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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. We're so

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Speaker 1: excited to be back again, Katy, thanks for joining us.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I am so excited. But can we

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Speaker 1: dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. All right, Kathy,

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Speaker 1: let's start with hometowns. Oh my goodness, what did you

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Speaker 1: think of this week's hometown?

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Speaker 2: Okay, first of all, the best thing starting with Juliana

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Speaker 2: and her dad Carl, who I actually loved, but I

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Speaker 2: did you just got did you get home?

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Speaker 1: Hoick?

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Speaker 2: Go Newt and go Boston? I was the accent. When

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Speaker 2: people say to me, oh, I can tell you from Boston.

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Speaker 2: I want a clip of this episode just to play

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Speaker 2: them and say, no, no, this is a Boston accent.

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Speaker 2: Carl has a Boston accent. I just loved it, though.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you're the Italian, so you got to weigh

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Speaker 2: in on this about how Italians. But I thought they

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Speaker 2: were so welcoming.

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Speaker 1: They were one two. They were we are That's how

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Speaker 1: we are. They eat, they gather, and I loved that

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Speaker 1: he accepted and he liked them. Yeah, what did you think? Though?

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Speaker 2: I had to laugh when they at the pizza store

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Speaker 2: and they bring home four pizzas. I'm like, there's a

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Speaker 2: crowd of like sixty there. I'm sure those four pizzas

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Speaker 2: went far. But you know it's funny because I wish

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Speaker 2: they had shown just me being me. I wish they

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Speaker 2: had shown more of Newton, more of Boston. I just

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Speaker 2: wish they had, you know, had a nice date other

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Speaker 2: than just going to a local pizza place and try

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Speaker 2: to spin pizzas.

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Speaker 1: But you know, I think she's very happy. She's giddy, like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't want to get hurt. I mean, when I

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Speaker 1: said it was the first time in seven years she's

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Speaker 1: brought a guy home, I know, And I watched it thinking, oh,

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Speaker 1: are you going to get hurt? I don't know, So

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Speaker 1: we move it on each date. I kept looking for

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Speaker 1: that moment that tells us right, yeah, the modeling with

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Speaker 1: Zoe and all that was cool and she is a beautiful,

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Speaker 1: beautiful girl and not feeling that one.

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Speaker 2: Well, we'll get to her, but but I just want

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Speaker 2: to know. On of course, I told you Juliana is

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Speaker 2: my hometown girl. I still think it's going to be Latia.

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Speaker 2: But I loved the way they really welcomed him, and

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Speaker 2: I think that meant a lot to him, because this

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Speaker 2: is a guy that seems to really care about family

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Speaker 2: and what he Yeah, and did you hear him say

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Speaker 2: Juliana I think said to her dad, you know he's

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Speaker 2: my guy. We were aligned and they feel safe with

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Speaker 2: each other. I mean, those things really matter, and and

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Speaker 2: you know the previews, he says, he's really struggling. I'm

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Speaker 2: going out on a limb here. I think he's going

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Speaker 2: to be struggling between Juliana and Litia. All right, let's

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Speaker 2: move on to to Zoe. Wait one more? Thanks? Did

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Speaker 2: you wait? But did you hear him tell her I

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Speaker 2: started this. He said to Juliana, I'm falling for you.

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Speaker 2: It could be a fit. And Juliana said she'd let

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Speaker 2: down her walls. So and when he kissed her goodbye,

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Speaker 2: it was not a.

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Speaker 1: Wasn't a pack, No, it was good kids. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: not the one I wanted. I like her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, so let's go to Zoe who it's

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Speaker 2: definitely not the one. But I don't think it's Zoe.

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Speaker 2: I would be surprised. I think she's lovely, she's got

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Speaker 1: Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: I think doing a wedding photo shoot, I do not

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Speaker 1: Do you remember when they tied the knot? Who was

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Speaker 1: that that tied the knot?

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Speaker 2: Latia?

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Speaker 1: Latia? Yeah that was so. I remember when Joan and Escale?

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Speaker 2: Well, wait a minute, do you when they did, like,

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Speaker 2: they didn't just do a wedding shoot, they did a proposal.

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Speaker 2: They did she came out in a wedding draw.

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Speaker 1: I have how she was posing. She's a fabulous She's

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Speaker 1: a beautiful model.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. I think everything you're saying is right.

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Speaker 2: She's a beautiful model. However, Grant did say you could

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Speaker 2: see he felt it was a little bit weird to

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Speaker 2: whole nine yards. I mean, just practice Grant really and

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Speaker 2: I think it was foreshadowing. I think you know he's scared.

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Speaker 2: It was like, what the hell, why are we doing this?

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Speaker 2: He said that he was so proud of her for

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Speaker 2: doing being modeling. I didn't see him talking about them

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Speaker 2: she's beautiful, she's so good at her craft. Kind of

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Speaker 2: thing that was. It was almost like it was there

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Speaker 2: was I didn't feel anything other than damn, I look,

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Speaker 2: I wish, but don't you look like she does in

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Speaker 2: a wedding gown?

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Speaker 1: God? I mean, you are beautiful. If you're listening to this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you are absolutely gorgeous. Love it, but I

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Speaker 2: don't see it happening. Okay, my most.

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Speaker 1: Favorite dat or do you want to go to Dina?

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Speaker 2: Uh, let's go to Let's.

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Speaker 1: Wear for Dina? Her parents didn't come. They refused to come. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I don't remember that her dad was a religious man.

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Speaker 2: I didn't catch I don't think that's what it is necessarily,

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Speaker 2: I think. But can I just say to you, I

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Speaker 2: think that's what we call a red herring. Again, I

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Speaker 2: don't know why I go out on limbso I'm talking

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Speaker 2: to you about this stuff. I just tell you what

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Speaker 2: Just I'm just telling Susan here. But I think that, uh,

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Speaker 2: that is that was just a red herring. I don't

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Speaker 2: I think for her to send her home, well, it

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Speaker 2: may have put a thorn in it. But I'm saying

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Speaker 2: I didn't see the connection. I saw her and him

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Speaker 2: believed she was saved sage advice. Yeah, he was impressed

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Speaker 2: of all that. And you know she was the one

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Speaker 2: But again, no no connection. But I don't think.

