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Speaker 1: Welcome to Katie's Crib, a production of Shonda Land Audio

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Speaker 1: in partnership with I Heart Radio. I can't emphasize enough

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Speaker 1: how fast it all happens, you know, And so it

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Speaker 1: was an empowering thing, I think for both of us

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Speaker 1: to just be like, if you had told us this

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Speaker 1: was going to happen, we would have been panicked for

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Speaker 1: three weeks and we'll never be able to do this.

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Speaker 1: But it's just cool when you're in the middle of something,

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Speaker 1: you're like, well, we just have to do it, and

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Speaker 1: you know, yeah, hello everybody, and welcome back to Katie's Crib.

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Speaker 1: I am so honored to have today's guests on the pod.

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Speaker 1: These are two of my closest friends in the world,

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Speaker 1: Troy Belisario and Patrick Adams. And also you guys, I

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Speaker 1: don't think you knew, because nobody knew that at the

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Speaker 1: time of this recording, ten days earlier they gave birth

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Speaker 1: to a child. It is the most incredible burst story

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Speaker 1: I've ever heard, honestly, and I'm so honored that they

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Speaker 1: were like, yeah, we want to come on Katie's Crib

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Speaker 1: and share our story and our experience, and again, I

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Speaker 1: just I feel honored, touched, blessed and thrilled. You're gonna

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Speaker 1: be on the edge of your seat. Let's just say it.

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Speaker 1: It involves a car um, There's like some Gray's Anatomy

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Speaker 1: so happy you guys are here. In case you guys

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Speaker 1: don't know who I'm talking about. Troy and Bellisario is

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Speaker 1: an actress, writer, director, producer. She's best known for starring

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Speaker 1: as Spencer Hastings and the television series Pretty Little Liars.

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Speaker 1: She also most recently started opposite Kate Blanchett in the

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Speaker 1: Annapurna feature Where'd You Go? Bernadette Troy, and was the

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Speaker 1: lead of John Abnett's web series Wigs. She also started

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Speaker 1: the remake of the French called Classic Martyrs and feed Is,

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Speaker 1: a Sony feature that she wrote, produced and acted in herself.

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Speaker 1: She also started alongside her hubby Patrick Adams, in the

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Speaker 1: two thousand nineteen Toronto International Film Festival selection of Clara.

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Speaker 1: She's won two Teen Choice Awards and a Young Hollywood Award.

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Speaker 1: Patrick Adams is an actor director. I mean god, these

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Speaker 1: two are Ridiculous. He's best known for playing Mike Ross

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Speaker 1: in USA Networks TV series Suits. He directed several of

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Speaker 1: the episodes himself, including the Landmark hundred episode. He most

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Speaker 1: recently started National Geographics first scripted series for Disney Plus,

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Speaker 1: called The Right Stuff. He's also said to make his

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Speaker 1: Broadway debut in Richard Greenberg's revival of Take Me Out,

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Speaker 1: and for his role in Suits, Adams was nominated for

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Speaker 1: an Outstanding Performance by a Male Actor in a Drama

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Speaker 1: Series at the eighteenth Screen Actors Guild Awards. Friends, I

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Speaker 1: am so happy to see you, Patrick con Troy and

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Speaker 1: and there's a little baby here. I love you guys.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for coming on Katie's crib. Oh why gosh? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Oh my oh I have We do have one question

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Speaker 1: for you which we were talking about. An important detail

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Speaker 1: of our story does involve human shit, quite a bit

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Speaker 1: of it, and we were like, how much do we

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Speaker 1: hearing about how much ship there was in dealing with

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Speaker 1: knows that shit brings you nothing but good luck. So

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Speaker 1: Elliot's blessed is how I'm taking it extreme. Really, it's

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Speaker 1: really whatever you feel the most comfortable with. But first

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Speaker 1: and foremost, at the time of this recording, how old

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Speaker 1: Her name is Elliott Rohana Adams. I cannot. I knew

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Speaker 1: is pumping, but it doesn't need this. He was saying,

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00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,560
Speaker 1: like it was not like hopeless situation, but it was like,

428
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:43,000
Speaker 1: you know, if this is correct, it's surgeries, it's you know,

429
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:45,720
Speaker 1: fall in a heart potentially, Like it was just a

430
00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:47,840
Speaker 1: whole and he was like, and it could possibly mean

431
00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:51,240
Speaker 1: it's a gal like genetically abnormal baby, which all of

432
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 1: our tests had come back, you know, totally normal. So

433
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 1: we weren't expecting anything like that. And it's now twenty

434
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,640
Speaker 1: weeks into the pregnancy. Um, and I'm supposed to leave

435
00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 1: to go shoot my pilot in New York in five days.

436
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:09,919
Speaker 1: Oh my. So so I get back in the car

437
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:12,520
Speaker 1: and you know, he says, I'll get you in to

438
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:18,040
Speaker 1: see a fetal cardiologist as soon as possible. Um. And

439
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:21,280
Speaker 1: so I just go back to set and I'm you know,

440
00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:26,919
Speaker 1: essentially m Yeah, you're like distracting yourself. And then you'll remember, like,

441
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:28,840
Speaker 1: holy sh it's really sucked up, and I don't know

442
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:31,400
Speaker 1: what the answers are, and god blood. You know. Patrick

443
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:33,200
Speaker 1: was just on the phone with me the whole ride.

444
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:36,160
Speaker 1: I was sobbing, crying. He was just trying to keep

445
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:38,720
Speaker 1: me calm so I could drive. And thenk goodness, the

446
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:40,800
Speaker 1: movie was with friends. So the second I got there,

447
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,160
Speaker 1: I pulled aside the director who's one of my best friends,

448
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:45,240
Speaker 1: and the producer and and I told them what was

449
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:48,439
Speaker 1: going on, and they were like, whatever you need, you know,

450
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 1: like we'll we'll we'll proceed with this day. But if

451
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:54,919
Speaker 1: at any moment you are like I'm gone, You're gone. Thankfully,

452
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:57,120
Speaker 1: we got a call about an hour later and they

453
00:23:57,119 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 1: were like, come back to Beverly Hills. Then was really wonderful.

454
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:03,959
Speaker 1: She was like, Okay, I'm gonna scan you for forty

455
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:06,919
Speaker 1: five minutes and I don't have any answers, so I

456
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:08,880
Speaker 1: know it's going to be forty five minutes of silence,

457
00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:13,119
Speaker 1: but you just gotta wait. And I love this woman. Yeah,

458
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 1: so I'm not like, why aren't you talking? You know right?

459
00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 1: So it was it was awful. I remember sitting there

460
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 1: and I'm not a religious person, and I was like,

461
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:24,280
Speaker 1: how do you pray? Do I do that? You know?

462
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 1: What do I do? Um? And just watching her take

463
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 1: a hundred and ten scans of this baby's heart and

464
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:36,200
Speaker 1: just being silent and so scared. And then the doctor

465
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,880
Speaker 1: walked in after forty five minutes and came in and went,

466
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: first of all, I just want you to know that's

467
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: not at all what's happening. He just had a bad angle.

468
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 1: This baby's heart is totally fine, very blessed, so blessed.

469
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 1: But it really was scary because suddenly, you know when

470
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 1: you have the rug ripped out from under you, and

471
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 1: you're very aware of what can happen and what does

472
00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 1: happen to many, many children and many you know women.

473
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:05,280
Speaker 1: Suddenly when a doctor says it's okay, it was just

474
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 1: a false alarm, resume your pregnancy. I was like, excuse me, no,

475
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm played into a lot of the pain,

476
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 1: like she you know, there was already this this this

477
00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:20,439
Speaker 1: baseline for Troy and UM, just terror that something was

478
00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: going to go wrong. So that day when that was happening,

479
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:24,600
Speaker 1: it was like I told you, like I told you,

480
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:26,679
Speaker 1: I told you, this is it. It's happening. And just

481
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 1: because the problem was solved or or we were told

482
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:33,080
Speaker 1: it wasn't really a problem that day, that sense that

483
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:36,479
Speaker 1: something was going to go wrong was there with us

484
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 1: the whole time, really there for Troy and the whole time, Um,

485
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 1: And so we're kind of on high alert for the

486
00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:45,880
Speaker 1: rest of the pregnancy, thinking like what's it going to be?

487
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 1: And you did an amazing job of negotiating navigating that panic.

488
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:54,240
Speaker 1: Once that sort of happened, now it becomes that every

489
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 1: doctor's appointment, every scam, are you going to say something

490
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:00,760
Speaker 1: something wrong? And were we not going get a heartbeat

491
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:05,120
Speaker 1: and felt sick in a way she didn't recognize. It

492
00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 1: was like all the phone calls had to be made

493
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 1: to just make sure, like is this normal? Were to

494
00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 1: New Mexico a couple of a few weeks before the birth,

495
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:16,920
Speaker 1: and she's altitude sickness, and you know on the phone

496
00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:19,159
Speaker 1: immediately is this normal? You know? Do I need to

497
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 1: go somewhere? Do I need to go to a hospital?

498
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 1: And the doctor being like, your altitude sickness, give yourself

499
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,600
Speaker 1: a couple of days. Just high alert, just high alert

500
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 1: the whole time. Yeah, and god, how did you go forward?

501
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,360
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say, and God, bless our doctor Jay?

502
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 1: Who are doctor is Jay Goldberg? Who? Um is? Everyone

503
00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 1: loves Dr Jay Goldberg. I want to meet this guy.

504
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 1: Everyone loves Jay Goldberg because he perfectly he just like

505
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 1: he gets He's exactly who I need during a pregnancy.

