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<v Speaker 3>Welcome and we talk back where we encourage you to hustle, hard, laugh,

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<v Speaker 1>So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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<v Speaker 1>to talks back.

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<v Speaker 3>What's up, y'all, it's your co hosts a j holiday.

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<v Speaker 3>What's up?

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<v Speaker 1>Big Tam Bam, y'all is me Tam Vam. I love

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<v Speaker 1>y'all so fucking much, man.

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<v Speaker 3>While y'all yelling at them, it's love y'ell, god, Jam,

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<v Speaker 3>it's got a lot of hell.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel so fucking good right now, man, I feel good.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you doing?

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<v Speaker 3>Tired, sleepy? It's Monday. I'm trying not to hate Mondays

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<v Speaker 3>all over again in life. I think I'm doing a

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<v Speaker 3>pretty good job. But I'm really really trying hate Monday,

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<v Speaker 3>trying not to hate Mondays. Man. But other than that,

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<v Speaker 3>I had a pretty good weekend. What you do nothing,

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<v Speaker 3>breathe that. I went over to my one of my

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<v Speaker 3>friend's house, the one who's having a baby, la Quandra.

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<v Speaker 3>She's doing any day now child. So we went over

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<v Speaker 3>there and helped her unpack all her baby stuff and

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<v Speaker 3>put stuff up, and I sanitize out her baby bottles. Bitch,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like I'm having a whole baby, Okay, I

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<v Speaker 3>cannot wait for this dude to touch down Little Cameron.

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<v Speaker 3>So we helped her do all her stuff this weekend,

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<v Speaker 3>and shit, I was exhausted from that girl. She got

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<v Speaker 3>about eight hours of work out of me.

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<v Speaker 1>Well she Saturday around her.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, So the Aunties is four of us. Apparently someone

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<v Speaker 3>sent out in the group chat last week, like, let

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<v Speaker 3>me read it to y'all. It's so sweet. Okay, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>how fuck do you like? She is so lucky right

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<v Speaker 3>when people be feeling like shit is not like you.

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<v Speaker 3>You always have like some good ass people, right. So

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<v Speaker 3>one of our friends, Shiuanna sha Wanna, put out the

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<v Speaker 3>auntie's chat and it's like a whole and I turned

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<v Speaker 3>it into like an apple note so we can all

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<v Speaker 3>revisit it. But like task for each one of us

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<v Speaker 3>to do, and what dates? So meal drop offs, you

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<v Speaker 3>know when she first had the baby, meal drops off

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<v Speaker 3>drop offs, lighthouse cleaning, grocery run, baby holding, snuggle time

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<v Speaker 3>mom mom, not break, laundry, help, sibling playtime if any

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<v Speaker 3>that would not apply to me, And I'm pretty sure

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<v Speaker 3>she don't want dash over there, and then anything else

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<v Speaker 3>we could think of. Isn't that so nice?

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<v Speaker 1>That is so thoughtful there is, and I think more

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<v Speaker 1>women wish they had people who was like making a

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<v Speaker 1>schedule for their baby.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so we're gonna fill out this this calendar of

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<v Speaker 3>events and make sure we help our friend out. Yeah, dude,

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<v Speaker 3>at least the first month child, so she can get

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<v Speaker 3>acclimated because we old mama's out here. Man, forty mamas.

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<v Speaker 3>But you had going on this weekend, you know what.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so locked in with this seventy five heart. Mm hm.

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<v Speaker 1>All I did was work out. I mean on Easter Sunday,

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<v Speaker 1>I did not get up and go to church, but

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<v Speaker 1>I did get up and go to the lake and

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<v Speaker 1>I worked, walked four miles around the lake, and I

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<v Speaker 1>listened to church as I was experiencing the earth. I

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<v Speaker 1>thought that was good, you know. So I did that

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<v Speaker 1>Sunday morning. And then after I finished listening to church

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<v Speaker 1>and getting my work with my walk on, I came

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<v Speaker 1>home and I laid out on the grass and smoked

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<v Speaker 1>the joint because it was also four twenty, so I

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<v Speaker 1>celebrated everything.

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<v Speaker 3>I know a post that said I don't know who's

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<v Speaker 3>gonna be higher this Sunday, Me or Jesus. It was

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<v Speaker 3>the most high. So you participated in all the things

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<v Speaker 3>this past weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>So y'all lift me up in prayer because trying to travel.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't been traveling, you know this because class has

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<v Speaker 1>been over for two weeks now, and and I'm about

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<v Speaker 1>to travel again starting tomorrow. I gotta go to Philly,

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<v Speaker 1>then back to New York, then Atlanta all in one week,

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<v Speaker 1>and do to workouts today. So y'all keep me perried

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<v Speaker 1>up because I don't know if I'm gonna be able

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<v Speaker 1>to make it, but I'm gonna try my best. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna so I thought about going to the airport early

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<v Speaker 1>and walking on the you know, the little roller walkway,

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<v Speaker 1>the little it'd be flat, but it's like a it's

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<v Speaker 1>like an escalator, but it's flat. M h. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>about getting on that and walking backwards on it. But

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<v Speaker 1>how is that?

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<v Speaker 3>That's just getting you to the other side faster. It's

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<v Speaker 3>not like a real workout.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I'm talking about walking the opposite the opposite

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<v Speaker 1>direction on it for forty five minutes in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>That is a treadmill. Yeah, that is a treadmill. You'll

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<v Speaker 3>look stupid, but try it, Like what fuck?

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta get my forty five minuteses some kind of way.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, that's it. I ain't do shit but work

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<v Speaker 1>out and drink water, and bee is.

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<v Speaker 3>Always the thing that's on the forefront of your mind

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<v Speaker 3>every fucking day.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm being bad.

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<v Speaker 3>I gotta lose weight, I gotta stop beating, I gotta,

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<v Speaker 3>I gotta. It's just it just clouds my judgment about

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<v Speaker 3>everything else in life, because I just feel like I

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<v Speaker 3>gotta do that first.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything else all in line behind that exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>But like then, when you do the workout, you feel

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<v Speaker 3>like accomplished for the whole day, like I gotta do

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<v Speaker 3>nothing else today.

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<v Speaker 1>I've done all that God needed me to do today.

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<v Speaker 3>No, but for real, Once you like conquer the diet man,

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<v Speaker 3>everything else in life gets easier.

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<v Speaker 1>I do feel like after this fifteen days, I do

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I have like a new level of clarity

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<v Speaker 1>going on. I feel very happy. I have so much

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<v Speaker 1>joy right now. I think it's the endorphins that are

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<v Speaker 1>flowing because all the exercising, So I can't complain. I

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<v Speaker 1>won't complain. I'm in a good space.

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<v Speaker 3>Nicely, that's what matters the most. Shit fuck that the

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<v Speaker 3>mental I mean the physical workout, that mental workout to

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<v Speaker 3>kick your ass too. So if you're feeling good mentally, man,

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<v Speaker 3>that's that's really what matters a man. How y'all feeling

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<v Speaker 3>mentally y'all good, y'all, nigga's good outdea. Let us know right,

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<v Speaker 3>we care absolutely, So let's get in a let's get

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<v Speaker 3>in a stupid internet news y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go.

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<v Speaker 3>So Shannon Sharp, Uh, he's facing a fifty million dollar

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<v Speaker 3>lawsuit over an alleged sexual assault accusation. Basically, but it

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<v Speaker 3>says the Hall of Fame tight end. Shannon Sharp made

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<v Speaker 3>headlines last week in connection with this pursuit of a

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<v Speaker 3>nine figure podcast deal. This week, he's facing an eight

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<v Speaker 3>figure lawsuit Sharp pursuit on Sunday by a woman proceeding

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<v Speaker 3>under the Jane Doe suit and him. The thirteen page

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<v Speaker 3>civil complaint filed in Nevada State Court alleged that Sharp

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<v Speaker 3>committed assault, sexual assault, battery, and sexual battery, and that

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<v Speaker 3>he engaged in the intentional inflection of emotional distress. The

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<v Speaker 3>planet claims that they embarked on a rocky, consensual relationship

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<v Speaker 3>that lasted nearly two years. The complaint alleges that Sharp

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<v Speaker 3>recorded their sexual activities. Well, we know he court, this

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<v Speaker 3>accidentally accidentally went live last year and all y'all won't

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<v Speaker 3>forget that ship. And I'm not saying like he sexually

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<v Speaker 3>assaulted anybody, but anyway, something without her knowledge. So basically,

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<v Speaker 3>he's recorded some shit without her knowledge, and that he

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<v Speaker 3>was sharing the videos with others without her permission or knowledge.

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<v Speaker 3>The complaint contends that it was another woman, not the

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<v Speaker 3>plane of with whom Sharp was having sex with. He

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<v Speaker 3>accidentally livestreamed the encounter on Instagram. Okay, so she's saying

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<v Speaker 3>it wasn't her for the Instagram post, but this is

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<v Speaker 3>something prior to that. Very interesting though.

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<v Speaker 1>See, I don't be one like when someone says they've

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<v Speaker 1>been sexually assaulted, my instinct is to believe them. But however, comma,

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<v Speaker 1>lately it does seem like a you know, a money

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<v Speaker 1>grab oftentimes, you know, so it's just the same attorneys, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and it makes it difficult to trust that everybody is

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<v Speaker 1>being just you know. So I think he doesn't strike

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<v Speaker 1>me as the type that needs to or wants to

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<v Speaker 1>take pussy, you know, don't strike me as that type.

