WEBVTT - Happy Valentine’s Day!

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<v Speaker 1>I do like that we have a day that represents love,

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<v Speaker 1>and not only like love between like a significant other,

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<v Speaker 1>but if not like a means that is friends. I

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<v Speaker 1>do like that. Get a little glass of wine or

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<v Speaker 1>a tea or whatever it is. It's going to make

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<v Speaker 1>you happy. You can also draw back, make something very

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<v Speaker 1>romantic for yourself. I had a boyfriend that he was horrible,

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<v Speaker 1>never like at least a little like edible arrangement or

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<v Speaker 1>something like hey like he it was just he was

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<v Speaker 1>the worst. I don't know how I was with him

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<v Speaker 1>for four and a half years. Hello, my beautiful people,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for tuning into this week's episode of cheek

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<v Speaker 1>Ease and Chill. Today is going to be a themed

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<v Speaker 1>episode ahead of Valentine's Day. Tomorrow is Valentine's Day or

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<v Speaker 1>Valentine And you know what, not all of us have

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<v Speaker 1>a partner to share with. And that's totally okay, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So yes, I have a boyfriend right now, but some

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<v Speaker 1>of my favorite VALENTI and say, we're spent alone or

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<v Speaker 1>with friends or even with my sisters. So I want

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<v Speaker 1>to dedicate today's episode to the most important kind of love,

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<v Speaker 1>self love. I'm going to be sharing some of my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite ways to shower yourself with love, and I might

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<v Speaker 1>even share a couple of stories about my best and

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<v Speaker 1>worst Valentine's Days. So let's get this episode started. This

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<v Speaker 1>is chick ease and chill. People seem to either love

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<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day or hate it. I personally like, maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>wi you know what I mean, Like it's not like

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<v Speaker 1>something that I look forward to, like for instance, Thanksgiving.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I want to say, like it's my

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<v Speaker 1>least favorite holiday to be honest, but I don't mind

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<v Speaker 1>celebrating it. Does that sound weird? I definitely don't hate it.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it's like the whole Valentine's Day like rush

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm like kind of like, you know, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like we should celebrate love every single day, But that's

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<v Speaker 1>just me and I think most of us do. But

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<v Speaker 1>I do like that we have a day that represents

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<v Speaker 1>love and not only like love between like a significant other,

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<v Speaker 1>but if not, like I meant that is friends. I

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<v Speaker 1>do like that. It was so cute because my mom

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<v Speaker 1>growing up, like when we were younger, she would always

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<v Speaker 1>send us like flowers and cars, like if she was

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<v Speaker 1>out of town or she would make us cute little

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<v Speaker 1>baskets and get everything from like the nine nine cent

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<v Speaker 1>store and make us cute baskets. And she showed like

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<v Speaker 1>us like we are her loves and she is our love,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. And it was just so nice.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm so grateful that she did that, because it's

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<v Speaker 1>not just like I said, about finding that one person.

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<v Speaker 1>It's no, it's loving each other as a whole. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so now that we talked about that, now let's talk

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<v Speaker 1>about self love and ways that you can make yourself

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<v Speaker 1>feel extra special. First of all, there's nothing wrong with

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<v Speaker 1>dating yourself, you guys, there's nothing wrong with taking yourself

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<v Speaker 1>to dinner, to the movies. I feel like it takes

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<v Speaker 1>an extra confidence to your person to do things by

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<v Speaker 1>yourself and mind you. For a long time, I was

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<v Speaker 1>just afraid of being alone and listening to my own thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>Until I've learned, well, I've healed through therapy. I've healed

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of things, abandonment issues, etcetera, etcetera. But I

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<v Speaker 1>wish I would have known this in my twenties, where

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, dude, just go to the park by yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>like literally date yourself, like fall in love with yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I have gone literally on dates by myself. I have

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<v Speaker 1>gotten dressed up, got my hair and makeup done, and

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<v Speaker 1>I posted a picture once. It was when I was

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<v Speaker 1>going through my divorce, and I literally got myself ready

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<v Speaker 1>and I went to Morton's, Okay, a steakhouse, and I

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<v Speaker 1>had a beautiful dinner by myself. People thought I was

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<v Speaker 1>dating someone else, and I swear to you, I did

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<v Speaker 1>not go with anyone. It was a complete date by myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Put that on like my mother's memory, I have no

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<v Speaker 1>reason to lie. And it felt so empowering to sit

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<v Speaker 1>there and people, of course stared because I was looking cute.

