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Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I almost famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with our radio. Everybody Ben's in studio. I'm actually in studio.

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Speaker 1: This feels weird and nice. He looks like particularly good

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Speaker 1: today ladies like super sparkly. His eyes are just bright

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Speaker 1: and shiny. I have gotten into the guyliner. So uh,

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Speaker 1: if anybody hasn't noticed, um, I guess why would you notice?

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Speaker 1: I've been. I've had Invisilne for the last three months,

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Speaker 1: and Monday is my last day of invisi line. So

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Speaker 1: thank you pro Smile Dentistry in Tender, Colorado for the

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Speaker 1: invisile line. Wait a second, now, why do you only

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Speaker 1: have three months? What does that? My teeth weren't that bad? Um?

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Speaker 1: I had? I had a couple of things moving on

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Speaker 1: the bottom, and and they said if I let that

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Speaker 1: keep going, it's just gonna get worse and worse. And

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Speaker 1: so I took advantage of the opportunity to get in

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Speaker 1: visilne um and now and now they're leaving me, which

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Speaker 1: is a good thing. But I have to take them

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Speaker 1: out before every podcast, like spit on the mic and

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Speaker 1: I slear my words. I mean I would do it,

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Speaker 1: It's just I don't know it would be the best sound.

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Speaker 1: Oh gross, I was at the dentist this week too,

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Speaker 1: and they're like your bottomed either shifting, you need to

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Speaker 1: get a retainer so you know things that it's not

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Speaker 1: a terrible thing. Actually, um, it really isn't. And do

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Speaker 1: it during a season of life when you're not making

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Speaker 1: out with a lot of people, okay, like right now

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Speaker 1: for you liked house the perfect time. It actually did

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Speaker 1: come into play when I got him, so I'm not kidding.

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Speaker 1: So when I when I decided to get in Visilin,

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Speaker 1: I thought, all right, what is on the slate here

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Speaker 1: coming up? Um a podcast? I can take them up

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Speaker 1: for a podcast. It really comes down to what are

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Speaker 1: you eating and who are you kissing? If you're not

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Speaker 1: comfortable with the person you're kissing, like, don't get in

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Speaker 1: Visilin yet, because you would have to take them out

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Speaker 1: every time, and then you have these buttons on your

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Speaker 1: teeth and it just I feel like it could feel weird,

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Speaker 1: a little bumpy. Well, wouldn't it be interesting if since

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Speaker 1: I've never had a season of my life for like

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Speaker 1: making out with someone was a constant that what if

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Speaker 1: I got in Visilin and then I found that person

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Speaker 1: where Wisconsin. I feel like that would be a huge

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Speaker 1: step in relationship and really positive step. I think so too.

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Speaker 1: I get insigne now over Thanksgiving if one of the

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Speaker 1: first things you did when you guys are laying in

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Speaker 1: the couch and he leans over and he goes, hey,

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Speaker 1: can I kiss you? And you said I would love

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Speaker 1: for you to kiss me, but just give me a woman.

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Speaker 1: I gotta take out my my retainers. I don't know

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Speaker 1: anything hotter. It's really hot. Hey. Speaking of hot um,

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Speaker 1: we have one of my favorite people ever in Bachelor

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Speaker 1: Nation who who She is beautiful herself, but she is

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Speaker 1: engaged to one of the hottest men ever to come

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Speaker 1: to the franchise, Sean Booth. We have Caitlin Bristow on

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Speaker 1: the line. Guys, why is it always the shop of

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Speaker 1: the hot one in this relationship? Caitlin, I don't get

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Speaker 1: to see Shan much anymore, and so whenever I can

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Speaker 1: talk about him, I get really excited. And so I'll

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Speaker 1: just give him a ton of compliments to try to

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Speaker 1: to try to fulfill my lack of Sean in my life.

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Speaker 1: Nothing me feel better than a Sean Booth compliment like

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Speaker 1: Carl Evan's wedding. When he kept talking on me, I

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Speaker 1: was like, I've never felt better about myself. Yeah, because

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Speaker 1: he could have like a whole pocket full of compliments

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Speaker 1: and you could just need one to save your life

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Speaker 1: and he won't give it to you, So you're lucky

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Speaker 1: to get one. Well, Okaylyn, we want to talk to

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Speaker 1: you about your big Broadway debut. How did this come

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Speaker 1: can't believe it's all happening. I feel like I've put

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Speaker 1: Like it's about time this happened. Um. It's basically a

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Speaker 1: Christmas holiday feel good show for two months. It has

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Speaker 1: YouTube sensations, and basically they reached out for me to

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Speaker 1: So not only am I hosting it, I get to

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Speaker 1: Like like old school real Christmas songs like Oh Holy Night,

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Speaker 1: first thing that was surprising to me not that you're hosting.

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Speaker 1: I'm not surprised at all that they would ask you

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Speaker 1: Mayer and going for it. That's incredible. I mean honestly,

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Speaker 1: like we're like that just come out of nowhere? Or

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Speaker 1: did somebody ask you to do that? Like, what's the inspiration? No,

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Speaker 1: you know what, my whole life, Um, I've always loved

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Speaker 1: fell in love refell in love with singing again. Being

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Speaker 1: talented people that I started meeting songwriters. I started hanging

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Speaker 1: four songs now and I'm recording recording my last one tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna start putting some out soon. I was gonna say, Okay,

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Speaker 1: album actually dropping? Well, I'm thinking after my Broadway debut.

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Speaker 1: Time the life that you're living right now, after your

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Speaker 1: Broadway I'm dropping an album alright. That is a first

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Speaker 1: nation for sure. But seriously, Caitlin the pop star, Like,

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Speaker 1: if you learned the bachelorrette, I could totally see you

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Speaker 1: as a pop star. Well maybe maybe being in the

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Speaker 1: Bachelor world was just a little segway. You know, Yes,

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Speaker 1: you have really done I mean, you know, living in

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Speaker 1: a good way. Right. You've always been energetic, You've always

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Speaker 1: been outgoing. People have always loved you and you and

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm just giving you a ton of compliment.

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Speaker 1: Are you hitting on me? I might be hitting you again.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how to get out of it. Like, sorry, Shot,

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Speaker 1: I'm stuck in a cycle. Every time I talked to Caitlin,

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Speaker 1: I'm just getting used to giving her compliments. But no, honestly,

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Speaker 1: Where is your life moving? Um? You know, I really

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Speaker 1: and everyone keeps wanting me to stay, Well, what about

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Speaker 1: you when you hear you sing. Well, I've always thought

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Speaker 1: I do want to ask, though, Okay, how is Sean

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Speaker 1: he's so good. He's just killing the fitness thing and

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Speaker 1: but like Tucker doesn't understand that, and it's really sad

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Speaker 1: don't try to hide it. Can The other day I

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Speaker 1: My friends are huge fans of you and Sean, and

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Speaker 1: I am as well. I watch your videos and I

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Speaker 1: That's why you're glowing. Why I'm glowing, actually said I'm

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Speaker 1: take me four minutes until I was checking my phone. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: I looked on Instagram and there's a picture of Sean

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Speaker 1: And I was like, gosh, dang it, Like I'm never like,

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Speaker 1: there's nothing that makes you feel worse about yourself than

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Speaker 1: seeing a picture of Sean and a tight shirt. He

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Speaker 1: let me know them. Yeah, this is so funny because

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Speaker 1: it's always Sean. The guys like lose their crap over

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Speaker 1: Sean being just like so hot in having everything going on.

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Speaker 1: j J is a buddy, someone to kind of stay

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Speaker 1: out of this. One thing I do know about JJ

425
00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:14,200
Speaker 1: is he he's very honest in his filter, as we've

426
00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:17,440
Speaker 1: seen even on shows, he doesn't have one, like he thinks,

427
00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:20,640
Speaker 1: like what he thinks is what he says. Um. I'll

428
00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:22,800
Speaker 1: have to go back and watch this episode to see

429
00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:24,840
Speaker 1: what this letter says. It just doesn't sound like a

430
00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:27,760
Speaker 1: very healthy exercise. I don't see the benefit. What was

431
00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:31,080
Speaker 1: the benefit in this drama for a TV show exactly,

432
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 1: not because I mean the way that we read the

433
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:36,879
Speaker 1: letters was us half of us actually pretending like we

434
00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:39,800
Speaker 1: had died, and then he was basically at my death

435
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:42,280
Speaker 1: bed and he was like and he was admitting the

436
00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:45,760
Speaker 1: things that he didn't like. I know. The doctor was like, JJ,

437
00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:47,920
Speaker 1: this is the last thing you ever said to Julius,

438
00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 1: so go ahead and read this to her on her deathbed,

439
00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:52,639
Speaker 1: and it was just probably the worst part was just

440
00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 1: that he was worried that I was going to get

441
00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:57,040
Speaker 1: bigger and that he thought that I already was. And

442
00:21:57,440 --> 00:22:00,119
Speaker 1: I mean, there was a lot like that. J. We

443
00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:03,920
Speaker 1: need to have him on next week to scold him. Um,

444
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,359
Speaker 1: that say, doesn't sound like a healthy practice, Like, okay,

445
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:08,840
Speaker 1: here's the deal, not defending JJ. I don't know what

446
00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:10,800
Speaker 1: the letter said, so I really have no basis for this,

447
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:14,040
Speaker 1: but the practice in itself doesn't sound healthy to me. Right,

448
00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 1: You ask somebody to write a letter to be honest,

449
00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:17,960
Speaker 1: to get out all of your issues, which I think

450
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:19,959
Speaker 1: is healthy in relationship is to say, Okay, these are

451
00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:23,520
Speaker 1: the things that I'm not not exactly excited about in

452
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,160
Speaker 1: my partner, or these are the things I have issues

453
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Speaker 1: with my partner. I don't think that's a bad practice

454
00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:29,359
Speaker 1: if you like put it in a journal and you

455
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:31,240
Speaker 1: keep it to yourself, or you talk to a counselor

456
00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 1: or a confident in it, but don't do it with

457
00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 1: the expectation of, hey, my partners ever going to see this,

458
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 1: so it won't actually affect them personally. This is just

459
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:40,720
Speaker 1: a practice for me to get off my chest then

460
00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:43,440
Speaker 1: make you read it like totally unfair and totally uncalled

461
00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:46,359
Speaker 1: for on a part of these relationship doctors, the love

462
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:49,840
Speaker 1: Doctors totally. Jade and Tanner did this last year, and

463
00:22:50,040 --> 00:22:53,040
Speaker 1: Jade said that it was like the most emotionally exhausted

464
00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:56,160
Speaker 1: sixteen days of your life. Do you agree? A million percent?

