Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. We're so
Speaker 1: excited to be back again, Katy, thanks for joining us.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I am so excited. But can we
Speaker 2: just talk for a minute about exhaustion. Before we are
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Speaker 1: let's start with hometowns. Oh my goodness, what did you
Speaker 1: think of this week's hometown?
Speaker 2: Okay, first of all, the best thing starting with Juliana
Speaker 2: and her dad Carl, who I actually loved, but I
Speaker 2: did you just got did you get home?
Speaker 1: Hoick?
Speaker 2: Go Newt and go Boston? I was the accent. When
Speaker 2: people say to me, oh, I can tell you from Boston.
Speaker 2: I want a clip of this episode just to play
Speaker 2: them and say, no, no, this is a Boston accent.
Speaker 2: Carl has a Boston accent. I just loved it, though.
Speaker 2: I mean, you're the Italian, so you got to weigh
Speaker 2: in on this about how Italians. But I thought they
Speaker 2: were so welcoming.
Speaker 1: They were one two. They were we are That's how
Speaker 1: we are. They eat, they gather, and I loved that
Speaker 1: he accepted and he liked them. Yeah, what did you think? Though?
Speaker 2: I had to laugh when they at the pizza store
Speaker 2: and they bring home four pizzas. I'm like, there's a
Speaker 2: crowd of like sixty there. I'm sure those four pizzas
Speaker 2: went far. But you know it's funny because I wish
Speaker 2: they had shown just me being me. I wish they
Speaker 2: had shown more of Newton, more of Boston. I just
Speaker 2: wish they had, you know, had a nice date other
Speaker 2: than just going to a local pizza place and try
Speaker 2: to spin pizzas.
Speaker 1: But you know, I think she's very happy. She's giddy, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: she doesn't want to get hurt. I mean, when I
Speaker 1: said it was the first time in seven years she's
Speaker 1: brought a guy home, I know, And I watched it thinking, oh,
Speaker 1: are you going to get hurt? I don't know, So
Speaker 1: we move it on each date. I kept looking for
Speaker 1: that moment that tells us right, yeah, the modeling with
Speaker 1: Zoe and all that was cool and she is a beautiful,
Speaker 1: beautiful girl and not feeling that one.
Speaker 2: Well, we'll get to her, but but I just want
Speaker 2: to know. On of course, I told you Juliana is
Speaker 2: my hometown girl. I still think it's going to be Latia.
Speaker 2: But I loved the way they really welcomed him, and
Speaker 2: I think that meant a lot to him, because this
Speaker 2: is a guy that seems to really care about family
Speaker 2: and what he Yeah, and did you hear him say
Speaker 2: Juliana I think said to her dad, you know he's
Speaker 2: my guy. We were aligned and they feel safe with
Speaker 2: each other. I mean, those things really matter, and and
Speaker 2: you know the previews, he says, he's really struggling. I'm
Speaker 2: going out on a limb here. I think he's going
Speaker 2: to be struggling between Juliana and Litia. All right, let's
Speaker 2: move on to to Zoe. Wait one more? Thanks? Did
Speaker 2: you wait? But did you hear him tell her I
Speaker 2: started this. He said to Juliana, I'm falling for you.
Speaker 2: It could be a fit. And Juliana said she'd let
Speaker 2: down her walls. So and when he kissed her goodbye,
Speaker 2: it was not a.
Speaker 1: Wasn't a pack, No, it was good kids. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: not the one I wanted. I like her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, so let's go to Zoe who it's
Speaker 2: definitely not the one. But I don't think it's Zoe.
Speaker 2: I would be surprised. I think she's lovely, she's got
Speaker 2: a great life. She's very strong, and he likes that
Speaker 2: about her. I think Zoe's beautiful.
Speaker 1: Absolutely.
Speaker 2: I think doing a wedding photo shoot, I do not
Speaker 2: think that was a good idea. I mean, just for
Speaker 2: does anyone think that was the good idea to do
Speaker 2: a wedding photo shoot? Wait?
Speaker 1: Do you remember when they tied the knot? Who was
Speaker 1: that that tied the knot?
Speaker 2: Latia?
Speaker 1: Latia? Yeah that was so. I remember when Joan and Escale?
Speaker 1: Yeah I remember that.
Speaker 2: Well, wait a minute, do you when they did, like,
Speaker 2: they didn't just do a wedding shoot, they did a proposal.
Speaker 2: They did she came out in a wedding draw.
Speaker 1: I have how she was posing. She's a fabulous She's
Speaker 1: a beautiful model.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. I think everything you're saying is right.
Speaker 2: She's a beautiful model. However, Grant did say you could
Speaker 2: see he felt it was a little bit weird to
Speaker 2: be doing a photo shoot with an engagement ranging the
Speaker 2: whole nine yards. I mean, just practice Grant really and
Speaker 2: I think it was foreshadowing. I think you know he's scared.
Speaker 2: It was like, what the hell, why are we doing this?
Speaker 2: He said that he was so proud of her for
Speaker 2: doing being modeling. I didn't see him talking about them
Speaker 2: at all. It was, Oh, she's a great model. You know,
Speaker 2: she's beautiful, she's so good at her craft. Kind of
Speaker 2: thing that was. It was almost like it was there
Speaker 2: was I didn't feel anything other than damn, I look,
Speaker 2: I wish, but don't you look like she does in
Speaker 2: a wedding gown?
Speaker 1: God? I mean, you are beautiful. If you're listening to this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you are absolutely gorgeous. Love it, but I
Speaker 2: don't see it happening. Okay, my most.
Speaker 1: Favorite dat or do you want to go to Dina?
Speaker 2: Uh, let's go to Let's.
Speaker 1: Wear for Dina? Her parents didn't come. They refused to come. Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't remember that her dad was a religious man.
Speaker 2: I didn't catch I don't think that's what it is necessarily,
Speaker 2: I think. But can I just say to you, I
Speaker 2: think that's what we call a red herring. Again, I
Speaker 2: don't know why I go out on limbso I'm talking
Speaker 2: to you about this stuff. I just tell you what
Speaker 2: I really think, because I figured nobody else is listening.
Speaker 2: Just I'm just telling Susan here. But I think that, uh,
Speaker 2: that is that was just a red herring. I don't
Speaker 2: think her parents been there had anything to do with it.
Speaker 2: I think for her to send her home, well, it
Speaker 2: may have put a thorn in it. But I'm saying
Speaker 2: I didn't see the connection. I saw her and him
Speaker 2: as companions. As you know, he trusted in her, he
Speaker 2: believed she was saved sage advice. Yeah, he was impressed
Speaker 2: of all that. And you know she was the one
Speaker 2: that talked about Carolina and he listened to what she said.
