1 00:00:00,800 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio. 3 00:00:06,080 --> 00:00:11,039 Speaker 2: It's a beautiful morning here. That's almost famous podcast. I 4 00:00:11,080 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 2: am currently hosting this show alone. We had a great 5 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 2: night last night at the Great Young concert. A lot 6 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 2: of fun stayed up late at the bar, the whole team, 7 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:21,439 Speaker 2: did the staff, all everybody out here visiting us. My 8 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:26,159 Speaker 2: co host has yet to awaken, so we did have 9 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 2: a great night. She's just still sleeping. But we do 10 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 2: have Clear and Ryan here with us this morning. Super 11 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:34,160 Speaker 2: pumped to have both of you. Thanks for sitting down. 12 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 3: Excited to be here with you. 13 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely, thank you so much. 14 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:39,159 Speaker 2: So I got to hear a little bit of your 15 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 2: story last night. I want to start with just maybe 16 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:45,480 Speaker 2: getting some clarity. How did the two of you meet? 17 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 4: Oh? 18 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 5: I feel like we said this fourteen times last night, 19 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 5: but that's all right. It couldn't be any more exciting 20 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 5: than just sliding in the DMS. Ryan slid in the 21 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 5: DMS and I guess just went from there. 22 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 2: So Ryan, I was I was talking to you because 23 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 2: you did slide into the DMS. That's what I did. 24 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 2: We both found love that way. So going back, why 25 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 2: did you reach out to Clear like how did you 26 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 2: know of her? What interested you in her? So I'd 27 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:18,119 Speaker 2: never seen any of the Bessor or. 28 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:24,759 Speaker 6: Besser Atte shows, and it was either Hulu or an 29 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:30,039 Speaker 6: ad reading some sort of news article. And I came 30 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:34,680 Speaker 6: across a promo for her show in twenty twenty, and 31 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 6: I thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world. 32 00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:41,920 Speaker 4: And so I. 33 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 6: Was going through a split with my ex wife during 34 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 6: that time and or that summer, and then it took 35 00:01:57,920 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 6: me about seven months to get. 36 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 4: Up the current to reach out to her. 37 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 2: Claire, when you hear that that he thought you were 38 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 2: the most beautiful woman in the world, you just smiled, 39 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 2: You got so you got giddy, and we were talking 40 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 2: about it. You know, we've been able to know each 41 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:17,079 Speaker 2: other really since the start of this show six and 42 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 2: a half years ago, so we've seen a lot of 43 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 2: each other's lives progress. 44 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 4: You just seem super super happy right now. 45 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:30,839 Speaker 5: I am, thank you, I am, And it's. 46 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:31,359 Speaker 3: My phone ringing, sorry, I am. 47 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 5: I am so much And it always makes me feel 48 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 5: so good, Like when I hear him talk to you 49 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 5: about it. This is stuff that he told me since 50 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:43,079 Speaker 5: the beginning, and it's stuff that he tells me every 51 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 5: single day still and it still makes me smile like this. 52 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:49,360 Speaker 5: So it's whether people around, whether people aren't around, like 53 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 5: this is how he treats me, and this is how 54 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:54,800 Speaker 5: he talks to me always, and it just is like 55 00:02:54,840 --> 00:02:56,640 Speaker 5: forever makes my heart smile always. 56 00:02:57,400 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 4: You know, Chris Harrison is with us right now now. 57 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 2: And I remember even before I met you, when I 58 00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 2: first got onto the show, you had just always stayed 59 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 2: relatively friendly with a lot of the people that were 60 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 2: working on the show, and so they were always rooting 61 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 2: for you or like, you know, they get a text 62 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 2: from you and they would just talk about it openly, 63 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 2: and it felt like you were close with all them. 64 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 2: They're all like, we're your biggest fans. They were rooting 65 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 2: for you to find love. Yeah, and so you went 66 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 2: on these shows. You just you came off of the show, 67 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:30,080 Speaker 2: you did your best to try to find love outside 68 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 2: of the show, and then back onto the show. 69 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:33,360 Speaker 4: And now like. 70 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 2: That story has closed right of you trying to find love, 71 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 2: you found it. 72 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 3: Absolutely. 