465
00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:57,879
Speaker 1: I wanted to leave. It was like out there so

466
00:22:58,119 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 1: ja yeah, I mean the first stay it was just

467
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:05,280
Speaker 1: like super overwhelmed. And I mean after the letter came out,

468
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:06,720
Speaker 1: I was just like, oh my gosh, how am I

469
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 1: supposed to continue like doing therapy, you know, with someone

470
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:14,640
Speaker 1: that I don't truly trust anymore? Right? Yeah, so yeah,

471
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 1: it was exhausting. So today you you were and JJ

472
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:21,280
Speaker 1: are no longer together. Um, I'll spoil that. I happen

473
00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 1: to know that from my insight sources, and you are

474
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:27,800
Speaker 1: dating somebody that actually told me about Yeah. He you

475
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,440
Speaker 1: met him at Carly and Evan's wedding and he is there.

476
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 1: He is who Aaron Bass? It is Evan Bass's friend.

477
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:40,440
Speaker 1: There that dark Bass family continues to pick up the chicks.

478
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:43,880
Speaker 1: So I've been together for roughly five months now. Tell

479
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:45,480
Speaker 1: us about how it was at the wedding. Was it

480
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 1: love at first sight? You were kind of getty over

481
00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 1: him and actually wasn't love at first night, just because

482
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:52,720
Speaker 1: I didn't know much about him. I was there for

483
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:54,800
Speaker 1: You're not supposed to know the person you fall in

484
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,639
Speaker 1: love with the first night. I mean, my point was

485
00:23:57,680 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 1: that I was focused there on Carly, and I was

486
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 1: there for Ali were in Mexico. I'm not thinking about

487
00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:05,200
Speaker 1: like trying to meet something your bridesmaid. Yeah, that's true.

488
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,440
Speaker 1: He was a groomsman, and so I met him when

489
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 1: we were trying on our you know, wedding outfits and

490
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:13,199
Speaker 1: all of that, and we all went to dinner together

491
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 1: and went out with um Wells and went out drinking

492
00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:20,200
Speaker 1: in to the bar and just ended up talking to him.

493
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 1: He's amazing, he's um. He looks nothing like Evan. I

494
00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:30,800
Speaker 1: wouldn't have even thought they were not at all. Sorry,

495
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:35,440
Speaker 1: but he's very funny, he's charming, he's sweet. Um, It's

496
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 1: just not something that I thought about at that time,

497
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: just because he lives in Nashville. I live at San Diego.

498
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:43,640
Speaker 1: I've just done a long distancing, you know. Um. But

499
00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 1: the more time I spent with him, the more I realized.

500
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:49,720
Speaker 1: I was like, Hey, this guy is pretty cool. And um,

501
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:52,160
Speaker 1: he ended up coming to visit me in San Diego

502
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 1: and the rest is kind of history from there. What

503
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 1: an incredible story, I mean, it is. It is crazy

504
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 1: how you can meet somebody and then you have to

505
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 1: meet a met a wedding, which I feel like a

506
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:02,360
Speaker 1: lot of people meet at weddings. I mean, I think

507
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 1: it's a great way to I was gonna say, I

508
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 1: wonder I want to ask you actually when she said, hey,

509
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 1: I was there for Carly. I'm going to the wedding

510
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,360
Speaker 1: for Carly. I was there to support Carly and all

511
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 1: of that. And you and not meet somebody is what

512
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:16,639
Speaker 1: Julie just said. And you go, well, you're at a wedding,

513
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 1: did you in your back you head think what weddings

514
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 1: are the best place to meet people? Um? You know,

515
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 1: not only is there an open bar, which I think

516
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 1: can be dangerous and meeting people too, but I think

517
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 1: that people are the right mindset there because love is

518
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:32,439
Speaker 1: on their mind and they're saying seeing this very happy couple,

519
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 1: um dedicate their lives to each other. And then you're like, okay,

520
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:39,840
Speaker 1: well I think this guy, even if he's not normally

521
00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 1: in this marriage, UM, point of mind, point of mind,

522
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 1: a frame of mind. I get it. I think of mind.

523
00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 1: I think that maybe today he's thinking about that and

524
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:53,200
Speaker 1: everybody looks their best. It's just what do you think?

525
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:55,920
Speaker 1: I agree? No, there's love is in the air. It's

526
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:57,479
Speaker 1: always when when love is in the air and you're

527
00:25:57,480 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 1: celebrating love, I think love flows from it. Um your

528
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:03,560
Speaker 1: good friend for going to support Carly at this way

529
00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 1: and Julia. But I'm glad you kept your eyes open

530
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 1: and your heart open to what was hiding beneath the

531
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:16,679
Speaker 1: Bass family and that was beautiful lover. Yet. Yes, yes,

532
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,800
Speaker 1: he was the first guy that you introduced Ireland too.

533
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:23,600
Speaker 1: Since your husband passed away. That's a lot. That's a

534
00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,399
Speaker 1: big deal. How did he handle it? Was he impressive?

535
00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:28,639
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, he was so sweet with her. He

536
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 1: got her a giant pink teddy bear that was bigger

537
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,640
Speaker 1: than her, and you know, of course that went were

538
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 1: over previously, and then we went to the zoo and

539
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,840
Speaker 1: it was just really fun. It was only for like

540
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,439
Speaker 1: four hours, but it was just so much fun. And

541
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 1: now they faced them all the time and it's really cute.

542
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: That's so cute. Would you ever consider moving to Nashville

543
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 1: to be closer to him? I would consider it. It's

544
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 1: a big I can see nobody can see this. But

545
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 1: when you asked that, Julia kind of lit up a

546
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,919
Speaker 1: little bit, like this has already been talked about. You

547
00:26:56,040 --> 00:27:00,040
Speaker 1: and Carly sister in law. I know that's some that

548
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 1: we've never seen before. Yeah, I mean Carley came straight

549
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 1: to my house after she came, you know, from getting

550
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 1: engaged from Evan on Paradise, and I remember thinking like, wait,

551
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 1: who are you engaged? Shoes? She's like the erect called

552
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:16,120
Speaker 1: this function guy. I'm like, wait what he's got he's got?

553
00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: Back then, I just would have never thought that I

554
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:22,440
Speaker 1: would ever like be dating, you know, his brother, and like,

555
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 1: it's just crazy, but we could get two bachelor marriages

556
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:30,680
Speaker 1: out of that one meeting. You just got so excited.

557
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 1: I know. I'm sure she was going to kill me

558
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:36,720
Speaker 1: after this. That was a beautiful We have a couple

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00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,160
Speaker 1: of emails. A lot of people are huge fans of Julia,

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00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: and so we have a couple of emails that came

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00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:44,520
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Speaker 1: And I said that as you're saying imagery right. So

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Speaker 1: now it just sounds really creepy and weird that I

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Speaker 1: said nothing. Maybe just some yeah, just in case there's

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Speaker 1: some oil splash, all right at some emails? All right, Yeah, Julia,

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Speaker 1: our fans knew that you were coming on, so we

609
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 1: have a couple of emails just for you. This one

610
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Speaker 1: is this one sad. It's from Susan. My partner died

611
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: six months ago, and obviously that was incredibly devastating for me.

612
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 1: I know, I'm not ready for another serious relationship, but

613
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 1: it has been very lonely, and I've actually tried to

614
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 1: date casually. I hooked up with my friend's roommate. Things

615
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 1: got super awkward. When he asked me something that brought

616
00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 1: up my partner. I text him to ask if he

617
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 1: wanted to just be friends or if there was something

618
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 1: else going on. He said that he did not want

619
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 1: a serious relationship and wasn't good at casual dating. The

620
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 1: next week I was hanging out with his roommate, he

621
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 1: mentioned hanging out with the guy I hooked up with

622
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: and his new girlfriend. Obviously he was lying when he

623
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:16,920
Speaker 1: said he didn't want a relationship. This really makes me

624
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 1: think that he was overwhelmed by the fact that I'm

625
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 1: a widow. Have you ever had experiences similar to this

626
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 1: and do you have any advice for young widows who

627
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 1: are dipping their toes back into the dating pool. Um, Well,

628
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 1: the first thing is I can say that there's I

629
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: don't think there's a certain time frame that you should

630
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: be basing it off of. I think it's just based

631
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 1: on however you're feeling. Everyone's different, every situation is different. Um,

632
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:43,960
Speaker 1: as far as you know, people being scared off by it.

633
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: If someone scared off by he's definitely not the right

634
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 1: person for you. And UM, I mean, I don't think

635
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:54,960
Speaker 1: that's something that truly really matters. I think maybe maybe

636
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Speaker 1: she wasn't Like I don't know, maybe they didn't meshed

637
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 1: as well as she thought, and maybe she just needs

638
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: to take time to herself and you know, figure out

639
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:05,960
Speaker 1: who she truly is and what she truly wants and

640
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 1: not try to be dating. Do you think that possibly

641
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 1: he was thrown off by the fact that her husband

642
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 1: had only died six months earlier. I think six months

643
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:19,560
Speaker 1: is a very short amount of time for grief. Um. However,

644
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: you know, like I said, each situation is different. I

645
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:25,719
Speaker 1: don't um. I think everyone just has to decide for themselves.

646
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 1: I think when we have a loss or we have

647
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 1: a whole from whatever it is, you do have to

648
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 1: react and try to fill that somehow, and if you

649
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 1: don't do with a positive thing, it can be detrimental

650
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 1: to who you are as a person. I think in general,

651
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 1: like if you're losing somebody, no matter if it's a

652
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 1: father or a husband, or even like a breakup of

653
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 1: somebody that you've been with for a long time or divorce,

654
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 1: I think any of those situations, you just need to

655
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 1: take your time figure out who you are, what you

656
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 1: truly want, um, and just do take the time to

657
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 1: heal for yourself. I think it's important to feel whole

658
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 1: before you try to enter back into a relationship because

659
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 1: then you're just you're hoping that they can fill the void,

660
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 1: which they never will. So you have to do that yourself,

661
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: and hopefully you take the time to do that. It's uh,

662
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 1: you are a testament to this and it's something that

663
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 1: is encouraging for me to see and hear about you.

