1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,120 Speaker 1: Am I a hold for telling my girlfriend she needs 2 00:00:02,160 --> 00:00:05,600 Speaker 1: to get a real job. Sophia, get a real job? 3 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:06,600 Speaker 1: What okay? 4 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:08,840 Speaker 2: Improv is not a real thing. 5 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:10,319 Speaker 3: It doesn't really exist. 6 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 4: A real thing. Improv doesn't exist. 7 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:19,960 Speaker 1: And this is anything is scripted answer the question what 8 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:22,959 Speaker 1: thoughts should remain unsaid? And it comes from Mean emphasis 9 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:25,439 Speaker 1: ninety four ninety five. I'm thirty one mail and my 10 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: girlfriend is twenty eight. Her and I have been together 11 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:29,560 Speaker 1: for six years, and I've been living together for the. 12 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 3: Last two years. 13 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 1: Going to attempt to keep this short, so please ask 14 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: for details if I leave something out. Girlfriend has always 15 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 1: enjoyed doing comedy and has done open mic nights since 16 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:41,720 Speaker 1: we met shortly after college. She's been taking all of 17 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: these improv classes and abandoning her friends of it. 18 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 3: No, that's not it. 19 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 2: Wait what she's been taking improv classes and abandoning her friends? 20 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 4: L I zoned out? 21 00:00:56,360 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 3: Got her cotton double? Gotcha Riley zooming? 22 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 5: I mean? 23 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 3: I was like, what what did I mean? 24 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 1: She had a real sales job though, that was her 25 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:08,840 Speaker 1: Monday nine to five job where she made decent money. 26 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: Put an ICU in the comments because she was heading 27 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:15,280 Speaker 1: and I don't like where it's heading. I have a 28 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 1: good but hard job and make almost triple what my 29 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:23,680 Speaker 1: girlfriend was making with she had her job, I said, 30 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:28,200 Speaker 1: because last August she quit her job because it was 31 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 1: taking away from her comedy ventures. She told me a 32 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:33,119 Speaker 1: year from now she thinks she can really make it. 33 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 1: I was a bit skeptical, but since I make enough 34 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 1: to support us, I encouraged her because. 35 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 3: I want to be a supportive boyfriend. 36 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:42,919 Speaker 1: Since she quit her job, she began doing Uber indoor Jash, 37 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:45,520 Speaker 1: which is where she makes one hundred percent of her money. 38 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:49,280 Speaker 1: Her comedy has gotten us zero dollar. 39 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, that's that is starting a comedy career, 40 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 4: you don't get any money. 41 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 3: This is true. 42 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 4: Yeah. 43 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,440 Speaker 1: Over the past few months, I have started to resent her, 44 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: though she constantly complains that she has no money, yet 45 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: drives for Uber or door Dash maybe three times a 46 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 1: week for maybe four hours at a time. I've been 47 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: paying for I've been paying a lot more for household expenses, 48 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 1: and I'm not saving as much as I'd like to anymore. 49 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: She sleeps till noon because sometimes her open MIC's run 50 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: real late before she even gets to perform, and when 51 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: she gets up, she just bums around on TikTok and 52 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: YouTube looking for quote unquote inspiration. She also gets very 53 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:29,239 Speaker 1: moody with me if I don't come to ninety percent 54 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: of her open mic performances, even after working a fourteen 55 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: hour day. She will get mad if I don't go 56 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 1: to her open mic at eleven pm on a Tuesday, 57 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 1: not loving that kind of ooh yeah. 58 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:47,519 Speaker 4: Yeah, I think, yeah. Do you have thoughts? 59 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:51,960 Speaker 1: Yes, I think so far. Both are kind of in 60 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 1: a not the right headspace. 61 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 3: Yeah for each other. 62 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 4: I agree, yeah, because I on the one hand, she 63 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,080 Speaker 4: did say I need a year, yes you after it 64 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:05,080 Speaker 4: seems only a couple of months. He's going back on that. 65 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:05,800 Speaker 3: Yeah. 66 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 4: But on the other hand, on the other hand, she 67 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 4: is not seemingly pulling a lot of weight, even though 68 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 4: she has time to do, so it seems like she's 69 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:21,959 Speaker 4: just like yeah, and just not really doing a lot 70 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 4: of and expecting op two kind of. 71 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,920 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, And here's my hot take as a 72 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 2: guy that's maybe going to pursue a career in stand up. 73 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 3: Who talk about it. 74 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 2: I do get inspiration from TikTok and YouTube, but I 75 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 2: feel like I get the most inspiration from doing real 76 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 2: live things, So like I have stuff to talk about, 77 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 2: like if I'm on TikTok and YouTube all the time, 78 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 2: Oh I sold this clip and I do a bit 79 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 2: in on a TikTok clip. Come on, you gotta like 80 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 2: I think being a door dash driver. 81 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:53,480 Speaker 4: An uber driver, you could probably get so much. 82 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 2: So many good stories like oh yeah, opened the door 83 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:56,520 Speaker 2: and a dog came at me and it reminded me 84 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 2: of you know whatever, like a poodle. Bit Oh write 85 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 2: that down. 86 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 4: Looking at TikTok and YouTube, yes can give you some ideas, 87 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 4: but also it can give you like other people's ideas, 88 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:10,240 Speaker 4: and you want your own. You want to be building 89 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:11,000 Speaker 4: your own stuff. 90 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 1: It's more so, yeah, like work on your own material. Yes, 91 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 1: that's where most of the things work for improv. 92 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 4: A lot of what our intermediate class is doing is 93 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 4: looking for creating characters and so a lot of our 94 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 4: course has been looking at our friends and family, looking 95 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 4: at strangers that we see on the street. Four ideas 96 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 4: and yeah, as Riley said, you get all of that 97 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:33,719 Speaker 4: real world's you know, inspiration. 98 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:38,359 Speaker 3: The hands are doing this and not a lot of this. 99 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 4: So yeah, those are my thoughts. 100 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 3: Riley. 101 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 1: Sorry, sorry, that's what he did earlier. Anyways, So I 102 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:56,279 Speaker 1: expose on my doctorm. So back to the story. Last night, 103 00:04:56,360 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 1: I did the unthinkable. I asked her to consider going 104 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:02,360 Speaker 1: back to a. 105 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:04,520 Speaker 3: Full time job. 106 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:08,600 Speaker 1: Ooh. I said that she should still do her comedy, 107 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: but I'm struggling with taking care of our expenses all 108 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 1: by myself. She then gave a dismissive answer. I told 109 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: her firmly that she will never be a famous comedian. Youch, 110 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 1: I said, she's twenty eight, and it's time to grow 111 00:05:21,800 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: the f up and join the real world, because this 112 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 1: is totally unfair to me, and that I bust my 113 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,720 Speaker 1: butt while she lives in La la land. You know, 114 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:33,039 Speaker 1: there's some twenty eight year olds out there who are 115 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:34,960 Speaker 1: just starting on their certain. 