Speaker 1: This is Conversations with Olivia Jade and I Heart Radio Podcast.
Speaker 1: Hi everybody, it's Olivia Jade. Welcome back to another episode
Speaker 1: of Conversations. Today's episode is a little bit different considering
Speaker 1: I'm solo and I won't be interviewing anybody, but I
Speaker 1: kind of wanted to take this chance in this UM
Speaker 1: episode to have you guys interviewed me. So I took
Speaker 1: it to Instagram and I asked you guys some questions
Speaker 1: and I just want to give you a little life
Speaker 1: update as well, so we can just hop right into it.
Speaker 1: I don't have anybody else to introduce accept me, so
Speaker 1: I hope you guys enjoy and I'm going to dive
Speaker 1: right into it first. By starting out, I want to
Speaker 1: say I dyed my hair red. And I've been getting
Speaker 1: so many questions about like, how do you decide to
Speaker 1: die it? Read what inspoted you go to? And I
Speaker 1: actually think it's really funny because I brought my mom's
Speaker 1: photo from when she was on Full House to um
Speaker 1: my hair stylist, and I was like, can you just
Speaker 1: make it look like that? And the reason for that
Speaker 1: was is because I've never touched my hair before, I've
Speaker 1: like highlighted it a little bit here and there, but
Speaker 1: never like a full onde change new colors. So I
Speaker 1: was really nervous, and I was thinking to myself, Um,
Speaker 1: you know, I kind of look like my mom. I
Speaker 1: see a lot of differences, but everybody seems to think
Speaker 1: we look alike. So I was like, everybody says I
Speaker 1: look like her, so I'm going to dye my hair.
Speaker 1: Maybe I should just diet of colors she's had, so
Speaker 1: at least I know, like, okay, I could maybe possibly
Speaker 1: pull it off, because it was like my biggest fear
Speaker 1: I was going to diet and despise how I looked.
Speaker 1: But I actually really like it. It's different, it's fun.
Speaker 1: I feel like I kind of feel like it's like
Speaker 1: an alter ego of mine now, so I'm enjoying it. Um.
Speaker 1: But that's like my little life update on that, which
Speaker 1: is not super interesting. Um. And I also have seen
Speaker 1: a lot of questions on my Instagram that some are
Speaker 1: really really great questions that I think I think about
Speaker 1: often and things i'd love to talk about, but I'm
Speaker 1: always kind of fearful to speak about just because I
Speaker 1: never wanted to be misconstrued or taken the wrong way. Um,
Speaker 1: but I also know that I've said this from the
Speaker 1: very beginning of when I started this podcast, is that
Speaker 1: it's like being vulnerable and open, and this is my
Speaker 1: podcast after Also, the listeners hopefully are people that have
Speaker 1: either been with me for a while or care to
Speaker 1: hear what I have to say. Um, but I want
Speaker 1: to start out a little bit more general because I
Speaker 1: got so many questions about like my workout routine and
Speaker 1: how I lost all this weight and how many calories
Speaker 1: and how I don't compare my body on social media
Speaker 1: and some of these questions the way they're phrased, it
Speaker 1: makes me realize, like how consumed all of us are
Speaker 1: in social media and comparing ourselves to other people. And
Speaker 1: I us want to remind everybody that's listening that and
Speaker 1: take it for me. Somebody who's on social media posting
Speaker 1: their best moments getting the comments that are like, how
Speaker 1: do you look like that? And sure, I have my
Speaker 1: good days, but also you need to remember that these
Speaker 1: are all angles and our best moments and our cutest photos,
Speaker 1: and my tennis moments and my favorite outfits and the
Speaker 1: most flattering bikinis, and um, although I do love to
Speaker 1: work out and eat right and take care of my
Speaker 1: body more so for my mental at this point. Um,
Speaker 1: I just I think it's really important that everybody reminds
Speaker 1: themselves we're all kind of living in this fantasy world
Speaker 1: where we see everybody every second of every day looking
Speaker 1: their best, and it gives us all these like false
Speaker 1: ideas in our head that we're not good enough, which
Speaker 1: is just so not the case. So if anybody can
Speaker 1: preach it to you, I hope you can take it
Speaker 1: from me, somebody who post my best moments. And then
Speaker 1: also when I think about that, I feel guilty because
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I don't want people to get the
Speaker 1: wrong idea that this is what I look like all
Speaker 1: the time or I'm always feeling this good. Um. I
Speaker 1: also think that social media can dehumanize like a lot
Speaker 1: of people sometimes and make you feel like the people
Speaker 1: you're following aren't really real. And I remember when I
Speaker 1: was on I had lost a bunch of weight, like
Speaker 1: right before the summer of last year, and then throughout
Speaker 1: the summer, I think I gave like ten or fifteen pounds,
Speaker 1: which really isn't a big deal to like most people,
Speaker 1: i'd hope, Um, But I remember getting a brand deal
Speaker 1: and it was like these bikini posts that I had
Speaker 1: to do and I was freaking out because I was
Speaker 1: so insecure about it. I was like, I don't want
Speaker 1: to do this. I don't feel the best right now.
