WEBVTT - Ep 18: The Couple 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:06.480 Novel. 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:14.200 This show contains adult material and swearing. You have been warned. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:20.280 Well, if I was in a freesom or a woresome moment, 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:22.560 I feel left out, I will. 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:24.880 Leave Like Wait, I'm the mascot on the side watching 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:27.400 the game. I'm the war boy and they're all playing 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:29.440 sport and I'm watching and it's reminding me. 0:00:29.400 --> 0:00:30.840 Of secondary school again. 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:40.279 Me, I'm a savage. 0:00:37.200 --> 0:00:45.080 Are you bored of modern dating? Meeting the same people 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:47.760 from the same apps in the same bar You've only 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:49.879 chosen because it's close to your house and you can 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:53.240 make your usual quick getaway. It's time to change the 0:00:53.320 --> 0:00:56.120 narrative on how we find love. It's time to start 0:00:56.160 --> 0:01:00.520 looking for love in all the wrong places. I'm going 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:03.920 on a wild dating adventure, only picking people who were 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.960 the total opposite of my type. And after twenty eight 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:10.160 of these dates in two months, will I find that 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:13.920 special someone or Well, this experiment proved that I should 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:16.000 just give up on dating altogether. 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:18.240 It's time to find out. 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:23.240 I'm Grace Campbell and this is twenty eight dates later. 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:35.840 Hi, down, what have you been up to? What have 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:37.800 I've been doing this week? What? To be honest, I 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:42.480 have just been dissociating. Oh that's fun. Yeah, Wait to 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:43.240 tell me about the date. 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:45.480 Okay, the day I went on this week is a 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:48.440 first for me because this was a date with a couple, 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:50.440 and I've never been on a date with a couple 0:01:50.640 --> 0:01:51.920 and they were like ten years apart. 0:01:52.040 --> 0:01:54.080 Wait, how did you meet on Field? 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:56.880 Well, okay, I have used Field, and I think it's 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:58.160 never done any good for me. 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:00.880 It's kind of like what Field is. 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:04.400 Field is a bunch of really boring straight men who 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:06.600 say they're head for flexible, which actually makes no sense. 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:08.800 Head to flexible just means you're willing to have a 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:10.920 threesome with a girl, or you're willing to have a 0:02:10.919 --> 0:02:13.400 threesome with a guy who needs to be attractive. 0:02:12.919 --> 0:02:15.120 But his dick needs to be smaller than yours, Right, 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:16.200 That's what I think it means. 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:19.480 There's all these like bland men and these gorgeous queer 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:23.239 people that they're with, and I'm like, how does this work? 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:26.120 Like I would love to like maybe just a reflection of. 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:29.960 The fucking world, Like unfortunately, like what men will do, 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:33.000 which is what was the case for this couple. Basically, 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:35.200 they were a couple and had been together for a 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:38.080 couple of years, and it was painfully obvious to me 0:02:38.440 --> 0:02:43.000 that she was less invested in opening up, opening it 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:46.359 up and having other situations with other couples, other people. Right, 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:48.680 And he was really quiet as well, like he didn't 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:51.440 really say much, Like it didn't quite all match up. 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:54.840 But this honestly to quote, and I can't giving me 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:57.200 up to it the hard situation. 0:02:57.280 --> 0:02:57.799 Yeah, it was. 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:01.000 It was a bit like he was quite creepy, I'll 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:03.680 be honest. And I thought that from the moment I 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:06.440 met him. It was triggering, not my non star. I 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:07.600 didn't think he was a nonce. 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:09.960 It was triggering my just. 0:03:09.960 --> 0:03:11.760 You're a creepy man, And if I met you in 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:13.040 most context, I would think. 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:15.239 That, Yeah, yeah, even if you're my friend's dad. 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:19.280 It's giving, like magician exactly, it's giving, Like wearing eyeliner 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:23.040 fully around the eye does not make you more sexually ambiguous. 