116 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:37,160 Speaker 3: Creative endeavors that are absolutely going to make it. I 117 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 3: don't think that. 118 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:40,720 Speaker 4: I don't think saying like, oh, you can't do comedy 119 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 4: unless you're. 120 00:05:42,400 --> 00:05:45,479 Speaker 2: I did hear from a comedy guy that is pretty 121 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 2: famous that you either make a comedy career in your 122 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 2: early twenties or your early forties, not in your thirties. 123 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 1: I don't give them today. I don't care. Anyone can 124 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:55,279 Speaker 1: with content. Anyone can do look. 125 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 3: At what we did. 126 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:58,279 Speaker 4: I think everyone can do anything. I think you just 127 00:05:58,360 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 4: have to have the drive. 128 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. 129 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 4: And also I mean obviously that this isn't to say 130 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:06,919 Speaker 4: it's going to be easy. Yeah, but I think, yeah. 131 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 1: I think if you work hard enough, long enough at something, 132 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 1: then eventually the right ingredients will follows a place to 133 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 1: make not to say that. 134 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:16,840 Speaker 4: You're going to be wildly successful. 135 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 3: Yes, that too. Something will happen something, If you. 136 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 4: Work long enough, something will happen. 137 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:24,839 Speaker 1: Me and Sam have been making content for over ten years, 138 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:27,039 Speaker 1: both of us, and this was the first thing that 139 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 1: ever did anything. 140 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:30,360 Speaker 4: Jolly says anyone can do anything, and I say anyone 141 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 4: can do anything. It's just it just depends how. 142 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 3: Good, how good. 143 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, the success rate is that's the thing that is different. 144 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 3: That's true thought by Sophia. 145 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 4: I think I will just say different. 146 00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 1: And and I also said that she can't be this 147 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: naive at this age by thinking. 148 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 3: She's going to support herself with it. You bet? Is 149 00:06:56,720 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 3: she that bad? 150 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 2: Like I want to hear I w a clip of 151 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:03,039 Speaker 2: her so I can let you know if she should 152 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:03,919 Speaker 2: still do this or not. 153 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:04,600 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 154 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:04,840 Speaker 4: Yeah. 155 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 3: Yeah. 156 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 4: Like when you're an actor and you know you're starting 157 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 4: off your career and you're going to the audition. They're 158 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 4: busting their butts out there. 159 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 3: Find the balance. You gotta find the balance and making 160 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 3: something work. 161 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 4: I'm so real quick. 162 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 2: If I was in this situation, I had a partner 163 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 2: that was like a lawyer or a doctor, and she 164 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 2: was like killing it, and I was like, I'm gonna 165 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 2: be a stand up. I would find as many effing 166 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:23,200 Speaker 2: odd jobs. 167 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 3: As I could and just do those that would. Dude, 168 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:27,480 Speaker 3: the amount of content you can get. 169 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 2: I was helping this old lady do x y Z 170 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 2: boom Joe. 171 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, you. 172 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 4: Can find especially because she has a little bit more 173 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,600 Speaker 4: of a little bit more flexibility because he's supporting them 174 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 4: full time. She could find a job that maybe doesn't 175 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 4: pay as much but is more flexible, pays in cash. 176 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 3: She could use this to She could also use this 177 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 3: argument as material. There you go. 178 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, she's like my husband, But look at me not 179 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 4: making it making much. 180 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: She stared at me inside islands for a few minutes, 181 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: started crying and went to stay with a friend. 182 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:05,480 Speaker 3: She called. She called. 183 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 1: She called me an effing d head, a hole, and 184 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 1: I am the worst friend ever. She has not answered 185 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:16,120 Speaker 1: her phone today yet, So am I an e fing 186 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 1: d head? 187 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 3: A hole, we have relevant comments. 188 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:19,600 Speaker 2: Some of those. 189 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 3: Uh wait, oh yeah, that's the end of the story. 190 00:08:24,040 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 3: But what will we do have some comments here? I 191 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 3: think everyone. 192 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 4: I think everyone. I think the fact that I was 193 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:35,080 Speaker 4: like on the other hand, on the other end, I 194 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 4: think everyone sucks here a little bit. 195 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone sucks here. I think that. 196 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: You know, that is a lot to be. You know, 197 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: it's hard supporting one person in this world, supporting another 198 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:47,319 Speaker 1: person and just not be not being on the same 199 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:49,600 Speaker 1: page yes about the issue. 200 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 3: Maybe maybe she's. 201 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:52,960 Speaker 1: Like, hey, look, maybe if I can go from like 202 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:56,520 Speaker 1: twelve hours to like twenty twenty five hours a week, 203 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: like you know, working to make money, does that do 204 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: enough for you where I can spend only other time 205 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 1: doing Yeah? 206 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 3: And maybe then he's like, Okay, that's that's good. 207 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 2: She okay, she had Uh Is she famous on TikTok 208 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 2: or Instagram? No, she did, She is not. She has 209 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 2: about two thousand followers across two platform. 210 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:17,520 Speaker 4: Okay, but I don't know. The thing is that again 211 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:22,719 Speaker 4: with comedy, it's so hard to get, like to work out, 212 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 4: it's a slow process. So I don't think saying, oh, 213 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 4: she only has two thousand dollars, she's only been at 214 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 4: it for a couple of months. 215 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:30,439 Speaker 2: Two thousand followers, followers. 216 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 4: What did I say dollars? I meant followers. I think 217 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:34,200 Speaker 4: I said too. 218 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 1: She probably lost less than two thousand dollars. 219 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 4: I might just say followers. I think I just jumbled 220 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 4: up my words a little bit. 221 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 1: But we have some relevant comics requik. So apple Bomb 222 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 1: says everyone sucks here, mostly her. Uh oh, yes, she 223 00:09:50,360 --> 00:09:52,839 Speaker 1: is clearly not putting in her fair share with working bills, 224 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:55,080 Speaker 1: and your frustration over having to handle most of the 225 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:58,840 Speaker 1: expenses while she pursues her comedy ventures is justified. But 226 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 1: you really lost team towards towards the end. Well, I 227 00:10:02,040 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: realized you make some you make some good points. That 228 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: message got warped when you completely blew up and demeaned her. 229 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 1: That totally like all those comments you're not gonna make it. 230 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 1: What are you thinking? Get serious? 231 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 3: You to grow up, that's all. 232 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: There's like a million stories of like, oh, a million 233 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:21,760 Speaker 1: years old and I did this and then it worked 234 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: out that, like and you just you just honestly, you 235 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 1: just don't know you're You're not a successful comedian. 