Speaker 1: I don't look like how I was posting on social
Speaker 1: media the last like three months anymore. And it's like
Speaker 1: you get so in your head about everything, and I
Speaker 1: just want people to be reminded constantly that like everybody
Speaker 1: has um I don't know, just their sensitivities and stuff
Speaker 1: that you're so consumed with and concerned about that other
Speaker 1: people don't get to see. And I remember also, I
Speaker 1: was going on Dancing with the Stars right after all
Speaker 1: of this, and I was like, people are going to
Speaker 1: think I'm like lying all my social media because again
Speaker 1: it was posting my best moments when I felt like
Speaker 1: my hottest version, really really good. And I don't want
Speaker 1: this to get twisted. It's not to say if you
Speaker 1: gain weight that you're not hot. That's not at all
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But it is like I'm going on
Speaker 1: National TV in one version of myself and then all
Speaker 1: my Instagram I look like a different version of myself,
Speaker 1: and that can be really really tricky for a for
Speaker 1: somebody who's doing it themselves because you feel guilt and
Speaker 1: you feel bad for portraying this image, but also to
Speaker 1: my followers, it's also not fair. So I just want
Speaker 1: to remind you that, um, you're seeing everybody's best moments
Speaker 1: and you really do mean that. But um, in terms
Speaker 1: of the workout questions and how many calories I eat
Speaker 1: and stuff like that, it's really not for me about
Speaker 1: counting my calories or pushing myself in the gym to
Speaker 1: where I feel like I'm going to throw up and die.
Speaker 1: If you want to know my real secret, this is
Speaker 1: what I've seen do wonders for my body. This is
Speaker 1: how I got in probably like the best shape of
Speaker 1: my life, um, about a year ago, and this is
Speaker 1: what I've been doing for the last month again, and
Speaker 1: I really see a difference. And I've talked about it
Speaker 1: on my YouTube a little bit before, but it's this
Speaker 1: exercise called twelve three thirty which was created by Lauren
Speaker 1: Giraldo and she's awesome, But basically, you just put your
Speaker 1: treadmill at an incline of twelve, you walk at a
Speaker 1: speed of three for thirty minutes. I sometimes will do
Speaker 1: like a ten minute app work out, I'll do like
Speaker 1: a ten minute but workout after it. But that's pretty
Speaker 1: much all I do. I also love Sammy Clark's workouts
Speaker 1: on her app called form Um. You just sign up,
Speaker 1: but they're all like thirty minute workouts and you normally
Speaker 1: just need like a band or five pound weights and
Speaker 1: you can just do it in your house and those
Speaker 1: are really great and easy. Um, just little things, because
Speaker 1: I feel like the most important thing with working out
Speaker 1: and um like staying consistent with it is finding stuff
Speaker 1: you actually like doing. If you're just working out and
Speaker 1: thinking of it as like, oh, I just want to
Speaker 1: be in this like certain body type or this like whatever,
Speaker 1: you're never going to stick with it because it's going
Speaker 1: to become tortuous, you're going to create negative feelings towards it,
Speaker 1: You're going to correlate it with bad habits and kind
Speaker 1: of unhealthy habits. So I think finding stuff that you like.