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:24.880 Exactly, it just makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. Yeah, 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.160 and you're looking at me too much. Yeah, you still 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:35.640 probably secretly have like a Lost Profits tour t shirt. Hi, 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:41.800 So how long have you been together? You in a bit, 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:44.720 what is your relationship if you had to define it, 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:47.960 mostly monogamous, Okay. 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:51.080 Yeah, and then you go on field to meet a 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:52.520 third or other couples. 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:55.760 But yeah, okay, and was it that from the beginning. 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:58.280 Or it's what I wanted from the beginning? 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:00.080 Okay, yeah, I. 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:06.640 Don't know, doubt Yes, I mean it's what I wanted, 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:09.040 That's what I wanted. 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:12.640 But also like there was things about like him that 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.520 just gave me the ick. He's just gone through a divorce, 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:16.320 discussing I'm. 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:18.760 Drinking, but he like, okay, what is this a Sex 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:19.599 and the City reboot? 0:04:19.680 --> 0:04:19.880 Yeah? 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:20.279 Exactly. 0:04:20.960 --> 0:04:24.040 He was like ten years older than her, but basically 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:26.240 had known that he wanted an open relationship when he 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:28.680 got with her, but she didn't, and then after like. 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.000 Well that's shady, Like if that's what you want, it 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:32.440 needs to be on the profile. It needs to be 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:35.320 said at the beginning, right, Like you can't kind of 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:38.480 like let someone in and then go, oh, by the way. 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:42.479 Well exactly, which is why there are benefits to like 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:45.520 apps like Field, because you can make it really clear 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:48.440 that that is what you're looking for and are interested in, 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.680 and then people can decide, like from the get go 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:52.159 if they're going to be into that. 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:54.560 Because I guess also the good thing about fluidity, which 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:57.160 I don't think people like think about, is that if 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:59.200 you're open and you want things to be fluid, then 0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:00.680 it goes in and out, do you know what I mean? Like, 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:02.919 so there's sometimes in your like open relationship where you 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:06.440 are more monogamous, where actually you're like, we're really into 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:08.000 each other at the moment, so we're not going to 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:10.240 go out there and have sex with other people, and 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:12.480 you can have the open dialogue of being like that 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:14.279 would make me feel jealous if you did that, and 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:16.760 then it can open itself a bit further out and yeah, 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:17.120 back in. 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:20.680 But yeah, but those things are only achievable if both 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:22.440 people have the capacity to. 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:23.960 Like community walk. Yeah. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:26.839 But I guess what was kind of but not like 0:05:27.080 --> 0:05:30.520 sad sounds a bit patronizing, but I enjoyed the company 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:31.200 of more. 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:32.200 Of the Alice the girl. 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:34.320 But what A felt a bit sad was it did 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:36.760 feel like this was a situation that had been thrust 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:40.600 upon her, like once she'd fallen in love with someone. Yeah, 0:05:40.640 --> 0:05:45.159 which is just like not really, it's not really ideal. 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:55.359 I do think then until you're able to be alone, 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:57.039 you can't maybe someone else. 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:00.560 I obviously disagree with that well, because you've never been 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:04.680 by yourself. But really I. 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:06.960 Was looking forward to her and then you came along 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:14.320 among no way, yeah, just out of a ten year marriage. 0:06:16.480 --> 0:06:20.280 No, no, the marriage is not my fam. I mean, 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:25.039 it's not giving me goodvibes. I think as well. 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:28.720 I basically think that's the sign of someone who's quite unthrapized, 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.159 is being like, yeah, I've never been alone. 