664
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 1: And I want you to speak to listeners out there.

665
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 1: We do have a lot of um young ladies and

666
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 1: men that listen to the show. You know, when you

667
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 1: go through a tragedy in life, Ah, it often feels

668
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 1: like it will never go away, right, that that just

669
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:36,360
Speaker 1: pain and that you'll never heal. But you're a testament

670
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 1: that you can heal, that you can move on, right.

671
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: Had I mean, can you give some encouragement, just some

672
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:45,080
Speaker 1: words of wisdom based on some experience to the people listening. Yeah,

673
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 1: So for me personally, I mean, when my husband died,

674
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 1: I had no idea what I was gonna do. My

675
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 1: daughter was seven weeks old. I had just become a mom.

676
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 1: I moved back to Oregon, where my family is from,

677
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:59,240
Speaker 1: because I was living in southern California and I just

678
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 1: had I was in no state to be you know,

679
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:05,480
Speaker 1: raising a child by myself. Um, So for me, I

680
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 1: you know, went to the comfort of my family to

681
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:13,239
Speaker 1: try to just like rebuild a life. And um, I

682
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 1: think just the main thing is is that, you know,

683
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: I allowed myself to cry myself to sleep probably for

684
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 1: an entire year, and then after that I was like, okay,

685
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 1: like I have to make a choice at this point,

686
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:29,359
Speaker 1: Like I can't wallow and my sorrows for probably ever

687
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 1: and probably no one would blame me for that. But

688
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,040
Speaker 1: I look at my little girl, and I look at

689
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 1: my life. Is this what I want for my life? No,

690
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 1: it isn't, and this wasn't my choice, and it is

691
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 1: my choice how I move forward. So at this point

692
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 1: I have to choose to be happy. I have to

693
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 1: choose to smile at my daughter, and I have to

694
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 1: choose to show her when you fall down, you stand

695
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 1: back up and you start something new. So I think

696
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,960
Speaker 1: that's just the main thing is that it really truly

697
00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 1: is a choice to be happy. It's something to sit

698
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 1: on for say, it is even as you say it,

699
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 1: like it's a choice to be happy. You know, I

700
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 1: think for me and my experiences in life, I often

701
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 1: wait for that moment's okay, now I'm good. You know,

702
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:13,319
Speaker 1: when I wake up in the morning, Okay, now today

703
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: is the day that changes everything, and it doesn't exactly

704
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,360
Speaker 1: go that way. And so for coming from somebody like

705
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: you who has been there and as a testament has

706
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:22,840
Speaker 1: the wisdom to share that, it's it has to be

707
00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 1: a choice. And for the listeners out there, we get

708
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:28,120
Speaker 1: a ton of emails about relationships and about breakups and

709
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:32,400
Speaker 1: about loss from the from everybody that listens to podcasts,

710
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 1: and oftentimes I think Astley and I are kind of

711
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 1: at a lack of words and wisdom because we just

712
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 1: we don't know. But but what you're saying is it's

713
00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 1: a choice. Choose to be happy, to choose to move on.

714
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:47,439
Speaker 1: It's okay, it's okay to be happy. They won't want

715
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:49,360
Speaker 1: you to move on because they want you to stay.

716
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 1: Well for me personally, well, I've noticed and I've talked

717
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 1: to people. When you know you're in a situation where

718
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 1: your spouse dies, people have a hard time with you

719
00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: moving on. You're not that person's spouse anymore. So I

720
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:06,359
Speaker 1: think it it's hard, but you have to not worry

721
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 1: about that because it's your life and you're not that

722
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 1: person's spouse anymore and you're you, so you have to

723
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:20,040
Speaker 1: like reclaim your identity. How long did it take you

724
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 1: to feel like you could start dating again and you

725
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 1: were you again? Um? I would say like after the

726
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 1: first year. Like I said, the first year, it was

727
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:32,320
Speaker 1: just so hard, all the first everything. Um, and then

728
00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 1: after that, I just I just I literally I'll never

729
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 1: forget the day I woke up and I was like,

730
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,399
Speaker 1: no more of this, no more of this. I'm gonna

731
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 1: do things that I want to do, and I'm gonna

732
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:45,440
Speaker 1: have a great life with my daughter. I have this

733
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 1: beautiful blessing, and um, I moved back to California, which

734
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,000
Speaker 1: is where I initially was before, and that where I

735
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 1: wanted to live. And so that was like my first

736
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 1: step was just like you know, I can do this,

737
00:36:56,920 --> 00:37:00,399
Speaker 1: and um, I didn't start dating. I would say for like,

738
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 1: it was definitely over a year about the Bachelor time, right,

739
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:07,719
Speaker 1: Bachelor was like almost two years, like a year and

740
00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 1: a half two years. Do you think that was sort

741
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 1: of a helpful way to kind of like you're you're

742
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:16,959
Speaker 1: jumping in so hard, but this is the thing I went.

743
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 1: I went on match dot Com because I was like

744
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:21,360
Speaker 1: throwing myself back and I was like, okay, I gotta

745
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:23,400
Speaker 1: do this. I don't think we had like cool like

746
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 1: bumble ups back then. So we went on match dot

747
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 1: Com and I went on the Worst Days to you guys.

748
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 1: You Oh my god, it was so terrible. I just

749
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 1: remember coming home and being like, this is what's left?

750
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,839
Speaker 1: Like what the heck am I going to do? This

751
00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 1: is awful? Um? And so I was laughing and I'm like,

752
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:42,279
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna apply to be on the Bachelor because

753
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:46,240
Speaker 1: the Bachelor's screened, like I don't have to worry about that. UM.

754
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,840
Speaker 1: And my friends like, oh my god, you actually should

755
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 1: apply to be on the Bachelor, and I'm like what Okay.

756
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 1: So anyways, that's how that happened. But and did the

757
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 1: sense of community that came with the show really help

758
00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 1: you get off your feet? I mean I feel like

759
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: I truly was like myself again before I went out

760
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,319
Speaker 1: to Bachelor, because the thing is I wasn't trying to

761
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 1: heal myself by like throwing myself on a reality that

762
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:14,359
Speaker 1: would have been one of those bad decisions. Let's fill

763
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 1: a void with the back. If anybody out there is

764
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 1: a little public service announcement. If you have a void

765
00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 1: in life, do not fill that void with reality Television's great,

766
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 1: that's a great pointer. I have one last question for you.

767
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 1: You're talking about how you had to make that choice

768
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: to be happy, and it had to be conscious. So

769
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:38,319
Speaker 1: how long did it go from being conscious? Like I'm

770
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 1: gonna smile, I'm gonna laugh, I'm gonna do what I

771
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 1: like supposedly want to do, and maybe my brain, but

772
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: not in my soul right now, because your soul was

773
00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 1: probably still sad. How long did it take for those

774
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:52,960
Speaker 1: things that you were telling yourself to do to come naturally? Honestly,

775
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 1: it was pretty quickly. Once I like made the shift,

776
00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 1: everything just I just started doing all the things that

777
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 1: I need to do, and I didn't worry about what

778
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 1: other people thought of me or we're judging me for

779
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 1: I just was doing what truly made me happy, and

780
00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:11,359
Speaker 1: I didn't. It's not that I didn't care about other

781
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: people's thoughts anymore, it's just that I didn't. I had

782
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 1: been so sad for so long that I was just done.

783
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:19,800
Speaker 1: I like that. It's kind of like that self fulfilling prophecy,

784
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 1: Like you're saying, I forced myself to smile and pretty

785
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:25,080
Speaker 1: quickly I didn't have to force it anyway. It's true,

786
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:27,319
Speaker 1: that's really good advice. It is really good because I

787
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:29,880
Speaker 1: don't think I've really ever had a time where I

788
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:32,319
Speaker 1: was in such grief. But I'm thinking back in the

789
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:35,479
Speaker 1: times that I could say we're like my darkest which

790
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:39,880
Speaker 1: really weren't that darkness scheme of life. Um. I'm just

791
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: thinking about like if one day I had said stop,

792
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 1: just like wake up and be happy and just keep

793
00:39:45,200 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: trying to smile and not feel like this, I just

794
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 1: wonder how long that would have taken. Julie Kenny, you

795
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:56,879
Speaker 1: are a testament to um perseverance and to making those

796
00:39:56,880 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 1: positive choices. Thank you for coming on too to day

797
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:01,799
Speaker 1: with us, and thank you for being vulnerable and sharing

798
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 1: your story. What I want to tell you is that

799
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 1: there are a lot of people out there and listen

800
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 1: to this, and so you know, Actuley knows a piece

801
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:09,800
Speaker 1: of the story. I know piece of the story, and

802
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 1: there's people out there that probably know pieces of your story.

803
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 1: But for you to explain it and to be intentional about, hey,

804
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 1: this is the things you can do to to heal

805
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: means a lot to everybody out there. Listening. So thank

806
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 1: you for coming in here today. We appreciate you. A

807
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:25,800
Speaker 1: round of applause for Julie coming out. Thank you for

808
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: driving up from San Diego. It's a beautiful day for

809
00:40:28,600 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 1: a drive. Julie, you look good today. You look really

810
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 1: good today. You're glowing. Yeah, you're saying you don't have

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Speaker 1: big Bachelor Nation newsweek. So first we have Caitlin and Broadway.

839
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 1: Then we have Ari's season with Emily now up on Hulu.

840
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:24,759
Speaker 1: So if you want to get to know more about Ari,

841
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:28,000
Speaker 1: go to Hulu watch Emily season. It's one of the

842
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 1: best bachelortte seasons I've ever watched. Are you going to

843
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 1: rewatch it? I might. I think I'm going to Actually,

844
00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: really there's there's a small personage. Actually watch his season.

845
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure always great, but the bene watch

846
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 1: a whole Bachelorette season doesn't seem very exciting. Well, it

847
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:50,320
Speaker 1: is like you have that problem because it's anti climactic

848
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 1: because you know what happened, so you don't like stay

849
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:55,320
Speaker 1: invested so long. But it was such a good season.