Speaker 1: I also really like pilates, which I don't do enough,
Speaker 1: but I do enjoy it. So I think stuff like that. Okay,
Speaker 1: enough about that, now that I got that whole spiel
Speaker 1: out of the way. UM, I think this is another
Speaker 1: great question, and I also want to answer it because
Speaker 1: I have no idea what the answer is, but I
Speaker 1: think we can all relate a little bit, and it's
Speaker 1: best advice for young adults who are struggling to figure
Speaker 1: out what to do career wise. Oh sis, you're telling me, Um,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, like the opper answer
Speaker 1: to it, I think something that when I talk to people,
Speaker 1: because I feel I feel you, it's really scary, especially
Speaker 1: like for me at least, like just I can only
Speaker 1: speak for myself. I think I started social media and
Speaker 1: YouTube at such a young age before it was really
Speaker 1: a job, and then obviously going through everything um with
Speaker 1: the whole college thing and everything in the media, and
Speaker 1: I feel like after all of that, I'm I'm a
Speaker 1: just I feel like entirely different, but I don't have
Speaker 1: that same like I don't even want to say connection
Speaker 1: with my audience. But I think because I took so
Speaker 1: much time off, it's like I don't even remember what
Speaker 1: like it was like to be that invested in it.
Speaker 1: And I think I'm still struggling to figure that out.
Speaker 1: So I get it, like I do understand being at
Speaker 1: this age where you kind of feel the pressure to
Speaker 1: figure it out and having no idea what the next
Speaker 1: best move is. I think some advice that I hold
Speaker 1: very close to my heart that's been given to me
Speaker 1: is just be patient with yourself. I know that's really afical.
Speaker 1: I also know everybody's in different circumstances, but I think
Speaker 1: just remembering that, like the key word in that question
Speaker 1: is as a young adult, we're still young and we
Speaker 1: have time. And Um, last week's episode I had, or
Speaker 1: maybe it was a few weeks ago now, I had
Speaker 1: Katie Austin on and she was telling me a story
Speaker 1: about her dad where I think it was her dad. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he like figured out what he wanted to do at
Speaker 1: some crazy age like way later in life, he like
Speaker 1: finally figured it out and went back to school. And
Speaker 1: you guys should listen to that episode if you haven't already.
Speaker 1: But um, I think just knowing that, like, you're on
Speaker 1: this path and it's not going to be the same,
Speaker 1: and you've got to not compare yourself to the people
Speaker 1: you see online or the people in your friend groups
Speaker 1: or other family members, because everybody's on their own journey
Speaker 1: and you're going to figure it out at your own time.
Speaker 1: I think though starting and actually actively doing stuff is
Speaker 1: a really good first step. I think if you're just
Speaker 1: sitting around hoping that things are just gonna like fall
Speaker 1: into your lap and come your way, it's probably very
Speaker 1: rare that that will happen. I think you actually have
Speaker 1: to start and pursue something, and if you don't know
Speaker 1: what that is yet, that's okay. But trying different things,
Speaker 1: trying to find your passion, I think is really cool. Um,
Speaker 1: trying to make your passion into some sort of job
Speaker 1: that can create like a reliable income, I think it
Speaker 1: is probably a good first step as well. But I
Speaker 1: think also taking a little pressure off yourself because you're
Speaker 1: young and you're going to figure it out and you're
Speaker 1: not gonna be jobless forever, I promise, UM, So try
Speaker 1: to take a little pressure off yourself. I like this
Speaker 1: question a lot. It says what something people seem to
Speaker 1: misunderstand about you. I'm hesitant to talk about this type
Speaker 1: of stuff because I feel like every time I do,
Speaker 1: and this is not meant to sound arrogant, because it's
Speaker 1: going to come across that way, but I don't mean
Speaker 1: it that way, I swear, but I feel like it
Speaker 1: ends up in the media anytime I talk about this
Speaker 1: quote unquote scandal. Um. But I think one thing people
Speaker 1: misunderstand is that they think that like just unfazed by it,
Speaker 1: like never affected me, no problems, And I sit here
Speaker 1: sometimes and I'm like, hmm, I don't know how to
Speaker 1: convey to people that like this was the most like
Speaker 1: life changing like wake up call ever. I also feel
Speaker 1: like people, a lot of people don't know like all
Speaker 1: the details and the ins and outs of like the
Speaker 1: real things. So I think people hold a lot of
Speaker 1: anger towards me that maybe necessarily isn't entirely like supposed
Speaker 1: to be put on me. And I don't know how
Speaker 1: to say that without walking on eggshells. But um, I
Speaker 1: think one day I will or somebody hopefully and my
Speaker 1: family will cover what happened. Um. But I do think
Speaker 1: that it's a big misunderstanding that like, oh, how dare
Speaker 1: you just move on with your life and like you
Speaker 1: don't care and it's like, no, this, I think about
Speaker 1: this every day. It completely changed who I am. I
Speaker 1: everything I do is like that's in the back of
Speaker 1: my mind. Um, I feel awful. I feel terrible about it,
Speaker 1: and like me posting and trying to come back to
Speaker 1: social media, I always see the comments of like, oh,
Speaker 1: this girl, like she's just coming back again, and it's like, well,
Speaker 1: I have to live my life, and like I know
Speaker 1: for myself that I'm not a terrible person, like I
Speaker 1: want to go back out and do what I'm passionate about.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, I hate that people think
Speaker 1: that I'm just like I don't care, I'm moving on.