506
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 1: Because when I come into him with a question that's

507
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 1: insane or that, like you know, we're like Rachel where

508
00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, kin Patrick, go work and back only

509
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 1: five days before the due date, and he's just like, sure,

510
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 1: you're crazy, do whatever you want. Can we talk about

511
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 1: bicycling and I'm like, cool, Yeah, let's talk about he

512
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,479
Speaker 1: was a JamMan in our first birth with with Aurora,

513
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 1: he was a Jedi. He understood. I mean, I was

514
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,479
Speaker 1: obviously knew Dad didn't know what to do, just rubbing

515
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 1: whatever I needed to rub and holding hands. And he

516
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 1: would be the guy that walked in and be like, look,

517
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:23,440
Speaker 1: if you don't do this in the next twenty minutes,

518
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 1: you're not going to do it. And Troy, he knew

519
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 1: exactly what to say to Troy and that I was

520
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 1: just to turn that, like, just to do that really

521
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 1: quickly so that we can we can compare the two

522
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 1: labors that you've had. But your first one with Aurora,

523
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 1: I remember this. You were pushing in labor. I mean

524
00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: you had a very very very long labor. You labored

525
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 1: at home for a long time, you labored at the

526
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 1: hospital for a long time. You pushed for a long time.

527
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:47,360
Speaker 1: And then he came in and gave you the ultimatum,

528
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,680
Speaker 1: which was like, if you don't get this baby out,

529
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 1: and Troy and went into the deepest depth of primal

530
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 1: animal beast mode and was like, don't fucking say that.

531
00:27:57,160 --> 00:27:59,920
Speaker 1: Shipped to me. I got this and you were like yeah,

532
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: and then she came out. But it's true. It was

533
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 1: twenty six hours of labor. I was pushing for an

534
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 1: hour and a half and then finally he came in

535
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 1: and he was like, look, she's not happy. She's down

536
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:12,159
Speaker 1: in your birth canal. It's too long and we're going

537
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 1: to have to do a C section if you And

538
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yourself, okay, now right before we

539
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: hear how Elliott came into the world, How did you

540
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 1: tell Aurora that you were pregnant. It wasn't like a

541
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,760
Speaker 1: big you know. I really I didn't want to like

542
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 1: make it to do about it. I wanted her to

543
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 1: kind of come into it, and she really It was

544
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 1: about when, um, when my belly started to really become big.

545
00:28:57,640 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 1: And then I would ask her, you know, g you

546
00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 1: know what's inside mama's belly. Do you want to talk

547
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 1: about it? And then you know, we're way towards the end.

548
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,280
Speaker 1: We got like some books about being a big sister,

549
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 1: but she was doing such a good job of talks

550
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 1: about it a lot. We just talked about it a lot.

551
00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 1: We talked about what kind of sisters she wanted to be,

552
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 1: what her like job would be, what her responsibilities would be,

553
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: and that like, I think we probably did it a

554
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 1: little sooner than most people. And we're lucky that nothing,

555
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 1: you know, terrible happened, because I think that's probably why

556
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 1: you avoid that conversation a little earlier. But thank god

557
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 1: everything did work out, and she was such a part

558
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 1: of the process. She was really excited. She liked telling

559
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 1: people about her little that she didn't know it was

560
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 1: gonna be a little sister, but that he was coming.

561
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 1: Yeah right, Yeah, why did you guys decide this time

562
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: around to not find out? I wish I had the balls.

563
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: I wish we I think we've just we've gotten so

564
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 1: much from other people who said, like it's one of

565
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 1: the great surprises, and like might as well, you know,

566
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 1: and we don't know this, this might be it for us,

567
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: and we're like, we just want to have that experience.

568
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: And my brother had it. My brother had that too.

569
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 1: But wait, okay, so you guys listening, let me just

570
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 1: breakfast this. I'm gonna get into it now. I have

571
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 1: heard my whole life, probably I've been obsessed with birth

572
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 1: as you guys know this. I have now podcast about

573
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 1: this ship. I have heard of eight thousand birth stories

574
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 1: in my life. I have heard rumors from far off,

575
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:30,880
Speaker 1: distant lands of things like that has happened to you guys,

576
00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: And I have never ever known something like this to

577
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 1: happen to anybody, And I think it is the coolest,

578
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 1: most wild thing in the entire world of how Elliott

579
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: came to be on this side of the world. Tell me,

580
00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 1: did you okay? Contractions start? Did you were? You should

581
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:53,960
Speaker 1: start with we should start with I'm not home. I've

582
00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 1: been in tru for the last three weeks, three and

583
00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 1: a half weeks. I took warrantine than she pretenders was

584
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 1: working in Toronto. So I am gone and I'm not

585
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 1: coming home until the fourteenth and our due days the nineteen.

586
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 1: So we are already on high alert, checking in every day.

587
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 1: How's it going, how are you feeling. We feel pretty

588
00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 1: confident that nothing's going to happen until I get home,

589
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,239
Speaker 1: because it was a week late and we were and

590
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 1: so that's why when when Patrick the opportunity to go work,

591
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 1: I was, you know, we had a lot of people

592
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 1: in our lives that were like, he's going where but

593
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 1: the baby is going to be born? And I was like,

594
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 1: I don't really think so. Aurora was so late, like

595
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 1: it's totally fine. Also, what is I had the experience

596
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 1: during the last week of being pregnant with Aurora where

597
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 1: Patrick would just watch me like I was a bomb,

598
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 1: and I was like, it's so uncomfortable to just be

599
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 1: watched because I have no idea when I'm gonna go

600
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 1: into labor, and so I was also it was my

601
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 1: last time to be alone with Aurora, so it's really

602
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 1: cool to have that. It was great, but we were

603
00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 1: like by the fourteenth it was like like the production

604
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 1: I was on even flowed it at one point, like, hey,

605
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 1: you know, if you could leave the fifteenth that would

606
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 1: be great because we got this shot. And I was like,

607
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, guys, I wish I could. I have to

608
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 1: go home on the fourteenth because I was also telling

609
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 1: him that every night now I was starting to get

610
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 1: Braxton Hicks and I was going into full anxiety attacks

611
00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 1: that it was labor, and I was like, you cannot,

612
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: this cannot be labor. I was, you know, even like

613
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 1: telling my mom, who's going to come stay in case

614
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: somebody need to take care of Aurora? That I was like,

615
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 1: don't come, because I was just so afraid that if

616
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 1: I even had a plan in place that it would

617
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,719
Speaker 1: get like we're doing it, that it would go and

618
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 1: so I was just in full denial of being pregnant

619
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 1: and labor. So you're having Braxton Hicks every night, which

620
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 1: is like your body is gearing up, getting ready. Yeah.

621
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 1: On the fourteen, I get home. I land at the

622
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 1: airport about eleven pm. I'm home by twelve pm. I'm

623
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 1: crawling into bed. At twelve thirty. I've been up for

624
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 1: twenty four hours, you know those work and travel days thing.

625
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 1: I've been up for ever from the East coast. So

626
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 1: he's three hours. So I crawl into bed and kiss

627
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 1: her and say hi, I'm home, and she goes, I'm

628
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 1: so happy you're home. And that's it. We're going to sleep. Okay,

629
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:13,720
Speaker 1: terrible four hours of sleep because at four thirty in

630
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 1: the morning, Tryan's awake and wandering around the room. Yeah,

631
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 1: and Aurora's in bed with us, and I'm and at

632
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 1: four thirty, I'm just laying there with my eyes closed,

633
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: and I'm like, it's okay, it's braxton Hicks again. It's

634
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 1: just some braxton hicks. This is fine. About five thirty,

635
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: I'm like I can no longer lay down in bed.

636
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 1: I kind of grow into the bathroom and I'm like

637
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: just laboring, you know, basically like having contractions, but I'm

638
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 1: telling myself they're not. And then I hear a Roora's

639
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 1: voice that's like, Mama, come to bed, Where are you?

640
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 1: Why are you snuggling? And I was like, mom, is

641
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:50,479
Speaker 1: just a bit uncomfortable, but it's okay. And Patrick was like,

642
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 1: what's going on over their friend? I love the edge

643
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: of my seat. We were just like it was becoming

644
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 1: very clear, very quickly that this was not Braxton Hicks.

645
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 1: We both kind of knew it. But we were also like,

646
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 1: there's no pant, we're no painting because also from the

647
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 1: last time, we got nothing but time, you know, you've

648
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 1: got even if that's half the time we're in, we

649
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: got twelves, even if it's twelve hours, It's like we

650
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 1: still got a while really chilled. The problem is that

651
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 1: with Aurora, you know, I don't know if it was

652
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,080
Speaker 1: like this with you guys, but you know, every bag

653
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:27,239
Speaker 1: was packed. Two weeks before, we had like our laminated

654
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 1: birth plan, We had our scented diffuser, we had our playlist,

655
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 1: we had it already ready, had nothing nothing, nothing. Adam

656
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:41,280
Speaker 1: like queued up the song that we had pre planned

657
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:44,799
Speaker 1: rabbit to be born to like, come on, nothing. He's

658
00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:47,280
Speaker 1: in the middle, in the middle of her contractions, packing

659
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 1: her bags, like in between contractions, and I'm trying to

660
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 1: help her at the same time I have to unpack

661
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 1: my My bags were pretty close just home from a

662
00:34:56,719 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 1: three week She she like what happening? She's just running

663
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:03,800
Speaker 1: around and grabbing a moment and station wants breakfast and

664
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 1: have a ball and she doesn't know what's going on. Um,

665
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 1: So we get downstairs. We handed Aurora more into her

666
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:13,840
Speaker 1: grandmother's hands and we're like, I think we need to

667
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: start taking this seriously. That's about six thirty thirty. It

668
00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:21,360
Speaker 1: was also hilarious because he Patrick had taken a shower.

669
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 1: I was in the shower like after I was like,

670
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:25,480
Speaker 1: just leave it on, and then I was like, hey,

671
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 1: can you download that app that counts contractions? And he

672
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 1: was like, don't you have it on your phone? And

673
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:33,320
Speaker 1: I was like, no, you have to do it downloaded

674
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:36,279
Speaker 1: immediately count three contractions the apps like go to the

675
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 1: hospital and we're like, okay, grounded, are you fucking kidding?