850
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:57,279
Speaker 1: I love Emily. I just like watch her talk and

851
00:42:57,280 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: her sweet voice. Yeah, that's not worth it to me

852
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:03,920
Speaker 1: for Emily and less for our I have. I have

853
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 1: something crazy going on. So I see this picture and

854
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,440
Speaker 1: it's in the group with me group thread that I'm

855
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Speaker 1: in that I talked about sometimes Karan and Tomorrow at

856
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Speaker 1: a Halloween party. I guess I'm out of the They

857
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:17,839
Speaker 1: look happy together. Are they dating? Are they hanging out? Like?

858
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Speaker 1: What's going on? Actually? I know you know this. I

859
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:22,880
Speaker 1: actually I know that they're not dating. I don't think that.

860
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:25,360
Speaker 1: I think they maybe just use it because the magazines

861
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:27,680
Speaker 1: use their photo. I think they're very smart because they

862
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:32,120
Speaker 1: know what gets publicity. Um, I think they're definitely hanging out. Okay,

863
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:34,400
Speaker 1: is that wrong for me to say? I think they're friends.

864
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Speaker 1: I think they're totally friends. They get along and they're like,

865
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Speaker 1: let's show up together at the party because it'll make

866
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Speaker 1: a splash. I'm really glad they're friends. That's that. That

867
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Speaker 1: is important. My confusion. I just I remember going back

868
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Speaker 1: to a few months ago and the whole scandal happened,

869
00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 1: and it was it was heavy, and it was dark,

870
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 1: and there were tears from the producers and from the cast.

871
00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 1: I remember that there's just this heaviness over our podcast

872
00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 1: that day, and I think back on that and I

873
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 1: look at this and it's like, Okay, I hope they're

874
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 1: not using this for fame. I don't know if they

875
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 1: are not. Of course they are, um, I mean I

876
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:07,520
Speaker 1: think they're genuinely friends. I just think that it's maybe

877
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 1: pictures and stuff like timing. When there's gonna be photogs around,

878
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:13,280
Speaker 1: then yeah, that's a little plan. I'm not being rude.

879
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:15,400
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, if she's on the carpet alone and

880
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,840
Speaker 1: he's on the carpet alone, no one's running the photo.

881
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 1: If they're on the carpet together in their nutty Halloween costumes,

882
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 1: that photo went everywhere. It just is Yeah, I don't know.

883
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 1: I feel weird about it. All the listeners out there,

884
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 1: please email us do you feel weird about this? I mean,

885
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:32,319
Speaker 1: I'm glad they're friends. Like I said, I don't have

886
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:35,600
Speaker 1: a problem with them being friends, but it seems weird

887
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 1: to me. So if if you have an opinion like

888
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:40,520
Speaker 1: like it or not, if you agree with me or not,

889
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 1: email us at Ben and Ashley I heart media dot com.

890
00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:50,360
Speaker 1: Can we talk about this headline Ben higgins latest post

891
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 1: bachelor endeavor will make you cringe? Thank you for that.

892
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:57,440
Speaker 1: So if you keep reading the first sentence of that

893
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Speaker 1: I've read this article goes Ben Higgins, who's not known

894
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 1: for his sense of humor. To be I don't know,

895
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 1: googling and you see an article that says your own

896
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:14,879
Speaker 1: name and cringe. Yeah, it feels awesome that before Yeah

897
00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:17,399
Speaker 1: it feels really really good. I'm telling you what, Like,

898
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 1: the last few days have been really like uplifting for

899
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 1: me too. I did Okay, So here's the deal. Let's

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Speaker 1: talk about it. Last night in Denver, Colorado, at a

901
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:27,840
Speaker 1: place called Comedy Works. It was last night. It was

902
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:31,799
Speaker 1: last night. Yeah, I pursued stand up comedy for the

903
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 1: first time. I did. It was so it was a

904
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:36,399
Speaker 1: part of a of a television show that I'm gonna

905
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:39,839
Speaker 1: be a part of called First Look on NBC. I'm

906
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 1: guest hosting an episode that takes place in Denver, and

907
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 1: part of the episode was to put me out of

908
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 1: my comfort zone for me to do something that makes

909
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 1: me a more well rounded partner. Did you get to

910
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:52,120
Speaker 1: choose what you're going to do? No? I mean no,

911
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 1: honestly not, because I think the show said, okay, well

912
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:57,440
Speaker 1: they looked at me and they said, we need you

913
00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 1: to be a better well rounded partner for somebody. Humor

914
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 1: is a huge part of that. Let's see if you

915
00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:05,200
Speaker 1: have humor or a personality or you don't. So when

916
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 1: it was announced that I was doing stand up in Denver,

917
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 1: than The Denver posted a couple of articles. Um, Bustle

918
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 1: did an article and the and and the whole articles

919
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 1: like they're shocked. I mean, you know, good at feels

920
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 1: for somebody to be shocked that you have a personality.

921
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:22,960
Speaker 1: That's just the people are obviously not listening to the

922
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:25,720
Speaker 1: Almost His podcast, because if they do, they know you're

923
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:28,799
Speaker 1: no no, no, no, they rip on you too. I'll

924
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:31,879
Speaker 1: read your on me or him. Oh you Ashley, they

925
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 1: say I'm not. He is now hosting a podcast with

926
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:39,239
Speaker 1: the queen of capitalizing on the Bachelor franchise, Ashley. I yeah,

927
00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:42,520
Speaker 1: proud of it. Ben barely did press after his Bachelor season.

928
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:46,280
Speaker 1: Now he's interviewing Bachelor lums every week for his own show,

929
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:48,040
Speaker 1: and I feel like I needed to fend myself here.

930
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:50,800
Speaker 1: So here's the deal. Ashley is proud that she's capitalizing

931
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: on the fame she should be. Would I just do

932
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:56,520
Speaker 1: it and then be like, you know what, let's not

933
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 1: let okay, I went to broadcast. I haven't broadcast journalism.

934
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 1: I always wanted to do stuff like this, So let's

935
00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 1: like not make it seem like I was supposed to,

936
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: Like I wanted to go into obscurity. Well great, I

937
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 1: think you guys own it. Let me explain myself. I

938
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 1: need to defend myself, so you're right. Post Bachelor, Uh,

939
00:47:16,360 --> 00:47:17,959
Speaker 1: let me just give you my life story. It's gonna

940
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 1: be a lot of fun for everybody listen to um.

941
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 1: Post Bachelor, I did very little press. Laura and I

942
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:25,480
Speaker 1: were together. We want to pursue our relationship. It was

943
00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 1: important for us to kind of take a step away

944
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 1: to see to figure out who we were. Uh, that

945
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:31,600
Speaker 1: was a different time in my life. I had somebody

946
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 1: that I was uh not just responsible for, but I

947
00:47:34,040 --> 00:47:35,840
Speaker 1: was trying to pursue a relationship with I'm on my

948
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 1: own now. I'm a one man show. Um, I can

949
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 1: travel the world if I want, and nobody really cares.

950
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:44,880
Speaker 1: And so life for me looks a little different than

951
00:47:44,880 --> 00:47:46,799
Speaker 1: it did post Bachelor. I was trying to manage my

952
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:49,520
Speaker 1: life then in a different way than I'm managing my

953
00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 1: life now. I do a great podcast. I don't know

954
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,400
Speaker 1: if you've heard about it, but it's called Almost Famous

955
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 1: podcast on I Heart Radio with Ashley I Ken Eddie

956
00:47:57,080 --> 00:48:00,839
Speaker 1: um the Queen of capitalizing and uh wait, since when

957
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 1: in America is it a bad thing to happen? You

958
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:04,879
Speaker 1: had to bring this up and now she's gonna be

959
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 1: piste off the whole show about I'm kidding, this is

960
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 1: about cringe, e Ben and so and so we do

961
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:15,560
Speaker 1: this podcast, and then NBC reaches out and say, hey,

962
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 1: we love you to guess host a show called First Look.

963
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 1: I'm all about it. This stuff's fun. I want to do.

964
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:23,280
Speaker 1: I have no shame in doing this. Is this stuffs

965
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:25,319
Speaker 1: so blast I got to do stand up comedy last

966
00:48:25,400 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 1: night and I tell you what, Ashley, You're good at it.

967
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:31,640
Speaker 1: I failed gracefully. No, I actually did not fail. We

968
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:34,800
Speaker 1: got some laughs. Um, nobody was too critical. It was

969
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:36,759
Speaker 1: a lot of fun. And and here's the best part.

970
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:39,879
Speaker 1: I would never claim, never claim I'm the funniest person

971
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 1: out there. I would never claim that. I even that.

972
00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:44,359
Speaker 1: When somebody thinks of me, they go that know that

973
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 1: knows me to go, oh, yeah, I've been so funny.

974
00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 1: But I wouldn't say Ben so funny. But I'd say

975
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 1: Ben has a good sense of humor. I hope. So,

976
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:53,359
Speaker 1: I hope that's the case. I want that. But so

977
00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:57,160
Speaker 1: here's the deal. I tried something that I wasn't comfortable

978
00:48:57,160 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 1: with last night. I tried something I'd never done before.

979
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:02,000
Speaker 1: I tried something that when I got off stage last night,

980
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 1: my heart was pounding, like absolutely pounding. Was her handshaking

981
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:07,959
Speaker 1: on the mic? I don't think so. I was really

982
00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 1: calm and confident up there because I just taught myself

983
00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 1: to be like I told myself I have to be.

984
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,280
Speaker 1: But when I got off the stage, I was freaking out.

985
00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:17,840
Speaker 1: And I'm glad I did it because I do actually

986
00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 1: feel that after last night's experience, I am a little

987
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:25,120
Speaker 1: more well rounded than I was yesterday morning. That's awesome.

988
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 1: So hey to bustle to the articles out there, um

989
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:32,799
Speaker 1: that claim I don't have a sense of humor. Let's

990
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: get to know each other now. I will say I

991
00:49:34,239 --> 00:49:36,760
Speaker 1: reached out to the girl that wrote the article lady,

992
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't say girl, the lady that wrote the article,

993
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 1: and she they did respond but said she was getting

994
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:45,799
Speaker 1: on a plane and unavailable to talk to you. But

995
00:49:45,880 --> 00:49:47,879
Speaker 1: we did try. We did try. So here's the deal.

