WEBVTT - PORSCHA COLEMAN - Resilience in a Blanket 0:00:13.000 --> 0:00:16.120 Hey, guys, welcome to another episode of Eating While Broke. 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:18.600 I'm your host Colleen Witt, and today we have very 0:00:18.640 --> 0:00:23.320 special guest actress and host Portia Coleman is in the building. Ramona, 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:24.120 how are you. 0:00:24.360 --> 0:00:26.560 I'm good with just cooking of things, you know, not much. 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:29.800 Yeah, yeah, you already getting started. Why don't you go ahead? 0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:31.760 I mean you are not wasting any time? 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:32.600 You know what I'm saying. 0:00:32.640 --> 0:00:35.680 On this show, we do have a phrase, the broker 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:38.400 the dish, the better the story. This dish was definitely 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:41.440 under I want to say, or ten bucks probably. Yeah, 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:44.400 go ahead and tell our listeners what are you gonna 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:45.280 have me eating today? 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:48.280 Listen? So I'm gonna have y'all eating pigs and a blanket. 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:50.760 It's the perfect struggle meal because everybody knows a good 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:53.640 hot dog. Yeah, but I never loved the hot dog 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:56.280 buns as much as I like these biscuits. 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:59.560 Yeah, oh, the biscuits. You didn't even choose the chrismal. 0:00:59.680 --> 0:01:02.240 No, not Caissant's. The biscuits is by the time you 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:04.480 pack them and you put them in and they get fluffy. 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:06.720 Trust me, these pigs in a banket. It fills you 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:10.240 up while you're struggling, but at the same time you 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:14.679 appreciate it because it cooks. Usually I would always actually 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:18.560 heat and cook my wieners first. Okay, okay, so I 0:01:18.600 --> 0:01:20.680 do that first usually, but they could still cook while 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:23.720 in here too. So you take it like this. You 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:25.880 take it and you roll it. 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:28.759 So when you cook it, are you putting it in hot? 0:01:29.440 --> 0:01:31.880 I put the usually the wieners in fully cooked, but no, 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:33.840 you put it in because the biscuit's gonna cook, and 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:35.760 then the winner can cook inside it at the same time. 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:38.440 Usually it's about fifteen minutes. I like my stuff well done, 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:40.400 so I like to leave it in there so it's 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:42.199 literally easy. And what I'm gonna do is, I'm actually 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:44.160 gonna like put a little butter already in the pan 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:46.520 because you don't want it to stick. You gotta have 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:48.080 it be nice and greasy so it can kind of 0:01:48.120 --> 0:01:49.880 like toast a little bit too, like underneath it. 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:55.120 And then we got you the buster the butter biscuits. 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:56.600 If I didn't know you were gonna cook your first, 0:01:56.720 --> 0:01:58.880 I wasn't too sure on the show. 0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:01.640 I always like, I like to cook my wieners first, 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:03.760 but it's okay because it can still cooked while inside. 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:06.440 It's not a problem. But no, I like to butter 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:09.000 this little pan. But see like this little I mean, 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:09.760 look how cute. 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:11.840 Yeah it's cute. I didn't know how you were gonna 0:02:11.840 --> 0:02:11.959 do it. 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:13.760 Yeah, you take it and you roll it up again 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:14.640 struggle meal. 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.079 So you won't see the you won't see the hot 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:18.280 dogs from the outside. 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:20.160 See that's the thing. Sometimes you can take them and 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:21.880 cut them up if you want a smaller biscuit. But 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:23.960 since these are the wide ones, you can cut them 0:02:24.000 --> 0:02:25.880 up and just still have it throughout. Because if you 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:29.119 take one whole wiener, the whole winer would be extended 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:31.000 past the biscuit. Yeah, so you don't want to do that. 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:33.280 It's already going to expand, and so will the wiinner itself, 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:36.160 so you're gonna actually taste Look the wiinner's on both sides. 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:39.400 See it's already here. So I'm telling you talking about struggle. 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:41.920 This right here was my quick go to. 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:44.200 Okay, so the ingredients are. 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:47.600 Butter biscuits, butter biscuits, a little bit of butter and 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.959 some margarine, and all you need is some some hot dogs. 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:53.080 Like it's so simple and so easy. So look, so 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:54.560 see you can go this way like this. So see 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:57.200 how I'm putting them like this. You take them and 0:02:57.240 --> 0:02:59.880 you fold it this way, and you do it just 0:02:59.880 --> 0:03:01.360 like this, and you cover it because you want to 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:03.360 make sure they don't open up while you're actually putting 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:06.400 them in the Yeah, I'm telling you it looks crazy, 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:07.639 but it's gonna be so delicious. 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:11.160 I love it. I'm starving. So you don't ever add 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:11.920 cheese or anything. 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:14.560 No, we'll see these are butter biscuits though. Okay, so 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:17.040 you can add cheese, but I personally didn't need cheese 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:19.480 or like them necessarily in between it because again, we 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:22.200 ain't got no cheese. But I never tried it with cheese, 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:24.360 but I never I never needed it because again, these busts. 0:03:24.400 --> 0:03:25.280 Look at these biscuits. 0:03:25.280 --> 0:03:28.000 These are already so yet it's gonna be good. It's 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:30.160 gonna I'm not gonna mess with your dish. I'm just 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:32.560 like getting creative from the sideline. 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:34.320 Listen. I love it. So see this one, I don't 0:03:34.400 --> 0:03:35.760 let's say, I don't want to make it that long. 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:38.480 Take it this way, m hm. You wrap it on. 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:41.040 And that's the thing. We have more than enough weianers 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:43.080 to work with these biscuits. So we're gonna take this 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:47.040 up in here, got it, roll it on down. 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:48.839 And this is what you were doing to get through 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:50.840 the hard times, did you not? So take me back 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:53.720 to what was going on during these hard times. 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:55.520 You know what? So I'm going all the way back 0:03:55.600 --> 0:03:57.960 to when I was seven. Okay, So we're gonna talk 0:03:57.960 --> 0:04:00.040 about a little project, a movie that I'm sure you 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:03.200 guys will all know called Friday. Oh yeah, I was 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:06.600 a background after at the ice cream truck and Friday. Okay, 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:09.080 So just to show how long this process has been, 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:13.720 from seven till now, there's nothing overnight about my success 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.640 at all. So I was seven years old, me and 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:19.200 my mom, bugging it out, single mom? 0:04:19.839 --> 0:04:21.400 And did you have siblings? 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:23.440 I have an older brother, but he's eighteen years older 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:25.920 than me. Oh jeez, So I was technically raised like 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:27.000 an only child because my. 0:04:26.960 --> 0:04:29.239 Brother had an eighteen years spread. 0:04:29.560 --> 0:04:34.600 Yeah, re married God with my dad and why exactly 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:37.880 she said that finished line? She was thirty five and 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:40.440 was like, I'm starting all over again? What is this? 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.840 What is going on? Yeah? And she actually did just. 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:45.640 Does she ever when she gets mad at you? Like 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:47.840 ever mentioned like I started. 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:50.200 All out over you. Yeah. She used to its me 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:52.279 like that ain't my fault. You chose my daddy, and 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:55.159 my daddy was ten years her junior. Oh, my pops 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:57.320 was twenty she was thirty, and then they got married 0:04:57.320 --> 0:04:59.200 to have me at thirty five and twenty five, I said, mine, 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:01.839 you was you was robbing the credle cridle. 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:03.400 Yeah, yeah, so she know what she was doing. 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:06.120 Still together, No, they're not still together now, Like I said, 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:09.159 my dad actually passing twenty nineteen. Oh yeah, it was 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:12.720 tough because you know the interesting thing about life. I 0:05:12.800 --> 0:05:16.039 was with my dad the night before he suddenly passed away. 0:05:16.200 --> 0:05:18.520 Oh he suddenly just suddenly passed away. My dad was 0:05:18.560 --> 0:05:22.200 only fifty nine. He was fifty nine years old. So 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:25.520 this is just the definition I think, following your intuition. 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:27.520 So I'm out in the valley doing my thing, and 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:28.960 I had a lot of airan chevon. I was gonna 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:31.760 be a Marina. My dad lives in Compton Wilmington Central 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:35.320 in LA. And something just told me go see your dad. 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:37.440 And at first I was like, Oh, that's far away, 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:39.040 there's traffic, and I don't know if I should go 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:41.520 do that. Something told me again. I called my dad. 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:43.240 He didn't answer, so I was like, all right, let 0:05:43.279 --> 0:05:44.920 me just pop up. I'm gonna go surprise my pops. 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:46.719 He's probably already off work. I know he gonna be home. 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:48.720 Go to his house. He in the garage, hill on 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:52.159 his friends, still in his work outfit. Dotta, what are 0:05:52.240 --> 0:05:53.880 you doing here? And I'm like, nothing much. I just 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:55.839 want to surprise you. What's up? What are we doing today? 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:58.840 We loved going to Sizzler, we loved doing our this 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:02.120 daddy daughter day and we spent the entire day together, 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:04.720 entire day. So I left, probably it was I got 0:06:04.720 --> 0:06:06.640 there abound four or five, left around midnight. He said, 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:08.599 call me tomorrow. You know, your daddy's awesome. Me go 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.359 with my friend and just call me later. But he 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:12.680 loves to talk. I did to get my dad to 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:14.240 text because'd be on set. I'm like, Dad, I can't 0:06:14.240 --> 0:06:17.920 call you with this text. So the next day that's fine. 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:19.680 I didn't hear from him, and no big deal. And 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:21.440 then I get a call. I see it's my uncle 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:24.400 calling me and he's like, come to the house. Something's 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:26.720 wrong with your dad. And I'm like, what are you 0:06:26.720 --> 0:06:29.479 talking about? Something's wrong with my dad? Like that's just random. 0:06:29.480 --> 0:06:31.200 I just seen him I say, come to the house, 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:33.240 and I'm like, okay, Well, if he's not okay, I 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:35.160 need to go to a hospital. He's like, just come 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:38.039 to the house. They're not going to move him. What. 0:06:38.320 --> 0:06:41.400 And first thing I thought was, if somebody's sick, you 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:43.920 got to move them. You gotta transport him. What's going on? 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:45.479 So he didn't say that, but I knew in my 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:48.080 mind it's like, something's not right. I was on my 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:50.760 way to a premiere with me and my mom and 0:06:50.800 --> 0:06:54.320 we literally diverted from the one thirty fourth Freeway and 0:06:54.400 --> 0:06:55.960 went to Compton and I and as soon as we 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:58.960 pulled around the corner, I'm talking about cop cars, but 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.200 people all in the streets. My dad was very popular. 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:03.200 Just you know. My dad had a key to the 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:04.960 city at Compton because he saved people out of a 0:07:05.000 --> 0:07:09.960 plane crash that crashed into his house in twenty probably 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:12.800 twenty eleven, and he was on Ellen DeGeneres and got 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:14.560 the key to the city for saving people at his house. 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:17.360 So my dad was that dude, and I knew something. 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:18.600 I was like, I pulled around the corner and I 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:22.440 was like what And my dad just had a sudden 0:07:22.480 --> 0:07:29.320 heart attack that morning. Wow. So again in my mind 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:31.400 when I thought about that, I was like, of course devastated, 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:33.480 but I was like that was meant to happen because 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:35.560 my intuition told me to go see my father. Yeah, 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.760 and I did. Yeah, And having that peace was. 