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<v Speaker 1>But you never know, you know, you never know, what

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<v Speaker 1>do I know? You know?

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<v Speaker 3>But it isn't consent on this show, and you know,

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<v Speaker 3>this person is saying that she was in a two

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<v Speaker 3>year relationship with him, and sometimes he consent within a

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<v Speaker 3>relationship could look kind of weird, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>People may not cons like me not wanting to have

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<v Speaker 3>sex and in your boyfriend, like forcing you to kind

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<v Speaker 3>of have sex like that can be considered a problem,

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<v Speaker 3>you know what I'm saying. And I think it probably

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<v Speaker 3>happens to women in relationships. They just don't speak on

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<v Speaker 3>it because this is my boyfriend, right thing, So it

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<v Speaker 3>could be that she's reflecting and now she may feel like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I was uncomfortable in that situation. Let's see,

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<v Speaker 3>you know. But yeah, it's the same attorneys that's always

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<v Speaker 3>on these lawsuits and after the me Too movement, And

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<v Speaker 3>I know y'all probably can't stand CANi Owns, Okay, but

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<v Speaker 3>I do watch Candice Owns. But she's been doing a

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<v Speaker 3>special on Harvey Weinstein as of lately and actually reading

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<v Speaker 3>and looking into the lawsuit against him during that time,

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<v Speaker 3>which because I think Harvey Weinstein, like his case kind

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<v Speaker 3>of pretty much kicked off the me too movement. There's

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of situations where I just don't think we

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<v Speaker 3>should automatically believe women just because it's a woman saying

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<v Speaker 3>that something happened to them. I think that's kind of dangerous.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, there was a time where I would have

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<v Speaker 1>been like, what woman is gonna you know, be a

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<v Speaker 1>naive to people's greed and shit like that, Like, what

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<v Speaker 1>woman is lying about somebody? You know, believe believe her?

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<v Speaker 1>That was my energy.

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<v Speaker 3>But this is the funniest thing about the Harvey Weinstein

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<v Speaker 3>shit in this lawsuit. Some of it went like the

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<v Speaker 3>main Jane well, they're not even Jane Doeese anymore. The

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<v Speaker 3>main people who are basically like they're the ones that

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<v Speaker 3>ultimately got him put behind bars. They actually a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of people got they should got thrown out of court

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<v Speaker 3>because they asked them to describe his penis and they couldn't.

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<v Speaker 3>So back in the nineties, the nigga had his balls

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<v Speaker 3>taken off because he had gang green. So if they

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<v Speaker 3>describing a penis with balls, they would be lying. So

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of women.

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<v Speaker 1>I was about to do it, but I'm sorry do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>It was short and it was shaped like a funnel.

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<v Speaker 1>The balls were very long.

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<v Speaker 3>And you would be lying if you were talking about

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<v Speaker 3>Harvey Weinstein exactly, you don't have none exactly. So it

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<v Speaker 3>was a lot of situations like this ship is you

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<v Speaker 3>know what that made me bigger? It's like funny, but

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<v Speaker 3>I love those I would make a joke out of everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh what movie was like say, I know you want

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<v Speaker 1>these nuts? Were girl?

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<v Speaker 3>You know you want these nuts? You said a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit more, girl, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>You want these nuts? What movie is that? Booty call?

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<v Speaker 1>Booty Call?

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<v Speaker 3>That's what he wanted to eat, that koochie with this

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<v Speaker 3>ran wrap and all that ship beauty call. Hold on,

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<v Speaker 3>we don't have the booty called to them, Harvey Wise,

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<v Speaker 3>stay all this shit. This is about Shannon Sharp. So

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<v Speaker 3>Sharp gets out of this mess season and hopefully he

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<v Speaker 3>hopefully his allegations just aren't true, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>And he can he can, I don't. I just hope

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<v Speaker 3>he just doesn't try to put a statement out to

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<v Speaker 3>try to prove himself in the court of public opinion.

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<v Speaker 3>Just stay quiet, let your attorneys handle it. Maybe you

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<v Speaker 3>pull a little jay Z put a load.

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<v Speaker 1>What if he did it, then he needs to pray no, absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>but we'll see.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not ever interested in having someone guilty and then

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<v Speaker 3>they got to prove himself innocent.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so everybody's uh and inside Jonathan. Yeah. And then

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<v Speaker 3>you know the way they go after the civil lawsuits

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<v Speaker 3>instead of calling the police when the thing actually happened

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<v Speaker 3>and reported it, reporting it. That gives me. That gives

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<v Speaker 3>me pause too. I'm side eying, like you want to

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<v Speaker 3>do a civil lawsuit? Now twenty years later.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, I still feel like I should sue Applebee's. Every

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<v Speaker 1>time I hear stories like this, is it.

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<v Speaker 3>Too late to say the company I should sue or

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<v Speaker 3>couldn't sue for sexual erast because it was actually a

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<v Speaker 3>woman at a bank and I used to work like

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<v Speaker 3>customer service and she would come and put her titties

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<v Speaker 3>on your back. And it wasn't until years later when

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<v Speaker 3>her and another female got fired because they got caught

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<v Speaker 3>having sex on the job. This lady was a lesbian

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<v Speaker 3>the whole time and probably getting off.

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<v Speaker 1>My girl be putting her titties on my shoulder when

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<v Speaker 1>she's doing my eyebrows. But I like it.

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<v Speaker 3>I did not like this white little pillows the Jennifer up.

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<v Speaker 1>This is nice. I'm tired you such a man, Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>Kevin Gates versus Lebron, So I don't know if y'all

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<v Speaker 1>caught this. Kevin Gates posted a response to to Lebron's

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<v Speaker 1>James and Savannah following their previous post, seemingly reacting to

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<v Speaker 1>his initial comments in which he stated he wouldn't trade

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<v Speaker 1>places with the athlete because he doesn't like the way

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<v Speaker 1>his wife, Savannah looks at him. And it was weird

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<v Speaker 1>because why are you even commenting on that they.

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<v Speaker 3>Even come from.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was very left field for you to even

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<v Speaker 1>give a fuck about Savannah how she's looking at Lebron

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<v Speaker 1>and how you would you absolutely would want to trade

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<v Speaker 1>places with le Bron James. Let's just be clear that

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<v Speaker 1>Nigga is very rich and very successful and he can't

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<v Speaker 1>have his way. But he loved his wife, so what

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<v Speaker 1>and she love him? What's the shape?

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<v Speaker 3>Been together for a long time, So if I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>out at you with starry eyes, it's probably because, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>we got some years of bullshit between us. Nonetheless, I

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<v Speaker 3>love you. You are the father of my children. I

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<v Speaker 3>wo wasn't having no other way? And what Kevin Gates

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<v Speaker 3>is such a messy devo.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then talks about like the way the white

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<v Speaker 1>bitches look at him. But Lebron commented, he posted the

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<v Speaker 1>pictures Savannah looking staring at him, and she's smiling and

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<v Speaker 1>she looks so happy, and he said, we don't entertain peasants. Basically,

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<v Speaker 1>we're too next period, Queen, We're too next queen. Gotta

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<v Speaker 1>say nothing, Yeah, because what.

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<v Speaker 3>Kevin Gaz need to be checking on? Drika fine ass

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<v Speaker 3>over that motherfucking farm.

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<v Speaker 1>She over there eating fresh fruit and don't give her weed.

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<v Speaker 3>And lingerie and looking fine. You're run here trotting around

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<v Speaker 3>with Brittany Rayner. All of a sudden, she's a Muslim.

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<v Speaker 1>What's going on? What is that about?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. And I've been seeing like I hadn't

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<v Speaker 3>really looked into it because I really just don't give

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<v Speaker 3>a fuck.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't. Yeah, I can't pay it like energy. Kevin Gates.

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<v Speaker 3>I literally just googled last week to see what because

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<v Speaker 3>I just knew he was an Aquarius. He's not, though,

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<v Speaker 3>so I had to look up. I forgot what he

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<v Speaker 3>what he was, but he's not an Aquarius, but he

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<v Speaker 3>just gives Aquarius vibes for sure. Larious, I'm I'm wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>The nigga isn't Aquarius. I literally, what the fuck did

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<v Speaker 3>I look up? His birthday is February fifth, This nigga

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<v Speaker 3>isn't Aquarius.

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<v Speaker 1>What does that mean? You say that, like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what that means? Now? What does that mean?

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<v Speaker 3>When I tell you I can see an Aquarius, all

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<v Speaker 3>I need to do is hit him speak a little bit,

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<v Speaker 3>and I know exactly who the fuck I'm dealing with.

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<v Speaker 3>Aquarius men are very very very smart, highly intellectual people,

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<v Speaker 3>and they fucking crazy at the same time, like really

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<v Speaker 3>like mad scientists type crazy people, very manipulative. It's almost

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<v Speaker 3>like a sickness. I can see my girl. Fu fuck

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<v Speaker 3>Kevin Gates.

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<v Speaker 1>I know.

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<v Speaker 3>I talk about the women, y'all. I love Aquarius women,

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<v Speaker 3>like my oldest sister's Aquarius, and she's one of the

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<v Speaker 3>nicest people in the world. But the men are a

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<v Speaker 3>different species of human. They may not even be human. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>it's something wrong with them. Niggas.