996
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 1: We're not mad at or we just want to prove

997
00:49:50,040 --> 00:49:51,719
Speaker 1: how funny you are. I'm not mad at at all.

998
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:53,640
Speaker 1: That's I mean. Hey, people are entitled their opinions. I

999
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:55,959
Speaker 1: could I mean, I could care. I care it hurts

1000
00:49:55,960 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 1: a little bit, bustle, like it stings a little bit

1001
00:49:58,200 --> 00:50:00,359
Speaker 1: right here in the heart, but it does it hurt

1002
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:02,320
Speaker 1: that much? Like we could talk about this as friends

1003
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:04,720
Speaker 1: now right, um, But you need to judge for yourself.

1004
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:08,239
Speaker 1: So check out first look on NBC. It's gonna air

1005
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 1: like January twenty. Look for it on after SNL The

1006
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:16,160
Speaker 1: Best Time Funny. I'm sorry, do you have any jokes

1007
00:50:16,160 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 1: you could give us from last night? So this is

1008
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 1: how I'll say this. So I walked up on stage.

1009
00:50:23,280 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 1: How many sold out house? So here's the deal. So

1010
00:50:29,040 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 1: I walk up on stage. This is my my weakest joke.

1011
00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:35,000
Speaker 1: It's how I opened up. But I'm gonna give to

1012
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 1: you guys. Why would you open up? Hey, here's the

1013
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 1: because you don't want to leave them with your weakest

1014
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 1: and want them to leave with the strongest. Actually stand

1015
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 1: up one on one. Actually, how do you not know

1016
00:50:45,160 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 1: that you have a stand up coach? I did. I

1017
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:50,200
Speaker 1: worked with a group called the Pussy Bros. And that's

1018
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:54,160
Speaker 1: about that's cats cat bros. Um. So they're a great

1019
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:57,640
Speaker 1: stand up group out of Denver. It's three females. Um.

1020
00:50:57,680 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 1: They're amazing and their story is great. And so we

1021
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:02,800
Speaker 1: have to do is check out the episode. But here's

1022
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 1: my my jokes. So here can we pretend for a second? Actually,

1023
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:07,920
Speaker 1: will you announced me? All right, ladies and gentlemen, are

1024
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:16,759
Speaker 1: you ready for your headlining comic of the night Ben Higgins? Hey, everybody,

1025
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:20,760
Speaker 1: thank you so much for the five minutes on stage tonight,

1026
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:29,279
Speaker 1: considering I've already had my fifteen minutes a little bit,

1027
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 1: a little bit. Hey, hey, that's good stuff, but it

1028
00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 1: gets better. So watch the episode. Uh, you're not trying

1029
00:51:37,480 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 1: to be a stand up comic, You're just doing it

1030
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 1: as a bit for this TV show. Yeah. And then

1031
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:43,759
Speaker 1: the thing is, I don't want people to think, you know,

1032
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 1: Vanilla Bland. I know. I remember when SNL did the

1033
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,080
Speaker 1: skit about me for my season it was the Bland.

1034
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:53,239
Speaker 1: Which is the fact that SNL did a skit about you.

1035
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:55,520
Speaker 1: You know that means you've made it right And I

1036
00:51:55,560 --> 00:51:59,320
Speaker 1: talked now on this podcast, so I'm not that boring. Um,

1037
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:03,320
Speaker 1: then you one of the least born people ever so

1038
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:07,320
Speaker 1: slowly but surely. Um, we're gonna keep showing it. For example,

1039
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 1: we did lip sync Battle. Uh, and I'll just give

1040
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:11,920
Speaker 1: a sneak preview to lipsning Battle. My shirt does come

1041
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 1: off at one point during that. Hey, I'm coming out

1042
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 1: of my shell. This is a new band. It's not

1043
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:19,839
Speaker 1: a new band, it's the same. It's I'm you know,

1044
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm coming out of my shell. I'm opening

1045
00:52:22,640 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 1: myself up to the world like a flower in the springtime. No, okay, no, hey,

1046
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:32,560
Speaker 1: we have some great emails. Um, Higg easier, watch out

1047
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 1: pigg easier. All right, So back in college, they used

1048
00:52:36,719 --> 00:52:38,439
Speaker 1: to like say, that and chant that when he would

1049
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:40,760
Speaker 1: walk into a room, that's how much life he brings

1050
00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:43,239
Speaker 1: a room. And so now Ashley does it for me

1051
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:46,239
Speaker 1: on this podcast. Team definitely does it every day. You

1052
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 1: know what I like to do. It gets me really

1053
00:52:47,640 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 1: pumped up. Um when I walk into a gym and

1054
00:52:51,280 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 1: in my new short um that I got from our

1055
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Speaker 1: important question for you before your emails. Um, are we

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Speaker 1: shifting as a as humans to where having a hairy

1085
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 1: chest is now attractive again? I think so? I like it.

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00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:48,120
Speaker 1: I like it. That's an important topic for me. I

1087
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 1: had a comment made at yesterday at one point to

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Speaker 1: me about having a hairy chest, and you do, but

1089
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:55,759
Speaker 1: you have the perfect amount of hair. Yeah, but I'm

1090
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 1: not ashamed of I like it, and and you don't

1091
00:54:57,680 --> 00:54:59,359
Speaker 1: understand when you when I shave like it gets caught

1092
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:03,560
Speaker 1: on my shirts. Um, but I just knew somebody to ask,

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00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:05,959
Speaker 1: and so I thought i'd ask Amy and Ashley having

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Speaker 1: a hairy chest? Is it back? Are we? Are we

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00:55:08,000 --> 00:55:11,000
Speaker 1: bringing it back? Um? I've never thought of it as

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Speaker 1: something that should have gone away. I think that men

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Speaker 1: should probably have hair on their chest. I agree with

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Speaker 1: man escaping. I think you can trim it a little bit.

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Speaker 1: I don't want your your chest as a twenty eight

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00:55:21,320 --> 00:55:25,799
Speaker 1: year old boy year old man, to look like my

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Speaker 1: dad's chess, but like I like you to have a

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Speaker 1: little something there. I hope my chest doesn't look like

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00:55:31,200 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 1: your dad's chest either. Hey, but Bradley Cooper is an

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Speaker 1: excellent example of Oddie he man escapes. Well, yeah, google

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Speaker 1: Bradley Cooper shirtless. You know you can google almost any

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Speaker 1: celebrity shirtless and they they pop right up. I knew

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Speaker 1: that Bradley Cooper is hot shirts. I look at myself.

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00:55:48,360 --> 00:55:51,880
Speaker 1: Can I google Ashley I shirt? But you can do

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Speaker 1: Ben Higgins shirt. I'll do it okay at home? Give that,

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Speaker 1: Give that a hot give it give it a hot Google,

1111
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:02,080
Speaker 1: and then everybody at home that's listening, please email your

1112
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:04,960
Speaker 1: opinions on is it cool from men to have a

1113
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:08,879
Speaker 1: hairy chest um or not a hairy chest, but a

1114
00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:11,560
Speaker 1: hair on their chest? Email us at Ben and Ashley

1115
00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:15,160
Speaker 1: at I heart media dot com with your opinions, your thoughts.

1116
00:56:15,520 --> 00:56:17,960
Speaker 1: All right, so you guys some emails from our listeners.

1117
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:21,840
Speaker 1: You want to take him over? Yes, Hello, Ben and Ashley.

1118
00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:25,160
Speaker 1: I currently work as a sex and couples therapists and

1119
00:56:25,280 --> 00:56:28,839
Speaker 1: one issue I repeatedly here is the timing just wasn't right.

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00:56:28,880 --> 00:56:31,520
Speaker 1: I already love this email. My boyfriend and I lived

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00:56:31,520 --> 00:56:34,040
Speaker 1: together for two years and when our least was coming

1122
00:56:34,080 --> 00:56:36,200
Speaker 1: to an end, he basically told me that he needed

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00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:41,960
Speaker 1: to figure himself out and quote be alone up and

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00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:45,040
Speaker 1: quote be alone to work on his wants and needs

1125
00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 1: before fully committing. He insists he doesn't want to marry me,

1126
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:51,200
Speaker 1: but it's just not the right timing for him because

1127
00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:54,120
Speaker 1: he needs to mature and grow on his own first.

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Speaker 1: This word timing is something that I just constantly here

1129
00:56:57,640 --> 00:57:00,200
Speaker 1: in breakups, and honestly, I think it's b s. I

1130
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 1: would really love for you guys to give your perspectives

1131
00:57:03,000 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 1: on this issue. Love you guys, Rachel. All right, before

1132
00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:09,960
Speaker 1: I ask you, Ben, I did a podcast on my

1133
00:57:10,000 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 1: other podcast with Jared Wells and Cupcake, and this topic

1134
00:57:15,239 --> 00:57:18,160
Speaker 1: got brought up because so many guys and just like

1135
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:19,680
Speaker 1: I'm you know, I'm a girl, so I only hear

1136
00:57:19,680 --> 00:57:22,480
Speaker 1: guys saying it. UM. So many guys are saying, oh,

1137
00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:25,000
Speaker 1: the timing, I'm just really not into that. This timing

1138
00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 1: is not working out for me, and I always think

1139
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 1: it's BS, just like our listener Rachel Um. And they

1140
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:34,200
Speaker 1: basically agreed. Those three guys were like, yeah, timing, that

1141
00:57:34,320 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 1: excuse is BS, because normally it's just a nice way

1142
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:40,520
Speaker 1: of saying like, I'm nothing into you. Because if we

1143
00:57:40,600 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 1: really really are into you, then no matter how bad

1144
00:57:43,600 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 1: the timing is, and no matter how now matter how

1145
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:48,920
Speaker 1: awful my family life or my work life is, I'm

1146
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:52,480
Speaker 1: going to make time for you. What are you think? Sure? Yeah,

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00:57:52,560 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 1: I mean I think it all comes back. And I'm

1148
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:56,919
Speaker 1: starting to realize this more and more is no matter

1149
00:57:56,960 --> 00:57:59,720
Speaker 1: what the excuses, let's break it down for it is

1150
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:02,919
Speaker 1: a breaking up, like and I mean I think there's

1151
00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:05,400
Speaker 1: a thousand ways you can sugarcoat it. There's a thousand

1152
00:58:05,440 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 1: ways you can say it nicely and you don't want

1153
00:58:07,280 --> 00:58:08,800
Speaker 1: to offend the person to make them feel less. And

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00:58:08,880 --> 00:58:10,720
Speaker 1: I think that's what this is is, Hey, I think

1155
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:13,760
Speaker 1: you're great, I think you're beautiful. I care about you

1156
00:58:13,800 --> 00:58:18,920
Speaker 1: a lot, but the timing is not right or hey,

1157
00:58:18,960 --> 00:58:22,320
Speaker 1: I'm not there yet, or whatever it is. Let's just

1158
00:58:22,520 --> 00:58:24,720
Speaker 1: say what it is. You're breaking up, and so who

1159
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 1: if I communicate that to somebody, I hope that they

1160
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:29,960
Speaker 1: understand that I'm just trying to nicely tell them we're

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00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:31,640
Speaker 1: no longer going to hang out, or if they say

1162
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:33,320
Speaker 1: it to me, I need to accept it and say

1163
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:35,280
Speaker 1: not fight it, and not be like that's b S.

