. Oh yeah,

881
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:20,440
Speaker 1: I agree. I have actually photo evidence of one the

882
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 1: moment I saw my guy because I faced time Becca

883
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:25,200
Speaker 1: and she screenshot at it because she caught up. She

884
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 1: like binge watched all thirty nice seasons in like two months.

885
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 1: That's the way to do it. Honestly, it was pretty good.

886
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:33,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, Joell, I wish I could go back and

887
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 1: see them all for the first time. But um, are

888
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 1: you still like super fan, like you watch every Thursday

889
00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 1: or no, and you're not gonna let me for this.

890
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:43,759
Speaker 1: But after Derrek died, I just couldn't like I could

891
00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:45,880
Speaker 1: get it back into it. I tried. I stuck with

892
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 1: it for a little while, and I was like, it's

893
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 1: just not the same. So you're literally old Turkey man,

894
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 1: I just cut it off. I get it. I was

895
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 1: so bitter at Halid dare you did it? It was

896
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:59,919
Speaker 1: it was so short. I was like twenty minutes, anything

897
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 1: like three episodes, like take it in, give it a minute, okay,

898
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 1: then maybe slowly let him go. I would have held

899
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:07,400
Speaker 1: like you wish you would have held on for a little. Ye.

900
00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:10,479
Speaker 1: That made the problem with it. I was like, after

901
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 1: we have been in love with their seasons, I spent

902
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 1: with you in twenty a minute, You're going to take

903
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 1: you without a funeral or anything. Yeah, that really the

904
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 1: reaction of all the friends. I was like, I need it.

905
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:27,400
Speaker 1: I want to see them crying. I want to know

906
00:47:27,600 --> 00:47:29,759
Speaker 1: they're upset about that. I want them to feel what

907
00:47:29,920 --> 00:47:34,439
Speaker 1: I'm feeling. I know, Yeah, I'm quite disappointed that you jumped.

908
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 1: I actually got into Parenthood randomly and loved it, like

909
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:42,919
Speaker 1: it was so good. It was good. But I agree.

910
00:47:42,960 --> 00:47:45,439
Speaker 1: I was the only reason I powered through is because

911
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 1: I was just watching them yea back back. But well,

912
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:50,839
Speaker 1: I mean still, it's we We've talked about it a lot.

913
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 1: It's kind of like, alright, your tweets son killed me

914
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:57,280
Speaker 1: whenever you saw Meredith. I can't even call it Ellena

915
00:47:57,320 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 1: have to collar Meredith on the plane. I was like,

916
00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:04,440
Speaker 1: U ud to be honestly, the more interviews of her

917
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 1: that I see, I'm so glad I didn't approach her

918
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 1: because I felt like she totally would have been like

919
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 1: by and I would not have handled that well. It

920
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:16,640
Speaker 1: was better getting rejected by her husband than her, Yeah,

921
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:21,719
Speaker 1: because I feel like you been like, no, get away,

922
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 1: you're too close. Yeah, someone bit Beyonce? Did y'all see

923
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 1: all this, like all the stuff in the headlines about

924
00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 1: like someone bit Beyonce at a party? But they're do

925
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:38,080
Speaker 1: we know who it is? No, they're not saying who was,

926
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 1: but someone knows though, Yeah, yeah, yeah, that is crazy

927
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 1: and a lot of there was this one girl who

928
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:47,279
Speaker 1: was accused of biting her and she was like I

929
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 1: wish I could get close enough to yeah, to her,

930
00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 1: close enough to her. It's really funny to me because

931
00:48:59,200 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 1: I'm like it's came out of nowhere. I feel like

932
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:03,920
Speaker 1: it happened a while ago. Right, It's like so scary

933
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:05,719
Speaker 1: to me though, Like the people can be like on

934
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:11,359
Speaker 1: drugs and just like bite people. Like you know, when

935
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 1: bath salts were like a thing and that one they

936
00:49:13,680 --> 00:49:20,279
Speaker 1: were like eating people's faces like Okay, let's read one

937
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:23,239
Speaker 1: more email and then we have to wrap. Um, I

938
00:49:23,360 --> 00:49:24,839
Speaker 1: just want to we don't have to read this one.

