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Speaker 1: All right. So see this is from so Leil in Jacksonville.

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Speaker 1: So Leil says, I gave a man an ultimatum and

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Speaker 1: he bounced. We have been dating for two years and

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Speaker 1: we're both in our mid forties. I want it more,

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Speaker 1: and it was obvious he didn't. He told my mom

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Speaker 1: that he wanted to do things on his time without

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Speaker 1: any pressure. My mom sided with him and told me

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Speaker 1: I'm always doing too much. Was I wrong for pressuring him? Well?

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Speaker 2: No, but it could be the way you did it.

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Speaker 2: It could be the way you Every woman, like I've

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Speaker 2: always said, has the right to know where their life

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Speaker 2: is going, has the right to have a sayso in it,

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Speaker 2: and has the right to understand what your plan is. Okay,

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Speaker 2: So if you want to do it in your timing, okay,

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Speaker 2: tell me what your timing is, tell me what you're

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Speaker 2: basing it on. You know, you just can't have me

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Speaker 2: sitting over here not knowing anything about the direction. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: it could have just been in the approach. So a

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Speaker 2: better way to do it and say, hey, look, I

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Speaker 2: just want to talk to you. Listen. I love you,

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Speaker 2: I really care about you. We've been together two years,

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Speaker 2: is we've had our issues but for real, though I

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Speaker 2: think it's nothing we haven't been able to work through.

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Speaker 2: I just find you to be such a great, incredible

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Speaker 2: partner and I would love to continue this relationship. How

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Speaker 2: do you see this working? How do you want us

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Speaker 2: to move forward? And let the God tell you? I

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Speaker 2: thinking about a year after I get myself together a

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Speaker 2: little bit more straight financially, I'm able to buy a ring.

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Speaker 2: Then I'm gonna ask you to marry me. Then that

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Speaker 2: gives a woman something to hang on to. But Steve, hey, listen,

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Speaker 2: I want to get married, and I want to know

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Speaker 2: if we get married now, and if you're not gonna

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Speaker 2: marry me, then I want this to be over with

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Speaker 2: because I ain't gonna waste my time and you ain't

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Speaker 2: gonna wait time. Now. When he hear that all he

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Speaker 2: is that that right there? He hears something about a man.

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Speaker 2: He is you gonna do what I want to do?

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Speaker 2: Or else?

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Speaker 1: When I will? And when?

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Speaker 2: When signing up for that?

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Speaker 1: Okay, And her mom agrees with her guy of two

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Speaker 1: years he's a good man.

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Speaker 2: She may be right. Maybe she did too much. She

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Speaker 2: could have just approached it the wrong way. Because if

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Speaker 2: the man go to the mom and go, hey, look,

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Speaker 2: I just want to do this in my time. See

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Speaker 2: what you cannot do to a man is my time

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Speaker 2: or no time. Now, what you can say is, hey, listen,

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Speaker 2: if I'm not the one you want, if I'm not

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Speaker 2: to desire your heart, if you don't see spending the

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Speaker 2: rest of your life with me, if I'm not what

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Speaker 2: you want, I would I would love for you to

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Speaker 2: tell me that now and allow me to make a decision.

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Speaker 2: But if I'm not who you want, I would appreciate

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Speaker 2: you telling me that now. That leaves a man a

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Speaker 2: little softer because sometimes you got to hear what the

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Speaker 2: delay is in a man, because a lot of times

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Speaker 2: I'm ninety percent of the time it's got something to

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Speaker 2: do with finances. Yeah, it's something to do with finances

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Speaker 2: and his ability to feel that he can provide security

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Speaker 2: and protection for you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's feeling like after two years. Yeah, all right.

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Speaker 1: This is from Bobby and the DMV. Bobby says, my

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Speaker 1: wife had a nicer house when we got married, so

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Speaker 1: I moved in with her. Her grown children are upset

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Speaker 1: that I'm on the deed now and they think I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to take what's theirs. I'm getting tired of them

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Speaker 1: bringing it up to my wife and stressing her out,

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Speaker 1: so I told her I would talk to them. She

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Speaker 1: said they're her kids and she'd deal with it. Am

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Speaker 1: I in a bad situation that will only get worse?

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Speaker 1: How do I handle this?

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Speaker 2: Wow? Well, it all depends on how you feel about

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Speaker 2: your name being on the deed. Did you sell your

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Speaker 2: house so y'all could move in together or do you

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Speaker 2: still have your house now? If you sold your house

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Speaker 2: to move in and y'all became one, then yeah, man,

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Speaker 2: your name should go on the deed if y'all married.

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Speaker 2: I don't give it by they feel. You know what,

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Speaker 2: You don't marry her kids, You married a woman. All

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Speaker 2: these little entitled kids sitting around that ain't ever bought

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Speaker 2: a house of they own or did nothing on their own,

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Speaker 2: and just sitting over there with a sense of entitlement.

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Speaker 2: I don't give it by you feel about me?

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Speaker 1: All Right, we gotta start saying that more often.

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Speaker 2: Though.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show,