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<v Speaker 1>Who is who? That's your ex.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, But I have like, anytime a woman is telling

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<v Speaker 3>me about somebody, I'm like, is he an Aquarius? Any

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<v Speaker 3>just based off the descriptive type of things that they

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<v Speaker 3>might be going through with this person. It's all I

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<v Speaker 3>swear to either it's a query, it's a scorpio. I

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<v Speaker 3>can point them out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I love me a scorpio.

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<v Speaker 3>No scorpios gonna fuckh at you forever. That's why I

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<v Speaker 3>like them niggas got They definitely gonna fuck the ship

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<v Speaker 3>out of you. And they can make babies all day

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<v Speaker 3>long too. But them niggas got some ship with them too. Man,

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<v Speaker 3>they they You're gonna feel possessed fucking with a scorpio.

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<v Speaker 1>We get a fucking I. This ain't on the docket,

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<v Speaker 1>but I got a third thist in there, y'all. I

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<v Speaker 1>saw Sinners over the weekend. I saw it on Thursday,

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<v Speaker 1>the first night, y'all. That Mightael b Jordan. I almost

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<v Speaker 1>forgot about him for a little while because then Jonathan

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<v Speaker 1>make me fine on film. He's so fine on film.

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<v Speaker 1>I listen. I ain't never wanted to fuck brothers. It

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<v Speaker 1>was him. It was him twice.

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<v Speaker 3>He was a twin, but we played twins in the movie.

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<v Speaker 1>He played twins in the movie.

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<v Speaker 3>Thing. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait to see that smoke and stack oh okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And they can smoke and stack me anytime of the day. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all go see Centers support black films.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I can't wait to watch that movie. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>really enjoy I already know without even seeing the film,

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<v Speaker 3>but just seeing like the the preview and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Aminos and I like watching education on TV.

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<v Speaker 3>I like watching shit. I'm gonna learn something from all

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<v Speaker 3>that confirms things. I already think. Those are the type

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<v Speaker 3>of movies I like, You're really enjoy it, Yes, And

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<v Speaker 3>I already think The Motherfuckers is real life vampires, Like

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<v Speaker 3>we think they only exist in movies. No, they do not.

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<v Speaker 3>I believe vampires really exist in real life. And then

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<v Speaker 3>you got people who just be sucking people's energy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm gonna say that's what I believe is vampire. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>those type of vampires.

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<v Speaker 3>But and maybe the movie was like a like a

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<v Speaker 3>subliminal thing like that. Yeah, all right, so I'll see it. Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So Tracy Ellis Ross, So y'all know our previous prior

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<v Speaker 3>first lady, Michelle Obama and her brother. They have a

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<v Speaker 3>podcast called Emo. I am Oh, So, Tracy Ellis Ross

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<v Speaker 3>did a recent episode of Emo. And you know, she's

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<v Speaker 3>a fifty two year old woman, she's never been married,

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<v Speaker 3>she didn't have any children. This is Diana Ross's daughter,

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, she gets they get into a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit about you know, just being that age, being single,

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<v Speaker 3>dating date, dating younger men, all the things. So this,

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<v Speaker 3>I guess that is that on the docket for a

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<v Speaker 3>stupid Internet news and our topic this week because I

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<v Speaker 3>want to talk about that episode.

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<v Speaker 1>You got ways, let's get into it. Let's let's take

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<v Speaker 1>our break and let's really deep dive into this because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I love me and Waiian.

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<v Speaker 3>This could be our life, right all right, So we're back,

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<v Speaker 3>and yeah, we want to talk about I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>if y'all watched it, let us know if you didn't,

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<v Speaker 3>but Tracy Ellis was on in my opinion, and did.

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<v Speaker 1>You watch it, dam I did watch it. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>it was interesting, what you know, Tracy Ellis Ross had

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<v Speaker 1>to say about how men of her generation had a

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<v Speaker 1>certain level of toxic masculinity that she just could not

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<v Speaker 1>subscribe to, and that younger men were more open in

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<v Speaker 1>their thoughts about gender fluidity and homosexuality and gender roles

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, and what's going on in modern society, because.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, we've talked about this that often I date

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<v Speaker 4>younger men and a lot of it is.

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<v Speaker 3>Because that's stop on that, folks. Oh my god, we

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<v Speaker 3>had a great dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>We had a great dinner.

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<v Speaker 4>By the ways, the table your husband goes. But why

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<v Speaker 4>and I said, well, maybe because I.

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<v Speaker 3>Can what I'm saying tales from Tracy's.

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<v Speaker 1>Tale.

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<v Speaker 4>But but but one of the reasons though that because

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<v Speaker 4>I had to ask myself that question.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what is this about?

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<v Speaker 4>Because I want a partner and so often and it's

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<v Speaker 4>not just that I'm older.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm also very embodied.

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<v Speaker 4>I am a full, very whole person who knows myself,

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<v Speaker 4>who is in charge of my life, and who lives

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<v Speaker 4>a very full, just robust life. So it's not just age.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like life experience and sort of a difference. But

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<v Speaker 4>I had to ask myself the question, why why does

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<v Speaker 4>this keep sort of coming up? Other than they're hot

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<v Speaker 4>and gorgeous, There's that. There's that, But a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>men my age are steeped in a toxic masculinity and

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<v Speaker 4>have been in a culture where there is a particular

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<v Speaker 4>way that a relationship looks.

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<v Speaker 3>For one part I heard her say saying that you know,

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<v Speaker 3>she would be out with maybe a guy of her age,

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<v Speaker 3>and the things that they would say about other groups

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<v Speaker 3>of people, like she would be looking like, are you crazy?

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<v Speaker 3>You can't say stuff like that. So she, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>leans more towards the more modern approach to gender. Right

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<v Speaker 3>with his fluidity, you know, you could be who you

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<v Speaker 3>want to be type man. You know, you get older

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<v Speaker 3>generations of people, even we eighties eighties babies, we may

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<v Speaker 3>not see that shit the same as somebody born in

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<v Speaker 3>two thousands. Right, yeah, yay, you know it ain't no

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<v Speaker 3>by type shit, you know what I'm saying. It just

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<v Speaker 3>depends on the I do think that's generational though, right.

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<v Speaker 3>She maybe she's a little bit more liberal in that

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<v Speaker 3>in that matter, so she leans to leans towards like

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<v Speaker 3>the younger generation when it comes to I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>what that has to do with a man that she's

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<v Speaker 3>in a relationship with them.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so I don't know why I don't typically date

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<v Speaker 1>men older than me, And I always attributed it to

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<v Speaker 1>me being childish, you know, but perhaps there's more to

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<v Speaker 1>it than that, you know, like I enjoy.

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<v Speaker 3>What it is, she just don't. She just didn't say

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<v Speaker 3>that though.

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<v Speaker 1>That she childish too, Yes, but our kids anymore, we're

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<v Speaker 1>not childish, like I'm not child like. I'm not a child,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't think it's me being childish. Maybe a

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<v Speaker 1>long time ago that would have made sense, but at

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<v Speaker 1>this age it's just I don't know a lot, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't have I think sometimes I don't have children.

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<v Speaker 1>So younger men typically aren't parents, you know, So that's easier.

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<v Speaker 1>If I want to get up and go to Africa Friday,

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<v Speaker 1>I need somebody who can get up and go to

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<v Speaker 1>you know. So I'm attracted to someone who can move

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<v Speaker 1>like I can. And then also I think it's nice

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<v Speaker 1>to have someone that ain't done done at all. Damn,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't do nothing new with you, because.

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<v Speaker 3>Now you sound like a man. That's why men like

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<v Speaker 3>younger women, you know what I'm saying, Like they're easily malleable, right, manipulate,

0:25:18.400 --> 0:25:21.600
<v Speaker 3>Like when I see an older person saying like they

0:25:21.680 --> 0:25:25.120
<v Speaker 3>date younger, not you, right, and not even her, just

0:25:25.119 --> 0:25:26.720
<v Speaker 3>just some like we may look at men like this,

0:25:26.800 --> 0:25:29.399
<v Speaker 3>the men, and a man says he wants a younger woman,

0:25:29.640 --> 0:25:33.960
<v Speaker 3>we automatically think manipulation, man or woman. I'm thinking that

0:25:34.200 --> 0:25:36.919
<v Speaker 3>we know that the younger person isn't already set in

0:25:36.960 --> 0:25:40.600
<v Speaker 3>their ways, right, so you think that you could probably

0:25:41.160 --> 0:25:45.479
<v Speaker 3>help mold a little bit. And that might be another

0:25:45.520 --> 0:25:47.800
<v Speaker 3>thing that she didn't say, and another thing you're not

0:25:47.840 --> 0:25:52.000
<v Speaker 3>saying right now. I just don't want to pack bag

0:25:52.160 --> 0:25:54.040
<v Speaker 3>lunch and have to pick up dick and drop it off.

0:25:54.080 --> 0:25:55.600
<v Speaker 3>That's why I don't like younger niggas.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't mind what you like. You like turkey on

0:25:58.119 --> 0:25:59.399
<v Speaker 1>your sandwich, I hate I like.