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Speaker 1: He said like them both.

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Speaker 2: But but I don't think he sent her home because

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Speaker 2: her parents weren't there.

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Speaker 1: I think I don't think that's the main reason. But

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Speaker 1: that was a sour start. But I was feeling I

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Speaker 1: felt so bad for her.

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Speaker 2: Oh I did too.

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Speaker 1: That's embarrassing. It's it's like, but you have to respect

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Speaker 1: your parents' wishes.

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't whether she respects the wishes or not.

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Speaker 2: She was there with you know, her friends.

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Speaker 1: I wonder if she went home and said, thanks a

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Speaker 1: lot because of you.

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Speaker 2: She probably went home and said, you know what, he

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Speaker 2: sent me home.

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Speaker 1: He married.

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Speaker 2: That's right, because you didn't and they said, and they

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Speaker 2: probably said to her, no, we knew it was going south.

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Speaker 2: That's why we didn't show up. I mean, that is

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Speaker 2: a no. That's a no win for anybody. But I

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Speaker 2: let's talk about Latilla going to Wyoming. Can I just

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Speaker 2: say the big the big thing in that room.

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Speaker 1: I put it on my bucket list, cath I gotta

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Speaker 1: go there. Oh it was so beautiful.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna go and ride horses. I'm gonna go skiing.

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Speaker 2: You can ride horses, you and faith faith. If you're listening,

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Speaker 2: Susan's coming to ride horses with the no never happening.

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Speaker 1: I mean, and I love the people the Mormons deal.

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Speaker 2: It's not an issue no.

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Speaker 1: I love that. Oh my god, here it comes, here

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Speaker 1: it comes. And they all were open. He is a

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Speaker 1: man of faith, That's all that mattered.

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Speaker 2: He did say to her and about Juliana, and again

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Speaker 2: I'm paraphrasing here. He said about Letia, she would make

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Speaker 2: a great wife and mother, and that has been his parade,

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Speaker 2: you know, lyric about family.

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Speaker 1: And I think that's why her family loved that part.

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Speaker 1: She is so pure, that smile of hers, and she's

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Speaker 1: so falling for him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I see the music. I don't know who does

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Speaker 2: the music, whoever, who's ever the music? Good job, a

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Speaker 2: great job, really a good job. You can use that

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Speaker 2: term for so many things. That's an inside joke. They

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Speaker 2: both seem so genuinely happy. And I love that Grant

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Speaker 2: You kept saying Juliana and you'll get gold.

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Speaker 1: I like, I don't know who he picks, but after

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Speaker 1: this and she will not sleep with him on the overnights?

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Speaker 1: Did you hear say that? Uh?

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Speaker 2: I don't have she will or won't. I mean, I've heard.

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Speaker 1: That her faith. And she also said that would be

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Speaker 1: difficult if he sleeps with other women.

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Speaker 2: Well, he's a man and she's got some pretty women,

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Speaker 2: and you know, get over at Ladia, it's happening. Forgive him,

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Speaker 2: start playing father, Forgive him for he know not what

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Speaker 1: He knew not what he did.

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Speaker 2: Okay. So the other thing I wondered though, is how

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Speaker 2: Grant's family would fit into the Mormon faith. I have

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Speaker 2: friends who are who are Mormon. Literally, I mean they

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Speaker 2: they it's people. They're good people, but I think the

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Speaker 2: most I think they'll I think they.

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Speaker 1: Such a doll baby, I didn't look like any of them.

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Speaker 2: Well, wait, did you hear him tell Lettia's mother that

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Speaker 2: he's falling in love? He said that he hasn't said

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Speaker 2: that to any That's why saying these little things.

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Speaker 1: Well, the way he looks at her and she looks

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Speaker 1: at him, she feels him.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I can't believe said hopeful, hopeful. Okay, So y'all

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Speaker 2: need to hear. Susan and I were the other night

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Speaker 2: and Susan was saying, we were talking about, you know,

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Speaker 2: those things in life in general, and soon said, oh,

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Speaker 2: you know me, Kathy, I'm just a hopeless romantic. And

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Speaker 2: I said, no, Susan, you are a hopeful romantic. So

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Speaker 2: we're now coining that Susan is not a hopeless romantic.

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Speaker 2: She is a romantic.

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Speaker 1: I'm just here.

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Speaker 2: That's it's coming this year for both of us. And

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Speaker 2: so it was the taxman on April fifteenth. Okay, wait,

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Speaker 2: I can't believe you didn't bring up Wait, I cannot.

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Speaker 2: I was. I was waiting for you to do it

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Speaker 2: because you know, I thought this was in your wheelhouse,

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Speaker 1: Here we go.

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Speaker 1: Here we go.

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Speaker 2: All right, what advice Susan, would you give young women

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Speaker 2: How much can we talk about this? Oh?

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Speaker 1: My god? I could start with just raising my kids,

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Speaker 2: Not everybody's mean. And I will say to you, let

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Speaker 2: You're right, Susan, We've both had a lot of people

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Speaker 1: When someone's spreading a rumor. I think that would be

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Speaker 2: And you know what, Susan, You're right, some people are

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Speaker 1: Overnight, Kathy, and I did, I must, I must, I

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Speaker 1: We're just leaving that. We're going.

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Speaker 2: It starts, Oh guess what, Susan. We have update.

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Speaker 1: We just said that today. We love the update.

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Speaker 2: We love the updates. Okay, this is one from Maggie.

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Speaker 2: She wrote in I don't know if you all remember,

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so we took your advice and found other activities

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Speaker 1: I'm so happy for it.

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Speaker 2: Yay, Maggie, We're so happy for you.

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Speaker 1: Wow. Goodness, So it did it? Did work? Help? She

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Speaker 1: did try? She was in an ugly place right, Yeah,

439
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Speaker 1: I just I love it. Now they're doing it now.