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:40.400 Like I was gonna ask you, did it help you? 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:43.000 Kind one thousand percent? And I never and honestly, like, 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:45.320 knowing my dad and how vivacious he was, I didn't 0:07:45.360 --> 0:07:47.360 want to go into the house, like I knew, okay, 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:49.160 if he had a sudden heart attack and if his 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:51.000 wife had got home and it was all these hours later, 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:53.040 I'm like, it's final. I don't need to see that. 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:53.360 Yeah. 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:57.080 People came and I stayed around the corner while I 0:07:57.120 --> 0:07:59.320 know the coroner came, and I was like, I was 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:01.720 with my dad before. And I literally thank God to 0:08:01.760 --> 0:08:03.360 this day for knowing that I was with him the 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:06.520 day before and following that gut intuition that I did 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:08.000 because I was with him the night before. 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:09.960 How did your mom respond to it? 0:08:10.760 --> 0:08:12.880 Well, of course they had been separated for so long, 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:15.600 they've been separated, but my mom of course was there. 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:18.960 But it's like, wow, it's like, I mean family at 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:21.080 the same time. So Mom was there, I remember she 0:08:21.120 --> 0:08:23.360 stayed the night at my house that that that same night, 0:08:23.440 --> 0:08:25.160 and it was just like the process of thinking like 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:27.720 I was just with him, but at the same time, 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:29.880 that was God giving me that time. 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:31.480 Yeah, yes, that. 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:33.640 Was God giving me the final moment. So to this day, 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:35.480 I'm grateful and even everything that I'm doing now, my 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:37.400 daughter will always be bragging his friends. Oh my daughter's 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:39.320 on TV. You gotta go watch my daughter. And I'm like, 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:41.959 I know, I'm making my pops proud. He's writing Inglewood 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:44.480 in a mausoleum. Any time on driving by Inglewood, I 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:46.960 go right to the mausoleum, go talk to catch him up. 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:50.280 Like his presence is literally with me, because I've had 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:52.640 two people that had no idea about my dad's passing 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:56.400 call me and say, somebody just like I don't even 0:08:56.400 --> 0:08:58.360 know mediums, like I don't do none of that stuff. 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:00.839 And two friends I remember calling me one day when 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:03.000 I was on FaceTime with them and they were like, oh, 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:04.920 you got to a little day, okay, And I was like, 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:08.079 what are you, Like, what are you talking about? Like tripping? 0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:10.760 And then like ten minutes later, my friends were like, 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:15.200 so when you FACETI behind you was a black guy 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:17.839 in a ball head in a blue suit. Oh, my 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:20.040 dad's bal head and was buried in a blue suit. 0:09:20.080 --> 0:09:22.199 And I had just left the mausoleum that day. 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:23.000 Oh my goodness. 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:26.240 And I was like, Okay, I said, that's not scary, 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:28.040 that's just my dad's presence. 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:28.600 Wow. 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:31.120 And then somebody else did it before that same day 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:33.560 and said somebody would have ball head in a blue suit. 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:35.320 Is telling me to tell you, I'm so proud of 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:37.680 of you data, And I was like, she said it 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:40.200 the same exactly. This woman has never met my dad nothing, 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:44.840 she's a publicist and had no idea. So the closure 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:46.679 that I had in a sense of knowing that even 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:49.600 though my dad has gone from this earthly life, my 0:09:49.679 --> 0:09:52.520 dad is with me. So dating back to when I 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:55.080 was a kid and starting in all this journey, it's 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:57.120 like you want to have your parents of course beside you, 0:09:57.240 --> 0:10:00.439 but sometimes it doesn't align like that. And my mom 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:02.360 and dad had divorced, but my dad was still there 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:06.480 watching me on TV, proud and supporting everything you know 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:09.320 that I did. So it started when I was seven 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:12.080 all the way up until the journey now. So it's 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:15.319 no roses in prettyness over here. Every father's there. I'm 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:18.360 saying Happy Father's Day to the men that are no 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:21.720 longer here, you know, and the fathers that have have departed. 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:23.520 You know what I'm saying. But it's a blessing because 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:26.400 I had him in my life and I know he's around. Yeah, 0:10:26.480 --> 0:10:28.600 so many things happened. I'm like, look at my dad 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:32.080 just doing his duties, not a father, because he was protective. 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.600 He was protected. He'd be like, you're trying to holler 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:37.199 my daughter. Uh uh, Like he was that guy and 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:39.840 from Compton. So this is LA's finest. 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:43.719 Yes, So this is official pigs in the blanket going. 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:45.679 There's official pigs and a blanket. And here's the thing. 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:48.960 So these biscuits were gonna obviously like expand. And the 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:50.920 funny thing is that these business are all gonna be touching, 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:52.640 which is fine. So we're gonna cut them and separate 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:54.280 them so we can all have our own gift. Kids. 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:56.040 I wish I had another biscuits because I got two 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:58.880 more wieners. But it's fine, it's fine. We got the pig. 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:01.240 Lit come on, now he's on in the blanket, So 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:03.760 we're gonna we're gonna stop process. I'm gonna put the 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:06.840 time on put the time. I'm gonna put it about fifteen 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:12.319 minutes timer. Let's see here, Okay, I got right now fourteen, 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:14.160 Let's do fifteen minute count. 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:16.600 Fifteen and then the package say eight. But you're gonna do. 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:18.439 No, no, no, the package has twelve to fifteen. Ok but 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.560 we gonna say twelve to fifteen. So no, I like 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:22.200 it to go the max. So we can get that 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:23.720 little Chris and I'm gonna look at I'm gonna keep 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:25.960 my eye on it. Okay, we're gonna talk meat. 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:28.040 So take go ahead and take me back to seven 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:29.760 year old. You were gonna go all the way back 0:11:29.800 --> 0:11:32.680 to Friday. Okay, I didn't mean to take you off. 0:11:32.840 --> 0:11:35.079 It's all good, but it was. It's a fond memory. 0:11:35.480 --> 0:11:38.640 I love hearing that story that you got that moment. Now, 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:42.280 so you and your mom, you're auditioning, you're doing all 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:45.280 of this. You land the Friday movie? Yeah, single mom? 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:46.559 Are you guys struggling? 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:49.600 Yeah? But landing the Friday movie in the sense of background. 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:51.920 So background acting is how I started. So I didn't 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:54.079 come off the gate being principal. So when you have 0:11:54.120 --> 0:11:57.439 a background agency, they basically send you not even an audition, 0:11:57.480 --> 0:11:59.440 you don't book it technically. They to see you on 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:01.480 a piece of paper and say we need little kids 0:12:01.520 --> 0:12:03.440 that you know are between seven and ten to be 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:05.840 an ice cream scene. Oh that's literally what happened. 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:07.040 So do you get paid for those? 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:09.640 Yeah? Yeah, you definitely get paid, but it's like your background, 0:12:09.720 --> 0:12:12.120 so it's not a ton. You might get forty something 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:14.400 bucks a day, but you get your vouchers and that 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:17.319 helps you get to sag later on. So I'm seven. 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:19.240 If you remember the scene, Meghan good is right next 0:12:19.240 --> 0:12:20.800 to me at the ice cream truck. I remember that, 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:22.640 and that's what we're standing side by side. I'm one 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:25.480 of the little kids at ice Cube. You know, he's 0:12:25.520 --> 0:12:28.120 talking from the porch. But Chris Tucker comes up. He 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:29.640 hitting kids, Get out the way, get up the way 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:31.600 to get the big work. Oh I thought. I was 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:33.800 like so bombed when he hit me upside the head 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:35.560 like trying to get to the ice cream truck. And 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:37.800 I'm like dang, Like it was so funny and so 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:39.559 cool because that was my first job and I was like, oh, 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:41.280 I love this. I can get paid just to like 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:43.520 hang out with some friends and be on camera. 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:46.680 It was like immediate So was it your mom that 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:49.960 kind of brought this acting idea to you or were 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:51.880 you going to your mom like I think I want 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:52.480 to pursue it. 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:54.400 It was both. I was already like, I have video 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:56.600 literally at three years old, I was in school plays. 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.240 I have literally a video with three at the private 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:01.040 school that I was at. The song called Daddy, You're 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:03.840 My Hero in a play, so like, I literally was 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:04.880 already starting. 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:08.000 So she saw it and completely poured into it. 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:10.559 At five YMCA, I'm singing I Miss You much Janet 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:12.880 Jackson with a flashlight, two backup dancers that I had 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:14.120 doing the running Man the whole time. 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:17.160 Okay, so you were you were already invested already. So 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:19.240 what does your mom doing to support y'all while you're 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:20.040 on this journey. 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:21.920 Well, my mom had a job. She worked at the 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:25.120 LA Unified School District, so she worked in busing and 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:27.160 then she was going for a promotion. The promotion didn't 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.160 work out, and then she was like, well, I can 0:13:29.280 --> 0:13:31.760 go back to work, or I'll take you to auditions 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:34.880 and just figure out the process from here. And at 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:36.559 the end of the day, it's like, you need somebody 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:39.319 to take you to auditions because as a single. Mom, 0:13:39.720 --> 0:13:42.120 how you gonna get there? You can't drive? So my brother, 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:45.360 mind you, who's eighteen years like he's telling you older 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:47.760 than me. He's already in college. So I'm four or 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:50.319 five years old. My brother's at Washington State. And then 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:52.800 he had actually got drafted to like he played for 0:13:52.800 --> 0:13:55.840 the Raiders, the Oilers, the Niners for a bit. So 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:57.520 my brother was gone. It was just me and mom's. 0:13:57.600 --> 0:13:57.800 Yeah. 0:13:57.840 --> 0:13:59.240 So my aunt and my uncle were already doing a 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.960 lot of background work. So at that time it was like, okay, 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:03.640 you might do one or two jobs a week. Yeah, 0:14:03.640 --> 0:14:05.400 you can take them to set, but a parent always 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:08.200 has to be there. So in between that process, my 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:09.800 mom was doing it. If my brother was in town, 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:11.800 he'd take me. And then I got an agency and 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:15.000 I booked three commercials like that. Really it took me 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:16.600 like six months to get my SAG vouchers. 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:18.920 But now commercials is more money. 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:21.040 Hello, because at that point you got a join SAG. 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:23.000 So when you're in the union, you get more money. 