0:25:59.800 --> 0:26:02.200
<v Speaker 3>I like men my age, that's all. You know what

0:26:02.240 --> 0:26:02.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm saying.

0:26:02.640 --> 0:26:06.000
<v Speaker 1>I know my age or younger, but I typically don't

0:26:06.119 --> 0:26:10.520
<v Speaker 1>like older men. You know what, I won't say. I

0:26:10.560 --> 0:26:12.520
<v Speaker 1>don't even know. I haven't even given them a try

0:26:12.880 --> 0:26:16.400
<v Speaker 1>to know. The last time I fuckus with someone older

0:26:16.400 --> 0:26:20.520
<v Speaker 1>than me, I was in my early twenties, you know,

0:26:23.400 --> 0:26:25.480
<v Speaker 1>so I don't know. I might enjoy an older man

0:26:25.520 --> 0:26:28.000
<v Speaker 1>and just don't even know it because I haven't even

0:26:28.040 --> 0:26:32.000
<v Speaker 1>tried it. But then I typically no. I'm about to lie,

0:26:32.119 --> 0:26:34.000
<v Speaker 1>but I say I typically don't attract older men, But

0:26:34.040 --> 0:26:38.240
<v Speaker 1>that's not true. I just don't be entertaining them. Then,

0:26:38.440 --> 0:26:40.640
<v Speaker 1>you know what, Then I also have an issue with

0:26:40.680 --> 0:26:45.399
<v Speaker 1>my moral my mortality that I have to unpack with

0:26:45.440 --> 0:26:48.160
<v Speaker 1>a therapist. But since y'all hear and y'all listening. I'm

0:26:48.160 --> 0:26:53.840
<v Speaker 1>gonna pack with y'all older men. Makes me more aware

0:26:54.160 --> 0:27:03.520
<v Speaker 1>of my mortality. There, I said it.

0:27:00.280 --> 0:27:04.919
<v Speaker 3>Really m h. I mean I understand that, right, But

0:27:06.480 --> 0:27:11.160
<v Speaker 3>it's like I don't know. I already look at death

0:27:11.280 --> 0:27:16.000
<v Speaker 3>totally different anyway. I don't worry about that part of life.

0:27:16.040 --> 0:27:18.639
<v Speaker 3>It has to happen. That's nothing that scares me. Like,

0:27:18.720 --> 0:27:24.040
<v Speaker 3>once you conquer death, everything else is the fucking breeze.

0:27:24.600 --> 0:27:26.400
<v Speaker 1>You don't aker death until you do it.

0:27:27.080 --> 0:27:30.080
<v Speaker 3>No, you can conquer death mentally, whether it happens today

0:27:30.160 --> 0:27:33.199
<v Speaker 3>or tomorrow. I'm okay with that, Like I'm okay with

0:27:33.359 --> 0:27:35.440
<v Speaker 3>getting the fuck up out of here, however it may. No,

0:27:35.520 --> 0:27:36.639
<v Speaker 3>I just don't want to. I don't want to be

0:27:36.680 --> 0:27:39.960
<v Speaker 3>alive and suffering. So you mean mortality meaning like just

0:27:40.000 --> 0:27:43.920
<v Speaker 3>the process of getting older is what you're being reminded of, right.

0:27:44.200 --> 0:27:45.800
<v Speaker 3>I don't have a problem with that either. My only

0:27:45.840 --> 0:27:48.159
<v Speaker 3>problem with getting older is that I don't have a

0:27:48.200 --> 0:27:51.000
<v Speaker 3>million dollars yet, which is work in progress. That's my

0:27:51.119 --> 0:27:55.160
<v Speaker 3>problem right now, the problem I'm working on it right now, right,

0:27:55.280 --> 0:27:58.359
<v Speaker 3>that's my only problem about getting older. And then also

0:27:58.440 --> 0:28:01.080
<v Speaker 3>I do want a child, right, those are my only

0:28:01.119 --> 0:28:06.400
<v Speaker 3>two hang ups about getting older, honestly, but I wonder

0:28:06.440 --> 0:28:08.880
<v Speaker 3>at Tracy Ellis Ross even you know, she's fifty two,

0:28:08.920 --> 0:28:11.760
<v Speaker 3>so she's you know, a whole ten years plus at

0:28:11.760 --> 0:28:18.040
<v Speaker 3>this point than us. But maybe those maybe maybe she

0:28:18.119 --> 0:28:20.160
<v Speaker 3>has those same same hang ups.

0:28:20.240 --> 0:28:24.400
<v Speaker 1>So looking at her, it's just like watching her talk

0:28:24.440 --> 0:28:29.080
<v Speaker 1>about because her you know, having you know, paying with

0:28:29.160 --> 0:28:31.600
<v Speaker 1>the fact that she never got married and she never

0:28:31.680 --> 0:28:33.800
<v Speaker 1>became a mother. And I mean, she's okay with her

0:28:33.840 --> 0:28:35.880
<v Speaker 1>life and she's happy because she says to her life

0:28:35.880 --> 0:28:39.360
<v Speaker 1>it's full and robust, but she does feel some angst

0:28:39.680 --> 0:28:44.120
<v Speaker 1>about not having those things ever accomplished. That was scarier

0:28:44.160 --> 0:28:48.400
<v Speaker 1>than sinners watching her and saying like what if that

0:28:48.440 --> 0:28:52.840
<v Speaker 1>becomes me? You know? M hm, So I that is

0:28:53.200 --> 0:28:55.840
<v Speaker 1>fearful that what if I never have a family, what

0:28:55.840 --> 0:28:58.120
<v Speaker 1>if I never get married, and not saying that I

0:28:58.160 --> 0:29:00.680
<v Speaker 1>won't be this joyous, happy person And still I think

0:29:00.720 --> 0:29:04.240
<v Speaker 1>I still will, but there will be some pain associated

0:29:05.080 --> 0:29:06.280
<v Speaker 1>with never having that.

0:29:06.320 --> 0:29:11.600
<v Speaker 3>Experience, right, Yeah, So this is her, This is a

0:29:11.640 --> 0:29:16.880
<v Speaker 3>little so. Ross discussed her inclination toward dating younger men,

0:29:16.960 --> 0:29:21.320
<v Speaker 3>attributing attributing this preference to the openness and emotional availability.

0:29:21.400 --> 0:29:25.000
<v Speaker 3>She often finds in them. She contrasted this with her

0:29:25.040 --> 0:29:29.400
<v Speaker 3>experiences with men her age, whom she described as often

0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:34.080
<v Speaker 3>entrenched in traditional gender roles. She did say gender roles okay,

0:29:34.520 --> 0:29:38.360
<v Speaker 3>and toxic masculinity. Ross emphasized that she is no longer

0:29:38.400 --> 0:29:42.000
<v Speaker 3>interested in relationships where she feels controlled or treated as

0:29:42.040 --> 0:29:45.680
<v Speaker 3>a possession, stating, I have long been past the age

0:29:45.680 --> 0:29:48.680
<v Speaker 3>where I feel like it's my job to teach somebody

0:29:49.360 --> 0:29:52.280
<v Speaker 3>or grow them up. But when you're dealing with a

0:29:52.320 --> 0:29:57.200
<v Speaker 3>younger person, you're going to have to grow them up, right,

0:29:57.280 --> 0:29:59.000
<v Speaker 3>you know what I'm saying. So is she willing to

0:29:59.000 --> 0:30:02.200
<v Speaker 3>deal with that from a younger person? More so because

0:30:02.240 --> 0:30:06.000
<v Speaker 3>she just say, Man, these older niggas is on diabetes medicines,

0:30:06.000 --> 0:30:08.240
<v Speaker 3>and I don't want no hospital's husband. Maybe that could

0:30:08.240 --> 0:30:10.600
<v Speaker 3>be a point she ain't about to say in front

0:30:10.600 --> 0:30:12.840
<v Speaker 3>of Michelle Obama, Right, But you.

0:30:12.800 --> 0:30:15.200
<v Speaker 1>Know what I don't I when it comes to health,

0:30:15.280 --> 0:30:19.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't look at that because a young person can

0:30:19.880 --> 0:30:21.160
<v Speaker 1>be sick. I've seen it, you know.

0:30:21.360 --> 0:30:25.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, these young dudes be on those all those from

0:30:25.920 --> 0:30:26.600
<v Speaker 3>the gas station.

0:30:26.960 --> 0:30:32.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and listen, you motherfucker's drinking red bull. Y'all better

0:30:32.040 --> 0:30:35.160
<v Speaker 1>stop drinking that ship that ship is. I always associate

0:30:35.280 --> 0:30:38.280
<v Speaker 1>chemicals to the same ship that the Ninja Turtles drink

0:30:39.080 --> 0:30:40.080
<v Speaker 1>in the sewer.

0:30:43.560 --> 0:30:45.960
<v Speaker 3>And people mix it with liquid. That's even more crazy.

0:30:46.200 --> 0:30:48.600
<v Speaker 1>Now, yeah, stop putting that shit in your body. I like,

0:30:48.680 --> 0:30:52.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm in this mental space where everything I'm looking at

0:30:52.880 --> 0:30:54.560
<v Speaker 1>everything different every.

0:30:54.440 --> 0:30:55.600
<v Speaker 3>Aj You're acting like me.