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00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 1: Of course it's b S. The truth is they just

1165
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 1: don't like you. I agree with you, except I think

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00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:42,800
Speaker 1: there's a few cases where timing, like if someone's going

1167
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:45,800
Speaker 1: through a breakup or getting divorced or something, or if

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00:58:45,840 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 1: they just got fired, they just can't handle it. So

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00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:51,320
Speaker 1: I think that I don't know that they don't like you,

1170
00:58:51,360 --> 00:58:53,640
Speaker 1: they just can't handle it. But here's what I want

1171
00:58:53,640 --> 00:58:56,800
Speaker 1: to know. I do think there are cases where years

1172
00:58:56,880 --> 00:59:00,160
Speaker 1: later the timing is right and that same couple all

1173
00:59:00,880 --> 00:59:03,320
Speaker 1: works out, you know, how and he's just not that

1174
00:59:03,400 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 1: into the movie and probably the book. They say, you're

1175
00:59:07,240 --> 00:59:12,240
Speaker 1: the Bible. Yes, I actually don't read it enough. Um,

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00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:15,760
Speaker 1: what wait, what are we talking about? Their rule in

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Speaker 1: he's just not that into you, Like it's like you

1178
00:59:17,920 --> 00:59:20,240
Speaker 1: are the rule, You're not the exception. So it's like

1179
00:59:20,240 --> 00:59:24,080
Speaker 1: out of a hundred cases, the word timing is probably

1180
00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:27,120
Speaker 1: just an excuse for like, he's just not at that

1181
00:59:27,200 --> 00:59:29,280
Speaker 1: into you. But then if you're like the one out

1182
00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:32,040
Speaker 1: of the hundred, you're the exception to the rule, like

1183
00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:35,480
Speaker 1: when Amy's talking about like down the road, it really

1184
00:59:35,480 --> 00:59:38,760
Speaker 1: does work out. Yeah, I'm sure, I mean, but again,

1185
00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:42,560
Speaker 1: breaking up is hard, and breaking up with somebody is

1186
00:59:42,560 --> 00:59:45,000
Speaker 1: difficult and it's not fun, and you probably care about

1187
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:47,280
Speaker 1: that person unless you that person has done something to

1188
00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:50,000
Speaker 1: hurt you. And so if you're just not feeling anymore,

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00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:53,320
Speaker 1: the partner that's getting broken up with has to give

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00:59:53,360 --> 00:59:54,960
Speaker 1: that person to benefit of down and to say, Okay,

1191
00:59:55,040 --> 00:59:56,360
Speaker 1: I get it. What you're trying to tell me is

1192
00:59:56,360 --> 00:59:58,760
Speaker 1: we're no longer to be together. That sucks and it

1193
00:59:58,840 --> 01:00:01,720
Speaker 1: might hurt, but however, you you broke the news to me.

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01:00:01,960 --> 01:00:04,280
Speaker 1: You broke the news to me, and that took something

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01:00:04,400 --> 01:00:06,400
Speaker 1: and so b s or not timing or not, or

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01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:08,600
Speaker 1: if it's true or not, it doesn't matter. You're breaking up,

1197
01:00:09,080 --> 01:00:12,640
Speaker 1: accept it, move on, move away, go cry in your

1198
01:00:12,720 --> 01:00:15,480
Speaker 1: room somewhere. But Ben, you make it seem like this

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Speaker 1: is like a real thing, like it's time. You're telling

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Speaker 1: me that timing is always bus I mean, I I'm

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01:00:20,680 --> 01:00:23,880
Speaker 1: just saying that it's an excuse. I mean, and if

1202
01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:26,680
Speaker 1: it's valid or not, if somebody use it, uses it

1203
01:00:26,720 --> 01:00:28,520
Speaker 1: and it is actually BS and it's just the truth

1204
01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:31,280
Speaker 1: is just not that into you. Um Like, I guess

1205
01:00:31,320 --> 01:00:34,200
Speaker 1: that movies title is a great title. Then if if

1206
01:00:34,200 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 1: that's true, great, If it's not, you're still just breaking up.

1207
01:00:38,560 --> 01:00:42,480
Speaker 1: Would it be better if people just said done? Yeah, hey,

1208
01:00:42,680 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 1: that would be great. By the way, we're done. I

1209
01:00:46,640 --> 01:00:50,400
Speaker 1: apologize for the last five months of our life. But

1210
01:00:50,440 --> 01:00:53,360
Speaker 1: all I'm gonna give you is we're done. Sit on

1211
01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:55,360
Speaker 1: that for a little bit. Feel it, yeah, feel the

1212
01:00:55,400 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 1: fact that we're done. And I don't even care enough

1213
01:00:57,280 --> 01:01:00,240
Speaker 1: to tell you and use the excuse the timing. Don't

1214
01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:02,920
Speaker 1: have time tell you all. I have to just mention

1215
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:06,240
Speaker 1: this one thing. When you blame timing, I know that

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01:01:06,360 --> 01:01:09,160
Speaker 1: us girls are like, okay, well, I'll just leave you

1217
01:01:09,200 --> 01:01:11,120
Speaker 1: in the back of my mind and when when the

1218
01:01:11,160 --> 01:01:14,880
Speaker 1: timing is right, it'll all be okay. So like when

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Speaker 1: a guy. If a guy, I don't think I've ever

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Speaker 1: said timing to me, No he hasn't, thank God, did

1221
01:01:18,800 --> 01:01:20,680
Speaker 1: he say it's not you, it's me. No. But I've

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01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:23,920
Speaker 1: gotten like distance before and I'm like, oh, interesting, you're

1223
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 1: now you're now dating a girl just as far away.

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01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:28,720
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. That's what my point to

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01:01:28,800 --> 01:01:31,560
Speaker 1: the very beginning of this was. At the core, they're

1226
01:01:31,560 --> 01:01:33,520
Speaker 1: breaking up with you. You You need to move on, right,

1227
01:01:33,600 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 1: So I'm just I'm just saying I know. But but

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Speaker 1: you guys, if they say it's timing, don't be like, okay,

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01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:41,760
Speaker 1: well great, so in six months the timing will be

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01:01:41,800 --> 01:01:43,800
Speaker 1: different and we'll work out. Like, don't bank on that.

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Speaker 1: We're done. Moving on to Jessica. Jessica says, Hi, Ben

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01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:52,240
Speaker 1: and Ashley, you guys are always saying we should email

1233
01:01:52,240 --> 01:01:54,360
Speaker 1: you with topics and ideas, So here's one of mine.

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01:01:54,680 --> 01:01:57,200
Speaker 1: While we wait an anticipation for the Winter Games and

1235
01:01:57,240 --> 01:02:00,720
Speaker 1: more Bachelor content, you guys should consider having some throwback

1236
01:02:00,800 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 1: bachelor's and bachelorette's on the pod, like Jason Mesnick, you

1237
01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:06,880
Speaker 1: can get his opinion on the new school of Bachelor Nation.

1238
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:09,560
Speaker 1: And what about Andy Dorfman, She'll want to come on

1239
01:02:09,600 --> 01:02:12,680
Speaker 1: and talk about her new book. Um. Maybe Ashley or

1240
01:02:12,760 --> 01:02:15,160
Speaker 1: Jillian they were the cutest ever. I really really did

1241
01:02:15,240 --> 01:02:19,240
Speaker 1: love Ashley. Didn't watch Jillian season. I feel like some

1242
01:02:19,360 --> 01:02:22,240
Speaker 1: fresh old blood would mix up things and get us

1243
01:02:22,240 --> 01:02:24,760
Speaker 1: in the mood for Ari. Not a bad idea, Jessica.

1244
01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:27,240
Speaker 1: I mean this whole this whole theme of this Bachelor

1245
01:02:27,600 --> 01:02:30,200
Speaker 1: is going to be throwback, right, We're bringing Ari back,

1246
01:02:30,320 --> 01:02:32,760
Speaker 1: So this is gonna be a throwback season. Well, speaking

1247
01:02:33,040 --> 01:02:35,720
Speaker 1: of giving you the throwbacks that you're asking for, We're

1248
01:02:35,720 --> 01:02:38,560
Speaker 1: going to have Bob Guinea on the podcast and next weekend.

1249
01:02:38,960 --> 01:02:41,760
Speaker 1: That's a big deal. Bob is hilarious. Bob is eating

1250
01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:45,200
Speaker 1: your Bachelor boys. Um text message group. He's the oldest

1251
01:02:45,320 --> 01:02:49,680
Speaker 1: person in the text message group. He brings wisdom. We

1252
01:02:49,680 --> 01:02:52,080
Speaker 1: actually I think his name in the group is goat

1253
01:02:52,280 --> 01:02:55,520
Speaker 1: greatest of all time. Um, he's hilarious. I love Bob.