676
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 1: Did you still have the app on your phone? To

677
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:47,840
Speaker 1: download it? Download? I start counting the contractions while I'm packing,

678
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:51,319
Speaker 1: and after three it says go to the hospital. And again, Katie,

679
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:54,319
Speaker 1: it said it said go to the hospital. And that

680
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 1: was when we called our do la for Aurora. I

681
00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 1: labored at home for two more hours. I went to

682
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 1: the hospital, and then Liebert for a whole day. Right,

683
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:06,719
Speaker 1: so we're still it's like, okay, great world, So wait,

684
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 1: did you guys set up to for a duela to

685
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:12,440
Speaker 1: have this time? Anna Paula, who's the greatest in the

686
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 1: whole world, and we love her so much and we're

687
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:17,560
Speaker 1: so excited that she could she could come and do

688
00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: this with us again. So we called her right away,

689
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 1: but she had a day. She had as she was

690
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 1: teaching that day and she's like, I can't get out,

691
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 1: you know, and Annapoula teaches, she's teaching like everybody. She

692
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:32,479
Speaker 1: can't stop. But our backup was no other than Rebecca. Yes,

693
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 1: we called and it was so good too, because Patrick

694
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 1: was like, wait, our backup is who? And he started

695
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:38,799
Speaker 1: to freak out and I was like, no, no no, no,

696
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 1: it's Katie and Adams. You just listened to her and

697
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:43,240
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I love her. She's yeah, she's amazing,

698
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 1: But like, wait, so so you're packing your ship. It's

699
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 1: six dirty in the morning. You're like, we're still just

700
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 1: gonna are you wait, wait, Troit, are you in a

701
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 1: ton of pain? I am in a lot of pain,

702
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 1: but particularly because Aurora is around me, sitting on me,

703
00:36:59,719 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 1: I'm just like my head tend just to not be

704
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 1: that bad because I'm just seeing child's pose just kind

705
00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:08,399
Speaker 1: of like not even moaning, and she's she's like on

706
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 1: my back, kind of like thinking it's time to ride

707
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 1: Mama like a horse. And my own mother is like,

708
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:15,440
Speaker 1: can I make you eggs? Can I make you an

709
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 1: English muffin? Can? I kind of just like know everybody,

710
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 1: just everybody leave me, everybody, I'm just right here. And

711
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 1: I was like, but Patrick, please eat breakfast. You know

712
00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:27,239
Speaker 1: how long this takes, We're gonna be fine. This is

713
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:31,800
Speaker 1: gonna be good. My mom is on another planet. Basically,

714
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:34,759
Speaker 1: she's so anxious, but she's doing her best. She was

715
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 1: basically just following me around, going wow, these what can

716
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 1: I do my past? And I was like, yes, I

717
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:43,760
Speaker 1: noticed that too. I'm it was just it was clearly

718
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 1: sitting to like, you know, I'm sure it's like that

719
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 1: we needed to limit the amount of people. We need

720
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 1: to get Aurora away from trying, and we needed to

721
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:51,839
Speaker 1: get out of the house and get on the so

722
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 1: like we got I got some breakfast in me, we

723
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 1: packed the car and we were going and it was

724
00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:59,280
Speaker 1: like we got plenty of time. She was very uncomfortable, obviously.

725
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 1: This is the the thing that I noticed was I

726
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I really want to say goodbye to

727
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 1: or Or and I want to be calm, but my

728
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:08,840
Speaker 1: windows between contractions where I could do that we're getting shorter,

729
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 1: like to the point where by the time I could

730
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 1: stand up, I really had to kind of rush it.

731
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 1: So I gave her a huge kiss and a hug

732
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: and then basically just booked it. Remember at one point

733
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:21,879
Speaker 1: I was in the house, like still getting my last

734
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 1: things together. I was like, okay, I'm ready to we're trying,

735
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:27,279
Speaker 1: and I could see like tying in the car sitting there.

736
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, that's a bad thing. I should we

737
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 1: should be gone. So I was out the door ready

738
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 1: to go. We get in the car and we're on route.

739
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 1: We've called in a Paula and apaul has told us

740
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:37,719
Speaker 1: about Rebecca. We've got Rebecca on the phone in the

741
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 1: car and by the way, we're joking in the car,

742
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 1: We're like, look at this Saturday morning, baby, no traffic

743
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:49,359
Speaker 1: at seven am, like weird country music? That are you screaming?

744
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 1: We're not in screaming mode. No, No, I'm moaning in

745
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 1: between contractions. But Rebecca is the best, by the way

746
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 1: she gets on the on the phone and she's like,

747
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:01,240
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk, I just want to listen,

748
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 1: which I was like, you're what a badass, And she

749
00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: just listened to Troy and kind of have a contraction

750
00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 1: or two, and she was like, yeah, you know, I

751
00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:09,719
Speaker 1: can hear where you're at. I get it. Let's get

752
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:11,839
Speaker 1: you to the hospital safely. Call me when you get there.

753
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 1: But she was such a ninja even right there on

754
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:15,919
Speaker 1: the phone, like she was like, I'm not gonna talk

755
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 1: to you guys much. I just want to hear you

756
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: and make sure everything's okay, and we'll connect when you

757
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 1: get to the hospital. Anyways. So then the next thing

758
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:24,840
Speaker 1: that you also need to know is Patrick turns to

759
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:26,919
Speaker 1: me and goes, I don't even know what the birth

760
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:30,480
Speaker 1: plan is, Like do I give you right away? We

761
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: haven't even talked about it. Like again, the last time

762
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 1: we've had like three meetings about our birth plane this

763
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 1: time I don't even know. I'm like, it's a second

764
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 1: baby though, too, Like I mean, everyone who's listening who's

765
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:43,200
Speaker 1: pregnant with their second or planning out a second it's

766
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 1: so amazing the second time because you're just like, you

767
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 1: just have less capacity to care about that yet. And

768
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:53,879
Speaker 1: I think you also know how quickly plans disappearing it away.

769
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:56,439
Speaker 1: You're just like, I can't yes, and it's and it's

770
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 1: what makes the first time also so beautiful is because

771
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 1: it's so precious, you know, and you feel like you

772
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 1: want to plan so much, in control so much, and

773
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:09,239
Speaker 1: then you figure out, oh, well that's okay. So what

774
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:10,719
Speaker 1: the birth land are we trying to get? Am I

775
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:12,239
Speaker 1: trying to get an up dural? The second we get

776
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 1: in there? What's my job? I just want to know,

777
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:15,919
Speaker 1: like what am I advocating for? Because I can see

778
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:18,600
Speaker 1: she's getting more and more non verbal. So it's like,

779
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 1: you know, are are we drugs right away? Are we

780
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 1: know drugs? Are we going full natural births? And she says,

781
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:27,759
Speaker 1: as I have one request? Yeah, So I basically said,

782
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 1: also inspired by you and your birth stories, I said,

783
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 1: you know, I really don't care about what happens with

784
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 1: the upper dural um. I just want you or me

785
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 1: to catch the baby. I think that would be really special.

786
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:42,880
Speaker 1: And I was thinking about you pulling because you pulled

787
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 1: up and I pulled your out myself. Yeah. Yeah, it

788
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 1: was the best moment of my entire life. So I

789
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 1: was like, how it would be so cool. And there

790
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 1: was almost a moment in Aurora's birth where Patrick got

791
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: to catch her, and then because I was in full

792
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 1: beast mode, Jay Goldberg was like, you're not catching the

793
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 1: say anymore. But I was like, that would be so special.

794
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:00,440
Speaker 1: I just want your hands from my hands, to be

795
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:04,000
Speaker 1: the ones to bring her into this world. And Patrick,

796
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 1: to his credit, I don't know what were you thinking.

797
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 1: In my head at that point, I was like all

798
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:10,359
Speaker 1: birth plans. I was like, okay, sure I will try

799
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 1: and make there, but like, okay, but I did not

800
00:41:14,960 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 1: say that out loud. It was like, yes, of course,

801
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 1: that's what we will do. Uh. And then we're driving

802
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:22,920
Speaker 1: and we're kind of laughing again. We're listening to this

803
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 1: weird country music that I don't know why we're listening

804
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 1: to it, but we don't change it because it's kind

805
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:31,280
Speaker 1: of pleasant. And chill and uh, we're on there. Nothing

806
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 1: else much happens on the ride and get to the

807
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:38,200
Speaker 1: hospital again, I'm driving so slow, like drive that in

808
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: the normal day would be like twenty minutes is taking

809
00:41:40,640 --> 00:41:42,480
Speaker 1: thirty five because I don't want to go fast. I

810
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:44,360
Speaker 1: don't want to hit the brakes hard, like we're in

811
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 1: hard and I'm starting to have to push my seatbelt

812
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:51,799
Speaker 1: away from me. As we're getting close to Cedars, I'm

813
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 1: just like, this is uncomfortable sitting. I mean, I'm clearly

814
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 1: I'm in a lot of pain, but I'm also like

815
00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 1: I can't be in this position anymore. And we get

816
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 1: up to Cedars and we're going down the road and

817
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 1: Patrick's like, I don't even remember what how do we

818
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 1: get in here again? We had the same thing, no

819
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:13,799
Speaker 1: clue where I was going, not narked in the wrong thing,

820
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: but obviously okay, keep going. It was the first time

821
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 1: around with the world. We did like practice runs, so

822
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 1: we so we turned around a you turn and I

823
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 1: remember one of the last things that I remember before

824
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 1: I disappeared into birth was this ambulance coming out with

825
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:32,800
Speaker 1: two dudes that like they weren't the sirens weren't on

826
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 1: they were clearly coming back from an emergency, and I

827
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:39,359
Speaker 1: remember locking eyes with one of the drivers and I

828
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:41,399
Speaker 1: just heard of I felt like I heard his inner

829
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,000
Speaker 1: monologue where he was just looking at me and he

830
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 1: was like, oh your dad, bitch right now, like like

831
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 1: oh ship, And you're never going to forget those eyes.