Speaker 1: Um and like so much of the time I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm not talking about like what I'm doing to
Speaker 1: give back or do certain things because I can already
Speaker 1: foresee those comments is like, oh, you're just doing this
Speaker 1: to talk about it. So I'd rather just do it
Speaker 1: privately and just know why I'm doing it, and then
Speaker 1: who cares if people figure it out or not. Um.
Speaker 1: But I just I think that's a big misunderstanding that
Speaker 1: people think that like it doesn't affect me and I
Speaker 1: don't care and I can just go back to my
Speaker 1: normal life because I can even begin to explain like
Speaker 1: how much it has affected and how much I just
Speaker 1: want to make things better and I would do anything
Speaker 1: to go back in time to make this all go away,
Speaker 1: like believe me, um, but I can't. Unfortunately, and I
Speaker 1: think all of us at some point in our life
Speaker 1: have regrets and mistakes, and we all wish we could
Speaker 1: go back in time and fix those things. And I
Speaker 1: think when I'm trying to learn as I get a
Speaker 1: little bit older, is being a little bit more forgiving
Speaker 1: of yourself and understanding that you know, just because one
Speaker 1: thing happens in your life, that doesn't mean you deserve
Speaker 1: to hate yourself for it, even though it's really hard
Speaker 1: not to sometimes. But I think, just um, I just
Speaker 1: want people to know, like me posting me trying to
Speaker 1: move on and put a smile on my face isn't
Speaker 1: because I don't care. It's just because I, for my
Speaker 1: own mental I just can't live in this for forever. Um,
Speaker 1: what keeps you motivated? M M? I think what keeps
Speaker 1: me motivated is the people I surround myself with. Is
Speaker 1: something that's really important, which I'm just figuring out now
Speaker 1: in my life. But it's so true. It's like you
Speaker 1: kind of are who you're surrounding yourself with. So if
Speaker 1: you're surrounding yourself with people that are, um, maybe just
Speaker 1: on a different journey or path than you are, just
Speaker 1: maybe doing certain things that like aren't benefiting you in
Speaker 1: or like not doing stuff for you. But you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like if they're doing stuff and you're
Speaker 1: doing it with them and that's not benefiting you in
Speaker 1: your career life or your personal life or whatever it is,
Speaker 1: I think that you could take a step back and
Speaker 1: look kind of inward and see, like, Okay, like I
Speaker 1: love these people, and I love this at a distance,
Speaker 1: or this works for me and this time, but like
Speaker 1: I also need to find people that are going to
Speaker 1: motivate me to you know, really focus on my work
Speaker 1: or my health habits or whatever it is. Like I
Speaker 1: think for me, it's like a perfect examp up. What
Speaker 1: I can give is one of my best friends, Natasha,
Speaker 1: who has been on the podcast before, has been in
Speaker 1: my YouTube um. But she and I have very similar careers,
Speaker 1: like just mindsets. I think we both like love the
Speaker 1: same things, and so it's she's like a really great
Speaker 1: friend to have because she keeps me really motivated. Whether
Speaker 1: it's like she text me this morning, Yo, we're working
Speaker 1: out today, no questions. I'm like, Okay, I kind of
Speaker 1: needed that because I didn't want to, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So I think it's people that are just
Speaker 1: like around you that like motivate you, I think is
Speaker 1: something that's really important, and also holding yourself accountable is
Speaker 1: obviously very important as well. How to deal with friends
Speaker 1: never replying to you or not feeling valued by your friends. Um,
Speaker 1: I think that, well, I'm really sorry to hear that,
Speaker 1: because that's not a good feeling. I also know what
Speaker 1: that feels like, and it's like super painful. And I
Speaker 1: know what it feels like to just want people to
Speaker 1: like you and to feel like, oh my god, does
Speaker 1: this person find me annoying? Or am I like a
Speaker 1: bother to them? And I think it's I wish I
Speaker 1: would even take my own advice sometimes, but it's easier
Speaker 1: said than done as well. But also remembering like if
Speaker 1: those people aren't valuing you as a person and who
Speaker 1: you are, and you can't be your authentic self in
Speaker 1: front of them and around them, like are those really
Speaker 1: good friends anyway? Like do you want them? I think
Speaker 1: something that's also really important to learn as we get
Speaker 1: older is being okay with being alone, which is really
Speaker 1: hard and something that I'm still working through all the time,
Speaker 1: but it's it's it's so important to like know that
Speaker 1: you can be on your own and that you enjoy
Speaker 1: your own company because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: that's like you're one constant, you will always have yourself.
