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Speaker 1: second date of to day. It's creepy or not creepy?
Speaker 1: Somebody reading poetry to you on a first date in
Speaker 1: front of a big crowd. Uh. I can't decide. I
Speaker 1: need more information. I don't think i'd mind it too much.
Speaker 1: I don't already read poets as long as their poem
Speaker 1: into something like, Hey, it's our first date, let's have
Speaker 1: good luck. Maybe we can go back to my house.
Speaker 1: And I guess I don't even know how you then that.
Speaker 1: I guess I don't know how what you'd run that.
Speaker 1: I can't even think of what you'd rhyn that with
Speaker 1: at all. But that's what happened on Lily's first date
Speaker 1: with a guy named Jamie. Apparently she read him poetry
Speaker 1: on their first date. Lily, how are you WHOA? I
Speaker 1: was fine until like you guys started calling it creepy.
Speaker 1: That correction, Lily, nobody called it creepy. We said, we
Speaker 1: can't tell if it's creepy. Yeah, we need to hear
Speaker 1: what happened. We need to hear what happened first, and
Speaker 1: then we can make the judgment on if it's creepy
Speaker 1: or not. Tell us a little bit about your first date.
Speaker 1: So we actually didn't even know each other before we
Speaker 1: went to this poetry thing. I actually met him on
Speaker 1: with dating website and one of his interests was poetry
Speaker 1: and music. So I was like, hey, let's do something
Speaker 1: a little bit different. I already feel like it's less
Speaker 1: creepy since you both have the shared interest of poetry
Speaker 1: going into it. Thank you, Brooks. See, I know I
Speaker 1: can count on you to be like the voice of
Speaker 1: reason here. So I mean, yeah, basically I thought it
Speaker 1: was a great idea and he ended up being like
Speaker 1: super cutey, picked me up. We did get a bite
Speaker 1: to eat before, and like it was just super chill,
Speaker 1: like we like talked about music, you laughed a lot.
Speaker 1: Can you get to the poem? I get it. You
Speaker 1: guys did all the date stuff and that's fun, but
Speaker 1: I'm really curious about this poem. I mean, basically, the
Speaker 1: poem is just like kind of the story of how
Speaker 1: we met and also like I did like a little
Speaker 1: bit of Google research about like, you know, his family
Speaker 1: and stuff, so I could like surprise him, like, oh,
Speaker 1: look how much I know about your family and like
Speaker 1: your your old childhood pets and stuff like that. So
Speaker 1: I added that in just that's a little you found
Speaker 1: out about his childhood pets and everything before you wrote.
Speaker 1: They were like pictures online, like you know, just different,
Speaker 1: you know, like something about a golden retriever like that
Speaker 1: you had when you were a kid. Like it was
Speaker 1: too It wasn't creepy at all. So when did you
Speaker 1: read this poem to him? I guess that's what I'm
Speaker 1: confused about. So I took him to this place. It
Speaker 1: was like at a coffee shop where those people read
Speaker 1: poetry and you can get up and share. So I
Speaker 1: decided to surprise him just by getting up in the middle.
Speaker 1: He didn't even know I was going to do it,
Speaker 1: and I just got up and set the poem. How
Speaker 1: did he react to that? I think he loved it,
Speaker 1: but he didn't say that he loved it. I think
Speaker 1: he was probably just too taken aback that I would
Speaker 1: like do something so nice, you know, on the first date.