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:26.880 So I went from making probably thirty forty a day 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:29.800 to where I made thousands at a time. I did 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.960 a tie commercial with Alberson's commercial and another one was 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:35.880 like this purple Moon like doll commercial. 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:37.720 And at that age, they're putting in an account for you. 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:39.800 So you have a Cougan account, so ten percent of 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:42.240 it goes to a Coogan account, which is literally. 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:45.360 Only ten percent. Yeah, oh I thought ninety then you 0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:46.120 get ten percent. 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:48.520 No, it's it's more of a percentage. But the parents 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:51.400 are the ones that actually get the full amount of money. 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:54.160 Oh so ten percent for sure is going to where 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:55.960 the kids are. You know, let's say they want to 0:14:55.960 --> 0:14:57.320 go to college, and so later on they have that 0:14:57.360 --> 0:15:00.920 little percentage, but that's still not enough. Being fully transparent, 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:03.200 It's like when you think of a household. If a 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:05.920 parent is not working, if a parent is taking their 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:09.120 child's money to live in the household, you're not making 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:11.720 no money. Yeah, because I remember I had when I 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:14.120 looked later, I remember looking probably ten fifteen years ago. 0:15:14.360 --> 0:15:16.000 By the time I was eighteen, it's about five hundred 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:18.760 and some thousand dollars that I had made, but it 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:21.480 was only a couple thousand in any account. 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:22.240 Damn. 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:23.920 Now what yeh? 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:26.760 Does that make you feel some type of way towards 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:27.600 your parents? 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:31.960 I mean, I mean, if I'm being transparent, yes, because 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:33.400 I feel like, at the end of the day, no 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.960 different than we've had parents. Like look at the Raven Simons, 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:38.240 you got Kyla Prass. This is all people that I 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:41.120 grew up with, Megan, all of us. I knew their 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:44.200 parents had jobs, whether they had one parent or two, 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:47.080 they were working. So I was not thinking in the 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:50.440 process at the time. Okay, I'm supporting a household. Yeah, 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:52.720 you didn't dawn on me till like I'm eighteen and 0:15:52.720 --> 0:15:56.160 I'm like, okay, now I'm not moving out right away, 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.760 but I'm paying for everything. And by the time I'm 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:02.120 ready to go go, which was still much later than 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:03.560 most people end up leaving home. 0:16:04.320 --> 0:16:06.920 You made all this money, but you still couldn't leave 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:07.640 because you. 0:16:09.640 --> 0:16:12.240 Saying yes, I'm very I'm very much saying that because 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:14.320 at the end of the day, if someone is like, 0:16:14.400 --> 0:16:16.800 right now the business mind that I have now, so 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:18.240 many things would have been different. But I didn't know 0:16:18.280 --> 0:16:20.280 I was a kid. There's no way there should have 0:16:20.280 --> 0:16:21.840 been a business that my mom set up. 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:24.040 Yeah, Like if you look at the Mary Kay to 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:27.600 Nashley Olson's man, the parents, the parents like whooped. 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:31.240 Of course they kicked asked with their investments or a 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:32.920 lot of times you see, even like the Raven simone 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:35.520 like they had her father always saw with certain auditions. 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:37.800 Do I feel like I wish my mom would have 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:41.200 took the business mindset that a lot of other parents had. Absolutely, 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:43.360 because I remember getting eaten up in taxes as a 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:46.440 kid when my mom should have had a company LLC 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:47.760 or escort or something. 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:49.360 Oh, the money was going directly to you. 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:53.800 Yes, But therefore, since she didn't work, I'm paying like 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:56.960 I'm not her dependent, she's technically mine. Yeah, so in 0:16:57.040 --> 0:16:59.640 tax is mine, I'm getting eaten up in so many ways. 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.800 Where someone new business, it would have been different. Now 0:17:02.920 --> 0:17:05.560 now I have two companies, two businesses, everything runs through 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:08.320 es Corps, and I pay personal taxes. Oh yeah, yeah, 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:11.760 well now it's like it's next level. But I didn't 0:17:11.800 --> 0:17:12.240 know nothing. 0:17:12.320 --> 0:17:14.200 Do you have yourself on payroll like a salary? 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:16.200 Yeah, depending you have to. Yeah, a lot of times 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:18.240 you have yourself on salary because it's like I'm employing myself. 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:20.000 So even like right now on the shows that I have, 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.960 I am employing. My company is employing Porsche to come 0:17:24.000 --> 0:17:26.280 to work. Yes, and that's how not only is it legal, 0:17:26.320 --> 0:17:28.800 but it's legit because people don't realize that LLCs they 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:30.840 stop and cap you at how much you can write off. 0:17:31.160 --> 0:17:33.520 Well, it also helps you too. And I talk about 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:36.680 this a lot, yeah on camera, but when you're going 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:40.199 to buy real estate, you being an employee allows you 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:44.440 to leverage more versus if you're just an independent contract 0:17:44.480 --> 0:17:45.160 care company. 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:47.440 Independent contractors don't get looked at as a good business 0:17:47.480 --> 0:17:48.439 person to loan money to. 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:50.520 And then and then the banks also get look at 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:53.560 you as higher risks because they're like, wait, how do 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:55.200 we know your business is even gonna be here. 0:17:55.480 --> 0:17:57.680 There's too many people that are entrepreneurs, too many people 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:00.639 that are trying to trying to say it, because this 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:02.639 entertainment is full of people that are hoping to make it. 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:04.720 But at the end of the day, if I'm a bank, 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:06.600 I'm not going to give you five hundred thousand dollars 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:08.600 because you got a hope and a dream. I would 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:10.080 give you that money if I saw you had a 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:11.880 company and you're putting yourself on saling and your company 0:18:11.880 --> 0:18:14.119 already gross this money and you're paying yourself a salary 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:16.920 of eighty or ninety k. It just looks different on paper. 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:19.800 So in hindsight, of course, everything that I see now 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:22.719 I wish my mom had done. And there's a lot 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:24.760 of tension that it came from that once I let 0:18:24.800 --> 0:18:25.320 her know. 0:18:25.320 --> 0:18:27.160 Like when did you let her know? Like what age 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:27.520 are you? 0:18:27.640 --> 0:18:30.840 Like? Oh, man, I got my license in sixteen. So 0:18:30.880 --> 0:18:33.080 when I got my license, the first thing I said was, Okay, Mom, 0:18:33.119 --> 0:18:35.480 I want you to transition from this standpoint of being 0:18:36.000 --> 0:18:39.200 just my mom that's with me, to being maybe a CPA. 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:42.200 Maybe you could be a business manager. Maybe you could 0:18:42.200 --> 0:18:44.360 do this I'm talking about. I'm like, so big college, 0:18:44.480 --> 0:18:47.880 like your mom, not your ma mager, correct the ma major. 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:50.320 I think a lot of people take that standpoint. But 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:52.280 to me, if you're my manager, you bringing jobs to 0:18:52.280 --> 0:18:52.600 the table. 0:18:52.720 --> 0:18:55.120 Yeah, so you're like booking your own jobs. You're dealing 0:18:55.119 --> 0:18:57.280 with my agent exactly she's doing. 0:18:57.480 --> 0:18:59.840 She's dealing with the agents and calling them because obviously 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:01.640 that back then it was pages. Let me talk. I'll 0:19:01.640 --> 0:19:04.280 tell my age is pagers. You get a page, come 0:19:04.320 --> 0:19:06.040 to the office, you gotta leave, you got an audition, 0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:09.879 Come because you have a meeting. So she's driving me everywhere. 0:19:09.920 --> 0:19:11.639 But at the point when I'm able to drive, and 0:19:11.680 --> 0:19:13.760 I got my diploma when I was sixteen, years old. 0:19:13.800 --> 0:19:16.400 I was legally emancipated in sixteen. I graduated a year 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:18.400 emancipated in sixteen. So here's the thing. 0:19:18.520 --> 0:19:19.400 You divorced your mom. 0:19:19.600 --> 0:19:23.200 No, no, no, no, no. So let's clarify that, no, emancipation is 0:19:23.280 --> 0:19:27.320 in the system of schooling. You're technically legally listed as 0:19:27.359 --> 0:19:30.000 an adult because when people are working on set, actors 0:19:30.000 --> 0:19:32.640 and kids can only work about like four to six hours. Yeah. 0:19:32.880 --> 0:19:36.159 So if I'm sixteen, but if I've already got my diploma, 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:37.600 that means they don't have to send me to schooling 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:40.560 on set, and if I've already legally fulfilled my obligation 0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:43.320 in the school system, I can work twelve to fifteen 0:19:43.359 --> 0:19:44.240 hours like an adult. 0:19:44.359 --> 0:19:46.560 So you're saying emancipated in this That's what it means 0:19:46.560 --> 0:19:46.760 to me. 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:49.800 Emancipation is legally in the system of acting. 0:19:52.040 --> 0:19:55.160 Okay, because they have emancipation, Like I know in New York, 0:19:55.200 --> 0:19:58.400 it's like where you you sever that time with your parents, 0:19:58.520 --> 0:20:01.200 they're no longer legally financially response. 0:20:00.920 --> 0:20:02.720 No, no, no, that's for sure. I've definitely seen a lot 0:20:02.720 --> 0:20:05.320 of kids that are like going through adoption and they're like, hey, okay, 0:20:05.359 --> 0:20:07.639 I want to mancipate for my parent. You know, in 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:10.480 the emancipation of acting world, it's just from the sense of, oh, 0:20:10.480 --> 0:20:12.879 you're graduating. Because I even remember the first time it 0:20:12.960 --> 0:20:14.959 really counted was when I remember I was sixteen going 0:20:15.000 --> 0:20:18.040 on seventeen and the Parkers audition came up, and I 0:20:18.040 --> 0:20:20.199 remember they wanted somebody like in their twenties. Yeah, so 0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:22.919 I was only seventeen. They didn't know that, but my 0:20:23.000 --> 0:20:25.479 agent I was listed as an adult. By the time 0:20:25.520 --> 0:20:26.879 I got on set and was working with Monique and 0:20:26.920 --> 0:20:28.600 all them, they were like, how old are you? And 0:20:28.640 --> 0:20:31.400 I'm like, I've already graduated. I drive myself to set. Wow, 0:20:31.680 --> 0:20:34.520 I'm treated like an adult in the system. So therefore, 0:20:35.040 --> 0:20:37.240 companies want to work with the kids. Even if you 0:20:37.280 --> 0:20:38.880 see a lot of movies back in the day when 0:20:38.880 --> 0:20:40.960 we were watching Saved by the Bill, all the kids 0:20:40.960 --> 0:20:44.520 weren't high schoolers. They're in their thirties for a reason. Yeah, 0:20:44.600 --> 0:20:46.719 Power Rangers, all these different shows where you have kids, 0:20:47.160 --> 0:20:49.400 the actors are of age, they just play younger. 0:20:49.440 --> 0:20:51.640 Now, when Monique and those guys found out, like, hey, 0:20:51.720 --> 0:20:53.439 she's younger, did it cause a little bit. 0:20:54.000 --> 0:20:55.920 No, It was totally fun because me and count is 0:20:55.960 --> 0:20:58.680 vond were not necessarily close in age, but we always 0:20:58.720 --> 0:21:01.720 had to vibe. Me and ken Elle Countess Parker, like 0:21:01.840 --> 0:21:03.680 even Monique. I walked on seting the first thing she 0:21:03.680 --> 0:21:05.920 said was we need to get this bittion food. You 0:21:06.000 --> 0:21:08.600 too scared? And I was like, here we go, Like no, 0:21:08.680 --> 0:21:10.840 it was a vibe. It was. It was so fun. 0:21:10.920 --> 0:21:14.840 But the fact that I already graduated early outside of emancipation. 0:21:14.960 --> 0:21:17.240 I did all my credits that I needed, and I 0:21:17.240 --> 0:21:19.760 already was ahead of my courses and was smart. So 0:21:19.800 --> 0:21:21.600 I graduated literally a year early. 0:21:21.880 --> 0:21:23.960 Did you now were you going to regular schooling or 0:21:24.040 --> 0:21:24.720 were you doing private? 0:21:24.840 --> 0:21:27.080 Yeah? No, I went to Hollywood High School Performing Arts, right, 0:21:27.480 --> 0:21:28.120 So you're busting. 0:21:28.160 --> 0:21:30.520 You really focused, you knew what you wanted to do. 0:21:30.680 --> 0:21:32.960 I was a school I loved school and I loved working, 0:21:33.119 --> 0:21:35.000 So I went to school. I got all my credits, 0:21:35.000 --> 0:21:37.280 but at the same time, I wanted to be an actress, 0:21:37.280 --> 0:21:39.440 so I figured, if I can go to school finish early, 0:21:40.119 --> 0:21:42.080 I can get out and go to set in full time. 0:21:42.160 --> 0:21:44.879 So I got my diploma. Then I went to a 0:21:44.880 --> 0:21:47.040 home school and just took like calculus and just like 0:21:47.080 --> 0:21:50.040 some math classes to already be over yeah, like I 0:21:50.080 --> 0:21:56.120 already went over expectation what I needed to do because 0:21:56.119 --> 0:21:57.840 I was already I looked and as a junior, I 0:21:57.880 --> 0:21:59.320 was like, wait, I could have graduated, like at the 0:21:59.320 --> 0:22:01.520 tenth grade. I know not I have so many credits 0:22:01.520 --> 0:22:03.080 because you get more credits when you're on set. I 0:22:03.119 --> 0:22:05.480 was like, I could have been out of school. So 0:22:05.560 --> 0:22:07.000 I checked out my junior year and I was like, 0:22:07.000 --> 0:22:08.560 I'm gonna go to a whole school for two three months, 0:22:08.560 --> 0:22:09.880 and I'm glad I did because I end up getting 0:22:09.880 --> 0:22:11.440 a Disney movie and I was not even gonna be 0:22:11.480 --> 0:22:12.440 home for my graduation. 0:22:12.680 --> 0:22:12.960 Wow. 0:22:13.000 --> 0:22:15.240 So I remember going to another friend's prom and literally 0:22:15.280 --> 0:22:18.920 celebrating my birthday in Salt Lake City on the set 0:22:18.960 --> 0:22:19.800 of Pixel Perfect. 