0:06:32.279 --> 0:06:40.279 Well yeah, I mean as someone who has. But I okay, 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:42.080 So I used to always think that, like, you know, 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:44.599 you can't love somebody else to love yourself whatever. 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:48.279 That phrases, well choose life. 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:53.000 Yeah yeah, but like it's a thing of like being, 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:55.919 like you have to like yourself, right. So I didn't 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:58.920 date for like a long ass time because, like I guess, 0:06:58.920 --> 0:07:00.600 as a person, I was trying to figure myself out 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:00.960 more and. 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:02.559 Like like who I was more. 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:05.040 But then the most I learned about myself was when 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:07.440 I started dating people. I mean, so I think it's 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:08.960 like a it's a paradox. 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:12.960 Of like you can't rely on being. I do. 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:15.160 I agree with that, but I think because I've been 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:18.400 someone who's been so codependent in relationships, and that wouldn't 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:21.000 have happened if I'd have been more happy with who 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:23.560 I was. It's not necessarily about being like happy on 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:26.760 your own. It's just about being happy with yourself so 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:29.360 you don't need somebody else to help regulate your emotions, 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:31.640 which is like why people are so desperate to like 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:34.800 being relationships, because they need someone else to make them 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:36.160 feel like validated all the tea. 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:38.600 But also I feel like plot twist, no one's happy, 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:42.600 Like you've heard it here first, Like either you like 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:45.360 your work's going well, so you're upset about your personal life, 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:47.480 or like the opposite way around, you know what I mean, 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:49.000 Like I mean. 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:53.040 That, but that, but that is because I at the 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:55.960 moment in my life feel truly, I actually feel really happy, 0:07:56.480 --> 0:08:00.200 and she lies. 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:03.400 They had basically as a couple. 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:05.800 The week before I met them, been on a date 0:08:05.840 --> 0:08:08.560 with another couple and it had just been like a 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:12.200 first date. They hadn't like done a sex thing, but 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:15.240 they were meeting up the next week after I met 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:17.280 with them to go on a second date with this couple, 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:21.480 and they had like pre booked babysitter the other couple 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:24.600 had kids, and then also like a hotel room. So 0:08:24.680 --> 0:08:27.160 I was like really asking like loads of questions about 0:08:27.160 --> 0:08:28.640 what they imagined was going to happen. 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:36.920 I think I expected to be way more embarrassing at 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:39.680 the beginning. It's just like you sit there with two 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:45.800 strangers and you kind of know that I'm basically interviewing you. 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.720 It's two and two, So it's like, what if one 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:51.320 person wants to do it and the other. 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:54.439 Person, what do you do? Exactly? Do you think you'll 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:58.280 see them again? We have a second guy really. 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:01.040 Out for Jenna next. 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:03.560 Week, So can I ask when you go on this 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:07.560 second date with this couple, what do you think could happen? 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:11.440 Well, we've we've been kind of sex stayed, so really 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:13.120 anything anything. 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:16.559 But it's going to be like a foursome. I don't know. 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:20.000 I don't know. I'm so stressed. Are you buy? Would 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.520 you get with the woman? I would? Yeah, I've never 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:26.200 done it. You would my preference as women? Yeah, but 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:27.080 you would? You know? 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:27.680 Yeah? 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:30.600 Some? Oh so then it could go anyway? 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:31.160 Yeah? 0:09:32.120 --> 0:09:34.280 Who's leading the sex day? Yeah? I see what's the 0:09:34.320 --> 0:09:38.280 WhatsApp group called? Yeah? Like, like, what's it called? 0:09:39.960 --> 0:09:42.839 I reckon It's called Dinner Thursday the twenty second of 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:43.719 March or. 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:45.720 Is it like a couple of keys trying to find 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:46.760 one big bowl. 