Speaker 1: So I think that's crucial in life. Um But in
Speaker 1: terms of that specific question, I would say trying to
Speaker 1: find new friends is probably a good step. I also
Speaker 1: know that's really tricky because like, where where do I
Speaker 1: meet new friends? How do I meet new friends? I
Speaker 1: don't have all the answers to everybody's like different situations
Speaker 1: and circumstances, But I know that for me, in my
Speaker 1: experience with friendships, it's it feels a lot better to
Speaker 1: remove the people that don't make me feel good and
Speaker 1: that I'm always questioning, like should I be around them?
Speaker 1: Is this annoying to them? Whatever? Like, it feels so
Speaker 1: much better for me now to just be on my own.
Speaker 1: And I think as you focus on yourself and you
Speaker 1: remove those negative people from your life, and you're focusing
Speaker 1: on your career and you're focusing on things that make
Speaker 1: you genuinely happy, like other things will fall into place. Um,
Speaker 1: But I know it can be so difficult. So I'm
Speaker 1: really sorry to hear that top five skin care products.
Speaker 1: Let's get into beauty, Okay, I think I have m hmm,
Speaker 1: it's hard to choose just five. I think for face wash,
Speaker 1: we'll start there. I saw this in an Alicia Keys
Speaker 1: skincare video and I've used it and it made my
Speaker 1: skin beautiful. It's called Osmosis. It's like a facial cleanser.
Speaker 1: It's gorgeous. Ten out of ten would recommend. I think
Speaker 1: another skincare product I love is Supergroup super Goops glows screen.
Speaker 1: If you don't like the way like glowy skin looks though,
Speaker 1: maybe not for you, but I love that. Um Okay,
Speaker 1: that's two. I think. Three would be Oh, the one
Speaker 1: one skin hydro gel moisturizer. It's a little bit expensive
Speaker 1: or a lot of it defensive, but it is one
Speaker 1: of the best things I've ever used in my life.
Speaker 1: Four I would say the one one skin eye patches. Amazing.
Speaker 1: They feel so good. I love putting them in a
Speaker 1: beauty fridge. Oh and five this ice roller that you
Speaker 1: can get from Amazon and you stick it in your
Speaker 1: freezer and it's the best thing and I highly recommend it.
Speaker 1: And if you're tired when you're waking up, boom, it
Speaker 1: wakes you up. If your puffy wakes you up. I
Speaker 1: had a laser appointment recently, and you're not supposed to
Speaker 1: go in the sun if you laser, like laser hair removal,
Speaker 1: so don't do that if you didn't know that and
Speaker 1: you laser. But I was in the sun and the
Speaker 1: woman asked me like, hey, have you been in the
Speaker 1: Have you been in the sun? And I was like no,
Speaker 1: because I really wanted her to do the laser appointment.