0:22:20.119 --> 0:22:20.320 Wow. 0:22:20.320 --> 0:22:21.720 And I did it Disney with, which is big now 0:22:21.720 --> 0:22:23.520 on Disney Plus people go watch it all the time. 0:22:23.520 --> 0:22:23.960 They hit me. 0:22:24.119 --> 0:22:26.800 So at sixteen, though, you're starting to say hey mama. 0:22:27.119 --> 0:22:29.920 Yeah, cause I'm driving, I'm doing my things. So I'm like, hey, 0:22:30.160 --> 0:22:31.920 I don't need you in that capacity, so maybe try 0:22:31.920 --> 0:22:34.359 to shift into this lane. So it's also like trying 0:22:34.400 --> 0:22:36.840 to adult in a way, because you grow up fast 0:22:36.880 --> 0:22:38.240 when you're in entertainment. 0:22:38.480 --> 0:22:40.879 Mind youuly having a conversation like that with your parents. 0:22:40.960 --> 0:22:43.159 You know, it's like you need that, like because I know, 0:22:43.280 --> 0:22:45.800 like I'm very self sufficient so much in a way 0:22:45.800 --> 0:22:47.639 where it's like it's scary where I'm like, I have 0:22:47.720 --> 0:22:49.439 to let other people help me do things because I'm 0:22:49.480 --> 0:22:52.160 so used to doing it myself. But at sixteen, I'm like, Okay, 0:22:52.160 --> 0:22:54.000 I got my license, I already had a first car, 0:22:54.280 --> 0:22:56.480 I got everything, so now let's try to transition into 0:22:56.560 --> 0:22:59.439 this phase of what you can be for me. But 0:22:59.520 --> 0:23:01.000 my mom is stuck on like, no, I gotta be there. 0:23:01.000 --> 0:23:02.760 I'm I'm gonna be with you and we're gonna be together. 0:23:02.800 --> 0:23:06.000 And I'm like okay. So it kind of kept going, 0:23:06.560 --> 0:23:08.320 you know, for a while, and I'm like, Okay, the 0:23:08.359 --> 0:23:10.240 transition has to happen because why am I going to 0:23:10.280 --> 0:23:12.359 pay another person to do what I'd rather pay my 0:23:12.400 --> 0:23:14.240 mom to do. Because if you look at a lot 0:23:14.280 --> 0:23:17.120 of people that are celebrities, they hire like Jamie. One 0:23:17.119 --> 0:23:18.960 of my good friends, Jamie Fox, love him so much. 0:23:19.240 --> 0:23:22.760 His sister is his stylist, His best friend is his 0:23:22.800 --> 0:23:25.639 wardrobe stylist. His sister does his heir, He keeps his 0:23:25.680 --> 0:23:27.359 stuff in the family, and I love that because you 0:23:27.359 --> 0:23:29.639 trust your family, So it's like you want to do that, 0:23:29.680 --> 0:23:31.720 but at the same time, if they're not capable of 0:23:31.760 --> 0:23:33.520 doing it, I'm also not going to be putting myself 0:23:33.520 --> 0:23:35.679 in a position to not have you doing the proper 0:23:35.840 --> 0:23:39.719 job when you need to go get get training. If 0:23:39.720 --> 0:23:42.560 you're gonna be my CPA, I need you to study business. 0:23:43.119 --> 0:23:44.879 If you're going to be my manager, I need you 0:23:44.960 --> 0:23:46.920 to go study on how to talk to these agencies. 0:23:48.280 --> 0:23:51.560 No, so what is her capacity right now? 0:23:51.600 --> 0:23:57.919 To you? Oh that's interesting. Just look at the ball, 0:24:00.119 --> 0:24:00.760 Look at the biscuit. 0:24:00.800 --> 0:24:01.680 It looks so good. 0:24:01.720 --> 0:24:02.720 Come on, you think I'm playing. 0:24:03.320 --> 0:24:04.480 I'm not gonna get out of this question. 0:24:04.480 --> 0:24:06.520 I'm not gonna get out the question. The capacity right 0:24:06.560 --> 0:24:08.080 now currently. 0:24:08.000 --> 0:24:10.359 We probably have to stop that big bad the audio 0:24:10.400 --> 0:24:11.280 is gonna they're gonna. 0:24:11.080 --> 0:24:14.080 Go, oh yeah, okay, so let's let's stop the I 0:24:14.119 --> 0:24:16.520 got it, I got you. Look how fire it looked though. 0:24:16.400 --> 0:24:18.520 It looks good. I'm hungry too. 0:24:21.280 --> 0:24:24.080 Oh man, are they getting this because y'all see my biscuits? 0:24:24.200 --> 0:24:26.240 No to see it right here? Okay? 0:24:26.359 --> 0:24:28.040 Oh you know what, It just reminded me to do 0:24:28.119 --> 0:24:28.480 my job. 0:24:28.640 --> 0:24:32.920 Come on, it's okay. Oh brow look at the pigs 0:24:32.920 --> 0:24:36.280 in the blanket. Wow, the pigs are in the blanket. 0:24:36.280 --> 0:24:37.080 And that's why I told you. 0:24:37.119 --> 0:24:38.800 Now, why do you use the biscuits? Did you answer 0:24:38.840 --> 0:24:43.600 me before? Why you use the biscuit and not the. 0:24:41.280 --> 0:24:45.280 The crsuns are too flaky? Oh really yeah, so crssants 0:24:45.280 --> 0:24:47.320 are too flaky. So therefore I love flaky. But the 0:24:47.320 --> 0:24:49.479 things that they're going to fall apart if you're cooking 0:24:49.480 --> 0:24:52.760 them too long when you're cooking also the winner. So 0:24:52.760 --> 0:24:55.360 that's the only thing I love flaky. But these biscuits 0:24:55.400 --> 0:24:56.840 also have a little bit of on tool. So that's 0:24:56.840 --> 0:24:58.240 why I told you I needed the butter, because see, 0:24:58.240 --> 0:24:59.320 look when you put the. 0:24:59.280 --> 0:25:04.840 Butter, it is curious. 0:25:04.880 --> 0:25:06.440 It is it is for sure. I remember we turned 0:25:06.440 --> 0:25:08.680 it back on. So see you got to get the boy. 0:25:09.880 --> 0:25:11.159 She turned it back on. When she came back in, 0:25:11.800 --> 0:25:15.199 you turned it back on. It's all okay, cool, it's sorry, 0:25:15.280 --> 0:25:15.720 it's okay. 0:25:15.800 --> 0:25:16.560 It looks so good. 0:25:16.680 --> 0:25:19.320 It's delicious. I'm telling you when you get the little biscuits. 0:25:20.359 --> 0:25:24.600 So your your mom, yes, is she at the is 0:25:24.640 --> 0:25:28.159 she at mom capacity or is she at I'm doing something? 0:25:28.560 --> 0:25:31.840 I want her to be at mom capacity. But I 0:25:31.880 --> 0:25:35.119 think if we're just being transparent, because a lot of 0:25:35.119 --> 0:25:36.840 people go through this, you know, in the ship and 0:25:36.920 --> 0:25:39.800 dynamic when it comes to their kids. Sometimes growing up, 0:25:40.520 --> 0:25:46.800 I had to choose myself over what my mom was 0:25:47.160 --> 0:25:49.200 kind of stuck on because I think at the point 0:25:49.240 --> 0:25:52.880 when someone gets angry with you because they're not around 0:25:52.920 --> 0:25:55.040 in a capacity that they want, when you're telling them 0:25:55.080 --> 0:25:58.080 what you need, it can get a little toxic. Yeah, 0:25:58.280 --> 0:26:00.320 So I kept telling her what I needed and what 0:26:00.359 --> 0:26:04.360 was important, and for her it would go over her head. 0:26:04.400 --> 0:26:07.240 She didn't care. So I had to kind of put 0:26:07.240 --> 0:26:09.240 this position of like, Mom, these people are going to 0:26:09.280 --> 0:26:11.040 be helping me do it. You at any point can 0:26:11.119 --> 0:26:12.639 kick in when you want to. But if that's not 0:26:12.760 --> 0:26:15.600 going to happen, unfortunately, we're going to have to to 0:26:16.119 --> 0:26:18.879 cause a separation in this relationship. 0:26:18.960 --> 0:26:21.320 And then at this point is she working other jobs. 0:26:21.400 --> 0:26:22.359 I'm so excited about it. 0:26:22.480 --> 0:26:25.840 So it's so good. That's why I'm buttering it. That's 0:26:25.840 --> 0:26:27.959 why I'm doing it, girl, Venus, That's why I'm doing 0:26:28.000 --> 0:26:30.520 I'm getting you to your biscuits. I'm preparing your biscuits. 0:26:30.760 --> 0:26:33.919 I think I would hope that she's of course, you know, 0:26:34.119 --> 0:26:36.560 you know proud, which I think it's that dynamic, but 0:26:36.600 --> 0:26:38.359 at the same time, it's almost proud of you. They 0:26:38.400 --> 0:26:39.360 would reach out to you too. 0:26:39.840 --> 0:26:40.840 Are you guys not talking? 0:26:41.280 --> 0:26:41.440 No? 0:26:42.160 --> 0:26:43.480 Ah, dang no. 0:26:44.280 --> 0:26:47.000 And again I feel like it's only a matter of time. 0:26:47.280 --> 0:26:48.720 But here goes back to but. 0:26:48.720 --> 0:26:50.199 How long have you guys not been talking? Is it 0:26:50.240 --> 0:26:51.000 like a bad month? 0:26:51.160 --> 0:26:53.560 It's been No, it's been longer than a month. It's 0:26:53.560 --> 0:26:55.399 been longer than a month. And I'm only saying this 0:26:55.440 --> 0:26:57.840 from the standpoint because I think the power of healing 0:26:57.880 --> 0:26:59.800 is what people need to no one understand. And choosing 0:27:00.200 --> 0:27:03.680 yourself because sometimes parents' job, I think, is to raise 0:27:03.680 --> 0:27:06.240 their children to be able to fly off. 0:27:06.320 --> 0:27:08.560 And yes, I have this discussion with my husband all 0:27:08.560 --> 0:27:12.399 the time, like I think our responsibilities to kind of belity. 0:27:11.560 --> 0:27:14.480 And your kids to leave you because at the end 0:27:14.480 --> 0:27:16.000 of the day, you're not going to be around forever 0:27:16.080 --> 0:27:18.000 and your kids have to be okay without you. I've 0:27:18.000 --> 0:27:20.560 been so self sufficient for so long, but I realize 0:27:20.600 --> 0:27:23.680 doing that, I enabled my mother to be self sufficient. 0:27:23.720 --> 0:27:25.159 Well, that was going to be one of my questions 0:27:25.200 --> 0:27:28.120 because it seems like you were very self sufficient book, Yeah, 0:27:28.160 --> 0:27:31.040 wouldn't your mom who had a role to play. Where 0:27:31.080 --> 0:27:32.520 did this independence come from? 0:27:32.800 --> 0:27:35.160 You know, I think the independence came well in a way, 0:27:35.240 --> 0:27:37.360 technically from my mom too. If my mom's a single mother, 0:27:37.400 --> 0:27:40.240 you grow up watching someone do it all alone, right, Yeah, 0:27:40.280 --> 0:27:44.040 So technically in a way that helped me. See like, okay, 0:27:44.040 --> 0:27:45.560 I could do things on my own because of course 0:27:45.600 --> 0:27:47.000 I'm young. It's not like I have a man or 0:27:47.240 --> 0:27:49.520 need something. I had managers, I had agents, I had 0:27:49.560 --> 0:27:52.240 people in my life that were there. But when it 0:27:52.280 --> 0:27:54.240 came time to do business, when I was like, wait 0:27:54.240 --> 0:28:00.000 a minute, y'all, look at this though, Look at you. 0:28:00.359 --> 0:28:02.760 I told you that I'm talking about pigs in a blanket. 0:28:03.480 --> 0:28:08.000 Grab one. So I'm telling you grab one, take it 0:28:08.800 --> 0:28:10.800 and put your little ketchup and your little mustard on 0:28:10.800 --> 0:28:13.639 the plate. Butter and the butter, popp and that's that's 0:28:13.680 --> 0:28:15.520 what they need. The butter. You gotta get the butter. 0:28:15.560 --> 0:28:17.840 That's why I put a little extra on there. And 0:28:18.680 --> 0:28:20.560 I love butter. That's what I'm saying. You gotta get 0:28:20.560 --> 0:28:21.160 the butter on a bit. 0:28:21.240 --> 0:28:21.720 I'm excited. 0:28:21.880 --> 0:28:23.439 Put that. If you want a little Dejon too, I 0:28:23.480 --> 0:28:26.240 usually just do ketchup and shake up the ketchup because 0:28:26.240 --> 0:28:27.639 you don't like it to be you know, the watering 0:28:27.680 --> 0:28:28.800 paratly gonna come out first. 0:28:29.640 --> 0:28:31.320 Yeah, So how long have you and your mom not 0:28:31.400 --> 0:28:31.800 been talking? 0:28:31.880 --> 0:28:34.760 So it's it's it's been a second. I think it's been. 0:28:34.800 --> 0:28:36.640 I mean, I mean I look back and the last 0:28:36.640 --> 0:28:40.080 sext message was November or something like that. 0:28:40.160 --> 0:28:43.880 But even before Sisters is out and you didn't get it. Congratulations. No, 0:28:44.120 --> 0:28:46.720 but damn that sucks. I mean sorry, no, no, no, 0:28:47.040 --> 0:28:49.280 you know, you know kids, you're thinking about it in 0:28:49.280 --> 0:28:49.960 the back of your mind. 0:28:50.000 --> 0:28:53.280 We're talking honestly, we're talking honestly. My thing is that 0:28:54.720 --> 0:28:58.320 I wish that people and this is what anybody And 0:28:58.320 --> 0:28:59.800 that's when I had to separate the difference between you 0:28:59.880 --> 0:29:01.440 might need to cut into it. If not, just take 0:29:01.480 --> 0:29:02.720 a bite. Let let's take our first bide. Do you 0:29:02.720 --> 0:29:03.080 want to do it? 0:29:03.280 --> 0:29:03.680 Want to do it? 0:29:04.200 --> 0:29:13.080 Dip it in? Take a bile? Right right? How we 0:29:13.200 --> 0:29:13.560 like him? 0:29:14.200 --> 0:29:14.720 Go to now? 0:29:15.120 --> 0:29:17.160 How are we liking him? Make sure you get the 0:29:17.160 --> 0:29:17.880 winger and they're. 0:29:17.680 --> 0:29:19.440 Doing I'm gonna eat this whole thing. 0:29:19.800 --> 0:29:22.080 And I'm telling you she likes it, y'all. First of all, 0:29:22.160 --> 0:29:24.480 she killed her biscuit and her pig and a blanket, 0:29:24.520 --> 0:29:25.520 so I almost say this is a hit. 0:29:26.120 --> 0:29:29.200 It's a definite head noah, you know, I will definitely 0:29:29.240 --> 0:29:31.040 go home and do this for my time, you know, 0:29:31.080 --> 0:29:31.600 for your kids. 0:29:31.800 --> 0:29:33.840 Like we're making pigs in a blanket today, So you 0:29:33.960 --> 0:29:35.280 want the more christal. You don't have to put as 0:29:35.320 --> 0:29:36.680 much butter. But I like the butter because it just 0:29:36.680 --> 0:29:39.320 seeps it in, right, mm hmm, so good. 0:29:39.520 --> 0:29:43.120 This is brilliant, easy, and it's brilliant right to the point. 0:29:43.280 --> 0:29:45.360 Then it's take less than five bucks. 0:29:45.200 --> 0:29:48.720 Five dollars. Get you some biscuits. Pop them open, put 0:29:48.720 --> 0:29:50.360 them in a blanket. And that's why you see I 0:29:50.440 --> 0:29:53.000 rolled them like that so they stay tight. So even 0:29:53.040 --> 0:29:54.400 though it looked like they were mushed, when as soon 0:29:54.400 --> 0:29:56.520 as the biscuit expands, it still keeps it. So you 0:29:56.520 --> 0:29:57.800 see the winder on the outside here. 0:29:58.480 --> 0:29:59.800 How do you feel about the way you did the 0:29:59.800 --> 0:30:00.480 hot do say? 0:30:01.000 --> 0:30:03.280 Listen, I was fine with the hot dogs, Like I said, 0:30:03.280 --> 0:30:04.959 I usually cook them before, but the hot dogs are 0:30:04.960 --> 0:30:07.600 already Like, it's fine, the hot dogs are cooked. That's 0:30:07.600 --> 0:30:11.040 why I wanted you at least a good fifteen life. 0:30:11.200 --> 0:30:17.040 So good, I hold up tearing it up. This is 0:30:17.080 --> 0:30:19.160 my hope and this is what my thoughts. 0:30:18.920 --> 0:30:20.480 Well, this is a contribution of your mom. R. 0:30:20.920 --> 0:30:22.480 This is a contribution because she used to do pigs 0:30:22.480 --> 0:30:26.440 in a banket for me, I think for me where 0:30:26.560 --> 0:30:29.520 I think the separation, of course even started more after 0:30:29.560 --> 0:30:32.320 me kind of begging and even saying like, hey, ten 0:30:32.400 --> 0:30:34.920 years ago, I'm like, we need to help our relationship 0:30:35.000 --> 0:30:37.240 go to the next level because I'm not a parent, 0:30:37.240 --> 0:30:38.920 but I feel like, as a parent, you should transition 0:30:39.000 --> 0:30:41.640 from this is my child, this is my young adult, 0:30:42.160 --> 0:30:44.680 this is my adult. Now we're friends in a capacity. 0:30:44.720 --> 0:30:46.840 I'm still the mother, But how do you need me 0:30:46.880 --> 0:30:47.480 to be there for you? 0:30:47.600 --> 0:30:50.240 The guiter from like the. 0:30:52.320 --> 0:30:53.920 And that's the thing. It's like, if I'm self sufficient 0:30:53.920 --> 0:30:55.200 in my business, all I need you to do is 0:30:55.240 --> 0:30:56.320 just be a mom and be my. 0:30:56.240 --> 0:30:58.920 Parent in that way, like listening and just and. 0:30:58.840 --> 0:31:01.120 Being that person not combative or not. 0:31:01.160 --> 0:31:04.080 But also a cheerleader too, like the boy Sisters is 0:31:04.080 --> 0:31:05.040 out like cheerleading. 0:31:05.240 --> 0:31:07.360 Yeah, and that's great. My mom was always the cheerleader. 0:31:07.360 --> 0:31:08.840 But I would notice that when I'm trying to work 0:31:08.880 --> 0:31:12.400 on the depth of our relationship, she was more focused on, Okay, 0:31:12.440 --> 0:31:14.960 there's a red carpet, Okay, there's something we can go 0:31:15.000 --> 0:31:17.720 to here, And it was distracting from me because I'm like, listen, 0:31:17.720 --> 0:31:20.800 I'm your daughter first and foremost before i'm a celebrity 0:31:20.800 --> 0:31:22.760 on the red carpet. Yeah, And I had to start 0:31:23.080 --> 0:31:27.240 choosing to notice the boundaries and where no, you're not 0:31:27.240 --> 0:31:30.600 going to reap the benefits without doing the work. And 0:31:30.640 --> 0:31:32.200 I'm the type of person who I'm like, I want 0:31:32.200 --> 0:31:34.160 to do the work. And that's where it kind of 0:31:34.200 --> 0:31:36.120 got tricky when I was like, Okay, you're not going 0:31:36.200 --> 0:31:37.880 to come to this event, You're not going to come 0:31:37.920 --> 0:31:39.600 to that, Well, what's the problem, Because I told you 0:31:39.640 --> 0:31:41.719 the problem. We got to work on our relationship and 0:31:41.800 --> 0:31:43.560 choosing to not want to do that and not wanting 0:31:43.600 --> 0:31:44.800 to heal and wanting to just. 0:31:44.760 --> 0:31:48.280 Has she ever done counseling? And I'm sorry, I. 0:31:48.240 --> 0:31:50.680 Remember one time it was Yeah, I've offered over and over. 0:31:50.760 --> 0:31:52.760 I sent the therapies, I sent all of that, just 0:31:52.800 --> 0:31:54.840 trying to say, this is what we need to be 0:31:54.840 --> 0:31:57.160 because I'm willing to be transparent, but I have things 0:31:57.160 --> 0:31:59.160 that I want to talk about as a child that 0:31:59.200 --> 0:32:02.080 I feel that this is what would help our mommy 0:32:02.160 --> 0:32:04.520 daughter relationship but also the business side. But you need 0:32:04.560 --> 0:32:07.280 to learn how to separate the two. And that's why 0:32:07.320 --> 0:32:09.080 you see a lot of kids that are suing parents 0:32:09.080 --> 0:32:11.480 because their parents didn't necessarily know how to separate that 0:32:11.520 --> 0:32:13.520 same thing. So do I feel we can get back 0:32:13.560 --> 0:32:15.680 on track? Yes? But am I in a space right 0:32:15.680 --> 0:32:18.240 now where I'm like I did all I could, knowing 0:32:18.320 --> 0:32:20.800 that I put it out there regarding Mom, this is 0:32:20.800 --> 0:32:22.920 where I'm at, this is what needs to happen for us, 0:32:23.680 --> 0:32:26.800 and let's go have someone else come in. And I 0:32:26.800 --> 0:32:28.600 think it's someone with that generation too. My mom is 0:32:28.640 --> 0:32:31.040 seventy five. God bust the people that are at the 0:32:31.080 --> 0:32:34.600 generation prior, you know, or two generations prior, because she 0:32:34.600 --> 0:32:36.320 had me at thirty five, so there is a big 0:32:36.320 --> 0:32:38.400 age gap there. So a lot of the beliefs are 0:32:38.440 --> 0:32:40.280 like therapy, why would you do that? 0:32:40.360 --> 0:32:42.640 Well, yeah, I noticed that with the I feel like 0:32:42.680 --> 0:32:45.320 with that age, not trying to hate on that age 0:32:45.320 --> 0:32:45.680 where not. 0:32:45.680 --> 0:32:49.280 I do see that with even peers like they're stubborn, They're. 0:32:49.120 --> 0:32:51.720 Hella stubborn and they're hella. What is it like defensive? 