73 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 2: What what does it feel like to you now, because 74 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 2: for a while we were you know, we've all been 75 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 2: in a place where we didn't know if any of 76 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 2: us if it would happen to for any of us. 77 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 4: But now you know you have it. 78 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 5: That's what love is, though it's it's having I guess, 79 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 5: the courage to keep trying and keep trying and keep trying. 80 00:03:57,880 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 5: And nobody says it works out the first time, like 81 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 5: it rarely does it. I mean, those people are so lucky. 82 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 5: How does that go? But that's what love is, whether 83 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,880 Speaker 5: it's two times or over and over and over again. 84 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 5: However you try to find somebody, whether it be in 85 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 5: the casual environment, you don't give up after the first time. 86 00:04:16,720 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 5: And I think, to me, I knew it was something 87 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 5: that I wanted, was marriage, and I wanted relationship, and 88 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:26,599 Speaker 5: I wouldn't let I wouldn't let that jade me or 89 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,280 Speaker 5: get the best of me or say, oh I tried 90 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 5: one time. 91 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 3: That was my chance in trying, even if it was 92 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 3: on a show. 93 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:35,919 Speaker 5: To me, it was like, I'll keep trying until I 94 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:38,359 Speaker 5: get what I want and get the end result of 95 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 5: what I want, of the feeling of what I want. 96 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:40,800 Speaker 3: And I did. 97 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:42,120 Speaker 4: That's awesome. 98 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 2: Well, tell me about your wedding. I didn't get to 99 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:48,599 Speaker 2: hear a lot about this. You guys did get married. 100 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:51,920 Speaker 2: Was it like, what was anybody there joining you watching 101 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 2: how did it all play out? 102 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:58,840 Speaker 5: So we had these original plans of having two weddings. 103 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:02,279 Speaker 5: I wanted one that we wanted to have in Mexico. 104 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:05,239 Speaker 5: I wanted this big, great we found this gorgeous spot. 105 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 5: I wanted this huge celebration of a wedding of what 106 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:11,479 Speaker 5: the traditional wedding I guess is. And then I knew 107 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 5: because my mom is in hospice, that she wouldn't be 108 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 5: able to fly down to Mexico. She can barely even 109 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 5: get in a car at this point. And so I 110 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 5: was like, well, I want to have a little mini celebration, 111 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 5: especially for my mom that she can witness and be 112 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 5: there and be a part of, and then do the 113 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:31,719 Speaker 5: Mexico wedding. So we planned that and we were like, okay, 114 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 5: let's just get the first wedding out of the way. 115 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:36,279 Speaker 5: And my mom ended up getting a little bit sicker 116 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 5: at that time. It right at the end of January, 117 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 5: and so right and I were like, let's do it now, 118 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 5: let's do the wedding, let's have it. 119 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:45,719 Speaker 3: We know we're getting married. Let's just have a mini celebration. 120 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 5: And it was his daughter's, his parents, two of my friends, 121 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 5: and then it was going to be my mom there 122 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:54,160 Speaker 5: and my mom. It's hard to explain, but she gets 123 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:55,000 Speaker 5: overwhelmed easily. 124 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,400 Speaker 3: So good morning, Ashley. 125 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:06,359 Speaker 2: Ashley, are you guys actually just walked in. 126 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 3: I said, are you guys coming? 127 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,600 Speaker 7: Okay, So there's other people that we were like, you. 128 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 3: Know, just waiting, just waiting on them. 129 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 2: We're gonna pause. He actually did wake up and make 130 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:22,719 Speaker 2: it to the podcast this morning. 