0:30:55.680 --> 0:30:59.120
<v Speaker 1>Now you're wearing off home, You're rubbing off of me,

0:30:59.200 --> 0:31:04.280
<v Speaker 1>bitch handles. I'd be like, oh, that feels toxic, Like

0:31:04.360 --> 0:31:05.000
<v Speaker 1>the little.

0:31:05.120 --> 0:31:08.440
<v Speaker 3>Lot of the candles we burn is you're literally sitting

0:31:08.600 --> 0:31:10.680
<v Speaker 3>and haling in bullshit and it's all that black smoke.

0:31:10.720 --> 0:31:12.880
<v Speaker 3>You go to blow your nose and all the black

0:31:12.920 --> 0:31:13.920
<v Speaker 3>smoke is coming out, like.

0:31:14.000 --> 0:31:16.320
<v Speaker 1>Rubbing some smelly, smelly lotion on my arm, and I

0:31:16.400 --> 0:31:20.200
<v Speaker 1>was like, what's in this? You know? Just everything you know?

0:31:20.240 --> 0:31:25.720
<v Speaker 1>I was like, what's in it? I don't want it exactly, Yeah,

0:31:25.760 --> 0:31:29.400
<v Speaker 1>but and that's how I'm Yeah, men too, though, like

0:31:29.480 --> 0:31:30.959
<v Speaker 1>what's in them? I don't hear?

0:31:31.280 --> 0:31:33.440
<v Speaker 3>I swear to golla, y'all listen to me. I had

0:31:33.480 --> 0:31:37.600
<v Speaker 3>I did my my physical earlier this year. Y'all know.

0:31:37.640 --> 0:31:41.080
<v Speaker 3>I'm in a whole relationship, right, but I just feel

0:31:41.120 --> 0:31:44.240
<v Speaker 3>like I've ripped me out the package, bitch amack and

0:31:44.280 --> 0:31:46.360
<v Speaker 3>brand new, like I just got the plastic, like once

0:31:46.400 --> 0:31:49.440
<v Speaker 3>you got super duper clean bell of health. You don't

0:31:49.440 --> 0:31:52.240
<v Speaker 3>want nobody fucking your ship up even now you're with

0:31:53.080 --> 0:31:56.920
<v Speaker 3>That is how I feel like I need Like it's

0:31:57.000 --> 0:32:02.080
<v Speaker 3>just I don't know, and I'm okay the fuck I'm

0:32:02.080 --> 0:32:04.480
<v Speaker 3>in the plastic me too, right.

0:32:04.400 --> 0:32:11.040
<v Speaker 1>Now, my wholeness that deleted, ready to go.

0:32:13.720 --> 0:32:15.840
<v Speaker 3>I think I go to a different doctor for to

0:32:15.920 --> 0:32:19.680
<v Speaker 3>delete that. Now I need to go to God, change

0:32:19.720 --> 0:32:24.360
<v Speaker 3>everybody mind, and I remember you.

0:32:25.520 --> 0:32:28.320
<v Speaker 1>It ain't what you be. A call is what your

0:32:28.360 --> 0:32:28.920
<v Speaker 1>answer to you?

0:32:28.960 --> 0:32:34.720
<v Speaker 3>Okay, moved to a new zip code, girl, fuck you

0:32:34.720 --> 0:32:39.080
<v Speaker 3>shut up? All right? So now these are her reflections

0:32:39.080 --> 0:32:41.600
<v Speaker 3>on marriage and motherhood. So addressing her personal life choices,

0:32:41.680 --> 0:32:46.440
<v Speaker 3>Ross express occasional grief over not having married or had children,

0:32:46.480 --> 0:32:51.720
<v Speaker 3>acknowledging these as milestone she once envisioned, her envisioned for herself. However,

0:32:52.200 --> 0:32:56.320
<v Speaker 3>she affirmed her commitment with her life, highlighting her refusal

0:32:56.360 --> 0:32:59.480
<v Speaker 3>to settle for a relationship that doesn't enhance her well being.

0:33:00.360 --> 0:33:03.920
<v Speaker 3>She stated, as much grief, as much as grief does

0:33:03.960 --> 0:33:07.240
<v Speaker 3>surface for me around not having children, children and not

0:33:07.280 --> 0:33:10.880
<v Speaker 3>having a partner I still wouldn't want the wrong partner.

0:33:11.040 --> 0:33:13.600
<v Speaker 3>Now that's a big that's a big did a big

0:33:13.640 --> 0:33:16.360
<v Speaker 3>one right there. Yeah, like people, a lot of people

0:33:16.400 --> 0:33:22.480
<v Speaker 3>are in relationships just because because of commitments, the key

0:33:22.520 --> 0:33:25.360
<v Speaker 3>things like kids just not being able to stand on

0:33:25.400 --> 0:33:28.560
<v Speaker 3>you m so. And then we also know about men

0:33:28.560 --> 0:33:30.520
<v Speaker 3>that they get married when they're ready to. So whoever's

0:33:30.560 --> 0:33:32.640
<v Speaker 3>in front of them, they're gonna marry, but they probably

0:33:33.080 --> 0:33:35.720
<v Speaker 3>missed out on the one they actually really want. So

0:33:35.760 --> 0:33:38.040
<v Speaker 3>now nine times out attend. If you probably married a

0:33:38.040 --> 0:33:41.520
<v Speaker 3>man in the forties, you might be his second option,

0:33:43.200 --> 0:33:45.640
<v Speaker 3>the one he actually wanted got the fuck away from

0:33:45.640 --> 0:33:48.400
<v Speaker 3>his ass. So now you got to deal with that.

0:33:49.360 --> 0:33:52.400
<v Speaker 3>But you'll never know, you would never know.

0:33:54.440 --> 0:33:56.320
<v Speaker 1>It's ugly. I hear, y'all.

0:33:57.360 --> 0:33:58.000
<v Speaker 3>It is.

0:33:59.600 --> 0:34:02.280
<v Speaker 1>No, no, you know it's beautiful out here, y'all. I

0:34:02.400 --> 0:34:02.920
<v Speaker 1>changed my.

0:34:02.840 --> 0:34:08.960
<v Speaker 3>Mind mindset, right. You know, this is an important discussion

0:34:09.000 --> 0:34:12.720
<v Speaker 3>because this could be us. Right, we could be fifty

0:34:12.760 --> 0:34:16.080
<v Speaker 3>two with no children and not married. It could happen.

0:34:16.239 --> 0:34:18.080
<v Speaker 1>I rebuked that in the name of Jesus.

0:34:18.160 --> 0:34:20.480
<v Speaker 3>I'm just saying it could happen. I mean, if you

0:34:20.480 --> 0:34:24.759
<v Speaker 3>don't want it. I feel like another part of this

0:34:24.840 --> 0:34:28.440
<v Speaker 3>conversation I'm gonna get to in a minute. But is

0:34:28.480 --> 0:34:32.000
<v Speaker 3>there really somebody for everybody? That might not be true?

0:34:32.400 --> 0:34:34.600
<v Speaker 1>No, because the number of people don't match unless we

0:34:34.640 --> 0:34:35.479
<v Speaker 1>are meant to be gay.

0:34:36.000 --> 0:34:37.640
<v Speaker 3>So let's go ahead and let's go ahead and get.

0:34:37.480 --> 0:34:42.000
<v Speaker 1>To that right quick. Now that's another conversation. Well, guess yeah,

0:34:42.040 --> 0:34:42.960
<v Speaker 1>let's stay away from that.

0:34:42.960 --> 0:34:45.960
<v Speaker 3>That still somebody, right, may it be if we want

0:34:45.960 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 3>to do the non binary route, right, it's still a somebody.

0:34:49.160 --> 0:34:51.040
<v Speaker 1>I did enjoy them titties on the back of my

0:34:51.040 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 1>shoulder when I was getting my eyebrows, so.

0:34:54.640 --> 0:34:58.759
<v Speaker 3>I actually looked into this. So statistically speaking, with billions

0:34:58.800 --> 0:35:01.959
<v Speaker 3>of people in the world, odds are there are many

0:35:02.040 --> 0:35:04.920
<v Speaker 3>people who could be compatible with you. So in a

0:35:05.000 --> 0:35:10.359
<v Speaker 3>purely numerical sense, yes, it's likely there's at least one

0:35:10.880 --> 0:35:16.480
<v Speaker 3>someone right. Spiritually speaking, some believe in soulmates or divine timing,

0:35:16.840 --> 0:35:19.480
<v Speaker 3>that the universe or God has aligned you with a

0:35:19.560 --> 0:35:23.640
<v Speaker 3>specific person. If you believe in destiny or purpose driven connection,

0:35:24.080 --> 0:35:28.080
<v Speaker 3>then yes, there's someone designed just for you when you're

0:35:28.120 --> 0:35:31.319
<v Speaker 3>going to meet them. Mmmm, could be fifty three, who knows.

0:35:32.120 --> 0:35:32.239
<v Speaker 1>Uh.

0:35:32.600 --> 0:35:37.640
<v Speaker 3>Realistically speaking, not everyone finds or ends up with that

0:35:37.960 --> 0:35:44.480
<v Speaker 3>someone life circumstances, timing, geography, personal choices. I think geography

0:35:44.480 --> 0:35:46.000
<v Speaker 3>we kind of got to narrow down a little bit

0:35:46.040 --> 0:35:48.080
<v Speaker 3>because you got social media right, so you should be

0:35:48.080 --> 0:35:50.680
<v Speaker 3>able to whoever to fuck. You know, you see your

0:35:50.760 --> 0:35:52.880
<v Speaker 3>person like damn, I like that. I like how he looked.

