Speaker 1: Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
Speaker 1: put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
Speaker 1: share with you on our daily podcast. Every night on
Speaker 1: my radio show, we have Delilah's dilemmas. We love them all.
Speaker 1: When you call or you write with a situation that
Speaker 1: you're in and you just need a little advice and direction,
Speaker 1: we love them all, and today we wanted to share
Speaker 1: some of them with you on Hey It's Delilah. Marie
Speaker 1: wrote to me and says, my barely ex boyfriend just
Speaker 1: came home from overseas. He came home about a month ago,
Speaker 1: and I was so excited after not seeing him for
Speaker 1: a year. Everything was going well. I got to spend
Speaker 1: time with him. I was so so happy he was
Speaker 1: finally home. Well, a week ago, he broke the news
Speaker 1: to me that he was back with his ex, who
Speaker 1: he was engaged to previously during the time they were together,
Speaker 1: she cheated on him. Now, I've been fine up until
Speaker 1: this point. I've kept it together and kept my head up,
Speaker 1: pretending like everything was fine, except tonight. Tonight is finally
Speaker 1: getting to me and I'm breaking down emotionally and I
Speaker 1: don't know what to do. It hurts bad, and although
Speaker 1: this isn't my first breakup, it's definitely the hardest I've
Speaker 1: ever been through. I just pretend like everything is fine
Speaker 1: and nothing bothers me, but I can't do it anymore.
Speaker 1: Please help me. From Marie Ah, Marie, I will help
Speaker 1: you in just a moment. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Marie,
Speaker 1: who wrote to a young man was involved with him
Speaker 1: while he was overseas. He came home to her loving
Speaker 1: eyes arms and then told her that he was going
Speaker 1: back to his ex. And she's pretending like everything is fine. Honey,
Speaker 1: everything is not fine. You have been betrayed in the
Speaker 1: worst way, and you've put your life on hold, hoping
Speaker 1: and planning for a future with somebody who was involved
Speaker 1: with somebody else, obviously during the time that he's been away.
Speaker 1: So stop pretending like it's okay, Stop pretending like your
Speaker 1: heart isn't broken, and cry and let your tears out
Speaker 1: and let your pain out and call your best friends
Speaker 1: and have some been and Jerry's ice cream with them,
Speaker 1: and then move on because you deserve to be loved
Speaker 1: completely by somebody who just wants to spoil you. Okay,
Speaker 1: So you can have my shoulder. My virtual should review
Speaker 1: the radio to cry on God bless you. Tonight's Delilah's
Speaker 1: Dilemma is from someone who is making bad choices because
Speaker 1: she loves too much. Jessica writes, I am twenty six
Speaker 1: with a beautiful baby girl. I am very much in
Speaker 1: love with both her and her daddy, but he has
Speaker 1: a bad drug habit. Because of his drug habit, we
Speaker 1: have lost everything. I am still so stupid in love
Speaker 1: that I keep taking him back. I know it's not
Speaker 1: good for me or my baby girl. Please tell me
Speaker 1: how to let go and do good for me and
Speaker 1: my kylie Bug. Thank you so much from Jessica. Jessica,
Speaker 1: I will have my mother delilah response for you coming
Speaker 1: up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from somebody who is
Speaker 1: stupid in love. Yes, you are, Jessica. You are stupid
Speaker 1: in love because you are doing stupid things that could
Speaker 1: cost you the life of your child, or it could
Speaker 1: cost you CPS coming taking your child, or it could
Speaker 1: cost you your child being messed up for the rest
Speaker 1: of her life. Jessica, you need to go to nar Anon.
Speaker 1: Nar Ann is a organization, a group I don't want
Speaker 1: to call it an organization meetings for people who love,
Speaker 1: people who love their drugs more than themselves or their children.
Speaker 1: People who are addicted to drugs, be it prescription drugs,
Speaker 1: be it over the counter drugs, be it street drugs.
Speaker 1: People who are addicted to OxyContin, to painkillers, to pot
Speaker 1: to whatever, cannot make sound choices. They cannot make good decisions.