131 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 7: You guys, it's not thirty okay, it's not like you're 132 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:27,360 Speaker 7: making it like it's noon. 133 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:34,360 Speaker 8: Also, yeah, because I tell you that I wake up 134 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:42,279 Speaker 8: late often, I feel, guys, I feel unprofessional, especially. 135 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,560 Speaker 9: Since I was like, you, you know, I always set 136 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 9: the alarm, and then for some reason, I was like, 137 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:49,479 Speaker 9: you're on Pacific time. I woke up at seven and 138 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 9: like it did six and we had the weird light thing, 139 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 9: and then I was like, you don't have to sell 140 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:55,679 Speaker 9: your I don't know why I was defensive about setting 141 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 9: my alarm. 142 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:59,279 Speaker 7: I don't want actually, don't open up your phone and 143 00:06:59,360 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 7: just tall. I don't know. I think I was like 144 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 7: trying to play gay with myself. 145 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 4: And then Hannah called me it was the clock. It 146 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 4: was nine five, and shut. 147 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 5: I feel like you get a haul pass though, because 148 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 5: you wake up every day through your baby. Well, I 149 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 5: know the time where you're like, oh, I don't have 150 00:07:14,440 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 5: them with me right now, Like we. 151 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 7: Want to be like mom that blames everything on the baby. 152 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 3: Now, like I deserve it. 153 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:24,560 Speaker 4: I'd be here at least you're here, though, Thank you? 154 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 7: Did I miss like five minutes, ten minutes, I don't know, seven, 155 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 7: seven minutes. 156 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 2: So we were just talking about their wedding and how 157 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 2: the two of you really wanted your mom to to 158 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 2: experience it, but she couldn't get to Mexico, and so 159 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 2: you would plan something here closer. 160 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 5: So he planned something closer, and it was we had 161 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 5: just planned a tiny, little intimate one because she gets 162 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 5: super overwhelmed easily with more than a couple people, so 163 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 5: it gets very confusing with her because she has dementia. 164 00:07:56,840 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 5: So it just was his family, my family, you know, 165 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 5: my two best friends, and we planned this little thing 166 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 5: and we planned it out in this little garden at 167 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 5: the state Capitol and that's where we had our first kiss. 168 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 3: So we're like, oh, it'll be cute to have it. 169 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 5: There, and it was just a beautiful thing, and we 170 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 5: ended up having this mini little wedding. My mom and 171 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 5: actually ended up getting really really sick and so she 172 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 5: couldn't even leave her home, and so we had the 173 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 5: mini celebration anyway, and then afterwards we went to in 174 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 5: and out Burger and then went to visit her and 175 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:35,440 Speaker 5: celebrated with her, and it was the most perfect what 176 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:37,800 Speaker 5: we left her. And I was like, that's everything I 177 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:40,199 Speaker 5: ever wanted out of a wedding. To feel the way 178 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:42,720 Speaker 5: I feel, to enjoy it, and to be able. 179 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:45,560 Speaker 3: To share that with my mom. It was like the 180 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 3: most special thing. 181 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:49,600 Speaker 5: And so I was like, we can have a party 182 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 5: another time, in like a reception another time, but that 183 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 5: was everything I wanted and need it out of a wedding. 184 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:56,760 Speaker 5: So we kind of were like, let's just scratch the 185 00:08:56,800 --> 00:08:59,199 Speaker 5: second one because this is we have other more important 186 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:00,559 Speaker 5: things I guess going on right now. 187 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:01,720 Speaker 3: And that was perfect. 188 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 7: Listen, if you think it's perfect, scratch the second one, 189 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 7: because you don't want to have any memory that's not perfect. 