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<v Speaker 1>I had like a cute ass out fit, my hair,

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<v Speaker 1>makeup was done, and I was sitting there just having

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<v Speaker 1>a drink, having some wine by myself, had my steak,

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<v Speaker 1>and people did stare because there was no one else

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<v Speaker 1>by themselves. And it wasn't a special occasion. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day. It was just a random ass day that

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to take myself out. I've gone to the

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<v Speaker 1>movies by myself. It's a little harder now that you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm cheeky, as I guess you could say, and I

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<v Speaker 1>forget to be honest, Sauce. I just want to continue

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<v Speaker 1>to do that stuff. So it's a little harder, but

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<v Speaker 1>I still do it. Put on my beanie, that put

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<v Speaker 1>on my hoodie. Even if I have a boyfriend. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's super important to still nurture that side of

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<v Speaker 1>yourself and be okay with embracing those alone moments. So anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>by yourself, flowers, I do that all the time, handy like,

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<v Speaker 1>and not only that, if you feel like on Valentine's

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<v Speaker 1>Day you don't have that person or you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>it's hey, I'm gonna go by myself an outfit. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna go buy myself a damn outfit. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to look good. By yourself a gift. I love doing that.

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<v Speaker 1>I love buying myself kiss I'm like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>I worked hard this week. I'm gonna go get myself

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<v Speaker 1>something special. This year, I'm working on being a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit more frugal. You guys all like I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 1>like invest it, so I'm trying not to do that

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<v Speaker 1>as much. But there's nothing wrong with splurging on yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>You work hard, you deserve it, and it just makes

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<v Speaker 1>you feel good, you know. I don't know. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that's just that's my two cents. I think too many

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<v Speaker 1>people are afraid and to like worried about finding that

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<v Speaker 1>person that you're so worried about finding that person that

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<v Speaker 1>you lose focus of like what's really important, like looking within.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think a lot of people, a lot of us,

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<v Speaker 1>and I include myself, we are afraid of looking within

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<v Speaker 1>because we're afraid of hearing what it is that we

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<v Speaker 1>need to change, what it is that we need to

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<v Speaker 1>be better at. And I think when you have those

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<v Speaker 1>moments of silence is when you learn the most about yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>And you should not be embarrassed. I'm telling you. It

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<v Speaker 1>takes a badass bitch, even a guy, to go somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>by themselves. Like it's like, yeah, I love myself that much.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna walk in this bitch in this restaurant and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna sit here. I got this, And you never know,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe some guys there with his friends and walks up

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<v Speaker 1>to you. Just never know what can happen. The universe

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<v Speaker 1>is always always working. Okay. Oh. Another thing that I

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<v Speaker 1>love to do is if you don't want to go out,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have to go out, Like have a movie

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<v Speaker 1>night by yourself watching. There's so much stuff on Netflix

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<v Speaker 1>right now, you guys like put on your pjs as

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<v Speaker 1>one of the things I love to do is I

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<v Speaker 1>put on my favorite comfy pjs order like in you

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<v Speaker 1>know now they have like these pizzas that are like

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<v Speaker 1>heart shape. If you're like into that, I think it's cute.

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<v Speaker 1>I would do it. I'm very like that's so me,

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't know. I mean, I think like having

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<v Speaker 1>a bottle of wine, champagne, some tequila and a pizza,

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<v Speaker 1>watching your favorite movie and comfy as clothes. Dude, that

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<v Speaker 1>sounds so delicious, Like, ah, do you know I might

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<v Speaker 1>do that? Actually, that sounds really nice because it's like

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<v Speaker 1>I like Valentine's. They don't get me wrong, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's like sometimes I just want to chill, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't want to necessarily get dressed up all

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<v Speaker 1>the time. I just want to like be lazy. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's fun too. So don't I feel like you need

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<v Speaker 1>to get dressed up and Invalentine's I gotta take a

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<v Speaker 1>picture for Instagram. It's just as cool to take a

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<v Speaker 1>picture and post that I'm sitting here and enjoying my

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<v Speaker 1>couch my home, this pizza. Okay. Another thing you can

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<v Speaker 1>do is a spawn day. Spat days are always a

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<v Speaker 1>good idea, even if it's not like a big spat,

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<v Speaker 1>like a big name brand type of spall, like a

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<v Speaker 1>Burke Williams. I love Berquilliams, but like it could be

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<v Speaker 1>like one of those like those small boutique little like

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<v Speaker 1>massage places. I love the Asian ones. I always go

