WEBVTT - Bae Watch 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.640 Hell I Suck At Dating with Denglert and Jared Haven 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:11.240 and I heard radio podcast. All right, everyone, welcome to 0:00:11.320 --> 0:00:16.320 this week's episode of Help I Suck At Dating? And boy, 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:17.880 I know I say this every week. I feel like 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:20.680 Chris Harrison. The most dramatic season ever. This is gonna 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:24.239 be the best episode ever because Jared isn't here, and 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:28.080 that's just is fantastic. Uh. In all seriousness, though, Jared 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:30.760 is going has some some family matters to deal with, 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:34.800 so it will be just me. But Easton and Mark 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:38.000 have their cameras on um, which is a pretty rare thing, 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:40.159 so I think that they're gonna do you guys want 0:00:40.159 --> 0:00:42.800 to chime in and say hello, maybe reintroduce yourselves. It's 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:44.559 been a while since well Easton was here last week, 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:45.960 but Mark, it's been a while since Help I Suck 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:47.919 a Dating? A senior here. Well, thank you very much. 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:49.680 I'm happy to be here. You know, I'm an old 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:51.760 school member of the Help I Suck At Dating stuck 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:54.680 army from the beginning, and we're just reminiscing before we 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:56.480 started recording about back in the day and how many 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:58.520 years you've been doing this show. Now, glad you have 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:00.880 been a part of it. Hey question, Um, you were 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:03.320 in the studio. I think are you back in the studio? 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.160 Sometimes I'm going in part time. Yeah, I'm going in 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:08.960 like early in the week. Huh what about like, uh, 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:11.880 his secret still doing his thing from home. No, well, 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:13.720 he's got the TV show in New York with Kelly 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:15.240 Rippa and he has a radio show right there in 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:17.080 the building, so he is in studio for the TV 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:19.120 show and the radio show. How is it being in 0:01:19.160 --> 0:01:22.800 the office? Is it pretty like eerie? Yeah, it's it 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:24.440 was weird. It took some getting used to, but then 0:01:24.480 --> 0:01:26.120 it's like riding a bike, you know, you remember all 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:28.040 your old routines and you kind of start getting into 0:01:28.080 --> 0:01:29.880 that and it was kind of refreshing to be back. 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:32.160 But very few are back. It is still a very 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:34.640 empty place, which is good. It makes me feel safe 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:37.400 that I'm not surrounded by dozens of people all the time. 0:01:37.760 --> 0:01:41.000 Still a pretty much a ghost town. So it's been nice. 0:01:41.000 --> 0:01:43.119 I've been enjoying it. Action well, why why you even 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:45.560 go into the office, though, Like, what's the point? Honestly, 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:48.560 we're getting it gets into the weeds now. But we 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:51.120 had a staff change. We had a guy leave. We 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:53.280 hired a new woman to join our staff, and it 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:57.120 felt weird to me as the producer of the show too. Hey, 0:01:57.120 --> 0:01:59.440 welcome to the team. I'll never see you in person. 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:01.200 It just felt wrong. I felt like I need to 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:03.960 be there to help, to guide, to do whatever. So 0:02:04.240 --> 0:02:06.480 that's why I started going in. And for anyone that's 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:08.960 listening that's maybe a little bit curious. The show he's 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:11.240 talking about is help I suck a dating. That's right. 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:14.799 We have a staff. Yeah, we're we're hiring a lot 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:18.239 of new staff, some new producers, etcetera, etcetera. Takes it 0:02:18.360 --> 0:02:22.919 takes a village for this podcast. Um, in today's episode, 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:25.560 we've got some real hot topics that it's it's weird 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:28.560 doing this with that Jared, because Jared uh is a 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:33.480 lot better at I guess maybe feigning like interest about 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:39.799 this so you know, like as bad as I want 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:43.280 to talk about g G Hadid and Zane Malick breakup, Um, 0:02:43.480 --> 0:02:47.160 I just I just genuinely have zero input on it 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:49.480 because I think I should feel required to, like, this 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.640 is your podcast, can be whatever you wanted to be. 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:54.160 But see, but the thing about that is this, right, 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:56.440 So again, for the listeners, a little bit you know, 0:02:56.440 --> 0:02:59.040 peek behind the curtain. Here we get you know, like 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:01.919 a right up every week with an email saying like, okay, 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:03.880 we're gonna talk about this. Here's some good thoughts started, 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:06.679 some good questions. Here's our guest, here's some emails. I 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:09.360 don't know who writes it. I I assume Hannah writes it. 