190 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 5: Yeah, it just to me weddings and I love going 191 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,480 Speaker 5: to them. I think they're beautiful. I love dancing, I 192 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 5: love enjoying them. Everything about him is amazing. I don't 193 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:23,080 Speaker 5: think planning them is exciting. It's really extremely stressful even 194 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 5: thinking about planning. It was the second one was stressful 195 00:09:26,160 --> 00:09:29,200 Speaker 5: to me, to us and by nature. Ryan is an 196 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:31,560 Speaker 5: event planner, so he was like, I got this, and 197 00:09:31,559 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 5: he planned the first one. 198 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:36,120 Speaker 3: He got the car, he got I mean, the location. 199 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 5: I mean, he secured everything, and it was it was 200 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 5: came in clutch because I was kind of paralyzed and like, 201 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:46,160 Speaker 5: I just want this for my mom and I never 202 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:48,960 Speaker 5: thought that moment would be able to happen, that she'd 203 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 5: be able to just see me get married. She did, 204 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 5: which is cool. I mean she didn't watch me, but 205 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 5: she was there that day, saw dressed. 206 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, what was her reaction when she's in the dress? 207 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:03,800 Speaker 5: She just was smiling so big, and she kept looking 208 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:06,559 Speaker 5: at her wedding picture which is on the wall of 209 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 5: her My god, yeah, it was pretty. 210 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 3: It was really special. 211 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:13,440 Speaker 5: So we have a picture of her and her picture 212 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 5: with her and my dad and then it was with 213 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 5: Ryan and us in the picture. 214 00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:17,960 Speaker 3: So really special. 215 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 5: And that was actually the day that she met Ryan's 216 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 5: daughters and they were so sweet to my mom and 217 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 5: just it was really really sweet. 218 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 4: How did the introduction to Ryan and your mom go? 219 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:34,840 Speaker 5: Ryan's always been an angel to my mom. And even 220 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 5: the other day, like, I'm the one I usually go 221 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:39,520 Speaker 5: weekly to go visit her back in Sacramento, And the 222 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:40,319 Speaker 5: other day he's like. 223 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 3: Can we go for Mother's Day? Can we go see 224 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 3: your mom? Because I haven't seen her in a while. 225 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 5: Like, he makes the effort and it has always made 226 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 5: the effort to go see her and loves being around her, 227 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:55,439 Speaker 5: and it's just super gentle with her and sincere and it's. 228 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:56,640 Speaker 3: Been the greatest. It's been the greatest. 229 00:10:56,679 --> 00:10:58,120 Speaker 5: I know, it's not an easy thing to deal with 230 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 5: to come into a relationship with somebody who's mom is 231 00:11:01,160 --> 00:11:04,520 Speaker 5: dying or has dementia, and you don't really know what 232 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:07,360 Speaker 5: to deal with or how to deal with it. But 233 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:09,200 Speaker 5: he's just been always so gentle with my mom. 234 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 3: It's been amazing. 235 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:23,839 Speaker 2: You know, in your life there has been an interesting 236 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 2: change because you've been caring for your mom, sitting beside 237 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 2: your mom for years and kind of doing it, you know, 238 00:11:31,200 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 2: alone in a lot of ways, just and processing a 239 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:35,640 Speaker 2: lot alone. What has it been like now having a 240 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:39,840 Speaker 2: partner to bounce your emotions off of and your feelings 241 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:42,160 Speaker 2: off of, and also making the effort to go and 242 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 2: spend time as well. 243 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:47,240 Speaker 3: Ryan is amazing in that way. Where he are you 244 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 3: asking me that? Right? 245 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:48,560 Speaker 5: Okay? 246 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, He's been. 247 00:11:52,840 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 5: Always made me feel like however I feel it's okay, 248 00:11:57,679 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 5: And if I'm having a really crappy day and strut, 249 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 5: He's just I. 250 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 3: Know, and I've got it, I understand and. 251 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:08,160 Speaker 5: Very just accepting and loving of whatever emotions I have, 252 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 5: because going through this and going through the hospice and 253 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:15,840 Speaker 5: going dealing with dementia is it's one of the hardest 254 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:17,920 Speaker 5: things ever. There's so many ups and downs, and there's 255 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 5: so many what ifs, and you don't know what's going on. 256 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:24,960 Speaker 5: And he just has been very patient with it. And 257 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:27,679 Speaker 5: I think it's a testament not only to what kind 258 00:12:27,679 --> 00:12:29,200 Speaker 5: of man he is, but what also what kind of 259 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:32,600 Speaker 5: father he is, because he's that way with his girls 260 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 5: and his daughters. And that's what attracted me to him, 261 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 5: was how gentle he is and compassionate he is. He's 262 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 5: like the best girl dad you can ask for, you know. 263 00:12:41,040 --> 00:12:43,520 Speaker 5: So he's just he knows somehow how. 264 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:44,920 Speaker 3: To handle it right. 