832
00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:52,400
Speaker 1: You're never like his eyes just been like always going down.

833
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 1: And so we pull into the Cedars parking lot and

834
00:42:56,560 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: Patrick pushes the turnstyle I hit the thing to get

835
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:03,440
Speaker 1: She's just sitting normally in the chair. I go to

836
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 1: get the ticket, and I mean, I don't know why.

837
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 1: As soon as I hit the button and grab the ticket, screaming,

838
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:11,279
Speaker 1: just screaming. I hear screaming from the other side of

839
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:13,560
Speaker 1: the car, and I whip around and by the time

840
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 1: I turned my head around, Troy and is already full

841
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:21,319
Speaker 1: hands and knees, seats folded back, hands and knees, and

842
00:43:21,640 --> 00:43:24,000
Speaker 1: something is just completely We've gone nuclear. We've gone from

843
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:27,320
Speaker 1: the conversational to nuclear in the span of like half

844
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:30,040
Speaker 1: a second. Holy sh it. So you're on all fours

845
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 1: on a flattened down. She doesn't remember. I don't remember

846
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 1: that because I remember this, because I remember like pressing

847
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 1: my head into the headrest and just just trying to

848
00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 1: make my head go through the headdrest. I was like,

849
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:49,080
Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening, and I couldn't communicate because

850
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 1: I Patrick said, I was howling and something was going

851
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 1: on in my body where you know, I remember with

852
00:43:54,640 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 1: the contractions which are painful, like fluid would come out.

853
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:02,400
Speaker 1: But this was basically after I had this contraction. I

854
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:06,399
Speaker 1: turned to Patrick like heaving, and I was like, don't laugh.

855
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 1: I shipped my pants and you still had your pants on.

856
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:13,840
Speaker 1: You had your pants on. You knew you shop your pants,

857
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: and so obviously your water had already broken. I don't

858
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:20,840
Speaker 1: know when the same of the first birth to like

859
00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 1: never it was never a water breaking moment that we

860
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 1: were not really, but if every time you were having

861
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:29,719
Speaker 1: a contraction, water was coming out, yeah, that was that.

862
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 1: With Aurora. I remember that like water can come so

863
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 1: I remember stuff can come out. But I was like,

864
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 1: I didn't go number two with Aurora until I was

865
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 1: actively pushing, So in my head I clocked that. I

866
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:44,320
Speaker 1: was like, why is my body pushing? This isn't cool.

867
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 1: Something that needed you ship your pants was when you

868
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 1: were like, oh my god, I think I'm like in

869
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 1: like active labor. Yeah, that was not communicated to me.

870
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:58,960
Speaker 1: What he heard was just like we're kind of already,

871
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 1: like I said, non verbal. Um, she's told me she's

872
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 1: she's gone number two. Uh. He Patrick is so good,

873
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:10,400
Speaker 1: He very calmly just goes I'm not laughing. I'm not laughing.

874
00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 1: I'm not laughing, and she's like, please laugh, please actually laugh.

875
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: I cracked my pants. Please laugh at me. You guys,

876
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 1: this is the most lovely story I've ever heard of

877
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:24,920
Speaker 1: my entire life. Honestly, Like, if it doesn't restore your face, okay.

878
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 1: So you're like, I'm not laughing, and you're like you

879
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 1: can laugh. It's okay, please laugh. Who takes off your pants?

880
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 1: So we get to the valet area and Cedar Sinai.

881
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 1: It's not a ballet during COVID whatever. It's just that

882
00:45:38,640 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 1: desk where the security guard is and then that other

883
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 1: person who's checking your temperature and all that. But there's

884
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 1: just two people really, one guy. I swing the car in,

885
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:49,400
Speaker 1: I jump out, and because she's gone to the bathroom

886
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: now and like, well we need a wheelchair. Um, and

887
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 1: she's also because I would need a wheelchair. We needed

888
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:58,040
Speaker 1: a wheelchair with Aurora too. In my mind, it's like

889
00:45:58,080 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 1: we just need to get this going. So I get

890
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 1: up to the I and I say, hey man, this

891
00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 1: is happening, Like it's all happening right now. I'm kind

892
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 1: of I'm kind of getting nonverbal and like it's all

893
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 1: happening in the car. You need to get the wheelchair

894
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: down here. We need the people, all the people and

895
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 1: all the professionals. It's happening. And he kind of looks

896
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:17,279
Speaker 1: at me with this look that's like I do this

897
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:20,000
Speaker 1: all day long. I'm in no rush here, Bud. You

898
00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:22,920
Speaker 1: need to calm down. I know you think that this

899
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 1: is all happening right now, but it's not just calm down.

900
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:28,719
Speaker 1: So he does the thing, but he moves like I'm

901
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: moving at you know, a thousand. This guy is going

902
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:34,799
Speaker 1: to speed limit and he's like yeah, yeah. He picks

903
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:37,080
Speaker 1: up the phone and calls the people, and I don't

904
00:46:37,080 --> 00:46:40,880
Speaker 1: get the impression that he's taking it particularly as urgently

905
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:43,279
Speaker 1: as I would like him to take it. So I

906
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 1: I go to open the car door to the passenger

907
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 1: side door, and as soon as I opened, at Troy

908
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:52,840
Speaker 1: and is doing one of her incredible house um that

909
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 1: I then just turned to him to be like, are

910
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:58,360
Speaker 1: you hearing what I'm hearing? And he kind of takes

911
00:46:58,400 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 1: it in and he maybe knocks him to a hundred

912
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:04,160
Speaker 1: miles an hour, but he's still not receiving what what

913
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:07,920
Speaker 1: I think he needs to be receiving. UM. At that point,

914
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:12,279
Speaker 1: Troyance starts screaming Patrick Patrick, Patrick, I go back to

915
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:16,359
Speaker 1: the car, Um. I'm losing my vine right now, I'm

916
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 1: moving my mind. I can't control At this point, I'm

917
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: still non verbal, but I know that she is so

918
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 1: far down that I'm like, I can't I can't find

919
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 1: a comfortable place to put my legs. I'm still on

920
00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 1: all fours and my legs are kind of alternately doing

921
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 1: this like bending and straightening out things whenever they straighten out.

922
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:42,800
Speaker 1: My hips are closing, and her head is very clearly coming.

923
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:46,359
Speaker 1: But I'm just screaming Patrick Patrick, and I scream, get

924
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 1: my pants off, pull my pants down, pull my pants down.

925
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:53,880
Speaker 1: At this point, I'm going, are you sure? Like like, well,

926
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 1: I also know that you've got to the bell. Like

927
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 1: once we feels like once we begin this process, we're

928
00:47:57,760 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 1: in a whole new realm. So are we going to

929
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 1: do that? But I don't have much time to think

930
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:04,400
Speaker 1: about it because she's hands down right now, so she

931
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 1: is still on all fours but facing the windshield. So

932
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: I'm really kind of her butts at my head levels.

933
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 1: So I'll just go ahead and pull down her pants

934
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:31,640
Speaker 1: and the head is right there, crowning. What did you?

935
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:34,799
Speaker 1: How do you even? What? Patrick? Are you terrified? Are

936
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 1: you excited? Are you like? Are you just an executive functioning? Of? Like?

937
00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 1: How do I? Executive functioning is a good way to

938
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:44,959
Speaker 1: put it. So this is where I went into sort

939
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 1: of it wasn't fight or fight, because I actually wasn't.

940
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 1: There was panic, but it was also like, there's no

941
00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: room for panic. You just need to deal with the situation.

942
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:56,319
Speaker 1: I did remember it one last time, turning to the guy,

943
00:48:57,080 --> 00:48:59,880
Speaker 1: our friend, the security guard, and being like, I see

944
00:49:00,360 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 1: the head. You need to move faster, you need to

945
00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 1: get the people down here. His response was like, I'm sorry, man,

946
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:10,800
Speaker 1: Like I did everything I can. They're coming. I can't,

947
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 1: like I called, And so I turned away from him

948
00:49:13,200 --> 00:49:16,000
Speaker 1: and I go back and already the heads like all

949
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:21,040
Speaker 1: the way out now, and I can get Elliott's face, hellassive,

950
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 1: here are you pushing? Are you feeling the need to

951
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:28,560
Speaker 1: guess there is nothing that I am doing consciously. My body,

952
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:30,400
Speaker 1: your body is doing it all in its own. I

953
00:49:30,440 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 1: actually talked with my friend about this, and she said,

954
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 1: what it's called is fetal injection, which is where if

955
00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:38,319
Speaker 1: you leave the mother alone, like you don't have to

956
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:40,600
Speaker 1: tell her to push. Because there was no I was.

957
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have been pushing. I didn't know if I

958
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 1: was dilated at all. No, I had never been checked.

959
00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:48,800
Speaker 1: I just had some contractions and it was four hours

960
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:52,319
Speaker 1: into labor at this point, and so I was completely

961
00:49:52,400 --> 00:49:55,560
Speaker 1: just basically just on another planet, except that I heard

962
00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:57,359
Speaker 1: this very calm voice in my head that was like,

963
00:49:57,719 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 1: if this is childbirth, at least you only have to

964
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 1: do it like three more minutes, because this is some

965
00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 1: next level ship. Did you Was it painful? I don't

966
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:10,000
Speaker 1: know because I hadn't never durable times, so I don't

967
00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:13,359
Speaker 1: know like what it feels like. Was it pressure? Yeah,

968
00:50:13,400 --> 00:50:16,160
Speaker 1: it was immense amounts of pressure, immense amounts of pain.

