Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, It's Liliana from Date My Abuelita First. Now
Speaker 1: with all my new NATO's, Natas and nitas on the show,
Speaker 1: I am really touched at how they all put their
Speaker 1: trust in me. Thank you for doing so. Awelita is
Speaker 1: here to help you find love. Now. I may have
Speaker 1: a lot of experience, but let's see how my experience
Speaker 1: holds up when listeners right in with their dating questions.
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, and I have to give advice on
Speaker 1: the spot. I can do that to our listeners. If
Speaker 1: you've ever wanted advice directly from an abuelita like me,
Speaker 1: well now it's your chance. Dm us with your dating
Speaker 1: questions at Date my Abuelita First on Instagram and I
Speaker 1: will select a few questions to answer. Now let's get
Speaker 1: the advice trained Roland. Here we go again. The question
Speaker 1: comes from Matthias. My girlfriend of six months is throwing
Speaker 1: hints that she wants to move in together. It's more
Speaker 1: than hints now because in the last couple of weeks
Speaker 1: she started sending me listings on Zillow and Craigslist that
Speaker 1: she likes. And while she has an outright said she
Speaker 1: wants to move in, the writing is on the wall
Speaker 1: for sure, and we've definitely talked about it casually before.
Speaker 1: While I'm a little apprehensive to move in together, I
Speaker 1: gotta say it would be nice that she lives a
Speaker 1: bit far from me and we only get to really
Speaker 1: see one another once a week, which doesn't feel like enough.
Speaker 1: Despite wanting to see her more and see what it's
Speaker 1: like to have that kind of intimacy, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I'm ready to move in. I'm thirty seven and
Speaker 1: I've never lived with a partner before. There's a lot
Speaker 1: about the possibility that excites me and a lot that
Speaker 1: makes me hesitant. I'm a little scared of losing my
Speaker 1: autonomy and my alone time. I'm unsure when I'll know
Speaker 1: if it's the right time or if I should just
Speaker 1: go for it and see what happens. Another big factor
Speaker 1: is I've lived in my current place for over ten
Speaker 1: years and it's rent controlled. I live in a city
Speaker 1: we're finding a good place to live at an affordable
Speaker 1: price is really uncommon, But I know my girlfriend would
Speaker 1: prefer to live in a different part of town. I
Speaker 1: want us both to be happy. What should I factor
Speaker 1: in and making such a big decision, and is it
Speaker 1: too early. What do you mean too early? Are you
Speaker 1: looking at the clock? If there's any clock that you
Speaker 1: should be looking at right now, it's the fact that
Speaker 1: you are thirty seven years old and there is no
Speaker 1: more time to waste. You have heard those simple words
Speaker 1: that everybody mentions, life is so short. In regards to
Speaker 1: her looking for places on Zillow and Craigslist, I think
Speaker 1: that's pretty cute. I think that shows her enthusiasm for
Speaker 1: this relationship though it is six months old. Sometimes it
Speaker 1: takes six years, sometimes it's never. But you have the
Speaker 1: opportunity to do it now. Now you're apprehensive about a
Speaker 1: couple of things, rent control, really, really, we're talking money already. No,
Speaker 1: how about we just get it done now. Do you
Speaker 1: have that kind of intimacy in order to fulfill this dream? Well?
Speaker 1: Do you? You will not be questioning unless it was there.
Speaker 1: You are excited about the possibility, But at the same time,
Speaker 1: you're on that sense, a bit hesitant and a bit
Speaker 1: scared you're going to lose your autonomy. You're alone time.
Speaker 1: How about your togetherness? How about enjoying all that beautiful
Speaker 1: life that you have with someone that you can truly
Speaker 1: truly enjoy your life? With don't be so hesitant. If
Speaker 1: you're asking questions is because you are ready for the answer.
Speaker 1: You want someone to tell you what is right, and
Speaker 1: Awilita is right. Here, make a chance, leap with great faith,
Speaker 1: follow your heart. What can happen? It doesn't work, at
Speaker 1: least you gave it your best shot. Are you ready
Speaker 1: for another question? This one is from Rex. I was
Speaker 1: talking to a super hot person on a dating apple.
Speaker 1: Here we start with the hot one TVH. I was
Speaker 1: looking for a fun, spicy encounter. They told me they
Speaker 1: were going out of town, but with text. When they
Speaker 1: got back, I thought, oh, yeah, right, no one ever
Speaker 1: follows up. Well, to my surprise, when they got back,
Speaker 1: they texted asking what I was up to over that weekend.
Speaker 1: I invited them to hang out the next day, but
Speaker 1: didn't hear back. The next day they texted saying they'd
Speaker 1: been sick. Yeah, possible, but a bit sketchy. We made
Speaker 1: plans to hang out the following weekend. Hang out arrived,
Speaker 1: I hadn't heard from them and sent a text no answer.
Speaker 1: The next day I received texts from them, but from
Speaker 1: a new different number. Oh my goodness. They had gotten
Speaker 1: a new phone and yeah, lost their contexts. Sure, they
Speaker 1: were so sorry for ghosting, and that that hadn't been
Speaker 1: their intention. I don't believe them throughout all of this.
Speaker 1: My friends said, it seemed sus slash red flaggy, but
Speaker 1: not totally out of the realm of possibilities, and I
Speaker 1: could try one more time. I replied, nicely but succinctly.
Speaker 1: I asked if they wanted to hang that week. They
Speaker 1: said yes, excitedly, and we decided on a day. Well,
Speaker 1: two hours later they texted again and said that they
Speaker 1: actually weren't very available with the lame excuse, they had
Speaker 1: so many opportunities to ghost. Why follow up after their
Speaker 1: trip out of town? Why tell us they got a
Speaker 1: new number? Why tell me they got a new phone.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to f a blank si kay explanation,
Speaker 1: exclamation exclamation, Well is their loss? Now? Tell me I
Speaker 1: will need that. What was up with this person? And
Speaker 1: how do I avoid situations like this moving forward? Well,
Speaker 1: if you put yourself on the spot, take what comes
Speaker 1: with it. Your first sentence to me said, you're looking
Speaker 1: for a hot person to have a spicy encounter. Well
Speaker 1: there was nothing serious there. You were not looking for
Speaker 1: someone who was real and honest. No, and this person
Speaker 1: they got the drift. They knew they could do whatever
Speaker 1: they wanted, especially since you kept texting them. Once a
Speaker 1: person ignores you the first time, do you really need
Speaker 1: a second opportunity to be put down or abused or ignored?
Speaker 1: This is how the relationship will continue. Your intentions are good,
Speaker 1: but maybe your thoughts should be a bit more condensed
Speaker 1: than saying, maybe I'm looking for something else. This person
Speaker 1: did not want to connect with you. This person did
Speaker 1: not have the time for you. This person did not
Speaker 1: have the respect enough to tell you anything that was real.
Speaker 1: There was no honesty, no truth, and you accepted it.
Speaker 1: And remember that in the process of it all. You
Speaker 1: can ask a million friends how they feel about the
Speaker 1: situation that you are going through, but they are all
Speaker 1: talking about their own life experiences. Now Awilita is telling
Speaker 1: you about a whole world of experiences and giving you
Speaker 1: the best advice I can so that you can find
Speaker 1: that goodness, that humbleness, that kindness, that light that will
Speaker 1: shine in your life. So move on, find reality and
Speaker 1: stick with it. When MISA artists don't forget to listen
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