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:11.720 Um and it's it's you know, it's pretty well done. 0:03:11.720 --> 0:03:13.480 It's pretty well thought out. So I feel bad like 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:15.720 skipping over these things because there's a lot of effort 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:19.400 put in on the back end. I mean, this podcast 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:22.519 is centered around your shortcomings, like personally, like this is 0:03:22.560 --> 0:03:26.239 why of this show, So you know, don't feel like 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:28.360 you have to talk about other people sucking at dating. 0:03:28.400 --> 0:03:30.320 You can just talk about something that you suck at. 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:34.000 I think that they put these together in case you 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:35.680 need it. You know, they don't want you to go 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:37.560 on the and you have. If you come in with 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:39.400 eight different things to talk about, then you never have 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:41.120 to look at the rundown. And that's how it is 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:43.240 with the Secresh Show too. If he wants to go, 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:45.200 then all my stuff can get set aside. That's fine. 0:03:45.240 --> 0:03:47.680 We're here for whatever you need. Okay, all right, Well, 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:49.240 see guys are here then, and I need a lot 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:52.280 for me today. So let's just you know, in in 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:54.160 true help, I suck at dating fashion. Let's just do 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:56.560 like a round table, maybe real quick, and we can 0:03:56.600 --> 0:03:58.760 all say one thing that we've sucked at in the 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:01.520 past week. What do you think about that? Oh, and 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:03.520 it doesn't have to be relationship specific to it could 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:07.440 just be like a life thing. I'll go first, one 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:11.320 thing that I sucked at in the past week. Um. 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:13.600 Maybe maybe we'll do like one superficial one and then 0:04:13.600 --> 0:04:15.120 we'll go a little deeper on a second one, so 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:18.640 that way we get a little warmed up with this exercise. Um. 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:22.240 I I bought a new motorcycle a couple of weeks ago, 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:26.440 and I, uh, we did the mirrors on it, and 0:04:26.480 --> 0:04:29.240 I didn't realize every time I turned the handlebars all 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:31.080 the way to the left, it like knocked into the 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:34.000 gas tank. And so now my brand new motorcycle has 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:36.280 chipped paint all over it, and I'm really upset about that. 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:39.800 Um So that's my superficial one. Uh So now who's next? 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:47.440 Oh man? Um okay, uh last night, we'll record this 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:49.800 on a Friday, So last night, Thursday night, was the 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:52.159 Green Bay Arizona game, and it was late in the 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:54.159 fourth quarter, and it was a very good game, and 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:56.800 it was very close, and my daughter was trying to 0:04:56.839 --> 0:04:59.200 talk to me, and I was not listening. I was 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:02.200 giving lipsode because I was doing the whole huh yeah, okay, 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:04.880 uh huh. And I did finally say to her, Honey, 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:07.320 I'm so sorry. I'm not listening. What are you trying 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:08.880 to say to me right now? Because I haven't heard 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:11.080 a word you're saying. So I did try to make 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:13.560 it right and admit that that I sucked in that 0:05:13.600 --> 0:05:16.720 moment of being a father, and hopefully she won't hold 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:19.320 that against me for too long, But in that moment, 0:05:19.360 --> 0:05:21.400 I sucked at being a father. There are definitely times 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:22.919 where Klin is like trying to talk to me and 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:25.280 then watching football or something, and I'm like, listen, it's 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:28.920 the fourth quarter. There's like thirty seconds left. I just can't. 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:30.520 I can't be bothered right now. I'll talk to you 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:32.800 whatever you need in two minutes. But that's is that? 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:36.080 Is that a dick move? I don't think so. I hope, 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:39.839 I hope not. At least shouldn't she meaning Kleen or 0:05:39.960 --> 0:05:43.840 my daughter always be the priority. Um. The way I 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:46.479 look at it is, well, well, the way I try 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:48.159 to like at least spin into my own head is 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:52.000 like the game doesn't care if I'm watching or not, 0:05:52.240 --> 0:05:54.920 you know, like they don't care, Um, but Klin will 0:05:54.920 --> 0:05:56.880 have a reaction as to whether I'm paying attention or not, 0:05:57.120 --> 0:05:59.320 and that will affect both of us positively or negatively. 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:02.120 So I guess what's the worst If you just turn 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:04.000 off the TV and walk away, what's the worst you 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:06.320 look up and see who one later? Fine, doesn't affect 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:08.800 you really at all, right, right exactly. So that's kind 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:12.280 of that's why I'm kind of against what we're doing, 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:14.640 which maybe should change that at simple in our lives. 