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:49.920 That's a bit long for like a WhatsApp group tail. 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:53.560 I think sometimes these things are supposed to feel exciting, 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:54.800 do you know what I mean? Like you're supposed to 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:56.800 open up your relationship and feel like in a space 0:09:56.840 --> 0:10:00.199 that you're comfortable and there's trust that this new er 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:02.320 is exciting. But from the sound of it, it doesn't 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:04.920 sound that. Like she said, I'm really stressed out by 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:05.520 the situation. 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:09.400 What she said, which like I think was after this, 0:10:09.559 --> 0:10:13.320 was she was like, I think that maybe because basically 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:16.040 the guy from the other couple was also Italian like her, 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:19.559 And she said that him, her boyfriend, and the woman 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:22.000 from the couple were both English and they were really similar. 0:10:22.400 --> 0:10:24.440 And she was like, I have a feeling that they're 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:27.000 just gonna like really get on and me and the 0:10:27.200 --> 0:10:29.640 Italian guy are just gonna like sit there like talking 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:32.920 in Italian. And I was like that that as a scenario, 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:34.319 like just imagine that. 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:36.160 That gives me such a deep it. 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:38.480 Yeah, but also to know what sounds so much more 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:42.480 sexy not the two Brits fucking Italians talking. 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:44.520 No, No, I mean that's hot to me. White. 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:48.760 I don't know, that just doesn't sound fun or like erotic, 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:53.320 like when he said sexting, honestly, my full body, full 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:55.240 body reaction goosebumps. 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:57.760 Also, how can you sex with a couple where like 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:03.600 maybe like one slash poss two of the people aren't game, but. 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:06.760 Then exactly and it's also like, well, yeah, what are 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:07.319 you sending? 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:08.200 That's what I mean? 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:11.440 But wait, I in terms of being part of a 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:15.720 group that has become sextinc esque. 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:18.280 I recently this is so long. 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:21.760 I recently got messaged by this guy on Grinder who 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:24.120 was like, Hey, I want to start a big group 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:29.320 for tall gaze baby. It's a WhatsApp group called like 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:34.240 two hundred gays mainly why embarrassing be course it would be, 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:37.120 but like and it's like all these like soho gays. 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:39.800 I feel like, though me saying this, they're going to 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:41.680 find out they're going to get me, because. 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:44.479 Sometimes feel a bit like what is being said. 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:46.880 Well, baby, it's just people sending like real lame ass 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:50.760 nudes like gays be gay in, Gays be gay in. 0:11:50.960 --> 0:11:52.800 They can't stop. Like it's just like it's like two 0:11:52.840 --> 0:11:54.760 o'clock in the afternoon on a Tuesday. I don't want 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:57.480 to see like what looks like a dead hamster in 0:11:57.520 --> 0:11:59.880 a shape val it looks like a dead hamster and 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:10.520 take a good nude. 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:13.720 If I was in a couple and we were meeting 0:12:13.760 --> 0:12:17.680 with another couple to figure out like whether or not 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:20.200 we're going to have like a good fucking swinging party 0:12:20.320 --> 0:12:22.920 or whatever, all I would really care about is how 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:26.600 much I'm attracted to them. Like I'm not really looking 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:28.840 to go on like a holiday with them. 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:30.680 It's not like I'm interviewing for a job. 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:33.200 I would just need to assess do I fancy the 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:36.959 guy and the girl? Do I feel comfortable with the 0:12:37.000 --> 0:12:38.640 other person getting with my partner? 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:42.640 That's all I'm like thinking about. Wait, can I ask. 0:12:42.559 --> 0:12:44.600 A question which maybe to be personal to me, but 0:12:44.640 --> 0:12:48.160 actually I think it's maybe universal. I feel like everyone's 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:52.199 just talking about like couples going away together. Does everyone 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:53.800 have like a period of time in their lives but 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:57.000 like their parents or like single parent, like had a 0:12:57.000 --> 0:13:00.360 close friend or like a close couple friend who they 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:02.120 went away with that like deep down you kind of 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:05.160 thought they maybe were fucking because I remember going to 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:10.760 Digital and Florida and being like, I swear I can't 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:20.160 say their real name for legal reasons, but my mom. 