Speaker 2: But again, no no connection. But I don't think.
Speaker 1: He said like them both.
Speaker 2: But but I don't think he sent her home because
Speaker 2: her parents weren't there.
Speaker 1: I think I don't think that's the main reason. But
Speaker 1: that was a sour start. But I was feeling I
Speaker 1: felt so bad for her.
Speaker 2: Oh I did too.
Speaker 1: That's embarrassing. It's it's like, but you have to respect
Speaker 1: your parents' wishes.
Speaker 2: Well, I don't whether she respects the wishes or not.
Speaker 2: She was there with you know, her friends.
Speaker 1: I wonder if she went home and said, thanks a
Speaker 1: lot because of you.
Speaker 2: She probably went home and said, you know what, he
Speaker 2: sent me home.
Speaker 1: He married.
Speaker 2: That's right, because you didn't and they said, and they
Speaker 2: probably said to her, no, we knew it was going south.
Speaker 2: That's why we didn't show up. I mean, that is
Speaker 2: a no. That's a no win for anybody. But I
Speaker 2: let's talk about Latilla going to Wyoming. Can I just
Speaker 2: say the big the big thing in that room.
Speaker 1: I put it on my bucket list, cath I gotta
Speaker 1: go there. Oh it was so beautiful.
Speaker 2: We're gonna go and ride horses. I'm gonna go skiing.
Speaker 2: You can ride horses, you and faith faith. If you're listening,
Speaker 2: Susan's coming to ride horses with the no never happening.
Speaker 1: I mean, and I love the people the Mormons deal.
Speaker 2: It's not an issue no.
Speaker 1: I love that. Oh my god, here it comes, here
Speaker 1: it comes. And they all were open. He is a
Speaker 1: man of faith, That's all that mattered.
Speaker 2: He did say to her and about Juliana, and again
Speaker 2: I'm paraphrasing here. He said about Letia, she would make
Speaker 2: a great wife and mother, and that has been his parade,
Speaker 2: you know, lyric about family.
Speaker 1: And I think that's why her family loved that part.
Speaker 1: She is so pure, that smile of hers, and she's
Speaker 1: so falling for him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I see the music. I don't know who does
Speaker 2: the music, whoever, who's ever the music? Good job, a
Speaker 2: great job, really a good job. You can use that
Speaker 2: term for so many things. That's an inside joke. They
Speaker 2: both seem so genuinely happy. And I love that Grant
Speaker 2: opened up about his own mother's strict religious beliefs. He
Speaker 2: seems comfortable with her. I think he seems, Oh I've
Speaker 2: been Oh no, you're now you're doing turncoat again on me.
Speaker 2: You kept saying Juliana and you'll get gold.
Speaker 1: I like, I don't know who he picks, but after
Speaker 1: this and she will not sleep with him on the overnights?
Speaker 1: Did you hear say that? Uh?
Speaker 2: I don't have she will or won't. I mean, I've heard.
Speaker 1: That her faith. And she also said that would be
Speaker 1: difficult if he sleeps with other women.
Speaker 2: Well, he's a man and she's got some pretty women,
Speaker 2: and you know, get over at Ladia, it's happening. Forgive him,
Speaker 2: start playing father, Forgive him for he know not what
Speaker 2: he did.
Speaker 1: He knew not what he did.
Speaker 2: Okay. So the other thing I wondered though, is how
Speaker 2: Grant's family would fit into the Mormon faith. I have
Speaker 2: friends who are who are Mormon. Literally, I mean they
Speaker 2: they it's people. They're good people, but I think the
Speaker 2: most I think they'll I think they.
Speaker 1: Such a doll baby, I didn't look like any of them.
Speaker 2: Well, wait, did you hear him tell Lettia's mother that
Speaker 2: he's falling in love? He said that he hasn't said
Speaker 2: that to any That's why saying these little things.
Speaker 1: Well, the way he looks at her and she looks
Speaker 1: at him, she feels him.
Speaker 2: Okay, I can't believe said hopeful, hopeful. Okay, So y'all
Speaker 2: need to hear. Susan and I were the other night
Speaker 2: and Susan was saying, we were talking about, you know,
Speaker 2: those things in life in general, and soon said, oh,
Speaker 2: you know me, Kathy, I'm just a hopeless romantic. And
Speaker 2: I said, no, Susan, you are a hopeful romantic. So
Speaker 2: we're now coining that Susan is not a hopeless romantic.
Speaker 2: She is a romantic.
Speaker 1: I'm just here.
Speaker 2: That's it's coming this year for both of us. And
Speaker 2: so it was the taxman on April fifteenth. Okay, wait,
Speaker 2: I can't believe you didn't bring up Wait, I cannot.
Speaker 2: I was. I was waiting for you to do it
Speaker 2: because you know, I thought this was in your wheelhouse,
Speaker 2: but you didn't. So I'm taking it over Letilla's grandfather.
Speaker 2: Oh god, I.
Speaker 1: Kid Susan, what happened?
Speaker 2: I was like, I was up about his wife and
Speaker 2: how much they I thought, is this this is family
Speaker 2: who knows what love is? They wouldn't want to be
Speaker 2: a part of that? Who would not want to be
Speaker 2: part of that? I was just like you said, that
Speaker 2: whole hometown was perfect. Do you wait?
Speaker 1: I didn't care for Kathy. Can we be honest, dear.
Speaker 2: Tell me the horses no, no.
Speaker 1: No, no no. Every time he goes to leave them
Speaker 1: and they know he's going to the next woman. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's not a warm and fuzzy goodbye. He's quick, little
Speaker 1: kiss and off he goes next.
Speaker 2: Well, mishopeful, romantic. He didn't have time to do a
Speaker 2: friend a stare, dip and bow and makeout session. You know,
Speaker 2: the car's waiting times running, money's time. Spend a minute
Speaker 2: with them before you leave? Wait? Can I also wait
Speaker 2: the one? I got to get back to Grandpop's here
Speaker 2: for a minute because I was crying. I've hung around
Speaker 2: you too long, as Susan, I permitted, some.
Speaker 1: It is sentimental.
Speaker 2: I am becoming. I am well. No, I've always been sentiment.
Speaker 2: I just don't show it as easily easy to do,
Speaker 2: he said, were you can work out anything with love,
Speaker 2: and that kind of love that they had never goes away.
Speaker 1: Yes, no, I just.
Speaker 2: I just made me cry. You could see how much
Speaker 2: he missed his wife, and so you know she The
Speaker 2: other thing I want to say about Letia, she says.
Speaker 2: The depth of what she says to him. She said
Speaker 2: she wants to give him everything. Fam I'm getting goosebumps again.
Speaker 1: I'm family. I want to marry them, plug it away.