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:16.880 But in the moment, it's just so hard, you know, 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:21.120 it's really hard. You know. I've I've been I've been 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:23.560 going to a lot of therapy over the last few months. 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:26.960 And something that she talked about was she my there 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:29.359 was like, who is the most important person in your life? 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:32.320 And I said, my wife, Allison, And she said, that's 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:34.480 that's wrong. That's not the way you should look at 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:36.880 It should be you. You should be it should be you, 0:06:37.440 --> 0:06:42.040 then your spouse and then your children, that's the idea. Um, 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:44.920 and uh and I was like, no, no, that I 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:47.960 can never put myself before my wife, and and she's saying, 0:06:47.960 --> 0:06:50.200 well no, because if your needs aren't met, if you're 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:52.120 not taking care of yourself, you can't be a good 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:54.800 partner to this person that is important to you. So 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:57.240 all that to say, I think you should focus on 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.840 the football game, give it all of your attention, and 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:02.080 then when it's over, you talk to your children, because 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:04.840 their third on the totem pole. You care about the 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:08.640 football game. You know. I say that kind of as 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:13.160 a joke, but but also you know, you know, you 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:14.640 guys are both looking at me like, Hi, yeah, that's 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:19.000 a point, that's right, Um. But no, you know it 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:21.880 did get me thinking about, like, um, when do you 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:25.440 when you prioritize yourself over your partner? I think that's 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:28.400 that's something I think about a lot, you know, um, 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:31.400 because I feel like I should every decision I make 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:34.480 should be like, oh, how does this help Alison? How 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:37.240 does that make me a better husband? You know I 0:07:37.280 --> 0:07:40.800 think about that a lot. But then, uh, I don't know, 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:43.239 because I feel selfish every time I put myself first. 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:46.880 Do you guys? Got Yeah? I see what you're saying, 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:48.280 and then you try to like spin it in your 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:50.040 head and you're like almost feel guilty or by trying 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:55.560 to spin it, right Yeah yeah yeah, um but uh 0:07:55.920 --> 0:07:59.280 um that I'll have to say, Mark, I don't think 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:02.400 you're being a bad parents by by not listening at 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:06.360 that particular moment. Yeah, the game's on. I mean they 0:08:06.400 --> 0:08:08.840 get it, you know. On the flip side, don't you 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:11.080 think it should be uh like they should be more 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:14.160 aware of what Like you're like, you're obviously distracted, right, 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:15.720 So don't you think that she should be like, Okay, 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:18.160 maybe I'll wait, you know, five ten minutes before I 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:21.560 asked this question or say this. I guess it was 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:24.000 nothing crucial by the way she was. She wasn't you know, 0:08:24.440 --> 0:08:26.880 starting with fire or something, And that just emboldens my 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:30.000 point even a little bit more so, that's true. It 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:32.040 was kind of small talkie, it was kind of just 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:35.760 kind of random thoughts. So yeah, maybe, but but still, 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:38.000 I need to be there, I need to be available. 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:39.520 I was the only parent in the house of the time. 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:42.080 Maybe it was out Yeah, I guess I get all 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:47.280 that stuff. Um, we're you gonna say, no, I I 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:50.160 just have this memory of I knew growing up that 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:53.080 if my dad responded with how cool, that meant he 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:58.840 was not listening to me. Yeah, there's like he just 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:01.439 like goes in autopilot, motor whatever. Yeah, exactly, It's like, oh, 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:03.520 East is talking about some nerd bullsh that I don't 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:07.320 care about. That gonna say how cool. That's pretty funny 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:09.440 in the same vein of all that stuff. Eastern. By 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:11.160 the way, thanks for sharing that you're going to therapy. Man, 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:15.120 I appreciate. I appreciate that vulnerability there. Yeah, you know, 0:09:15.480 --> 0:09:20.880 um uh it's important and uh I uh, It's helped 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:24.280 me a lot, and um, I think everyone should do it, 