265 00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 2: And it is where I want to go, is you 266 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 2: are a proud girl dad. You sounds like an incredible dad. 267 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:52,719 Speaker 2: Can you share a little bit about you know, your 268 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 2: daughters and what they're up to and what it's been like, 269 00:12:56,320 --> 00:12:58,280 Speaker 2: you know, joining everybody together. 270 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 6: It's been pretty amazing. Claire is the absolute best bonus 271 00:13:03,080 --> 00:13:06,840 Speaker 6: mom you could ever ask for. The girls are twelve 272 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:11,760 Speaker 6: and ten, so my youngest will be ten in a month. 273 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 6: It's crazy and it's been it's definitely been wild. So 274 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:22,200 Speaker 6: we just moved into our new house about fifty days ago, 275 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 6: and the girls absolutely love it and they love Claire 276 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 6: and it's been so I have a tradition with both 277 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 6: of them that since they were three, we would take 278 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:39,560 Speaker 6: them to a San Francisco Giants game and it's always 279 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:41,600 Speaker 6: been just me and one of the girls and we 280 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:43,840 Speaker 6: get a jersey with their name on the back and 281 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:48,000 Speaker 6: then the number is their age that year, and just 282 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:52,040 Speaker 6: this just is the greatest thing ever. And so Claire 283 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 6: went for the very first time to that and so 284 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:57,560 Speaker 6: instead of two, we made it three. And then we're 285 00:13:57,559 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 6: doing the same thing for the youngest in June. And 286 00:14:01,840 --> 00:14:06,240 Speaker 6: this is something that when they're away at college, they'll fly. 287 00:14:06,160 --> 00:14:07,839 Speaker 4: In and go to their birthday day game. 288 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:11,760 Speaker 6: Oh yeah, And so that was a huge thing for us. 289 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 5: I think right now they're at the point of, like, Dad, 290 00:14:14,320 --> 00:14:18,360 Speaker 5: why do we have to go. Yeah, but they'll appreciate it. 291 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 5: But they generally, I mean they get pulled out of school, 292 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 5: the hall passed to get out of school. I think 293 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:25,840 Speaker 5: they love it, and I think just to be able 294 00:14:25,840 --> 00:14:27,680 Speaker 5: to look back and know that their dad is like, 295 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:28,960 Speaker 5: did this every year with them. 296 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 3: And other Jerseys. 297 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 5: It's building those traditions, like he thinks about those kind 298 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 5: of things always. 299 00:14:34,000 --> 00:14:37,440 Speaker 2: Well, this is Ryan's first podcast. We're really thankful that 300 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 2: you guys came. Thanks for hanging out, thanks for being here, 301 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:41,000 Speaker 2: thanks for sharing this story with us. 302 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:44,040 Speaker 4: Very excited for Claire and you Ryan. 303 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:47,160 Speaker 2: And it's just great to see you in person and 304 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 2: not see it over social media, because you can be 305 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 2: really happy for somebody over social media, but when you 306 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:55,120 Speaker 2: see it in person, just it makes the world warmer. 307 00:14:55,480 --> 00:14:58,800 Speaker 2: And we're happy for the two of you. Okay, close up, 308 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 2: what's next for the two of you? Final question? What's 309 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 2: going to go on? What's the next stages in life? 310 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:05,080 Speaker 2: What's life looking like? 311 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 4: Give us an exclusive of selves art we could use 312 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:09,880 Speaker 4: the headline. 313 00:15:09,280 --> 00:15:10,440 Speaker 5: The exclusive is. 314 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 3: I don't know what the exclusive is. I don't know. 315 00:15:14,720 --> 00:15:16,240 Speaker 3: Claire is finally at peace. 