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<v Speaker 1>to the Asian ones and it's very inexpensive and very

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<v Speaker 1>good massages. So even like to get like an hour

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<v Speaker 1>of just pampering yourself in that way. If you want

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<v Speaker 1>to do a full lass spall day, then do it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's always nice. But I think that that's another way

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<v Speaker 1>of pampering yourself of just like putting your phone away

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<v Speaker 1>because a lot of spats don't allow you to have

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<v Speaker 1>your phone and just being with yourself and just sitting

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<v Speaker 1>there in the sauna or sitting in like the jipouzy

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<v Speaker 1>and just giving yourself that gift of a nice facial,

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<v Speaker 1>of a massage, or maybe not even getting a massage

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<v Speaker 1>or official just using the amenities at the spa. I

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<v Speaker 1>love that. Sometimes they're like twenty bucks just to use

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<v Speaker 1>the amenities. So it's like, you know, it's just like

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<v Speaker 1>looking it. I always say that get up with it.

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<v Speaker 1>Where there's a will, there's a way. It sounds clichet,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, but it's it's the truth. Or you can

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<v Speaker 1>also draw a bath, put some like Epstein salt, relax

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<v Speaker 1>the muscle, some like lavender oil, eucalyptus, put on some candles,

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<v Speaker 1>like make something very romantic for yourself. Get a little

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<v Speaker 1>glass of wine or a tea or whatever it is

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to make you happy, and just sit there.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I just like to put like meditation music in

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<v Speaker 1>my bathroom light some candles, put my hair up, and

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<v Speaker 1>just sit in some warm water. That's a beautiful way

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<v Speaker 1>of also pampering yourself and enjoying Valentine's Day and not

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<v Speaker 1>worried about being in the rush of Valentine's Day or

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<v Speaker 1>just any day. That's part of self love, you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not just like people think, oh, self love, it's selfish.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just you, you, you you, you, yes, and no self love.

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<v Speaker 1>It really starts with you. When you know how to

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<v Speaker 1>be with yourself and love yourself and shower yourself with love,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so much easier to give it to other people,

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<v Speaker 1>but also with the balance of knowing, wait, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>giving too much of myself either. It's that balance, you guys. Everything,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the ying and the yang of life. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>telling you it's just it's a game changer. So nice

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<v Speaker 1>little bath once a week is awesome. Twice a week, relax, Like, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's I need to do that more often. Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>I really need to like take a bath maybe tonight.

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<v Speaker 1>I've had, like I said earlier, I've had Galantine's Days

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<v Speaker 1>where I've invited my friends over were all single, and

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<v Speaker 1>I did on on the reality show. Actually, um and

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<v Speaker 1>I had all my friends over and we had a

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<v Speaker 1>Valentine'sday party, a Galentine's Day party, and I got up

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<v Speaker 1>being at that and at that time there was this

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<v Speaker 1>guy that totally broke my heart and I was, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>between like the drinks, I was crying, but I was

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<v Speaker 1>also hidden being at that. I was happy to be

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<v Speaker 1>with my friends, so that was cool. And maybe through

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<v Speaker 1>a little party, to you guys, you could have a

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<v Speaker 1>little get together with your friends that are single, and

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<v Speaker 1>even if they're not single, still like celebrate love, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. So look it togethers are always fun. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So those are just a few things that I feel

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<v Speaker 1>you can do. If you don't have a significant other,

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<v Speaker 1>you are your significant other. You are the best partner

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<v Speaker 1>and the most loyal and committed partner that you're going

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<v Speaker 1>to have for the rest of your life. Just remember that. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>If you know no one is going anywhere in your life,

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<v Speaker 1>it's you, So make sure you take care of you

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<v Speaker 1>and pamper yourself. And hopefully those things helped and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>some ideas out there. So now I want to tell

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<v Speaker 1>you guys about my best and worst Valentine's Day. So

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<v Speaker 1>all my Valentine's Day, honestly, they've been pretty good. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't necessarily pick one that's been like the best. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>telling you because I spent a lot of Valentine's Day

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<v Speaker 1>by myself, especially like I had a boyfriend that he

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<v Speaker 1>was horrible, never like at least a little like edible

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<v Speaker 1>arrangement or something like hey, like he it was just

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<v Speaker 1>he was the worst. I don't know how. I was

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<v Speaker 1>with him for four and a half years, so I

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<v Speaker 1>had like that extreme of like Valentine's Day was just