969
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 1: But also I remember this about a roar because the

970
00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:21,480
Speaker 1: time that when I was pushing your roar out, the

971
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:25,000
Speaker 1: time that it felt the best was when her body

972
00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:27,840
Speaker 1: came out, because it was such relief, Like it was

973
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:30,840
Speaker 1: like nine months of building up the pressure of a diamond,

974
00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:32,840
Speaker 1: and then when her body came out of me, I

975
00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:35,920
Speaker 1: was like, oh, like it was so good, and so

976
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:40,000
Speaker 1: I felt even in all of the pain, I think

977
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:41,960
Speaker 1: my body also just reached like a limit. I was

978
00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 1: just like, I can't keep on feeling this um, and

979
00:50:45,440 --> 00:50:48,479
Speaker 1: then I started to feel that if my body kept

980
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:51,399
Speaker 1: on pushing, I would get to that relief. So I

981
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:56,360
Speaker 1: was kind of focusing on that. You're still on all fours.

982
00:50:57,040 --> 00:51:00,799
Speaker 1: Patrick takes off your pants. Now, there's probably lots of

983
00:51:00,840 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 1: liquid involved. There's there's there's lots of things. There's lots

984
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 1: of bobbily things everywhere. Luckily I am as soon as

985
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: I see the head, I forget all the fluids because

986
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:15,360
Speaker 1: I'm just focused on, oh my god, this is our baby.

987
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:17,799
Speaker 1: We don't know the sex yet, we're just ahead. But

988
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:19,960
Speaker 1: I see the you know in any you know, you've

989
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 1: seen photos enough, like babies look dead when they're born,

990
00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:26,200
Speaker 1: like they're not breathing, their eyes are closed, and so

991
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 1: I'm fairly confident that that is normal. But I'm like,

992
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:31,520
Speaker 1: I'm not a doctor here. I am alone with this

993
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:35,239
Speaker 1: baby's face. Her head is out her head is out,

994
00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:39,680
Speaker 1: is now up to her neck, and uh, I don't

995
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:41,239
Speaker 1: know where I had the impulse to do it, but

996
00:51:41,280 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 1: I checked the neck of the baby to see if

997
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 1: I could feel an umbilical cord, because my brain went

998
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 1: that happens sometimes you want to make sure that's not happening.

999
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:53,680
Speaker 1: That I would have known what I who knows, But

1000
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:56,279
Speaker 1: that's a good call. That's really start And I feel like,

1001
00:51:56,360 --> 00:51:58,279
Speaker 1: did you ever play a doctor on to me like

1002
00:51:58,360 --> 00:52:03,319
Speaker 1: this is I? I checked that out? And then I

1003
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:05,880
Speaker 1: also remember, you know I pulled. I didn't know. My

1004
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:09,279
Speaker 1: main thing that I'm proud of because ultimately, all I

1005
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:11,480
Speaker 1: did in this situation was catch a baby. She did

1006
00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 1: all the work. But the thing I'm most proud of,

1007
00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:16,520
Speaker 1: they're both great, Okay, I'm most proud of is that

1008
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:19,759
Speaker 1: I might had the instinct initially to pull not hard,

1009
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 1: but I went, AM, I supposed to help AM, I

1010
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:24,279
Speaker 1: supposed to coax out. So I took hold of her

1011
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:27,359
Speaker 1: head and I began to just pull a little bit

1012
00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:29,840
Speaker 1: to see if that was like a helpful city scenario.

1013
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:34,719
Speaker 1: And immediately everything in my body went, do not do that,

1014
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 1: like stop doing that, like some of like something tapped

1015
00:52:37,560 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 1: me on the shoulder, and that's not what I wanted.

1016
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:41,960
Speaker 1: I do believe it was my own inner voice, because

1017
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:44,360
Speaker 1: I was only screaming at that point, but I was

1018
00:52:44,440 --> 00:52:47,040
Speaker 1: in my head. I was like, oh God, please just

1019
00:52:47,239 --> 00:52:49,960
Speaker 1: apply counter pressure. All I need right now is for

1020
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:52,719
Speaker 1: you to apply counter pressure. And he did, and I

1021
00:52:52,800 --> 00:52:55,480
Speaker 1: was like, oh, pull For a second, I could feel

1022
00:52:55,520 --> 00:52:59,319
Speaker 1: her body like sees on the baby like be like, no,

1023
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:02,239
Speaker 1: don't pull hole. So I pushed instead. I put my

1024
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:04,120
Speaker 1: hand on her head and I just pushed a little

1025
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:07,800
Speaker 1: bit in and then I felt her body totally relaxed

1026
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:11,839
Speaker 1: when I pushed the head in the most insane thing

1027
00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 1: I've ever heard of my entire life. Honestly, this is literally,

1028
00:53:14,680 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 1: I think one of the most insane things I've ever

1029
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:19,799
Speaker 1: heard of. It was, Katie. You have to understand, like

1030
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:22,239
Speaker 1: what we're describing all took place in the span of

1031
00:53:22,239 --> 00:53:24,919
Speaker 1: about three minutes, Like from the moment I hit that

1032
00:53:25,320 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 1: thing at the parking lot to get the ticket and

1033
00:53:27,400 --> 00:53:29,480
Speaker 1: turned around to find her there to the moment I'm

1034
00:53:29,480 --> 00:53:32,360
Speaker 1: holding this child's head. Were it like four minutes max.

1035
00:53:32,680 --> 00:53:35,799
Speaker 1: Time is so fast it's happening, Like, what the fun

1036
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 1: is this security guard doing? So this is at this point,

1037
00:53:39,320 --> 00:53:41,800
Speaker 1: I'm ignoring the security because obviously we're dealing with the baby.

1038
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:46,799
Speaker 1: But you know, after I've checked the neck, uh, two

1039
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 1: more pushes or one more push, one more babies that

1040
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: we have the baby. I'm holding her looking like this

1041
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 1: and she's not doing anything yet. I don't even know

1042
00:53:56,520 --> 00:54:01,319
Speaker 1: it's a she yet. She's covered in in ship and

1043
00:54:01,400 --> 00:54:04,480
Speaker 1: I'm panting. My My first next panic is I remember

1044
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:08,280
Speaker 1: with Aurora the marconium stuff and they're like getting feces

1045
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 1: into your lungs, and so I'm looking at her thinking,

1046
00:54:11,120 --> 00:54:13,360
Speaker 1: oh my, like, what if any of this gets into

1047
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:15,760
Speaker 1: her face, her eyes, or her lungs. That's not supposed

1048
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 1: to be good. So my instinct is to just hold

1049
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:20,600
Speaker 1: her upside down, basically with her face down, so that

1050
00:54:20,680 --> 00:54:24,239
Speaker 1: anything is falling off of her face. Um. And as

1051
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:27,440
Speaker 1: soon as I turned her upside down, she starts crying

1052
00:54:27,480 --> 00:54:30,919
Speaker 1: and screaming. And it was amazing, because you know, I'm

1053
00:54:30,920 --> 00:54:33,759
Speaker 1: on another planet. I'm basically just I feel like I'm

1054
00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:36,640
Speaker 1: wrapped my body around some sort of cosmic writh in

1055
00:54:36,680 --> 00:54:38,719
Speaker 1: the universe, and that's how she came out of me

1056
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 1: and then suddenly did out of me, and I just

1057
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:44,680
Speaker 1: look over my shoulder because I'm still on all fours

1058
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:47,840
Speaker 1: because the umbilical court is still connected to her, and

1059
00:54:47,880 --> 00:54:51,720
Speaker 1: I see Patrick holding her upside down and she's wailing,

1060
00:54:51,840 --> 00:54:55,840
Speaker 1: so I'm like, she's alive. It's okay, Um, she's breathing.

1061
00:54:56,480 --> 00:54:58,719
Speaker 1: So you delivered her on all fours, to which I

1062
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:01,120
Speaker 1: a lot of women do at is like a total

1063
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:03,560
Speaker 1: like that is the thing. It was so cool to

1064
00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:07,080
Speaker 1: watch it, Like she just said, my experience of watching

1065
00:55:07,080 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 1: what Troyan was going through was that like she was

1066
00:55:09,760 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 1: just getting out of the way of this babe, Like

1067
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 1: this baby was coming and Troyan was just sort of

1068
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 1: trying to move her body around it in the best

1069
00:55:16,680 --> 00:55:19,400
Speaker 1: way she knew how. And so it was so really

1070
00:55:19,440 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 1: cool to just see that happen completely naturally. Let me

1071
00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:25,839
Speaker 1: just tell you, if this was my story, I don't

1072
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:31,200
Speaker 1: sure it would be dead on. If he had any

1073
00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:33,799
Speaker 1: of that, he would have fainted. I mean he has

1074
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:35,920
Speaker 1: he can't even be in the room for the epidural heid.

1075
00:55:37,640 --> 00:55:41,040
Speaker 1: He hides in the bathroom like he cannot see any

1076
00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 1: of this. The amazing thing that like I have really

1077
00:55:44,640 --> 00:55:47,840
Speaker 1: been thinking about is that Patrick and I are very

1078
00:55:48,080 --> 00:55:50,600
Speaker 1: we're really anxious to people, especially when it comes to

1079
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:54,239
Speaker 1: just like general life and performances and all of this.

1080
00:55:54,680 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 1: But we have had so many moments in our relationship

1081
00:55:57,840 --> 00:56:01,359
Speaker 1: together where it's kind of oddly come down to like

1082
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:05,200
Speaker 1: life and death. Like even our first trip out of town,

1083
00:56:05,360 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 1: we just like we're bouldering and we took it too

1084
00:56:07,760 --> 00:56:11,640
Speaker 1: far and didn't want to assist. You guys, we always

1085
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:15,680
Speaker 1: just like we find ourselves in some really intentions and

1086
00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:17,440
Speaker 1: then we always like to get out of them, and

1087
00:56:17,520 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 1: because we always go very calm and pretend that the

1088
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:24,799
Speaker 1: like we're not in danger, and then it's like three

1089
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:27,239
Speaker 1: hours later that we're just like, can you believe we

1090
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:30,000
Speaker 1: came close to this? I have really never heard of

1091
00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:32,560
Speaker 1: anyone delivering a baby in the front seat of a

1092
00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:35,399
Speaker 1: fucking car. I have heard of people being like, oh

1093
00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:40,439
Speaker 1: my god, we were almost I've never heard of this,

1094
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:48,000
Speaker 1: like Patrick delivered your baby and you like, she asked

1095
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:50,359
Speaker 1: for one thing and we did it. So the best part.