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01:02:55,600 --> 01:03:00,200
Speaker 1: He actually and this is uh when the last few

1255
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:01,840
Speaker 1: months have happened for me and when things have gotten

1256
01:03:01,840 --> 01:03:04,840
Speaker 1: really hard, Bob actually and I've only met him once

1257
01:03:04,880 --> 01:03:07,480
Speaker 1: personally reached out to me just with some encouragement and

1258
01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:10,160
Speaker 1: some guidance and some wisdom from his front. So Bob

1259
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:12,320
Speaker 1: is a great dude. He's gonna be awesome on this podcast.

1260
01:03:12,320 --> 01:03:14,320
Speaker 1: I'm telling you you'll be laughing the whole time. And

1261
01:03:14,360 --> 01:03:17,200
Speaker 1: if you're not, then he really disappointed. It's not our fault.

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Speaker 1: You know what I have to ask Bob. You know

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01:03:19,040 --> 01:03:22,200
Speaker 1: what his rep is in like Bachelor history? No, what

1264
01:03:22,320 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 1: is it? It's sleeping with the most girls in season.

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01:03:28,000 --> 01:03:30,520
Speaker 1: He's left with like, I can't. I don't want to

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01:03:31,120 --> 01:03:33,520
Speaker 1: slander him, so I won't throw it out there. But

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01:03:33,520 --> 01:03:35,280
Speaker 1: it was more than the three in the fantasy suite.

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01:03:35,480 --> 01:03:38,920
Speaker 1: Come on, Bob, You're better than that. But a little away,

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01:03:39,440 --> 01:03:42,800
Speaker 1: all right. Next email from Ali, Hi Bit and Ashley.

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01:03:42,840 --> 01:03:44,680
Speaker 1: First of all, I love you both so much. Well

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01:03:44,720 --> 01:03:48,120
Speaker 1: thanks Ali. My question is this, why is it that

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01:03:48,160 --> 01:03:50,720
Speaker 1: after the lead of the show, the Bachelor or Bachelor

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01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:54,000
Speaker 1: and his or her winner break up, the lead never

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01:03:54,120 --> 01:03:56,760
Speaker 1: dates anyone else from their season. It seems to me

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01:03:56,840 --> 01:03:59,360
Speaker 1: that if the contestants have such strong feelings for the lead,

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01:03:59,600 --> 01:04:01,960
Speaker 1: then some of them would reach out again after the breakup.

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01:04:02,760 --> 01:04:06,200
Speaker 1: That sometimes follows the proposal. I know that Jason Mesnick

1278
01:04:06,320 --> 01:04:08,720
Speaker 1: changed his mind and picked another contestant after the finale,

1279
01:04:08,760 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 1: but besides him, I don't think there's any examples of

1280
01:04:12,080 --> 01:04:16,600
Speaker 1: Leeds dating someone else from their season. For example, Ashley,

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01:04:17,360 --> 01:04:21,400
Speaker 1: if Chris Souls were to ask you out after he

1282
01:04:21,480 --> 01:04:24,640
Speaker 1: and Whitney broke up, would you have said, now, Oh,

1283
01:04:24,680 --> 01:04:30,280
Speaker 1: should I answer this now? Yes? Um? I always say

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01:04:30,320 --> 01:04:33,840
Speaker 1: that I kind of knew once I left Christmas season, Like,

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01:04:33,880 --> 01:04:36,400
Speaker 1: I was really really infatuated with him during the season,

1286
01:04:36,440 --> 01:04:40,280
Speaker 1: but then when I got on the plane the following day, Um,

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01:04:40,320 --> 01:04:42,920
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay. I think that may have just

1288
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:46,560
Speaker 1: been physical attraction and like admiring his personality because he

1289
01:04:46,600 --> 01:04:47,960
Speaker 1: was so sweet. But I don't think that was like

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01:04:48,480 --> 01:04:50,600
Speaker 1: the guy that would move to Iowa for like, he

1291
01:04:50,640 --> 01:04:54,040
Speaker 1: wasn't my soul mate. UM. I would like I would

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01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:56,960
Speaker 1: probably have said yes to a date afterward, though I

1293
01:04:57,000 --> 01:04:59,160
Speaker 1: would have said yes to a date. He did kiss

1294
01:04:59,160 --> 01:05:05,080
Speaker 1: me at an elevator after the show. Yeah, actually, what

1295
01:05:05,120 --> 01:05:08,600
Speaker 1: are you talking about? Should we keep that in? That's brilliant?

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01:05:08,720 --> 01:05:11,880
Speaker 1: Actually tell us about it. You were there, Ben, I

1297
01:05:11,920 --> 01:05:13,920
Speaker 1: don't think I was in the elevator. You weren't in

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01:05:13,960 --> 01:05:19,120
Speaker 1: the elevator. Okay, now that I'm spilling beans, let's just

1299
01:05:19,120 --> 01:05:23,439
Speaker 1: spill all the beans. Um. We had been coming from

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01:05:23,600 --> 01:05:25,840
Speaker 1: you and Lauren. You and Lauren had that really nice

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01:05:25,840 --> 01:05:29,760
Speaker 1: sweet at the one side of the Blago okay, during

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01:05:29,760 --> 01:05:33,400
Speaker 1: the I Heeart Festival last year, um, and then Chris

1303
01:05:33,400 --> 01:05:35,800
Speaker 1: and I were in the other tower. So once you

1304
01:05:35,840 --> 01:05:38,040
Speaker 1: guys went to sleep and we ate like all the

1305
01:05:38,120 --> 01:05:42,320
Speaker 1: room service, we walked back the two of us hard

1306
01:05:42,320 --> 01:05:44,520
Speaker 1: tower and then he kissed me in the elevator, like

1307
01:05:44,600 --> 01:05:46,760
Speaker 1: what kind of kissed like a long It was really

1308
01:05:46,800 --> 01:05:52,680
Speaker 1: it was very almost pecky, but like it was actually

1309
01:05:52,680 --> 01:05:54,080
Speaker 1: I don't know if you have makeup on, but you're

1310
01:05:54,120 --> 01:05:58,480
Speaker 1: like there's like you're shining, right. Okay, So anyway, he

1311
01:05:58,760 --> 01:06:01,000
Speaker 1: took a step off the elevator and then before the

1312
01:06:01,040 --> 01:06:03,520
Speaker 1: doors closed he walked in he kissed me, and oh

1313
01:06:03,560 --> 01:06:10,120
Speaker 1: my gosh, yeah, I wish I could have. It was

1314
01:06:10,280 --> 01:06:12,160
Speaker 1: very it was like very brief. It was like really

1315
01:06:12,160 --> 01:06:14,960
Speaker 1: a pack. What were your thoughts after Chris Soul's stepped

1316
01:06:14,960 --> 01:06:19,240
Speaker 1: back onto an elevator for you that he was probably

1317
01:06:19,320 --> 01:06:23,080
Speaker 1: drunk is what I was thinking. Um, But I was

1318
01:06:23,160 --> 01:06:25,880
Speaker 1: like felt actually very very weird about it. Until the

1319
01:06:25,880 --> 01:06:27,920
Speaker 1: next day I thought it was hilarious and a good

1320
01:06:27,960 --> 01:06:33,520
Speaker 1: story to tell. Um it just felt weird. It didn't

1321
01:06:33,520 --> 01:06:38,360
Speaker 1: make you tingly, no, but like maybe like it made

1322
01:06:38,400 --> 01:06:41,840
Speaker 1: me like brown, Like my my facial expression must have

1323
01:06:41,880 --> 01:06:45,200
Speaker 1: just been amazing. I wish I had the elevator footage

1324
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:48,360
Speaker 1: from the camera because like my facial expression was like

1325
01:06:50,200 --> 01:06:52,560
Speaker 1: I wish you guys could see right now. It's like

1326
01:06:52,600 --> 01:06:56,720
Speaker 1: my brow was like what is it burrowed? And but

1327
01:06:56,760 --> 01:06:58,760
Speaker 1: like I also was like kind of smiling because I

1328
01:06:58,760 --> 01:07:02,880
Speaker 1: thought it was hysterical. I'm just listening you look at

1329
01:07:02,880 --> 01:07:04,800
Speaker 1: me like I have a response to this. I'm amazed this,

1330
01:07:05,240 --> 01:07:07,800
Speaker 1: this is beautiful. Next morning, I like, you've always wanted

1331
01:07:07,800 --> 01:07:09,640
Speaker 1: to be a part of a Nicholas Sparks movie, And

1332
01:07:09,920 --> 01:07:12,960
Speaker 1: in my moment, that elevator camera makes Nicholas Sparks movie.

1333
01:07:13,560 --> 01:07:15,360
Speaker 1: I can just me Okay. So then the next one

1334
01:07:15,400 --> 01:07:18,240
Speaker 1: is a question towards me, would I date anyone from

1335
01:07:18,280 --> 01:07:21,040
Speaker 1: my season today? Uh? And then they say I always

1336
01:07:21,040 --> 01:07:23,440
Speaker 1: thought you and Becca would be especially cute. I mean,

1337
01:07:23,480 --> 01:07:26,560
Speaker 1: I still do think this what what I think that

1338
01:07:26,640 --> 01:07:30,920
Speaker 1: you guys make a lot of sense. Just dropping the

1339
01:07:30,920 --> 01:07:35,200
Speaker 1: bomb on me. Now, I don't think no. I mean, okay,

1340
01:07:35,240 --> 01:07:37,200
Speaker 1: so let's start with the first question. There, would I

1341
01:07:37,240 --> 01:07:39,480
Speaker 1: date anyone from my season today? I'm not gonna say wouldn't.

1342
01:07:39,480 --> 01:07:41,680
Speaker 1: I mean, it's I just feel like it's different, right,

1343
01:07:41,680 --> 01:07:44,479
Speaker 1: you've broken up before, you kind of chose somebody else

1344
01:07:44,680 --> 01:07:48,280
Speaker 1: over them. It just doesn't feel natural to step back

1345
01:07:48,280 --> 01:07:50,120
Speaker 1: into a relationship with somebody. I don't know why it

1346
01:07:50,160 --> 01:07:53,440
Speaker 1: doesn't happen more. Um, it might happen kind of behind

1347
01:07:53,440 --> 01:07:55,720
Speaker 1: the scenes a little bit, I know, but I actually

1348
01:07:55,760 --> 01:07:58,280
Speaker 1: don't think it's happening really. That's why I think it's curious.