236 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:31,839 Speaker 4: So he also, I think that if I think I'm 237 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:36,199 Speaker 4: kind of looking at this from the lens of, for example, 238 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:39,080 Speaker 4: a family member giving a loan to a person to 239 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 4: help their career. I'm just like, yeah, because that happens 240 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 4: for my dad. His parents how they were like, Hey, 241 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:48,680 Speaker 4: we're going to give you will help you a little 242 00:10:48,679 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 4: bit and you can start this business. 243 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:51,960 Speaker 6: Uh. 244 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:54,079 Speaker 4: And they wouldn't have done that if they didn't believe 245 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 4: in him. So my question is, did he ever believe 246 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:01,120 Speaker 4: in his girlfriend? Did he ever go to anything before 247 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:03,880 Speaker 4: and was he like, Oh, she's pretty funny, I think 248 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 4: she can do this, or was he always like this 249 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 4: isn't gonna work out. She's not funny, she has no 250 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 4: stage presence. 251 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:12,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, Also like I don't know it kind of there's 252 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 1: just like weird middle ground where it's like, yeah, maybe 253 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 1: you don't like even get it initially, but I think 254 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:20,760 Speaker 1: there should be some like I want my partner to 255 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:24,520 Speaker 1: have their dream life that carries you further than your 256 00:11:24,600 --> 00:11:27,200 Speaker 1: belief in them in that. Yeah, there is. It is 257 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:30,320 Speaker 1: a very contextual thing. It very much depends on the situation. 258 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:32,520 Speaker 1: But I don't know this one. 259 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 3: I don't know. 260 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 1: I'm just very sensitive to people telling people not to 261 00:11:39,240 --> 00:11:40,080 Speaker 1: pursue what they want. 262 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:44,679 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean too, I think that everyone can improve 263 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 4: upon things. 264 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: I agree, Yeah, I agree, sound off says ty Nervous says, 265 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:53,080 Speaker 1: was there a discussion on how long you'd be willing 266 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 1: to put the bill before she started working again or 267 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 1: is this left on answer, to which Opie responded, she 268 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: told me she thought she would see significant propubs in 269 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: a year. I didn't agree to help four years. Specifically, 270 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: I should have been more specific then. Yes, she should 271 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:08,240 Speaker 1: have been like, Okay, let's do a year. 272 00:12:08,280 --> 00:12:09,560 Speaker 3: I'm comfortable with that totally. 273 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 1: I think what set me off is that there is 274 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:17,720 Speaker 1: literally zero forward progress, no border, says Softer the a 275 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 1: hole due to burnout. 276 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:20,240 Speaker 3: You have a few options. 277 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 1: You can break up with her so she can follow 278 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 1: her dreams without you supporting her. 279 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:27,080 Speaker 3: Number two support her totally. 280 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: This means figuring out if you can reconcile your feelings 281 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:32,280 Speaker 1: and how your life is. This has to factor in 282 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 1: if she has a good act. Number three, have a 283 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:39,320 Speaker 1: calm discussion about finances. Figure things out like adults, especially 284 00:12:39,320 --> 00:12:41,200 Speaker 1: if you want to get married or stay together. I 285 00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 1: know some comedians. They all have day jobs and then 286 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 1: finally continue to seethe until the relationship ends badly. Yeah, 287 00:12:51,320 --> 00:12:54,559 Speaker 1: kind of sounds like pretty much what their options are 288 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:58,680 Speaker 1: OPI responds, I try to do your option number three, 289 00:12:58,720 --> 00:13:00,719 Speaker 1: which is have a calm discussion, like figure it out, 290 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 1: and she shut it down. That's when I got mad. 291 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 1: I don't know how. I don't know how this is 292 00:13:06,559 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 1: even called support anymore. It's me being used for f's sake. 293 00:13:11,240 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 1: I almost want to tell her I'm going to drop 294 00:13:13,440 --> 00:13:16,680 Speaker 1: my job and hit my college basketball coaches for private 295 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:19,520 Speaker 1: training and say I'm pulling my dream on going to 296 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,439 Speaker 1: the da OPA. 297 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:25,719 Speaker 3: He keeps like, yeah, I. 298 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 4: Think he's it's like he would be in the right, 299 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:29,600 Speaker 4: but he just like keeps. 300 00:13:29,480 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 1: And then he closes it with something that like, okay, 301 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 1: now you're the ad. 302 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:39,239 Speaker 3: Yeah. I want to know, would you support her? Yeah, 303 00:13:39,640 --> 00:13:41,800 Speaker 3: I'm you do it? Super curious? 304 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 4: What would you do? 305 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 1: I am again, I'm kind of partial to I I 306 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:52,800 Speaker 1: kind of empathize with both sides. Yeah, And I think, like, look, 307 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: being again, like supporting one person is hard, supporting two 308 00:13:55,920 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 1: people's even harder. And there's just a very clear misalignment. 309 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 1: And I think he could sit down and be like, hey, 310 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:06,240 Speaker 1: I will continue giving you a good amount of support, 311 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:07,040 Speaker 1: but I. 312 00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:09,960 Speaker 3: Need you to meet me halfway in order for. 313 00:14:09,880 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 1: Me to continue giving you the support, and here's what 314 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:16,520 Speaker 1: we make make make me feel good now. And yeah, 315 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:20,800 Speaker 1: I mean, but in fairness, maybe that is hope. He 316 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:23,280 Speaker 1: didn't expound, but he said that he did sit down 317 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 1: and try to have a calm discussion on where they 318 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 1: can figure out a middle ground. 319 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 3: If he support the girlfriend. 320 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:38,720 Speaker 4: Or now, I think that if this is causing this 321 00:14:38,840 --> 00:14:41,560 Speaker 4: much resentment in him, I think he should only support 322 00:14:41,600 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 4: her if if if he sees a noticeable change or something, 323 00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 4: if he sees that like, hey, you know, we've had 324 00:14:49,320 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 4: that conversation and she's she's doing work and stuff. But 325 00:14:52,520 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 4: I think, honestly, if it's going to cause more resentment, 326 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 4: then just end the relationship. 327 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 3: Yeah. Oh and and the relationship completely. Yeah, it's causing 328 00:14:59,720 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 3: a lot problems. 329 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:03,720 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, I mean on both parts. I think 330 00:15:03,720 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 4: they're both being a little bit a holish. And yeah, 331 00:15:06,960 --> 00:15:08,960 Speaker 4: the TOMA says they need to break up. They're clearly 332 00:15:09,040 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 4: no longer compatible. 333 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 1: Yeah. 334 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:12,200 Speaker 3: I think I think you're probably right. 335 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 1: I think the only other option I would say other 336 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:17,880 Speaker 1: than that is like maybe if she's not willing to 337 00:15:17,920 --> 00:15:20,560 Speaker 1: sit down, maybe he's like, all right, here's what I'm 338 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:24,160 Speaker 1: willing to do. Yeah, if you can't accept this, then 339 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 1: I don't think there's any Yeah, I don't. 340 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't think. 341 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 1: And he's like, because we can sit down, Redneck Amazon says, 342 00:15:30,840 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: if I can afford to do it for a year 343 00:15:33,040 --> 00:15:33,840 Speaker 1: and they make. 344 00:15:33,680 --> 00:15:38,720 Speaker 3: It, I'll never have to work again, the big big if. Yeah. 345 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:42,680 Speaker 1: I mean again, I'm generally like, if you get the 346 00:15:42,760 --> 00:15:46,160 Speaker 1: right ingredients together and you really really go for it, 347 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 1: you will eventually strike across something. 