1096
00:56:50,400 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I'm holding the baby, so two more

1097
00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:57,400
Speaker 1: pushes after the head, two more pushes. I think Tryan

1098
00:56:57,520 --> 00:56:59,239
Speaker 1: might have turned over at this I was still on

1099
00:56:59,280 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 1: all fours because I was not sitting down on the

1100
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 1: AMBI was just like what anyway? I turned to our friend,

1101
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:09,160
Speaker 1: the security guard, now holding a baby, just to get

1102
00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:16,000
Speaker 1: just to be like, hey man, anyhow you have any speed?

1103
00:57:16,040 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 1: Are we moving out now? And he's gone, he's checked out.

1104
00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:21,320
Speaker 1: He's white as a sheep. There's no guy there anymore.

1105
00:57:21,360 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 1: There's just he's just like a skin and bones. He

1106
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:29,600
Speaker 1: can't believe what's happening. Um. He was terrified. Here Patrick say,

1107
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 1: do you at least have any water so I can

1108
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 1: wipe her off? And oh my god, it's a girl.

1109
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 1: So that was the moment. It was valarineous. I was

1110
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 1: like imagining what would be like when they were like,

1111
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:44,040
Speaker 1: it's your son, it's your daughter, and it was just

1112
00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 1: like can I wipe the ship off of my daughter?

1113
00:57:47,080 --> 00:57:51,360
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, you have another girl? Uh?

1114
00:57:51,400 --> 00:57:55,360
Speaker 1: And then we spend about Honestly, we were still kind

1115
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 1: of there for about three or four minutes before, like

1116
00:57:58,960 --> 00:58:00,760
Speaker 1: we were just kind of in shock. I was I

1117
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 1: was trying to kind of keep Elliott close and kind

1118
00:58:04,320 --> 00:58:07,000
Speaker 1: of but then I'd panick about about the poop, so

1119
00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 1: I'd turned her over and we just didn't quite know

1120
00:58:09,680 --> 00:58:15,440
Speaker 1: what to do. She's cold and quick and also have

1121
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:18,560
Speaker 1: you done the afterbirth yet, like is the placenta or no,

1122
00:58:19,120 --> 00:58:21,720
Speaker 1: but it's but it's you know, it's eight in the morning,

1123
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 1: it's still chilly. We're in a parking garage and she's

1124
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:28,960
Speaker 1: wet and naked, so we're like terrified, this poor baby

1125
00:58:29,040 --> 00:58:32,480
Speaker 1: is going to be cold. This is the most insane

1126
00:58:32,480 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 1: thing I've ever heard of my life. The doctors or

1127
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:41,480
Speaker 1: nurses rather I guess, come down and they arrive with

1128
00:58:41,720 --> 00:58:44,959
Speaker 1: they say the same urgency that they were called. Like,

1129
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:47,720
Speaker 1: they're kind of chit chatting, they're walking out. I think

1130
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 1: they're very much expecting to find out, you know, find

1131
00:58:50,400 --> 00:58:52,680
Speaker 1: a mother that is in in labor. It's not like

1132
00:58:52,720 --> 00:58:55,800
Speaker 1: they're they're they're they're not interested in helping us. But

1133
00:58:55,840 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 1: I don't think that they understand the gravity of the situation.

1134
00:58:58,880 --> 00:59:02,000
Speaker 1: So when they sort of break through the threshold of

1135
00:59:02,320 --> 00:59:05,040
Speaker 1: the mezzanine and they see us and I'm standing there

1136
00:59:05,040 --> 00:59:07,360
Speaker 1: with the baby crying and Troy and like breathing heavy

1137
00:59:07,400 --> 00:59:10,520
Speaker 1: in the front seat, you see their eyes recognize what's

1138
00:59:10,560 --> 00:59:14,360
Speaker 1: going on, and they spring into action. Immediately. They get

1139
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:16,440
Speaker 1: Troy and wrapped up, They take the baby from me,

1140
00:59:16,600 --> 00:59:19,320
Speaker 1: they put her in Troyan's arms, they get, you know,

1141
00:59:19,400 --> 00:59:21,080
Speaker 1: a blanket from the back of our car and put

1142
00:59:21,160 --> 00:59:23,680
Speaker 1: it in the in the wheelchair, and they moved. They

1143
00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 1: got they've all moves very very fast, as you know,

1144
00:59:25,680 --> 00:59:27,280
Speaker 1: it's like a pit stop in the hospital. And they

1145
00:59:27,320 --> 00:59:30,480
Speaker 1: all get her. They whisked Troy and away into the

1146
00:59:30,520 --> 00:59:34,200
Speaker 1: elevator and they're gone. I think they tell me what room,

1147
00:59:34,280 --> 00:59:39,160
Speaker 1: and they go away. And then I'm still I'm standing

1148
00:59:39,200 --> 00:59:43,120
Speaker 1: there in the lot just because my hands are still covered.

1149
00:59:43,200 --> 00:59:47,240
Speaker 1: Everything's covered. That's shitty. Country music is still playing on

1150
00:59:47,280 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 1: the radio. The front seats just covered in blood and

1151
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:54,000
Speaker 1: after birth. And I turned back to the security guard

1152
00:59:54,120 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 1: just kind of look at him speechless, and he started speechless.

1153
00:59:57,160 --> 00:59:59,320
Speaker 1: And we just sit and I have like a second

1154
00:59:59,360 --> 01:00:02,080
Speaker 1: of like, we can't believe what just happened, and then

1155
01:00:02,320 --> 01:00:04,720
Speaker 1: to bring like should I go park my car to

1156
01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:06,800
Speaker 1: break the silence. He looks at me and goes, You're

1157
01:00:06,800 --> 01:00:12,720
Speaker 1: gonna have to park your car, that's right, unbelievable though,

1158
01:00:13,280 --> 01:00:15,440
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I mean, I'm like, yeah, I guess

1159
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 1: that's true. I am going to have to do that.

1160
01:00:17,640 --> 01:00:21,760
Speaker 1: So now I'm driving around the parking lot parking doing them.

1161
01:00:21,880 --> 01:00:23,520
Speaker 1: I just went from the most real experience of my

1162
01:00:23,640 --> 01:00:27,200
Speaker 1: entire life to the most banal human experience ever. And

1163
01:00:27,280 --> 01:00:30,760
Speaker 1: it's so parenthood in a nutshell like so and you're like,

1164
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:33,120
Speaker 1: oh quick, let me just shut the door and get

1165
01:00:33,120 --> 01:00:37,280
Speaker 1: our luggage, get our Shelly packed bags and get to

1166
01:00:37,320 --> 01:00:40,680
Speaker 1: the room, Troy. And were they freaking out where they

1167
01:00:40,720 --> 01:00:43,240
Speaker 1: like you had they ever seen that before? They were

1168
01:00:43,280 --> 01:00:46,800
Speaker 1: having a ball. They were so like the nurses were

1169
01:00:46,840 --> 01:00:51,280
Speaker 1: really wonderful and they were just like, Wow, what a

1170
01:00:51,440 --> 01:00:53,920
Speaker 1: morning you had to look at this baby, you know,

1171
01:00:54,000 --> 01:00:56,840
Speaker 1: they were they were having truly a good time because

1172
01:00:57,360 --> 01:00:59,640
Speaker 1: she was safe. I was safe, you know, I was

1173
01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:02,800
Speaker 1: now verbal, so they knew, like, there's nothing we have

1174
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:05,400
Speaker 1: to you know, really respond to. We're just going to

1175
01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 1: now proceed as if you've just delivered a baby in

1176
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:12,280
Speaker 1: the hospital. So it was really kind of very joyful.

1177
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:16,680
Speaker 1: They show her to me, they put her on my chest, I'm,

1178
01:01:16,960 --> 01:01:18,960
Speaker 1: you know, holding her, and then I'm like, oh, if

1179
01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:21,640
Speaker 1: I need to this placenta has to come out because

1180
01:01:21,640 --> 01:01:24,280
Speaker 1: I'm still I forgot about that and I didn't feel

1181
01:01:24,320 --> 01:01:25,720
Speaker 1: that because I had a little bit of the epidural

1182
01:01:25,800 --> 01:01:29,480
Speaker 1: still with Aurora, but I'm still having contractions trying to

1183
01:01:29,520 --> 01:01:34,760
Speaker 1: get this placenta out. They do that awesome placenta massage

1184
01:01:34,760 --> 01:01:37,160
Speaker 1: where they basically just suck in the gut to get

1185
01:01:37,280 --> 01:01:41,520
Speaker 1: out glorious, and then they're looking at me and they're like,

1186
01:01:41,560 --> 01:01:44,680
Speaker 1: all right, you had not a lot of tearing, but

1187
01:01:44,720 --> 01:01:46,600
Speaker 1: you did have tearing, so we're gonna need to stitch

1188
01:01:46,600 --> 01:01:51,440
Speaker 1: you up. And I was like, honestly, after what just happened,

1189
01:01:51,440 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 1: I don't care. You can do whatever you want to

1190
01:01:53,920 --> 01:01:59,400
Speaker 1: my body. I'm fine, And yeah, it was. It was

1191
01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:01,720
Speaker 1: just great. And we just are in that you know,

1192
01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:03,640
Speaker 1: that room that we were expecting to be in for

1193
01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:07,040
Speaker 1: twenty hours was just kind of like clean up. Basically

1194
01:02:07,320 --> 01:02:10,320
Speaker 1: you're literally there for an hour. I think this is

1195
01:02:10,360 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 1: the most amazing classic Patrick and Troy and never heard

1196
01:02:16,640 --> 01:02:19,400
Speaker 1: of my life. Like when you texted me saying try

1197
01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:21,480
Speaker 1: and give birth in the frenzy to the car. I

1198
01:02:21,520 --> 01:02:24,920
Speaker 1: just think you guys are such like your Jui d

1199
01:02:25,040 --> 01:02:30,240
Speaker 1: vive and and also you're right, you're such a great

1200
01:02:30,320 --> 01:02:33,760
Speaker 1: mix of super chill but then also have anxiety stuff

1201
01:02:33,760 --> 01:02:36,920
Speaker 1: like you guys are perfect dancing the line of life.