440
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 1: I just want to say that you, you and I've

441
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:10,879
Speaker 1: talked about this. Food is not a big thing for me,

442
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,160
Speaker 1: and so when we talked about like what she could

443
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 1: do besides eating and dining out, we were coming up

444
00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:21,240
Speaker 1: with ideas. There are lots of ways to make connections,

445
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:24,920
Speaker 1: and I'm just so glad that they found other ways

446
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:28,879
Speaker 1: besides the usual, you know, cooking dinosas not telling me

447
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 1: what they are though I want to know what they did.

448
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:34,880
Speaker 2: I'm guessing they went to the beach and she pulled

449
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:35,920
Speaker 2: off for bathing suit tops.

450
00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:38,720
Speaker 1: So stop it. But just just the simple fact that

451
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Speaker 1: she's feeling better is the main thing, exactly it really.

452
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Speaker 2: So, Maggie. We are so thrilled that you have improved health,

453
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 2: that your relationship is going well, that this is great news.

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00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 1: That is the best one. Importantly, that you're doing good

455
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:56,119
Speaker 1: and you want to keep on going with him because

456
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,879
Speaker 1: you are going to make it. It just took time,

457
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,160
Speaker 1: and it was a scary time. We prayed for you,

458
00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 1: we thought about you, and we're so thrilled that you

459
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:06,919
Speaker 1: came back to us and let us know.

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Speaker 2: That means, Maggie, let us know if you have time,

461
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 2: let us know what activities you did. We'd love to know.

462
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Speaker 2: Write us in another update. We would love to hear

463
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:18,159
Speaker 2: from him. Absolutely absolutely.

464
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Speaker 1: Okay, now let's get into Maggie's question. Maggie asks my

465
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I have been together twelve years. I'm thirty

466
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:32,639
Speaker 1: one and he's thirty three. I know time to get engaged.

467
00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:36,919
Speaker 1: Due to my unexpected brain surgery and all the post

468
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 1: of complications, I've been unable to work for a year

469
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Speaker 1: and he's had to cover us financially. He wants to

470
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Speaker 1: get engaged too, but keeps putting it off for the

471
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Speaker 1: financial reasons. He's holding off because he's determined to get

472
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Speaker 1: me a fancy, expensive ring. It's hard because of everyone's

473
00:24:56,280 --> 00:25:01,880
Speaker 1: expectations and comparisons when it comes to engage rings. Where's

474
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 1: where's Neil Lame when you need him? We could call

475
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:07,880
Speaker 1: him for you? Actually, any advice on how to move

476
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 1: forward with our relationship despite these financial barriers.

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00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm hearing two things here. Yeah, one I'm hearing

478
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:21,200
Speaker 2: their financial issues and the other one I'm hearing, Uh,

479
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Speaker 2: it's about a ring. You can get engaged, Maggie without

480
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Speaker 2: a ring. I know it's not customary, but you know

481
00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 2: the ring is a symbol of love. If the love

482
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 2: is there, do you really need the ring right now?

483
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Speaker 1: Well, they're also talking about comparison, So get a cz

484
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 1: for now and he could make it a real one.

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Speaker 2: I got a friend. Wait, Susan, I've got a friend, Maggie,

486
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Speaker 2: reach out to me. I have a friend who deals

487
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Speaker 2: in lab diamonds. But they're beautiful, they're sort of well,

488
00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:51,919
Speaker 2: they're a lot cheaper than a real one.

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Speaker 1: Ye, well they are real, they are, They're just not natural.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I can't figure out here though, if if it's the

492
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Speaker 2: ring or the financial stress.

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00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 1: The financial because she says, any advice on how to

494
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 1: move forward with our relationships, you keep it going with

495
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 1: these financial barriers. So I mean, that is what it is.

496
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,360
Speaker 1: As long as you two are happy and.

497
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 2: Love each other. Who cares about the ring? Listen, Maggie,

498
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,880
Speaker 2: reach out to me. I've got a diamond from my husband.

499
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 2: I don't have him anymore. I could maybe lend.

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Speaker 1: You the ring, I like I said, get a CZ

501
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 1: if that's what's what it's going to take or no.

502
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 1: I could always replace the stone or do the lab diving.

503
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:37,119
Speaker 1: But other than that, that's not everybody's expecting you to

504
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 1: get engaged, like there is there a time limit on this.

505
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:43,879
Speaker 1: You too are in love. You two know you have

506
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Speaker 1: a future. That is the most important part. But I

507
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Speaker 1: get it when everyone else is a diamond you want

508
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 1: one to.

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Speaker 2: That's totally go the lab diamond room. But here's something

510
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 2: I sense. Maybe I'm wrong, Maggie, but I feel like

511
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Speaker 2: I'm hearing that you said he's been supporting you for

512
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Speaker 2: a year that you know you've been out of So

513
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 2: maybe there are some other financial constraints right now. And

514
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 2: if that's the case, get yourself back up on your feet,

515
00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 2: you know, and get and go back to work at

516
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 2: put money back in the bank.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be kicking.

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00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 2: Trust me when I tell you, Maggie, a ring is

519
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 2: worth nothing if you don't have the love to go

520
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 2: along with it, So celebrate the love.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you're recovering. I'm glad you're feeling better. It's great.

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00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 2: I think it's all good, Maggie. All right, let's move

523
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:35,120
Speaker 2: on to question number two. Ray asked, I think Ray

524
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 2: is a girl. It's spelled r a Hey, Susan and Kathy.

525
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 2: I wanted to say that I love this podcast and

526
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 2: have loved watching you on The Golden Bachelor. Listening to

527
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 2: your podcast is one of the favorite parts of my week.