0:32:51.840 --> 0:32:52.760 It's like almost like. 0:32:52.880 --> 0:32:55.440 Defense mechanism, Like crazy, if I can say, hey Mom, 0:32:55.440 --> 0:32:56.720 this is what I need, can we do this? What 0:32:56.760 --> 0:32:58.920 about you and I'm like, wait, I'm just having a 0:32:58.920 --> 0:33:00.000 conversation about hot. 0:33:00.320 --> 0:33:02.560 The defensiveness is the tricky part, and I think as 0:33:03.760 --> 0:33:06.480 their child who loves them, and you're like, man, after 0:33:06.520 --> 0:33:08.000 a while, it's like I don't even want to address 0:33:08.040 --> 0:33:10.200 these things because it could set off a nuclear bomb 0:33:10.400 --> 0:33:13.680 and that's where the break ends up in the sea. 0:33:14.520 --> 0:33:18.480 So many parents, I realize, have that sort of mindset, 0:33:18.480 --> 0:33:21.520 but in that age bracket, it's so crazy, and kids 0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:24.480 that are my age, there are so many people, like 0:33:24.520 --> 0:33:26.120 I said, because I haven't even talked about this and 0:33:26.200 --> 0:33:27.680 like even like put it out there like that only 0:33:27.720 --> 0:33:29.960 a couple close friends know. There's so many people that 0:33:30.000 --> 0:33:33.320 I know that had to separate from their parent because 0:33:33.320 --> 0:33:35.800 of the healing that needed to be done, that the 0:33:35.880 --> 0:33:38.640 parent was either choosing to try to live their life 0:33:38.640 --> 0:33:40.400 for them and be this is how you need to live, 0:33:40.440 --> 0:33:41.520 this is how you need to do that. And it's like, 0:33:41.520 --> 0:33:44.760 at what point do you say, this is not your life. 0:33:45.120 --> 0:33:47.120 I thank you for having me, but now my life 0:33:47.200 --> 0:33:48.959 has to be lived. I want you to support and 0:33:48.960 --> 0:33:50.480 be there for me, like I should be there for you, 0:33:51.000 --> 0:33:53.160 But why do I have to be just dictated to 0:33:53.280 --> 0:33:55.160 and when I have something to say you don't want 0:33:55.160 --> 0:33:55.560 to hear it. 0:33:55.800 --> 0:33:57.680 Well, yeah, but I also think it creates some kind 0:33:57.720 --> 0:34:00.920 of trauma because I now talk to I'm not gonna 0:34:00.920 --> 0:34:03.280 say who it is, but they felt like, you know, 0:34:03.560 --> 0:34:05.160 they just kind of got to the point where it's like, 0:34:05.240 --> 0:34:07.640 my mom loves me, but she just doesn't like me. 0:34:08.120 --> 0:34:12.719 And I was like, because that's what happens, though, if 0:34:12.719 --> 0:34:15.239 your parent continually shuts you down, you're just like, you 0:34:15.239 --> 0:34:17.760 know what, I know this person would take a bullet 0:34:17.760 --> 0:34:20.480 for me, but they just don't like me. And I've 0:34:20.480 --> 0:34:22.400 accepted it, so I no longer come to them with 0:34:22.520 --> 0:34:25.279 either something amazing or I don't come to them when 0:34:25.320 --> 0:34:27.680 I'm in a hard That's true because I just feel 0:34:27.680 --> 0:34:30.239 like this person that I love so much is that 0:34:30.320 --> 0:34:32.080 I know loves me but just doesn't like me. And 0:34:32.120 --> 0:34:33.400 I feel like it creates a trauma. 0:34:33.480 --> 0:34:35.680 That creates a trauma. And I had to look back 0:34:35.680 --> 0:34:37.560 when I thought of like when you think of your 0:34:37.600 --> 0:34:42.920 first your first car, your first apartment, your force wins. 0:34:43.800 --> 0:34:46.600 I looked back and I was like, my mom hated 0:34:46.640 --> 0:34:50.000 on all those see I hate that, Like I'm just 0:34:50.000 --> 0:34:53.640 giving me even more transparent. I was proposed to and 0:34:53.680 --> 0:34:56.759 the guy went to my brother to ask him. Was like, hey, 0:34:56.800 --> 0:34:58.520 don't tell her mom. You know, I'm just coming to 0:34:58.520 --> 0:35:00.840 you because I know her father's not here. And my 0:35:00.960 --> 0:35:06.360 mom had the nerve to literally tell me the night before, no, 0:35:07.160 --> 0:35:13.600 I'm no had I had no idea that sun And 0:35:13.640 --> 0:35:15.799 I was like, wait, First of all, my brother knew, 0:35:15.840 --> 0:35:18.040 so I me and my brother disobeyed and went to 0:35:18.080 --> 0:35:22.000 go tell moms. Moms held it for months and I 0:35:22.040 --> 0:35:23.719 was like, oh, yeah, me and my guy are going 0:35:23.840 --> 0:35:26.040 on the trip. Oh, we're going on the trip overseas 0:35:26.120 --> 0:35:27.920 or something like that. You know he's gonna propose you right, Well, 0:35:27.960 --> 0:35:28.440 what you think? 0:35:28.640 --> 0:35:31.319 And I was like, wait, did she say like, you 0:35:31.360 --> 0:35:32.840 know he's probably no. 0:35:32.600 --> 0:35:34.719 No, you know he's gonna you know he's gonna propose you. Yeah, 0:35:34.760 --> 0:35:36.360 he already reached out to your brother and he already 0:35:36.360 --> 0:35:40.319 asked for your head. Oh oh oh oh, oh oh oh. 0:35:40.360 --> 0:35:43.680 I'm talking about all of that. My first apartment I remember, 0:35:44.360 --> 0:35:46.040 and I'm gonna just say this too, because again we talking, 0:35:46.080 --> 0:35:48.000 we even while broke when we're talking about it. I 0:35:48.040 --> 0:35:51.800 didn't move out, so I was like third thirty really, 0:35:51.960 --> 0:35:54.399 but again it was at my place, but my mom 0:35:54.480 --> 0:35:56.080 was living with me, but I was like, it's time 0:35:56.080 --> 0:35:57.160 for us to separate and go. 0:35:57.440 --> 0:35:59.520 Wait. Hated it when you say your mom. So it 0:35:59.560 --> 0:36:01.600 was like, was it like her place you paying the 0:36:01.640 --> 0:36:02.760 bills or you're. 0:36:02.680 --> 0:36:05.239 No, no, no, I was thirteen, we moved. I'm on the 0:36:05.320 --> 0:36:07.399 lease at thirteen years old. I'm on the lease. You're 0:36:07.440 --> 0:36:10.440 on the lease because we move in together. But the 0:36:10.480 --> 0:36:13.080 place that we got, my friend is the one who 0:36:13.120 --> 0:36:14.320 gave it to us, like it was a it was 0:36:14.360 --> 0:36:17.640 a nice apartment complex, two bedroom, two bathroom, Like I'm 0:36:17.760 --> 0:36:19.440 on the least. The reason why I'm saying if it's 0:36:19.480 --> 0:36:22.360 my place is because if I'm seven making checks and 0:36:22.400 --> 0:36:25.200 then i'm thirteen, forteen to fifty, all the way I'm paying. 0:36:25.320 --> 0:36:26.359 Yeah, you're paying the rent. 0:36:26.400 --> 0:36:28.279 So it's like and I wasn't tripping, mind you. Me 0:36:28.280 --> 0:36:30.720 and my mom had a good relationship, but I started 0:36:30.719 --> 0:36:33.080 noticing the more that I started trying to be independent, 0:36:33.120 --> 0:36:35.200 the more it's like, you can't do that. Why are 0:36:35.239 --> 0:36:37.160 you doing that? You shouldn't be doing that, And I'm like, 0:36:37.440 --> 0:36:40.080 that's weird. Like getting a car is a big deal. 0:36:40.520 --> 0:36:42.279 You didn't like that getting. 0:36:42.120 --> 0:36:43.560 Now you got the car yourself. 0:36:43.800 --> 0:36:46.160 Yes, okay of course I got the car myself. 0:36:46.440 --> 0:36:47.840 But then I don't know if she like set it 0:36:47.880 --> 0:36:49.040 up in a way where it felt like it was 0:36:49.040 --> 0:36:51.319 coming from her, or was it just very open, like no, 0:36:51.400 --> 0:36:51.879 it never came. 0:36:51.920 --> 0:36:53.399 No, it never came from her. I got a car 0:36:53.440 --> 0:36:56.360 on my own. I went to a lot and was like, oh, okay, 0:36:56.400 --> 0:36:58.000 I want to go get a car. So I called 0:36:58.040 --> 0:37:00.319 my friend and was like, Hey, what are they about 0:37:00.320 --> 0:37:03.960 this car? It's like literally like this this mind you. 0:37:04.000 --> 0:37:05.399 It was already a used car, but it was still 0:37:05.400 --> 0:37:06.880 on a couple thousand miles. I'm like, this is a 0:37:06.880 --> 0:37:08.640 great steal, and I'm like, I don't know how my 0:37:08.680 --> 0:37:11.720 mom's gonna take it. I started realizing, like you started 0:37:11.719 --> 0:37:14.480 realizing early. I started having a watch things that I 0:37:14.560 --> 0:37:15.840 was sharing. I'm like, Dan, that's not fair to me. 0:37:15.880 --> 0:37:17.239 You have to watch what I have to say. 0:37:17.640 --> 0:37:19.239 That kind of goes back to what I'm saying where 0:37:19.239 --> 0:37:21.560 you kind of set that tone of the trauma, that the. 0:37:21.520 --> 0:37:24.080 Tone of your trauma, so your defense mechanism is stronger 0:37:24.120 --> 0:37:25.080 than it even should be. 0:37:25.040 --> 0:37:28.000 Your survival and that goes back also why you were 0:37:28.160 --> 0:37:28.920 so independent. 0:37:29.040 --> 0:37:31.520 Yes, And I'm like, mantimes, it's not a good thing. 0:37:31.600 --> 0:37:34.520 Dependent. Yeah, you're independent, came from lack. 0:37:34.320 --> 0:37:38.239 Of Sometimes your independence comes from the mentality of I 0:37:38.280 --> 0:37:41.520 gotta do this because I have to to fight for 0:37:41.560 --> 0:37:43.480 myself and my own right to speak up if I'm 0:37:43.520 --> 0:37:46.440 a kid supposed to grow up and be happy and 0:37:46.480 --> 0:37:48.879 supported in that regard. But I'm being tugged like, no, 0:37:48.920 --> 0:37:51.560 you can't do that, No you shouldn't do this. No, no, no, 0:37:51.600 --> 0:37:53.279 And I'm like, I'm not a no person. I'm always 0:37:53.320 --> 0:37:54.840 gonna think something is going to be the grass of 0:37:54.880 --> 0:37:56.759 the greeners other side, the glass is half full, not 0:37:56.800 --> 0:38:00.239 half empty. But someone is pulling at you. You're like, now, 0:38:00.320 --> 0:38:02.120 is it them that has a problem with what you're 0:38:02.160 --> 0:38:05.359 doing or are you just not being allowed to flow? 0:38:05.800 --> 0:38:07.879 You can see it. You can see it. Even when 0:38:07.880 --> 0:38:10.120 you tell the story, it's like, I won't think about 0:38:10.160 --> 0:38:12.160 this car. Instead of calling your mom, You're like, I'm 0:38:12.160 --> 0:38:15.160 calling the friend. And then I'm still concerned on how 0:38:15.200 --> 0:38:16.160 she gonna take the news. 0:38:16.200 --> 0:38:18.960 And I'm still concerned, and even at the point when I'm. 0:38:18.800 --> 0:38:20.160 So, when you go home with the car, how does 0:38:20.200 --> 0:38:20.839 she handle it? 0:38:21.800 --> 0:38:23.560 So here's the thing. I didn't even go home with 0:38:23.600 --> 0:38:25.840 the car, the car that she was already driving was 0:38:25.880 --> 0:38:27.440 a car that again that I got through a business 0:38:27.520 --> 0:38:29.520 dal and we had from a friend. I called her 0:38:29.560 --> 0:38:31.400 and like, oh, hey, come take a look at it. 0:38:31.960 --> 0:38:34.200 I called her to the location, had her show up. 0:38:34.200 --> 0:38:35.719 My friend is already there. She's there, and I'm like, 0:38:35.719 --> 0:38:37.920 guess what this is. I'm gonna get this car. But 0:38:38.000 --> 0:38:40.560 why we already got a car. I'm like, we have 0:38:40.600 --> 0:38:42.600 one car. We need two cars. 0:38:42.960 --> 0:38:45.640 So if you're had a license, mom, let's I need 0:38:45.640 --> 0:38:48.760 my my. 0:38:47.760 --> 0:38:50.640 That's just that makes control because if you have one car, 0:38:50.719 --> 0:38:53.520 you can't go without me going, yeah, you can't go 0:38:53.600 --> 0:38:55.840 unless I tell you. So. Again, it was that control factor, 0:38:55.880 --> 0:38:59.480 so kind of like being a child actor and wanting 0:38:59.520 --> 0:39:01.520 to flourish do that but someone is not letting you 0:39:01.560 --> 0:39:03.720 do that. It creates a power struggle. 0:39:03.800 --> 0:39:04.000 Yeh. 0:39:04.040 --> 0:39:05.799 And at some point you have to realize, Okay, if 0:39:05.840 --> 0:39:09.320 I'm giving you my first car moment, the first apartment moment, 0:39:09.360 --> 0:39:10.680 Like I moved out and my mom didn't talk to 0:39:10.719 --> 0:39:12.160 me for a whole year and I paid her rent 0:39:12.200 --> 0:39:13.600 in mind didn't. 0:39:13.400 --> 0:39:15.200 Talk that whole year, entire year. 0:39:17.160 --> 0:39:21.000 Yeah, that's a lot, and I'm like, I'm not supposed 0:39:21.040 --> 0:39:21.600 to be paying your. 0:39:21.640 --> 0:39:23.720 Now is there a part of you that were hoping 0:39:23.760 --> 0:39:26.840 to like, maybe at some point she'll go, man, I 0:39:26.840 --> 0:39:29.879 have a good daughter, and I'll just you know, I'm 0:39:29.920 --> 0:39:30.440 just saying that. 0:39:30.440 --> 0:39:32.799 At some point I was like, that should kick in. 0:39:33.200 --> 0:39:34.960 But what I did was and I said, Mom, you 0:39:35.000 --> 0:39:38.120 need to go take your chances and do this career 0:39:38.200 --> 0:39:40.120 as well, because I feel that's what you want. I 0:39:40.160 --> 0:39:42.600 feel you want to go act. So I got my 0:39:42.680 --> 0:39:47.400 mom with my agency. My mom booked a stand in 0:39:47.520 --> 0:39:50.040 role for Sisily Tyson and got her vouchers like this. 0:39:50.200 --> 0:39:52.359 So I'm thinking saying the first thing I say is like, Okay, 0:39:52.360 --> 0:39:53.640 I used to do background work. I don't want my 0:39:53.680 --> 0:39:55.879 mom in seventy I can do that. I paid thirty 0:39:55.880 --> 0:39:57.279 four hundred for her to get her SAD card. 0:39:58.440 --> 0:40:00.440 So you're like, yeah, but I so, I think that 0:40:00.520 --> 0:40:02.840 was an interesting plot twist right there to say maybe 0:40:02.880 --> 0:40:05.920 you want to do this too. It sounds like the 0:40:06.360 --> 0:40:08.439 daughter is the mom and the mom is the daughter. 0:40:08.719 --> 0:40:10.880 That's what started happening, and I'm like, okay, I can 0:40:10.920 --> 0:40:12.560 take that role, but I shouldn't have to take that role. 0:40:12.680 --> 0:40:14.520 So I me giving and providing in that kind of way. 0:40:14.560 --> 0:40:17.000 I kept feeling like I was getting shut out. In 0:40:17.080 --> 0:40:19.279 so many different ways shut out by it. It's like, 0:40:19.280 --> 0:40:21.120 but you should be happy for my wins. Why is 0:40:21.160 --> 0:40:24.000 it not this support factor that I should be having 0:40:24.040 --> 0:40:25.759 from you. So let me let you do it so 0:40:26.120 --> 0:40:28.480 you don't feel like you're missing out on something. I 0:40:28.520 --> 0:40:30.799 go do that during COVID, and then it's still like 0:40:31.400 --> 0:40:33.000 I'm not getting phone calls, you're not talking to me, 0:40:33.040 --> 0:40:35.279 you're still not trying to go to therapy. It got 0:40:35.320 --> 0:40:36.360 to the point where I was like, well, I'm not 0:40:36.360 --> 0:40:37.919 paying a phone bill no more. You're gonna have yours, 0:40:37.960 --> 0:40:40.480 gonna have mine. Period. If you're not calling texting me, 0:40:41.280 --> 0:40:43.840 we're not gonna be talking unless you call me directly 0:40:43.840 --> 0:40:45.279 on my phone line that I paid for, You're gonna 0:40:45.280 --> 0:40:46.719 pay for your own. So I just had to start 0:40:46.719 --> 0:40:47.919 pulling away from certain things. 0:40:48.080 --> 0:40:48.520 How did. 0:40:50.360 --> 0:40:53.359 Anger Yeah, of course again, if someone's. 0:40:53.080 --> 0:40:55.959 At this point it's now it's entitlement, I would imagine. 0:40:55.680 --> 0:40:58.320 Yes, I think it's entitlement, but also like, you're supposed 0:40:58.320 --> 0:40:59.520 to take care of me, You're supposed to do this, 0:40:59.520 --> 0:41:01.520 you're supposed to do that. I'm like, I didn't know 0:41:01.560 --> 0:41:03.880 that was the role of your children is to just 0:41:03.960 --> 0:41:06.279 take care of their parent, not if their parent is 0:41:06.320 --> 0:41:09.920 not sick, not their parent is not unable to do stuff. 0:41:09.960 --> 0:41:12.160 Now is she working at all during any of this? 0:41:12.520 --> 0:41:14.840 My mom is like she did a job in fashion, 0:41:14.880 --> 0:41:16.880 which I remember my brother got her. She worked at 0:41:16.880 --> 0:41:19.640 a fashion designers. But we were Me and my brother 0:41:19.760 --> 0:41:23.480 were always providing for my mother. She did little things 0:41:23.480 --> 0:41:25.720 here and there, but it was never anything full time. 0:41:26.200 --> 0:41:28.239 Because when your brother was you said, like right after 0:41:28.320 --> 0:41:29.359 eighteen he started going. 0:41:29.480 --> 0:41:31.200 My brother was gone out of college. But my brother 0:41:31.239 --> 0:41:33.120 did well. He was in real estate. He was I mean, 0:41:33.120 --> 0:41:35.480 that's when real estate was kicking all before the crash. 0:41:35.560 --> 0:41:37.279 He had money. He'd be like, y'all run his five 0:41:37.320 --> 0:41:39.840 six hundred dollars, do it. Because we were under rent control. 