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:27.000 and I think a lot of people do these days. Uh, 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:29.240 you know, and hey, if you're if you're afraid of going, 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:31.360 you maybe try better help, give better help. But try 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:35.240 We don't have a better help sponsorship, don't we. I 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:37.000 don't think so, but we should have one whatever. We 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:41.400 may be the only podcast that doesn't anyway. Um, No, 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:43.160 therapy is important. And I started going to a new 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:45.280 person a few months ago and she's been great and 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:50.160 I'm I'm grateful for her therapy. It's definitely something I 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:51.600 feel like I want to get back into as well. 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:53.480 I haven't done it. Uh. I think last time I 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:56.559 went to therapy was like three years ago, two years ago, 0:09:56.679 --> 0:09:59.920 something like that. Um, I remember when you were going. Yeah, 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.240 it was a good time. I just, you know, we 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:05.679 had a great time. That's a weird thing to say. Uh, 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:07.480 I don't know. I don't know why I stopped. I 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:10.640 think I just uh I got distracted and I got busy. 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:12.440 But like what am I busy with? I don't you know. 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:13.760 I just have to do this once a week. That's 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:15.680 my only obligation. What can you do? Do it virtually? 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:17.160 Because it seems like it would be hard for you, 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:19.600 with somebody who doesn't live so much in one city 0:10:19.640 --> 0:10:22.480 for very long, to be consistently going. Yeah, Kalin does 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:24.680 better help actually sometimes or yeah she does like once 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:26.920 a week. I think something like that. It's not a 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:28.880 bad idea. I don't know, I should probably look into it, 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:31.520 especially the past. This is this is gonna be my 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:36.480 second thing that I sucked at recently. Um. This this 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:38.640 end of October, I always get really emotional because it's 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:41.520 the anniversary of my mom's passing, and I feel like 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:45.000 I'm just very emotionally detached from like everything right now. 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:48.000 So I feel like therapy could help me continue to 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:50.240 work through those emotions, and I feel I just feel 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:52.000 like I'm a crappy partner right now too because of it. 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:54.960 So uh, I definitely need to get back on that 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:59.679 therapy train. I guess, well, this is shorthand, but this 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:01.640 was a read it thread recently and it was what 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:04.040 was the best thing you learned in therapy? And so 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:06.400 I have the top like ten things that people said 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:09.160 they learned in therapy they found the most valuable. So 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:11.920 here's some shorthand for you, some quick therapy, and maybe 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:13.800 this will help somebody when they hear these. So here's 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:17.400 the top ten things. You don't always have to be okay. 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:25.680 Trust yourself except that sometimes you will mess up. Let 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:30.920 go of judgment over things that don't matter. Ask yourself, 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:35.480 why start your day with a good attitude toward others? 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:42.480 Take your own happiness seriously. Self care isn't selfish. Speak 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:47.520 up for yourself and fake it until you make it. Yeah, 0:11:47.520 --> 0:11:49.439 but a lot of those just kind of seem like 0:11:49.440 --> 0:11:54.360 like cliche statement. Yeah, just like everything that you see 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:56.959 on like an inspirational poster as you walk into like 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:59.640 your therapist office or something like that. Yeah, I agree 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:01.440 a lot, but I do like, um, let go of 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:04.319 judgment over things that don't matter. I think we spend 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:07.560 a lot of time concerning ourselves or arguing about things 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:11.120 that do not matter. And I've always heard that, ask yourself, 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:13.360 is this going to be a problem in a year, 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:15.200 and if it's not, then just kind of let it go. 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:21.480 And you're talking more like disputes between um people. Yeah, 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:24.800 I feel like it just the whole worrying thing and 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:28.480 the whole yeah, I disputes between people. Yes, yeah, I 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:30.040 guess I get that. I think a lot of people 0:12:30.080 --> 0:12:32.720 tend to hold onto things a lot more than they should, 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:34.640 and I'm sure I'm obviously included in that as well. 