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00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 2: Do you have any advice for someone who struggles with

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Speaker 2: their relationship with their dad. My dad is great, but

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Speaker 2: my dad is also so hard to be around. He

531
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 2: is always negative and thinks of the worst case scenario,

532
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,760
Speaker 2: and I feel like I can't tell him anything because

533
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 2: he's very critical or doesn't seem to care. It seems

534
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:12,399
Speaker 2: like I have a dad who is there but not

535
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 2: actually there. If I don't do something right, he yells

536
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,639
Speaker 2: at me and gets upset. I've tried to talk to

537
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 2: him about it, but he doesn't really apologize and doesn't

538
00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 2: seem actually sorry. I just don't know what to do.

539
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:26,360
Speaker 2: Have you any advice.

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00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,439
Speaker 1: He's your dad. You have to accept him like he is.

541
00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 1: You cannot change him. And I think she's doing the

542
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 1: right thing by not telling him everything because.

543
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 2: My question she's I don't know how old she is.

544
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:48,200
Speaker 2: But I'm sorry, Susan, I don't accept that a dad

545
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:50,040
Speaker 2: gets to yell at you.

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00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 1: Uh, I don't know it doesn't say, she said.

547
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:59,080
Speaker 2: If I don't do something right, he yells at me

548
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 2: and gets up set. So Ray I would say to

549
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 2: your dad, I'm really sorry you're so angry. I'm going

550
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 2: to step away, and when you can come and speak

551
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 2: to me respectfully and calmly, I would be happy to

552
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 2: resume this conversation. Everyone deserves that, Susan, whether it's a friend,

553
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 2: a mother, a daughter, a father, a son. You don't

554
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 2: get to yell at people unless it's me yelling at you,

555
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 2: and then it's all fair game.

556
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 1: Yeah whatever. So it is her father, and I would

557
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 1: like to know how old she is because that would

558
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:33,560
Speaker 1: make it a little bit easier. And as you mature,

559
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 1: you're able to say and yet somebody in the eye say,

560
00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 1: this is really disrespectful. Daddy. I don't want to share

561
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 1: with you anymore because you're always Debbie down or a

562
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: negative you know, right, or Dougie down one. Do you

563
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 1: want us to have a good relationship. I can't change

564
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: who you are.

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm guessing, Susan, I'm guessing he's a worrier,

566
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Speaker 2: a worrier.

567
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: Maybe he's worried about her, that could be, but he

568
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,120
Speaker 1: is negative, she's saying.

569
00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:11,239
Speaker 2: Sometimes people are negative because they worry about what. You know,

570
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 2: she's on a date. What happens if you know he's worried.

571
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:19,200
Speaker 1: He's out there, but he's not actually there. He's there.

572
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: He's old school. He thinks the way she thinks. Enlighten him,

573
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 1: you know, tell him that that's this isn't.

574
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 2: What you just said five minutes ago, Susan stick. We'll

575
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 2: just pick your story here and stick with it. Is

576
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 2: he gonna change, well, you said, Dad, he's your dad

577
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 2: and he's not going to change now, he said, Well,

578
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 2: then she can't.

579
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 1: Enlighten, enlighten him how she's feeling.

580
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:41,320
Speaker 2: He doesn't care.

581
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:44,840
Speaker 1: Well, he will when she silences in.

582
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 2: I hope you're right. I think there's more to this

583
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 2: story of Ray. I want to know how old you are.

584
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 2: I want to know if he's siblings. I want to

585
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 2: know if your dad is married. I'm guessing this has

586
00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 2: something to do more with interpersonal role.

587
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 1: I wonder if he's a freaking old Italian because they're stubborn.

588
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: You can't get them to change. Make up a pan

589
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: of gravy feet them. He'll be fine. There's stuck on

590
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 1: their ways. But you know what right I offer you

591
00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 1: good luck And if it were me, I would try

592
00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 1: to have that conversation and then i'd pull back. I mean,

593
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 1: it's a shame to say, but I would share everything

594
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 1: with him. I wouldn't want to hear his big mail.

595
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 1: He's negative.

596
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 2: You guys, sometimes, Ray, you got to be you have

597
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 2: to respect yourself. Yes, he is your father, but nobody

598
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 2: gets to treat you. You shouldn't allow anyone to treat

599
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 2: you disrespectfully.

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00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 1: Anywhow But thank you for writing in let us know

601
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 1: if there's any break in this al righty. Question number

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00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 1: three is from an anonymous Hi, golden ladies. I hope

603
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 1: you both are having a fabulous day if and when

604
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 1: you decide to read this. I'm staying anonymous on this

605
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 1: question because I honestly am a little embarrassed by don't

606
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 1: be embarrassed. I have not told any of my family

607
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:07,200
Speaker 1: or friends that this is going on, So here we go.

608
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 1: My husband and I have been married for around five months.

609
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 1: For contents, we did not live together long term before marriage,

610
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 1: only around a month due to how rent contracts lined up. Overall,

611
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: I think we have a great marriage. The only issue

612
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 1: that still weighs on me is we struggle to sleep

613
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 1: in the same bed. He snores and is very sensitive

614
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 1: to movement, and I struggled to sleep with snoring, so

615
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 1: do I as well as Dawson turned a lot subconsciously

616
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 1: as I'm sleeping, So not a great combo. We bought

617
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 1: a king sized bed to help, but it hasn't helped much.

618
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 1: We've been sleeping separately for a few months now, but

619
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 1: I guess I always thought we'd end up trying it again.

620
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 1: I brought it up on time and conversation and he

621
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 1: told me that he also wants us to sleep in

622
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 1: the same bed, but he's come to realize that it

623
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 1: may not be possible. He says that getting good sleep

624
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 1: is more important because then our waking time together is

625
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:19,920
Speaker 1: much happier and better. I cannot pretend that I don't

626
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:23,600
Speaker 1: enjoy the freedom of having a bed to myself, so

627
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 1: it is not him just making me do this. But

628
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:30,880
Speaker 1: I always thought when you get married, you share a bed,

629
00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 1: and despite the freedom of separate beds, deep down I

630
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:37,480
Speaker 1: do still want to share a bed. I know I

631
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 1: shouldn't care what others think, but it makes me worry

632
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 1: that people think we're having issues, and also that when

633
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 1: we do have struggles in the future, as all marriages do,

634
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 1: that being separated at night will only make us feel

635
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: more separate in general. Good point. I also worry that

636
00:33:56,920 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 1: our sex life will suffer, especially once we have kids.