0:41:39.880 --> 0:41:42.680 This was twenty five years ago. Rent was cheaper then. Yeah, 0:41:42.680 --> 0:41:44.880 so we were always in control of that. But we 0:41:45.000 --> 0:41:47.600 both always were trying to find ways for my mom 0:41:47.680 --> 0:41:50.759 to Yeah, Mom, you can't leatch you all on to 0:41:50.800 --> 0:41:52.200 my brother. No more, you can't let youall to me. 0:41:52.480 --> 0:41:55.359 Let's get your own independent. So my mom, that's her 0:41:55.520 --> 0:41:59.520 unhealing self in her situation where she doesn't want to 0:41:59.560 --> 0:42:02.120 let go of her daught her because she's afraid of 0:42:02.160 --> 0:42:04.359 what that looks like for her and I. 0:42:04.280 --> 0:42:06.320 Had and then me and her identity could be wrapped 0:42:06.400 --> 0:42:06.959 up in it two. 0:42:06.880 --> 0:42:09.319 Right, one thousand percent. Everything was Porsch, Porsch Porsche. And 0:42:09.360 --> 0:42:11.839 I realized, my mom doesn't mean any harm, but she 0:42:11.880 --> 0:42:13.480 has to understand that, Mom, you have to have your 0:42:13.520 --> 0:42:15.239 own identity. Yeah. You need to walk in the room 0:42:15.280 --> 0:42:18.839 and say I'm this person, yeah, not Porsha's mom. 0:42:18.920 --> 0:42:19.440 Yeah. 0:42:19.480 --> 0:42:21.799 And that's where I started having to realize we do 0:42:21.880 --> 0:42:24.040 need our own identities, because I'm like, I need to 0:42:24.040 --> 0:42:25.640 have you realize this fairly early. 0:42:25.719 --> 0:42:28.839 Too early, I think another thing that must have been 0:42:28.880 --> 0:42:31.520 tough to accept this. And I learned this very late 0:42:31.560 --> 0:42:34.239 in life. I would say, like thirty six, around that 0:42:34.280 --> 0:42:36.960 age where I was like, there's there's a I like 0:42:37.080 --> 0:42:39.120 to put people on and I no longer want to 0:42:39.200 --> 0:42:42.840 change people. I put them in their proper categories. So 0:42:43.080 --> 0:42:45.239 I'm like, if you are, I have friends that are 0:42:45.280 --> 0:42:47.520 like ride or Die, that are like happy for me 0:42:47.560 --> 0:42:49.840 when I'm up, kill anybody when I'm down. We'll be 0:42:49.880 --> 0:42:52.960 sitting Girl will fly in, watch Pretty Women Get the 0:42:53.040 --> 0:42:55.439 Rocky Road, and We're gonna sit and watch these movies 0:42:55.440 --> 0:42:57.640 while we go through this breakup. And then when you win, 0:42:57.800 --> 0:43:00.359 they over the moon like they want the lottery. But 0:43:00.400 --> 0:43:03.440 then you have another You got another side, which is 0:43:04.320 --> 0:43:06.319 I'm down for you when you're down, but I'm not 0:43:06.360 --> 0:43:09.520 excited when you're up. And that one, I think is 0:43:09.760 --> 0:43:12.600 the hardest one to understand, because you know this person 0:43:12.640 --> 0:43:14.040 is down for you and they would kill for you, 0:43:14.200 --> 0:43:18.200 but they just not happy when you're up. And that's 0:43:18.320 --> 0:43:20.399 one of those things where you're kind of put into 0:43:20.400 --> 0:43:22.520 the position of dimming your light to make someone else. 0:43:22.400 --> 0:43:24.920 Come, to make someone else comfortable. And I love what 0:43:24.960 --> 0:43:27.319 you said about putting people in categories and letting people 0:43:27.360 --> 0:43:29.480 be who they are. I think the healing for me 0:43:29.600 --> 0:43:31.880 happened even not even a couple of years ago, when 0:43:31.920 --> 0:43:34.600 I realized my mother who is who she is, my 0:43:34.640 --> 0:43:36.879 brother is who he is, I am who I am. 0:43:37.280 --> 0:43:39.799 Just because you come from your parents doesn't mean that 0:43:39.880 --> 0:43:42.840 you are supposed to spend the rest of your lives 0:43:42.920 --> 0:43:46.480 under them and being best friends. And I think that 0:43:46.640 --> 0:43:48.399 is what I had to realize, is that my mom 0:43:48.480 --> 0:43:50.040 is who she's gonna be. My mom has been this 0:43:50.080 --> 0:43:53.080 way since for seventy five years. Yeah, I can't change her. 0:43:53.120 --> 0:43:54.759 I can love her from a distance. But I can 0:43:54.800 --> 0:43:58.600 also choose my piece and knowing what I need out 0:43:58.600 --> 0:44:01.400 of this relationship is you to be mother, not the 0:44:01.480 --> 0:44:03.520 lady who wants to come to the red carpets. Not 0:44:03.640 --> 0:44:05.640 the lady that wants to come and oh look at me, 0:44:05.840 --> 0:44:08.319 Like I got tired of that because I would go 0:44:08.320 --> 0:44:11.160 places and I would hear the conversations not about my daughter. 0:44:11.200 --> 0:44:13.040 My daughter's doing this, but guess what I used to 0:44:13.080 --> 0:44:14.440 be doing this and this is what I used to do. 0:44:14.520 --> 0:44:16.240 And guess what. You can catch me on this background 0:44:16.280 --> 0:44:18.040 show doing that and I'm like, but if you're here 0:44:18.080 --> 0:44:21.280 for me, that should be your focus and you're happy 0:44:21.400 --> 0:44:24.080 doing that for me. If I'm coming into your space, 0:44:24.560 --> 0:44:27.520 I'm not gonna sit here and make the moment about well, yeah, 0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:29.719 her show cool, but see but guess what, but guess 0:44:29.719 --> 0:44:32.279 what this is? And then you know you got those 0:44:32.360 --> 0:44:33.880 kind of friends, like you said, that are happy for you, 0:44:33.920 --> 0:44:35.560 but that are also get away competing with you. 0:44:35.640 --> 0:44:39.920 Yeah. I think that's one of the most painful things 0:44:40.000 --> 0:44:43.600 you can that you could actually learn because for a 0:44:43.680 --> 0:44:47.440 multitude of reasons. Yeah, but past that, I think the 0:44:47.480 --> 0:44:51.360 difficulty with being someone's child and I only know this 0:44:51.600 --> 0:44:53.160 I have a daughter I don't I have a daughter. 0:44:54.680 --> 0:44:56.200 I have a daughter. It's so new to me. It's 0:44:56.239 --> 0:44:59.040 weird because I feel me and my husband both try 0:44:59.080 --> 0:45:01.440 to do whatever what happened to us. We want to 0:45:01.480 --> 0:45:05.399 do everything in our power to not do it to her. 0:45:06.440 --> 0:45:08.400 And what I noticed with myself and I think with 0:45:08.520 --> 0:45:12.600 other people, is like you have this like unreal amount 0:45:12.640 --> 0:45:16.120 of I just want to know my parent loves me, right, 0:45:16.400 --> 0:45:19.799 And I think when you're facing those positions of you know, 0:45:19.880 --> 0:45:22.640 are they envious, is their jealousy or are they happy 0:45:22.640 --> 0:45:24.120 for me? Or are they not? Like I know they 0:45:24.160 --> 0:45:26.239 love me clearly, they got me to where I'm at, 0:45:26.600 --> 0:45:30.120 they fall for me. That that question, how do you 0:45:30.200 --> 0:45:33.239 navigate or do you ever navigate that question of like 0:45:33.760 --> 0:45:35.520 is this real love? Especially when they can go a 0:45:35.560 --> 0:45:37.240 long time without calling. 0:45:37.480 --> 0:45:41.040 Yeah, I think everybody loves different. For one, let's just say, 0:45:41.080 --> 0:45:42.719 like you said, you and your husband are trying not 0:45:42.760 --> 0:45:45.000 to do maybe what your parents did to you because 0:45:45.040 --> 0:45:47.279 you want a different whether it's a different life, a 0:45:47.320 --> 0:45:50.279 different outlook. You know, you go through things and you're like, Okay, 0:45:50.360 --> 0:45:52.440 I want to prevent somebody else from doing it. And 0:45:52.520 --> 0:45:54.239 also when people do that, they can stop their kids 0:45:54.280 --> 0:45:57.120 from really living or experiencing certain things. So my mom 0:45:57.200 --> 0:45:58.799 is that person like, wait, no, no, don't do that, 0:45:58.880 --> 0:46:00.960 because don't do that, And it's like, but I need 0:46:01.000 --> 0:46:04.040 to experience this. If I'm trying to be let's be real, 0:46:04.200 --> 0:46:07.200 Tyler Perry is a billionaire. If I want to be rich, 0:46:07.239 --> 0:46:08.759 if I want to be in rooms where I'm walking 0:46:08.760 --> 0:46:11.160 in and getting respected, I'm gonna talk to Tyler. I'm 0:46:11.160 --> 0:46:13.239 not gonna go to my mom. No, I'm not gonna 0:46:13.239 --> 0:46:14.960 go here to the homegirl. And if you have to 0:46:14.960 --> 0:46:16.680 be around the people that you're trying to be, like, 0:46:16.760 --> 0:46:18.279 if you want to do better, you have to put 0:46:18.320 --> 0:46:20.120 yourself around people that are gonna help you get to 0:46:20.120 --> 0:46:22.560 that level. So I think she started thinking that something 0:46:22.640 --> 0:46:24.840 was disrespectful when I started saying, you can't be my 0:46:24.880 --> 0:46:26.960 plus one today because I'm gonna have my publicis coming 0:46:26.960 --> 0:46:29.440 because I need that next job. My agent's gonna come 0:46:29.480 --> 0:46:31.759 because they can talk to the producer and talk about 0:46:31.760 --> 0:46:32.680 giving me my next job. 0:46:33.000 --> 0:46:36.040 And yeah, if you went to school and got the 0:46:36.080 --> 0:46:38.719 training or whatever, you started mastered, but. 0:46:38.680 --> 0:46:40.640 Don't take it personally. I'm taking somebody else like you 0:46:40.640 --> 0:46:42.120 think it's a slight to you, Like I don't like 0:46:42.160 --> 0:46:43.799 you like it has nothing to do with not liking you. 0:46:43.840 --> 0:46:46.600 I need that next gig because everybody knows actors can 0:46:46.640 --> 0:46:49.040 sit here all day long and talk, oh, look at 0:46:49.040 --> 0:46:51.279 the flash yourself offline, But everybody a lot of times 0:46:51.360 --> 0:46:53.600 is check to check in this business. When it comes 0:46:53.640 --> 0:46:55.640 to that one job that hits, it may be six 0:46:55.719 --> 0:46:58.120 months and you have nothing. So you got to sustain 0:46:58.160 --> 0:47:00.520 yourself in between that. So if I'm gonna be at premiere, 0:47:00.800 --> 0:47:02.680 if I'm at a red carpet, I need to be 0:47:02.680 --> 0:47:04.239 with somebody that can walk up to a producer and 0:47:04.239 --> 0:47:06.120 be like, hey, this is my talent Portia Coleman. You 0:47:06.120 --> 0:47:07.480 can see her on this and this and that. Let's talk. 0:47:07.520 --> 0:47:10.000 Let's talk about you getting her in your next project. Yeah, 0:47:10.120 --> 0:47:12.120 I need that. Or just my mom coming to hang 0:47:12.120 --> 0:47:15.120 out and just smile at people and there's no disrespect 0:47:15.160 --> 0:47:17.560 to her. I know what she likes, and I realized 0:47:17.600 --> 0:47:21.200 that's what she's happy doing. But I realized that it 0:47:21.320 --> 0:47:25.000 was costing me financially by just bringing her as a 0:47:25.000 --> 0:47:26.719 guest to hang out versus somebody that could read. 0:47:27.080 --> 0:47:28.399 You need to maximize this. 0:47:28.560 --> 0:47:30.920 You got to maximize the time because this window can 0:47:30.960 --> 0:47:33.440 be so fast and so quick. So I think it 0:47:33.440 --> 0:47:33.640 was a. 0:47:33.680 --> 0:47:36.440 Good business move, good business, and it's not to take personally. 0:47:36.480 --> 0:47:39.719 Nothing but speaking of good business moves, hello, let's go 0:47:39.840 --> 0:47:42.440 closer to some of the bigger, bigger, big biggest. Come 0:47:42.480 --> 0:47:45.640 on now, biggest move. Let's get close to your newest 0:47:45.760 --> 0:47:48.680 BT plus with Tyler Perry. I want to know how 0:47:49.040 --> 0:47:52.200 wind where? How did it all come about. I've had 0:47:52.320 --> 0:47:54.160 a couple people on the show that have worked with 0:47:54.200 --> 0:47:57.120 Tyler ive heard nothing but rave reviews and surprising paychecks 0:47:57.120 --> 0:48:01.200 that lives. Hello, it's not on the thing. He likes 0:48:01.239 --> 0:48:03.680 to just surprise people with paychecks at yeah point, I 0:48:03.680 --> 0:48:04.920 know that story you're talking about too. 0:48:05.160 --> 0:48:07.520 You do which one the one story where he surprised 0:48:07.560 --> 0:48:10.719 people with bonuses? Oh? He was s well, I know 0:48:10.760 --> 0:48:11.560 a couple of stories. 0:48:11.560 --> 0:48:14.439 Well, I know we haven't released this one. But the guy, 0:48:14.880 --> 0:48:17.719 this particular actor had said, well, I guess by the 0:48:17.760 --> 0:48:20.319 time your episode, but he had said that, you know, 0:48:20.480 --> 0:48:22.600 he went in at a five thousand dollars pay rate. 0:48:22.760 --> 0:48:24.239 Wow, and it. 0:48:24.239 --> 0:48:26.439 Was like the lowest he had ever made whatever mm hmm. 0:48:27.080 --> 0:48:29.279 And then I was like, damn, he's gonna in my head, 0:48:29.280 --> 0:48:30.879 I was like, he's going to edit this out. He's 0:48:30.920 --> 0:48:33.000 definitely going to edit it out, and he didn't you 0:48:33.040 --> 0:48:35.960 know why, because his surprise was that Tyler Perry ended 0:48:36.000 --> 0:48:37.319 up giving him six figures at the end. 0:48:37.360 --> 0:48:39.920 Come on, and I was like, dang, listen, I think 0:48:40.960 --> 0:48:45.120 for sure that shows what dedication looks like. Because I 0:48:45.160 --> 0:48:47.120 love my career so much. I've only been singing, acting, 0:48:47.200 --> 0:48:49.399 dancing since the day I was born and came out. 0:48:49.560 --> 0:48:51.440 I would do this for free because I love it. 0:48:51.480 --> 0:48:53.080 I love that I would do it for free. So 0:48:53.120 --> 0:48:55.000 to know that I can look and cut a check 0:48:55.000 --> 0:48:57.479 and be like what officer all I could do for free? 0:48:58.120 --> 0:49:00.480 To work like ten hustles is a beautiful thing. And 0:49:00.719 --> 0:49:02.600 I can honestly say I've never had a nine to five. 0:49:02.680 --> 0:49:04.640 I've never clocked in a job. I've never done that. 0:49:04.680 --> 0:49:07.799 I sing, I act, I dance, I host, I do voiceovers, 0:49:07.960 --> 0:49:10.880 video going and I've been working a whole life. And 0:49:10.880 --> 0:49:12.800 that's again, I'm not gonna say that's a trauma response. 0:49:12.840 --> 0:49:14.880 That's just me. I learned that I love to do 0:49:14.920 --> 0:49:16.680 what I do. I don't drink, I don't smoke. I'm 0:49:17.120 --> 0:49:19.719 I'm out here. Yeah, So I love what I do. 0:49:20.120 --> 0:49:22.240 But when you cross pass with someone like a Tyler Perry. 0:49:22.719 --> 0:49:25.719 If I can look at your story from sleeping in 0:49:25.760 --> 0:49:29.640 your car to get in your play, to getting your 0:49:29.640 --> 0:49:32.840 play financed, to get in your play on tour, to 0:49:32.880 --> 0:49:36.200 where now you have a network who gives you astronomical 0:49:36.239 --> 0:49:39.440 amounts to put our people in position to be starring 0:49:39.520 --> 0:49:42.759 on shows when twenty years ago there was not really 0:49:42.800 --> 0:49:45.719 all black lead shows. You had the Cosby's, then you 0:49:45.760 --> 0:49:49.280 started remember when UPN popped up? Do y'all really remember UPN? 0:49:49.840 --> 0:49:52.960 That's when The Parkers was on, but you got one 0:49:53.000 --> 0:49:56.080 on one the Parkers school Boys in Outer Space, Moesha, 0:49:56.600 --> 0:49:58.680 We at one point did not have all black lead 0:49:58.760 --> 0:50:03.880 shows by other period. Right now is literally doing something incredible, 0:50:03.960 --> 0:50:05.520 Like he said to the BT was we're all sitting 0:50:05.520 --> 0:50:08.840 there watching he said, I have made more millionaires black 0:50:08.920 --> 0:50:13.120 millionaires on TV than anybody. Because he's right. If you're 0:50:13.120 --> 0:50:14.799 gonna sit there and take a five thousand dollar check 0:50:14.840 --> 0:50:16.960 knowing that you've gotten paid more, but you're willing to 0:50:17.000 --> 0:50:20.600 come to work and bust your ass, Tyler is gonna 0:50:20.600 --> 0:50:22.720 bless you and do that. Because I remember just thinking 0:50:22.800 --> 0:50:24.920 like I've never auditioned for Tyler, I'd never been in 0:50:24.960 --> 0:50:26.200 front of him. I was like, dang, if I get 0:50:26.200 --> 0:50:29.319 that opportunity, I just hope it's it. The first time 0:50:29.320 --> 0:50:30.759 I was in front of Tyler Perry, I got it. 0:50:31.640 --> 0:50:33.360 Tell me about it, tell me how you got this. 0:50:33.640 --> 0:50:35.160 It's I'm me a whole backstory. 0:50:35.239 --> 0:50:37.719 It's crazy. I mean, it's fast. If anybody knows about 0:50:37.760 --> 0:50:41.760 self tapes twenty twenty COVID, everything shuts down, so nobody's 0:50:41.760 --> 0:50:44.200 really in rooms anymore. So they say, hey, here's the audition, 0:50:44.560 --> 0:50:47.000 here's a size, put yourself on tape, find a reader. 0:50:47.000 --> 0:50:49.200 Mind you got to find a reader, set your camera up, 0:50:49.400 --> 0:50:51.360 set your lighting up, and do all of this stuff 0:50:51.920 --> 0:50:54.160 by yourself in your house. Okay, So mind you. It 0:50:54.160 --> 0:50:55.680 gets overwhelming a lot of times because you got to 0:50:55.680 --> 0:50:57.279 find people that's available to do that when you got 0:50:57.320 --> 0:51:00.880 an audition in twenty four hours self taped. Remember Clearsday, 0:51:00.880 --> 0:51:02.120 I got to shout my girl out. I love her 0:51:02.160 --> 0:51:05.279 to death. Doctor Schammel Bell very accomplished. She helped start 0:51:05.280 --> 0:51:07.080 the Black Lives Matter movement. She used to be a 0:51:07.239 --> 0:51:10.000 she said doctor. She does everything. But she was out 0:51:10.040 --> 0:51:11.440 and about in LA. I said, girl, you got a 0:51:11.440 --> 0:51:13.600 second can you come cel tape for me? And she 0:51:13.640 --> 0:51:15.560 was like, yeah, sure, whatever you need. I got the 0:51:15.600 --> 0:51:18.000 audition for Tiffany. So if you guys watching the show, 0:51:18.200 --> 0:51:20.439 the girl Tiffany has the big curly the real name 0:51:20.640 --> 0:51:23.120 is our girl Brianna, and I auditioned for that. I 0:51:23.120 --> 0:51:25.640 put it on tape. Forty eight hours later, my agent 0:51:25.640 --> 0:51:27.239 called and was like, hey, you got a call back 0:51:27.280 --> 0:51:28.439 and I was like, oh great. They say they're gonna 0:51:28.440 --> 0:51:30.800 send us the details and I'm like, oh, mind you. 0:51:30.880 --> 0:51:33.240 I'm thinking Tyler's in Atlanta because I sell tape. 0:51:33.000 --> 0:51:34.360 And Tyler Perry. 