Speaker 1: But I shouldn't have done that my whole skin on
Speaker 1: my face like because I laser like above my lip
Speaker 1: and like my sideburned area and I completely broke out
Speaker 1: into like a bunch of little dots everywhere, and I
Speaker 1: was Coali, this is karma. This is what you get
Speaker 1: for lying to the laser lady because you want to
Speaker 1: get the appointment out of the way. And they asked
Speaker 1: for a reason. Um, but I had this ice roller
Speaker 1: and I was just rolling it on my face like
Speaker 1: constantly after and it did wonders. So I think it
Speaker 1: has a lot of different purposes and good uses. And yeah,
Speaker 1: I would just ten out of ten recommend that will
Speaker 1: you do more collective and designer halls in the future,
Speaker 1: and missed them so much. I actually think my next
Speaker 1: YouTube video is going to be a collective try on hall.
Speaker 1: I think I've decided recently for my YouTube because I've
Speaker 1: been feeling a little bit lost on like what to
Speaker 1: do on my channel. I feel like I go back
Speaker 1: and forth between vlogs that I love and then I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: as the vlogs annoying, Like it just looks like I
Speaker 1: do nothing all day, and I think people don't realize
Speaker 1: that making filming doing nothing, it's like kind of my job,
Speaker 1: Like I don't know, it's really bizarre. But um, I
Speaker 1: think I kind of want to go back to like
Speaker 1: my o G YouTube videos kind of like collective halls,
Speaker 1: like remember that one. If you guys are o G subscribers,
Speaker 1: you would remember I used to do like these blinging
Speaker 1: on a budget videos and I do all these like
Speaker 1: different jewelry collections that were like pretty inexpensive or like
Speaker 1: medium to Um yeah, I'd say it's like moderately expensive
Speaker 1: but nothing crazy. And I loved those videos. Um, I
Speaker 1: just didn't get ready with me for my last one,
Speaker 1: which is really fun. I also think for me, something
Speaker 1: I'm noticing is and something I want to just remind
Speaker 1: myself is like it's so easy to get caught up
Speaker 1: and like start feeling kind of bad when I'm like,
Speaker 1: my views used to be like this and now they're
Speaker 1: like this, and I forget that that's not why I
Speaker 1: started my YouTube at all, and that's not something that
Speaker 1: should keep me motivated. And it's like I started my
Speaker 1: YouTube channel and I was posting every week whatever I
Speaker 1: felt at the time was like what I liked and
Speaker 1: enjoyed to talk about, and um, I would get one
Speaker 1: view or two view or I had ten subscribers, and
Speaker 1: I literally didn't care at all. And so I think
Speaker 1: that's a something I need to get back to, is
Speaker 1: just being like you do this channel because you love it,
Speaker 1: not because you care about a number on a screen.
Speaker 1: And I think that's also a bigger message in general,
Speaker 1: is just like when we all die, what does it
Speaker 1: even mean the number on the screen? Does it really
Speaker 1: mean anything at all? No? And that's so much easier
Speaker 1: to like say out loud, and then you know, harder
Speaker 1: to live by and really believe. But it's really true,
Speaker 1: like if you do take a step back, basically with
Speaker 1: anything in life. I always think about this too, with
Speaker 1: like stress, if you're under so much stress and pressure,
Speaker 1: and I always felt this way in high school, if
Speaker 1: I was going to get like a bad test grade
Speaker 1: or I didn't complete an assignment on time, I would
Speaker 1: get so anxious and so stressed about it, and I
Speaker 1: would always try and remind myself, and I would always
Speaker 1: say this like grand scheme of life, Like, am I
Speaker 1: going to be thinking about this in a few months
Speaker 1: down the line? If you years down the line, probably not?
Speaker 1: And if I am, then like maybe you should figure
Speaker 1: that out and assess it, but probably not. So just
Speaker 1: constantly reminding yourself like brand scheme of life, I think
Speaker 1: is it's pretty important because it puts a lot into
Speaker 1: perspective and also to think about, like what you're really
Speaker 1: stressing about? Is it that big of a deal in
Speaker 1: comparison to like everything else we have going on in
Speaker 1: our world? Who knows? How have you changed during the pandemic?
Speaker 1: This is an interesting question, Um, how have I changed
Speaker 1: during the pandemic? I think that I've become way more
Speaker 1: antisocial for starters. That's also what I've discovered is my body.