637
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 1: What do you two think? Is it possible to have

638
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:10,280
Speaker 1: a successful marriage and sleep separately? Any tips for sleeping

639
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:14,240
Speaker 1: together that I haven't already thought of, and any advice

640
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:18,800
Speaker 1: on having the conversation with my parents, my friends, et cetera,

641
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: if we decide to continue down this road. I am

642
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 1: sorry for the long question, but I so appreciate it

643
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 1: if you decide to answer it, love y'all and keep

644
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,240
Speaker 1: up the good work. Wow. Well, wait a minute.

645
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:36,840
Speaker 2: First, there's so much to unpack here. Since when do

646
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 2: you have to talk to your parents? And that's what

647
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:46,239
Speaker 2: stood out to me the most. Listen, listen, listen, Anonymous.

648
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 2: If I said to you you, when you talk to

649
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 2: your friends and parents and tell them how many times

650
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 2: you have sex a day or a week or a year,

651
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 2: you might want to mention you're not sharing the same bed,

652
00:34:56,320 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 2: are you kidding? You do not owe anyone any explanation

653
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:03,200
Speaker 2: about where you.

654
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 1: Sleep, and you can have a fabulous sex life. Do

655
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 1: it in his room, and then you could go to

656
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:14,680
Speaker 1: your nice, clean bed and sleep sound. There's also I

657
00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: don't know if he's a person that could do this,

658
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 1: but that they have the sleep thing that helps them

659
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:22,239
Speaker 1: not snore. There is a.

660
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 2: Thing, so there's sleep apnea. You know who knows. I

661
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:29,560
Speaker 2: would say to you, Anonymous, he needs to go and

662
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:33,120
Speaker 2: get diagnosed. Does he have sleep apnea? Is he overweight?

663
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 2: Is he you know what? Does he have obstructive? Does

664
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 2: he deal with the issue that constructive? Are you impressed?

665
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 2: I knew that obstruct.

666
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 1: I'm just saying in turns too and their mattresses out

667
00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 1: there that you can't feel the other one moved. There

668
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 1: are ways around that. Butt. All in all, the whole

669
00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:57,880
Speaker 1: thing taken in, there is nothing wrong with having separate rooms.

670
00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 1: It is early for it, but older people do it

671
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 1: all the time.

672
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 2: That's the points isn't right there? I wasn't going to

673
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 2: say it, but of course you know now I have to.

674
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 2: I think it bodes if if you're sleeping separately every night.

675
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 2: I think part of a good marriage, especially when you're young.

676
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 2: When you're older, you know, take your snoring and your

677
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 2: journey socks and get out of here.

678
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:24,040
Speaker 1: To go to the bathroom.

679
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, but when you're young, I think that could be

680
00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 2: detrimental to a marriage.

681
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:32,879
Speaker 1: I do they do you? Like she said, If we're

682
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 1: not doing it now, we're not together. Now things happen

683
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 1: in the marriage, and when you have kids, it's like

684
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 1: two separate lives.

685
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 2: I mean, I know that when I was newly you

686
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 2: know married. Uh you know, in the dark ages, we

687
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:50,440
Speaker 2: used to lie in bed at night before we go

688
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 2: to sleep and we talk about our day. It was

689
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 2: like the intimacy without the sex part. But you know

690
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:58,480
Speaker 2: that was different. That was sex and they could still

691
00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 2: have and then but.

692
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 1: Think about it.

693
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:03,720
Speaker 2: You're lying there and you're talking and you're getting drowsy.

694
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:05,239
Speaker 2: Oh got to get I mean, I don't know.

695
00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 1: It just feels a little and I understand our concern.

696
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:10,640
Speaker 1: But the main part for me, you don't have to

697
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 1: Nobody has to know this unless he's telling people that, yeah,

698
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:14,319
Speaker 1: I don't.

699
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,319
Speaker 2: I would definitely get him to a doctor. That there's

700
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 2: things that they anewer device that you implant in the

701
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:21,719
Speaker 2: skin that has that swam.

702
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 1: With the button you press the button under your chest. Yes, yes, yes, yes,

703
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:30,840
Speaker 1: but talk to him now. I heard when you said

704
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:35,080
Speaker 1: he said sleep is important. It is because if you

705
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:37,359
Speaker 1: wake up too tired and you didn't have a good

706
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 1: night's sleep, you're cranky and that's when you start bickering,

707
00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 1: or you go to work and you don't give it

708
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:46,359
Speaker 1: one hundred percent because you can't because you're tired. These

709
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:50,919
Speaker 1: are all important issues, So start from scratch. And find

710
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:54,359
Speaker 1: what's causing the snort. I mean, if you can ear

711
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 1: plugs those things, try.

712
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 2: All these so sexy and your you know, there's the other.

713
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 1: Thing that's easily happened in the seventy sixty and seventy

714
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 1: year old. Really did you see though? That?

715
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:07,880
Speaker 2: She said, she kind of likes it that it's not

716
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 2: all him, and then later she said, but I'd like

717
00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:13,799
Speaker 2: to share that. I think anonymous, your feeling can select him.

718
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 2: I feel you're feeling conflicted. On the one hand, you know,

719
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 2: you like your good rest, but I really think the

720
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 2: issue here is get him checked out. If there's something

721
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 2: that medically can be done, that's what I would do.

722
00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:30,479
Speaker 2: And when athogs, and just in the other.

723
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,320
Speaker 1: One, how about five days a week during the school

724
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 1: I mean the school week, the work work great, and

725
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:38,480
Speaker 1: then the weekends are you know you do well?

726
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 2: Let me ask you wait, let me ask you another

727
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:43,319
Speaker 2: question that she has not thought of. What happens when

728
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:45,960
Speaker 2: the kids come? You can't roll over and tap them go.