0:51:34.480 --> 0:51:37.160 Yeah, okay, it clearly said. The reason why I knew 0:51:37.320 --> 0:51:40.640 is because it clearly came out as Divorced Sisters. Mind you, 0:51:40.680 --> 0:51:43.680 I'm like, bt. Plus, I watched Sisters. They're nine seasons 0:51:43.719 --> 0:51:47.319 in Divorce Sisters. I'm like, not a new franchise. Oh 0:51:47.719 --> 0:51:50.040 So I told my agent, push for this. I said, 0:51:50.040 --> 0:51:51.880 I know the casting director shout out to Kim Coleman, 0:51:51.960 --> 0:51:53.440 love you too. I called her like cousins. We have 0:51:53.480 --> 0:51:55.560 the same last name. I said, please push for this 0:51:55.560 --> 0:51:57.040 because I think I'd be great for this and this 0:51:57.080 --> 0:52:00.680 is the role of Tiffany. Go in. Send the cell tape. 0:52:00.680 --> 0:52:02.680 Two days later, Tyler Perry's going to be at the 0:52:02.920 --> 0:52:06.160 audition nine in the morning off a sunset boulevard. I'm like, 0:52:06.360 --> 0:52:08.680 I'm waking up at six in the morning. This this 0:52:08.719 --> 0:52:10.520 is doing no, this was this was at the top 0:52:10.560 --> 0:52:12.759 of the year. Right now we're only in July. We've 0:52:12.760 --> 0:52:13.680 shot this show in March. 0:52:13.840 --> 0:52:15.160 But I'm saying, you send in yourself. 0:52:15.239 --> 0:52:18.120 But I'm talking about during COVID is when they don't 0:52:18.120 --> 0:52:20.439 go an audition way. So that's why when you said 0:52:20.440 --> 0:52:23.560 the process that the process wasn't seeing Tyler first. It 0:52:23.640 --> 0:52:26.319 was me putting my cameras, my lightnings up, looking at 0:52:26.320 --> 0:52:28.160 the scene and reading with my friend off camera and 0:52:28.239 --> 0:52:30.640 just sending in and hoping I get a call. Forty 0:52:30.600 --> 0:52:33.120 eight hours later, I got that call. H Tyler Perry's 0:52:33.160 --> 0:52:36.320 going to be at the space off a sunset in person, 0:52:36.360 --> 0:52:38.160 and I'm like, so mind job. I'm like, okay, I 0:52:38.200 --> 0:52:40.799 already got my size memorized what to expect. I'm like, 0:52:41.200 --> 0:52:43.520 let's go walk in the room. There's like one hundred 0:52:43.560 --> 0:52:45.120 people in the waiting room. 0:52:45.200 --> 0:52:47.560 I'm like, how do you feel in those moments? 0:52:47.760 --> 0:52:50.400 And that's what actors again, you know, you walk in 0:52:50.400 --> 0:52:52.000 the room and you're like, oh, back to these days 0:52:52.040 --> 0:52:54.400 when you're seeing every girl in the room, I'm seeing guys. 0:52:54.400 --> 0:52:56.280 I'm like, I don't know who's audition for this part, 0:52:56.800 --> 0:52:58.000 but you have to tune it out. 0:52:58.200 --> 0:53:00.360 Yeah, I'm the girl. You guys ever become buddies in 0:53:00.400 --> 0:53:01.160 those scenarios. 0:53:01.239 --> 0:53:03.319 Oh No. When I walked in, I literally saw four 0:53:03.360 --> 0:53:05.480 girls I knew. Okay, I knew him. I was like, oh, 0:53:05.480 --> 0:53:07.080 this is the girl. I played a sister with her 0:53:07.120 --> 0:53:08.879 on a movie. I knew my homegirl from Bee Valley. 0:53:08.920 --> 0:53:11.640 I knew people in the room, but at that point, honestly, 0:53:11.760 --> 0:53:14.280 just with me, it's like, you're not friends in that moment. Yeah, 0:53:14.360 --> 0:53:15.920 because I can walk up to you, but ha's your mom? 0:53:15.960 --> 0:53:17.960 How's all this? We got a job to do. So 0:53:17.960 --> 0:53:19.359 the first thing I do is I went to sign 0:53:19.360 --> 0:53:21.040 in make sure they knew I was there. I went 0:53:21.080 --> 0:53:22.800 out to the hallway and I literally was in the 0:53:22.800 --> 0:53:26.560 elevator because I'm like the chatter sometimes people like you 0:53:26.719 --> 0:53:28.520 talk in all the rooms. I need to be trying 0:53:28.520 --> 0:53:30.400 to focus. I'm trying to be focused. I'm like, I 0:53:30.400 --> 0:53:32.839 got an audition to be with Tyler Perry in front 0:53:32.840 --> 0:53:35.040 of a series regular. I need to be focused. So 0:53:35.080 --> 0:53:36.960 I remember being a hallway. It was like nine o'clock, 0:53:37.360 --> 0:53:39.120 nine thirty. They said, oh, portion, you're on deck, and 0:53:39.120 --> 0:53:40.719 I'm like, okay, I'm on deck. 0:53:40.920 --> 0:53:43.239 Wait before you get into there. When you say focused, now, 0:53:43.320 --> 0:53:45.000 is that when you do? I mean I see a 0:53:45.000 --> 0:53:47.680 lot of actors do this or like the bigger ones 0:53:47.719 --> 0:53:50.359 than be like I was in that whole role during 0:53:50.360 --> 0:53:51.480 the whole taping. 0:53:51.640 --> 0:53:53.680 No no, no, no no no, that's one by the time 0:53:53.719 --> 0:53:55.440 you get it. But I'm talking about the time when 0:53:55.440 --> 0:53:58.440 you're in the audition room. You gotta book it before 0:53:58.480 --> 0:54:00.319 you can get to set. I'm not thinking about working 0:54:00.320 --> 0:54:01.759 on set. I'm thinking Tyler Perrent. 0:54:01.800 --> 0:54:03.640 I'm saying, when you're doing that focus, are you in 0:54:03.920 --> 0:54:06.080 yeahfter or are you just memorizing my line? 0:54:06.120 --> 0:54:07.920 My mind? What I do and this is a hack 0:54:07.960 --> 0:54:10.160 for me, I put my ear pods in, okay, and 0:54:10.280 --> 0:54:13.600 I play music because again, if someone's in the hallway 0:54:13.640 --> 0:54:15.400 talking and right now, if I'm trying to study, to 0:54:15.400 --> 0:54:17.239 go knock out this scene where I got to mind 0:54:17.239 --> 0:54:20.279 you the scene is eight pages. Eight page is long? 0:54:20.280 --> 0:54:22.440 You got to memorize in front of Tyler Perry. I 0:54:22.480 --> 0:54:25.080 don't want to hear old girl talking about Oh my god, 0:54:25.120 --> 0:54:26.759 girl so good to see you. Guess, well, how's your 0:54:27.000 --> 0:54:29.000 I don't want to hear that air pods are in. 0:54:29.480 --> 0:54:31.759 I'm down the hallway by the elevator, so I don't 0:54:31.760 --> 0:54:34.680 got to hear that. That's my process. So by the 0:54:34.680 --> 0:54:35.960 time they said you're on deck, I'm like, okay, I 0:54:36.000 --> 0:54:38.960 gotta come close, gotta come close. Take out the ear pods, 0:54:38.960 --> 0:54:41.520 put it in, put my purse to aside, be like, okay, 0:54:41.760 --> 0:54:43.600 go on in the room. Go on in the room. 0:54:43.920 --> 0:54:46.359 I see like five people in their cameras. Tyler's right there. 0:54:46.400 --> 0:54:48.120 I'm talking about you. He's right at the head of 0:54:48.200 --> 0:54:50.040 the table. His head is down. He's not even looking 0:54:50.040 --> 0:54:52.319 at me though, and I'm like, okay, I walk in. 0:54:52.360 --> 0:54:54.239 His head is down, he looks up. He says, okay, 0:54:54.280 --> 0:54:57.200 you ready, all right, let's go. That was it, and 0:54:57.239 --> 0:55:01.279 I was like, okay, cool, mind you no conversation. What's 0:55:01.280 --> 0:55:02.719 your name? I'm like, okay, cool. He wanted to go 0:55:02.800 --> 0:55:04.680 right into it. We go write into it. Next thing 0:55:04.680 --> 0:55:08.200 you know, I started delivering the scene. Okay, thirty second 0:55:08.280 --> 0:55:13.440 ten he does this like stop and I'm like, oh shit, girl, 0:55:13.640 --> 0:55:17.560 exactly what I said. Oh shit. He was like, thank you, 0:55:18.080 --> 0:55:20.680 thank you. He said that was really good, by the way, 0:55:20.719 --> 0:55:22.280 but I need to read for the role in Naomi. 0:55:23.520 --> 0:55:26.360 I was like, oh okay. He was like yeah, so 0:55:26.360 --> 0:55:27.960 they'll give you the sides outside and just come back 0:55:27.960 --> 0:55:29.359 in the room once you've taken a look at it. 0:55:29.400 --> 0:55:32.880 I was like, okay, sure, wait a minute, so you 0:55:32.960 --> 0:55:36.520 have like less than a couple of minutes to what I. 0:55:36.600 --> 0:55:39.839 Was like, Yes, at that point, it's cold reading because 0:55:39.880 --> 0:55:42.120 mind you, I already had the other scene for over 0:55:42.160 --> 0:55:43.640 a week. I had a chance to look at it. 0:55:43.680 --> 0:55:46.680 I knew it. They handed me some new scenes, a 0:55:46.719 --> 0:55:49.480 whole new character, and I'm like, what's her backstory? Wait? 0:55:49.520 --> 0:55:52.120 New scenes, so I'm a whole different person. 0:55:52.280 --> 0:55:54.319 But I'm saying like, you couldn't use the scenes, that. 0:55:54.520 --> 0:55:57.200 Know, because the scene that I auditioned for is Tiffany. 0:55:57.640 --> 0:56:01.120 Naomi was not in Jesus, I'm looking at this and 0:56:01.160 --> 0:56:04.399 this is one acting Yet when your bag kicks in, 0:56:04.480 --> 0:56:06.920 when I'm my training since seven, eight, nine, ten kicks in, 0:56:07.320 --> 0:56:09.640 you gotta look at a scene and deliver it like 0:56:09.960 --> 0:56:13.120 you are this person in this scenario right in that moment. 0:56:14.200 --> 0:56:15.719 So first thing they come out and say, as I said, 0:56:15.719 --> 0:56:19.040 who's Naomi? Who is she? Well, she's got thirty seven 0:56:19.040 --> 0:56:20.920 million dollars, she just got divorced from her ex husband. 0:56:20.920 --> 0:56:23.160 She hates him, and now she's mad that her her 0:56:23.239 --> 0:56:26.040 lawyer homegirl, is not helping her sue him. That's all 0:56:26.080 --> 0:56:30.040 he said to me. And I was like, okay, okay. 0:56:30.160 --> 0:56:32.160 So the first scene that you see that I walk 0:56:32.200 --> 0:56:34.080 in on scene one is a scene that I auditioned 0:56:34.120 --> 0:56:36.000 that where I'm standing by the car, like, what's up? 0:56:36.040 --> 0:56:37.879 Did you look at this lawsuit? What's going on? Yeah? 0:56:38.080 --> 0:56:40.799 And I remember after all of that fifteen twenty minutes 0:56:40.800 --> 0:56:43.080 walking back in the room and he said the same thing. Okay, 0:56:43.080 --> 0:56:46.239 you ready, Like it was no conversation, mind you. I 0:56:46.280 --> 0:56:48.160 have a great memory. So what I usually do is 0:56:48.200 --> 0:56:50.879 when I looked at it, I said, I'll be damn 0:56:50.920 --> 0:56:52.920 if I'm being in front of Tyler Perry glued to 0:56:52.960 --> 0:56:56.000 the sides. Hell no, ma'am. I said, I'm gonna look 0:56:56.040 --> 0:56:58.360 at it. I'm gonna know some calling responses, but he 0:56:58.480 --> 0:56:59.960 gonna get a lot of ad lib and just me 0:57:00.080 --> 0:57:03.080 feeling this carriage, okay, had to still respect that game. 0:57:03.520 --> 0:57:04.839 Rolled it up, and he was right to the side 0:57:04.880 --> 0:57:07.400 of me soon as it started. She's supposed to be 0:57:07.400 --> 0:57:09.160 hot that her lawyer's out there. So I said, what's up. 0:57:09.239 --> 0:57:12.080 You talk to your lawyer, Geneva, what is going on? 0:57:12.160 --> 0:57:14.880 Tell me? No, hi the baby. She's like, the baby's 0:57:14.920 --> 0:57:17.000 right here. I'm like, I don't care, Hey, baby, what's 0:57:17.080 --> 0:57:20.120 up with my lawsuit? Like, and I'm seeing Tyler and 0:57:20.160 --> 0:57:23.439 other people in the room like locked in, but I'm 0:57:23.480 --> 0:57:25.080 tuning it out because I'm not looking at none of 0:57:25.080 --> 0:57:27.840 the side. I'm just delivering it. After it was over, 0:57:27.880 --> 0:57:32.000 Tyler was like that was amazing. He's like, yeah, wait 0:57:32.040 --> 0:57:33.480 in the lobby said don't go anywhere. And I was 0:57:33.520 --> 0:57:37.880 like okay, And I was like and I just went 0:57:37.920 --> 0:57:39.760 for it. And I was like, holy yeah, Like that 0:57:39.880 --> 0:57:40.480 was yeah. 0:57:40.520 --> 0:57:42.720 And what are you thinking when he's like waiting the lobby? 0:57:42.760 --> 0:57:44.120 I want to know what is your emotions? 0:57:44.160 --> 0:57:46.080 Like, here's the thing. The reason why I'm okay with 0:57:46.120 --> 0:57:47.280 that is because by this point, it went from a 0:57:47.320 --> 0:57:50.360 hundred people in the lobby to twenty five. Okay, so 0:57:50.480 --> 0:57:53.560 the lobby was getting empty do so I'm like, Okay, 0:57:53.640 --> 0:57:55.120 he didn't ask me to come back in, so he's 0:57:55.120 --> 0:57:58.240 not mixing and matching. I'm still waiting ten people in 0:57:58.280 --> 0:58:01.000 the lobby and I'm like, Okay, that girl was auditioning 0:58:01.040 --> 0:58:03.040 for this part, but she's not here for Naomi. Who's 0:58:03.080 --> 0:58:05.600 she here for? Next thing? I know? It's like ten 0:58:05.640 --> 0:58:11.840 of us, rob Riley, myself, Breonna Price, Me, DeVaughn, and Kadeen. 0:58:12.440 --> 0:58:13.480 He's like, everybody, come. 0:58:13.360 --> 0:58:14.480 In, sorry for Kurt. 0:58:14.760 --> 0:58:16.880 No, you're good, You're good. We walk in the room 0:58:16.920 --> 0:58:19.640 and he's like, this looks great. He said, this is 0:58:19.680 --> 0:58:22.360 the cast right here. This looks amazing. He said, all right, guys, 0:58:22.400 --> 0:58:24.520 well congratulations and get ready to work your ass off. 0:58:24.560 --> 0:58:26.640 We'll be doing about two three weeks in Atlanta, and 0:58:26.680 --> 0:58:29.400 get ready. Our agents and Lawy's will be in contact. 0:58:29.560 --> 0:58:33.280 And I was like, mind you. We was from nine 0:58:33.320 --> 0:58:35.960 am to like three hours at this point, I'm like, 0:58:36.880 --> 0:58:40.600 holy holy what And just like that. 0:58:40.480 --> 0:58:42.840 Were y'all all like high five and each other hugging. 0:58:42.600 --> 0:58:44.360 Of course because he because here's the thing and this 0:58:44.400 --> 0:58:46.160 is what Tyler said. He was like, y'all can relax 0:58:46.200 --> 0:58:48.040 now you're not auditioning no more. And we were all like, 0:58:48.360 --> 0:58:51.120 oh thank you God. We were all like standing there 0:58:51.120 --> 0:58:54.920 in a lineup, like what do we do like and 0:58:54.960 --> 0:58:56.720 Tyler was like, y'all can relax, Like y'all good, And 0:58:56.760 --> 0:59:00.400 I was like, mister Perry, You're like it was like 0:59:00.440 --> 0:59:03.040 a moment where we were all like we made the cut. 0:59:03.240 --> 0:59:03.600 Wow. 0:59:03.840 --> 0:59:07.200 And it was in person. So I always had oh 0:59:07.240 --> 0:59:09.040 my gosh, like the story I was never. 0:59:10.560 --> 0:59:12.160 Had you told anyone else's story? 0:59:12.240 --> 0:59:15.000 No good, because like telling these stories is like it 0:59:15.000 --> 0:59:17.400 helps actors understand or people that are not even actors 0:59:17.440 --> 0:59:20.280 to know the processes that we go through. And why 0:59:20.360 --> 0:59:22.040 I talked about, let's say, the traumas and stuff that 0:59:22.080 --> 0:59:24.360 happened before, because yeah, I was dealing with all kinds 0:59:24.360 --> 0:59:26.080 of stuff, but when you walk in that audition room 0:59:26.120 --> 0:59:28.680 or when you're walking in to do your job, all 0:59:28.680 --> 0:59:30.600 that has to go out the door in the window 0:59:30.720 --> 0:59:32.640 that morning stuff was going on. I was like, do 0:59:32.720 --> 0:59:35.840 I feel okay? Like you're nervous, you're like thinking about 0:59:35.840 --> 0:59:37.640 your personal life, but then you're also thinking about what 0:59:37.680 --> 0:59:39.680 I got to go do. If I'm over here worried 0:59:39.680 --> 0:59:42.200 about what's going on with my personal life, I got 0:59:42.240 --> 0:59:44.240 to make sure my next job is landed. Which is 0:59:44.240 --> 0:59:45.760 why I said, sometimes you have to know where to 0:59:45.760 --> 0:59:48.560 place people, whether it's also your family, because your family 0:59:48.600 --> 0:59:51.440 could be just as toxic as people that aren't you 0:59:51.520 --> 0:59:53.640 got to place that in a box and still be 0:59:53.680 --> 0:59:55.640 able to perform and do your job. Because that's what 0:59:56.160 --> 0:59:58.480 mattered when I walked in that room. I booked a 0:59:58.560 --> 1:00:00.960 job and I literally cried. Once I got into the car, 1:00:01.000 --> 1:00:03.800 I was like, Oh my god. 1:00:03.680 --> 1:00:05.400 And who is the first person you called? 1:00:06.200 --> 1:00:08.760 Again? It wasn't. I didn't even talk to my family. 1:00:08.720 --> 1:00:11.040 The first person I called was my aunt And the 1:00:11.080 --> 1:00:13.280 second person I called was my friend who helped me 1:00:13.280 --> 1:00:15.840 do the cel tape. Wow, and I called. And that's 1:00:15.840 --> 1:00:18.240 the thing. It's like, your friends can become your family. 1:00:18.360 --> 1:00:20.160 And I have a great family. I have a huge family. Like, 1:00:20.160 --> 1:00:21.720 don't get me wrong, I'm really close to it to 1:00:21.720 --> 1:00:24.120 several members of my family. It's just at this time 1:00:24.440 --> 1:00:26.480 it's just my mother and my brother. I'm not because 1:00:27.040 --> 1:00:29.840 I needed the support in a different way, and the 1:00:29.880 --> 1:00:33.600 way they wanted to have me support them, it wasn't 1:00:33.640 --> 1:00:34.200 going to happen. 1:00:34.440 --> 1:00:37.280 Well that and in that moment, you need all positive energy. 1:00:37.360 --> 1:00:38.920 And if you know your people and you put them 1:00:38.920 --> 1:00:40.840 in their proper place, you know who to call. 1:00:41.360 --> 1:00:42.800 You know, you know what I'm saying, like, if I 1:00:42.800 --> 1:00:44.120 know I need to get hyped, if I'm going to 1:00:44.160 --> 1:00:46.560 the gym, I'm putting all my ying yang, I'm putting 1:00:46.560 --> 1:00:48.160 on some CARDI I know the vibe I want to 1:00:49.320 --> 1:00:52.240 you know what I'm saying. Yeah, anybody know me knows 1:00:52.280 --> 1:00:54.520 I will be some checking like assault, shaker, whistle while 1:00:55.000 --> 1:00:57.880 and a heartbeat because their and they get you. They 1:00:57.880 --> 1:00:59.800 get you right. But if I know I'm trying to 1:00:59.800 --> 1:01:02.360 wind down on the night where I had a long day, Baby, 1:01:02.360 --> 1:01:04.720 I need someone, need a baker. Okay, I need some 1:01:04.760 --> 1:01:07.160 card up in the rapture, I need some Oh my god, 1:01:07.200 --> 1:01:08.960 I love her like she's one of my favorite artists ever. 1:01:09.000 --> 1:01:11.680 So I have moments and vibes that I go through. 