Speaker 2: Oh Jesus, Okay, Grant and Litia, should you be the
Speaker 2: lucky too? I want to be the mc at your wedding,
Speaker 2: and Susan wants to be the officia make it happen. Wait,
Speaker 2: the last thing though, that she said they both told
Speaker 2: each other. Did you hear that they're falling in love
Speaker 2: with each other? Yes, So let me just say Grant
Speaker 2: it's got in mind that.
Speaker 1: A lot for her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but Grant's kind of a big problem if he
Speaker 2: doesn't choose her. I mean, he's got a big problem anyway,
Speaker 2: because he's told he's told uh Juliana that he's fall
Speaker 2: in love with her too, And in the previews he's
Speaker 2: telling Jesse that he's in love with two women. That's
Speaker 2: what I think. I mean, these other two or just
Speaker 2: wallpaper right now, they're on well, I mean they're lovely women,
Speaker 2: and Zoe's beautiful and so is so is Dina. But
Speaker 2: you know they're just.
Speaker 1: So Zoey's They're all going to go in the Wait
Speaker 1: then I'll buy you.
Speaker 2: I'll buy you a new capsule wardrobe. If he doesn't
Speaker 2: send Zoe home if she's not next.
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree, that's how I feel. Any I
Speaker 1: would be quite surprised.
Speaker 2: I just I think he's I think he's a great guy.
Speaker 2: But you know, we have to remember I sit here
Speaker 2: watching the show, and I have to remember that these
Speaker 2: are young adults. They haven't had enough life experiences yet,
Speaker 2: so I could see they're in love with two.
Speaker 1: I mean, I couldn't have Has Latia ever been in love?
Speaker 2: I didn't ask her when I called it.
Speaker 1: It was quite some time before since she brought anybody
Speaker 1: around the family. I remember hearing that, but Juliana said,
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 2: Juliana was like she had brought somebody home in seven years.
Speaker 2: I don't remember the saying that. But again, you know,
Speaker 2: this is one of these things where I go back
Speaker 2: to to Leslie and Theresa on our show, like, remember
Speaker 2: you and I talked about this. We were glad that
Speaker 2: we didn't make it to the end because who wanted.
Speaker 1: To be kind a heartbreaking place to be.
Speaker 2: What a horrible heartbreak, you know, because you.
Speaker 1: Open yourself, you've become vulnerable. Yeah, and then you believe him.
Speaker 2: Well, I would believe if a guy tells me, If
Speaker 2: if a man tells me he's in love with me,
Speaker 2: why would you not believe that?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 2: Unless he's got his phone list out and there's ten
Speaker 2: other women that he's dial called the bachelor? Why because
Speaker 2: he remains the bachelor. That's why it should be you know,
Speaker 2: first first time wedding or something. I don't know, but
Speaker 2: I think it's I think it's a great show. I
Speaker 2: frankly am ready for Zoe to go home, not because
Speaker 2: I don't like her.
Speaker 1: I think she's lovely, Zoe. I think you're lovelyhead version.
Speaker 2: I think you are an incredible model, and I would
Speaker 2: focus on that some man will sweep you off your
Speaker 2: feet and you will be wearing that white wedding gown
Speaker 2: for the man of your dreams. But I just don't
Speaker 2: see it for one minute being grand. So I can't wait.
Speaker 2: So next week it's.
Speaker 1: Going to break my heart between the two. In my
Speaker 1: world Zoe left. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Oh, in my world, it was always boiled down to
Speaker 2: those two.
Speaker 1: This be good.
Speaker 2: Okay, Susan, it's time to get into the episode.
Speaker 1: Here we go.
Speaker 2: We're going to start with my favorite day.
Speaker 1: Here we go.
Speaker 2: All right, what advice Susan, would you give young women
Speaker 2: who are dealing with gossip, rumors and all things? Mean girls? Oh?
Speaker 2: How much can we talk about this? Oh?
Speaker 1: My god? I could start with just raising my kids,
Speaker 1: my daughter, what she went through and to be honest, Kathy,
Speaker 1: you and I on the internet, people are mean. If
Speaker 1: everybody was kind, it would be a well.
Speaker 2: Not everybody's mean. And I will say to you, let
Speaker 2: me tell you how I deal with it, and the
Speaker 2: advice I would give to young women I've had. And
Speaker 2: You're right, Susan, We've both had a lot of people
Speaker 2: write just mean ass comments to us. Usually ignore them
Speaker 2: because you know what, if you ignore them, they go away.
Speaker 1: But very occasionally I will address it.
Speaker 2: And somebody wrote something so mean the other day about
Speaker 2: you and me and our friendship, and I wrote back
Speaker 2: to them, Susan and I have such a great relationship,
Speaker 2: we are such good friends. I hope someday you find
Speaker 2: a friendship like Susan's in mine. And in the meantime,
Speaker 2: I have a great day. It was same person that
Speaker 2: said that I need a news job.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that's a first.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just saying people can be mean. My advice though,
Speaker 2: first of all young women.
Speaker 1: Takes harder for young women, but I wouldn't We're seasoned.
Speaker 1: If you will, okay, it.
Speaker 2: Shouldn't be hurt. Feelings are hurt feelings about young people.
Speaker 2: My advice to them is ignore it first and foremost
Speaker 2: ignore it because people are either jealous, they're angry about
Speaker 2: something else. It's typically about them, not about you. It's
Speaker 2: the point.
Speaker 1: When someone's spreading a rumor. I think that would be
Speaker 1: harder than just hearing mean things. When someone spreads a rumor,
Speaker 1: you're going to think people are believing this thing, you
Speaker 1: know whatever.
Speaker 2: And you know what, Susan, You're right, some people are
Speaker 2: going to believe it.
Speaker 1: But guess what.
Speaker 2: We can only control our own reactions to things. We
Speaker 2: can't make people think a certain way. We can't make
Speaker 2: people behave.
Speaker 1: A certain way.
Speaker 2: All we can do is control our own behavior and
Speaker 2: do the best we can to control our own thoughts.
Speaker 1: I got to give you a story. Okay, I was
Speaker 1: thirteen years old. I don't know if I ever shared
Speaker 1: this with you. I was never allowed to go to
Speaker 1: the splash party they were called at the pool because
Speaker 1: there was a live music and it was for teenagers.
Speaker 1: So I turned thirteen and I wanted to go. Mind you,
Speaker 1: I developed in the chest area very late. I used
Speaker 1: to pray to God, I want.
Speaker 2: Wait a minute, wait a second, I don't believe that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it was this happened to you overnight.
Speaker 1: Overnight, Kathy, and I did, I must, I must, I
Speaker 1: must improve my bust. You know all those exercises we
Speaker 1: used to cry to my dad.