Speaker 1: Not that I'm old by any means. I'm still really
Speaker 1: young and I know that, but I feel like my
Speaker 1: body has aged so much, like I can only drink
Speaker 1: one day. You cannot catch me drinking two days in
Speaker 1: a row. I am not equipped for that. My body
Speaker 1: gives out on me, it hates me. I don't know
Speaker 1: what's happening. I also think hangovers, though, are genetics, and
Speaker 1: you can't convince me otherwise. Like my brother gets the
Speaker 1: worst hangovers, I get the worst hangovers, and then all
Speaker 1: my best friends no hangovers. Everybody's fine, So I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think that's one thing I changed with is I
Speaker 1: can't rally, and I don't like being a social um.
Speaker 1: But I also think that I've gotten a lot more
Speaker 1: comfortable being by myself. I think that I've learned I
Speaker 1: really enjoy like my downtime. I really enjoy like treating
Speaker 1: myself in a way that's not materialistic by any means,
Speaker 1: but more so like self care. I think that's something
Speaker 1: I've really prioritized in the pandemic, especially because in the
Speaker 1: beginning that's like all there was to do was just
Speaker 1: stay home and like do a face mask. So oh,
Speaker 1: I also discovered in the pandemic I really love to
Speaker 1: cook and bake a lot. So yeah, how do I
Speaker 1: deal with my insecurities? It's ruining me day after day,
Speaker 1: and honestly, I am so tired. I'm so sorry, because
Speaker 1: that's just the worst feeling ever. I often feel like
Speaker 1: when i'm insecure too, I'm like the most depressed, like anxious,
Speaker 1: like kind of just angry version of myself. So I
Speaker 1: know what that feels like, and I know how tiring
Speaker 1: it can feel. Hey, I think you need to be
Speaker 1: a little bit easier on yourself. I need you to
Speaker 1: remind yourself that the insecurities you're focusing on, I can
Speaker 1: promise you nobody else is thinking twice about like I
Speaker 1: can actually promise you. We make this like story up
Speaker 1: in our head that everybody's watching us, And the truth is,
Speaker 1: everybody's kind of selfish, is what I've discovered in life,
Speaker 1: and not even if you're a good or a bad person, nothing.
Speaker 1: Everybody's just consumed with themselves. I think that's just how
Speaker 1: humans are born. And so you just need to remind
Speaker 1: yourself like somebody else next to you is probably focused
Speaker 1: on their insecurity rather than yours. I've never looked at
Speaker 1: somebody and been like this about them, or like I
Speaker 1: don't even think that before for that, I'm focusing on myself,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? So I think that's a
Speaker 1: very important thing to remind yourself. I think if it's
Speaker 1: something that you can I don't want to say fix
Speaker 1: or change, but if it's something you're insecure about that
Speaker 1: you're just letting yourself be insecure about, I think that
Speaker 1: it's important you start to figure out ways to I
Speaker 1: don't know the right way to say this. I want
Speaker 1: to say, do something about like it, because I think
Speaker 1: also I'm trying to be like sensitive with the way
Speaker 1: I word things, But I also think a lot of
Speaker 1: people feel these insecurities sometimes and then we just because
Speaker 1: I'm guilty of it too, and then I just sit
Speaker 1: in them and I don't really try and do anything
Speaker 1: to like fix it or help myself. And so I
Speaker 1: think if it's something specific that you can do little
Speaker 1: things to start to help yourself a little bit, like
Speaker 1: try it. What's there to lose? Like um? And I
Speaker 1: think also if it's just so much in your head
Speaker 1: at this point and you're just constantly convincing yourself and
Speaker 1: building this insecurity in your head and it's becoming like monstrous,
Speaker 1: you need to talk to somebody about it. Like I
Speaker 1: often suggest therapy to all of my friends because I
Speaker 1: think that's like the one thing that's helped me astronomically
Speaker 1: in my life. And um, it sometimes just feels really
Speaker 1: good to talk things through. Even if you think it
Speaker 1: sounds so dumb, it's really not, because everybody's feelings are relative,
Speaker 1: everybody's problems are relative. Like sometimes it's really good to
Speaker 1: just let it out and have somebody listening to you.
Speaker 1: It's a really good feeling. And I also think that
Speaker 1: sometimes we go to like our friends or our moms
Speaker 1: or our dads or our siblings, and you want like
Speaker 1: a certain response from them, and if they don't give
Speaker 1: it to you, it can be really heartbreaking, and you
Speaker 1: keep going back for this advice and it's like not
Speaker 1: the advice you want to hear, but you keep doing
Speaker 1: it because it's like, well, they're my family or that's
Speaker 1: my best friend, Like I I want to tell them.