939
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 1: But so that kind of took a friendship quiz like

940
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 1: two weeks ago, and one of the questions was what

941
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:33,640
Speaker 1: number in line would I be for her to call

942
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:37,839
Speaker 1: when she's pregnant. So we went through like I was like, okay,

943
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:39,279
Speaker 1: she's a big family, so I was like, he should

944
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 1: call her mom, should call her dad. She called her brother,

945
00:49:41,560 --> 00:49:43,799
Speaker 1: her three sisters, and then her brother in law. I'd

946
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:45,200
Speaker 1: be eight. And then we're like, yeah, yeah, we like

947
00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:47,400
Speaker 1: totally meshed up. Neither of one of us when we

948
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:50,920
Speaker 1: went through we call the father, so we'd call the

949
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:56,759
Speaker 1: father my god. Yeah. Yeah. It's just so sad that

950
00:49:57,160 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 1: that was even like a thought, say something I care

951
00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:05,880
Speaker 1: so single that you didn't even consider. Yeah, there's this

952
00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:09,560
Speaker 1: one I like, this is from Kelsey. Uh, ladies in

953
00:50:09,640 --> 00:50:12,040
Speaker 1: Mark and Easton, I need your help. Six years ago,

954
00:50:12,080 --> 00:50:14,400
Speaker 1: I met one of my classmates older brothers during my

955
00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 1: Prome weekend and he ended up being the guy I

956
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 1: lost my virginity too, I'm beknownst to him. We never

957
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 1: really dated then. It was honestly more of our friends

958
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 1: with benefits thing, and I was not about being with

959
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 1: anyone back then. Fast forward to this past summer, his

960
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:27,799
Speaker 1: older brother and wife and kids moved into the house

961
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 1: across the street from me, so I would see him

962
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:31,359
Speaker 1: every now and again, and we became friendly and even

963
00:50:31,400 --> 00:50:33,080
Speaker 1: tried to date for a little while, but ended up

964
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:35,359
Speaker 1: not working out between us. A couple of days ago,

965
00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:37,719
Speaker 1: his brother, my old classmate, like two of my picks

966
00:50:37,800 --> 00:50:39,840
Speaker 1: on Instagram. I didn't think anything of it until I

967
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 1: saw I had a Facebook message from him asking me

968
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:44,440
Speaker 1: if I still work at a retail store. I figured

969
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:46,839
Speaker 1: he probably wanted clothing advice or something, but I said, uh,

970
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:49,120
Speaker 1: I don't what's up? He replied he just wanted to

971
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 1: start a conversation to BH. We just started talking a

972
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 1: little then it kind of fizzled, which I didn't really mind.

973
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:56,920
Speaker 1: Then the next day he messaged me again saying come

974
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:59,560
Speaker 1: hang out. At that point, my irrational trauma from being

975
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:01,440
Speaker 1: bullied high schol took over my brain and I was like,

976
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:04,680
Speaker 1: someone's gonna be messing with me. So I h this

977
00:51:04,800 --> 00:51:06,759
Speaker 1: came out so out of left field, so immediately I

978
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:09,400
Speaker 1: was a little combative and er tree, just as I

979
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:12,319
Speaker 1: just as a defense mechanism. This was doing the St

980
00:51:12,360 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 1: Patrick's a prayed in my town, so I assumed by

981
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: that point he was probably just drunk. So I responded,

982
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:18,440
Speaker 1: L O L drink p D A light, good advice,

983
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:20,919
Speaker 1: and then he proceeded to assure me he wasn't drunk

984
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:22,880
Speaker 1: and he just generally wanted to see me. He inderstood

985
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:24,839
Speaker 1: it was out of left field. We didn't end up

986
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:28,040
Speaker 1: hanging out, though, But my question is is that taboo

987
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 1: if I hang out with him and see where it goes.

988
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:31,520
Speaker 1: I'm wondering if he even knows about me and his

989
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: brother's past. I'm so confused. I've heard stories about people

990
00:51:34,640 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 1: marrying their former significant other sibling after they dated. I

991
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 1: don't want to be that girl, but I have the

992
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:41,319
Speaker 1: desire to open the door to the potential for something help.

993
00:51:41,600 --> 00:51:43,400
Speaker 1: Thanks in advance for getting me through this whole thing.

994
00:51:43,520 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 1: For reference, I'm twenty three, love y'all. Kelsey can someone.

995
00:51:49,040 --> 00:51:54,400
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of a lot of trails here.

996
00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:58,279
Speaker 1: So she hooked up with a young man six years ago,

997
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 1: and now the brother is reaching out to her, but

998
00:52:03,280 --> 00:52:06,840
Speaker 1: she wants nobody. She wants to pull the brother switch.