Speaker 2: We must develop our bost the bigger, the betters. We must,
Speaker 2: we must, we must.
Speaker 1: So anyhow, I'm finally allowed to go to this thing.
Speaker 1: I am so excited. And the development was starting. I
Speaker 1: mean it came overnight. Like I said, I went into
Speaker 1: the bathroom at the splash party and it said, Susan
Speaker 1: Vocolo stuffs. I was wordified. What well you do? MENO
Speaker 1: me right? Please tell me you did not pull down
Speaker 1: your baby. I don't think before I do things. A
Speaker 1: lot of times I came out I'm burst open the
Speaker 1: top of my baby to cry my eyes out, to
Speaker 1: show everybody I was not stuffing, and then called my
Speaker 1: mother crying hysterical and come get me. Now.
Speaker 2: Let me just say to the young women out there,
Speaker 2: don't Susan. Let me just say give you one word
Speaker 2: of advice here, don't.
Speaker 1: Hey, it worked, it worked, it, but he believed I
Speaker 1: stuffed anymore because there they were.
Speaker 2: And that was your golden life, to make sure that
Speaker 2: people did not know.
Speaker 1: Can you imagine walking in and reading something about yourself
Speaker 1: and it was. It was mortifying, and it's.
Speaker 2: No worse than for a good time, going in to
Speaker 2: a bathroom stall for a good time, call Kathy when
Speaker 2: my phone number. No.
Speaker 1: Seriously, though, it does hurt, and it does thing, and
Speaker 1: women are girls. Don't let it get the best of you.
Speaker 1: Be the better person. You're off your bathing suit. Yeah
Speaker 1: you can if you want. If they're talking about stuff,
Speaker 1: and go for it. Can we please gut?
Speaker 2: We're going to the fan questions right now.
Speaker 1: We're just leaving that. We're going.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to start us off with the first one.
Speaker 2: It starts, Oh guess what, Susan. We have update.
Speaker 1: We just said that today. We love the update.
Speaker 2: We love the updates. Okay, this is one from Maggie.
Speaker 2: She wrote in I don't know if you all remember,
Speaker 2: but we certainly do. She wrote in asking for ways
Speaker 2: she cont can connect with her boyfriend outside of food
Speaker 2: and cooking while she struggled with brain surgery. If you
Speaker 2: want to go back and listen to it from our episode,
Speaker 2: it's the one called We're All in the Same Boat. Okay,
Speaker 2: here it is, Hi, Kathy and Susan. I have an
Speaker 2: update I wanted to share with you. After a question
Speaker 2: I submitted back in the summer. It was about my
Speaker 2: inability to eat after brain surgery and the strain this
Speaker 2: had on my relationship with my boyfriend. Your advoice, your
Speaker 2: advice really helped. I listened to it several times because
Speaker 2: your kindness and sympathy brought me so much comfort. Thank
Speaker 2: you so much.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: Okay, so we took your advice and found other activities
Speaker 2: to enjoy together over the summer and fall besides our
Speaker 2: usual eating, cooking, and dining out together. But I've since
Speaker 2: improved and can finally start to eat some foods again.
Speaker 2: I wanted to share this progress and good news with
Speaker 2: two of my favorite ladies who really helped in my
Speaker 2: time of need. I have goosebump. Susan makes me.
Speaker 1: I'm so happy for it.
Speaker 2: Yay, Maggie, We're so happy for you.
Speaker 1: Wow. Goodness, So it did it? Did work? Help? She
Speaker 1: did try? She was in an ugly place right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just I love it. Now they're doing it now.
Speaker 1: I just want to say that you, you and I've
Speaker 1: talked about this. Food is not a big thing for me,
Speaker 1: and so when we talked about like what she could
Speaker 1: do besides eating and dining out, we were coming up
Speaker 1: with ideas. There are lots of ways to make connections,
Speaker 1: and I'm just so glad that they found other ways
Speaker 1: besides the usual, you know, cooking dinosas not telling me
Speaker 1: what they are though I want to know what they did.
Speaker 2: I'm guessing they went to the beach and she pulled
Speaker 2: off for bathing suit tops.
Speaker 1: So stop it. But just just the simple fact that
Speaker 1: she's feeling better is the main thing, exactly it really.
Speaker 2: So, Maggie. We are so thrilled that you have improved health,
Speaker 2: that your relationship is going well, that this is great news.
Speaker 1: That is the best one. Importantly, that you're doing good
Speaker 1: and you want to keep on going with him because
Speaker 1: you are going to make it. It just took time,
Speaker 1: and it was a scary time. We prayed for you,
Speaker 1: we thought about you, and we're so thrilled that you
Speaker 1: came back to us and let us know.
Speaker 2: That means, Maggie, let us know if you have time,
Speaker 2: let us know what activities you did. We'd love to know.
Speaker 2: Write us in another update. We would love to hear
Speaker 2: from him. Absolutely absolutely.
Speaker 1: Okay, now let's get into Maggie's question. Maggie asks my
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I have been together twelve years. I'm thirty
Speaker 1: one and he's thirty three. I know time to get engaged.
Speaker 1: Due to my unexpected brain surgery and all the post
Speaker 1: of complications, I've been unable to work for a year
Speaker 1: and he's had to cover us financially. He wants to
Speaker 1: get engaged too, but keeps putting it off for the
Speaker 1: financial reasons. He's holding off because he's determined to get
Speaker 1: me a fancy, expensive ring. It's hard because of everyone's
Speaker 1: expectations and comparisons when it comes to engage rings. Where's
Speaker 1: where's Neil Lame when you need him? We could call
Speaker 1: him for you? Actually, any advice on how to move
Speaker 1: forward with our relationship despite these financial barriers.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm hearing two things here. Yeah, one I'm hearing
Speaker 2: their financial issues and the other one I'm hearing, Uh,
Speaker 2: it's about a ring. You can get engaged, Maggie without
Speaker 2: a ring. I know it's not customary, but you know
Speaker 2: the ring is a symbol of love. If the love
Speaker 2: is there, do you really need the ring right now?
Speaker 1: Well, they're also talking about comparison, So get a cz
Speaker 1: for now and he could make it a real one.
Speaker 2: I got a friend. Wait, Susan, I've got a friend, Maggie,
Speaker 2: reach out to me. I have a friend who deals
Speaker 2: in lab diamonds. But they're beautiful, they're sort of well,
Speaker 2: they're a lot cheaper than a real one.
Speaker 1: Ye, well they are real, they are, They're just not natural.
Speaker 1: So I don't know.
Speaker 2: I can't figure out here though, if if it's the
Speaker 2: ring or the financial stress.
Speaker 1: The financial because she says, any advice on how to
Speaker 1: move forward with our relationships, you keep it going with
Speaker 1: these financial barriers. So I mean, that is what it is.