1202
01:02:37,480 --> 01:02:41,120
Speaker 1: Thank god everything went well and was safe, and I'm

1203
01:02:41,360 --> 01:02:46,080
Speaker 1: so I've truly never heard anything like this in my life,

1204
01:02:46,280 --> 01:02:49,240
Speaker 1: like the real the realness of it. I mean, I

1205
01:02:49,320 --> 01:02:51,720
Speaker 1: just try to keep picturing Troy and on all fours

1206
01:02:52,280 --> 01:02:55,400
Speaker 1: digging her head into the car seat while Patrick's taking

1207
01:02:55,400 --> 01:03:00,280
Speaker 1: off pants and seeing a full crowning baby. Yes, and

1208
01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:04,120
Speaker 1: I mean it. I can't. I can't emphasize enough how

1209
01:03:04,280 --> 01:03:07,320
Speaker 1: fast it all happens, you know, And so it was

1210
01:03:07,320 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 1: an empowering thing I think for both of us to

1211
01:03:09,680 --> 01:03:12,360
Speaker 1: just be like, if you had told us this was

1212
01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 1: going to happen, we would have been panicked for three

1213
01:03:14,920 --> 01:03:17,480
Speaker 1: weeks and we'll never be able to do this. But

1214
01:03:18,480 --> 01:03:20,480
Speaker 1: it's just cool when you're in the middle of something

1215
01:03:20,520 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 1: you're like, well, we just have to do it, and

1216
01:03:22,720 --> 01:03:25,560
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, to wrap this up, I want to

1217
01:03:25,560 --> 01:03:29,040
Speaker 1: know you guys, like, how are you feeling? How is

1218
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:32,640
Speaker 1: bringing her home? Introducing her to Aurora? Are you guys

1219
01:03:32,640 --> 01:03:37,240
Speaker 1: in a baby bubble? Yeah? Bringing her home to Aurora

1220
01:03:37,440 --> 01:03:41,760
Speaker 1: was really amazing. Well, Patrick was wonderful because once we

1221
01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:43,920
Speaker 1: were super safe, he turned to me and he was like,

1222
01:03:44,000 --> 01:03:46,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go get the car clean because we're you're

1223
01:03:46,080 --> 01:03:47,800
Speaker 1: not gonna lot to drive. That's the best epilogue is

1224
01:03:47,880 --> 01:03:50,800
Speaker 1: driving into the car wash with a front seat covered

1225
01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:55,080
Speaker 1: in blood. This my god, what did they say? How

1226
01:03:55,080 --> 01:03:58,760
Speaker 1: do you even? I pulled into the car wash, and

1227
01:03:58,800 --> 01:04:00,919
Speaker 1: as the guys like approaching a car to like write

1228
01:04:00,920 --> 01:04:02,680
Speaker 1: it up and tell mebody's gonna do. I look at

1229
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:04,720
Speaker 1: the passenger seat and I go, I can't do this.

1230
01:04:04,800 --> 01:04:06,480
Speaker 1: What They're going to call the cops? I mean there's

1231
01:04:06,480 --> 01:04:09,680
Speaker 1: blood everywhere? So I'm like, this is impossible. I spin

1232
01:04:09,800 --> 01:04:11,560
Speaker 1: out of there. I'm like, oh, sorry, never mind, and

1233
01:04:11,560 --> 01:04:13,680
Speaker 1: I drive out and I go home and have a

1234
01:04:13,680 --> 01:04:16,640
Speaker 1: full like pulp fiction moment while I'm like cleaning the car,

1235
01:04:17,520 --> 01:04:19,720
Speaker 1: you know, myself, just trying to get it at least,

1236
01:04:19,960 --> 01:04:24,360
Speaker 1: you know, pre a presentable place before you so that

1237
01:04:24,520 --> 01:04:27,520
Speaker 1: we can take it to the to get detailed. So yeah,

1238
01:04:27,600 --> 01:04:29,840
Speaker 1: that was funny. Yeah. And then so he you know,

1239
01:04:29,880 --> 01:04:31,760
Speaker 1: but also while he was doing that, he came home.

1240
01:04:31,880 --> 01:04:34,920
Speaker 1: He hugged Aurora, let her know that I was okay.

1241
01:04:35,200 --> 01:04:38,400
Speaker 1: And and then really when we brought Elliott to her,

1242
01:04:38,480 --> 01:04:42,680
Speaker 1: she was so excited to meet her. And we did

1243
01:04:42,680 --> 01:04:45,200
Speaker 1: the thing that they say it's terrible to stay about

1244
01:04:45,200 --> 01:04:46,919
Speaker 1: your kid, but that you do with dogs too, where

1245
01:04:46,960 --> 01:04:49,800
Speaker 1: you let where you and introduced them outside the house. Yeah,

1246
01:04:51,000 --> 01:04:55,560
Speaker 1: so we did that well neutral territorial outside. You know,

1247
01:04:55,600 --> 01:04:57,520
Speaker 1: I was with Eliot and she went to go get Also,

1248
01:04:57,680 --> 01:05:00,000
Speaker 1: I got to go get Aurora, so my hands weren't

1249
01:05:00,120 --> 01:05:02,880
Speaker 1: filled with baby, you know. So I went in and

1250
01:05:02,920 --> 01:05:04,680
Speaker 1: I was just like, I'm so excited to see you,

1251
01:05:04,720 --> 01:05:06,520
Speaker 1: and we got to have a moment together and then

1252
01:05:07,120 --> 01:05:10,360
Speaker 1: you know, we are wanted to meet her, and she was.

1253
01:05:10,760 --> 01:05:13,160
Speaker 1: I mean, we were both really aware of trying to

1254
01:05:13,160 --> 01:05:15,120
Speaker 1: be sensitive about it, and for a minute once she

1255
01:05:15,240 --> 01:05:18,479
Speaker 1: was like so excited, she was like, get the funk

1256
01:05:18,520 --> 01:05:20,960
Speaker 1: out of my way. That is my sister. Yeah, I

1257
01:05:21,000 --> 01:05:24,200
Speaker 1: want to I want to hold her. Yeah, she's mine. Yeah,

1258
01:05:25,480 --> 01:05:27,960
Speaker 1: I saw that writing on the wall. I just feel

1259
01:05:28,320 --> 01:05:32,080
Speaker 1: in or in Aurora's being and in her temperament that

1260
01:05:32,160 --> 01:05:35,160
Speaker 1: this is she was predestined to be a sister. She

1261
01:05:35,320 --> 01:05:38,240
Speaker 1: really was. And I think we saw the months of

1262
01:05:38,320 --> 01:05:41,280
Speaker 1: preparation of putting that into her head of what that

1263
01:05:41,320 --> 01:05:42,920
Speaker 1: meant to be a big sister and what kind of

1264
01:05:42,920 --> 01:05:45,440
Speaker 1: big sister she wanted to be. That we saw that payoff,

1265
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Speaker 1: and these we're still seeing a payoff. We have yet

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Speaker 1: to really see any extreme like jealousy or ownership of

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01:05:53,160 --> 01:05:55,880
Speaker 1: Mama and like Inger at Elliott. None of that has

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01:05:55,960 --> 01:05:57,680
Speaker 1: yet shown up. I mean, we're keeping our eye own

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Speaker 1: and it obviously it's bound to happen at some point,

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01:05:59,760 --> 01:06:01,960
Speaker 1: but it all feels like we're on the same team

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01:06:02,120 --> 01:06:07,360
Speaker 1: rather than like Mama's attention as dis Yeah. Um, and

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Speaker 1: then how it's been for us as you know, I

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01:06:10,320 --> 01:06:13,720
Speaker 1: remember when Aurora was first born. It was I mean,

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Speaker 1: first of all, my physical recovery from that, you know,

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01:06:16,400 --> 01:06:18,920
Speaker 1: twenty six hours of labor was just like a long

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Speaker 1: haul and it was very painful. I remember making some

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Speaker 1: some deals with uh, some supernatural things, just so I

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01:06:27,560 --> 01:06:29,560
Speaker 1: wouldn't have to try to go to the bathroom because

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01:06:29,560 --> 01:06:34,400
Speaker 1: I was so scared terribrotect me, please help me, all

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Speaker 1: of willing that let this first POSTCARDU and poop not

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01:06:38,320 --> 01:06:42,760
Speaker 1: kill me yet. But but because it all happened so

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01:06:42,840 --> 01:06:45,640
Speaker 1: fast with Elliott, it felt like my body was just

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01:06:45,680 --> 01:06:50,240
Speaker 1: immediately like oh cool, we're back. Like I've had to

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01:06:50,360 --> 01:06:54,600
Speaker 1: really been blow myself down, absurd to watch Troy. It

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01:06:54,720 --> 01:06:58,280
Speaker 1: like she's just walking around the house and we're just

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01:06:58,400 --> 01:07:00,840
Speaker 1: like life has been very remote for the last ten

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01:07:00,880 --> 01:07:02,680
Speaker 1: days and I have to try and catch myself to

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01:07:02,720 --> 01:07:05,520
Speaker 1: be like, dude, she just had a baby, Like, what

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01:07:05,520 --> 01:07:08,040
Speaker 1: what more can I do? Because trying is just right

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01:07:08,080 --> 01:07:11,360
Speaker 1: back into action. It's been phenomenal, like very different than

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01:07:11,400 --> 01:07:13,840
Speaker 1: the first time because I think of that epidural really,

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01:07:13,880 --> 01:07:16,040
Speaker 1: I mean the amount of time and the epidural really

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01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:18,480
Speaker 1: took it out of you. It was at the amount

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01:07:18,480 --> 01:07:21,240
Speaker 1: of pushing I mean, aunt one minute. This time, you

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01:07:21,240 --> 01:07:24,520
Speaker 1: didn't push it in half. Yeah exactly, guys, we just

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01:07:24,720 --> 01:07:30,760
Speaker 1: birthed a child in a car, but for all intensive purposes.