0:35:52.960 --> 0:35:55.160
<v Speaker 3>Just if that's supposed to be the person for me,

0:35:55.800 --> 0:35:58.680
<v Speaker 3>the initial attraction and then you hop in the DM

0:35:58.719 --> 0:36:02.280
<v Speaker 3>and then see what happens from there. But personal choices

0:36:02.320 --> 0:36:05.000
<v Speaker 3>and trauma can effect whether you cross paths with them

0:36:05.120 --> 0:36:08.880
<v Speaker 3>or recognize them when you do so, Like speaking to

0:36:08.920 --> 0:36:11.520
<v Speaker 3>the men in their forties getting married, forties and fifties

0:36:11.560 --> 0:36:15.279
<v Speaker 3>getting married for the first time, did you not recognize

0:36:15.320 --> 0:36:17.520
<v Speaker 3>that woman you had before? I saw? I don't know

0:36:17.560 --> 0:36:19.960
<v Speaker 3>what show this was, and I gotta find it because

0:36:19.960 --> 0:36:21.040
<v Speaker 3>I want you all to see. It was just a

0:36:21.080 --> 0:36:23.880
<v Speaker 3>quick clip. I didn't watch the full episode. But the guy,

0:36:25.360 --> 0:36:29.160
<v Speaker 3>one of these dudes, was actually at the the Saint

0:36:29.280 --> 0:36:33.920
<v Speaker 3>Jude event last year in Memphis. But their guest said,

0:36:33.960 --> 0:36:36.760
<v Speaker 3>you guys are two just three men. So the guest

0:36:36.880 --> 0:36:38.839
<v Speaker 3>was also guy, and he said, you guys are too

0:36:38.880 --> 0:36:42.920
<v Speaker 3>eligible bachelors. And he said, there are women watching this

0:36:43.040 --> 0:36:45.879
<v Speaker 3>episode and they're gonna see y'all like, damned too? Why

0:36:45.880 --> 0:36:47.920
<v Speaker 3>they not marry type things? So he was like, how

0:36:47.960 --> 0:36:52.200
<v Speaker 3>does a woman or what kind of woman? How would

0:36:52.239 --> 0:36:54.399
<v Speaker 3>that woman have to be to get you to marry them.

0:36:54.400 --> 0:36:56.919
<v Speaker 3>So the one guy was like, well, you know, there's

0:36:56.960 --> 0:36:58.920
<v Speaker 3>a vetting process. He was like, okay, sure, So how

0:36:58.960 --> 0:37:01.920
<v Speaker 3>long is the vetting process? And he said like two years?

0:37:02.080 --> 0:37:04.960
<v Speaker 3>Like two years? And the guy the guest was like,

0:37:05.040 --> 0:37:06.480
<v Speaker 3>so you mean to tell me you want to meet

0:37:06.520 --> 0:37:09.480
<v Speaker 3>a woman and know she's the one, but still make

0:37:09.520 --> 0:37:13.959
<v Speaker 3>her wait two years? You're not really eligible bachelors, y'all

0:37:13.960 --> 0:37:18.840
<v Speaker 3>are just y'all are just bachelors. Y'all not really eligible,

0:37:18.920 --> 0:37:20.719
<v Speaker 3>y'all not really looking to be married. I know one

0:37:20.719 --> 0:37:24.120
<v Speaker 3>of the guys is a divorceee who's on the podcast,

0:37:24.440 --> 0:37:27.600
<v Speaker 3>but y'all, y'all all had playing with women two years?

0:37:27.960 --> 0:37:29.319
<v Speaker 1>Yeah that's too long.

0:37:29.960 --> 0:37:33.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so y'all not really wanting to be married. Y'all

0:37:33.080 --> 0:37:36.000
<v Speaker 3>are just wanting to play the field. Y'all want access

0:37:36.040 --> 0:37:37.960
<v Speaker 3>to the one you want, and you want her to

0:37:38.040 --> 0:37:40.040
<v Speaker 3>wait while you run through everybody else.

0:37:40.120 --> 0:37:43.239
<v Speaker 1>Child. But here's the thing, I feel like men are

0:37:43.320 --> 0:37:46.440
<v Speaker 1>starting to feel like and y'all, guys, correct me if

0:37:46.440 --> 0:37:52.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm wrong that marriage does not benefit them.

0:37:52.640 --> 0:37:55.359
<v Speaker 3>And that's bullshit because married men will tell you all

0:37:55.440 --> 0:37:58.759
<v Speaker 3>day long how they benefit, probably their real wives from

0:37:58.800 --> 0:37:59.719
<v Speaker 3>being married.

0:37:59.520 --> 0:38:04.560
<v Speaker 1>I believe, because they say men live longer when the

0:38:04.719 --> 0:38:06.200
<v Speaker 1>women keep men alive.

0:38:06.960 --> 0:38:08.960
<v Speaker 3>So your single ass out here talking about what's your

0:38:08.960 --> 0:38:14.080
<v Speaker 3>benefit from marriage, You're gonna die early or earlier. So

0:38:14.920 --> 0:38:21.160
<v Speaker 3>this thing about is there somebody for everybody? So philosophically speaking,

0:38:21.719 --> 0:38:25.960
<v Speaker 3>maybe it's less about there being one perfect someone or

0:38:26.000 --> 0:38:28.600
<v Speaker 3>more about becoming the kind of person who attracts and

0:38:28.640 --> 0:38:33.239
<v Speaker 3>builds deep, healthy connections that shifts the focus inward, which

0:38:33.280 --> 0:38:36.880
<v Speaker 3>can be empowering. So is there someone for everyone? Probably,

0:38:37.120 --> 0:38:40.480
<v Speaker 3>but rather you find them. Right whether you find them

0:38:40.520 --> 0:38:45.200
<v Speaker 3>might depend on timing, openness, and maybe a little faith.

0:38:46.120 --> 0:38:49.799
<v Speaker 3>So I my take from that is that no, they may.

0:38:50.160 --> 0:38:52.880
<v Speaker 3>There may just not be somebody for everybody, especially if

0:38:52.920 --> 0:38:55.080
<v Speaker 3>you can't find that person. If you if you're if

0:38:55.120 --> 0:38:58.360
<v Speaker 3>you're gonna die at seventy five, you know what I'm saying, Like,

0:38:58.480 --> 0:39:01.080
<v Speaker 3>it's a possibility that if these are the things you're

0:39:01.120 --> 0:39:08.960
<v Speaker 3>searching for, somebody like a a soulmate and all like,

0:39:09.000 --> 0:39:11.239
<v Speaker 3>it might take a very long time. You may not.

0:39:11.880 --> 0:39:14.080
<v Speaker 3>And one thing Tracy Elis Ross did say that, I

0:39:14.120 --> 0:39:16.400
<v Speaker 3>was like, oh, that's a good that was a low line.

0:39:16.800 --> 0:39:23.480
<v Speaker 3>She said, chemistry is not is not a relationship, and

0:39:23.560 --> 0:39:27.759
<v Speaker 3>love does not always include chemistry. So just because you

0:39:27.760 --> 0:39:31.319
<v Speaker 3>have chemistry with somebody, just because you have chemistry with

0:39:31.360 --> 0:39:34.680
<v Speaker 3>someone that does not equate to a relationship. That does

0:39:34.760 --> 0:39:37.000
<v Speaker 3>not necessarily mean that's the person you're supposed to be

0:39:37.000 --> 0:39:40.320
<v Speaker 3>in a relationship with. And just because you love somebody,

0:39:40.400 --> 0:39:45.719
<v Speaker 3>that doesn't mean you should automatically have all this chemistry, right,

0:39:46.000 --> 0:39:49.680
<v Speaker 3>I agree. So that goes to like learning to love

0:39:49.680 --> 0:39:50.239
<v Speaker 3>who you with.

0:39:50.480 --> 0:39:53.120
<v Speaker 1>So is it possible that makes you more chemistry with

0:39:53.160 --> 0:39:59.000
<v Speaker 1>my than my main I'm joking, y'all, I'm joking. When

0:39:59.000 --> 0:40:02.080
<v Speaker 1>it happens, it's because that's.

0:40:01.920 --> 0:40:04.480
<v Speaker 3>Where you're putting the energy at your mental energy over there,

0:40:04.600 --> 0:40:06.799
<v Speaker 3>can't wait for the next time to get over there,

0:40:07.120 --> 0:40:09.040
<v Speaker 3>like to where you're neglecting the thing that's right in

0:40:09.040 --> 0:40:12.360
<v Speaker 3>front of you. So that's why being in love is

0:40:12.400 --> 0:40:14.120
<v Speaker 3>always like a state of mind, like you got to

0:40:14.120 --> 0:40:16.480
<v Speaker 3>constantly do things to keep falling in love with the

0:40:16.520 --> 0:40:19.120
<v Speaker 3>person you're with. Like Michelle Obama said, her and Barrock,

0:40:19.160 --> 0:40:21.440
<v Speaker 3>you know they've been together thirty years, and she would say,

0:40:21.480 --> 0:40:23.440
<v Speaker 3>like ten years, ten years out of those thirty we

0:40:23.520 --> 0:40:27.040
<v Speaker 3>might not even like each other for a whole ten years,

0:40:27.080 --> 0:40:30.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't fuck with you, and then somehow we find

0:40:30.120 --> 0:40:32.319
<v Speaker 3>a way to find fall back in love with each other.

