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Speaker 1: Welcome back to a couple's Counseling with Chelsea.

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Speaker 2: I am here with my friends Rosebud Baker and her

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Speaker 2: husband Andy Haynes.

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 2: Rosebud and Andy, thank you for being here today as

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Speaker 2: a couple. So as you have gotten to spend all

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Speaker 2: these years together. How many years have you been together?

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Speaker 4: Now?

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Speaker 1: Five?

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Speaker 5: It'll be five.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's not even not really long of a time.

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Speaker 2: But within the five years, do you think that your

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Speaker 2: performance within the relationship has improved? Learning to get to

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Speaker 2: know somebody, meeting someone else's needs, Like, how do you

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Speaker 2: think that you have changed from the beginning of the

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Speaker 2: relationship to now.

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Speaker 3: I think in the beginning of our relationship, I genuinely

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Speaker 3: had no idea how to be a partner to someone.

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Speaker 1: You're nodding, Andy.

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Speaker 4: She was never like a not compassion now, but when

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Speaker 4: I first started dating rosebudg she was like a fairal child.

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Speaker 5: She was.

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Speaker 4: You would go into her cupboards and there would be

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Speaker 4: like a half eaten open box of saltines and an

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Speaker 4: empty Tabasco sauce and that was her entire pantry. Like

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Speaker 4: she was at home, I was on the road, and

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Speaker 4: you know, she just was.

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Speaker 5: She had like one towel. You know. It was like

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Speaker 5: very it was just a very different person.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but I was always I always decorated. Well, let's

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Speaker 6: just say that.

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Speaker 2: And do you think you had a big hand and

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Speaker 2: not changing her personality, but where her relationship her ability

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Speaker 2: to be within a relationship is. Now, do you feel

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Speaker 2: like you had a big hand in that.

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Speaker 4: I think I probably changed what she thought she needed

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Speaker 4: out of a relationship maybe, or like maybe I changed

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Speaker 4: like the type of partner she thought she needed. Is

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Speaker 4: because I don't think I'm her type. If you go

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Speaker 4: back to twenty nineteen and you're like pick a guy

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Speaker 4: out of a lineup, I don't think I'm I think

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Speaker 4: I'm like in the waiting room, you know, and I'm

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Speaker 4: number seven, you know. But I think that really changed

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Speaker 4: a lot because Rosebud's can I can I say this?

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Speaker 4: Rosebud's dad is very stoic, and you know how we're

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Speaker 4: like usually attracted people that are kind of like the

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Speaker 4: opposite sex parent. So I think that I was kind

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Speaker 4: of the anti that to some extent because her dad

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Speaker 4: is like immovable.

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Speaker 6: I went to it's like hugging a ghost.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I went on a trip with him to the Bahamas,

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Speaker 4: and I was like, partially like does Rosebud want a

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Speaker 4: divorce and they're just going to an accident's going to happen, Like.

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Speaker 5: That's the full time.

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Speaker 4: I was like, just divorce me, like I won't fight you,

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Speaker 4: Like you don't have to have me killed in the Bahamas.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: If anything, you've learned how to be less trusting in

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Speaker 3: a good way.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, just by being a part of my family.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I want to be now that I've gotten a

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Speaker 4: little taste of it. And also it's trusting or more

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Speaker 4: trusting less I want to be. So I want to be.

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Speaker 4: I want to be like one of the characters from

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Speaker 4: HBO's industry. I want to be just a cold blooded capitalist.

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Speaker 4: I would love it.

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Speaker 2: What impact do you think you've had on Andy since

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Speaker 2: you've been married and now that you have a kid that.

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Speaker 3: I think Andy's learned how to kind of go okay,

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Speaker 3: My feelings aren't necessarily the facts I get. I can

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Speaker 3: get through this day by just like planning ahead and

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Speaker 3: getting what I need to get done done, and I

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Speaker 3: can deal with my emotions later. And I think I

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Speaker 3: don't even know if that's healthy, but it seems like

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Speaker 3: it's balanced him out.

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Speaker 6: A little bit.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I mean it sounds healthy.

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Speaker 2: I mean if you have an emotional reaction to everything,

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Speaker 2: that's not conducive to being like and even imbalanced, because

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Speaker 2: there's a time and a place for those kinds of emotions,

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Speaker 2: just like there's a time and a place for certain conversations, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: So like, yeah, you want to be able to mitigate

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Speaker 2: your emotional response in certain situations. Yeah, and then in

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Speaker 2: other situations, it's totally acceptable to be like, you know,

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Speaker 2: if you think something's wrong with you internally and you

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Speaker 2: feel your organs are suffering, you know what your organs

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Speaker 2: feel like when they're moved around, You.

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Speaker 1: Know that is like you can have a reaction to that.

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Speaker 1: But I hear a.

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Speaker 3: Big change for us, Like when you had it was

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Speaker 3: like earlier this summer when he was going through all

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Speaker 3: of that. I that was like a big way up

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Speaker 3: call for me where I was like, oh, I got

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Speaker 3: to be a better partner about Like. Also, I don't

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Speaker 3: like sick people. It's not it's not I don't like

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Speaker 3: I get upset around sickness and I get up.

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Speaker 6: I feel, yes, it feels to me.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, I I don't really afford myself it seems

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Speaker 3: like a luxury. And of course there's I'm not talking

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Speaker 3: about people who are like, you know, deathly ill, or

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Speaker 3: people who are like what's the word when they're it

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Speaker 3: never stops, yes, whatever, But I'm talking about just like

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Speaker 3: the flu or like with a.

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Speaker 2: Guy a few weeks ago that I'm sleeping with who limped. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I went to dinner and he had and I was like,

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Speaker 2: what's wrong with your leg? Why are you why limping? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's like on my knee. I'm like, no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: I think.