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:19.319 Is like maybe like do you know what I mean? 0:13:19.320 --> 0:13:20.400 I don't know, there's like a vibe. 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:22.120 I was like, if it was happening, good for her, 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:24.520 and I want that, Like I would love that, but 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:26.000 like I feel like, is that a thing that like 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:26.640 secretly cool? 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:30.080 Yeah? Yeah yeah, but like swinging in the middle age 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:33.000 is very normal middle ages. Yeah, it's very normal. 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:35.280 Like swinging is very popular at the moment with middle 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:38.000 aged people. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I my parents have been 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:40.760 propositioned to swing quite a lot, is it. 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.359 Well, yeah, political leaning exactly. 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:49.560 Well, I think the question I would ask the couple, like, 0:13:49.640 --> 0:13:52.240 I think simply, if it's about sex, you need to 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:54.560 know that you're compatible in the bedroom. It's a hard 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.160 situation because obviously things like grinding that Like I've spoken 0:13:57.160 --> 0:13:59.480 to people, but the first time we meet is in 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:01.600 a situation where we're going to have sex. And there 0:14:01.600 --> 0:14:04.640 are lots of situations where like the way that person's 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:07.679 curated their profile gives them a certain energy and then 0:14:07.679 --> 0:14:09.960 when you meet them, you're like, oh, like you were 0:14:09.960 --> 0:14:11.800 giving me like daddy vibes and I meet you and 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:14.400 actually it's missed out fire Like it's that scene in 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:15.680 like Robin will like that. 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:19.880 Which is like run into the bathroom and getting changed. 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:26.160 It's like that hello goodbye. 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:29.320 So like that's what I think about, like grinding self 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:31.480 or even field, Like it's so upfront in terms of 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:33.880 like what you like and what you want to do, 0:14:34.480 --> 0:14:35.840 but then also like so. 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:38.200 Much of that, but I'm feeling that doesn't quite tick 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:40.560 off this thing of like it's about, yeah, am I 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:42.480 gonna like have good sex with you? But also am 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:44.760 I going to feel comfortable with your fucking my boyfriend 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:46.600 in front of me? 0:14:46.760 --> 0:14:46.920 Yeah? 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:49.760 Yeah, yeah yeah, Like can I firstly assess how good 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:50.600 you are giving head? 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:53.040 Is it better than me? Because it's better than me? 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:55.120 And let me just say absolutely that's this is like 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:57.640 a parallel universe and that could possibly be situation because 0:14:57.680 --> 0:14:59.960 no one gives the old good block block through that 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:00.680 I wasn't like I do. 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:03.040 Nobody finds that bean like down. 0:15:05.040 --> 0:15:06.920 My friend told me the other day that he used 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:09.840 to think that when he used to give head, like 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:13.240 eating out. The phrase eating out confused him so much 0:15:13.240 --> 0:15:16.040 so he was like looking for something because he thought 0:15:16.080 --> 0:15:16.640 you meant. 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:19.800 To be getting like a bean, like a wait what, So. 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:22.440 He thought like eating out the goal was like you're 0:15:22.480 --> 0:15:23.920 getting something out. 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:27.520 Why Why does say that like it's given like Pokemon boarders. 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:29.520 No, I know, so he thought he was in this 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:32.480 little mission of people trying to get something out, which 0:15:32.480 --> 0:15:33.760 I get is kind of misleading. 0:15:34.280 --> 0:15:34.840 No, it's not. 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.440 No one has ever thought, oh, I'm going to go 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:39.040 down and stone and get a little bean out of 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:39.360 the person. 0:15:39.440 --> 0:15:41.200 I love the idea that there is like a little 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:42.560 bean in that way, but. 0:15:42.480 --> 0:15:47.560 There's not the am I right always been when I 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:49.000 was I saw sometimes to. 0:15:49.280 --> 0:15:52.960 Yeah, famously very good at head. I know very well 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:54.760 that has not giving me head. 