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Speaker 1: Like it was like you were I mean back hundreds

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01:07:34,520 --> 01:07:36,680
Speaker 1: of years ago, like how people did it, your fucking

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01:07:36,720 --> 01:07:40,160
Speaker 1: body did it. It was hilarious because I thought I

1300
01:07:40,720 --> 01:07:43,240
Speaker 1: was pretty I don't want to say traumatized by the

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01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:46,920
Speaker 1: first go around, but I was scared because there was

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01:07:46,960 --> 01:07:48,800
Speaker 1: something in the back of my mind that was like

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01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:52,240
Speaker 1: defeatist a little bit about the first time around. And

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01:07:52,280 --> 01:07:55,760
Speaker 1: I wish I didn't have that mentality. Um, but I

1305
01:07:55,760 --> 01:07:57,160
Speaker 1: guess that's just the way that I was built that

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01:07:57,200 --> 01:08:00,440
Speaker 1: I felt like I was so scared during some of

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01:08:00,440 --> 01:08:02,600
Speaker 1: the contractions with Aurora. They say that thing where it's

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01:08:02,600 --> 01:08:05,200
Speaker 1: like when you're more scared of the next contraction than

1309
01:08:05,240 --> 01:08:08,640
Speaker 1: you are excited to meet your baby, and like you

1310
01:08:09,160 --> 01:08:12,240
Speaker 1: you're not in a good place, and I needed the

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01:08:12,280 --> 01:08:17,000
Speaker 1: epidurala I needed that time. My body was really not

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01:08:17,000 --> 01:08:20,360
Speaker 1: not going into the process um with with any sort

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01:08:20,400 --> 01:08:24,439
Speaker 1: of relaxation, and I guess this time around there was

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01:08:24,600 --> 01:08:28,120
Speaker 1: such a relief because I was like, Oh, this is

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01:08:28,880 --> 01:08:31,760
Speaker 1: my body is taking care of me. I also think

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01:08:31,800 --> 01:08:35,080
Speaker 1: you that so much of the early labor stuff because

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01:08:35,120 --> 01:08:38,920
Speaker 1: Aurora was around and you had to sort of save

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01:08:39,000 --> 01:08:42,559
Speaker 1: face a little bit. Your attention wasn't solely on it

1319
01:08:42,960 --> 01:08:45,640
Speaker 1: to I mean, like you're having contractions, but you're also like,

1320
01:08:45,680 --> 01:08:48,519
Speaker 1: we're good here, We're good, Like everything's good, like, you know,

1321
01:08:48,840 --> 01:08:51,680
Speaker 1: literally letting her ride me like a horse, you know.

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01:08:51,720 --> 01:08:53,559
Speaker 1: Whereas the first time around with Aurora, I think I

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01:08:53,560 --> 01:08:56,559
Speaker 1: tried to rip Patrick sweater into during a contraction, just

1324
01:08:56,600 --> 01:09:00,360
Speaker 1: to be like, you don't know what this feels like. Um,

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01:09:00,640 --> 01:09:02,960
Speaker 1: was it public knowledge that you guys were even pregnant.

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01:09:03,080 --> 01:09:07,679
Speaker 1: I mean, it's funny, like this will be nobody, nobody

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01:09:07,760 --> 01:09:13,439
Speaker 1: knew you guys. I'm so honored. I think because I'm

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01:09:13,439 --> 01:09:17,439
Speaker 1: a really anxious person and very anxious about pregnancies, I

1329
01:09:18,600 --> 01:09:22,360
Speaker 1: never felt comfortable doing the like here's a picture of

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01:09:22,360 --> 01:09:24,639
Speaker 1: me with my ultrasound. Here's a picture of me with

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01:09:24,640 --> 01:09:28,400
Speaker 1: my growing bump, because I just had so much fear

1332
01:09:28,640 --> 01:09:32,439
Speaker 1: around what might happen some you know, people who I

1333
01:09:32,439 --> 01:09:35,360
Speaker 1: know who are like very or religious and Jewish, like

1334
01:09:35,439 --> 01:09:37,240
Speaker 1: they will not have baby showers, they will not have

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01:09:37,280 --> 01:09:40,519
Speaker 1: a single baby thing in the house. So to each

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01:09:40,560 --> 01:09:44,120
Speaker 1: their own of how they feel. Absolutely like, I just

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01:09:44,200 --> 01:09:47,120
Speaker 1: don't want to ever put attention on this. I want

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01:09:47,120 --> 01:09:49,519
Speaker 1: to keep it close to I think there's just the

1339
01:09:49,560 --> 01:09:51,320
Speaker 1: way that we communicate these things in the world now.

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01:09:51,360 --> 01:09:53,760
Speaker 1: We're all through social media, and like, social media is

1341
01:09:54,360 --> 01:09:56,880
Speaker 1: fine for what it's built for, but I think any

1342
01:09:56,920 --> 01:10:01,479
Speaker 1: time we've ever engaged about some thinks so private and

1343
01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:04,719
Speaker 1: so important and so special and so delicate, it always

1344
01:10:04,840 --> 01:10:09,200
Speaker 1: ends up feeling difficult and you're looking at comments about it,

1345
01:10:09,240 --> 01:10:12,559
Speaker 1: it just all felt like there was never the way

1346
01:10:12,600 --> 01:10:14,400
Speaker 1: to do it in a way that we we like

1347
01:10:14,600 --> 01:10:17,599
Speaker 1: that felt right for us. Like again, I'm so over

1348
01:10:17,640 --> 01:10:19,400
Speaker 1: the moon, you know, Like I told you when I

1349
01:10:19,439 --> 01:10:23,320
Speaker 1: wanted to be pregnant desperately. I enjoyed and loved seeing

1350
01:10:23,439 --> 01:10:25,879
Speaker 1: so many of my friends pregnant and felt so excited

1351
01:10:25,920 --> 01:10:29,679
Speaker 1: for them. And I love it when people post beautiful

1352
01:10:29,720 --> 01:10:33,320
Speaker 1: pictures and feel good about that. But that just didn't

1353
01:10:33,360 --> 01:10:35,760
Speaker 1: feel right for me because we're the type of people

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01:10:35,760 --> 01:10:38,639
Speaker 1: to do check like the comments or read the things,

1355
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:43,120
Speaker 1: and we're becoming obsessive great like you know that about yourself,

1356
01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:45,679
Speaker 1: and these are all things that we have to learn up.

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01:10:46,240 --> 01:10:50,760
Speaker 1: You know. I am so honored to share with the

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01:10:50,800 --> 01:10:55,280
Speaker 1: world that you are pregnant. There aren't words it is

1359
01:10:55,360 --> 01:10:59,280
Speaker 1: to describe how Elliott game it its world, and that

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01:10:59,400 --> 01:11:03,640
Speaker 1: you are now family of four. Yeah, and you have

1361
01:11:03,880 --> 01:11:11,599
Speaker 1: two beautiful girls. And the Patrick and Troyant of this

1362
01:11:11,720 --> 01:11:17,960
Speaker 1: is so you both look at me. I mean, honestly,

1363
01:11:18,000 --> 01:11:20,519
Speaker 1: you do not look like you have attendal that you

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01:11:20,640 --> 01:11:23,680
Speaker 1: delivered yourself in a well we you know, we did.

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01:11:24,240 --> 01:11:26,559
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's been a part of this recording. Yep.

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01:11:26,560 --> 01:11:29,400
Speaker 1: As soon as this all was good and everybody was safe,

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Speaker 1: I mean, we both turned to each other, you know,

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01:11:31,680 --> 01:11:33,320
Speaker 1: to each other, and we're like, we got to talk

1369
01:11:33,360 --> 01:11:36,000
Speaker 1: to Katie about this because your podcast had been such

1370
01:11:36,040 --> 01:11:38,680
Speaker 1: an important part. We both listened to your story like

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01:11:38,760 --> 01:11:42,400
Speaker 1: literally days before this, and we're so moved by what

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01:11:42,479 --> 01:11:44,439
Speaker 1: you do with this podcast and who you are and

1373
01:11:44,439 --> 01:11:46,559
Speaker 1: you're honesty and how much that helps people, and so

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01:11:47,080 --> 01:11:50,400
Speaker 1: we were like so immediately knew that if there was

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01:11:50,439 --> 01:11:54,200
Speaker 1: a place to talk about this, this was obviously it

1376
01:11:54,240 --> 01:11:56,760
Speaker 1: was probably pretty scary in the moment, but now it's

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01:11:56,840 --> 01:12:03,280
Speaker 1: like liter jus less joyous special thing. I just think

1378
01:12:03,360 --> 01:12:08,960
Speaker 1: that's also provides such help and um heart for our

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01:12:09,120 --> 01:12:12,519
Speaker 1: mommies and parents and spouses and partners and all the

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01:12:12,520 --> 01:12:14,800
Speaker 1: people who are listening. So thank you for coming on

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01:12:14,880 --> 01:12:30,840
Speaker 1: Katie's Oh my gosh, thank you guys for listening to

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01:12:30,920 --> 01:12:33,559
Speaker 1: Katie's Crib. I want to hear from you you guys,

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01:12:33,560 --> 01:12:35,080
Speaker 1: what do you want to talk about? What guest do

1384
01:12:35,120 --> 01:12:37,160
Speaker 1: you want to have on? Do you have questions, you've comments?

1385
01:12:37,240 --> 01:12:42,040
Speaker 1: Hit me up Katie's Crib at Shonda land dot com.

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01:12:42,080 --> 01:12:50,479
Speaker 1: Bye bye. Katie's Crib is a production of Shonda land

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Speaker 1: you can never know until you try, until the can

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