999
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 1: That's all you need to matter. But come over to

1000
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:12,200
Speaker 1: the microphone. She wants to pull a brother switch. That

1001
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:15,279
Speaker 1: does the brother know about the other brother? We don't know.

1002
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 1: She doesn't know. I'm gonna guess know if it was

1003
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:20,719
Speaker 1: like a random cook up. Here's my advice. I have

1004
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 1: very strong feelings about this. There's a bazillion fish in

1005
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:27,800
Speaker 1: the sea. You don't need to jump in the family pool.

1006
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 1: I've jumped in the family pool. It was not good. Yeah, Like,

1007
00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 1: there's so many humans in the world. Why you need

1008
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:37,359
Speaker 1: a date two brothers? Who cares? She dated one brother

1009
00:52:37,640 --> 00:52:40,160
Speaker 1: ten years and that wasn't a They didn't date. They

1010
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 1: hooked up, right. If you're why do you care? I mean,

1011
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:46,480
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it wasn't like they were in a

1012
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 1: long relationship. But she has slept with him, So what

1013
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 1: I mean, this nice guy is pursuing her. I don't know.

1014
00:52:54,480 --> 00:52:57,200
Speaker 1: It's tricky. I would say, I would say, meet up

1015
00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:02,400
Speaker 1: with it. See I don't know friends with them, but

1016
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 1: I would tread lightly into those waters. The brothers find out.

1017
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 1: That's where it's like, like, let them handle that, because

1018
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:12,880
Speaker 1: I did and it did not go well for me.

1019
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:14,839
Speaker 1: Did none of you see the Will and Grace where

1020
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 1: she dated the grandpa, the father, and the son. That's disgusting.

1021
00:53:19,719 --> 00:53:25,560
Speaker 1: It was so hilarious what you did. Brothers. We've talked

1022
00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 1: about this. Which brother. Oh yeah, I mean personally I

1023
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:36,680
Speaker 1: would say, don't do it. But exactly, I've kissed two brothers.

1024
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 1: I just remembered, Yeah, why to college with his name

1025
00:53:41,120 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 1: started with a J. And then his brother didn't come

1026
00:53:44,040 --> 00:53:47,239
Speaker 1: to college. I don't remember his name, but that was

1027
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:52,120
Speaker 1: in Tahoe. And I think that's totally fine. You gotta

1028
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 1: come to the mic, come to the mine. Poor Paulina

1029
00:53:54,680 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 1: wants to talk, but she has no money. No, we

1030
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:00,960
Speaker 1: need more. I mean, my two of my ex is

1031
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:06,480
Speaker 1: our first cousin. That's like nothing, that's barely related. Yeah,

1032
00:54:06,560 --> 00:54:09,160
Speaker 1: when you're having the cousins thing, and it wasn't that bad.

1033
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:17,320
Speaker 1: It's totally everyone's mature about it. Yeah, I think they know.

1034
00:54:17,880 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 1: Like I'm sure the little brother didn't even know that

1035
00:54:20,600 --> 00:54:22,319
Speaker 1: I kissed the big brother, and the big brother doesn't

1036
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:23,480
Speaker 1: even know that I kissed the little brother. And I

1037
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:25,600
Speaker 1: don't even know them, but I think she slept with him.

1038
00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 1: I think kissing is one thing. Kissing his child's play.

1039
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:38,680
Speaker 1: If your brothers. Yes, if you have been inside my body,

1040
00:54:38,800 --> 00:54:41,360
Speaker 1: don't get it, that's fine. That could be your line.

1041
00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:46,440
Speaker 1: So that's Tanya's line. Sleeping together makes it. It's just gross,

1042
00:54:46,600 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 1: and then you're gonna sleep with the next brother, Like no, Kelsey,

1043
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:52,720
Speaker 1: lots of fish in the seat. What if they're good guys,

1044
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:57,319
Speaker 1: good family guys. I wish I could think of an

1045
00:54:57,360 --> 00:54:59,800
Speaker 1: example of this where like it totally worked out. Give me,

1046
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 1: give me time till next week, next week? Yeah, yeah,

1047
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Speaker 1: I guess if you've had this, If anyone's listening and

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Speaker 1: they've had a similar situation, please email us or let

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Speaker 1: us know, because I'm I'm I'm a little torn. In

1050
00:55:13,200 --> 00:55:17,200
Speaker 1: my experience, it didn't go well, but maybe their success

1051
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:19,320
Speaker 1: story out there. I dated a young lady when I

1052
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:21,359
Speaker 1: was in high school, and then years later I hooked

1053
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:29,920
Speaker 1: up with her twin sister, and neither one will speak

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00:55:29,960 --> 00:55:33,239
Speaker 1: to me anymore. I can't image in neither neither speak

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Speaker 1: to me either, Like, couldn't you even get a conversation

1056
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Speaker 1: into well, sorry, wait, who's sorry? Kind of playing both esh.