348 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 4: I think that I totally agree that she needs more 349 00:15:55,400 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 4: than you know, a couple months to see if this 350 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:01,560 Speaker 4: is going to be you know, successful or not, or 351 00:16:01,640 --> 00:16:04,240 Speaker 4: you know, have any measure of success because comedy again 352 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:09,240 Speaker 4: is really hard to do and it takes long time. However, 353 00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:11,680 Speaker 4: I think they just need to be more communicative about 354 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:12,960 Speaker 4: what their expectations are. 355 00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 3: Yeah. 356 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:17,880 Speaker 1: Oh ah, oh, I was just gonna say, Actually, Redneck Amazon, 357 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:22,280 Speaker 1: I honestly disagree, because I don't think. 358 00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:24,400 Speaker 3: I don't think it's either she like makes. 359 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:28,080 Speaker 1: It, makes it hits a million, or yeah at zero. 360 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:31,000 Speaker 1: I think it's probably more realistically like maybe they have 361 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: like a paid membership that supports them, like literally pretty 362 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 1: similar to what our like business looks like. 363 00:16:38,240 --> 00:16:43,800 Speaker 4: Most comedians do not become you know, world stars. Yeah, 364 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:46,320 Speaker 4: they're I mean, they might have a success, Like it's 365 00:16:46,320 --> 00:16:49,480 Speaker 4: same for actors. They might have you know, a bunch 366 00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:51,840 Speaker 4: they're going on a bunch of auditions, they're getting the 367 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:54,920 Speaker 4: booking commercials, but they're not let's say, you know, the 368 00:16:55,280 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 4: Meryl Streeps of the world. And to that same extent, 369 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 4: they're not the John Mlanie's of the world. But they're 370 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:04,159 Speaker 4: still having a career, which is like a nine to 371 00:17:04,160 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 4: five for them. 372 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:06,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think a lot of people do 373 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:09,000 Speaker 1: with like Patreon other things now people do like yeah. 374 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:10,960 Speaker 4: And they're still doing you know, they're still doing maybe 375 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:14,160 Speaker 4: not like billionaires, but they're still having a measure of success. 376 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:16,040 Speaker 2: Even making full of what were we gonna say, Riley, Oh, 377 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:18,960 Speaker 2: he's probably not supporting her because she's a female comedian 378 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:20,560 Speaker 2: and he's probably women are funny. 379 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:24,160 Speaker 4: And that's my question. I'm like, in that case, why 380 00:17:24,160 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 4: would he ever agree to this if if he didn't 381 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:29,040 Speaker 4: think she was funny to begin with? Yeah, Like, why 382 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 4: would he ever agree with this? 383 00:17:30,520 --> 00:17:33,399 Speaker 1: But it's hard because you kind of always suck to 384 00:17:33,440 --> 00:17:35,840 Speaker 1: a certain extent in the beginning. 385 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:39,720 Speaker 4: Yes, absolutely, I do think that is true. But I 386 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:45,960 Speaker 4: think that I'm just asking for him specifically. Yeah, I 387 00:17:46,040 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 4: have different thoughts on this for him, specifically the fact 388 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 4: that this resentment is coming up now of like you'll 389 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:52,840 Speaker 4: never make it? Did he always think that? 390 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:53,359 Speaker 1: Right? 391 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:54,760 Speaker 3: Why didn't he? 392 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:55,120 Speaker 1: Yeah? 393 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:59,439 Speaker 3: Mmunicate something bad? Galaxy C says She's she's set up 394 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:01,879 Speaker 3: the relationship to use it for her. 395 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 4: Well, it's just like I wanted something to I wanted 396 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:04,560 Speaker 4: to tell you. 397 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:07,040 Speaker 1: I mean, I agree, which honestly could it? I mean, 398 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:11,440 Speaker 1: like many people support their other like literally a stay 399 00:18:11,480 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: at home mom or a stay at home spouse. You know, 400 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 1: like a lot of people have that, but they both agree, Yeah, 401 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:18,560 Speaker 1: to do that in a relationship. 402 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:20,919 Speaker 4: Yeah, there wasn't enough communication in this relationship. 403 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:24,200 Speaker 1: But you know, there is a lot of great communication 404 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:27,960 Speaker 1: in this relationship, and I have to communicate that. I 405 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:31,240 Speaker 1: want to hear another story. Whoa, That's what I'm communicating to. 406 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:31,680 Speaker 3: You right now. 407 00:18:31,680 --> 00:18:34,800 Speaker 4: I'm going to communicate that story right in teer ears. 408 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:36,280 Speaker 3: Heck, yeah, I. 409 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:39,280 Speaker 4: Thought I had the perfect life, but my husband just 410 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:42,040 Speaker 4: left me. What do I do? And John, you want 411 00:18:42,040 --> 00:18:43,120 Speaker 4: to know something crazy? 412 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:43,400 Speaker 3: What? 413 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:44,800 Speaker 4: This is an Okay story too? 414 00:18:46,119 --> 00:18:48,240 Speaker 3: Oh my gord, straight from. 415 00:18:48,119 --> 00:18:49,920 Speaker 4: The Okay story time sub reddit. 416 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 3: From the family. 417 00:18:51,080 --> 00:18:55,159 Speaker 4: Our slash Okay story time. Mm hmm so Prairie Mama 418 00:18:55,200 --> 00:18:59,280 Speaker 4: thirty three and if You're if You're here, sound off says, 419 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:03,960 Speaker 4: this story starts two years ago. I, twenty seven female, 420 00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:07,360 Speaker 4: was living my dream life amazing husband twenty six male, 421 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:10,719 Speaker 4: a son two, and I was two months pregnant with 422 00:19:10,800 --> 00:19:14,399 Speaker 4: our second. We lived on a cute acreage with goats, ducks, 423 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:15,000 Speaker 4: and chickens. 424 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:16,359 Speaker 3: Fire. That's great. 425 00:19:16,920 --> 00:19:19,720 Speaker 4: I had a huge garden that I love spending time in. 426 00:19:20,080 --> 00:19:23,600 Speaker 4: Then one day my husband says, we need to talk. 427 00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:28,920 Speaker 2: By the way, this is literally my house. We're about 428 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:32,120 Speaker 2: to get chickens. I had chicken like, this is literally 429 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:33,919 Speaker 2: my house. We don't have ducks, but we do have 430 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:35,360 Speaker 2: goats in a garden. 431 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:37,640 Speaker 3: That's awesome. That's great. 432 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:40,639 Speaker 4: This is never a good sign. As many of you know, 433 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 4: I assumed he wanted to discuss money, as things have 434 00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:45,840 Speaker 4: been tight for us lately, but I never could have 435 00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:48,000 Speaker 4: guessed the next words out. 436 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:48,320 Speaker 3: Of his mouth. 437 00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:51,040 Speaker 4: He begins telling me how he's not in love with me, 438 00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:53,960 Speaker 4: how he feels like he's drowning and needs to feel happy. 439 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:56,600 Speaker 4: He says he knows I feel this way too. WHOA 440 00:19:57,400 --> 00:20:00,440 Speaker 4: that is not true. He says he's going to staying 441 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,159 Speaker 4: at his family's place to get some space. I agree 442 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:05,399 Speaker 4: that it sounds like he needs a reset. That maybe 443 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:07,000 Speaker 4: we can talk about what we can do to bring 444 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:11,080 Speaker 4: us together and reignite that spark. At this point in 445 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 4: our lives, we have been together nine years, two of 446 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:16,520 Speaker 4: them married. I'm also quite in shock at this point, 447 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:19,399 Speaker 4: and things have not sunk in yet. When he comes 448 00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:22,119 Speaker 4: back the next day, I suggest we could do counseling together, 449 00:20:22,280 --> 00:20:24,639 Speaker 4: or we could do planned date nights. I ask if 450 00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:27,399 Speaker 4: his depression is causing some of these feelings. He says 451 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:30,800 Speaker 4: no to everything, that he's felt this way for months 452 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:33,879 Speaker 4: and is trying to fix it. I'm shocked. As we 453 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:36,240 Speaker 4: planned and made a baby in the last few months. 454 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 4: I saw no warning signs. How could he not tell 455 00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:42,560 Speaker 4: me he had been feeling this way. Why try to 456 00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:45,080 Speaker 4: fix it all on your own? One day it was fine, 457 00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 4: the next it was it wasn't. I was devastated. He 458 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 4: packed his bags that night and left. I felt utterly blindsided. 