1349
01:07:58,280 --> 01:08:01,480
Speaker 1: I think, like Christal's pecky me and the Elevator, maybe

1350
01:08:02,160 --> 01:08:05,520
Speaker 1: the most backtracking there's are a been like you have

1351
01:08:05,600 --> 01:08:09,760
Speaker 1: never done it. Um. The girls are all engaged and

1352
01:08:09,760 --> 01:08:12,520
Speaker 1: they stay engaged. I mean, that's the thing is so

1353
01:08:13,360 --> 01:08:16,280
Speaker 1: for me. Uh, you know a lot of the women

1354
01:08:16,360 --> 01:08:19,120
Speaker 1: from my season left the show and found other relationships,

1355
01:08:19,160 --> 01:08:20,679
Speaker 1: and they did other people from me that the franchise

1356
01:08:20,720 --> 01:08:23,240
Speaker 1: are outside of it, and and I actually and I

1357
01:08:23,280 --> 01:08:25,519
Speaker 1: don't know how they feel about me, um, but I

1358
01:08:25,560 --> 01:08:27,320
Speaker 1: actually was really happy for them for that. So like

1359
01:08:27,320 --> 01:08:29,640
Speaker 1: the batchler kind of propelled them and opened themselves up

1360
01:08:29,680 --> 01:08:33,400
Speaker 1: to find other relationships. Um, why we I don't go

1361
01:08:33,439 --> 01:08:35,599
Speaker 1: back to that. There's no like hard feelings or there's

1362
01:08:35,600 --> 01:08:37,680
Speaker 1: no like these women are amazing. Are you kidding me?

1363
01:08:37,720 --> 01:08:40,240
Speaker 1: Their twenty six beautiful people that I got to know

1364
01:08:40,320 --> 01:08:43,400
Speaker 1: really well. But I just think it's the dynamic that

1365
01:08:43,560 --> 01:08:46,600
Speaker 1: I chose somebody over them, and I have to I

1366
01:08:46,600 --> 01:08:47,880
Speaker 1: would have a lot of explained to I mean, I

1367
01:08:47,920 --> 01:08:49,439
Speaker 1: had a lot of explained to you anyways after my

1368
01:08:49,479 --> 01:08:54,280
Speaker 1: season of The Bachelor. Um, but you know, if I

1369
01:08:54,360 --> 01:08:56,599
Speaker 1: went back to it, I feel like that that woman

1370
01:08:56,640 --> 01:08:59,040
Speaker 1: would need an explanation on why and it chows them initially.

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01:08:59,080 --> 01:09:00,479
Speaker 1: And so would Beck and I be cute together? Of

1372
01:09:00,520 --> 01:09:03,479
Speaker 1: course we'd be que together because the best Um. But

1373
01:09:03,680 --> 01:09:07,599
Speaker 1: Beck and I are not dating. We won't be dating. Um.

1374
01:09:07,640 --> 01:09:10,519
Speaker 1: But Becca is one of my favorite people in the world.

1375
01:09:10,560 --> 01:09:13,479
Speaker 1: So of course anybody that dates Becca, people a gonna

1376
01:09:13,479 --> 01:09:16,400
Speaker 1: be like, oh, that's so cute because she just makes

1377
01:09:16,439 --> 01:09:20,599
Speaker 1: it cute. Would you tell her it's the timing? Yeah,

1378
01:09:20,720 --> 01:09:22,880
Speaker 1: you know, the timing is not right with Becca. This

1379
01:09:22,960 --> 01:09:25,120
Speaker 1: doesn't make sense for me. But wait, Ben, if there

1380
01:09:25,479 --> 01:09:27,519
Speaker 1: was one girl you had to ask out, like, say

1381
01:09:27,680 --> 01:09:30,400
Speaker 1: you had a knife, to your throat. This is always

1382
01:09:30,400 --> 01:09:32,679
Speaker 1: a fun had to take one girl from your season

1383
01:09:32,680 --> 01:09:35,559
Speaker 1: now on a date? Now? Who would it be? Oh? Man,

1384
01:09:35,680 --> 01:09:37,760
Speaker 1: you just asked me like that. If I had to

1385
01:09:37,800 --> 01:09:40,360
Speaker 1: take one girl from my season back out on a date, now,

1386
01:09:40,880 --> 01:09:45,639
Speaker 1: who would it be? So? I mean, honestly, it would

1387
01:09:45,640 --> 01:09:49,800
Speaker 1: probably be Becca. That's why I gave you the question. Yeah,

1388
01:09:50,240 --> 01:09:52,800
Speaker 1: I just can't think. I mean, all of them are great, right,

1389
01:09:52,840 --> 01:09:55,360
Speaker 1: but when I when I go back through, a lot

1390
01:09:55,360 --> 01:09:58,680
Speaker 1: of them are like either super close with Lauren, so

1391
01:09:58,720 --> 01:10:00,799
Speaker 1: that would you know, not be okay? And it wouldn't

1392
01:10:00,800 --> 01:10:04,040
Speaker 1: be like fair of me to ask that of them

1393
01:10:04,200 --> 01:10:07,080
Speaker 1: or um, I didn't get to know him very well.

1394
01:10:07,560 --> 01:10:10,200
Speaker 1: I mean you have like so Becca would be it?

1395
01:10:10,320 --> 01:10:16,400
Speaker 1: So thank you everybody. That's a great great stories that

1396
01:10:16,520 --> 01:10:19,000
Speaker 1: we didn't want to tell. Yours wasn't a story, but

1397
01:10:19,080 --> 01:10:21,639
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Hey, everybody, this has been

1398
01:10:21,920 --> 01:10:24,360
Speaker 1: one of the most fun podcast because I am sitting

1399
01:10:24,439 --> 01:10:27,040
Speaker 1: next to the beautiful Ashley I Ken Eddie in studio.

1400
01:10:27,800 --> 01:10:30,639
Speaker 1: I couldn't talk today. You're fine, My bad. It wasn't

1401
01:10:30,680 --> 01:10:32,920
Speaker 1: like my hottest day. There's a lot of there's a

1402
01:10:32,920 --> 01:10:36,120
Speaker 1: lot of grace given on this podcast. Para laughing because

1403
01:10:36,200 --> 01:10:40,000
Speaker 1: they know. But here's the deal. Before we go, and

1404
01:10:40,040 --> 01:10:41,760
Speaker 1: before I sign us off here, I have one last

1405
01:10:41,800 --> 01:10:43,559
Speaker 1: question I've been wanting to ask you the whole time.

1406
01:10:43,640 --> 01:10:46,360
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, gracious, you have a rainbow of something

1407
01:10:46,400 --> 01:10:49,800
Speaker 1: painted on your arm. Please explain what the heck is

1408
01:10:49,840 --> 01:10:54,880
Speaker 1: going on? I because I also have like extremely split

1409
01:10:54,960 --> 01:10:57,760
Speaker 1: minted two like sparkles on my cheek. Um. I was

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01:10:57,920 --> 01:11:02,160
Speaker 1: just had access Hollywood before. I was doing a demonstration

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01:11:02,280 --> 01:11:07,120
Speaker 1: of Kylie Cosmetics new fall collection. So these are all

1412
01:11:07,160 --> 01:11:10,320
Speaker 1: of Kylie Is. You have Matt lipsticks on my arm.

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01:11:10,439 --> 01:11:12,640
Speaker 1: Oh that's that's lipstick on your arm. Why would you

1414
01:11:12,840 --> 01:11:15,920
Speaker 1: Why don't you put on your lips um? Well, it's

1415
01:11:15,920 --> 01:11:19,720
Speaker 1: just what they do today an influencer makeup marketing. They're like,

1416
01:11:19,800 --> 01:11:23,600
Speaker 1: put it on your arm. It's like, here's the colors.

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01:11:23,600 --> 01:11:26,360
Speaker 1: Oh oh, so you're testing? Okay, I was super Confusedly,

1418
01:11:26,400 --> 01:11:27,840
Speaker 1: it looks like you have like a tattoo of a

1419
01:11:27,920 --> 01:11:29,800
Speaker 1: rainbow on your arm right now. Know that that's the

1420
01:11:29,840 --> 01:11:33,439
Speaker 1: lip liner and the lipstick. And I put on this purpose.

1421
01:11:33,479 --> 01:11:35,360
Speaker 1: I thought it might be something for your big night tonight,

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01:11:35,360 --> 01:11:37,360
Speaker 1: which Ashley is heading out of here right now to

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01:11:37,400 --> 01:11:41,360
Speaker 1: go see Hansen live in Las Vegas. And with that,

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01:11:42,080 --> 01:11:45,000
Speaker 1: Ashley and I would like to thank Caitlin Bristow for

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01:11:45,040 --> 01:11:46,760
Speaker 1: coming on the podcast today. Make sure you check out

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Speaker 1: Friday at Central on we t V. And thank you

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01:12:02,080 --> 01:12:07,280
Speaker 1: for listening. We that's actually nice. Appreciate you. Appreciate Be

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Speaker 1: to leave us a message, that's eight five five to

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Speaker 1: seven four. Next week we got the goat Bachelor Bob Guinea.

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Speaker 1: We're throwing it back. We're bringing it back in preparation

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Speaker 1: for Ari's new season of the Bachelor. Hey I've been Ben,

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01:12:47,640 --> 01:12:51,400
Speaker 1: Hey Ben um Alison, She says, this is an email

1443
01:12:51,400 --> 01:12:53,559
Speaker 1: we got this week. She said the almost same as

1444
01:12:53,560 --> 01:12:56,080
Speaker 1: podcast drinking game would be take a shot. Every time

1445
01:12:56,120 --> 01:13:01,680
Speaker 1: Ben says appreciate bad thing, I appreciate everybody out there,

1446
01:13:01,720 --> 01:13:03,320
Speaker 1: And the way he says it is like kind of

1447
01:13:03,360 --> 01:13:05,160
Speaker 1: cute because he almost doesn't say the A. He's kind

1448
01:13:05,160 --> 01:13:10,280
Speaker 1: of appreciate, I appreciate all you. Actually, I appreciate you. Okay,

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01:13:10,360 --> 01:13:14,439
Speaker 1: I appreciate you. Ben. Love you, love you, love you.

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01:13:14,520 --> 01:13:17,679
Speaker 1: It's a little hustle. I've been. I've been been. I haven't.

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