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Speaker 1: Second date Update. You know you're getting blown off for
Speaker 1: a date when somebody tells you that they have a
Speaker 1: doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on a Friday night. What,
Speaker 1: As far as I know, not a lot of doctors
Speaker 1: working that late on a Friday night. That's what happened
Speaker 1: to Matt, who is on the phone right now and
Speaker 1: wants to do a second date update. He wants to
Speaker 1: call a girl named Claire. Apparently Claire is really bad
Speaker 1: at blowing guys off. Yeah, because he asked her out
Speaker 1: after their date and that was one of her excuses
Speaker 1: that she used. Apparently she's used a bunch of excuses,
Speaker 1: and he's wondering why she just keeps blowing him off.
Speaker 1: What's up, Matt? How are you? I'm doing great? Guys?
Speaker 1: How are you good? So she actually sent you a
Speaker 1: text after your date saying that she had a doctor's
Speaker 1: appointment at eight on a Friday night. Yeah, White, Actually
Speaker 1: she did that two day from weekends because I waited
Speaker 1: a couple of days. I didn't want to come off
Speaker 1: desperate or anything. I wanted to play it cool. So
Speaker 1: I texted her and I think, you want to grab
Speaker 1: some drinks tonight or something. This was earlier in the day,
Speaker 1: and she's like, Oh, I have a doctor's appointment tonight.
Speaker 1: What did you say back? I mean, I wasn't going
Speaker 1: to try to pest her because I kind of took
Speaker 1: a little bit of a hint. I gave her the
Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt. I'm like, Okay, well, you know,
Speaker 1: let me know after we're tipping up and maybe we
Speaker 1: can do party. You wanted to text her back and
Speaker 1: be like, it's Friday night at eight o'clock. Do you
Speaker 1: really have a doctor's appointment? Absolutely? I mean I wanted
Speaker 1: to call her out on it, but at the same time,
Speaker 1: I'd feel bad if she did have some kind of
Speaker 1: random doctor's appointment and then I called her a liar
Speaker 1: and then yeah, it's one of those where you just
Speaker 1: bite your tongue. You're like, oh my god, yeah, don't
Speaker 1: you think she said it? And she's like, oh, wait,
Speaker 1: that doesn't make any sense. He's gonna know that. I'm
Speaker 1: blowing him. I don't know how lady doctors work. I mean,
Speaker 1: maybe lady doctors are open. You're not getting pap smears
Speaker 1: on a Friday night. It's not what we do. No,
Speaker 1: there's no like happy hour or late night happy hour
Speaker 1: for those things. Yeah, what was the other excuse that
Speaker 1: she used on you? I texted her a second time.
Speaker 1: It wasn't as late. I figured, you know, maybe she
Speaker 1: want to do like a happy hour or something like that.
Speaker 1: And what'd she say back? Actually, I was surprised because
Speaker 1: that one was a dentist appointment. She needs to get
Speaker 1: more creative. Is the problem? Are you sure you want
Speaker 1: to call this girl and try to get a second date?
Speaker 1: I mean, I think more it's I want closure. I
Speaker 1: want to know what happened, because we hit it off
Speaker 1: really well. She's she's gorgeous. I don't usually do blind dates,
Speaker 1: but the one time that I did it, it worked
Speaker 1: out really well. I thought we had a lot in common.