729
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 2: It's your turn to get up because he's in the

730
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 2: other room.

731
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 1: But that's a problem in his room unless he's breast

732
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 1: and lock your door when you go to sleep.

733
00:38:56,360 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 2: So when the kids are coming mommy daddy. I feel sick.

734
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:03,000
Speaker 2: They gotta go to Daddy.

735
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:06,320
Speaker 1: I totally get why you wrote in because it is something.

736
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:09,359
Speaker 1: It's a little early for that to happen, and I

737
00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 1: hope you guys get to the bottom of it and

738
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 1: figure it out at least.

739
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:16,360
Speaker 2: And by the way, congratulations on your wedding. On your marriage,

740
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 2: I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness.

741
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 1: When you travel and there's one bed in the room,

742
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:23,320
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure.

743
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 2: They ask for two queens and she can hear them,

744
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:30,279
Speaker 2: and they get up grumpy and they go home.

745
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:33,800
Speaker 1: Anonymous, we wish you the best, but try to figure

746
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 1: it out, okay.

747
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:47,680
Speaker 2: Question four is from Aurora, and she says, Hi, Kathy

748
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 2: and Susan, I love you too so much. You have

749
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 2: so much experience and insight into life. I wanted to

750
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 2: ask your opinion on my current situation. I've been with

751
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:01,240
Speaker 2: my boyfriend for almost three years. Things have been mostly

752
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 2: great between us, save a few hiccups centered around small

753
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 2: arguments here and there. Long story short, my mom doesn't

754
00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:10,880
Speaker 2: like him. She doesn't have much of a reason, in

755
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,120
Speaker 2: my opinion, but I can't help that her disapproval ends

756
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 2: up making me question whether I'm in a relationship that

757
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 2: can stand the test of time if she and him

758
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 2: can't get along. My mom and myself have had a

759
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:29,320
Speaker 2: somewhat contentious relationship ourselves, mostly due to her poor choices

760
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 2: in staying with a man that wasn't good to my

761
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 2: brother and me and ultimately choosing her marriage to my

762
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:39,919
Speaker 2: stepmother or a stepfather over her two kids. Anyway, back

763
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 2: to the issue, I'm just going to interrupt myself here, Aurora,

764
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 2: that is the issue. Okay, back to the issue at hand.

765
00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 2: Can I truly count on and commit to a relationship

766
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 2: when my mother doesn't approve of him? How would either

767
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 2: of you feel in my shoes? Do I trust my

768
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 2: own judgment and continue on with this relationship or read

769
00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:02,280
Speaker 2: more into my mom's disapate approval. I would genuinely appreciate

770
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 2: your perspectives. You two are the best. Thank you so

771
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 2: very much in advance for any advice you have to

772
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 2: send my way.

773
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I want to know what her mother's

774
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 1: judgment and issues are. As she's stating important facts about

775
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: what's something that she's seeing the way he's treating her daughter, like,

776
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:28,759
Speaker 1: what is it? This is a pretty general she just

777
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:33,560
Speaker 1: doesn't disapprove. But there's a reason someone wouldn't disapprove I mean,

778
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 1: would disapprove am I right, not always that she just

779
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:42,360
Speaker 1: don't like them. Well, that's possibility, Yes, I ask yourself.

780
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 1: Why is she saying this? Well, because sometimes when we're

781
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 1: falling in love, love is blind, baby, we don't see

782
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: the red flags you would for me.

783
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 2: And guess what when you see the red flags and

784
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 2: someone else tells you don't pay attention.

785
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:58,320
Speaker 1: This is true, but you bring it to their attention

786
00:41:58,400 --> 00:42:01,400
Speaker 1: and it gets in their head and they will notice eventually.

787
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 1: It takes a long time, But there's that other than that.

788
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 2: Wait a second, My mom have had a contentious relationship

789
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 2: due to her poor choices.

790
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 1: Why.

791
00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:15,799
Speaker 2: I don't mean to be rude here, Aurora, but if

792
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 2: your mom has made poor choices and stayed with a

793
00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 2: man who didn't treat you and your brother, well, really,

794
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 2: you're going to value her opinion over your own feelings.

795
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 2: This is your life, Aurora. You need to learn your

796
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 2: own lessons. You need to do what makes you happy,

797
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 2: and if it doesn't work out, you have no one

798
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 2: to blame but yourself, not your mom is your mom.

799
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:48,800
Speaker 1: And I've seen cases like this where people the kids

800
00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 1: don't like the stepdad and there might be nothing wrong

801
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: with him, they just don't care for him. She's claiming

802
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 1: that he didn't treat them well and she chose him

803
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:04,920
Speaker 1: over them. We don't know exactly. It's that there was

804
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 1: some issue that's a big.

805
00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 2: That's what I think. That's why I interrupted when I

806
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 2: read the question. I think, Rora, there's more to this

807
00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 2: relationship and more to this story than she simply doesn't

808
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 2: like him. It may be tainted, she may just have

809
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 2: issues around who knows what, But I think you have

810
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:26,440
Speaker 2: to trust your own gut, trust your own heart. I'm

811
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 2: going to tell you a little story. When I met

812
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:34,360
Speaker 2: my husband, my mother in law and father in law,

813
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 2: God rest their souls did not like me. They did

814
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 2: not like me. My husband and I were married for

815
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 2: almost forty six years. My in laws had their own

816
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 2: really tough marriage issues, in fidelity, all kinds of things,

817
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 2: and I couldn't fight it. They just never liked me,

818
00:43:55,880 --> 00:43:58,400
Speaker 2: and yet we were married for forty six years.

819
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 1: So what did you do? What did you do about it?

820
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:04,399
Speaker 1: Did it bother you that they didn't care for you?

821
00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:05,719
Speaker 1: Did you speak up?

822
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:08,399
Speaker 2: Did you try to I spoke to my husband about it.

823
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 2: I my husband once said to them, you know, they

824
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:16,279
Speaker 2: didn't change. He once said to them, Kathy and I

825
00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:17,680
Speaker 2: have been married. I don't know at the time, it

826
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:20,920
Speaker 2: was like thirty five years. We've been married thirty five years.