0:40:33.480 --> 0:40:35.720
<v Speaker 3>So if you are a single person with no kids,

0:40:35.760 --> 0:40:38.040
<v Speaker 3>never been married, it's maybe you'd be dipping out of

0:40:38.080 --> 0:40:41.319
<v Speaker 3>situations too quick because it's not looking exactly how you

0:40:41.360 --> 0:40:44.120
<v Speaker 3>want it to look in that fucking moment, you know

0:40:44.160 --> 0:40:44.600
<v Speaker 3>what I'm saying.

0:40:44.600 --> 0:40:46.640
<v Speaker 1>So that's why you know a lot of people are

0:40:46.640 --> 0:40:50.359
<v Speaker 1>doing that. They people and I'm not gonna say people

0:40:50.400 --> 0:40:53.040
<v Speaker 1>without including me can be very.

0:40:52.920 --> 0:40:57.200
<v Speaker 3>Still without including me. Yeah m hm, Because I think

0:40:57.200 --> 0:40:59.359
<v Speaker 3>when you are by yourself for a good length of time,

0:40:59.440 --> 0:41:04.840
<v Speaker 3>you you like things a certain way, and you know,

0:41:04.960 --> 0:41:07.759
<v Speaker 3>instead of you're trying to find somebody that's gonna meet

0:41:07.920 --> 0:41:10.600
<v Speaker 3>everything you want, right, and then that person is then

0:41:10.680 --> 0:41:12.880
<v Speaker 3>also trying to find somebody that's going to meet everything

0:41:12.960 --> 0:41:16.399
<v Speaker 3>they want. You forget that there's compromise and some things

0:41:16.400 --> 0:41:18.600
<v Speaker 3>you got to tweak about yourself to make this thing work.

0:41:18.680 --> 0:41:21.080
<v Speaker 3>The person has to be worth it. So you mean

0:41:21.120 --> 0:41:23.160
<v Speaker 3>to tell me that by fifty two years old, you

0:41:23.239 --> 0:41:26.720
<v Speaker 3>haven't been able to find anybody that's worth the headache.

0:41:27.640 --> 0:41:29.759
<v Speaker 3>You might just need to be by yourself because it's

0:41:29.760 --> 0:41:32.600
<v Speaker 3>not gonna be easy with anybody. Like as much as

0:41:32.600 --> 0:41:36.560
<v Speaker 3>we think love is supposed to be like this just

0:41:36.640 --> 0:41:42.720
<v Speaker 3>every day Flowers and Lebron James twinkle with Savannah James

0:41:42.760 --> 0:41:45.160
<v Speaker 3>and the Eyes every single day, it is just not

0:41:45.480 --> 0:41:48.719
<v Speaker 3>like that. It is so hard cohabitating. It is so

0:41:48.920 --> 0:41:54.400
<v Speaker 3>hard just being with somebody else for the rest of

0:41:54.480 --> 0:41:55.120
<v Speaker 3>your life, Like.

0:41:55.200 --> 0:42:00.239
<v Speaker 1>Dealer with not live with me since two thousand and six, team,

0:42:01.400 --> 0:42:05.759
<v Speaker 1>and I don't know who I would be in a

0:42:05.840 --> 0:42:11.640
<v Speaker 1>house with another man, you know with Yeah, I don't

0:42:11.640 --> 0:42:12.360
<v Speaker 1>know who I would be.

0:42:13.000 --> 0:42:15.359
<v Speaker 3>Girl, it's tough, Like you probably haven't met him yet.

0:42:15.360 --> 0:42:16.480
<v Speaker 3>It ain't nobody you've been with.

0:42:17.400 --> 0:42:19.880
<v Speaker 1>Like, we do have a problem with me walking, so

0:42:20.040 --> 0:42:23.920
<v Speaker 1>I sometimes I would go to the refrigerator, ask naked.

0:42:24.040 --> 0:42:26.760
<v Speaker 1>I will walk in my own kitchen, ask naked, get something.

0:42:27.040 --> 0:42:28.719
<v Speaker 3>I'm pretty sure there's no man that's gonna have a

0:42:28.760 --> 0:42:31.000
<v Speaker 3>problem with you walk around naked, right.

0:42:31.120 --> 0:42:31.279
<v Speaker 4>But.

0:42:33.239 --> 0:42:35.320
<v Speaker 1>I also might not want to be touched.

0:42:38.360 --> 0:42:41.640
<v Speaker 3>Are you who the fuck you? What are you talking

0:42:41.680 --> 0:42:42.160
<v Speaker 3>about me?

0:42:42.680 --> 0:42:42.759
<v Speaker 4>No?

0:42:42.960 --> 0:42:43.560
<v Speaker 1>You do that?

0:42:44.200 --> 0:42:46.680
<v Speaker 3>Yes, I do not like to be fondled all the time.

0:42:47.280 --> 0:42:48.879
<v Speaker 3>So when you're living with a man and you walk

0:42:48.920 --> 0:42:51.400
<v Speaker 3>around with ass and titties out, like men are always

0:42:51.880 --> 0:42:56.240
<v Speaker 3>like these predators, right, So imagine like not having space

0:42:56.800 --> 0:42:59.120
<v Speaker 3>to just want because I come from a naked family,

0:42:59.200 --> 0:43:01.480
<v Speaker 3>Like everybody just be naked, bitch. If we can go

0:43:01.520 --> 0:43:04.000
<v Speaker 3>outside like that, we wouldn't, you know, as soon as

0:43:04.000 --> 0:43:04.680
<v Speaker 3>you hit the doors.

0:43:04.719 --> 0:43:07.120
<v Speaker 1>Just definitely very comfortable being.

0:43:08.040 --> 0:43:10.439
<v Speaker 3>So I like to be like that, especially in the home.

0:43:10.640 --> 0:43:13.600
<v Speaker 3>And imagine like somebody who just thinks that's fun time

0:43:13.640 --> 0:43:15.200
<v Speaker 3>to grab your titties when you're just trying to go

0:43:15.200 --> 0:43:16.240
<v Speaker 3>get some fucking water.

0:43:17.600 --> 0:43:20.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't always what I just found, Like, can I

0:43:20.560 --> 0:43:28.280
<v Speaker 1>go get my water ethnic and not have sex? So yeah,

0:43:28.360 --> 0:43:30.200
<v Speaker 1>but we'll see. I mean that's not I mean, it

0:43:30.200 --> 0:43:33.680
<v Speaker 1>ain't no problem. I gotta get the mand first, I guess.

0:43:38.040 --> 0:43:41.600
<v Speaker 3>So just to wrap this up, So in the episode

0:43:41.960 --> 0:43:47.080
<v Speaker 3>on In My Opinion, Tracy Ellis, Ross also talked about

0:43:47.120 --> 0:43:49.799
<v Speaker 3>like embracing independence, what we're talking which we're talking about

0:43:49.840 --> 0:43:53.719
<v Speaker 3>right now, and personal growth. Ross spoke about embracing her

0:43:53.719 --> 0:43:58.040
<v Speaker 3>independence and personal growth that has come from navigating life

0:43:58.040 --> 0:44:01.279
<v Speaker 3>on her own terms. So single people doing their own thing.

0:44:02.160 --> 0:44:05.279
<v Speaker 3>She shared that she has learned to live fully and

0:44:05.400 --> 0:44:07.799
<v Speaker 3>enjoy life without waiting for a partner. Reflecting on the

0:44:07.840 --> 0:44:11.839
<v Speaker 3>courage and resilience she has developed, she remarked, sometimes I

0:44:11.880 --> 0:44:14.520
<v Speaker 3>think of all the things I've done, the courage that

0:44:14.560 --> 0:44:18.560
<v Speaker 3>I have had to have, and what I've learned, you know,

0:44:18.800 --> 0:44:23.520
<v Speaker 3>what I've learned to do as a single person. So

0:44:23.840 --> 0:44:27.120
<v Speaker 3>this is how she deals with now not having found

0:44:27.200 --> 0:44:29.560
<v Speaker 3>that person, not having had kids, She fell in love

0:44:29.560 --> 0:44:32.800
<v Speaker 3>with herself. So once you completely fall in love with yourself,

0:44:32.800 --> 0:44:35.640
<v Speaker 3>and now you're fifty two out here dating and you're

0:44:35.680 --> 0:44:39.560
<v Speaker 3>dating younger men, what are and you be thirst trapping

0:44:39.640 --> 0:44:43.120
<v Speaker 3>sometimes on the internet like a younger woman, What are

0:44:43.160 --> 0:44:44.239
<v Speaker 3>you really looking for?

0:44:45.000 --> 0:44:47.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't feel like thirst trap have no age limits

0:44:47.800 --> 0:44:50.800
<v Speaker 1>as long as you can keep them quenching, keep them quenching,

0:44:50.840 --> 0:44:51.399
<v Speaker 1>baby girl.

0:44:51.560 --> 0:44:54.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but you know, there's a difference between getting niggas

0:44:54.600 --> 0:44:57.399
<v Speaker 3>and getting niggas. You can getting niggas all day long,

0:44:57.440 --> 0:44:58.600
<v Speaker 3>but our nigga's keeping you.

