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Speaker 1: how I was with him for four and a half years. Hello,

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Speaker 1: my beautiful people, thank you for tuning in to this

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Speaker 1: week's episode of Cheeky's and Chill. Today's going to be

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Speaker 1: a themed episode ahead of Valentine's Day tomorrow Valentine's Day

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Speaker 1: or via Valentine and you know what, not all of

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Speaker 1: I want to dedicate today's episode to the most important

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Speaker 1: my best and worst Valentine's Days. So let's get this

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Speaker 1: Nothing wrong with dating yourself, you guys, there's nothing wrong

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