827
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 2: Do you think you need to get over it and

828
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 2: start I love her? Do you think maybe you need

829
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 2: to get over it and start loving it?

830
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 1: Don't believe beginning beg when you knew they didn't like you,

831
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:35,319
Speaker 1: you never went to her and talked say what is it?

832
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:35,960
Speaker 1: What is it? Oh?

833
00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 2: Well, yes I did, and she would say, oh, no,

834
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:41,359
Speaker 2: we do. We do. But you know she didn't and

835
00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 2: it was very clear. I'm not going to get into details,

836
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 2: but trust me, it was very clear that they didn't

837
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:47,160
Speaker 2: like me.

838
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 1: And their marriage lasted forever. So an our statement, Yes,

839
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying.

840
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:56,640
Speaker 2: So, so, Aurora, do what makes your heart sing and

841
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 2: if it, if it doesn't work out, guess what. It's

842
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 2: not because your mother didn't like him. It's because you

843
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:06,719
Speaker 2: and your boyfriend went ultimately down different paths. But be

844
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:07,920
Speaker 2: respectful to your mom.

845
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:11,080
Speaker 1: But yeah, but or even have a conversation and figure

846
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 1: it out. Why mom, why do you feel like this

847
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:17,720
Speaker 1: about him. And another important thing that is in my mind.

848
00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:23,320
Speaker 1: Does your mom realize how you and your brother felt

849
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:29,240
Speaker 1: about the stepdad? You know, she's claiming her story right now.

850
00:45:29,640 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 1: There's two sides to every story. Not that I'm putting

851
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:34,800
Speaker 1: you down. I'm glad you wrote in and I'm wishing

852
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:37,399
Speaker 1: you all the best. But open your eyes and take

853
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:40,839
Speaker 1: a clear picture of everything around you. But do what

854
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 1: makes you happy. Mom can't control that, you know what

855
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 1: I mean? All right, now, we're gonna play you ready,

856
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:54,280
Speaker 1: gat what would you rather? We're gonna switch off reading

857
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:56,719
Speaker 1: the prompt and we're both going to answer it, and

858
00:45:56,800 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 1: I'll start us off. So never been able to use

859
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:05,320
Speaker 1: your phone again or be unable to have physical touch

860
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:13,000
Speaker 1: with another person for a year? You know what? I

861
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:15,520
Speaker 1: know this girl named Susan, and she always says, no,

862
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:17,919
Speaker 1: you're not answering for me, You're answering for you.

863
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:21,719
Speaker 2: You didn't let me finish. I'm adopting her answer. She

864
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 2: always says both. I'm I'm saying neither. I couldn't do

865
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 2: either one of those.

866
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 1: I could.

867
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 2: No. I know you're going to say you could not

868
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 2: use your phone?

869
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 1: Yeah? Absolutely, I want.

870
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 2: To be able to say that, Susan, but think about it.

871
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:38,800
Speaker 2: I need to be able to hear from my children

872
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:40,880
Speaker 2: in the romantic world.

873
00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:42,359
Speaker 1: I would say, to pick one.

874
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 2: You know what, pad wings sayd fly, I can't pick.

875
00:46:46,800 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: One, all right? Take the next one, all right?

876
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:52,160
Speaker 2: The next one is oh, it had my word in it.

877
00:46:52,680 --> 00:46:57,239
Speaker 2: Would you rather have an unlimited supply of wine but

878
00:46:57,480 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 2: only be able to drink it from a sippy cup?

879
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 2: Or a lifetime supply of coffee but it's always lukewarm?

880
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:07,440
Speaker 2: There's no brainer. I take the wine, lukewarm coffee.

881
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 1: Warm coffee is gross. That was a no brainer. You're right.

882
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 1: Have a partner who's amazing in the kitchen but terrible

883
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:17,880
Speaker 1: in bed, oh god, or great in bed but can't

884
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 1: make a single meal. That's fine, I'll cook.

885
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:24,239
Speaker 2: And I just said, while you're reading, I'm going, well,

886
00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:28,759
Speaker 2: I'm the ladder. Great in bed, can't cook. I mean

887
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:32,920
Speaker 2: that's an easy one too. We gotta get. Would you

888
00:47:33,080 --> 00:47:38,520
Speaker 2: rather have the hiccups during an important meeting or sneeze

889
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:44,800
Speaker 2: uncontrollably during a first date? Since I don't work, I'm sneezing.

890
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 1: What about you? I said, hiccups. I'd rather have the hiccups,

891
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 1: all right, have a public fight with your ex on

892
00:47:55,640 --> 00:48:00,839
Speaker 1: social media, or accidentally send an embarrassing text to one

893
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:03,400
Speaker 1: of your kids that was meant for your partner.

894
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 2: Well, let me just say, let me just say, you

895
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:09,640
Speaker 2: know what, I'm writing the rules here. I would never

896
00:48:10,200 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 2: have a public fight with anyone on social media ever,

897
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 2: So so you know, I'm pleading.

898
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:20,400
Speaker 1: I would not want to accidentally send either what ext

899
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 1: So we're moving on.

900
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 2: We're not doing that one, all right.

901
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 1: God we suck? Okay, all right? Have to share your

902
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 1: search history or our text meaning Susan and Kathy, Okay,

903
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 1: text with each other with your first date.

904
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 2: Oh, I'd share my text with you with I mean

905
00:48:38,840 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 2: our text with the first you know what our text

906
00:48:41,760 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 2: usually are, Susan, call me.

907
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:47,320
Speaker 1: Back, help me pick this up? What should I wear? Susan?

908
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 2: Are you cooking tonight? Our text? If we are talking

909
00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 2: about stuff, it's on the phone, it's where nobody can

910
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 2: record us. Or it's not it's not in you know, imprinted.

911
00:48:57,280 --> 00:49:00,279
Speaker 1: For how do I say this in French? What? Yeah?