Speaker 1: They cannot be good parents while they're using drugs. And
Speaker 1: because you are so addicted to this man, you are
Speaker 1: not being a good parent to your baby. You are
Speaker 1: putting your baby at risk, at risk of being hurt, killed,
Speaker 1: taken by CPS. You are putting your baby at risk
Speaker 1: because you are as addicted to the drug addict as
Speaker 1: the drug addict is addicted to drugs. So please, for
Speaker 1: your baby's sake, stop. If you don't love yourself, Jessica,
Speaker 1: and I get that because when I was your age
Speaker 1: with a baby, I didn't love myself and I was
Speaker 1: addicted to a drug addict. If you don't love yourself,
Speaker 1: I get that. But at least, for God's sakes, love
Speaker 1: your baby enough to not put her in harm's way.
Speaker 1: Go to narin On or go to alan On. Go
Speaker 1: to a counselor and figure out why you are addicted
Speaker 1: to an addict, and then start making good choices for
Speaker 1: you and your Kylie Bug. She deserves it. Here is
Speaker 1: tonight's Delilah's Dilemma. Becky writes, I fell in love with
Speaker 1: the most amazing man almost seven years ago. We dated
Speaker 1: for three years before we decided to marry, and I
Speaker 1: was afraid of making a mistake. My husband has one son.
Speaker 1: I have three children. His son lived with his mother
Speaker 1: and my kids live with their dad. Well, we just
Speaker 1: recently moved out of state and my sixteen year old
Speaker 1: daughter moved in with me and my husband. That was
Speaker 1: last summer and last fall. His nineteen year old son
Speaker 1: had to repeat a senior year, so he moved here
Speaker 1: with us to go to school. His parents felt he
Speaker 1: needed to get away from the people he was hanging
Speaker 1: out with, so we took him in since my daughter
Speaker 1: was here. What else could I say? He and his
Speaker 1: father never really got along, and five months later, all
Speaker 1: they do is fight all the time. I'm not talking
Speaker 1: about a little arguing. I can deal with that, but fighting.
Speaker 1: As a mother, I don't feel my daughter or I
Speaker 1: should be subjected to this craziness. We are planning on
Speaker 1: moving back home in the summer. I'm not sure if
Speaker 1: I can wait that long. I really need to get
Speaker 1: me and my daughter away from this craziness. I told
Speaker 1: my husband something tonight that tore me up. I told him,
Speaker 1: if I knew it would be like this with him
Speaker 1: and his son, I never would have decided to get married.
Speaker 1: This is a man that I've longed to find all
Speaker 1: my life. We were best friends, we share everything. But
Speaker 1: my stepson cursed me out today, and I just think
Speaker 1: it's about time for my husband to decide him or me.
Speaker 1: I need some serious advice, Mama Delilah, help from Becky. Becky,
Speaker 1: I will be back with my insights my response to
Speaker 1: your Delilah dilemma coming up next. If you were listening
Speaker 1: a moment ago, I got a letter from Becky who
Speaker 1: has married a man that has an adult son, and
Speaker 1: that adult son has moved in with them and is
Speaker 1: causing all sorts of mayhem in the household. And Becky,
Speaker 1: here's what I would say. When a child is a child,
Speaker 1: it's the parent's responsibility to provide for that child. But
Speaker 1: when a child is an adult and your step son
Speaker 1: is then that child is responsible, that adults is responsible
Speaker 1: for making their way in the world. And it sounds
Speaker 1: like he moved in with good intentions to complete school
Speaker 1: and to get away from some negative influences, but he
Speaker 1: brought with him a whole lot of behavior that is
Speaker 1: not acceptable. You cannot live in a household where there
Speaker 1: is physical fighting going on. So I support you one
Speaker 1: hundred percent in saying I can't live this way. I
Speaker 1: cannot live under these conditions. But I'm suspecting your husband
Speaker 1: is feeling extremely guilty because he was not the custodial parent,
Speaker 1: and there's nothing in this world quite as strong as
Speaker 1: parent guilt. Before you pack your bags, Becky and head out,
Speaker 1: have you thought about saying to your husband, can we
Speaker 1: go talk to a counselor can we get some input
Speaker 1: from somebody who's objective. Can we talk to somebody who's
Speaker 1: an expert at helping families stay together. You need somebody
Speaker 1: who can help you see all the different nuances and
Speaker 1: all the different things going on and can really give
Speaker 1: you some sound wisdom and advice. That's my best advice.
Speaker 1: I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
Speaker 1: much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
Speaker 1: more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah l