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Speaker 1: Chill is officially over, but there are still some things

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Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about. That's why over

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Speaker 1: the next few weeks, we'll be revisiting some of my

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Speaker 1: favorite episodes over the last four seasons. I'll be sharing

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Speaker 1: where I am now versus where I was when I

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Speaker 1: today compared to how I felt then. I want you

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Speaker 1: to think of these episodes as a countdown to something

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Speaker 1: completely new, something coming very soon. Be excited. So let's

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Speaker 1: do this, shall we only? Guys. Back in twenty twenty three,

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Speaker 1: I released an episode called Closing a Chapter with Omi.

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Speaker 1: It was just that, closing a chapter with my longtime

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Speaker 1: friend and assistant, Omi, who is still in my life

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Speaker 1: and is now my social media mate, and I feel

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Speaker 1: like our friendship is a lot better. She's also matured

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Speaker 1: a lot. I have also learned to appreciate her a

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Speaker 1: lot more because she's definitely a person that I can

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Speaker 1: count on at any moment, anytime. And a lot of

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Speaker 1: things have happened since then that have just changed my

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Speaker 1: life and my perspective on a lot of people around me,

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Speaker 1: even people that I thought were like super solid. But

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Speaker 1: no matter what, miss Omi has always been there. So

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Speaker 1: I'm very grateful. Shout out to a little Omi. And

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Speaker 1: then after Omi, we had Kimberly. Well, actually no, we

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Speaker 1: had another assistant. But anyway, you guys met Kimberly. Kimberly

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Speaker 1: and Noll. You guys remember her, guys, Brianna and Pablo,

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Speaker 1: you guys, Yeah, she was with me for two years.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's a long time, but.

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Speaker 1: She's no longer with me unfortunately.

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Speaker 3: Are you taking applications.

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Speaker 1: I am taking applications. I am I need an assistant.

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Speaker 1: I did feel like I needed a little bit of

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Speaker 1: a break. To be honest, I'm like, okay, let me

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Speaker 1: just take a little break. I don't know if that

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like I needed to step back and

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Speaker 1: need have a schedule, and also just I'm learning this

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Speaker 1: with my life coach. It's hard for me though, guys,

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Speaker 1: it's a personal assistant. It's very personal, so I need

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Speaker 1: to feel close and comfortable with the person. Like bringing

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Speaker 1: I'm still wrapping my head around that. But AnyWho shout

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Speaker 1: out to Kim too. She was great. But you know

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Speaker 3: Yeah, before you mentioned you treating the folks who work

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Speaker 3: how difficult it must be to kind of like sever

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Speaker 3: those relationships too, because you have to be a boss

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Speaker 3: the friendship boss relationship, I think is really really tough.

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Speaker 3: Do you have any advice for someone who might be

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm still trying to figure it out. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to change who I am. Yeah, that's my essence.

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Speaker 1: I like people to feel comfortable when you come into

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Speaker 1: to treat people the way I would like to be treated. Remember, guys,

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Speaker 1: I started off as an assistant, and I was an assistant,

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Speaker 1: and I think that I was a damn good assistant.

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Speaker 1: But it was because I had a very tough and

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Speaker 1: great boss, and I learned a lot, but it's not

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be a bitch to any of

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I'll have that problem because now

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this boundaries thing. It didn't come up for

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Speaker 1: But for sure, I think from what I've learned is

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it is something that is very real and I understand,

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Speaker 2: But for now.

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Speaker 1: Just go ahead and you know, listen to this episode.

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Speaker 1: It's a really good one. I know you guys loved

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Speaker 1: this one. I had a very sound and respectful conversation

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Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden they're not there. Ola Olan,

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Speaker 1: Welcome to this week's episode of Cheeky's and Chill. If

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Speaker 1: you haven't stepped outside today yet, be sure to do that.

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Speaker 1: It's so important to get some sunshine and fresh air

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Speaker 1: every single day. Get that vitamin day. I know a

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Speaker 1: So most of you know that Noah Mii Valdivia or

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Speaker 1: and just for the record, everything is good between us, Okay.

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Speaker 1: That's why it was so important that I got on

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