Speaker 1: So this was a date that was set up by somebody. Yeah,
Speaker 1: our friends. We have some mutual friends. And they kept
Speaker 1: pestering me over a couple of weeks, and finally they
Speaker 1: showed me a picture of her on Facebook. Yeah, it's like,
Speaker 1: oh absolutely. Do you think that she was maybe disappointed
Speaker 1: when she saw you? If she was, she didn't act
Speaker 1: like it. I mean, maybe she's really nice. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm that much of a disappointment to
Speaker 1: look at being much. She really enjoyed herself. Everything on
Speaker 1: your date seemed cool. What did you guys do? It
Speaker 1: was just a first date kind of thing where we
Speaker 1: just went out to a bar and had a couple
Speaker 1: of drinks and we ended up just talking for you know,
Speaker 1: at least two or three hours. That's good time. Like
Speaker 1: I mean, if she didn't like you initially, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: stay around that long. And I'm pretty good at reading people,
Speaker 1: so I I mean, either she's a really good actress
Speaker 1: or if she was having a good time. But I mean,
Speaker 1: it just it felt like things were really clicking. Was
Speaker 1: there anything weird that happened during your date? Not that
Speaker 1: I'm aware of. I mean, there's a couple of times,
Speaker 1: you know, she went to the bathroom, just like once
Speaker 1: or twice. But then after you're having drinks, you know,
Speaker 1: someone goes to the restroom. Yeah, that's right, unless she's
Speaker 1: a cokehead and she's just sounds to me like she's
Speaker 1: doing drugs in the bathroom during your date. Matt, I've
Speaker 1: never actually thought about Yeah, well you gotta think about
Speaker 1: it more often. Whenever I'm out on a date. As
Speaker 1: soon as she goes to the bathroom, I know exactly
Speaker 1: what's going on in there. I'm tired of going out
Speaker 1: with all these druggies. All right, So you still want
Speaker 1: to call this girl even though she's blatantly blowing you off. Oh? Absolutely,
Speaker 1: She's really one of the prettiest girls that I've ever
Speaker 1: went on a date with. Like, we're just really beautiful.
Speaker 1: I'm absolutely my type, and we just the stuff that
Speaker 1: you look for in common with someone. Those things that
Speaker 1: we had together, it was just something, just something that
Speaker 1: we could build on. Did you give her a kiss
Speaker 1: at the end of the night. No, we just hugged
Speaker 1: and you know, went on a better way. Okay, well,
Speaker 1: we'll play a song, come back, call her and get
Speaker 1: your second date update. All right, off, thank god brooking jubil.
Speaker 1: In the morning, Snatt is on the phone with us
Speaker 1: and he wants to call a girl named Claire. Today.
Speaker 1: They met through friends, went out on a date. He
Speaker 1: thought everything seemed cool, but since then he's tried to
Speaker 1: text her and gotten horrible excuses back as to why
Speaker 1: she can't go out with him. It was a Friday
Speaker 1: night at eight o'clock, and she said she had a
Speaker 1: doctor's appointment. And then the next time he said let's
Speaker 1: hang out earlier, like five o'clock on a Saturday, she
Speaker 1: said she had a dentist appointment, obviously blowing him off. Matt,
Speaker 1: Are you ready to make the phone call? Yeah? Man, absolutely,
Speaker 1: all right, Well, I'm have to unfortunately tell you I'm
Speaker 1: gonna need to reschedule autometrius appointment here in ten minutes.
Speaker 1: So shouldn't be a surprise to you, though, This is
Speaker 1: kind of what people do to you, right, Yeah, absolutely? Yeah.
Speaker 1: Have you ever been this blatantly blown off before? Never? No,
Speaker 1: that's why it's bugging me so much. Yeah, I can
Speaker 1: see your point, because I would be like, I just
Speaker 1: want to know why why do you feel the need
Speaker 1: to pretend with a doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on
Speaker 1: a Friday night. All right, man, I'm gonna dial the
Speaker 1: phone umber right now, get her on the phone and
Speaker 1: get your second day update. Okay, cool, Thanks, here we go. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: can I speak to Claire please. Yeah, this is Clay.
Speaker 1: Hey Claire, how are you doing? This is Jewel from
Speaker 1: Brook and Jewel in the Morning. I'm sorry, I don't understand. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's fine. It's a morning radio show and one of
Speaker 1: our listeners recently emailed us about you. Then his name
Speaker 1: is Matt. We do a segment on our show called
Speaker 1: the Second Date Update. Matt is wondering why you are
Speaker 1: blowing him off. Wait, Matt called you, guys, Yes, huh
Speaker 1: do you have a few minutes to tell us why
Speaker 1: you don't want to go out with Matt again? I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess there's not much to tell. There's not much
Speaker 1: to tell? Well, let me, can I tell you something? Sure?