Speaker 1: But I think what I've learned with therapy is that
Speaker 1: some things are better to just talk to somebody else
Speaker 1: about that doesn't really have like such a close relationship
Speaker 1: with you, or it doesn't have like a bias opinion
Speaker 1: on something in your life. Um, sorry, that was kind
Speaker 1: of about insecurities, and then it kind of took it
Speaker 1: somewhere else after I started talking about therapy, because I
Speaker 1: could talk about therapy for hours. But I think it's
Speaker 1: just important to let somebody hear you and to feel
Speaker 1: like your feelings are really validated, because that's a real thing. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna answer two more questions and then I'm gonna bounce,
Speaker 1: so I don't bore you guys too much. How to
Speaker 1: get over your first heartbreak? I won't even ramble. Just time.
Speaker 1: Just give yourself time. That's like the key. Okay, last question,
Speaker 1: ever have days where you don't work out, clean or
Speaker 1: do anything. Really, I've been feeling super low lately. I
Speaker 1: think I've seen a bunch of different questions like phrase
Speaker 1: differently um from this, so I think it's very relatable.
Speaker 1: And my answer is yeah, of course. I think sometimes
Speaker 1: it's really hard to get up and motivate yourself. I
Speaker 1: think something that somebody once told me, which is a
Speaker 1: really good tip, and I think helps me get out
Speaker 1: of bed without feeling so lazy and then entering like
Speaker 1: a YouTube or TikTok hole and then I'm stuck there
Speaker 1: and then I'm really unmotivated. Is not checking your phone
Speaker 1: when you wake up none of that is literally waking
Speaker 1: up and going straight into the shower, like just getting up,
Speaker 1: walking your shower, starting your day. Don't even look at
Speaker 1: your phone. I think that's so important. I also think
Speaker 1: in terms of cleaning, if you can clean a little
Speaker 1: bit every day instead of letting things pile up and
Speaker 1: then you're like, oh, now I have to clean everything
Speaker 1: and it looks like super overwhelming, that's a really good
Speaker 1: start too, is like little by little, and like if
Speaker 1: you make yourself breakfast, just clean it up right away.
Speaker 1: Don't leave it in the sink and then wait for
Speaker 1: lunch to leave in the sink, and then dinner leave
Speaker 1: it in the sink and then put it all away
Speaker 1: at night, Like that's just annoying. Just throw your plate
Speaker 1: in the dishwasher, do a little hand wash if you
Speaker 1: don't have a dishwasher, and carry on. I think little
Speaker 1: things like that are helpful and we'll motivate you to
Speaker 1: um I want to keep things clean as well. In
Speaker 1: terms of working out, sometimes I don't feel like it
Speaker 1: at all, but I know that it's important to move
Speaker 1: my body, not even physically, but well physically too, but
Speaker 1: especially mentally. So if you want to go for a
Speaker 1: walk a nice long walk that's always really nice outside.
Speaker 1: If you want to turn on like a no equipment
Speaker 1: fifteen minute pilates that you can just do on your
Speaker 1: floor while you watch some TV like that counts too.
Speaker 1: So I think it's just starting to do little things
Speaker 1: to make yourself feel okay, like I did that. That's progress.
Speaker 1: And then the more you start to do things like that,
Speaker 1: it's going to start to change and you're gonna start
Speaker 1: getting a little bit control back and you're gonna feel
Speaker 1: a lot better, at least in my experience, and I
Speaker 1: really hope that works for you. Um. Okay, Well, I
Speaker 1: feel like this was long enough, and I hope that
Speaker 1: you guys enjoyed this podcast and that I didn't completely
Speaker 1: bore you because I didn't have a guest and I
Speaker 1: know that's not super normal for this UM show. But
Speaker 1: I want to say thank you so much for listening,
Speaker 1: and I hope this helped somebody out there in the world. UM.
Speaker 1: Please make sure to message me on Instagram. I love
Speaker 1: hearing your guys feedback and thoughts on this podcast so much,
Speaker 1: and please make sure to send me suggestions of people
Speaker 1: you really want to hear on because that helps me
Speaker 1: a ton, and with all that being said, I'll see
Speaker 1: you guys next week. Bye.