459 00:20:53,359 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 4: I went from being a happy wife and mother to 460 00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:58,040 Speaker 4: a scared single mother with another on the way. My 461 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,840 Speaker 4: ex came to see his son occasionally. He was almost 462 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 4: always late or canceled. It was like he became a 463 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:06,719 Speaker 4: new person, as he was always a wonderful dad. I 464 00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:08,959 Speaker 4: was left to haul bales in water for all our 465 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:11,880 Speaker 4: animals on my own. I was actively trying to find 466 00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:14,600 Speaker 4: new homes for them, but that takes time. I was 467 00:21:14,640 --> 00:21:17,000 Speaker 4: scared most days that I would go into labor by 468 00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:19,439 Speaker 4: myself with my two year old son on the acre. 469 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:22,000 Speaker 3: Wait, I forgot she was pregnant. 470 00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:25,440 Speaker 4: She's pregnant, so she's she's not only taking care of 471 00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:28,080 Speaker 4: two year old son, she's also pregnant and taking care 472 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 4: of all the animals. 473 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 3: Of a farm by herself. 474 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:36,320 Speaker 4: What Devil's Advocate says, Yes, the old Oh a baby 475 00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:41,200 Speaker 4: will fix everything. Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, Prairie Prairie. 476 00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:45,840 Speaker 1: Oh that's Prairie mama. Like I think, like obviously she'd 477 00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:49,359 Speaker 1: communicated before. Yeah, look, if you're not feeling it, leave whatever, 478 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:52,719 Speaker 1: But that does not mean you can abandon kids. 479 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:57,879 Speaker 3: And also I think, uh, co parent duties to the 480 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 3: other co parent. You get what I'm saying. 481 00:22:01,480 --> 00:22:04,639 Speaker 1: So it's like when you're in a co parenting partnership, 482 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,159 Speaker 1: there is like like, for instance, like oh man, I 483 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,040 Speaker 1: can't do it. Okay, I got you. Let me help 484 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 1: you out here. There there is this like give and 485 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:15,119 Speaker 1: take that. Yes, it involves a children, but actually also 486 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:17,440 Speaker 1: there's just a lot of like kind of taking care 487 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:21,320 Speaker 1: of the other co parent in a way, a very 488 00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:22,639 Speaker 1: healthy co parenting relationship. 489 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:24,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, especially because she's pregnant. 490 00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:26,000 Speaker 3: Especially because she's pregnant. 491 00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:28,919 Speaker 4: I think in this situation he should have given a 492 00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:37,800 Speaker 4: two week's notice, personally, each kid four week's notice. 493 00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 3: Four weeks notice. 494 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 4: I would like, obviously still continue co parenting, but I 495 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:43,639 Speaker 4: don't think you like when you have animals and a 496 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:47,359 Speaker 4: child and another child on the way. I don't think 497 00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:52,439 Speaker 4: you could just leave. He sucks. I'm so sorry. Fast 498 00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:57,560 Speaker 4: forward three months to Christmas time. Of course, the holidays 499 00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,679 Speaker 4: are hard for any newly separated people with kids. We 500 00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:03,040 Speaker 4: decided that we would alternate each year who has the 501 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:06,040 Speaker 4: kids on Christmas Day and Christmas Eve. Christmas Day has 502 00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:08,479 Speaker 4: always been an important time for my ex's family, so 503 00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:10,960 Speaker 4: I said I would take Christmas Eve and he could 504 00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:13,680 Speaker 4: have Christmas Day with our son. That that's really tough. 505 00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:16,640 Speaker 4: On New Year's I found out from a lady down 506 00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:18,880 Speaker 4: the street that my ex has been seeing a new 507 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:24,080 Speaker 4: woman a lot of you called it maybe cheating ooh, 508 00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:28,639 Speaker 4: that he introduced to our son by spending Christmas Day 509 00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:31,359 Speaker 4: with her without telling me about it. I think that's 510 00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:35,800 Speaker 4: really unacceptable. I think that all new partners should be 511 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 4: one introduced and two also just at least at the 512 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:43,840 Speaker 4: very least mentioned to your X yes, when children are involved, 513 00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:46,840 Speaker 4: because I think that bringing new people around kids is 514 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:48,920 Speaker 4: you gotta get both parents consent. 515 00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:53,080 Speaker 1: As long as both parties are like reasonably same yes, reasonable, 516 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,920 Speaker 1: get on the same page about all major decisions. 517 00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:59,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, because that's not okay. I also found out at 518 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,920 Speaker 4: this time that this is a woman he has been 519 00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:05,480 Speaker 4: seeing since the moment he left our house. I knew 520 00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 4: he would meet someone else someday, but I didn't think 521 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,120 Speaker 4: he would introduce our kid to her without at least 522 00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:12,200 Speaker 4: the discussion of how we are going to go about 523 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:15,840 Speaker 4: introducing new partners to our kids. To add to all this, 524 00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:19,040 Speaker 4: this woman was a woman I had met before. He 525 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:20,119 Speaker 4: was so cheating. 526 00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:20,879 Speaker 3: He was so cheating. 527 00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:24,880 Speaker 4: My husband has introduced me to her. Needless to say, 528 00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,040 Speaker 4: I had a very rough night finding out all of 529 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 4: that information. I had a panic attack and had to 530 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:34,280 Speaker 4: spend New Year's Eve in the hospital. No and that 531 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:36,320 Speaker 4: is also the day that she had loves. 532 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:37,119 Speaker 3: The most and. 533 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 4: Ah, they monitored the baby and the baby's fine. I 534 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:44,920 Speaker 4: went home in the morning. To this day, I'm still 535 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:47,080 Speaker 4: feeling immense guilt for how much stress I put my 536 00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:49,159 Speaker 4: youngest through when I was pregnant with her. That is 537 00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 4: not your fault. I pulled myself together each day to 538 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:54,399 Speaker 4: be a good mom for my son, and in the 539 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,920 Speaker 4: evenings I cried myself to sleep in the expanse of 540 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 4: my large empty bed. In this I gave birth to 541 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:03,960 Speaker 4: a beautiful baby with my mother beside me for support. 542 00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:08,040 Speaker 4: My brother, mom, dad, friends, and my ex's family came 543 00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:10,800 Speaker 4: through for me after the birth and all took turns 544 00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:14,560 Speaker 4: staying with me. They helped with housewurk, looking after my 545 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,119 Speaker 4: son and the baby while I recovered from my C section. 546 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:20,480 Speaker 4: Fast forward to one year after the separation. I asked 547 00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,520 Speaker 4: for a divorce, which my ex refuses for some ridiculous reason. 548 00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:26,920 Speaker 4: He gets caught cheating on his girlfriend with some other girl, 549 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 4: so now he's onto girlfriend number two. Uhhhhh Jesus. I 550 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,840 Speaker 4: get a call from girlfriend number one where she told 551 00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:37,159 Speaker 4: me that my ex told her that I was cheating 552 00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:41,239 Speaker 4: on him and that's why he left me. So he's 553 00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 4: a freaking liar and a cheater, projecting hippocritat hippocrets. She's 554 00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:52,440 Speaker 4: also thought. She also thought that we were already separated 555 00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:55,560 Speaker 4: when they started seeing each other, but she found out 556 00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:57,880 Speaker 4: later that was not true. 557 00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:58,600 Speaker 3: We called it. 558 00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:02,480 Speaker 4: We called it, oh boy. The reason she called, though, 559 00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:05,160 Speaker 4: was to apologize for any part she played in ending 560 00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:07,840 Speaker 4: my marriage. I thought that was kind of her, but 561 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:10,240 Speaker 4: no matter what, she will always be the other woman 562 00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:12,639 Speaker 4: to me, even though I understand it's not her faults. 