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Speaker 4: There's something like animal in us where we want them

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Speaker 4: to be put down.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, got to leave.

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Speaker 6: The pack, right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I've always felt that about certain men, certain men where

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Speaker 4: I was like, you're because I'm like, I'm kind of

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Speaker 4: a pussy.

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Speaker 5: I'm a huge pussy in a.

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Speaker 4: Lot of ways we've gotten but I also could survive

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Speaker 4: like for a month in the woods without any help,

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Speaker 1: Like it's a weird obviously very bright.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but also I'm like I was raised in this

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Speaker 4: like wilderness and kind of outdoorsy and all that stuff

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Speaker 4: like that, And so I think I still have this

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Speaker 4: thing where like if I meet a guy and I'm like,

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Speaker 4: thing where I'm like, we got to kill him, we

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Speaker 4: gotta He's going to slow us down and we're gonna

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Speaker 4: miss the winter.

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Speaker 5: We're not gonna be able to get over that pass.

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Speaker 3: And that's what happened to me when you had your ulcer.

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Speaker 3: I know, so you understand. Yeah, but I did realize

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Speaker 3: I need to be a better partner.

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Speaker 5: But I'll say it good.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I do think that the biggest thing that I

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Speaker 4: learned in the relationship recently is that I have to

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Speaker 4: keep certain things for certain people.

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Speaker 3: Like I.

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Speaker 4: I do think like you can't go full don Draper

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Speaker 4: and have like another family, but you can go like

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Speaker 4: I'm going through all this stuff and I'm not going

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Speaker 4: to bring it to my wife or my kid or

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Speaker 4: like the dinner table.

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Speaker 6: Well, the first thing is we don't eat at the

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Speaker 6: dinner table.

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Speaker 2: But also so I'm so sick of the dinner table,

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Speaker 2: Like who wants to sit down and have a full

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Speaker 2: dinner every night.

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Speaker 1: I want to eat on the sofa. I want to

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Speaker 1: eat on the floor. I don't want the formality, Like

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Speaker 1: I don't like that. I don't want to style to me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it does We went to her grandpa's house in

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Speaker 4: March and had like a big sit down dinner and

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Speaker 4: all the people came and brought the food.

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Speaker 5: And I was like, this is you know, this is

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Speaker 5: how it should be. Yeah, like a Sunday Road you

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Speaker 5: want to be?

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Speaker 1: You want to be a Kennedy is basically what?

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Speaker 5: Oh man?

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Speaker 1: And do you see how dysfunctional that family is?

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Speaker 5: Bring me on? I love it. I'm already.

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Speaker 1: You mentioned early before that Rosebud is the bread winner.

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Speaker 2: So how as a modern man does that impact your

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Speaker 2: your feelings out the relationship? Is that something that you've

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Speaker 2: ever had to struggle with? Does that bother you? Did

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Speaker 2: it bother you?

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Speaker 4: I definitely had to get used to it because there's

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Speaker 4: kind of you might know this because you've been in

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Speaker 4: both kind of doing something and then all of a sudden,

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Speaker 4: she started to get a bunch of stuff where it

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Speaker 4: was like should.

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Speaker 5: We like be together?

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Speaker 4: Like you're not going to bring me on red carpets?

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Speaker 4: Like a feeling like that, like should we even be

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Speaker 4: all insecurity, and then I think I've gotten used to it,

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Speaker 4: you know, like I I think that it ebbs and flows,

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Speaker 4: and I think there'll be times where I'm probably doing

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Speaker 4: a lot and she wants to not do as much.

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Speaker 4: But she also, I mean, she's so much better at

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Speaker 2: Not, you know, but I haven't noticed your eye contact

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Speaker 2: issue yet.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you're I'm working on actively.

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Speaker 2: I during what we're discussing, like your burgeoning success, like

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Speaker 2: having it happen in the beginning, How did that make

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Speaker 2: you feel to see him feel that way?

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Speaker 3: I expected it a little bit, And just to be clear,

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Speaker 3: like I don't I haven't achieved like anything that I

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Speaker 3: more than I thought I would at the beginning, but

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Speaker 3: this I don't even have a Netflix special out yet,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean. So it was kind of

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Speaker 3: like it was good that we went through this early

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Speaker 3: because I was like, it's good to just get these

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Speaker 3: this is probably bullshit. I probably don't need to feel

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Speaker 3: this way, but this is how I'm feeling.

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Speaker 6: Then that's good.

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Speaker 3: But there was a part of me that got really

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Speaker 3: upset and got really defensive. You know, there was a

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Speaker 3: defensiveness about just feminism on a feminism level, you know,

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Speaker 3: like this would never be a conversation if you were

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Speaker 3: doing better than me.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, never be it.

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Speaker 3: But then I thought about it, and I was like,

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Speaker 3: there have been comics that I've dated that we're doing

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Speaker 3: better than me, and I did have those same feelings.

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Speaker 3: So I was like, this is more about like us

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Speaker 3: both being comedians than it is about men and women.

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Speaker 3: And I think at the end of the day, that's

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Speaker 3: just something that we have to We just got to

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I think airing out that kind of stuff is

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Speaker 2: so important because the longer you ignore a problem, you know,

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Speaker 2: that and you're not being honest about your insecurities and

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Speaker 2: labeling them, Like we're all insecure and it's impossible not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's all for this week with Rosebud and Andy

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Speaker 2: Haynes hy Nes for tickets to those dates and for more,

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Speaker 2: and you can find both Andy and Rosebud on YouTube.

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Speaker 2: Upcoming shows that I have. I'm coming to Texas, I'm

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