912
00:49:00,360 --> 00:49:07,799
Speaker 2: Really? Almost Francis, which is how do you say in Spanish?

913
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: That's what we were doing? Okay, take the next one,

914
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:10,560
Speaker 1: all right?

915
00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 2: Would you rather be perpetually stuck in an awkward elevator

916
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:21,080
Speaker 2: ride with your ex or before what, or be forced

917
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:24,799
Speaker 2: to share a bed with your least favorite past coworker

918
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 2: for a week.

919
00:49:25,960 --> 00:49:27,400
Speaker 1: I'll take that elevator with me.

920
00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 2: I'll take that elevator all day long, all day long.

921
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 1: Okay. Sit in a puddle and it looks like you

922
00:49:34,239 --> 00:49:38,680
Speaker 1: peed your pants, or actually pee your pants, get away

923
00:49:38,719 --> 00:49:39,839
Speaker 1: with it unnoticed?

924
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:42,479
Speaker 2: I mean, can I just say this happened to Susan

925
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:43,440
Speaker 2: while we're on vacation.

926
00:49:43,600 --> 00:49:45,920
Speaker 1: So I peed my pants when I leave to ord?

927
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 2: You know there's surgery for that.

928
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 1: No, I did it. I don't see anymore.

929
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:57,240
Speaker 2: But yes, oh really you didn't pee. You're on vacation, crying, laughing. Okay,

930
00:49:57,320 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 2: so you do pee when you have sometimes not the

931
00:50:00,520 --> 00:50:03,720
Speaker 2: world wants to know? Okay, all right? Would you rather

932
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 2: call out your oooh since? Would you rather call out

933
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:12,280
Speaker 2: your boyfriend for cheating and be wrong or be cheated

934
00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:15,399
Speaker 2: on once but you never find out about it.

935
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to know. I wouldn't want to know.

936
00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:26,239
Speaker 2: I think if it was calling out my boyfriend for

937
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 2: cheating and I was wrong.

938
00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:28,480
Speaker 1: I.

939
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:32,960
Speaker 2: Don't know. I don't know. I don't want to be

940
00:50:33,080 --> 00:50:33,600
Speaker 2: cheated on.

941
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:36,840
Speaker 1: Well, you would never know, So what you don't know,

942
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:42,319
Speaker 1: don't hurt you. That's an easy one. Okay, burp in

943
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:46,960
Speaker 1: your dates. Oh man, he tries to kiss you, now, God,

944
00:50:47,320 --> 00:50:51,279
Speaker 1: or try to pass off your guess on your boyfriend's

945
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 1: dog and totally get caught.

946
00:50:53,120 --> 00:51:00,960
Speaker 2: Blaw, I'm all with that woof woof ooh, oh my god. I'

947
00:51:01,719 --> 00:51:05,879
Speaker 2: you're gonna pass off You're gonna I mean, excuse me.

948
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:10,040
Speaker 1: You're gonna burp in the Oh no, you're not. I'll

949
00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 1: blame the dog. I'll blame the dog. You're mixing the two?

950
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:18,880
Speaker 1: I mean, what are you gonna do? Should happen? Sometimes

951
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:23,480
Speaker 1: you have the belch Why the guy's trying to kiss you? Well, no,

952
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:26,359
Speaker 1: like maybe he's on his way. Excuse me, I don't know.

953
00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 1: I don't your's face when he tries me to kiss

954
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:33,919
Speaker 1: I probably try to blame the dog.

955
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:37,320
Speaker 2: I'm definitely blaming the What if he doesn't have a dog,

956
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 2: I'm still blaming the dog.

957
00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:44,279
Speaker 1: Did you do you smell that? E? Did you for it?

958
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:48,000
Speaker 2: And what your plants? Your plants are excreting something?

959
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 1: Blame my partner you for what?

960
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:53,239
Speaker 2: Is that so disgusting?

961
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:56,640
Speaker 1: Oh my God, I can't believe it. But that does

962
00:51:56,680 --> 00:51:59,480
Speaker 1: it for today's episode. Key, these things are flying by.

963
00:51:59,520 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 1: Are we just having fun or what? I think?

964
00:52:01,440 --> 00:52:02,759
Speaker 2: We're having a lot of fun. But you know what

965
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:05,560
Speaker 2: I want other people. I hope that other people are

966
00:52:05,680 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 2: laughing with us, because you know what we've learned, life

967
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:11,600
Speaker 2: is short. You better laugh and have fun along the way.

968
00:52:11,800 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 1: Enjoy the ride. And that does it for this episode

969
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:17,879
Speaker 1: of Bachelor Happy Hours. Golden Hour, thank you so much

970
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:21,279
Speaker 1: for tuning in, and I hope that you guys are

971
00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:23,080
Speaker 1: enjoying it as much as we are.

972
00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:26,000
Speaker 2: I mean, if you have not tuned in. First of all,

973
00:52:26,040 --> 00:52:28,560
Speaker 2: if you're listening to this, you are tuned in. But

974
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:31,719
Speaker 2: tell your friends, your neighbors, your aunts, your uncle's be

975
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:35,279
Speaker 2: sure to tune in to Bachelor Happy Hour because we

976
00:52:35,360 --> 00:52:37,160
Speaker 2: have new episodes.

977
00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:37,280
Speaker 1: All the time.

978
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:39,720
Speaker 2: And who would want to miss this talking about burping

979
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:41,680
Speaker 2: and farty, I don't know who'd want to miss this.

980
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 1: And don't forget to submit your questions to us. You

981
00:52:45,080 --> 00:52:48,319
Speaker 1: can go to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or

982
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:52,200
Speaker 1: just dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. It's easy.

983
00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:56,160
Speaker 2: It's easy, so easy. In the meantime, listen to Bachelor

984
00:52:56,239 --> 00:52:59,839
Speaker 2: Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app, or where

985
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:02,839
Speaker 2: where you listen to podcasts. Until next time, Take care

986
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 2: for now

987
00:53:07,840 --> 00:53:08,239
Speaker 1: Mm hmm