Speaker 1: So you were you're I mean, you're proud of the
Speaker 1: poem you wrote for him. Yeah, I mean, am I
Speaker 1: questioning a little bit now? Yeah, but like if you
Speaker 1: read it, you would be proud of it too. Was
Speaker 1: it silly or was it like a serious poem? No,
Speaker 1: I only do like serious poetry, you know what I think? Honestly,
Speaker 1: if I were going out with you and I knew
Speaker 1: you were in a poetry and you did that in
Speaker 1: the middle of somewhere where it was okay to do poetry,
Speaker 1: not in the middle of like the restaurant or something,
Speaker 1: I might think that's kind of sexy to see you
Speaker 1: doing your art. No, No, I would like it'd be
Speaker 1: like I don't know, but if that's her thing, like
Speaker 1: it'd be like if I saw a girl sing or
Speaker 1: something like, that would be sexy to me. So I
Speaker 1: might be flattered by it, even if you did a
Speaker 1: bunch of weird research. Yeah. I actually did, like end
Speaker 1: up crying a little bit during it because I got
Speaker 1: sot like emotional and because I was still involved in Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know about the crying. I've been with girls
Speaker 1: that I've lived with for years, and when they cry
Speaker 1: it still weirded me out. So the crying would be
Speaker 1: a bit much for me. I wasn't like sobbing. I
Speaker 1: just like, you know, kind of just thought choked up
Speaker 1: for a second. Okay, well how did how did the
Speaker 1: date continue after your poem him? Then? Well, that's the thing,
Speaker 1: Like I asked him if his roommate with home, just
Speaker 1: because not because I wanted to like cook up, but
Speaker 1: I just wanted to know if like he wanted to
Speaker 1: keep hanging out, you know, having a couple of beers,
Speaker 1: because how is this something? And he was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: my roommate's home, we'll hang out later, and he like
Speaker 1: dropped me off, and it was just weird, Like it
Speaker 1: was really abbrust How did you ask him if his
Speaker 1: roommate was home, Like was it quiet? And you're like, hey,
Speaker 1: is the house empty now? Or we got to be
Speaker 1: extra quiet if we go back to your place? I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I just asked his roommate was okay.
Speaker 1: I'm just wondering if it came off like you were
Speaker 1: trying to go back there for more than hanging out.
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe he thought maybe that was the issue. Okay,
Speaker 1: And have you heard from him since your date at all?
Speaker 1: Not even at all? I can't even find his dating
Speaker 1: profile anymore where it was like he deleted or something. Well,
Speaker 1: you did he shut everything down? I guess I looked
Speaker 1: on other ones that I haven't been on before to
Speaker 1: see if he was on different dating ones to find
Speaker 1: him on there, and he I can't find him anywhere.
Speaker 1: So what do you think the reason and is that
Speaker 1: he's not calling you back? I think he probably just
Speaker 1: felt like too vulnerable in front of me because of
Speaker 1: my poem, and like there's just like so many hard
Speaker 1: feelings to deal with for a first date. Like he
Speaker 1: probably likes me so much and it's so attractive to
Speaker 1: me that he's scared. You know what, that can happen.
Speaker 1: It could happen. You know, maybe he's one of those guys.
Speaker 1: He could be one of those guys that's kind of
Speaker 1: closed off, and you know, for those type of people
Speaker 1: when they start feeling new emotions like that, it's confusing.
Speaker 1: I've been in that same spot. Yeah, he's a little
Speaker 1: bit shy. Yeah, you know when you're sarcastic. Right now,
Speaker 1: I'm not being sarcastic. Why would I be sarcastic? It's true.
Speaker 1: Maybe he liked it so much that he just doesn't
Speaker 1: know how to deal with it, and that's and it
Speaker 1: scared him off. Yes, or maybe he just thought it
Speaker 1: was really strange that you were doing so much Google
Speaker 1: searching and then wrote a poem about him and did
Speaker 1: it in front of I don't know how many people
Speaker 1: were there. I don't know why you got to be
Speaker 1: I'll just try to be honest with you so when
Speaker 1: it comes up that that's the reason that you're not shocked.
Speaker 1: I mean, like the Google thing, it wasn't creepy. It's
Speaker 1: the way it came was not creepy at all. You know,
Speaker 1: he obviously launched to like have another date, but he
Speaker 1: doesn't know how to. Okay, well let's solve that problem.
Speaker 1: Then we'll play a song, come back, call him and
Speaker 1: get your second date update. All right, Okay, thank you,
Speaker 1: you're welcome. Hang on Crooking Jubil in the Morning. Second
Speaker 1: date update. Cool now to win a one thousand dollars
Speaker 1: cash Creep one six Brooking Jubil in the Morning Update.
Speaker 1: Lily is on the phone with us and today she
Speaker 1: wants to call a guy named Jamie. They met online
Speaker 1: went out for a date that included her taking him
Speaker 1: to a place where they do sort of like open
Speaker 1: mic poetry. She actually read him a poem she wrote
Speaker 1: about him that she got by doing research on Google
Speaker 1: and found out the name of his pets as a kid,
Speaker 1: and all sorts of information about him, put it into
Speaker 1: the poem, and then at one point started crying in
Speaker 1: the middle of the poem. It was moving and for
Speaker 1: some reason reason he's not calling her back, and we
Speaker 1: can't figure out why. And like I said earlier, Lily,
Speaker 1: if you had done this for me, I would have
Speaker 1: found it incredibly moving and touching. So I don't understand
Speaker 1: why this guy's not calling you back. I really don't
Speaker 1: thank you. You're welcome, Lily. You seem like a sensitive soul.