Speaker 1: We talked to Matt about your date, and we talked
Speaker 1: to him about everything after the date, and Matt thinks
Speaker 1: that you're a liar. He thinks him a liar. He
Speaker 1: thinks that you're a liar. Okay, why because you told
Speaker 1: him you couldn't go out with him because he had
Speaker 1: a doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on a Friday night.
Speaker 1: And then the next time he asked you out, you
Speaker 1: said you had a dentist's appointment. So like that's my
Speaker 1: business and for the record of not lying. Okay, you're
Speaker 1: not lie that you went to the doctors at eight
Speaker 1: o'clock on a Friday night. I got can explain this
Speaker 1: to you, guys. So the doctor's appointment stuff is all
Speaker 1: true and you haven't been blowing him off. You want
Speaker 1: to see mad again? I mean like, like not necessarily.
Speaker 1: I don't want like I don't actually want to see
Speaker 1: him again. Why woun't you make up lame excuses? Why
Speaker 1: don't you just tell him? Hey, I don't think it's
Speaker 1: gonna work. I don't I don't need to justify any
Speaker 1: of this to you, guys. I didn't get that feeling
Speaker 1: with him, and I don't want to see him again.
Speaker 1: But hey, I don't care if you blew him off
Speaker 1: the way you did. Whatever doesn't matter. It's not my life,
Speaker 1: that's his. But is there a specific reason why you
Speaker 1: don't want to see him again so that I can
Speaker 1: go back to him and tell him, Oh, I just
Speaker 1: I just didn't get the feeling I feel like I
Speaker 1: should get. So there's just no chemistry, like you weren't
Speaker 1: attracted to him. There's just like a feeling a girl
Speaker 1: gets when a guy really likes her and he thinks
Speaker 1: it's weird. I didn't get that from him at all.
Speaker 1: So you didn't think that he liked you, but he
Speaker 1: asked you out a bunch of times since your date.
Speaker 1: I mean it was weirder than that. It was like
Speaker 1: when we went into the bar, I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, here's my ex boyfriend. And he was gonna
Speaker 1: at the bar too, And so I told Matt that,
Speaker 1: like I used to date this guy, and like he
Speaker 1: wasn't even a face, Like he didn't even like he
Speaker 1: didn't care, he didn't like he just went along with
Speaker 1: the date like nothing happened. And I was like, don't
Speaker 1: you get it, Like we slept together, Like this is
Speaker 1: like weird. You know, you wanted him to be upset
Speaker 1: that your ex boyfriend was there. It's not that he
Speaker 1: has to like get upset or angry about it, but
Speaker 1: like I went to like show that he actually likes me,
Speaker 1: he probably should seem like he's at least faced by
Speaker 1: a little bit, like a little bit weird it out.
Speaker 1: So you wanted to like go up to your ex
Speaker 1: boyfriend and threaten him right there or something. No, I'm
Speaker 1: like fight or anything. I just like I wanted to
Speaker 1: be a little bit us and show me that he
Speaker 1: carries about me. Like that just comes off as a
Speaker 1: little crazy to me. Did you purposely take him to
Speaker 1: a bar that you knew your ex is gonna be at?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what is this? Like? I honestly don't
Speaker 1: need to explain any of this to you. I'm being
Speaker 1: nice by explaining why I'm not calling back a guy
Speaker 1: that obviously was acting weird in the date. I talked
Speaker 1: to all my girlfriends. They agree it's weird if you're
Speaker 1: just like, don't even care, you know that, Like this
Speaker 1: guy I used a date like, he didn't want to leave.