563 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:15,760 Speaker 4: It was me. It was my ex's choice. Now my 564 00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:18,200 Speaker 4: ex lives a few provinces away with the new girl. 565 00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,720 Speaker 4: Fast forward to now, I am still trying to get divorced. 566 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,520 Speaker 4: He's at least agreed to it, but there always seemed 567 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:27,160 Speaker 4: to be a hold up of some kind. I am 568 00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,040 Speaker 4: living in a new house that's all my own, with 569 00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:32,000 Speaker 4: my two beautiful children. I am content and happy with 570 00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:35,480 Speaker 4: my life, but I am deeply lonely. How will I 571 00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,679 Speaker 4: ever heal from the trauma of this To trust a 572 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:40,480 Speaker 4: new person. I don't want to spend my life alone, 573 00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:43,080 Speaker 4: but I feel damaged in a way that is not fixable. 574 00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:46,159 Speaker 4: And again, this is to answer the question of what 575 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:50,760 Speaker 4: thoughts should remain unsaid, And I think in this context 576 00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:56,520 Speaker 4: it's the husband's dissatisfaction with his life and marriage that 577 00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:59,320 Speaker 4: should not be remain that should not remain unsaid. I 578 00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:02,800 Speaker 4: think you should that as soon as possible, otherwise it builds, 579 00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:05,360 Speaker 4: you know, and then like. 580 00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:09,760 Speaker 1: At least if you're going to leave a relationship because 581 00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: there's kids involved, and she's pregnant, and they've got animals, 582 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:17,399 Speaker 1: and they've got animals, like you have to have so 583 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:21,239 Speaker 1: much like there's there's so much too to deal with 584 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,879 Speaker 1: their initially yeah, all on. 585 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:26,359 Speaker 2: He just knows that if they get divorced, he has 586 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:29,560 Speaker 2: to pay for both kids and child support for the animals, and. 587 00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:31,720 Speaker 4: It's going to go on her side because there's infidel names. 588 00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:34,879 Speaker 3: Animal support, dude animal and will support sounds expense. No. 589 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:37,320 Speaker 4: And I also to answer the question of how do 590 00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:40,520 Speaker 4: you move on from that? I think that you have 591 00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:44,160 Speaker 4: gone through something very difficult and by no means your fault. 592 00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:47,679 Speaker 4: But I do think that you're not like this is 593 00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:51,920 Speaker 4: not forever. I think that no, one, there's not a finite. 594 00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:54,159 Speaker 4: I'm out of love for a person out there, and 595 00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:56,200 Speaker 4: I think that you can always find that and once 596 00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:57,480 Speaker 4: you are ready to look for it. 597 00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it'll probably take some therapy. 598 00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:03,240 Speaker 4: Think yeah, absolutely, I think you need time to heal. 599 00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:07,080 Speaker 4: But I don't think that you're going like you're going 600 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:07,960 Speaker 4: to have that again. 601 00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 3: And for the poll for is that other woman in 602 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 3: the wrong. 603 00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,520 Speaker 1: Sixty two percent no, thirty eight percent said yes, though 604 00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:16,919 Speaker 1: I don't think she's. 605 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:18,840 Speaker 4: She didn't know. She didn't know, she didn't know, so 606 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:20,440 Speaker 4: she assumed that they were separated. 607 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: The only argument I think you could make is he 608 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:28,520 Speaker 1: probably he probably it was still a lie. He probably 609 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:30,200 Speaker 1: didn't say it was like, oh, it's it was a 610 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,280 Speaker 1: year or two ago. He probably was like, oh, it 611 00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:33,480 Speaker 1: was just recent, maybe like a. 612 00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:35,600 Speaker 3: Month or more time. 613 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, but maybe it's like, okay, don't get together with 614 00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 1: someone a month after their year. 615 00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,360 Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, I wouldn't recommend it, but you know 616 00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:42,840 Speaker 4: she didn't. 617 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:45,200 Speaker 1: It doesn't Yeah, it doesn't make her. That wasn't her 618 00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,200 Speaker 1: like purposely hurting anyone or yeah. 619 00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:51,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's the end of that story. And he 620 00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:57,400 Speaker 4: is another story there is. 621 00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:58,480 Speaker 3: Is there not? That's thanks for lying to me. 622 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:01,440 Speaker 4: I'm so sorry, so sorry. 623 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,280 Speaker 3: Well, guys, that's a rabbits. 624 00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:10,520 Speaker 1: It'll do if you love us, make sure to subscribe. 625 00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:11,920 Speaker 4: We Love You and sinamorrow. 626 00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:16,280 Speaker 6: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives. 627 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 3: Time for okop Relash. 628 00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:24,160 Speaker 5: I told my stepdaughter to stop throwing her inchy period 629 00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:27,760 Speaker 5: products in the shared bathroom because it makes my buzz 630 00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,320 Speaker 5: feel uncomfortable. I've been living with my new wife and 631 00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:33,720 Speaker 5: stepdaughter for about six months now. She's nineteen, almost twenty, 632 00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:37,280 Speaker 5: and I have three sons aged sixteen, eighteen, and fifteen. 633 00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:38,600 Speaker 3: Oh so many crusty socks. 634 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:38,920 Speaker 6: Yeah. 635 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,120 Speaker 5: She's a really good kid, and she's a good influence 636 00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:43,520 Speaker 5: on my son. I really enjoy having her around. My 637 00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,440 Speaker 5: wife and her daughter moved into my house and sold theirs. 638 00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:49,560 Speaker 5: My stepdaughter's father isn't present in her life, nor is 639 00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:52,480 Speaker 5: my son's mother. All four children share a bathroom. My 640 00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:54,720 Speaker 5: sons have never lived for a long period of time 641 00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:56,960 Speaker 5: with a woman, nor have any of them had long 642 00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,760 Speaker 5: term girlfriends, so living with two women has been on 643 00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,480 Speaker 5: usual for them. My eldest son, eighteen, came to me 644 00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:05,680 Speaker 5: last week and told me that his stepsister disposes of 645 00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:09,440 Speaker 5: her use sanitary products in the trash can they share, 646 00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:13,720 Speaker 5: but doesn't use toilet rule or sandwich bags disguise what 647 00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:15,920 Speaker 5: they are and it makes him uncomfortable. 648 00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:17,840 Speaker 3: Dad, What are you doing? What you're doing, daddy? 649 00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:19,960 Speaker 5: My sons are teenage boys and don't want to see 650 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:24,280 Speaker 5: their stepsisters period products in full display. Ew God forbid. 651 00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:26,200 Speaker 5: They pick it up and use it as a paintbrush 652 00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 5: to create some art. 653 00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:29,120 Speaker 3: I'd become multi millionaires. 654 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:31,440 Speaker 5: And a few nights ago, I went to the kitchen 655 00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,320 Speaker 5: to grab a snack and she was there doing some 656 00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:35,640 Speaker 5: work for university. My wife had mentioned that she knew 657 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,000 Speaker 5: she was on her period, so I took it as 658 00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,600 Speaker 5: my opportunity to have a word with her. Ah. I 659 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:44,160 Speaker 5: told her my sons were uncomfortable with her period shit 660 00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,200 Speaker 5: all over the apartment, and I asked her if she'd 661 00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:50,040 Speaker 5: mind putting her used products in a diaper bag or 662 00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:53,160 Speaker 5: flushing them down the toilet, which if you've ever been 663 00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:56,560 Speaker 5: on an airplane, or if you've ever been in a house, 664 00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:59,960 Speaker 5: or ever been in like a restaurant bathroom, they always say, 665 00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:03,360 Speaker 5: I don't flush the period products down the toilet, you 666 00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:06,760 Speaker 5: clog your pipes. My stepdaughter left and told me it 667 00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,440 Speaker 5: was quite rich coming from a man who sheds like 668 00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:13,280 Speaker 5: a gorilla and has produced three skid marking sons, which 669 00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:17,520 Speaker 5: I thought was an unnecessary attack. Bro, I've been nothing 670 00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,200 Speaker 5: but nice to the girl and it's hardly a comparison. 