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:37.880 I wonder why that is, you know, like, like so 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:39.880 many things that are just so irrelevant, especially in the 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:41.520 big picture. I think people just seem to get so 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:43.640 worked up about and I'm not talking and think, oh 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:45.760 my god, I was so upset about whatever that was, 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:49.640 and you realize now that was meaningless. I'm always shocked 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:52.200 when I'm upset about something and then like a week later, 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:54.240 I'm trying to remember what I was upset about, and 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:56.160 I couldn't even remember it, And I'm like, in my head, 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.480 I'm like, if I can't even remember what I was 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:00.440 upset about, how could it have been in portant enough 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:01.960 for me to even be upset about it? You know? 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:04.800 So I think that's definitely something to consider too, where 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:07.320 it's like it's it's probably not gonna have a long 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:09.480 term effect, so it's like, why do you even worry 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:12.040 about it? But I don't know, Yeah, it's it's it's strange. 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:15.240 I don't I don't really personally get it, but it 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:17.600 is what it is. I guess. Um, all right, well 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:20.120 that was great guys, thanks for partaking in that round 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:22.840 table discussion with me about things that we need help with. 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:28.600 Because one sucker, I mean, don't you kind of piggybacked 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:30.760 off of yours Eastern go we need you to do it. Now. 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:35.640 Let me think it's I have such a high opinion 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:37.520 to myself, it's really hard for me to talk about this. 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:44.560 Um I you know, I I we have this, um 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.400 we have this piece of cable coming in from the 0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:50.520 street that is our internet connection, and it comes in 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:54.640 through our basement through this really JANKI um like plank 0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:58.400 of wood that is like it's now open to the basement, 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:01.319 so critters and other debris get in there, and because 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:04.040 of this cable getting in. I've told my wife I 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:05.839 was like a week ago, I was going to um 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:09.439 re connect that cable because I am an engineer and 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:11.000 I know how to do that kind of thing. And 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:12.960 I didn't do it, and I don't have any doing 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:16.720 that today. UM so I sucked at that. I broke 0:14:16.760 --> 0:14:20.000 a promise to my wife, and uh, yeah, I sucked 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:23.120 it that. That's I mean, that's a very valid thing 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:26.760 to suck that. I appreciate you. Yeah, well, I don't 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:28.200 you just go do it after that? Why don't just 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:30.520 do it now? It's not like do anything important. It's 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:33.680 gonna take my internet down. And I've been putting it 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:36.240 off because I'm afraid that if I cut it, I'm 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:37.920 not gonna be able to fix it. That's something I 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:39.720 even though I know how to do it. I have 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:43.320 the piece. Actually, it's just this is all I have 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:45.440 to install. Have the piece right here. It's a little 0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:50.400 like coax um barrel. If any audio before this, Yeah, 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:52.040 it's a little coupler. I think I cut it and 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:54.080 then re recrimp it. That's all I have to do. 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:57.960 But I would take two minutes, maybe two minutes, two minutes. 0:14:58.280 --> 0:14:59.800 You know, I don't know if this happens to you guys. 0:14:59.840 --> 0:15:01.560 I like a whole list of things that take two 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:04.560 minutes that I like continuously put off because they take 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:07.520 two minutes and then um, then they don't get done 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:09.800 and it's like it's two minutes to get it over with. 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:12.120 But this thing I'm afraid of really screwing up and 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:15.280 then we don't have internet, and that's that's my fear. Well, 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:17.600 you know what they say, Um, you know, a hundred 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:20.080 shores that take two minutes would take you two hundred minutes, 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:25.440 that's right, and that's but just over three hours. Damn. Yeah. Yeah, 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:28.640 So I mean I definitely see where you're coming from. 0:15:28.760 --> 0:15:30.440 Um oh, there was something I want to talk about, 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:33.600 and now I can't really remember what it was. Eastern 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:38.680 You successfully derailed my thought process here. Congratulations, um Gi 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:42.240 Hiti Saint Malick. You know, it definitely wasn't any of 0:15:42.320 --> 0:15:44.240 those things. It was more of just like a topical, 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:48.120 lighthearted thing for us to talk about. Um, what are 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:51.040 you guys gonna be for Halloween this year? That was 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:52.840 that wasn't it? By the way, I just I'm just 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:55.040 stalling for time at this point. Well, this is airing 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:57.960 Sunday night Monday morning, so Halloween will have come and gone. 0:15:58.960 --> 0:16:01.760 So but I not going to be anything this year. 