1:01:11.680 --> 1:01:13.200 But you know where people you want to talk to, 1:01:13.800 --> 1:01:15.360 You know when a moment happens, like who do I 1:01:15.400 --> 1:01:17.360 want to call? Who do I want to be there 1:01:17.400 --> 1:01:19.840 for me? So I'm so glad that, like I said, 1:01:19.840 --> 1:01:22.560 I have amazing support systems, and I keep a small circle, 1:01:22.880 --> 1:01:25.160 and I do hope at some point my mom and 1:01:25.200 --> 1:01:27.040 my brother and all of us can talk. But I 1:01:27.120 --> 1:01:29.000 knew that for me to do the job that I 1:01:29.040 --> 1:01:31.560 needed to do, and this is even prior to this one, 1:01:31.760 --> 1:01:33.800 I had to create the space in the distance. If 1:01:33.800 --> 1:01:35.880 I told you what I need. If it just takes 1:01:35.880 --> 1:01:38.480 going to a therapy session that's really talking out what happens, 1:01:38.640 --> 1:01:40.960 and you guys are refusing to do that, that's fine. 1:01:41.000 --> 1:01:43.400 I can't force you, but I can also remove my 1:01:43.440 --> 1:01:45.480 presence and know that my piece has to be maintained 1:01:45.680 --> 1:01:47.680 because I need to be hurt. And being the younger 1:01:47.720 --> 1:01:48.680 the two, I was never getting hurt. 1:01:48.760 --> 1:01:50.440 Now are you in a place? And this is something 1:01:50.480 --> 1:01:53.080 I've been kind of self discovering a little bit too. 1:01:53.560 --> 1:01:56.200 I like everyone in my circle to feel safe to 1:01:56.280 --> 1:01:58.440 advocate for themselves. Oh, I love that, you know what 1:01:58.440 --> 1:02:00.919 I'm saying, Like if we disagree, you should still feel 1:02:01.000 --> 1:02:03.440 comfortable to advocate for yourself, Like you shouldn't feel like 1:02:03.440 --> 1:02:06.080 i'mly gonna shut it down or yeah, I'm gonna shut 1:02:06.080 --> 1:02:09.920 it down, like we're gonna disagree. But and I feel 1:02:09.920 --> 1:02:13.120 like you're at that place of like I'm gonna continue 1:02:13.120 --> 1:02:14.760 to advocate for myself. 1:02:14.440 --> 1:02:17.280 Right without question. Yeah, you have to self advocate for 1:02:17.360 --> 1:02:20.000 someone to respect you. And that's the difference I had 1:02:20.000 --> 1:02:21.760 to learn, Like, of course, if my mom is thirty five, 1:02:22.080 --> 1:02:24.760 my brother's fifty six, and here I am eighteen years 1:02:24.800 --> 1:02:27.520 younger than them. I was already the little young one 1:02:27.520 --> 1:02:30.320 of the bunch. Yeah, young siblings never get respect. 1:02:30.560 --> 1:02:34.080 Let's be real, they I wrong. I know my little 1:02:34.120 --> 1:02:36.720 brother gets you know what I'm saying. He started advocating 1:02:36.720 --> 1:02:38.720 firm you have to and let me tell you something. 1:02:38.880 --> 1:02:40.960 I shout out to a little bit of work. It 1:02:41.040 --> 1:02:43.800 worked because we definitely know, like when he talks, we 1:02:43.880 --> 1:02:44.440 have to listen. 1:02:44.640 --> 1:02:48.600 No don'ing's wrong is gonna let You're gonna let older 1:02:48.640 --> 1:02:50.520 siblings have that inside. But like I'm a older sibling, 1:02:50.640 --> 1:02:54.120 like you whatever when I tell you, my brother always 1:02:54.200 --> 1:02:57.080 told me that you ain't been through shit, And I'm like, okay, 1:02:57.200 --> 1:03:00.160 but I'm trying to tell you from my perspective what. 1:03:00.240 --> 1:03:02.880 I feel and what does he also advocate for your 1:03:02.920 --> 1:03:06.120 mom to like you know, I understand her kind of 1:03:06.680 --> 1:03:06.840 it was. 1:03:07.040 --> 1:03:08.720 It was a standpoint of like them right in the 1:03:08.800 --> 1:03:11.120 fence of like you know again, I was always the 1:03:11.160 --> 1:03:14.720 middle person. My mom is like oil and my my 1:03:15.320 --> 1:03:17.760 brother's like the water, and then when you put them together, 1:03:17.880 --> 1:03:19.600 just don't always mix it. I was always that middle 1:03:19.640 --> 1:03:23.320 person that's creating the peace between their disagreements. So the 1:03:23.400 --> 1:03:25.440 moment I started had my own voice and saying this 1:03:25.600 --> 1:03:27.200 is how I feel that. It's like, but you're not 1:03:27.280 --> 1:03:30.880 on my side. I t I hated hearing if I 1:03:30.920 --> 1:03:33.200 would disagree about something. She said, No, you're supposed to 1:03:33.200 --> 1:03:35.680 stay with me. I'm your mother. Yeah, but that doesn't 1:03:35.680 --> 1:03:39.040 mean that I have to agree with you. That old 1:03:39.040 --> 1:03:42.480 school mindset, and I I've done so much healing on 1:03:42.560 --> 1:03:44.960 it and studying of what it is. People are fixing 1:03:45.000 --> 1:03:46.520 their own ways a lot of times, so where they 1:03:46.600 --> 1:03:50.160 can't break that the idea ideology of what they feel. 1:03:50.520 --> 1:03:52.720 So I'm not going to debate her on what she feels. 1:03:52.880 --> 1:03:55.360 But I'm also not going to get downplayed and like, 1:03:55.840 --> 1:03:57.600 f you you don't know what you're talking about yet, 1:03:57.640 --> 1:03:59.760 But you call me for everything. You call me to 1:03:59.800 --> 1:04:02.080 take care of you. You call me because you know 1:04:02.320 --> 1:04:04.840 I know everything about the computers, I know everything about technology. 1:04:04.880 --> 1:04:07.080 But you need my help all the time. So don't 1:04:07.080 --> 1:04:08.360 act like you need my help but you don't want 1:04:08.400 --> 1:04:08.840 to listen to me. 1:04:09.120 --> 1:04:12.320 Yeah. Now with the Bore sisters, Yes, you guys all 1:04:12.440 --> 1:04:15.960 have a very nice chemistry going. Yes, which you don't 1:04:16.240 --> 1:04:18.120 you know, you don't see that a lot in the industry. 1:04:18.160 --> 1:04:20.560 It looks like it definitely carries off camera. 1:04:20.720 --> 1:04:23.880 Yes, let's thousand percent, we ally was out there. Like 1:04:23.920 --> 1:04:25.920 I said, three weeks. The first week, we all just bombed. 1:04:26.280 --> 1:04:28.280 We all got together, We went to bars, we went 1:04:28.320 --> 1:04:30.680 to eat, we hung out. And I already knew LaToya 1:04:30.720 --> 1:04:32.920 because we did a BT plus movie we played best friends. 1:04:33.440 --> 1:04:36.560 LaToya had already knew several of the girls, like Geneva 1:04:36.560 --> 1:04:39.960 and Latoy already knew each other, Kadeen and Breonna, like 1:04:40.000 --> 1:04:42.560 everybody had kind of somehow knew each other in a way. 1:04:42.680 --> 1:04:45.600 So it was perfect. And when we locked in, if 1:04:45.640 --> 1:04:46.960 we're looking at the story saying we got to be 1:04:46.960 --> 1:04:49.400 friends for twenty years, we really got to come like 1:04:49.920 --> 1:04:52.160 and had little things. So even as a scene in 1:04:52.240 --> 1:04:54.720 like episode two, I think that I love with me 1:04:54.720 --> 1:04:56.960 and Brianna in the kitchen, and I'm telling it like 1:04:57.040 --> 1:04:59.080 it is, like, girl, you need to love again. When's 1:04:59.080 --> 1:05:00.720 the last time you let a nigga to be with you? 1:05:00.800 --> 1:05:03.480 Excuse me, but when's the last time you've been with 1:05:03.560 --> 1:05:04.800 a man in a kind of way? Because you'll be 1:05:04.800 --> 1:05:06.760 here judging me because I'm stuck on my ex husband. 1:05:07.040 --> 1:05:08.600 But you ain't even had a chance to be willing 1:05:08.680 --> 1:05:11.360 to go date somebody because your trauma and she has 1:05:11.400 --> 1:05:14.120 a moment where she's like, you're right, I haven't been 1:05:14.120 --> 1:05:15.920 able to let go. And in that moment me and her, 1:05:16.000 --> 1:05:17.640 I was like, we need to have a thing. Are 1:05:17.640 --> 1:05:19.560 we gonna do this? We're gonna pump? What is gonna 1:05:19.560 --> 1:05:22.680 be our little thing? So every one of us have 1:05:22.760 --> 1:05:24.720 a thing that we ended up doing on camera organically 1:05:24.800 --> 1:05:26.680 that we thought about to be like how wore me 1:05:26.720 --> 1:05:28.280 and you interact what we do? Me and her are 1:05:28.320 --> 1:05:30.080 both dancers, so we were always gonna do like some 1:05:30.200 --> 1:05:33.640 dance stuff like that's our connection. So the connection that 1:05:33.680 --> 1:05:36.240 you see on camera is very real. The support is there. 1:05:36.320 --> 1:05:40.240 We have a group chat. It's called Divorced and we 1:05:40.400 --> 1:05:42.720 said that like people ask, so we chat each other. 1:05:42.800 --> 1:05:44.480 We're always like saying, girl, that scene you did was 1:05:44.520 --> 1:05:45.160 so powerful. 1:05:45.240 --> 1:05:47.160 Now have you guys ever rallied against Tyler? 1:05:47.560 --> 1:05:48.080 Hilarious? 1:05:48.760 --> 1:05:54.160 Never never guess, never talked back nothing, no, no. 1:05:54.480 --> 1:05:57.240 Like I no, because honestly, Tyler is like and you 1:05:57.360 --> 1:05:58.880 never know is when you have somebody like Tyler, you 1:05:58.960 --> 1:06:01.920 write direct produce, you thinking you gotta be every line 1:06:02.000 --> 1:06:05.360 must be perfect. When I tell you Tyler, lets you go, Tyler, 1:06:05.440 --> 1:06:08.000 let you go. Like there's one time I remember one 1:06:08.040 --> 1:06:09.560 word and I'll say this. Okay, we're just pointing. I 1:06:09.600 --> 1:06:12.440 was like, ooh, did I tear it? I said, like, 1:06:12.440 --> 1:06:15.000 because this character cusses a lot, she will say and 1:06:15.120 --> 1:06:17.120 this is this is literally in the script, so it's 1:06:17.200 --> 1:06:19.520 like she is that expressive type of person. Will she'll 1:06:19.560 --> 1:06:22.800 say certain words, and I remember I put God in 1:06:22.880 --> 1:06:24.320 front of one of the words, so let's just say 1:06:24.360 --> 1:06:26.720 this God damn. I didn't know that that was going 1:06:26.760 --> 1:06:28.480 to be a problem because I'm like goddamn and that 1:06:28.600 --> 1:06:29.840 kind of way. He's like, no, we don't come byd 1:06:29.880 --> 1:06:32.840 God in a curse word. No. I was like, sorry, 1:06:32.920 --> 1:06:35.520 mister Perry, Okay, we'll go back and do that one 1:06:35.560 --> 1:06:38.000 line again. And that's I'm like, okay, cool. Because Tyler 1:06:38.080 --> 1:06:40.200 is a god fearing man, I'm a godfair a woman. 1:06:40.280 --> 1:06:41.680 I was like, okay, my bad, I'm in the scene 1:06:41.760 --> 1:06:43.920 so much. I'm over saying yeah there. He's like, no, no, 1:06:44.560 --> 1:06:48.080 So we've never banned against someone that knows what he's doing. Again, 1:06:48.080 --> 1:06:48.680 if you look at. 1:06:48.560 --> 1:06:52.040 All, then nothing set him up said it up. 1:06:52.280 --> 1:06:56.160 I would listen. Tyler took us to his house. Baby. 1:06:56.200 --> 1:06:58.040 When I tell you, first of all, we were all 1:06:58.560 --> 1:07:01.000 having too much pun over there. It's a brunch. How 1:07:01.040 --> 1:07:06.440 about just getting to the house, sweetie? When I said, I. 1:07:06.440 --> 1:07:07.800 Would have done it in front of him though, you know, 1:07:07.920 --> 1:07:09.640 Justler's so fun. 1:07:10.000 --> 1:07:11.480 Tyler's a guy who'd be like, I want to hurt him. 1:07:11.480 --> 1:07:13.080 Get done so I can go drink later. Like Tyler's 1:07:13.160 --> 1:07:15.320 mad cool. But when I tell you when we all 1:07:15.400 --> 1:07:17.160 got the invite, I'm talking about the Sunday before we 1:07:17.160 --> 1:07:19.880 started working on a Monday, Tyler's like, so you're going 1:07:19.920 --> 1:07:22.040 to be getting a call about coming to my house 1:07:22.080 --> 1:07:25.000 for brunch. And we were like, you're kidding. Right When 1:07:25.040 --> 1:07:27.280 I tell you, they sent personal cars to come pick 1:07:27.360 --> 1:07:31.200 us up. The ride from his gate to get to 1:07:31.320 --> 1:07:33.439 his house was like four miles. 1:07:34.040 --> 1:07:34.480 No way. 1:07:35.080 --> 1:07:35.840 How big was the house? 1:07:35.920 --> 1:07:36.600 Was that dcastle? 1:07:38.200 --> 1:07:41.920 Okay? This is the best O times ten. The best 1:07:41.960 --> 1:07:43.920 way I could say it is there's a scene in 1:07:44.000 --> 1:07:45.880 one of my favorite movies, john Wick, one of the 1:07:45.960 --> 1:07:47.760 last John Wick movies, when they have this big fight 1:07:47.840 --> 1:07:50.000 on the staircase. When they're fighting. The house that you 1:07:50.080 --> 1:07:53.160 see in john Wick literally looks like the house that 1:07:53.280 --> 1:07:55.480 we were at with Tyler. It's it's not even it's 1:07:55.640 --> 1:07:57.760 it looks like a stage It's like, what is this 1:07:58.040 --> 1:08:01.080 freak out helicopter plane? 1:08:01.680 --> 1:08:03.440 It's helicopter plane and plane. 1:08:03.520 --> 1:08:04.160 He has a plane? 1:08:04.480 --> 1:08:07.640 Yo, just shout up. I'm gonna tell you this. I'm 1:08:07.640 --> 1:08:10.920 gonna speak this into existence. Eating while broke will do 1:08:11.000 --> 1:08:14.520 a Tyler Perry MTV Cribs version of eating while broo. 1:08:14.520 --> 1:08:16.920 Wouldn't it be fun to go into his mansion with 1:08:17.040 --> 1:08:18.200 his planes. 1:08:17.960 --> 1:08:21.000 And somebody see it. I'm just saying he has a plane. 1:08:22.080 --> 1:08:23.479 To know that you can chart a plane just to 1:08:23.520 --> 1:08:25.040 go eat with your friends, because I know other friends 1:08:25.040 --> 1:08:25.879 that really don't. 1:08:25.760 --> 1:08:28.240 See a plane like a helicopter plane or like a treaty, 1:08:28.360 --> 1:08:31.400 like a plane that's sitting. 1:08:31.439 --> 1:08:34.840 United Airlines Southwest. That's a plane. 1:08:35.040 --> 1:08:37.080 Get the freak out? Did you at least did you 1:08:37.080 --> 1:08:38.559 at least say hey, can I go check it out? 1:08:38.600 --> 1:08:41.639 God? No, that's that's doing too much, you know, eating 1:08:41.680 --> 1:08:43.040 while broke. I would have been like, let me get 1:08:43.040 --> 1:08:47.760 you a plane ride to first day before filming? Oh yeah, yeah, 1:08:49.320 --> 1:08:51.439 to get fired before first day. I'm not trying to 1:08:51.479 --> 1:08:52.880 be too personal like that, but the fact that he 1:08:53.040 --> 1:08:56.680 has a plane in his house again, I'm thinking of 1:08:57.400 --> 1:08:59.479 what was he eating while he was broke? Because he 1:08:59.600 --> 1:09:00.439 was sleeping in his car. 1:09:00.840 --> 1:09:02.640 Yeah, he went before he. 1:09:02.680 --> 1:09:04.439 Even had a chance to have these plays. And again 1:09:04.479 --> 1:09:07.439 an opportunity where he's giving us money to come to set, 1:09:07.760 --> 1:09:09.720 which his studio is like nothing you've ever seen either. 1:09:09.960 --> 1:09:10.519 Yeah, I heard it. 1:09:10.880 --> 1:09:14.479 It's incredible. It's incredible. Just so, just so you know, 1:09:14.640 --> 1:09:17.280 he has an exit off the freeway. Why are you 1:09:17.360 --> 1:09:20.479 driving in Atlanta, it says Tyler Perry Studios. That's the 1:09:20.600 --> 1:09:21.559 exit you get off. 1:09:21.640 --> 1:09:25.080 As like, so, when you're working with him, do you 1:09:25.120 --> 1:09:28.439 feel extremely motivated that the sky's the limit now after 1:09:28.640 --> 1:09:29.439 experiencing all. 1:09:29.360 --> 1:09:32.600 That, absolutely, so you okay, And just so people know, 1:09:32.960 --> 1:09:34.679 we shot sixteen episodes in eight days. 1:09:35.200 --> 1:09:36.839 Yeah, I heard, I heard a shoot schedule. 1:09:36.960 --> 1:09:37.200 I heard. 1:09:37.600 --> 1:09:39.360 I've heard a lot. Let me tell you something. People 1:09:39.360 --> 1:09:40.840 I've been saying, like they shoot in a week or 1:09:40.920 --> 1:09:42.040 two weeks or under two weeks. 1:09:42.080 --> 1:09:43.800 That's real. It was supposed to be ten days and 1:09:43.840 --> 1:09:46.200 we ended up losing a day because of one location issue, 1:09:46.680 --> 1:09:48.080 and then the other day we finished the day early. 1:09:48.160 --> 1:09:51.559 We shot eight days, sixteen whole episodes. Imagine how many 1:09:51.560 --> 1:09:52.560 paid a day you had to do. 1:09:52.760 --> 1:09:54.160 And you guys got paid a lot too. 1:09:54.760 --> 1:09:57.400 I mean you get paid well, yeah, very well. But 1:09:57.439 --> 1:09:59.240 at the end of the day, it's like, even if 1:09:59.280 --> 1:10:01.559 you didn't get paid for three weeks of your time, yeah, 1:10:02.000 --> 1:10:03.920 that's all I know to do other things. No, let 1:10:03.960 --> 1:10:05.760 me be real, it was great. What I'm saying is 1:10:05.800 --> 1:10:07.800 that how quick it is to make what you make 1:10:07.880 --> 1:10:09.519 in those three weeks with Tyler Perry, someone would have 1:10:09.560 --> 1:10:12.519 to work a whole year. Oh wow, yeah, yeah, more 1:10:12.680 --> 1:10:13.439 well more than that. 1:10:13.520 --> 1:10:13.560 That. 1:10:13.880 --> 1:10:16.880 The the salary and the minimum wage is is what 1:10:17.000 --> 1:10:18.800 it is. You would have to be working several years 1:10:18.840 --> 1:10:21.120 to get what you can get in three weeks from him, 1:10:21.240 --> 1:10:24.000 because he expects you to come prepared. He expects you 1:10:24.080 --> 1:10:24.599 to do the work. 1:10:24.720 --> 1:10:25.599 Obviously, you're not late. 1:10:25.680 --> 1:10:28.479 No one's late, girl, Tyler Perris never late. That's one thing. 1:10:29.120 --> 1:10:29.920 Anyone late to say. 1:10:30.040 --> 1:10:33.400 Ever, yeah what somebody was sick one of the days, 1:10:33.400 --> 1:10:36.240 But again that's that's that's sick. But no, I mean, 1:10:36.520 --> 1:10:38.080 stuff happens by the end of the day. Tyler's such 1:10:38.080 --> 1:10:39.680 a professional. He's like, we're gonna move this scene to 1:10:39.720 --> 1:10:41.280 the end of the day. We're gonna move this scene 1:10:41.680 --> 1:10:43.960 over here. He's not gonna lose no time. I like, 1:10:44.160 --> 1:10:45.120 he's not gonna lose no time. 1:10:45.240 --> 1:10:47.800 I like him, so we got to close this interview out. 1:10:47.840 --> 1:10:51.360 I have so much fun with you. I love that 1:10:51.439 --> 1:10:53.040 you opened up the way he did. I feel like 1:10:53.120 --> 1:10:53.719 we're sisters. 1:10:55.240 --> 1:10:55.640 I love it. 1:10:55.800 --> 1:10:59.320 Thank you, Thank you for feeding me. Come on, you 1:10:59.360 --> 1:11:00.160 know I'm gonna finish. 1:11:00.200 --> 1:11:03.519 Just lasting bits that we're gonna put our bite together, 1:11:03.560 --> 1:11:05.920 all right, Let's put together, all right? 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