671 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:24,440 Speaker 5: My son shouldn't be subjected to her unhygienic products if 672 00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,640 Speaker 5: it makes them uncomfortable. She went on to lecture me 673 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,600 Speaker 5: about how tampons can't be flushed, which is true, and 674 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:31,880 Speaker 5: that it's bad for the environment if she uses diaper 675 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,920 Speaker 5: bags for everyone, which I think is just an excuse. 676 00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:35,960 Speaker 3: Do get it, bro. 677 00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,400 Speaker 5: I called her a scruff and told her that this 678 00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:41,240 Speaker 5: was my house and what I say goes a scruff. 679 00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 5: I later asked my wife if she could have a 680 00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,440 Speaker 5: word with her, and she told me I was being 681 00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:48,560 Speaker 5: ridiculous and that her daughter has had her period for 682 00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:49,560 Speaker 5: ten years. 683 00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:50,400 Speaker 6: And know what she's doing. 684 00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:51,160 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. 685 00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:53,480 Speaker 5: When I told her it was making my son to uncomfortable, 686 00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:55,800 Speaker 5: she says my sons need to get a grip and 687 00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:59,520 Speaker 5: stop being such lame virgins and went to sleep. That's 688 00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:02,160 Speaker 5: what is my I've said, no, oh, this is a 689 00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:04,240 Speaker 5: genuine issue to me, and she didn't care enough to 690 00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:06,760 Speaker 5: have a discussion about it. I asked my stepdaughter again 691 00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 5: in the morning, and she did the same as her mother, 692 00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:10,760 Speaker 5: completely dismissed it. Both of them have told me to 693 00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:13,360 Speaker 5: stop being so silly, But I don't see how I'm 694 00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:16,680 Speaker 5: being unreasonable when it makes my son's uncomfortable? 695 00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:17,560 Speaker 3: Am I the a hole? 696 00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:17,920 Speaker 6: Oh? 697 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:18,280 Speaker 3: Man? 698 00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:20,760 Speaker 1: Some people, some people just don't get it, Sam, No, 699 00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:22,920 Speaker 1: they don't. You know what could happen? This could turn 700 00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:25,520 Speaker 1: into a nuclear revenge where she's like, oh, you want 701 00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:28,240 Speaker 1: me to flush them down? Bet So she gets like 702 00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,200 Speaker 1: a bunch of diapers and just like all of her 703 00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:32,760 Speaker 1: tampons and just constantly clawed. 704 00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:36,600 Speaker 5: Like I'm talking like little kIPS are freaking destroyed. 705 00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then the son's like dead toil is not working, 706 00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:43,360 Speaker 1: blah blah blah. It's like, well, sorry, my disgusting existence 707 00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:44,360 Speaker 1: causes clogged toilets. 708 00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:44,479 Speaker 3: Bro. 709 00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:45,440 Speaker 6: But there's an update. 710 00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:45,960 Speaker 3: Oh god. 711 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,560 Speaker 5: Not even two hours after I posted this, my wife 712 00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:51,720 Speaker 5: and step daughter gathered my sons and I and gave 713 00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:55,800 Speaker 5: us a full intensive periods for Pricks course power point 714 00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:58,400 Speaker 5: at all. It was a whot. They made an interactive 715 00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:00,960 Speaker 5: quiz and everything. My son's and I learned a lot 716 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:02,640 Speaker 5: and apologized to my stepdaughter. 717 00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:03,680 Speaker 3: Hey there we go. 718 00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:06,479 Speaker 5: That's a good add At least at least OP learned 719 00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:08,920 Speaker 5: shout out, shout out those. I'm just like, I'm like 720 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:13,640 Speaker 5: surprised that this old man, this middle aged man, is 721 00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:14,520 Speaker 5: so clueless. 722 00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:16,800 Speaker 6: I mean, I live with a woman, and. 723 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:17,480 Speaker 5: Yeah you do. 724 00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:20,080 Speaker 3: That literally is like. 725 00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:25,920 Speaker 5: Shout out as about sharing a bathroom, Yes, with a woman. 726 00:33:26,640 --> 00:33:32,080 Speaker 5: There's hair fucking everywhere. Bro's everywhere, that's right, And there's 727 00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:36,280 Speaker 5: and there's a billion different hair products. There's no space 728 00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:39,480 Speaker 5: on the counter, there's no space on the little shower thing. 729 00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,400 Speaker 6: It's everywhere, and there's so much. 730 00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:44,880 Speaker 1: Stop becoming a peasant and become a king like me 731 00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:50,480 Speaker 1: and have sex. Two bathrooms, you know, one bathroom for 732 00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:51,960 Speaker 1: every single person in your house. 733 00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:53,600 Speaker 6: That's what we need. That's what we need. 734 00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:57,240 Speaker 1: Literally, just break down the walls, break down all of it. 735 00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:01,560 Speaker 1: Build three extra no, two extra bathroomsho extra bathrooms. 736 00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:03,680 Speaker 3: Make the living room bathrooms. 737 00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:08,880 Speaker 5: Ooh wow, put a porta potty in the living room. 738 00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:10,360 Speaker 3: So promsolved. 739 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:12,680 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for calling out my kid's 740 00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:15,839 Speaker 1: future step mom for treating me like a surrogate? 741 00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:20,399 Speaker 5: Okop, this is Okayop. I'm Samuel Donner and I'm John Fry, 742 00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:24,439 Speaker 5: and John, please tell me your tales that you do 743 00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:25,080 Speaker 5: so well? 744 00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:27,280 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for calling out my kid's 745 00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:29,520 Speaker 1: future step mom for treating. 746 00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:30,400 Speaker 3: Me like a surrogate. 747 00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:34,640 Speaker 5: Oh god, When you got surrogates and husbands and wives 748 00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:37,759 Speaker 5: mixed together, it's a recipe for disaster. 749 00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:41,120 Speaker 1: I twenty nine female, dated a guy, Joe thirty mail 750 00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:44,120 Speaker 1: for three months before he left me to go back 751 00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,400 Speaker 1: to his ex Kim, Yikes. 752 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:47,880 Speaker 6: Turn off with the bangs. 753 00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:49,680 Speaker 1: Start off with the bank today, ladies and gentlemen. Right 754 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,240 Speaker 1: before we broke up, I found out I was pregnant 755 00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:55,800 Speaker 1: and now I am twenty four weeks in with his baby, 756 00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:58,520 Speaker 1: with his baby, with freaking Joe's baby. 757 00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:03,839 Speaker 5: I let him know and he was ecstatic. How how 758 00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:04,759 Speaker 5: are you ecstatic? 759 00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:08,520 Speaker 1: Turns out his girlfriend had fertility issues and would likely 760 00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:11,000 Speaker 1: never be able to get pregnant naturally, and he had 761 00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:12,560 Speaker 1: always wanted to be a father. 762 00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:15,480 Speaker 6: Bro, this is weird. 763 00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:19,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, getting back together was out. 764 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:21,520 Speaker 1: Of the question for both of us, so he is 765 00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:24,880 Speaker 1: currently still with that girlfriend. Joe was not allowed at 766 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,959 Speaker 1: the initial appointment because of COVID nineteen, and we found 767 00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,360 Speaker 1: out that I was having twins. 768 00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:32,320 Speaker 3: Oh God. The trouble. 