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:04.120 I don't. I kind of take my kids lead on that, 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:06.400 although my oldest is going is Guy Fieri, which I 0:16:06.400 --> 0:16:09.920 think is hilarious. Is hilarious and she's what she's sixteen 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:13.720 or something, fifteen and a half. Nice and so I 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:15.720 was proud of that costume. I think that's great. And 0:16:15.720 --> 0:16:20.080 I think the other one is cow Girl Okay, very cool, 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:21.840 very cool east and I feel like you've got something 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:24.640 big Planta. My my wife and I like doing couples 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:27.960 costumes and this year we're doing I am Jessica Rabbit 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:32.400 and she is Roger Rabbit and I dressed up was 0:16:32.480 --> 0:16:35.200 that for all party last weekend and um, I got 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:39.200 to wear makeup for the first time ever and that 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:42.400 was really fun and it really helped me understand the 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:44.360 plight of the of the woman. You know. That's that's 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:47.720 a lot of working out of you every day. God damn. Yeah. 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:51.680 Well especially yeah, I mean I feel like I probably 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:54.000 got into a system, right. So do you have, um, 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:55.720 your wife do it for you or do you do it? 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.600 She did it for me. Um. So, like the craziest 0:16:58.640 --> 0:17:02.480 thing was, I got pretty thick eyebrows, and so what 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:05.400 you have to do is you take glue, like regular 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:08.159 glue from like you know, you're using school like a 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:11.159 glue stick, and you just go over your eyebrows and 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:12.919 then that makes it so you can cover it with 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:15.480 like foundation and block them off. And then you draw 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:19.639 new eyebrows on top up because I've got this really 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:23.240 big cartoon e eyeshadow because Jessica Rabbit is a cartoon character. 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:25.919 And uh, then I have to wear the wig. You know, 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:27.520 it's like long wig, and I have to wear this 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:30.600 dress and I feel beautiful when it's all done. But 0:17:30.800 --> 0:17:33.199 it's quite the ordeal. And it was this not on 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:39.240 your Instagram. Um Uh, it was for a for a second. Um. 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:42.040 We we did it for this party and then we 0:17:42.040 --> 0:17:44.000 couldn't get good pictures. So we're gonna do it for 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:46.480 them for Halloween. Let's take better pictures, so we'll be 0:17:46.560 --> 0:17:49.919 on my Instagram by time this airs. It's okay. So 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:52.480 for the listener, do you want to see Eastern dress 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:56.480 as a sexy Jessica Rabbit to his Instagram page at 0:17:56.480 --> 0:17:59.200 Eastern Allen at Eastern Allen, Allen. Spell of the y 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:04.320 would big fan of the um like reversing, like swapping 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:06.480 genders when it comes to a couple's costumes like that, 0:18:06.840 --> 0:18:08.920 like for instance, Kaylin and I are gonna be She's 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:12.760 gonna be Willy Wonka and I'm gonna be Violet Beauregard. 0:18:13.320 --> 0:18:14.960 A couple of years ago, my my one of my 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:19.719 best friends was uh Squints and his girlfriend was Polly Peppercorn, 0:18:19.760 --> 0:18:22.760 and then the very next night, I'm sorry, Wendy Peppercorn. 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:24.960 And then the very next night he was Wendy Peppercorn, 0:18:24.960 --> 0:18:27.440 and then she was Squint. They like they like switched 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:30.280 um for the weekend. I'm just a big fan of those. 0:18:30.280 --> 0:18:31.520 I don't know why. I just think there's so much 0:18:31.560 --> 0:18:34.640 more fun they are they are because that's the best 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:36.520 part about Halloweens. You get to become someone that you're 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:38.560 that you're not, or someone you'd like to be, you know. 0:18:39.119 --> 0:18:42.520 And yeah, and you want to be sexy, Jessica Rabbit, 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:44.000 I want to be sexy. I want to be an 0:18:44.000 --> 0:18:48.720 object so badly. That's all. Oh my gosh, well, um, 0:18:48.760 --> 0:18:51.000 I can't wait to see the photos. Mark I guess 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:53.400 we won't get to see any photos for you, Hanna, 0:18:53.440 --> 0:18:55.000 You've been silent the whole episode so far. Do you 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:57.000 mind just sharing what you're gonna be for Halloween this year? 0:18:57.760 --> 0:19:02.280 I'm actually not celebrating Halloween. This year's dressing because I 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:07.040 know I'm being really boring, but I'm at home visiting 0:19:07.040 --> 0:19:10.760