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Speaker 1: I'm saying he's a little yeah, but they were had

1058
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Speaker 1: a right to be upset. I think some bachelor at

1059
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Speaker 1: chick had a guy on her show, and I think

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Speaker 1: she married his brother. Now I'm not sure, Michael Stagliano,

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Speaker 1: are you nodding? Story? Who is it? So? Wait, Kendall

1062
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:04,839
Speaker 1: and Jared are here because their hosting help by second Dating. Yeah,

1063
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:07,839
Speaker 1: so once you get done listening here, swing all over

1064
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Speaker 1: to help by sucond dating Kendall and Jared in the house. Alright,

1065
00:56:13,480 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 1: so you haven't you you remember who this was on

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Speaker 1: The Bachelor? I do remember. I actually a twin sister,

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Speaker 1: so um, interesting. Have you ever had a situation where

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Speaker 1: you all heard the same my ster? And I don't

1069
00:56:23,080 --> 00:56:26,920
Speaker 1: have the same type of guy? Convenient? But the funny

1070
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Speaker 1: thing is that he used to be my assistant teacher

1071
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Speaker 1: in high school? Who? Um, the one of the twins? Okay,

1072
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Speaker 1: so what was she talking about? Is Dana Pappus was dating?

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Speaker 1: I don't know either one of their names, but Stagliano

1074
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Speaker 1: had two brothers, so she was dating one. Well, one

1075
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Speaker 1: of them was on the show, the younger one, and

1076
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Speaker 1: I think the other one dated one on her season,

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Speaker 1: and then she ended up dating the She ended up

1078
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Speaker 1: marrying the guy, right, and they have babies. What was

1079
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Speaker 1: the guy's name? Is Michael's brother. No, I don't know either,

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Speaker 1: because I thought that he was Michael. I went up

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Speaker 1: to my Tanner and Jade's wed. I was like, hey, Michael,

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Speaker 1: what's going on. Good to see you again because I

1083
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Speaker 1: met him a long time ago, and he was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm not Michael. And I was like, I'll shut the

1085
00:57:05,400 --> 00:57:08,279
Speaker 1: hell off, like Michael, it's Jared Stephen, that's right. And

1086
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:10,040
Speaker 1: he's like, no, no, no, I'm his twin brother, Stephen.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, all right, Michael, because Michael's like

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00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 1: a prankster. And I was like, Michael, I know who

1089
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Speaker 1: you are. Shut the hell up. And he's like no, no, no, no, no,

1090
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Speaker 1: I'm Steven. And then I realized I'm an idiot. And

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Speaker 1: he has a twin brother and he's the whole time

1092
00:57:20,960 --> 00:57:23,200
Speaker 1: who married a former contestant and they're super twins. Like

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00:57:23,280 --> 00:57:26,160
Speaker 1: they look identical. Although I've totally gotten this wrong. I

1094
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Speaker 1: just googled it. He was on Jillian's season, So I'll

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Speaker 1: come up with another example a great conversation. Okay, we're

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Speaker 1: gonna wrap on that one. We really went around and

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Speaker 1: for nothing had nothing to do with Deanna and her marriage. Sorry, Dianna.

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Speaker 1: Sadie thank you so much. Here. I highly recommend reading

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Speaker 1: Helix Sleep. Um what else do we have? Thank you

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Speaker 1: for your emails, thank you for your conflicting homework. We're

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Speaker 1: going to get our listener the photoshop of the guy,

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Speaker 1: and then we're going to think of other guys to

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Speaker 1: pretend for you, to pretend you're like pretending that you've

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Speaker 1: been catfish whilst catfishing exactly, all right, Mark next week? Alright, Say,

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Speaker 1: do you want to call time of death? Time of

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Speaker 1: Death L fourteen three nine. Yeah, no