Speaker 1: As long as you two are happy and.
Speaker 2: Love each other. Who cares about the ring? Listen, Maggie,
Speaker 2: reach out to me. I've got a diamond from my husband.
Speaker 2: I don't have him anymore. I could maybe lend.
Speaker 1: You the ring, I like I said, get a CZ
Speaker 1: if that's what's what it's going to take or no.
Speaker 1: I could always replace the stone or do the lab diving.
Speaker 1: But other than that, that's not everybody's expecting you to
Speaker 1: get engaged, like there is there a time limit on this.
Speaker 1: You too are in love. You two know you have
Speaker 1: a future. That is the most important part. But I
Speaker 1: get it when everyone else is a diamond you want
Speaker 1: one to.
Speaker 2: That's totally go the lab diamond room. But here's something
Speaker 2: I sense. Maybe I'm wrong, Maggie, but I feel like
Speaker 2: I'm hearing that you said he's been supporting you for
Speaker 2: a year that you know you've been out of So
Speaker 2: maybe there are some other financial constraints right now. And
Speaker 2: if that's the case, get yourself back up on your feet,
Speaker 2: you know, and get and go back to work at
Speaker 2: put money back in the bank.
Speaker 1: You're gonna be kicking.
Speaker 2: Trust me when I tell you, Maggie, a ring is
Speaker 2: worth nothing if you don't have the love to go
Speaker 2: along with it, So celebrate the love.
Speaker 1: I'm glad you're recovering. I'm glad you're feeling better. It's great.
Speaker 2: I think it's all good, Maggie. All right, let's move
Speaker 2: on to question number two. Ray asked, I think Ray
Speaker 2: is a girl. It's spelled r a Hey, Susan and Kathy.
Speaker 2: I wanted to say that I love this podcast and
Speaker 2: have loved watching you on The Golden Bachelor. Listening to
Speaker 2: your podcast is one of the favorite parts of my week.
Speaker 2: Do you have any advice for someone who struggles with
Speaker 2: their relationship with their dad. My dad is great, but
Speaker 2: my dad is also so hard to be around. He
Speaker 2: is always negative and thinks of the worst case scenario,
Speaker 2: and I feel like I can't tell him anything because
Speaker 2: he's very critical or doesn't seem to care. It seems
Speaker 2: like I have a dad who is there but not
Speaker 2: actually there. If I don't do something right, he yells
Speaker 2: at me and gets upset. I've tried to talk to
Speaker 2: him about it, but he doesn't really apologize and doesn't
Speaker 2: seem actually sorry. I just don't know what to do.
Speaker 2: Have you any advice.
Speaker 1: He's your dad. You have to accept him like he is.
Speaker 1: You cannot change him. And I think she's doing the
Speaker 1: right thing by not telling him everything because.
Speaker 2: My question she's I don't know how old she is.
Speaker 2: But I'm sorry, Susan, I don't accept that a dad
Speaker 2: gets to yell at you.
Speaker 1: Uh, I don't know it doesn't say, she said.
Speaker 2: If I don't do something right, he yells at me
Speaker 2: and gets up set. So Ray I would say to
Speaker 2: your dad, I'm really sorry you're so angry. I'm going
Speaker 2: to step away, and when you can come and speak
Speaker 2: to me respectfully and calmly, I would be happy to
Speaker 2: resume this conversation. Everyone deserves that, Susan, whether it's a friend,
Speaker 2: a mother, a daughter, a father, a son. You don't
Speaker 2: get to yell at people unless it's me yelling at you,
Speaker 2: and then it's all fair game.
Speaker 1: Yeah whatever. So it is her father, and I would
Speaker 1: like to know how old she is because that would
Speaker 1: make it a little bit easier. And as you mature,
Speaker 1: you're able to say and yet somebody in the eye say,
Speaker 1: this is really disrespectful. Daddy. I don't want to share
Speaker 1: with you anymore because you're always Debbie down or a
Speaker 1: negative you know, right, or Dougie down one. Do you
Speaker 1: want us to have a good relationship. I can't change
Speaker 1: who you are.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm guessing, Susan, I'm guessing he's a worrier,
Speaker 2: a worrier.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's worried about her, that could be, but he
Speaker 1: is negative, she's saying.
Speaker 2: Sometimes people are negative because they worry about what. You know,
Speaker 2: she's on a date. What happens if you know he's worried.
Speaker 1: He's out there, but he's not actually there. He's there.
Speaker 1: He's old school. He thinks the way she thinks. Enlighten him,
Speaker 1: you know, tell him that that's this isn't.
Speaker 2: What you just said five minutes ago, Susan stick. We'll
Speaker 2: just pick your story here and stick with it. Is
Speaker 2: he gonna change, well, you said, Dad, he's your dad
Speaker 2: and he's not going to change now, he said, Well,
Speaker 2: then she can't.
Speaker 1: Enlighten, enlighten him how she's feeling.
Speaker 2: He doesn't care.
Speaker 1: Well, he will when she silences in.
Speaker 2: I hope you're right. I think there's more to this
Speaker 2: story of Ray. I want to know how old you are.
Speaker 2: I want to know if he's siblings. I want to
Speaker 2: know if your dad is married. I'm guessing this has
Speaker 2: something to do more with interpersonal role.
Speaker 1: I wonder if he's a freaking old Italian because they're stubborn.
Speaker 1: You can't get them to change. Make up a pan
Speaker 1: of gravy feet them. He'll be fine. There's stuck on
Speaker 1: their ways. But you know what right I offer you
Speaker 1: good luck And if it were me, I would try
Speaker 1: to have that conversation and then i'd pull back. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's a shame to say, but I would share everything
Speaker 1: with him. I wouldn't want to hear his big mail.
Speaker 1: He's negative.
Speaker 2: You guys, sometimes, Ray, you got to be you have
Speaker 2: to respect yourself. Yes, he is your father, but nobody
Speaker 2: gets to treat you. You shouldn't allow anyone to treat
Speaker 2: you disrespectfully.
Speaker 1: Anywhow But thank you for writing in let us know
Speaker 1: if there's any break in this al righty. Question number
Speaker 1: three is from an anonymous Hi, golden ladies. I hope
Speaker 1: you both are having a fabulous day if and when
Speaker 1: you decide to read this. I'm staying anonymous on this
Speaker 1: question because I honestly am a little embarrassed by don't
Speaker 1: be embarrassed. I have not told any of my family
Speaker 1: or friends that this is going on, So here we go.
Speaker 1: My husband and I have been married for around five months.