Speaker 1: Are you sure you're up to doing a second date update? Honestly? Like,
Speaker 1: that's why I called you, Guys, like, I just want
Speaker 1: to know either way, you know, just because I have
Speaker 1: no idea why, like it weren't so well, I'm ready
Speaker 1: to hear the truth. Yeah, that's what you say. You
Speaker 1: said that everything went really well on your date, and
Speaker 1: at the end of the first part at the second
Speaker 1: date update, when we were talking to you, you even
Speaker 1: said you're pretty sure that this guy wants to go
Speaker 1: out with you. But maybe he's scared. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that's I mean, that's what we're going
Speaker 1: to hear. You know, we talked to him because your
Speaker 1: poem could have brought up some intense feelings, and you know,
Speaker 1: so he's sitting at home like, oh man, I don't
Speaker 1: know what to do now. I don't want to. I
Speaker 1: don't know if I believe in love at first sight
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden it happened, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. Yeah, like that's all I can think of.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. All right, I'm gonna doubt
Speaker 1: the phone. Um right now, get him on the phone
Speaker 1: and find out why it's not calling you back. All right, Okay,
Speaker 1: thank you, you're welcome. Hang on one second. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: can I speak to Jamie please? Yeah? This is hey Jamie.
Speaker 1: How are you? This is Jewil from brook and Jewil
Speaker 1: in the Morning. I'm sorry, who Jebil from brook and
Speaker 1: Jewil in the Morning, the radio show. Okay, Any idea
Speaker 1: why I might be calling you? I haven't a clue. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm calling you because one of our listeners actually sent
Speaker 1: us an email about you and asked if I get
Speaker 1: you on the phone. Really, her name is Lily, Are
Speaker 1: you serious? I am serious. She says, you guys recently
Speaker 1: went out on a date and did yep, And she says,
Speaker 1: now you're not calling her back, and so she asked
Speaker 1: if we could get you on the phone and find
Speaker 1: out why earth Ye, should she already know why you're
Speaker 1: not calling her back? I mean I think that anybody
Speaker 1: with any type of insight ought to be able to
Speaker 1: take a hint, to take a hint. Yeah, she told
Speaker 1: us a little bit about your date, and she thought
Speaker 1: it went wonderful, did she Well, that's not the words
Speaker 1: I would use to describe it. Um, you know, it
Speaker 1: got it was just weird. She like, read this poem
Speaker 1: to me. Yeah, and well hang on, let me let
Speaker 1: me go back. We went to a coffee shop. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she told us. She told us about that. We know
Speaker 1: that she took you there and read a poem to you. Okay,
Speaker 1: well did she tell you about the poem? I mean
Speaker 1: that the poem was all about me and my family,
Speaker 1: and she been threw in some stuff about my childhood,
Speaker 1: pets and things like that. I mean, it's like, this
Speaker 1: was our first date, so this isn't anything that we
Speaker 1: would have had a discussion about prior to this day,
Speaker 1: because we met online and none of this is in
Speaker 1: my profile, so she had to have I don't know
Speaker 1: how she got this information. You know how she got it.
Speaker 1: She googled it and she said she thought you were
Speaker 1: moved by it and you liked it. I mean, if
Speaker 1: she told you that she wrote this poem and that
Speaker 1: she did all this research about me, I don't understand
Speaker 1: why you're calling me to ask me why I'm not
Speaker 1: calling her back. I thought maybe there'd be another reason. No,
Speaker 1: you did not. There is not another reason. No, not necessarily.