769 00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:35,000 Speaker 1: According to Joe, when he told Tim, she had a 770 00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:38,680 Speaker 1: mental breakdown about her own infertility, and she wanted to 771 00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:40,520 Speaker 1: talk to me. I met them at their house and 772 00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,400 Speaker 1: Kim started to say that she wanted to be involved 773 00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:47,600 Speaker 1: in my pregnancy because she would eventually be the child's stepmother. 774 00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:49,960 Speaker 5: Thing is, I don't know what's normal in this situation, 775 00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:50,720 Speaker 5: because it's weird. 776 00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:51,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's very strange. 777 00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:54,239 Speaker 1: She started telling me that I needed to do an 778 00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:57,839 Speaker 1: at home birth, that I needed to formula feed so 779 00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:01,000 Speaker 1: they could have the baby half of the week, and 780 00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:03,720 Speaker 1: that she wanted one boy and one girl. 781 00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:08,319 Speaker 5: That's not even biologically possible. But how do you think 782 00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,839 Speaker 5: you have ownership over this woman that you don't even 783 00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:11,920 Speaker 5: really know me. 784 00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:14,480 Speaker 3: I'd be like, you're telling me how I'm giving birth. 785 00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:15,920 Speaker 6: This is my baby. 786 00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:20,080 Speaker 1: Kim wanted the kids to call her mama, since they 787 00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:22,440 Speaker 1: would be calling me mommy. 788 00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:24,440 Speaker 6: The audacity for the audacity. 789 00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:26,960 Speaker 3: Bro Op wasn't having it. 790 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:29,719 Speaker 1: I shut her down, and I said I would make 791 00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:33,240 Speaker 1: the best choices for my children and my body and left. 792 00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:38,319 Speaker 1: I think the craziest thing is at home birds, because 793 00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:41,520 Speaker 1: it's like I am pushing twins out of this thing. 794 00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,640 Speaker 1: I am getting the medical attention that I want for that, 795 00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:50,200 Speaker 1: not one that you want. Progressive Kim continued to be 796 00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:55,080 Speaker 1: overbearing and texting me every single day about my eating habits, 797 00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,920 Speaker 1: exercise habits, and going on about her job. Wouldn't let 798 00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:00,680 Speaker 1: her take a maternity. 799 00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:03,520 Speaker 3: You're not have it a because you're not freaking pregnant. 800 00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:05,560 Speaker 3: You you fool. 801 00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:09,440 Speaker 1: At the virtual genetics counseling appointment, she attended instead of 802 00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:13,000 Speaker 1: Joe and took over the whole meeting, trying to talk 803 00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:16,520 Speaker 1: about her family history, which wasn't relevant. You're not related, 804 00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:20,960 Speaker 1: You're not related. This is all irrelevant information, you freaking idiots. 805 00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,000 Speaker 5: I don't know if you've ever seen that episode of 806 00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:26,200 Speaker 5: the Office where like Michael is taking care of Jan's 807 00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:28,880 Speaker 5: baby it's not even his, Like this is that scenario. 808 00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:36,000 Speaker 4: Oh god, now this baby will be related to Michael through. 809 00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:38,680 Speaker 3: Collusion. 810 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,479 Speaker 1: When it came time for my twenty week Level two scan, 811 00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:44,719 Speaker 1: they allowed me one guest and Joe suggested that I 812 00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:47,440 Speaker 1: take Kim instead of him, which I refuse to do. 813 00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:50,440 Speaker 5: Also, why is Joe so absent from this process? Like 814 00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:53,040 Speaker 5: he was so excited at again initially, but now I 815 00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:53,920 Speaker 5: can't even show up. 816 00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:56,800 Speaker 3: This is actually his child, Kim. 817 00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:59,720 Speaker 6: The family history is actually important. 818 00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:02,319 Speaker 1: As Actually element Joe did end up coming and he 819 00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:04,719 Speaker 1: found out the gender. Because I wanted to keep it 820 00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,320 Speaker 1: a surprise for me so we could throw a gender 821 00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:10,440 Speaker 1: reveal party. I put a pregnancy announcement on my social media, 822 00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:12,920 Speaker 1: and then we put up an announcement saying that we 823 00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:17,000 Speaker 1: are expecting twins the non traditional way, and how blessed she. 824 00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:21,520 Speaker 6: Was on traditional. Oh you mean birth from your boyfriend. 825 00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:27,640 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, your boyfriend's like freaking traditional. I was irritated, 826 00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:29,960 Speaker 1: but I kept my mouth shut. Then she threw a 827 00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:33,400 Speaker 1: gender reveal party and posted it on social media, to 828 00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:36,920 Speaker 1: which I wasn't even invited, and Ope wanted that to 829 00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:41,160 Speaker 1: be a surprise for her, for her child, who she's 830 00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:43,280 Speaker 1: carrying in her stomach. 831 00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:45,880 Speaker 3: Getting worked up? What is the world. 832 00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:50,160 Speaker 1: She also announced that she'd be having a baby shower. 833 00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:54,160 Speaker 5: Oh my god, dude, I commented on her baby. Dude, 834 00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:57,279 Speaker 5: we're just getting worn down. It's not your baby. But 835 00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,600 Speaker 5: it's not your baby. 836 00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:03,280 Speaker 1: I commented on her posts and told her to stop 837 00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:06,480 Speaker 1: treating me like a surrogate and the kids weren't hers, 838 00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:09,839 Speaker 1: and that Joe didn't have any claim or custody of 839 00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:12,440 Speaker 1: the kids until they are born. I then called Joe 840 00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:15,400 Speaker 1: and reiterated all of this and stated that I would 841 00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,600 Speaker 1: not be seeing either of them until we went to 842 00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,800 Speaker 1: family court and that my mother would be my birthing partner. 843 00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,080 Speaker 1: He and Kim and some of her friends and family 844 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:25,399 Speaker 1: are saying that I'm the a hole, and her mother 845 00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:28,719 Speaker 1: even called that I insisted and I give her one 846 00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:31,520 Speaker 1: of my babies. Like this isn't the parent trap. 847 00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:34,440 Speaker 5: Kim's mom wants oh P to give away one of 848 00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:38,600 Speaker 5: her children to this freaking delusional person that I guess 849 00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:42,400 Speaker 5: wants a child so bad, so like making up this fantasy. 850 00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:44,839 Speaker 1: Yeah, like hey, we can bamboozle one of the kids 851 00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:46,760 Speaker 1: into thinking that she's from Kim. 852 00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:48,520 Speaker 3: So am I the ahole? No? 853 00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:51,440 Speaker 5: No, do not, I think you're the ahle. It's your kids, bro, 854 00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:58,839 Speaker 5: it's your the baby daddy's kids. And this freaking girlfriend, 855 00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:02,279 Speaker 5: this Kim over here is Kim has Kim Karen. This 856 00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:07,080 Speaker 5: is she has no claim over these children, and like 857 00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:11,360 Speaker 5: treating her like a surrogate, that's that's no bueno, even. 858 00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:13,719 Speaker 1: Worse than a surrogate, because a surrogate is like I 859 00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,200 Speaker 1: am intentionally choosing to have your child. This is you 860 00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:20,160 Speaker 1: gn paid, they're getting paid, Like this is like worse 861 00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:22,680 Speaker 1: than that because It's like, listen, this isn't a surrogate. 862 00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:23,120 Speaker 3: I'm me. 863 00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,840 Speaker 1: I'm having a baby that's not yours, so get the 864 00:40:26,920 --> 00:40:27,640 Speaker 1: f out of my life. 865 00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:31,680 Speaker 5: Yeah bro, this is uh freaking nuts, but like you 866 00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:34,760 Speaker 5: know what, you should never take out of your life 867 00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:36,080 Speaker 5: and you should always. 868 00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:37,680 Speaker 3: Have a bond with OKOP. 869 00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:44,160 Speaker 5: Yeah us, follow us, subscribe everywhere you watch you know, follow. 870 00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:46,040 Speaker 3: Us and subscribe and we'll see you next time. 871 00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:46,560 Speaker 6: See you soon.