0:45:00.040 --> 0:45:01.080
<v Speaker 1>Are you kids?

0:45:04.120 --> 0:45:07.040
<v Speaker 3>It goes both ways. Some people. I don't think women

0:45:07.160 --> 0:45:09.640
<v Speaker 3>look and we don't look at ourselves. Sometimes we just

0:45:09.680 --> 0:45:14.440
<v Speaker 3>always think it's an external problem. You see what I'm saying,

0:45:15.000 --> 0:45:18.000
<v Speaker 3>we got to do some self evaluation, is what I'm saying.

0:45:19.200 --> 0:45:22.360
<v Speaker 3>Sometimes you gotta do you gotta self evaluate, is it?

0:45:22.480 --> 0:45:25.719
<v Speaker 3>Maybe maybe you are an impossible person. Why she hasn't

0:45:25.760 --> 0:45:28.879
<v Speaker 3>found somebody she like? I'm pretty sure she has had

0:45:28.880 --> 0:45:32.319
<v Speaker 3>some extensive therapy, so I'm not gonna not gonna say, like,

0:45:32.960 --> 0:45:36.560
<v Speaker 3>but maybe there is just not somebody for everybody, and

0:45:36.640 --> 0:45:40.400
<v Speaker 3>maybe she's just to date and teach other people things

0:45:40.480 --> 0:45:42.120
<v Speaker 3>until she get the fuck up off this planet.

0:45:42.120 --> 0:45:42.960
<v Speaker 1>Who knows?

0:45:43.960 --> 0:45:47.040
<v Speaker 3>Who knows? Because she's a beautiful woman, banging body at

0:45:47.040 --> 0:45:51.600
<v Speaker 3>fifty two exact. Yeah, who wouldn't want to have her?

0:45:52.080 --> 0:45:55.239
<v Speaker 3>We'll never know? Like, look at halle Berry. Halle Berry

0:45:55.239 --> 0:45:58.320
<v Speaker 3>has had so many husbands. She in love again right now.

0:45:58.440 --> 0:46:01.839
<v Speaker 3>And maybe maybe that's the thing, Like you don't have

0:46:01.920 --> 0:46:04.600
<v Speaker 3>to settle even when you're in a relationship. Who's next?

0:46:06.480 --> 0:46:07.360
<v Speaker 3>Who's next?

0:46:07.800 --> 0:46:08.640
<v Speaker 1>Throughout life?

0:46:08.920 --> 0:46:11.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, throughout life? Maybe we aren't supposed to just be

0:46:11.800 --> 0:46:15.799
<v Speaker 3>staying with this one person ever, All.

0:46:15.760 --> 0:46:22.040
<v Speaker 1>Right, listen, I have enjoyed variety, like what's that got? Like? Not,

0:46:22.280 --> 0:46:23.320
<v Speaker 1>y'all hold on, because.

0:46:23.080 --> 0:46:25.840
<v Speaker 3>That's not even just fucking just conversation with different people.

0:46:25.920 --> 0:46:30.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I have enjoyed experiencing different people in different perspectives

0:46:30.760 --> 0:46:34.760
<v Speaker 1>and different conversations and different senses of humor and things

0:46:34.800 --> 0:46:39.719
<v Speaker 1>like that. So I you know, it might be difficult

0:46:39.760 --> 0:46:41.720
<v Speaker 1>to just have this one nigga forever.

0:46:47.800 --> 0:46:53.279
<v Speaker 3>I don't know. Man, we talk about nonminogamy a lot

0:46:53.800 --> 0:46:58.000
<v Speaker 3>at nauseum when we talked back, and is that more reasonable?

0:46:59.200 --> 0:47:03.239
<v Speaker 3>Is it more reasonable? Doesn't make more sense? I think

0:47:03.400 --> 0:47:05.560
<v Speaker 3>just people like knowing you can get burned and shit

0:47:05.640 --> 0:47:08.520
<v Speaker 3>like that. That's really what keep people with one person, bitch.

0:47:08.880 --> 0:47:11.440
<v Speaker 3>If people couldn't catch a STD, they'll be having three

0:47:11.440 --> 0:47:16.920
<v Speaker 3>sims around here or baby, right, I tell my body

0:47:16.920 --> 0:47:18.759
<v Speaker 3>when they get pregnant, if we could do some shit

0:47:18.880 --> 0:47:21.239
<v Speaker 3>like that, then it'd be on and popping. I think.

0:47:21.680 --> 0:47:26.759
<v Speaker 3>I don't know. I don't know what y'all think. Y'all

0:47:26.840 --> 0:47:29.080
<v Speaker 3>check out that episode. And I got a whole nother

0:47:29.440 --> 0:47:31.799
<v Speaker 3>whole bunch of other thoughts on the first lady having

0:47:31.800 --> 0:47:36.000
<v Speaker 3>the podcasts. Also, I don't know about that shit anyway.

0:47:36.000 --> 0:47:38.880
<v Speaker 3>Why that shit is fucking weird to me? Like we

0:47:38.920 --> 0:47:42.439
<v Speaker 3>have enough podcasts we have we talked back, right, our

0:47:42.680 --> 0:47:46.520
<v Speaker 3>regular assets, having conversations about relationships and everything else. Like

0:47:46.640 --> 0:47:51.040
<v Speaker 3>I need y'all to have the podcast from the First Lady,

0:47:51.040 --> 0:47:53.280
<v Speaker 3>you got to have a little bit more depth as far.

0:47:53.120 --> 0:47:55.160
<v Speaker 1>As how many episodes have you seen?

0:47:55.560 --> 0:47:57.080
<v Speaker 3>I don't know. That was the only one.

0:47:57.560 --> 0:48:03.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so you haven't even seen. That's why I can't.

0:48:03.520 --> 0:48:05.040
<v Speaker 1>I don care form an opinion about it.

0:48:05.120 --> 0:48:08.719
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I have just relationships being one topic with a

0:48:08.760 --> 0:48:11.400
<v Speaker 3>fifty two year old bitch on there. Like, I don't know,

0:48:11.440 --> 0:48:13.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm side eyeing all the old ass.

0:48:15.080 --> 0:48:18.640
<v Speaker 1>It's probably people saying the same shit about us, and.

0:48:18.600 --> 0:48:20.840
<v Speaker 3>They can have that opinion. The difference between me and

0:48:20.880 --> 0:48:23.720
<v Speaker 3>other people is I don't like I have your opinion.

0:48:23.760 --> 0:48:25.800
<v Speaker 3>It's fine, don't infringe your mind.

0:48:27.160 --> 0:48:31.200
<v Speaker 1>But I'm saying, like, hey, mirror, look in the mirror.

0:48:31.080 --> 0:48:33.120
<v Speaker 1>The advice should talk about them apply to you.

0:48:34.200 --> 0:48:36.359
<v Speaker 3>I'm doing all the things too, But I ain't never

0:48:36.400 --> 0:48:38.440
<v Speaker 3>been the first lady. I don't claim to be the

0:48:38.480 --> 0:48:41.560
<v Speaker 3>first lady. Yeah, I just feel like that that's a

0:48:41.560 --> 0:48:45.960
<v Speaker 3>different echelne of conversation needs to be being had. I

0:48:46.000 --> 0:48:49.120
<v Speaker 3>don't know. Maybe it's just me, you know, I don't know,

0:48:49.520 --> 0:48:50.239
<v Speaker 3>Maybe it's just me.

0:48:50.480 --> 0:48:55.399
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, Well, we all got to have relationships, right, first

0:48:55.480 --> 0:48:57.800
<v Speaker 1>Lady and everybody in between.

0:48:57.880 --> 0:49:01.160
<v Speaker 3>Where her brother set up on there, y'all. That's what

0:49:01.239 --> 0:49:05.000
<v Speaker 3>y'all like anyway, that's more competition. They need to get

0:49:05.040 --> 0:49:07.200
<v Speaker 3>out the way. Why are y'all in this lane? Why

0:49:07.200 --> 0:49:08.200
<v Speaker 3>are y'all in this lane?

0:49:09.960 --> 0:49:13.520
<v Speaker 1>Listen? We'll we all want to be love. We all

0:49:13.520 --> 0:49:19.120
<v Speaker 1>want people talking, y'all. Now we talk bad? You sick

0:49:19.160 --> 0:49:20.680
<v Speaker 1>of people Talking's crazy?

0:49:21.120 --> 0:49:24.280
<v Speaker 3>Why the fuck is the first lady in our lane?

0:49:24.920 --> 0:49:27.680
<v Speaker 3>It's what I'm saying. Do you understand what I'm saying? Like,

0:49:27.719 --> 0:49:30.040
<v Speaker 3>why are you in this lane? Go talk about something

0:49:30.040 --> 0:49:32.280
<v Speaker 3>else and go do something different? And y'all doing movies?

0:49:32.320 --> 0:49:32.520
<v Speaker 1>Now?

0:49:32.920 --> 0:49:34.040
<v Speaker 3>Why are y'all in this lane?

0:49:34.280 --> 0:49:35.440
<v Speaker 1>She said she could do whatever.

0:49:38.280 --> 0:49:42.040
<v Speaker 3>Michelle all right, y'all. If you enjoy this episode, y'all

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