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<v Speaker 1>not important to him, and he would totally forget and

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<v Speaker 1>just wouldn't send me anything. I had to remind him,

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<v Speaker 1>which is super embarrassing. And then there was another guy

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<v Speaker 1>that was like super extravagant and over the top and

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<v Speaker 1>said it not as in a bunch of flowers, and

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<v Speaker 1>it was nice. So yeah, I've had nice Valentine's Day

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<v Speaker 1>alone and not alone. And my worst Valentine's Day going

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<v Speaker 1>back to like the Galentine's Day that I had at

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<v Speaker 1>my house, um, with my friends, it stemmed from this

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<v Speaker 1>guy that I'm about to tell you guys, there's this

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<v Speaker 1>guy and I want to say his name, but I

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<v Speaker 1>was like totally head over heels for him. I was infatuated.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't even love. We weren't even ever in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>UM a lot older. He was like eleven years older

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<v Speaker 1>than me. When I met him at this club, Spanish

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<v Speaker 1>club that I would go to and I would just

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<v Speaker 1>go there because he was like the head of security guards.

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<v Speaker 1>And anyways, I became friends with his sister and him.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, his sister and I are still friends actually

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<v Speaker 1>to this day. So anyways, I was like head over

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<v Speaker 1>heels for this guy for like two years and he

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<v Speaker 1>would like, you know, streaming along and one ft in,

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<v Speaker 1>one foot out, and it was like, no, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want a girlfriend and this and that, but I like

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<v Speaker 1>you is that kind of thing, you know, And all

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<v Speaker 1>while he was talking to this other girl who he's

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<v Speaker 1>still with you guys, by the way, she's very pretty.

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<v Speaker 1>She's younger than me. So anyways, that day that Valentine's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>I was waiting like a mensa, thinking, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>he's gonna like ask me for valin Time's Day. And

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<v Speaker 1>I remember telling my mom was like, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>might have plans tonight, you know, he might ask me.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like waiting and waiting. I'm like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, it's two o'clock he has and said anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, it's four p m. Hasn't said anything.

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<v Speaker 1>And then this girl like at night. Then by that time,

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<v Speaker 1>by like when I was like, I realized he's not

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<v Speaker 1>going to ask me to do anything on Valentine's Day

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<v Speaker 1>because he always was that type of guy that would

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<v Speaker 1>like try to like call me and text me at night.

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<v Speaker 1>It was that kind of thing, you girls, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm talking about. He was like totally total boy. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>I never got a text from him if anything. He

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<v Speaker 1>just said, like, yet that the happy Valentine's Day. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you have a beautiful when I was like what.

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<v Speaker 1>So then I find out that night, like around ten pm,

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<v Speaker 1>he had gone to dinner with a bunch of couples

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<v Speaker 1>and took this girl. That's when I found out about

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<v Speaker 1>this girl that he's still with. And one of the

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<v Speaker 1>girls was like, Hey, I just want to tell you

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<v Speaker 1>that you need to just drop this guy. He just

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<v Speaker 1>got to dinner with all of us with this girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I was expecting you and he got to dinner with

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<v Speaker 1>this other girl, and I was like, oh, I was heartbroken.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I cannot with my life. I just

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<v Speaker 1>thought my whole life was just gonna like be over.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the worst. And I found out on Valentine's

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<v Speaker 1>Day that he had been dating this girl at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time and they're still together. And what he told

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<v Speaker 1>me was, you're just you know, you're older, and I

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<v Speaker 1>want a younger girl because I want to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to mold her, and you have great things about you.

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<v Speaker 1>But because of course, I confronted him about it, and

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<v Speaker 1>this is the spill that he gave me. So I

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<v Speaker 1>was eleven years younger than him. You guys, but he

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<v Speaker 1>still wanted someone younger than me so that he can

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<v Speaker 1>control her. That's basically what he told me. Anyways, peace

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<v Speaker 1>and loved to him. I know he wants this, he

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<v Speaker 1>always will and I'm just kidding. But anyways, I was,

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<v Speaker 1>I think the worse because it was on Valentine's. It

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<v Speaker 1>was devastating and it hurt me for a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>like for a year. I think I was single after

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<v Speaker 1>that for a year, and then the next Valentine's I

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<v Speaker 1>was still crying about it. I was just like, so

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<v Speaker 1>it had hurt my ego so much. You guys, That's

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<v Speaker 1>when I had the whole get together with my friends

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<v Speaker 1>because he would still try to talk to Hi. I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you have a girlfriend, stop go away. But anyways, I