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:57.640 I just have to No matter how many times you ask, 0:15:57.880 --> 0:15:59.240 I won't do it every time. 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:02.040 No, but I do know that you're you've made a 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:05.760 woman come. Thank you. And if I die tomorrow, this 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:06.880 is how I want to be remembered. 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:11.480 Yes, I never understood why people are like, I don't 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:13.160 know why people are like, where is it like it's 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:14.600 quite is it not quite obvious? 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:17.480 Where it is? Yeah? But people are you know, men 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:18.600 and men, men and men. 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:21.320 And also I think people don't even know where they're 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:22.720 looking at the beginning. 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:26.200 Well yeah, but it's also hard to look like you know, 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:27.880 where you're looking is like. 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:37.040 A bean, it's like a jelly bean. If someone has 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:40.560 pampas grass at their door, it's the international signal that 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:43.520 they're a swinger. So it's the sort of way to 0:16:43.560 --> 0:16:45.480 tell when they're having a dinner party. Kind of like 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:48.080 dogging exactly what is it? 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:51.480 Dog ill It's where you're like you're in the car 0:16:51.560 --> 0:16:54.200 and you flash the headlights a certain way to like 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:56.120 signal to the other car to come over. 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.720 But so there's this like car park and Hams even. 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:01.400 I know two people who came to London to visit 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:05.240 and they were just walking on through that car park. 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:07.879 They got some of this guy and he was American 0:17:07.920 --> 0:17:09.920 and he was like, oh, I've come all the way 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:11.240 over for this, and they were like, oh my god, 0:17:11.240 --> 0:17:13.840 we're this thing as well. And then he was like, oh, 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:15.560 I mean like to come here. And then they were 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:17.080 like what do you mean do you mean? And then 0:17:17.119 --> 0:17:19.120 he was like, well, like through there and apparently there's 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:20.840 like a bit where you walk like through the trees 0:17:20.880 --> 0:17:23.600 and then suddenly it's literally like loads. 0:17:23.400 --> 0:17:25.800 Of people fucking yeah, we need to go. 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:30.879 My mom was once walking on Humpstead Heat and just 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.119 suddenly it was in the like George Michael, you know 0:17:33.160 --> 0:17:36.400 the area yeah, and she was just like, I mean, 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:38.040 nobody had any interest in her because she was a 0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:38.760 middle aged woman. 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:41.320 But it was really fun. But she still stayed for 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:45.360 three hours. I mean she's still there now. This was yesterday. 0:17:45.480 --> 0:17:48.200 She didn't have a dog with her. How what a 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:53.280 you're walking? Is your dad at a last? 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:00.639 I remember actually living just outside of cor in this 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:03.840 little countryside town called bucks Well, and you could walk 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:05.919 and like see people dogging quite a long if you 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:08.240 wanted to, and it was quite fun. 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:10.280 But why is it called dogging? 0:18:11.400 --> 0:18:15.320 I could never tell you, okay, because I've been sworn 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:18.640 to secrecy by the community doggers. If I were to say, 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:20.600 they'd come for me and then my family free, but 0:18:20.640 --> 0:18:21.560 then my family's family. 0:18:23.920 --> 0:18:24.000 No. 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:26.119 But I think it's I would like to do more, 0:18:26.320 --> 0:18:27.800 Like I would like to go to more saunas. 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:29.880 I would like to like go and experience these things more. 0:18:29.920 --> 0:18:33.320 But like what I've experienced so far is well, I 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:35.600 have been cruised quite a bit, like in my life, 0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:37.600 Like in terms of like cruising is kind of like 0:18:39.119 --> 0:18:41.600 where you're on public transport or like walking through a 0:18:41.600 --> 0:18:42.240 park or something. 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:45.280 Can you have like long eye contact with somebody. 0:18:45.600 --> 0:18:47.360 And then that's kind of like an instagator of being 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:50.560 like I'm into you and then you can go have sex. 0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:53.280 Like I remember, actually I remember this happened to be 0:18:53.320 --> 0:18:55.480 on the bus once and it was really hot. But 0:18:55.560 --> 0:18:57.600 then also one time it happened to me. I was 0:18:57.640 --> 0:19:01.000