Speaker 1: For contents, we did not live together long term before marriage,
Speaker 1: only around a month due to how rent contracts lined up. Overall,
Speaker 1: I think we have a great marriage. The only issue
Speaker 1: that still weighs on me is we struggle to sleep
Speaker 1: in the same bed. He snores and is very sensitive
Speaker 1: to movement, and I struggled to sleep with snoring, so
Speaker 1: do I as well as Dawson turned a lot subconsciously
Speaker 1: as I'm sleeping, So not a great combo. We bought
Speaker 1: a king sized bed to help, but it hasn't helped much.
Speaker 1: We've been sleeping separately for a few months now, but
Speaker 1: I guess I always thought we'd end up trying it again.
Speaker 1: I brought it up on time and conversation and he
Speaker 1: told me that he also wants us to sleep in
Speaker 1: the same bed, but he's come to realize that it
Speaker 1: may not be possible. He says that getting good sleep
Speaker 1: is more important because then our waking time together is
Speaker 1: much happier and better. I cannot pretend that I don't
Speaker 1: enjoy the freedom of having a bed to myself, so
Speaker 1: it is not him just making me do this. But
Speaker 1: I always thought when you get married, you share a bed,
Speaker 1: and despite the freedom of separate beds, deep down I
Speaker 1: do still want to share a bed. I know I
Speaker 1: shouldn't care what others think, but it makes me worry
Speaker 1: that people think we're having issues, and also that when
Speaker 1: we do have struggles in the future, as all marriages do,
Speaker 1: that being separated at night will only make us feel
Speaker 1: more separate in general. Good point. I also worry that
Speaker 1: our sex life will suffer, especially once we have kids.
Speaker 1: What do you two think? Is it possible to have
Speaker 1: a successful marriage and sleep separately? Any tips for sleeping
Speaker 1: together that I haven't already thought of, and any advice
Speaker 1: on having the conversation with my parents, my friends, et cetera,
Speaker 1: if we decide to continue down this road. I am
Speaker 1: sorry for the long question, but I so appreciate it
Speaker 1: if you decide to answer it, love y'all and keep
Speaker 1: up the good work. Wow. Well, wait a minute.
Speaker 2: First, there's so much to unpack here. Since when do
Speaker 2: you have to talk to your parents? And that's what
Speaker 2: stood out to me the most. Listen, listen, listen, Anonymous.
Speaker 2: If I said to you you, when you talk to
Speaker 2: your friends and parents and tell them how many times
Speaker 2: you have sex a day or a week or a year,
Speaker 2: you might want to mention you're not sharing the same bed,
Speaker 2: are you kidding? You do not owe anyone any explanation
Speaker 2: about where you.
Speaker 1: Sleep, and you can have a fabulous sex life. Do
Speaker 1: it in his room, and then you could go to
Speaker 1: your nice, clean bed and sleep sound. There's also I
Speaker 1: don't know if he's a person that could do this,
Speaker 1: but that they have the sleep thing that helps them
Speaker 1: not snore. There is a.
Speaker 2: Thing, so there's sleep apnea. You know who knows. I
Speaker 2: would say to you, Anonymous, he needs to go and
Speaker 2: get diagnosed. Does he have sleep apnea? Is he overweight?
Speaker 2: Is he you know what? Does he have obstructive? Does
Speaker 2: he deal with the issue that constructive? Are you impressed?
Speaker 2: I knew that obstruct.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying in turns too and their mattresses out
Speaker 1: there that you can't feel the other one moved. There
Speaker 1: are ways around that. Butt. All in all, the whole
Speaker 1: thing taken in, there is nothing wrong with having separate rooms.
Speaker 1: It is early for it, but older people do it
Speaker 1: all the time.
Speaker 2: That's the points isn't right there? I wasn't going to
Speaker 2: say it, but of course you know now I have to.
Speaker 2: I think it bodes if if you're sleeping separately every night.
Speaker 2: I think part of a good marriage, especially when you're young.
Speaker 2: When you're older, you know, take your snoring and your
Speaker 2: journey socks and get out of here.
Speaker 1: To go to the bathroom.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but when you're young, I think that could be
Speaker 2: detrimental to a marriage.
Speaker 1: I do they do you? Like she said, If we're
Speaker 1: not doing it now, we're not together. Now things happen
Speaker 1: in the marriage, and when you have kids, it's like
Speaker 1: two separate lives.
Speaker 2: I mean, I know that when I was newly you
Speaker 2: know married. Uh you know, in the dark ages, we
Speaker 2: used to lie in bed at night before we go
Speaker 2: to sleep and we talk about our day. It was
Speaker 2: like the intimacy without the sex part. But you know
Speaker 2: that was different. That was sex and they could still
Speaker 2: have and then but.
Speaker 1: Think about it.
Speaker 2: You're lying there and you're talking and you're getting drowsy.
Speaker 2: Oh got to get I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1: It just feels a little and I understand our concern.
Speaker 1: But the main part for me, you don't have to
Speaker 1: Nobody has to know this unless he's telling people that, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: I would definitely get him to a doctor. That there's
Speaker 2: things that they anewer device that you implant in the
Speaker 2: skin that has that swam.
Speaker 1: With the button you press the button under your chest. Yes, yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: but talk to him now. I heard when you said
Speaker 1: he said sleep is important. It is because if you
Speaker 1: wake up too tired and you didn't have a good
Speaker 1: night's sleep, you're cranky and that's when you start bickering,
Speaker 1: or you go to work and you don't give it
Speaker 1: one hundred percent because you can't because you're tired. These
Speaker 1: are all important issues, So start from scratch. And find
Speaker 1: what's causing the snort. I mean, if you can ear
Speaker 1: plugs those things, try.
Speaker 2: All these so sexy and your you know, there's the other.
Speaker 1: Thing that's easily happened in the seventy sixty and seventy
Speaker 1: year old. Really did you see though? That?
Speaker 2: She said, she kind of likes it that it's not
Speaker 2: all him, and then later she said, but I'd like
Speaker 2: to share that. I think anonymous, your feeling can select him.
Speaker 2: I feel you're feeling conflicted. On the one hand, you know,
Speaker 2: you like your good rest, but I really think the
Speaker 2: issue here is get him checked out. If there's something
Speaker 2: that medically can be done, that's what I would do.
Speaker 2: And when athogs, and just in the other.
Speaker 1: One, how about five days a week during the school
Speaker 1: I mean the school week, the work work great, and
Speaker 1: then the weekends are you know you do well?
Speaker 2: Let me ask you wait, let me ask you another
Speaker 2: question that she has not thought of. What happens when
Speaker 2: the kids come? You can't roll over and tap them go.
Speaker 2: It's your turn to get up because he's in the
Speaker 2: other room.
Speaker 1: But that's a problem in his room unless he's breast
Speaker 1: and lock your door when you go to sleep.