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<v Speaker 1>just had to get that off my chest. So anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>we're over that, and yeah, I just needed to share

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<v Speaker 1>that because you guys, just like you, I'm sure a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of us have had those moments, those weak moments,

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<v Speaker 1>and from those moments, we learned and we grow and

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<v Speaker 1>ain't no man ever gonna do that to me again. No,

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<v Speaker 1>that's all I needed that one lesson. I learned my lesson. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>we were talking about the best and the worst, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, Okay, I can't really pick one of

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<v Speaker 1>the best. But last year, last year's Valentine's Day was

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<v Speaker 1>so freaking beautiful, you guys. It was my first Valentine's

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<v Speaker 1>Day with Emilia and he did like this whole thing

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<v Speaker 1>in the living room and did like made this big ball,

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<v Speaker 1>big tree of just a bunch of roses. It was

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<v Speaker 1>so beautiful and I'll never forget because it was like

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<v Speaker 1>our first Valentine's Day. And I'm telling you, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>that girl that's like you have to do something fucking

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful and extravagant in this whole thing for Valentine's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm just like, I'm over that part of it.

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. Like for a while I was that,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm no longer that. So anyways, I was just

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't expecting it. It is so freaking beautiful. So now

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<v Speaker 1>that I think about it, I'm like, I love that

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<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day. So this year, we're gonna keep it more chill,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we're gonna go to Fashion Week and probably do dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm not expecting anything crazy, and I, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel the pressure. I personally, don't of like having

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<v Speaker 1>to show, Oh, my partner did something huge or I

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<v Speaker 1>did something huge, or we need to take cute little

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<v Speaker 1>pictures for Instagram. Like that's another thing that I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>like so over like if it happens cool. I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be organic, but I do see that a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people plan it just for social media, and that

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<v Speaker 1>just doesn't feel authentic to me. So I'm just more

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<v Speaker 1>of like being authentic and whatever happens in the moment,

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<v Speaker 1>if I feel it in my heart, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>post it. If not, I'll keep it to myself. I've

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<v Speaker 1>learned throughout the years to keep things to myself as well,

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<v Speaker 1>to savor it a little bit more because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want everyone's opinions and it's just like, oh it wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>big enough for it's too small, or it's people always

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<v Speaker 1>have an opinion. So anyways, I don't know, maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>guys will see I'll post something tomorrow. But any ways,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you guys enjoyed this episode, this Galantine's episode,

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<v Speaker 1>and I hope you guys all have a beautiful Valentine's Day.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember it is for your friends. And yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>love is such a beautiful thing. And I hope each

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<v Speaker 1>and every one of you have a really special one

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<v Speaker 1>like I really really do. It doesn't matter if you're

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship, if things are complicated, or if you're single.

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<v Speaker 1>You're the most important person in your life. So show

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<v Speaker 1>yourself some love, you guys, because you deserve it. You

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<v Speaker 1>deserve it. Keep telling yourself that I am worthy, I

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<v Speaker 1>am receptive, I deserve it. Okay, So before we go,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, we always end with a beautiful motivational quote.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have a couple for you guys. First, one

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<v Speaker 1>note to self. You don't have to be good enough

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<v Speaker 1>for people to love you. Be good enough for yourself

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<v Speaker 1>for you to love you. Wow, you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>be good enough for people to love you. Be good

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<v Speaker 1>enough for yourself for you to love you. M M

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<v Speaker 1>snappy snappy Okay. So one more taking care of your

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<v Speaker 1>own means and not sacrificing your well being to please

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<v Speaker 1>others that self love you, guys. Not settling for less

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<v Speaker 1>than you deserve. Not settling to settle. It's a very

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<v Speaker 1>important one. So people just getting relationships just to settle,

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<v Speaker 1>and they stay in them to settle because they want

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<v Speaker 1>to settle. So anyways, self love, taking care of your

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<v Speaker 1>own needs, and not sacrificing your well being to please others.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's play it bueno. I'm wishing you all a very

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<v Speaker 1>happy Valentine's Day. I love you also so so much,

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't wait to talk to you guys next week.

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<v Speaker 1>And talking about next week, we have a very special

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<v Speaker 1>guest on the pod and it's seriously one of my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite episodes. You can't miss it. It's with my sister Jacqueline,

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<v Speaker 1>so please listen to it. We cried, we laughed, it

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<v Speaker 1>was just beautiful. So I'll see you then. Do you

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