316 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 5: I mean I feel like for so long the world 317 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 5: has seen me just fight and fight and fight and 318 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 5: be this like I'm like determined, and somehow it's been 319 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 5: kind of like at least this is how I feel, 320 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:33,840 Speaker 5: twisted into this, like God, she is this like hey woman, 321 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 5: you know, and she's this demanding woman. But I feel 322 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 5: like for so long it's been that, Like I felt 323 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:43,400 Speaker 5: on guard for so long and protective of my happiness 324 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,640 Speaker 5: and fighting for that. But I feel like this stage 325 00:15:46,640 --> 00:15:50,120 Speaker 5: of my life is peace. This stage of my life 326 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 5: is happiness, and this stage stage of my life is 327 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:57,120 Speaker 5: like calmness, and whatever the next step is, I'm not 328 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:58,560 Speaker 5: trying to control it. 329 00:15:58,560 --> 00:15:59,480 Speaker 3: It comes when it comes. 330 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:04,200 Speaker 5: Whatever that looks like, I'm just happy being And I 331 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 5: think that hasn't been a thing. 332 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:08,480 Speaker 3: For a long, long long time. 333 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 5: It was always fighting for whatever it is, even in 334 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 5: the best of ways. It was like fighting for my happiness, 335 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:17,000 Speaker 5: fighting to get to this place, fighting for what I want. 336 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 5: And finally now this phase is just accepting everything and 337 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:24,800 Speaker 5: sitting back and being like this is everything I've ever 338 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:27,320 Speaker 5: dreamed of and I couldn't ask for anything more. 339 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 3: Ryan, how do you feel when you hear things like that? 340 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:38,720 Speaker 4: It is the greatest feeling ever you guys, where's the camera? 341 00:16:38,760 --> 00:16:43,880 Speaker 7: I know Cara, who cares about us? They're seriously the 342 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 7: sweetest to watch. His hand is always on her, and 343 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 7: I love it. It's just like so like comforting and secure, 344 00:16:49,360 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 7: like your security is like visual. 345 00:16:51,680 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 3: When I'm around, I can feel it and see it. 346 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:54,280 Speaker 3: Thank you. 347 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:57,520 Speaker 5: I feel it, like I said, every single day, and 348 00:16:57,560 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 5: it's I fall asleep with his hand on my life 349 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 5: or you know, and I wake up and he's, you know, 350 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:07,680 Speaker 5: doing this to my face, and it's just it's the 351 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 5: most opposite of any relationship I've ever had in the 352 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:16,639 Speaker 5: best ways possible. I thought I knew what relationships were like, 353 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 5: but it was just this skewed perception of coming out 354 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:23,720 Speaker 5: of bad relationships and the wrong relationships. And so when 355 00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:27,440 Speaker 5: finally the good one happened, I'm like, that's new, that's new, 356 00:17:27,520 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 5: and I keep he'll do normal things, and I'm like, 357 00:17:30,000 --> 00:17:32,919 Speaker 5: I've never had that before. So I'm relearning what a 358 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:36,560 Speaker 5: good relationship looks like. And sometimes it's challenging, and sometimes 359 00:17:36,560 --> 00:17:38,399 Speaker 5: it's like what is that, I've. 360 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:38,880 Speaker 3: Never known that? 361 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,720 Speaker 5: And then now I'm finally the place where I'm like, 362 00:17:42,720 --> 00:17:44,040 Speaker 5: this is what it's supposed to feel like. 363 00:17:44,080 --> 00:17:46,000 Speaker 3: This is what it's supposed to be like, and I 364 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:47,560 Speaker 3: love it. Don't stop. 365 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:50,159 Speaker 7: You know, I always think of Claire as like the 366 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:53,440 Speaker 7: definition of like femininity in a womanhood. 367 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:56,240 Speaker 3: She's just the perfect combination. This sounds like the quote 368 00:17:56,280 --> 00:17:57,520 Speaker 3: from Crazy Stupid Love. 369 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:01,280 Speaker 7: You're just the perfect combination of strong and soft. 370 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 3: You agree, I appreciate that. I appreciate that. 371 00:18:06,080 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 5: I think the world has seen a lot of my 372 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:11,879 Speaker 5: strong and now Ryan gets to enjoy the soft, you know. 373 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:15,040 Speaker 9: All Right, Well, thank you guys so much. 374 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 3: You're seriously the sweetest. I'm so glad to like see 375 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:20,680 Speaker 3: this in front of us. Oh, thank you guys for 376 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:21,399 Speaker 3: having us. 377 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:26,639 Speaker 7: All right, Well, until next time, I've been Ashley and 378 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:27,320 Speaker 7: I've been penned. 379 00:18:28,400 --> 00:18:31,359 Speaker 1: Follow the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast on 380 00:18:31,400 --> 00:18:34,640 Speaker 1: iHeartRadio or subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.