Speaker 2: So when the kids are coming mommy daddy. I feel sick.
Speaker 2: They gotta go to Daddy.
Speaker 1: I totally get why you wrote in because it is something.
Speaker 1: It's a little early for that to happen, and I
Speaker 1: hope you guys get to the bottom of it and
Speaker 1: figure it out at least.
Speaker 2: And by the way, congratulations on your wedding. On your marriage,
Speaker 2: I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness.
Speaker 1: When you travel and there's one bed in the room,
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure.
Speaker 2: They ask for two queens and she can hear them,
Speaker 2: and they get up grumpy and they go home.
Speaker 1: Anonymous, we wish you the best, but try to figure
Speaker 1: it out, okay.
Speaker 2: Question four is from Aurora, and she says, Hi, Kathy
Speaker 2: and Susan, I love you too so much. You have
Speaker 2: so much experience and insight into life. I wanted to
Speaker 2: ask your opinion on my current situation. I've been with
Speaker 2: my boyfriend for almost three years. Things have been mostly
Speaker 2: great between us, save a few hiccups centered around small
Speaker 2: arguments here and there. Long story short, my mom doesn't
Speaker 2: like him. She doesn't have much of a reason, in
Speaker 2: my opinion, but I can't help that her disapproval ends
Speaker 2: up making me question whether I'm in a relationship that
Speaker 2: can stand the test of time if she and him
Speaker 2: can't get along. My mom and myself have had a
Speaker 2: somewhat contentious relationship ourselves, mostly due to her poor choices
Speaker 2: in staying with a man that wasn't good to my
Speaker 2: brother and me and ultimately choosing her marriage to my
Speaker 2: stepmother or a stepfather over her two kids. Anyway, back
Speaker 2: to the issue, I'm just going to interrupt myself here, Aurora,
Speaker 2: that is the issue. Okay, back to the issue at hand.
Speaker 2: Can I truly count on and commit to a relationship
Speaker 2: when my mother doesn't approve of him? How would either
Speaker 2: of you feel in my shoes? Do I trust my
Speaker 2: own judgment and continue on with this relationship or read
Speaker 2: more into my mom's disapate approval. I would genuinely appreciate
Speaker 2: your perspectives. You two are the best. Thank you so
Speaker 2: very much in advance for any advice you have to
Speaker 2: send my way.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I want to know what her mother's
Speaker 1: judgment and issues are. As she's stating important facts about
Speaker 1: what's something that she's seeing the way he's treating her daughter, like,
Speaker 1: what is it? This is a pretty general she just
Speaker 1: doesn't disapprove. But there's a reason someone wouldn't disapprove I mean,
Speaker 1: would disapprove am I right, not always that she just
Speaker 1: don't like them. Well, that's possibility, Yes, I ask yourself.
Speaker 1: Why is she saying this? Well, because sometimes when we're
Speaker 1: falling in love, love is blind, baby, we don't see
Speaker 1: the red flags you would for me.
Speaker 2: And guess what when you see the red flags and
Speaker 2: someone else tells you don't pay attention.
Speaker 1: This is true, but you bring it to their attention
Speaker 1: and it gets in their head and they will notice eventually.
Speaker 1: It takes a long time, But there's that other than that.
Speaker 2: Wait a second, My mom have had a contentious relationship
Speaker 2: due to her poor choices.
Speaker 1: Why.
Speaker 2: I don't mean to be rude here, Aurora, but if
Speaker 2: your mom has made poor choices and stayed with a
Speaker 2: man who didn't treat you and your brother, well, really,
Speaker 2: you're going to value her opinion over your own feelings.
Speaker 2: This is your life, Aurora. You need to learn your
Speaker 2: own lessons. You need to do what makes you happy,
Speaker 2: and if it doesn't work out, you have no one
Speaker 2: to blame but yourself, not your mom is your mom.
Speaker 1: And I've seen cases like this where people the kids
Speaker 1: don't like the stepdad and there might be nothing wrong
Speaker 1: with him, they just don't care for him. She's claiming
Speaker 1: that he didn't treat them well and she chose him
Speaker 1: over them. We don't know exactly. It's that there was
Speaker 1: some issue that's a big.
Speaker 2: That's what I think. That's why I interrupted when I
Speaker 2: read the question. I think, Rora, there's more to this
Speaker 2: relationship and more to this story than she simply doesn't
Speaker 2: like him. It may be tainted, she may just have
Speaker 2: issues around who knows what, But I think you have
Speaker 2: to trust your own gut, trust your own heart. I'm
Speaker 2: going to tell you a little story. When I met
Speaker 2: my husband, my mother in law and father in law,
Speaker 2: God rest their souls did not like me. They did
Speaker 2: not like me. My husband and I were married for
Speaker 2: almost forty six years. My in laws had their own
Speaker 2: really tough marriage issues, in fidelity, all kinds of things,
Speaker 2: and I couldn't fight it. They just never liked me,
Speaker 2: and yet we were married for forty six years.
Speaker 1: So what did you do? What did you do about it?
Speaker 1: Did it bother you that they didn't care for you?
Speaker 1: Did you speak up?
Speaker 2: Did you try to I spoke to my husband about it.
Speaker 2: I my husband once said to them, you know, they
Speaker 2: didn't change. He once said to them, Kathy and I
Speaker 2: have been married. I don't know at the time, it
Speaker 2: was like thirty five years. We've been married thirty five years.
Speaker 2: Do you think you need to get over it and
Speaker 2: start I love her? Do you think maybe you need
Speaker 2: to get over it and start loving it?
Speaker 1: Don't believe beginning beg when you knew they didn't like you,
Speaker 1: you never went to her and talked say what is it?
Speaker 1: What is it? Oh?
Speaker 2: Well, yes I did, and she would say, oh, no,
Speaker 2: we do. We do. But you know she didn't and
Speaker 2: it was very clear. I'm not going to get into details,
Speaker 2: but trust me, it was very clear that they didn't
Speaker 2: like me.
Speaker 1: And their marriage lasted forever. So an our statement, Yes,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So, so, Aurora, do what makes your heart sing and
Speaker 2: if it, if it doesn't work out, guess what. It's
Speaker 2: not because your mother didn't like him. It's because you
Speaker 2: and your boyfriend went ultimately down different paths. But be
Speaker 2: respectful to your mom.
Speaker 1: But yeah, but or even have a conversation and figure
Speaker 1: it out. Why mom, why do you feel like this
Speaker 1: about him. And another important thing that is in my mind.
Speaker 1: Does your mom realize how you and your brother felt
Speaker 1: about the stepdad? You know, she's claiming her story right now.