Speaker 1: I mean, if you didn't like her poem. She probably
Speaker 1: didn't even tell you this, but she cried during the bolt. No, no, Jamie,
Speaker 1: she told us that too. Oh my gosh, Oh she
Speaker 1: did told you that, and you still picked up the
Speaker 1: phone and called it. Yeah. Absolutely, I had to find
Speaker 1: out if that was the reason why. Really, you couldn't
Speaker 1: just say, look, Lily, that might be a reason why
Speaker 1: he might not call you back. I've been with girls
Speaker 1: that are crazy like that, and all I was saying was,
Speaker 1: how nail do I get out of here? Why didn't
Speaker 1: you leave? When she was up on stage reading the
Speaker 1: poem right in the middle of her. I couldn't believe
Speaker 1: it was happening. I mean, she was reading the poem
Speaker 1: about me, my family, my body being within her and
Speaker 1: I was serious. It wasn't like a joke. I'm just
Speaker 1: kidding you. No, she was serious all right. So so
Speaker 1: that's the reason the poem. Where did you out? Yeah? Okay,
Speaker 1: how many times has she tried to get ahold of
Speaker 1: you since that day? A few? Quite a few? Okay,
Speaker 1: what if I told you that this is also a
Speaker 1: way to get a hold of you and she's on
Speaker 1: the other line listening right now, Jamie, Hello, come on, guys,
Speaker 1: why would you do this? Dude? What? I just try
Speaker 1: to reconnect you too. I am sorry that I had
Speaker 1: to do it like this. I just feel like you needed,
Speaker 1: like to open up communication somehow, and this is like
Speaker 1: the only way. I'm sorry. If you feel like candles
Speaker 1: or anything, I just don't talk to you. No, we
Speaker 1: don't need open communication. We need to shut it down. Like.
Speaker 1: You don't have to act like that because we're on
Speaker 1: the radio and stuff, like, just talk to me like
Speaker 1: it's just me and you right now, Okay, Like I
Speaker 1: can tell that you're just having trouble processing everything that
Speaker 1: happened on our first date, because it was so much
Speaker 1: for a first date, you know what I mean. I
Speaker 1: was in shocked before. I couldn't believe that you had
Speaker 1: done this. You obviously were shocked, Like who wouldn't be
Speaker 1: shocked after feeling something that intensely? I was shocked too,
Speaker 1: But like I'm a more emotionally like mature I guess that,
Speaker 1: like I have the courage to like call you back
Speaker 1: and talk faith to faith and how you're retreating from
Speaker 1: your feeling obviously, Oh my god, do you hear yourself
Speaker 1: right now? Do you hear yourself? Danny? The question is it,
Speaker 1: do you hear yourself? I'm hearing someone who's very, very
Speaker 1: scared whatever this this intense thing between us is, and
Speaker 1: I'm hearing someone who's trying to mask it by being sunny,
Speaker 1: Like it's not working. I can see you through this,
Speaker 1: So you don't have to shut down like I'm sure
Speaker 1: that you do with a lot of other girls. No,
Speaker 1: because this doesn't happen with other girls. This is not normal.
Speaker 1: This is not how you were acting on the date.
Speaker 1: Like I'm sure that, like, if you can just take
Speaker 1: any breath and we can talk through this and we
Speaker 1: can try it again. No, no, listen, there's probably somebody
Speaker 1: out there for you, not me, but probably somebody maybe
Speaker 1: on some other planets. But at this point, Jamie, I
Speaker 1: would love to ask if you will go on a
Speaker 1: second date with Lily and try to explore your emotions
Speaker 1: just a tad bit. Okay, you're sure, Jamie? No, no, no,
Speaker 1: not at I don't know, Lily. It sounds like he's
Speaker 1: on the fence. Yeah. I mean I feel like he
Speaker 1: says no to a lot of things right now because he's,
Speaker 1: you know, too emotionally immature to say yes. And that's
Speaker 1: it's not closing a door. You just gotta give it time,
Speaker 1: Give it time. Yeah, stop doing that, just Jamie, You
Speaker 1: just need time to mature. No, he needs you need
Speaker 1: to listen to him. Yeah, listen to me, Jamie. No,
Speaker 1: stop it. Why maybe he can't. Yeah, I'm trying for you, Lily,
Speaker 1: jubil You weren't making this situation eighty times worse right now.
Speaker 1: Maybe we should do this just with the three of us,
Speaker 1: because I feel like that's a better dynamic. Yeah, Jamie,
Speaker 1: would you be willing to go out with Lily and
Speaker 1: me and sit down and talk about your feelings like
Speaker 1: grown adults. Maybe you too should go out you know what, Fine, then, Lily,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out with me? I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: that's so sweet, but like, I'm not interested in you
Speaker 1: right now. It's all it's all about it's all about Jamie. Okay,
Speaker 1: broken Jebil in the morning. It's been a lot day
Speaker 1: without you, my friend.