Speaker 1: He just wanted to stay there and keep talking about books. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you would have rather that it weirded him out,
Speaker 1: and maybe he was like, I don't want to be
Speaker 1: here around your ex, Let's go somewhere else exactly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's like a first date and he's not even
Speaker 1: invested in your guys' relationship. Like what does he have
Speaker 1: to be jealous of? I mean, I slept with the
Speaker 1: guy that's like five bars fools down, I would be jealous.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, So way through the night, my
Speaker 1: ex boyfriend came up and introduced himself and like, Matt
Speaker 1: just like offered to buy him a drink. I mean
Speaker 1: that's over the time. So Matt was too cool to
Speaker 1: your ex? You would have rather been like, how would okay,
Speaker 1: in a perfect world, Claire, if you were out with
Speaker 1: a guy and this happened, how would you want him
Speaker 1: to react. I would want him to be like cold
Speaker 1: and like defend me and like not just sit there
Speaker 1: and not cool about it, Like he doesn't even care
Speaker 1: about me, Like are we friends? Or are we like
Speaker 1: are we on a date? I couldn't tell. I really
Speaker 1: couldn't tell. Claire. All right, so you like a guy
Speaker 1: who gets a little jealous, and Matt is obviously not
Speaker 1: that guy. Obviously not that guy. Okay, hey, Claire, I
Speaker 1: should let you know that Matt is actually on the
Speaker 1: other line listening to this conversation. What. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: know what I'm supposed to say to you. Is it
Speaker 1: that I'm too nice? I don't understand what it is.
Speaker 1: Are you like, if you're out with the girl, they
Speaker 1: want you to be jealous, Like if some guys starts
Speaker 1: flirting with me, especially if it's my ex boyfriend. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I was just trying to be a nice guy and
Speaker 1: like just play it cool. I figured if if I
Speaker 1: come off mean that that would you know, you wouldn't
Speaker 1: find that attractive. I wanted to try to be polite
Speaker 1: and nice. No, like what attractive is being a man
Speaker 1: in that situation and like, like, you know, playing it cool.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to play it cool. Like, so
Speaker 1: what's I supposed to like punch him out when he
Speaker 1: walked up or something? Well, you also to buy him
Speaker 1: a beer. I know that you were. I mean, it
Speaker 1: wasn't like you had if you kind of look on
Speaker 1: your face like you were mad that he was there.
Speaker 1: So I just figured you guys were, you know, still
Speaker 1: at least friends or clause. I'm not. I'm not the
Speaker 1: jealous type I've got. I've got friends in my life
Speaker 1: that I've dated. It a long time ago, So sometimes
Speaker 1: you remain friends, you remain close. I figured you guys
Speaker 1: were still close. I wanted to be nice. Oh, guys,
Speaker 1: I was it cool? That's what I'm supposed to do
Speaker 1: in that situation. Your role is like stick up for
Speaker 1: me no matter what. Look, I have a way date.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I'm just I'm really confused, right, now,
Speaker 1: I really do not understand women at all. Yeah, obviously
Speaker 1: you don't understand women, obviously, Claire. That is not how
Speaker 1: all women think. It's how I think, and it's how
Speaker 1: most of my girlfriends think. So like, I have no
Speaker 1: idea what you're talking about. You're gonna end up with
Speaker 1: like some control freak, jealous roid rage. Dude, If that's
Speaker 1: the type of parameters you're putting on your dates, don't
Speaker 1: judge me about who I want to date. You're the
Speaker 1: one who called me, yeah, broke, back off, back off.
Speaker 1: I'm sticking up for Claire right now, Claire, Claire, I
Speaker 1: got your back, all right. I'm sticking up for you
Speaker 1: like a good man should do. Finally, a real man
Speaker 1: is doing something. There you go, Claren. If you and
Speaker 1: I were out on a date and your ex boyfriend
Speaker 1: was there, he's not getting a beer from me. It's good.
Speaker 1: I mean, at least somebody understand. Yeah. I'm glad we
Speaker 1: see all that here, Matt. Would you even like to
Speaker 1: go out on a second date with Claire? I mean,
Speaker 1: knowing what I know now, absolutely not. She's obviously got
Speaker 1: some kind of point of view of what the roles
Speaker 1: of men and women are I mean, okay, okay, it's
Speaker 1: not good. I want some macho guy. I just want
Speaker 1: a guy that has like balls, you know, you know whatever,
Speaker 1: I'm done with you, that actually probably will get you
Speaker 1: another date with Claire. Good job, Matt, broken Jupil in
Speaker 1: the morning,