Speaker 1: There's two sides to every story. Not that I'm putting
Speaker 1: you down. I'm glad you wrote in and I'm wishing
Speaker 1: you all the best. But open your eyes and take
Speaker 1: a clear picture of everything around you. But do what
Speaker 1: makes you happy. Mom can't control that, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? All right, now, we're gonna play you ready,
Speaker 1: gat what would you rather? We're gonna switch off reading
Speaker 1: the prompt and we're both going to answer it, and
Speaker 1: I'll start us off. So never been able to use
Speaker 1: your phone again or be unable to have physical touch
Speaker 1: with another person for a year? You know what? I
Speaker 1: know this girl named Susan, and she always says, no,
Speaker 1: you're not answering for me, You're answering for you.
Speaker 2: You didn't let me finish. I'm adopting her answer. She
Speaker 2: always says both. I'm I'm saying neither. I couldn't do
Speaker 2: either one of those.
Speaker 1: I could.
Speaker 2: No. I know you're going to say you could not
Speaker 2: use your phone?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Absolutely, I want.
Speaker 2: To be able to say that, Susan, but think about it.
Speaker 2: I need to be able to hear from my children
Speaker 2: in the romantic world.
Speaker 1: I would say, to pick one.
Speaker 2: You know what, pad wings sayd fly, I can't pick.
Speaker 1: One, all right? Take the next one, all right?
Speaker 2: The next one is oh, it had my word in it.
Speaker 2: Would you rather have an unlimited supply of wine but
Speaker 2: only be able to drink it from a sippy cup?
Speaker 2: Or a lifetime supply of coffee but it's always lukewarm?
Speaker 2: There's no brainer. I take the wine, lukewarm coffee.
Speaker 1: Warm coffee is gross. That was a no brainer. You're right.
Speaker 1: Have a partner who's amazing in the kitchen but terrible
Speaker 1: in bed, oh god, or great in bed but can't
Speaker 1: make a single meal. That's fine, I'll cook.
Speaker 2: And I just said, while you're reading, I'm going, well,
Speaker 2: I'm the ladder. Great in bed, can't cook. I mean
Speaker 2: that's an easy one too. We gotta get. Would you
Speaker 2: rather have the hiccups during an important meeting or sneeze
Speaker 2: uncontrollably during a first date? Since I don't work, I'm sneezing.
Speaker 1: What about you? I said, hiccups. I'd rather have the hiccups,
Speaker 1: all right, have a public fight with your ex on
Speaker 1: social media, or accidentally send an embarrassing text to one
Speaker 1: of your kids that was meant for your partner.
Speaker 2: Well, let me just say, let me just say, you
Speaker 2: know what, I'm writing the rules here. I would never
Speaker 2: have a public fight with anyone on social media ever,
Speaker 2: So so you know, I'm pleading.
Speaker 1: I would not want to accidentally send either what ext
Speaker 1: So we're moving on.
Speaker 2: We're not doing that one, all right.
Speaker 1: God we suck? Okay, all right? Have to share your
Speaker 1: search history or our text meaning Susan and Kathy, Okay,
Speaker 1: text with each other with your first date.
Speaker 2: Oh, I'd share my text with you with I mean
Speaker 2: our text with the first you know what our text
Speaker 2: usually are, Susan, call me.
Speaker 1: Back, help me pick this up? What should I wear? Susan?
Speaker 2: Are you cooking tonight? Our text? If we are talking
Speaker 2: about stuff, it's on the phone, it's where nobody can
Speaker 2: record us. Or it's not it's not in you know, imprinted.
Speaker 1: For how do I say this in French? What? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Really? Almost Francis, which is how do you say in Spanish?
Speaker 1: That's what we were doing? Okay, take the next one,
Speaker 1: all right?
Speaker 2: Would you rather be perpetually stuck in an awkward elevator
Speaker 2: ride with your ex or before what, or be forced
Speaker 2: to share a bed with your least favorite past coworker
Speaker 2: for a week.
Speaker 1: I'll take that elevator with me.
Speaker 2: I'll take that elevator all day long, all day long.
Speaker 1: Okay. Sit in a puddle and it looks like you
Speaker 1: peed your pants, or actually pee your pants, get away
Speaker 1: with it unnoticed?
Speaker 2: I mean, can I just say this happened to Susan
Speaker 2: while we're on vacation.
Speaker 1: So I peed my pants when I leave to ord?
Speaker 2: You know there's surgery for that.
Speaker 1: No, I did it. I don't see anymore.
Speaker 2: But yes, oh really you didn't pee. You're on vacation, crying, laughing. Okay,
Speaker 2: so you do pee when you have sometimes not the
Speaker 2: world wants to know? Okay, all right? Would you rather
Speaker 2: call out your oooh since? Would you rather call out
Speaker 2: your boyfriend for cheating and be wrong or be cheated
Speaker 2: on once but you never find out about it.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to know. I wouldn't want to know.
Speaker 2: I think if it was calling out my boyfriend for
Speaker 2: cheating and I was wrong.
Speaker 1: I.
Speaker 2: Don't know. I don't know. I don't want to be
Speaker 2: cheated on.
Speaker 1: Well, you would never know, So what you don't know,
Speaker 1: don't hurt you. That's an easy one. Okay, burp in
Speaker 1: your dates. Oh man, he tries to kiss you, now, God,
Speaker 1: or try to pass off your guess on your boyfriend's
Speaker 1: dog and totally get caught.
Speaker 2: Blaw, I'm all with that woof woof ooh, oh my god. I'
Speaker 2: you're gonna pass off You're gonna I mean, excuse me.
Speaker 1: You're gonna burp in the Oh no, you're not. I'll
Speaker 1: blame the dog. I'll blame the dog. You're mixing the two?
Speaker 1: I mean, what are you gonna do? Should happen? Sometimes
Speaker 1: you have the belch Why the guy's trying to kiss you? Well, no,
Speaker 1: like maybe he's on his way. Excuse me, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't your's face when he tries me to kiss
Speaker 1: I probably try to blame the dog.
Speaker 2: I'm definitely blaming the What if he doesn't have a dog,
Speaker 2: I'm still blaming the dog.
Speaker 1: Did you do you smell that? E? Did you for it?
Speaker 2: And what your plants? Your plants are excreting something?
Speaker 1: Blame my partner you for what?
Speaker 2: Is that so disgusting?
Speaker 1: Oh my God, I can't believe it. But that does
Speaker 1: it for today's episode. Key, these things are flying by.
Speaker 1: Are we just having fun or what? I think?
Speaker 2: We're having a lot of fun. But you know what
Speaker 2: I want other people. I hope that other people are
Speaker 2: laughing with us, because you know what we've learned, life
Speaker 2: is short. You better laugh and have fun along the way.
Speaker 1: Enjoy the ride. And that does it for this episode
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Speaker 1: Mm hmm